drank a handle of honey jd every night for 8 years. started a successful business in the middle of it. ended up in a coma on life support for 3 weeks. bled out, couldnt walk, but drove myself to ER! sober 5 years in one month.
Great to hear, sometimes we need that 'AH-HA' moment to help us shift the needle in the right direction. Well done and thanks for stopping by. Feel free to share journey with us at questions@beyondbooze.com
I don't drink even near that much but I still have an addiction to it. Alcohol has did so much damage to my life in so many ways. Recently I started drinking during the day to reduce shakey hands and anxiety. I need to quit today.
Hi Clayton. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your experience Have you watched our free training yet. www.beyondbooze.com this is a great place to start or by all means send us an email @questions@beyondbooze.com be happy to give you pointers tho get moving to healthier choices around the Booze. Cheers Deryck
terrific hope you got some value. We do have an abridged story Ebook coming out shortly about Beyond Booze would you like a copy emailed? Cheers Deryck
@@kimberley7953 a year later and I still drink. Still in the morning. This topic feels so uneasy with the people around me. I don't know how things got this way.
I was hospitalized for 13 days because of this functioning alcoholic shit and was on death's doorstep at the age of 29. So fucking crazy. It didn't matter if I woke up at 5am or 10am, I had to drink a double-shot of vodka with orange juice just to stop the trembling and panic attacks due to anxiety. I don't regret it since it has lead me to where I am now. I spent a year crawling out of my skin as I recovered. I paced relentlessly around the house, couldn't sleep, and couldn't be around crowds. Then, the craving was lifted from me in only what I can describe as a miracle. Since then, I've picked up running again which I gave up after high school, lost 40 lbs, and have completed several half marathons and will begin training soon for a marathon. I still can't drink orange juice to this day lol. I have a wonderful marriage and 2 children now who are my life. I know that if I ever pick up the bottle again that none of them would mean anything to me anymore and I would abandon them for the drink. Such is the power of this crap on people like me. I wish the best to anyone out there struggling today. Please seek help before you get taken to the grave.
Drank beer for 30+ years. Got sober by going to 12 step meetings, switching to sparkling water and just not picking up a drink. Getting sober, getting away from the routine of alcohol; most important thing I ever did for myself. If you're unhappy with your relationship with alcohol, go to meetings and listen. You don't have to do anything else anybody will try and tell you. Go to meetings. They are there for you and the feeling there, it's not a bunch gloom. It's a powerful, loving, non judgemental energy. 9 out of 10 times, you will walk out after a meeting feeling better than I can describe here.
Really started recognizing that I might have a problem was the fact... how much more expensive drinking has become.Everything going well, but here I am hammered every evening since a year. But man, the tolerance just gets extreme. I'll go to seek help after Christmas.
@@discreetdipper2805 Oh, this was a while ago, I even remember where I was while writing this comment. But I actually did! I went trough another year of hell, trying to figure out what was wrong concretely … I’m still not at a point where i can let my guard down, but progress has been made. While trying to figure out what was wrong I actually got diagnosed with ADHD out of the blue - which explained a lot as you might assume :) Having a bit of certainty as to where you need to be careful, how to practice impulse control and how to “substitute” has been really eye opening. I have managed to graduate from Uni, get a great Job and am starting Graduate School in two weeks. Hope is real, and there is always time to get back on track! Thank you for asking and I hope you are also doing well - If you’d like to share anything id love to read :)
I drink 2 bottles of wine a day and often add vodka to the mix. I am the manager where I work and am studying for a degree. No hangovers and continue to get promoted at work
I'm an addict through and through. Last weekend I dropped dead from Fentanyl, the week leading up to that over 80mg of ativan, a tab of acid with xanax the weekend before. Yesterday a 1.5L of white wine. No wonder why I feel misery and hopelessness after these experiences. It's crazy, but I go back to the same crutch nearly every time. And I've been sober, productive, positive for small bouts. Doing these stunts since the age of 12 has re-wired my brain in a way I am afraid will take a lifetime of mending.
Tony, sounds like quite the journey bro, and a lot happening for you it seems if this is your happy place is. You gotta start somewhere if death doesn't get you first and that's pretty final TBH. Maybe just sharing where you're at now is part of that healing process. You have to tread your own path in the end for any kind of recovery to be possible or even permanent. Everything is possible when you decide that it's time to heal & give back with the lessons you've learned. Good luck. Happy to help if you're ready to take that step.
I over came Xanax addiction may 7 2016. Was the craziest and probably hardest thing i have done. My body went through shit like I’ve never thought could happen. Was not prescribed them. Was that kind of addiction. Felt shame and guilt and such absolute anxiety towards the end. Anxiety to take anxiety medicine. Sounds crazy. Was my body telling me it’s time. I took that warning and just said fuck it. Cold turkey. Thought every day I was gonna have a seizure but there wasn’t shit I could do. I bought them on the streets and just couldn’t get any. I drank at that time as well. Bought a six pack a day. That’s what probably got me through. At the time. Didn’t realize. I substituted Xanax for alcohol. 6 pack a day. What the hell that ain’t nothin at least I’m not barred out anymore right. May 7 is coming up and I can’t even sit here and be proud of myself. I drink a pint or more of tequila a day and barely get drunk. I’m right back in the rotation of fear that if I stop I will have a seizure or worse and I just have nothing but guilt for drinking. Like I said before. My body telling me it’s time to stop i believe. Idk. If anyone is gonna read this ramble. But I’m so damn ready to be free and sober. I’m ready to stop but rehab is not an option. Any advise on tapering off?
I read everything James. Couple of things. My program can help but you and I have a lot of free resources if you're really serious. Maybe flick me an email over at questions@beyondbooze.com of where you're at if that works and lets see if we can give a leg up to making some healthier and longterm choices. regards Deryck
I'm not a doctor or anyone who can give advice but I went through opiate withdrawal after using for 8 years on a super high dose everyday and I struggled for 7 months with anxiety...I kept my job luckily my boss knew what I was going through and helped me alot....ive never had an addiction to xanax but I do know how much harder to get off of it then opiates but I did quit drinking...I drank at least 12 to 15 beers a night plus a bottle of wine for 4 years....im 3 weeks sober now...cold turkey...I didn't withdraw at all but I get urges I just fight them....just my story im not telling you to do cold turkey bc it may be dangerous...just talk to the gentleman who made this video he seems like he can help....good luck!!
They believe they are hiding it well but they're not. It's very easy to find their stashes, and they always have a similar sweet ketoacidosis smell, or smell like they're combustible. Both my parents are life long alcoholics. My father almost died from a ruptured thrombosis in his throat, and my mother was hospitalized for liver failure and fell into an alcohol withdrawal coma for 2 weeks. I'm so sensitive to the signs of severe alcoholism that I can see the symptoms in acquaintances I meet. Tremors, eye shaking and appearance they're looking through you not at you, white nail beds, red palms, spider veins, and especially the smell they emit. It actually triggers my anxiety. The constant use of hand-sanitizers at the office due to the pandemic, causes me emotional disturbances... and this is still after not seeing or speaking to either of my parents for over a decade. I am a result of what alcoholism does to the people who love them.
Well done!! You are amazing your voice is very calming. You must have felt so lonely...I hope that you can help many who are in similar situation. I wish you the all the best.
Hi Deryck, Great video i have been a high functioning alcoholic for about 15 years similar to you a good job nice family. Lost it all as drinking was my crutch and working in a sales environment. Lost really good jobs through my alcohol addiction ans been done for drink driving will now be my third time. I became a born again Christian about 2 years ago which really helped. But stopped going to Church the last 6 months due to my work commitments, and have fell back into my old ways, drinking after work and trying to hide it from my wife. Feeling very remorseful as I dont know what to say to work when i go back. My church have advised me to go into rehab and are trying to help me. Seen your traing video it really brought things home is as to where my life has gone from being good again to where i was 2 years ago. Feeling scared and dont know what to do apart from reaching out to God.
Alan have you checked out the free training at BeyondBooze.com you can email us on questions@beyondbooze.com and we can give you more specific and private guidance. Regards D
I had acute pancreatitis in 2012 and from intensive care to high dependicy I nearly died I was in hospital 18 days and lost 2.5 stone in weight I now have been six years sober and I’ve been back to the gym I enjoyed this before I started drinking. I. also got prosecuted for drink driving
Hi Ian, Yes the Acute Pancreatitis is a near death experience for sure and not fun. I had the exact same situation in 2009 and a few weeks in and ICU ward on life support. Was given a 20% chance of walking out, so touch an go for what seemed like an eternity. But alas I did and have made it my life's mission to share the experience and the Beyond Booze Program. If it changes just one life for the better, or creates a positive level of enquiry in to healthy personal wellbeing and better habits, then great. Thanks for stopping by Ian. Regards Deryck
I’m a poly addict and something that I’ve found throughout my experience with addiction is the substance that are legal are the most dangerous like I’ve struggled with alcohol and cigarette addiction more then anything else
Deryck - you were in a very bad place and you managed to escape it - good on yer for helping others who may have similar problems. I won't raise a glass to you because I don't do alcohol in any form, but I wish you good health.
Raise a glass of sparkling water! I love the pretty "wine" glasses - so use them to serve ice water or sparkling water, or juice... Good on you all! (term learned from my Aussie friends)
Thanks for you telling truth.....we love you... jesus always love you.... Telling truth is showing you have brave heart and you love the people ......not only your self... thanks a lots......
Hi Deryck. Inspiring stuff. Thanks. I'll check out the webinar. I hardly drank at all from my teens right through to my late 30s. Christmas mainly. An occasional bottle of wine. A few beers now and then. I was too into the fitness thing - running - and booze didn't figure in that. But I always suffered from anxiety, and began to get depressions in my mid-30s. I had a mental health referral, and they put me straight into an alcohol program, telling me that alcohol was the cause of my depressions - even though, at the time, I was still drinking less than 21 units a week. Seriously. Anyway... once I was told that alcohol was a problem, sure enough it became one. I'm 59 now, and over the years my 'self-medication' has increased - usually in periods of extreme stress, such as with my last partner 3 years ago. At that time, too, I was finally (very late)-diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which finally gave me answers about my lifelong anxieties and difficulties with social situations. Cut to now... I have fewer stressors. But the habit is still there, and is becoming harder to kick. Although I don't drink at the levels you were on, I can regularly get through between 12 and 18 units a day at weekends (sometimes more), and probably average 9 units a day over the course of a week. I don't drink every day, I don't have shakes or withdrawals, I've never had DTs, I don't drink during the day. But I know it's a slippery slope. I've been in trouble with the law, too, once through drinking - and have made embarrassing public spectacles of myself. I'm in good health, very fit for a man my age, and I eat wel... but I know booze is doing damage, and sooner or later it'll catch up with me. Maybe my habits make me more of a problem drinker than a high-functioning alcoholic - but I know I could easily slip from one to the other. I'm glad I saw this today - just as I was thinking of going out to get a few beers for the evening. Thanks, mate.
Great to hear your story. And of course doors always open to have somebody walk by your side. You can email us over at questions@beyondbooze.com and you're absolutely right about your drinking rituals and the level of harm. It not a matter of IF but when. Take care and reach out if you're ready. Thanks D
Did I hear that right? Two bottles of vodka a day? Wow! And my family thinks I drink too much! Well, I am happy that you recovered from such a dark and serious situation.
I lost my family to my drinking ..im going threw a divorce its been 4 months. The wound still feels fresh ..im 1 day sober.i don't think that'll last..
@@fernandoguzman4202 Okay cool. Pretty weird times there at the moment. Happy to chat here if that helps. Or we can chat via email questions@beyondbooze.com
My ex-boyfriend drinks beer to the point of passing out and sleeping on the floor because he doesn’t wanna pee in his bed He goes to work every day sometimes with the hangover and sometimes not I don’t know how he does it. He doesn’t sleep good. He doesn’t remember conversations we have because he’s drunk He has health issues and and lost his marriage & a house etc and now lives in a travel trailer & now lost our relationship He never hid it from me I know he’s tired & he is isolating and drinking and sleeping and working His son has had to get him up off the floor to get him up for work - he has one DUI and drives drunk all the time
Very well done for getting sober. And very good of you for trying to help others. It does sadden me that you had to or felt you needed to spend so much money to achieve sobriety.
Im on my 2nd dwi cannot get a 3rd but after probation I started again and this time I think its worse. Had to go stone cold sober cause if I would have tested positive I would have went back to jail and ended up in the hospital... instead of helping they just stop you from weening off
I drink a bottle of vodka a day, I spend my morning in recovery mode but still crave a drink when I get home. I don't drink while working, and don't crave a drink until I finish. Were does this place me?
Hi Kirt, thanks for sharing your story. I totally resonate with this & a bottle of Vodka a day is a slippery slope for sure and have been there and way beyond. Hence why I created the Beyond Booze™ pprogram. There are some great tips in our free training over at www.beyondbooze.com so please check this out. You are welcome to join the free facebook group and of course we're on instagram. I can your answer more specific question over email : questions@beyondbooze.com and offer up some ideas. It'd be my pleasure. Regards Deryck
If you need to know what you are try going 30 days without it and see how you feel. If you feel better and dont miss it you're probably not a true alcoholic. If you crave it or if you are full of anxiety and misery I would suggest you make changed before it's too late.
I’ve got a hangover ,after one bottle of beer ,it’s not severe but tired ,down to 2/3 bottles a week ,it was never really a massive problem but just a habit ,
@@beyondbooze956 no ,but thanks ,I’m a classic binge drinker ,once a week ,not the quantities I hear people drinking maybe max 5 pints then rum ,but I am 53 and fairly fit ,but just getting down to a couple of pints a week
Know alcohol is a depressant , also to help know that AA definition of a drink problem is you are powerless over your first drink = addiction. or you are allergic to Alcohol ..both can cause mayhem .
Thanks for stopping by Tracy. Its why we created our Program. I have over 15 years experience now and of course my own journey. We've set up a free Facebook group recently if you're interested and are rejigging the 8-week program. let me know if you wish to receive more info. Thanks Deryck
@@beyondbooze956 Hi there , Great upload ! So proud of you for staying your dragon ! alcohol issues are scary & vary so very much , We all love a drink & a nice time , Sometimes one can be allergic to say a Chardonnay & absolutely fine on a Champagne or purifying gin or vodka , It's wise to look into your intolerances as that's a hugh factor as wel,l We all must take the care & look out for that Demon sugar .
I drink because I'm social isolated and depressed. Weather I drink of not, I'm non functioning either way. Hell, I can't even get a therapist because of my social phobia
Sheree Gomez i live in west yorkshire england and ive just moved over here to get away from people who i thought were friends. I went to my first AA meeting yesterday cos of your comment and it wasnt as bad as i thought lol. Im a week sober. I have a drug issue as well and am on methadone which im doing well with,by that i mean im reduceing it and not using heroin which i havnt done for two years. People say to me take a day at a time and im trying. Its always been the extreme anxiety with me,that churning gut and flicking projector mind.
Hi, sorry for not getting back to you sooner. Have you had a chance to check out the program outline at www.beyondboozeprogram.com ? This is a great place to start also feel free to email me at questions@beyondbooze.com I'll do my best to shed light on a positive way forward. I think it's super important you are aware of the significant dangers of continued alcohol use after acute pancreatitis. I've been there and never going back and the program we developed is designed to help break the habit for good. Kind Regards D
Beyond Booze il text u when i get home. Just walked past the booze shop. The town i live in in england has loads of polish shops selling strong cheap lager.
I’m in this situation right now. I’m working 80 hours a week to support everything that I own and on top off that I’m drinking everyday for my anxiety and depression and I’m just loosing my mind right now. I’m so sick off working 80 hours a week so I can support my nasty lifestyle.
david davian, hey buddy thanks for the update. Sounds like you’re looking for help there. Perhaps flick me an email so we can see where you Like support. Cheers D questions@beyondbooze.com
@@beyondbooze956 I just revisited this video. Somehow, I missed that you responded. I will send my question to you later this evening (probably your Tuesday morning). Thank you very much.
I really resonated with this video. You still sober? I’ve been in rehab twice but want to do it for myself now pretty soon. I’m 38 and in addiction since 15
Hi Mathew, best thing is to shoot an email over to questions@beyondbooze.com and we'll take it from there if that works. Have you watched the free Training yet? If not maybe give check this out first too. go too www.beyondboozeprogram.com/ and register for the free training Kind regards Deryck
I gave up a man I loved because of his alcohol addiction. He was 66 How long can one drink like this before hitting bottom? Thanks for being honest. I feel pity because I didnt know what he was feeling but obviously it wasnt me he desired. I can see your pain. Does he feel any when he is still drinking?
Hi, Kimberly, I can't answer that specifically sorry. Everyone's rock bottom is different. But death or near-death experiences are a good benchmark. So things like liver disease, cancer and all the other serious health related issues from Alcohol abuse play a role in someones rock bottom and of course there are other things just as important like mental health, physical health and someones relationship situation with themselves and of course significant others. Kimberly do not ever blame yourself, "Everyone is 100% responsible for their own experience in life".
Help me I am trying to be assured I made the right decision. I loved this man more than any man I met in 6 years but I seen changes I think are from the alcohol. He denies it, he just likes alcohol. Im going crazy wondering if I made the right decision letting him go I hope he takes care of himself.
Kimberley you have to make a decision that is best for you and you alone. I get it that you are torn right now but if self preservation and happiness is what you need then you have made the right choice for you own peace of mind. If your friend truly respects you and cares than they will change. Happy to talk via email if that helps. questions@beyondbooze.com
@@kimberley7953 You do not state your age or whether you have children that are in contact with the man you know you needed to walk away from. You stayed with him and you gave all the kindness, love and compassion that you had to offer until you had to metaphorically put your oxygen bag on first. With this distance, I hope that you are feeling a sense of peace from the lack of drama that comes along with not caring for a highly functioning alcoholic. Please cherish the wonderful life that you are making for yourself and remind yourself that you are empathetic, generous and loving.There are good people who will be grateful when you make the choice to share your lovely life with them without the drama.
I been experience sweating nights ,that happends just right away when i try to go to sleep I mean if i go to bed at 9 30 pm By 10 i start sweating alot sr, Is that good or bad? I have depresion to as well
It's your body trying to detox. When your full of booze then your body is in overdrive trying to get the booze out. The sweats will pass as long as you are getting off the booze. I'm not a doc buddy so if you're depressed and using booze to self medicate then it's a dangerous & slippery slope. You need to get help. If your taking meds already and boozing then it's not a good place to be as it makes the sobering all that more painful and complicated. And maybe reach out to a friend and tell them your situation. I'm not sure if this helps. DONT DO THIS ALONE.
@@beyondbooze956 thanx for the response sr, im on my 4 day sober, so sweating nights,as long as i dont keep drinking alchol will go away right? Nothing to worry about
@@MrForthepunx I don't know sorry. If your liver and or kidney are damaged that can cause you to sweat a whole lot too. Maybe get to a doctor and get blood tests buddy. It may be a sign of something more serious.
Thanks for stopping by. At the end of the day even 2 bottles is not healthy or sustainable. If you're struggling with cutting back or it's your way of self medicating, relaxing, chilling out etc, you get my drift then let me put it like this. It's like you're that repair man with nothing more than a hammer in his tool box and every problem always looks like a nail. Maybe time to do a long term plan and health audit. Over to..... and up to you ultimately though. You have one house so if you fuck it up then where gonna live.
Beyond Booze so a bottle of vodka a day 750ml a day!? So how many bottles of vodka would you consume in about 1 week. I know your tolerance was high? And did you sleep or pass out?
@@Viewsx-tw5sz So it was two full bottles of usually Smirnoff Vodka most days plus a 750ml of Red wine at night. Would usually start around 5am with and would doze off around 11pm. Was doing that for about 6 months before I ended up in an ICU ward on Life Support for about 2 weeks. Obviously there was a lot of stress going on for me but I learned to function by hiding it and self-medicating. Hope that helps. If you have more questions just me an email over at questions@beyondbooze.com cheers Deryck
So that's about a litre and half. In short yes. The science is super clear of the damage you're doing to your Liver, Brain, pancreas, nervous system not to mention your over all health. It's a lot of Ethanol. You have to make your own choices here but you're on a very slippery slope with your love of whiskey. We do have a number of free great resources plus a UBER modern 8 week online program that may just help you rethink the drink. By all means you can contact me directly at questions@beyoundbooze.com take care Deryck
First things first...Alcohol is NOT the root problem. “Self” is the real issue. If the focus is on “not drinking”, you’re doomed. We can’t think our way into sobriety, we must live it. Go to meetings, clean house, and help others. Simple!
Thanks for the input Mark. Meetings are always one possible early ingredient, but quite limited in the scope and is an outdated approach. It's a bit like saying something you're a maintenance guy and the only tool you ever use is a hammer and see every problem as a nail. Good luck and once again thanks for stopping by.
@@beyondbooze956 I fully realize that "meetings" are not for everyone, and certainly not the only way to achieve sobriety. I'm sure we would agree that the most important thing, is that the individual is no longer a menace to the people around them. As for the meetings being "limited in scope", I respectfully disagree. Every aspect of my life has been profoundly changed. Ask the millions of families around the world, whose lives have been restored, if the "meeting" method is outdated. Regardless of method, the bottom line is this...the majority of people who seek help, aren't willing to put forth even a fraction of the effort into sobriety, that they put into drinking. Sincere best wishes...Mark
@@markg.4246 I am not a drinker but attended the Al-Anon meetings with the plan of learning better skills for how to deal with my HFA partner. The meetings, for me, were almost as spirit damaging as being around my partner whilst he was drunk. Admittedly, I do live a life where I feel like my actions typically have a positive outcome on how my day manifests itself. Thus, letting go and "letting a HIGHER power" did not resonate with me. Lastly, the making amends for things that I didn't think were wrong was in some ways, "crazy". This is just my experience and clearly, many people in those meetings got some form of "payout" for regularly attending.
dlw sport I respect and applaud your support for your partner. I can’t speak to Al-Anon, other than it being modeled after AA. I can say that some meetings are much better than others. I belong to two groups who live in the solution, instead of the problem. I experienced a miraculous restoration of my life, and have seen the same in many other. We rarely talk about what we did while drinking. That’s not important now. We talk about what it takes to “live to good purpose”. The “steps” are a design for living. I live my life in abundance today because of the fellowship. Best wishes to you!
Mark G. My primary care physician strongly urged that I actually get a sponsor at the Al-Anon meetings so that I have more strength to have those strong conversations with my highly functioning alcoholic partner. I write this to you because as much as Al-Anon may not be something for me it is something for my relationship that can only be positive so long as I realize that my patience enables my HFA partner. Thank you Mark for responding back in a calm, constructive and eye-opening way. It is a successful program and there is a reason it’s a success. Additionally, videos like this and programs like this are around so that when he does decide that he wants to get help whether it’s this time or four times down the road, Beyond booze and similar programs will be available. Thank you again Mark.
After reading most of the comments here, it seems the the overall view is that any amount of alcoholic beverage is too much and in view of the subject matter here, I understand. My question will sound silly but why would that stop me from asking it? So what's the deal with Doctors saying that 2 drinks a day is acceptable, assuming of course one is not struggling with alcoholism?
In my experience, fermented beverages and distillates are two very different worlds. Fermented (wine, beer and cider) are healthy, as long as you do not abuse them. In the other hand, distillates are very destructive to your body even in low doses and also they are a lot cheaper and a lot easier to abuse. Distillates are evil! Fermented beverages can be part of a good and healthy diet.
The amonts of alcohol that people drink kan be a bit fuzzy. Two bottles of vodka a day. What is a bottle? In Sweden you buy booze in either 35 cl or 70 cl bottles. The 70 cl bottle is called "A Whole". In my worst days I drank about one 70 cl bottle every day. This guy drank two bottles a day. Maybe it is two 70 cl bottles. Its possible.
😥And what do you call it when someone can go weeks at a time without drinking but then EVERY TIME they do, it's until they pass out? (Turns into a verbally abusing drunk) I guess he's right, I am over sensitive. Haven't found a vid on that yet.
Trisha Ann have you been to an AA meeting?? If not go to one, and listen to the stories you'll come away with a better understanding of how alcohol abuse affects people in different ways. There are many different types of drinkers many like him, many like me ,5 to 7 cans of beer 7 nights a week at my worst. Then there's drinkers like you. All different same problem. I will say though, AA isn't for everyone, but you can learn a lot about yourself .
Thanks for the question Trisha. Firstly if you can have an honest non-judgemental conversation around the drinking pattern with that person and the consequences, the pain and anxiety it causes you and the pressure it's putting on the relationship then this is a great start. I strongly recommend focused councilling where you are both involved and focused on a long term sustainable solution. Also it really does depend on how committed you are this person too. And for sure and more importantly how committed are you to YOU. Your own health, peace of mind, happiness are first and foremost the most important things. In my situation, it came down to either I change or the relationship was over and that's the price I wasn't prepared to pay. There are support groups of course but they unfortunately aren't in the room when it's all going wrong and you aren't in relationship with your group as such and it's very very easy to fall into the trap that these group harbour of becoming a bit of a crutch. Certainly taking action that serves you and that someone on a positive, empathetic and proactive manner will help to facilitate change for the better hopefully. Trisha surround yourself with people who have great visions, dreams, hopes and aspirations not with just more people. Jim Rohn famously said "there are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons". So you CAN choose to do nothing and be exactly where you are now 1, 5 or 10 years from now or YOU CAN choose to be happy. I will also say that Beyond Booze program dives into this also and you can do this program as a couple if that works. hope this helps. feel free to shoot us an email at: questions@beyondbooze.com if you have an other questions. And good luck and do reach out. Cheers D
thank you! i know that counseling will not work, because he doesnt see the problem. I have decided, though, stop isolating myself because of it. Calling friends and family for outings and even taking myself out on a date!(since dinner and a movie together ALSO leads to drinking) i began to figure that i need to change ME and then gain the power to change my situation (where i live, if necessary)
I drink 12 to 20 beers every night. Lately, for the past couple months, my days have been filled with anxiety and indecision while I pace and chain smoke. I make bad decisions in this state. It's only when I start drinking I feel better.
Hey.I hear you. I know this place all to well. I know every journey is different. But i'd be more than happy to share my experience in detail. happy to jump on a call to see how we can help you.Flick me an email to questions@beyondbooze.com and i'd be honoured to help you
Okay. Really be worth checking out the free training we have at the very least. go to www.beyondboozeprogram.com it's FREE! it's a good starting point if you really want to move forward positively from that way of thinking. It's modern, and focused on creating sustainable and realistic goals. By all means shoot us an email to questions@beyondbooze.com more than happy to answer any questions you may have. Kind Regards Deryck
Beyond Booze I found a job, it's overnight weekends at a gas station. The summer weather is really helping. I rarely drink now. Last time was at a fourth of July party. With work though, it's usually dead so I've been taking a lot of cigarette breaks. I still use cannabis, but I have a much greater respect and appreciation for it as a medication. I was talking with one of my co workers about how I used to drink pint glasses of vodka, and the hang overs would last like three days. But when I smoke, after the high, I feel good instead of physically ill and dying. I don't eat much these days with work and during the weekdays I dont do much but walk my neighborhood. At my house I don't smoke many cigarettes if any at all besides weed. I'm 18 years old, and I kind of feel like I'm going nowhere in some ways. I dropped out of business classes at my community college. I might go back in a year after working but I don't know. Sorry to ramble but I just got off a 13 hour shift because my co worker decided to no show. 8 hour shifts overnight are brutal enough .
Well that's fantastic. My offer is always there. IN what ever support you need. Am always happy to jump on a call and support you further.. Give you free resources. Bravo Cheers Deryck
HI Brad, can I suggest you go to www.beyondboozeprogram.com there is a free webinar training there first of all and a run down of the program. Really worth going here first. You can enrol at anytime. Also by all means send questions to questions@beyondbooze.com and I'll get back to you. Regards D
I'm diabetic and people assume I am an alcoholic. I though I was because I used to put a bit on coffee every day. You know... christians don't like it. It's just a bit. I didn't know that people are so conservative with a bit of booze on coffee. They think that you are drunk.
Funny how the Danish have it right....finish work at 5 without question, out the door no phones no emails until 9 o'clock at night..., just get out of work! We are a stupid Country......
David in Suspenders - I’m 19.... You think that sounds crazy lol... I don’t drink every day tho, haha. I’m a college students so we do have bottles here and there.
My father drank a quart of whiskey every day and he worked at an nuclear power plant at Douglas Point Ont. Canada. He was an electrician . In my 16 years living at home I never seen him drink anything but alcohol or tomato juice (laced with beer).
Hi! Not sure where you got Thousands of dollars from as there is no mention of this. That said we all seem to find the money to spend on either the drug or habit of choice or the cure. In some case that's the hospital fee. In my case that was over $25,000 in an ICU. But thanks for stopping by. Reach out if you need more info.
@@beyondbooze956 thx for 'loving!!!' i said that because i was just watching your feed. it actually was mentioned in your feed. thank for elucidating . . .
Yeah you can joke I suppose you do not know the absolute psychological and emotional hell this kind of addiction puts people through. I think you need to expand your emotional maturity. You make fun of addicts because of your ignorance. Try it out for real... see how you feel.
Beyond Booze after going back to find an example of where it was doing it, it seems fixed, must have been TH-cam playing up at the time when I was watching
Thanks for checking Jon. Often you can have latency issues with youtube really depends on your ISP. But again thank you for taking the time to let us know.
drank a handle of honey jd every night for 8 years. started a successful business in the middle of it. ended up in a coma on life support for 3 weeks. bled out, couldnt walk, but drove myself to ER! sober 5 years in one month.
Great to hear, sometimes we need that 'AH-HA' moment to help us shift the needle in the right direction. Well done and thanks for stopping by. Feel free to share journey with us at questions@beyondbooze.com
Damn! You are a FIGHTER and a SURVIVOR! Your will to live took charge!
@@DavidFlores-ll7xr Thanks for supporting 'Scooter' and her story> great to have support shown positively without advice.
How much is a handle ?
@@Mr.Helper. 1.75 L
I don't drink even near that much but I still have an addiction to it. Alcohol has did so much damage to my life in so many ways. Recently I started drinking during the day to reduce shakey hands and anxiety. I need to quit today.
Hi Clayton. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your experience
Have you watched our free training yet. www.beyondbooze.com this is a great place to start or by all means send us an email @questions@beyondbooze.com be happy to give you pointers tho get moving to healthier choices around the Booze. Cheers Deryck
@@beyondbooze956 I watched a longer video with your wife. It was really good.
terrific hope you got some value. We do have an abridged story Ebook coming out shortly about Beyond Booze would you like a copy emailed? Cheers Deryck
@@clayryan1196 Thanks for being honest I gave up a great man because of his denial. Please get help
@@kimberley7953 a year later and I still drink. Still in the morning. This topic feels so uneasy with the people around me. I don't know how things got this way.
I was hospitalized for 13 days because of this functioning alcoholic shit and was on death's doorstep at the age of 29. So fucking crazy. It didn't matter if I woke up at 5am or 10am, I had to drink a double-shot of vodka with orange juice just to stop the trembling and panic attacks due to anxiety. I don't regret it since it has lead me to where I am now. I spent a year crawling out of my skin as I recovered. I paced relentlessly around the house, couldn't sleep, and couldn't be around crowds. Then, the craving was lifted from me in only what I can describe as a miracle. Since then, I've picked up running again which I gave up after high school, lost 40 lbs, and have completed several half marathons and will begin training soon for a marathon. I still can't drink orange juice to this day lol. I have a wonderful marriage and 2 children now who are my life. I know that if I ever pick up the bottle again that none of them would mean anything to me anymore and I would abandon them for the drink. Such is the power of this crap on people like me. I wish the best to anyone out there struggling today. Please seek help before you get taken to the grave.
Thanks for Joe Mac for Sharing that's what the Beyond Booze movement is all about Cheers Deryck
Drank beer for 30+ years. Got sober by going to 12 step meetings, switching to sparkling water and just not picking up a drink. Getting sober, getting away from the routine of alcohol; most important thing I ever did for myself. If you're unhappy with your relationship with alcohol, go to meetings and listen. You don't have to do anything else anybody will try and tell you.
Go to meetings. They are there for you and the feeling there, it's not a bunch gloom. It's a powerful, loving, non judgemental energy. 9 out of 10 times, you will walk out after a meeting feeling better than I can describe here.
Really started recognizing that I might have a problem was the fact... how much more expensive drinking has become.Everything going well, but here I am hammered every evening since a year. But man, the tolerance just gets extreme. I'll go to seek help after Christmas.
How are you now?
I hope you did👍🏻
@@discreetdipper2805 Oh, this was a while ago, I even remember where I was while writing this comment.
But I actually did! I went trough another year of hell, trying to figure out what was wrong concretely … I’m still not at a point where i can let my guard down, but progress has been made.
While trying to figure out what was wrong I actually got diagnosed with ADHD out of the blue - which explained a lot as you might assume :)
Having a bit of certainty as to where you need to be careful, how to practice impulse control and how to “substitute” has been really eye opening.
I have managed to graduate from Uni, get a great Job and am starting Graduate School in two weeks.
Hope is real, and there is always time to get back on track!
Thank you for asking and I hope you are also doing well - If you’d like to share anything id love to read :)
I drink 2 bottles of wine a day and often add vodka to the mix. I am the manager where I work and am studying for a degree. No hangovers and continue to get promoted at work
I'm an addict through and through. Last weekend I dropped dead from Fentanyl, the week leading up to that over 80mg of ativan, a tab of acid with xanax the weekend before. Yesterday a 1.5L of white wine. No wonder why I feel misery and hopelessness after these experiences. It's crazy, but I go back to the same crutch nearly every time. And I've been sober, productive, positive for small bouts. Doing these stunts since the age of 12 has re-wired my brain in a way I am afraid will take a lifetime of mending.
Tony, sounds like quite the journey bro, and a lot happening for you it seems if this is your happy place is. You gotta start somewhere if death doesn't get you first and that's pretty final TBH. Maybe just sharing where you're at now is part of that healing process. You have to tread your own path in the end for any kind of recovery to be possible or even permanent. Everything is possible when you decide that it's time to heal & give back with the lessons you've learned. Good luck. Happy to help if you're ready to take that step.
I over came Xanax addiction may 7 2016. Was the craziest and probably hardest thing i have done. My body went through shit like I’ve never thought could happen. Was not prescribed them. Was that kind of addiction. Felt shame and guilt and such absolute anxiety towards the end. Anxiety to take anxiety medicine. Sounds crazy. Was my body telling me it’s time. I took that warning and just said fuck it. Cold turkey. Thought every day I was gonna have a seizure but there wasn’t shit I could do. I bought them on the streets and just couldn’t get any. I drank at that time as well. Bought a six pack a day. That’s what probably got me through. At the time. Didn’t realize. I substituted Xanax for alcohol. 6 pack a day. What the hell that ain’t nothin at least I’m not barred out anymore right. May 7 is coming up and I can’t even sit here and be proud of myself. I drink a pint or more of tequila a day and barely get drunk. I’m right back in the rotation of fear that if I stop I will have a seizure or worse and I just have nothing but guilt for drinking. Like I said before. My body telling me it’s time to stop i believe. Idk. If anyone is gonna read this ramble. But I’m so damn ready to be free and sober. I’m ready to stop but rehab is not an option. Any advise on tapering off?
I read everything James. Couple of things. My program can help but you and I have a lot of free resources if you're really serious. Maybe flick me an email over at questions@beyondbooze.com of where you're at if that works and lets see if we can give a leg up to making some healthier and longterm choices. regards
Deryck
I'm not a doctor or anyone who can give advice but I went through opiate withdrawal after using for 8 years on a super high dose everyday and I struggled for 7 months with anxiety...I kept my job luckily my boss knew what I was going through and helped me alot....ive never had an addiction to xanax but I do know how much harder to get off of it then opiates but I did quit drinking...I drank at least 12 to 15 beers a night plus a bottle of wine for 4 years....im 3 weeks sober now...cold turkey...I didn't withdraw at all but I get urges I just fight them....just my story im not telling you to do cold turkey bc it may be dangerous...just talk to the gentleman who made this video he seems like he can help....good luck!!
They believe they are hiding it well but they're not.
It's very easy to find their stashes, and they always have a similar sweet ketoacidosis smell, or smell like they're combustible. Both my parents are life long alcoholics. My father almost died from a ruptured thrombosis in his throat, and my mother was hospitalized for liver failure and fell into an alcohol withdrawal coma for 2 weeks.
I'm so sensitive to the signs of severe alcoholism that I can see the symptoms in acquaintances I meet.
Tremors, eye shaking and appearance they're looking through you not at you, white nail beds, red palms, spider veins, and especially the smell they emit. It actually triggers my anxiety. The constant use of hand-sanitizers at the office due to the pandemic, causes me emotional disturbances... and this is still after not seeing or speaking to either of my parents for over a decade.
I am a result of what alcoholism does to the people who love them.
Well done!! You are amazing your voice is very calming. You must have felt so lonely...I hope that you can help many who are in similar situation. I wish you the all the best.
Thanks Nicole. It's the main reason we created this program.
Hi Deryck, Great video i have been a high functioning alcoholic for about 15 years similar to you a good job nice family. Lost it all as drinking was my crutch and working in a sales environment. Lost really good jobs through my alcohol addiction ans been done for drink driving will now be my third time. I became a born again Christian about 2 years ago which really helped. But stopped going to Church the last 6 months due to my work commitments, and have fell back into my old ways, drinking after work and trying to hide it from my wife. Feeling very remorseful as I dont know what to say to work when i go back. My church have advised me to go into rehab and are trying to help me. Seen your traing video it really brought things home is as to where my life has gone from being good again to where i was 2 years ago. Feeling scared and dont know what to do apart from reaching out to God.
Alan have you checked out the free training at BeyondBooze.com you can email us on questions@beyondbooze.com and we can give you more specific and private guidance. Regards D
I had acute pancreatitis in 2012 and from intensive care to high dependicy I nearly died I was in hospital 18 days and lost 2.5 stone in weight I now have been six years sober and I’ve been back to the gym I enjoyed this before I started drinking. I. also got prosecuted for drink driving
Hi Ian, Yes the Acute Pancreatitis is a near death experience for sure and not fun. I had the exact same situation in 2009 and a few weeks in and ICU ward on life support. Was given a 20% chance of walking out, so touch an go for what seemed like an eternity. But alas I did and have made it my life's mission to share the experience and the Beyond Booze Program. If it changes just one life for the better, or creates a positive level of enquiry in to healthy personal wellbeing and better habits, then great. Thanks for stopping by Ian. Regards Deryck
I wish u strength and sobriety.
I’m a poly addict and something that I’ve found throughout my experience with addiction is the substance that are legal are the most dangerous like I’ve struggled with alcohol and cigarette addiction more then anything else
Deryck - you were in a very bad place and you managed to escape it - good on yer for helping others who may have similar problems. I won't raise a glass to you because I don't do alcohol in any form, but I wish you good health.
Thanks very much Bruce. I believe this program will change a lot of lives. Much gratitude D
Raise a glass of sparkling water! I love the pretty "wine" glasses - so use them to serve ice water or sparkling water, or juice... Good on you all! (term learned from my Aussie friends)
Thanks for you telling truth.....we love you... jesus always love you.... Telling truth is showing you have brave heart and you love the people ......not only your self... thanks a lots......
Hi Deryck. Inspiring stuff. Thanks. I'll check out the webinar. I hardly drank at all from my teens right through to my late 30s. Christmas mainly. An occasional bottle of wine. A few beers now and then. I was too into the fitness thing - running - and booze didn't figure in that. But I always suffered from anxiety, and began to get depressions in my mid-30s. I had a mental health referral, and they put me straight into an alcohol program, telling me that alcohol was the cause of my depressions - even though, at the time, I was still drinking less than 21 units a week. Seriously. Anyway... once I was told that alcohol was a problem, sure enough it became one. I'm 59 now, and over the years my 'self-medication' has increased - usually in periods of extreme stress, such as with my last partner 3 years ago. At that time, too, I was finally (very late)-diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, which finally gave me answers about my lifelong anxieties and difficulties with social situations. Cut to now... I have fewer stressors. But the habit is still there, and is becoming harder to kick. Although I don't drink at the levels you were on, I can regularly get through between 12 and 18 units a day at weekends (sometimes more), and probably average 9 units a day over the course of a week. I don't drink every day, I don't have shakes or withdrawals, I've never had DTs, I don't drink during the day. But I know it's a slippery slope. I've been in trouble with the law, too, once through drinking - and have made embarrassing public spectacles of myself. I'm in good health, very fit for a man my age, and I eat wel... but I know booze is doing damage, and sooner or later it'll catch up with me. Maybe my habits make me more of a problem drinker than a high-functioning alcoholic - but I know I could easily slip from one to the other. I'm glad I saw this today - just as I was thinking of going out to get a few beers for the evening. Thanks, mate.
Great to hear your story. And of course doors always open to have somebody walk by your side. You can email us over at questions@beyondbooze.com and you're absolutely right about your drinking rituals and the level of harm. It not a matter of IF but when. Take care and reach out if you're ready. Thanks
D
Did I hear that right? Two bottles of vodka a day? Wow! And my family thinks I drink too much! Well, I am happy that you recovered from such a dark and serious situation.
cool. Thanks for stopping by
I lost my family to my drinking ..im going threw a divorce its been 4 months.
The wound still feels fresh ..im 1 day sober.i don't think that'll last..
Do you need our help Fernando?
I may so ..i just dont how to even help myself
@@fernandoguzman4202 look
s like you're in the US
@@beyondbooze956 in miami ...
@@fernandoguzman4202 Okay cool. Pretty weird times there at the moment. Happy to chat here if that helps. Or we can chat via email questions@beyondbooze.com
My ex-boyfriend drinks beer to the point of passing out and sleeping on the floor because he doesn’t wanna pee in his bed
He goes to work every day sometimes with the hangover and sometimes not I don’t know how he does it. He doesn’t sleep good.
He doesn’t remember conversations we have because he’s drunk
He has health issues and and lost his marriage & a house etc and now lives in a travel trailer & now lost our relationship
He never hid it from me
I know he’s tired & he is isolating and drinking and sleeping and working
His son has had to get him up off the floor to get him up for work - he has one DUI and drives drunk all the time
Very well done for getting sober. And very good of you for trying to help others. It does sadden me that you had to or felt you needed to spend so much money to achieve sobriety.
Congratulations. Stay Strong. God Bless.
Im on my 2nd dwi cannot get a 3rd but after probation I started again and this time I think its worse. Had to go stone cold sober cause if I would have tested positive I would have went back to jail and ended up in the hospital... instead of helping they just stop you from weening off
Do you need more help? perhaps send and email to questions@beyondbooze.com
This helped mate. Thank you
Great it helps. Always free to help if you get stuck
How are you doing now? It/s been about a month
@@beyondbooze956 I'm doing good mate. Sorry for the late reply. Lock down has helped me stop drinking a lot! Thank you
@@RD22x Okay cool. Well were here if you need support, ideas, or anything really.
I’m craving booze bad after 4pm - only 5 pints does the trick, just had a baby too so I’m drinking vodka in the cellar , think I’ve got issues
rick b how are you? I used to have an alcohol problem untill I called on Jesus Christ . God bless you
I drink a bottle of vodka a day, I spend my morning in recovery mode but still crave a drink when I get home.
I don't drink while working, and don't crave a drink until I finish.
Were does this place me?
Hi Kirt, thanks for sharing your story. I totally resonate with this & a bottle of Vodka a day is a slippery slope for sure and have been there and way beyond. Hence why I created the Beyond Booze™ pprogram. There are some great tips in our free training over at www.beyondbooze.com so please check this out.
You are welcome to join the free facebook group and of course we're on instagram.
I can your answer more specific question over email : questions@beyondbooze.com and offer up some ideas. It'd be my pleasure. Regards Deryck
it leaves you as an alcaholic - an advanced alcaholic - i was the same until the 3 week coma on life support. never drank during the day.
If you need to know what you are try going 30 days without it and see how you feel. If you feel better and dont miss it you're probably not a true alcoholic. If you crave it or if you are full of anxiety and misery I would suggest you make changed before it's too late.
I’ve got a hangover ,after one bottle of beer ,it’s not severe but tired ,down to 2/3 bottles a week ,it was never really a massive problem but just a habit ,
Okay sure. Do you need help?
@@beyondbooze956 no ,but thanks ,I’m a classic binge drinker ,once a week ,not the quantities I hear people drinking maybe max 5 pints then rum ,but I am 53 and fairly fit ,but just getting down to a couple of pints a week
Good to hear your testimony.
Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to watch. I hope you got something from the video.
Thank you for posting this.
Know alcohol is a depressant , also to help know that AA definition of a drink problem is you are powerless over your first drink = addiction. or you are allergic to Alcohol ..both can cause mayhem .
Thanks for stopping by Tracy. Its why we created our Program. I have over 15 years experience now and of course my own journey. We've set up a free Facebook group recently if you're interested and are rejigging the 8-week program. let me know if you wish to receive more info. Thanks Deryck
@@beyondbooze956 Hi there , Great upload ! So proud of you for staying your dragon ! alcohol issues are scary & vary so very much , We all love a drink & a nice time , Sometimes one can be allergic to say a Chardonnay & absolutely fine on a Champagne or purifying gin or vodka , It's wise to look into your intolerances as that's a hugh factor as wel,l We all must take the care & look out for that Demon sugar .
I drink because I'm social isolated and depressed. Weather I drink of not, I'm non functioning either way. Hell, I can't even get a therapist because of my social phobia
how are you travelling?
I had acute pancreatitis 10 years ago and ive continued drinking i need help. Dont know what to do.
Willythewisp I'm 12 days sober. Hasn't been easy but AA has been a life raft. You are not alone. You are worth being sober.
Sheree Gomez i live in west yorkshire england and ive just moved over here to get away from people who i thought were friends. I went to my first AA meeting yesterday cos of your comment and it wasnt as bad as i thought lol. Im a week sober. I have a drug issue as well and am on methadone which im doing well with,by that i mean im reduceing it and not using heroin which i havnt done for two years. People say to me take a day at a time and im trying. Its always been the extreme anxiety with me,that churning gut and flicking projector mind.
Hi, sorry for not getting back to you sooner. Have you had a chance to check out the program outline at www.beyondboozeprogram.com ? This is a great place to start also feel free to email me at questions@beyondbooze.com I'll do my best to shed light on a positive way forward. I think it's super important you are aware of the significant dangers of continued alcohol use after acute pancreatitis. I've been there and never going back and the program we developed is designed to help break the habit for good. Kind Regards D
Beyond Booze thanx mate
Beyond Booze il text u when i get home. Just walked past the booze shop. The town i live in in england has loads of polish shops selling strong cheap lager.
My doctor said am I trying to kill myself. I couldn’t answer
I’m in this situation right now. I’m working 80 hours a week to support everything that I own and on top off that I’m drinking everyday for my anxiety and depression and I’m just loosing my mind right now. I’m so sick off working 80 hours a week so I can support my nasty lifestyle.
david davian, hey buddy thanks for the update. Sounds like you’re looking for help there. Perhaps flick me an email so we can see where you Like support. Cheers D
questions@beyondbooze.com
Beyond Booze I don’t drink (I am an athlete) but my boyfriend drinks a bottle of wine per night. Can I write you?
@@dlwsport250 sure. email questions@beyondbooze.com happy to help if we can
@@beyondbooze956 I just revisited this video. Somehow, I missed that you responded. I will send my question to you later this evening (probably your Tuesday morning). Thank you very much.
Thank you for sharing your story!
Thanks for stopping by. Tell what other topics you'd like me to cover in my up coming blog
I really resonated with this video. You still sober? I’ve been in rehab twice but want to do it for myself now pretty soon. I’m 38 and in addiction since 15
Hi Mathew, best thing is to shoot an email over to questions@beyondbooze.com and we'll take it from there if that works. Have you watched the free Training yet? If not maybe give check this out first too. go too www.beyondboozeprogram.com/ and register for the free training
Kind regards Deryck
God, the physical AND mental shakes were hell on earth. Awful awful feelings.
Yes indeed!
Yes I agreed but they do pass and good things happens
I gave up a man I loved because of his alcohol addiction. He was 66 How long can one drink like this before hitting bottom? Thanks for being honest. I feel pity because I didnt know what he was feeling but obviously it wasnt me he desired. I can see your pain. Does he feel any when he is still drinking?
Hi, Kimberly, I can't answer that specifically sorry. Everyone's rock bottom is different. But death or near-death experiences are a good benchmark. So things like liver disease, cancer and all the other serious health related issues from Alcohol abuse play a role in someones rock bottom and of course there are other things just as important like mental health, physical health and someones relationship situation with themselves and of course significant others. Kimberly do not ever blame yourself, "Everyone is 100% responsible for their own experience in life".
Help me I am trying to be assured I made the right decision. I loved this man more than any man I met in 6 years but I seen changes I think are from the alcohol. He denies it, he just likes alcohol. Im going crazy wondering if I made the right decision letting him go I hope he takes care of himself.
Kimberley you have to make a decision that is best for you and you alone. I get it that you are torn right now but if self preservation and happiness is what you need then you have made the right choice for you own peace of mind. If your friend truly respects you and cares than they will change.
Happy to talk via email if that helps. questions@beyondbooze.com
@@beyondbooze956 Thanks Ill wait and see if there is change but I doubt it after a year and then many years of his drinking im guessing 20
@@kimberley7953 You do not state your age or whether you have children that are in contact with the man you know you needed to walk away from. You stayed with him and you gave all the kindness, love and compassion that you had to offer until you had to metaphorically put your oxygen bag on first. With this distance, I hope that you are feeling a sense of peace from the lack of drama that comes along with not caring for a highly functioning alcoholic. Please cherish the wonderful life that you are making for yourself and remind yourself that you are empathetic, generous and loving.There are good people who will be grateful when you make the choice to share your lovely life with them without the drama.
2 bottles vodka and red wine a DAY? Man you're truly lucky to be alive regardless of tolerance...
Thanks for taking the time to watch the video. Thats was almost 10 years ago now. SO yes LUCK indeed
@@beyondbooze956 well done man!
Thank you, you have done alot for me for posting this video.
I been experience sweating nights ,that happends just right away when i try to go to sleep
I mean if i go to bed at 9 30 pm
By 10 i start sweating alot sr,
Is that good or bad? I have depresion to as well
It's your body trying to detox. When your full of booze then your body is in overdrive trying to get the booze out. The sweats will pass as long as you are getting off the booze. I'm not a doc buddy so if you're depressed and using booze to self medicate then it's a dangerous & slippery slope. You need to get help. If your taking meds already and boozing then it's not a good place to be as it makes the sobering all that more painful and complicated. And maybe reach out to a friend and tell them your situation. I'm not sure if this helps. DONT DO THIS ALONE.
@@beyondbooze956 thanx for the response sr, im on my 4 day sober, so sweating nights,as long as i dont keep drinking alchol will go away right? Nothing to worry about
@@MrForthepunx I don't know sorry. If your liver and or kidney are damaged that can cause you to sweat a whole lot too. Maybe get to a doctor and get blood tests buddy. It may be a sign of something more serious.
@@beyondbooze956 ok
Two bottles a day....damn. I lm quitting and I drink one a week.
damn, i drink 2 bottles a vodka a week, you did that a day, it seems i good...
Thanks for stopping by. At the end of the day even 2 bottles is not healthy or sustainable. If you're struggling with cutting back or it's your way of self medicating, relaxing, chilling out etc, you get my drift then let me put it like this. It's like you're that repair man with nothing more than a hammer in his tool box and every problem always looks like a nail. Maybe time to do a long term plan and health audit. Over to..... and up to you ultimately though. You have one house so if you fuck it up then where gonna live.
Do you mean the large bottles . Everyday about half one week it’s gone
@@Viewsx-tw5sz 750ml Bottles everyday
10 years ago now
Beyond Booze so a bottle of vodka a day 750ml a day!? So how many bottles of vodka would you consume in about 1 week. I know your tolerance was high? And did you sleep or pass out?
@@Viewsx-tw5sz So it was two full bottles of usually Smirnoff Vodka most days plus a 750ml of Red wine at night. Would usually start around 5am with and would doze off around 11pm. Was doing that for about 6 months before I ended up in an ICU ward on Life Support for about 2 weeks. Obviously there was a lot of stress going on for me but I learned to function by hiding it and self-medicating. Hope that helps. If you have more questions just me an email over at questions@beyondbooze.com cheers
Deryck
God bless you and thankyou
i finish 2 bottles of whiskey 70cl in a month. is that too much? i love whiskey :)
So that's about a litre and half. In short yes. The science is super clear of the damage you're doing to your Liver, Brain, pancreas, nervous system not to mention your over all health. It's a lot of Ethanol. You have to make your own choices here but you're on a very slippery slope with your love of whiskey. We do have a number of free great resources plus a UBER modern 8 week online program that may just help you rethink the drink. By all means you can contact me directly at questions@beyoundbooze.com take care Deryck
First things first...Alcohol is NOT the root problem. “Self” is the real issue. If the focus is on “not drinking”, you’re doomed. We can’t think our way into sobriety, we must live it. Go to meetings, clean house, and help others. Simple!
Thanks for the input Mark. Meetings are always one possible early ingredient, but quite limited in the scope and is an outdated approach. It's a bit like saying something you're a maintenance guy and the only tool you ever use is a hammer and see every problem as a nail. Good luck and once again thanks for stopping by.
@@beyondbooze956 I fully realize that "meetings" are not for everyone, and certainly not the only way to achieve sobriety. I'm sure we would agree that the most important thing, is that the individual is no longer a menace to the people around them. As for the meetings being "limited in scope", I respectfully disagree. Every aspect of my life has been profoundly changed. Ask the millions of families around the world, whose lives have been restored, if the "meeting" method is outdated.
Regardless of method, the bottom line is this...the majority of people who seek help, aren't willing to put forth even a fraction of the effort into sobriety, that they put into drinking. Sincere best wishes...Mark
@@markg.4246 I am not a drinker but attended the Al-Anon meetings with the plan of learning better skills for how to deal with my HFA partner. The meetings, for me, were almost as spirit damaging as being around my partner whilst he was drunk. Admittedly, I do live a life where I feel like my actions typically have a positive outcome on how my day manifests itself. Thus, letting go and "letting a HIGHER power" did not resonate with me. Lastly, the making amends for things that I didn't think were wrong was in some ways, "crazy". This is just my experience and clearly, many people in those meetings got some form of "payout" for regularly attending.
dlw sport I respect and applaud your support for your partner. I can’t speak to Al-Anon, other than it being modeled after AA. I can say that some meetings are much better than others. I belong to two groups who live in the solution, instead of the problem. I experienced a miraculous restoration of my life, and have seen the same in many other. We rarely talk about what we did while drinking. That’s not important now. We talk about what it takes to “live to good purpose”. The “steps” are a design for living. I live my life in abundance today because of the fellowship. Best wishes to you!
Mark G. My primary care physician strongly urged that I actually get a sponsor at the Al-Anon meetings so that I have more strength to have those strong conversations with my highly functioning alcoholic partner. I write this to you because as much as Al-Anon may not be something for me it is something for my relationship that can only be positive so long as I realize that my patience enables my HFA partner. Thank you Mark for responding back in a calm, constructive and eye-opening way. It is a successful program and there is a reason it’s a success. Additionally, videos like this and programs like this are around so that when he does decide that he wants to get help whether it’s this time or four times down the road, Beyond booze and similar programs will be available. Thank you again Mark.
After reading most of the comments here, it seems the the overall view is that any amount of alcoholic beverage is too much and in view of the subject matter here, I understand.
My question will sound silly but why would that stop me from asking it?
So what's the deal with Doctors saying that 2 drinks a day is acceptable, assuming of course one is not struggling with alcoholism?
In my experience, fermented beverages and distillates are two very different worlds. Fermented (wine, beer and cider) are healthy, as long as you do not abuse them. In the other hand, distillates are very destructive to your body even in low doses and also they are a lot cheaper and a lot easier to abuse. Distillates are evil! Fermented beverages can be part of a good and healthy diet.
@@Sheilawisz - This is great news, Beer as my daily Probiotics regimen.
@@jonnydupe07 I am not sure about probiotics in beer, but enjoying one or two beers a day with your meals is a good idea.
God bless. Thank you!
glad it helped. Reach out if you need help.
Did you have symptoms healthwise before pancreatitis? So scary, how do you get out of it?
The amonts of alcohol that people drink kan be a bit fuzzy. Two bottles of vodka a day. What is a bottle? In Sweden you buy booze in either 35 cl or 70 cl bottles. The 70 cl bottle is called "A Whole".
In my worst days I drank about one 70 cl bottle every day. This guy drank two bottles a day. Maybe it is two 70 cl bottles. Its possible.
😥And what do you call it when someone can go weeks at a time without drinking but then EVERY TIME they do, it's until they pass out? (Turns into a verbally abusing drunk) I guess he's right, I am over sensitive. Haven't found a vid on that yet.
Trisha Ann have you been to an AA meeting?? If not go to one, and listen to the stories you'll come away with a better understanding of how alcohol abuse affects people in different ways. There are many different types of drinkers many like him, many like me ,5 to 7 cans of beer 7 nights a week at my worst. Then there's drinkers like you. All different same problem.
I will say though, AA isn't for everyone, but you can learn a lot about yourself .
Trisha Ann that's alcohol abuse
Thanks for the question Trisha. Firstly if you can have an honest non-judgemental conversation around the drinking pattern with that person and the consequences, the pain and anxiety it causes you and the pressure it's putting on the relationship then this is a great start. I strongly recommend focused councilling where you are both involved and focused on a long term sustainable solution. Also it really does depend on how committed you are this person too. And for sure and more importantly how committed are you to YOU. Your own health, peace of mind, happiness are first and foremost the most important things. In my situation, it came down to either I change or the relationship was over and that's the price I wasn't prepared to pay. There are support groups of course but they unfortunately aren't in the room when it's all going wrong and you aren't in relationship with your group as such and it's very very easy to fall into the trap that these group harbour of becoming a bit of a crutch. Certainly taking action that serves you and that someone on a positive, empathetic and proactive manner will help to facilitate change for the better hopefully. Trisha surround yourself with people who have great visions, dreams, hopes and aspirations not with just more people. Jim Rohn famously said "there are two types of pain you will go through in life: the pain of discipline and the pain of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, while regret weighs tons". So you CAN choose to do nothing and be exactly where you are now 1, 5 or 10 years from now or YOU CAN choose to be happy. I will also say that Beyond Booze program dives into this also and you can do this program as a couple if that works. hope this helps. feel free to shoot us an email at: questions@beyondbooze.com if you have an other questions. And good luck and do reach out. Cheers D
thank you! i know that counseling will not work, because he doesnt see the problem. I have decided, though, stop isolating myself because of it. Calling friends and family for outings and even taking myself out on a date!(since dinner and a movie together ALSO leads to drinking) i began to figure that i need to change ME and then gain the power to change my situation (where i live, if necessary)
thank you for your input. so suprised that someone answered.
good video thank you
Thanks Alex
Thanks Alex. Means a lot for sure.
god bless you for bearing your soul
I drink 12 to 20 beers every night. Lately, for the past couple months, my days have been filled with anxiety and indecision while I pace and chain smoke. I make bad decisions in this state. It's only when I start drinking I feel better.
Hey.I hear you. I know this place all to well. I know every journey is different. But i'd be more than happy to share my experience in detail. happy to jump on a call to see how we can help you.Flick me an email to questions@beyondbooze.com and i'd be honoured to help you
really great
Thank you Maya
Im on groundhog day. No more.
Let us know if we can support you further. This is a good start.
If I don't have weed, I drink, and I smoke cigarettes. talk about being fucked with addiction
Okay. Really be worth checking out the free training we have at the very least. go to www.beyondboozeprogram.com it's FREE! it's a good starting point if you really want to move forward positively from that way of thinking. It's modern, and focused on creating sustainable and realistic goals. By all means shoot us an email to questions@beyondbooze.com more than happy to answer any questions you may have. Kind Regards
Deryck
Hi Is there anything I can do to help you further
Beyond Booze I found a job, it's overnight weekends at a gas station. The summer weather is really helping. I rarely drink now. Last time was at a fourth of July party. With work though, it's usually dead so I've been taking a lot of cigarette breaks. I still use cannabis, but I have a much greater respect and appreciation for it as a medication. I was talking with one of my co workers about how I used to drink pint glasses of vodka, and the hang overs would last like three days. But when I smoke, after the high, I feel good instead of physically ill and dying. I don't eat much these days with work and during the weekdays I dont do much but walk my neighborhood. At my house I don't smoke many cigarettes if any at all besides weed. I'm 18 years old, and I kind of feel like I'm going nowhere in some ways. I dropped out of business classes at my community college. I might go back in a year after working but I don't know. Sorry to ramble but I just got off a 13 hour shift because my co worker decided to no show. 8 hour shifts overnight are brutal enough .
Well that's fantastic. My offer is always there. IN what ever support you need. Am always happy to jump on a call and support you further.. Give you free resources. Bravo Cheers
Deryck
In the UK cocaine is a big problem too...
Hope
You're right. And thank you very much. It means a lot.
How do I get your help
HI Brad, can I suggest you go to www.beyondboozeprogram.com there is a free webinar training there first of all and a run down of the program. Really worth going here first. You can enrol at anytime. Also by all means send questions to questions@beyondbooze.com and I'll get back to you. Regards D
Hi Brad Just reaching out again to see how your'e doing>
Hey , just reaching out again I'm here when your ready.
Looks like your at jurassic park
Thanks Homer. Yes just finished slaying a Beast
LOL!
Hahahahahha
I'm diabetic and people assume I am an alcoholic. I though I was because I used to put a bit on coffee every day.
You know... christians don't like it. It's just a bit. I didn't know that people are so conservative with a bit of booze on coffee. They think that you are drunk.
Funny how the Danish have it right....finish work at 5 without question, out the door no phones no emails until 9 o'clock at night..., just get out of work! We are a stupid Country......
Cheers!
Two bottles of vodka a day and wine at night? Jesus Christ!
Nobody can drink this much and still function. I raise the bullshit flag!
To be fair, he didn't really specify the bottle size. If he's talking 2 fifths of vodka, then yeah....that's insane.
David in Suspenders - I’m 19.... You think that sounds crazy lol... I don’t drink every day tho, haha. I’m a college students so we do have bottles here and there.
Wyatt Pryed - but EVERYDAY. Vodka every single day until you end up on life support? That’s pretty horrible.
My father drank a quart of whiskey every day and he worked at an nuclear power plant at Douglas Point Ont. Canada. He was an electrician . In my 16 years living at home I never seen him drink anything but alcohol or tomato juice (laced with beer).
i don't have thousands and thousands of dollars but appreciate you. thx for posting!!! . . .
Hi! Not sure where you got Thousands of dollars from as there is no mention of this. That said we all seem to find the money to spend on either the drug or habit of choice or the cure. In some case that's the hospital fee. In my case that was over $25,000 in an ICU.
But thanks for stopping by. Reach out if you need more info.
@@beyondbooze956 thx for 'loving!!!' i said that because i was just watching your feed. it actually was mentioned in your feed. thank for elucidating . . .
I NEEDED TO GET A HANDLE....ON MY DRINKING
SO I SWITCHED....TO GALLONS
OKay cool. How is that going for you?
Yeah you can joke I suppose you do not know the absolute psychological and emotional hell this kind of addiction puts people through. I think you need to expand your emotional maturity. You make fun of addicts because of your ignorance. Try it out for real... see how you feel.
It's just not that much. It's a lot of money. Being an alcoholic takes loads of cash.
Huh
The audio sync is so off
Hi Jon, Perhaps it's on your internet side as it's actually not. And the video has been only for some time now. But thanks for the input.
Beyond Booze after going back to find an example of where it was doing it, it seems fixed, must have been TH-cam playing up at the time when I was watching
Thanks for checking Jon. Often you can have latency issues with youtube really depends on your ISP. But again thank you for taking the time to let us know.
How to do something about it: Pay me your money. haha.
Not helpful buddy.