How Empaths are Turning the Tables on Narcissists

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  • @genespain1234
    @genespain1234 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I see them clearly now , and they know i know , most others are still singing their praises, 90% are blind to these predators.

  • @Bike4Life231
    @Bike4Life231 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I love this so much. This is exactly what my goals are - to reclaim my identity, confidence and peace! After 20 years with a narcissist, it is so hard not to give in to their baiting tactics, but I feel like I'm doing ok for the most part. I know it will take time and lots of therapy, but I'm determined to find happiness and peace in my life for the first time ever, and teach my kids what that looks like as well!

  • @Might-l5m
    @Might-l5m 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +44

    1 year and 8 days out. Took 6 months to lift the fog. I can help people with this. I will never never lie or pretend for anything or anyone. Never. Im real. I will never have anything to do with fake again.

    • @steveanhiron6764
      @steveanhiron6764 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Survivor ? I’m damaged goods . I no longer go to the library , it’s the tip ( Recycling Refuse Centre ) , somehow repurposing is reassuring .

    • @louisetaylor6952
      @louisetaylor6952 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      You don't have to lie...you can always say nothing

    • @Might-l5m
      @Might-l5m 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @louisetaylor6952 absolutely. If that's the case then I will be happy to do nothing. Ive never had boundaries and it is nice to have some for once.

  • @beckster2134
    @beckster2134 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    The narcissist and my brother were used to getting money from my parents whenever they needed it. They called them their private ATM and would high five each other when they were successful. It made me sick and my conversations did not stop them from giving them money. Well my parents passed away, they thought I was going to continue funding their lifestyle.The parents owned the house the narcissist and my brother reside. They called telling me how much money they wanted. I laughed and told them the house can go into foreclosure. My brother said, this is the parents building and you have to pay. My reply was,the parents received no benefit from that building in life and will receive the same in death. I told them I will not be used and they need to grow up and take care of yourselves. They are in there 60's !! They actually started to cry and scream on the phone. My parents thought they were helping my brother, they didn't. He never stood on his own and now they are shell shocked. It has been 1 years since we spoke, I expect I will never hear from them again. I have peace of mind and my money.

    • @realhealing7802
      @realhealing7802 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Excellent move! Stop the endless cycle of abuse.

    • @Amber-b3g
      @Amber-b3g 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Good 🙏💜🌸

  • @elijahdeluna9187
    @elijahdeluna9187 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    I love it when Jill says cuss words. You know she's serious.

    • @theenlightenedtarget
      @theenlightenedtarget  20 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      😂😂😂

    • @polyjb1
      @polyjb1 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Love. For sure

    • @happyhealthyblessed
      @happyhealthyblessed 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Yes I love it too 😂love Jill so much ❤

  • @tahwsisiht
    @tahwsisiht 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Knowledge is power. Knowledge is validation. Even if I can't escape, many will! Power be with those who have been abused and taken advantage of for years!
    This is for the future. True peace comes from not bowing down to tyrants and holding into reality, not twisted gaslighting. This is the only way to creat a future worth living in.

  • @muma6559
    @muma6559 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    this is HUGE after years of unravelling. And yes, empowering for others

  • @VictorioMangue
    @VictorioMangue 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    You enouragement and sharing enlightment is helping us through this process of our own freedom of spirit. Thank you. Thanks to God.

  • @Rotuma1260
    @Rotuma1260 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    8:26 - great advice, just walk away. I wish these facts were covered in high school (many years ago for me) to warn empaths against narcs. We could have been armed with the knowledge to avoid relationships - romantic, friendship, or employment - with narcs. Of course, not as much information was available back then. There should be classes now, but I'm guessing they don't.

  • @lisaatkinson6276
    @lisaatkinson6276 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +15

    Jill, this is a perfect message for where I am in my narc journey. You have been instrumental in my knowledge/therapy/healing for the past two plus years when I first started learning about narcissism.
    Love the new term which is the technique I am having to use because no contact and even gray rock isn’t always possible since I still have to deal with this person…. Medium Chill. It works great. Frustrates the heck out of the narc. They can’t stand the newfound confidence, detachment, and inability to control. I show no emotion other than happiness and self assured. I’ve come a long way in two years. Thank you Jill! Merry Christmas!

    • @tdesq.2463
      @tdesq.2463 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Yep. You're right. In fact, that-s what I've done all along. Didn't know it had this name: "Medium Chill" For me, it's always taken the form a joke, sarcasm, or feigned ignorance ("Playing Dumb"). And yes, they'll get frustrated ... and then screw up.
      🎼TD

  • @MagicalCreations-fw7pj
    @MagicalCreations-fw7pj 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Learning how to distrust people is the most difficult even though I’ve never been rewarded for trusting people ! I’m learning that the most evil people appear to be the most benign! Covert is the term!
    When lambs are actually wild hyenas!

  • @AMY-br2px
    @AMY-br2px 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

    Thank you! This is my situation 100%! I’m struggling to deal with the lies and manipulation and sadly others believe her and think I’m a bad person Never in my life sis I think she and my friends would turn their back on me

    • @lisaatkinson6276
      @lisaatkinson6276 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I went through the smear campaign two years ago and lost friends. It hurt at first but now I consider it weeding out and glad those people are gone. Let them learn themselves the hard way.

  • @davidmissar5485
    @davidmissar5485 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Thank You, so true for me...the family was stunned that I did...no more manipulation or gaslighting...free forever

  • @ChosenbyGod247
    @ChosenbyGod247 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Thank you for sharing this. God bless you beautiful soul 😘❤️🙏🔥💪💃🌹

  • @elainesmith5313
    @elainesmith5313 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    What a wonderful Christmas this is going to be. No more racking my brain on how I can satisfy my X Mother In Law. Always trying to appease her. This is my 2 ND Christmas with out the Narcissist. What a glorious time in my life. After 4 decades of abuse, I walked away clean. Her son, my husband died, and freed me of any obligation to her or his family. They are so stupid, they think treating you like a lie life will keep you in the loop. Real life does not work thst way, so therefore The Wake Up Call comes! Thank you Jill, your videos really help! Merry Christmas to you and Yours!❤

    • @gremlin9739
      @gremlin9739 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Boy oh boy. I'm just accepting my narc will never change, can't or won't. My future is black if I stay and try to change/fix him. He's unrepairable. unrepairable

  • @lorisunshine81
    @lorisunshine81 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    What doesn't kill ya makes you stronger. I've found silence is the answer for me.❤

  • @JulieParker-z4i
    @JulieParker-z4i 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Detaching is the key. Thanks for the sanity check😊

  • @KevinHeston
    @KevinHeston 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

    Especially male empaths! TY Jill, forever grateful to you. 🙏

    • @terridillon3053
      @terridillon3053 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      THIS has nothing to do with gender!!!😮

  • @jasonjones4492
    @jasonjones4492 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Beautiful message Jill 😋💜
    Thank you for sharing
    Happy Holidays 🌲🎉

  • @fireupyourheartfortruth
    @fireupyourheartfortruth 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Thank you for enlightening lesson❤😊🎉❤

  • @realhealing7802
    @realhealing7802 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Excellent information! I left my toxic family system behind. I get to choose who I want in my inner circle. My mental and physical health are more important than dealing with any narcissists.

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    I love your messages Jill ❤😊 and I thank God for the shift that is happening. Love, truth and joy have the power to save the world of every single one of us ! Thank you ❤😊

  • @mrf5347
    @mrf5347 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Thanks for helping us understand NPD, develop boundaries, detachment, healing.

  • @Lisa-y8q2m
    @Lisa-y8q2m 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    222 on the clock 😇 Hi Jill. I’m just starting to watch your video. I’m completely exhausted by these two narcs. I live alone with my cat. These people happen to be my neighbors. I’m furious. This has been happening for over two years.

  • @lindaguy1808
    @lindaguy1808 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Excellent video as always Jill! I've been no contact with my covert SIL for 2 years now and it's so empowering especially around the Holidays. No more stress and major anxiety having to deal with her anymore. I'm having a peaceful Christmas and New Years with my wonderful husband and our furbaby. Also zooming with our daughter and son in law Christmas morning while we all open our presents. That's all I need. Thanks for all your excellent and informative videos throughout the year. Merry Christmas! ❤

  • @yocelynlepe3693
    @yocelynlepe3693 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Empaths = Earth Angels 🤍

  • @RChH24
    @RChH24 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I cannot even express how much your words mean to me, Jill🌻Every word of yours is a gem that has found a place deep down in my heart💎💎💎Thank you so very much for this empowering and uplifting message and for your whole channel, as a matter of fact🙏Wishing you, your loved ones & everyone on their respective healing journey a wonderful and peaceful festive season and many, many blessings for the New Year. May 2025 become the best year of your lives, everyone❤

  • @darukavasudev3800
    @darukavasudev3800 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Exactly what i did..thank you mother! I love it when you say "next!" Lovr from Croatia and very marry Crhristmas

  • @happyhealthyblessed
    @happyhealthyblessed 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Yes Jill I appreciate this so much God bless you my friend ❤

  • @gregknight3129
    @gregknight3129 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Excellant presentation. It was like listening to a description of my path back to wholeness. Thank you for your insights. Merry Christmas.

  • @jilll4649
    @jilll4649 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Great message nails it. Lovely hairstyle.

  • @scooterwoodley195
    @scooterwoodley195 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Loved the intro

  • @watchonly1321
    @watchonly1321 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    My narc love bombed financially to win my trust and my hand in marriage. Over 10yrs I have been exploited, demeaned and harmed physically twice. I decided to run away after the second assault. Now he's trying to hoover back with "love", guilt and blame. Am I responsible for his financial loss? No agreement was signed that I owed him any money, instead he went around telling others what he bought for me.

  • @JulieParker-z4i
    @JulieParker-z4i 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This says it all😊

  • @lenihassveasphaug9634
    @lenihassveasphaug9634 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Amen. Merry Christmas, and thank you. ⭐️❤️

  • @TheNonchalant854
    @TheNonchalant854 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    What a unimaginable nightmare, you get in way over your head, years totalling a waste of f time...thhere is nothing you can say it means nothing to them , they dont have it in them. You ultimately end up taking responsibility and the self awareness for your own dysfunctions or trauma growing up in your family....its a mess not giving yourself enough self love . Having the curage to be honest about yourself and who you really are...i am a follower and student of Christ Jesus, understanding the salvation of being baptized, at least i have a chance now....

  • @I_like_Osho
    @I_like_Osho 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Better leave and that is it!

  • @Amber-b3g
    @Amber-b3g 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m becoming very good at walking away without explanation . Thankyou for this brilliant validation Jill
    Lots of love to you 🙏💜🌸✨🌲😎

  • @mahatmadoo2566
    @mahatmadoo2566 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Dig that medium chill.Merry Christmas ❤

  • @catherineshaw3197
    @catherineshaw3197 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Sound advice. I found this very informative.
    I have been dealing with a friend for many years who has all the narcissistic traits.
    I am no longer prepared to be manipulated or treated with such disrespect.
    Thank you for this video.

  • @NarcissistFreealmost
    @NarcissistFreealmost 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    Such good news. Thank you 👍

  • @neon_nana
    @neon_nana 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This is so good thx for sharing your knowledge!!!

  • @arianasha
    @arianasha 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    BRILLIANT SO WELL SAID !

  • @mondstaub
    @mondstaub 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Love it!!!

  • @ramzhouran2152
    @ramzhouran2152 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thanks!

    • @theenlightenedtarget
      @theenlightenedtarget  18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thank you so much 🙏

    • @ramzhouran2152
      @ramzhouran2152 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @theenlightenedtarget You're most welcome

  • @nilaja-itsmylife
    @nilaja-itsmylife 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Ooooo. This haircut is absolutely lovely on you!!! 🥰🥰🥰

  • @DezereaHunter
    @DezereaHunter 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes I've

  • @averyosgood5192
    @averyosgood5192 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Table turned

  • @rebeccacruse7777
    @rebeccacruse7777 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Alot has happened since the last time I commented I can't hold it in anymore!!! I am revved up from my 2 cups of coffee!!! my female narc has met her justice!!! the empathetic people in her life she hurt like me and the other 2 poor ladies she fired and laughed with her evil grin!! SHE WAS FIRED!!! YES SHE WAS FIRED AND SHE WAS FINED FOR ABUSING THAT POOR LADY I LOVED WITH HUNTINGTON"S DISEASE I PRAYED AND I PRAYED AND I PRAYED FOR MY RESIDENTS TO BE SAFE AND NOW THEY ARE!!! my female sociopath abuser thought she was untouchable!!! all the empathetic people she picked on tortured and molested are free!!! WE ARE FREE!!! also you will see I am changing too!! SEE I thought love was control myself and if I WAS MAD AT SOMEONE THEY WOULD have to do what I SAY!! bet you never thought you would hear me say that dud you? PROOF I AM GROWING TOO. to love and care for someone you have to let them make up their own minds you can tell them you care and you can express your feelings to them but in the end the have to make up their own minds!!! I HATED WHEN I WAS PUT ON ON A GUILT TRIP!!! THAT's wrong!!! LIKE THE SITUATION I MENTIONED YESTERDAY!!! I HAVE TO RESPECT HIS WISHES TO HAVE HIS RALLY!!! DONALD IS A GROWN MAN HE CAN DO WHAT HE WANTS I WON"T BE THE ONE TO GUILT ANYONE INTO DOING ANYTHING!!! and people have to understand I poured 3 months of my life into this man!!! I defended him like he was my own father!!! like the resident I don't see her anymore but she's with me she called me her little pumpkin!!! she's in my heart!!! narcs and non narcs hurt me bad!!! BUT I AM STILL GOING TO CARE JUST BE MORE CAREFUL WHO I CARE FOR!!! and I MENTIONED HOW CLEVELAND OHIO IS ABUSIVE TOO LIKE OUR CRUEL WEATHER!!! IT LAUGHS AND MOCKS US!! AND OUR GREEDY NARC OF A FOOTBALL OWNER!!! I HAVE TO FACE I AM BEING DUMPED MY FOOTBALL PLAYERS ARE ALL LEAVING ME GONG SOUTH WITH THEIR WOMEN!!! I HAVE TO ESCAPE THROUGH WATCHING HIGHLANDER AND X-files!!! WE ALL NEED AN ESCAPE FROM THIS NARC FILLED WORLD AS LONG As it's healthy my life coach said it's healthy to want an escape and even dream about it!!! SHE SAID YOU FACE REALITY BUT I WANT AN ESCAPE TOO!!! EVERYONE NEEDS THAT!! I WANT A MAN LIKE ON HIGHLANDER AND I WANT TO BE HIS TESSA!!! WELL THANKS FOR LISTENING TO ME YOU BEAUTIFUL KIND LADY CAN I SAY I LOVE YOU? I DO MY FRIEND MARY TOLD ME ONCE SHE NEVER SAW anyone with such depth of feelings!!! she just doesn't get why I GIVE THEM TO SOME PEOPLE ONLY I CAN OWN THEM Nobody else!!! BUT MY FEMALE NARC WAS NOT ONLY FIRED SHE WAS FINED AND HAS A CIVIL TRIAL from that poor lady's daughters!!! I DON'T want to stop loving or caring but next time I will be more careful who I LOVE AND CARE FOR!!! A MAN LIKE BOB AND PEOPLE LIKE HIM THE SAD THING IS SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST BORN NASTY!!! I am happy i am only commenting once a day!!! HAVE A GREAT DAY PRETTY LADY!!!

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yay! Empaths are turning the tables on the narco-paths of the world.

  • @karensymons5981
    @karensymons5981 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    But what do you do when you’re afraid of what they’ll do?

  • @GodsChildMetal
    @GodsChildMetal 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for this video 🙏🏻❤

  • @mindfulmaximalism
    @mindfulmaximalism 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    cute haircut
    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

  • @terridillon3053
    @terridillon3053 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Praise God.
    There is a worldwide awakening
    Prepare for Jesus’ coming!

  • @rebeccacruse7777
    @rebeccacruse7777 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I had an old boss tell me once he said when you are mean to someone it comes back to bite you in the I WON"T SAY THE WORD HE USED YOUR BEHIND 1,000 x worse then what you did to them!!! now FLO HAS TO LOOK FOR A NEW JOB SHE HAS BEEN FIRED FROM EVERY JOB SHE HAS HAD!!! WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? MY POOR RESIDENTS ARE SAFE NOW SHE Can't hurt them anymore!!! and yes they are all a part of me lots of people are I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT!!!

  • @NewPhone-zn2wy
    @NewPhone-zn2wy 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I agree with all

  • @mvbigmagic4048
    @mvbigmagic4048 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's okay to leave the narcissist. They keep you from doing good things. They drag your into all sorts of unnecessary drama, leaving you too exhausted to help people who actually DESERVE help, because they aren't manipulating or traumatizing people. Unyoke yourself from them. 2 Corinthians 4:16.

  • @ohgin12345
    @ohgin12345 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Playing around with the narcissist right now. But she blocked me after knowing i am doing that and there is nothing she can do about this

  • @GodsChildMetal
    @GodsChildMetal 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Yes i like to get some help please, i was tasorschocked by police Den Helder Holland and my parents are narcistic sadly, so im the black scheap and i broke the connection with them because they only hurt me.
    Pleace send me some help 🙏🏻

  • @jessmason2112
    @jessmason2112 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    ❤🎯💯

  • @joey67997
    @joey67997 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What are the stages of narcissism abuse?

  • @joey67997
    @joey67997 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I believe I’m involved with a narcissist always insulting. If I don’t answer the phone right away he’ll ask what I’m doing. And always wanting to know my information if I ask questions, he gets mad very controlling and sometimes during sex he gets mad out of no where I believe he’s damaged my self-esteem here lately he told me we need to get you some self-esteem

    • @MsRapture10
      @MsRapture10 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Very much sounds like a narcissist. He won’t change. Realize your value and walk away if you can

    • @joey67997
      @joey67997 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ yeah, like one night on the phone, he started calling me names, and been very insulting and then a few days later, he started love bombing me. One night I left my phone in his car by accident and I could tell he went through it. He didn’t say anything about it but I could tell things were deleted.

  • @AlwaysHapp1989
    @AlwaysHapp1989 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I am sure your content is good and really wanted to watch your video, but I was very distracted by the flash of light (like a strobe light) from your computer screen onto your glasses that gave me a headache. I would like to request if you could please find an alternate way to produce content. I did try to listen without watching, but I had a hard time staying on the task of listening without simultaneously watching. I would love to continue to learn from your show and appreciate your consideration as to a change in that area. Thank you

  • @fionataylor4269
    @fionataylor4269 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    💫💛💥

  • @franklinford9875
    @franklinford9875 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I'm in the process of separation from a female n_________t, I'm praying she gets the healing that she needs to be an integral part of our marriage of 26 years. I've seen a change in her that has been slow in its appearance, but it is real change.
    The n________t must LOVE in order to change, LOVE someone other than themselves or it will never happen.
    I'm praying for you all, in the name above all names.

    • @lisaatkinson6276
      @lisaatkinson6276 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      They rarely if ever change but they are good at mimicking empathy to appear changed …. until they have you hooked again. It’s a repeat cycle.

    • @MYNAME_ABC
      @MYNAME_ABC 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Female narcs never change.

    • @lisaatkinson6276
      @lisaatkinson6276 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Neither do male narcs. A narc is a narc.

    • @franklinford9875
      @franklinford9875 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@lisaatkinson6276 that's happened too. This is the last time we separate. If we get back together it will be divorce next. I don't like the games and she knows it firmly now.

    • @franklinford9875
      @franklinford9875 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@lisaatkinson6276 thank you

  • @UncleBaldy
    @UncleBaldy 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You Go girl - wow 😲 'Sh💩it' l.o.l 😂😁 Love your channel Lady been,/is very therapeutic 👍🏼 God bless you 🙏🏼. O-h Añd wishing you all the Very best of the seasonal festivities 🎉🎄🎄🥕🥔🦃🍷 however you so choose to do It 👍🏼🥃🥃🥃🍺🍺🍺🎅🏼🎅🏼🍷🍷 blessings Añd greetings from the uk 🇬🇧 here 👍🏼.