How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class 101. Devalue a players: When someone plays games they generally do it so that they can get attention and gain the upper hand in the relationship. Most people don't really care if this is negative or positive attention as long as they feel that they still have the same or greater value because to their actions. Showing a person that is playing games that they have lost value is a great way to let them see that what they are doing is negatively affecting them so that they will stop. 102. Ignoring: We often spend a lot of our time paying attention to things that make us unhappy, instead of focusing on the things that make us smile. When someone is playing games, they are generally trying to get the attention that they probably didn't get it their previous relationships. Ignoring them can show them that this does not work with you and that they will need to try another method. 103. Rewarding good behavior: We often want people to behave a certain way but often take it for granted when they do. A lot of people have been taken for granted in the past and this is why they choose to play games in the first place. Rewarding good behavior shows that once they act the way that you want them to, they will get the positive affirmation that they may not have received in previous relationships. Save 15% on the How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class with Coupon Code: stopthegames sellfy.com/p/38Eq/
These videos are the kind of things people need to hear. Sometimes, you do have to be tired of being at the tail end of being played and just stop the cycle. Tell the person, they've won whatever game you didn't want to play, include whatever else you needed for closure and get OFF the emotional roller coaster. No matter "how you may feel", if they aren't in it to win it on the same level, you have to stop being paralyzed at the gate. You have to pick up your mat and walk. Great stuff!
It's hilarious watching this video and part 1 because I was just in a situation with someone like this!! Just a few days ago, I deleted his number and deleted him from all of my social media...best feeling ever 😊 and like Chazz mentioned, I didn't even like him, so I would have been settling. I just had to figure out why he was playing games.
It hurts to lose a friend. I really loved this guy but looking at the way you put it, I was never really in a real relationship. He hid things from me, made promises and never kept his word. I never felt appreciated and he wasn't there for me. I realize now I really got played and he will never do what I need a man in my life to do. I thought we would be a family and I had a supportive person I could really be a help mate to. I got played and he won.
Maat Warrior It may seem like he won, but in the end its that losers loss! May he reap what he sowed and realize you don't mistreat people and get rewarded for it.
What I like is that chaz talks about real life experiences and hes very accurate and intelligent. I found this extremely useful. And I think its also good that you tell people to follow your own heart and trust your own instincts. Very respectful to the people who get caught in these upsetting scenarios. As we are all only human. Keep up the good work chaz.
GREAT advice! Forget these people with a PHD or whatever.... You give the best answers for dealing with these damn game players! I've been dealing with a game player (my boyfriend) for a long time! I'm tired of it and pissed off. Tell hell with his silent treatment! Hell will freeze over before I contact that fool again.
Ignoring works too. Speaking from experience, people, but especially men, can't stand to be ignored. At this point, they will go out of their way to be seen & or heard. So that makes me wonder... you could have been going out of your way all along but you chose not to. So guess what, I choose not to deal with you now. Also, when you stop caring so much, seems like they start caring more...go figure.
Mine is looking to see if im with some one because im doing crossfit i lost weight and im alot hoter lol so hes trying to move on so people dont tell him "you lost a great person" 🤷🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
Because of you I looked at myself subjectively and realized that I was just nuts, crazy as a loon and undignified. Now I can hardly remember why I cared. You are a great human. I can hardly wait to hear your new comedy show.
Your videos are very helpful. Your method of delivery is plain enough to be understood and sophisticated enough to be highly relevant in this dating market. Keep up the great work. And yes I am sharing the videos. I'm testing your advice and so far it has been spot on!!
I was obsessed with my ex and I believe you are right and that I was obsessed for the very reason you present in this video. I think I was obsessed because of the unfinished business I had with him. I was pregnant with his child and I cut him off cold turkey because of the games he was playing and I never got a chance to express my hurt and pain to him so they were bottled up. I did write things down in my personal journal and talk to my friends, but that wasn't enuf. Your point of view helps me to move on and realize it's probably not that I am just totally into him, but because I wasn't able to officially 'close' the relationship. Thanks Chazz!
I'm listening in & I subscribed. I married the guy. The games guy. And it's like you said I liked absolutely nothing about him when we first met. He didn't know how to dress, I found out he lied about his age, we kept in touch over the years then began a relationship. I feel like he made me feel good & once he got me......he dropped it all. My friend says he upgraded & I was too mature for him. She was right. Now, we are in a mess. I'll listen in & hopefully gain more knowledge & not indulge with him & his games. Oan, he is accusing me of having a friend guy, go figure. I was doing him like he did me, he called to say I'm not coming home right now, I gotta clean my horse stable. I said take your time I'm at my friend's (I gave her name) he questioned me like the irs.
Thank you!! So happy when I saw that you uploaded part 2 :D But I still have a question... are you trying to say that it can't work out? We only have unfinished buisness and when we're done it's over? .. I wanna do what you say but with the intention that hopefully and some point we could start on a better way.
Happy 100 videos :o) lol, and as usual you're right so much so that sometimes I have to bow my head in shame, not look at you coz its like I'm being told off by my Daddy lmao. But thank you, you've never steered us wrong :o) xx
one thing I think you should address is yeah you can block them on social media and not answer their phone/text messages but some guys will make up a phony profile or try to talk to you by getting on their buddies page and talk to you that way
You must have a sister or some women figure in your life that you really care about because I sure there are some guys that hate you for exposing them for what they are. I was dating a Mexican guy that would only react or answer a text when I was pissed, If I wrote just a nice text he wouldn't even respond. Then he would say I was all about the drama. Well he's not getting anymore drama, sex or massages or nice dinners from this woman anymore. I have you to thank for that, keep up the good work and may you succeed in all you do. Many heartfelt thanks!
Hey Chazz: What if you have unfinished business with someone and you are trying to resolve the unfinished business but that person refuses to have contact with you? What can you do to move on from that if the person is not decent enough to respond back after they played games with you? Thanks for your videos and advice.
Just hold on and don't try to contact them until they contact you. Delete those numbers and they will most likely come back when they realize that you are not going to try to talk to them any more.
Hello Chazz! Like all your videos btw keep it up... so moving on, in regards to this video,,, What would you say if instead of unfinished business the person just leaves without saying why they chosed to leave, No closer at all? ?
CHAZZ YOU ARE THE MAN this video was on point how did you learn all you know and your delivery is perfect anyway I have been following and testing out your stuff and I am back in the drivers seat , so once again he is blowing up my phone I have some new rules in place I AM REALLY NOT READY TO SEE HIM DATE HIM NOTHING I WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IN LOVE WITH HIM I can not quiet move on yet even tho I have not seen him by my choice in over 4 months its all about now
Man u just explain so well their mind. Just one thing, when he is back I'm gonna be quiet 🤫 yeah just the way he plays with me. He is gonna be wondering why and I'll be giving him the same back.
I'm so ready to let go, my man is unreal. Will be sweet and loving (when he needs something) and treat me like a stranger when he can't get what he wants or is struggling with a situation. I don't even know if I love him anymore, he brings nothing into this "relationship" it's a joke. I'm really frustrated.
I couldn't agree more with you in part 1 & 2 of this session. I was honest with married guy 100 % because I got crush on him and asked him please let me alone and don't play with me. but he did the same as you described, he did exactly to every detail you said and I knew it and avoided it but still being hurt, he is a player with girls and he still wants sleeping with me ( maybe for validation). all of my friends blame me for talking with him coz from the start he can't give me what I want and just want me to be his booty call but I was hurt and need time to heal even I and him just met twice. more than that I was attracted to these type of players. that's my problem.
ive been in the game for 3 yrs but im obssessed with the fact that i want answers to get closure and i want revenge..he tells me he doesnt want me etc etc all the awful hurtful stuff... so i changed my number, blocked him on social media but now i keep calling him blocked(because he was doing it to me which is why i changed my number) and irritating him on purpose just to get him mad. I want him to feel some type of something for all that he's put me through. i am definitely obssesed but my obsession is because i want to win... its not about him anymore. i used to love him but he killed the love i felt for him with his constant mind games. So now im bitter and always think about him and how to get back at him. It's ruining my life because i can't move on 😔😔😔
you have got to find a way to move on, counseling might help but please try to take hold of your emotions girl! for your own sanity...get a new hobby, go out & have fun &/or travel do something sweetie! I hope it works out for you
+missball404 lol same advice everyone gives me like i dont work run a household etc etc you could do a thousand things and be busy but your mind is a powerful thing and there is always room for that person to creep up in it....but whatever it is what it is.
The unfinished business is my problem. He has never given me closure on issues, therefore I became obsessed & had a few diary of a mad black woman episodes. And people really don't know what they will do unless it happens to them. I'll be checking out more videos because I really need help.
You are so right about the obsession thing! Thanks. Sometimes you have to be a detective to figure it out, other times you just need to get your head out of your own a** and see the truth about the person. xoxo
Damn i wish i've seen yourr videos a year before so i wouldn't be that stupid. I know now but i didn't know before. Lol this guy here, he finds me on any possible app that i wouldn't even think of. I'm just like wtf but i don't really care anymore. Thanks & Great videos.
Long time ago since you wrote, but he said someting about; either they aren't ready for what you want, they be talking to someone else also etc. or they like you as person but they don't feel like they have enough to offer so they have to keep you interested.
Can you address a situation involving a relationship? Example. My man and I were together 4 years he left and came back 3 times the most recent 3 weeks ago. He has been a father to my son since my son was 4 months old(the real dad dipped out when I was 3 months pregnant) Things have gotten serious but every time I wanted to talk about marriage he would leave. He is a great guy but what kind of game is this? That he wants to still be a part of my sons life but wants nothing to do with me. Do a video on this PLEASE!
How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class
101. Devalue a players: When someone plays games they generally do it so that they can get attention and gain the upper hand in the relationship. Most people don't really care if this is negative or positive attention as long as they feel that they still have the same or greater value because to their actions. Showing a person that is playing games that they have lost value is a great way to let them see that what they are doing is negatively affecting them so that they will stop.
102. Ignoring: We often spend a lot of our time paying attention to things that make us unhappy, instead of focusing on the things that make us smile. When someone is playing games, they are generally trying to get the attention that they probably didn't get it their previous relationships. Ignoring them can show them that this does not work with you and that they will need to try another method.
103. Rewarding good behavior: We often want people to behave a certain way but often take it for granted when they do. A lot of people have been taken for granted in the past and this is why they choose to play games in the first place. Rewarding good behavior shows that once they act the way that you want them to, they will get the positive affirmation that they may not have received in previous relationships.
Save 15% on the How to Deal with Game Playing Master Class with Coupon Code: stopthegames
sellfy.com/p/38Eq/
My god this is so my life right now
I love it when you do the voices of other people so funny!😆😆😆
A person cant play you, if its about you..so make it about you💯💯💯💯
These videos are the kind of things people need to hear. Sometimes, you do have to be tired of being at the tail end of being played and just stop the cycle. Tell the person, they've won whatever game you didn't want to play, include whatever else you needed for closure and get OFF the emotional roller coaster. No matter "how you may feel", if they aren't in it to win it on the same level, you have to stop being paralyzed at the gate. You have to pick up your mat and walk. Great stuff!
It's hilarious watching this video and part 1 because I was just in a situation with someone like this!! Just a few days ago, I deleted his number and deleted him from all of my social media...best feeling ever 😊 and like Chazz mentioned, I didn't even like him, so I would have been settling. I just had to figure out why he was playing games.
"I ain't crying tho, it's the pollen" LMBO love it Chazz!
luulips I know! that cracked me up.
Eventually, one day you'll wake up and say to yourself F this person! 😤
That's the most accurate description of how it happens I've read. Spot on sis. lol.
+Dahiana Mendoza I think I'm in that process right now... And it feels so good :')
elson turner lol no I've already woken up :)
Fox Tail yes it does :) x
Diamond Feliz true
For you to be so young you sure got it together and sound like your talking from experiences lol
You be cracking me up with the voices , can't wait for the new project
Thank you it's going to give me the opportunity to do even more comedy
I am looking forward too be laughing :)
Kelia J ha ha
It hurts to lose a friend. I really loved this guy but looking at the way you put it, I was never really in a real relationship. He hid things from me, made promises and never kept his word. I never felt appreciated and he wasn't there for me. I realize now I really got played and he will never do what I need a man in my life to do. I thought we would be a family and I had a supportive person I could really be a help mate to. I got played and he won.
Maat Warrior It may seem like he won, but in the end its that losers loss! May he reap what he sowed and realize you don't mistreat people and get rewarded for it.
You have helped me through some extremely tough times in my life with your videos. Thank you for being there!
What I like is that chaz talks about real life experiences and hes very accurate and intelligent. I found this extremely useful. And I think its also good that you tell people to follow your own heart and trust your own instincts. Very respectful to the people who get caught in these upsetting scenarios. As we are all only human.
Keep up the good work chaz.
you have opened up my eyes to a lot of things I want to say thank you sincerely
GREAT advice!
Forget these people with a PHD or whatever.... You give the best answers for dealing with these damn game players! I've been dealing with a game player (my boyfriend) for a long time! I'm tired of it and pissed off. Tell hell with his silent treatment! Hell will freeze over before I contact that fool again.
tcshy1903
Forget these PHD ...lol l'm litteraly laughing my lungs out!!
They all come back eventually, just to see what you're up to.
Ignoring works too. Speaking from experience, people, but especially men, can't stand to be ignored. At this point, they will go out of their way to be seen & or heard. So that makes me wonder... you could have been going out of your way all along but you chose not to. So guess what, I choose not to deal with you now. Also, when you stop caring so much, seems like they start caring more...go figure.
Mine is looking to see if im with some one because im doing crossfit i lost weight and im alot hoter lol so hes trying to move on so people dont tell him "you lost a great person" 🤷🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
Goodness... part two is such a liberating video. Making it all about "you and your needs" God bless
Wow! Where was this advice 3yrs ago?!lol :) I'm so glad I found this Chanel. Thanks for all your good advise.
Thanks, I hope you keep watching.
I sure will. Thank you.
Because of you I looked at myself subjectively and realized that I was just nuts, crazy as a loon and undignified. Now I can hardly remember why I cared.
You are a great human. I can hardly wait to hear your new comedy show.
You provide really good down home info Chazz. Thank you, appreciate it!
Listen to people is the biggest thing!
You are sooo valuable to me.... Thank you my Mentor
God Bless you Chaz, your free videos helps thousands of people around the world. It has also save so many relationships. we look forward to hear more.
Lol the part about the woman asking if he really likes me after degrading her is hilarious
Your videos are very helpful. Your method of delivery is plain enough to be understood and sophisticated enough to be highly relevant in this dating market. Keep up the great work. And yes I am sharing the videos. I'm testing your advice and so far it has been spot on!!
My guy is definitely playing games! Thanks Chazz! Now for part 2 :)
I find myself wanting to talk like you when I say this: How da hell you get so wise and compassionate, Chazz?
I have to say I love your videos and the way you explain things. And you're hilarious! Keep them coming please!
Omg! amazing info! and i love the sense of humor with it! can't wait to share my story:)
The voices you do I canttttt 😂😂🤣😄
I am so impressed with your advice LOL and im over 50 your better then the therapists of seen.
I was obsessed with my ex and I believe you are right and that I was obsessed for the very reason you present in this video. I think I was obsessed because of the unfinished business I had with him. I was pregnant with his child and I cut him off cold turkey because of the games he was playing and I never got a chance to express my hurt and pain to him so they were bottled up. I did write things down in my personal journal and talk to my friends, but that wasn't enuf. Your point of view helps me to move on and realize it's probably not that I am just totally into him, but because I wasn't able to officially 'close' the relationship. Thanks Chazz!
Another great video with excellent insight :)
Thanks
Your videos have really opened my eyes
Thanks again Chazz. I needed to hear you today
Chazz you are hilarious! Love your videos!
Anyone who walks away from a loser is a winner 👍🏽😉
Excellent information! Thank you for sharing.
You given me so much closer thank you 🙏 I feel a lot better then what I feeling
Chaz, please put the link to part 1 in the description.
Great video 👍all ur videos are really good .
Top notch advice my brother
I'm listening in & I subscribed. I married the guy. The games guy. And it's like you said I liked absolutely nothing about him when we first met. He didn't know how to dress, I found out he lied about his age, we kept in touch over the years then began a relationship. I feel like he made me feel good & once he got me......he dropped it all. My friend says he upgraded & I was too mature for him. She was right. Now, we are in a mess. I'll listen in & hopefully gain more knowledge & not indulge with him & his games. Oan, he is accusing me of having a friend guy, go figure. I was doing him like he did me, he called to say I'm not coming home right now, I gotta clean my horse stable. I said take your time I'm at my friend's (I gave her name) he questioned me like the irs.
U go chazz, i will be checking your project but and great advice thanks
Thanks, I'm excited about doing the new project.
wow this was so on point with what im going through...thanks
You are funny Chaz! Thanks for the laughs!
Excellent. Needed this. Your awesome.
Your really cool. Straight up kind of man. Being a female I appreciate it.
Love that you keep it real!
How did i just find you now? Great video!
Looking for REVENGE (Drake Voice on SUMMER 16)
Thank you!! So happy when I saw that you uploaded part 2 :D
But I still have a question... are you trying to say that it can't work out?
We only have unfinished buisness and when we're done it's over? ..
I wanna do what you say but with the intention that hopefully and some point
we could start on a better way.
That could happen but you have to do the work first and start a new relationship or your terms.
askchazzellis
Okay, so everything is still possible when I work for it
Very intelligent young man, great advice!
crazy everything you said was on point in my life right now
Happy 100 videos :o) lol, and as usual you're right so much so that sometimes I have to bow my head in shame, not look at you coz its like I'm being told off by my Daddy lmao. But thank you, you've never steered us wrong :o) xx
I LOVE YOU CHAZZ.....YOUR AWESOME!
one thing I think you should address is yeah you can block them on social media and not answer their phone/text messages but some guys will make up a phony profile or try to talk to you by getting on their buddies page and talk to you that way
bridget bruso couldn't you contact the police, that could be considered criminal harassment
Your vids are so good!
I really appreciate your feedback.
OMG! Nothing but truth, I love you seriously!
You must have a sister or some women figure in your life that you really care about because I sure there are some guys that hate you for exposing them for what they are. I was dating a Mexican guy that would only react or answer a text when I was pissed, If I wrote just a nice text he wouldn't even respond. Then he would say I was all about the drama. Well he's not getting anymore drama, sex or massages or nice dinners from this woman anymore. I have you to thank for that, keep up the good work and may you succeed in all you do. Many heartfelt thanks!
I never thought I could get played EVER
maruska101 what's "Mexican" got to do with it?
totally right they DO return and try and come back.
Hey Chazz: What if you have unfinished business with someone and you are trying to resolve the unfinished business but that person refuses to have contact with you? What can you do to move on from that if the person is not decent enough to respond back after they played games with you? Thanks for your videos and advice.
Just hold on and don't try to contact them until they contact you. Delete those numbers and they will most likely come back when they realize that you are not going to try to talk to them any more.
Hello Chazz! Like all your videos btw keep it up... so moving on, in regards to this video,,, What would you say if instead of unfinished business the person just leaves without saying why they chosed to leave, No closer at all? ?
I am the one who played games with him, now I regret because he used to be a sweetheart to me.
CHAZZ YOU ARE THE MAN this video was on point how did you learn all you know and your delivery is perfect anyway I have been following and testing out your stuff and I am back in the drivers seat , so once again he is blowing up my phone I have some new rules in place I AM REALLY NOT READY TO SEE HIM DATE HIM NOTHING I WAS SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO IN LOVE WITH HIM I can not quiet move on yet even tho I have not seen him by my choice in over 4 months its all about now
You go it on point love this guy
Man u just explain so well their mind. Just one thing, when he is back I'm gonna be quiet 🤫 yeah just the way he plays with me. He is gonna be wondering why and I'll be giving him the same back.
I'm so ready to let go, my man is unreal. Will be sweet and loving (when he needs something) and treat me like a stranger when he can't get what he wants or is struggling with a situation. I don't even know if I love him anymore, he brings nothing into this "relationship" it's a joke. I'm really frustrated.
I appreciate this.. helped put things in perspective
"he doesn't know" is his favorite phrase. lol
I couldn't agree more with you in part 1 & 2 of this session.
I was honest with married guy 100 % because I got crush on him and asked him please let me alone and don't play with me. but he did the same as you described, he did exactly to every detail you said and I knew it and avoided it but still being hurt, he is a player with girls and he still wants sleeping with me ( maybe for validation). all of my friends blame me for talking with him coz from the start he can't give me what I want and just want me to be his booty call but I was hurt and need time to heal even I and him just met twice. more than that I was attracted to these type of players. that's my problem.
Brilliant man....thank you!
Very informative
True shit bro I been watching these vids for years lol
Chazz thanks 😊
great INFORMATION
he hit the nail on the head......
Your awesome, man! The advice god! lol
Omg. This is like the leading cause of teen - adolescent suicide IM SO SURE OMG Thank u for this Man U just helped ME
iScreamCandy TV black females in the US are extremely unlikely to commit suicide. Check the stats!
ive been in the game for 3 yrs but im obssessed with the fact that i want answers to get closure and i want revenge..he tells me he doesnt want me etc etc all the awful hurtful stuff... so i changed my number, blocked him on social media but now i keep calling him blocked(because he was doing it to me which is why i changed my number) and irritating him on purpose just to get him mad. I want him to feel some type of something for all that he's put me through. i am definitely obssesed but my obsession is because i want to win... its not about him anymore. i used to love him but he killed the love i felt for him with his constant mind games. So now im bitter and always think about him and how to get back at him. It's ruining my life because i can't move on 😔😔😔
you have got to find a way to move on, counseling might help but please try to take hold of your emotions girl! for your own sanity...get a new hobby, go out & have fun &/or travel do something sweetie! I hope it works out for you
+missball404 lol same advice everyone gives me like i dont work run a household etc etc you could do a thousand things and be busy but your mind is a powerful thing and there is always room for that person to creep up in it....but whatever it is what it is.
rmqueens ok sorry to repeat the same hope you find peace some how
Can you make a video on rebound relationships thanks.
great pointers
why do people get off on being known as, or being called Players.
The unfinished business is my problem. He has never given me closure on issues, therefore I became obsessed & had a few diary of a mad black woman episodes. And people really don't know what they will do unless it happens to them. I'll be checking out more videos because I really need help.
Thanks chazz x
Great advice :)
thanks
You are so right about the obsession thing! Thanks. Sometimes you have to be a detective to figure it out, other times you just need to get your head out of your own a** and see the truth about the person. xoxo
another great video
Thanks bro
i really like ur video thank u very much
So true, So true!!!
Amazing!
Damn i wish i've seen yourr videos a year before so i wouldn't be that stupid. I know now but i didn't know before. Lol this guy here, he finds me on any possible app that i wouldn't even think of. I'm just like wtf but i don't really care anymore. Thanks & Great videos.
When someone is playing games, are they doing it because they like you? Or just to keep you interested in them when they don't really like you?
+Amelia Leanna watch the first one , he addressed that
They love the game but Not the person they are playing with.
Long time ago since you wrote, but he said someting about; either they aren't ready for what you want, they be talking to someone else also etc. or they like you as person but they don't feel like they have enough to offer so they have to keep you interested.
What if you work with this person, see them daily? How can yo move on?
skewell55 my situation right now.
Laurette148 Mine 2....but we are neighbors so it's hella weird. Luckily I'm moving in a couple of months. Geesh!
Never mix business with pleasure
Can you address a situation involving a relationship? Example. My man and I were together 4 years he left and came back 3 times the most recent 3 weeks ago. He has been a father to my son since my son was 4 months old(the real dad dipped out when I was 3 months pregnant) Things have gotten serious but every time I wanted to talk about marriage he would leave. He is a great guy but what kind of game is this? That he wants to still be a part of my sons life but wants nothing to do with me. Do a video on this PLEASE!
I need advice. I feel played & used and stupid. This is getting me so depressed. I know I'm worth more but now i feel i wasn't enough
😂 he is saying what he’s saying ! Lol
"I got allergies..." lmao!
thank u great videos :)
thank you
Thank you :)