Why You Need to Accept Yourself Before You Can Love Yourself | Women of Impact Round Table
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Join Ashley Crouch, Visibility Strategist and professional writer, Rachele Brooke Smith, professional dancer and actress, and Danny J, serial entrepreneur, cover model and health expert as they sit together with Lisa to discuss the crucial concept of body image. These three powerhouse women dive deep into exploring what it means to feel beautiful as a woman and how to fall in love with yourself first.
SHOW NOTES
If this body wasn’t mine would I still hate it? [3:55]
The reality of the self-love evolution [7:07]
Accepting yourself in a culture of rejection [7:49]
The standards of beauty as a cultural construct [12:54]
Identifying yourself outside of how you look [15:00]
Shifting the narrative behind body-image [17:55]
Changing the perspective of body-imagery on social media [21:29]
The danger of using beauty as a tool for power [26:01]
Training yourself not to listen to your negative voice [33:01]
Consciously planting affirmations in your state of mind [39:29]
Reprogramming yourself through repetitive self-affirmation [42:16]
Asking yourself questions [43:20]
Knowledge is power [45:27]
Ashley’s superpower of celebration [49:18]
Danny’s superpower of laughter and cheer [49:44]
Rachele’s superpower of gratitude [50:24]
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“The problem is not in our desire for beauty. The problem is in the definition of beauty” - love it!!!
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I was meditating one day and the message i got was "I am beautiful because i am alive"
I love this 😀❤
"Hurt people hurt people. Healed people heal people." 😊 ✨
It's not about hard work. Everyone talks about hard work and it's not about that. It's about alignment. Smart work over hard work. And consistency. Just saying.
morf oooh great point!
Thanks u to remember me it hard to stay cool to much problem wab
Well said.
This is amazing. I homeschool my son and our first thing every day is to discuss personal growth, Self-esteem and media literacy. My son is ten and already has had negative feelings about himself because of the fake crap pics on IG. I homeschool so I can teach him the stuff Public school will never teach him.
Thanks so much for sharing! All you can do is your best. Keep up the great work with your son ❤️
Cynshine Online that’s amazing! Wish I would have had that. Best luck to him
Beautiful! 💐 You are the change in the world! 💛
Good job! Fantastic of you to dedicate yourself to teaching at home! 🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️
I haven’t even finished the episode yet and I’m in tears, this is so powerful and amazing and I didn’t realize how much I needed to hear this. Thank you all SO MUCH!
LOVE this! Not that you were in tears, just that it impacted you ❤️ Thanks so much for your comment. Glad to be of service ❤️❤️
I was listening to all of you discuss your ''first time'' feeling self-conscious about your looks and I was thinking ''wow I don't know that I have a moment like that to pinpoint when that feeling started''. And then it hit me and I started tearing up because it came back to me super clearly. I was in first grade, maybe 5 or 6 years old, and we had gotten our yearly picture taken at school. My mom came to school to pick up my photo and order prints for family and friends (obviously that was before you could just send a digital photo). I had been so excited to get my picture taken that I had been smiling this silly toothy over the top smile, the kind that only kids will make, and when my mom saw the pictures she said they were terrible. She said I looked ridiculous and couldn't give these to people.
We left without ordering a single photo. I was crushed. Every single school photo after that, all the way up to graduating from college, I never smiled again for a picture. I'm 30 and I still struggle with showing teeth on a photo, because I have this deep rooted belief that I look bad when I smile for pictures.
It is horrifying the lasting effect that words can have...Parents and teachers will sometimes say the most horrible things to kids out of love, thinking they're protecting them from something, but often it comes from their own insecurities that they're projecting, and they end up passing them on to these children. People usually mean well, but I think we all have to be a bit more conscious of the remarks we make, and the effect they might have on people. Deep down we're all still that little kid inside that's being told they're not enough and I think we spend a lot of our lives peeling away those layers and trying to figure out who we are without all these assumptions put upon us.
Fanny Berthiaume this is so beautifully said! Thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable moment with us. Really couldn’t agree more with you. We are all hurt and we all unwittingly project our stuff on to others. Awareness and change is needed to protect future generations 💕
@@LisaBilyeu Agreed! And this show is doing just that, so thank you for spreading the love and awareness! ♡♡♡
Fanny Berthiaume it’s an honor 🙏🏻💜
This broke my heart. Instant tears falling. Im so sorry you went through that. Heres to lots of happy tomorrows and toothy smiles xoxox
@@Mrs.AD0099 Thank you! ❤
Thank you so much. I really needed this one. It is so difficult when you reach a level of beauty standards, only to find that it doesn’t make you feel beautiful.
There is so much more to it all. Thank you for these women’s stories
I think this channel should be reviewed at school and every young person has to write a review with what was the most powerful for them or what stuck , something new they leaned ! So POWERFUL
More people need to hear this! The topic triggered me so much i have been crying almost through all the interview. Thank you for starting to change mass opinion! Please, don't stop!
Maya Votyakova wow!! Thank you so much for showing the love. Glad you enjoyed the episode ❤️
I love the conversation and the thought that went into choosing these beautiful women to speak on body image. After hearing about how photographic images are altered, I realized these beauties have these thoughts in these beautiful bodies. I know they work to achieve their look for work and maybe other things. But I wish there was someone on the panel who looked like me. I deal with body image issues too. I may not have been in beauty magazines but I have a voice. And I should be heard. Love your Impact! Love Lisa and Tom...thank you for inspiring me to stand up for what I believe!
Lisa, I've switched out watching netflix for watching interviews just like yours. The lessons and message that you bring to women and others out there is so empowering and I want to thank you for the work that you do. KEEP GOING!!
Audrey Lee WOW! Thank you so much 😊💗
@@LisaBilyeu Thank you!!
Beauty as a tool for power. Love it. So fucking true. When your "tool" isnt as effective as you think it should be, you suffer.
It's easy for beautiful people to feel ugly and then when they overcome those false narratives, they realize they're actually beautiful. But um there are actually some people who are not born "beautiful" and that's a different kind of pain. I'd like to see more of that being addressed.
I just found this channel, in the perfect right time!! (So grateful🙏🏼)I love this conversation, it’s so beautiful to hear women speak in such an authentic, empowering and beautiful way!! 👸🏽🙌🏻✨💖🌎
So glad you found us!! Happy to now be part of your journey 🙏🏻❤️
Lisa! Thank you for this episode! These women are amazing.
❤️❤️ So glad it resonated!!
One powerful practical tool that has helped me : daily meditation . It provides a space where I make it safe to observe myself. I acknowledge that those negative voices/thoughts are not ME. I have a panic attack almost every time I get ready to meditate. Daily practice over time takes the empowerment out of the hands of negative thoughts and back into my will.
PLEASE DO MORE OF THIS AMAZING CONTENT! Much more helpful that all the "Love yourself" books I've read (and I've read quite a lot!) 💚
I love your show. This is amazing. Thank you so much for this episode.
Amazing episode!!!
I want to hear so much more from these incredible women!
Lisa, you rock!
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You are an incredible woman! ❤️
Thanks so much Lisa for this empowering episode!!! Great topic, amazing women, powerful tools! You’re awesome
I'm only 23 minutes in and am applauding the heck out of this so far! Thank you ladies for discussing this and wanting to make changes. As a parent of a daughter I take it on as my responsibility to teach my daughter about self love and self acceptance. To tell her that beauty really is from the inside. She's funny and loving and kind and giving.. My girl's heart is huge and she is meant for such great compassion. Those are the things we talk about. She also struggles with body image and her friends always talk about being fat or hating aspects of their bodies. I've shown her how the magazine and aren't a true picture of reality. We've found shows that show how lighting or hair extensions, makeup, etc can totally change an image. I care about her character. I'm also working on self acceptance and love for me as I've been told the negative since I was little.. That I'm husky or pudgy or stocky etc. Rewiring my thinking though. It's a process. Love to you all
Thank you so much for sharing Kelle ❤️ Sounds like you're doing an awesome job! Keep at it. As you say, it's a process, and it's definitely not easy, but you and your daughter will both reap the rewards in the end. Sending you love back!!
My God this is so so good!!! I love listening to anything from Lisa while I'm jogging cause I can fully pay attention to it😆
This is such an amazing conversation that we all need to hear and continue with all our young ones. Thank you so much!!
Ana Gijon 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you Lisa for this wonderful podcast. I really got a lot out of it. I myself love affirmations that’s what helps me. I am Enough ! 💜
Wow, bring it on Rachele, bring it on Rachele hahaha. I never thought i was gonna be impacted by a girl talk so much...so it's true, develop the habit of optimism on ourselves is like developing a muscle at the GYM, self love is a habit, that's so cool.
I want to thank you for this show
Love how you've kept your british accent Lisa, after so many years in the US... Another brit living overseas :)
So many amazing tools in this video!!! You all had me teared up!! No matter where you are in your life, you are beautiful!!! Value yourself, because we all deserve self love which stems from our own self ❤️
Rebecca Wu thank you for this! ❤️
Thank you thank you thank you! I've just found your channel and love it!
This video and your channel deserve so many more views! I love what you do and it will never cease to inspire me ❤
Aww, thank so much lovely! We all have to start somewhere right!?
I’m sharing this with every woman I know! Thank you, the messages are so powerful.
THANK YOU!! Glad you enjoyed ❤️❤️
This was so beautiful and so whole in itself. I couldn't keep my smile off my face seeing that you women are being vulnerable and want to bring such an important postive change. The points hat were raised here were so new to me as i didn't know the media perspective of things. Just know that the domino effect is working and I'm down because of it and I'll hit the next person with it too☺️😉! Proud of you all!!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for talking about this!
Rewatching this during iso. Listening to this with different ears gives a new perspective. Thank you for all you do Tom and Lisa 💕❤️
life.energy.movement with Laura Bella love that you rewatched ❤️
I love this conversation!!! We so need MORE of this, it brings such real & relatable persepective, Thank you:)
🙏🏻 Thank you! So glad it resonated with you. Watch out for our next panel show due to be released very soon!! 🙌🏻
I love that you had a group discussion. I enjoyed this a lot.
❤️ It was a great dynamic and so much fun!! Watch this space for more round tables 😘
Just subscribed and turned on notifications! Thank you Lisa Bilyeu & friends!
NICE! Thank YOU 💜💜
Awesome episode! Loved it!
Beautiful message. Thank you for your genuine hard work to empower women.
LOVE this talk gals. Thanks for being this hope love and strength. 🙏 You've given a face to the tribe I dream of exchanging with 😌.
I got so much out of this episode. It got my thoughts spinning with ideas of how to impact my own daughters life and outlook and how I can start at home with her since we don’t have something like this in schools
That's so awesome! Good for you, and your daughter. Education starts in the home right!? 🙌🏻❤️
Thank y'all so much dearest 🌹
Y'all such an inspiration 🥰
Appreciate y'all from the bottom of my heart 💖
Be Blissful Eternally 🙏👼🌈
Very inspiring show!
This is so true. What actually cured me was Instagram. Because with the videos, I could see how ppl actually are, especially my favorite actress and models. Now I know it's all about angles and make-up and such, so I'm in peace.
What an incredible episode and so powerful to listen to these women speak of their own battles. This is why I love your show Lisa. You have definitely started changing the negative narrative and started something that can be revolutionary. And I so agree we really need to start implementing some education system in place that can really create an impact and help young women overcome issues like self love and self doubt.
Thanks for such a lovely comment. On a mission FOR SURE! Glad you're onboard 😉 and so happy you're enjoying the show 💜
So valuable. I would so appreciate a follow up and including women from across the spectrum of diversity. You all brought me so much To think through and implement for myself and my family today. 💝
the sheer number of lessons in this one episode...
I think this show is amazing. This is what we need in our lives.
Thank you Heydi 🙏🏻 ❤️
Thank you ladies this was amazing
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Thank you all for sharing!
this is literally beautiful ^_^
thank u all for help xx
So glad it helped in some way 😊 Sending ❤️
This video gave me mixed emotions. I’m so glad women today are speaking out on this subject and glad we have social media to spread the news. However it saddens me because this issue has been around for decades and decades and still not as much improvement for the better that I hoped for. I’m 50 years and grew up in the 80’s. So many of us women had to live with comparing ourselves to the women on MTV as well as Playboy magazine. I developed my eating disorder in junior high as well as my distorted self image and still struggle with them both today. I hate to hear how this issue just keeps living on and on, decade after decade. I applaud you ladies and hope that your message helps so many decade after decade. Keep up the awesome work!!!!
Angie McGee Thank you for this! What we can do is work towards a healthier future ❤️
Hey Angie! Your message is so powerful. Thank you for opening up. 🧡
Although I agree with your perspective and hold the same to a certain degree, I also believe that the world we see are simply reflections of what we see inside of us. Maybe the reason you don't see much improvement in the world is because you yourself still haven't resolved this issue with yourself completely. So, this still has your attention and what we give attention to, grows. What you're searching for, you will find.
An example: when I was pregnant, I would always see so many pregnant women on the streets and never before nor after my pregnancy was the world filled with pregnant women as it was during those 9 months. 😄
It's hard to abandon habitual thought processes and I know this all too well and am working on it too. With time I'm getting better at thinking more loving thoughts but still slip up with limiting beliefs.
I guess accepting that is key.
Much love to you!
❤️❤️❤️ thank you !!!
i wish everyone could watch this, do love you all
This is true feminism. Being conscious of urself. Thankyou so much😍
This is so empowering and resonated with me on so many levels!!! What if magazines had to put something like a warning label to let people know images may be photoshopped or significantly altered any time an add or image contains edits?
Lesley Nunn They are required to in some instances, but it’s normally in the ‘small print’. Definitely hear that though!
That's a great idea! I would love to see that, like a sponsored post or an ad in IG.
WOW. Listening to ya all made me only want to go now and share my story and share the things that I did then and still do to teach young girls, little girls how not to give up and get up.
Lola Meakin 💪🏻👏🏻
OMGosh THANK you for this!! "We need to stop pretending that we don't want to be beautiful" YES. YES YES. AND we need to support companies like Aerie and Dove who don't Photoshop their models! This is so good!
adrielleroyale YESS!!! No photoshop photos of natural, imperfect beauties 💗
@@LisaBilyeu you mentioned in your most recent episode what we'd love to see more of - I'd love to see a part 2 of this! 👊😎 Thank you for doing this and for sharing your journey! ❤
adrielleroyale 😊 thank you for that! We’ll see what we can do 🙌🏻💗
This feels like a new space for women to tribe, great things will happen here.
As a teacher I can say we do talk about the real world versus social media. Students' mental health is diverse and complex. It sounds naïve to suggest that adding a class requirement could simply solve teenage problems. It also sounds like it is up to the teachers to battle Hollywood, media, and culture. I believe it is most important to teach critical and independent thinking skills so that students can apply strong minds to any situation. In this rapidly changing world we cannot be narrowly focused on social media but need to look at what skills students need to be strong leaders. Schools today provide plenty of opportunities for students to compete and gain confidence such as Debate, UIL, Academic Decathlon, etc... Research shows that home life is the biggest factor in a child's development from reading skills to self esteem.
I'm so grateful that exisist this channel is my life ❤️❤️really thanks with my all heart ♥ I
Aww thank you for saying so!! So happy to know we're making a difference ❤️❤️❤️
@@LisaBilyeu 💕 💕 💕 ❤️ 😘 thank you ❤️
I'm not who you think... I am
I'm not who I think... I am
I am.... who I think...you think... I am
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@@thekiwisqu33z34 it means that we judge ourselves through what we believe others are perceiving us as.
@@thekiwisqu33z34 My sister, you are a beautiful eternal soul having a human experience and there is so much more to you than what you do. So much in fact, that you can spend your entire life trying to get to know yourself and still have new realizations on your death bed. Thinking that you are what you do implies that if you stop doing what you're doing, you are not deserving. And that is very, very dangerous.
My God I love ALL of ur videos
I liked this, but I would be so happy to see the all the same subjects brought up with a more physically diverse group of women.
SELF-RESPECT. Moderation. PARENTS & SCHOOLS Could promote inside behind the seen. AWARENESS.
This was an amazing episode loved it. I am huge supporter of the channel and listen to both you and Tom almost daily.
However, my constructive criticism for this episode would be that I think it would also be nice to do an episode with African women on their experiences with beauty because I think that was missing from the conversation and African women also struggle with self acceptance.
I suppose African American women in your context
@WomenofImpact ...Wooow ...... Woooow, When Danny said out loud I'm fat I'm ugly I'm hideous i don't deserve to be alive i've told myself the the first two and different.. so i agreed i could relate but when she said now tell that to your friend.. i imagined a friend no one imparticular (I'm a stay a home mum of 5 i don't actually have friends, just hi how are you yeah the weather is beautiful/or cold ok nice to see you bye) but i got a little upset, i couldn't call anyone the names i call myself and that realisation upset me xo THANK YOU .... SO Much xo
🙏🏻It's so powerful right!? Be as kind to yourself as you are to others! So glad this resonated with you 💜
Women of Impact I also just watched HEAL on Netflix Ive had depression for roughly 7 years and although I’ve been ‘so over it’ for sometime it’s like, enough is enough I know some steps like clean eating and exercise help and I’m letting my depression be my excuse after this and HEAL I’m like 👊🏼
Thanks for sharing xxx
@@MyLifeAsAMum YES!!! You got this girl! 🙌🏻💜
I love ur content 😍
Woop!! Thank you 💜💜
This was a great video. I do agree with you that "Schools do need to change the curriculum so that it is in alignment with our society".
However, I also think parents need to step up their game a bit. They have missed the mark for years now. I see it all the time! Especially in single parenting homes. They do NOT engage with the kids. Parent's are not puting the phone down, long enough to notice the kids. The Parents have gotton so disconnected from their duties as the adult in the home and I do think they leave it up to the teachers to raise the kids. And for me, that is unacceptable.
I can't tell you how many times my daughters have had their friends over and when we sit to eat dinner (as we do every night at the dinner table) their friends always say the same thing "so you have dinner together like this as a family every night?" It breaks my heart. As parents we must be mindful of the values we are teaching our children. We have to be mindful of everything we do and say all day. What words we are feeding into our children?
And furthermore, we should be paying attention to what our children eat, how they sleep and how their physical wellbeing is on a daily basis. There is too much information out there telling us "food" is our main source of disease and illness. Like these ladies said "we should take care of our body's so that we have the energy to live the life we want". And we should be teaching this to our children and every generation.
Lisa congrats on another great video! Much love xo
Zen Lenz Media this is such a beautifully strong message. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment ❤️❤️
Hello ladies.
There should be more
conversations about
accepting who we are.
You ladies are on point. The
environment that a child is
exposed to has an impact.
On children according to
the comments people
say directly to a child.
Can create insecure or
positive emtions.
The women in my life
always said postive
encouraging words to
and about me. This is why
negative people mouths never affected my emotions. No matter what was said to me.
I've always liked who and what I see in the mirror. I never wanted to look or be like anyone but myself.
Two of my ex boyfriends told me.
They was jealous of me. Which that
statement thrown me off a bit.
In my mind but why. I am a female
your a male. It took me some time to conclude. It was not my attract
-iveness they were bothered by.
It was the people that had an interest in me and not my boyfriends. Because of my
friendly positive personality,
self-confidence and my
kind nature. My disposition wasn't
exceptable to those guys. One of
the ex boyfriend resented me because of my popularity. That
created a silent hidden agenda to brake my self-esteem. Being so young as I was. I didn't see the red flags at the time. While he did
not succeed in making me feel
uncomfortable or any less
about myself.
My aptitude on life never balanced
out with the boyfriend. Reason
being years later. I realize this
guy had a narcissist personality
disorder. Which was why we clashed as a couple. When two people don't have the same interest.
The relationship remains divided.
It doesn't work. God created man
and woman to be their authentic
self. To accomplish their full
potentials without limits.
Let's celebrate life as an
individual. By being our
best selves.
Seriously, you are amazing. How do I join your team? Lol
not me watching this at midnight, trying to gain weight to fit in with other bigger girls because no one in my city is the same height/weight as me, especially in my jobs/work.... feeling insecure but much much better; also acknowledging I don't have to ever reach rock bottom. My go-to for growth and self love.
Love this very much! Imagine how many young girls are watching this and getting it! ♥️♥️♥️♥️
Romi ❤️❤️
Lisa, I LOVE your videos and interviews. I would love to see a panel of minority ethnicities together so we can give a voice to those who are marginalized. Many times the adversities faced by Black and IPOC are vastly different from white women. Would love to see it. Sending you love!
BlushGush thanks so much for the recommendation! We ALWAYS want to hear what you guys want to see, so much appreciated 🙏❤️
@@LisaBilyeu Love you Lisa! You're alway so positive and receptive. Appreciate you!!!
Hi Lisa, ty so much for this excellent video, theirs nothing more sexier than a solid confident woman, makeup doesn’t matter when she’s solid confident, hope this helps, regards, Bob,
Thank you for your channel your a beautiful soul that radiates through your muscles 💪 love your mind keep growing I hope you get a tv show like Oprah or Ellen I’ll pray for your success love and light ❤️💡
Intuitive Priestess aww 🥰 thank you so much! ❤️
Why Kelly and her jordan so bad mind want what belong to u my name make u hot wab
I am having a hard time having self love. Can any one recommend books that can help me get there? It’s a struggle.... holding me back from anything I dream of
I just realized, relistening to this, that I haven't worn shorts in at least 20 years "because my skin is *SO* white, it'll blind people." Neither do my sisters, same reason. Think I need to rethink this.
Thank you ladies.
Quick question- How many people did you say were in the world? About 39 seconds in.
I’m tired of the “yeah,yeah,yeah,yeah” “mmmmmm” “mmmmmmhmmmm” 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Great segment though 💕
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My mother delliberately taught us to view the body in a beautifull artistic and unsexualized way. It makes me find great beauty in the impefect body many of us have. Actually making it more appreciated sometimes for its realness and its testimony of our authenticity and individuality,, a testimony of our lives.
She placed an white torso sculpture in our living room, when we later moved in came into our hallway. So we would se it everyday and in later years as one of the first things, when we stepped into the house. I only now think of how powerfull that daily reminder was, also of stepping into our home remembering the values that where laid down there as a first thing. She placed this sculpture when I was maybe 5 years old (I was the youngest of 5. Age might have an influence, but I think it also left an impact on my older siblings, but it may have been greatest on me). She loved to draw and would draw the human body and we would watch and we would draw other things next to her. We all protested a little at first. But we got used to seeing it and how she was teaching us to see it. When we had to draw one in class years later when I was in about 4th grade, it became apparent that my view of it was very different, than that of my classmates, who almost had a fit, where nervously giggling and just had a hard time focusing and completing the task as with their age also in consideration, they could not abstract from the apparent sexuality at all and find peace to appreciate its beauty.
So I recommend giving the pespective of art a try and let it takes time and repetition. I fully intend to follow my moms example.
Now I am 25 and seeing the first signs of a maturing body and aging. I have moments where there is parts of my body that can frustrate me, when they are not exactly how I would like them to be. (I can no longer fit medium sized jeans, and it rather goes up as I excersize more, I'm rather short and now can easily appear a little more stout. So yes it bothers me, but I value health and I think of the beauty of an italian mamma when I look at my body (that is not how I look, but it makes whatever is going to happen ok, as beauty has variety and it reminds me what is more beautifull that just the body) I then dress for my changed body. What I think is beautifull as you age, is particularly in your contenance and your energy, so that is were my focus to improve goes. I have adapted new styles for changing times of my lige with more ease and grace and value each period I feel a woman naturally goes through. I feel as though my feminine strength is growing rather that decreasing. I feel the dicotomy of at times feeling down about certain things of aging, but my overall experience is the possibility and power of growing more attractive as I grow wiser about how to style and dress and express myself, that for me, and I see it for my sisters too, seems to solidify more with age and coming into yourself.
Wrinkles and aging to me from a young age have become a testimony of life lived, of having gone past hard times and having fewer left. They hint of a story and those stories are interesting and whatever it may be, your way of focus changes its attractiveness. I think of my aunts beautiful strong silver hair and her power and personality. Now that I am starting to see my skin age I for sure, try and want to protect it, as I do sense that direct sexual value decrease, but it does not overwhelm that I feel more pride in the personal work I have done, that I feel and experience it makes me a more attractive person as a whole and I see how it can continue to increase. My aging skin only gives me sadness for whether or not that more youthful time that is shows is passing was spent in a satisfactory way, did I enjoy the times of that age? Personally I have some regrets there. But do you see how the focus of the story completely changed?
Side note: Now we are mostly girls and it was a male sculpture, later one of my sisters or my mom made a female clay sculpture that went in the hallway too. I don't know if if it played a role or how my brother felt about it. I haven't really specifically discussed this with my siblings.
I want to correct unsexualized to not overly sexualized. I feel like I got a beautifull upbringing and view of healthy sexuality, so just to add that I think it is very important.
And naturally as I hope is apparent. The statue became a tangible, visual symbol of my mothers teachings and a conversation starter. But she followed up on it and still continues to though conversation, maybe not so much in specificly body image, as sexuality and intimacy (because she is actually rather self critical in terms of her weigth, but that might be more about her frustration and sense of a loss of control and agency on the matter perhaps.) Either way she managed to give us the greater foundation, that has allowed me to even build beyond, what I experience she herself feels. I often usually hear said, that you can't give what you don't have. But she laid the ground work for me to have and seek that.
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4:10 - "If this body weren't mine would I still hate it." - Rachel Brooke Smith
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What is SELF SECURITY love?? Describe what is thrue??
I started crying around 1:14, sooo I'm fine, right? No problem here.
Then you got to "if this body weren't mine, would I still hate it?" and now I'm like. Okay. It's 3pm. Do I have the energy to feel like I'm on an hour-long roller coaster? I'm kind of freaked out.
Pretty Bad At Everything sending you love lovely! Cry, let it out ❤️❤️
"You're not ugly, you're just not your type"
Watch Dr. Jorden Peterson’s talk on why this is so. We need more female under water welders.
Instead of picketing, why not create it? Also, strike! I do not subscribe to those things, I do not buy those magazines, it takes action. Start a no-makeup campaign or a no-filter campaign or a truth campaign. It is a slow build right now and when we don't see traction in the ways we want, we often times abandon our goals. Perseverance is the key to making a true Impact.
I really wanted to hear what these women had to say but that lady's "hmmm" every 5 seconds made me shut it down :/
Stop photo shopping. Stop living in false realities. Media has always been there but it is true that with cable, social media and internet you are overwhelmed with pictures of the physical form. Also most are young pre teen, teen and early twenties before children and hormone shifts. Being healthy and fit nutritiously is what should be promoted in all body shapes, types and forms. We are NOT all built the same so we need to stop comparing, If women would stop buying int fake realities and stop creating it by using photo shop and the like everyone would be better off. Stop trying to people please and look to personal happyness from within and do you. Be the best you you can be and let the rest go.
Just as good as your husband Tom.
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Lisa is Wayyyy better. I didn’t hear one woman cuss ❤️👍🏽
That’s an incorrect theory.
Sparky if the little Rascals.
Becoming cognizant at a certain age is not new and either is weight standards.
When I was little he meant fat. Looking at him , equaled that is fat in an internal way
That has changed because people are much more overweight now than they were then .
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People : have features. A means to an END for Perverts. DECEPTIVE merchants. & customers. Nasty. Fake images.
What a waste of time