My Big Fat Nose | Michelle Bandur | TEDxOmaha
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- Who does not like to get money in the post - but if that $1 is accompanied by a spiteful message; “use it to fix your big fat nose”, what do you do? When that happened to investigative TV journalist and six times Ironman Michelle Bandur, it was a gut punch that took her back to her childhood. She cried a little, then turned around, raised more money and co-founded a junior-tri club. Bringing young girls together from across the community, to learn how to swim, bike, and run, building their own resilience and self-efficacy to face bullies and more. From Michelle, the team, and the all the girls in the tri-club - a message back to that bully “Thank you” Michelle Bandur's award winning career as a television journalist has put her in the path of deadly tornadoes, hurricanes, on Nebraska’s death row & inside the Los Angeles Lakers’ locker room. A native Omahan, she has worked at over 13 television stations. She has also produced a documentary & provides media consulting. She is active in the endurance sports community, regularly competes in triathlons, and has just completed her 6th Ironman competition. She co-founded a Juniors Tri Club - a free program for girls ages 8-14. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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When people tell me I have a big nose, I just tell them they must be jealous of my maximized air intake.
That’s brilliant I want to use that now haha
😂 nice one
Lol this made me laugh ima use this
so much oxygen going to the brain hehehehe
As someone with asthma, same 😂😂😂
Am i the only one who has big nose and still not motivated by this beautiful inspiring speech
I feel u man, but u gotta try
Same asf
You are not the only one.
it's a process, dont worry :) i have a big nose too and it's ok
You're not alone 🥺
I have a big nose too.. i was different from my siblings ..sometimes my relatives and even my family member teases me and said i was adopted..
The same... they call me with horrible names
Same...i know they are Joking but it still hurts
@@rebbysa1525 same
Me too ....
Bangtan's Army sameeeee 🤍
Thank you! This was life changing! I love my nose and my skinny lips! I don’t want to be anything other than me!
Nadine El Nour mashallah you are very pretty! I get teased a lot at school and I'm of Arab heritage too!
You're gorgeous!
@@shaki5146 I wrote this comment 9 months ago and seeing it again just now is so interesting. Infact I think I am very beautiful, and am actually extremely grateful now for my features, because these days women are looking like clones. It’s nice to be set apart from the rest, especially knowing I’m natural.
As for you, it’s crazy that they pick on you for your beautiful features lol, just remember our features weren’t “in” until jim kardashian showed up. So in the near future, we will be the face of beauty :)
@@mariafoteini thank you :) I definitely know and appreciate that now
If you are the person from your pfp than im jelose of you you are so pretty
I hate my nose since I was 15. Only one person told me about my nose, and it was two years ago, I’m 25 soon. I thought I got over my nose, I received a lot of compliments from men and friends that I’m beautiful but then something clicks in my mind and I wang to hide somewhere. I like my appearance but I feel that my nose do not suit me. Whats the worst, guys with small noses like me, and i feel more masculine because i imagine how big my nose is in comparison. I hope to feel beautiful again, I felt beautiful with same nose, i understand that nothing changed but I can’t look at myself in the mirror, why?
why am i feeling the same...
LITERALLY SAME someone said something about my nose last year and i still think about it like every day ☺️
Just get a nose job
🙀
My word, that was so cruel! I was teased relentlessly in school. They would hide around the corner and stick their finger out and bend it while screeching “herronk herreonk!” A guy I was hanging out with when I was 15 told me, “ I really like you but...I couldn’t go out with you because your nose is just too big.” I was so self conscious that every time I walked in to a room and if people were laughing, I just knew that they were laughing at me. I felt like a beast. I have Greek and Scandinavian heritage and inherited my biological fathers large nose which I smashed in to the concrete when I was in fifth grade so not only was it big but also crooked! I obsessed and obsessed about it to the point that my mother took me in for a surgery with an ENT doctor who really messed it up inside which made my breathing worse. Finally at the age of 31, I saved up my tax money and had a septo/rhinoplasty which was partially covered by my insurance because it was such a mess inside. It looks better, is a bit shorter but is still far from a perfect nose. I still have a messed up front angle with one nostril slightly larger than the other and it can still get me down sometimes especially with these damn IPhone reverse cameras! Now I’m nearly 50 and broke and have chronic pain from arthritis and back problems and couldn’t imagine trying to undergo surgery again especially when there’s no guarantee and with my luck, it would look worse so I’m stuck with this nose. We are so unbelievably hard on ourselves and I would never treat another person like I had treated myself in the past. I have a husband that loves me, 3 great kids and my 3rd grandkid on the way and they never seem to care about my nose so I’m gonna try not to care about it as much either. I do stop and smell the roses every chance I get and need to remember to be kind to myself and of course to others and to build people up rather than bulldoze them over with words that shred at our precious self esteem. Thanks for talking about this. I still have to fight the initial red flushes of shame that this brings up in me. You are a remarkable woman!
ma if I think we are all our worst critics. Most men I know tell me they never even noticed my nose. Maybe they just say that but still, there’s such a thing as having a great personality, a special talent or skill that one has and just being a kind, and caring person. You will find love no doubt about it! Just focus on what makes you unique and always work on education yourself on topics that interest you and you will find like minded people who will be happy to share your company! In the meantime, save your money in case you think you really need to make a change but don’t forget to work on your insides in the meantime.
Thank you very much 😢
The bullies are cowards . I had a big sticky out nose until I was 11 when a 16 year old kicked me in the face . I had to have surgery to straighten it up . Now I have a bent nose but I don't care as I don't need to look at it . 61 now and it hasn't been an easy ride . Think mainly due to having a tough childhood has scared me mentally. ❤
currently crying about my nose rn and this is making me feel a little better
Don't cry . The bullies are just a bunch of no real mates cowards . ❤
same
I would hope that bully sees this. It's a horrible society we live in. People hide behind their computers or a piece of paper. You rose above it, congratulations to you. Way to make it a positive! You inspire many, keep doing what you are doing!
The tragedy of world today.. large ,wide noses are not glamorised...noses have become a big burden and cause of insecurity to young boys and girls...this is so disappointing to me..our media,film makers should glamorise big,wide noses so that no one will suffer this type of insecurity depression...
The person who was mean to you was probably insecure himself and so took the time to literally bring other people down to their level
Is it me or does she doesnt have a big nose,she looks normal to
Once you fall in love with who a person is the "Big Nose" never matters.
looks normal
It does look normal
It does she should see mine😫
@@nora1375 and you should see mine
Michelle - I am the same woman you are, I do not have a small nose. I am not considered a beauty and have larger features. Yes I used to be jealous of the pretty, petite featured women in life, but now on social media they get the "You are so beautiful" comments. Social media is so hard for these kids. Long ago I decided that I needed to use my other assets to forge ahead in life. I am highly creative, assertive and have a heart of gold ( all assets worth more than a pretty nose).
Well this week I started my new challenge to lose 40 more lbs. (lost 55 in 2017 and gained a 20 back with my job lay off). This is a stressful time with looking for a job and the possibility that my life style will change greatly. I was an at home (remote) employee. If I am changing one thing I have decided to change it all. New hair, diet, workout and attitude........and darn I will have to get a new job in 2019. Thanks you for your inspiring message, I applied it to my life. I am also here and would be interested and love to help with the girls you mentor. Please reach out to me, I am here to help. God Bless You!!!!!!!
You’re amazing. I have a big nose and this made me feel like it’s okay
Turning meanness into kindness, what a classy lady!
Michelle, I have always thought you were a very pretty woman.
This is me and my sister we were bullied so bad because of our nose so I feel it . We just learn to say we don’t care it’s part of our heritage
I tell people my nose is normal size - it looks bigger because my head is small.
To be honest i have a bump on my nose and a while ago my sister told me my nose is terrible and i should do a surgery.Moreover, this is not the first time she said sth like that made me feel like i am not enough and as good as her.Fortunately just after listening to your speech i changed my mind about myself,🙂I wanna start pursuing my dream
I love you so much for this talk. So so much. I have the same nose, and hearing you own it and love it proudly, made me know that I can too. My daughter has the same nose and I want her to grow to love it too. Not if it’s smaller, not if it’s more straight, just exactly the way it is. The part where you mentioned it being like your fathers was so beautiful. You are such a beautiful person, inside and out and I really needed to hear this video today.
I cried 😢 remembering my lost dad
I hope the bully that sent her this awful letter saw this video.
Absolutely inspirational! Thank you for sharing -- even though I know it wasn't easy.
Mean messages will always hurt, no matter how hard we try to pretend they don't. But it's always so great to hear how others get through it!
- A fellow news lady :)
Absolutely
Girl!! Yes I got the same comments in the 6th grade. Damn, I’m in my 30s now. I’m with you self love and empower others.
My nose is much bigger and i dont care lol
I'd send you $20 disguised as a dozen roses.
You are amazing Michelle!!!!!!! I’m honored to have you as a family member and a good friend!!! Love you!!!!
I don't have a big nose, I have a small face.
Thanks for the support
This is so cool this woman rocks she is beautiful
Beyond the wounds of hurtful words, it's the sorrow that someone you don't even know wants to hurt you, and for what?
Im literally tearing ,u r the best 💜
In college they told me to make a plastic surgery because I had a big roman curvy nose.
After uni when I started to work three coleagues who were ladys flirted with me because they liked my nose because it made me look different.
So yeah... Depend what crowd you are at I suppose.
Character is more important than my nose.
this tedtalk is amazing
Great story Michelle! Thank you for all you do. You are beautiful inside and out. Keep doing meaningful work. You make a difference!
Michelle you are beautiful just the way you are!! 💖
Such a beautiful story!!
🏵🌸💮🌹🌺🌻🌼🌺🏵🌸
This video doesn't have enough veiws!
What an amazing, beautiful woman.
I have a really big nose too. My family teases me about it and I today, I just received a comment on my Tiktok account, saying “lol fix ur nose then talk 😭” and that comment got me honestly. I have always hated my nose, and my mom told me that getting a nose job will result in me having ‘breathing difficulties’. Is this true ?
I've heard of people having breathing problems cause of a nose job
*I'm so insecure*
My nose is similar to hers and i think her nose fits her face
Wow what a power woman!
My Shirt would say," I Triathlon like a Girl". I have a nose too ! I would tell them,why should I change my nose,I am still better looking than you!?
can relate so baddd
WAIT i literally live in omaha nebraska. people from nebraska make it on ted talks??? WHAT???? i didn’t think people knew we existed.
Wow some young ladies said some cruel things about my nose on TikTok I was so hurt I deleted their comments now I’m wishing I would have left them there 😢
They’re probably jealous, you’re beautiful
amazing message, i have a big nose too!
This is awesome!
Your nose is awesome!
.. I hope someday I’ll love my nose again
Freaking awesome!!! Thank you Bandur!!! ❤❤❤
Who has big nose plz cmt
Meee
Every boody should love thier nose 🙏🧡
Once upon a time I was watching tv with my mom , she was staring at my face.
Suddenly she said “ I think nerds have big noses “
I was like whaaat?
Then she said “ you and your uncle have big noses” my uncle is a surgeon btw
Now I hate my face
If your mom isn't one to insult, then she probably doesn't mean it as anything other than an observation. I know countless beautiful people with large noses. I know it sucks to have it pointed out though
Constanza Jaymes 💜💜
flmngo clouds
I just wanna say that you made my day, I really appreciate that
@@mightbeLara dont worry I am a woman with a Big nose and I am still considered pretty, I recomend you yo not analise evrey part of your face individually, but to look at the overall beauty you. Will feel better.
@@carla-2034 thank u 🙏
Your nose ain't big sis
13 . 08 go girl you are beautiful ❤️
Having a big nose means no foggy spectacles or loose mask😁
Her nose isn’t big
U have beautiful nose i'm jealous😭 m my nose is so small almost flattt😭😭
For some reason I thought she’d be Australian
Her nose is actually quite unremarkable imo. If they licked the stamp it has their DNA on it.
A hooked nose like mine is worse. I look like a witch or a male.
💖
Her nose is small and normal. wtf
She have a neatherthal nose which is the native west Eurasian nose
I have the same nose... I want to change it so badly
Sameee do whatever makes u happy
@@open_your_eyes1851 I want rhinoplasty for my nose tip
your big nose allows you to be athletic and strong! some people who get nose jobs end up with breathing problems :(
Big nosed people get teased because they act like it is bad to have a big nose themselves.
ehh not really. sometimes maybe, but you can't make a broad statement like that without sounding like you're victim blaming lol. More like society acts like its bad to have a big nose with its ridiculous standards with the rise of social media etc. You never see many actors/actresses with big noses but a big nose can work or add character if you're a comedian or something.
I like your nose
I think your nose is pretty.
It certainly is.
Thats a huge dark nose aka pear nose
I do have a big nose too,my family used it to tease me,they think it's fun but deep down I'm hurt and it increase my insecurities
Had the same experience in school but then all the girls I dated were interested in guys with big noses 😂