Great video clip,,, I went through word for word of what was said in this video clip.... amazing it's as though they study from the same text book on being a narcissistic lowlife!
They always expose themselves in due time. One thing I've noticed with the female narcs I dealt with was that all of them pretended to be Christians, yet their actions confirmed otherwise 😒
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
I was with her for 20 years, she had me fooled for 20 years. Her behavior was very sneaky, I prayed to God at the beginning of 2023 to expose her no matter how much it hurt. I discovered that she was lying, cheating, deceitful, and poisoning my food. God delivered me from her and Im forever grateful.
It was definitely God! Only HE can deliver us from these evil monsters…
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Brother, in May i had a harsh and bad feeling about my ex narc gf. One night while i was at my own apartment, i prayed to god to take her away from me if she is not right for me, if she betrayed or cheated on me. 2 DAYS LATER, i find out she did all of the above. Had me fooled for 5 years. From the beginning till the end. It was all fake. It was GOD, for real. He listens to us in our darkest moments.
No, they only get more miserable with age. Only a wealthy narc can buy " supply" to temporarily distract them fom misery. Monkey in a toxedo is still a monkey!
It was bad for them from the start. It just gets worse. Emptiness with a hole at the bottom, in one way or the other, is always at the core of High Narcissism or Narcissist Personality Disorder. Prolonged emptiness, seems to just eat at the soul in an unforgiving manner. Regarding karma, this means they will always feel worse that the pain they cause, because their actions push away what is REALLY sought. I'm not happy to know this. Somehow, society (we all) has to begin to end it, as that suffering will lead to worse & worse & worse. Where does it stop? Maybe on us enjoying seeing someone in pain? That's a little disturbing when you just look at that snapshot in time.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on , I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
It took me 14 years to catch my narcissistic wife. Of course, I didn’t know she was a narcissist back then. I didn’t even know what narcissism was. A part of me always knew that she wasn’t faithful to me. It was just that whenever I voiced my concerns or asked for some reassurance, there was hell to pay. She put me through a mental gauntlet of feigned outrage, moral indignation, gaslighting, and flipping reality on its head in order to make me the bad guy. She repeatedly set what little progress I had made in trying to have a good relationship with her, back to square one. She exploited my deepest desires-to have a good marriage and to keep our family together, by always keeping one foot out the door and threatening to leave. So, I learned to carefully pick my battles…. and worse. I learned to put the blinders on and to pretend that she wasn’t up to no good. I also learned to convince myself that I was the problem. And then one day, while she was at work, I decided to clean out the car. She had a nasty habit of treating the backseat like a dumpster. As I stuffed empty wrappers, bottles, and cups into a trash bag, I found an envelope with her name on it. Thinking it might be important, I decided to look at its contents before I threw it away. It was a letter from some guy who was clearly in love with her. He expressed how he wanted more from her than their secret rendezvous. There was no mistaking what he meant. Even though my heart was crushed, I regained my power in the very next moment. I drove to where she worked, and I angrily approached her. Her eyes fell on the letter in my hand, and her shoulders slumped in silent defeat. She quietly said, “I can’t talk right now, but I’ll be home in an hour.” “Good!” I replied. “I’ll be waiting!” Then I turned on my heel and stormed out the door. Now that the cat was out of the bag, she admitted the entire affair-including all the places where they would meet up. As difficult as that was to hear, I stood by, ready to forgive her. I was well-practiced in starting over from square one, and I eagerly waited for the opportunity to roll up my sleeves and to get to work. But she played the wounded victim as convincingly as Amber Heard, and she asked me to wait for two days while she decided what she should do. Of course, I said yes. Even though I had been married to her for 14 years, I still had no idea what I was dealing with. In the midst of that painful discussion, she was plotting her next move. It turned out that she needed two days to think because that’s when her boyfriend would return from his business trip. She wanted to be in a relationship with him, but when he refused to leave his wife for her, she decided to stay married to me. Of course, I didn’t know any of this at the time. I only knew that after two days, she decided to stay. Being the eternal optimist that I am, I saw this as an opportunity for a brand new start, and I convinced myself that we were finally going to have a good marriage. But she didn’t share my optimism, and it was obvious that her heart wasn’t in her decision to stay. We suffered together for another 2 weeks when she blamed me for her affair. That’s when I finally threw in the towel. We divorced on friendly terms, and we made all our own arrangements for custody and child support. We only needed a lawyer to draft and file the appropriate documents. The laws have changed since those days, and you can’t do that kind of stuff anymore. Anyway, during our many conversations to dissolve our marriage, she admitted lots of things that I didn’t know about-including the fact that she was never faithful to me. If I had understood narcissism back then, I would have handled things differently. I wouldn’t have put up with her mental abuse, and I would have left her years earlier. Catching a cheating narcissist can be difficult, and understanding local laws regarding what you can and cannot do may be even more challenging. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to handle the investigation for you. I genuinely appreciate your incredible work! Thank you for a job well done, Metaspyhub@gmail. com.
thanks fro sharing. Unfortunately the Courts 9n the western world do not protect good fathers & the children from mothers who are narcissists or have BPD. It is a very difficult trap to escaper from without losing your kids (whom she will aim to turn against the father) and your house and have to payout big time for years. Thanks to feminist based laws untold numbers of fathers are being treated like slaves to mothers with mental disorders, whose numbers are definitely on the rise.
My wife cheated and caught 3 stds, 2 a perm's. so at 45 her options are very limited now. I avoided them because when I stopped trusting her I stopped smashing her taco. I had collected evidence for close on 2 years, msgs, emails, DM's & video which I will deliver at the time of my choosing, she has a lot of pain coming her way. She was having an affair with her boss and her bosses mate so I emailed their wives the DM's, screen shots and I think they are both going through a divorce now. I have a prenup with my wife but I do not think the courts are functioning correctly so I will wait until Trump straightens out the BAR. My boy is 14 so I have 4 more years until my legal responsibilities end, at the moment he has access to a Mum & Dad. I just dont talk to her at all or respond to any provacations so I have my peace.
So, you've met my mother... Thank you so much for this video. It above all makes my experiences real and makes me feel seen and heard. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I grew up with a mother this way. She destroyed our family and then tried to destroy me. She convinced my wife that living on their land would be great. Then I got in a debate with the Golden child, my sister, and my mother demanded I leave. While I was in Stage 4 kidney failure. My wife, my daughter and I left. My mother attempted to keep my wife and daughter there, and leave me for dead. Literally, at my most weakest. That's my mother's calling card. When you're weakest, she bails.
Bro, think about her perception of herself, she knows she is useless, she also knows she will not improve, at least in her delusional logic, so she tries tooth and nails to hide herself from her loved ones, because she doesn't want them to hate her or leave her. But she will never admit that. Because she is scared for her life that if you find out some flaw of her, she will abandoned and then she will literally 💀die. But in reality you really love her despite of all her flaws and will probably never leave her alone. The truth is she is lazy and selfish. But she makes the situation worse by all her drama trying to hide that. She is mentally ill, she needs isolation and forced psychiatric treatment for her own good. It's like a 5 year old roleplaying, she is always right and beautiful and rest of the world only acts according to her plan, sad but 🤣 what can I say.
Worst experience of my life. I was engaged to one of these demons. She was an ex major in the US Army. Lucky for me, I had made a good life for myself and had the means to get away when I did. Love bombing in the beginning, then the devaluing and finally the discard. It's been 2 years now and it was very difficult to get through the betrayal and the understanding of her 180 degree turn. She tried to destroy my life and came close to sending off the deep end mentally. But, Christ kept me and helped me rebuild to a peaceful and unbothered way of living. However, you never really truly get over the experience. I am built for survival and I am great now. You just have to have the will to overcome!
Wow, I just escaped a similar thing. I'm a guy who thinks he has a strong mind. She love bombed me in the beginning and I thought wow this is it, the real thing. Then bam found out about other people she was messaging online and grooming her neighbour with texts. I was anxious for months after confrontation and it's scarred me for life I think. I never realised that people could be so evil, deliberately. Wtf!!
Sorry to hear your stories. I really feel 4 those guys out there that have low self-esteem and hook up with one of these witches. You need to be a confident, strong person to win that battle
Brother, thank you for this encouragement. If you scroll up, you will see a small part of my story. I was bitter at the Lord for allowing me to go through this for 24 years. In some ways, I still am. I'm seeing a Christian therapist who's helping me pick up the pieces. I just needed to hear that Jesus brought someone through the other side of this.
@Ljohn302 It's not for us to understand. That's why it's called faith. Unfortunately, there are some of us who will go through suffering in order to be a testimony for others. Remember that we are flesh now, so our suffering will be rewarded in His time. It might be in this life or in the afterlife in His kingdom. All glory is for Christ, not for us. You must be willing to go down in flames for Him if necessary. Trust me. He sees all and knows all. He will not leave you so keep praying and fighting. Read the biblical story of Job. Stay strong, brother!!!
Excellent video. It gave me chills. My mother. Especially the using gifts as a way of control. These female ones are really something.. Exasperating. So scheming and plotting! ❤🇬🇧
my younger sister is like this. I remember she crashed into my car in high school and didn't apologize or care about the fact that she hit my car. She only cared about her car. I found it really weird at the time but just dismissed it. I tried to see it from her perspective, because maybe she was really worked up over her car being scratched, so I tried to be understanding. But then as we got older I noticed more and more weird controlling behaviors, like trying to get me to help doing her projects, but not really respecting the amount of time and energy that I was putting into it for her, or tryin to pass off junk she didn't want on me, even though I had no use for it. Like she forced on me all of these cooking trays and got condescending when I told her I didn't need them. It was like she thought I should just be her garbage disposal and take on her garbage for her. Then as we got older I realized a pattern where she was rolling her eyes at me from the side, just within view of me, and would affirm me in sarcastic ways, like trying to make me seem like a stupid idiot to be dismissed and not taken seriously. It took a while to accept it, but under the kind loving facade was really a deeply controlling, condescending, selfish and mean person.
@@haitiqueen0119 There are a lot of issues in my family. She doesn't invite me over anymore (which is fine by me because her husband is disrespectful toward me) but there is no overt break in the relationship. More passive aggression. Definitely growing apart .
@SlumberBear2k I see, sounds no different than my situation and a sister of mine. I've stopped talking to mine after she's engaged with someone who did not have the best intentions for me, my sister volunteered information with someone who she clearly saw was looking to destroy me. It was then I've officially parted ways with this sister, we haven't spoken in 5 years. I have zero desire to reconcile also.
Spot on thank you! Being 2 faced is a behavior. The DSM can add it to assertiveness, aggressiveness, Passive, and passive aggressions. It is almost like they go into different people and forget what they say and do in these episodes.
Multiple Personality Disorder was the ametuer diagnosis before Narcissistic awareness became a thing. I used to simply call them lying,cheating a-holes. If you can tolerate Melanie Tonia Evans' voice, she can really help with understanding the quantum mechanics of life. We attract them to us like a moth to a flame. Like a tick to a dog.
There is a listlessness in their eyes. And if you carefully tune in to their voice, it is hollow. There's just nothing there. I really appreciated all we got to learn in this video. So spot on and so helpful.
Omg- you’re so spot on. Every line item is frighteningly accurate, almost like they’re operating from the same playbook. Also, while confirmation to this degree accompanies some relief, there’s a large part of me that wishes I’d paid more attention to the red flags and abusive behaviors I was constantly encountering. I gave pass after pass, constantly altering my own behaviors and boundaries to avoid conflict, and in the end it’s hard to quantify how much of my identity and sense of self eroded away to nothing. Do you ever get that back??
You are referring to the insidious and sneaky behavior patterns of the covert female narcassist as opposed to the overt grandiose narcassist. All of what you describe is spot on.
Hey - when did you meet my mother? You’re describing her exactly. Very sad that her narcissism is making it impossible for me to be around her in her final years, but I’m so happy to now know what kind of succubus I have been dealing with
@theenlightenedtarget no thank you! Tank you so much !You can't even imagine how many people lives are being saved by this. And personally I thank you for making it 100% clear now who i have dealt with,i thought she was melignent because of her unbelievable anger just anger at its worst! But after this video i am now convinced she is a cover narcissist.Jill this is for you, I admire people who have experienced in life what you have experienced and then work on it in a positive way and put bread on the table at home! Respect!,and I know almost all experts and professionals practices and specialties on Narcissism online but you are number 1 specialist for me on this topic! I mean it! And for me, to say that says a lot. Because I also learn from the Narcissists them selfs like Sam Vaknin ezv. Complimenten Jill you know your well! Kind regards, Karen
Hi Jill, I would like to join the course soon and want to ask you I live in Europe in Holland to be precise my question is do you think the problem is or could be to join the course to participate. Thanks in advance Karén
I just got out of a toxic relationship today. I’m American, she is from Chile. I’m a super empath and this may have cost me a great deal of time and money staying with her for 6 months, I’m blessed to have seen her truths through the lens of an angel. I almost moved to Chile!!! No contact and removed all social media and I haven’t had this level of peace since I met her.
wow! This is the most enlightening explanation of FN I have ever heard. Everyone, please share this video and get it out to the masses -the sooner the better. It is going to save a lot of lives.
Mothers are the worst. Relationships are bad but usually you can get out of those. Mothers start conditioning before we know anything about the world and will never let go of that need for control and dominance. My mother drove 3 states away just to drive by my house. Restraining orders don't mean a damn thing to these people. Every boundary is seen as a challenge, and they actually believe they're smarter than everyone.
Great video and helpful! I used to have a narcissistic friend in my life, and when I exposed their true nature, they left my life. Thank you for making this video, it helped me understand behaviors I didn't realize before."
You completely described the mother of someone I knew. The person i knew was the golden child and being groomed to be a narc just like its mother. The mother did everything you mention here and definitely targeted me for psychological abuse and encouraged its demonic offspring to do the same. They all use the same playbook. Once you know that playbook, its easy to ID them and go no contact.
Lived this for over a decade. Didnt learn about clinical Narcissists until after I escaped...Nightmare 80% over. True freedon not yet achieved but in time hopefully...
This video is my 52-year-old niece, who is no longer in my life, thank God. She sent me photos of her beautiful home, she sent me pictures of financial papers showing me how much money her business makes in one day, she sent me emails that start out with her writing "What have I done for other people today?" and she lists everything. At the same time, she NEVER called me when she previously stated she would. She made me feel like I was so far at the bottom of her list of priorities, that I wasn't even ON the list. She called me once at 5:15 in the morning when she knew I had Covid, as that was the only convenient time for her to call. When I told her I don't like being woken up at that time, especially when I am so sick, she got mad and dumped me. She also used to call me at 7:00 a.m. on her way to work, and got mad when I didn't like that, either. She said she calls everyone on her way to work and said that no one else has a problem with it, so I shouldn't, either. I am 72, twenty years older than she is, and I don't have the stamina I used to have. She went overboard in constantly writing that she loves me "sooooo much!", but never once backed it up with any kind of action. She said that's her "love language". She said she thinks that words are more important than actions. (Just tell people you love them, that way you don't have to ever give them the time of day.) When she told me that she won't be reading any more of my emails because she doesn't have time to, and won't even read the one I had just sent her, I decided I won't write her anymore, since she had just told me she won't read any more of my emails. But she continued to write more emails to me, bragging about all the things she does for others, and sends me quotes from many people that put me down and justify herself and her behavior. So I wrote back to her and I told her I won't be reading those emails, since she had already told me that she won't be reading mine. And I didn't hear from her again. She thinks that everyone should cater to her. I am so glad she isn't in my life anymore. I feel so free. People like this don't have a right to be in your life, constantly causing you misery. Get rid of them and go NO CONTACT! You will be much happier. Best wishes to everyone out there. ❤
My whole family 🤭 they would MELT if people really knew them! Sadly I remember alot more than id like an can recall most the things they’ve done towards me an some other people.
Well done Jill. A highly accurate and very well articulated explanation of very difficult character type. It took me more than 2 decades to sniff out what was going on and still, whilst knowing my research and instinct are correct, I still struggle with accepting it . ! Their behaviour is so unnecessary ! Keep up the good work 👌👏🏴
My daughter in law has total control over my ex military son who has ptsd after 20 years in the military. I put up with her verbal and emotional abuse for 16 years until she nearly physically abused me. I knew she’d demand my son have no contact with me forever. She also acts extremely religious and quotes the Bible to evade accountability. She has so many dramatic outbursts and is exhausting. All my son’s money goes to making her look beautiful and traveling ( by herself ). She lost their beautiful home due to this. She shouts commands and requires everyone to focus on her. I’m heartbroken. She’s punishing me in the worst way because I finally stood up to her. My poor son 💔
Great video. I'm lucky I didn't fall into her web. I was close. If i had more money or possessions, she would have used me as supply. What a year 2024 has been. Thanks for the info. Spot on. Poor woman, i hope she heals. She knows things are messed up within. I hope she finds a path to healing.
This descibes my ex to a tee. I left her and I let her go be with the other guy or the guy she thought was better than me. Now I am hearing that she is stalking me. Why is she stalking me or want me back???
She doesn`t want you back because love or something like that. She realised her new toy is not a good supply as u were, so she wants another run on you. To suck ur energy and life out of you again. About the stalking, all of them are stalking, even after 10-20 years. They want to know if they destroyed u for good or if u are happy and u got away.
@danidani1609 You are so right but I think she had it all wrong about me. I am a whole lot stronger and smarter than she thought I was and she is going to be in forever regret.
@@Joker187-m3v You don`t have to give any energy to that person. Try to take back your energy! Try to practice mindfulness and to be the guardian of your thoughts. Whenever you think about her (what she`s doing, with whom she is now, blah blah), observe this ruminating and say STOP to those thoughts. And then think about your plans for the future: health goals, career goals, self improvement and so on... Put your energy into your own goals and don`t give her energy anymore, not even by thought. Take care, brother!
It was four years before I discovered that she was living three different lives. The more I researched the worse it got, I just couldn't believe what I found. It cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars to finally get rid of her She still hoovers after six years. I ignore them, but it's really trying.
As an “also” wounded member of a relationship, it wasn’t until I was served divorce papers and got out of the house before I started putting pieces together like this. I’ve been working on myself, if you’re a labels person I’m sort of an anxious attachment, co-dependent type, for a long time. My 25yr marriage starting at a young age only added to my confusion as I hadn’t yet learned me. So if, as I’m implying, this video describes my ex, I had a ton of confusion about the relationship and blamed myself for everything. Well I’m not now simply blaming her to heal, no way. I missed and failed a lot of opportunities. What I see however is that as I’ve gotten better her issues came to the surface. And in so happening she became the victim even more and is now using that and anger to fuel herself out/away from her responsibilities. All of it, all the brokenness is sad. There’s no need to crash and burn, there’s no need to deny that long history of the good it had too, just to be the victim or not responsible for the failure. If healing is gluing things back together then it’s important to align things properly. I accept where I did damage because of my actions (words, wrong emotions, poor partner) and she continues to cast blame. I know I’m healing but I don’t think she is. My heart still cares for her, but it’s no longer under her spell. I hope for her healing, but my focus has moved from that relationship to the one I should have had first with me. Praying for y’all today! Thank you for what you do Jill!
@ indeed it is a significant effort to heal and grow. That’s why victory tastes as good as it does, and limitations are now merely cognitive and not limbic. Every chapter gets better, yet for those who lack the fortitude it is indeed “unlikely” as you say. As an adult, it’s now your/our decision. I hope you find the healing you need brother. It’s likely you can, until you decide otherwise.
Thanks. That actually pin points what my oldest brother and i knew all along and saw right through it. Unfortunately they are always known to others as the "Matriarch" , of course my brother and i have a different name for it.
True. It also makes me feel sorry for the guy before me. I knew him, he was a decent fellow and I never intended to hurt him but obviously she told me they were separated back then when, as I know now, they weren't. Just like it's been happening to me now. These people are so messed up.
My mom has a different way of dealing with those who expose her… Myself, she uses perjury along with victimhood declarations and uses the judicial system to silence me through restraining orders
I broke up with my narc x a month later having sex i asked her "what are we doing?" She said creating soul ties" 😈 that really killed the mood ...when she said it her eyes were black and huge ....her i am today 2 months later still stuck. Its disgusting.
We all know someone, or more then one of these awful people .How someone looks and what they own ,does not in anyway mean that they are good people. Nor does it mean that you want them in your life. Be very careful with choosing what empresses you. It could save you a lot of heartache.
Yup, all true. In my experience the person just pours it on more and more (as the Queen Bee and carefully crafted image) so much that I'm in disbelief how gullible the flying monkeys are who fall for it. Such a narcissist is like a sociopath who is trying their hardest to give the illusion they aren't. Nuts!
My friend ( more like sister to me) never acknowledged any form of communication- always ignored. Avoided talks; ghosted me; did breadcrumbing. Disappeared and reappeared after two months of no contact. She is sensitive to criticism. Exhibited passive aggression. Kept ignoring me in front of others. Puts up very good face in front of her social community. Is this avoidant attachment or is this narcissist behavior? I no longer take any initiative to call or text.
My experience of narcissism was with my husband who is exactly as u describe the covert female narcs but he is also a psychopath and tried to covertly poison me by putting all sorts of drugs into my drinking water bottle and food. He found things that were tasteless usually but one day i tasted something strange and then found evidence around the house that showed what he was doing. I was so sick and cdnt understand what was going on at the time. Many days 3 or 4 x weekly i would vomit usually about 17 times over an hour and wonder what on earth was wrong with me. Luckily i vomited as it took a lot of it out of my body. Otherwise, i probably would be dead by now. I knew i had to leave but cdnt manage it straight away as i have pets and didn't want to leave them with him and a lot of things to organize. I watched very carefully what went into my body and hey presto all the vomitting and bleeding from my intestines stopped. Then one day i was cooking something, i went away for a cpl of seconds and came back to find him putting crushed pills into the pot. Such a worm. He would come up and stroke my cheek and say how much he loved me, to disarm me - then poison me and make me extremely sick in the evening. This is, I'm sure just as possible from a female with psychopathic tendencies. U never know quite how much their feelings of entitlement and manipulation will take them. Keep safe people and God bless you. Thank u so much Jill for your succinct and accurate information. ❤❤❤❤
You describe ' my ' narcissist , the one that vaccinated me against narcissists in general , to a T. 12 minutes of well formulated information condensed into one single video. As usual.
I know her every move too ...3 days after we first broke her pastor told me she takes no accountability i searched for a meme on accountability and the first thing that popped up was narcissist....and i been reading watching narc awareness videos every day ...tried no contact blocking ...and she manages to come back ...were broken up now for e days today she calls me with "babe i miss you i love you" and yup again lets see what 2marro brings
Thank you. So, I have fallen in love with a narcissist. I do not use the term lightly, and I am introspective. I know that inside, there is a special person, afraid to come out because of childhood traumas. Are there ways to break the narcissistic cacoon and let the butterfly come out?
Not in my opinion, k have never seen that happen. If you’re involved with an NPD narcissist, you should cut your losses and get away. The longer you stay, the worse things will get, including your confusion and the strength of the trauma bond.
My ex GF. She had “the gift of caring” said her spoiled daughter. She helped everyone else but me, her partner. Only I knew her for whom she was. No one would believe me if I revealed her authentic self and I’d wager, they’d assume I was being hateful. She wasn’t feigning naivety, she was pugnacious with me. We fought because I didn’t back down like men often do. She was bereft of empathy for me and I grew weary of her manipulation and silent treatment. How about biting sarcasm and backhanded comments? Ugh. I didn’t trust her and so i left her. How do they become narcissists?
My ex wife, her levels of incompetence and stupidity is beyond reproach. She is relentlessly dishonest and two faced. Manipulative and deceptive, I fear for my son being exposed. Minimizing and dismissive kuhn.
I shoulda known when she wanted to see the movie Maleficent 1, and said it was her favorite movie - that whole movie details the destruction that a woman can cause others if she is wronged in the past - my X had alot of complex trauma as a youth. I think Maleficent is a perfect archetype for the female narcissist. I should have known long before that movie came out. I damn the day that I ever met her. She was also a type 1 enneagram and yes - a born again (so-called) Christian... 😮
If and only if the victim finds out about the narcissist would the victim would be in dangerment of there life and how to end the relationship with out them knowing about that they are a narcissist for your own safety
The gift or gifts that she may give to you and and you got to think did she stole that from some were and you maybe the one that has the stolen items as she gets off Scott free
My mom was able to command attention by taking away my $2 million of inheritance that my grandparents gave to her… She’s going to skip over me, her son and now this is all up for grabs to the next generation of three grandchildren plus my ex-girlfriend and my mom‘s tenant… She’s trying to create a romance between those two because she has a romantic author.
Genesis 3:1 KJV - Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? Serpent- Greeks strongs 3789(through the idea of sharpness of vision); a snake, figuratively, (as a type of sly cunning) an artful malicious person, especially Satan -- serpent. malicious-characterized by malice; intending or intended to do harm. The serpent is a person or persons.
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Great video clip,,, I went through word for word of what was said in this video clip.... amazing it's as though they study from the same text book on being a narcissistic lowlife!
They always expose themselves in due time. One thing I've noticed with the female narcs I dealt with was that all of them pretended to be Christians, yet their actions confirmed otherwise 😒
Thank you 🙏🏾amen I swear
Yes yes yes. I can confirm this 100 percent. They shamelessly use the Church as a covert for their immoral conduct.
My own covert narc daughter has two Bible verses on her Instagram account.
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Yes this is the way they try to hide their true self.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
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I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
I was with her for 20 years, she had me fooled for 20 years. Her behavior was very sneaky, I prayed to God at the beginning of 2023 to expose her no matter how much it hurt. I discovered that she was lying, cheating, deceitful, and poisoning my food. God delivered me from her and Im forever grateful.
May I have her initials?
Oh yes, you were definitely married to a narcissist. Poisoning your food?? I hope she's in jail now!
It was definitely God! Only HE can deliver us from these evil monsters…
Brother, in May i had a harsh and bad feeling about my ex narc gf. One night while i was at my own apartment, i prayed to god to take her away from me if she is not right for me, if she betrayed or cheated on me. 2 DAYS LATER, i find out she did all of the above. Had me fooled for 5 years. From the beginning till the end. It was all fake.
It was GOD, for real. He listens to us in our darkest moments.
Same here. 20 years and I'm just seeing she's text book. I'm bearly functioning trying to survive.
Has anyone ever seen a happy narcissist in older age? No. Karma has already shipped and on its way.
No, they only get more miserable with age. Only a wealthy narc can buy
" supply" to temporarily distract them fom misery. Monkey in a toxedo is still a monkey!
It was bad for them from the start. It just gets worse. Emptiness with a hole at the bottom, in one way or the other, is always at the core of High Narcissism or Narcissist Personality Disorder. Prolonged emptiness, seems to just eat at the soul in an unforgiving manner. Regarding karma, this means they will always feel worse that the pain they cause, because their actions push away what is REALLY sought. I'm not happy to know this. Somehow, society (we all) has to begin to end it, as that suffering will lead to worse & worse & worse. Where does it stop? Maybe on us enjoying seeing someone in pain? That's a little disturbing when you just look at that snapshot in time.
The feeling you get is they never stop at one thing or another. There a constant parasitic creature that can't stop wanting from you.
That will suck the live out of you...
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on , I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.
It took me 14 years to catch my narcissistic wife. Of course, I didn’t know she was a narcissist back then. I didn’t even know what narcissism was. A part of me always knew that she wasn’t faithful to me. It was just that whenever I voiced my concerns or asked for some reassurance, there was hell to pay. She put me through a mental gauntlet of feigned outrage, moral indignation, gaslighting, and flipping reality on its head in order to make me the bad guy. She repeatedly set what little progress I had made in trying to have a good relationship with her, back to square one. She exploited my deepest desires-to have a good marriage and to keep our family together, by always keeping one foot out the door and threatening to leave. So, I learned to carefully pick my battles…. and worse. I learned to put the blinders on and to pretend that she wasn’t up to no good. I also learned to convince myself that I was the problem. And then one day, while she was at work, I decided to clean out the car. She had a nasty habit of treating the backseat like a dumpster. As I stuffed empty wrappers, bottles, and cups into a trash bag, I found an envelope with her name on it.
Thinking it might be important, I decided to look at its contents before I threw it away. It was a letter from some guy who was clearly in love with her. He expressed how he wanted more from her than their secret rendezvous. There was no mistaking what he meant. Even though my heart was crushed, I regained my power in the very next moment. I drove to where she worked, and I angrily approached her. Her eyes fell on the letter in my hand, and her shoulders slumped in silent defeat. She quietly said, “I can’t talk right now, but I’ll be home in an hour.” “Good!” I replied. “I’ll be waiting!” Then I turned on my heel and stormed out the door. Now that the cat was out of the bag, she admitted the entire affair-including all the places where they would meet up. As difficult as that was to hear, I stood by, ready to forgive her. I was well-practiced in starting over from square one, and I eagerly waited for the opportunity to roll up my sleeves and to get to work. But she played the wounded victim as convincingly as Amber Heard, and she asked me to wait for two days while she decided what she should do. Of course, I said yes.
Even though I had been married to her for 14 years, I still had no idea what I was dealing with. In the midst of that painful discussion, she was plotting her next move. It turned out that she needed two days to think because that’s when her boyfriend would return from his business trip. She wanted to be in a relationship with him, but when he refused to leave his wife for her, she decided to stay married to me. Of course, I didn’t know any of this at the time. I only knew that after two days, she decided to stay. Being the eternal optimist that I am, I saw this as an opportunity for a brand new start, and I convinced myself that we were finally going to have a good marriage. But she didn’t share my optimism, and it was obvious that her heart wasn’t in her decision to stay. We suffered together for another 2 weeks when she blamed me for her affair. That’s when I finally threw in the towel. We divorced on friendly terms, and we made all our own arrangements for custody and child support. We only needed a lawyer to draft and file the appropriate documents. The laws have changed since those days, and you can’t do that kind of stuff anymore. Anyway, during our many conversations to dissolve our marriage, she admitted lots of things that I didn’t know about-including the fact that she was never faithful to me. If I had understood narcissism back then, I would have handled things differently. I wouldn’t have put up with her mental abuse, and I would have left her years earlier.
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thanks fro sharing. Unfortunately the Courts 9n the western world do not protect good fathers & the children from mothers who are narcissists or have BPD. It is a very difficult trap to escaper from without losing your kids (whom she will aim to turn against the father) and your house and have to payout big time for years. Thanks to feminist based laws untold numbers of fathers are being treated like slaves to mothers with mental disorders, whose numbers are definitely on the rise.
My wife cheated and caught 3 stds, 2 a perm's. so at 45 her options are very limited now. I avoided them because when I stopped trusting her I stopped smashing her taco. I had collected evidence for close on 2 years, msgs, emails, DM's & video which I will deliver at the time of my choosing, she has a lot of pain coming her way. She was having an affair with her boss and her bosses mate so I emailed their wives the DM's, screen shots and I think they are both going through a divorce now. I have a prenup with my wife but I do not think the courts are functioning correctly so I will wait until Trump straightens out the BAR. My boy is 14 so I have 4 more years until my legal responsibilities end, at the moment he has access to a Mum & Dad. I just dont talk to her at all or respond to any provacations so I have my peace.
That is why the narcissist married woman I knew went undiscovered for a long time! I discovered that she slept with tens of men! I’m not her husband
Good u are free of it now!
So, you've met my mother... Thank you so much for this video. It above all makes my experiences real and makes me feel seen and heard. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
I grew up with a mother this way. She destroyed our family and then tried to destroy me. She convinced my wife that living on their land would be great. Then I got in a debate with the Golden child, my sister, and my mother demanded I leave. While I was in Stage 4 kidney failure. My wife, my daughter and I left. My mother attempted to keep my wife and daughter there, and leave me for dead. Literally, at my most weakest. That's my mother's calling card. When you're weakest, she bails.
Are your kidneys OK now?
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Bro, think about her perception of herself, she knows she is useless, she also knows she will not improve, at least in her delusional logic, so she tries tooth and nails to hide herself from her loved ones, because she doesn't want them to hate her or leave her. But she will never admit that. Because she is scared for her life that if you find out some flaw of her, she will abandoned and then she will literally 💀die. But in reality you really love her despite of all her flaws and will probably never leave her alone. The truth is she is lazy and selfish. But she makes the situation worse by all her drama trying to hide that. She is mentally ill, she needs isolation and forced psychiatric treatment for her own good. It's like a 5 year old roleplaying, she is always right and beautiful and rest of the world only acts according to her plan, sad but 🤣 what can I say.
Hope you're doing better now. My uncle had kidney failure due to medications. He's better now.
Me too. I am so sorry.😞 It is so hard to see someone try to take away those you love. The Mom, you believed in.
Thank you, Jill Wise. You are so healed, and strong, and a beautiful generous person. 🌱🎶🌹🎨🤸
You're giving us a perfect description of Jezebel, that's what you call her in Church.
During the holidays it’s jezebells 😂
Maybe when she's chilling out😅
Yes! The Jezebel Spirit! Exactly what she is!
Worst experience of my life. I was engaged to one of these demons. She was an ex major in the US Army. Lucky for me, I had made a good life for myself and had the means to get away when I did. Love bombing in the beginning, then the devaluing and finally the discard. It's been 2 years now and it was very difficult to get through the betrayal and the understanding of her 180 degree turn. She tried to destroy my life and came close to sending off the deep end mentally. But, Christ kept me and helped me rebuild to a peaceful and unbothered way of living. However, you never really truly get over the experience. I am built for survival and I am great now. You just have to have the will to overcome!
Wow, I just escaped a similar thing. I'm a guy who thinks he has a strong mind. She love bombed me in the beginning and I thought wow this is it, the real thing. Then bam found out about other people she was messaging online and grooming her neighbour with texts. I was anxious for months after confrontation and it's scarred me for life I think. I never realised that people could be so evil, deliberately. Wtf!!
Sorry to hear your stories. I really feel 4 those guys out there that have low self-esteem and hook up with one of these witches. You need to be a confident, strong person to win that battle
Count yourself lucky mate, you have had a very close escape, they can be very evil.
Brother, thank you for this encouragement. If you scroll up, you will see a small part of my story. I was bitter at the Lord for allowing me to go through this for 24 years. In some ways, I still am. I'm seeing a Christian therapist who's helping me pick up the pieces. I just needed to hear that Jesus brought someone through the other side of this.
@Ljohn302 It's not for us to understand. That's why it's called faith. Unfortunately, there are some of us who will go through suffering in order to be a testimony for others. Remember that we are flesh now, so our suffering will be rewarded in His time. It might be in this life or in the afterlife in His kingdom. All glory is for Christ, not for us. You must be willing to go down in flames for Him if necessary. Trust me. He sees all and knows all. He will not leave you so keep praying and fighting. Read the biblical story of Job. Stay strong, brother!!!
Excellent video. It gave me chills. My mother. Especially the using gifts as a way of control. These female ones are really something..
Exasperating.
So scheming and plotting!
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my younger sister is like this. I remember she crashed into my car in high school and didn't apologize or care about the fact that she hit my car. She only cared about her car. I found it really weird at the time but just dismissed it. I tried to see it from her perspective, because maybe she was really worked up over her car being scratched, so I tried to be understanding. But then as we got older I noticed more and more weird controlling behaviors, like trying to get me to help doing her projects, but not really respecting the amount of time and energy that I was putting into it for her, or tryin to pass off junk she didn't want on me, even though I had no use for it. Like she forced on me all of these cooking trays and got condescending when I told her I didn't need them. It was like she thought I should just be her garbage disposal and take on her garbage for her. Then as we got older I realized a pattern where she was rolling her eyes at me from the side, just within view of me, and would affirm me in sarcastic ways, like trying to make me seem like a stupid idiot to be dismissed and not taken seriously. It took a while to accept it, but under the kind loving facade was really a deeply controlling, condescending, selfish and mean person.
If you don't mind are you guys in talking terms?
@@haitiqueen0119 There are a lot of issues in my family. She doesn't invite me over anymore (which is fine by me because her husband is disrespectful toward me) but there is no overt break in the relationship. More passive aggression. Definitely growing apart .
@SlumberBear2k I see, sounds no different than my situation and a sister of mine. I've stopped talking to mine after she's engaged with someone who did not have the best intentions for me, my sister volunteered information with someone who she clearly saw was looking to destroy me. It was then I've officially parted ways with this sister, we haven't spoken in 5 years. I have zero desire to reconcile also.
Thank you for this explaination and descriptions of female toxic types.
Spot on thank you! Being 2 faced is a behavior. The DSM can add it to assertiveness, aggressiveness, Passive, and passive aggressions. It is almost like they go into different people and forget what they say and do in these episodes.
Multiple Personality Disorder was the ametuer diagnosis before Narcissistic awareness became a thing. I used to simply call them lying,cheating a-holes. If you can tolerate Melanie Tonia Evans' voice, she can really help with understanding the quantum mechanics of life. We attract them to us like a moth to a flame. Like a tick to a dog.
No,the narc is not, deceptively, 2 faced,they are,deceptively,200 faced !
You just described my daughter whom I disowned years ago. Trauma and destruction is what these people leave behind.
This is the most succinct and clear summary I have seen or heard. I will keep and watch again regularly. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
I second that.
There is a listlessness in their eyes. And if you carefully tune in to their voice, it is hollow. There's just nothing there.
I really appreciated all we got to learn in this video. So spot on and so helpful.
Omg- you’re so spot on. Every line item is frighteningly accurate, almost like they’re operating from the same playbook. Also, while confirmation to this degree accompanies some relief, there’s a large part of me that wishes I’d paid more attention to the red flags and abusive behaviors I was constantly encountering. I gave pass after pass, constantly altering my own behaviors and boundaries to avoid conflict, and in the end it’s hard to quantify how much of my identity and sense of self eroded away to nothing. Do you ever get that back??
You are referring to the insidious and sneaky behavior patterns of the covert female narcassist as opposed to the overt grandiose narcassist. All of what you describe is spot on.
Hey - when did you meet my mother? You’re describing her exactly.
Very sad that her narcissism is making it impossible for me to be around her in her final years, but I’m so happy to now know what kind of succubus I have been dealing with
Ohh she She is sooooo right about what she says now!My compliments Jill, you know your work like no other!❤
Thank you so much 🤗
@theenlightenedtarget no thank you! Tank you so much !You can't even imagine how many people lives are being saved by this. And personally I thank you for making it 100% clear now who i have dealt with,i thought she was melignent because of her unbelievable anger just anger at its worst! But after this video i am now convinced she is a cover narcissist.Jill this is for you, I admire people who have experienced in life what you have experienced and then work on it in a positive way and put bread on the table at home! Respect!,and I know almost all experts and professionals practices and specialties on Narcissism online but you are number 1 specialist for me on this topic! I mean it! And for me, to say that says a lot. Because I also learn from the Narcissists them selfs like Sam Vaknin ezv.
Complimenten Jill you know your well! Kind regards, Karen
Hi Jill, I would like to join the course soon and want to ask you I live in Europe in Holland to be precise my question is do you think the problem is or could be to join the course to participate. Thanks in advance Karén
I just got out of a toxic relationship today. I’m American, she is from Chile. I’m a super empath and this may have cost me a great deal of time and money staying with her for 6 months, I’m blessed to have seen her truths through the lens of an angel. I almost moved to Chile!!!
No contact and removed all social media and I haven’t had this level of peace since I met her.
The naïvete and attention seeking was so helpful to note. Thank you!❤
wow! This is the most enlightening explanation of FN I have ever heard. Everyone, please share this video and get it out to the masses -the sooner the better. It is going to save a lot of lives.
Queen Bee.... Don't you by chance mean " Queen Cluster B"!!??😊😂 Thank you for your expertise
Mothers are the worst. Relationships are bad but usually you can get out of those. Mothers start conditioning before we know anything about the world and will never let go of that need for control and dominance.
My mother drove 3 states away just to drive by my house. Restraining orders don't mean a damn thing to these people. Every boundary is seen as a challenge, and they actually believe they're smarter than everyone.
This is the most succinct, clear and accurate video on the topic that i have seen yet.
My covert sister in law to a tee. Excellent video...thank you Jill ❤
You are so correct lady
Great video and helpful! I used to have a narcissistic friend in my life, and when I exposed their true nature, they left my life. Thank you for making this video, it helped me understand behaviors I didn't realize before."
You completely described the mother of someone I knew. The person i knew was the golden child and being groomed to be a narc just like its mother. The mother did everything you mention here and definitely targeted me for psychological abuse and encouraged its demonic offspring to do the same.
They all use the same playbook. Once you know that playbook, its easy to ID them and go no contact.
Excellent, you described most of my experience that unfortunately i realized after the fact. But no more, great talk!
always on point 💕
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Very good,be very careful you people out there❤
Absolutely spot on. Was my oh so cute in public, demon in private covert abuser AKA ex.
Lived this for over a decade. Didnt learn about clinical Narcissists until after I escaped...Nightmare 80% over. True freedon not yet achieved but in time hopefully...
This video is my 52-year-old niece, who is no longer in my life, thank God.
She sent me photos of her beautiful home, she sent me pictures of financial papers showing me how much money her business makes in one day, she sent me emails that start out with her writing "What have I done for other people today?" and she lists everything.
At the same time, she NEVER called me when she previously stated she would. She made me feel like I was so far at the bottom of her list of priorities, that I wasn't even ON the list.
She called me once at 5:15 in the morning when she knew I had Covid, as that was the only convenient time for her to call. When I told her I don't like being woken up at that time, especially when I am so sick, she got mad and dumped me. She also used to call me at 7:00 a.m. on her way to work, and got mad when I didn't like that, either. She said she calls everyone on her way to work and said that no one else has a problem with it, so I shouldn't, either.
I am 72, twenty years older than she is, and I don't have the stamina I used to have.
She went overboard in constantly writing that she loves me "sooooo much!", but never once backed it up with any kind of action. She said that's her "love language". She said she thinks that words are more important than actions. (Just tell people you love them, that way you don't have to ever give them the time of day.)
When she told me that she won't be reading any more of my emails because she doesn't have time to, and won't even read the one I had just sent her, I decided I won't write her anymore, since she had just told me she won't read any more of my emails.
But she continued to write more emails to me, bragging about all the things she does for others, and sends me quotes from many people that put me down and justify herself and her behavior. So I wrote back to her and I told her I won't be reading those emails, since she had already told me that she won't be reading mine.
And I didn't hear from her again. She thinks that everyone should cater to her.
I am so glad she isn't in my life anymore. I feel so free.
People like this don't have a right to be in your life, constantly causing you misery. Get rid of them and go NO CONTACT! You will be much happier.
Best wishes to everyone out there.
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Oh dear. She didn’t deserve you.
Spot on!! I have 29 years experience so I know! lol
10/10!!!! It is so reassuring when these traits are put into words. Thank you.
A very informative session, indeed. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm looking forward to viewing to viewing your other presentations.
This video is absolute perfection.
Thanks!
Thank you so much 🙏
Awesome video !! Very much accurate and informative thank you 🙏🏻
Excellent Episode 👍
My whole family 🤭 they would MELT if people really knew them! Sadly I remember alot more than id like an can recall most the things they’ve done towards me an some other people.
Wow! A "whole" family? I'm sorry. So sad.
My 89 year old dad was on his deathbed, worried my mom was cheating. She was so mean to him on his last days, really insane.
This is so true. 😢 I am experiencing this wife 😢😢
Get help, brother. You'll need it.
Well done Jill. A highly accurate and very well articulated explanation of very difficult character type. It took me more than 2 decades to sniff out what was going on and still, whilst knowing my research and instinct are correct, I still struggle with accepting it . ! Their behaviour is so unnecessary ! Keep up the good work 👌👏🏴
My daughter in law has total control over my ex military son who has ptsd after 20 years in the military. I put up with her verbal and emotional abuse for 16 years until she nearly physically abused me. I knew she’d demand my son have no contact with me forever. She also acts extremely religious and quotes the Bible to evade accountability. She has so many dramatic outbursts and is exhausting. All my son’s money goes to making her look beautiful and traveling ( by herself ). She lost their beautiful home due to this. She shouts commands and requires everyone to focus on her. I’m heartbroken. She’s punishing me in the worst way because I finally stood up to her. My poor son 💔
Great video. I'm lucky I didn't fall into her web. I was close. If i had more money or possessions, she would have used me as supply. What a year 2024 has been. Thanks for the info. Spot on. Poor woman, i hope she heals. She knows things are messed up within. I hope she finds a path to healing.
This descibes my ex to a tee. I left her and I let her go be with the other guy or the guy she thought was better than me. Now I am hearing that she is stalking me. Why is she stalking me or want me back???
She doesn`t want you back because love or something like that. She realised her new toy is not a good supply as u were, so she wants another run on you. To suck ur energy and life out of you again. About the stalking, all of them are stalking, even after 10-20 years. They want to know if they destroyed u for good or if u are happy and u got away.
@danidani1609 You are so right but I think she had it all wrong about me. I am a whole lot stronger and smarter than she thought I was and she is going to be in forever regret.
@danidani1609 I got away and she has got to deal with that.
@@Joker187-m3v You don`t have to give any energy to that person. Try to take back your energy! Try to practice mindfulness and to be the guardian of your thoughts. Whenever you think about her (what she`s doing, with whom she is now, blah blah), observe this ruminating and say STOP to those thoughts. And then think about your plans for the future: health goals, career goals, self improvement and so on... Put your energy into your own goals and don`t give her energy anymore, not even by thought. Take care, brother!
@@danidani1609 I think you might be right, thanks.
It was four years before I discovered that she was living three different lives. The more I researched the worse it got, I just couldn't believe what I found. It cost me hundreds of thousands of dollars to finally get rid of her
She still hoovers after six years. I ignore them, but it's really trying.
*Ase* "all praises to the most high" *Peace* 🤲🏾 🤎 💪🏾
Your description of narcissism sounds just like society! 😮
Had a front row seat to these behaviors for 2¾ decades.
It was extremely diabolical.
This is reality I have experienced...
This woman is gold. God bless
As an “also” wounded member of a relationship, it wasn’t until I was served divorce papers and got out of the house before I started putting pieces together like this.
I’ve been working on myself, if you’re a labels person I’m sort of an anxious attachment, co-dependent type, for a long time.
My 25yr marriage starting at a young age only added to my confusion as I hadn’t yet learned me.
So if, as I’m implying, this video describes my ex, I had a ton of confusion about the relationship and blamed myself for everything.
Well I’m not now simply blaming her to heal, no way. I missed and failed a lot of opportunities. What I see however is that as I’ve gotten better her issues came to the surface.
And in so happening she became the victim even more and is now using that and anger to fuel herself out/away from her responsibilities.
All of it, all the brokenness is sad. There’s no need to crash and burn, there’s no need to deny that long history of the good it had too, just to be the victim or not responsible for the failure.
If healing is gluing things back together then it’s important to align things properly.
I accept where I did damage because of my actions (words, wrong emotions, poor partner) and she continues to cast blame.
I know I’m healing but I don’t think she is. My heart still cares for her, but it’s no longer under her spell.
I hope for her healing, but my focus has moved from that relationship to the one I should have had first with me.
Praying for y’all today! Thank you for what you do Jill!
It’s a childhood wound. Change is unlikely.
@ indeed it is a significant effort to heal and grow.
That’s why victory tastes as good as it does, and limitations are now merely cognitive and not limbic.
Every chapter gets better, yet for those who lack the fortitude it is indeed “unlikely” as you say. As an adult, it’s now your/our decision.
I hope you find the healing you need brother. It’s likely you can, until you decide otherwise.
After years of narcissistic abuse your guard is always up and you begin to see everyone as a potential narcissist.
Recognize these traits in myself. The work continues.
Thank you. Extensive information.
Thanks. That actually pin points what my oldest brother and i knew all along and saw right through it. Unfortunately they are always known to others as the "Matriarch" , of course my brother and i have a different name for it.
Great video. Makes me actually feel sorry for the new guy.
True. It also makes me feel sorry for the guy before me. I knew him, he was a decent fellow and I never intended to hurt him but obviously she told me they were separated back then when, as I know now, they weren't. Just like it's been happening to me now. These people are so messed up.
Thank you❤
My mom has a different way of dealing with those who expose her… Myself, she uses perjury along with victimhood declarations and uses the judicial system to silence me through restraining orders
I broke up with my narc x a month later having sex i asked her "what are we doing?" She said creating soul ties" 😈 that really killed the mood ...when she said it her eyes were black and huge ....her i am today 2 months later still stuck. Its disgusting.
I've seen her eyes turn black.
Insightful and articulate, thank you.
Really good explanation
We all know someone, or more then one of these awful people .How someone looks and what they own ,does not in anyway mean that they are good people. Nor does it mean that you want them in your life. Be very careful with choosing what empresses you. It could save you a lot of heartache.
Yup, all true. In my experience the person just pours it on more and more (as the Queen Bee and carefully crafted image) so much that I'm in disbelief how gullible the flying monkeys are who fall for it. Such a narcissist is like a sociopath who is trying their hardest to give the illusion they aren't. Nuts!
Excellent video.
My friend ( more like sister to me) never acknowledged any form of communication- always ignored. Avoided talks; ghosted me; did breadcrumbing. Disappeared and reappeared after two months of no contact. She is sensitive to criticism. Exhibited passive aggression. Kept ignoring me in front of others. Puts up very good face in front of her social community.
Is this avoidant attachment or is this narcissist behavior?
I no longer take any initiative to call or text.
My experience of narcissism was with my husband who is exactly as u describe the covert female narcs but he is also a psychopath and tried to covertly poison me by putting all sorts of drugs into my drinking water bottle and food. He found things that were tasteless usually but one day i tasted something strange and then found evidence around the house that showed what he was doing. I was so sick and cdnt understand what was going on at the time. Many days 3 or 4 x weekly i would vomit usually about 17 times over an hour and wonder what on earth was wrong with me. Luckily i vomited as it took a lot of it out of my body. Otherwise, i probably would be dead by now. I knew i had to leave but cdnt manage it straight away as i have pets and didn't want to leave them with him and a lot of things to organize. I watched very carefully what went into my body and hey presto all the vomitting and bleeding from my intestines stopped. Then one day i was cooking something, i went away for a cpl of seconds and came back to find him putting crushed pills into the pot. Such a worm. He would come up and stroke my cheek and say how much he loved me, to disarm me - then poison me and make me extremely sick in the evening. This is, I'm sure just as possible from a female with psychopathic tendencies. U never know quite how much their feelings of entitlement and manipulation will take them. Keep safe people and God bless you. Thank u so much Jill for your succinct and accurate information. ❤❤❤❤
Were you able to prove he was poisoning you? This psychopath should be in jail.
Spot on.
You describe ' my ' narcissist , the one that vaccinated me against narcissists in general , to a T. 12 minutes of well formulated information condensed into one single video. As usual.
🤣 "The wounded duck syndrome"
- Dabney Coleman. Modern problems
I know her every move too ...3 days after we first broke her pastor told me she takes no accountability i searched for a meme on accountability and the first thing that popped up was narcissist....and i been reading watching narc awareness videos every day ...tried no contact blocking ...and she manages to come back ...were broken up now for e days today she calls me with "babe i miss you i love you" and yup again lets see what 2marro brings
Run for the hills and do not look back. Even if she claims to have cancer, just abandon her, you will NEVER have peace
Thank you. So, I have fallen in love with a narcissist. I do not use the term lightly, and I am introspective.
I know that inside, there is a special person, afraid to come out because of childhood traumas.
Are there ways to break the narcissistic cacoon and let the butterfly come out?
Not in my opinion, k have never seen that happen. If you’re involved with an NPD narcissist, you should cut your losses and get away. The longer you stay, the worse things will get, including your confusion and the strength of the trauma bond.
Best to leave. You can't fix her. She has to fix herself. That's the truth.
Don't go there... You will lose yourself and you will regret it.
Thanks for chiming in.
Good news is there is a lot of push and pull. So I just have to resist the urge to reach when the push happenes.
I didn’t stand a chance! Had I just kept going and not fell in her trap. 🤦🏾♂️
Darth Maul, female version.
Good video, with my covert narcissist ex wife, shes a know-all so takes over my sentences with shes right or I'm wrong
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My ex GF. She had “the gift of caring” said her spoiled daughter. She helped everyone else but me, her partner. Only I knew her for whom she was. No one would believe me if I revealed her authentic self and I’d wager, they’d assume I was being hateful. She wasn’t feigning naivety, she was pugnacious with me. We fought because I didn’t back down like men often do. She was bereft of empathy for me and I grew weary of her manipulation and silent treatment. How about biting sarcasm and backhanded comments? Ugh. I didn’t trust her and so i left her. How do they become narcissists?
My ex wife, her levels of incompetence and stupidity is beyond reproach. She is relentlessly dishonest and two faced. Manipulative and deceptive, I fear for my son being exposed. Minimizing and dismissive kuhn.
When the kids get old so does the act !!!!! Now comes reality Now Comes The Fall 😮 Noooooooooo !!! YES !
I shoulda known when she wanted to see the movie Maleficent 1, and said it was her favorite movie - that whole movie details the destruction that a woman can cause others if she is wronged in the past - my X had alot of complex trauma as a youth. I think Maleficent is a perfect archetype for the female narcissist. I should have known long before that movie came out. I damn the day that I ever met her. She was also a type 1 enneagram and yes - a born again (so-called) Christian... 😮
VERY good!
Thankyou Jill 🙏💜🌺
perfect description of my narcissister
I do, and living with her is a living hell.
EXACTLY!
If and only if the victim finds out about the narcissist would the victim would be in dangerment of there life and how to end the relationship with out them knowing about that they are a narcissist for your own safety
The gift or gifts that she may give to you and and you got to think did she stole that from some were and you maybe the one that has the stolen items as she gets off Scott free
I have encountered several women that exhibit these behaviors
Excelente colega caterina Valentino es una tránstonada narcisista 📗🖊️
My mom was able to command attention by taking away my $2 million of inheritance that my grandparents gave to her… She’s going to skip over me, her son and now this is all up for grabs to the next generation of three grandchildren plus my ex-girlfriend and my mom‘s tenant… She’s trying to create a romance between those two because she has a romantic author.
Yes . My wife. She says I am not a narcissist boy did she get mad when I say all the traces are there
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Genesis 3:1 KJV - Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?
Serpent-
Greeks strongs 3789(through the idea of sharpness of vision); a snake, figuratively, (as a type of sly cunning) an artful malicious person, especially Satan -- serpent. malicious-characterized by malice; intending or intended to do harm. The serpent is a person or persons.