Omission Trauma is just as damaging as physical abuse

In this week’s episode, we explore the concept of traumas of omission. Trauma isn’t just about the bad things that happen to us, but also the good things that never did. It’s easy to recognise acts of commission, such as physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. These experiences are clearly damaging, and as children, we can often stay conscious of them because we can feel and see the harm.
But what about the traumas we can’t see? Traumas of omission stem from the absence of things we needed as children, like support, connection, or protection. These forms of neglect can go unnoticed, even though they have a huge impact on our development. The wounds caused by not being cared for or protected can leave us feeling unsafe and disconnected, sometimes even harder to heal than the obvious attacks of an abuser.
Many of us have repressed these traumas, but they can follow us into adulthood, shaping our relationships and sense of self. The good news is, it’s never too late to seek help, start therapy, and begin healing.
Can you relate to the idea of trauma by omission?
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[@ljo0605]

This is a hard one to explain to others; the lack of protection, lack of support growing up. Feeling isolated and vulnerable, putting us into a state of fight or flight.

[@Gill-pc9nm]

I had 13 yes's. Now subbing and looking through your videos. Thank you, I've been lookjng for this for a long time. Thank you for doing this.

[@Sweetlyfe]

Thanks James I have the results of physical trauma and violence, but it’s the omission trauma and being ignored that I often struggle with. Which also includes not being able to bond as a newborn due to being 10 weeks premature in the 60’s, so they didn’t let the parents hold the babies then, and my first 3 months was spent like this.

[@Feeneegreen]

Great explanation, James. Yes no child should be ignored. Very hidden trauma as you have explained. Thankyou for these great videos

[@AwakenTherapy]

Yes Fee, it is so important to acknowledge the hidden aspect too.

[@alexwelts2553]

Ahh, do you see the antimatter too?

[@r_and_a]

i literally told my parents as a kid i wished they'd just beat me as at least it'd be easier to explain how messed up things were instead of their psychological games & self absorption - the impacts of their omission only started to become apparent to me once i was a parent & moreso now that i'm in my 1st real attempted long term partnership (as opposed to relationships that were more sort of nice at the time but without any real attempt to build something more sustainable) - thank you for this 💚

[@velvetbees]

I think one example is the parent who notices you, doesn't interact with you very much unless you please them, and even after you please them, they give you a half nod and token small smile. It's like you barely met the criteria to be pleasing, but not quite. You are never enough. But the truth is you are enough, just not for them because they are a mess.

[@sabtube77]

My mother did not speak to me, look at me, or respond to me for 2 to 3 years as a child under the age of 12 because i did something to disappoint her.

[@r_and_a]

i'm sorry 💚 do you find people often have a hard time actually accepting your "parent" acted like that? i'd get so frustrated when sharing about my kid's other parent as seems most couldn't truly comprehend some parents seriously don't "try their best" or "deep down love their kid" etc. at least my "parents" taught me that
my "dad" abandoned me with my deeply disturbed "mom" for a year (until i contacted him to propose a way he could pay substantially less than he was for child support but still not have to let me live with him, lol) because i warned him i had to get to work & hung up on him yelling at me because i'd racked up long distance charges on the phone line he had to call me without having to talk to my mom even though i pointed out i couldn't pay him back if i lost my job 🤪 that dynamic hasn't ever really improved
there are too many examples with my "mom" to even begin 🙄 some people *really* shouldn't be able to procreate

[@velvetbees]

Resentment for a lifetime because I questioned things. It happens.

[@ContainedFire]

Honestly I gasped. It's hard imagine how damaged and lacking a mother must be to inflict such cruelty on her child. And for so long. Unbelievably sad and infuriating. I'm so very sorry you had to endure that and hope you're healing and living better now.