My ex-gf is been thru a lot in her past relationships and childhood; without a doubt she is a Dismissive Avoidant. She detached and broke up with me. As the opposite attachment style, I "begged" and sent flowers in the first 6 week but eventually committed to full NC. We didn't talk for almost 2 months is when she came back and started chasing. She admitted at a point she was depressed and not showering because something was wrong with her. Case & point, NC really works.
everything you say is so top notch. Ive studied this hellish madness for a year, and all you say is so spot on, really high quality stuff you share. Deep deep insight and understanding. Thank you. It was really hard for me to even start to listen, as you talk about moving on - this is something I dont want to do, it triggers all my fears and heartache and i just dont want to give up hope. But the way you cleverly put it, that moving on is also the best way to get them back.. nice hack ! Im going to book a session with you thank you
My ex wanted to get married after 3 months. I hadn’t even met her family so I said we need to establish more first. Fast forward to 6 months in, still hadn’t met her family but said that I would marry her. She got scared and ran. We still talked for months, dates, hooking up on occasion and carrying on. She hated labels soooo much and then finally said she couldn’t do it anymore, said she didn’t feel the same way about me anymore after telling me how much she loved me a week or two before. I loved her deeply, i think I still do, and it hurts soooo much. I made the mistake of trying to fix everything and always reassure how much I loved her. She always said she never believed how much I was attracted to her when I did everything I could. Hot and cold for sure.
I muted my ex yesterday even before coming across your videos. Enjoying that I won't have to deal with stress hormones every time I open the damn app 😂. Just crickets, me and my hobbies. 🎉
Very succinct, thank you for laying it out like this. Before I put together how avoidant my ex was I likened her to someone trying to act like a human. Her behavior and way of interacting was so non typical. Makes slightly more sense now.
Nah. I went full no contact, unfollowed, all of that. They didn’t unfollow. They were watching me for 9-10 months. These past 2 they stopped and checked once or twice. It’s been a year and they didn’t come back. I think DA’s are more likely to come back if they’re men.
Do you think that they ever realize that its them having love feelings for you that causes them to deactivate? Since they move from person to person do they ever really “fall in love” or is everyone the same to them?
Sometimes it is hard to see your own faults. That is why it is common to blame other people. Avoidants are humans too...they want to fall in love & feel a connection. They just have very thick walls that they put in place to protect themselves.
does timeframe play a role in the chances of them coming back?? because i think emotional depth plays a bigger role than the timeframe? its just been 4 months seeing each other before she ghosted me. but on the other hand, i had a relationship breakup after 3 years and didnt feel the same pain at all.
My avoidant ex avoided the conflict of breaking up with me. Instead, he wants an indefinite break. I'm thinking of returning an instrument that he wanted me to fix without fixing it. Maybe shipping it back to him without any other message. Do you think this will make him realize that he has lost me? Or should I do nothing? I am already at two weeks of no contact and don't want to seem as though I am trying to make contact again. I want him to miss me.
Uneducated people, the description of the channel is there for a reason. It is not a travel channel. And how come you don't respect her right to talk about whatever she wants to talk about in her OWN channel??? The entitlement....
“Focus on a project” yea that never really works. The whole time you are working on it you are miserable and thinking of them
yes.
My ex-gf is been thru a lot in her past relationships and childhood; without a doubt she is a Dismissive Avoidant. She detached and broke up with me. As the opposite attachment style, I "begged" and sent flowers in the first 6 week but eventually committed to full NC. We didn't talk for almost 2 months is when she came back and started chasing. She admitted at a point she was depressed and not showering because something was wrong with her. Case & point, NC really works.
everything you say is so top notch. Ive studied this hellish madness for a year, and all you say is so spot on, really high quality stuff you share. Deep deep insight and understanding. Thank you.
It was really hard for me to even start to listen, as you talk about moving on - this is something I dont want to do, it triggers all my fears and heartache and i just dont want to give up hope. But the way you cleverly put it, that moving on is also the best way to get them back.. nice hack !
Im going to book a session with you
thank you
Omg, this is the most accurate description of my ex girlfriend. The most perplexing relationship ever
Glad you could relate!
My ex wanted to get married after 3 months. I hadn’t even met her family so I said we need to establish more first. Fast forward to 6 months in, still hadn’t met her family but said that I would marry her. She got scared and ran. We still talked for months, dates, hooking up on occasion and carrying on. She hated labels soooo much and then finally said she couldn’t do it anymore, said she didn’t feel the same way about me anymore after telling me how much she loved me a week or two before. I loved her deeply, i think I still do, and it hurts soooo much. I made the mistake of trying to fix everything and always reassure how much I loved her. She always said she never believed how much I was attracted to her when I did everything I could. Hot and cold for sure.
Your explanations are amazing!
I muted my ex yesterday even before coming across your videos. Enjoying that I won't have to deal with stress hormones every time I open the damn app 😂. Just crickets, me and my hobbies. 🎉
Very succinct, thank you for laying it out like this. Before I put together how avoidant my ex was I likened her to someone trying to act like a human. Her behavior and way of interacting was so non typical. Makes slightly more sense now.
"succinct" - it's an hour 12 minutes. It's anything but succinct. Way too long to even engage - 20 mins tops.
Based upon my experience this information is very accurate
thanks for watching and sharing :)
Good morning Natalie happy Friday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I enjoy your channel
thank you so much :)
This was too helpful thanks for sharing
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She can talk about what ever she wants
Im not hhoung to be around to hear it
No time for whinging people 😂😂ee
Nah. I went full no contact, unfollowed, all of that. They didn’t unfollow. They were watching me for 9-10 months. These past 2 they stopped and checked once or twice. It’s been a year and they didn’t come back. I think DA’s are more likely to come back if they’re men.
Because men always come back
Do you think that they ever realize that its them having love feelings for you that causes them to deactivate? Since they move from person to person do they ever really “fall in love” or is everyone the same to them?
Sometimes it is hard to see your own faults. That is why it is common to blame other people. Avoidants are humans too...they want to fall in love & feel a connection. They just have very thick walls that they put in place to protect themselves.
They don't all go from person to person
does timeframe play a role in the chances of them coming back?? because i think emotional depth plays a bigger role than the timeframe? its just been 4 months seeing each other before she ghosted me. but on the other hand, i had a relationship breakup after 3 years and didnt feel the same pain at all.
My avoidant ex avoided the conflict of breaking up with me. Instead, he wants an indefinite break. I'm thinking of returning an instrument that he wanted me to fix without fixing it. Maybe shipping it back to him without any other message. Do you think this will make him realize that he has lost me? Or should I do nothing? I am already at two weeks of no contact and don't want to seem as though I am trying to make contact again. I want him to miss me.
Don’t do anything. Be so busy with your own life that you forget that you have the damn thing 🤣
Hi Natalie Luise, thank you for the video. I cannot find your email or lin to your 90 days program. Ca you plese post it here? Thank you
Hello! The program is not longer active. I did write a book that basically summarizes everything though. Best of luck love 🩷
Wait I would like to do this 😮
Im off , came for the travel vids
Not therapy Get a grip of yourself.
Unsubscribed was the travel vids wanted to watch - not this rubbish
Yeah me to i liked the travel vids but just unsubcribed aswell - far to much Negativity here wallowing in self pity get a grip
Uneducated people, the description of the channel is there for a reason. It is not a travel channel. And how come you don't respect her right to talk about whatever she wants to talk about in her OWN channel??? The entitlement....
@@BlueBlue23 If you had bothered to look back at the channel you would see loads of videos from months of travelling around Europe 🐈🐈🐈🐈
@@ASMRFANCLUB477 of course I know but it's not only about travelling...and you have no right to come and be rude about what she wants to upload
@@BlueBlue23 I have every right You make content be prepared for comments 🤬🤬🤬