Losing Friends Can Be A Good Thing
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 ส.ค. 2022
- Losing friends can be very difficult for a lot of people. I wanted to talk about my experience with it and what my personal beliefs are. It's a bit of a different type of video, but I thought it would be interesting to just sit down and have a talk together. #degeneratejay #gaming #friends
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I can't believe you'd slander me in such ways!!! JK, excellent video man. Good conversation
Lmao we will always be friends man. Really appreciate the support
It's that good of a video I stayed up and watched it in its entirety at 1:30am lol. I'm gonna go to bed now
Dude this could not have been better timing I was really beating myself up because I thought I was the bad friend but the reality was my friends always used me and were extremely toxic they knew they could walk over me because I’m always the friend that gives. Happy to say I no longer have them in my life and I feel a lot better.
Exactly what I needed today, not the same situation but the topic of friends is something I really need right now. Thank you 🙌🙌(edit) I like normal waffles LMAO
I lost 6 friends in the span of a year and when I tried to retrospect,I realised and discovered that they were just a toxic group of dum dums who wanted to break me emotionally in every way possible. Now I have none. I try to forget about it,but its very hard. Thank you for making this video,I cried when watching it but in a good way. I love your channel,have a good day.
Edit : forgot to say,I made the whole friend group and every single person that was there,I knew them before anyone else in the group. There were people who I've known since birth,since 10 years or even just a couple months
Edit 2: Its been exactly a year since the first comment and Im happy to say,I got over them.
I realised there was no reason to cling onto this hate and that I should move on, and I did! I found new friends, good friends and my life has improved much since,thank you for the support in the replies and thank you Jay for making great videos like this.
Hang in there buddy you sound like a nice guy who is doing their best and it sounds like they weren't good for you
Buddy I think there is a group of friends perfect for you, promise
@@kylebutler9281 thanks
I wanted to edit to add more but since I know editing removes the heart Ill just add a new message
A couple people in the group were very emotional and had various problems that ignored because I was a dum dum. I had trust issues back in the day but I managed to get over it and eventually told them that I am not afraid to talk to them about my feelings or anything like that but I still didnt just because "im a man"
So anyway I was always helping THEM out and taking time off stuff to be with them and always relaxed the one that cried during tests and overall everything was great until at some point they just said "Im tired of this guy" and 2 just left me. About the other 4? 1 of them was in a group of 4 with me,him and the 2 ones that left. But he didnt leave so anyways I met other people thought they were cool and boom both the 2 new people and the one before again decided they were tired of me,then there was this friend from long ago who appeared out of nowhere and also started hating me for no reason and what do you know! THEY WERE ALL A TEAM OF JERKS ALL ALONG 😁
I think this was a really good video idea, a lot of people hold onto this idea or memory of a friendship, and sometimes it's not close to the reality of what it was. A lot of people needed to hear this. Props to you Jay
Thing about friends is that you never truly know what goes on in the other person's mind. And that's why friendships have so much to do with trust. I had a friend who I've been good friends with since elementary school and when I moved away he randomly cut me off over text. This has given me some issues when I try to be vulnerable with new people. During all this i met someone who I'd like to pursue something deeper with and they feel the same, were just going slow. And i just wanted to say that no matter what experiences you go through with people, it's always worth trying to connect with others and making something positive out of new relationships because you never know when something really good can blossom.
I know its a year old, but thank you for this video. I really needed to know tonight that other people can go through things like this and be okay.
Sometimes friendships grow apart. It sucks, for sure. But when you realize that you’re the only one making an effort, you just gotta let go. It’s hard to watch a friendship die like that, especially when they’re manipulated like that by a partner, where you can see how messed up the relationship is but they’re getting laid so they’re willing to overlook the toxicity. Wishing you the best. And I like the occasional chocolate chip waffle for whimsy or blueberry waffle if I want to fool myself that it’s healthy lol
Might have needed to hear this thanks
I have always had issues making friends, part of it was because I don’t try. I don’t try because I found myself in a sort of cycle where I would make friends, then they would (as I felt) abandon me then I’d be depressed and lonely. Then I’d find new friends and it would happen again, and again. Eventually I figured out that part of the problem was indeed me. I would only have a few good friends and I would put all my emotional baggage and insecurities onto those few people, and it is very hard to bear that kind of weight for very long. And for their own health they needed to separate from what probably felt like a 1 sided friendship. I don’t think they liked it but it was necessary. These days I try to be a better friend and spread it out more and I’ve had some success, this video has helped me to remind myself of that. And lastly my favorite waffle is strawberry egos
Your a great person jay, friends can come and go and that’s just apart of life. Hope your feeling good and I’m excited to see the videos you have coming up! :)
Edit: I had a very similar situation with my dad too, my friends were very supportive and part of how I healed over time is because of them. Thank you for making this video jay because I’m sure a lot of people can feel better about there situation after watching it. Keep up the great work
The one thing I wanna add/say is that as someone who struggles with holding multiple social relationships. (I'm autistic) I struggle to manage nothing friendships and romantic relationships. Or friendships in different social settings.
I always feel guilty when I can't provide the needed support/maintenance of separate relationships
i’m about to graduate from school soon and i realized i will probably not stay in contact with most of my current friends. this video really helped me come to terms with that. i want more than anything to maintain my friendships but i know now there comes a point where there’s nothing i can do and i just have to learn to move on. thank you for the vid jay 🙏
This is a conversation that I really appreciate you having.
Not just as someone who is being wronged but also recognising your own faults in a friendship. The self awareness and acceptance of responsibility is a big part of why I keep coming back to all of your channels.
This was definitely a interesting watch. It really made me reflect on some of my relationships with friends and family great video man.
Needed to hear this. Long story short Ive changed a lot of things about my life in the last 2 years. One of those was unfortunately losing my two best friends in the whole world that had been my best friends since 6th grade. I was told that I tried to “son” them or “big brother” them often and that they were always supportive of me and I was never supportive in the same way. The way I am as a friend is I am gunna call you out on your bullshit if need be and I want you to be the best version of yourself. Obviously some things aren’t gunna be perfect and I am aware that I’m no where near perfect. I’m always going to try to be tho. We came from different walks of life. I came from a sheltered and privileged and wealthy house hold and they came from lower income households that were split families that didn’t necessarily provide the same opportunities. There came a point a couple years ago where I wanted to change my life and I was walking into work everyday hating my self and my job and my general everyday routine that I shared with my friends being work a day shift, come home, smoke weed, overeat, sleep, repeat. I decided to go back to school when the friendship started to deteriorate. I decided to take that investment in myself to have a better life and it paid off because I now have a job that I absolutely love and am living on my own paying my own bills living a life I wanted. I even moved out of my home state which I never thought would happen. They always felt like it was not my place to “big brother” them cause they always felt like I was talking down towards them but I just wanted them to have more than what they currently had cause they shared the same sentiment of not wanting to live this lifestyle of working a crappy job and just waking up to smoke weed and do nothing. It’s taken some time to realize and I still struggle with it but they truly didn’t want to be friends or family like I wanted imo. They wanted that echo chamber and the feeling of comfort with me as a friend where I wasn’t going to push them or tell them things that they don’t want to hear but I felt like they needed to hear type of thing. I don’t want that in my friends. Yes there will be times that I’ve had a bad day and need a friend to put their hand on my back and tell me it’s ok tomorrow the sun will rise life will go on. I don’t want them to watch me waste my potential as a human being and stand by and say nothing because if they do then they don’t really care to see you succeed. Idk I’m ranting like a mf’er here but thank you for putting this out there Jay. I needed to hear it. Much love man.
P.S. my fav flavor of waffles is either blueberry or cinnamon or just plain. Actually I don’t have one cause they’re all pretty fuckin rad the more I think about it. Thanks Jay. Much love
Loved the variety of gameplay/games in the back!
I love this type of video. I get to just sit, relax, and listen for a while. it's a nice break and gives me some insight to how other people think and feel. please do more, hope you're well
Jay, thank you. This was the exact kind of video I needed, especially from a content creator I’ve grown to admire and feel a connection with (as a viewer). So, thank you so much. You’re the best.
I have this every time i try to make a friend, so this video was really helpful and I don’t feel as bad for not talking to them anymore. Thank you jay
Incredible video Jay. It was uncanny listening your story as it’s almost exactly the same thing that happened between me and one of my oldest friends a few years ago. Seeing a video like this would have been so helpful to see back then. You’re doing a service for a lot of people.🙌🏻
Great video, this will definitely help some people out going through similar things, also waffles are great and favourite flavour probably chocolate.
Dope video hits really close to home these videos are always a good watch Jay always sayin sum real
I love all waffles and pancakes, this video was truly spectacular.
One thing I will always stick with is “if you are nothing without it, you shouldn’t have it”.
Thank you for your transparency and talking about this subject. I think most or all of us can relate to this and from listening to your commentary about your ex friend, it sounds like he was around ppl that were emotionally unavailable that's why he probably felt all alone despite you being there for him and he acted in ways he probably was unaware of and took certain things out on you and being emotionally unavailable himself. At least you took accountability on your part and tried to be a great friend but it sounds like he has alot of personal demons that he has to deal with and he won't be able to grow if he still stuck around negative energy. Hopefully he has resolved his personal issues and maybe one day you both can talk, come to an understanding and put things in perspective.
I really needed to hear this, thank you Jay!
Definitely been going through something of this nature, Preciate the video my man💪🏽
Blueberry waffles for the win my g! We need these types of conversations more often.
Hey man thanks for talking about this kind of stuff
For a second,I thought Nate Or Alex and you had a falling out
Not yet and hopefully never since they're real ones lol
@@DegenerateJay thank the lord I read this before jumping to conclusions lol
Same
Great video man. Hitting close to home. I'm also trying to catch up with both this and the LetsPlay channel. AlsoAlso; waffles are awesome ❤️ long time since I had those
Blueberry waffles for sure, I've never tried Madagascar vanilla before but that sounds great lol. Great video, really needed to hear some of this much like I see a lot of us did. Thank you, godspeed.
This video really resonates with me as I recently lost two best friends from a seven year friendship who chose to be selfish and not make time for the friendship I cared so much about, in the end they didn't want to hang out or even make time to game or anything socially especially when the pandemic hit. It's funny how life sometimes has a way of showing you who your true friends actually are. Thanks for sharing this video, it's nice to know I'm not alone going through something similar, and my favorite waffles are definitely chocolate chip lol Keep up the great work, love your content and have been subscribed for a long time! :)
I'd be down to listen to Jay giving life advice for 40 minutes more often. I've been in situations like that a few times before, and sometimes, listening to things like this is all you need to make the right decisions. Thanks, Jay
This video definitely hits home with me, loved it, helped me a lot thanks so much, I can totally relate to this, thank you, and flavor of waffles is kinda hard to pick lol
I had some really good friends in middle school and high-school. We were a true squad, we'd hang out together all the time. It was me, and three other guys, although one of them lived in a different town, so he didn't hang out with us outside of school as much as the rest of the four of us did, but he was still a member of the group nonetheless. These guys meant a lot to me, as I was going through a really rough time, I was living in my apartment alone, my Mom and sister stayed with their respective boyfriends, so I was home alone all the time. I was like 14-16 when this was all happening so it kinda fucked me up a little bit. I was really depressed, suicidal, paranoid, I didn't sleep well, I wouldn't go to school for weeks at a time (my teacher was practically a babysitter he didn't give a shit or report it at all). But man, when the boys got together we were wild, crazy, fun, and stupid. We used to all get together to smoke weed and walk around our small empty town in the middle of the night, break the law just for thrills (allegedly, and nothing too serious, mostly just vandalism, trespassing, and a little bit of pointless and mostly harmless theft here and there) we were like a little gang, we used to sell weed to the hot girls at school, go exploring in the woods behind my school and smoke some weed out there too, we'd get drunk every now and then, just doing some dumb reckless teenager stuff. Then, I found out I was moving. I spent my last day at school, just to hang out with them before I left, then on of the guys, who was actually my next door neighbor came over and we got high one more time and hung out and chilled for a while and the next day I was gone. I didn't really stay in contact with any of them and I never visited, but I always wondered how they were doing. Three years later, now I'm 19, doing well, I have a job, an amazing partner, and I'm working on making up my credits so I can finish High-school. I was visiting another friend (practically my brother at this point) and they hit me up to hang out. It was only two of the three other guys, I found out from them the other guy ended up in jail (he was the one who lived in a different town, he had a hard childhood and was always in trouble with the law) but the three of us had a good time, it was like no time had passed. We smoked the fattest, gorilla-finger joint I've ever laid eyes on for old times sake, and had a nice time catching up. Those guys meant a lot to me, more than they know. I don't know if I'd be alive if it weren't for them, as I was severely depressed and attempted suicide a few times. We're not as close as we used to be, we still don't talk really, but it was nice to know they're doing well (except for the guy who's in jail, but he's always been a dumbass so nobody was surprised he ended up there) Anyway, I guess the point of this was, Growing apart is okay, things might not always end as smoothly as they did for me, but looking back on that time, I realize how miserable, reckless, and self destructive I was, but that doesn't change all of the fun I had. Those long nights, the unsettling relaxing feeling of walking through a sleeping empty town, the smell of the air, the shine of the streetlights on the wet street. The memories I have from that time feel like a scene from a movie, like some "feel good" teen adventure. But, I wouldn't go back to it, it's in the past now, and I'm thankful I became the person I did, but I couldn't have done it without my homies.
Ngl I'm glad you made this video
I don't usually watch your content, but I do enjoy it occasionally, and this got recommended to me
I have my own situation right now where my mental health is not that great, and negative thoughts are sort of making a past experience of mine worse in my mind.
This experience was with a friend, and for the sake of privacy I won't go into much detail.
But they are a very good friend of mine I've known for quite a while. And a few months back something happened that kind of put a strain on things. We don't talk nearly as much as we used to, but we both have things going on, more so with them, so I understand why they don't reach out much, and we have made things up since.
However, my dumb little brain thinks that because they are busy, and have their own life with their own baggage and also don't really reach out to me much because of that, that it means they don't give a shit about me, and I know for a fact that isn't true, in fact we had a nice conversation a couple days ago, and things are actually pretty good. Yet I feel insecure because of what happened a long while ago.
Watching this video has made me realize that friendships are valuable, and while they can last a very long time, they don't last forever, because life doesn't last forever. I should be spending my time wisely, and enjoying the time I get to be with my friend, instead of being a loser who never does anything all day every day.
In other words, this video has given me some sort of motivation to try and get rid of my doubts and work on having a good relationship with my friend, because that's what should matter.
I also just need to do stuff with my life tbh, damn this is kind of a huge wake up call lmao
Wasn’t aware there were different flavors of waffles lol.
Good vid as usual, very relatable situation
I love these personal videos of yours and wouldn’t mind seeing more of this on the channel, also my favorite flavor of waffles: none pancakes>>>>waffles 😉
TH-cam finally gives me a notification for one of Jay's videos, and it's one that I'm glad I watched (Even though I usually enjoy all of them). I like chocolate chip waffles a lot, and those ego cinnamon toast waffles. Those things slap. Value yourself tho.
Crazy timing but I definitely needed this thank you for sharing your experience. Btw favorite waffles are vanilla and chocolate chip
I can prettymuch agree with most of what your saying😮💨 Ever since my girlfriend left me a couple months ago,my other friends just told me to move on,and get over it..which really pissed me off.Two of my friends were absent most of the time i was grieving,breaking down through this process,trying to move on,nobody was really there for me so heres what i did😶
I just clicked on the video, but you couldn't have posted this at a better time.
I've led a friend group for a while, but recently they've all turned their backs on me over something extremely petty. Five years all for nothin.
Thank you very much for posting this.
same thing happened to me with my middle school friend group
Keep up the work jay your videos are great
I really like videos like this. Even with the long duration, it doesn’t feel long at all and it feels like I’m speaking to someone about stuff I’m going through, even if it was a while ago. And to add on I didn’t even know waffles had different flavors lmao, I thought it was just blueberry, chocolate chip and regular 😂
So just as a disclaimer I’ve only listened to the first 7ish minutes of this just want to talk abt something that came to my mind: so I had this friend a while back and to cut a long story short she went through some really tough stuff in her life and I always felt that I tried my hardest to be there for her and then she ended up basically catfishing me to the point that I ended up really not being in a good place (I’m fine now though thankfully) and now we have the weirdest relationship now because I think I would still be there for her but we really don’t talk. Kinda feel like no one asked but I thought it was kinda relevant so 🤷♂️
very powerful video and story man i been thinkin about things like this for a while. thanks for taking time out to tell this, im sure it helped a lot of people.
PS: i dont eat waffles, pancakes >
Dude, you rule. Great message.
Jay, well timed mate - you have no idea how bad I needed this right now!
First off my favorite flavor of waffles is buttermilk lol. But I will say I've been in a same situation before in a relationship and it just felt like were just holding on to each other but not being capable and I felt like I also was becoming a person that i didn't want to be and never been and things we're just getting worst because I loved this person. so it is hard to go break ups or falling out but sometimes its just for the best long term. Love your videos btw Jay! I appreciate you making this because I been thru this situation recently so it feels good to vent. I appreciate you man!
Chocolate Chip waffles for sure. And yeah, I've had to block a few toxic "friends" from my life a few times.
My favorite flavor waffle is just a basic waffle. Give me some butter and syrup and I’m good. Great video, by the way. You were very open and honest and that earns a lot of respect in my book.
This was a very interesting and insightful video :) Sadly I do kinda get what you mean, everyone has their limits and there comes a point when you have to acknowledge this fact and consider where your time and energy is best spent.
I make that sound quite thoughtless but I do understand it's not easy to do this at times, but as much as it might sound bad, I think under certain circumstances such as this it's important and perhaps even natural to prioritise yourself over other people. When it's been difficult for me to do this in the past I like to encourage myself by saying 'I won't be able to give my all to the people that matter most if I stretch myself too thin for others who do not return the favour'.
Whether that's the right way to look at it or not I don't know, but that's my way of thinking anyway. It's not always that simple but I think it's still a good sentiment. Thanks for talking about this Jay! :D
Oh also I've never had waffles in my life, so can't comment on flavours. Oh well :(
Chocolate chip waffles great video sadly I’m seeing my brother go through his second abusive relationship now and it’s so toxic. Men really don’t know they’re value at all and it shows you were not raised that way jay
First of all, my favorite flavor is basic blueberry lol But this video was so well said and really helps me as I'm going through something very similar with my best friend. We've been friends since we were tiny but as the years go on (especially after high school) we've fought more and more. He intentionally tries to argue about pointless things and says things he knows will get under my skin, leaving me to do what you said and shoot back with something equally mean. He used to be such an intelligent, kind, caring and funny guy, but he's turned into the polar opposite. He doesn't leave the house, actively goes out of his way to find conflict, developed a massive superiority complex, has become insanely racist and bigoted for the literal sake of it and so mean and cynical about everyone. So full of hate. He brought me into his friend group which happens to be more racists and toxic af people cuz they just bow to him and agree with everything. I already see myself responding to him less and less and have gotten to the point in which I will have to decide if he is worth the toxicity. I don't want to be surrounded by constant toxicity and hatred anymore. I want to be surrounded by love and acceptance and kindness and develop as a human that can make a positive difference. And of course he is horribly homophobic so those comments about certain things being gay is all too familiar to me lol but he's no longer the person I knew as a kid anymore and i'm probably hanging on cuz I care about who he used to be. Anyways, thanks for the video man, it really hit the damn mark!
Great video Jay.
Great video! I've had friends like this in the past. My favorite flavor of waffles are blueberry
TH-cam has to get there shit together. Im a big fan so I check regularly for new videos but people missing out on the man
Man you don’t know how much of a coincidence this seems like right now. Just wanna say thank you.
I watched your Halloween video and then this video started playing, it's also storming over here which is kind of cool. Anyhow I lost my best friend 16 days ago, he died and it hurts so bad. I keep asking myself why didn't I recognize the signs and could I have done anything to prevent his passing? This has been the worst year ever, 1st my dad and then my best friend. I think about him everyday. 12 days prior to his passing I was in the hospital and he was right there by my side letting me squeeze the hell out of his hand because he knew how afraid I was of needles. If somebody would have told me that 2 weeks later he wouldn't be here anymore I wouldn't have believed it. You were the kindest and most helpful individual I've ever known. He used to give me grief because I've never seen the movie Top Gun. I guess there's a line in the movie that says I'm not leaving my wingman. He would always tell me that whenever I was sad or had crippling anxiety, I will not leave my wingman... I'm so sick of being sad and crying, I feel like I'm pushing my wife away with all of the sadness and stress and that's the last thing I want to do. Mike I love you brother, not one day will go by where I don't think about you. I miss you so much my friend, I hope you can hear me and know just how special you are. 🙏
Indeed. At the time, I thought my world had ended back in 2020. But all I did was entrust them to my secret of having Asperger's and they said they didn't want a broken friend and decided to spread heinous rumours about me throughout my friends list, pretty much making me purge my social medias.
But now I have a close circle of friends who are aware and okay with my affliction and a job I enjoy. And I've never been better. Anxiety gets up sometimes but that's bound to happen. ☺️
It sounds like he was the instigator. I had a friend like that and he took advantage of my kindness and patience.
Waffles have flavours? Anyway lol, great video, great message.
waffle with anything caramel and vanilla, good talk 🥰
Damn man I really felt this especially rn
Great video jay I rlly need this my mentor/ best friend is inevitably going to leave me 2-4 years and he doesn’t want to leave me he has no choice and his in the coast guard he left the closest thing to a brother he ever had yes he sees him once or twice a year and he said he’d try to do the same with me but no guarantees… and about a month ago we had a heart to heart and at this time I was going through a HELL feeling for my ex resurfaced while I was with another girl depression was hitting me hard and so much more and right at the end I ask him if he’ll stay in touch with me when he leaves and this is what he said “ I can’t promise that I would love to say I will I wish I could say I will but probably not I’ve got 2 years 4 if I’m lucky but you will always ALWAYS be remembered never forgotten” and that broke me cuz I realized that he won’t be in my life forever and he means the world to me I love him as my surrogate dad and my dad loves him as a surrogate son his family and I’ve been fighting the fear of losing him but you vid has help me a lot as my dad says friends come in your life for a short period of time so spend the limited time you have with them
And my favorite waffle is Belgium 🧇
sorry I'm late to the video
I know how you feel, man. sometimes you just can't keep fighting and you gotta let go. from one jay to another, you're a good guy. hope you're well
edit: I don't have a favorite flavor of waffles lol
Madagascar vanilla sounds like an amazing waffle.
Birthday cake , blue Barry , chocolate. Those are my favorites
bacon bits and chives waffle with maple syrup are bomb asf.
This is a great vid your friend sounds a lot like my friends too nice taken advantage of my best friend has Asperger's and he was in and out of my life then he recently came back and I love him to death I hope it stays that way and I have no idea what my fav waffle is lol I just like food
Favorite flavor of waffles is one with some golden syrup and some ice cream on top
I don't mean to be that kind of guy who hears someone's story and has to one-up them or demand attention by going "well this is what happened to me", I just feel like sharing this.
So in elementary school there was this guy I saw being bullied and I ran in hoping to stop it somehow. No real plan. Turns out I didn't need a plan because the others left him alone as soon as I showed up. This other kid was upset shouting "everyone hates me!" I said "I don't hate you." That was the start of a years-long friendship. But as the years went on it became obvious that we didn't have a whole lot in common (to the point that new friends he made were confused how/why we were friends), and this guy didn't have his life together and had no real plan post high school. He was also not that smart. I was dedicating myself to getting accepted at a prestigious university, and I was actually accepted before I even started my high school senior year (I didn't skip my senior year, I was accepted into the university to start the year after my graduation). Meanwhile my friend was taking extremely basic classes for everything, and whenever he had quizzes or tests he would tell me during the lunch hour that everyone in his class failed.
So after we graduated and both went to college (he was attending a community college not far from my university), he asked if I could help tutor him. His idea of tutoring was getting me to show him how to do his homework, then disappearing and leaving me to do everything for him. Then he needed my help to write essays and, after I helped him find sources and put together an outline, he called me in a panic the next night because, despite everything I had done, all he had to show for it was a word document with his name at the top, but otherwise blank. Even with a very detailed outline of what to write and what information from his sources to put where, he was unable to do anything himself. I put together that he was hoping to have me do all of his coursework myself, trusting that I'd get it done perfectly, so that he could skip his final exams and still get a passing grade (essentially hoping to get a college degree by having me do all of his work in addition to my own for four years). Eventually I told him I couldn't keep doing his homework and writing his essays because I had my own final exams to study for. He chewed me out for bailing on him when he needed me and told me what a horrible friend I was. But strangely enough after he hung up the phone I felt relieved. Even going into my first few final exams the next day I felt less stress than I had since I started at university.
Sometimes I think back about the years when we were friends and I can't help but think that he used to be such a nice guy. To be honest I don't dwell on him that much anymore. I don't have bad feelings about him because I know he wasn't cut out for college, he was barely cut out for high school, and he was genuinely unable to figure out what to do on his own, but there came to be a point where I couldn't keep helping him anymore.
Also I don't really try different varieties of waffles, just regular waffles with syrup. My go-to breakfasts are either eggs or lemon poppyseed muffins.
To the title that is very true
Don't be sad about losing genuine friends; be glad you are able to make it happen.
Besides, there is a lot of things that are waited to be explored if we put time and effort to make it happen.
I did just lose a few friends but in a year I'll be moving into what is bassicaly swedish college so new friends is on the horizon
Smooth caramel with a side of strawberries.
chocolate sauce🙂
and yes i completely understand what your saying in fact i"ve been in bad friendships my self so YES SOMETIMES its needed to end a friendship!!!!!!!
Thanks you for this video. Fraver of waffles is blue Barry's. 💙
I haven't finished the video yet but I just wanted to share my experience, and maybe just vent.
I was pretty much an outcast, I had friends but they had their own groups that never accepted me but in a way we were our own little group. I had my best friend that I met in Kindergarten, my good friend who loves history like me, and my friend who's more mature than all of us. It was a fun experience but I knew things would change when we all graduated. And luckily it was good for the next year, until Covid hit.
My best friend became a covid freak and stayed at home an entire year, and eventually went back to college but never wanted to hang out. My history friend, who still lives near me, barley talks to me and usually when we do talk its usually just his opinion and he stops the conversation as soon as I say something. My mature friend moved to Arizona but came back due to Covid for a short time so that was fun, but currently now I haven't spoke to any of my friends for months. I fortunately had some friends in college but as soon as we went online due to covid we stopped talking.
Unfortunately, now 22, I realize that things will never go back to normal. My dream of growing up with my friends is probably never going to happen. I will probably never go inside my best friend's house and chill in his basement, or make conversation with his parents, who once helped me when I was bullied and very depressed, and were always very nice. I will never do an anime podcast with my mature friend who introduced me to it like we talked about. And we will never have a fire pit in my history friend's backyard as we talk about nerd stuff. It's hard but I've started accepting this.
It's a very depressing situation and all I want is for the chance to do all of this again but it's not going to happen. Frankly I've begun to question if our friendship meant as much to them as it did to me. As I previously said, my history friend, who still lives close to me, only talks about his opinions and as soon as I chime in he ends the conversation. My "best friend" doesn't see me as his, as he always had more friends which stung a bit but doesn't really matter now. My mature friend is probably my only real friend and he's across the country.
Of course, I will still try to keep moving forward (which has been harder and harder with all the pressure from my family on what I should do for my future), and perhaps I will make new friends and even have a true best friend one day. If you ever had this experience know it can get better, as hard as it is. Don't give up hope.
(This is Jill replying) I agree, don’t give up hope. You’re going to make those memories plus some with some really great people someday, I’m sure of it. I’ve never really had many friends either and the ones I had in school a lot of times didn’t want to text or hang out outside of school, especially after graduation. When I moved to be with Jay I was so happy to not only live with my best friend and make memories with him but have his friends be my friends too. People come and go sadly but you’ll make a forever friend someday who will stick by you no matter what. Just keep being you and being hopeful.
Love is a privilege. Not a guarantee.
I met some people in my third year of university. Long story short they didn't hangout with me that much. They only did when they needed some schoolwork done. Aside from that they didn't go out with me that much but I saw their stories and they were out with other people. A couple weeks ago I told one of them how I felt and I haven't said anything to the reply.
A couple days ago I accidentally sent a message to one of them on Discord. I meant to send it to someone else. A real friend. I unsent the message.
Blueberry waffles are my personal favorite
I didn't know there were flavors for waffles beyond blueberry waffles or stuff like that.
Anyways, I've also lost friends but nothing like that. I had a couple of friends in middle school that I just stopped hanging out with in high school. There was no real reason for it and a feel bad because of that. My junior year, I felt bad and was going to hang out with them but then the pandemic happened so I never got the chance.
Three years ago, there was friction between me and a girl who was chairman of a Musical Theatre Society I attended. She blocked me on Facebook and was very cold towards me for the rest of the year. I never really understood why.
This made me think of an old show I used to watch. It was actually a Disney cartoon called Recess. They have a whole episode about how there's this kid that everyone in the school likes, named TJ, who is one of the main characters, except there's one kid who doesn't like him. And he spends the entire episode trying to get this kid to like him only to find out this kid just is petty and doesn't like him just because. There's really no actual reason. Sometimes people just don't like you and it usually says more about them if they don't have any kind of solid reasoning.
@@DegenerateJay She sort of seemed to like me to begin with but overtime things changed. It was weird. I guess because for one performance I did with the society, that being "Music of the Night" from Phantom of the Opera, I may have gained a bit of reputation for being a perfectionist and for doing the Heath Ledger thing of going FULL METHOD ACTING if you will. I really disappeared into my characters and I guess that may have alarmed her and several others in the society. That may not be the case but it's just my assumption.
I don't think I've ever technically "lost" friends, the closest I've come to that would be people moving away and I never got their contact info before they left so I just don't talk to them anymore. I bet it'll happen at one point, not that I want to lose any friends but if it does happen then hopefully it isn't on bad terms and we just kind of drift apart. I really hope that the guy gets help in getting out of that relationship and that he can not only value himself but find people who value him.
Also I don't know if this really counts as a flavor but I like my waffles with strawberry butter and I put a dab of siracha sauce in the syrup before I put it on the waffles. It gives it a different flavor than when you just pour the syrup on regular butter and waffles. It also goes great with spicy chicken so there is a good chicken and waffles recipe(?) for you.
Losing friends suck, making new ones suck probably more because of how difficult it is. I have lost various friends through moving or just growing distant and sometimes because of issues. Right now I am not that happy with my friends because they don't do as much for me in some aspects that I do but at least I have them. I do wish I could find more people to hang out with in games and just play more games with me but I can't make friends in games for some reason. Losing friends makes people sad and depressed and it really sucks.
Edit: why the hell are there different flavors of waffles? I've never heard of it and it seems really strange.
I’m dealing with the same thing, I had a middle school friend group and they all kicked me out the friend group and it was rough because I related to and was the most open to this group. The worse part is I struggle to make new friends because of the PTSD trauma from what happened and I don’t want it to repeat so I end up all alone. It sucks but I am working on it.
Wait this is something I am having a problem with when it comes to 2 friends of mine especially when they tried to call me tonight while I was on the phone with other friends
I like chocolate chip waffles. Thanks for this video
i needed this video. never watch long videos all the way through but wow this mirrors my life right now
my favorite flavor of waffles is chocolate
Nooooo why are you and SLCMOF mad at each other??😓
Is what im assuming from vid since you guys havent done one together in awhile XD; but finally im glad he finally came back and made a video, its been forever since he was on, and you too should collab soon
hmmm Madagascar Vanilla Waffles? that sounds good
Plain Belgian waffles with maple syrup
I have issues with that!
Blueberry waffles are top tier
I have mixed and really touchy feelings on this subject as a mentally ill person with (pretty severe) borderline personality disorder who also shares a lot of the Batman/Spider-Man morals since on one end I support someone (fictional example) like Harley getting away from Joker to be with someone who cares for her but on the other end it's always a blur for me between someone who is too messed up to tolerate or not because I also want to try to redeem even someone as bad as Joker (whether it's 2019 Joker or Arkham Joker or whatever), because of both how I've been on the receiving end of losing people due to bpd and having abusive parents messing me up (I go to therapy weekly and trying to get better but it feels like every friend lost like sets the progress back and I'm not having any luck with meds or the therapy itself even after years) so I kind of believe in unconditional love and forgiveness whether it's for my own sake or someone elses', but I have also just lost patience with people myself even though I don't think it's ever resulted in me permanently ending a friendship (just with people I don't know well I think, so I've done a really good job of that I guess even if it's a bad thing)
It's really difficult getting out of a negative spiral and I want to show others the same support I feel like I need to get better, but there's a gray area between having no standards and wanting perfection out of relationships and it makes my head hurt a lot, like I've had to learn all my morals from fiction since I've been raised so terribly so I take real inspiration from characters like Luke Skywalker in Return of the Jedi for example but that's also because I know what it feels like to be Darth Vader even though I haven't killed or even seriously injured anyone or anything
I think Peter and MJ had a conversation about Doc Ock that went something like when is it okay to give up on a friend? and my immediate reaction was never but it's hard to know if that's right? My thoughts on this are probably pretty erratic, but it's some next-level existential morality messery that can end up in self-hate which makes things worse, but then there's enabling? I try to be the one person to not give up on others no matter what while at the same time protecting and trying to comfort everyone so it's weird man, I just hope I'm a good person when I can relate to the villains as much as the heroes half the time and most of the comments I've seen are more from the opposite perspective
I like blueberry waffles but after listening to this I really think that I was a bad friend every since my uncle died I started to be more hateful towards one of my friends and I know it's not an excuse to be like that but when I look back I keep remembering that he was still nice towards me after all the things I did we are still good friends and all but if I was him I would dropped me and this friendship we had
Pretty good video overall my suggestion however is be careful when saying all humans need a connection and that only delusional people don't that is an oversimplification of what amounts to a very deep and complex topic.
Favorite flavor of waffle? I didn't know there was different flavors so I can't answer... Original, I guess? Lol.
I lost all my friends in 6th grade
I don't like waffles but I did like your video.