Saying the words, "I'm trans," took less than a second, but it will take a lifetime to live with the impact of my truth. Transitioning was the hardest thing I did, and despite all the hardship, it was and still remains the greatest act of self-love I ever made. 💜🏳️⚧️🦄
I'm well thank you for asking. Likewise, I'm lucky I can comment and perhaps share another perspective. Every trans person live their journeys unique to themselves. It's a beautiful thing. 🏳️⚧️🦄💜
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is now. The best time to start living your life was 20 years ago, the next best time is now.” Love you all
I’ve been out for 8 years now and can confirm that this video is indeed ok and is not nonsense rambling. I love that line “I would do it a thousand times over just to feel like half of how I feel now.” To anyone else reading this, don’t wait until your mid thirties to transition like I did, and if you did wait, do it now.
@@CoolestSwordFighter breaking news to you: people still see femboys and trans women as same. do you think they will only ban the use of word trans and stop there? no. they will start persecuting anyone for showing any sign of gender nonconformity and will also persecute you for admitting for "indulging in these activities"
My girlfriend is also trans. I’ve always had some idea of how all this works, but after hearing her story and others, made it click for me and have an overwhelming amount of respect than I already had for trans people and what they go through Edit: sweet Jesus, don’t feed the trolls guys.
the best quote I've heard about transitioning is that "transitioning didn't solve all my problems. Transitioning made all my problems feel worth solving." and i think that truly applies, i still have a lot of the same problems as before but it made it worth working on fixing them as compared to before where i was just being passive about my own life.
yup. Similarly I remember something I saw way way back in the mid00s about how you have to stop seeing transition as the goal. It isn't exactly just a starting point of course. But it's getting to a point where you can just live.
This is the EXACT quote I used when discussing with friends and family about whether I should start transitioning or not. This is why I always say that trans acceptance, in a lot of cases, can be direct suicide prevention.
Fuck really? I think that explains the exact way I was before I realised I was trans, but now everyday this year since realising has just been pain from well dysphoria, or not being able to tell or talk about it to anyone irl.
Well-said! I didn't "show signs" as a kid, but I got VERY VERY GOOD at hiding stuff I was ashamed of. I'm so glad I moved past that. The feeling you describe of "no, this won't go away if I ignore it, it's going to keep haunting me forever if I don't do something" is very much what convinced me to finally transition. My life has always been pretty good, but it's a lot more vibrant now. Looking forward to the fashion vids!
Coming out as a trans woman was and is the bravest thing that I've ever done. I've lost friends and family because they are transphobic and/or religious, it hurt immensely but not as much as not living as my authentic self.
im not trans but its really nice to see people who are being so happy and confident with themselves. thank you ashley for helping alot of amazing people. i dont know if it will mean much but i am proud of you all and im very happy for you. like ashley said, you can do it :)
I feel the exact same way. It makes me genuinely happy to see people being themselves :) This goes beyond trans people as well. We should all be able to be happy with ourselves.
This is what I love about the LGBT community. Even if you don’t understand their struggle or “why” they are as they are, you can still clearly see that they’re happy with who they are!
@@Mystiskem1 I 100% agree, all I want is to see people happy, no matter who they are. That's why I write these comments sometimes, just incase someone reads it so I can hopefully make them smile 😁 because a little bit of happiness can make a big difference 😁
@@tylerbeaumont I also agree with you Tyler, I am a part of the lgbt community but I honestly don't know much about it, but seeing people happy is what matters most to me. Thank you for your comments guys, you're all awesome!
I am fully cis male and happy to be the way I am but just knowing that there are people out there not happy in their own skin makes me incredibly sad. I loved watching this vid and reading the comments of people finding happiness in their own skin through transitioning and different means. It makes me happy and proud of this entire community.
ever since F1nn came out I've been really wanting to take the first step, and honestly it feels like the first step to transitioning is the hardest, my family will be accepting, I know this, my family is pretty queer as it is, but I'm still nervous, I've known I'm non binary for a few years now, for a time I was happy with just that, but I dont feel like thats the case anymore its a big decision, a big change and I know its only natural to be nervous, but I'm reaching a point where I have to, F1nn really was the push I needed, hearing him talk about his experience living as a cis man and how it aligns so perfectly with mine and seeing him genuinely so much happier, happier in a way that cant be faked, has been the push I needed if you see this, tell F1nn hes already giving many trans people hope they can feel like themselves despite only coming out a few days ago
Thanks for the lovely video! I do want to add that there can be a lot of pressure to conform to certain things during your transition such as around what "passes". If anyone else reads this just know that transition is entirely your path to pave. And that there's no wrong or right thing as long as it makes you happy. If that's being 100% girl or boy that's great but if it's anything in between that's totally okay too ❤️
As a trans girl who had to wait until 27 to start hormones I get big envy from your journey and still often feel sad - but yea, it’s all work, just need the strength to put it in
I realised that I'm trans in July and you really are a role model for me! I don't think about suicide anymore and I finally know what I can do to fight my depression. Thank you so much for your great content :D
I’m gender fluid, and I connect with this video a lot, I was assigned male at birth, but for the longest time, and still now sometimes, I will look in a mirror, and I don’t recognise the person looking back at me as myself, cause most of the time I am a man so that is how I dress most of the time, and it’s been a lot easier for me to deal with my dysphoria after recognising that I am not always a guy.
Do voice training in the likely case you are not already. I was in a similar boat and I deeply regret the time I lost because I avoided it because it was hard//scary//pricy.
@@zen_tewmbs I haven’t started voice training yet, but I have looked into it quite a bit. When I do finally have the money for it, I will definitely start doing that. I hope everything has worked out better for you in the time since, and I thank you deeply for your advice.
@@Bi_Horizons I am omega blessed in many ways, including how well my voice has taken to training. Also, you can get surprisingly far with just one lesson a month if you’re able to keep at it, and quintessential voice lessons is crazy good and relatively cheap. They’re just *chef’s kiss*. Depending on your level of need, you can get a single lesson for under 90$. That’s just 25$ to save up a week if you do lessons once a month. But more importantly, even if you can’t get bona fide lessons that are crazy helpful, even being TH-cam-taught can help quite a bit.
@@zen_tewmbs Thanks for the info, I’ll definitely start looking into them, that’s what I’ve been doing a little bit, and so far it’s going pretty good. Thank you again for the information.
I started my transition socially 3 years ago to the day, and I feel like its the best decision I could have made. The points made here are very accurate, especially the part about it being rough at first but smoother later. Just because its going to make you happy in the long run doesn't mean its an easy step to take. There's going to be bumps, and that's okay. We just have to make sure to help each other back up when we hit them...
Im a year into transition, i felt empty before and i feel empty now. Im glad other people are not like me and can be happy eventually and i wish the best for all future transitioners.
That's just what they keep telling themselves. Many of them are also on all kinds of drugs and antidepressants. That's the danger of looking at influencers. They often make a living off of showing that they're happy, whether they're actually happy or not. Many of them do it even for attention or to justify their choice. But I can tell you, the statistics don't lie. Most people who transition are more likely to commit suicide than before transitioning. And it's actually the ones who find peace with themselves and opt not to do it who end up as stable, mentally healthy individuals. Keep in mind that modern 'science' cannot change the nature of a human being. Transitioning is nothing more than a shallow process. It doesn't matter how much someone tinkers with their body, it's still the same body. If you feel like crap in your body, you'll still feel like crap after transitioning. Probably even moreso with all of the influence of extra drugs & tinkering that was done. If it was possible to do a proper transition then you wouldn't need to take drugs for the rest of your life to keep your body from trying to revert to its natural state (as much as it is still able to, at least).
realizing how much my parents tried to correct my femininity as a kid blew my mind, the fear, the punishment trying on mums clothes at like 6, how sad I was when I could no longer sing along to maria carey at like..9, already started to lose my singing voice T__T that sadness was locked away and forgotten in a little box; along with my childhood wishes to be a girl; I locked that shit away to prevent feeling unfixable, stuck love you for wanting to spread wellbeing; that's mankind's greatest gene, parenting, care for others
My name is Mikayla Alexis. I came out last fall, I started HRT 1.7.23, I've been watching you & Finn a lot... I've rewatched this video multiple times, especially when I get sad. I don't think I can express how much you have helped me push myself thru this and keep goin day by day. This (my transition) makes waking up the next day worth it now, and I just wanted to say ty cause ik I'm not the only one you guys have helped ❤ Thank you, so much 🥲
There is nothing in the world more important than being happy. Each and every single one of us deserves to love ourselves and to feel loved. That goes for each and every one of you reading this. You, and you, and yeah, you too! All of you! Life is too short and too precious to live in fear of other people when you know what is right for you. We all have limited time on this planet and every day there are people lying on their deathbeds looking back at their lives with regrets. Don't let something this important be something you regret. You all deserve to be happy. Go for it and live your life!
I'm turning 20 this year and been struggling majorily with gender dspheria a lot. I live with transphobic parents and I hope to move out and get hrt by next year but asap. I love you and your videos.
I have put off watching this video that popped up in my recommendations for almost a week now... Because I'm scared to hear the words she said. I'm trans, and I know it, and I'm so scared of living like it outside of the online world. The whole effort and unknown stuff that comes with it, next to my already rough and depression plagued life just overwhelms me. But thanks to this video, I got reminded again that I should finally start doing this. I will never be able to fix my life, if I'm doing it for a version of myself that I dispise. If I don't love myself and who I am, I will never be able to keep my life together.. Thanks for the reminder, even tho it made me cry and gave me the need to hug my blahaj for comfort.
Bare in mind that the claim made at the start of the video is outright false. That study that was cited _does not_ say that trans people have the brain of the other sex, it says the _exact opposite._ The study showed _very clearly_ that the brains of people who identified as transwomen were brains that were much closer to men than to women. To the point that at least one of the transwomen in the study had a brain that was 50% _more_ "man" than the average cisman did.
You're so valid and don't worry, there are people who will accept you as your true gender :3 And if someone doesn't, that means that they're not worth your attention
I really relate to what you’re saying about everything falling into place and taking better care of yourself when you transition. I suddenly just felt so much more comfortable in my existence, best thing I ever did for myself. Also love this style of content from you! ❤️
I am 60 % sure that I am not trans. But I can tell you that 100 % of the words you just shared , were things that I needed to hear in my life right now. Thanks !
@@klaus798 I'm with you homie. It's hard to know with how much my brain has been structured to believe I'm cis, I'm still new to questioning but what brings me back is this instinctual interest and euphoria that comes with experimenting. Most of me is convinced I'm crazy and faking it, but the small part of me that has a hunch I'm a girl feels so strong and authentic and I want to listen to it
This was wonderful. You said some of the exact things I've said both to myself and others. I finally realized I was trans a little over a year ago, and at that point in my life, the question of "Do I transition, or do I try to forget it all and continue pretending to be cis?" was an especially difficult one. Not that it's ever easy for anyone at any point, but only coming to that realization well into middle age just makes it all that much harder to overcome. I've been on HRT for nearly 10 months now, and largely socially transitioned for perhaps 7. What you said about self care hit especially close to home, and mirrors my experience almost exactly. Before, I never really cared about taking care of myself. And for a couple of decades I drank to manage the dysphoria I didn't realize I had. Literally the day after I accepted who I was and decided to transition, I quit drinking. I didn't decide to, I just completely lost the urge or need to. I went from 4-6 drinks per night to zero in the span of 24 hours. It was like a switch had been flipped. I also started eating better, and exercising, and just suddenly *wanted* to do it. My overall health is significantly better, and I've managed to lose approximately 23kg already - and it has been *easy*! Decades of failed attempts to do so before, no matter how hard I tried I could never sustain it. It always ultimately felt pointless, and I never could figure out why. But once I realized who I really was and decided to live my life as I always should have been, the changes were easy - because I finally cared! Thank you so much for putting this video out there.
Thanks Icky! This was a banger, you nailed what it's like. I've was very slowly socially transitioning since 15 months ago, but it ramped up a lot when I started medical transition with Cypro in April and Estrogen in June, and you're right, it's a lot of effort, there is a lot to do, a lot to manage, and lots of awkwardness. But it is worth it, and even still going through it now, I can see that. I feel lighter, I am taking better care of myself, and I'm liking who I am more now. And that is despite all the rough stuff in the world and around people not being accepting, it's still better. Good video, loving the format ❤️
As a trans woman, I think this video is amazing! It’s so in line with my experience, and is such a great message for people who are concerned about transitioning! I’ve been on estrogen for just over a year now, and I can confidently say it has been the best decision I have ever made! I’m more comfortable with myself, I’m happier, my anxieties about my body and appearance have all but melted away, and I can’t be more grateful to my younger self. To anyone reading this who is considering transitioning, you can do it!
Wow! Keywords ringing bells. I appreciate your compassion, your critical thinking and your willingness to share insights I think anyone who finds this to be true of themselves, will find clarity, encouragement and even confirmation. I can't thank you enough.
I loved the video. Transition is hard. I’ve definitely been taking mine less seriously than I should be, but I definitely need to take it more seriously. Also yes would love fashion videos.
*puts on Kennedy voice* We choose to transition in this decade and do the other things not because they are easy, but because they are hard. ;-) It's also much harder to not transition, even in the UK with horrible people being horrible to us. Also I laughed when you said "If you're on the fence about being cis or being trans..." I barked a laugh and said "If you're on the fence, you're probably a lot less on the fence than you think." cis people don't need to think about these things.
One of the hardest things for me to do was coming out to others. I started small. 1 friend after work over drinks. After that, I started telling small groups who I KNEW talked with others at my workplace. It kinda snowballed after that. I removed my male mask on a stream 9 months ago. I let the world know then. Buying clothes, living authentically, growing my confidence in myself. All that took time. I haven't been prescribed HRT yet, but I'm hoping soon. I learned it's like anything else in life. The best things are the hardest to accomplish or stick to. But they are definitely worth it.
I would absolutely love more of those videos ❤ I've been socially transitioning for three years now and medically for two months (Yipee!), and am just starting to be able to feel that I love myself, so that's awesome ^^ can't wait for hrt to do more than what it's already done haha. You've been a huge inspiration since I've discovered your (around when you started hormones), and you've given me so much power to make myself be the better me ^^ so thank you so much Ashley
This is kinda what I'm going through right now. Even though I came out to most of my family (those who won't get mad, essentially) I still have feelings of what if it becomes too hard? what if the haters are everywhere and i'm gonna die? and so on. For a moment I almost wanted to pull the break and go back to being cis but i'm staying strong cuz i know i won't be fully happy until i make it over the river that is transitioning x_x
I waited over 50 years to be happy with my gender. If transition is right for someone, there is no such thing as successfully running from it because one cannot run from oneself. I'm so happy now.
That was really well done, the format is great! I really enjoy watching long form informative content so this was right up my alley. I love how you present things in such a calm, non-judgmental way. The advice you gave is frankly exactly what I needed to hear right now, and your words will be on my mind as I continue on my gender journey.
as someone who is just now trying to start my transition I love this type/format of video. Your HRT PDF is a big part of what convinced me that transitioning isn't such a big scary thing; that it's something I can actually do. Thanks so much icky
*puts on Kennedy voice* We choose to transition in this decade and do the other things not because they are easy, but because they are hard. ;-) It's also much harder to not transition, even in the UK with horrible people being horrible to us.
Love this as a UK based trans woman. I think for those questioning it can also be a good idea to make a little list. 'Things you like about your body vs things you don't'. Be honest with it. I found a lot of the things that made me miserable were my bodies masculine aspects. Even if it doesn't provide a clear answer on your questioning, it can give you an insight on where you want to improve. For instance, I'm about 4.5 months on Hormones but struggle to maintain a routine for voice training. My voice bothers me but for whatever I struggle to improve it. So, i am curious if anyone had any pointers for me. Stay beautiful/handsome all you great people.
I understand that voice training can be a challenging process, especially when you’re also navigating hormone therapy. Here are some tips and resources that might help: Understand the Basics: It’s important to understand what makes a voice sound feminine. While pitch is often emphasized, resonance is actually more crucial. (transvoicelessons is a useful channel if you haven't heard of which may help, a lot of videos explaining the different things and ways of learning) Use the Right Tools: A tuner can help you stay on target with your pitch, while a spectrograph can show all the different harmonics present when you speak. (I like Voice Tools, it has the colours of the trans flag too) Practice Regularly: Consistent practice is key to voice training. You can practice by reading a book aloud (or quietly), singing along with a song (this is kind of self explanatory, just by singing you train your voice to hold notes better which is one of the key things you need along with resonance and all the fun stuff), talking on the phone with someone you don’t know (this can be a difficult one, and it's totally fine if not), or even introducing yourself in the mirror. (if you feel confident in yourself enough to do so, otherwise it'll just bring your confidence levels down and make you doubt yourself) Seek Professional Guidance: Working with a vocal coach or speech therapist can be very beneficial. They can provide personalized guidance and feedback to help you achieve your voice goals. Remember, everyone’s journey with voice training is unique and it’s okay to go at your own pace. Don’t be too hard on yourself and celebrate your progress along the way! I hope this helps.
aside from the excellent comment above, im also gonna recommend transvoice(and then you have to put a dot but youtube hates comments with links)party. it has links to a bunch of communities, information, creators, and tools
My egg cracked a few weeks ago, and it's been hard coming to terms with it. To say this video couldn't have come out at a better time is an under statement. Thank you so much!
I'm moving back to my very conservative state and ill be honest. I needed this. My dysphoria and general mindset have been terrible and this was frankly the most encouraging thing. Thank you ❤
I’m really on the fence. I have such a great support system but I know if I come out and transition that support system changes and could be broken forever. I’m 50/50 on if my mum would support and I think my dad wouldn’t support. I don’t have any friends and I’m autistic. It also seems like a lot of work to transition. getting a therapist, talking to your gp and explaining how you feel. I just wanna take E to match how I feel inside 😅 I’ve been watching friend of the channel Pierbi’s videos and it seems like NHS trans healthcare isn’t that great. I just wish there was an easier way to transition without all the stress of family and doctors.
there is a thing called DIY. No talking to anyone required, just buy the hormones and anti androgen yourself. this circumvents all waiting lists and delays but the responsibility is all on you to take the proper dosages and make sure your levels are appropriate
Nhs gender clinics are overloaded. Waiting lists vary (think Nottingham might be the shortest at around 2 years), but their are private clinics as well (and many go private while waiting for the nhs). Advantage of nhs pathway is far more likely to get ongoing support from your GP for blood tests and prescriptions
love this video. i'm 8 months on HRT and life feels so transitory right now (pun intended). dysphoria's been rough lately, life's been throwing huge changes left and right at me, and it's all been feeling so hard and messy. the idea you talked about of focusing on your future self, of waking up each day and pushing forward bit by bit towards a version of myself that i can love, was really moving and inspiring. exactly what i needed to hear in this moment. ilysm
I'm transmasc in a very Catholic family, and I do want to start HRT and get top surgery at least, but I don’t know how or when I'll be able to do that without destroying relationships. One day I will, but right now I'm just counting the days until I move out so I can get even a modicum of courage. This video was kind of a sign to me, like 'it's okay, you'll get there, hold fast'. Thank you.
I sometimes lie awake just thinking about the next few decades of my life, wondering if I will ever align with what my cis friends look like. It's so scary sometimes, so seeing this video pop up was a godsend. Thank you so much Icky, you are truly an inspiration
Thank you Ashley for this lovely video. I find your visage, your voice, your entire demeanor so very comforting. Here in the US, every state is now the bible belt so it really helps to hear and see someone who makes me feel like I'm am part of a community. Please do more!!
hiiii i'm not sure if i'm just a feminine guy or i'm actually trans :/ is there a time where you can just like tell or is this something i need to talk to a therapist or something
Hello, gender questioning guy here! I'd say that if it's something that you've been thinking about for several months or even years then chances are you're probably trans. I guess it mostly depends on how you see yourself, not just your personality. If you have a more feminine personality but feel happy with being in a man's body then you it's probably more likely that you're a feminine guy. But if you also wish that your body looked more like a woman's, or if looking like a woman makes you happy, then it's more likely that you're trans. On the subject of therapy I can't say much about that because I've never tried it, but a lot of trans advice I've read says that it can be very helpful, so if you are able to access these services then I would certainly suggest you speak to one.
I started HRT 3 months ago and its insane how much less angry I am and like all the new emotions it turns out I have! Deciding to transition best thing I’ve ever done
I like this new format of video! I think my fashion tastes are too basic and old-fashioned to want to follow your fashion advice, but I'm sure the videos will be fun to watch anyways.
Well this is nice to know I will be honest I am not trans I am a normal fella but after watching this I definitely wanna be supportive of the LGBTQ community because my mom brought me up that way I love my mom very much because of that I don't have any friends that are LGBTQ but I hope to have some in the future I am 30 years old now and I hope me being here is good
I wish I had found a video like this 10 years ago. It makes me happy that someone might find this video and it will make all the difference to them that it would have made to me
I'm 3 months on HRT mtf. I respect and look up to people like you who are much further along this journey. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever done. Thank you for being such an inspiration to us all
This is really great I'm really happy for you, and whole story was so wholesome, i'd love to hear more of your journey and the said fashion. I think the main aspect that was evident through the entire video was, that you felt happy and optimistic. The transitioning period is hard and stressful and it was lovely to see you really enjoying how everything turned out.
Wonderful video. Everything you said about feeling more connected to life really resonates with me. I think this video is something folks starting their journey could show to friends and family to explain why in a clear and meaningful way. I wish the world could understand how miserable life for a pre-transition trans person is. I struggled with medication resistant depression for 30 years starting at age 10. Imagine that. At age 10 I didn’t want to live my life. Not so much that I wanted to die, but I just didn’t believe there was any joy to be had in living. At 46 I finally looked at myself in the mirror and said, “I’m trans. Holy sh*t! I’m trans!” All the depression disappeared. All of it, just…poof…gone, and it has stayed away for the entire 2 years of my transition this far. I’ve mourned for the 30 years of living I lost, but now I am living, and I’m gonna take full advantage of the time I have left. So please keep making videos like this. We need more authentic voices talking about the trans experience.
I came out 17 years ago and fought the medical field for years to get hormones. I didn't get my first HRT prescription till I was already out 3 years. Back in the early 2000s it was struggle. I was literally the first person in my city to come out a trans woman. I'm 43 years old. I'm an Eldritch Trans existed before the trans population book in the 2010s. I first came out in 1996 when I was 16 years old. Glad my generation made it easier for y'all New Gen Trans to come out.
amazing video, icky! my girlfriend is trans and seeing this video not only helps me better understand the process of transitioning but also gives me more insight on how these are questions and concerns that my own girlfriend may have through her own transitioning process herself. no matter what struggles she may have i will ALWAYS be behind her for it all and let her know that she isn’t alone in any of it. it’s a learning process for us both and it eases me that there is a community for her out there that will help shed light on these uncertain issues and show that it’s okay to think these things - it’s all a part of becoming who you want to be, and there is no shame in feeling uncertain of it. ❤
@@martind2520Oh, just shut up. That person is valid, if they tell you they're trans, why don't you trust them ? They're the best person to know if they're trans or not. You are not. So just shut up and accept it
I’m like 8 months into HRT and I’ve started to feel like what you’re describing, and I go out with friends and do makeup and read more and have been so much more in tune with the stuff that makes me happy. It was really terrifying at first and now I’m just starting to feel so happy
As someone who didn't accept myself as trans and start doing something about it until 35, it isn't sommething that ever goes away. You don't grow out of being trans. The sooner you make the effort to understand the particulars of your own transgender identity (it can vary a lot between people), the sooner you can start making plans and doing something to be the real you. For me, as hard as it was to get started (I'm from a very conservative and religous part of the USA), not transitioning seemed like it would be even harder. I felt like was the living dead, or just sleepwalking through a world of grey and sadness. Being me has made me feel alive in a way I haven't felt since before puberty wrecked my body. Love yourself enough to fight for yourself!
The fact that _you personally_ didn't ever stop feeling like you were trans, doesn't mean others won't. There are clear examples of people who have believed they were trans and then stopped.
@@martind2520 And if that is the case, you'll find out a lot sooner by talking about it and starting the process. It involves therapists and doctors. Despite what a lot of right wing politicians claim, there is no fast track through any of it. As an independent adult, it took well over 2 years to start HRT. On top of that, most people who find they aren't transgender exactly are non-binary or gender fluid. Understanding comes through acceptance, not fear, dishonesty, or hate.
@@Dragowolf_Rising There are clear examples of people who have decided they were trans and started HRT within two months. I was talking to one just the other day. You absolutely _can_ fast track it if you have the money. And, none of that changes the fact that _you_ claimed that people don't ever change their mind, when sometimes they _clearly do._
@@martind2520 Please re-read what was written as you clearly are putting your own bias into my words. I claimed no such thing as you suppose and your comments elsewhere suggest you care not for truth, logic, or reality. There is a difference between having feelings or not and knowing what those feelings mean. I won't further dignify your comments unless they seem genuine. I hope you grow in knowledge and understanding and avoid manipulative propaganda.
@@Dragowolf_Rising Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean my comments aren't genuine. And yes, you absolutely _did_ say that: " it isn't sommething that ever goes away. You don't grow out of being trans." There is no other way to read that line. You _very clearly_ said that feelings of being trans never go away.
Loved the video, out of all the woman of trans experience I follow yours is what most closely matches up with my mentality before and during transition ( 9 months in)
Im out now, been on HRT for nearly 4 months, already feeling happier every day. When I came out most of my family has been very supportive and my best friend is now my boyfriend. Its amazing how much my own mood has improved, which has made everything else better as well
I would love to see some fashion videos from you in particular! I like your style a lot and I feel like I need the most help in that area. Despite transitioning for a few years now I still tend to gravitate towards androgynous outfits because it's easier and within my comfort zone.
yes! do some fashion help stuff please, I think it will help get rid of my public shopping for women clothes fears, specifically bras if possible! ps: you are so pretty and you and finn being together makes me so happy!!!
I spent 7 years in that mindset of "I can just pretend to be cis, it'll be fine", and it really feels like such a waste of time now. But I choose to look at it as that's just what it took for me to come out and start the process. But I'm slow; been a year since I told family and friends, and only just now I went to a doc to start the physical process, which will actually take like 6 months of just meetings. I'm approaching my 40s and I still think it's worth it, but you might not want to wait this long if you know.
Saying the words, "I'm trans," took less than a second, but it will take a lifetime to live with the impact of my truth. Transitioning was the hardest thing I did, and despite all the hardship, it was and still remains the greatest act of self-love I ever made. 💜🏳️⚧️🦄
You Rock 💜
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I belife I saw you a few Times in other Comment Sections. Hope your doing well, have a nice day.
I'm well thank you for asking. Likewise, I'm lucky I can comment and perhaps share another perspective. Every trans person live their journeys unique to themselves. It's a beautiful thing. 🏳️⚧️🦄💜
ywnbaw + 52%
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best time is now. The best time to start living your life was 20 years ago, the next best time is now.”
Love you all
Lisa CARSON
It doesn’t change the fact that for some people it genuinely feels too late.
I’ve been out for 8 years now and can confirm that this video is indeed ok and is not nonsense rambling. I love that line “I would do it a thousand times over just to feel like half of how I feel now.”
To anyone else reading this, don’t wait until your mid thirties to transition like I did, and if you did wait, do it now.
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@@CoolestSwordFighter maybe u would be less insecure if you transitioned xd
@@bigcody2657 no, i decline. sorry. i'd rather stay being a cute femboy, doing and wearing cute things instead of just straight up disfiguring myself.
@@CoolestSwordFighter lmao ur so closeted its funny
@@CoolestSwordFighter breaking news to you: people still see femboys and trans women as same. do you think they will only ban the use of word trans and stop there? no. they will start persecuting anyone for showing any sign of gender nonconformity and will also persecute you for admitting for "indulging in these activities"
My girlfriend is also trans. I’ve always had some idea of how all this works, but after hearing her story and others, made it click for me and have an overwhelming amount of respect than I already had for trans people and what they go through
Edit: sweet Jesus, don’t feed the trolls guys.
Your boyfriend*
@@Fruxon7723 actually wrong!
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How's that bridge water taste?
@@scalesconfrey5739 pretty good. It must be hard for you mouth breathers to drking water, if you have to ask how it tastes
@@saltygam3r75 the pepe says otherwise
the best quote I've heard about transitioning is that "transitioning didn't solve all my problems. Transitioning made all my problems feel worth solving." and i think that truly applies, i still have a lot of the same problems as before but it made it worth working on fixing them as compared to before where i was just being passive about my own life.
Lisa CARSON
yup. Similarly I remember something I saw way way back in the mid00s about how you have to stop seeing transition as the goal. It isn't exactly just a starting point of course. But it's getting to a point where you can just live.
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This is the EXACT quote I used when discussing with friends and family about whether I should start transitioning or not. This is why I always say that trans acceptance, in a lot of cases, can be direct suicide prevention.
Fuck really? I think that explains the exact way I was before I realised I was trans, but now everyday this year since realising has just been pain from well dysphoria, or not being able to tell or talk about it to anyone irl.
Well-said! I didn't "show signs" as a kid, but I got VERY VERY GOOD at hiding stuff I was ashamed of. I'm so glad I moved past that. The feeling you describe of "no, this won't go away if I ignore it, it's going to keep haunting me forever if I don't do something" is very much what convinced me to finally transition. My life has always been pretty good, but it's a lot more vibrant now. Looking forward to the fashion vids!
Coming out as a trans woman was and is the bravest thing that I've ever done. I've lost friends and family because they are transphobic and/or religious, it hurt immensely but not as much as not living as my authentic self.
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@@MegaCyklops word's*
@@Fruxon7723 oh god mega nerd
Friends and family aren't true friends and family unless they accept you for who you are. They're fakeamilies and fakeriends
@@Fruxon7723 No, word*.
im not trans but its really nice to see people who are being so happy and confident with themselves. thank you ashley for helping alot of amazing people. i dont know if it will mean much but i am proud of you all and im very happy for you. like ashley said, you can do it :)
oh my god that is so wholesome
I feel the exact same way. It makes me genuinely happy to see people being themselves :) This goes beyond trans people as well. We should all be able to be happy with ourselves.
This is what I love about the LGBT community. Even if you don’t understand their struggle or “why” they are as they are, you can still clearly see that they’re happy with who they are!
@@Mystiskem1 I 100% agree, all I want is to see people happy, no matter who they are. That's why I write these comments sometimes, just incase someone reads it so I can hopefully make them smile 😁 because a little bit of happiness can make a big difference 😁
@@tylerbeaumont I also agree with you Tyler, I am a part of the lgbt community but I honestly don't know much about it, but seeing people happy is what matters most to me. Thank you for your comments guys, you're all awesome!
I am fully cis male and happy to be the way I am but just knowing that there are people out there not happy in their own skin makes me incredibly sad. I loved watching this vid and reading the comments of people finding happiness in their own skin through transitioning and different means. It makes me happy and proud of this entire community.
Funny, I have no idea what it is like to be a cis person and be happy. It's beyond my comprehension. Love your attitude!
I take this as my sign to actually fully start. I have been scared but you gave me the convidence.
likewise my friend, all the best wishes to you on your journey
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letsgooo !
Good luck dear, i hope expressing your gender makes you happy and relieves any dysphoria you may suffer
You got this, its not easy. But it is SO worth it
ever since F1nn came out I've been really wanting to take the first step, and honestly it feels like the first step to transitioning is the hardest, my family will be accepting, I know this, my family is pretty queer as it is, but I'm still nervous, I've known I'm non binary for a few years now, for a time I was happy with just that, but I dont feel like thats the case anymore
its a big decision, a big change and I know its only natural to be nervous, but I'm reaching a point where I have to, F1nn really was the push I needed, hearing him talk about his experience living as a cis man and how it aligns so perfectly with mine and seeing him genuinely so much happier, happier in a way that cant be faked, has been the push I needed
if you see this, tell F1nn hes already giving many trans people hope they can feel like themselves despite only coming out a few days ago
Thanks for the lovely video! I do want to add that there can be a lot of pressure to conform to certain things during your transition such as around what "passes". If anyone else reads this just know that transition is entirely your path to pave. And that there's no wrong or right thing as long as it makes you happy. If that's being 100% girl or boy that's great but if it's anything in between that's totally okay too ❤️
Lisa CARSON
I'm still on the fence about it to be honest, so this video really came at a good time. Thank you Ashley....
good luck dear!
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As a trans girl who had to wait until 27 to start hormones I get big envy from your journey and still often feel sad - but yea, it’s all work, just need the strength to put it in
as someone who is still waiting and probably have to wait until i am 37 to start hrt. I envy you
I realised that I'm trans in July and you really are a role model for me! I don't think about suicide anymore and I finally know what I can do to fight my depression. Thank you so much for your great content :D
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I’m gender fluid, and I connect with this video a lot, I was assigned male at birth, but for the longest time, and still now sometimes, I will look in a mirror, and I don’t recognise the person looking back at me as myself, cause most of the time I am a man so that is how I dress most of the time, and it’s been a lot easier for me to deal with my dysphoria after recognising that I am not always a guy.
Do voice training in the likely case you are not already. I was in a similar boat and I deeply regret the time I lost because I avoided it because it was hard//scary//pricy.
@@zen_tewmbs I haven’t started voice training yet, but I have looked into it quite a bit. When I do finally have the money for it, I will definitely start doing that. I hope everything has worked out better for you in the time since, and I thank you deeply for your advice.
@@Bi_Horizons I am omega blessed in many ways, including how well my voice has taken to training.
Also, you can get surprisingly far with just one lesson a month if you’re able to keep at it, and quintessential voice lessons is crazy good and relatively cheap. They’re just *chef’s kiss*. Depending on your level of need, you can get a single lesson for under 90$. That’s just 25$ to save up a week if you do lessons once a month.
But more importantly, even if you can’t get bona fide lessons that are crazy helpful, even being TH-cam-taught can help quite a bit.
@@zen_tewmbs Thanks for the info, I’ll definitely start looking into them, that’s what I’ve been doing a little bit, and so far it’s going pretty good. Thank you again for the information.
I started my transition socially 3 years ago to the day, and I feel like its the best decision I could have made. The points made here are very accurate, especially the part about it being rough at first but smoother later. Just because its going to make you happy in the long run doesn't mean its an easy step to take. There's going to be bumps, and that's okay. We just have to make sure to help each other back up when we hit them...
Im a year into transition, i felt empty before and i feel empty now. Im glad other people are not like me and can be happy eventually and i wish the best for all future transitioners.
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I hope it gets better homie
That's just what they keep telling themselves. Many of them are also on all kinds of drugs and antidepressants. That's the danger of looking at influencers. They often make a living off of showing that they're happy, whether they're actually happy or not. Many of them do it even for attention or to justify their choice. But I can tell you, the statistics don't lie. Most people who transition are more likely to commit suicide than before transitioning. And it's actually the ones who find peace with themselves and opt not to do it who end up as stable, mentally healthy individuals.
Keep in mind that modern 'science' cannot change the nature of a human being. Transitioning is nothing more than a shallow process. It doesn't matter how much someone tinkers with their body, it's still the same body. If you feel like crap in your body, you'll still feel like crap after transitioning. Probably even moreso with all of the influence of extra drugs & tinkering that was done. If it was possible to do a proper transition then you wouldn't need to take drugs for the rest of your life to keep your body from trying to revert to its natural state (as much as it is still able to, at least).
realizing how much my parents tried to correct my femininity as a kid blew my mind, the fear, the punishment
trying on mums clothes at like 6, how sad I was when I could no longer sing along to maria carey at like..9, already started to lose my singing voice T__T
that sadness was locked away and forgotten in a little box; along with my childhood wishes to be a girl; I locked that shit away to prevent feeling unfixable, stuck
love you for wanting to spread wellbeing; that's mankind's greatest gene, parenting, care for others
My name is Mikayla Alexis. I came out last fall, I started HRT 1.7.23, I've been watching you & Finn a lot... I've rewatched this video multiple times, especially when I get sad. I don't think I can express how much you have helped me push myself thru this and keep goin day by day. This (my transition) makes waking up the next day worth it now, and I just wanted to say ty cause ik I'm not the only one you guys have helped ❤
Thank you, so much 🥲
There is nothing in the world more important than being happy. Each and every single one of us deserves to love ourselves and to feel loved. That goes for each and every one of you reading this. You, and you, and yeah, you too! All of you! Life is too short and too precious to live in fear of other people when you know what is right for you. We all have limited time on this planet and every day there are people lying on their deathbeds looking back at their lives with regrets. Don't let something this important be something you regret. You all deserve to be happy. Go for it and live your life!
I'm turning 20 this year and been struggling majorily with gender dspheria a lot. I live with transphobic parents and I hope to move out and get hrt by next year but asap. I love you and your videos.
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I have put off watching this video that popped up in my recommendations for almost a week now... Because I'm scared to hear the words she said.
I'm trans, and I know it, and I'm so scared of living like it outside of the online world. The whole effort and unknown stuff that comes with it, next to my already rough and depression plagued life just overwhelms me.
But thanks to this video, I got reminded again that I should finally start doing this. I will never be able to fix my life, if I'm doing it for a version of myself that I dispise.
If I don't love myself and who I am, I will never be able to keep my life together.. Thanks for the reminder, even tho it made me cry and gave me the need to hug my blahaj for comfort.
Bare in mind that the claim made at the start of the video is outright false. That study that was cited _does not_ say that trans people have the brain of the other sex, it says the _exact opposite._
The study showed _very clearly_ that the brains of people who identified as transwomen were brains that were much closer to men than to women. To the point that at least one of the transwomen in the study had a brain that was 50% _more_ "man" than the average cisman did.
You're so valid and don't worry, there are people who will accept you as your true gender :3
And if someone doesn't, that means that they're not worth your attention
thank you for making this video, ashley! its a really weird and scary time to be trans and i really appreciate your positivity and light
I really relate to what you’re saying about everything falling into place and taking better care of yourself when you transition. I suddenly just felt so much more comfortable in my existence, best thing I ever did for myself. Also love this style of content from you! ❤️
this couldn't have popped up on my recommended at a better time. I already know all this, but it's great hearing it again right now
I am 60 % sure that I am not trans. But I can tell you that 100 % of the words you just shared , were things that I needed to hear in my life right now.
Thanks !
Give it some thought, you might be an egg, or it might just be good advice!
@@GlitzPixie I thought about it lot, this is why I am not 100 % sure :D
@@klaus798 I'm with you homie. It's hard to know with how much my brain has been structured to believe I'm cis, I'm still new to questioning but what brings me back is this instinctual interest and euphoria that comes with experimenting. Most of me is convinced I'm crazy and faking it, but the small part of me that has a hunch I'm a girl feels so strong and authentic and I want to listen to it
This was wonderful. You said some of the exact things I've said both to myself and others. I finally realized I was trans a little over a year ago, and at that point in my life, the question of "Do I transition, or do I try to forget it all and continue pretending to be cis?" was an especially difficult one. Not that it's ever easy for anyone at any point, but only coming to that realization well into middle age just makes it all that much harder to overcome.
I've been on HRT for nearly 10 months now, and largely socially transitioned for perhaps 7.
What you said about self care hit especially close to home, and mirrors my experience almost exactly. Before, I never really cared about taking care of myself. And for a couple of decades I drank to manage the dysphoria I didn't realize I had. Literally the day after I accepted who I was and decided to transition, I quit drinking. I didn't decide to, I just completely lost the urge or need to. I went from 4-6 drinks per night to zero in the span of 24 hours. It was like a switch had been flipped. I also started eating better, and exercising, and just suddenly *wanted* to do it. My overall health is significantly better, and I've managed to lose approximately 23kg already - and it has been *easy*!
Decades of failed attempts to do so before, no matter how hard I tried I could never sustain it. It always ultimately felt pointless, and I never could figure out why. But once I realized who I really was and decided to live my life as I always should have been, the changes were easy - because I finally cared!
Thank you so much for putting this video out there.
Thanks Icky! This was a banger, you nailed what it's like. I've was very slowly socially transitioning since 15 months ago, but it ramped up a lot when I started medical transition with Cypro in April and Estrogen in June, and you're right, it's a lot of effort, there is a lot to do, a lot to manage, and lots of awkwardness. But it is worth it, and even still going through it now, I can see that. I feel lighter, I am taking better care of myself, and I'm liking who I am more now. And that is despite all the rough stuff in the world and around people not being accepting, it's still better.
Good video, loving the format ❤️
As a trans woman, I think this video is amazing! It’s so in line with my experience, and is such a great message for people who are concerned about transitioning! I’ve been on estrogen for just over a year now, and I can confidently say it has been the best decision I have ever made! I’m more comfortable with myself, I’m happier, my anxieties about my body and appearance have all but melted away, and I can’t be more grateful to my younger self. To anyone reading this who is considering transitioning, you can do it!
Wow! Keywords ringing bells.
I appreciate your compassion, your critical thinking and your willingness to share insights I think anyone who finds this to be true of themselves, will find clarity, encouragement and even confirmation.
I can't thank you enough.
I loved the video. Transition is hard. I’ve definitely been taking mine less seriously than I should be, but I definitely need to take it more seriously.
Also yes would love fashion videos.
This made me cry... Genuinely thank you for sharing this!
This is a well produced video, i love the editing style! Love this video, Ashley! 🖤🖤
*puts on Kennedy voice* We choose to transition in this decade and do the other things not because they are easy, but because they are hard. ;-)
It's also much harder to not transition, even in the UK with horrible people being horrible to us.
Also I laughed when you said "If you're on the fence about being cis or being trans..." I barked a laugh and said "If you're on the fence, you're probably a lot less on the fence than you think." cis people don't need to think about these things.
One of the hardest things for me to do was coming out to others. I started small. 1 friend after work over drinks. After that, I started telling small groups who I KNEW talked with others at my workplace. It kinda snowballed after that. I removed my male mask on a stream 9 months ago. I let the world know then. Buying clothes, living authentically, growing my confidence in myself. All that took time. I haven't been prescribed HRT yet, but I'm hoping soon. I learned it's like anything else in life. The best things are the hardest to accomplish or stick to. But they are definitely worth it.
I would absolutely love more of those videos ❤
I've been socially transitioning for three years now and medically for two months (Yipee!), and am just starting to be able to feel that I love myself, so that's awesome ^^ can't wait for hrt to do more than what it's already done haha. You've been a huge inspiration since I've discovered your (around when you started hormones), and you've given me so much power to make myself be the better me ^^ so thank you so much Ashley
This is kinda what I'm going through right now. Even though I came out to most of my family (those who won't get mad, essentially) I still have feelings of what if it becomes too hard? what if the haters are everywhere and i'm gonna die? and so on. For a moment I almost wanted to pull the break and go back to being cis but i'm staying strong cuz i know i won't be fully happy until i make it over the river that is transitioning x_x
i'd rather be hated for who i am than loved for who I'm not
@@belalaloca well said
I waited over 50 years to be happy with my gender. If transition is right for someone, there is no such thing as successfully running from it because one cannot run from oneself. I'm so happy now.
I’ve been struggling to take the best big step in my retransition and this video reminded me that no matter what, everything will be ok. Thank you :)
That was really well done, the format is great! I really enjoy watching long form informative content so this was right up my alley. I love how you present things in such a calm, non-judgmental way. The advice you gave is frankly exactly what I needed to hear right now, and your words will be on my mind as I continue on my gender journey.
as someone who is just now trying to start my transition I love this type/format of video. Your HRT PDF is a big part of what convinced me that transitioning isn't such a big scary thing; that it's something I can actually do. Thanks so much icky
New format is a great addition! Feels oddly nostalgic
I'm personally not transfem, but I'm here for the wholesome gender life advice! Also yes please do fashion videos, I love your fashion sense!!
*puts on Kennedy voice* We choose to transition in this decade and do the other things not because they are easy, but because they are hard. ;-)
It's also much harder to not transition, even in the UK with horrible people being horrible to us.
I use that Kennedy quote to motivate myself to complete my chemistry degree haha
Im really glad she's so open about this 😊
Cuz maybe this will help other people to come out too
Human beings are really complicated, but when you keep-it-simple wisdom the world is your oyster with no regrets!
Love this as a UK based trans woman.
I think for those questioning it can also be a good idea to make a little list. 'Things you like about your body vs things you don't'.
Be honest with it. I found a lot of the things that made me miserable were my bodies masculine aspects. Even if it doesn't provide a clear answer on your questioning, it can give you an insight on where you want to improve.
For instance, I'm about 4.5 months on Hormones but struggle to maintain a routine for voice training. My voice bothers me but for whatever I struggle to improve it.
So, i am curious if anyone had any pointers for me.
Stay beautiful/handsome all you great people.
I understand that voice training can be a challenging process, especially when you’re also navigating hormone therapy. Here are some tips and resources that might help:
Understand the Basics: It’s important to understand what makes a voice sound feminine. While pitch is often emphasized, resonance is actually more crucial. (transvoicelessons is a useful channel if you haven't heard of which may help, a lot of videos explaining the different things and ways of learning)
Use the Right Tools: A tuner can help you stay on target with your pitch, while a spectrograph can show all the different harmonics present when you speak. (I like Voice Tools, it has the colours of the trans flag too)
Practice Regularly: Consistent practice is key to voice training. You can practice by reading a book aloud (or quietly), singing along with a song (this is kind of self explanatory, just by singing you train your voice to hold notes better which is one of the key things you need along with resonance and all the fun stuff), talking on the phone with someone you don’t know (this can be a difficult one, and it's totally fine if not), or even introducing yourself in the mirror. (if you feel confident in yourself enough to do so, otherwise it'll just bring your confidence levels down and make you doubt yourself)
Seek Professional Guidance: Working with a vocal coach or speech therapist can be very beneficial. They can provide personalized guidance and feedback to help you achieve your voice goals.
Remember, everyone’s journey with voice training is unique and it’s okay to go at your own pace. Don’t be too hard on yourself and celebrate your progress along the way! I hope this helps.
aside from the excellent comment above, im also gonna recommend transvoice(and then you have to put a dot but youtube hates comments with links)party. it has links to a bunch of communities, information, creators, and tools
@@fghsgh Thanks so much!
I'll be sure to check it out.
My egg cracked a few weeks ago, and it's been hard coming to terms with it. To say this video couldn't have come out at a better time is an under statement. Thank you so much!
I'm moving back to my very conservative state and ill be honest. I needed this. My dysphoria and general mindset have been terrible and this was frankly the most encouraging thing. Thank you ❤
I love the little animations. Top notch 🎉
I’m really on the fence.
I have such a great support system but I know if I come out and transition that support system changes and could be broken forever. I’m 50/50 on if my mum would support and I think my dad wouldn’t support. I don’t have any friends and I’m autistic.
It also seems like a lot of work to transition. getting a therapist, talking to your gp and explaining how you feel. I just wanna take E to match how I feel inside 😅 I’ve been watching friend of the channel Pierbi’s videos and it seems like NHS trans healthcare isn’t that great.
I just wish there was an easier way to transition without all the stress of family and doctors.
there is a thing called DIY. No talking to anyone required, just buy the hormones and anti androgen yourself.
this circumvents all waiting lists and delays but the responsibility is all on you to take the proper dosages and make sure your levels are appropriate
Nhs gender clinics are overloaded. Waiting lists vary (think Nottingham might be the shortest at around 2 years), but their are private clinics as well (and many go private while waiting for the nhs). Advantage of nhs pathway is far more likely to get ongoing support from your GP for blood tests and prescriptions
I love the style of editing you've gone for in this video, it feels very much you!
Awesome video Ashley, more like this please :) I like the editing style too.
Ashley you made me cry this is so good! I love this happy tears 🥹
love this video. i'm 8 months on HRT and life feels so transitory right now (pun intended). dysphoria's been rough lately, life's been throwing huge changes left and right at me, and it's all been feeling so hard and messy. the idea you talked about of focusing on your future self, of waking up each day and pushing forward bit by bit towards a version of myself that i can love, was really moving and inspiring. exactly what i needed to hear in this moment. ilysm
Couldnt have said it better myself. Bravo Ashley
This format is amazing!! I would love to see more!!☺️☺️ Especially fashion related!
Thank you, I can't even begin to describe how much I needed to hear that this exact day
I'm transmasc in a very Catholic family, and I do want to start HRT and get top surgery at least, but I don’t know how or when I'll be able to do that without destroying relationships. One day I will, but right now I'm just counting the days until I move out so I can get even a modicum of courage. This video was kind of a sign to me, like 'it's okay, you'll get there, hold fast'. Thank you.
The colour of the transition screens remind me if moon mist ice cream 💕🤤 lovely colour scheme
I needed this
I sometimes lie awake just thinking about the next few decades of my life, wondering if I will ever align with what my cis friends look like. It's so scary sometimes, so seeing this video pop up was a godsend. Thank you so much Icky, you are truly an inspiration
Thank you Ashley for this lovely video. I find your visage, your voice, your entire demeanor so very comforting. Here in the US, every state is now the bible belt so it really helps to hear and see someone who makes me feel like I'm am part of a community. Please do more!!
hiiii i'm not sure if i'm just a feminine guy or i'm actually trans :/ is there a time where you can just like tell or is this something i need to talk to a therapist or something
Hello, gender questioning guy here! I'd say that if it's something that you've been thinking about for several months or even years then chances are you're probably trans.
I guess it mostly depends on how you see yourself, not just your personality. If you have a more feminine personality but feel happy with being in a man's body then you it's probably more likely that you're a feminine guy. But if you also wish that your body looked more like a woman's, or if looking like a woman makes you happy, then it's more likely that you're trans.
On the subject of therapy I can't say much about that because I've never tried it, but a lot of trans advice I've read says that it can be very helpful, so if you are able to access these services then I would certainly suggest you speak to one.
I started HRT 3 months ago and its insane how much less angry I am and like all the new emotions it turns out I have! Deciding to transition best thing I’ve ever done
I like this new format of video! I think my fashion tastes are too basic and old-fashioned to want to follow your fashion advice, but I'm sure the videos will be fun to watch anyways.
It's really great to have discovered this amazing channel
Well this is nice to know I will be honest I am not trans I am a normal fella but after watching this I definitely wanna be supportive of the LGBTQ community because my mom brought me up that way I love my mom very much because of that I don't have any friends that are LGBTQ but I hope to have some in the future I am 30 years old now and I hope me being here is good
Amazing person ❤
@@kiedisboughen5318 thank you 💟
I wish I had found a video like this 10 years ago. It makes me happy that someone might find this video and it will make all the difference to them that it would have made to me
Thank you for this video, sat here watching it through tears, this kinda hit in a good way. ❤
Thank you so much for this video, its crazy how some people just know what to say to others to feel like they can achieve what feels right to them.
I'm 3 months on HRT mtf. I respect and look up to people like you who are much further along this journey. This is by far the hardest thing I've ever done. Thank you for being such an inspiration to us all
makes me happy to see how much happiness transition brings
This is really great
I'm really happy for you, and whole story was so wholesome, i'd love to hear more of your journey and the said fashion. I think the main aspect that was evident through the entire video was, that you felt happy and optimistic. The transitioning period is hard and stressful and it was lovely to see you really enjoying how everything turned out.
Thanks for sharing, I’ve also thought of most things in this video so I’ll just tell myself I’m on the right track!
Also, would love fashion videos
Wonderful video.
Everything you said about feeling more connected to life really resonates with me.
I think this video is something folks starting their journey could show to friends and family to explain why in a clear and meaningful way.
I wish the world could understand how miserable life for a pre-transition trans person is.
I struggled with medication resistant depression for 30 years starting at age 10. Imagine that. At age 10 I didn’t want to live my life. Not so much that I wanted to die, but I just didn’t believe there was any joy to be had in living.
At 46 I finally looked at myself in the mirror and said, “I’m trans. Holy sh*t! I’m trans!” All the depression disappeared. All of it, just…poof…gone, and it has stayed away for the entire 2 years of my transition this far.
I’ve mourned for the 30 years of living I lost, but now I am living, and I’m gonna take full advantage of the time I have left.
So please keep making videos like this. We need more authentic voices talking about the trans experience.
I came out 17 years ago and fought the medical field for years to get hormones. I didn't get my first HRT prescription till I was already out 3 years. Back in the early 2000s it was struggle. I was literally the first person in my city to come out a trans woman. I'm 43 years old. I'm an Eldritch Trans existed before the trans population book in the 2010s. I first came out in 1996 when I was 16 years old. Glad my generation made it easier for y'all New Gen Trans to come out.
my heart ;_;
Thanks a lot for telling your story in such a simple, understandable and empathetic way 👌🤗
amazing video, icky!
my girlfriend is trans and seeing this video not only helps me better understand the process of transitioning but also gives me more insight on how these are questions and concerns that my own girlfriend may have through her own transitioning process herself. no matter what struggles she may have i will ALWAYS be behind her for it all and let her know that she isn’t alone in any of it. it’s a learning process for us both and it eases me that there is a community for her out there that will help shed light on these uncertain issues and show that it’s okay to think these things - it’s all a part of becoming who you want to be, and there is no shame in feeling uncertain of it. ❤
Thank you for making this! Really needed it. Yes please make more stuff.
My egg cracked a few days ago, and honestly this video is exactly what I needed to hear, so thank you! ❤
You are absolutely beautiful
So much of that was on point with how I felt. Especially looking after my new self because I didn't care as much about my old self.
thanks for this was helpful i recently discovered im trans
How did you discover you were trans?
@@martind2520 it’s. Long story but when I was young I was always jealous of girls then I look back over the years and here I am now
@@patsweeney5104 How does that make you trans? Doesn't that just make you a boy who is envious of girls?
@@martind2520Oh, just shut up. That person is valid, if they tell you they're trans, why don't you trust them ?
They're the best person to know if they're trans or not. You are not. So just shut up and accept it
So cool for you :3
Discovering things about yourself is always wonderful
I’m like 8 months into HRT and I’ve started to feel like what you’re describing, and I go out with friends and do makeup and read more and have been so much more in tune with the stuff that makes me happy. It was really terrifying at first and now I’m just starting to feel so happy
The timing of this video is crazy for me. Means a lot since you have been a bit of a role model in the egg phase
This helped so much for me thank you. I really needed this. Very grateful that other people get it :)
thank you so much for sharing this information, it's helped me a lot with deciding how I want to start transitioning
I loved this Icky ❤️
You are so freakin wholesome 😭
As someone who didn't accept myself as trans and start doing something about it until 35, it isn't sommething that ever goes away. You don't grow out of being trans. The sooner you make the effort to understand the particulars of your own transgender identity (it can vary a lot between people), the sooner you can start making plans and doing something to be the real you. For me, as hard as it was to get started (I'm from a very conservative and religous part of the USA), not transitioning seemed like it would be even harder. I felt like was the living dead, or just sleepwalking through a world of grey and sadness. Being me has made me feel alive in a way I haven't felt since before puberty wrecked my body. Love yourself enough to fight for yourself!
The fact that _you personally_ didn't ever stop feeling like you were trans, doesn't mean others won't. There are clear examples of people who have believed they were trans and then stopped.
@@martind2520 And if that is the case, you'll find out a lot sooner by talking about it and starting the process. It involves therapists and doctors. Despite what a lot of right wing politicians claim, there is no fast track through any of it. As an independent adult, it took well over 2 years to start HRT. On top of that, most people who find they aren't transgender exactly are non-binary or gender fluid. Understanding comes through acceptance, not fear, dishonesty, or hate.
@@Dragowolf_Rising There are clear examples of people who have decided they were trans and started HRT within two months. I was talking to one just the other day.
You absolutely _can_ fast track it if you have the money.
And, none of that changes the fact that _you_ claimed that people don't ever change their mind, when sometimes they _clearly do._
@@martind2520 Please re-read what was written as you clearly are putting your own bias into my words. I claimed no such thing as you suppose and your comments elsewhere suggest you care not for truth, logic, or reality. There is a difference between having feelings or not and knowing what those feelings mean. I won't further dignify your comments unless they seem genuine. I hope you grow in knowledge and understanding and avoid manipulative propaganda.
@@Dragowolf_Rising Just because I disagree with you doesn't mean my comments aren't genuine.
And yes, you absolutely _did_ say that: " it isn't sommething that ever goes away. You don't grow out of being trans."
There is no other way to read that line. You _very clearly_ said that feelings of being trans never go away.
Loved the video, out of all the woman of trans experience I follow yours is what most closely matches up with my mentality before and during transition ( 9 months in)
Kinda realizing that everything in this video applies to me and now I’m scared… especially so cause I live in Texas
Im out now, been on HRT for nearly 4 months, already feeling happier every day. When I came out most of my family has been very supportive and my best friend is now my boyfriend. Its amazing how much my own mood has improved, which has made everything else better as well
I loved this video and I thought your ending was perfect! I’ve subscribed and I’m looking forward to new videos!
Thank you for this. I've started the process, but I always feel like I'm looking for more assurance that I'm moving in the right direction.
I would love to see some fashion videos from you in particular! I like your style a lot and I feel like I need the most help in that area. Despite transitioning for a few years now I still tend to gravitate towards androgynous outfits because it's easier and within my comfort zone.
yes! do some fashion help stuff please, I think it will help get rid of my public shopping for women clothes fears, specifically bras if possible!
ps: you are so pretty and you and finn being together makes me so happy!!!
I spent 7 years in that mindset of "I can just pretend to be cis, it'll be fine", and it really feels like such a waste of time now. But I choose to look at it as that's just what it took for me to come out and start the process. But I'm slow; been a year since I told family and friends, and only just now I went to a doc to start the physical process, which will actually take like 6 months of just meetings. I'm approaching my 40s and I still think it's worth it, but you might not want to wait this long if you know.