If he was my son and he hit or laid his hand on me I would tell him Bye Bye..and I would have a restraining order against him....I disagree with JJ let him go he is old enough to go take care of himself ..he is a smart guy .....tension between mother and son is toxic .why do they torture each other like this.they both are better to be apart!!!
I think the son's problems can be traced back to the mom. Her thinking this was the appropriate way to deal with a child she deems difficult shows she has a screw loose
I can already tell, she's caused at least some of his behavioral issues. She's the type of parent that starts something, but always plays the victim. I've lived it
This screams narcissism to me. The kids are having a hard time expressing why her behavior is so harmful, but that's how it is sometimes. I think it's likely the kid has tons of issues, but to bring him on TV so that she could yell at and embarrass him in public is so sad.
Same! All I could think about was my childhood and how I always got told I need to "respect" my mother. Then GIVE ME SOMETHING TO RESPECT. very telling that the twin sister also tried to escape. This isn't an issue of her son's, she's the issue.
I don’t believe half the things she said but if they were true… she came on national TV and spoke about every little thing she possibly could. She’s claiming she’s worried about him going down a bad path? Her claiming he’s selling drgs on TV isn’t exactly the way to prove you care considering that could totally fk up his chances of a career AT ALL. But “she loves him!” No, she’s a drama queen whose clearly pushed him to HIS point.
Exactly. All she did, even outside the courtroom was belittle him. I wouldn’t wanna be in his shoes for 5 minutes. That’s on National TV, imagine what happens behind closed doors.
She's frustrated which is making is more difficult for her to feel good towards her son. We don't have all of the pieces to the puzzle so it isn't fair to make a judgment of either the Mother or the son. Ot's obvious she loves him or she wouldn't be on the verge of tears.
On balance, I am on the son's side. His Mum sounds very controlling. Her way or the high way. She is also very good at holding his past mistakes against him and airing them to the world.
Everything she said was an attack on his character. She doesnt say a single positive thing about him. Impossible to thrive under a parent like that. Her parenting style isnt working but instead of taking responsibility and changing her style, its easier just to blame him for the failure. The both needed councilling for their lack of empathy and anger issues.
The mum is at her wits end because she has lost control of her child and is terrified that he is going down a bad path that she can't prevent. He is definitely engaging in destructive behaviours, but he has to make his own mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes tough love is the best option in these scenarios. Teenagers tend to think they know everything. Let them find out for themselves, even if it's the hard way, that they do not.
@mr.m2545 I agree. But she can't change what has already happened. From the court day onwards was what I meant. Mind you, this was shot in the late 90s/early 2000s, so who knows where they both ended up.
I think the mother is the bigger problem here. If it were just James, then it could have been six of one, half a dozen of the other. But as the twin sister also had problems with the mother, it's leaning towards 70% her, 30% them. As her oldest son is autistic he'd have needed a lot more attention and time than even the twins. So, at some point, they'd have been left more to their own devices. They possibly feel they're less important than their older brother. A lot of the mother's frustration has been taken out on James. Why on earth she had yet another child is beyond me.
He's been violent against his mother. He was told not to drive the car, he drove it, and the engine blew. He's been in trouble for taking and selling drugs. He goes through jobs like water. She may be dramatic, but she's also frustrated and at her wits end. Maybe her reactions seem over the top, but everyone claiming the mother is toxic/cut her off, has clearly never dealt with an out of control teenager. At the end, the Defendant admitted that the one thing she has never waivered on is her love for him. He'll grow up and hopefully calm down, and so will she.
You have clearly never dealt with a toxic parent either. The kid is undoubtedly an ass, but he didn't become that way overnight. It sounds like his and his sister's behavior has been going on for a long time. If not one, but 2 of your children start acting out from an early age, it indicates that something is not harmonious in the home. She can't even hold herself together in a court, so I believe him when he says she takes her frustration out on all the kids. She is clearly overwhelmed dealing with the autistic son, so she shouldn't have had more kids.
@@mistyflores3176 I can't figure out if she's got a new husband that she had the youngest kid by or if the family is still together with James & the other kids' dad? She has a different last name, so most likely it's a new husband/stepdad situation.
This woman is probably difficult but the son isn't any picnic. If you look at the facts, she had twins when she had a 5 year old autistic son and also has a younger child. That makes her life no joy ride. When he was 16 or 17 he skipped school and almost died of alcohol poisoning. He has been through 8 or 9 jobs in less than a year and has been fired for not turning up from most of them. I think he truly believes that he is a victim and its all her fault for expecting him to live a responsible life. He just wants to sleep until 11 every day. He thinks its unreasonable that she asked him to help out by watching his younger sibling while he was at home. She may not be perfect and probably doesn't always handle things the right way but he is so angry he wouldn't believe her if she said the sky was blue. It was interesting that Dad was never mentioned (other than the fact he is the bread winner) or present. If James is so difficult why isn't Dad helping her out and supporting her or his son. It would interesting to know how 45 year old James is now doing and if he ever managed a better relationship with mum
Her oldest son is the autistic one. Then she has James and his twin sister and a five year old. I also noticed that James said his dad pays all the bills but that’s not who he begged to buy him a car. His dad might be there but unplugged. I have some relatives and friends who grew up technically in two parent homes but their dads were barely home.
A majority of the things you’ve said here are from her mouth. Not confirmed facts. 8/9 jobs in 8 months? You’re gullible AF if you believed that. As for him drinking 18 shots, teenagers get drunk and get their stomach pumped. It’s happened millions of times. Yes, it’s bad but that isn’t a guarantee you’re going down a bad path. Not to mention, she’s claiming she’s worried about his future that he’s going down a bad path… yet goes on national tv and throws out accusations he’s a drug dealer. That’s one way to ensure your child can’t get a job. She’s a moron, an exaggerator and clearly an unstable liar. Not to mention, it absolutely IS unreasonable for a parent to expect their other children to look after their sibling all the time. It’s parentification. Don’t have kids if YOU can’t look after them. It’s not your other children’s job to do your job.
Mom is crazy....son has problems but mom is a lunatic control freak.... he should keep her at arms length and get his act together and build a life without her.
She's a vindictive nut job, pretending to cry, but there's no tears. I think we're seeing a real life narcissist at work here, she's using I love you as a weapon, and says she wants him to be responsible, but he's living away from home and has a job. She's just pissed that she can't control him any more. I hope that he managed to stay free of her. Judge Judy was wrong.
She's very toxic! I couldn't tolerate her for ~10 min so I feel you James. She's very eager not to communicate with him but to share his secrets and to make him feel uncomfortable, which indicates that she cares for her looks as a victim more than her son. In many times she was just stating facts for both sides that don't need to be heard by him, but she was trying to make it in public for her sake, and acted like she was talking to him. She obviously doesn't care that much about him as a kid anymore, but their rocky relationship is her misery and she obviously is addicted to misery. It was hard for her to love him? The hell it was, narcissist.
He obviously wanted love from his mother, which is why he believed love was always going to be shared. Yeah that statement of “It was hard to love you” is very telling. I get kids are hard, teenagers even more so, it all takes temperance.
Children are not the built-in babysitters for their siblings and she's trying to use him to the extreme and when he said I don't want to do this anymore I'm moving out she got mad and he's on the sidewalk moving out she probably will rushed him and he threw her off of him so she called the cops and said he assaulted her. That's probably how she does things. This is obviously an older episode of judge Judy. I don't believe this kid assaulted her. I do believe she has assaulted him. I believe she bullrushed him, and when he pushed her off then she called the cops and said he assaulted her I think that's a remote I operandi. James was pretty explicit when he said the door is always open for me really and you better have that restraining order lifted against me. He knows her inside and out and he's done with her and she doesn't want to be done with him because she wants to use him more and more. She wants her live-in babysitter back she uses her daughter the same way and the daughter is the twin sister to James. He doesn't want to babysit his youngest sibling he wants some time to himself in order to get some time to himself he had to move out and I'll bet she doesn't like that either. Little birds are supposed to leave the nest except this mama bird wants to sit on the nest and smother him. She said she had two jobs he said only since the last year so she was a stay-at-home mother who used her older kids as indentured servants. James is done with her!
Typical comments of Modern Generation. While I think he's s Mom was overprotective which is Bad in many ways, remember he also 17. Parents do need to teach their children about Responsibilities in Life even to a much younger age. 15/16 still didn't try to wake up early to work things out after in and out jobs in 17?? His Mom would be So Happy even if he's helping family members with no job at all. But he drinking and drugs. He didn't even deny the 19 shots, who cares the age when one don't have as many tolerant or alcohol, let alone barely underage. What kind of Parents that will let their children growing with all those environment, influence? Her Mom here suing him, means she's desperate to fix his son.
@@musicjunkie274out of all rational reasons, you can only think Humiliation? His Mom, seems very overprotective, which not good in many ways. But look at him, at least 16 done a potential bad future illegal stuffs. Do you think she didn't feel shame to be here at all? She knew that no matter what, people will still see her as useless Mother, not a good parents, regardless of any views. She's desperate here and while he still hold his anger probably due to his daily influence around. Imagine, you have Children that at least 16yo, already have drugs and drink irresponsibly, put drugs in your house and Police came. Tell me anyone who never feel surprised or weird or nervous when police come knocking their door.
@@purplementhol3388 I was born in 82 and I agree the mother is horribly toxic and is seeking to humiliate her son for complete control. Not to mention she created this so called "troubled" child. We as parents have to take some accountability for poor parenting. There is a reason he has fallen into alcohol and drugs. I hope this comment finds you with an open heart mind to the truth.
I might testify that something my kid said wasn't true, but I'd never call him a liar on national TV. She's whack, and he's probably not very responsible but frustrated as heck dealing with her histrionics. Hope he made a successful life.
There are bigger issues here, and I have to assume the producers eventually figured out the show worked better when the legal issues were front and center.
@@SaraAndrew-g4wyou’re guessing he grew up because…. He’s Facebook friends with his mother? In what world does a Facebook friendship mean you’re on good terms? As for saying he needed to grow up…. You must be gullible if you believed anything she said here. No loving mother claims they care about their son potentially going on a bad path and then starts claiming he’s having s*x with his cousin and is a drug dealer. Says a lot about you that you think she was in the right even through all that nonsense she was spouting.
Yeah I’m actually not believing the mom. She definitely caused some of his issues and she acts like she cares in public but is controlling and manipulating behind closed doors. Sometimes you do need to cut off toxic people to better yourself.
I get the vibe of a very controlling, drama mama. We have no way of knowing if there was actual physical abuse on either end, but there was definitely some unwholesome energy. The son is a brat, but he's (was) a teenage boy, and most of them act out to some degree. And make stupid decisions...your car broke down? It's possibly risky to drive? Don't take chances! Call a friend, your girlfriend, or take the bus to work! If I were JJ, I would have recommended some cooling off time, then counseling. But, that's just me.
He is 19, old enough to be on his owe, leave him be.... but whatever you do, so not bail him out when he makes poor choices. Those lfe lessons are important for him to grow up. I just hope he is smart enough to not end up with a baby hanging on his leg.
I don’t like the old days where JJ would let the plaintiff or the defendant speak to each other. Something seems wrong with the mom. He may not be responsible at the age he was at, but there is something with the mother and the way she speaks. I don’t know there is something, but I’m not a psychiatrist… he should not go through the door, maybe stand next to it until she learns. Edit to add: I feel like she is playing victim…
I remember being 19 and thinking everything was my mom's fault. Now I'm 36 with 2 kids and I see a mother grieving for a son she's scared of losing. Life comes at you so fast.
How would he learn anything by being on Judge Judy! They get their travel expenses paid, appearance fees, and the studio pays out the judgement if awarded. Nothing would come out of his pocket.
The mother does have some issues, but that BABY child is UNHINGED! Even JJ said, she's never dealt with a child who' was so egocentric tfat we believes he can do no wrong
Yall keep saying the mother is the problem know all the facts before yall just assume he’s a boy a teenage boy and wants to bump his head yall all act like yall was never rebellious with your parent or parents geez yall so perfect
This young man is really disrespectful to his mother and his girlfriend/cousin is encouraging him to continue being the little jerk that he is. Both are very immature and JJ had an opportunity to help and she just walked away.
Its 20.20 here in London nearer to Bed time than morning and it is cold, but i am not bitter(not much)😂😅😂 I wish you a lovely day, along with all JJ friends. Just 1 more thing do you want to SWAP locations.
It's just about to be 7am here in Brisbane, Australia. A nice warm day with the sun (finally) out ahead. Hope everyone has a beautiful day/night/sleep ahead. Take care of yourselves and one another ❤
If I were American I'd be embarrassed, judging from the comments it seems American people are actually blaming the mother in this case, How much more depraved can Americans get ?
Mom is phony and the judge did see through her scam on her son. Son needs to get far away from her grip. I think he will have a better life away and do great. phony tears and concern for his well being is a put on. She is a very controlling person and wants to have control over him. Good luck Jimmy
Agreed. I hated how judge Judy disagreed with the girlfriend and wanted them to work through their issues. Sometimes people shouldn't be around each other, even if that's family.
U talking like u kno the lady. This is a very toxic comment. I hope he does the exact opposite of everything u said & repairs his relationship wit his mom.
@@brittanycurrency2941 you're the type of person who would stay in an abusive relationship? Red flags all over this lady. You can tell for sure because the dad didn't dare show up and the twin sister is trying to escape too. I'm sure everyone else is the problem though and not her.... 🙄
Mom only helps him when she needs his help. It's never hard to live your child. It doesn't matter how they behave. She's just mad he's not doing what she wants him to.
unreal to think JJ advised this mom to keep her door open to an abuser. The mom needs to let him go on his merry way and never help him with anything again
JJ and the kid is right in this case, the kid said they don't see eye to eye JJ while didn't say split up., she said he's angry with her but leave the door open I do not sympathise with the mother for wanting to do things her way
I totally believe he was told not to drive the car and did it anyway causing extensive damage. So basically it was deliberate. This is not adult behavior. You take a bus, call a cab, ask a coworker to pick you up or get up early and walk. I think mom and son should spend some time apart and she should stop enabling him and he should stop asking or accepting any assistance from her if he thinks she is controlling. I have never heard anyone pronounce radiator they way he does. Interesting accent.
Judge Judy is a kind psychologist here, but Judge Judy really changed her tone as the show went on. The kid is really cold hearted! It is amazing how the hairstyles and clothing of the 80s and 90s made women look so much older. This woman doesn’t look like she should have a five-year old!
JJ got this wrong, I believe. She is too hard on the son and not the narcissistic mother. 😮 I had a mother like that - the son needs to detach from her and move on.
THE SON IS OVER EIGHTEEN YEARS OLD, THAT MAKES HIM AN ADULT ! THE MOTHER MUST GIVE UP POSSESSION AND LET HIM GO ON WITH LIFE, WHETHER IT BE GOOD OR BAD ! THIS BOY HAS A BUNCH OF GROWING UP TO DO !
James definitely has some problems and he needs to get his act together, but I think a lot of this MAY stem from his overbearing mother, without knowing more... it's not exactly clear. However, a lot of children who come from families where another sibling has some sort of disability that requires "extra attention" are often parentified and can develop a rebellious streak as a result.
However, his autistic brother is the oldest. Why on Earth, would you give yourself more responsabilities by having other children, then complain about it
This is one toxic mother… my total sympathy is with this young man. Abusers ALWAYS say they love the person they are hurting and how they made them do it. 🤔
You cant say " I have" kept the door open for him but have a restraining order on him so he cant go near you, then its a lie. Something about her makes me feel she isnt blameless in their toxic relationship. Wonder why the Dad didn't come with her to court.
I can tell the mother isn't what she thinks she is.
This past version of Judge Judy had a lot of patience!
She's gotten older
1994 is a long time
So did I in the 90s! 😂
The producers wanted higher ratings so she got bitchier
If he was my son and he hit or laid his hand on me I would tell him Bye Bye..and I would have a restraining order against him....I disagree with JJ let him go he is old enough to go take care of himself ..he is a smart guy .....tension between mother and son is toxic .why do they torture each other like this.they both are better to be apart!!!
I think the son's problems can be traced back to the mom. Her thinking this was the appropriate way to deal with a child she deems difficult shows she has a screw loose
I thought I was watching a Dr Phil show for a second there. Wow😑
Right?!?!
Pennsylvania folks 😅
They both suck
@@amygrimes6438
Yep you’re right
The old JJ was like Dr Phile lol Now days she doesn't wanna hear a big sob story 😂
I can already tell, she's caused at least some of his behavioral issues. She's the type of parent that starts something, but always plays the victim. I've lived it
story if my life too. 20 years of that endless cycle can seriously change a person
I have lived it too.
This screams narcissism to me. The kids are having a hard time expressing why her behavior is so harmful, but that's how it is sometimes. I think it's likely the kid has tons of issues, but to bring him on TV so that she could yell at and embarrass him in public is so sad.
Same! All I could think about was my childhood and how I always got told I need to "respect" my mother. Then GIVE ME SOMETHING TO RESPECT. very telling that the twin sister also tried to escape. This isn't an issue of her son's, she's the issue.
I don’t believe half the things she said but if they were true… she came on national TV and spoke about every little thing she possibly could. She’s claiming she’s worried about him going down a bad path? Her claiming he’s selling drgs on TV isn’t exactly the way to prove you care considering that could totally fk up his chances of a career AT ALL. But “she loves him!” No, she’s a drama queen whose clearly pushed him to HIS point.
If my mom was like her and sued me and put a restraing order on me, I would never talk to her again.
ok she lost me at " it's been very hard to love you"
Nobody will know know the whole story. Frustrating for both parties.
Sure wish I could see where they all are now.. and how this resolved itself etc...
I think i found Jimmy Vensel on X . I don't have social medias so i can't check it out but this guy looks like him
He's a corrections officer and there is a photo online of him and his mum together at his work. The autistic son/brother died nearly 5 years ago.
She’s so overbearing and manipulative and I don’t believe a second of her crocodile tears.
Yeah, hos anger stems from her
I couldn’t imagine my parent ever uttering that it was very hard to love me. Such a terrible thing to say.
@rolling6700, easy to see why he is the way he is.
Yes, I caught that, too! Seemed really out of line. Like "Look at what a martyr I am for loving my own child, who's still a teenager & irresponsible!"
I would think it but not say it aloud. 😂
Exactly. All she did, even outside the courtroom was belittle him. I wouldn’t wanna be in his shoes for 5 minutes. That’s on National TV, imagine what happens behind closed doors.
She's frustrated which is making is more difficult for her to feel good towards her son. We don't have all of the pieces to the puzzle so it isn't fair to make a judgment of either the Mother or the son. Ot's obvious she loves him or she wouldn't be on the verge of tears.
On balance, I am on the son's side. His Mum sounds very controlling. Her way or the high way. She is also very good at holding his past mistakes against him and airing them to the world.
Absolutely.
Her way? No drugs and study or keep a job. Man is that a freaking hard way lol
Everything she said was an attack on his character. She doesnt say a single positive thing about him.
Impossible to thrive under a parent like that.
Her parenting style isnt working but instead of taking responsibility and changing her style, its easier just to blame him for the failure.
The both needed councilling for their lack of empathy and anger issues.
Like a classic narcissist
0:46 The Ratiator 🐀 sounds like an evolved form of a Pokemon lol
The mother sounded off to me. Too much drama, probably the same at home. And airing his dirty laundry for all to hear.
The mum is at her wits end because she has lost control of her child and is terrified that he is going down a bad path that she can't prevent. He is definitely engaging in destructive behaviours, but he has to make his own mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes tough love is the best option in these scenarios. Teenagers tend to think they know everything. Let them find out for themselves, even if it's the hard way, that they do not.
Tough love would have been not buying him a car when he's allegedly already hit her and other terrible behaviour.
@mr.m2545 I agree. But she can't change what has already happened. From the court day onwards was what I meant. Mind you, this was shot in the late 90s/early 2000s, so who knows where they both ended up.
I think the mother is the bigger problem here. If it were just James, then it could have been six of one, half a dozen of the other. But as the twin sister also had problems with the mother, it's leaning towards 70% her, 30% them.
As her oldest son is autistic he'd have needed a lot more attention and time than even the twins. So, at some point, they'd have been left more to their own devices. They possibly feel they're less important than their older brother. A lot of the mother's frustration has been taken out on James.
Why on earth she had yet another child is beyond me.
He's been violent against his mother. He was told not to drive the car, he drove it, and the engine blew. He's been in trouble for taking and selling drugs. He goes through jobs like water. She may be dramatic, but she's also frustrated and at her wits end. Maybe her reactions seem over the top, but everyone claiming the mother is toxic/cut her off, has clearly never dealt with an out of control teenager. At the end, the Defendant admitted that the one thing she has never waivered on is her love for him. He'll grow up and hopefully calm down, and so will she.
And who do you think raised that kid? Also if she really loved him he wouldn't sue him
The upsetting thing is when lots of people are placing the blame solely on the mom, where is Father in all this?
Agreed
You have clearly never dealt with a toxic parent either. The kid is undoubtedly an ass, but he didn't become that way overnight. It sounds like his and his sister's behavior has been going on for a long time. If not one, but 2 of your children start acting out from an early age, it indicates that something is not harmonious in the home. She can't even hold herself together in a court, so I believe him when he says she takes her frustration out on all the kids. She is clearly overwhelmed dealing with the autistic son, so she shouldn't have had more kids.
@@mistyflores3176 I can't figure out if she's got a new husband that she had the youngest kid by or if the family is still together with James & the other kids' dad? She has a different last name, so most likely it's a new husband/stepdad situation.
I believe that the mother is a narcissist. If the kids are reacting in this manner it may be as a response to her actions. Too much to delve into.
This woman is probably difficult but the son isn't any picnic. If you look at the facts, she had twins when she had a 5 year old autistic son and also has a younger child. That makes her life no joy ride. When he was 16 or 17 he skipped school and almost died of alcohol poisoning. He has been through 8 or 9 jobs in less than a year and has been fired for not turning up from most of them. I think he truly believes that he is a victim and its all her fault for expecting him to live a responsible life. He just wants to sleep until 11 every day. He thinks its unreasonable that she asked him to help out by watching his younger sibling while he was at home. She may not be perfect and probably doesn't always handle things the right way but he is so angry he wouldn't believe her if she said the sky was blue. It was interesting that Dad was never mentioned (other than the fact he is the bread winner) or present. If James is so difficult why isn't Dad helping her out and supporting her or his son. It would interesting to know how 45 year old James is now doing and if he ever managed a better relationship with mum
She clearly shouldn't have had more kids when she struggled taking care of the autistic one.
Her oldest son is the autistic one. Then she has James and his twin sister and a five year old. I also noticed that James said his dad pays all the bills but that’s not who he begged to buy him a car. His dad might be there but unplugged. I have some relatives and friends who grew up technically in two parent homes but their dads were barely home.
Why in the world did she have 3 more kids after trying to raise an autistic child?
@@maryjobutera3287 Indeed.
A majority of the things you’ve said here are from her mouth. Not confirmed facts. 8/9 jobs in 8 months? You’re gullible AF if you believed that. As for him drinking 18 shots, teenagers get drunk and get their stomach pumped. It’s happened millions of times. Yes, it’s bad but that isn’t a guarantee you’re going down a bad path. Not to mention, she’s claiming she’s worried about his future that he’s going down a bad path… yet goes on national tv and throws out accusations he’s a drug dealer. That’s one way to ensure your child can’t get a job. She’s a moron, an exaggerator and clearly an unstable liar.
Not to mention, it absolutely IS unreasonable for a parent to expect their other children to look after their sibling all the time. It’s parentification. Don’t have kids if YOU can’t look after them. It’s not your other children’s job to do your job.
I can really empathize with this young man. Maintain those boundaries, James!
The mother is so annoying
Mom is crazy....son has problems but mom is a lunatic control freak....
he should keep her at arms length and get his act together and build a life without her.
She's a vindictive nut job, pretending to cry, but there's no tears. I think we're seeing a real life narcissist at work here, she's using I love you as a weapon, and says she wants him to be responsible, but he's living away from home and has a job.
She's just pissed that she can't control him any more. I hope that he managed to stay free of her. Judge Judy was wrong.
Yes, it was hard to watch. The mother is a nightmare
Complicated family matters.
She's very toxic! I couldn't tolerate her for ~10 min so I feel you James.
She's very eager not to communicate with him but to share his secrets and to make him feel uncomfortable, which indicates that she cares for her looks as a victim more than her son.
In many times she was just stating facts for both sides that don't need to be heard by him, but she was trying to make it in public for her sake, and acted like she was talking to him.
She obviously doesn't care that much about him as a kid anymore, but their rocky relationship is her misery and she obviously is addicted to misery.
It was hard for her to love him? The hell it was, narcissist.
Because she's not working, drinking and doing drugs and hanging with addicts ? Oh nope, that's the son
He obviously wanted love from his mother, which is why he believed love was always going to be shared. Yeah that statement of “It was hard to love you” is very telling.
I get kids are hard, teenagers even more so, it all takes temperance.
Borderline personality and narcissist
The mom can’t even control herself in court! She’s a mess. I hope he got away from her
Children are not the built-in babysitters for their siblings and she's trying to use him to the extreme and when he said I don't want to do this anymore I'm moving out she got mad and he's on the sidewalk moving out she probably will rushed him and he threw her off of him so she called the cops and said he assaulted her. That's probably how she does things. This is obviously an older episode of judge Judy. I don't believe this kid assaulted her. I do believe she has assaulted him. I believe she bullrushed him, and when he pushed her off then she called the cops and said he assaulted her I think that's a remote I operandi. James was pretty explicit when he said the door is always open for me really and you better have that restraining order lifted against me. He knows her inside and out and he's done with her and she doesn't want to be done with him because she wants to use him more and more. She wants her live-in babysitter back she uses her daughter the same way and the daughter is the twin sister to James. He doesn't want to babysit his youngest sibling he wants some time to himself in order to get some time to himself he had to move out and I'll bet she doesn't like that either. Little birds are supposed to leave the nest except this mama bird wants to sit on the nest and smother him. She said she had two jobs he said only since the last year so she was a stay-at-home mother who used her older kids as indentured servants. James is done with her!
Well said 🎉
There’s no way she loves her son, she was sneering at him and calling out his dirty laundry throughout the entire proceeding.
Yeah her motives here were entirely out of whack. Seems like she just wanted to humiliate and belittle him on TV
Typical comments of Modern Generation. While I think he's s Mom was overprotective which is Bad in many ways, remember he also 17. Parents do need to teach their children about Responsibilities in Life even to a much younger age. 15/16 still didn't try to wake up early to work things out after in and out jobs in 17?? His Mom would be So Happy even if he's helping family members with no job at all. But he drinking and drugs. He didn't even deny the 19 shots, who cares the age when one don't have as many tolerant or alcohol, let alone barely underage. What kind of Parents that will let their children growing with all those environment, influence? Her Mom here suing him, means she's desperate to fix his son.
@@musicjunkie274out of all rational reasons, you can only think Humiliation? His Mom, seems very overprotective, which not good in many ways. But look at him, at least 16 done a potential bad future illegal stuffs. Do you think she didn't feel shame to be here at all? She knew that no matter what, people will still see her as useless Mother, not a good parents, regardless of any views. She's desperate here and while he still hold his anger probably due to his daily influence around. Imagine, you have Children that at least 16yo, already have drugs and drink irresponsibly, put drugs in your house and Police came. Tell me anyone who never feel surprised or weird or nervous when police come knocking their door.
Yup, the worst one might have been "that's his fourth cousin"
@@purplementhol3388 I was born in 82 and I agree the mother is horribly toxic and is seeking to humiliate her son for complete control. Not to mention she created this so called "troubled" child. We as parents have to take some accountability for poor parenting. There is a reason he has fallen into alcohol and drugs. I hope this comment finds you with an open heart mind to the truth.
I might testify that something my kid said wasn't true, but I'd never call him a liar on national TV. She's whack, and he's probably not very responsible but frustrated as heck dealing with her histrionics. Hope he made a successful life.
She is controlling and doesn't want to cut the apron strings .
i can tell she helps him but it's always at a cost to him and used against him, the guy can't win against her
There are bigger issues here, and I have to assume the producers eventually figured out the show worked better when the legal issues were front and center.
You got that right. This format is annoying that quickly becomes boring.
I imagine JJ also had a hand in putting an end to the melodrama
LOL! Producers do not worry about the people's personal lives back then or nowadays. LOL!
JJ is not a councellor, should have put this on Dr Phil
The mom isn’t right airing out so much her son’s business.
@Xxsorafan, she'll do anything to try and make her self look like the hero and villian.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 This was exactly the right decision! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I wonder what ever happened to these people, especially Jimmy.
I looked them up online. He and his mum are Facebook friends so I'm guessing he grew up.
@@SaraAndrew-g4wyou’re guessing he grew up because…. He’s Facebook friends with his mother? In what world does a Facebook friendship mean you’re on good terms? As for saying he needed to grow up…. You must be gullible if you believed anything she said here. No loving mother claims they care about their son potentially going on a bad path and then starts claiming he’s having s*x with his cousin and is a drug dealer. Says a lot about you that you think she was in the right even through all that nonsense she was spouting.
She actually said it was HARD TO LOVE HER OWN CHILD. What a Mother of the Year.
Sure can be
Yeah I’m actually not believing the mom. She definitely caused some of his issues and she acts like she cares in public but is controlling and manipulating behind closed doors. Sometimes you do need to cut off toxic people to better yourself.
I get the vibe of a very controlling, drama mama. We have no way of knowing if there was actual physical abuse on either end, but there was definitely some unwholesome energy. The son is a brat, but he's (was) a teenage boy, and most of them act out to some degree. And make stupid decisions...your car broke down? It's possibly risky to drive? Don't take chances! Call a friend, your girlfriend, or take the bus to work! If I were JJ, I would have recommended some cooling off time, then counseling. But, that's just me.
He is 19, old enough to be on his owe, leave him be.... but whatever you do, so not bail him out when he makes poor choices. Those lfe lessons are important for him to grow up. I just hope he is smart enough to not end up with a baby hanging on his leg.
100%
I don’t like the old days where JJ would let the plaintiff or the defendant speak to each other. Something seems wrong with the mom. He may not be responsible at the age he was at, but there is something with the mother and the way she speaks. I don’t know there is something, but I’m not a psychiatrist… he should not go through the door, maybe stand next to it until she learns.
Edit to add: I feel like she is playing victim…
I remember being 19 and thinking everything was my mom's fault. Now I'm 36 with 2 kids and I see a mother grieving for a son she's scared of losing. Life comes at you so fast.
Not EVERY family is a cookie cutter of another. There are unique factors in each family member, in each family.
Judy springer show today😂😂
Right!? Good grief lol!
wonder what happened with them.. I know my mother could get on my nerves at times, but I could never stop loving her
How would he learn anything by being on Judge Judy! They get their travel expenses paid, appearance fees, and the studio pays out the judgement if awarded. Nothing would come out of his pocket.
The mother does have some issues, but that BABY child is UNHINGED! Even JJ said, she's never dealt with a child who' was so egocentric tfat we believes he can do no wrong
Why did mom have to pay to get the car repaired after the blowout and again after James caused it to overheat? Adults fix their own vehicles.
This kid has problems because he has a bad mother.
Oh, I'm crushed to tears. The mum needs a break
Preferably along the C1 or C2 vertebrae
The mom needs a good heart and good mental counselor.
Did the show not pay the judgment back then? She said she didn't want to burden him with more financial responsibility.
AGAIN, THE MOTHER IS THE PROBLEM.
She is a controlling lunatic.
How for trying to help him lead a better life ? 😅
How ? Is she not workout or doing drugs it drinking staying out late or hanging with addicts ? Nope, oh yeah that's all on the son
@@aliamjon2550 READ THE OTHER COMMENTS AND IT SEEMS YOU MIGHT FEEL NOTHING LIKE THE REST OF US.. YOU ARE ALONE ON YOUR THOUGHTS
@@lGriffeyl READ THE OTHER COMMENTS, I AM NOT ALONE ON MY THOUGHTS,
Mums annoying
Yeehaw part three🎉🎉❣️❣️
This reminds me of the Bates Hotel . Mother and crazy son. Wow
Yall keep saying the mother is the problem know all the facts before yall just assume he’s a boy a teenage boy and wants to bump his head yall all act like yall was never rebellious with your parent or parents geez yall so perfect
You appear to like the word 'yall' a little bit too much.
Umm two things can be true at once it seems like he’s rebellious because of the abuse he suffered from her!
@@kimlove4740what abuse? Don’t you think it would have been mentioned if there was?
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Was thinking the same. Can't assume. At the same time son is very rebellious.
I have never met a teenage adult who doesn’t think they know everything. As a parent it is hard to let figure out on their own that they don’t!
Did she say it has been hard to love you? Omg, as a mother, I am appalled.
I never saw an episode of Judge Judy where she allowed the people to argue like that. Lol
I think the mother has a lot of problems when her kid is struggling why try too put a burden on him for 5 thousand dollars
Restraining order? Something is going on with Mom.
This young man is really disrespectful to his mother and his girlfriend/cousin is encouraging him to continue being the little jerk that he is. Both are very immature and JJ had an opportunity to help and she just walked away.
Neither of these people are fantastic people. Pretty horrible situation and no one wins
Good morning my JJ friends, 7am here in Melbourne Australia 🇦🇺 😊. I hope you all have an awesome day. Love Terri@thelake ❤️
Its 20.20 here in London nearer to Bed time than morning and it is cold, but i am not bitter(not much)😂😅😂 I wish you a lovely day, along with all JJ friends. Just 1 more thing do you want to SWAP locations.
2.38pm here in TN USA. Awesome to see all the people watching from different places.
It's just about to be 7am here in Brisbane, Australia. A nice warm day with the sun (finally) out ahead. Hope everyone has a beautiful day/night/sleep ahead. Take care of yourselves and one another ❤
If I were American I'd be embarrassed, judging from the comments it seems American people are actually blaming the mother in this case,
How much more depraved can
Americans get ?
she had more patience 😂
Narc mother dynamics here. I feel for James. It is never easy being the child of a narc!
What the heck? He's immature and hits his mother. I don't feel for him at all.
@VisualizeHealing there's no proof he hit his mother!! I had a mother just like this, terrible liars.
Mom is phony and the judge did see through her scam on her son. Son needs to get far away from her grip. I think he will have a better life away and do great. phony tears and concern for his well being is a put on. She is a very controlling person and wants to have control over him. Good luck Jimmy
Agreed. I hated how judge Judy disagreed with the girlfriend and wanted them to work through their issues. Sometimes people shouldn't be around each other, even if that's family.
U talking like u kno the lady. This is a very toxic comment. I hope he does the exact opposite of everything u said & repairs his relationship wit his mom.
@@brittanycurrency2941 you're the type of person who would stay in an abusive relationship? Red flags all over this lady. You can tell for sure because the dad didn't dare show up and the twin sister is trying to escape too. I'm sure everyone else is the problem though and not her.... 🙄
Narcissistic son. We need a Where Are They Now series for these oldJudge Judy episodes
Noticed parents and kids who don't get along are like the same person. Both mother and son are a lot of drama. Mother stops almost tearing up on cue.
Mom only helps him when she needs his help. It's never hard to live your child. It doesn't matter how they behave. She's just mad he's not doing what she wants him to.
unreal to think JJ advised this mom to keep her door open to an abuser. The mom needs to let him go on his merry way and never help him with anything again
This is really sad. It kind of reminds me of a movie called, ‘We Need To Talk About Kevin’. (Hopefully it never ends up getting bad for them, though)
I can see what kind of parent she is! He is done.
He’s determined to do life the hard way
Sorry, the mom doesnt seem guiltless in this either.
JJ and the kid is right in this case, the kid said they don't see eye to eye
JJ while didn't say split up., she said he's angry with her but leave the door open
I do not sympathise with the mother for wanting to do things her way
Would LOVE to find out what happened with this kid
He can’t even look at her when he’s spitting out all those lies. And his 4th cousin / girlfriend needed to stay out of it.
I totally believe he was told not to drive the car and did it anyway causing extensive damage. So basically it was deliberate. This is not adult behavior. You take a bus, call a cab, ask a coworker to pick you up or get up early and walk.
I think mom and son should spend some time apart and she should stop enabling him and he should stop asking or accepting any assistance from her if he thinks she is controlling.
I have never heard anyone pronounce radiator they way he does. Interesting accent.
Hahaha... like I said... it's the Jenny Springer show 😂😂😂
He sounds like a lazy entitled brat.
Judge Judy is a kind psychologist here, but Judge Judy really changed her tone as the show went on. The kid is really cold hearted! It is amazing how the hairstyles and clothing of the 80s and 90s made women look so much older. This woman doesn’t look like she should have a five-year old!
Lol i remember when they used to make the defendant and plaintiff do a interview standing next to each other lol.
I watched all 3 of those episodes and I'm 100% on the kids side. That mother is crazy controlling and vindictive. I wonder how James is today?
Birds of feather flocks together, I guess you’re also an irresponsible kid like James 😂
I think the mother is most of the problem 😕
JJ got this wrong, I believe. She is too hard on the son and not the narcissistic mother. 😮 I had a mother like that - the son needs to detach from her and move on.
Boy, this show sure has changed in tone. Something tells me that audiences didn't go for the touchy-feely Judge Judy and they tweaked things.
I wonder what happened to this 'kid'. I hope he made it and turned his life around.
according to a google search of his name, there was an article that he was arrested in 2011 for DWI (somewhere in Pennsylvania)
@@BiblicalTeachingsif that’s the worst thing you could find on him, that’s not that bad.
@@elsabean6791no it's not the worst.
@@TriciaT2407 Then tell us what was or don’t make a comment like that to begin with?
@elsabean6791 google it. He's not hard to find.
Yes, the dude is an issue, but mom is pathetic and is the root cause. She used every opportunity to try to humiliate him on tv. Who does that?
Don't Cry Mother...The Lessons of Life to James...you HAVE TO LET HIM LEARN by His Own Mistakes...or he Will Blame You forever(That's a LONG TIME) 😢😢😢
The mom turned him into that person. The best thing for him to do is stay away from her for a long while & create firm boundaries with her.
THE SON IS OVER EIGHTEEN YEARS OLD, THAT MAKES HIM AN ADULT ! THE MOTHER MUST GIVE UP POSSESSION AND LET HIM GO ON WITH LIFE, WHETHER IT BE GOOD OR BAD ! THIS BOY HAS A BUNCH OF GROWING UP TO DO !
He’s sleeping with his cousin? Lol. Banjos 🪕
Where is the Dad ?
He is to blame, for letting her do this.
Probably works constantly so he doesn't have to deal with her crazy.
James definitely has some problems and he needs to get his act together, but I think a lot of this MAY stem from his overbearing mother, without knowing more... it's not exactly clear.
However, a lot of children who come from families where another sibling has some sort of disability that requires "extra attention" are often parentified and can develop a rebellious streak as a result.
However, his autistic brother is the oldest.
Why on Earth, would you give yourself more responsabilities by having other children, then complain about it
She loves him
No wonder in the later years, JJ doesn’t allow people to speak unless spoken to.
Blame the mother, blame the son. Either way, the only thing that this family needs is therapy...period.
This is one toxic mother… my total sympathy is with this young man. Abusers ALWAYS say they love the person they are hurting and how they made them do it. 🤔
She is too possessive. Let him live his own life. If he gets in trouble, it's his problem.
Mom needs to put all over 18yr olds out and get real adult babysitters.
You cant say " I have" kept the door open for him but have a restraining order on him so he cant go near you, then its a lie. Something about her makes me feel she isnt blameless in their toxic relationship. Wonder why the Dad didn't come with her to court.