After trying senior online dating, I’ve decided it’s just not for me. In this video, I’ll share my honest experience with dating platforms for seniors-the good, the bad, and why I’m walking away from it for good. From unrealistic profiles to frustrating encounters, online dating wasn’t what I expected. I’ll talk about the challenges I faced, how it affected my self-esteem,
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Holly, so sorry to hear of your not so good experiences. When I wrote my profile I decided to be truthful, share who I am, what interests me, what I'm looking for... The idea, not get plenty of Likes, but select in those who would genuinely want to meet me, after all I'm only want to meet The One. Here in the UK, for those of us in our later years, a coffee date is a useful stepping stone to meeting face to face, and I arrive relaxed, open to possibility, keep the conversation light and playful. Of course not everyone has been a match made in heaven, but they've all been good fun, interesting and wonderful - life is full of chances, if we don't try, we'll never meet and connect...
I think that's why many women can live alone happily whereas men feel lonely. Solitary living gives many women peace and men just never seem to be able to get away from needing and wanting a "mommy" around. That's what I think it really is. They can't get over not having a person take care of them.
@@JJ-nn9de Yeah right, dream on. Men LOVE being alone after divorcing! Who's gonna be your "mommy"? Maybe the problem is you didn't have a daddy and now never will.
my mother who was single for over 30 years and very disabled with arthritis, met a soulmate and married at 70. she enjoyed married life for 10 years loving holidays eating out and evening gin and tonics before she passed.
My mom met a 65 year old man at a senior center when she was 61. They dated, traveled and lived together half the week as she still had her own home. Great guy. They were together for 20 years until he passed away.
"It takes two to tengo" applies in more ways than most can figure out. "It's not me"" usually is a red-flag whether we're talking anybody here (Including the creator) or out n about in real world situations/experience.
I'm a 68 year old man, been alone 13 years,focusing getting my youngest daughter through college, she's finishing her masters this year,had a tough tough relationship, very comfortable being single figured I'd meet someone some day,just haven't, still busy working enjoying my family when I see them no bad habits or masaginy, keep thinking I'll know my soul mate when we meet lol
I am married but just joined your channel because I just enjoyed hearing your stories. Omg you are gorgeous and for a 72 year old to say you needed more makeup?!? Good grief.
my husband died when i was 65. i'm 72 now. i thought about my dating prospects and decided poor, impotent, unhealthy, old men weren't worth it. i'm a happy old cat lady. it's peaceful.
My last BF was about 6 years ago. I went through a lot of emotional upheaval while dating and after the break up. There is a lot to say about living in peace. I certainly didn't need what I foolishly endured.
Cool! I'm better off without a greedy old lady who objectifies men for their wallets, d*ks, and physical prowess. My last GF was 70. The one before that 35. The hag was a narcissistic, entitled, and demanding shrew. It's just not worth it. I'm a happy 60 old autistic man who preffers dating autistic women in their 20s and 30s. For the record I'm a wealthy retired architect, priapic, and I assure you that I am fit and healthy enough to keep up with women 1/2 my age. On the ski slopes. For the time being anyway. I plan to milk that for all it's worth after a lifetime of rejection from ordinary women my age. Autistic people don't give a damn about any of that crap anyway. We just wanna be around people who share our neurological profile and interest in cars, music, architecture, boats, and cats. Good lord. It's said that females are the romantic sex, but that's a lie. It's men who invest the most emotion (and money) in relationships. I swear: The typical American women think's she's a little princesses to her desiccated dying day. No thanks. Dating American women is an absolute nightmare. Men get zero respect. I want to be cherished and respected as I age by my romantic partner. So I plan to die in Thai whorehouse.
The universe must have heard me and sent you. Im 61. Started online dating about 2 years ago following a friend's suggestion. Wish i never listened because I've had nothing but disasters. Had the liars, manipulators, GILF weirdos, and the final straw a desperate needy man who would text me 30 times a day and said he couldn't sleep or eat because he was so in love with me after 7 weeks. So i took my daughters advice and dumped him. As a survivor of narcissistic abusive relationship for 28 years all this messed up my mental health. Got me a rescue German shepherd and a van, joined a single ladies travelling group and plan to go around Australia on my own. You'd be surprised how many single women ive met who are happier than ever being on their own and doing very well. Thanks for your video and all the fantastic comments ❤
It’s beautiful to enjoy your life, and being single can at times be easier than being in a relationship. Especially if you have been in an abusive relationship. It seems that people who experienced an abusive relationship somehow tend to repeat it, and being alone is better. But I met someone when I was 35 who called a thousand times a day and ended up stalking me for years. Does that mean that all man are that? NO
I was in a 10 year close relation with a woman who was older than me ( I was 65 years old at that time), and the relation was wonderful. After that she got ill, and took care of her till her death. I love her very much. She had a wonderful character, and put much love in my heart. I miss her every day, more than two years after.
God bless you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 63 and my partner is older than me, I'm doing all I can to keep her healthy. I just can't imagine not having her in my life.
My favourite saying is this "I've been on my own now for quite a while and I have to say, it's working out rather well, in fact, I think I'm THE ONE". 😁. I embrace being alone and having no drama, upsets and criticism etc. who needs it. I'm delighted I found your channel. What you said sums up my feelings about men. I will never allow one into my life again. With very best wishes from Ireland. 👍🇮🇪
As a very fit man of 66, I tried it. I mentioned in my profile that my wife died of breast cancer. The first three admitted they had breast cancer, 3 admitted they were married, two were separated but needed some company, and the last one said she was a size 12. When I met her she was at least size 18 and the photo she sent was 10 years old. I too gave up, so it’s not just the men.
Sorry for your loss. Mine died of lung cancer five years ago. Dated a bit sometime afterwards, and determined that at least two out three women in my age (64) range are just plain psycho. Decided to travel instead of dating. Best decision ever. Tried Southeast Asia, Malaysia, Singapore, Philippines... life has never been better. Don't get complacent, go have some fun 😁
I don't get why people misrepresent themselves like that. The first time you meet it's going to instantly tell that person you can't be trusted to tell the truth. Sorry about your wife. That's a kind of pain that's hard to deal with, even with time.
And with that, remember to embrace the rich and full life you already have. Kids, grandkids, friends, hobbies, pets, homes, gardens, volunteering, learning new things, travel, etc etc etc.
YES! Should have been that way long ago, the whole paradigm at the start was OFF when you were dating for hypergamy and he was trying to get laid that was WRONG DUHHH! WE...WE...DID..IT to OURSELVES but IF it'd be nice to share life with someone...well, there are some who have learned ed and in real life you'd see that and know it ahead of even the FIRST date!
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Geez… I met a woman who is 61 who told me that her 60th birthday wasn’t very special because her family didn’t acknowledge her so for her birthday I took her into the city, went to a Michelin star restaurant, where the truffle supplement alone was $125 spent $700 for dinner. Following day, orchestra seats at the opera, and the top it off, a balloon ride over wine country. We’re still together three years later and looking at moving to Italy in our retirement.
@ The way I see it, it’s my job to make fairy tales come true. Dinner was at Michelin starred Italian restaurant Acquerello and opera was my favorite, Bizet’s Carmen ;)
Why do you feel you need to approach love through your wallet. While I understand treating someone on their birthday your spending spree was excessive. Men need to get over this inferiority complex where you think you have to compensate with money. What has she spent on you ?
@@bitteroldman701 you do not know anything about what my Grandma went through taking care of my Grandpa who died very bitter and very mean. My grandma lived tp 103, and she was a wonderful person. She married a mean man.
I did so much online dating. 10 years ago I met the love of my life. It took at least 300 dates until i met the one, and many years to meet him. He was married 18 years prior to us, divorced 3 years. We now have been married just over 7 years!❤
@susans7091 I think I went on about 500 in a span of 10 years and finally found one wonderful guy. Some of my so called dates were just a telephone conversation, Some were a quick coffee, drink and an app, some dinner. It was a full time job along with my full time job but I couldn't have found a better guy. It was worth it.
You should be the one with the youtube channel teaching women the red flags!!! And how to create a profile and stuff. Glad you are happy and thanks for letting me know online dating isn’t completely vapid or unpromising.
I'm 75. Widowed in '99. Financially independent. Live alone in rural western Oregon. Brother and sister live with 25 miles. Lots of friends through local clubs...garden club, etc. I'm an artist and the house is just how I like it....usually cluttered. Watch what I like. Have a couple of dogs. Good life.
I'm a 60 year old man whos been single for years and yes there is a reason, that reason is I lost my partner to cancer and I just couldn't think of being with anyone else because I loved her, I haven't dated and never will, I enjoy my own company. So just because we are single doesn't mean there is something wrong with us.
Not sure she meant that. It is when men are on dating sites , like you, that have lost your loved one, looking for company. Also, men use the excuse that they are too into their EX to deflect the exit navigation. Then, why be on a dating site?
@Silverdale, I think she just meant "in general" because there is alot, a lot of men that have been single for years. Then you really get to know them, and you're like...NOW I see why.(lol) Could be immature issues, drinking, porn, abusive issues, or controlling issues. But of course, it's not ALL men, just a lot of them that have been single for MANY years. Most times, a woman will come along and SNATCH the good men up...and quickly. But like you, there are SOME men out there who CHOOSE to be single. I would say it's more of the other, than your situation though. I do agree with you though, because as a woman, the SAME goes for a woman...I personally believe that if a woman has been single for many many (I mean ALOT) years, usually there is a reason for that too (lol). Just sayin.
@@girlygirl1890 yes probably, I know men and women that fit both categories, I'm pleased you pointed out it's women too.I think though that older singles are less likely to have anything wrong with them, but might have lost someone or been divorced and just decided it's good to stay single.
@@debrawildrick9601 True, I guess the nutters are possibly the ones on dating sites long term, (men and women).I've had a few people offer to set me up with their friends or family which is kinda flattering I guess. I've always been a bit of a loner, just found the right girl at the right time ( wasn't looking), but now she's gone I'm happy to stay single, so I rarely go out just in case I'm tempted .
@@silverdale3207 I have to agree with this. I’ve been single for a while, by choice. If I met someone who could add something to my life then I’d consider dating, but I have zero need for it. I’m just enjoying life and am not looking to complicate my life. So yes, there is a reason I’m single. And it’s not because I’m damaged goods, it’s because i have a good life already. If I meet someone who can help make it even better, I’ll date. But failing that I’ll remain single.
I learnt the lessons of dating sites. Not my own but from a friend who used them for years. The tales of crazy, abusive, using women made my hair stand on end !
We met online, and she (the Filipina) is the most wonderful person I could have hoped to meet. She gets sweeter by the day 🌟 we've been together now for two years. I appreciated the online dating because it set the foundation (talking so much) for our now-relationship . I hope others also have our success.
On line or off, dating is full of phonies and dishonest people. Online saves you a lot of time, and you can meet more people to improve your chances of a good match, I think.
I divorced at 54. Never did the online dating apps. As a man, I never understood the inappropriate age relationships that single senior men liked to purse. I’ve always felt more comfortable with a partner my age going thru the same life experiences as myself. There’s something very comforting in that.
Good for you, the older men are kidding themselves on a daily basis and feigning ignorance when they know all too well that many younger women that they catch are in it for money and that they have to either drink to be with them or hope its over soon, but rarely do they do anything with them out of any kind of love. They're basically paying for services but in a more socially acceptable way...its all play pretend. They have to be pretty delusional to convince themselves that the young woman they were with isn't thinking and talking all kinds of things behind their back...yikes
You're not missing a thing. I never tried senior dating, but I gave up dating several years ago in my late 40s. There was just nothing appealing about the women I was meeting. They were bitter, broke, and blamed their ex-husbands for all their life's ills. It's not that I think quality women don't exist, I just think they have husbands.
I’ve heard this over and over again from those men that do use these dating sites. The women are bitter and damaged. I get it. We’re seniors that have gone thru divorce. We’ve all got a little baggage. But I think many of these women over value themselves and what they have to offer. And it’s just not worth the aggravation. The older we get, the less it becomes about sex and more about companionship. Men are no better. There are a lot of alcoholics out there or men pretending to be 30 again and sex starved. I don’t think you ever give up looking but it’s easy to become cynical.
Congratulations! This is great to hear, as I'm in a toxic relationship, and came across this video wondering if/when I get out of it, what prospects may be available. Because I'm focused on keeping fit, I socialize with early seniors (I'm 70) and there are those that stay fit, and others that don't, so I can see the importance of keeping busy, whether it's going to the gym or even going for daily walks, or playing sports, which is what I do. It's been decades since dating, where times have changed, and we've gotten older so things have changed, even in the intimacy part of relationships, although for those willing, TH-cam has some great video's on how to please one another both mentally and sexually, for those willing to do so. Communication on all fronts needs to be the key, being frank and honest, and allowing each other to be kind to each other to have the relationship flourish. My opinions of course, which I'm sure other men may be very different, but I think even talking about it (as we are here) can be helpful for many!
@@karengiangrosso9101 you are VERY blessed and lucky. I met an extremely abusive man online who didn't show his true self till LITERALLY the day following the wedding..
Online dating was awful when I was young and attractive. If you really want to meet someone, your chances are better by going out, living your life and meeting people naturally.
@@renewhn3821 You are attractive, intelligent and will find a good man if you are looking. Make sure your "picker" is tuned up / honed to a delicate point. There's a lot of people with "issues" out there.
I tried online dating in my 50’s after a divorce. It was a total flop. The men I went out with were looking for sex and moved way too fast for my comfort. I despised it. Never met anyone I liked. And- I totally agree with you that men can’t be alone. The majority of them have been coddled and spoiled and are looking for someone to take care of them. Not me! I just moved to another state to be near my two grown daughters. I love living alone. I’m so happy and blessed to be able to have this wonderful home, near family and be independent. I’m still unpacking and my daughters are close enough to stop by or help if needed. Never again would I marry. I am a retired RN. I don’t need or want a man for any reason. I so happy that I’m giddy! New subscriber here. So glad I found your channel. 😊
@@nurshark10 honestly we are not all bad. Maybe you’ve just been a tad unlucky, or you possibly made the wrong choices. However being critical on all men is a mistake in my opinion. I’m a guy and I’m ok 🤗. Anyway best of luck. Finally, I believe being partnered would be better than single, in my opinion.
I'm 69 and last tried online dating when I was 62. Like you, a total flop. All they wanted was to jump in the sack. It was so disappointing. I am much happier being off the dating emotional rollercoaster.
I became a widow when I was 79 -my husband died at 83-I have never had a desire to date anyone let alone on line dating-it’s fine if people do and I know some that have been successful. Men are just looking for someone to take care of them-an I "ain’t’ gonna do that.😊. The condo developer ent where I reside has many more older women and widows than men and they seem perfectly happy.
@@charliegrech5598, Perhaps you’re right but I’m not wasting my time trying to find them. I’m sure there are nice gentlemen out there; I have not met any. I actually love living alone and would not change anything.
Yea yea yea yea. And as a personal observation I have found many very young men to be charming and respectful, and then as they age they get meaner and not charming one bit.
@@AnnetteGenovesi-c7h That same observation holds true for young ladies as well. Sweet, charming, have traditional values and then boom the Modern feminist woman bug bites them and they turn into Medusa!
You look amazing! Period. You look 40ish... I love Dr. Christian Northrup, she said, 'Be whatever damn age you want.' I'm doing my 30s again... I look great, look young, and have tons of energy... Ladies, you can be whatever you desire. There are tons of great gents who love ageless Goddesses! Great video!!!
I think cosmetic surgery has been done. I often thought about it over the years and now at 74 I see the neck and jawline but I just accept that aging is aging. I am concerned with the fine hair I have, and envy the hair on this lady!
@@helenamaria710 You can do exercises to get your face and neck fit... also, drink plenty of spring water with celtic salt and your skin will glow. People also use coconut oil... take a table spoon a day and use castor oil on your beautiful face. Work out, get sun, and don't for get a couple of hours of belly laughing and dancing. Be whatever age you desire.... whatever you think the body will follow...
I'm retired, widowed children died young by a drunk driver. As I hit my mid 40s I realized I better lean to be totally comfortable with my own company because I'm going to live with myself for the rest of my life. Dating didn't pan out so rather than look outside for company I looked inside. I've got friends, go places with them, but live a single life at home and am so comfortable with my own wonderful thoughts. Become your own soulmate, best friend, confidant.
Exactly! I’m single, alone and happy with my own company. I really enjoy going to the movies 🍿 alone! Sorry to hear about your wife and children. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am aghast At the stores you told about what transpired during various dates. Oh my gosh. You deserve so much better. I'm sorry you had those bad experiences.
A woman in her eighties told me after a point you don’t need a man. Most are looking for a nurse or a purse. This really happened. I thought it was hilarious and shared it often.
In her eighties this might be the case although its really rich that accuses a man of being a leech when she probably has a nice life insurance settlement from when her husband died. Hardly an indication she is a genius. Share a little and be a little more gracious and not be so judgmental if you find a man who would be a good companion. I'm 66 and look after a woman I've known for 17 yrs and she is partially paralyzed from a stroke. Shes a wonderful companion.
I agree with you completely. Generally, women are raised to be independent, unlike men. A lot of men flounder without a partner, and would rather have a transactional relationship over a healthy functional one of mutual respect. And I love men and enjoy intarraction, but even at 62, I find so many shockingly immature once you dig below the surface.
I am happily divorced. I have raised two wonderful children, and much of that time I felt like my ex-husband was a third child I was having to raise also. Long story short, I haven't been this happy since I was in my mid twenties, and unmarried. The freedom is exhilarating! I have zero desire to allow another man into my life, however long or short it may be. Peace is priceless.
66 y/o male. I stumbled across this video (or it was pushed out to me by google) because I am married happily for 40 years and am wildly attracted in every way to my 64 y/o wife. Do we look like we did in our 20’s? NO. I get disgusted hearing about stunted males who focus on superficial indicators of eligibility/attractiveness etc.
I’m happy for you. I thought my husband was the best. I’m sure people were sick of me talking about how great he was. Then I found out after we were married, not before, he was a habitual cheater. My whole world collapsed.
Thank you so much for sharing your stories with us. I am 40 years old and can only hope I look half as beautiful as you look at 60. Can’t believe anyone would have the nerve to say such rude, shallow and senseless things, while being so unaware of who they themselves are. It is refreshing to hear your strength, resilience and positivity. Hope you find the person you are looking for and above all the person you deserve. It’s sad no one has integrity, good morals and values anymore. 😔
You are a catch- smart, articulate and beautiful. I would suggest you get involved in groups like the “ friends of” your local museums or theaters or Rotary , Toastmasters. Smart, fun and positive guys your age who are single are at groups like that. I am a fun, youthful and in-shape 65 yr old guy (it is not bragging if you have worked hard to make it true) and A few years ago I met my now 72 year old wife, beautiful and younger looking like you at a fundraiser for a local charity. Again, you are a catch and , I would suggest, you might be more likely to find your guy someplace where guys like that often gather. Final thought: I used to own an executive search firm and I would often tell my candidates who were getting discouraged “there is a hiring senior executive who is frustrated because they haven’t found you yet.” There are guys you would be attracted to who are frustrated they haven’t found someone like you: smart, articulate and beautiful. Widen your net and get involved in high profile organizations that do good and you will be successful!!
The trouble with the men in those places you suggested for meeting is that there are men who hang around there as prey on one woman after the other. I live on a holiday island whete many foreigners have retired and I see this all the time, these 60-70 year old professional boyfriends. It's not a pretty sight.
One of my favorite quotes this year: "I've been single now for quite awhile, and I gotta say, it's been working out quite well! You know, I think I might be the one!"
Don’t forget that sometimes the reason men haven’t dated for years is men, like me, had to dig themselves out of a financial hole after a divorce working overtime or working two jobs so they afford to retire someday .
@alastair1955 They don't care about what men go through. No empathy at all. This is most women for you. She completely disregarded that man's pain. Me Me Me
Most women would rather not be told they look good for their age. #1: who cares what you think about how they look? #2: it begs the question, what do you think a woman that age SHOULD look like? #3: it's rude to comment on people's age.
Don't "fix" a man's choice of restaurant if he's the one who suggested it. And, don't pickup the check or split it. And, if he uses a coupon, be polite, but don't go out with him again.
I’m nodding in agreement throughout your video, Holly ! I had the date that said he wasn’t hungry and proceeded to eat from my plate, I had the date who told me all about his crazy ex who’d recently broken into his garage and slashed his tires right before asking if I’d like to go back to his house for dessert and coffee,I had a date who told me specifically what he liked and didn’t about the past five dates he’d been on. I could go on and on. All looked good on paper but convinced me that life was ultimately better enjoying time with my family and friends and remaining single.
As we age, we have less physical and mental stamina to put up with things in life. At this point we want peace and tranquility. Also, our habits are very difficult to change at our age in order to adapt to the new person that we are bringing into our lives. We don't want to get involved with people with a lot of baggage. Nobody is going to board a sinking ship.
I have 100% experienced EVERYTHING you talked about! It feels good knowing that I'm not crazy, but it's also sad that its true for others. My self-esteem is still traumatized, but I'm so much HAPPIER! My only struggles are others thinking I should be in a relationship or not being invited to "couples" activities, but I love my life and enjoy being alone and happy!!
The key I found was to date younger men. And to date two at a time. The men that are my age or older are dinosaurs mentally and physically. I had so much fun laughing and going to the beach or long drives listening to their music etc etc. keeps you young. Just flip the script!
I lived with a much younger man. He paid for all, was a pilot and traveled the world together for 7 yrs. We parted ways as I knew in my heart he wanted kids. I can only say those were the best years of my life!! ❤. Go for the ride and live for you.
The younger ones are way better than the dinosaurs in my opinion. It's a while since I dated a younger man but there's plenty out there who are decent. Enjoy!
I'm 62 and lost my wife to cancer 12 years ago. Since then i haven't met anyone. Dating apps have been a horrible experience. I live alone and i'm not sure why this seems strange? When my wife died i couldn't just replace her - not that i'd want to, and i'd rather live alone than rush into a relationship with the wrong person. The biggest issue i find is just finding single people my own age who are interested. Most women i meet say they've come out of bad relationships and are enjoying their independence. I'm not interested in rushing into anything. Dating was much easier in my 30's. It's like a whole new world now. I put most of my spare time into keeping healthy, mostly surfing, going to the gym and looking after my health and don't like bars and clubs etc. I realise my lifestyle isn't conducive to meeting anyone.
It’s so much better to meet someone at the gym, grocery store, or park than a dating app! My lifestyle is healthy/active, and similar to yours, so I do understand what you’re saying. Wishing you the best!
@@hiannahgus574 Thank you and you too! and i agree, i find it so much better meeting people in person than online. In person you have body language and eye contact and other subtle queues which aren't available through text.
What I discovered at sites like Date My Age is that there are a lot of fake profiles out there, and you are either not talking to the woman in the pictures when you chat with her, or "She" is actually an AI bot that churns out meaningless answers to your questions and even gibberish at times. That is outright fraud, and I don't know how they get away with it, but i found out a lot of these sites are run out of Hong Kong, so the US legal system may be powerless to shut them down.
63 year old male that has, like you given up the onlie ( yes onlie) dating. Being alone is a choice. It's easy to find someone to sleep with, not so easy to find someone you want to wake up with. Huge difference! I'm surprised that at this age, women are still attracted to the neanderthals and cant handle men that have actually evolved. I still hope that the universe will do its magic and I connect the old fashion way.
Couldn't have put it better myself 👏👏 I've tried online dating drove me insane I'm single I'm happy and like you I'm trying the old way. No endless texting, no dinner dates, no more disappointments ie fake photos, I'm really enjoying the old way!!!
Neanderthals? Who wants that? All the woman I know wouldn't consider being with a man that didn't have good manners, interesting conversation and a kind sense of humour. I mean, we're not 20 anymore so we're not looking for the muscle laden sex monster of younger days.
Relationships often face challenges, but there’s always a way to move forward. My marriage had its share of significant problems, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to resolve them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are available if you’re willing to put in the effort and collaborate. Keep hope alive-answers are possible.
I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.
After coming out of a rough marriage, I decided I never want to go that route again. I went on a few dates, some nice , some with no chemistry not looking for anything long term. I finally met my ideal low key man - we go to concerts, dinners, hikes, etc. but we keep separate residence, don’t choke each other - give lots of room for independence and freedom to pursue individual interests,etc. Been together now for 9 years.
i am 60 and my husband who died 3 months ago of an accident was 36, So i dont like old men to date, I was more active than my younger husband. Life is soooo sad now
At 59 recently ended a long term relationship after been totally loyal and committed. Now i find it really difficult just contemplating trying again, i don't believe the simple values such as loyality, trust, respect and a deep sense of equal unity and compassion exist as it used to. We are in a socially distracted society where relationships seems to be so disposable, and as a result, a lot of good single people choose to continue the journey alone. ❤
It does exist, but it's rare. ❤ Find somebody who doesn't follow the societal decay and dances to the beat of their own drum with a good heart. She will never be perfect, but nobody is.
@@KS0102 yes, I totally agree, I am one of those women but finding someone who is not wrapped around social media, with good old school values these days is a challenge. Most people are following everyone else, but their own path, its so sad. I appreciate your input and wish you a wonderful day
Yes! 100%! A lot of good single people do choose to continue the journey alone. Remember the song, "Love Hurts"? Well, it's true. Fortunately, though, love also heals. We all deserve love in our lives.
@@julialucas1482absolutely, love heals,but only when we are able to overcome the mental trauma, until then most people will choose to stay alone just to heal and find themselves before getting into another relationship ❤
Thank you for your observations. I am a 60 year old lady who never married. I have found that a lot of men are always looking for someone prettier and younger. Real men of integrity are hard to find. I am no longer looking, but trusting God that if He wants me to meet someone, I will.
This is making me REALLY glad that I focused on my career and set myself up financially. So many people, men and women, are looking for a meal ticket. Or are so broke they can’t do anything.
@@hectorborgprivate my observation is that you find what you expect. I don’t meet men who expect me to keep them, but i know they are out there. If you are rarely meeting independent women - and there are a lot of us, i can assure you - you might want to examine what you expect. Some men i have encountered who claim to want independent women , actually seek out and date very dependent women, because that’s really all their egos can deal with. Not saying that’s your issue but it’s worth it for each of us to think about what we expect. Because everyone naturally screens out people who don’t match what they expect, producing confirmation bias.
@Mary-tj5qx Well said. I work with a few attractive, intelligent, fun independent women who have not married. I think the difference with us independent women is we won't put up with crap b/c we don't have to. I always stop dating someone when they have become "more trouble than they're worth."
@@DCornwell-d2t Thats one side of it. The other side is a lot of those women are completely insufferable in a romantic relationship. Rebecca Lynn Pope, a dating coach, made a video in frustration about it bc she found these demanding women rejecting great men. She had to quit it got so bad as she frequently ran out of men to offer.
This is so funny. Thank you for being so truthful. I am a almost 60 year old woman and everything you said is spot-on. This is the first time I’ve seen your channel and I’m a new subscriber! Nice video.
My husband died 15 years ago and I like being alone, but sometimes I do get lonely and would like to have Relationship I don’t know what online dating is all about thank you. May God bless you.
So happy that this showed up in my feed! Hi! I’m also single, widowed and 60. Online dating is the worst and I’m still alone. Like you I’m fun, attractive and educated, abundant and stable in all the right ways. The men I’ve met are so narcissistic and have no reason to be so arrogant. Ugh…. At our age I wonder if the good ones are broadly unavailable. I’ve given up looking….but all of my friends are married and coupled up. It’s not easy but I make the best out of it like you. Honestly, I do feel sad about it deep down.
It sounds like maybe you are saying that online dating is not the path to find someone but that you are looking for a better path. Have you tried joining a club or church? You know the old song, “make new friends but keep the old…”
You sound a lot like me (63) and I really think online dating is a lazy way to connect, like ordering from a Sears catalog! The men I met some looked exactly like their pics and a few others lied about their height.😂 The men in their 70's told me in their messages that they were done with sporting events and going places! After several of those messages, I quit! I get myself out and I'm making a new life for myself!
My experience hearing stories from women friends is that they have a long list of what their looking for. Way too picky. I’m hearing you say that you would reject a guy because he hadn’t dated in awhile. Wow, that’s harsh. Women who are a 6 want a 10 and that’s why they’re single.
Thank you for this video! I'm 51, divorced long ago, and just decided to NEVER go on a dating app again. I tried for maybe a year, on and off, and it's bad for my mental health. Men only wanted to meet me because - as most of them said - I look ten years younger than my actual age, which is kind of true, I have lucky genes, but still... I am 51 and there is nothing wrong with that! And of course they want to go intimate right away, saying "love comes later but first you have to try if sex works". C'mon. I'm not a test car. Cheers from Hungary!
I will take some exception to your opinion that men can't be alone. I am 63, divorced for over 8 years, and happily live alone. In fact, the longer I live alone, the more I appreciate it. I have also tried online dating, but after years of bad experiences, I have come to the conclusion it was just not worth it. Like you, I still hold out hope that I will meet the right person organically.
I agree completely! I went through the SAME thing as you. I am 63 and 10 months young, soon to turn 64 and 13 years divorced and happy to be single. Women around my age are so self absorbed and not submissive or compliant but instead are full of themselves and brainwashed by the Feminist Cult. I dont want to have anything to do with the Modern Western Woman any more. Instead I am shifting all my time, resources and money to OVERSEAS women, specifically ASAI. Their CULTURE is not as infected as the west and they LOVE OLDER MEN, they treat men with honor and respect, and age is just a number. So now I can get BEAUTY, Submission, Compliance, Friendliness and FAITHFULNESS all in one woman! Just the other day a woman was lingering around me in the grocery isle, so I said HELLO, how are you today. No expectations, no hitting on her, just a simple hello. She sized me up based on my looks and age I guess, turned up her nose and walked away. Apparently I wasnt what she thought I was initially and looking at me close up freaked her out or something. Honestly, she was older than me and I was NOT interested in dating here anyway, but the attitude was what impressed me and just confirmed me belief of the modern western world. Additionally the other day I also was out bike riding, getting my exercise and enjoying the warm weather. Saw 10 men and 10 women. 9 out of 10 men ALL said hello back to me and acknowledged my existence. Only 3 out of 10 women said hello back to me. I am a friendly guy, I dont have expectations and just enjoy life and its in my nature to say hello and acknowledge your existence as we cross paths. These women ignored me completely and never acknowledged my existence in the slightest. But apparently in both these examples of meeting women ORGANICALLY out in nature, the MODERN WESTERN WOMAN is destined to STAY ALLONE as they keep saying and ACTING that they DONT NEED MEN anymore. They are ALL strong, powerful, self sufficient business babes that apparently can take care of themselves just fine. So Its no skin off my back, I just walk away and smile knowing I get the WIN on this, as I am ALONE, FREE, dont answer to anyone, dont have daily arguments or stupid discussions, and dont have this BURDEN of a modern western women trying to convince me to be exactly like her. Men and women are NOT EQUAL, we are DIFFERENT!!! I live the life of a MAN, I fish and hunt, I sail on the ocean, I exercise, bike, swim and run, and I have my hobbies. Couple of us men get together during the week and support each other and dream of the day we will meet a gorgeous Asian woman. Augh, now thats the LIFE!
@@sg-vp2qg This is NOT a dating site! Did you read the mans comment, he's NOT interested in dating you or anyone like you. He LIKES being along and NOT having to deal with you desperate brainwashed Feminist Cult believing women who TROLL us online. Its NOT going to happen, so just move along please!
Had all the same experiences as you plus many more. I decided a few years ago that the hunt was not the best use of my resources. I've poured my energies into my business, friends, families and hobbies. Now I'm thriving. I do miss being touched and held sometimes, but not enough for all the mess. Re: sex... if he's not worth getting a UTI for, don't do it.
I hate online dating. It makes it too easy for people to hide their true selves. Meeting people in person is better. I can’t understand why men think that a woman should look flawless while they look a a tub of lard. I am 49 and I think you seem like a lovely person. That last guy that you dated did you a favor. He sounds like a dud.
I came from the school of "Do what you love. Then look around. Note who is there all the time doing the same things and, whom you find pleasant and fun." So much better than going out or, in the case online, and looking for someone.
Women want a guys career, status, and money to be flawless, and you're whining that all we ask is for slight attention to appearance? Yeah you wouldn't last 3 days as a guy
I will never date when my loved one passes. It took me until 50 to find a kind intelligent man with mutual attraction. Proven study of women being disabled & men leaving them & men becoming disabled & women staying & caring for them. Enough said. Great discussion thank you 😊
Define “ single”. I was single for over 6 years. Dated my now wife for 7, and we married 4 years ago. I dated during the time I was “ single” but no one seriously. Way to many Men remarry after a divorce way to fast. In my observing this, that is a major factor for 2nd marriages having a higher divorce rate than first marriages. I used to say, to guy friends “ you don’t have to marry everyone you date”. And “ there are worse things than being alone, I’ve been out with some”… I met my wife online. I found the online dating thing not bad, you meet first for coffee first, the cream will rise to the top. I’m a blessed man.
I met my current wife through the personals just 3 weeks after my divorce was final and we married 50 weeks later. We will celebrate our 30th anniversary next summer. I was lucky to meet the right lady so soon.
I am widow since 2011 . I am European and i cannot imagine dating American man . Here in USA , dating is pretty much about sex . There is no time for friendship . Absolutely disgusting, besides the fact that most guys in their sixties are in pretty bad shape physically and they come with long list of preferences and expectations. Very , very , very , very low standard of men here in this country . Sorry . I am single since 2011 . I know who i am , what i bring to the table so i am not affraid to eat alone .
@@vanhawk1074 Please pardon my mistake. The tone of your post led me to believe that you were from the west. My wife is from Ukraine. I'm glad she did not dismiss the idea of dating & marrying an American man.
I am 74 years old and was married for 54 years and in 2023 lost my wife to Altzheimer after watching her slip away for 6 years. It will be a year next month and I have been living alone with my dog I adopted from the SPCA and talk to my grown children on a regular basis .I think you are very attractive and level-headed. It sounds like you have dated the wrong people, why would anyone want to talk about their ex when dating and why would someone criticize another's looks, and as we age our body goes through changes both men and women and that should be considered when senior dating. I am sorry for your bad luck so far but I know there is someone just for you out there. Good luck and God Bless from Texas
@bentback1 Thank you, Sir for kind words. I am sorry about your wife, but congratulations on a long marriage & keeping your vows! I am glad you have a companion in your dog, they really are great! People can be so rude and cold nowadays, it's a different world. Your posts made me smile, knowing that nice people still exist! 😊
@@bentback1 THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENT about not talking about one's ex or late spouse, it's very draining to be someone's therapist or rebound. Smart move getting a dog, and I'm very very pleased that you went to the SPCA and found your fur family member and not a pet store. They need a loving home.
After my divorce in my early forties as a woman I decided that I can have a relationship with a man and we can live in different houses. Now that I'm older I still believe that you can have a relationship with your man and you both love each other but live in different homes. He can have his freedom I can have mine. But when we're together we're together. He can come over and do some things around my house I could go over to his house at times but we do not have to live and sleep in the same house constantly. I really feel it makes a relationship stronger when you are able to keep your own sense of who You are.
THIS! I just turned 50 and my bf of 3 yrs is 6 years younger and we live apart. He's starting talks of living together but I enjoy my own space so much. As much as I love him, I think he'll drive me crazy (and vice versa) if we lived together full time 😂
EXACTLY - this is the best of both worlds. You still have occasional (which makes it more special) monagomous physical intimacy and you still have your own space to relax in most of the time. Frequency of all of the above you work out. This set up with a woman is very hard to find . Almost all want some kind of commitment or want to live under the same roof (a condition to fulfill) before they will agree to sharing physical pleasure with each other. It seems so outdated in these times at this age....pay to play. I truly believe your philosophy and mine is the most harmonious and uncomplicated arrangement as seniors. I'm curious, among your single female friends do any of them feel the same way you do and if not, what reason do they give for not thinking this a good setup?
Everything you said is so true. I tried online dating for a number of years. While I met some very nice men that I just didn't click with, so many were self-centered men who had nothing to offer but expected a pot of gold in return. I chose to date all kinds of men, who I wouldn't necessarily consider attractive, but sometimes that doesn't matter if they have a great personality. I was shocked that nearly every man, no matter their looks or personality, had such a high estimation of themselves. My son says that men are raised to believe they are God's gift to women and they believe it.
I'm a 46 year old woman, and I gave up on dating years ago. It has been freeing in a way. I have way too much on my plate to worry about dating. However, love is well worth finding, so congrats for continuing to try. I hope you find it! I know quite a few single women, but after a certain point they also threw in the towel. Bad dating experiences, divorces, and a lot of responsibilities all make it difficult to date and find love. I've had so many bad dates that I just said "enough", and I'm okay with being single. It isn't quite what people think. There's no compulsive need to have a man, collect cats, or become bitter. Instead, I get to travel, give generously to charities, and help take care of my parents in their old age. I don't consider that a wasted life just because I'm not with a man.
you're where you should be now, the odds of marriage for a single woman at 40 are about 1%, - I quit dating at 46, SWM now 68, nothing I did could attract a spouse and I didn't want kids, a priest told me marriage is not in God's plan for everyone, as a Catholic we're called to marriage, it's a vocation and not everyone gets that call, I see now marriage would have been a mess for me, I wear an ostomy appliance now due to colon cancer, so I don't even dream about dating, so thankful it's not an issue anymore - thankful for no drama and peace in my sr. yrs.
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You are not wrong. Most men on the websites, do not want an older woman as a partner. I felt like they would really want to just hook up with women their age if they looked good. But the ones I met wanted younger women for partners. I think they have a skewed view of themselves. Like they arent as old as the women their own age. I gave up on dating altogether. Im 60 now, and I do what I want, when I want. I love it! Im not afraid to be without a partner. I am actually enjoying this time of freedom in my life!❤❤ Great video. Youre not alone in your thoughts here.🙏🏻💪👍
Reminds me of an old joke. A woman moved to a new town and looked for a dentist on the net. One name was the same as a guy she went to high school with. When she went for her appointment she saw a very elderly man, wrinkled, bent a bit and bald. Of course that couldn't be him, she thought. During her visit she idly asked him what town he grew up in. Same as hers. She asked where he went to high school - her high school. She asked what year he graduated - same as hers!! So she said I think I knew you. He peered at her carefully and said "Oh yes! You were my English teacher!."
I met the love of my life on line. I was over 60. Going on 10 years and more in love than ever. Men that do not pay for you and drive to see you are not worth a second look!
I am an elderly man who has lived alone for certain periods of my life. I found your talk very insightful. I understand and respect your approach,feelings and sensitivity. But you made me realized the difficulties of human relatioships. My current wife lives with me for a number of months each year since covid. We have long ceased to have sex. Thank you for your reflections.
The planets aligned and the month before I turned 60, one week prior to the Covid 19 lockdown, I met the man I looked for my whole life. We’ve been together going on 5 years and I’ve never been happier. We met on Match, it can happen!!
I gave up online dating too. I moved back to New York State where I grew up and live alone and I am happy with that! I am 63 now and just found it exhausting and disheartening to date. I haven’t dated in years. Wishing you happiness with you ! You are worth your own time!! I take myself to dinner , movie, shopping, walks, festivals etc… I stay as long as I like , eat whatever I want , see whatever I want. I find I am much more relaxed and calm in my life now.
I am 67, and if I wasnt happily married, I would probably just bag the whole concept of finding someone else. Even now, I find myself paying a lot more attention to my health, fitness and spend time practicing mindfulness and contemplating our place in the universe. I have had more than enough excitement, drama, heartbreak, thrills, contentment and all the other feelings that come with relationships and lack thereof. There is just so much more to concentrate on at this point in life. Still, I AM very grateful and fortunate that I dont have to play the games you are discussing.
I thought that. Then I found out this dating mess is a wealthy country issue. Many countries in the world have women thrilled to be with old US men. It's super bizarre, but legit. Lots of scammers for sure, but many more legit women just wanting a man. Yup money is the #1 reason but that's true for women in wealthy countries too. They aren't gold diggers, it's just a status instinct women have, like height. The difference is in these other countries the women have different levels for their requirements. SE Asian women say the same as US women. They want tall and well to do men. But asked "What's tall?" "You know, like more than 5' 4", 5' 5"." "How much money to be well to do?" Range I've heard many times is $400-600/mo income USD. "Wealthy" and "rich" is $1000/mo. The highest I've heard is one woman saying $2000/mo. It's a different world.
Age 67 too! I have found exactly the same things. Your comment could have been written by me. Only exception I have never been married but and then a reasonably happy long-term relationship that I hope will last until I start pushing daisies! Only three minutes into this interview and the woman said she dumped someone because on the phone, he said that Some other famous woman was looking her age! Something I have noticed with Western women is the bar to dump someone is so incredibly low. It really isn’t worth putting any effort or investment in a relationship Which ironically is one of the things they complain about. As I said to my son, whether you’ve been seeing someone for two months or 22 years and two months you are one text away from being dumped so arrange your affairs accordingly.
That's until they learn better and being younger they have time to learn better and once they do, you think they'll stay with the old mediocre man if they have better options or get to earn good money themselves? You think those women from poorer countries are immune to lifestyle creep, meaning, do you really think that once they are established that they wont want better for themselves, that they wont fantasize about not having to do chores and perform for an older mediocre man and get into a better situation single or with someone else? That is just a very likely scenario, they are currently wanting less by our standards because they dont know better just yet...
OMG. It is hard for me to believe some of these stories! As a 65 year old, I am embarrassed to hear them. I have not done online dating myself (actually, dating at all). Hoping that you have better experiences in the future!
I tried online dating for a while and met some decent men but no sparks. The thing I hate about the online experience is that it feels like you are creating a PR profile for yourself and there's no authenticity. So much superficiality and many folks just looking for a hookup. Ugh, it was too stressful and annoying to me, then I realized I am perfectly happy with my life as it is and I stopped the online search. Such relief!
I am 61 also, a woman and absolutely agree. I am financially stable with a part time fun job with a bunch of young people and have no intention of remotely entertaining the idea of dating. The peace and serenity is so valuable :)
And so boring too! Talk about themselves, and their dull lives. I gave up and for 10 years didn't date anyone at all. It was fine - easier for everyone!
I am an 80yr old man and super healthy, never been sick a day in my life. Still love sex, love to dance I have not eaten at Mac Donald’s, had a coke,Mexican food, junk food alcohol etc in 50yrs but I still think the secret to a happy life is a sense of humor, who doesn’t love to laugh. People are too stuck in the past and their problems, enjoy today and have fun
Nothing wrong with good Mexican food that consists of beans and veggies and not much fried foods, Unless he is talking about Taco Bell which isn't good.
I’m 70 and my partner is 75. We met over 15 years ago on a dating site. She was maybe the third date I went on. Finding someone requires exposure and a LOT of luck. I have always been independent and very comfortable alone and in many ways prefer my own company. People have described me as a loner with excellent social skills. The dating app helped me meet people by compensating for my introversion. Many older men do want someone to take care of them and “drive them to the hospital”, but there are exceptions. I 100% take care of my partner because I love her and think she is deserving. I think many men prefer younger women because they are trying to deny their mortality. The young woman reinforces the delusion that they are the same age as the woman (and again they want a woman healthy enough to drive them to the hospital, and better yet a “nurse with a purse”😊).
I met a guy online in 2015 I thought he was the love of my life. He loved bombed me. Anyway he victimized me and stole thousands from me at the end..... took my car, money, wrecked my business and tore up my clothes, stole anything of value all because he was mad we were breaking up for good. And he was 7 years older than me. I am now 62 and wiser. I date 1 guy at a time and don't allow love bombing anymore. Respect and honesty is key. I am still recovering financially and emotionally. Thank you for sharing your story. You're a lovely lady. You deserve a good man. You are worthy.
25 yrs Single, now 65 and can agree 100% with what you're saying. My 41 yr old son said "you don't try hard enough" to find a man. 😮..... I literally laughed at him, then corrected him... you're wrong son, I no longer try at all! 65 single and still enjoy long walks, being in wild nature, reading bound books, gardening yr round and of course the grandchildren ❤ Loving your style ✌🏻
My friend in her 70's met someone a couple of years older than her about 5 years ago. They are still very happy together. Keeping companionship and traveling around the world. Don't give up. There's a honey for every bunny. 🐰
Not necessarily and certainly not when you're old. Older people are not attractive anymore. There may be some exceptions, but for the most part, it's over.
The best husband you can find as an older woman is a widower. He knows how to appreciate a woman, has experienced love and wants it again. Forget online dating; check the obituaries.
I am a 73 year old healthy man (I can still surf😊). I have heard of these awful stories from women about online dating. I find the stories to be heartbreaking. If I ever find myself to be in an online dating situation I would treat the women with absolute respect and dignity. Perhaps the chemistry might not be right but I would still show her a fun evening and again, total respect. There is too much hatred out there now and we must always treat one another with love and respect. I also apologize for the mistreatment from some of the men on these dating sites.
I was married for 25yrs. Divorced and started dating in my mid 50's. It was interesting I learned alot. In my 60's I was in 2 long term relationships. I found that alot of men lack emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is a must for a healthy relationship. I also believe in the Law of attraction. I put it out there and if its meant to be it will be. I live each day to its fullest and surround myself with positive,heathy friends and family.
Hopefully, my comment won’t be met with too many boos since I am a divorced (2 years, was married for 20) almost 60 yo guy. I just wanted to say two things. First, I absolutely refuse to try online dating. But your experiences makes me think I should. I am nowhere near as clueless and classless as some of the men you mentioned. So that makes me think I would be much more qualified than my competition. Maybe?? Second, I respectfully disagree with your opinion of men being single for a reason. I realize we all have our experiences and we’re all entitled to our own opinions. But I have found most women to be much harder to please than I would have imagined. And as a man I am much less willing to fall into that situation again. I am nowhere near perfect and I would never expect perfection from a woman. I just want her to be honest and forgiving enough for me that we don’t end up making each other miserable. Life is too short to live in that mindset. Have fun and enjoy each other. We ALL deserve it.
Yes, women have woken up and realized that we’re allowed to have standards. Men are a woman’s apex predator, so raising standards is a safety measure at this point.
It might be unpopular but I agree with you about some women being harder to please and I think it’s partly due to some women being influenced by what they see other women doing or saying online. So sad.
I'm turning 75 in November and I am still in very good shape, been working out consistently since I was 22 years old and most people think I'm around 55 or so years old or younger. Me personally, I love women and always have and I always did very well with dating in the past but I'm just finished with dating now. I'm done with the drama and dealing with other peoples past relationships. At my age, life is just too short, I choose peace and tranquility for my remaining years! People are just too damaged from past relationships these days plus what social media has to to all of us! I'm just done. Thanks
I have been a single man by choice for 7+ years, I am 63 now, tried the online dating thing years ago, ran into some of the same things during that time. Looking back at the time spent, I learned a lot about myself and others. I do believe I finally figured out what I want. You really “knocked it out of the park” with this video. I really enjoyed listening and identifying with you. Thank you for sharing and the awesome delivery. Can’t wait for more!
I'm turning 60, last year a man came into my life unexpectedly. From February to April he put a beautiful sapphire ring on my finger and by August the fire was out unexpectedly. That pain is raw so any type of dating plus your experience just switches off lights. All the best to those willing to suffer the pain and to those who find joy 😊😊 I enjoyed your openness. Thank you and God bless you 😊
I've had some really good relationships with women. I was a good man to them, BUT, I chose solitude to relationships. I honestly prefer to be alone. There is never a dull moment and boredom does not exist with me. I do feel a bit of sadness for those that want relationships but fail to find the "one".
I’m so delighted I found your channel. I recently had a meet up with a man who not only talked about his ex, but told me in detail about his ex’s blow-by-blow account of the labor of his now 30 year old child. Not to mention…why do they post pics of themselves from 20 years prior? Ugh! It’s so frustrating because they are showing how dishonest they are right at the bat.
I'm totally in alignment with everything you said & THRILLED YOU SAID IT!!! I tried EVERYTHING. For 4 years plus, I went out on 2, 3, or sometimes 4 dates a week. I RESEARCHED THE HELL OUT OF THESE MEN. I was an attractive, young looking (For my age), senior woman. I personally did not like being alone, & wanted to find an intelligent, conscious, kind partner with good character that I could have a wonderful partnership with. (After being married for 37 years to a raging, malignant narcissist since I was 20). I finally gave up: I was lied to, (The men were married, or I found out they had girlfriends because I CALLED THEM & had the balls to say "We had a great time, what. went wrong? The guy said "Oh yea we did, but I was cheating on my girlfriend." The cheap guys "Do u want to SPLIT THAT ORDER OF FRIES'?, The foot fetish ones, "Please tell me about your toenail polish...ugh!) The guys w/LONG GROSS fingernails, the Surgeon who wanted to call me "Mommy" when he kissed me, the men who ghosted me, stood me up, lied & said the were divorced, kept something to blow into in their car because they were caught drunk driving, the men who wanted sex on the 2nd or 3rd date, the ones who had Mysogyny issues, men who spent the whole date showing me pictures of their dead wife... and the "Pie'ce De Re'sistance" - being "Roofied" by an attorney who was showing me pic's of his grandkids one moment - then trying to rape me in a hotel room. I too believe in "Law of Attraction", but there are at least 2x the women out there than men. I am now realistic - as u said, if it happens, etc... A dog is unconditionally loving, a cat is wonderful, & I'm just plain worn out. I let my hair grown in silver, & do as I please. I live in L.A., the world center of looking young & beautiful. As a professional researcher - The truth is men DO NOT want an "Intelligent woman." in their senior years - they want someone who is "Quiet", "Who is 23-45 MAX, who looks fecund, & who sits & listens with awe to what golf club they used to sink that putt. I may sound kind of bitter - and truthfully I have tried SO HARD not to be, but I am worn out from trying this also.
Last December, the love of my life and I fell apart. I need to make some changes in MY life. 7 months of therapy has been life changing! I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders. The man I am now, I should have been that man for her when I was with her. I’m still hoping to make things work out. At 64, I know finding a life mate is near impossible. She also has a muscle condition with no cure. All I want is to comfort, protect, love and take care of her for the rest of MY life. I’m of good health and could walk away, but I don’t want to.
You two should reach out to each other. Canadian men are a lot different than New Yorkers! I live in Toronto too and I think there are lots of nice men in their sixties out there although I’m long time married.
Hi there, I online dated for about 10 years when I was in my 50s. I am currently 68. The stories I could tell you about the men I met up with our unreal. Some of them wanted to have sex immediately, some of them wanted to replace their wife, some of them were broke and living with their kids and so on. I am retired now but when I was working the girls couldn't wait for me to come into the office on Monday morning to tell them how terrible my date was. By the time I got done telling them everything that happened they were in tears laughing. Now you know you're not alone.
I know! I did the same thing, describing my dates. At least I had some funny but sad anecdotes out of it. We all have cheap date stories - and yes, it happened to me too that my meet-up bought dinner for himself at Chipotle, using a coupon and telling me he couldn't get anything for me. We did not last.
@@SherriFlemming let's not even mention the fact did they expect us to look like one of the Kardashians while they show up looking like they just rolled out of bed.
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After trying senior online dating, I’ve decided it’s just not for me. In this video, I’ll share my honest experience with dating platforms for seniors-the good, the bad, and why I’m walking away from it for good. From unrealistic profiles to frustrating encounters, online dating wasn’t what I expected. I’ll talk about the challenges I faced, how it affected my self-esteem,
@@BecomingMe64 If interested, I can appoint you an Official Friendship Ambassador for @RealCanadisnSeniors...moderator etc
Presently, @Debbie Sanders from @John Prine music 50k members..shares our love and friendship!
Cc 😮L
Sorry to hear that your a beautiful woman, very few my age I'm 72
I hope she responds 😉
Holly, so sorry to hear of your not so good experiences. When I wrote my profile I decided to be truthful, share who I am, what interests me, what I'm looking for... The idea, not get plenty of Likes, but select in those who would genuinely want to meet me, after all I'm only want to meet The One. Here in the UK, for those of us in our later years, a coffee date is a useful stepping stone to meeting face to face, and I arrive relaxed, open to possibility, keep the conversation light and playful. Of course not everyone has been a match made in heaven, but they've all been good fun, interesting and wonderful - life is full of chances, if we don't try, we'll never meet and connect...
I divorced a violent man at 45 and never dated again. I am happy ,travel, take myself to dinner and live a quiet beautiful life.
congrats, you're ahead of the game
I think that's why many women can live alone happily whereas men feel lonely. Solitary living gives many women peace and men just never seem to be able to get away from needing and wanting a "mommy" around. That's what I think it really is. They can't get over not having a person take care of them.
@@JJ-nn9de Yeah right, dream on. Men LOVE being alone after divorcing! Who's gonna be your "mommy"? Maybe the problem is you didn't have a daddy and now never will.
Statistically, men die soon after their spouse dies. The death if a spouse doesn't affect a woman's longevity. Won n have always known this.
Women grow up.
my mother who was single for over 30 years and very disabled with arthritis, met a soulmate and married at 70. she enjoyed married life for 10 years loving holidays eating out and evening gin and tonics before she passed.
🙏
That’s wonderful !
Good for her 👍
That's rare
Yes, that is what I'm looking for.
My mom met a 65 year old man at a senior center when she was 61. They dated, traveled and lived together half the week as she still had her own home. Great guy. They were together for 20 years until he passed away.
Good things CAN happen.
Good for her. That's rare
"It takes two to tengo" applies in more ways than most can figure out.
"It's not me"" usually is a red-flag whether we're talking anybody here (Including the creator) or out n about in real world situations/experience.
a shame more family are not like you in seeing the qualities of the man instead destroying your mothers happiness ,the message here is "passing away"
I'm a 68 year old man, been alone 13 years,focusing getting my youngest daughter through college, she's finishing her masters this year,had a tough tough relationship, very comfortable being single figured I'd meet someone some day,just haven't, still busy working enjoying my family when I see them no bad habits or masaginy, keep thinking I'll know my soul mate when we meet lol
I am married but just joined your channel because I just enjoyed hearing your stories. Omg you are gorgeous and for a 72 year old to say you needed more makeup?!? Good grief.
my husband died when i was 65. i'm 72 now. i thought about my dating prospects and decided poor, impotent, unhealthy, old men weren't worth it. i'm a happy old cat lady. it's peaceful.
Great decision dear 🇧🇷👏
@@margaretjohnson6259 and I'm guessing those old geezers feel likewise. Lol.
My last BF was about 6 years ago. I went through a lot of emotional upheaval while dating and after the break up. There is a lot to say about living in peace. I certainly didn't need what I foolishly endured.
Cool! I'm better off without a greedy old lady who objectifies men for their wallets, d*ks, and physical prowess. My last GF was 70. The one before that 35. The hag was a narcissistic, entitled, and demanding shrew. It's just not worth it. I'm a happy 60 old autistic man who preffers dating autistic women in their 20s and 30s. For the record I'm a wealthy retired architect, priapic, and I assure you that I am fit and healthy enough to keep up with women 1/2 my age. On the ski slopes. For the time being anyway. I plan to milk that for all it's worth after a lifetime of rejection from ordinary women my age. Autistic people don't give a damn about any of that crap anyway. We just wanna be around people who share our neurological profile and interest in cars, music, architecture, boats, and cats.
Good lord. It's said that females are the romantic sex, but that's a lie. It's men who invest the most emotion (and money) in relationships. I swear: The typical American women think's she's a little princesses to her desiccated dying day.
No thanks. Dating American women is an absolute nightmare. Men get zero respect. I want to be cherished and respected as I age by my romantic partner.
So I plan to die in Thai whorehouse.
Love it.. fellow cat sister! lol
The universe must have heard me and sent you. Im 61. Started online dating about 2 years ago following a friend's suggestion. Wish i never listened because I've had nothing but disasters. Had the liars, manipulators, GILF weirdos, and the final straw a desperate needy man who would text me 30 times a day and said he couldn't sleep or eat because he was so in love with me after 7 weeks. So i took my daughters advice and dumped him. As a survivor of narcissistic abusive relationship for 28 years all this messed up my mental health. Got me a rescue German shepherd and a van, joined a single ladies travelling group and plan to go around Australia on my own. You'd be surprised how many single women ive met who are happier than ever being on their own and doing very well. Thanks for your video and all the fantastic comments ❤
It’s beautiful to enjoy your life, and being single can at times be easier than being in a relationship. Especially if you have been in an abusive relationship. It seems that people who experienced an abusive relationship somehow tend to repeat it, and being alone is better. But I met someone when I was 35 who called a thousand times a day and ended up stalking me for years. Does that mean that all man are that? NO
Wishing you peace, happiness on your journey with rescue baby and long healthy life.
Me!
@janetteclarke9284 Good for you Jack
@@Querencia7779 ❤
I was in a 10 year close relation with a woman who was older than me ( I was 65 years old at that time), and the relation was wonderful. After that she got ill, and took care of her till her death. I love her very much. She had a wonderful character, and put much love in my heart. I miss her every day, more than two years after.
It's nice to hear you felt so much love in your life
You are an amazing man. This is so good to hear and blessings to you.
@@יוסףלופו Sorry for your loss. Remember the good times. Blessings to you sir.
God bless you. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm 63 and my partner is older than me, I'm doing all I can to keep her healthy. I just can't imagine not having her in my life.
@@alfx5432Praying for you🌟🙏🏽
My favourite saying is this "I've been on my own now for quite a while and I have to say, it's working out rather well, in fact, I think I'm THE ONE". 😁. I embrace being alone and having no drama, upsets and criticism etc. who needs it. I'm delighted I found your channel. What you said sums up my feelings about men. I will never allow one into my life again.
With very best wishes from Ireland. 👍🇮🇪
I think I'm THE ONE too! 😂
As a very fit man of 66, I tried it. I mentioned in my profile that my wife died of breast cancer.
The first three admitted they had breast cancer, 3 admitted they were married, two were separated but needed some company, and the last one said she was a size 12. When I met her she was at least size 18 and the photo she sent was 10 years old. I too gave up, so it’s not just the men.
I am sorry to hear. It is so hard to find somebody decent these days. I tried and gave up too.
Admitted they had breast cancer? In treatment and dating?
Sorry for your loss. Mine died of lung cancer five years ago. Dated a bit sometime afterwards, and determined that at least two out three women in my age (64) range are just plain psycho.
Decided to travel instead of dating. Best decision ever. Tried Southeast Asia, Malaysia, Singapore, Philippines... life has never been better.
Don't get complacent, go have some fun 😁
Actually woman are the worst specially the western woman . Even at 60 they are not accepting reality so move to place where there r no western woman.
I don't get why people misrepresent themselves like that. The first time you meet it's going to instantly tell that person you can't be trusted to tell the truth. Sorry about your wife. That's a kind of pain that's hard to deal with, even with time.
Conclusion: ladies, young or older, learn to love yourself and live with yourself.
Absolutely ❣️❣️❣️❣️
And with that, remember to embrace the rich and full life you already have. Kids, grandkids, friends, hobbies, pets, homes, gardens, volunteering, learning new things, travel, etc etc etc.
YES! Should have been that way long ago, the whole paradigm at the start was OFF when you were dating for hypergamy and he was trying to get laid that was WRONG DUHHH! WE...WE...DID..IT to OURSELVES but IF it'd be nice to share life with someone...well, there are some who have learned ed and in real life you'd see that and know it ahead of even the FIRST date!
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The Real Reason Avoidant Attachers Break Up With You - Ken Reid podcast 🌞 🌞
Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
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Biology is psychology. Behavior is a language. Know yourself and your attachment style.
Geez… I met a woman who is 61 who told me that her 60th birthday wasn’t very special because her family didn’t acknowledge her so for her birthday I took her into the city, went to a Michelin star restaurant, where the truffle supplement alone was $125 spent $700 for dinner. Following day, orchestra seats at the opera, and the top it off, a balloon ride over wine country. We’re still together three years later and looking at moving to Italy in our retirement.
Fairy tale, right?
@ The way I see it, it’s my job to make fairy tales come true.
Dinner was at Michelin starred Italian restaurant Acquerello and opera was my favorite, Bizet’s Carmen ;)
Have you got a brother ?!!
@ sorry sweets…I’m one of a kind ;)
Why do you feel you need to approach love through your wallet. While I understand treating someone on their birthday your spending spree was excessive. Men need to get over this inferiority complex where you think you have to compensate with money. What has she spent on you ?
I remember when my Grandpa died, i said Grandma you are so pretty, are you going to date someone. She said, I will never take care of another old man.
That sounds like my ex. He didn't want a wife, he wanted a mom.
@@bitteroldman701 you do not know anything about what my Grandma went through taking care of my Grandpa who died very bitter and very mean. My grandma lived tp 103, and she was a wonderful person. She married a mean man.
I lost my sweet husband a couple of years ago. I feel exactly the same as your grandmother. It was a very hard time that I don’t intend to repeat.
Love you man bashers that couldn’t find a real man who is interested in you. Ever think we are sick of your attitudes?
@wayupnorth9420 love men. Tough getting old, with history.
I did so much online dating. 10 years ago I met the love of my life. It took at least 300 dates until i met the one, and many years to meet him. He was married 18 years prior to us, divorced 3 years. We now have been married just over 7 years!❤
300 dates? I can't even imagine.
@@susans7091 me either. Can’t even imagine that.
@susans7091 I think I went on about 500 in a span of 10 years and finally found one wonderful guy.
Some of my so called dates were just a telephone conversation, Some were a quick coffee, drink and an app, some dinner. It was a full time job along with my full time job but I couldn't have found a better guy. It was worth it.
You should be the one with the youtube channel teaching women the red flags!!! And how to create a profile and stuff.
Glad you are happy and thanks for letting me know online dating isn’t completely vapid or unpromising.
Wow, it only took me ONE date and we're now married!
I'm 75. Widowed in '99. Financially independent. Live alone in rural western Oregon. Brother and sister live with 25 miles. Lots of friends through local clubs...garden club, etc. I'm an artist and the house is just how I like it....usually cluttered. Watch what I like. Have a couple of dogs. Good life.
This is how I live.
I’m a gardener, and love living alone.
@@thatguy7085 Awesome!
I’m rarely bored because of having a mother that sold and made things herself and remade things and decorated and recycled and reused.
@@shanlange6331 Great! Almost everything I have is recycled...from thrift stores.
I hope mine is just like your,s
I'm a 60 year old man whos been single for years and yes there is a reason, that reason is I lost my partner to cancer and I just couldn't think of being with anyone else because I loved her, I haven't dated and never will, I enjoy my own company. So just because we are single doesn't mean there is something wrong with us.
Not sure she meant that. It is when men are on dating sites , like you, that have lost your loved one, looking for company. Also, men use the excuse that they are too into their EX to deflect the exit navigation. Then, why be on a dating site?
@Silverdale, I think she just meant "in general" because there is alot, a lot of men that have been single for years. Then you really get to know them, and you're like...NOW I see why.(lol) Could be immature issues, drinking, porn, abusive issues, or controlling issues. But of course, it's not ALL men, just a lot of them that have been single for MANY years. Most times, a woman will come along and SNATCH the good men up...and quickly. But like you, there are SOME men out there who CHOOSE to be single. I would say it's more of the other, than your situation though. I do agree with you though, because as a woman, the SAME goes for a woman...I personally believe that if a woman has been single for many many (I mean ALOT) years, usually there is a reason for that too (lol). Just sayin.
@@girlygirl1890 yes probably, I know men and women that fit both categories, I'm pleased you pointed out it's women too.I think though that older singles are less likely to have anything wrong with them, but might have lost someone or been divorced and just decided it's good to stay single.
@@debrawildrick9601 True, I guess the nutters are possibly the ones on dating sites long term, (men and women).I've had a few people offer to set me up with their friends or family which is kinda flattering I guess. I've always been a bit of a loner, just found the right girl at the right time ( wasn't looking), but now she's gone I'm happy to stay single, so I rarely go out just in case I'm tempted .
@@silverdale3207 I have to agree with this. I’ve been single for a while, by choice. If I met someone who could add something to my life then I’d consider dating, but I have zero need for it. I’m just enjoying life and am not looking to complicate my life. So yes, there is a reason I’m single. And it’s not because I’m damaged goods, it’s because i have a good life already. If I meet someone who can help make it even better, I’ll date. But failing that I’ll remain single.
"If you hang out with yourself long enough, you start to enjoy your own company."
-Pete Lind
I can't blame anyone for not getting involved in online dating, period. Too many phonies and dishonest people.
I learnt the lessons of dating sites. Not my own but from a friend who used them for years.
The tales of crazy, abusive, using women made my hair stand on end !
@@eleveneleven572 I'm not surprised!
Not to mention potentially dangerous. So many women are killed by men every minute of every day. That is a reality that we live with.
We met online, and she (the Filipina) is the most wonderful person I could have hoped to meet. She gets sweeter by the day 🌟 we've been together now for two years. I appreciated the online dating because it set the foundation (talking so much) for our now-relationship . I hope others also have our success.
On line or off, dating is full of phonies and dishonest people. Online saves you a lot of time, and you can meet more people to improve your chances of a good match, I think.
I divorced at 54. Never did the online dating apps. As a man, I never understood the inappropriate age relationships that single senior men liked to purse. I’ve always felt more comfortable with a partner my age going thru the same life experiences as myself. There’s something very comforting in that.
Good for you, the older men are kidding themselves on a daily basis and feigning ignorance when they know all too well that many younger women that they catch are in it for money and that they have to either drink to be with them or hope its over soon, but rarely do they do anything with them out of any kind of love. They're basically paying for services but in a more socially acceptable way...its all play pretend. They have to be pretty delusional to convince themselves that the young woman they were with isn't thinking and talking all kinds of things behind their back...yikes
You're not missing a thing. I never tried senior dating, but I gave up dating several years ago in my late 40s. There was just nothing appealing about the women I was meeting. They were bitter, broke, and blamed their ex-husbands for all their life's ills. It's not that I think quality women don't exist, I just think they have husbands.
@@thomasmoshier3920 and knowing your music and just being able to relate
@@Shadow_Banned_Conservativeyou're the one who sounds bitter and entitled. "Quality women"? 😂 we can guess who you've been listening to.
I’ve heard this over and over again from those men that do use these dating sites. The women are bitter and damaged. I get it. We’re seniors that have gone thru divorce. We’ve all got a little baggage. But I think many of these women over value themselves and what they have to offer. And it’s just not worth the aggravation. The older we get, the less it becomes about sex and more about companionship. Men are no better. There are a lot of alcoholics out there or men pretending to be 30 again and sex starved. I don’t think you ever give up looking but it’s easy to become cynical.
I hit the online dating jackpot! I was only on about 3 months. We have been together for almost 3 years now and going strong.
Happy for you!
Congratulations! This is great to hear, as I'm in a toxic relationship, and came across this video wondering if/when I get out of it, what prospects may be available. Because I'm focused on keeping fit, I socialize with early seniors (I'm 70) and there are those that stay fit, and others that don't, so I can see the importance of keeping busy, whether it's going to the gym or even going for daily walks, or playing sports, which is what I do. It's been decades since dating, where times have changed, and we've gotten older so things have changed, even in the intimacy part of relationships, although for those willing, TH-cam has some great video's on how to please one another both mentally and sexually, for those willing to do so. Communication on all fronts needs to be the key, being frank and honest, and allowing each other to be kind to each other to have the relationship flourish. My opinions of course, which I'm sure other men may be very different, but I think even talking about it (as we are here) can be helpful for many!
Thats good to hear 😊🎉
@@karengiangrosso9101 you are VERY blessed and lucky. I met an extremely abusive man online who didn't show his true self till LITERALLY the day following the wedding..
@@Powerstroke98If you can type the words “I’m in a toxic relationship,” then I think you’re ready to leave!
Online dating was awful when I was young and attractive. If you really want to meet someone, your chances are better by going out, living your life and meeting people naturally.
I'm a 68 y.o. single man and apologize for all those weirdos out there. There are better guys. Keep looking. :)
What’s your number? 😂 Seriously, you are right. We must remain hopeful. All the best to you ❤
@@renewhn3821 You are attractive, intelligent and will find a good man if you are looking. Make sure your "picker" is tuned up / honed to a delicate point. There's a lot of people with "issues" out there.
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Thank you ☺️ you are very kind. Picker tune up for certain! All the best to you 🤗
The best thing is to live your own life ,if meeting a great man happens it is wonderful ,if not ,I am satisfied ,not meant to be .
YOU keep looking for US! It’s the man’s job to pursue a woman ❤❤
I tried online dating in my 50’s after a divorce. It was a total flop. The men I went out with were looking for sex and moved way too fast for my comfort. I despised it. Never met anyone I liked.
And- I totally agree with you that men can’t be alone. The majority of them have been coddled and spoiled and are
looking for someone to
take care of them. Not me! I just moved to another state to be near my two grown daughters. I love living alone. I’m so happy and blessed to be able to have this wonderful home, near family and be independent. I’m still unpacking and my daughters are close enough to stop by or help if needed. Never again would I marry. I am a retired RN. I don’t need or want a man for any reason. I so happy that I’m giddy! New subscriber here. So glad I found your channel. 😊
@@nurshark10 honestly we are not all bad. Maybe you’ve just been a tad unlucky, or you possibly made the wrong choices.
However being critical on all men is a mistake in my opinion. I’m a guy and I’m ok 🤗. Anyway best of luck.
Finally, I believe being partnered would be better than single, in my opinion.
@@charliegrech5598it’s nothing personal, some of us are just blissfully single, and that’s ok!
I'm 69 and last tried online dating when I was 62. Like you, a total flop. All they wanted was to jump in the sack. It was so disappointing. I am much happier being off the dating emotional rollercoaster.
I became a widow when I was 79 -my husband died at 83-I have never had a desire to date anyone let alone on line dating-it’s fine if people do and I know some that have been successful. Men are just looking for someone to take care of them-an I "ain’t’ gonna do that.😊. The condo developer ent where I reside has many more older women and widows than men and they seem perfectly happy.
@@charliegrech5598, Perhaps you’re right but I’m not wasting my time trying to find them.
I’m sure there are nice gentlemen out there; I have not met any.
I actually love living alone and would not change anything.
So, in other words, some men are just as distasteful at 70 as they are at 30.
They’re mostly just useless and unbelievably selfish
The reverse is also true!!
Yea yea yea yea. And as a personal observation I have found many very young men to be charming and respectful, and then as they age they get meaner and not charming one bit.
@@AnnetteGenovesi-c7h That same observation holds true for young ladies as well. Sweet, charming, have traditional values and then boom the Modern feminist woman bug bites them and they turn into Medusa!
lmao
You look amazing! Period. You look 40ish... I love Dr. Christian Northrup, she said, 'Be whatever damn age you want.' I'm doing my 30s again... I look great, look young, and have tons of energy... Ladies, you can be whatever you desire. There are tons of great gents who love ageless Goddesses! Great video!!!
I think cosmetic surgery has been done. I often thought about it over the years and now at 74 I see the neck and jawline but I just accept that aging is aging. I am concerned with the fine hair I have, and envy the hair on this lady!
@@helenamaria710 You can do exercises to get your face and neck fit... also, drink plenty of spring water with celtic salt and your skin will glow. People also use coconut oil... take a table spoon a day and use castor oil on your beautiful face. Work out, get sun, and don't for get a couple of hours of belly laughing and dancing. Be whatever age you desire.... whatever you think the body will follow...
I'm retired, widowed children died young by a drunk driver. As I hit my mid 40s I realized I better lean to be totally comfortable with my own company because I'm going to live with myself for the rest of my life. Dating didn't pan out so rather than look outside for company I looked inside. I've got friends, go places with them, but live a single life at home and am so comfortable with my own wonderful thoughts. Become your own soulmate, best friend, confidant.
Ditto❤
Good on you that you enjoy your own company.
Exactly! I’m single, alone and happy with my own company. I really enjoy going to the movies 🍿 alone! Sorry to hear about your wife and children. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Trust me it’s the best
I am aghast At the stores you told about what transpired during various dates. Oh my gosh. You deserve so much better. I'm sorry you had those bad experiences.
A woman in her eighties told me after a point you don’t need a man. Most are looking for a nurse or a purse. This really happened. I thought it was hilarious and shared it often.
And a therapist.
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That's a disgraceful comment
Nurse, Purse and Mother. The trifecta
@@michekidsYes. They want a nurse With a purse. Overgrown, over pampered wankers.
In her eighties this might be the case although its really rich that accuses a man of being a leech when she probably has a nice life insurance settlement from when her husband died. Hardly an indication she is a genius. Share a little and be a little more gracious and not be so judgmental if you find a man who would be a good companion. I'm 66 and look after a woman I've known for 17 yrs and she is partially paralyzed from a stroke. Shes a wonderful companion.
My observation is: Men are like parking spaces…. The good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped!
😂
I did get a good one he is handicapped but he's a great guy
😂
welll sorry for being born with a developmental disorder, what would you like me to do, kms?
imagine if a guy said that about a woman bwhahahah jee the resulting onslaught would be intense
I agree with you completely. Generally, women are raised to be independent, unlike men. A lot of men flounder without a partner, and would rather have a transactional relationship over a healthy functional one of mutual respect. And I love men and enjoy intarraction, but even at 62, I find so many shockingly immature once you dig below the surface.
I am happily divorced. I have raised two wonderful children, and much of that time I felt like my ex-husband was a third child I was having to raise also. Long story short, I haven't been this happy since I was in my mid twenties, and unmarried. The freedom is exhilarating! I have zero desire to allow another man into my life, however long or short it may be. Peace is priceless.
i agree after having been married for 20 years and now raising my grand i cant wait to be free again. never again
100% AGREE
YES! So many men seem to want a sex goddess in bed but mommy in the kitchen.
Women who have been through a bad relationship are not inclined to embark on a new one. Have the dates, but no more than that.Its heaven living alone.
Yes I called my ex a “very large child” behind his back. No regrets!
66 y/o male. I stumbled across this video (or it was pushed out to me by google) because I am married happily for 40 years and am wildly attracted in every way to my 64 y/o wife. Do we look like we did in our 20’s? NO. I get disgusted hearing about stunted males who focus on superficial indicators of eligibility/attractiveness etc.
Evolved, married men; please consider teaching a (dating?) class, or starting a YT channel arnd being a decent human being? Considering it?
@@cdskipper32 “stunted male” 🤣🤣🤣
You're a 'unicorn.' 👏
@cdskipper32 I am so very happy for you both! How wonderful!! 😊
Thank you for your accurate comment cdskipper. Happy for you both.
My husband is the best. I'll never marry again. No one could ever compare.
Why the heck did you watch this video then?
@@rofiori995Why the heck shouldn’t she?
I’m happy for you.
I thought my husband was the best. I’m sure people were sick of me talking about how great he was. Then I found out after we were married, not before, he was a habitual cheater. My whole world collapsed.
When my wife passed away, I said the same thing. I'm glad that I didn't listen to myself. Life is great again.
I feel the same. I lost him 7 years ago and I've not met anyone who compares. I haven't dated anyone.
Thank you so much for sharing your stories with us. I am 40 years old and can only hope I look half as beautiful as you look at 60. Can’t believe anyone would have the nerve to say such rude, shallow and senseless things, while being so unaware of who they themselves are. It is refreshing to hear your strength, resilience and positivity. Hope you find the person you are looking for and above all the person you deserve. It’s sad no one has integrity, good morals and values anymore. 😔
How on earth did you do it for 5 years? I did it for 2 days and I learned everything I needed to know.
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Lol...
Ha haha!
Did you at least get laid?! 😉 Lol! 😂
I've been on for one week, met two men, and was so bored! I am never bored so this is shocking 🤣.
You are a catch- smart, articulate and beautiful. I would suggest you get involved in groups like the “ friends of” your local museums or theaters or Rotary , Toastmasters. Smart, fun and positive guys your age who are single are at groups like that. I am a fun, youthful and in-shape 65 yr old guy (it is not bragging if you have worked hard to make it true) and A few years ago I met my now 72 year old wife, beautiful and younger looking like you at a fundraiser for a local charity.
Again, you are a catch and , I would suggest, you might be more likely to find your guy someplace where guys like that often gather.
Final thought: I used to own an executive search firm and I would often tell my candidates who were getting discouraged “there is a hiring senior executive who is frustrated because they haven’t found you yet.” There are guys you would be attracted to who are frustrated they haven’t found someone like you: smart, articulate and beautiful. Widen your net and get involved in high profile organizations that do good and you will be successful!!
The trouble with the men in those places you suggested for meeting is that there are men who hang around there as prey on one woman after the other. I live on a holiday island whete many foreigners have retired and I see this all the time, these 60-70 year old professional boyfriends. It's not a pretty sight.
Find local talent.
Love your suggestions!
What a simp.
Great suggestion ❤
I'm 58, divorced for seven years and I have never tried online dating and have no desire to start at any point....blissfully happy being single😊
One of my favorite quotes this year: "I've been single now for quite awhile, and I gotta say, it's been working out quite well! You know, I think I might be the one!"
People show you who they are the first time, believe them. Especially online.
So many first dates attempted - then thwarted - due to crazy, rude, or ghost messaging and phone calls.
Don’t forget that sometimes the reason men haven’t dated for years is men, like me, had to dig themselves out of a financial hole after a divorce working overtime or working two jobs so they afford to retire someday .
Severely underrated comment. 👍
That sounds like an excuse.
@@danilaroche1156 Correct, it is an excuse. Which does not mean that it is not true. That unfortunately, is the experience of many men.
@alastair1955
They don't care about what men go through. No empathy at all. This is most women for you. She completely disregarded that man's pain. Me Me Me
Been there, divorce put me 15 years behind but at 54 I'm back in a good spot financially. On my own.
You don't look 60. Congratulations on taking care of yourself. Beautiful 🎉
I think she looks like Jackie (Kennedy) Onassis! I’d be delighted to look like Holly, she looks great 🎉
At the beginning Holly says she's 64! At that age, staying slim and having great hair goes a long way toward looking younger.
Most women would rather not be told they look good for their age.
#1: who cares what you think about how they look?
#2: it begs the question, what do you think a woman that age SHOULD look like?
#3: it's rude to comment on people's age.
Don't "fix" a man's choice of restaurant if he's the one who suggested it. And, don't pickup the check or split it. And, if he uses a coupon, be polite, but don't go out with him again.
@@voz805it's not about looking younger!
I’m nodding in agreement throughout your video, Holly !
I had the date that said he wasn’t hungry and proceeded to eat from my plate, I had the date who told me all about his crazy ex who’d recently broken into his garage and slashed his tires right before asking if I’d like to go back to his house for dessert and coffee,I had a date who told me specifically what he liked and didn’t about the past five dates he’d been on.
I could go on and on. All looked good on paper but convinced me that life was ultimately better enjoying time with my family and friends and remaining single.
As we age, we have less physical and mental stamina to put up with things in life. At this point we want peace and tranquility. Also, our habits are very difficult to change at our age in order to adapt to the new person that we are bringing into our lives. We don't want to get involved with people with a lot of baggage. Nobody is going to board a sinking ship.
Couldn’t have expressed this as accurately as you have - 100% relate.
Perfect words
That is a fantastic answer
Well said.
Well said..
I have 100% experienced EVERYTHING you talked about! It feels good knowing that I'm not crazy, but it's also sad that its true for others. My self-esteem is still traumatized, but I'm so much HAPPIER! My only struggles are others thinking I should be in a relationship or not being invited to "couples" activities, but I love my life and enjoy being alone and happy!!
I joined some women's groups, women can be weird but it's still nice to go to some of the meetings and have some fun.
The key I found was to date younger men. And to date two at a time. The men that are my age or older are dinosaurs mentally and physically. I had so much fun laughing and going to the beach or long drives listening to their music etc etc. keeps you young. Just flip the script!
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Did they know u were older? Did they like u?
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I lived with a much younger man. He paid for all, was a pilot and traveled the world together for 7 yrs. We parted ways as I knew in my heart he wanted kids. I can only say those were the best years of my life!! ❤. Go for the ride and live for you.
The younger ones are way better than the dinosaurs in my opinion. It's a while since I dated a younger man but there's plenty out there who are decent. Enjoy!
I will be 50 years old this month. I understand, online dating was a nightmare for me too. I gave it up in my 30s . 😂😂😂😂
I'm 62 and lost my wife to cancer 12 years ago. Since then i haven't met anyone. Dating apps have been a horrible experience. I live alone and i'm not sure why this seems strange? When my wife died i couldn't just replace her - not that i'd want to, and i'd rather live alone than rush into a relationship with the wrong person. The biggest issue i find is just finding single people my own age who are interested. Most women i meet say they've come out of bad relationships and are enjoying their independence. I'm not interested in rushing into anything. Dating was much easier in my 30's. It's like a whole new world now. I put most of my spare time into keeping healthy, mostly surfing, going to the gym and looking after my health and don't like bars and clubs etc. I realise my lifestyle isn't conducive to meeting anyone.
Doing what makes you happy Billy, good luck with your future 👌
It’s so much better to meet someone at the gym, grocery store, or park than a dating app! My lifestyle is healthy/active, and similar to yours, so I do understand what you’re saying. Wishing you the best!
@@hiannahgus574 Thank you and you too! and i agree, i find it so much better meeting people in person than online. In person you have body language and eye contact and other subtle queues which aren't available through text.
I've often said that the only way I'd be likely to meet a man is if he parachuted into my garden. 😊
What I discovered at sites like Date My Age is that there are a lot of fake profiles out there, and you are either not talking to the woman in the pictures when you chat with her, or "She" is actually an AI bot that churns out meaningless answers to your questions and even gibberish at times. That is outright fraud, and I don't know how they get away with it, but i found out a lot of these sites are run out of Hong Kong, so the US legal system may be powerless to shut them down.
63 year old male that has, like you given up the onlie ( yes onlie) dating. Being alone is a choice. It's easy to find someone to sleep with, not so easy to find someone you want to wake up with.
Huge difference!
I'm surprised that at this age, women are still attracted to the neanderthals and cant handle men that have actually evolved.
I still hope that the universe will do its magic and I connect the old fashion way.
Couldn't have put it better myself 👏👏 I've tried online dating drove me insane I'm single I'm happy and like you I'm trying the old way. No endless texting, no dinner dates, no more disappointments ie fake photos, I'm really enjoying the old way!!!
Neanderthals? Who wants that? All the woman I know wouldn't consider being with a man that didn't have good manners, interesting conversation and a kind sense of humour. I mean, we're not 20 anymore so we're not looking for the muscle laden sex monster of younger days.
Women love the bad boys. Always will. 😅😅😅
@@GUITARTIME2024 You speak for yourself ... I'll gladly take a kindly gentlemen over a bad guy
@@freedomofspeech766 because you can't get the hot bad boys. Lol
Relationships often face challenges, but there’s always a way to move forward. My marriage had its share of significant problems, but with the right help, my wife and I managed to resolve them and strengthen our relationship. Solutions are available if you’re willing to put in the effort and collaborate. Keep hope alive-answers are possible.
I’m struggling with serious issues in my relationship and can’t bear the thought of losing her. My love and desire to have her back in my life are immense. I’m willing to do whatever it takes and would be very grateful for any guidance or suggestions.
Saying farewell to someone you love dearly is never easy, but in my case, I had the assistance of a spiritual counselor who saved my marriage from falling apart. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll immediately search for her online. I appreciate it. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring about positive changes for me; I miss her deeply.
You should.
@@BruceKnapp-n4q if it a struggle and difficult why you want to live like that 😢. Relationship shouldn’t be so hard.
After coming out of a rough marriage, I decided I never want to go that route again. I went on a few dates, some nice , some with no chemistry not looking for anything long term.
I finally met my ideal low key man - we go to concerts, dinners, hikes, etc. but we keep separate residence, don’t choke each other - give lots of room for independence and freedom to pursue individual interests,etc. Been together now for 9 years.
I'm in my thirties, but i like listening to seniors and what they share, as it's so valuable 😊
Very wise!
Don't listen to this lady! Unless you refuse to understand: men are different then women. And you enjoy being alone while desperate serial dating.
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i am 60 and my husband who died 3 months ago of an accident was 36, So i dont like old men to date, I was more active than my younger husband. Life is soooo sad now
married him when I was 50, but I looked younger . He was 26 , Beautiful 6 foot 5 man , I am 5 foot 9 .
At 59 recently ended a long term relationship after been totally loyal and committed. Now i find it really difficult just contemplating trying again, i don't believe the simple values such as loyality, trust, respect and a deep sense of equal unity and compassion exist as it used to.
We are in a socially distracted society where relationships seems to be so disposable, and as a result, a lot of good single people choose to continue the journey alone. ❤
It does exist, but it's rare. ❤ Find somebody who doesn't follow the societal decay and dances to the beat of their own drum with a good heart. She will never be perfect, but nobody is.
@@KS0102Yes, thank you. Highly unrated comment and couldn’t agree more.
@@KS0102 yes, I totally agree, I am one of those women but finding someone who is not wrapped around social media, with good old school values these days is a challenge. Most people are following everyone else, but their own path, its so sad.
I appreciate your input and wish you a wonderful day
Yes! 100%! A lot of good single people do choose to continue the journey alone. Remember the song, "Love Hurts"? Well, it's true. Fortunately, though, love also heals. We all deserve love in our lives.
@@julialucas1482absolutely, love heals,but only when we are able to overcome the mental trauma, until then most people will choose to stay alone just to heal and find themselves before getting into another relationship ❤
Thank you for your observations. I am a 60 year old lady who never married. I have found that a lot of men are always looking for someone prettier and younger. Real men of integrity are hard to find. I am no longer looking, but trusting God that if He wants me to meet someone, I will.
God bless you ❤
Holly, wtf, all old men are so yucky! I just thank god I’m 66 and will never have to do that s//t ever, ever again. Nice vid.
I spent 3 weeks on the dating site and found a great man. There are some really good and honest men there.
I’m curious, what site and how long ago?
Lucky you
This is making me REALLY glad that I focused on my career and set myself up financially. So many people, men and women, are looking for a meal ticket. Or are so broke they can’t do anything.
Yeah but I also know many women who focused so much on career that all the good men she couldve had passed her by
Its rare to find independent women (i.e. not from divorce money) but many of them think they are a prize as a result. That's a problem too.
@@hectorborgprivate my observation is that you find what you expect. I don’t meet men who expect me to keep them, but i know they are out there. If you are rarely meeting independent women - and there are a lot of us, i can assure you - you might want to examine what you expect. Some men i have encountered who claim to want independent women , actually seek out and date very dependent women, because that’s really all their egos can deal with. Not saying that’s your issue but it’s worth it for each of us to think about what we expect. Because everyone naturally screens out people who don’t match what they expect, producing confirmation bias.
@Mary-tj5qx Well said. I work with a few attractive, intelligent, fun independent women who have not married. I think the difference with us independent women is we won't put up with crap b/c we don't have to. I always stop dating someone when they have become "more trouble than they're worth."
@@DCornwell-d2t Thats one side of it. The other side is a lot of those women are completely insufferable in a romantic relationship. Rebecca Lynn Pope, a dating coach, made a video in frustration about it bc she found these demanding women rejecting great men. She had to quit it got so bad as she frequently ran out of men to offer.
This is so funny. Thank you for being so truthful. I am a almost 60 year old woman and everything you said is spot-on. This is the first time I’ve seen your channel and I’m a new subscriber! Nice video.
My husband died 15 years ago and I like being alone, but sometimes I do get lonely and would like to have Relationship I don’t know what online dating is all about thank you. May God bless you.
So happy that this showed up in my feed! Hi! I’m also single, widowed and 60. Online dating is the worst and I’m still alone. Like you I’m fun, attractive and educated, abundant and stable in all the right ways. The men I’ve met are so narcissistic and have no reason to be so arrogant. Ugh….
At our age I wonder if the good ones are broadly unavailable. I’ve given up looking….but all of my friends are married and coupled up. It’s not easy but I make the best out of it like you. Honestly, I do feel sad about it deep down.
It sounds like maybe you are saying that online dating is not the path to find someone but that you are looking for a better path. Have you tried joining a club or church?
You know the old song, “make new friends but keep the old…”
You sound a lot like me (63) and I really think online dating is a lazy way to connect, like ordering from a Sears catalog! The men I met some looked exactly like their pics and a few others lied about their height.😂
The men in their 70's told me in their messages that they were done with sporting events and going places! After several of those messages, I quit! I get myself out and I'm making a new life for myself!
Same
My experience hearing stories from women friends is that they have a long list of what their looking for. Way too picky.
I’m hearing you say that you would reject a guy because he hadn’t dated in awhile. Wow, that’s harsh. Women who are a 6 want a 10 and that’s why they’re single.
@@kathyjohnson1911 - sorry, she ain't no 6.
Thank you for this video! I'm 51, divorced long ago, and just decided to NEVER go on a dating app again. I tried for maybe a year, on and off, and it's bad for my mental health. Men only wanted to meet me because - as most of them said - I look ten years younger than my actual age, which is kind of true, I have lucky genes, but still... I am 51 and there is nothing wrong with that! And of course they want to go intimate right away, saying "love comes later but first you have to try if sex works". C'mon. I'm not a test car. Cheers from Hungary!
Same here. I gave up five years ago.
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I will take some exception to your opinion that men can't be alone.
I am 63, divorced for over 8 years, and happily live alone. In fact, the longer I live alone, the more I appreciate it.
I have also tried online dating, but after years of bad experiences, I have come to the conclusion it was just not worth it. Like you, I still hold out hope that I will meet the right person organically.
And where might one meet you organically, Garner?.......(I meant roughly, I'm guessing in the States?)
I agree completely! I went through the SAME thing as you. I am 63 and 10 months young, soon to turn 64 and 13 years divorced and happy to be single. Women around my age are so self absorbed and not submissive or compliant but instead are full of themselves and brainwashed by the Feminist Cult. I dont want to have anything to do with the Modern Western Woman any more. Instead I am shifting all my time, resources and money to OVERSEAS women, specifically ASAI. Their CULTURE is not as infected as the west and they LOVE OLDER MEN, they treat men with honor and respect, and age is just a number. So now I can get BEAUTY, Submission, Compliance, Friendliness and FAITHFULNESS all in one woman!
Just the other day a woman was lingering around me in the grocery isle, so I said HELLO, how are you today. No expectations, no hitting on her, just a simple hello. She sized me up based on my looks and age I guess, turned up her nose and walked away. Apparently I wasnt what she thought I was initially and looking at me close up freaked her out or something. Honestly, she was older than me and I was NOT interested in dating here anyway, but the attitude was what impressed me and just confirmed me belief of the modern western world.
Additionally the other day I also was out bike riding, getting my exercise and enjoying the warm weather. Saw 10 men and 10 women. 9 out of 10 men ALL said hello back to me and acknowledged my existence. Only 3 out of 10 women said hello back to me. I am a friendly guy, I dont have expectations and just enjoy life and its in my nature to say hello and acknowledge your existence as we cross paths. These women ignored me completely and never acknowledged my existence in the slightest.
But apparently in both these examples of meeting women ORGANICALLY out in nature, the MODERN WESTERN WOMAN is destined to STAY ALLONE as they keep saying and ACTING that they DONT NEED MEN anymore. They are ALL strong, powerful, self sufficient business babes that apparently can take care of themselves just fine. So Its no skin off my back, I just walk away and smile knowing I get the WIN on this, as I am ALONE, FREE, dont answer to anyone, dont have daily arguments or stupid discussions, and dont have this BURDEN of a modern western women trying to convince me to be exactly like her.
Men and women are NOT EQUAL, we are DIFFERENT!!! I live the life of a MAN, I fish and hunt, I sail on the ocean, I exercise, bike, swim and run, and I have my hobbies. Couple of us men get together during the week and support each other and dream of the day we will meet a gorgeous Asian woman. Augh, now thats the LIFE!
@@sg-vp2qg This is NOT a dating site! Did you read the mans comment, he's NOT interested in dating you or anyone like you. He LIKES being along and NOT having to deal with you desperate brainwashed Feminist Cult believing women who TROLL us online. Its NOT going to happen, so just move along please!
Men live alone much better than women. Women need interaction, men can go with less
I totally understand, but she also did say that she knows it's not all men that are this way.
Had all the same experiences as you plus many more. I decided a few years ago that the hunt was not the best use of my resources. I've poured my energies into my business, friends, families and hobbies. Now I'm thriving. I do miss being touched and held sometimes, but not enough for all the mess. Re: sex... if he's not worth getting a UTI for, don't do it.
I hate online dating. It makes it too easy for people to hide their true selves. Meeting people in person is better. I can’t understand why men think that a woman should look flawless while they look a a tub of lard. I am 49 and I think you seem like a lovely person. That last guy that you dated did you a favor. He sounds like a dud.
I came from the school of "Do what you love. Then look around. Note who is there all the time doing the same things and, whom you find pleasant and fun."
So much better than going out or, in the case online, and looking for someone.
Women want a guys career, status, and money to be flawless, and you're whining that all we ask is for slight attention to appearance? Yeah you wouldn't last 3 days as a guy
@@dragorn3212 So you missed the part where she owned a commercial cleaning business? she has her own house (probably mortgage-free now)?
men don't care about that unless the man is pimp or giggolo, most men don't care how much $ you have & make. @@jeromehenry4484
He ate in front of you and gave you onion rings??? No wonder he’s single!
🤣😂🤣serious low life lol
And just 3 Onion Rings! Whatta freaking jerk--and I'm a dude.
on her birthday no less. so rude!
AND IT WAS HER BIRTHDAY AND HE SAID HE WOULD TAKE HER OUT !!!!! WTF!!!! I've heard it all now....
Exactly 💯💯💯 hell he could have found some coupons for some entrees if he's was that damn cheap
I will never date when my loved one passes. It took me until 50 to find a kind intelligent man with mutual attraction. Proven study of women being disabled & men leaving them & men becoming disabled & women staying & caring for them. Enough said. Great discussion thank you 😊
Define “ single”. I was single for over 6 years. Dated my now wife for 7, and we married 4 years ago. I dated during the time I was “ single” but no one seriously. Way to many Men remarry after a divorce way to fast. In my observing this, that is a major factor for 2nd marriages having a higher divorce rate than first marriages. I used to say, to guy friends “ you don’t have to marry everyone you date”. And “ there are worse things than being alone, I’ve been out with some”… I met my wife online. I found the online dating thing not bad, you meet first for coffee first, the cream will rise to the top. I’m a blessed man.
I met my current wife through the personals just 3 weeks after my divorce was final and we married 50 weeks later. We will celebrate our 30th anniversary next summer. I was lucky to meet the right lady so soon.
I am widow since 2011 . I am European and i cannot imagine dating American man . Here in USA , dating is pretty much about sex . There is no time for friendship . Absolutely disgusting, besides the fact that most guys in their sixties are in pretty bad shape physically and they come with long list of preferences and expectations. Very , very , very , very low standard of men here in this country . Sorry . I am single since 2011 . I know who i am , what i bring to the table so i am not affraid to eat alone .
Women are even worse over there…
Yes! Plus, so many of them have no social skills and have a chip on their shoulders.
I take it you're western European?
@paulschmitz9175 Eastern European with strong orthodox moral compass, family values, and tradition .
@@vanhawk1074 Please pardon my mistake. The tone of your post led me to believe that you were from the west.
My wife is from Ukraine. I'm glad she did not dismiss the idea of dating & marrying an American man.
I am 74 years old and was married for 54 years and in 2023 lost my wife to Altzheimer after watching her slip away for 6 years. It will be a year next month and I have been living alone with my dog I adopted from the SPCA and talk to my grown children on a regular basis .I think you are very attractive and level-headed. It sounds like you have dated the wrong people, why would anyone want to talk about their ex when dating and why would someone criticize another's looks, and as we age our body goes through changes both men and women and that should be considered when senior dating. I am sorry for your bad luck so far but I know there is someone just for you out there. Good luck and God Bless from Texas
@bentback1 Thank you, Sir for kind words. I am sorry about your wife, but congratulations on a long marriage & keeping your vows! I am glad you have a companion in your dog, they really are great! People can be so rude and cold nowadays, it's a different world. Your posts made me smile, knowing that nice people still exist! 😊
You sound like a great guy.
I think in the same way as you. Live in the moment.
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@@bentback1 THANK YOU FOR YOUR COMMENT about not talking about one's ex or late spouse, it's very draining to be someone's therapist or rebound. Smart move getting a dog, and I'm very very pleased that you went to the SPCA and found your fur family member and not a pet store. They need a loving home.
After my divorce in my early forties as a woman I decided that I can have a relationship with a man and we can live in different houses. Now that I'm older I still believe that you can have a relationship with your man and you both love each other but live in different homes. He can have his freedom I can have mine. But when we're together we're together. He can come over and do some things around my house I could go over to his house at times but we do not have to live and sleep in the same house constantly. I really feel it makes a relationship stronger when you are able to keep your own sense of who You are.
THIS! I just turned 50 and my bf of 3 yrs is 6 years younger and we live apart. He's starting talks of living together but I enjoy my own space so much. As much as I love him, I think he'll drive me crazy (and vice versa) if we lived together full time 😂
EXACTLY - this is the best of both worlds. You still have occasional (which makes it more special) monagomous physical intimacy and you still have your own space to relax in most of the time. Frequency of all of the above you work out. This set up with a woman is very hard to find . Almost all want some kind of commitment or want to live under the same roof (a condition to fulfill) before they will agree to sharing physical pleasure with each other. It seems so outdated in these times at this age....pay to play. I truly believe your philosophy and mine is the most harmonious and uncomplicated arrangement as seniors. I'm curious, among your single female friends do any of them feel the same way you do and if not, what reason do they give for not thinking this a good setup?
@@timhardman4764Kathryn Hepburn once said that she believed that everyone should be married…… and have houses next door to each other Lol
This is a good idea if it can be done
The Apartners Living Apart situation can work quite well.
A committed life partner.
Everything you said is so true. I tried online dating for a number of years. While I met some very nice men that I just didn't click with, so many were self-centered men who had nothing to offer but expected a pot of gold in return. I chose to date all kinds of men, who I wouldn't necessarily consider attractive, but sometimes that doesn't matter if they have a great personality. I was shocked that nearly every man, no matter their looks or personality, had such a high estimation of themselves. My son says that men are raised to believe they are God's gift to women and they believe it.
I'm a 46 year old woman, and I gave up on dating years ago. It has been freeing in a way. I have way too much on my plate to worry about dating. However, love is well worth finding, so congrats for continuing to try. I hope you find it!
I know quite a few single women, but after a certain point they also threw in the towel. Bad dating experiences, divorces, and a lot of responsibilities all make it difficult to date and find love. I've had so many bad dates that I just said "enough", and I'm okay with being single. It isn't quite what people think. There's no compulsive need to have a man, collect cats, or become bitter. Instead, I get to travel, give generously to charities, and help take care of my parents in their old age. I don't consider that a wasted life just because I'm not with a man.
Hello Lisa I'm a 42 year old man From Ohio i will date you i never find it Diffcult
Great points!
you're where you should be now, the odds of marriage for a single woman at 40 are about 1%, - I quit dating at 46, SWM now 68, nothing I did could attract a spouse and I didn't want kids, a priest told me marriage is not in God's plan for everyone, as a Catholic we're called to marriage, it's a vocation and not everyone gets that call, I see now marriage would have been a mess for me, I wear an ostomy appliance now due to colon cancer, so I don't even dream about dating, so thankful it's not an issue anymore - thankful for no drama and peace in my sr. yrs.
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You are not wrong. Most men on the websites, do not want an older woman as a partner. I felt like they would really want to just hook up with women their age if they looked good. But the ones I met wanted younger women for partners. I think they have a skewed view of themselves. Like they arent as old as the women their own age.
I gave up on dating altogether. Im 60 now, and I do what I want, when I want. I love it!
Im not afraid to be without a partner. I am actually enjoying this time of freedom in my life!❤❤
Great video. Youre not alone in your thoughts here.🙏🏻💪👍
Reminds me of an old joke. A woman moved to a new town and looked for a dentist on the net. One name was the same as a guy she went to high school with. When she went for her appointment she saw a very elderly man, wrinkled, bent a bit and bald. Of course that couldn't be him, she thought. During her visit she idly asked him what town he grew up in. Same as hers. She asked where he went to high school - her high school. She asked what year he graduated - same as hers!! So she said I think I knew you. He peered at her carefully and said "Oh yes! You were my English teacher!."
@@AnnetteGenovesi-c7hvery funny 😂
They like older women if the woman is rich. I've seen it.
I met the love of my life on line. I was over 60. Going on 10 years and more in love than ever. Men that do not pay for you and drive to see you are not worth a second look!
I agree! I'm in Georgia orig UPstate NY got a friend,relative seeking a great man?
Yes, I also noticed he didn't drive to her but she had to drive 2.5 hrs...red flag
Sage advice. I mean it must be true because I hear it so often from women in healthy relationships.
@@galaxia4709 huge RED flag.
be careful, sometimes the ones who do it all have issues too 😢
I am an elderly man who has lived alone for certain periods of my life.
I found your talk very insightful. I understand and respect your approach,feelings and sensitivity.
But you made me realized the difficulties of human relatioships. My current wife lives with me for a number of months each year since covid. We have long ceased to have sex.
Thank you for your reflections.
The planets aligned and the month before I turned 60, one week prior to the Covid 19 lockdown, I met the man I looked for my whole life. We’ve been together going on 5 years and I’ve never been happier. We met on Match, it can happen!!
I gave up online dating too. I moved back to New York State where I grew up and live alone and I am happy with that! I am 63 now and just found it exhausting and disheartening to date. I haven’t dated in years. Wishing you happiness with you ! You are worth your own time!! I take myself to dinner , movie, shopping, walks, festivals etc… I stay as long as I like , eat whatever I want , see whatever I want. I find I am much more relaxed and calm in my life now.
You just summed up my sentiments exactly!
I am 67, and if I wasnt happily married, I would probably just bag the whole concept of finding someone else. Even now, I find myself paying a lot more attention to my health, fitness and spend time practicing mindfulness and contemplating our place in the universe. I have had more than enough excitement, drama, heartbreak, thrills, contentment and all the other feelings that come with relationships and lack thereof. There is just so much more to concentrate on at this point in life. Still, I AM very grateful and fortunate that I dont have to play the games you are discussing.
I thought that. Then I found out this dating mess is a wealthy country issue. Many countries in the world have women thrilled to be with old US men. It's super bizarre, but legit. Lots of scammers for sure, but many more legit women just wanting a man. Yup money is the #1 reason but that's true for women in wealthy countries too. They aren't gold diggers, it's just a status instinct women have, like height. The difference is in these other countries the women have different levels for their requirements. SE Asian women say the same as US women. They want tall and well to do men. But asked "What's tall?" "You know, like more than 5' 4", 5' 5"." "How much money to be well to do?" Range I've heard many times is $400-600/mo income USD. "Wealthy" and "rich" is $1000/mo. The highest I've heard is one woman saying $2000/mo.
It's a different world.
Age 67 too! I have found exactly the same things. Your comment could have been written by me. Only exception I have never been married but and then a reasonably happy long-term relationship that I hope will last until I start pushing daisies! Only three minutes into this interview and the woman said she dumped someone because on the phone, he said that Some other famous woman was looking her age! Something I have noticed with Western women is the bar to dump someone is so incredibly low. It really isn’t worth putting any effort or investment in a relationship Which ironically is one of the things they complain about. As I said to my son, whether you’ve been seeing someone for two months or 22 years and two months you are one text away from being dumped so arrange your affairs accordingly.
That's until they learn better and being younger they have time to learn better and once they do, you think they'll stay with the old mediocre man if they have better options or get to earn good money themselves? You think those women from poorer countries are immune to lifestyle creep, meaning, do you really think that once they are established that they wont want better for themselves, that they wont fantasize about not having to do chores and perform for an older mediocre man and get into a better situation single or with someone else? That is just a very likely scenario, they are currently wanting less by our standards because they dont know better just yet...
I found drunks n pedos and alot of cheapskates too ,tip. Only one wasn't,t n he had bad breath.
Great perspective, very wise.
OMG. It is hard for me to believe some of these stories! As a 65 year old, I am embarrassed to hear them. I have not done online dating myself (actually, dating at all). Hoping that you have better experiences in the future!
I can't imagine dating online even if I WAS interested. You have no idea who you're getting.
I tried online dating for a while and met some decent men but no sparks. The thing I hate about the online experience is that it feels like you are creating a PR profile for yourself and there's no authenticity. So much superficiality and many folks just looking for a hookup. Ugh, it was too stressful and annoying to me, then I realized I am perfectly happy with my life as it is and I stopped the online search. Such relief!
I just turned 61 and have been married twice. The way I look at it a woman is the last thing I need. sometimes being alone is what's best for us.
Indeed.
Right, Hamilton. Same here.
Feels great to know we all have choices and do not require validation by being in a relationship.
I am 61 also, a woman and absolutely agree. I am financially stable with a part time fun job with a bunch of young people and have no intention of remotely entertaining the idea of dating. The peace and serenity is so valuable :)
@Chahlie you just don't know how great it can be until you actually get to experience it.
It blows my mind how awful these older guys look, and they want a much younger women. YUK, they are so easy to forget.
And so boring too! Talk about themselves, and their dull lives. I gave up and for 10 years didn't date anyone at all. It was fine - easier for everyone!
Yeah good luck with finding a younger attraktive woman who wants an older boring man 😅
Hey Miss Andry.
You are all why men won't date you😂
@@jillwaggoner5177get another booster😂
These old guys need to wear their glasses when they look in the mirror.
After divorce I couldnt ever give anyone that space in my life again. Divorce brought me a freedom🎉
I am an 80yr old man and super healthy, never been sick a day in my life. Still love sex, love to dance I have not eaten at Mac Donald’s, had a coke,Mexican food, junk food alcohol etc in 50yrs but I still think the secret to a happy life is a sense of humor, who doesn’t love to laugh. People are too stuck in the past and their problems, enjoy today and have fun
Great advice!
I love that ❤. God bless 🙌
What's wrong with mexican food?
@@dianascott2798 that's what I was wondering! 😂
Nothing wrong with good Mexican food that consists of beans and veggies and not much fried foods,
Unless he is talking about Taco Bell which isn't good.
I’m 70 and my partner is 75. We met over 15 years ago on a dating site. She was maybe the third date I went on. Finding someone requires exposure and a LOT of luck. I have always been independent and very comfortable alone and in many ways prefer my own company. People have described me as a loner with excellent social skills. The dating app helped me meet people by compensating for my introversion. Many older men do want someone to take care of them and “drive them to the hospital”, but there are exceptions. I 100% take care of my partner because I love her and think she is deserving. I think many men prefer younger women because they are trying to deny their mortality. The young woman reinforces the delusion that they are the same age as the woman (and again they want a woman healthy enough to drive them to the hospital, and better yet a “nurse with a purse”😊).
You are one of those rare breeds of men....loved it @socrates2706
I met a guy online in 2015 I thought he was the love of my life. He loved bombed me. Anyway he victimized me and stole thousands from me at the end..... took my car, money, wrecked my business and tore up my clothes, stole anything of value all because he was mad we were breaking up for good. And he was 7 years older than me. I am now 62 and wiser. I date 1 guy at a time and don't allow love bombing anymore. Respect and honesty is key. I am still recovering financially and emotionally. Thank you for sharing your story. You're a lovely lady. You deserve a good man. You are worthy.
Sending you peace, love & healing energy!!! 🙏😇💫
A big lesson
Don’t trust anyone who “love bombs”. They are trying to manipulate you. They didn’t suddenly fall crazy in love with you. Be careful.
Never date a love bomber … so sorry this happened to you
So are you, sweet lady!
Men think they look so much better than they do. Women look way better than we think we do. If he says twirk….RUN!
25 yrs Single, now 65 and can agree 100% with what you're saying. My 41 yr old son said "you don't try hard enough" to find a man. 😮..... I literally laughed at him, then corrected him... you're wrong son, I no longer try at all!
65 single and still enjoy
long walks, being in wild nature, reading bound books, gardening yr round and of course the grandchildren ❤
Loving your style ✌🏻
Books👍👏
My friend in her 70's met someone a couple of years older than her about 5 years ago. They are still very happy together. Keeping companionship and traveling around the world. Don't give up. There's a honey for every bunny. 🐰
Not necessarily and certainly not when you're old. Older people are not attractive anymore. There may be some exceptions, but for the most part, it's over.
This is the right attitude to have.
There's no guarantee that your path will cross that of your own someone.
Thats rare.
@@peekaboots01- You need counseling. 😏
@@peekaboots01that’s a sad thing to say. I think attractiveness is ageless. A soul shines through - that’s what’s really attractive.
The best husband you can find as an older woman is a widower. He knows how to appreciate a woman, has experienced love and wants it again. Forget online dating; check the obituaries.
They compare you to their ex, even out loud.
Yep. Talking about the deceased is one thing (occasionally) but I’m not going to compete with a corpse.
Maybe attend funerals and stand next to the widower and see if he needs a lift home 😂
This is priceless -check the obituaries.😂
😂❤❤❤ You are probably right!
I am a 73 year old healthy man (I can still surf😊). I have heard of these awful stories from women about online dating. I find the stories to be heartbreaking. If I ever find myself to be in an online dating situation I would treat the women with absolute respect and dignity. Perhaps the chemistry might not be right but I would still show her a fun evening and again, total respect. There is too much hatred out there now and we must always treat one another with love and respect. I also apologize for the mistreatment from some of the men on these dating sites.
I was married for 25yrs. Divorced and started dating in my mid 50's. It was interesting I learned alot. In my 60's I was in 2 long term relationships. I found that alot of men lack emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is a must for a healthy relationship. I also believe in the Law of attraction. I put it out there and if its meant to be it will be. I live each day to its fullest and surround myself with positive,heathy friends and family.
It is like they are still at grade school level as far as understanding women.
Children in men’s bodies.
Hopefully, my comment won’t be met with too many boos since I am a divorced (2 years, was married for 20) almost 60 yo guy. I just wanted to say two things. First, I absolutely refuse to try online dating. But your experiences makes me think I should. I am nowhere near as clueless and classless as some of the men you mentioned. So that makes me think I would be much more qualified than my competition. Maybe??
Second, I respectfully disagree with your opinion of men being single for a reason. I realize we all have our experiences and we’re all entitled to our own opinions. But I have found most women to be much harder to please than I would have imagined. And as a man I am much less willing to fall into that situation again. I am nowhere near perfect and I would never expect perfection from a woman. I just want her to be honest and forgiving enough for me that we don’t end up making each other miserable. Life is too short to live in that mindset. Have fun and enjoy each other. We ALL deserve it.
Yes, women have woken up and realized that we’re allowed to have standards. Men are a woman’s apex predator, so raising standards is a safety measure at this point.
You would make a deserving woman very happy.
It might be unpopular but I agree with you about some women being harder to please and I think it’s partly due to some women being influenced by what they see other women doing or saying online. So sad.
You are a breath of refreshing air! You will find the woman that you want, hopefully soon.
Well said.
I'm turning 75 in November and I am still in very good shape, been working out consistently since I was 22 years old and most people think I'm around 55 or so years old or younger. Me personally, I love women and always have and I always did very well with dating in the past but I'm just finished with dating now. I'm done with the drama and dealing with other peoples past relationships. At my age, life is just too short, I choose peace and tranquility for my remaining years! People are just too damaged from past relationships these days plus what social media has to to all of us! I'm just done. Thanks
Try African❤
I have been a single man by choice for 7+ years, I am 63 now, tried the online dating thing years ago, ran into some of the same things during that time. Looking back at the time spent, I learned a lot about myself and others. I do believe I finally figured out what I want. You really “knocked it out of the park” with this video. I really enjoyed listening and identifying with you. Thank you for sharing and the awesome delivery. Can’t wait for more!
I'm turning 60, last year a man came into my life unexpectedly. From February to April he put a beautiful sapphire ring on my finger and by August the fire was out unexpectedly. That pain is raw so any type of dating plus your experience just switches off lights. All the best to those willing to suffer the pain and to those who find joy 😊😊 I enjoyed your openness. Thank you and God bless you 😊
Relationships are risky. You are vulnerable. But there is always learning & growth. Sending you much love.
I've had some really good relationships with women. I was a good man to them, BUT, I chose solitude to relationships. I honestly prefer to be alone. There is never a dull moment and boredom does not exist with me.
I do feel a bit of sadness for those that want relationships but fail to find the "one".
I relate to this. I’m never bored , I enjoy solitude so it’s hard to find others who understand that.
Being single is better compared to Being with a idiot
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I’m so delighted I found your channel. I recently had a meet up with a man who not only talked about his ex, but told me in detail about his ex’s blow-by-blow account of the labor of his now 30 year old child. Not to mention…why do they post pics of themselves from 20 years prior? Ugh! It’s so frustrating because they are showing how dishonest they are right at the bat.
I'm totally in alignment with everything you said & THRILLED YOU SAID IT!!! I tried EVERYTHING. For 4 years plus, I went out on 2, 3, or sometimes 4 dates a week. I RESEARCHED THE HELL OUT OF THESE MEN. I was an attractive, young looking (For my age), senior woman. I personally did not like being alone, & wanted to find an intelligent, conscious, kind partner with good character that I could have a wonderful partnership with. (After being married for 37 years to a raging, malignant narcissist since I was 20). I finally gave up: I was lied to, (The men were married, or I found out they had girlfriends because I CALLED THEM & had the balls to say "We had a great time, what. went wrong? The guy said "Oh yea we did, but I was cheating on my girlfriend." The cheap guys "Do u want to SPLIT THAT ORDER OF FRIES'?, The foot fetish ones, "Please tell me about your toenail polish...ugh!) The guys w/LONG GROSS fingernails, the Surgeon who wanted to call me "Mommy" when he kissed me, the men who ghosted me, stood me up, lied & said the were divorced, kept something to blow into in their car because they were caught drunk driving, the men who wanted sex on the 2nd or 3rd date, the ones who had Mysogyny issues, men who spent the whole date showing me pictures of their dead wife... and the "Pie'ce De Re'sistance" - being "Roofied" by an attorney who was showing me pic's of his grandkids one moment - then trying to rape me in a hotel room. I too believe in "Law of Attraction", but there are at least 2x the women out there than men. I am now realistic - as u said, if it happens, etc... A dog is unconditionally loving, a cat is wonderful, & I'm just plain worn out. I let my hair grown in silver, & do as I please. I live in L.A., the world center of looking young & beautiful. As a professional researcher - The truth is men DO NOT want an "Intelligent woman." in their senior years - they want someone who is "Quiet", "Who is 23-45 MAX, who looks fecund, & who sits & listens with awe to what golf club they used to sink that putt. I may sound kind of bitter - and truthfully I have tried SO HARD not to be, but I am worn out from trying this also.
I hear you on that! All of it. I am not bitter, but as you say "worn out".
You described it perfectly!
@@exhibitdesign901 Yep - totally just worn out!
@@sfc5774 Thank u & I hope u r doing well in life with/without a partner.
My name is John, I’m 64…
I live across the lake from you in Toronto. Hard to believe a lovely woman like you can’t find a good man.
Reach out to her John 😉😁
Last December, the love of my life and I fell apart. I need to make some changes in MY life.
7 months of therapy has been life changing! I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders.
The man I am now, I should have been that man for her when I was with her. I’m still hoping to make things work out. At 64, I know finding a life mate is near impossible. She also has a muscle condition with no cure. All I want is to comfort, protect, love and take care of her for the rest of MY life. I’m of good health and could walk away, but I don’t want to.
@@staceywood7800 Stacey, how do I contact her?
Thanks John
@@staceywood7800
Stacey, How do I contact her? John
You two should reach out to each other. Canadian men are a lot different than New Yorkers! I live in Toronto too and I think there are lots of nice men in their sixties out there although I’m long time married.
Hi there, I online dated for about 10 years when I was in my 50s. I am currently 68. The stories I could tell you about the men I met up with our unreal. Some of them wanted to have sex immediately, some of them wanted to replace their wife, some of them were broke and living with their kids and so on. I am retired now but when I was working the girls couldn't wait for me to come into the office on Monday morning to tell them how terrible my date was. By the time I got done telling them everything that happened they were in tears laughing. Now you know you're not alone.
I know! I did the same thing, describing my dates. At least I had some funny but sad anecdotes out of it. We all have cheap date stories - and yes, it happened to me too that my meet-up bought dinner for himself at Chipotle, using a coupon and telling me he couldn't get anything for me. We did not last.
Debbie. Your comments sum it up. Women's standards tend to be higher than men's for relationships.
Age is privilege.
@@SherriFlemming let's not even mention the fact did they expect us to look like one of the Kardashians while they show up looking like they just rolled out of bed.
@@MsDebRod Indeed. They're living in fantasyland.
Low caliber men.
@@MsDebRod Indeed. Fantasyland. Low caliber men.