You Owe Them Nothing

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  • @lindafriesz955
    @lindafriesz955 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

    She's correct you owe them nothing because they would have gave everything to watch you collapse

    • @mikerawn3960
      @mikerawn3960 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@lindafriesz955 that’s what I don’t understand is why they want to see you collapse while they project their whatever onto you. I don’t understand that it’s so weird and so obvious, but they seem to be blind to what they’re doing.

  • @DeeBartlett-h9f
    @DeeBartlett-h9f 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    My goodness, you are so right. Your words were eloquent and went straight to my brain

  • @EnriqueMartiGonzalez-j7t
    @EnriqueMartiGonzalez-j7t 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +41

    Why I feel so identified with this message right now.Thank you

    • @mikerawn3960
      @mikerawn3960 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yas 👏

    • @ellenleonard2178
      @ellenleonard2178 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I needed to hear this today

  • @davidjthayer7417
    @davidjthayer7417 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Betrayed, abandoned and left for dead !
    I'm still here by the Mercy and Grace of God !!
    My Faith is non-negotiable !!!

  • @catorce9027
    @catorce9027 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Left me AND my kids for DEAD. But we are THRIVING!!!! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @murielglaphre8946
    @murielglaphre8946 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +34

    REMEMBER THIS!

  • @edwardmcgeary1706
    @edwardmcgeary1706 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    You bolster my strength.
    Thank you for the lovely words and thoughts.
    God Bless you.

  • @dantosinferne
    @dantosinferne 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +17

    i appreciate this message

  • @junedaylejelm-jelm3359
    @junedaylejelm-jelm3359 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    . Every word...so very well said....

  • @csh43166
    @csh43166 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Love this, Jill. It really hit my heart...

  • @isattamansaray5211
    @isattamansaray5211 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    My survival is my story, my triumphant, my hard hand victory.
    Let them wonder how I made it.
    Let them seat with the mystery of my resilient. I owe them nothing! AMEN!

  • @MomTube-i9w
    @MomTube-i9w 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Oceans of blessings y'all ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @HeartAliveToday
    @HeartAliveToday 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +48

    GREAT reminder. My abusers/abandon-ers constantly want to *know* about my life, like it's some kind of sitcom.

    • @Salutimondo
      @Salutimondo 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      Make your social media private as well. They'll be watching you. Be ruthless about who you allow to follow you/friend you as well as there will be Flying Monkeys amongst them who will report back. Delete as many people as you can from your social media accounts.

    • @mainerockflour3462
      @mainerockflour3462 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Tell them to go sniff somewhere else.

    • @kathc7218
      @kathc7218 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      They only want information to try to destroy you. Those poor pathetic insignificant losers with Thier boring little lives.

    • @janetpattison8474
      @janetpattison8474 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I guess I’m suspicious of everything a narcissist does. I don’t think I trust them in anyway. I think they always have a motive. I wonder if the desire for information about the survivors life is a subtle way of making someone vulnerable. Like the less that we share the stronger we can feel when it comes to a narcissist. Also, the narcissist wants to be trusted. They want to get a foot in the door so asking about my life or your life can be way of doing that.

  • @Sheri-sb1yr
    @Sheri-sb1yr 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I OWE THEM NOTHING. ABSOLUTELY CORRECT. I ACTUALLY OWE THEM LESS THAN NOTHING, FAR LESS THAN NOTHING.
    THAT IS MOST PEOPLE (98.6%) OF ALL I EVER ENCOUNTERED.

  • @hunterluxton5976
    @hunterluxton5976 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Every thing you say is so precise and true. You have such genuine insights about narcissism. I love your metaphores too. ❤

  • @pinjar.4353
    @pinjar.4353 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Perfect timing!❤ Thank you 😊😊

  • @ElizabethMuthoni-r6y
    @ElizabethMuthoni-r6y 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    They still try to destroy me at my lowest, poisoned me and monitor every part of my life.until today

    • @AP-uk1op
      @AP-uk1op 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Congratulations for getting away, we survived!

    • @MehdiKıyamet
      @MehdiKıyamet 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Mine tried to k’ ill me with a cookie when I was a toddler … that’s my trauma 😞she wanted an abortion but my father didn’t allow it (she told me she jumped from the stairs to force a mis’carriage) she was pure e’v!l . I cut her from every chance to contact me. I only visited her in her last 36 hours before she passed away(even then she acted like “she wanted to see a kind and merciful daughter ,poor me”)I didn’t SHOW HER ANY EMOTIONS in her last hours. Talked about random stuff. She asked me if I could stay longer with her but I refused and said “my kids 11 and 8 yo,are waiting I am going home “with a low voice. Next morning we rushed to the hospital she died at the moment when I spoke to her that I was here ,she heard my voice very well and it was like she was in great fear when she took her last breath … my aunt said later “your mother has bad news” my father said “I don’t believe that she is going to hell”. (We believe that she is in hell) She was so €v’l no wonder she goes to 🔥I will never ever forgive my mother for the last mean words she said to me. And that was “i never ever have wanted you and never loved you” and I don’t like your kids either” …that was the last evil thing not allowing that anymore…I cut everyone out of my life…. Very Relieving…. Serenity ❤Thank you Allah for your blessings 🤲❤️

    • @MehdiKıyamet
      @MehdiKıyamet 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Mine tried to k’ ill me with a cookie when I was a toddler … that’s my trauma 😞she wanted an abortion but my father didn’t allow it (she told me she jumped from the stairs to force a mis’carriage) she was pure e’v!l . I cut her from every chance to contact me. I only visited her in her last 36 hours before she passed away(even then she acted like “she wanted to see a kind and merciful daughter ,poor me”)I didn’t SHOW HER ANY EMOTIONS in her last hours. Talked about random stuff. She asked me if I could stay longer with her but I refused and said “my kids 11 and 8 yo,are waiting I am going home “with a low voice. Next morning we rushed to the hospital she died at the moment when I spoke to her that I was here ,she heard my voice very well and it was like she was in great fear when she took her last breath … my aunt said later “your mother has bad news” my father said “I don’t believe that she is going to hell”. (We believe that she is in hell) She was so €v’l no wonder she goes to 🔥I will never ever forgive my mother for the last mean words she said to me. And that was “i never ever have wanted you and never loved you” and I don’t like your kids either” …that was the last evil thing not allowing that anymore…I cut everyone out of my life…. Very Relieving…. Serenity ❤Thank you Allah for your blessings 🤲❤️

    • @MehdiKıyamet
      @MehdiKıyamet 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sorry for my English btw it is not my native language 😊

  • @maryannesaunders3189
    @maryannesaunders3189 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Note to self. Thank you!

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Thank you so much ma'am I love this message I'm moving forward

  • @kathc7218
    @kathc7218 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Do not let them drown you twice.Karma is up around the bend.Keep your dignity and live your life and be happy. Leave the garbage at the curb.

  • @TammyPowell-qd2oo
    @TammyPowell-qd2oo 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jamescobb1804
    @jamescobb1804 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yesgod youright amen 🙏 🙌 😊baby girl

  • @castieldiallo2945
    @castieldiallo2945 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Indeed.

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This You Are Absolutely Right. I Was Horribly Discarded Cruelly Trauma Bonded To A Narcissit For Over 9 Yrs.I Wanted To Give Up. I Currently Have 2 Months of No Contact...

  • @chestnutkay
    @chestnutkay 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This just made me cry - a sure sign that I really needed to hear this, now and on daily repeat. Thank you so much. x

  • @vanessas2363
    @vanessas2363 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    EXCELLENT VIDEO
    thank you ❤🇬🇧
    Not only was I drowning, the person was actively putting their foot on my head pushing me down every single time I made it up for air.
    Thank you.

  • @BellzKhan
    @BellzKhan 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Thank you so much for saying it so well…it gives me so much contentment….god bless you

  • @danarchambault8723
    @danarchambault8723 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Amen

  • @patriciapiper6294
    @patriciapiper6294 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Great advice. My ènemy is and always will be stupidity conning their way through life. Leaving a slimey trail. For me, I'm trusted. That's golden to me.

  • @DaivaForever-km9zu
    @DaivaForever-km9zu 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Thank you😢❤🎉

  • @kerribarclay5976
    @kerribarclay5976 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Thank you for this. ❤ All the power is mine to stay silent and champion my own heart and life and name. You're right, they question you not out of concern but to glean fodder for their gossip. It's sticky when they're toxic family members, but I can refuse to play their game and starve them. I hate this. 😢

    • @HeartAliveToday
      @HeartAliveToday 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      @@kerribarclay5976 Well said! ❣️

  • @keyonakelley6449
    @keyonakelley6449 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Amen 🙏 😢 preach sista

  • @lindamcwilliams9056
    @lindamcwilliams9056 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Amen!!

  • @4Mikes4Mindset4
    @4Mikes4Mindset4 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Thank You

  • @blu3fire243
    @blu3fire243 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    They will literally abandon you in the middle of the sea. I found the strength to swim back to shore, without them, and that let's me know that I don't need them in my life to survive & live a happy life.

  • @TheLawWon
    @TheLawWon 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    💥💯 🎯💥

  • @theholisticguy
    @theholisticguy 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I love this ❤ Thank you! 🙏

  • @jimtewarie7427
    @jimtewarie7427 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    🙏

  • @Amber-b3g
    @Amber-b3g 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    👏👏👏🙏🌺💜
    Thankyou Jill for validating no contact so strongly and succinctly 🌸

  • @teeyaquintana
    @teeyaquintana 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @AzizAli-y7k
    @AzizAli-y7k 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Wow!! Thank you so much for your post . I am speechless . Now I know what to tell those phony people .❤ god bless u

  • @ordered_saddle5
    @ordered_saddle5 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you, for saying this crystal clear.

  • @S.D.R.84
    @S.D.R.84 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @yvonnebrown3035
    @yvonnebrown3035 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    NOW DAT SAYING IT LIKE IT IS THANKS ❤🎉❤😊

  • @JFL1991
    @JFL1991 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    They made it worse and left me to drown

    • @kerribarclay5976
      @kerribarclay5976 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      It makes it all worse when the ones we turn to throw us under the bus, huh, and the reality of what they really think of us hits so hard. It helps me a lot to turn to these sites and see I'm not alone in my experience. I hope it helps you too. ❤ Stay strong.

  • @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp
    @GloriaGonzalez-zz4wp 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thank God I'm doing great there's no second time I don't want to moving forward and that's about the important thing

  • @lindafriesz955
    @lindafriesz955 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you. I was married for 38 years to a covert. Narcissist couldn't catch him having affairs on me, but I knew that he was be little by him 3 years ago in May. Almost he had an affair on me with a married woman. Had me falsely arrested the next day and remove from my home. One month later she broke up with him and he committed suicide. He left a suicide letter with my grandson. That is autistic. He was 22 years old at the time. He called me at my sister's house an hour away. My sister called him and I called the police. He was crying uncontrollably and said he done things. He can't come back from my oldest son called him. He told him the same thing and was crying so hard. Said he'd done things. He can't come back from that. He'd been a liar all of his life. The sea right before this during that month that I was gone, he started the divorce procedures was gonna take everything away from me. In the end, God vindi wanted to do was go home. And I prayed for God's vindication. In the end, he committed suicide because he couldn't face what people would think about him. His reputation meant more to himth. Everything that he tried to take woman that he had to fare with. Her and her husband shut up at my house. Wouldn't even talk to me and tried to run over my oldest son. After we told her what had happened, he left me with everything to deal with the funeral. The attorneys thank God he never turned in the paperwork for the Di. Vorce I had to go to probate court. Took me almost a year and a 1/2 to go through the deputy had. I had to take care of everything, but you know what? God has been good to me. God takes care of his own God. Bless any of you. They're going through this and if you're in a relationship with a narcissist run run, do not give them in the opportunity to destroy you. Cause he almost destroyed me.

  • @soniaprotea
    @soniaprotea 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Exactly 💯😂

  • @Jillrussell-mj4yw
    @Jillrussell-mj4yw 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thankyou Jill, I needed this gentle reminder ❤

  • @gbemelao
    @gbemelao 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I needed to hear this. This has refreshed me. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @jananabanana3180
    @jananabanana3180 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    That's called...." NUN- YA"!!!!!

  • @blankblank-mx7dx
    @blankblank-mx7dx 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    They have no right to share on the success Les of your life either. When you build a beautiful life without them don’t let them back in. They will act as if they want to share in the joy. They don’t. They want to look for weaknesses and vulnerabilities to exploit to tear your new life apart from the down. And if they can’t find any, they will begin working to crest them. They’re horrible creatures. Don’t ever let them back in. Ever.

  • @cocogomez2278
    @cocogomez2278 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Ive been drowning for years and I'm determined to get back up stronger. And you're right, they don't deserve any information.

  • @Okay.802
    @Okay.802 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for that, and God bless you!!!

  • @ryanrichards2089
    @ryanrichards2089 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yup! Amen!!

  • @sheldawigley6062
    @sheldawigley6062 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    There's a god am glad am not the only who feel the same way I owe him nothing.💯🙏I thank God everyday for giving me the strength and courage to away from the narcissist.

  • @williemaeboyd2966
    @williemaeboyd2966 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Indeed ❤

  • @Phillyphysi
    @Phillyphysi 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Excellent. Super❤

  • @GloriaWatkins-c2u
    @GloriaWatkins-c2u 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So many thank you your videos are pivotal inlightment

  • @brianf9615
    @brianf9615 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Exactly right!

  • @TheLawWon
    @TheLawWon 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Anyone who is being abused by a narcissist. At whatever the cost might be you need to pack up and leave. If you have children go to a protected shelter for women. Make a police report, get a restraining order.
    No matter what it costs just leave.
    Never ever let anyone destroy your precious life or the life of your children.
    Your life and that of your children is the most important thing you have.
    I'm a man and for years my narcissistic sociopath wife physically, emotionally and financially abused me and my children.
    The police and the Children's Aid helped me. I was so ashamed to tell anyone that my wife beat me with weapons, threw a 7 lb frying pan full of hot beef at me and the children when I was preparing taco dinner for them. She broke the TV converter over my head, she pushed a 45lb wrought iron and wicker 4 foot vase down stairs where I stood with my 3 year old son.
    I love my children and myself and I did what was necessary to protect the children an myself.
    My strength and love is in this comment for all of you who are going through this.
    💥⚘️💥

  • @kimforte85
    @kimforte85 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Well said❤❤

  • @ElizabethMuthoni-r6y
    @ElizabethMuthoni-r6y 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    They still coming for me

  • @JD5293
    @JD5293 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are amazing

  • @JennJones-q5d
    @JennJones-q5d 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Absolutely true ✌️💪⚖️🐐👑

  • @Hannah-eq5ff
    @Hannah-eq5ff 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is so true they do want to know details of the struggle they caused. I no longer give them details.

  • @smalljack2f0n0
    @smalljack2f0n0 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Over and over again they did it. So,Dear God pulled me away from them and Thank Goodness for that.❤

  • @Mary-fl2eq
    @Mary-fl2eq 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much

  • @yougotgroove
    @yougotgroove 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Your right

  • @tcone441
    @tcone441 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Amen Thank You NO Truer Words Spoken.

  • @JuliannaOdubela
    @JuliannaOdubela 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you sister. ....You spoke my mind, l appreciate your insights and support God bless you always AMEN 🙏

  • @QTeaTee
    @QTeaTee 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    🔥🔥🔥

  • @StoryTimeWithNonna
    @StoryTimeWithNonna 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you !!! I definitely needed to hear this message.

  • @Rom109-kg7lg
    @Rom109-kg7lg 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    😭

  • @nightfox6457
    @nightfox6457 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    ...thank you for saying this! 🖤👽👿🧙👻👻👻

  • @belight6280
    @belight6280 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    🎉

  • @micksontheroad
    @micksontheroad 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So eloquently put. 👏

  • @suzannerichardson3208
    @suzannerichardson3208 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My mother sent me to Hawaii to stay with relatives. I almost drowned at the beach. I was too young to be gone for a long time without supervision. My cousins were teenagers and they were having a love affair one summer. My mother probably had a bunch of drunken, wild parties while I was gone. She disinherited me and I Don t even know why. She never said she hated me but I think she did. She was jealous cuz my step Dad (my Dad) was crazy about me and it made her jealous! I M sure - he was MY DAD! The women in my family, my mother, sister, my nieces are deeply disturbed and my sister is doing silent treatment to me but I d hate to hear from her. She can dish it out but she can t take it!

  • @RockonMarketingTV
    @RockonMarketingTV 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are always 💯. Well 99%. ❤

  • @LisaS1
    @LisaS1 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Awesome words! Thanks!

  • @Might-l5m
    @Might-l5m 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Absolutely correct

  • @ellenleonard2178
    @ellenleonard2178 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wow,finally someone understands

  • @Mark-f9q5d
    @Mark-f9q5d 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You are right amen 💯🙏

  • @chris9527
    @chris9527 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I don’t even know if I will survive I’m sorry broken I should have never answered the Hoover now I’m back to climbing out of a hole alone. I hate her

    • @jamesjirik2245
      @jamesjirik2245 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      You got this. 😊

    • @Salutimondo
      @Salutimondo 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You're now much stronger to move onwards and upwards and importantly you recognise their behaviour for what it was. You can do it

  • @EricGesling
    @EricGesling 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very good analogy

  • @maxinesimonelli7383
    @maxinesimonelli7383 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm stronger than ever

  • @reneegriffin-mk6hh
    @reneegriffin-mk6hh 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Too bad they stalk. But the continued abuse gives them more struggling to watch and make fun of.

  • @sukim6083
    @sukim6083 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It true 100%.

  • @melittaanca8993
    @melittaanca8993 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    awesome thoughts! well put! ❤

  • @heathenbreathinfire
    @heathenbreathinfire 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Right, when you get thrown to the Sharks, you don't owe any explanation to how you swam to safety alone...

  • @katherineretamar982
    @katherineretamar982 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yes

  • @deborahehrhardt
    @deborahehrhardt 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    No right to know amen ✝️✝️✝️✝️✝️💘💙✝️✝️✝️💘💘

  • @courtneynelson6421
    @courtneynelson6421 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yup.

  • @dennislloyd3799
    @dennislloyd3799 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    She is 100% right lm a 68 yr old my NPD wife left me while l was at work she took most. Of the furniture l have idea why

  • @jamesirving8841
    @jamesirving8841 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    AMEN AND AMEN

  • @emmabrowne7946
    @emmabrowne7946 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thanks

  • @LouiseHurd
    @LouiseHurd 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    True

  • @janetpattison8474
    @janetpattison8474 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Great video!

  • @shawn1995.
    @shawn1995. 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You're Gorgeous as usual Darling. Thank you, Love from NJ

  • @carriekelly3065
    @carriekelly3065 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    They don't even want to know.