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Clearly my standards are too high. I expect both women and men in dating to act like grown adults and express themselves as such rather than behaving like teenagers. If you have lost feelings for someone, gotten the ick (whatever the hell that means), or just don't want to see someone again. Be a freaking adult...communicate that...and both move the hell on...
Everything gives women the “ick”. You could be impeccably groomed, financially well off, kind, gentle, polite, a great conversationalist,with interesting hobbies and they’ll still find something that gives them the “ick”. It’s not worth the trouble to initiate a conversation. If they want to talk to you, let them make the first move.
When I was younger, a woman once commented: 'what the f are YOU looking at?' That scared me for life. I NEVER engage in conversations with women, unless it's work related. They make me feel both uncomfortable and creepy at the same time - like I don't have any RIGHT to find then attractive, let alone doing anything about it. 😢
Never apologize for your nature brother. Accept it. Women know exactly what they do to men. And remember, women would rather be objectified than idealized. It's 'the looking good Susan meme' if you need a visual representation
I have been working on this for almost 2 years. It extremely difficult I have my ups and downs. Everything you said about anxious attachment is exactly how it hits me. Even the upbringing is exactly like what you said. I have to force myself to pause, many times a days in some cases when it comes to talking to a potential partner. I have to remind myself to just take a chill pill. Hopefully one day it becomes more natural as of right now that's the best way that I can regulate.
Excellent Talk... Good advices. Communication, in authenticty is sooo helpful in all stages yet certainly in the establishing of one. It creates understanding not drama.
I have been on many first dates.. it's a crap shoot.. one person likes the other person more. The other person doesn't like the other.. I am successful financially stable have manners housebroken funny witty. Not a bad boy. Still get turned down...
Good relationships are like winning the lottery. No amount of self improvement changes the luck of the draw. You can be a complete wreck and still find love if you've got luck.
@DiscretionwithReason ..I know used to drive by a freeway bridge and see a homeless man had 2 girlfriends. Would shake my head and say he has 2 girlfriends! I don't!
I think that last thing you said was really something I needed to hear. I''ve been avoiding dating because I'm trying to fix my own anxious attachment tendencies, but I think that's maybe like trying to learn to fly without a plane or even a flight simulator. You can't really do any actual practice of it or train new brain pathways that lend themselves to the healthy route.
*Women can feel wary if a guy seems overly intense or impatient. Approaching with a genuine smile, lighthearted conversation, and not rushing things can instantly make her feel at ease. Sometimes less is truly more!*
Lol!!!! Just stay single. She’s gone because women don’t make bad decisions. Everything gives girls the “ick”. Guys…. Stop being betta males. Be Kings! My bothers!
This just happened less than 12 hours ago: A woman at the grocery store has been extra nice to me for a while , last Saturday I found out she is from the same town I have a factory and apartment in and again she was super nice to me . I asked a "almost" former employee (she never showed up and kept making excuses and after 7 days I just stopped wasting time on her) she said the woman was single and did not have a boyfriend. Yesterday I ran into her at the grocery store , I asked her if she was married or seeing anyone she said "no". Then I asked her if she would like to have lunch some day. She replied "I have a boy friend" and laughed at me.
You must understand something my brother. Female dating advice is best described as “this is how you don’t grasp defeat from the jaws of Victory.” As such, it becomes ironic. Why would you need female dating advice if the woman already likes you? Well you freaking don’t. As such, it’s a waste of time. It break my heart because I know these women really want to help, but really it’s just superfluous.
Women can''t explain to a men how to date another female you only get the women's perspective and it's Always a Bad advices, like your Mother really give a good advice to recognize the difference betwen good girls and Bad girls, she gonna Say you i love chad and tyron and i was a slut at collège. So Ask men We have success with woman.But you Can still listen her views but not apply it
"What ever the "man" coaches tell you is total BS"(thought that was funny for some reason). The reason I like your channel is because It's important to spot red flags and know when to leave. But it's also important to know the differance between that and know when and how to build a relationship and I feel like you teach these things. Thanks for the video Sarah and see you in the next one.
Hi Sarah. I recently opened up to a woman about past traumas with whom I've known for over a year. I made a mistake by acting insecure when she stopped responding to my texts for 2 weeks. She was very cold and distant. It made me feel unwanted. When we got back in contact, I said to her the following: "Have you ever been stood up and ghosted by someone when you thought everything was going just fine? No explanation no nothing? Guess my past experiences make me think the way I do sometimes. I don’t like to make women I’m attracted to my therapist. I just want you to understand. Apology accepted though." I followed up not longer after that acknowledging I'm healing from past traumas and owning them. I told her thank you for helping me see where I can grow and improve as a man. I blamed myself for my reactions not her. I also told her I could have asked the right questions and communicated more effectively. Thoughts and comments please.
In my city many women openly walk around with either a mattress on her back or dating and married women used to the catering compliments with over revealing clothes in mental pampers so when reality happens in front of them, the bleep comes out both ends.🐒🎈
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY FEMALES, MEN HAVE LEARNED THE HARD VALUABLE LIFE LESSON EXPERIENCES THAT NO FEMALE , NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE WORTH THE TIME MONEY OR EFFORT SPENT, IF YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO LISTEN AND LEARN FROM OTHERS UNFORTUNATE MISTAKES THAN YOU CAN BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL NOT TO MAKE THE SAME, THROUGH MY EXPERIENCES AND THE EXPERIENCES OF OTHER MEN , LEARNED THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH THAT A SITUATIONSHIP, OR RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON THE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE AND TOLERATION , AFTER MANY YEARS OF NOT DATING, I AM THANKFUL, AND GRATEFUL TO NOT PLAY GAMES WITH PEOPLES MINDS, BE AT PEACE WITH SERENITY AND SOLITUDE RATHER THAN BE ALONE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER FEMALE , JUST ANOTHER MANS OPINION, I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU DO WITH IT .
My x says my driving scared the hell out of her. I don't mind when women leave. I give them too much freedom and they thinkni don't care. How does this always stem to our childhood? I was never home to see my parents do anything. 😂
If she can't handle my dominant presence as a confident combat veteran, she doesn't deserve me... Next... If that entails remaining single, so be it...
This stuff applies to women more. Women have more of a fixed mindset than men. I just realized this today but I think it's true. These can be patterns still but I don't it all boils down to how your mama treated you. Mine was cold but it was my dad's lack of training that made me mess up early relationships and it was that, being jerked around by my female peers that hurt and broke me more than my parents, to the degree I'm broken or trained into one pattern. I think women are highly deterministic. We're all ultimately determined. I don't believe anymore in free will, but I think for men it is more subtle or forces in the present - no win situations. My aging gives me feelings of despair and my desire for a family with the doors closing, more than innate "anxious attachment" but I think women are more determined by their early childhood parenting. That's a suspicion but it feels true. And women recognizing this, they also tend to project too on others
my dear you are also needy but you have the resilience needed for each situation .Get yourself a good ice cream cone each time you have the sensation you need love ok
Why am everything that happen blamed on males??? Everything am blamed on males, where am the woman's accountability??? Surely you doesn't believe that womens am perfect and never does anything wrong!?!
@jeromewesselman4653 yeah and that's the problem, so many of you losers spend way too much time fixating and obsessing over women, it's getting really old now, no wonder why so many of you guys are lost and behind in life
Before watching this video, not only women but men are afraid of me. Can't help I'm a trained fighter with no expression beyond a poker face, but I will only laugh and smile when I hear a good joke or see something funny happen.
13:15 so...this seems like it contradicts the entire setup of the whole video, which is "im not saying just dont be needy...but I'm also not not saying it either" Even if we wave that away, as a misunderstanding, that still doesn't address the underlying problem to the solution you're proposing. How and why a secure attachment partner would be willing, want to take on the responsibility for, be attracted to, want to attempt a relationship with a partner who ISN'T securely attached, either avoidant or anxious. You're telling us that wanting validation, security from a partner is essentially the reason why our partners leave us, how and why we scare them away. Then telling us that we should find a partner to help us. How are we supposed to attract a partner to work with us on the very things that are going to cause them to run away? How are we supposed to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic with a secure attached partner to learn to become securely attached when our attachment is the thing that's going to sabotage the relationship and give them "the ick" ?
I agree, as an adult as difficult as it may be to express a childhood hurt, you still owe it to your partner to express that in some way….i had no real idea about attachment theory until I got into a relationship with an ex who was an AP, it was only by walking backwards from the relationship that her behavior and attitude made sense. If she’d been upfront from the start, I would have understood and taken it into account and could have accommodated it, but still think it would have presented problems as I’m sure there would have more triggers. Until AP are prepared to work on themselves and fully acknowledge the issues they, they probably shouldn’t get involved in relationships
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Hai Doc. Good upload. Women are mysterious. Thanks for clarifying.
Incredibly timely and accurate in my immediate situation.
Clearly my standards are too high. I expect both women and men in dating to act like grown adults and express themselves as such rather than behaving like teenagers. If you have lost feelings for someone, gotten the ick (whatever the hell that means), or just don't want to see someone again. Be a freaking adult...communicate that...and both move the hell on...
AMEN TO THAT..
@@scottd.8662 this!!! Ghosting is for Scooby Doo cartoons
Thank you. I hate games🤔
@@danielmarquis5258 Me too..
I too expect people to behave in ways they haven't learned and avoid wrong behaviors they don't realize they're doing.
Everything gives women the “ick”. You could be impeccably groomed, financially well off, kind, gentle, polite, a great conversationalist,with interesting hobbies and they’ll still find something that gives them the “ick”. It’s not worth the trouble to initiate a conversation. If they want to talk to you, let them make the first move.
Agreed
Them making the first move gives them the ick. 👏🤣
When I was younger, a woman once commented: 'what the f are YOU looking at?'
That scared me for life.
I NEVER engage in conversations with women, unless it's work related. They make me feel both uncomfortable and creepy at the same time - like I don't have any RIGHT to find then attractive, let alone doing anything about it. 😢
Did you answer her question? 😅
I would have answered her.
That says everything. 🤔
Hey Corey Wayne's 3 pct. Man you need some masculine mojo.
Never apologize for your nature brother. Accept it. Women know exactly what they do to men. And remember, women would rather be objectified than idealized. It's 'the looking good Susan meme' if you need a visual representation
all of your videos click with the things I've been reading in the book 'Magnetic Aura', warm recommendation to everyone
Who wrote it?
I have been working on this for almost 2 years. It extremely difficult I have my ups and downs. Everything you said about anxious attachment is exactly how it hits me. Even the upbringing is exactly like what you said.
I have to force myself to pause, many times a days in some cases when it comes to talking to a potential partner. I have to remind myself to just take a chill pill. Hopefully one day it becomes more natural as of right now that's the best way that I can regulate.
Excellent Talk... Good advices. Communication, in authenticty is sooo helpful in all stages yet certainly in the establishing of one. It creates understanding not drama.
Ghosting and blocking is the norm by current females right at day 30
That depends on whether or not you bought them an apple or steam card. And how much money is on that card.
I have been on many first dates.. it's a crap shoot.. one person likes the other person more. The other person doesn't like the other.. I am successful financially stable have manners housebroken funny witty. Not a bad boy. Still get turned down...
Good relationships are like winning the lottery. No amount of self improvement changes the luck of the draw. You can be a complete wreck and still find love if you've got luck.
@DiscretionwithReason ..I know used to drive by a freeway bridge and see a homeless man had 2 girlfriends. Would shake my head and say he has 2 girlfriends! I don't!
I think that last thing you said was really something I needed to hear. I''ve been avoiding dating because I'm trying to fix my own anxious attachment tendencies, but I think that's maybe like trying to learn to fly without a plane or even a flight simulator. You can't really do any actual practice of it or train new brain pathways that lend themselves to the healthy route.
*Women can feel wary if a guy seems overly intense or impatient. Approaching with a genuine smile, lighthearted conversation, and not rushing things can instantly make her feel at ease. Sometimes less is truly more!*
Lol!!!! Just stay single. She’s gone because women don’t make bad decisions. Everything gives girls the “ick”. Guys…. Stop being betta males. Be Kings! My bothers!
That’s what’s up.
This just happened less than 12 hours ago:
A woman at the grocery store has been extra nice to me for a while , last Saturday I found out she is from the same town I have a factory and apartment in and again she was super nice to me .
I asked a "almost" former employee (she never showed up and kept making excuses and after 7 days I just stopped wasting time on her) she said the woman was single and did not have a boyfriend.
Yesterday I ran into her at the grocery store , I asked her if she was married or seeing anyone she said "no". Then I asked her if she would like to have lunch some day.
She replied "I have a boy friend" and laughed at me.
Super sorry bro , woman had the capacity of lying for nothing, why she just Said no
“Ok, fatty” gets em every time.
" wow....girl has the attention span of a gnat! " Does your boyfriend know you have a boyfriend?"
Bro :/ the last one was just a joke from her... she was "extra nince" to you and she literally said she has no one just before this.
No
Well, this video certainly doesn't apply to ME. (like most of her videos don't). I still can't get a woman to accept a 1st date invitation. 😐
Then why are you here?
@@MassEffectFTW well, when I picked this video I was a subscriber, but now I'm not.
You must understand something my brother. Female dating advice is best described as “this is how you don’t grasp defeat from the jaws of Victory.”
As such, it becomes ironic. Why would you need female dating advice if the woman already likes you? Well you freaking don’t. As such, it’s a waste of time.
It break my heart because I know these women really want to help, but really it’s just superfluous.
Women can''t explain to a men how to date another female you only get the women's perspective and it's Always a Bad advices, like your Mother really give a good advice to recognize the difference betwen good girls and Bad girls, she gonna Say you i love chad and tyron and i was a slut at collège. So Ask men We have success with woman.But you Can still listen her views but not apply it
@@djs12007 Cool, you do you.
"Puff, the Magic Dragon" (Peter, Paul, and Mary, 1963)
Hidden message of little Jackie having an opium addiction. Chasing the dragon. Pseudonym phrase for heroin addiction.
When women do this childish stuff its an indication that they are unstable and you should stay away and block all contact. good riddance!
At this point, who cares. Let them go!
"What ever the "man" coaches tell you is total BS"(thought that was funny for some reason). The reason I like your channel is because It's important to spot red flags and know when to leave. But it's also important to know the differance between that and know when and how to build a relationship and I feel like you teach these things. Thanks for the video Sarah and see you in the next one.
I just watch these to look at Sarah. Hey girl 😉
Yeah, I'd hit it!
Yeah, baby! ✋ High five!
SIMP ALERT 🚨
@ Is that a bad thing? If you’re not attracted to women I’d say you’re on the wrong channel 😂
Hi Sarah. I recently opened up to a woman about past traumas with whom I've known for over a year. I made a mistake by acting insecure when she stopped responding to my texts for 2 weeks. She was very cold and distant. It made me feel unwanted. When we got back in contact, I said to her the following:
"Have you ever been stood up and ghosted by someone when you thought everything was going just fine? No explanation no nothing? Guess my past experiences make me think the way I do sometimes. I don’t like to make women I’m attracted to my therapist. I just want you to understand. Apology accepted though."
I followed up not longer after that acknowledging I'm healing from past traumas and owning them. I told her thank you for helping me see where I can grow and improve as a man. I blamed myself for my reactions not her. I also told her I could have asked the right questions and communicated more effectively. Thoughts and comments please.
In my city many women openly walk around with either a mattress on her back or dating and married women used to the catering compliments with over revealing clothes in mental pampers so when reality happens in front of them, the bleep comes out both ends.🐒🎈
Actually, I am LEARNING to be less and less "needy."
Shout out 12 step meetings! I go to many of them. Actually just left one! Pretty easy when I qualify for basically every fellowship!
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY FEMALES, MEN HAVE LEARNED THE HARD VALUABLE LIFE LESSON EXPERIENCES THAT NO FEMALE , NO MATTER WHAT THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE WORTH THE TIME MONEY OR EFFORT SPENT, IF YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO LISTEN AND LEARN FROM OTHERS UNFORTUNATE MISTAKES THAN YOU CAN BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL NOT TO MAKE THE SAME, THROUGH MY EXPERIENCES AND THE EXPERIENCES OF OTHER MEN , LEARNED THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH THAT A SITUATIONSHIP, OR RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON THE CHEMISTRY BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE AND TOLERATION , AFTER MANY YEARS OF NOT DATING, I AM THANKFUL, AND GRATEFUL TO NOT PLAY GAMES WITH PEOPLES MINDS, BE AT PEACE WITH SERENITY AND SOLITUDE RATHER THAN BE ALONE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ANOTHER FEMALE , JUST ANOTHER MANS OPINION, I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU DO WITH IT .
turn off the back ground music !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah, seems like women feel it's necessary. Most use it on their TikTok videos too.
this format suits me and my husband a lot, thank you so much
Thank you for this video it helps a lot
All the mens problem again
Always has been.
Trauma prevents me from having healthy relationships
Same, brother. Stay strong!
Turn away from all unstable actress,! Men became way too forgiving!!!!
My x says my driving scared the hell out of her. I don't mind when women leave. I give them too much freedom and they thinkni don't care. How does this always stem to our childhood? I was never home to see my parents do anything. 😂
My husband has always said money is the ultimate aphrodisiac.
Don't care. I will do me. If she doesn't like it, too bad. If she likes me, good. I am WYSIWYG.
If she can't handle my dominant presence as a confident combat veteran, she doesn't deserve me...
Next...
If that entails remaining single, so be it...
it makes my heart warm each time i see you upload honey
How would I talk to you about my situation with a woman that I met and I like, I think she is gun shy and rightfully so .
Wow..😮 wow..😮 "Deep sigh" lots to process.. Good luck guys.. 😮
Puff goes the magic dragon? 😂
So...
We go back to being nice guys?
I'm lost 😕
This stuff applies to women more. Women have more of a fixed mindset than men. I just realized this today but I think it's true.
These can be patterns still but I don't it all boils down to how your mama treated you. Mine was cold but it was my dad's lack of training that made me mess up early relationships and it was that, being jerked around by my female peers that hurt and broke me more than my parents, to the degree I'm broken or trained into one pattern.
I think women are highly deterministic. We're all ultimately determined. I don't believe anymore in free will, but I think for men it is more subtle or forces in the present - no win situations. My aging gives me feelings of despair and my desire for a family with the doors closing, more than innate "anxious attachment" but I think women are more determined by their early childhood parenting. That's a suspicion but it feels true. And women recognizing this, they also tend to project too on others
my dear you are also needy but you have the resilience needed for each situation .Get yourself a good ice cream cone each time you have the sensation you need love ok
Why am everything that happen blamed on males??? Everything am blamed on males, where am the woman's accountability??? Surely you doesn't believe that womens am perfect and never does anything wrong!?!
Men need to take accountability as well, stop worrying about Women so much, you can also acknowledge the things that You have done wrong as well
Am = IS
@@kc270352 Irrelevant. Reread the original comment: it's about women, not men.
@jeromewesselman4653 yeah and that's the problem, so many of you losers spend way too much time fixating and obsessing over women, it's getting really old now, no wonder why so many of you guys are lost and behind in life
Accountability is women’s kryptonite.
just pointing finger at men again.
thanks feminism
HALLOWEEN is over so I will stop scaring her away.
Before watching this video, not only women but men are afraid of me. Can't help I'm a trained fighter with no expression beyond a poker face, but I will only laugh and smile when I hear a good joke or see something funny happen.
All I hear is blah, blah blah. And annoying background music. But, I'd still hit it!
13:15 so...this seems like it contradicts the entire setup of the whole video, which is "im not saying just dont be needy...but I'm also not not saying it either"
Even if we wave that away, as a misunderstanding, that still doesn't address the underlying problem to the solution you're proposing.
How and why a secure attachment partner would be willing, want to take on the responsibility for, be attracted to, want to attempt a relationship with a partner who ISN'T securely attached, either avoidant or anxious.
You're telling us that wanting validation, security from a partner is essentially the reason why our partners leave us, how and why we scare them away. Then telling us that we should find a partner to help us.
How are we supposed to attract a partner to work with us on the very things that are going to cause them to run away? How are we supposed to maintain a healthy relationship dynamic with a secure attached partner to learn to become securely attached when our attachment is the thing that's going to sabotage the relationship and give them "the ick" ?
Exactly my thoughts, thank you for spending the time to convey them in words.
I agree, as an adult as difficult as it may be to express a childhood hurt, you still owe it to your partner to express that in some way….i had no real idea about attachment theory until I got into a relationship with an ex who was an AP, it was only by walking backwards from the relationship that her behavior and attitude made sense. If she’d been upfront from the start, I would have understood and taken it into account and could have accommodated it, but still think it would have presented problems as I’m sure there would have more triggers. Until AP are prepared to work on themselves and fully acknowledge the issues they, they probably shouldn’t get involved in relationships
Cant help the mandingo baby 😂😂
Wearing tassels as ear bling, would surely do it 🤔😱
She met chad with a 6 figure salary
Hahahahahahahahaha
Spurg
is this codepentce
What absolute tosh 😂
Ha ha ha 😂
is this help or create more insecurity
Throw them $$$$, then they r ecstatic
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Boo !!!
Yout pretty smart. Cute too
Ok ok guys..Ambiguity is the quality of being unclear or having multiple meanings: