I worked with Hughie for nearly 16yrs with British Rail, he wasn't just a workmate we were good buddies, drinking partners, we would go to the local pub on a Friday night and see some country & western bands then finish off with a meal. In all the years working with my mate I have to be honest I never thought there was anything wrong with him although sometimes when we were doing jobs he liked to speed the job up and now after seeing this video it seems that what he was trying to do was get the repair job done on the track before the train was due in both protecting the train/passengers plus us his workmates, at the time we thought nothing of it but it must have been his OCD coming through. As mentioned Hughie was and still is and will always be a great mate of mine even though I'm on the other side of the world in Australia and seeing this video upset me to see what he is going through. I know this is an old video but I hope my buddy has now got the help needed and is on the road to recovery. Hughie if you read this I would be made up to hear from you on how you are going. Your old buddy Tony
I would glue the ornaments in place, but then he probably still has to check if the glue still holds everytime . I have OCD so understand the torment and the change of thoughts/compulsions.
Meditation, working out, Ashwagandha, nac, yoga Nidra, reducing caffeine intake, all this helps me a lot, especially meditation. Meditation helps to train compulsion control.
@@TheEsotericProgrammer I am in a position with my ocd that all I could do is lie down and just be like that most of the time. Following routine is almost impossible, even going to the toilet is complicated.
@@Channingz At the heart of CBT is asking yourself "Is what I'm thinking real?" For example, it's human nature that we try to simplify things e.g. 7 colours of the rainbow (there's an infinite number). It's useful for communication but leads ultimately to black and white thinking: things are good or bad, you're happy or sad, etc. One technique in CBT is to stop yourself and ask "What percentage is it?" Because things are never 100% good, or bad, or happy, or sad, or anything else. It's a simple technique but it works. That example isn't particularly relevant to OCD but I wanted to give you an example that you hopefully wouldn't find challenging. CBT can be powerful stuff and something that EVERYBODY ought to have in their toolkit. It can help with OCD provided you don't conclude that it's so simple that it couldn't possibly help. People tend to balk at the suggestion that simple things can sort out difficult problems.
In most cases it starts like that,fear for loved ones.Wanna hear the weird thing?When it starts you can clearly hear a voice in your head telling you what to do.
the guy is literally a ticking time bomb, potentially murdering someone which he said he would do, the more he finds stuff not his way the more the timer goes down. l know this episode is 20 years old but hopefully he is cured now.
Absolutely not! NO. My mother did the "sickness and in health". Know what? All her kids are mentally ill and low functioning as a result. So is she. He's dead. And we continue suffer for it. Do not praise this. These kids will never be happy or normal.
My father started suffering with OCD & health anxiety about 5 years ago - came straight outta the blue. He used to wash his hands upwards of 80 times a day, would 'self-diagnose' food as 'gone off' and throw 90% of his meals away. Became borderline unbearable for my mild-mannered mother. He would boil the kettle four times just to make one cup of tea. One day, about a year ago whilst taking his car for an MOT he slipped on a patch of ice and smashed his hip and due to his inability to walk during the healing process his symptoms just disappeared as quickly as they appeared. It's like his mind had something new to focus on. The brain is such a complex organ!! I hope Hugh is in a better place with his health these days 🙏
Has your father had his blood checked thoroughly? Not just very basic blood tests, something more detailed. And neurologic tests. OCD symptoms can come up with physical illnesses, like neurological and autoimmune illnesses. When it's not physical it often arises from a traumatic event. But there's actually a lot of people who get diagnosed with a mental illness, who actually have an underlying physical illness that manifests in these ways, ocd, anxiety, sometimes even psychosis and hallucinations, personality changes, etc. When it's physical, it's often treatable and the mental symptoms will go away once the illness is kept in check. I'm saying that especially since for your father it's come up this late in life and seemingly out of nowhere, unless he went through some traumatic event around that time. With physical causes, these flare ups can come on with something as simple as a bacterial/viral infection, strep throat, anything triggering the physical autoimmune illness or similar
man i used to think i wash my hands about 40 times a day thinking that was bad i have even like tanned red hands it is brutal man i cant even think that is enough theres so much germs going about and lockdown made that even worse no joke i feel like frank from its always sunny when he shaves off all of his hair and wants to be "PURE"😂😂
hmm maybe cus he regained control in some sense over that period of learning to walk again, so it was enough to feel like he was in control of his life in general
There's a reason why diluting the meaning of OCD to cleanliness is so discouraged. The anxiety and the intrusive thoughts and the loneliness are utterly exhausting and there is nothing to desire in it
@@Chiller-pc1dv they're saying media has downplayed the affects of ocd on the people and the environment that have ocd, with some people trying to say "ocd just makes me put things in order and clean up after myself." when in some sad cases they end up like the dude in the video who are effected from ocd, and even in cases not so severe it's exhausting to repeatedly doing the same tasks or rituals ever day to satisfy that need to protect or whatever is motivating the ocd.
because OCD is a very broad condition and many see it through the narrow lense of cleanliness or repetitive actions but its ultimately an anxiety driven disorder where individuals try to neutralize their anxiety through any means possible. It can be a person obsessed with being or becoming ill, it can be a person obsessed that they've commited a crime, or killed someone and spend hours try to disprove the idea. The obsessions and compulsions can quite literally be anything as long as they upset the person.
I honestly don't know what is worse, being lost in a world where you dont know you're crazy, or being like him who is completely conscious of it. Neither seems fun. His wife seems like one of the most kind, caring and amazing people.
For a man that struggles so much with severe OCD, his strength of mind to pack and go on holiday with his family as well as walk over the glass absolutely astounds me. I wish him and his family all the best. I hope he got the supports he needs because he clearly has the determination. So proud of a stranger ❤
He doesn't have strength of mind that's why he has OCD, he doesn't have the mental strength to confront his own scary irrational thoughts so they take over him. The key word is 'scary', fear is his driving force, he keeps saying something bad will happen if he doesn't do his rituals, so he's scared and that's what's at the bottom of it. This is a weakling, and it only carries on because people are SUPPORTIVE, just like you. That's why we need compulsory military service, they don't give you time for being feeble and teary faced, you get it rough from the Sargent until you toughen up. 🤬
Someone I knew that suffered with severe OCD presented very few behaviours when we knew them initially, they became more and more apparent as they became comfortable around us. We went on holiday and the same thing happened it started relatively ok but then it got progressively worse over the two week period. They had to wear and travel home in the same clothes they wore on the outbound journey.
It’s crazy because I have this to an extent with objects touching other objects and things like that and you just feel off or like something bad will happen if you don’t do it correctly. It’s completely irrational and you know that, but it doesn’t stop you from wanting to do it if that makes sense.
When Hugh was in the doctor's office facing his fears of his son dying, I teared up. That must have been so difficult for him, but he made it through. Incredible.
If Hugh's OCD is an 8-9 on a scale of 1-10 I don't wanna know what a 10 looks like. Poor, poor man. He's a beautiful soul, just wants to protect his family, but is trapped in a world of rituals and anxiety.
it’s not what he does but why he does it that is the problem. He never once said he did it to protect himself. Always to protect his family. I could cry for him.
There's a popular Brazilian actress named Luciana Vendramini, she is known for having to quit acting to deal with her severe OCD. She was way worse than this man. She would take 10 hour long showers, in her darkest period, she was weighing 36kg because she says that waking up, eating whatever, taking a shower and going back to sleep would take an entire day so she stopped eating altogether. And she also tells about this day when she went out after a friend begging her to come out of the house.. she was stuck on the sidewalk for like 16 hours trying to go back inside her apartment but couldn't because the rituals were so demanding. Like counting taxi cabs that were passing by and starting all over again if she heard a honk. And going back and forth below electric wire like a gazillion times. Back then ocd wasn't really talked about much but when this last episode happened their parents finally took her to the doctor and she was diagnosed and she's pretty mu h doing pretty well theses days. She even has a podcast. But she was way worse than this guy.
The wife laughs a lot at his fears, and at first I thought 'what an insensitive you-know- what', but I think it's a defense mechanism for her own mental health. Laugh a bit or go stark raving mad yourself.
The problem is that this is dangerous and lacking in empathy. From my perspective atleast, I think it's also a betrayal of your responsibility as a carer for your partner. Leaving him may well have encouraged him to get help, or atleast put him in a situation where he didn't have a choice but to eventually get treated by a psychiatrist.
i wanna give him a massive hug, i understand what he’s going through it’s awful crying several times throughout the day from being anxious over irrational things. sending my love to him
It's not his fault he's sick, it's his fault he isn't fighting. Like at all... But he sounds like he might not be aware there's treatment. His doctors doesn't seem to have told him either which they should have.
Sweet?He can't keep from saying to his family are annoying him?At least keep his mouth shut knowing full well that it's all in his mind.He makes me sick.
Kudos to his wife for sticking around, not many people would be able to deal with living with someone who is that severely affected by OCD, I can’t even imagine living with it myself, it must be a scary condition
@@trealin4730 You aren't in any position to say "she could have cared more"! She obviously loves him dearly to have stuck around so long. As harsh as this sounds there's also 3 grown up children and a grandchild. Many wives would have left their mentally ill husband years ago for far less!
First off, a medal to his wife and kids. My ex had OCD. He was obsessed with germs and washed his hands till they bled. Prozac was first, and he hated it. To his credit, after the Prozac worked, he weaned himself off, and was able to contra his obsessions. He had setbacks, but not too intense. Today he is doing well, without medication. I really admire him for that. It’s not easy.
A few years ago, I had a friend who suffered with OCD. It was heartbreaking to witness him go through his repetitive and pointless rituals. Tragically, he couldn't cope and ended up taking his own life....he was just 18 years old when he died. RIP Rob
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 it's crazy to think about, but I was like that back in the day. The rituals and repeating routines, everything. I was able to get rid of it without any help from psychologist or psychiatrist. At first when I tried ignoring the urges it hurt me like the pain was actually physical (and sometimes it was, especially in the chest). But the more I tried the less painful it became. Eventually I just got rid of it completely. I still get the urges from time to time (once a month maybe) but nothing happens when I just ignore them now. OCD is not curable as far as I know, but you can get rid of the "punishment" your mind puts on you for not doing the rituals, if you are strong willed enough.
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311so yeah, you shouldn't say things like that. You shouldn't commit suicide over a puny OCD lol. There are stuff way worse than that, psychologically speaking.
I had ocd too. My whole family have ocd. My father, my grandma, grandpa, my aunt. My mother and I tried to change ourselves and we did changed. Im happy abt that
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 seek therapy dude I've had OCD and ADHD for as long as I can remember and as I grew rn I'm 21 it started getting worse till there was a breaking point and I finally decided to either take it all at once and end the struggle or keep struggling forever...those last few months were the hardest for me and my family first getting it thru them for the very first time opening up about the darkest of what I used to experience and then ultimately seeking professional help sure was rigorous had it's ups and downs but now that I see it I'm glad that I did cuz now my life is changing for the better every single day...still on medication and therapy but now I can do what I've always wanted but could never do cuz OCD used to cripple me down but slowly you gotta coupe and fight thru... don't lose hope it's not as big of a deal as it seems...only seems larger than life until u seek help
Only someone who has experienced what it is like can understand this man's pain. I suffer from anxiety not even close to this man's level and it nearly crushed me. I hope he finds peace.
@@samuelsantos7455 today 1 in 5 people suffers from anxiety this man has much bigger problem is his obsessive compulsive disorder, it doesn't allow him to live at all he doesn't have time for anything but these rituals that exist only in his head.
As someone with OCD, cases like this as well as my own experiences are why I hate when people trivialise OCD. It is life altering. It wears you down beyond belief. To those who also have OCD, I am wishing you the best. ❤
@@Userfriendly116 Thanks for the perfect example of somebody failing to understand what's actually happening. Literally everybody with OCD is fully aware of the things you said and it changes nothing. So now what? What's your next piece of life-changing advice? Got any other mental disorders to cure in a single sentence?
same, i have it as well, but not as bad as a lot of cases. i repeat questions over and over, hold objects for a certain amount of time to evade 'certain doom', stuff like that, but i think the reason people trivialise it is because, in conversation, the term OCD is often used to describe a symptom of wanting something to be perfect. its used as a comparison and, eventually the condition and the light description get blended together so people find it hard to distinguish between whats legitimate and not.
As someone with OCD who has learned to control it (at least significantly lower the anxiety associated with it), this video is extraordinarily hard to watch and makes me want to tear up. This man clearly has a severe, severe case of it and has unfortunately let it completely consume his life. My OCD drove me to the absolute brink to where I couldn't sleep a single hour at night for a month straight. I would wake up at 2 AM every morning with my entire body shaking, heart racing, and anxiety that was completely unbearable. I lost 40 pounds in a month and a half from not eating because of my anxiety. Through the intense, unyielding stress, I gave myself IBS which I occasionally still have to deal with even after 2 years of having the worst stomach and bowel symptoms imaginable day in and day out. It made me feel like the world was ending, and only through taking an anti-depressant and going through countless rounds of therapy was I able to finally control it. I still deal with it today, but I feel so, so much better. OCD will absolutely destroy your life if you let it. You can quite literally destroy your entire body and give yourself chronic illnesses through your thoughts and through stress. If you suffer from this, please, please, please seek a therapist that specializes in OCD and highly consider getting yourself medicated. Those two things gave me the biggest sense of relief I have ever felt in my life and made me feel like a new born baby who drew his first breath. There is hope and this condition can be controlled. And if you are in a bad place mentally, you absolutely must summon the strength to carry on and to find the help you so desperately need. Trust me when I say that once you get help and learn techniques how to control it, your life will only get better and better by the day.
@@Sikdomeshot I don’t think it’s a “let it get out of hand” thing. I’m sure situations exist where people can overcome it on their own, but if it were not for psychiatric help as someone with OCD I would not be living the life I am today.
yeah exactly, i mean i don't have OCD but god his house have like 10 million bottles and 20 million decoration stuff... i would opt for more minimalistic decor tbh.
Mostly if someone knows your dealing with this condition they rather laugh in your face. I find it really disgusting behaviour, it reveals there level of intelligence
Hughie, if you ever see this, You're an amazing human being. Dealing with what you have for so long and facing your fears head on. Nothing but massive respect to you fella. Mental health is cruel, cruel as cruel can be. But it can be undone and you can live a happy, content, relaxed life. I sincerely hope things are going well for you fella. Keep at it and beat it.
You have no idea of he can ever live happily and content. It can not always be undone. And that's no failure. It's a struggle, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Hoping the best for him
it makes me so sad that he puts himself through all the exhausting rituals not to save himself but out of utter fear for his family. upsetting but humbling at the same time :(
@@VicGreenBitcoin What has happened that so many people nowadays, mostly online, deny the existence of mental diseases? is it soley because of fake gurus saying that? Mental healh exists. Mental diseases exists. Denying the reality does not benefit anyone, believe it or not.
His wife is an incredibly kind and patient person ❤ I work in a facility that helps people with different types of mental disorders. It’s important for them to get help, not give into their ‘habits’ and for the family to avoid having the optimistic view of ‘everything will be ok in the future’. Being real and not making them comfortable enough to keep on going forever like that is important.
It's strange how psychologists usually want to take a surface level approach of attacking the obsessions and not addressing the fundamental root trauma that drives OCD. As someone who has recovered from OCD; I can say it was 100% a coping mechanism for dealing the abuse of my childhood and the incredible feelings of insecurity of being raised in severely a dysfunctional home. Once I was able to come to terms with the trauma, the OCD just evaporated.
It's pretty much the same for all types of mental health, they mask the problem with drugs but the source of the issue will never be resolved, it's like putting a band aid on the issue as a quick fix 😕😕
@@sookie4195 well 2 surgeries at that young age? that would be considered as traumatic.. especially in a childs brain.. it's not always abuse or neglect that creates trauma. It can be life events ( particularly at a very early age) that can cause ingrained behaviour, even if we are not aware of why we act like we do...
"oMG i HaVe sUcH BaD OCD i JuSt gEt sO aNnOyEd wHeN mY RoOm Is mEsSy" No, you don't have OCD, you have the normal human instinct to organise things. This man has OCD, and suffers terribly from it.
idot thank you i hate it when people say this because im diagnosed. Im not as bad as this guy but im pretty bad. And it jus pisses me off that nobody looks at it like depression.
Toxy thats not ocd. Jus from someone saying their ocd makes them not be able to have their room "messy" proves it. If it was ocd theyd have to have it a certain way not necessarily clean. No hate towards you though its a common misconception.
It broke me when he said “I throw a challenge out to anyone that thinks they can help me”. There’s something so desperate in that plea… I suffer from BPD and I’ve found myself thinking the same. The hopelessness of feeling beyond help. This poor man - I hope he finds peace ❤
I was diagnosed BPD about a year back, took 30 years or so to get the diagnosis and I can't exagerate just how beyond help and hopeless it feels. I can't comprehend another level above, which this man clearly seems to be. Good luck to him, he's being honest and open and that is the first step, and the hardest to take. Take care people, lifes short so make the most of the enjoyment you get.
Thats true, at the same time, that also reads like a show of defiance. Like, "You can try all you want to help me, but I refuse to accept it" It doesn't matter how hard you try to help someone, if they themselves refuse to work on it. The only way you can be "cured" or get control of things, weather that's OCD, drug/alcohol addiction, etc, is for the person to want to get better. If they keep giving into their compulsions, it doesn't matter what you try to do, you will fail, because they're not ready. Seems to me like he's become so lost in his thoughts, that he's convinced himself he'll never get better. If you believe you'll never get better, then you won't. Its just that simple. The treatment portion isn't, its a long road, but its a road you need to be on together. If he's not on the same path, he'll make sure he always fails.
@@mainy1984 Same here. Went my entire life not knowing. I suffered so much because of it. Was diagnosed with bpd a few years ago and had to pay out of my own pocket, because the nhs just messed me about and went round in circles with me. Was then also diagnosed with adhd less than 6 months ago. I’m now 25 and can’t help but think what if it had been caught on earlier. It would have eliminated so much suffering. Best of luck to you x
The love that Hugh has for his family is so tremendous. It's very nice to see that the love is returned. To see Hugh face his biggest fears over and over throughout this episode for his family is just... so lovely to see. That kind of love is rare.
This guy's condition made me cry. Literally I went through a spell of being half as bad as this, and I feel for him. He's such a strong bloke for pushing on and on. Much respect 💪👊🙏
the two holes in the door tells you there's potentially some level of domestic violence going on, so don't be too quick to feel sorry for him. it's his wife i feel sorry for
His love and concern for his family struck me. And this is what is driving his OCD. He spends so much time concerned for his family when he is the one worst off. I hope this show will help him access a lot of really good therapy to improve things
Thing with OCD is hypothetically speaking if his family disappeared tomorrow , his OCD would not disappear it will just manifest and latch onto something else he's trying to save.. Whether it's himself or doing the compulsions just so random people in his head aren't hurt
@@lov305mia Yeah, that's the unfortunate part. A part of me was thinking that someone who loves him should coordinate a pseudo-kidnapping of his grandkid after he does all his rituals just to prove that it's unrelated, but that's not realistic. I feel for the guy. Seems like total torment.
You know...there is something kind of wonderful about him in the sense that he is doing these thing because he loves his family so much. It stresses him to the point that he needs to these things everyday all the time. I wish there were more people who was that compassionate for their family.
Every time I think I’m a complete mess, I watch vids like this and am so thankful I don’t have disorders like this. I have nothing but sympathy and respect for those that have to live in these obsessive worlds.
It can happen to anyone too. Like, watch, once it get in your head or you are exposed to it, you may feel the need to start doing some rituals because it is like a virus, bad stuff could start happening if you dont start doing it yourself after watching this.
This statement, "I'm two people, I'm trapped in my own world," is such an accurate representation to OCD for me. For people who struggle to cope with it (myself included) you are often 100% completely aware of how batshit you look ALL the time. You know that it's ridiculous and it's wasting time and it's destroying you-- but it wouldn't hurt to just continue the routine? Because if you stop, something bad could happen. Because nothing bad happened so long as you did that routine. You validate yourself, the compulsions quell the anxiety; even for a moment. You become trapped in this viscous cycle of insanity that FEELS so logical and rational at that point, after all, it's for yours and your family's safety; and you can't escape it.
BK - I actually said this to my partner the other night. I said it is like there is two of me. Was gonna skip this doco, but once he said that, it resonated with me and I watched the whole thing. I have OCD - luckily not as bad as this man.
I have some OCD I must tern off all electronics and put certain electronics in the oven to minimise fire. The other is to go back and put the key back in the front door lock to make sure its locked, I do it so much that the key stapped from twisting the key.
Really sad, but his rituals/compulsions are keeping the anxiety going and making the anxiety come back stronger each time. I hope he has got the help he needs so desperately. 😢
before I was medicated, my ocd was bad enough that I couldn't hide it from my sister. she had the nerve to accuse me of doing it just to bother her. it had nothing to do with her being there at all. as a matter of fact, the ocd occurring in front of her meant it was more important than her witnessing it.
She is nice but at the same time, I dunno, I'd have stopped him saying "stop this craziness" or "those arranged toys never will save us from any catastrophe" or something like that to force him to face the truth. The man is too tolerant with his obsessions and the wife is too tolerant with his husband in my opinion... tolerance doesn't help him to live a normal life but lets him sinking. You have to be true and then your patience helps.
This documentary was eye opening for me, i suffer with this same OCD and felt like i was the only person in the world experiencing it, especially the thoughts of dread, if i dont count to a certain number or do something a certain way a terrible thing will happen to me or my family, making noises a specific amount of times, touching things, body movements, almost everything you can think of. It can be genuinely exhausting and can cause depression and worsen your anxiety even more, and it may even sound/look completely ridiculous to somebody who doesnt understand and or experience it to this extent but it is a horrible thing to have to live with, it destroyed my social life, stopped me from working, ruined relationships etc... But if anyone reading this is currently suffering, just know, im alot better now and very rarely experience it and if i do its only minor things like having to have the tv volume on a certain number and so on, so dont despair too much because you really can get better with time, you just need to allow yourself to understand that nothing bad will come from not doing the thing that satisfies your OCD.
I feel for this man so much.. I suffer from anxiety and depression and often wish I could flee my thoughts and just take a break for a moment.. I often feel like I am drowning.. Every day I have to fight and it's exhausting.. I feel for all those suffering from OCD.. I am sorry that so many people suffer from mental disorders.. Makes me very sad..
i have felt that way most of my life. I take two meds, paxil and welbutrin. Since menopause i have felt so much better. Keep trying new things, different meds. Dont give up.
I'm a great believer in alternative therapies obviously the medication he's taken is useless so hypnosis, eating healthier and praying daily for Jesus to help cure him and I bet he would feel better. This is driving him crazy you can see it in his face, poor guy, your cure lies within you.🌻
I have "Pure O" it started first as depression, and after it became into OCD. I have it now for almost 1 year and a half. It's really hard to live with but what can I do? I try to accept it but it's hard, like really hard.
Hope Hugh is feeling better these days and making progress with treatment. He's got a great family behind him. Not easy for them either of course and they deserve a lot of praise for supporting him so much.
I was diagnosed with OCD and hypercondria very early on in my life. This is so relatable and sad. It's an awful illness to live with and very difficult for people who don't have it to understand. Please don't say you have OCD unless you've been diagnosed with it and are being treated for it. Being tidy or colour coding is not OCD.
I think its degrees. I used to do counting rituals when I was in early teens. I realized it was senseless and counterproductive and was able to just stop. Apparently these guys are much more deeply compulsed. Frightening.
Olivia McMichael that's literally what ive been trying to tell people. People are like "oml i cant stand having my room dirty." Um not thats not ocd honey. Like im so glad ive found someone who understands.
@SidtheKid The self diagnosis is really jumping out here. Literally all she is asking for people who haven't been diagnosed not to say that they have it.
Thanks to this video, after 35 YEARS now, i understand why my brother was not a CLEAN or ORDER maniac, but he is suffering from these same Obsessive Compulsive Disorder symptoms in his mind.
@@ebwholesaler those are the rare kinds. I hate when people think OCD is all clean and organized. It's all based on fear and each individual displays that differently. I hope your brother is doing better.
I've struggled with OCD since I was 11. I always thought I was such a sick person for having these horrible intrusive thoughts. I just want anyone to know whose suffering from this, they are not alone. Medication helped me severely along with therapy. Stay strong Hugh!
@@thomasjensen6243 Qur'an recitation will help, just become Muslim, read Qur'an and do dhikr against the whispers of Shaytan and all ur mental problems will disappear :).
I just want to hug him...I'm so sorry Hugh, no one should have to go through this. I deal with anxiety and this makes me thankful for how good my life is.
OCD sufferer my whole life. Thankful to say it’s gotten easier to manage once I found the right psychiatrist and got on medication that really helps. To anyone who suffers: find the right psychiatrist and be ok with being on medication. It’s nothing to be ashamed about and it’s probably saved my life honestly. It’s so important to find a psychiatrist that is willing to listen and help you. Thank you Dr Joseph!
@tag9047 def a bot comment. I see this post everywhere on channels like this. Next you'll try and sell me psych meds. Well I'm not interested I have a Christian doctorate I can think fir myself thanks.
Hughie comes across as an exceptionally lovely man. To see someone so crippled by fear for the safety of people around him he tortures himself to breaking point is so sad. Hughie has some issues in his past for sure but needs love and reassurance and a lot of hard work to get him better. I really hope things have improved for this man.
My heart just broke watching Hughs daily struggles. Seeing him be so disappointed in himself but still so full of love for his family is hard to watch. Him knowing that he has a problem and his willingness to reach out for help will always give way to hope.
I've lived with OCD for 35 years. Ironically I too repeat my rituals out of fear for my families safety. I'm not as bad as hugh, but it definitely consumes you. It's a very exhausting illness.
I suffered with OCD a long time ago. The counting. The meticulous positioning of things. The need to do it to protect myself and others. It’s so much hard work and it’s utterly brutal on your mind. It makes sense to you but to others it’s completely bonkers. I hope anyone suffering with it can find a way out of the nightmare.
to me it doesnt make sense but i still do it, i just have to do it, or, i dont even have something bad that will happen, it just feels wrong, so immensely wrong that i cant deal with it.
I had OCD throughout my teenage years but now it’s really toned down. I met an 80 year old at a social group who’s been institutionalised for OCD. He jokes about it and calls himself “the OAP with OCD”. Lovely man.
I really, really hope the therapy works for him. Behind it I see a great guy with a good sense of humour and a good heart who cares for his loving family
I had debilitating OCD as a child. I would be up until 1 AM on school nights trying to finish my rituals perfectly, literally crying because I couldn't get it "right" and go to sleep. It plagued me into adolescents as well. When I was 16 I started experimenting with mushrooms, and one of these times after taking a larger dose, I started an OCD ritual with a light switch while under their effects. it suddenly hit me how futile it was to think I had any power over this world to effect change on it in any sort of intentional way, and I started laughing out loud. I always understood how ridiculous these habits and rituals were before this experience, but that day it hit me on the deepest level and changed me to my core. Aside from the occasional left over neural pathway impulse that causes me to turn a light switch off or on a second times or re lock a door a second time, I am no longer affected by this disorder today.
You're the first person I've ever heard mention light switch rituals. Mine have morphed into other things since, but when I was like 15-16, I probably spent 2 hours a day messing with light switches alone, just to have it feel "right" and "balanced", sometimes it would take up to 3-4 minutes each time I turned on/off a switch for that to happen. I always thought it was really strange I was obsessed specifically with light bulbs. Makes me feel better knowing I wasn't the only one. Hope you're better now.
That is fascinating. I'm wondering if that could work for other people with OCD. Kind of like how radiotherapy can be used to treat cancer: it's not guaranteed, but it could work.
He needs people that don't enable this and break his patterns. At 16-17 years old I remember crying whilst turning a tap on and off 40 times and slamming the draw over and over. My family started to interfere. Every pattern destroyed and I don't do any of it anymore. You can recover.
Such a nice guy and family. Hope he got the help he needed. I got diagnosed with OCD at 11 after my gran died and I was worried that other members of my family like my mum would die if I didn't touch things a certain number of times. My mother took me to a psychiatrist after it got progressively worse. While waiting in the waiting room there were poor kids rocking back and forward and when I went in the psychiatrist said I would always have it while speaking to my mother and it didn't sit right with me. 1 visit and seeing other kids and wondering if I could end up like that and the thought of living like that for the rest of my life because of the psychiatrist's comment was all it took for me to stop listening to my intrusive thoughts. The anxiety was crippling for a while because as Hugh mentioned it's such a release doing a ritual and knowing your mum and sisters etc are going to be safe. I can't remember when it stopped I just remember ignoring myself and basically saying “F*ck off” to Myself to do the the rituals then the intrusive thoughts eventually left and I'm completely OCD and anxiety free. Horrible and bizarre condition and I hope anyway who is living with it has the strength to beat it ❤
I really felt when he said “i have two identities, theres me and then theres the little person inside of me” thats exactly what it felt like when i was struggling with general anxiety disorder. When i would have anxious episodes, it felt like there was a tiny version of myself watching from inside my head. It was the strangest feeling in the world, and made the anxiety even worse. I hope this man found the help he deserves ❤️
At first I thought his wife was a bit aloof, but she has her own stress to manage. I was impressed that Hugh was able to make jokes, some even at his own expense. He has a great spirit, loving his family so much. I think they've all made the best of it they can, through love. ❤
she should have left. most men abandon their wives when they get a chronic illness since they wont have a maid and babymaking slave to serve them anymore... if more men were honourable and inspiring then women would want to step up to the challenge of marrying a man these days
@@SisypheanRoller women initiate 80% of divorces cause men dont realize decades of one sided burdens make women resentful i.e: childrearing, solo-child raising, cooking, cleaning, washing and most women also work now (ontop of the household burdens women come bk to after work), so there is NO incentive to even marry anymore since we DO work. Men have ZERO reflective skills clearly. Thats why yall use the same tired divorce argument that proves women are clearly dissatisfied with male efforts yet find a way to spin it like women are the bad ones. imagine cats being more preferable than adult human males as companions. thats an insult to your entire existence
One of my close colleagues has severe OCD. Every day she was an hour late beacause she kept checking the doorlocks and kept washing her hands. But with lots of therapy, anti-depressives and our support, she went from a 9 back to a 1. I really hope this father will overcome his fears too, with all the help he can get.
I've suffered with OCD for 30 years. For the last 10 years, I've been meditating on a daily basis. I no longer suffer with intrusive thoughts, anxiety or compulsive behaviour. I hope that this helps someone else out there.
@@Lex_112 You actually don’t stop them! You just accept them as thoughts - nothing more nothing less. They’ve already happened (nothing you can do about that) so the point is to return to your breath and cultivate awareness. It’s the same process for any thoughts that may pop up, intrusive/very emotionally charged or no. I like to occasionally use a mantra I learn from a great teacher called thich nhat hanh - “Breathing in - I know I’m breathing in, Breathing out - I know I’m breathing out.” It’s very grounding and helps me to understand that there is something so “real” about the visceral, steady experience of my breath, my thoughts are a bit more abstract and less essential. I hope you’re well and I hope this helps ❤️
@@Lex_112 Apologies for taking so long to reply to you. As others have said, you don't try to stop the thoughts, you learn to watch and detach from them. To start with, I recommend following a guided meditation and then move on to music, water sounds or whatever you prefer. When meditating, simply following the breath. When your mind distracts you with thoughts, acknowledge those thoughts without judgement and come back to the breath. Do this over and over again, breathing in, breathing out. Eventually you will start to following the breath more and more and see the thoughts for what they are, just thoughts! Peace and love ❤
I wanted to cheer for him when he packed the bag, I was so happy for him! While I don't have OCD, I do suffer from severe anxiety and depression, and I know how much of a struggle it can be to do something *knowing* it will worsen the anxiety. Your body physically rejects it, it's exhausting. I wish him only the best.
This man is one of a kind. He does all of this because it gives him the sense that this way his family will be kept safe. He has the purest most loving heart. Hope he is able to find peace with his thoughts.
I always described my experience as the freezer and this is life but with OCD , as ice becomes more prominent on the sides of the freezer, the less room there is. It was like that the things I use to love doing would shrink because anxiety would kick in and the ocd would take over so much that you just stop doing those things to avoid (try) having the anxiety. Over time and with medication and support i have have it mostly under control for about 10 years but the years I hid it and tried to deal with it were brutal.
I have this condition although not this bad but bad enough to destroy my life. I could sit by a certain wall that had tiles covering it that were random. I would arrange and rearrange them forever . The obsession is still with me but I ignore it . I got my life back after losing a large portion of it. It wasn't until I discovered art therapy that I could focus my attention constructively. Music, drawing and writing channeled the obsessive desire positively. No drugs . Much love.
This is all I could think the whole time. Have to imagine that things like going away for the weekend or going to London for the doctor wouldn’t even be an option for a 10
@@Alien_Observer_ It’s not a rational mental disorder. That’s why it’s a mental disorder. To those not suffering of course it makes no sense. I do similar things, but I’m autistic and doing my rituals doesn’t harm anyone in my family.
Now THIS is a proper OCD! Not when everyone nowadays says their "OCD kicked in" when they simply want to have a couple of things in their household orderly lol. I don't think those kinds of people even realize what a real OCD is.
This coverage is great and I really appreciate Hugh and his family for choosing to share this. The acknowledgement and acceptance of the need for help is uplifting. Truly wish them all the best ❤
My heart goes out for Hugh and the type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder he goes through on a daily basis. As I write this, I simply have tears in my eyes and I know what it is like to live with OCD day after day and it is so debilitating!! People with OCD deserve a lot of support, kindness, and be treated in a way that they are good and kind-hearted people and no one should EVER judge them in criticizing ways!! Therapies, like how the OCD specialist administered, can make a significant difference to lives of sufferers affected of this debilitating psychological disorder.
Such an eye opening documentary about OCD, and how it takes over a life. I have a relative with severe OCD and it is a huge challenge for anyone involved with them, especially his wife, who has stood by his side. I hope Hugh is well and healthy! Also, just a side note, the Irish fighter is the perfect example of sportsmanship, shake hands, see you for a pint, I hope he is also well and successful!
It's the all consuming relentlessness of this disease that really got me here. You can break your leg and have a terrible time for 30 minutes but the pain will go away and the bone heal. This is every minute you're awake for the rest of your life, untreated. I wish you peace Hugh.
I have a lite case of OCD ever since I was 12/13, and, being a minor, currently, it could get far worse in the future. Still, I barely go through my day-to-day life without meds/tools. My heart goes out to this man; truly, it's hard to see the outside world when your own mind keeps you locked away.
I worked with Hughie for nearly 16yrs with British Rail, he wasn't just a workmate we were good buddies, drinking partners, we would go to the local pub on a Friday night and see some country & western bands then finish off with a meal. In all the years working with my mate I have to be honest I never thought there was anything wrong with him although sometimes when we were doing jobs he liked to speed the job up and now after seeing this video it seems that what he was trying to do was get the repair job done on the track before the train was due in both protecting the train/passengers plus us his workmates, at the time we thought nothing of it but it must have been his OCD coming through. As mentioned Hughie was and still is and will always be a great mate of mine even though I'm on the other side of the world in Australia and seeing this video upset me to see what he is going through. I know this is an old video but I hope my buddy has now got the help needed and is on the road to recovery. Hughie if you read this I would be made up to hear from you on how you are going.
Your old buddy
Tony
❤️💯💥
It truly is 12 seconds to midnight for ol' Hughie.
Did he ever find u ?
Awwwww…hope someone reads this
@@jordan3405 oh god really?!
People just don’t seem to understand the torment, torture and agony of OCD. It is Brutal. Brutal.
Very embarrassing.
And yet people love to copy it for woke attention
@@gdimond2060 that is not woke. Woke isn’t everything you don’t like.
@@noggin9306 Why ?
@@chanjackie2299 what?
The fact he keeps saying “so that’s perfect” breaks my heart for him.
I would glue the ornaments in place, but then he probably still has to check if the glue still holds everytime . I have OCD so understand the torment and the change of thoughts/compulsions.
OCD would not like that! Really good idea @@lucialuciferion6720
@@lucialuciferion6720 when i shower i have to very precisely make sure i clean each part of my body…can be very aggravating
he fuckin knows nothing is perfect, he is fully aware of his illness, but to comfort and relieve himself he can't help it.
I have OCD and I can feel his anger, irritation and frustration where you know the things you're stuck doing are stupid but you CAN'T let go.
Have you tried cognitive behavioral therapy I did and it helped me greatly get ocd under control.
Meditation, working out, Ashwagandha, nac, yoga Nidra, reducing caffeine intake, all this helps me a lot, especially meditation. Meditation helps to train compulsion control.
@@EvaLavelle-u1n no but I have heard about it
@@TheEsotericProgrammer I am in a position with my ocd that all I could do is lie down and just be like that most of the time. Following routine is almost impossible, even going to the toilet is complicated.
@@Channingz At the heart of CBT is asking yourself "Is what I'm thinking real?" For example, it's human nature that we try to simplify things e.g. 7 colours of the rainbow (there's an infinite number). It's useful for communication but leads ultimately to black and white thinking: things are good or bad, you're happy or sad, etc. One technique in CBT is to stop yourself and ask "What percentage is it?" Because things are never 100% good, or bad, or happy, or sad, or anything else. It's a simple technique but it works.
That example isn't particularly relevant to OCD but I wanted to give you an example that you hopefully wouldn't find challenging. CBT can be powerful stuff and something that EVERYBODY ought to have in their toolkit. It can help with OCD provided you don't conclude that it's so simple that it couldn't possibly help. People tend to balk at the suggestion that simple things can sort out difficult problems.
the real sad part is that his compuslive revolves around him wanting to secure his family's safety
Homeboy8227 For many people that seems to be the reason they do things like this, or they obsessively clean to keep their families safe from germs
Slomofogo nah, I think that would only worsen it, indefinitely.
In most cases it starts like that,fear for loved ones.Wanna hear the weird thing?When it starts you can clearly hear a voice in your head telling you what to do.
Well, I had this OCD thing for half a year and I'm not schizophrenic.I am depressive however.
God forbid. he might feel responsible that he had not performed a ritual correctly. don't want him to even read this
"In sickness and health"
Respect to his wife for taking vows seriously. Really hope he gets the help he needs, feel for the poor bloke!
the guy is literally a ticking time bomb, potentially murdering someone which he said he would do, the more he finds stuff not his way the more the timer goes down. l know this episode is 20 years old but hopefully he is cured now.
@@zimankhan7411 Tad extreme mate
@@PeterCaptainObviousvastly
You're a fool. Don't you see her at the gym? No woman's instincts tell her to remain with a broken man. That line was something made up by men.
Absolutely not! NO. My mother did the "sickness and in health". Know what? All her kids are mentally ill and low functioning as a result. So is she. He's dead. And we continue suffer for it. Do not praise this. These kids will never be happy or normal.
My father started suffering with OCD & health anxiety about 5 years ago - came straight outta the blue. He used to wash his hands upwards of 80 times a day, would 'self-diagnose' food as 'gone off' and throw 90% of his meals away. Became borderline unbearable for my mild-mannered mother. He would boil the kettle four times just to make one cup of tea.
One day, about a year ago whilst taking his car for an MOT he slipped on a patch of ice and smashed his hip and due to his inability to walk during the healing process his symptoms just disappeared as quickly as they appeared. It's like his mind had something new to focus on. The brain is such a complex organ!!
I hope Hugh is in a better place with his health these days 🙏
Has your father had his blood checked thoroughly? Not just very basic blood tests, something more detailed. And neurologic tests. OCD symptoms can come up with physical illnesses, like neurological and autoimmune illnesses. When it's not physical it often arises from a traumatic event. But there's actually a lot of people who get diagnosed with a mental illness, who actually have an underlying physical illness that manifests in these ways, ocd, anxiety, sometimes even psychosis and hallucinations, personality changes, etc. When it's physical, it's often treatable and the mental symptoms will go away once the illness is kept in check. I'm saying that especially since for your father it's come up this late in life and seemingly out of nowhere, unless he went through some traumatic event around that time. With physical causes, these flare ups can come on with something as simple as a bacterial/viral infection, strep throat, anything triggering the physical autoimmune illness or similar
man i used to think i wash my hands about 40 times a day thinking that was bad i have even like tanned red hands it is brutal man i cant even think that is enough theres so much germs going about and lockdown made that even worse no joke i feel like frank from its always sunny when he shaves off all of his hair and wants to be "PURE"😂😂
@@SomethingWetyess! You seconded what I said. This looks more like encephalitis caused OCD than normal OCD.
hmm maybe cus he regained control in some sense over that period of learning to walk again, so it was enough to feel like he was in control of his life in general
There's a reason why diluting the meaning of OCD to cleanliness is so discouraged. The anxiety and the intrusive thoughts and the loneliness are utterly exhausting and there is nothing to desire in it
People who say they have ocd have sumthing much worse imo its called imposter syndrome these people are dangerous
@@xrax4187IDK what you mean by this
@@Chiller-pc1dv they're saying media has downplayed the affects of ocd on the people and the environment that have ocd, with some people trying to say "ocd just makes me put things in order and clean up after myself." when in some sad cases they end up like the dude in the video who are effected from ocd, and even in cases not so severe it's exhausting to repeatedly doing the same tasks or rituals ever day to satisfy that need to protect or whatever is motivating the ocd.
because OCD is a very broad condition and many see it through the narrow lense of cleanliness or repetitive actions but its ultimately an anxiety driven disorder where individuals try to neutralize their anxiety through any means possible. It can be a person obsessed with being or becoming ill, it can be a person obsessed that they've commited a crime, or killed someone and spend hours try to disprove the idea. The obsessions and compulsions can quite literally be anything as long as they upset the person.
@@autismmode1663I wasn't talking to the OP. I mean I have diagnosed OCD myself, I know this stuff already. I know firsthand how awful it is.
I honestly don't know what is worse, being lost in a world where you dont know you're crazy, or being like him who is completely conscious of it. Neither seems fun. His wife seems like one of the most kind, caring and amazing people.
The world is crazy.
The second one is worse, believe me. And typically of OCD
@@vincentpeeters1157 maybe not
I’d rather be the first
My wife is very patient as well
For a man that struggles so much with severe OCD, his strength of mind to pack and go on holiday with his family as well as walk over the glass absolutely astounds me. I wish him and his family all the best. I hope he got the supports he needs because he clearly has the determination. So proud of a stranger ❤
If only he could’ve seen earlier all this support and love for him that there is here. I hope he’s seen this and reads the comments.
He doesn't have strength of mind that's why he has OCD, he doesn't have the mental strength to confront his own scary irrational thoughts so they take over him. The key word is 'scary', fear is his driving force, he keeps saying something bad will happen if he doesn't do his rituals, so he's scared and that's what's at the bottom of it.
This is a weakling, and it only carries on because people are SUPPORTIVE, just like you. That's why we need compulsory military service, they don't give you time for being feeble and teary faced, you get it rough from the Sargent until you toughen up. 🤬
great acting
Someone I knew that suffered with severe OCD presented very few behaviours when we knew them initially, they became more and more apparent as they became comfortable around us. We went on holiday and the same thing happened it started relatively ok but then it got progressively worse over the two week period.
They had to wear and travel home in the same clothes they wore on the outbound journey.
I truly believe the cure for many of you can be found in plants specifically the chemical compound dimethyltriptamine
I cried so hard when he explained why he does this for 18 hours a day. 😭 He thinks it'll help save his family.
Its common when you have OCD
Feels Good Man thats very common with ocd. Its a sad reality :(.
Feels Good Man
That isn’t why he does it. That’s his rationalization, but he was doing it before he even had a family
It’s crazy because I have this to an extent with objects touching other objects and things like that and you just feel off or like something bad will happen if you don’t do it correctly. It’s completely irrational and you know that, but it doesn’t stop you from wanting to do it if that makes sense.
The nitwit is destroying his family not saving it.
When Hugh was in the doctor's office facing his fears of his son dying, I teared up. That must have been so difficult for him, but he made it through. Incredible.
If Hugh's OCD is an 8-9 on a scale of 1-10 I don't wanna know what a 10 looks like. Poor, poor man. He's a beautiful soul, just wants to protect his family, but is trapped in a world of rituals and anxiety.
With a ten having a family around him likely wouldn't be feasible.
Imagine a 12
Maybe a 10 would be coordinating each strand of lint that comes out of the dryer by colour and length.
it’s not what he does but why he does it that is the problem. He never once said he did it to protect himself. Always to protect his family. I could cry for him.
There's a popular Brazilian actress named Luciana Vendramini, she is known for having to quit acting to deal with her severe OCD. She was way worse than this man. She would take 10 hour long showers, in her darkest period, she was weighing 36kg because she says that waking up, eating whatever, taking a shower and going back to sleep would take an entire day so she stopped eating altogether. And she also tells about this day when she went out after a friend begging her to come out of the house.. she was stuck on the sidewalk for like 16 hours trying to go back inside her apartment but couldn't because the rituals were so demanding. Like counting taxi cabs that were passing by and starting all over again if she heard a honk. And going back and forth below electric wire like a gazillion times. Back then ocd wasn't really talked about much but when this last episode happened their parents finally took her to the doctor and she was diagnosed and she's pretty mu h doing pretty well theses days. She even has a podcast. But she was way worse than this guy.
The wife laughs a lot at his fears, and at first I thought 'what an insensitive you-know- what', but I think it's a defense mechanism for her own mental health. Laugh a bit or go stark raving mad yourself.
I said the same thing in my head watching this. Laugh to keep from crying
La esposa y los hijos son bellísimas personas vivir con alguien así es destructivo aunque le quieras con toda el alma.
It most def is a defense mechanism. Hope she is seeing a counsellor.
Absolutely c
The problem is that this is dangerous and lacking in empathy. From my perspective atleast, I think it's also a betrayal of your responsibility as a carer for your partner. Leaving him may well have encouraged him to get help, or atleast put him in a situation where he didn't have a choice but to eventually get treated by a psychiatrist.
i wanna give him a massive hug, i understand what he’s going through it’s awful crying several times throughout the day from being anxious over irrational things. sending my love to him
He probablywon’t like that
@@terrytownsend5583why's that then.
I have a few things I always do but I do understand how ridiculous it could get if I allowed it to develope more so I stop it.
12 hugs
You honestly have no clue good try tho
its crazy that this was originally broadcast 18 years ago!!! hope hes still ok
Poor man. It's not his fault and he's sweet really
It's not his fault he's sick, it's his fault he isn't fighting. Like at all... But he sounds like he might not be aware there's treatment. His doctors doesn't seem to have told him either which they should have.
@Anonymous You didnt get a reply.........so I guess we know.
OCD will make anyone sweet. The only way to get rid of it for me was to through away the sweetness and become rotten in a sense
@@annnee6818 It is difficult to fight something like that
Sweet?He can't keep from saying to his family are annoying him?At least keep his mouth shut knowing full well that it's all in his mind.He makes me sick.
The angst on his face is visceral. Bless him.
113 likes... needs to be 12
Hilly feeks
Angst or fear ?
@@Felixdehuiskat-ul2mb Angst
Kudos to his wife for sticking around, not many people would be able to deal with living with someone who is that severely affected by OCD, I can’t even imagine living with it myself, it must be a scary condition
She could of cared more and helped him to get help
Or he could take care of his own mental health and get help since es a full grown man.
@@hr-hq8ji if your homeless…just buy a house right lol i hope you never experience mental health mate
@@trealin4730
You aren't in any position to say "she could have cared more"! She obviously loves him dearly to have stuck around so long. As harsh as this sounds there's also 3 grown up children and a grandchild. Many wives would have left their mentally ill husband years ago for far less!
@@jessikatkins1173 ‘in sickness and in health’ talking nonsense
First off, a medal to his wife and kids. My ex had OCD. He was obsessed with germs and washed his hands till they bled. Prozac was first, and he hated it. To his credit, after the Prozac worked, he weaned himself off, and was able to contra his obsessions. He had setbacks, but not too intense. Today he is doing well, without medication. I really admire him for that. It’s not easy.
A few years ago, I had a friend who suffered with OCD. It was heartbreaking to witness him go through his repetitive and pointless rituals.
Tragically, he couldn't cope and ended up taking his own life....he was just 18 years old when he died.
RIP Rob
I was just thinking about how I'd rather be dead than like that. I bet there's a lot of suicides!
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 it's crazy to think about, but I was like that back in the day. The rituals and repeating routines, everything. I was able to get rid of it without any help from psychologist or psychiatrist. At first when I tried ignoring the urges it hurt me like the pain was actually physical (and sometimes it was, especially in the chest). But the more I tried the less painful it became. Eventually I just got rid of it completely. I still get the urges from time to time (once a month maybe) but nothing happens when I just ignore them now. OCD is not curable as far as I know, but you can get rid of the "punishment" your mind puts on you for not doing the rituals, if you are strong willed enough.
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311so yeah, you shouldn't say things like that. You shouldn't commit suicide over a puny OCD lol. There are stuff way worse than that, psychologically speaking.
I had ocd too. My whole family have ocd. My father, my grandma, grandpa, my aunt. My mother and I tried to change ourselves and we did changed. Im happy abt that
@@joycebrackbill-henderly8311 seek therapy dude I've had OCD and ADHD for as long as I can remember and as I grew rn I'm 21 it started getting worse till there was a breaking point and I finally decided to either take it all at once and end the struggle or keep struggling forever...those last few months were the hardest for me and my family first getting it thru them for the very first time opening up about the darkest of what I used to experience and then ultimately seeking professional help sure was rigorous had it's ups and downs but now that I see it I'm glad that I did cuz now my life is changing for the better every single day...still on medication and therapy but now I can do what I've always wanted but could never do cuz OCD used to cripple me down but slowly you gotta coupe and fight thru... don't lose hope it's not as big of a deal as it seems...only seems larger than life until u seek help
Only someone who has experienced what it is like can understand this man's pain. I suffer from anxiety not even close to this man's level and it nearly crushed me. I hope he finds peace.
Me too
And me
@@samuelsantos7455 today 1 in 5 people suffers from anxiety this man has much bigger problem is his obsessive compulsive disorder, it doesn't allow him to live at all he doesn't have time for anything but these rituals that exist only in his head.
Same, anxiety and panic attacks and they are debilitating enough that I can't function, a lot of things relate to me from this video
I have issues as profound as this man... and I can relate completely with the nightmare that this is
As someone with OCD, cases like this as well as my own experiences are why I hate when people trivialise OCD. It is life altering. It wears you down beyond belief. To those who also have OCD, I am wishing you the best. ❤
Stop with the nonsense and that's it... look at the rest, they don't need to do any ritual so nothing is happening, it's not real.
@@Userfriendly116 Thanks for the perfect example of somebody failing to understand what's actually happening. Literally everybody with OCD is fully aware of the things you said and it changes nothing. So now what? What's your next piece of life-changing advice? Got any other mental disorders to cure in a single sentence?
@@Userfriendly116 Do you understand what the _compulsive_ part of OCD means?
And pls youtube or channel owner stop deleting my funny comments omg. So annoying.
same, i have it as well, but not as bad as a lot of cases. i repeat questions over and over, hold objects for a certain amount of time to evade 'certain doom', stuff like that, but i think the reason people trivialise it is because, in conversation, the term OCD is often used to describe a symptom of wanting something to be perfect. its used as a comparison and, eventually the condition and the light description get blended together so people find it hard to distinguish between whats legitimate and not.
As someone with OCD who has learned to control it (at least significantly lower the anxiety associated with it), this video is extraordinarily hard to watch and makes me want to tear up. This man clearly has a severe, severe case of it and has unfortunately let it completely consume his life.
My OCD drove me to the absolute brink to where I couldn't sleep a single hour at night for a month straight. I would wake up at 2 AM every morning with my entire body shaking, heart racing, and anxiety that was completely unbearable. I lost 40 pounds in a month and a half from not eating because of my anxiety. Through the intense, unyielding stress, I gave myself IBS which I occasionally still have to deal with even after 2 years of having the worst stomach and bowel symptoms imaginable day in and day out. It made me feel like the world was ending, and only through taking an anti-depressant and going through countless rounds of therapy was I able to finally control it. I still deal with it today, but I feel so, so much better.
OCD will absolutely destroy your life if you let it. You can quite literally destroy your entire body and give yourself chronic illnesses through your thoughts and through stress. If you suffer from this, please, please, please seek a therapist that specializes in OCD and highly consider getting yourself medicated. Those two things gave me the biggest sense of relief I have ever felt in my life and made me feel like a new born baby who drew his first breath.
There is hope and this condition can be controlled. And if you are in a bad place mentally, you absolutely must summon the strength to carry on and to find the help you so desperately need. Trust me when I say that once you get help and learn techniques how to control it, your life will only get better and better by the day.
@@Sikdomeshot I don’t think it’s a “let it get out of hand” thing. I’m sure situations exist where people can overcome it on their own, but if it were not for psychiatric help as someone with OCD I would not be living the life I am today.
I think he should go for a minimalist decor in that house . Cut his work load down a bit.
Its not as simple as that. He would find other compulsions and rituals to replace them.
Live like Japanese no clutter
i TOTALLY agree. I have mild OCD and the less u have, the less u have to worry about.
yeah exactly, i mean i don't have OCD but god his house have like 10 million bottles and 20 million decoration stuff... i would opt for more minimalistic decor tbh.
😂😂
Absolute respect for this guy being open on his disorder, and the family sticking it out with him.
Mostly if someone knows your dealing with this condition they rather laugh in your face. I find it really disgusting behaviour, it reveals there level of intelligence
@@filipvanwalleghemit is a little funny though
The irony of your (terribly spelt) comment, questioning other people’s intelligence 🤣🤣
@@ronaldlymm7248 its really not at all. If you'd ever experienced ocd or extreme anxiety you wouldn't be laughing
@@Nantosuelta and that’s why you play air soft.
Hughie, if you ever see this,
You're an amazing human being.
Dealing with what you have for so long and facing your fears head on.
Nothing but massive respect to you fella.
Mental health is cruel, cruel as cruel can be.
But it can be undone and you can live a happy, content, relaxed life.
I sincerely hope things are going well for you fella.
Keep at it and beat it.
You have no idea of he can ever live happily and content. It can not always be undone. And that's no failure. It's a struggle, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. Hoping the best for him
Lies again? UEFA SW Age 12
Make sure you mention 12 in your comment otherwise you'll get a telling off from Hughie lmao
I cried during this.. Not a lot of people feel what he is feeling but I do and I feel for him
it makes me so sad that he puts himself through all the exhausting rituals not to save himself but out of utter fear for his family. upsetting but humbling at the same time :(
This is so upsetting to see this man trapped like this
You can see he has a good heart
the love that any human displays to you is faked and staged@@VicGreenBitcoin
@@VicGreenBitcoin no its real
@@VicGreenBitcoin What has happened that so many people nowadays, mostly online, deny the existence of mental diseases? is it soley because of fake gurus saying that?
Mental healh exists. Mental diseases exists. Denying the reality does not benefit anyone, believe it or not.
@@VicGreenBitcoin you know nothing. you just want to believe it's fake because deep down you're a miserable person. sad.
@@VicGreenBitcoin are you dumb lmao?
His wife is a 1 in-a-million lady, unbelievable that she holds to him. Even tho he is so unlucky with his illness, he won the lottery with his family.
Maybe she likes his 12 figures and his 12 inches ;)
This was 20 yrs ago. In 2023 she would leave him in a heartbeat and start on OnlyFans
@@NoContextRDH You clearly need to go outside more.
@@NoContextRDH😭😭🤣😂😂😂😂 bruv i've had a fcking asthma attack from laughing at these comments, i love society/social media mate🤣🤣
@@arthurmorgan9944 😂😂😂😂
His wife is an incredibly kind and patient person ❤ I work in a facility that helps people with different types of mental disorders. It’s important for them to get help, not give into their ‘habits’ and for the family to avoid having the optimistic view of ‘everything will be ok in the future’. Being real and not making them comfortable enough to keep on going forever like that is important.
It's strange how psychologists usually want to take a surface level approach of attacking the obsessions and not addressing the fundamental root trauma that drives OCD. As someone who has recovered from OCD; I can say it was 100% a coping mechanism for dealing the abuse of my childhood and the incredible feelings of insecurity of being raised in severely a dysfunctional home. Once I was able to come to terms with the trauma, the OCD just evaporated.
It's pretty much the same for all types of mental health, they mask the problem with drugs but the source of the issue will never be resolved, it's like putting a band aid on the issue as a quick fix 😕😕
That definitely isn’t what caused mine. Maybe needing two surgeries before the age of 6 didn’t help.
Spot on ❤
Right? I was baffled. I have no experience with psychologists and the like, but my gut reaction aligned with what you say entirelly.
@@sookie4195 well 2 surgeries at that young age? that would be considered as traumatic.. especially in a childs brain.. it's not always abuse or neglect that creates trauma. It can be life events ( particularly at a very early age) that can cause ingrained behaviour, even if we are not aware of why we act like we do...
Gosh, I was tearing up watching this video. Hugh seems like a really sweet, loving husband and father. He doesn't deserve to suffer like this.
Yeah, such a sweet guy punching holes through the bedroom door because his wife moved a china dog one inch.
@@jamesflames6987 You don't understand, James.
No, he sure doesn't deserve it. Neither do I. I understand, I have OCD, too.
I was laughing
He should not have become a father in the first place. sorry for the kids
"oMG i HaVe sUcH BaD OCD i JuSt gEt sO aNnOyEd wHeN mY RoOm Is mEsSy"
No, you don't have OCD, you have the normal human instinct to organise things. This man has OCD, and suffers terribly from it.
This.
put it on a T-shirt I'll be your first customer ^^
You know there are different degrees of everything lol you don't gatekeep who has ocd
idot thank you i hate it when people say this because im diagnosed. Im not as bad as this guy but im pretty bad. And it jus pisses me off that nobody looks at it like depression.
Toxy thats not ocd. Jus from someone saying their ocd makes them not be able to have their room "messy" proves it. If it was ocd theyd have to have it a certain way not necessarily clean. No hate towards you though its a common misconception.
@@jaylen4750 except you can't be sure that is the case whatsoever
It broke me when he said “I throw a challenge out to anyone that thinks they can help me”. There’s something so desperate in that plea…
I suffer from BPD and I’ve found myself thinking the same. The hopelessness of feeling beyond help. This poor man - I hope he finds peace ❤
I was diagnosed BPD about a year back, took 30 years or so to get the diagnosis and I can't exagerate just how beyond help and hopeless it feels. I can't comprehend another level above, which this man clearly seems to be. Good luck to him, he's being honest and open and that is the first step, and the hardest to take. Take care people, lifes short so make the most of the enjoyment you get.
Thats true, at the same time, that also reads like a show of defiance. Like, "You can try all you want to help me, but I refuse to accept it"
It doesn't matter how hard you try to help someone, if they themselves refuse to work on it. The only way you can be "cured" or get control of things, weather that's OCD, drug/alcohol addiction, etc, is for the person to want to get better.
If they keep giving into their compulsions, it doesn't matter what you try to do, you will fail, because they're not ready. Seems to me like he's become so lost in his thoughts, that he's convinced himself he'll never get better.
If you believe you'll never get better, then you won't. Its just that simple. The treatment portion isn't, its a long road, but its a road you need to be on together. If he's not on the same path, he'll make sure he always fails.
I think if he smoked dmt 1 time he would be otw to being cured
@@mainy1984 Same here. Went my entire life not knowing. I suffered so much because of it. Was diagnosed with bpd a few years ago and had to pay out of my own pocket, because the nhs just messed me about and went round in circles with me. Was then also diagnosed with adhd less than 6 months ago. I’m now 25 and can’t help but think what if it had been caught on earlier. It would have eliminated so much suffering. Best of luck to you x
That got me too! You could see the very real pain on his face, his eyes. That was heavy. Are there any updates on his progress?
His wife demonstrates a remarkable degree of patience
The love that Hugh has for his family is so tremendous. It's very nice to see that the love is returned. To see Hugh face his biggest fears over and over throughout this episode for his family is just... so lovely to see. That kind of love is rare.
This guy's condition made me cry. Literally I went through a spell of being half as bad as this, and I feel for him. He's such a strong bloke for pushing on and on. Much respect 💪👊🙏
Poor poor man. I feel so sorry for him.
victoria wiberg If you feel that bad there are various of charities sponsoring ocd. You could donate.
the two holes in the door tells you there's potentially some level of domestic violence going on, so don't be too quick to feel sorry for him. it's his wife i feel sorry for
+frank death that's probably from the sons tbh
Amberlei Moon the thought had crossed my mind. u could be right
+frank death He does these rituals because he wants to protect his family, so I don't think he would be the type to harm his family.
His love and concern for his family struck me. And this is what is driving his OCD. He spends so much time concerned for his family when he is the one worst off. I hope this show will help him access a lot of really good therapy to improve things
Thing with OCD is hypothetically speaking if his family disappeared tomorrow , his OCD would not disappear it will just manifest and latch onto something else he's trying to save.. Whether it's himself or doing the compulsions just so random people in his head aren't hurt
@@lov305mia Yeah, that's the unfortunate part. A part of me was thinking that someone who loves him should coordinate a pseudo-kidnapping of his grandkid after he does all his rituals just to prove that it's unrelated, but that's not realistic. I feel for the guy. Seems like total torment.
This is a case in which it’s better not to have the father in the home
To have your worst enemy be your own mind is a torture that no good person should have to deal with
Nobody is truly good
Though not everyone suffers from OCD, I've never met anyone who's worst enemy was not their own mind
You know...there is something kind of wonderful about him in the sense that he is doing these thing because he loves his family so much. It stresses him to the point that he needs to these things everyday all the time. I wish there were more people who was that compassionate for their family.
Every time I think I’m a complete mess, I watch vids like this and am so thankful I don’t have disorders like this. I have nothing but sympathy and respect for those that have to live in these obsessive worlds.
It can happen to anyone too. Like, watch, once it get in your head or you are exposed to it, you may feel the need to start doing some rituals because it is like a virus, bad stuff could start happening if you dont start doing it yourself after watching this.
This statement, "I'm two people, I'm trapped in my own world," is such an accurate representation to OCD for me. For people who struggle to cope with it (myself included) you are often 100% completely aware of how batshit you look ALL the time. You know that it's ridiculous and it's wasting time and it's destroying you-- but it wouldn't hurt to just continue the routine? Because if you stop, something bad could happen. Because nothing bad happened so long as you did that routine. You validate yourself, the compulsions quell the anxiety; even for a moment.
You become trapped in this viscous cycle of insanity that FEELS so logical and rational at that point, after all, it's for yours and your family's safety; and you can't escape it.
BK it really really is that's exactly how I felt when mine was at it's worst urgh it was literally a living hell
BK - I actually said this to my partner the other night. I said it is like there is two of me. Was gonna skip this doco, but once he said that, it resonated with me and I watched the whole thing. I have OCD - luckily not as bad as this man.
Accurate. Well said bro ;)
BK sir lm japanese. My parents are narciss disodor. They took my everything. I have a muderous design to my parents.
It's a self fulfilling " loser " behavior. Stop justification you clown. Cowards and twits let this ocd destroy them. Good on you all. Cowards
I don't think I have ever seen a case of OCD so bad. It actually triggered and disturbed me
i am on a way to become this man
I have some OCD I must tern off all electronics and put certain electronics in the oven to minimise fire. The other is to go back and put the key back in the front door lock to make sure its locked, I do it so much that the key stapped from twisting the key.
@@mladendenni7062
I think you're just effectively empathizing because it looks terrifying.
I wonder what he'd be like if they got him drunk? Maybe 12 beers would help him to forget to do the 12 this and that.
Really sad, but his rituals/compulsions are keeping the anxiety going and making the anxiety come back stronger each time. I hope he has got the help he needs so desperately. 😢
I feel so bad for him, cause it is an actual FEAR for him that these bad things will happen if he doesn't do all his rituals.
I wanna show this to my sister who said "ocd isn't that bad"
Realmkeeper do it. People need to be educated
Realmkeeper ocd is a bitch
before I was medicated, my ocd was bad enough that I couldn't hide it from my sister. she had the nerve to accuse me of doing it just to bother her. it had nothing to do with her being there at all. as a matter of fact, the ocd occurring in front of her meant it was more important than her witnessing it.
Realmkeeper She sounds like somebody living the false 'ignorance is bliss' saying.
Realmkeeper lm japanese.
I think so too whats yoursister means light. But my parents sister narciss disdor …I cant forgive them and hate them‼‼
Big ups to the wifey for being there for him thru thick and thin. What a great woman
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She is nice but at the same time, I dunno, I'd have stopped him saying "stop this craziness" or "those arranged toys never will save us from any catastrophe" or something like that to force him to face the truth. The man is too tolerant with his obsessions and the wife is too tolerant with his husband in my opinion... tolerance doesn't help him to live a normal life but lets him sinking. You have to be true and then your patience helps.
I'm reading all of yer comments in a thick Liverpudlian accent. Have I gotten the OCD too? God help meh. 😜
@@jancsikusOCD isnt something you can be convinced out of. You couldnt tell someone to just not have cancer, this is an illness in the same way.
@@TSE_WOODY There's no point, their mind is shut off to anything out of their norm obviously.
This documentary was eye opening for me, i suffer with this same OCD and felt like i was the only person in the world experiencing it, especially the thoughts of dread, if i dont count to a certain number or do something a certain way a terrible thing will happen to me or my family, making noises a specific amount of times, touching things, body movements, almost everything you can think of. It can be genuinely exhausting and can cause depression and worsen your anxiety even more, and it may even sound/look completely ridiculous to somebody who doesnt understand and or experience it to this extent but it is a horrible thing to have to live with, it destroyed my social life, stopped me from working, ruined relationships etc... But if anyone reading this is currently suffering, just know, im alot better now and very rarely experience it and if i do its only minor things like having to have the tv volume on a certain number and so on, so dont despair too much because you really can get better with time, you just need to allow yourself to understand that nothing bad will come from not doing the thing that satisfies your OCD.
I think he actually did quite well considering his anxieties. He faced his fears numerous times, which is more than most manage.
I feel for this man so much.. I suffer from anxiety and depression and often wish I could flee my thoughts and just take a break for a moment.. I often feel like I am drowning.. Every day I have to fight and it's exhausting.. I feel for all those suffering from OCD.. I am sorry that so many people suffer from mental disorders.. Makes me very sad..
i have felt that way most of my life. I take two meds, paxil and welbutrin. Since menopause i have felt so much better. Keep trying new things, different meds. Dont give up.
I'm a great believer in alternative therapies obviously the medication he's taken is useless so hypnosis, eating healthier and praying daily for Jesus to help cure him and I bet he would feel better. This is driving him crazy you can see it in his face, poor guy, your cure lies within you.🌻
2degucitas
Jaegerson23 why?
Jaegerson23 but marijuana causes paranoia..and may cause cancer so it's a double edge sword...you'd best drink chamomile tea 😆
Anxiety is a curse, it isnt satisfied until it takes you to the grave. I hope he finds comfort and a way to beat it
He's already dead
I have "Pure O" it started first as depression, and after it became into OCD. I have it now for almost 1 year and a half. It's really hard to live with but what can I do? I try to accept it but it's hard, like really hard.
@memehorse3658 I've got some bad news for you. "It became into OCD" isn't a correct sentence, and you've left it up like that for 3 months. Awkward.
He loves his children and grandchildren to bits and his fear of losing any of them leads him to this.
Hope Hugh is feeling better these days and making progress with treatment.
He's got a great family behind him. Not easy for them either of course and they deserve a lot of praise for supporting him so much.
I work with people who have mental health issues, and OCD is one that is very hard to handle.
I was diagnosed with OCD and hypercondria very early on in my life. This is so relatable and sad. It's an awful illness to live with and very difficult for people who don't have it to understand. Please don't say you have OCD unless you've been diagnosed with it and are being treated for it. Being tidy or colour coding is not OCD.
I think its degrees. I used to do counting rituals when I was in early teens. I realized it was senseless and counterproductive and was able to just stop. Apparently these guys are much more deeply compulsed. Frightening.
Olivia McMichael that's literally what ive been trying to tell people. People are like "oml i cant stand having my room dirty." Um not thats not ocd honey. Like im so glad ive found someone who understands.
SidtheKid but were diagnosed lol. Its not ab being tidy. We may have to have things a certain way but our certain way could be messy. No hate tho.
@SidtheKid The self diagnosis is really jumping out here. Literally all she is asking for people who haven't been diagnosed not to say that they have it.
Is repeating the things you say out lound in your head 3 or 4 times every time you say something out loud OCD?
Thanks to this video, after 35 YEARS now, i understand why my brother was not a CLEAN or ORDER maniac, but he is suffering from these same Obsessive Compulsive Disorder symptoms in his mind.
@@ebwholesaler those are the rare kinds. I hate when people think OCD is all clean and organized. It's all based on fear and each individual displays that differently. I hope your brother is doing better.
I've struggled with OCD since I was 11. I always thought I was such a sick person for having these horrible intrusive thoughts. I just want anyone to know whose suffering from this, they are not alone. Medication helped me severely along with therapy. Stay strong Hugh!
Medication helped you??? Nothing helped me.
What medication helped you?
@@thomasjensen6243 Qur'an recitation will help, just become Muslim, read Qur'an and do dhikr against the whispers of Shaytan and all ur mental problems will disappear :).
@@thomasjensen6243 you are just complaining for nothing the are so many different meds that help manage your ocd with exposure and prevention
I just want to hug him...I'm so sorry Hugh, no one should have to go through this. I deal with anxiety and this makes me thankful for how good my life is.
My heart is breaking for him. No one should go through this.
OCD sufferer my whole life. Thankful to say it’s gotten easier to manage once I found the right psychiatrist and got on medication that really helps. To anyone who suffers: find the right psychiatrist and be ok with being on medication. It’s nothing to be ashamed about and it’s probably saved my life honestly. It’s so important to find a psychiatrist that is willing to listen and help you. Thank you Dr Joseph!
@tag9047 def a bot comment. I see this post everywhere on channels like this. Next you'll try and sell me psych meds.
Well I'm not interested I have a Christian doctorate I can think fir myself thanks.
Hughie comes across as an exceptionally lovely man. To see someone so crippled by fear for the safety of people around him he tortures himself to breaking point is so sad. Hughie has some issues in his past for sure but needs love and reassurance and a lot of hard work to get him better. I really hope things have improved for this man.
SOMEBODY... ANYBODY....HELP HIM :(
Funny your comment has 12 likes lol
They are lol.
The Rare Gadget and it's Jesus 👑💛 that can help him
Kristen Spottedwarbonnet Awesome. Let’s test this. Go find him and offer your solution. Im game for that.
@@iananderson6994 to u
My heart just broke watching Hughs daily struggles. Seeing him be so disappointed in himself but still so full of love for his family is hard to watch. Him knowing that he has a problem and his willingness to reach out for help will always give way to hope.
I've lived with OCD for 35 years. Ironically I too repeat my rituals out of fear for my families safety. I'm not as bad as hugh, but it definitely consumes you. It's a very exhausting illness.
I suffered with OCD a long time ago.
The counting. The meticulous positioning of things. The need to do it to protect myself and others. It’s so much hard work and it’s utterly brutal on your mind. It makes sense to you but to others it’s completely bonkers. I hope anyone suffering with it can find a way out of the nightmare.
I did too until I slapped myself and stopped being a weak person. That's all it takes. Every time you feel the urge you do the exact opposite.
@@minotaur55 I disagree a person with OCD is a weak person.
If that’s what worked for you. Then well done.
Amen +
@@minotaur55 then you never had ocd to begin with.
to me it doesnt make sense but i still do it, i just have to do it, or, i dont even have something bad that will happen, it just feels wrong, so immensely wrong that i cant deal with it.
I had OCD throughout my teenage years but now it’s really toned down. I met an 80 year old at a social group who’s been institutionalised for OCD. He jokes about it and calls himself “the OAP with OCD”. Lovely man.
I really, really hope the therapy works for him. Behind it I see a great guy with a good sense of humour and a good heart who cares for his loving family
I had debilitating OCD as a child. I would be up until 1 AM on school nights trying to finish my rituals perfectly, literally crying because I couldn't get it "right" and go to sleep. It plagued me into adolescents as well. When I was 16 I started experimenting with mushrooms, and one of these times after taking a larger dose, I started an OCD ritual with a light switch while under their effects. it suddenly hit me how futile it was to think I had any power over this world to effect change on it in any sort of intentional way, and I started laughing out loud. I always understood how ridiculous these habits and rituals were before this experience, but that day it hit me on the deepest level and changed me to my core. Aside from the occasional left over neural pathway impulse that causes me to turn a light switch off or on a second times or re lock a door a second time, I am no longer affected by this disorder today.
You're the first person I've ever heard mention light switch rituals. Mine have morphed into other things since, but when I was like 15-16, I probably spent 2 hours a day messing with light switches alone, just to have it feel "right" and "balanced", sometimes it would take up to 3-4 minutes each time I turned on/off a switch for that to happen. I always thought it was really strange I was obsessed specifically with light bulbs. Makes me feel better knowing I wasn't the only one. Hope you're better now.
That is fascinating. I'm wondering if that could work for other people with OCD. Kind of like how radiotherapy can be used to treat cancer: it's not guaranteed, but it could work.
He needs people that don't enable this and break his patterns. At 16-17 years old I remember crying whilst turning a tap on and off 40 times and slamming the draw over and over. My family started to interfere. Every pattern destroyed and I don't do any of it anymore. You can recover.
Luke Petersen I agree for me having a partner and kids helped so much I couldn't control everything so I slowly let alot go
wha was the cause for you¿
Yes but some people's condition is alot more severe than your own, no ones is ever the same
@@sikandarhabib7056 just take more work and persistence. But can very well be done. Break the patterns.
Such a nice guy and family. Hope he got the help he needed. I got diagnosed with OCD at 11 after my gran died and I was worried that other members of my family like my mum would die if I didn't touch things a certain number of times. My mother took me to a psychiatrist after it got progressively worse. While waiting in the waiting room there were poor kids rocking back and forward and when I went in the psychiatrist said I would always have it while speaking to my mother and it didn't sit right with me. 1 visit and seeing other kids and wondering if I could end up like that and the thought of living like that for the rest of my life because of the psychiatrist's comment was all it took for me to stop listening to my intrusive thoughts. The anxiety was crippling for a while because as Hugh mentioned it's such a release doing a ritual and knowing your mum and sisters etc are going to be safe. I can't remember when it stopped I just remember ignoring myself and basically saying “F*ck off” to
Myself to do the the rituals then the intrusive thoughts eventually left and I'm completely OCD and anxiety free. Horrible and bizarre condition and I hope anyway who is living with it has the strength to beat it ❤
No one can understand the torture and torment ppl have with OCD .its so easy to laugh ,but it is hell on Earth.
Victoria smith yeahp
Victoria smith it honestly is and it's soul destroying when people make light of it
Victoria smith I think I can the pain I saw in that mans face brought me to tears
I really felt when he said “i have two identities, theres me and then theres the little person inside of me” thats exactly what it felt like when i was struggling with general anxiety disorder. When i would have anxious episodes, it felt like there was a tiny version of myself watching from inside my head. It was the strangest feeling in the world, and made the anxiety even worse. I hope this man found the help he deserves ❤️
Just tell that tiny version of yourself he's nor important, and that you're the real you.
You and the other bot account said the same thing
At first I thought his wife was a bit aloof, but she has her own stress to manage. I was impressed that Hugh was able to make jokes, some even at his own expense. He has a great spirit, loving his family so much. I think they've all made the best of it they can, through love. ❤
I laughed when he was talking about the body parts in the luggage I'll admit. I felt bad when I saw how upset he got though.
she should have left. most men abandon their wives when they get a chronic illness since they wont have a maid and babymaking slave to serve them anymore... if more men were honourable and inspiring then women would want to step up to the challenge of marrying a man these days
@@SisypheanRoller women initiate 80% of divorces cause men dont realize decades of one sided burdens make women resentful i.e: childrearing, solo-child raising, cooking, cleaning, washing and most women also work now (ontop of the household burdens women come bk to after work), so there is NO incentive to even marry anymore since we DO work. Men have ZERO reflective skills clearly. Thats why yall use the same tired divorce argument that proves women are clearly dissatisfied with male efforts yet find a way to spin it like women are the bad ones. imagine cats being more preferable than adult human males as companions. thats an insult to your entire existence
@@felonious_unite no it’s good she stayed. Your comment is incredibly sexist and devoid of empathy.
One of my close colleagues has severe OCD. Every day she was an hour late beacause she kept checking the doorlocks and kept washing her hands. But with lots of therapy, anti-depressives and our support, she went from a 9 back to a 1. I really hope this father will overcome his fears too, with all the help he can get.
I just want to hug him and take away his fear if I could.
Make sure to hug him 12 times
@@markp1881 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 (12 mojis)
ur a girl
His wife is awesome, truly. She's so supportive and good natured. I love her.
I've suffered with OCD for 30 years. For the last 10 years, I've been meditating on a daily basis. I no longer suffer with intrusive thoughts, anxiety or compulsive behaviour. I hope that this helps someone else out there.
Yes, definitely this helps
How do you stop intrusive thoughts while meditating??
@@Lex_112 Use a mantra
@@Lex_112 You actually don’t stop them! You just accept them as thoughts - nothing more nothing less. They’ve already happened (nothing you can do about that) so the point is to return to your breath and cultivate awareness. It’s the same process for any thoughts that may pop up, intrusive/very emotionally charged or no. I like to occasionally use a mantra I learn from a great teacher called thich nhat hanh - “Breathing in - I know I’m breathing in, Breathing out - I know I’m breathing out.” It’s very grounding and helps me to understand that there is something so “real” about the visceral, steady experience of my breath, my thoughts are a bit more abstract and less essential. I hope you’re well and I hope this helps ❤️
@@Lex_112 Apologies for taking so long to reply to you. As others have said, you don't try to stop the thoughts, you learn to watch and detach from them. To start with, I recommend following a guided meditation and then move on to music, water sounds or whatever you prefer. When meditating, simply following the breath. When your mind distracts you with thoughts, acknowledge those thoughts without judgement and come back to the breath. Do this over and over again, breathing in, breathing out. Eventually you will start to following the breath more and more and see the thoughts for what they are, just thoughts! Peace and love ❤
Sending my best wishes to Hugh.Hope he got the help he needed, he was living in a nightmare.
I wanted to cheer for him when he packed the bag, I was so happy for him! While I don't have OCD, I do suffer from severe anxiety and depression, and I know how much of a struggle it can be to do something *knowing* it will worsen the anxiety. Your body physically rejects it, it's exhausting. I wish him only the best.
the thing is with ocd and anxiety, the more you feed into it the more you solidify that it is real and probably, the worse it gets.
This man is one of a kind. He does all of this because it gives him the sense that this way his family will be kept safe. He has the purest most loving heart. Hope he is able to find peace with his thoughts.
If you’ve never experienced genuine ocd then you’ll struggle to understand how difficult it is. It is also physically and mentally exhausting
I always described my experience as the freezer and this is life but with OCD , as ice becomes more prominent on the sides of the freezer, the less room there is. It was like that the things I use to love doing would shrink because anxiety would kick in and the ocd would take over so much that you just stop doing those things to avoid (try) having the anxiety. Over time and with medication and support i have have it mostly under control for about 10 years but the years I hid it and tried to deal with it were brutal.
@@SpiderStratagemVI it’s really difficult for sure
My heart exploded when he walked across the glass floor. Well done!
I couldn't do that. I certainly couldn't go up the tower. Sometimes even watching a film of height gives me a cramp in my groin.
If he spends that much time aligning those little 'decorations'... I would get rid of all unnecessary items.
Sadly there's always more to trigger it, he has to work on the root of the issue and learn coping methods if the problem is to be solved.
You son of satan!
A glitter bomb would be like a nuclear device in his eyes.
they should try living minimalist, although as said theres an actual root needed to be solved
if you know about OCD you'll know that 3 things to align is better than taking them away and seeing every little crinkle and crease in everything else
I have this condition although not this bad but bad enough to destroy my life. I could sit by a certain wall that had tiles covering it that were random.
I would arrange and rearrange them forever . The obsession is still with me but I ignore it . I got my life back after losing a large portion of it. It wasn't until I discovered art therapy that I could focus my attention constructively. Music, drawing and writing channeled the obsessive desire positively. No drugs . Much love.
It's good that you didn't let it get worse
I don't have OCD yet watching this was agonizing, so I can't imagine what it actually must be like for this guy
On a scale from 1-10, I'd say his OCD's problem is a 12.
No you get even worse than him believe it or not.
I just burst out laughing in bed
xD
Wow lol
09:35 when your wife cheats on you
It’s hard to imagine what a 10/10 ocd case is like if this is a 9. Poor man, it’s all for his family as well
This is all I could think the whole time. Have to imagine that things like going away for the weekend or going to London for the doctor wouldn’t even be an option for a 10
no way this is a nine, its a 12/12
I've never heard of a case of OCD that comes even close. He's absolutely a 10
Keeps his family 'safe' by making their lives miserable.
@@Alien_Observer_ It’s not a rational mental disorder. That’s why it’s a mental disorder. To those not suffering of course it makes no sense. I do similar things, but I’m autistic and doing my rituals doesn’t harm anyone in my family.
Now THIS is a proper OCD! Not when everyone nowadays says their "OCD kicked in" when they simply want to have a couple of things in their household orderly lol. I don't think those kinds of people even realize what a real OCD is.
This NEEDS a follow up. It’s been 7 years since this video came out so there probably won’t be but I want to know the guy found peace and freedom.
Apparently is has been agreed not to do a follow up until 12 years afterwards. So will have to wait another 5 years.
@@paddyotoole2058 The programme was on in 2005 so it's been 18 years now
@@davegaskell7680crazy to think about now
After 40 years, I don't know how even professionals would be able to permanent treat him. It'd be like asking you to stop seeing color.
@@davegaskell7680 the joke went right over your head.
My god what an absolutely champion of a man. And what an amazing wife sticking by all of that as well. I wish him a full and quick recovery.
This coverage is great and I really appreciate Hugh and his family for choosing to share this. The acknowledgement and acceptance of the need for help is uplifting. Truly wish them all the best ❤
Behind every smile or action in social situations are my thoughts and insecurities.
I hope Hugh & his family found peace.
My heart goes out for Hugh and the type of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder he goes through on a daily basis. As I write this, I simply have tears in my eyes and I know what it is like to live with OCD day after day and it is so debilitating!! People with OCD deserve a lot of support, kindness, and be treated in a way that they are good and kind-hearted people and no one should EVER judge them in criticizing ways!! Therapies, like how the OCD specialist administered, can make a significant difference to lives of sufferers affected of this debilitating psychological disorder.
Such an eye opening documentary about OCD, and how it takes over a life. I have a relative with severe OCD and it is a huge challenge for anyone involved with them, especially his wife, who has stood by his side.
I hope Hugh is well and healthy!
Also, just a side note, the Irish fighter is the perfect example of sportsmanship, shake hands, see you for a pint, I hope he is also well and successful!
yes
It's the all consuming relentlessness of this disease that really got me here. You can break your leg and have a terrible time for 30 minutes but the pain will go away and the bone heal. This is every minute you're awake for the rest of your life, untreated. I wish you peace Hugh.
I have a lite case of OCD ever since I was 12/13, and, being a minor, currently, it could get far worse in the future. Still, I barely go through my day-to-day life without meds/tools.
My heart goes out to this man; truly, it's hard to see the outside world when your own mind keeps you locked away.