He's been violent against his mother. He was told not to drive the car, he drove it, and the engine blew. He's been in trouble for taking and selling drugs. He goes through jobs like water. She may be dramatic, but she's also frustrated and at her wits end. Maybe her reactions seem over the top, but everyone claiming the mother is toxic/cut her off, has clearly never dealt with an out of control teenager. At the end, the Defendant admitted that the one thing she has never waivered on is her love for him. He'll grow up and hopefully calm down, and so will she.
You have clearly never dealt with a toxic parent either. The kid is undoubtedly an ass, but he didn't become that way overnight. It sounds like his and his sister's behavior has been going on for a long time. If not one, but 2 of your children start acting out from an early age, it indicates that something is not harmonious in the home. She can't even hold herself together in a court, so I believe him when he says she takes her frustration out on all the kids. She is clearly overwhelmed dealing with the autistic son, so she shouldn't have had more kids.
@@mistyflores3176 I can't figure out if she's got a new husband that she had the youngest kid by or if the family is still together with James & the other kids' dad? She has a different last name, so most likely it's a new husband/stepdad situation.
Exactly. All she did, even outside the courtroom was belittle him. I wouldn’t wanna be in his shoes for 5 minutes. That’s on National TV, imagine what happens behind closed doors.
She's frustrated which is making is more difficult for her to feel good towards her son. We don't have all of the pieces to the puzzle so it isn't fair to make a judgment of either the Mother or the son. Ot's obvious she loves him or she wouldn't be on the verge of tears.
The mum is at her wits end because she has lost control of her child and is terrified that he is going down a bad path that she can't prevent. He is definitely engaging in destructive behaviours, but he has to make his own mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes tough love is the best option in these scenarios. Teenagers tend to think they know everything. Let them find out for themselves, even if it's the hard way, that they do not.
@mr.m2545 I agree. But she can't change what has already happened. From the court day onwards was what I meant. Mind you, this was shot in the late 90s/early 2000s, so who knows where they both ended up.
This woman is probably difficult but the son isn't any picnic. If you look at the facts, she had twins when she had a 5 year old autistic son and also has a younger child. That makes her life no joy ride. When he was 16 or 17 he skipped school and almost died of alcohol poisoning. He has been through 8 or 9 jobs in less than a year and has been fired for not turning up from most of them. I think he truly believes that he is a victim and its all her fault for expecting him to live a responsible life. He just wants to sleep until 11 every day. He thinks its unreasonable that she asked him to help out by watching his younger sibling while he was at home. She may not be perfect and probably doesn't always handle things the right way but he is so angry he wouldn't believe her if she said the sky was blue. It was interesting that Dad was never mentioned (other than the fact he is the bread winner) or present. If James is so difficult why isn't Dad helping her out and supporting her or his son. It would interesting to know how 45 year old James is now doing and if he ever managed a better relationship with mum
Her oldest son is the autistic one. Then she has James and his twin sister and a five year old. I also noticed that James said his dad pays all the bills but that’s not who he begged to buy him a car. His dad might be there but unplugged. I have some relatives and friends who grew up technically in two parent homes but their dads were barely home.
A majority of the things you’ve said here are from her mouth. Not confirmed facts. 8/9 jobs in 8 months? You’re gullible AF if you believed that. As for him drinking 18 shots, teenagers get drunk and get their stomach pumped. It’s happened millions of times. Yes, it’s bad but that isn’t a guarantee you’re going down a bad path. Not to mention, she’s claiming she’s worried about his future that he’s going down a bad path… yet goes on national tv and throws out accusations he’s a drug dealer. That’s one way to ensure your child can’t get a job. She’s a moron, an exaggerator and clearly an unstable liar. Not to mention, it absolutely IS unreasonable for a parent to expect their other children to look after their sibling all the time. It’s parentification. Don’t have kids if YOU can’t look after them. It’s not your other children’s job to do your job.
There are bigger issues here, and I have to assume the producers eventually figured out the show worked better when the legal issues were front and center.
I might testify that something my kid said wasn't true, but I'd never call him a liar on national TV. She's whack, and he's probably not very responsible but frustrated as heck dealing with her histrionics. Hope he made a successful life.
I can already tell, she's caused at least some of his behavioral issues. She's the type of parent that starts something, but always plays the victim. I've lived it
This screams narcissism to me. The kids are having a hard time expressing why her behavior is so harmful, but that's how it is sometimes. I think it's likely the kid has tons of issues, but to bring him on TV so that she could yell at and embarrass him in public is so sad.
Same! All I could think about was my childhood and how I always got told I need to "respect" my mother. Then GIVE ME SOMETHING TO RESPECT. very telling that the twin sister also tried to escape. This isn't an issue of her son's, she's the issue.
I don’t believe half the things she said but if they were true… she came on national TV and spoke about every little thing she possibly could. She’s claiming she’s worried about him going down a bad path? Her claiming he’s selling drgs on TV isn’t exactly the way to prove you care considering that could totally fk up his chances of a career AT ALL. But “she loves him!” No, she’s a drama queen whose clearly pushed him to HIS point.
Mom is crazy....son has problems but mom is a lunatic control freak.... he should keep her at arms length and get his act together and build a life without her.
@@SaraAndrew-g4wyou’re guessing he grew up because…. He’s Facebook friends with his mother? In what world does a Facebook friendship mean you’re on good terms? As for saying he needed to grow up…. You must be gullible if you believed anything she said here. No loving mother claims they care about their son potentially going on a bad path and then starts claiming he’s having s*x with his cousin and is a drug dealer. Says a lot about you that you think she was in the right even through all that nonsense she was spouting.
Children are not the built-in babysitters for their siblings and she's trying to use him to the extreme and when he said I don't want to do this anymore I'm moving out she got mad and he's on the sidewalk moving out she probably will rushed him and he threw her off of him so she called the cops and said he assaulted her. That's probably how she does things. This is obviously an older episode of judge Judy. I don't believe this kid assaulted her. I do believe she has assaulted him. I believe she bullrushed him, and when he pushed her off then she called the cops and said he assaulted her I think that's a remote I operandi. James was pretty explicit when he said the door is always open for me really and you better have that restraining order lifted against me. He knows her inside and out and he's done with her and she doesn't want to be done with him because she wants to use him more and more. She wants her live-in babysitter back she uses her daughter the same way and the daughter is the twin sister to James. He doesn't want to babysit his youngest sibling he wants some time to himself in order to get some time to himself he had to move out and I'll bet she doesn't like that either. Little birds are supposed to leave the nest except this mama bird wants to sit on the nest and smother him. She said she had two jobs he said only since the last year so she was a stay-at-home mother who used her older kids as indentured servants. James is done with her!
I get the vibe of a very controlling, drama mama. We have no way of knowing if there was actual physical abuse on either end, but there was definitely some unwholesome energy. The son is a brat, but he's (was) a teenage boy, and most of them act out to some degree. And make stupid decisions...your car broke down? It's possibly risky to drive? Don't take chances! Call a friend, your girlfriend, or take the bus to work! If I were JJ, I would have recommended some cooling off time, then counseling. But, that's just me.
Typical comments of Modern Generation. While I think he's s Mom was overprotective which is Bad in many ways, remember he also 17. Parents do need to teach their children about Responsibilities in Life even to a much younger age. 15/16 still didn't try to wake up early to work things out after in and out jobs in 17?? His Mom would be So Happy even if he's helping family members with no job at all. But he drinking and drugs. He didn't even deny the 19 shots, who cares the age when one don't have as many tolerant or alcohol, let alone barely underage. What kind of Parents that will let their children growing with all those environment, influence? Her Mom here suing him, means she's desperate to fix his son.
@@musicjunkie274out of all rational reasons, you can only think Humiliation? His Mom, seems very overprotective, which not good in many ways. But look at him, at least 16 done a potential bad future illegal stuffs. Do you think she didn't feel shame to be here at all? She knew that no matter what, people will still see her as useless Mother, not a good parents, regardless of any views. She's desperate here and while he still hold his anger probably due to his daily influence around. Imagine, you have Children that at least 16yo, already have drugs and drink irresponsibly, put drugs in your house and Police came. Tell me anyone who never feel surprised or weird or nervous when police come knocking their door.
@@purplementhol3388 I was born in 82 and I agree the mother is horribly toxic and is seeking to humiliate her son for complete control. Not to mention she created this so called "troubled" child. We as parents have to take some accountability for poor parenting. There is a reason he has fallen into alcohol and drugs. I hope this comment finds you with an open heart mind to the truth.
On balance, I am on the son's side. His Mum sounds very controlling. Her way or the high way. She is also very good at holding his past mistakes against him and airing them to the world.
Everything she said was an attack on his character. She doesnt say a single positive thing about him. Impossible to thrive under a parent like that. Her parenting style isnt working but instead of taking responsibility and changing her style, its easier just to blame him for the failure. The both needed councilling for their lack of empathy and anger issues.
I don’t like the old days where JJ would let the plaintiff or the defendant speak to each other. Something seems wrong with the mom. He may not be responsible at the age he was at, but there is something with the mother and the way she speaks. I don’t know there is something, but I’m not a psychiatrist… he should not go through the door, maybe stand next to it until she learns. Edit to add: I feel like she is playing victim…
He is 19, old enough to be on his owe, leave him be.... but whatever you do, so not bail him out when he makes poor choices. Those lfe lessons are important for him to grow up. I just hope he is smart enough to not end up with a baby hanging on his leg.
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If I were American I'd be embarrassed, judging from the comments it seems American people are actually blaming the mother in this case, How much more depraved can Americans get ?
How would he learn anything by being on Judge Judy! They get their travel expenses paid, appearance fees, and the studio pays out the judgement if awarded. Nothing would come out of his pocket.
She's very toxic! I couldn't tolerate her for ~10 min so I feel you James. She's very eager not to communicate with him but to share his secrets and to make him feel uncomfortable, which indicates that she cares for her looks as a victim more than her son. In many times she was just stating facts for both sides that don't need to be heard by him, but she was trying to make it in public for her sake, and acted like she was talking to him. She obviously doesn't care that much about him as a kid anymore, but their rocky relationship is her misery and she obviously is addicted to misery. It was hard for her to love him? The hell it was, narcissist.
He obviously wanted love from his mother, which is why he believed love was always going to be shared. Yeah that statement of “It was hard to love you” is very telling. I get kids are hard, teenagers even more so, it all takes temperance.
Yall keep saying the mother is the problem know all the facts before yall just assume he’s a boy a teenage boy and wants to bump his head yall all act like yall was never rebellious with your parent or parents geez yall so perfect
I remember being 19 and thinking everything was my mom's fault. Now I'm 36 with 2 kids and I see a mother grieving for a son she's scared of losing. Life comes at you so fast.
I think the mother is the bigger problem here. If it were just James, then it could have been six of one, half a dozen of the other. But as the twin sister also had problems with the mother, it's leaning towards 70% her, 30% them. As her oldest son is autistic he'd have needed a lot more attention and time than even the twins. So, at some point, they'd have been left more to their own devices. They possibly feel they're less important than their older brother. A lot of the mother's frustration has been taken out on James. Why on earth she had yet another child is beyond me.
I totally believe he was told not to drive the car and did it anyway causing extensive damage. So basically it was deliberate. This is not adult behavior. You take a bus, call a cab, ask a coworker to pick you up or get up early and walk. I think mom and son should spend some time apart and she should stop enabling him and he should stop asking or accepting any assistance from her if he thinks she is controlling. I have never heard anyone pronounce radiator they way he does. Interesting accent.
This young man is really disrespectful to his mother and his girlfriend/cousin is encouraging him to continue being the little jerk that he is. Both are very immature and JJ had an opportunity to help and she just walked away.
The mother does have some issues, but that BABY child is UNHINGED! Even JJ said, she's never dealt with a child who' was so egocentric tfat we believes he can do no wrong
James definitely has some problems and he needs to get his act together, but I think a lot of this MAY stem from his overbearing mother, without knowing more... it's not exactly clear. However, a lot of children who come from families where another sibling has some sort of disability that requires "extra attention" are often parentified and can develop a rebellious streak as a result.
However, his autistic brother is the oldest. Why on Earth, would you give yourself more responsabilities by having other children, then complain about it
Mom is phony and the judge did see through her scam on her son. Son needs to get far away from her grip. I think he will have a better life away and do great. phony tears and concern for his well being is a put on. She is a very controlling person and wants to have control over him. Good luck Jimmy
Agreed. I hated how judge Judy disagreed with the girlfriend and wanted them to work through their issues. Sometimes people shouldn't be around each other, even if that's family.
U talking like u kno the lady. This is a very toxic comment. I hope he does the exact opposite of everything u said & repairs his relationship wit his mom.
@@brittanycurrency2941 you're the type of person who would stay in an abusive relationship? Red flags all over this lady. You can tell for sure because the dad didn't dare show up and the twin sister is trying to escape too. I'm sure everyone else is the problem though and not her.... 🙄
JJ and the kid is right in this case, the kid said they don't see eye to eye JJ while didn't say split up., she said he's angry with her but leave the door open I do not sympathise with the mother for wanting to do things her way
I've watched all three parts of this case and frankly I think the mother is a control freak. I don't believe her son hit her and if he did it was in retaliation for her charging. After him. He was outside on the sidewalk and she had the cops arrest him for assaulting her. I don't think he did. I think he's trying to get away from her by any means. He knows how. The fact that she mentioned that his girlfriend is really his fourth cousin speaks directly to the issue. She wants control of him. There's something about him that she needs to control. She doesn't want to cut the apron strings. She wants him to be a mama's boy and he's had enough of her up to his armpits and then some. I think his girlfriend sees what's going on. She's unemotional about it. She can observe it almost like a psychologist. Watching these two people go at it. It's not that she doesn't have a dog in the race because she's interested in James, but James's mother is not her mother and I think she's seen this woman in action from the time she was a little kid and she knows exactly how she does things and she knows exactly what she's doing to him. He doesn't want any part of her. He is a very articulate young man. He said when judge Judy said dhe's keeping the door open for you, meeting his mother he said well. Then she better lift the restraining order that she has in place against me. If he steps one foot on that property with a restraining order he goes to jail and then she would like to step in and bail him out and it's going to be a back and forth and back and forth and he is done with the likeness of her. It's too bad they share that little bit of DNA. She thinks that keeps them tethered for perpetuity but he's done with her. She treats him like the red-headed stepchild or a foster child that has no other place to go and he's saying you know what I'm making my own way. Whether you like it or not. It doesn't matter if he had four jobs. It doesn't matter if he likes to sleep on his day off. Most people do like to get caught up on their rest on their day off. She probably has chores for him to do around the house and he's thinking I'm making my own money. Perhaps it's time for me to leave and I imagine when he tried to leave she called the police on him and said he hit her. Maybe he pushed her off of him when she tried to keep him from leaving. I wouldn't be surprised about that. Judge Judy thinks that family is the most important thing. Regardless. I always hated it when judge Judy said to a young married couple and one of the two in the couple had a parent they were arguing with, especially a mother judge. Judy would say look to the left of you. That person you think is in your life. You won't know them 10 years from now. Look to the right of you. There's your mother. She'll always be your mother well. Unfortunately, that's true. Sometimes that little bit of DNA is like a shackle that keeps you tethered to somebody for no other reason. Then you are biologically connected to them. Not everybody has a good parent. Not everybody has a asean Harriet. Donna Reed Fathers knows Best lifestyle. It just is a fantasy. Most people struggle with the Dynamics of their family. There's always a hierarchy and every family member is assigned a role and when you try to break free from that role because it doesn't suit you or you never liked being in that assigned role. There will always be a battle. The people that see themselves as the patriarchal The matriarch depending on who's more the alpha will challenge you and try to keep you under lock and key whether it's physically or mentally. The same goes on in the animal world. There's the alpha male and the alpha female and they determine the entire fate of the rest of the pack. This kid wanted out. He doesn't want anything to do with his mother. It looks like they buttheads morning, noon and night and she is determined that her way is going to be the way and the fact that he wanted to leave and start his own life really pissed her off to the point where she called the cops on him and said he hit her again. I don't think he hit her. I think he pushed her off of him when she was trying to pull on him drag him back in the house the day he turned 18. He was legally liberated from her and I imagine that's something she cannot hardly stand. When she said when you were 18 and did this that and the other thing he said I was 16. You ought to know how old he was when he did it. She's decided to rewrite history to suit her own agenda. Dragging him into court is one thing. Dragging him onto to television court is another height of embarrassment for this young man. This is an old episode so he's probably a grown man by now. He will never forget what she did to him. He will never bury the hatchet because she is a narcissistic control freak and she thinks of her children commodities. They are no different than cattle and she owns them and the fact he has liberated himself from her makes her so angry. She could just kill him. If she could force him to stay in her house she would do it but there isn't a law that would make that happen in the United States of America. Thank God for that! Don't look over your shoulder James. You might turn into a pillar of salt. Keep moving forward. Never look backward!
Tough case, upsetting for all. Easy for us to judge and cast blame from the sidelines on the very limited amount of information & engagement we see. But these things are never black & white. I hope both mom & son can find peace and a way forward.
He may not be a good son at all and I absolutely believe he's done plenty wrong that he knows he shouldn't have. But I also believe he has valid reasons for his anger and she probably has said and done things that have not sat well with him that justify that anger. Some people need to realize that not all parents are good. Not all parents have their childs best interests at heart. Some parents enjoy the ability to govern and boss around the life of another human being for the sake of it. And some parents see their child as their property and not as their own individual person with thoughts and feelings. She says she loves him and says its hard, but he's out on his own now. He should be able to do whatever and come back to her when he needs her. Instead their relationship is still toxic and hasnt been given the time to heal. He left to clear his head and get some distance. He's no longer under her roof, governed by her rules now. But clearly they still have animosity and it won't all be him for no reason. A child doesnt just turn around and hate their parent for no reason. And I think part of it is exactly as her son and his cousin say: that its her way or no way at all. They both have issues to work out. But I think its more 60-40 her fault.
I think the son's problems can be traced back to the mom. Her thinking this was the appropriate way to deal with a child she deems difficult shows she has a screw loose
Mum has an a situation she can't control with having a son with Autism therefore she's taking it out on the two older siblings. Telling her end statement that's it's been hard to love you, it may be hard to like a child it should never be hard to love them.
Is she actually taking it out on them? Or is she stressed trying to take care of an autistic child, while the other is drinking himself nearly to death, getting fired from jobs left and right, and blowing up a car he shouldn't have been driving?
Judge Judy is a kind psychologist here, but Judge Judy really changed her tone as the show went on. The kid is really cold hearted! It is amazing how the hairstyles and clothing of the 80s and 90s made women look so much older. This woman doesn’t look like she should have a five-year old!
Agreed. He seems to be going down a dark path, but he was very respectful to the judge. The grown ass mother not being able to hold it together in court and constantly yelling over everyone is very telling. If he had some proper guidance from strong authority figures, he might do better.
I thought the same thing. He was quite calm and respectful. If he really was that crazy he would have been much more aggressive but instead it was the mother who couldn't control herself.
Helicopter mom can't cope when he child, who she parentified (which is abuse), wants nothing to do with her toxicity anymore. Kids grow up, they move on, they will make mistakes, but that is on them to sort out. I think mom is entitled, and a bit narcissist, so she has made herself into a victim when she is the villain. I disagree with JJ, if family members are toxic, you cut them out, like cancer!
Being a Mom is completely inconvenient for the Mom. She loves him, but he isn't loving him properly. Hopeful he has grown up because he can only ruin his life, not his Mom's
She's a vindictive nut job, pretending to cry, but there's no tears. I think we're seeing a real life narcissist at work here, she's using I love you as a weapon, and says she wants him to be responsible, but he's living away from home and has a job. She's just pissed that she can't control him any more. I hope that he managed to stay free of her. Judge Judy was wrong.
The mother seems a little overly protective somewhat. But the son seems even more irresponsible, ungrateful and less understanding towards his mother. The bigger Man would get over it. And let it go. Maybe apologize and say he Loves his mom back. There's probably a lot of young kids out there that would do anything for a mother that cares so much.
This past version of Judge Judy had a lot of patience!
She's gotten older
1994 is a long time
So did I in the 90s! 😂
The producers wanted higher ratings so she got bitchier
I thought I was watching a Dr Phil show for a second there. Wow😑
Right?!?!
Pennsylvania folks 😅
They both suck
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Yep you’re right
The old JJ was like Dr Phile lol Now days she doesn't wanna hear a big sob story 😂
Nobody will know know the whole story. Frustrating for both parties.
He's been violent against his mother. He was told not to drive the car, he drove it, and the engine blew. He's been in trouble for taking and selling drugs. He goes through jobs like water. She may be dramatic, but she's also frustrated and at her wits end. Maybe her reactions seem over the top, but everyone claiming the mother is toxic/cut her off, has clearly never dealt with an out of control teenager. At the end, the Defendant admitted that the one thing she has never waivered on is her love for him. He'll grow up and hopefully calm down, and so will she.
And who do you think raised that kid? Also if she really loved him he wouldn't sue him
The upsetting thing is when lots of people are placing the blame solely on the mom, where is Father in all this?
Agreed
You have clearly never dealt with a toxic parent either. The kid is undoubtedly an ass, but he didn't become that way overnight. It sounds like his and his sister's behavior has been going on for a long time. If not one, but 2 of your children start acting out from an early age, it indicates that something is not harmonious in the home. She can't even hold herself together in a court, so I believe him when he says she takes her frustration out on all the kids. She is clearly overwhelmed dealing with the autistic son, so she shouldn't have had more kids.
@@mistyflores3176 I can't figure out if she's got a new husband that she had the youngest kid by or if the family is still together with James & the other kids' dad? She has a different last name, so most likely it's a new husband/stepdad situation.
I couldn’t imagine my parent ever uttering that it was very hard to love me. Such a terrible thing to say.
@rolling6700, easy to see why he is the way he is.
Yes, I caught that, too! Seemed really out of line. Like "Look at what a martyr I am for loving my own child, who's still a teenager & irresponsible!"
I would think it but not say it aloud. 😂
Exactly. All she did, even outside the courtroom was belittle him. I wouldn’t wanna be in his shoes for 5 minutes. That’s on National TV, imagine what happens behind closed doors.
She's frustrated which is making is more difficult for her to feel good towards her son. We don't have all of the pieces to the puzzle so it isn't fair to make a judgment of either the Mother or the son. Ot's obvious she loves him or she wouldn't be on the verge of tears.
The mum is at her wits end because she has lost control of her child and is terrified that he is going down a bad path that she can't prevent. He is definitely engaging in destructive behaviours, but he has to make his own mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes tough love is the best option in these scenarios. Teenagers tend to think they know everything. Let them find out for themselves, even if it's the hard way, that they do not.
Tough love would have been not buying him a car when he's allegedly already hit her and other terrible behaviour.
@mr.m2545 I agree. But she can't change what has already happened. From the court day onwards was what I meant. Mind you, this was shot in the late 90s/early 2000s, so who knows where they both ended up.
Sure wish I could see where they all are now.. and how this resolved itself etc...
This woman is probably difficult but the son isn't any picnic. If you look at the facts, she had twins when she had a 5 year old autistic son and also has a younger child. That makes her life no joy ride. When he was 16 or 17 he skipped school and almost died of alcohol poisoning. He has been through 8 or 9 jobs in less than a year and has been fired for not turning up from most of them. I think he truly believes that he is a victim and its all her fault for expecting him to live a responsible life. He just wants to sleep until 11 every day. He thinks its unreasonable that she asked him to help out by watching his younger sibling while he was at home. She may not be perfect and probably doesn't always handle things the right way but he is so angry he wouldn't believe her if she said the sky was blue. It was interesting that Dad was never mentioned (other than the fact he is the bread winner) or present. If James is so difficult why isn't Dad helping her out and supporting her or his son. It would interesting to know how 45 year old James is now doing and if he ever managed a better relationship with mum
She clearly shouldn't have had more kids when she struggled taking care of the autistic one.
Her oldest son is the autistic one. Then she has James and his twin sister and a five year old. I also noticed that James said his dad pays all the bills but that’s not who he begged to buy him a car. His dad might be there but unplugged. I have some relatives and friends who grew up technically in two parent homes but their dads were barely home.
Why in the world did she have 3 more kids after trying to raise an autistic child?
@@maryjobutera3287 Indeed.
A majority of the things you’ve said here are from her mouth. Not confirmed facts. 8/9 jobs in 8 months? You’re gullible AF if you believed that. As for him drinking 18 shots, teenagers get drunk and get their stomach pumped. It’s happened millions of times. Yes, it’s bad but that isn’t a guarantee you’re going down a bad path. Not to mention, she’s claiming she’s worried about his future that he’s going down a bad path… yet goes on national tv and throws out accusations he’s a drug dealer. That’s one way to ensure your child can’t get a job. She’s a moron, an exaggerator and clearly an unstable liar.
Not to mention, it absolutely IS unreasonable for a parent to expect their other children to look after their sibling all the time. It’s parentification. Don’t have kids if YOU can’t look after them. It’s not your other children’s job to do your job.
Complicated family matters.
There are bigger issues here, and I have to assume the producers eventually figured out the show worked better when the legal issues were front and center.
You got that right. This format is annoying that quickly becomes boring.
I imagine JJ also had a hand in putting an end to the melodrama
LOL! Producers do not worry about the people's personal lives back then or nowadays. LOL!
I might testify that something my kid said wasn't true, but I'd never call him a liar on national TV. She's whack, and he's probably not very responsible but frustrated as heck dealing with her histrionics. Hope he made a successful life.
I can already tell, she's caused at least some of his behavioral issues. She's the type of parent that starts something, but always plays the victim. I've lived it
story if my life too. 20 years of that endless cycle can seriously change a person
I have lived it too.
This screams narcissism to me. The kids are having a hard time expressing why her behavior is so harmful, but that's how it is sometimes. I think it's likely the kid has tons of issues, but to bring him on TV so that she could yell at and embarrass him in public is so sad.
Same! All I could think about was my childhood and how I always got told I need to "respect" my mother. Then GIVE ME SOMETHING TO RESPECT. very telling that the twin sister also tried to escape. This isn't an issue of her son's, she's the issue.
I don’t believe half the things she said but if they were true… she came on national TV and spoke about every little thing she possibly could. She’s claiming she’s worried about him going down a bad path? Her claiming he’s selling drgs on TV isn’t exactly the way to prove you care considering that could totally fk up his chances of a career AT ALL. But “she loves him!” No, she’s a drama queen whose clearly pushed him to HIS point.
Mom is crazy....son has problems but mom is a lunatic control freak....
he should keep her at arms length and get his act together and build a life without her.
I wonder what ever happened to these people, especially Jimmy.
I looked them up online. He and his mum are Facebook friends so I'm guessing he grew up.
@@SaraAndrew-g4wyou’re guessing he grew up because…. He’s Facebook friends with his mother? In what world does a Facebook friendship mean you’re on good terms? As for saying he needed to grow up…. You must be gullible if you believed anything she said here. No loving mother claims they care about their son potentially going on a bad path and then starts claiming he’s having s*x with his cousin and is a drug dealer. Says a lot about you that you think she was in the right even through all that nonsense she was spouting.
Children are not the built-in babysitters for their siblings and she's trying to use him to the extreme and when he said I don't want to do this anymore I'm moving out she got mad and he's on the sidewalk moving out she probably will rushed him and he threw her off of him so she called the cops and said he assaulted her. That's probably how she does things. This is obviously an older episode of judge Judy. I don't believe this kid assaulted her. I do believe she has assaulted him. I believe she bullrushed him, and when he pushed her off then she called the cops and said he assaulted her I think that's a remote I operandi. James was pretty explicit when he said the door is always open for me really and you better have that restraining order lifted against me. He knows her inside and out and he's done with her and she doesn't want to be done with him because she wants to use him more and more. She wants her live-in babysitter back she uses her daughter the same way and the daughter is the twin sister to James. He doesn't want to babysit his youngest sibling he wants some time to himself in order to get some time to himself he had to move out and I'll bet she doesn't like that either. Little birds are supposed to leave the nest except this mama bird wants to sit on the nest and smother him. She said she had two jobs he said only since the last year so she was a stay-at-home mother who used her older kids as indentured servants. James is done with her!
Well said 🎉
I get the vibe of a very controlling, drama mama. We have no way of knowing if there was actual physical abuse on either end, but there was definitely some unwholesome energy. The son is a brat, but he's (was) a teenage boy, and most of them act out to some degree. And make stupid decisions...your car broke down? It's possibly risky to drive? Don't take chances! Call a friend, your girlfriend, or take the bus to work! If I were JJ, I would have recommended some cooling off time, then counseling. But, that's just me.
There’s no way she loves her son, she was sneering at him and calling out his dirty laundry throughout the entire proceeding.
Yeah her motives here were entirely out of whack. Seems like she just wanted to humiliate and belittle him on TV
Typical comments of Modern Generation. While I think he's s Mom was overprotective which is Bad in many ways, remember he also 17. Parents do need to teach their children about Responsibilities in Life even to a much younger age. 15/16 still didn't try to wake up early to work things out after in and out jobs in 17?? His Mom would be So Happy even if he's helping family members with no job at all. But he drinking and drugs. He didn't even deny the 19 shots, who cares the age when one don't have as many tolerant or alcohol, let alone barely underage. What kind of Parents that will let their children growing with all those environment, influence? Her Mom here suing him, means she's desperate to fix his son.
@@musicjunkie274out of all rational reasons, you can only think Humiliation? His Mom, seems very overprotective, which not good in many ways. But look at him, at least 16 done a potential bad future illegal stuffs. Do you think she didn't feel shame to be here at all? She knew that no matter what, people will still see her as useless Mother, not a good parents, regardless of any views. She's desperate here and while he still hold his anger probably due to his daily influence around. Imagine, you have Children that at least 16yo, already have drugs and drink irresponsibly, put drugs in your house and Police came. Tell me anyone who never feel surprised or weird or nervous when police come knocking their door.
Yup, the worst one might have been "that's his fourth cousin"
@@purplementhol3388 I was born in 82 and I agree the mother is horribly toxic and is seeking to humiliate her son for complete control. Not to mention she created this so called "troubled" child. We as parents have to take some accountability for poor parenting. There is a reason he has fallen into alcohol and drugs. I hope this comment finds you with an open heart mind to the truth.
Why did mom have to pay to get the car repaired after the blowout and again after James caused it to overheat? Adults fix their own vehicles.
ok she lost me at " it's been very hard to love you"
0:46 The Ratiator 🐀 sounds like an evolved form of a Pokemon lol
On balance, I am on the son's side. His Mum sounds very controlling. Her way or the high way. She is also very good at holding his past mistakes against him and airing them to the world.
Absolutely.
Her way? No drugs and study or keep a job. Man is that a freaking hard way lol
Everything she said was an attack on his character. She doesnt say a single positive thing about him.
Impossible to thrive under a parent like that.
Her parenting style isnt working but instead of taking responsibility and changing her style, its easier just to blame him for the failure.
The both needed councilling for their lack of empathy and anger issues.
I don’t like the old days where JJ would let the plaintiff or the defendant speak to each other. Something seems wrong with the mom. He may not be responsible at the age he was at, but there is something with the mother and the way she speaks. I don’t know there is something, but I’m not a psychiatrist… he should not go through the door, maybe stand next to it until she learns.
Edit to add: I feel like she is playing victim…
She is controlling and doesn't want to cut the apron strings .
He is 19, old enough to be on his owe, leave him be.... but whatever you do, so not bail him out when he makes poor choices. Those lfe lessons are important for him to grow up. I just hope he is smart enough to not end up with a baby hanging on his leg.
100%
Did the show not pay the judgment back then? She said she didn't want to burden him with more financial responsibility.
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If I were American I'd be embarrassed, judging from the comments it seems American people are actually blaming the mother in this case,
How much more depraved can
Americans get ?
She’s so overbearing and manipulative and I don’t believe a second of her crocodile tears.
I believe that the mother is a narcissist. If the kids are reacting in this manner it may be as a response to her actions. Too much to delve into.
How would he learn anything by being on Judge Judy! They get their travel expenses paid, appearance fees, and the studio pays out the judgement if awarded. Nothing would come out of his pocket.
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She's very toxic! I couldn't tolerate her for ~10 min so I feel you James.
She's very eager not to communicate with him but to share his secrets and to make him feel uncomfortable, which indicates that she cares for her looks as a victim more than her son.
In many times she was just stating facts for both sides that don't need to be heard by him, but she was trying to make it in public for her sake, and acted like she was talking to him.
She obviously doesn't care that much about him as a kid anymore, but their rocky relationship is her misery and she obviously is addicted to misery.
It was hard for her to love him? The hell it was, narcissist.
Because she's not working, drinking and doing drugs and hanging with addicts ? Oh nope, that's the son
He obviously wanted love from his mother, which is why he believed love was always going to be shared. Yeah that statement of “It was hard to love you” is very telling.
I get kids are hard, teenagers even more so, it all takes temperance.
Borderline personality and narcissist
Yall keep saying the mother is the problem know all the facts before yall just assume he’s a boy a teenage boy and wants to bump his head yall all act like yall was never rebellious with your parent or parents geez yall so perfect
You appear to like the word 'yall' a little bit too much.
Umm two things can be true at once it seems like he’s rebellious because of the abuse he suffered from her!
@@kimlove4740what abuse? Don’t you think it would have been mentioned if there was?
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Was thinking the same. Can't assume. At the same time son is very rebellious.
The mother sounded off to me. Too much drama, probably the same at home. And airing his dirty laundry for all to hear.
I remember being 19 and thinking everything was my mom's fault. Now I'm 36 with 2 kids and I see a mother grieving for a son she's scared of losing. Life comes at you so fast.
This kid has problems because he has a bad mother.
Judy springer show today😂😂
Right!? Good grief lol!
I think the mother is the bigger problem here. If it were just James, then it could have been six of one, half a dozen of the other. But as the twin sister also had problems with the mother, it's leaning towards 70% her, 30% them.
As her oldest son is autistic he'd have needed a lot more attention and time than even the twins. So, at some point, they'd have been left more to their own devices. They possibly feel they're less important than their older brother. A lot of the mother's frustration has been taken out on James.
Why on earth she had yet another child is beyond me.
Lol i remember when they used to make the defendant and plaintiff do a interview standing next to each other lol.
She actually said it was HARD TO LOVE HER OWN CHILD. What a Mother of the Year.
Sure can be
This reminds me of the Bates Hotel . Mother and crazy son. Wow
I think the mother has a lot of problems when her kid is struggling why try too put a burden on him for 5 thousand dollars
I totally believe he was told not to drive the car and did it anyway causing extensive damage. So basically it was deliberate. This is not adult behavior. You take a bus, call a cab, ask a coworker to pick you up or get up early and walk.
I think mom and son should spend some time apart and she should stop enabling him and he should stop asking or accepting any assistance from her if he thinks she is controlling.
I have never heard anyone pronounce radiator they way he does. Interesting accent.
The mom isn’t right airing out so much her son’s business.
@Xxsorafan, she'll do anything to try and make her self look like the hero and villian.
Boy, this show sure has changed in tone. Something tells me that audiences didn't go for the touchy-feely Judge Judy and they tweaked things.
No wonder in the later years, JJ doesn’t allow people to speak unless spoken to.
This young man is really disrespectful to his mother and his girlfriend/cousin is encouraging him to continue being the little jerk that he is. Both are very immature and JJ had an opportunity to help and she just walked away.
Neither of these people are fantastic people. Pretty horrible situation and no one wins
The mother does have some issues, but that BABY child is UNHINGED! Even JJ said, she's never dealt with a child who' was so egocentric tfat we believes he can do no wrong
James definitely has some problems and he needs to get his act together, but I think a lot of this MAY stem from his overbearing mother, without knowing more... it's not exactly clear.
However, a lot of children who come from families where another sibling has some sort of disability that requires "extra attention" are often parentified and can develop a rebellious streak as a result.
However, his autistic brother is the oldest.
Why on Earth, would you give yourself more responsabilities by having other children, then complain about it
Oh, I'm crushed to tears. The mum needs a break
Preferably along the C1 or C2 vertebrae
The mom needs a good heart and good mental counselor.
This is really sad. It kind of reminds me of a movie called, ‘We Need To Talk About Kevin’. (Hopefully it never ends up getting bad for them, though)
Restraining order? Something is going on with Mom.
Mom is phony and the judge did see through her scam on her son. Son needs to get far away from her grip. I think he will have a better life away and do great. phony tears and concern for his well being is a put on. She is a very controlling person and wants to have control over him. Good luck Jimmy
Agreed. I hated how judge Judy disagreed with the girlfriend and wanted them to work through their issues. Sometimes people shouldn't be around each other, even if that's family.
U talking like u kno the lady. This is a very toxic comment. I hope he does the exact opposite of everything u said & repairs his relationship wit his mom.
@@brittanycurrency2941 you're the type of person who would stay in an abusive relationship? Red flags all over this lady. You can tell for sure because the dad didn't dare show up and the twin sister is trying to escape too. I'm sure everyone else is the problem though and not her.... 🙄
They’re both exactly alike but the mom is just a little extra, putting all of their business out in the streets.
The mom can’t even control herself in court! She’s a mess. I hope he got away from her
Narc mother dynamics here. I feel for James. It is never easy being the child of a narc!
What the heck? He's immature and hits his mother. I don't feel for him at all.
@VisualizeHealing there's no proof he hit his mother!! I had a mother just like this, terrible liars.
I watched all 3 of those episodes and I'm 100% on the kids side. That mother is crazy controlling and vindictive. I wonder how James is today?
Birds of feather flocks together, I guess you’re also an irresponsible kid like James 😂
After I noticed it, I couldn't not notice that Mom's make-up on her face is a few shades darker than her neck.
Yikes. Toxic family. Ditzy girlfriend is correct. They need to sever ties for a while.
So, not so ditzy then.
I never saw an episode of Judge Judy where she allowed the people to argue like that. Lol
Where is the Dad ?
He is to blame, for letting her do this.
Probably works constantly so he doesn't have to deal with her crazy.
I wonder what happened to this 'kid'. I hope he made it and turned his life around.
according to a google search of his name, there was an article that he was arrested in 2011 for DWI (somewhere in Pennsylvania)
@@BiblicalTeachingsif that’s the worst thing you could find on him, that’s not that bad.
@@elsabean6791no it's not the worst.
@@TriciaT2407 Then tell us what was or don’t make a comment like that to begin with?
@elsabean6791 google it. He's not hard to find.
JJ and the kid is right in this case, the kid said they don't see eye to eye
JJ while didn't say split up., she said he's angry with her but leave the door open
I do not sympathise with the mother for wanting to do things her way
AGAIN, THE MOTHER IS THE PROBLEM.
She is a controlling lunatic.
How for trying to help him lead a better life ? 😅
How ? Is she not workout or doing drugs it drinking staying out late or hanging with addicts ? Nope, oh yeah that's all on the son
@@aliamjon2550 READ THE OTHER COMMENTS AND IT SEEMS YOU MIGHT FEEL NOTHING LIKE THE REST OF US.. YOU ARE ALONE ON YOUR THOUGHTS
@@lGriffeyl READ THE OTHER COMMENTS, I AM NOT ALONE ON MY THOUGHTS,
Noticed parents and kids who don't get along are like the same person. Both mother and son are a lot of drama. Mother stops almost tearing up on cue.
she cries too much that it doesnt phase him or his gf
She’s exhausted and I would be the same.she’s helped him more than some would
This mom is annoying
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Mom needs to put all over 18yr olds out and get real adult babysitters.
I've watched all three parts of this case and frankly I think the mother is a control freak. I don't believe her son hit her and if he did it was in retaliation for her charging. After him. He was outside on the sidewalk and she had the cops arrest him for assaulting her. I don't think he did. I think he's trying to get away from her by any means. He knows how. The fact that she mentioned that his girlfriend is really his fourth cousin speaks directly to the issue. She wants control of him. There's something about him that she needs to control. She doesn't want to cut the apron strings. She wants him to be a mama's boy and he's had enough of her up to his armpits and then some. I think his girlfriend sees what's going on. She's unemotional about it. She can observe it almost like a psychologist. Watching these two people go at it. It's not that she doesn't have a dog in the race because she's interested in James, but James's mother is not her mother and I think she's seen this woman in action from the time she was a little kid and she knows exactly how she does things and she knows exactly what she's doing to him. He doesn't want any part of her. He is a very articulate young man. He said when judge Judy said dhe's keeping the door open for you, meeting his mother he said well. Then she better lift the restraining order that she has in place against me. If he steps one foot on that property with a restraining order he goes to jail and then she would like to step in and bail him out and it's going to be a back and forth and back and forth and he is done with the likeness of her. It's too bad they share that little bit of DNA. She thinks that keeps them tethered for perpetuity but he's done with her. She treats him like the red-headed stepchild or a foster child that has no other place to go and he's saying you know what I'm making my own way. Whether you like it or not. It doesn't matter if he had four jobs. It doesn't matter if he likes to sleep on his day off. Most people do like to get caught up on their rest on their day off. She probably has chores for him to do around the house and he's thinking I'm making my own money. Perhaps it's time for me to leave and I imagine when he tried to leave she called the police on him and said he hit her. Maybe he pushed her off of him when she tried to keep him from leaving. I wouldn't be surprised about that. Judge Judy thinks that family is the most important thing. Regardless. I always hated it when judge Judy said to a young married couple and one of the two in the couple had a parent they were arguing with, especially a mother judge. Judy would say look to the left of you. That person you think is in your life. You won't know them 10 years from now. Look to the right of you. There's your mother. She'll always be your mother well. Unfortunately, that's true. Sometimes that little bit of DNA is like a shackle that keeps you tethered to somebody for no other reason. Then you are biologically connected to them. Not everybody has a good parent. Not everybody has a asean Harriet. Donna Reed Fathers knows Best lifestyle. It just is a fantasy. Most people struggle with the Dynamics of their family. There's always a hierarchy and every family member is assigned a role and when you try to break free from that role because it doesn't suit you or you never liked being in that assigned role. There will always be a battle. The people that see themselves as the patriarchal The matriarch depending on who's more the alpha will challenge you and try to keep you under lock and key whether it's physically or mentally. The same goes on in the animal world. There's the alpha male and the alpha female and they determine the entire fate of the rest of the pack. This kid wanted out. He doesn't want anything to do with his mother. It looks like they buttheads morning, noon and night and she is determined that her way is going to be the way and the fact that he wanted to leave and start his own life really pissed her off to the point where she called the cops on him and said he hit her again. I don't think he hit her. I think he pushed her off of him when she was trying to pull on him drag him back in the house the day he turned 18. He was legally liberated from her and I imagine that's something she cannot hardly stand. When she said when you were 18 and did this that and the other thing he said I was 16. You ought to know how old he was when he did it. She's decided to rewrite history to suit her own agenda. Dragging him into court is one thing. Dragging him onto to television court is another height of embarrassment for this young man. This is an old episode so he's probably a grown man by now. He will never forget what she did to him. He will never bury the hatchet because she is a narcissistic control freak and she thinks of her children commodities. They are no different than cattle and she owns them and the fact he has liberated himself from her makes her so angry. She could just kill him. If she could force him to stay in her house she would do it but there isn't a law that would make that happen in the United States of America. Thank God for that! Don't look over your shoulder James. You might turn into a pillar of salt. Keep moving forward. Never look backward!
she had more patience 😂
wonder what happened with them.. I know my mother could get on my nerves at times, but I could never stop loving her
Tough case, upsetting for all. Easy for us to judge and cast blame from the sidelines on the very limited amount of information & engagement we see. But these things are never black & white. I hope both mom & son can find peace and a way forward.
He may not be a good son at all and I absolutely believe he's done plenty wrong that he knows he shouldn't have. But I also believe he has valid reasons for his anger and she probably has said and done things that have not sat well with him that justify that anger. Some people need to realize that not all parents are good. Not all parents have their childs best interests at heart. Some parents enjoy the ability to govern and boss around the life of another human being for the sake of it. And some parents see their child as their property and not as their own individual person with thoughts and feelings. She says she loves him and says its hard, but he's out on his own now. He should be able to do whatever and come back to her when he needs her. Instead their relationship is still toxic and hasnt been given the time to heal. He left to clear his head and get some distance. He's no longer under her roof, governed by her rules now. But clearly they still have animosity and it won't all be him for no reason. A child doesnt just turn around and hate their parent for no reason. And I think part of it is exactly as her son and his cousin say: that its her way or no way at all.
They both have issues to work out. But I think its more 60-40 her fault.
I think the son's problems can be traced back to the mom. Her thinking this was the appropriate way to deal with a child she deems difficult shows she has a screw loose
Mum has an a situation she can't control with having a son with Autism therefore she's taking it out on the two older siblings. Telling her end statement that's it's been hard to love you, it may be hard to like a child it should never be hard to love them.
Where did it say he has autism?
His elder brother is autistic.
@@1packatak In one of the earlier parts of the episode
Is she actually taking it out on them? Or is she stressed trying to take care of an autistic child, while the other is drinking himself nearly to death, getting fired from jobs left and right, and blowing up a car he shouldn't have been driving?
Liar, you have no idea what that mother was going through. She had no help from anyone back then like they do these days.
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The mom turned him into that person. The best thing for him to do is stay away from her for a long while & create firm boundaries with her.
Judge Judy is a kind psychologist here, but Judge Judy really changed her tone as the show went on. The kid is really cold hearted! It is amazing how the hairstyles and clothing of the 80s and 90s made women look so much older. This woman doesn’t look like she should have a five-year old!
They need therapy.
The boy was actually calm cool and collected in spite of being angry, it’s the mother who’s the angry nut job.
Agreed. He seems to be going down a dark path, but he was very respectful to the judge. The grown ass mother not being able to hold it together in court and constantly yelling over everyone is very telling. If he had some proper guidance from strong authority figures, he might do better.
I thought the same thing. He was quite calm and respectful. If he really was that crazy he would have been much more aggressive but instead it was the mother who couldn't control herself.
He’s determined to do life the hard way
She is too possessive. Let him live his own life. If he gets in trouble, it's his problem.
the mom is a malignant narc and has screwed that kid's head up. I hope he went no contact so he could heal.
Would LOVE to find out what happened with this kid
They need to make up,i hope they are in a great place
Don't Cry Mother...The Lessons of Life to James...you HAVE TO LET HIM LEARN by His Own Mistakes...or he Will Blame You forever(That's a LONG TIME) 😢😢😢
She loves him
The mom is a bit nutty too.
Helicopter mom can't cope when he child, who she parentified (which is abuse), wants nothing to do with her toxicity anymore. Kids grow up, they move on, they will make mistakes, but that is on them to sort out. I think mom is entitled, and a bit narcissist, so she has made herself into a victim when she is the villain. I disagree with JJ, if family members are toxic, you cut them out, like cancer!
Yes, the dude is an issue, but mom is pathetic and is the root cause. She used every opportunity to try to humiliate him on tv. Who does that?
Being a Mom is completely inconvenient for the Mom. She loves him, but he isn't loving him properly. Hopeful he has grown up because he can only ruin his life, not his Mom's
She obviously uses crying and hysterics to wield control. It's the main tool in her wheelhouse. Too many people in her life have let her use it
I think the blame is fifty-fifty on the mother and the son.
She's a vindictive nut job, pretending to cry, but there's no tears. I think we're seeing a real life narcissist at work here, she's using I love you as a weapon, and says she wants him to be responsible, but he's living away from home and has a job.
She's just pissed that she can't control him any more. I hope that he managed to stay free of her. Judge Judy was wrong.
Sorry, the mom doesnt seem guiltless in this either.
She's a control-freak.
James seems like the responsible one !
She's a nutcase !
That woman is bi polar.
Tri, maybe Quad-polar.
Let go and close the door.
The mother seems a little overly protective somewhat. But the son seems even more irresponsible, ungrateful and less understanding towards his mother. The bigger Man would get over it. And let it go. Maybe apologize and say he Loves his mom back. There's probably a lot of young kids out there that would do anything for a mother that cares so much.