Most of them doit like this let rhe grown kid keep they're money and pay no bills but want the man to let them stay there free smh I understand to help them but at a certain age if they gonna stay home they gotta start helping
While that is true she is also handicapping them financially, what happens if she passes away, then they will have to live that hard knock life, better to wean them off now that to wait for tragedy to strike.
11:51 no dude. Parents do not have to support adult. He was there supporting them. I dont like your assumptions. You dont know. First of alll kids aaare living at home rent free... mistake 1, mom should establish .... hey rent is 350, 100 for utilities. Responsible aaadult
Yes, in less than a year she will lose the $300 for the younger child. She's panicking. Actually, I fee sorry for everyone here. We have people working full time and can't afford living expenses. That isn't the father's fault. We need a stronger economy. The last four years have been hard on everyone.
@@zak2u2 Indeed the US needs a stronger economy. Unfortunately, the US is only just starting to rebound from the atrocious macro-economic policies of the Trump-era.
I'm on the fathers side 100%. The "kid" is 20, working full time and living with mummy rent free. Dad has finished his legal obligation so it's time for junior to pay his own way in life.
Keep carrying him like that and he will fall HARD after his mom and grandma stop paying his bills for him. Brings home 1200/mo and no rent and can't afford anything? Seriously? Claiming older kid pays for all the food when mom is getting 300/mo child support? Yeah, that's obviously total BS. Older kid hasn't been told no enough and expects everyone else to pay his bills while he's perfectly able to pay them. Wasting money on electronics? Games? Drugs??
Sounds like the father is still hanging off grandma’s teet also, WTH is wrong with these guys, we can’t call them men until they step up and handle their own business and should be helping out their mom’s not muching of them
They are adults now, this is just sick, she is in her senior years, should be enjoying her life not supporting her grandchildren as if they were her own children.
@@MariaShaw-w1iwhat most Men love is an asian women who is still adhere to her asian culture not an asian women who follow this western feminism culture.
I think she's upset her ex mil didn't give the money to her & instead was smart enough to go with her granson to pay the bill directly. Smart move grandma. Mom needs to move on & quit trying to extract money from her ex. Be happy grandma is taking care of her grandson.
I think so too. She said “I think I got $600 a month.” About the child support like she didn’t know the exact amount she was getting for years . The money isn’t supposed to be for her. This dad has done what he’s supposed to do to provide for his children.
@@diannevaldez8670I think that the father should have helped pay for the wisdom teeth removal. That he will not is mean . If the son cannot afford to look after his car , then he should sell it .
She is focused on getting every single dollar from her ex-husband to enjoy a happy life, but she doesn’t have any genuine concern for him. The judge did an excellent job protecting the innocent man and his grandmother.
Being a divorced mom with 2 sons 20 and 21, I help them financially and in other ways as much as I am able and find appropriate. They can ask their dad if they want but you will never find me asking their dad on their behalf or find me suing their dad to support adult children. Silliness.
Do they live with you or their Father?? If so...that's enough. I worked from the age of 16 till now (60), and this is the United States. If you live in the US of A, people WORK for a living here, OR They're Government MOOCHERS and get money from them. One or the other.
@@jeffdarnell7942 They have lived 100% with me since the divorce 11 years ago. The older son lives with me, works, and goes to college. The younger has an apartment close to his college campus and also works. They are wonderful young men. They are not quite self-sufficient yet but they will get there.
@@jeffdarnell7942 Not always.. I started at age 12, repairing neighborhood kids bikes, mowing lawns, shoveling sidewalks... and worked my ass off until disability took me out of the workforce. I paid into Social Security Insurance with my blood and sweat for almost 40 years. I was NOT and AM NOT a moocher as you are claiming.
I got child support through the age of 25 years old. They all graduated from college and are productive wonderful adults. I never kept the money for me after a certain time.
a lot.....but not all of the "deadbeat dads" you talk of are decent men that just cant deal with the selfish evil of the mother. most men want to be in their kids lives but get ass-r@ped by family law courts, child support, social services and wicked women like this that treat the kids like a meal ticket and the man like a atm. some women drive the man away so they can get welfare and child support without the "hassle" of giving the child a stable home and the father it needs. i make no excuses for p.o.s men that abandon their kids and responsibilities.....but most of the time the "deadbeat dad" dad thing is just a cope for trashy women on welfare with 3 kids to 3 different men.......all 3 of which she will "raise" into maladjusted, angry criminals because her welfare was more important than fatherhood for her kids.
As a woman I’m on the dad’s side! He has paid his dues as was legally required. too many adult children rely on us as parents to bail them out . Get a job pay your own way.
it takes more than money to pay. He only paid 300 per month while the mother was left with the rest of the cost and i gurantee it took more than 300 per month. Getting by with the bare minimum is ludicrous. However the son works full time he can take care of his own medical and car payments. For the son she still has at home, I say the support order should go up. Child support should be based on income
Hey man at the end the father has done his duty. Child support! He paid it, the son is a grown ass man. I’m on the father’s side. How long are parents supposed to support their grown kids? 30? 40? 50? You tell me mister!
OMG, this ex wife has decided she will take him for what she can get because HIS mother is still bailing him out at 40+ years 😂🤣😂. I bet grandma has been paying child support, all these years 🤪😂🤣😂
I’m on the father’s side. I received child support and when the kids were 18 and out of high school (you have to pay child support if their 18th birthday is before the graduate you still pay it until then). I never asked for a penny for their college and the other stuff. He never paid a cent and I never asked. It wasn’t his or even my responsibility but we want our children to be successful and have a decent life so that’s what parents do if they are financially able.
The entitlement and audacity of this mother. This kid a 20 yo man with a job. She is annoyed not to have the support money coming in for herself, her youngest is about to age out of child support and she was trying to find a way to get the dad to keep paying.
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander... Her attempting to seek financial support for her 20 year old man-child is literally no different than g-ma still paying her grown childs obligations
@nunyabidness8524 yeah, I ignored your first comment on purpose but since you came back 15 min later and said the same thing in different words im going to give you the attention you are clearly begging for ... grandma although stupid is doing it by choice. No one is claiming she has a legal obligation. Grandma is your garden verity enabler. She had the free will to say no when asked to pay and decided on her own not to. The dad isn't being given a choice. This woman drug him in to court and opened a lawsuit against him. She is trying to force him to pay because he exercised his free will and told her no. The father is under no legal obligation and yet the mother is trying to force one because she doesn't like not continuing to receive money from her ex. That's the difference.
@allisonharranmua8193 okay - so, we're basically saying the same thing... only in different words? Thank you for the attention you were so clearly wanting to give. Absolutely LOVE living rent free in your life xoxo kisses forever
At 18 years old, if the son wanted additional support from his father to pay for his car or dental bills -- he should have been the one who asked the father for it, not his mother. The ex-wife is not even able to communicate directly with the father, suggesting a pretty bad relationship between them. If the son doesn't have a good enough relationship with his father to ask for money, then that's on him. Perhaps the mother alienated the children from their children, and he has never been anything but a wallet to them. I have a hard time believing that a "manager" at a fitness center earns $9.98 hr. If that is true - he should work at McDonalds for better wages.
Technically an 18-year-old is not a adult.. U can't drink but u are an adult makes sense. We in this side of the world are adults at 18 for good and bad. Driving. voting, drinking, get a loan...
@@andreiam6932legal drinking age does not determine when one becomes an adult. 18 has always been that threshold. The line became blurred when the ACA was passed forcing parents to keep their children on their insurance until age 26. Ridiculous. Those parents and their parents before them had to pay their own way at 18 these entitles adult children, many with a spouse and children of their own expecting mom and dad to insure them until 26, do they expect their parents to cover their spouse and children too??
My parents said that whenever I got a job that I would pay some rent. I was 16 when I got my first job and I paid some rent and they said I could put a lock on my door if I wanted which I did in a few months time and then I got my own phone too. There's no reason for her to ask for money from her ex as her son is now making $1,200 a month in the last six months. The grandma was smart to go with her grandson when his teeth needed to be pulled because who knows if the bill would of been paid if the grandmother gave the $2,300 check to pay the dentist to the mother.
It’s outrageous that she’s asking for support for a 20 year old who has a full time job. He pays no rent, he should pay his own dental bill. Outrageous. Edit: what’s worse is the grandmother pd the dental bill and the mother never mentioned that! Even more outrageous!
How is it outrageous to expect the FATHER to help out with THEIR kids, even if the kid just reached adulthood. It's normal that the PARENTS help out their kids if needed.
@@JeckyJ he’s 20 years old. NEITHER of his parents should be EXPECTED to cover his 20 year old ass. What’s outrageous is this mother legitimately thinks she has a case and EXPECTS his father to pay his bills - enough so that she brought him to court. Maybe in your world parents help adult children, but not in mine. My mother pulled me out of school halfway through my senior year to get a job so that I could pay her rent. I went back to my guidance counselor, dropped my electives, took just what I needed to graduate, rearranged my classes so I went to school in the morning and worked in the afternoon. The kicker? My father’s parents - my grandparents - bought and paid for the double house we lived in, and then GAVE it to my parents free and clear. They didn’t need my money - the house was paid for - and I was only 17 - still a minor - which is why I didn’t/couldn’t do anything legally. I didn’t know what or how to do anything and my mother was very domineering, so I guess my outlook is different than yours. I put myself through college without a penny from my parents. It’s all about what you’re used to.
lots of teens that are 19 and 20 years old, off them self because they was treated like kids one day and the parents (father) kick their children out of the house and exspect for the kids to pay for college and have a full time job at age 18 and that is just selfish of the lazy parent.
She said her son makes $600 every two weeks. Let’s round the hourly wage to $10 and with 40 hours that is $400. So every two weeks he gets $800. Car repairs could be paid by son because gas is not an expense that’s going to eat up his income.
I’m on the father’s side. The children are now responsible for their well being. Sure it’s ok to help your children but LEGALLY the father has no responsibility to the ex wife once the children turn 18.
...but - HIS mother is doing EXACTLY what his child's mother is trying to do... grown ass man can be bothered to pay for his kids dental work.... mommy has to step in and pay....js.
I graduated at 17, joined the military at 17 on a delayed entry program and was in boot camp a month after turning 18 and only went back home for a visit. I'm over 60 and worked two jobs most of my life. Point is, i survived because i wasn't depending on anyone but myself. It's amazing how quick everyone wants to be treated like an adult until they realize the cost of being an adult. Lol.
My story is very similar to yours. I was working since I turned 16, Joined the Army on DEP. went to basic 3 months after graduating high school. Made the Army my 1st career, then after retiring from these I had a second career. I am now retired for good. I survived, did not depend on anyone but myself, raised a family and so on. I taught my kids to grow up and be adults and to be self sufficient. They are doing pretty good and I have not been asked to help very much (but I will if they asked)
When my son's we're growing up I told each of them they better have a plan when they turned 18. They followed their Dad to become a marine. They are now 30 to 35 yrs old and still serving ❤. My husband is 55 and served 34 yrs. Thank you to everyone in this thread for your service.
Your story sounds very much like mine. I too left home at 17 and joined the military. Even today my wife doesn’t understand why I have no sympathy for our nephews who cannot support themselves in their 30s. I have told her that I did not have a “net” when I was walking on the “tightrope of life”. Failure was not an option. When my parents passed away, the only regret they said they had was that they raised me to be too independent. My first apartment was so cheap and disgusting that I had to roach bomb the place every Wednesday just to keep the bugs away. My rent was 220.00 a month - it was a shithole, but I has taking care of myself. SMH - these kids today - so entitled!!!
The real hero is the dad,..the grandmother is handicapping those grandchildren, setting them up for failure in more ways than one. But hey maybe she is rich and has money to burn and will write them into her will.
The son makes $1,200 a month, lives at home, grandma pays his dental bills and he can't pay his other bills? Either he's blowing his money or mom's lying and a leech. Hmmm...sounds like mom's a greedy leech to me.
So it's ok for the Father to work two jobs but not for the 20 year old Son to look after himself and find a job where he would actually have to work for a decent income?
Oh the son is definitely blowing his money, clearly takes after his mother, probably his father too. Just about everyone knows people like that with a talent for making money disappear. My sister is like that, years ago she was living in a caravan at my parents house not paying any rent at all while working a well paying job at a bank. She is a bit of a nerd, doesn't party, drink or do drugs, had no hobbies aside from reading books, just works and sleeps, that was her life. After a couple of years of that i asked her "you must have saved up a tonne of money by now?" She looked at me confused, "no, nothing".... and she has been like that her whole life,,, i cannot even fathom it personally, but there are PLENTY of people just like her out there in the world.
This does happen. When my parents divorced, mymother was asking for everything to the point the jusge actually told her she was ridiculous. The last item was child support. This, he said, we can work with. Dads lawyer stood up and said your honor, the child in question is here. He looked and i was the only person there. The judge said...what? The lawyer said, the child in question is a fully emancipated adult having been married for a year and is 19 years old. That judge blew a gasket. Needless to say my mother got told off and got nothing. I was so happy.
lazy, though? i don't know. She is taking care of the kids but needs help I mean she works. I think she is frustrated that the father has distanced himself as a father. She sounds more like she's letting the adult kids get away with acting like kids instead of adults that's what needs to change.
Did you watch the whole video??? The ex-husband is a bump. He lives in her house, staying on her couch while she's supporting him to get back on his feet. She's taking care of the ex-husband, too. Hate is evil and ugly.
@@Lauren88O8I wouldn’t call him a bum since he fully paid his child support the whole time and he works 2 jobs now .That was around end of Covid being taken seriously.idk how you feel comfortable calling some his age working two jobs a bum when most people can barley handle one.All the other men that avoid even paying a cent to support
Each couples divorce and support payments are different. The details are worked out during the proceedings. However, if a 20 year old is working full time and living at home rent-free, he needs to pay his own bills. He should have applied for health insurance through the ACA. It is income based, so there is no reason for him to be uninsured.
No,its called parental love,it didn't end with divorce or with the age of 18.Please understand that though the law doesn't support it,she has every reason to request for help.
A lot of times here in Australia parents are expected to continue to support their kids up until 21 (or sometimes even 25) if they are continuing in full-time study. Obviously this 20 year old is working and his father has no legal responsibility for his son, but most parents don't wipe their hands completely of their children just because they turn 18. Thank goodness for Grandma.
11:49 YOU DO NOT KNOW THIS! She may be having to go through the grandmother because her husband has been trying to keep his peace and get away from her. How can you say he was doing the bare minimum when there is no issue with the younger child he continues to take care of? You're making huge assumptions.
As a father, if your son needs to repair his car, and you are able to do so, you don't have to go to court to help him out unless he is disrespectful .
Smh...The hubris and self entitlement so many people exhibit these days is disturbing...The lack of common decency and logical thought are all but gone.
Although the father is not legally obligated to pay anything after 18, they are clearly struggling. The kid is not getting any college education and will not be able to get any really good job. All the people who kick their children out at 18 in this economy should remember, that the child is not obliged to look after you either when you are 70.
parents need to stop the mentality it’s their obligation to pay for college. college is overrated today the fact that the govt is now paying for college because those people can’t pay for the college they signed up for tells you college is worthless in todays job market
He can sign up for the airfare, make more money than $9.00/hr, get trained in a skill for free, get room and board free, travel overseas. Sound like the eldest son has no determination to be better.
How can you expect the ex to pay for something that was already paid for by the grandmother....have some respect for her....NOW if i was the Grandma...i wouldn't pay for anything
I agree with your suggestion of both parties. The father sounds like he needs to be more present in his son's lives with love and support and may be some financial help if the father can. The grandmother, being their was to the plantiffs surprise and has fortunately $$ helped her grandson. Sounds like the mother wanted the financial support to come from the father only seems vindictive on the ex-wife's part. The father did complete his child support responsibility and this case definitely wasted Judge Judy's time. Hopefully the son will get a better paying job to be capable of supporting himself.
I know that you, the poster, feel that the father is removed from the children's lives for some reason, but where did you get that from? There is no evidence of that. The son is not sitting on the mother's side helping her with this lawsuit. Also, the father works two jobs. Why should he work two jobs and then hand it over to support a grown man. The 20 year old needs to work two jobs and pay his own bills. The mother could also work two jobs if she feels that her son should spend his money however he wants, and the father should keep paying for the son. What are these grown "children" going to do when the parents are no longer around. We have a large amount of adults in that age group who keep stating how hard it is to support themselves. Older people are working way past retirement age in order to take care of these adults. The 20 year old needs to get some self-respect, get a second job, and do what ever he needs to take the burden off of his mother and grandmother. It is not the father's job.
Absolutely agree. And to add to that I will say she's coddling those boys & might be one of those women who has hit the wall, is lonely & her boys are all she has, therefore, she'd rather keep them in-house as long as possible than to toughen them up to demand they be financially responsible for themselves. Our society needs to talk more about this issue of modern lonely single mom's who latch on to their son's as a replacement for the missing man in their lives...because it seems to be a real thing that's spreading like a wildfire. For all we know the kids played a big part in their divorce meaning she preferred to be a newage "gentle parent" & Dad being a man challenged that to be a traditional Father who guides his sons with tough love to be strong & prepared to stand on their own. In otherwords, the kind of Dad who tells his sons: NO, if you want or need that you're old enough to figure out how to get that yourself because you won't keep your paycheck to yourself while spending my money too.
The father does seem checked out. The son is only 20 yrs old and has not dental issue. Why would the dad not pay for this dental work. 20 yrs is an adult in years but he is still really a kid trying to figure it out. He has yet to establish himself. Do better dad.
@@imhereforitall9218 see that's what's wrong with society they feel they can count other folks cash. The dad says he's working 2 or 3 jobs - you think he would be working that much & that hard if his bank account was padded? Plus dad is still paying child support for the other son...and Dad's mom paid for his teeth did you miss that part? You missed the part where grandma already paid on grandson's teeth yet mom is still here in court demanding what was already paid. You people are weird - you think money & privilege is something that should just be given freely without question where a mom or a kid is concerned. Step in to the real world & accept that many times in life a kid let alone an adult kid will be told NO if/when they need help from a parent - that's REALITY. You expect Dad to choose between buying his own groceries or paying his own light or gas bill for a working employed son who is living rent free in mommy's house. That's just sad. No wonder working men die sooner than women because they are seen as work horse ATM's not human beings.
@@imhereforitall9218you refuse to see why father checked out. There is an ex-wife who wants more money for some young men we have sufficient money to take care of themselves. What kind of father will want to check out?? The leeching was simply too much I guess.. I am also permitted to guess since we don't know the reasons for checking out😅😅😅😅
The son needs to get a second job. The father is in the right. As long as they continue to support the young man, He'll never learn to solve his own problems.
I'm with the father it's not really relevant if hes in his sons lives or not that's as you said going down a different rabbit hole. Fact is one is an adult and other maybe by now is an adult or close to it and he has no obligation to pay for his life and theirs it's their job to get jobs and pay their way in life that is hat being an adult is! But fact is the biggest part of the medical bill was paid by the grandmother she the ex seems to not have paid that at all meaning all she might be out is some medication and such (yes I know some can be expensive) but most meds I have ever been on following an extraction aren't all that expensive. As for the car the son can take the bus or walk depending on distance to work until he can afford the repair. So the ex I feel was trying to work the system and it backfired on her. The husband has no obligation to pay his adult sons way in life. If he wants to help out fine but there is no obligation.
Her ex husband paid the support for his children until they were of age to go out on their own and be independant, the exhusbands mother paid for the dentist bill and has given her 100,000 dollars to help with her grand children over the years, the wife is very lucky she had all this support because many men don't pay their child support at all leaving wives and children destitute and on the street, the boys are adults now so they need to be independant and get full time work and pay for their own bills, I feel Judge Judy made the right decision in this case and she dismissed the case
@@joanalmarghani661NO he still pays child support for the 17yo .. even at today's prices it's enough.. I went to school and worked pt on weekends at 15 till I was out of high school.. If 17 yo needs pin money he can do the same
It's fact that the younger generation males is very weak, Mama's boys, limp dicks. Kids are not moving out of the house because they know mama will support them. Sad news when Mama passes away those kids are going to be severely lost, and living in a poor house
She wasn't soft on the father. The ex wife didn't have a contract just because he doesnt pay or help his adult son thats not a crime. If grandma wants to help thats on her.
that probably is the best grandmother: kind, loving and willing to sacrifice her own wealth and wellbeing for her grandchild and the security of the grandchild's mother despite no longer being obligated to the mother. Seriously, treasure that Mrs Casey
If the ex husband wants, he is not obligated, to help his son with some money, he can give the money directly to him or the dentist, What the ex wife has to do with it?
So a grown adult, with a full time job, who lives rent free, should be given money from his dad to pay his bills? What a load of crap! My 42 year old brother lives with our dad. He has a full time job. Should my dad still be financially responsible for him still? Because it's the same thing. I left home at 16. I'm now 52. I stopped being financially dependant on my parents when I left home. The reason? I had a full time job! This man has absolutely no obligation to financially support a grown man! Stop being ridiculous! SMFH
I knew a man who had two children that he never paid support on will the state of California caught up with him the kids were in their thirties and guess what he had to pay every penny the state gave his ex-wife to support those kids
While I lived with my parents rent free, I bought food and extras ie toilet paper, paper towels, paper plates etc. I had to have a tooth pulled at 18 and I paid for that. I paid my own gas, insurance, repairs to the car. If I had to go to urgent care I paid.
The dad doesn’t have to pay for the older boy after 18. Hr paid his dues. The mom is carrying the boy. He is 20 so you go to school or work. I could see if the kid was in college but he isn’t. He works so he is lucky anyone is helping him with his bills. The mom has a nerve. She took on that responsibility to carry her adult son ..
This woman should be ashamed of herself !!! And what the hell is the 20 year old who works full time, lives at home rent free DOING WITH HIS MONEY ???? To top it off, the grandmother has been helping since the divorce ????????????????
Once again, parents who have not taught their "child" to grow up and pay his own bills. What this 20 year old child doesn't realize is that grandma will not be around forever and he won't be able to handle his own bills. Way to go mom and dad, you raised a big baby!
The husband really didn't say much. For all we know he might help his sons with other things. The whole thing comes down to he fulfilled his obligations of child support when his sons were minors. When they turned 18 his legal obligation stopped. His son has a job and grandma helped him with his bills. The mother just doesn't want to help her son.
Parents don’t owe their adult children support unless the parents have agreed to help them in some way, but they certainly do NOT owe them. This guy doesn’t pay for a place to live, doubtful that he pays for food unless he goes out with friends and he is certainly should pay for his own car expenses. He makes $1,600 per month and probably brings home $1,200 per month. He is old enough to learn to save money so that he can afford to pay for the inevitable cost of being an adult who drives an automobile and engages in adult life.
I had a son, (who passed away a few months ago) he was on the autism spectrum. Even his child support ended at 18. At that point, we were working with social workers and trying to figure out how to get him disability support services. He worked for a grocery store getting carts and other tasks. If he had been living at home and was completely disabled, there might have been some kind of order for support possible, but I believe that had that been our situation, I would have continued paying support for his needs.
I had that...have a son that used my 529 funds I saved for him to sign up for college and then cancel his classes to receive the refunded money....spent the money on bad things supported by the mother, was forced to pay support through his "college" years...also funded his medical...(even though they treated me like hell...I felt he needed the medical) I don't believe that the judicial system is fair, that fathers are hammered to the point of not caring...my friend sent me a meme....1) Forget the past, you can't change it. 2) Forget the present, I didn't get you one...
$9.88/hr for a **manager** at any business is highly unlikely. I googled "manager at a fitness center in America, hourly rate" One of the top replies was. "The average gym manager salary in the USA is $42,943 per year or $20.65 per hour." Isn't the minimum wage in the US ~ 15 / Hr?
What in the world i just watched!!!! She has some nerve coming to court asking for child support for a grown man and on top of that has all that help from his mom. She is so ungrateful, THE CHILD HAS TO MAN UP
She wants money from everyone except her `adult` son.
THIS!!
Perfectly said
Most of them doit like this let rhe grown kid keep they're money and pay no bills but want the man to let them stay there free smh I understand to help them but at a certain age if they gonna stay home they gotta start helping
Kid is 21 yrs old and working full time, making $9/hr... managing a fitness center... Kid needs to get 2 jobs or go flip burgers.
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That Grandmother has a big heart and is a great woman looking out for her grandchild, i hope she is taking good care of her self. a Great Lady.
yea , because without her those 3 parasites will lose their host
While that is true she is also handicapping them financially, what happens if she passes away, then they will have to live that hard knock life, better to wean them off now that to wait for tragedy to strike.
@@JohnnyDiamondHands2077nah life outside of prison is kind of like this, grandmas usually love their grandchildren.
11:51 no dude. Parents do not have to support adult. He was there supporting them.
I dont like your assumptions. You dont know. First of alll kids aaare living at home rent free... mistake 1, mom should establish .... hey rent is 350, 100 for utilities. Responsible aaadult
She's getting ready to lose all child support and she knows it
She already lost all child support two yrs ago
@@yolanda-ir4nf No she still has a 17 year old. That's what the OP was referring to.
Yes, in less than a year she will lose the $300 for the younger child. She's panicking. Actually, I fee sorry for everyone here. We have people working full time and can't afford living expenses. That isn't the father's fault. We need a stronger economy. The last four years have been hard on everyone.
Child support stops at age eighteen.
@@zak2u2 Indeed the US needs a stronger economy. Unfortunately, the US is only just starting to rebound from the atrocious macro-economic policies of the Trump-era.
In the UK, the judges will reject all claims from the mother for child maintenance, when the child is 18. Because it is adult.
Zero chance
Child maintenance can continue until age 20 in the uk if they are still in education or training and living in the family home
I'm on the fathers side 100%. The "kid" is 20, working full time and living with mummy rent free. Dad has finished his legal obligation so it's time for junior to pay his own way in life.
Keep carrying him like that and he will fall HARD after his mom and grandma stop paying his bills for him. Brings home 1200/mo and no rent and can't afford anything? Seriously? Claiming older kid pays for all the food when mom is getting 300/mo child support? Yeah, that's obviously total BS. Older kid hasn't been told no enough and expects everyone else to pay his bills while he's perfectly able to pay them. Wasting money on electronics? Games? Drugs??
Sounds like the father is still hanging off grandma’s teet also, WTH is wrong with these guys, we can’t call them men until they step up and handle their own business and should be helping out their mom’s not muching of them
When you get old or if you get old, you will give a sh!t then !
Facts
Child support a money making scheme!
Mrs Casey, your love for your grandchildren is commendable and outstanding!!!! Thank you!
They are adults now, this is just sick, she is in her senior years, should be enjoying her life not supporting her grandchildren as if they were her own children.
Pure greed, bitterness, and full of audacity… I’m truly appalled…
She needs him back and now that he is gone, she is bitter!
WHY ARE YOU USING Judy Judy's content? She hates people posting her content!
but these men say asian women are perfect , lol
@@MariaShaw-w1iwhat most Men love is an asian women who is still adhere to her asian culture not an asian women who follow this western feminism culture.
What a twist! I am appalled as well. Smh 🤦
What a great grandma and mom in law. Sweet sweet lady.
I think she's upset her ex mil didn't give the money to her & instead was smart enough to go with her granson to pay the bill directly. Smart move grandma.
Mom needs to move on & quit trying to extract money from her ex. Be happy grandma is taking care of her grandson.
I thought the same thing. Well there went her Bingo money
I think so too. She said “I think I got $600 a month.” About the child support like she didn’t know the exact amount she was getting for years . The money isn’t supposed to be for her. This dad has done what he’s supposed to do to provide for his children.
She doesn't get it. That BM divorced you and those kids. Just move on.
I love this black man very quiet man❤❤
And mature
This mother is disilusional. At 18, your son became an adult. Leave the father alone.
She is a parent,she expects the father to continue being a parent,its not enforceable in law but its understandable,love is not litigated.
Plus let your son grow up. You really aren't helping him.
This is normal for divorced women
I was sympathetic with the father till his mother made her last comment supporting a ND sympathizing with the mother which give lot of context.
@@diannevaldez8670I think that the father should have helped pay for the wisdom teeth removal. That he will not is mean . If the son cannot afford to look after his car , then he should sell it .
She is focused on getting every single dollar from her ex-husband to enjoy a happy life, but she doesn’t have any genuine concern for him. The judge did an excellent job protecting the innocent man and his grandmother.
Exactly, trying to drain him until he is dead, what a shame.
Being a divorced mom with 2 sons 20 and 21, I help them financially and in other ways as much as I am able and find appropriate. They can ask their dad if they want but you will never find me asking their dad on their behalf or find me suing their dad to support adult children. Silliness.
Do they live with you or their Father?? If so...that's enough. I worked from the age of 16 till now (60), and this is the United States. If you live in the US of A, people WORK for a living here, OR They're Government MOOCHERS and get money from them. One or the other.
Anything you do for a child who is over 18 is a GIFT you decided to give them.
@@jeffdarnell7942 They have lived 100% with me since the divorce 11 years ago. The older son lives with me, works, and goes to college. The younger has an apartment close to his college campus and also works. They are wonderful young men. They are not quite self-sufficient yet but they will get there.
@@jeffdarnell7942 Not always.. I started at age 12, repairing neighborhood kids bikes, mowing lawns, shoveling sidewalks... and worked my ass off until disability took me out of the workforce. I paid into Social Security Insurance with my blood and sweat for almost 40 years. I was NOT and AM NOT a moocher as you are claiming.
I got child support through the age of 25 years old. They all graduated from college and are productive wonderful adults.
I never kept the money for me after a certain time.
Its not moral court. The father took care of his obligations. Thats all the law should ask for.
He's 18 it's his responsibility to pay his bills not his parents.
If he goes to College, she can still get child support
Also if the child is special needs
You can pay child support until they are 26, depending on your situation.
20 year old man, definitely should be supporting himself.... a 40 year old father - still having mommy pay his bills....inexcusable.
@@nunyabidness8524it wasn’t his bill!
This judge takes no BS from anyone! 👍
Be glad the father paid support for all of the time he was supposed to. He was not & is not a deadbeat dad like a lot are.
Even a paying father is called a Deadbeat because society just wants someone to blame.
There are just as many mother deadbeats if not more.
a lot.....but not all of the "deadbeat dads" you talk of are decent men that just cant deal with the selfish evil of the mother. most men want to be in their kids lives but get ass-r@ped by family law courts, child support, social services and wicked women like this that treat the kids like a meal ticket and the man like a atm. some women drive the man away so they can get welfare and child support without the "hassle" of giving the child a stable home and the father it needs.
i make no excuses for p.o.s men that abandon their kids and responsibilities.....but most of the time the "deadbeat dad" dad thing is just a cope for trashy women on welfare with 3 kids to 3 different men.......all 3 of which she will "raise" into maladjusted, angry criminals because her welfare was more important than fatherhood for her kids.
Most dads are not deadbeat as the media would have us believe.
Agreed
As a woman I’m on the dad’s side! He has paid his dues as was legally required. too many adult children rely on us as parents to bail them out . Get a job pay your own way.
it takes more than money to pay. He only paid 300 per month while the mother was left with the rest of the cost and i gurantee it took more than 300 per month. Getting by with the bare minimum is ludicrous. However the son works full time he can take care of his own medical and car payments. For the son she still has at home, I say the support order should go up. Child support should be based on income
@@ShannonT_USMC Child support is largely based on income...
Hey man at the end the father has done his duty. Child support! He paid it, the son is a grown ass man. I’m on the father’s side. How long are parents supposed to support their grown kids? 30? 40? 50? You tell me mister!
I mean - clearly his mother is okay with supporting her 40+ year old sons financial responsibilities... does he not count as 'grown'?
@@nunyabidness8524NO THATS MIL CHOICE.. Father has paid child support 10 years
OMG, this ex wife has decided she will take him for what she can get because HIS mother is still bailing him out at 40+ years 😂🤣😂. I bet grandma has been paying child support, all these years 🤪😂🤣😂
As far as having met his legal obligations, I agree with you. However, I kept assisting my two kids way longer than 18.
Abt time fathers provide, lazy something
Just wow. The grandmother paid for the surgery and still helping her!!
I fully understand the ex-husband. I would avoid her at all costs.
I’m on the father’s side. I received child support and when the kids were 18 and out of high school (you have to pay child support if their 18th birthday is before the graduate you still pay it until then). I never asked for a penny for their college and the other stuff. He never paid a cent and I never asked. It wasn’t his or even my responsibility but we want our children to be successful and have a decent life so that’s what parents do if they are financially able.
The entitlement and audacity of this mother. This kid a 20 yo man with a job. She is annoyed not to have the support money coming in for herself, her youngest is about to age out of child support and she was trying to find a way to get the dad to keep paying.
How is what she's doing any different than this co defendant - adult woman supporting her grown child?
Whats good for the goose is good for the gander... Her attempting to seek financial support for her 20 year old man-child is literally no different than g-ma still paying her grown childs obligations
@nunyabidness8524 yeah, I ignored your first comment on purpose but since you came back 15 min later and said the same thing in different words im going to give you the attention you are clearly begging for ... grandma although stupid is doing it by choice. No one is claiming she has a legal obligation. Grandma is your garden verity enabler. She had the free will to say no when asked to pay and decided on her own not to. The dad isn't being given a choice. This woman drug him in to court and opened a lawsuit against him. She is trying to force him to pay because he exercised his free will and told her no. The father is under no legal obligation and yet the mother is trying to force one because she doesn't like not continuing to receive money from her ex. That's the difference.
If the grandmother is there for the father, why would he need to stay at his ex's house?
@allisonharranmua8193 okay - so, we're basically saying the same thing... only in different words? Thank you for the attention you were so clearly wanting to give. Absolutely LOVE living rent free in your life xoxo kisses forever
At 18 years old, if the son wanted additional support from his father to pay for his car or dental bills -- he should have been the one who asked the father for it, not his mother. The ex-wife is not even able to communicate directly with the father, suggesting a pretty bad relationship between them. If the son doesn't have a good enough relationship with his father to ask for money, then that's on him. Perhaps the mother alienated the children from their children, and he has never been anything but a wallet to them. I have a hard time believing that a "manager" at a fitness center earns $9.98 hr. If that is true - he should work at McDonalds for better wages.
Being a "manager" probably just means he's a shift lead and keyholder, and the one who gets to deal with the Karens.
Exactly
Parents Need To Raise Their Children To Be Independent Adults!!! They will never work hard to be independent if the parents keep giving them money!!!
I recon she told him he didn’t have to pay bills
The son I mean
Which son? The 20 year old - or the 40 year old man whose mom is still paying his bills? @@rosemaryjones5550
Technically an 18-year-old is not a adult.. U can't drink but u are an adult makes sense. We in this side of the world are adults at 18 for good and bad. Driving. voting, drinking, get a loan...
@@andreiam6932legal drinking age does not determine when one becomes an adult. 18 has always been that threshold. The line became blurred when the ACA was passed forcing parents to keep their children on their insurance until age 26.
Ridiculous. Those parents and their parents before them had to pay their own way at 18 these entitles adult children, many with a spouse and children of their own expecting mom and dad to insure them until 26, do they expect their parents to cover their spouse and children too??
My parents said that whenever I got a job that I would pay some rent. I was 16 when I got my first job and I paid some rent and they said I could put a lock on my door if I wanted which I did in a few months time and then I got my own phone too. There's no reason for her to ask for money from her ex as her son is now making $1,200 a month in the last six
months. The grandma was smart to go with her grandson when his teeth needed to be pulled because who knows if the bill would of been paid if the grandmother gave the $2,300 check to pay the dentist to the mother.
It’s outrageous that she’s asking for support for a 20 year old who has a full time job. He pays no rent, he should pay his own dental bill. Outrageous.
Edit: what’s worse is the grandmother pd the dental bill and the mother never mentioned that! Even more outrageous!
That’s just shows what a scoundrel this mother is. If indeed the grandmother paid the dental bill already.
How is it outrageous to expect the FATHER to help out with THEIR kids, even if the kid just reached adulthood. It's normal that the PARENTS help out their kids if needed.
@@JeckyJ he’s 20 years old. NEITHER of his parents should be EXPECTED to cover his 20 year old ass. What’s outrageous is this mother legitimately thinks she has a case and EXPECTS his father to pay his bills - enough so that she brought him to court.
Maybe in your world parents help adult children, but not in mine. My mother pulled me out of school halfway through my senior year to get a job so that I could pay her rent. I went back to my guidance counselor, dropped my electives, took just what I needed to graduate, rearranged my classes so I went to school in the morning and worked in the afternoon. The kicker? My father’s parents - my grandparents - bought and paid for the double house we lived in, and then GAVE it to my parents free and clear. They didn’t need my money - the house was paid for - and I was only 17 - still a minor - which is why I didn’t/couldn’t do anything legally. I didn’t know what or how to do anything and my mother was very domineering, so I guess my outlook is different than yours. I put myself through college without a penny from my parents. It’s all about what you’re used to.
The son needs to get a second job to pay his own bills.
lots of teens that are 19 and 20 years old, off them self because they was treated like kids one day and the parents (father) kick their children out of the house and exspect for the kids to pay for college and have a full time job at age 18 and that is just selfish of the lazy parent.
@@EricaEarthkids not going to college, got a full time paycheck, where's his money going?? Doubt he's buying groceries with all his pay.🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@EricaEarthhe WAS going to school.. he Lives with his mom does not pay rent.. just a few groceries.. where is he spending his money?
United States people needing to have 2 jobs just to get by is baffling. Something is seriously wrong with the U.S.
She said her son makes $600 every two weeks. Let’s round the hourly wage to $10 and with 40 hours that is $400. So every two weeks he gets $800. Car repairs could be paid by son because gas is not an expense that’s going to eat up his income.
That mothers a disgrace, shameful behaviour. 😱
I’m on the father’s side. The children are now responsible for their well being. Sure it’s ok to help your children but LEGALLY the father has no responsibility to the ex wife once the children turn 18.
110% the she was not soft on the dad the mother needs to wake up
...but - HIS mother is doing EXACTLY what his child's mother is trying to do... grown ass man can be bothered to pay for his kids dental work.... mommy has to step in and pay....js.
Dad's. Side
@@nunyabidness8524 If the grandma wants to take pity on grown bums then that's her decision.
Yeah other than a adult child being disabled or there being back payments due. Child support isn't owed when a child turns 18.
If he needs help, he can ask his dad!!! Mama, back off & let him be an adult
But I bet she completely alienated the kids against their father.
I graduated at 17, joined the military at 17 on a delayed entry program and was in boot camp a month after turning 18 and only went back home for a visit. I'm over 60 and worked two jobs most of my life. Point is, i survived because i wasn't depending on anyone but myself. It's amazing how quick everyone wants to be treated like an adult until they realize the cost of being an adult. Lol.
Excellent !
My story is very similar to yours. I was working since I turned 16, Joined the Army on DEP. went to basic 3 months after graduating high school. Made the Army my 1st career, then after retiring from these I had a second career. I am now retired for good. I survived, did not depend on anyone but myself, raised a family and so on. I taught my kids to grow up and be adults and to be self sufficient. They are doing pretty good and I have not been asked to help very much (but I will if they asked)
Same same except,
I turned 18 while in the Navy and I am 62.
When my son's we're growing up I told each of them they better have a plan when they turned 18. They followed their Dad to become a marine. They are now 30 to 35 yrs old and still serving ❤. My husband is 55 and served 34 yrs. Thank you to everyone in this thread for your service.
Your story sounds very much like mine. I too left home at 17 and joined the military. Even today my wife doesn’t understand why I have no sympathy for our nephews who cannot support themselves in their 30s. I have told her that I did not have a “net” when I was walking on the “tightrope of life”. Failure was not an option. When my parents passed away, the only regret they said they had was that they raised me to be too independent. My first apartment was so cheap and disgusting that I had to roach bomb the place every Wednesday just to keep the bugs away. My rent was 220.00 a month - it was a shithole, but I has taking care of myself. SMH - these kids today - so entitled!!!
The real hero here is the dudes mom (childs grandmother)
The real hero is the dad,..the grandmother is handicapping those grandchildren, setting them up for failure in more ways than one. But hey maybe she is rich and has money to burn and will write them into her will.
The son makes $1,200 a month, lives at home, grandma pays his dental bills and he can't pay his other bills? Either he's blowing his money or mom's lying and a leech. Hmmm...sounds like mom's a greedy leech to me.
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So it's ok for the Father to work two jobs but not for the 20 year old Son to look after himself and find a job where he would actually have to work for a decent income?
Oh the son is definitely blowing his money, clearly takes after his mother, probably his father too.
Just about everyone knows people like that with a talent for making money disappear. My sister is like that, years ago she was living in a caravan at my parents house not paying any rent at all while working a well paying job at a bank. She is a bit of a nerd, doesn't party, drink or do drugs, had no hobbies aside from reading books, just works and sleeps, that was her life. After a couple of years of that i asked her "you must have saved up a tonne of money by now?" She looked at me confused, "no, nothing".... and she has been like that her whole life,,, i cannot even fathom it personally, but there are PLENTY of people just like her out there in the world.
Sounds like the wife still holds a grudge against her ex-husband, who doesn't seem all there. Thank God for his mom.
Your sister tells lies...
Can’t you carry your children on your insurance until they’re 26 years old? It would’ve been easier for the son to ask his father directly for help.
Oh my world, what a piece of work.
She probably thought that she was going to win. This judge is and has always been an honest judge.
When I was 11 years old I got a part time job after school and told mum I no longer needed her pocket money every week. 😄
He's a grown man!!
Son needs to stand up and pay his own bills etc mine do. And the poor grandma needs to close her cashpoint and stop giving them money. Very wrong.
This does happen. When my parents divorced, mymother was asking for everything to the point the jusge actually told her she was ridiculous. The last item was child support. This, he said, we can work with. Dads lawyer stood up and said your honor, the child in question is here. He looked and i was the only person there. The judge said...what? The lawyer said, the child in question is a fully emancipated adult having been married for a year and is 19 years old. That judge blew a gasket. Needless to say my mother got told off and got nothing. I was so happy.
Ungrateful and Lazy ex Wife wants More Money!
lazy, though? i don't know. She is taking care of the kids but needs help I mean she works. I think she is frustrated that the father has distanced himself as a father. She sounds more like she's letting the adult kids get away with acting like kids instead of adults that's what needs to change.
The son can be a 😢desd beat, he needs to grow up.@@phDST1913
Did you watch the whole video??? The ex-husband is a bump. He lives in her house, staying on her couch while she's supporting him to get back on his feet. She's taking care of the ex-husband, too.
Hate is evil and ugly.
@@Lauren88O8I wouldn’t call him a bum since he fully paid his child support the whole time and he works 2 jobs now .That was around end of Covid being taken seriously.idk how you feel comfortable calling some his age working two jobs a bum when most people can barley handle one.All the other men that avoid even paying a cent to support
She's living in the house he brought and paid for.. typical greedy azz woman
I love Judge Judy !! How dare she try to sue him when his mother paid 😮. The nerve of her. Just greedy😮
Each couples divorce and support payments are different. The details are worked out during the proceedings.
However, if a 20 year old is working full time and living at home rent-free, he needs to pay his own bills. He should have applied for health insurance through the ACA. It is income based, so there is no reason for him to be uninsured.
That man child is being enabled to do nothing but blame his parents for his inability to support himself 🙄
Came here to ask why he didn’t have his own policy through obamacare.
Why?? Neither one of you is obligated to pay these bills. Your son's an adult. He should start acting like one.
Typical ex-wife and mother, using the children to extort control (disguised as money) over the ex-husband.
No,its called parental love,it didn't end with divorce or with the age of 18.Please understand that though the law doesn't support it,she has every reason to request for help.
@@Samali-l53 wrong action code. It's about control. Ex-wives can't help themselves.....
@@Samali-l53This stupid woman has no reason to ask for help. Shes been extorting money out of him for 18 years.
@@chucktannehill1921this isn't an ex-wife issue, this is an entitled greedy person issue. Not all ex-wives are like this.
......typical woman
A lot of times here in Australia parents are expected to continue to support their kids up until 21 (or sometimes even 25) if they are continuing in full-time study. Obviously this 20 year old is working and his father has no legal responsibility for his son, but most parents don't wipe their hands completely of their children just because they turn 18. Thank goodness for Grandma.
11:49 YOU DO NOT KNOW THIS! She may be having to go through the grandmother because her husband has been trying to keep his peace and get away from her. How can you say he was doing the bare minimum when there is no issue with the younger child he continues to take care of? You're making huge assumptions.
This right here. The kids may not have wanted a relationship with their father. Lots of people are no contact for whatever their personal reasons are.
Stupid assumptions to.
As a father, if your son needs to repair his car, and you are able to do so, you don't have to go to court to help him out unless he is disrespectful .
It's not dads job to support a adult kid
Smh...The hubris and self entitlement so many people exhibit these days is disturbing...The lack of common decency and logical thought are all but gone.
Her son should be earning his own money she is sadly delusional if she thinks he should pay her bills
Shes mad because she knows in less than a year shes losing all support.
This, if that wasn’t the case she would have did it when the oldest was 18. Yet she waits till the 17 year old is about to age out.
Although the father is not legally obligated to pay anything after 18, they are clearly struggling. The kid is not getting any college education and will not be able to get any really good job. All the people who kick their children out at 18 in this economy should remember, that the child is not obliged to look after you either when you are 70.
These kids will still demand support from their 70 year old parents
parents need to stop the mentality it’s their obligation to pay for college. college is overrated today the fact that the govt is now paying for college because those people can’t pay for the college they signed up for tells you college is worthless in todays job market
That's the sons problem!!!
He can sign up for the airfare, make more money than $9.00/hr, get trained in a skill for free, get room and board free, travel overseas. Sound like the eldest son has no determination to be better.
He can still go to school that's on him
How can you expect the ex to pay for something that was already paid for by the grandmother....have some respect for her....NOW if i was the Grandma...i wouldn't pay for anything
Whaaaattt?? Ex husband's mother paid for the surgery and she's suing for the prescription??? Am I being punked?
I think the father fulfilled his obligation and you can’t force anyone to love and support 13:27 their adult children!
I agree with your suggestion of both parties. The father sounds like he needs to be more present in his son's lives with love and support and may be some financial help if the father can. The grandmother, being their was to the plantiffs surprise and has fortunately $$ helped her grandson. Sounds like the mother wanted the financial support to come from the father only seems vindictive on the ex-wife's part. The father did complete his child support responsibility and this case definitely wasted Judge Judy's time. Hopefully the son will get a better paying job to be capable of supporting himself.
I know that you, the poster, feel that the father is removed from the children's lives for some reason, but where did you get that from? There is no evidence of that. The son is not sitting on the mother's side helping her with this lawsuit. Also, the father works two jobs. Why should he work two jobs and then hand it over to support a grown man. The 20 year old needs to work two jobs and pay his own bills. The mother could also work two jobs if she feels that her son should spend his money however he wants, and the father should keep paying for the son. What are these grown "children" going to do when the parents are no longer around. We have a large amount of adults in that age group who keep stating how hard it is to support themselves. Older people are working way past retirement age in order to take care of these adults. The 20 year old needs to get some self-respect, get a second job, and do what ever he needs to take the burden off of his mother and grandmother. It is not the father's job.
Absolutely agree. And to add to that I will say she's coddling those boys & might be one of those women who has hit the wall, is lonely & her boys are all she has, therefore, she'd rather keep them in-house as long as possible than to toughen them up to demand they be financially responsible for themselves. Our society needs to talk more about this issue of modern lonely single mom's who latch on to their son's as a replacement for the missing man in their lives...because it seems to be a real thing that's spreading like a wildfire. For all we know the kids played a big part in their divorce meaning she preferred to be a newage "gentle parent" & Dad being a man challenged that to be a traditional Father who guides his sons with tough love to be strong & prepared to stand on their own. In otherwords, the kind of Dad who tells his sons: NO, if you want or need that you're old enough to figure out how to get that yourself because you won't keep your paycheck to yourself while spending my money too.
The father does seem checked out. The son is only 20 yrs old and has not dental issue. Why would the dad not pay for this dental work. 20 yrs is an adult in years but he is still really a kid trying to figure it out. He has yet to establish himself. Do better dad.
@@imhereforitall9218 see that's what's wrong with society they feel they can count other folks cash. The dad says he's working 2 or 3 jobs - you think he would be working that much & that hard if his bank account was padded? Plus dad is still paying child support for the other son...and Dad's mom paid for his teeth did you miss that part? You missed the part where grandma already paid on grandson's teeth yet mom is still here in court demanding what was already paid. You people are weird - you think money & privilege is something that should just be given freely without question where a mom or a kid is concerned. Step in to the real world & accept that many times in life a kid let alone an adult kid will be told NO if/when they need help from a parent - that's REALITY. You expect Dad to choose between buying his own groceries or paying his own light or gas bill for a working employed son who is living rent free in mommy's house. That's just sad. No wonder working men die sooner than women because they are seen as work horse ATM's not human beings.
@@imhereforitall9218you refuse to see why father checked out. There is an ex-wife who wants more money for some young men we have sufficient money to take care of themselves. What kind of father will want to check out?? The leeching was simply too much I guess.. I am also permitted to guess since we don't know the reasons for checking out😅😅😅😅
The son needs to get a second job. The father is in the right. As long as they continue to support the young man, He'll never learn to solve his own problems.
I'm on Grandma's side, she is the one that voluntarily has been helping out financially.
This whole episode was confusing. Ma’am he’s 20 now if this was about the 17 year old it makes sense. But this is insanity
This is what you called greed, she is a lying piece of work!
I'm with the father it's not really relevant if hes in his sons lives or not that's as you said going down a different rabbit hole. Fact is one is an adult and other maybe by now is an adult or close to it and he has no obligation to pay for his life and theirs it's their job to get jobs and pay their way in life that is hat being an adult is!
But fact is the biggest part of the medical bill was paid by the grandmother she the ex seems to not have paid that at all meaning all she might be out is some medication and such (yes I know some can be expensive) but most meds I have ever been on following an extraction aren't all that expensive.
As for the car the son can take the bus or walk depending on distance to work until he can afford the repair.
So the ex I feel was trying to work the system and it backfired on her. The husband has no obligation to pay his adult sons way in life. If he wants to help out fine but there is no obligation.
Dad is checked out. It’s been a crazy last 20 years.
10 years.. they divorced in 2014
@@kaittemurry4740 Of marriage
This is one stupid woman.
Her ex husband paid the support for his children until they were of age to go out on their own and be independant, the exhusbands mother paid for the dentist bill and has given her 100,000 dollars to help with her grand children over the years, the wife is very lucky she had all this support because many men don't pay their child support at all leaving wives and children destitute and on the street, the boys are adults now so they need to be independant and get full time work and pay for their own bills, I feel Judge Judy made the right decision in this case and she dismissed the case
This is two women coddling a grown man. The father owes his child support to the minor child only.
The father has two jobs,he should help at least a little with his younger child instead of his mother
Coddling. I don't think he's being cuddled by them.
@@joanalmarghani661NO he still pays child support for the 17yo .. even at today's prices it's enough.. I went to school and worked pt on weekends at 15 till I was out of high school.. If 17 yo needs pin money he can do the same
It's fact that the younger generation males is very weak, Mama's boys, limp dicks.
Kids are not moving out of the house because they know mama will support them.
Sad news when Mama passes away those kids are going to be severely lost, and living in a poor house
Did u not watch the father is laying support for the youngest dummy @@joanalmarghani661
The Grandmother has a good heart. God bless her!
I think that if the father chose/could help his employed adult son, it would be his decision and only his decision to make,
I disagree that the father owes anything.
Some women pure evil. They keep their kids from seeing their dads just out of spite.
The rotten court systems are to blame!! They change up this nonsense and women won't have the leavage.
She wasn't soft on the father. The ex wife didn't have a contract just because he doesnt pay or help his adult son thats not a crime. If grandma wants to help thats on her.
Wow! This was surprising! She should have been sincere, and honest.
Ms Casey was a lying POS. Disgusting woman. Bet that defendant is thinking "THANK the universe, I'm rid of THAT!!"
that probably is the best grandmother: kind, loving and willing to sacrifice her own wealth and wellbeing for her grandchild and the security of the grandchild's mother despite no longer being obligated to the mother. Seriously, treasure that Mrs Casey
If the ex husband wants, he is not obligated, to help his son with some money, he can give the money directly to him or the dentist, What the ex wife has to do with it?
It wont give the woman money and wont punish the exhusband enough so it will be unaceptable for that sick wish
Morally I see where the mom is coming from but legally he is not obligated to help and neither is she.. you gotta let that boy fly
So a grown adult, with a full time job, who lives rent free, should be given money from his dad to pay his bills? What a load of crap! My 42 year old brother lives with our dad. He has a full time job. Should my dad still be financially responsible for him still? Because it's the same thing.
I left home at 16. I'm now 52. I stopped being financially dependant on my parents when I left home. The reason? I had a full time job!
This man has absolutely no obligation to financially support a grown man! Stop being ridiculous! SMFH
the dad distance himself cuz the ex kept riding him for cash I’m on the fathers side
But he grown why does he still have to pay for his grown ass son when they get 18 are job is done
He's grown not he grown
I knew a man who had two children that he never paid support on will the state of California caught up with him the kids were in their thirties and guess what he had to pay every penny the state gave his ex-wife to support those kids
While I lived with my parents rent free, I bought food and extras ie toilet paper, paper towels, paper plates etc. I had to have a tooth pulled at 18 and I paid for that. I paid my own gas, insurance, repairs to the car. If I had to go to urgent care I paid.
The dad doesn’t have to pay for the older boy after 18. Hr paid his dues. The mom is carrying the boy. He is 20 so you go to school or work. I could see if the kid was in college but he isn’t. He works so he is lucky anyone is helping him with his bills. The mom has a nerve. She took on that responsibility to carry her adult son ..
This woman should be ashamed of herself !!! And what the hell is the 20 year old who works full time, lives at home rent free DOING WITH HIS MONEY ???? To top it off, the grandmother has been helping since the divorce ????????????????
Once again, parents who have not taught their "child" to grow up and pay his own bills. What this 20 year old child doesn't realize is that grandma will not be around forever and he won't be able to handle his own bills. Way to go mom and dad, you raised a big baby!
The husband really didn't say much. For all we know he might help his sons with other things. The whole thing comes down to he fulfilled his obligations of child support when his sons were minors. When they turned 18 his legal obligation stopped. His son has a job and grandma helped him with his bills. The mother just doesn't want to help her son.
She’s wants more of her ex husbands money.
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this couple have been on another court show, she lost her case, I think they both having a laugh as they get money for being on jj😅
That ex is greedy and manipulative, thank heaven the man is shed of her. She’s the reason men get bitter!
Parents don’t owe their adult children support unless the parents have agreed to help them in some way, but they certainly do NOT owe them. This guy doesn’t pay for a place to live, doubtful that he pays for food unless he goes out with friends and he is certainly should pay for his own car expenses. He makes $1,600 per month and probably brings home $1,200 per month. He is old enough to learn to save money so that he can afford to pay for the inevitable cost of being an adult who drives an automobile and engages in adult life.
I had a son, (who passed away a few months ago) he was on the autism spectrum. Even his child support ended at 18. At that point, we were working with social workers and trying to figure out how to get him disability support services. He worked for a grocery store getting carts and other tasks. If he had been living at home and was completely disabled, there might have been some kind of order for support possible, but I believe that had that been our situation, I would have continued paying support for his needs.
Sorry for your loss.
Sorry for your loss.
Father paid his part. If their son makes that much then he can pay payments for his dental work. He probably wastes it on uber eats and video games 😂.
The kids 18 grow up and pay for himself
I love Judy. No BS.
Judge Judy should have put the responsibility where it belongs, ON the ADULT SON. Why can’t he pay his own bills if he lives rent free at 20
I had that...have a son that used my 529 funds I saved for him to sign up for college and then cancel his classes to receive the refunded money....spent the money on bad things supported by the mother, was forced to pay support through his "college" years...also funded his medical...(even though they treated me like hell...I felt he needed the medical) I don't believe that the judicial system is fair, that fathers are hammered to the point of not caring...my friend sent me a meme....1) Forget the past, you can't change it. 2) Forget the present, I didn't get you one...
My god some women just take take take she is disgusting and should have been charged with contempt of court for lying to the judge
Thank you for speaking your opinion at the end of the video that was greatly appreciate.
Mom is krazy 😮
All day long.
I'm amazed this video lasted more than five seconds after answering how old their children were
So she went to court to sue her ex-husband in her adult son's name? That's so dumb. I'm glad she got nothing. Her entitlement is astonishing
$9.88/hr for a **manager** at any business is highly unlikely.
I googled "manager at a fitness center in America, hourly rate"
One of the top replies was. "The average gym manager salary in the USA is $42,943 per year or $20.65 per hour."
Isn't the minimum wage in the US ~ 15 / Hr?
I paid everything after 18. College as well(loans) that were paid back.
I lived at home until I got married at 21. I paid 200 rent a month back in 78.
What in the world i just watched!!!! She has some nerve coming to court asking for child support for a grown man and on top of that has all that help from his mom. She is so ungrateful, THE CHILD HAS TO MAN UP
20 year old can afford his own expenses. Get off it lady.
A great and loving Mother-in-Law❤