After a 22 year relationship/marriage I am suddenly an old white man in my mid 60s. I fell in love with a black man’s soul, laughter, musicality, and reciprocating 💕 who was five years younger. We were supposed to grow old together but he had a massive heart attack last week at the age of 60. I likely will never date again. But I wanted to explain that old white men, in a generation that didn’t permit them to have families, are often fearful of dying alone. I met my husband at church, we knew each other for two years and we didn’t know we were each attracted to one other until one friend spilled the beans. In the 22 years we were together we never had an argument. I didn’t love him because he was black, I loved him because he was everything.
Thanks Jon for sharing this! Sending so much love your way! I am upset that I am just now seeing this, my notifications have not been notifying me accordingly! Your perspective and experience is so important and needed. Alot of us are unaware of this! Thank you again for sharing! I hope that you are able to find a loving community where you are at as I am sure you are an amazing person and contribute much needed value to those around you! I am sorry for your lose! Sending much love and positive energy! 💖
A couple of thoughts: Anyone who is unattractive and horny is creepy it's not because they are older; everyone's sex drive doesn't die down as they get older; that older person sees himself as he was in his late 20's to mid 30's and will sometimes forget he's too old for most young men; to all the young men reading this, one day you will be that older man.
I am a 52 year old black guy so I feel what you're saying. But I have the body of a 20 something guy. So I still have the same sex drive as if I was in my twenties. Plus young black guys like my daddy swag. But when I let my grays show and not my body then those same black young guys run away!! lol
I'm black and gay,...yet blacks block me just as much as white men. I'm in shape and not bad looking. I've given up hope on relationships and I'm only 20.
It's interesting that you only mentioned older white men 'creeping' on younger black men as if this is a unidirectional thing. Are you not aware that there are many younger black men who very proactively initiate contact with older white men because they are eagerly and preferentially attracted to them? If you are not aware that this happens very frequently, then there is an apparent void in your information and experience. The only difference is, I don't take it as 'creeping' every time it happens to me, I take it as a compliment. Sometimes I'm interested, and sometimes I'm not, but in every instance, I respond with courtesy, appreciation, respect, and diplomacy.
This is why I find it very hard to take this video seriously 😂 it’s a joke! How does he expect people to take him seriously by the way he speaks-by that I mean that he speaks as if he wants to giggle every five seconds. No composure. Cringe.
Thanks for sharing your perspective! and I definitely agree, there is a void in my information and experience that you have just helped me to fill! 💖 .. appreciate you taking the time to offer this constructive feedback that i needed to hear!
It’s honestly beyond tiresome at this point how OBSESSED this younger generation is with dividing us by labels. I can’t relate to any of these “struggles” and seems like social media is feeding them constant victimhood.
As an older gay White man, first off, you're very cute, very pretty. Dating apps, in general, are a very sketchy in which to meet other gay men. Period. Out and about in the real world obviously is the best way, but, those opportunities don't necessarily always present themselves. Everybody, everyone has his own idea of what he'd like his perfect partner/mate/boyfriend/husband to be... standards, right? Getting back to the apps, a lot of that, those messages, you have to take with a grain of salt. I've always tended to date men of color: Black, Latino, Asian. Rarely another younger White guy. I don't know if this helps, but, maybe put those preferences in your introductory paragraph when you initially sign up for an online site or app. Take care, be safe and best wishes!
I agree, I don't think that having standards or a preference is a bad thing.. I think it is mainly how folks communicate it. I do feel their is a way to "turn someone down" without demeaning them, and as a community, esp on the apps, we have normalized that. I also think that staying open and receptive to whoever comes your way can yield opportunities you never thought of before\help you in finding that "perfect someone". In my experience, something very "mystical" ..kind of like the law of attraction.. starts to happen when you let go and trust the process of life! 🌟 thanks again for your perspective and comment Thomas!
I get the opposite. I worked (retired now) for a State Agency. Many (most) of my staff were African immigrants. Often we’d go out after a rough shift, at 11pm. Younger black men frequently approach ME. I don’t know if it’s bc they saw that I walk in with a predominantly black group. I made the mistake of driving my “date car” to our gay-bar area once, so maybe I’m perceived as a zillionaire. We all have our preferred “type”. I find that younger black men don’t take rejection well-I’ve been called racist, even though our group is mostly black.
I am not going to call you racist but you did just make a statement that says you are stereotyping. Nobody takes rejection well! Not JUST young black guys. A little less seeing color would be much more appropriate to the point you were trying to make.
I am a gay Black man and the VAST MAJORITY of men that have approached me throughout my life have been older white men, usually old enough to be my father or even my grandfather. I am attracted to white men, but I prefer white men within my age range. For some reason white men within my age range are usually not attracted to me or outright reject me, so I've stopped approaching them. I find it is very strange and I've never understood it.
Because old yt men have no options. They are RESORTING to black men and hoping to leverage their ytness to bag a young and muscular one. It's literally just yt supremacy repackaged as "open minded". Notice how you never see young white men who are also attractive with old non-yt men.
@@jjnix95someone said it lol. Though it's not always muscular, when I was in my 20s I had very old white guys hitting me up and I was skinny. I think they just zero-in on the youth and they hope that the young minority (becuase it's also asian guys as well) will be desperate enough to want to be with them since they can no longer attract the young white guys much anymore.
My apologies, that is definitely not my intention.. if you feel comfortable, could you help me understand from your perspective why my thumbnail is homophobic/racist? Does it seem as though I am calling the three white men pictured in the thumbnail as creepy older gay white men?
@@realgaylife Writer & publication designer here. Yeah, that thumbnail immediately reads as "here are 3 creepy old white guys." Definitely age-ist (as in "old = creepy" ) and possibly somewhat racist.
Two thoughts: 1. For a lot of gay men, especially older ones, hook-ups were how you made friends. Maybe the two of you had fun with the hook-up itself, but you found there was no romantic chemistry but you clicked as friends. ... So you hang out start hanging out as friends. Cool. 2. Like you said, you have no idea who these older men know. It's not really weird for older gay men to bring younger gay men (as friends) to social events. It's an opportunity to meet a lot of new people. Also, a lot of older gay men have had tough lives... not necessarily physically or monetarily, but in the sense that they've always had to be 'on' and maintain high energy. That really wears a guy out after awhile. Older guys are often looking for someone they can relax with, someone they can share some of their world with. Maybe they enjoy sex with you, but it's not why they like spending time with you. Maybe they enjoy your youth or spark? Lastly, whether you're looking for friends, Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now, it's SO hard to meet people you click with. Getting hung up on age or 'race' really limits your options.
Love Love Love this! Yes, I definitely agree bring younger or older gay men to social events is a great opportunity to meet a lot of new people and for our community to BECOME more of a community of mutual love, respect, and understanding! Any I never thought about them just enjoying our presence and not wanting anything more.. or better yet, if they do, respecting if we do not want anything more.. “Getting hung up on age or 'race' really limits your options.” Couldn’t agree more! Ugh! thanks so much for taking the time to add to the conversation… definitely sparking new video ideas within me! 💖
I agree with your assessment. I just don't want an overweight guy. The rest has no baring worth considering. Black or white, old or young. The thing is for me most young guys are in better shape so I tend to gravitate towards being fit and want the same from the guy I want to spend time with.
I used to attract a lot of older gay white men who were creepy or insecure. I knew that because I'm kind of an old soul and an empathetic listener, I would naturally attract someone a little older than me. But after a few years, I eventually realized that somewhere deep inside I didn't believe that I could, nor that I deserved to, attract a handsome black man who was close to my age. A couple of friends challenged me to work through that misconception. Part of how I did that was to change how I saw myself. I used to focus on how I didn't feel cool/hip, and how I wasn't sexy or fit. I thought I was just a big, weird, boring lump of flesh. When I started owning the fact that I'm kind, intelligent and fun, that replaced the pressure of "having" to be cool or hip and I became more confident. When I started owning the fact that I have my own sense of style and always present myself with dignity and joy, that helped get rid of the need to "be sexy". And when I started focusing more on how I could take better care of myself on a consistent basis, I started to get more fit. I basically realized that I was my own version of cool and sexy, and that that was enough. I also started telling myself that I deserved a good looking guy my age. After all of this, I was able to interact with more confidence and ease, and I started to attract other black guys who were young and attractive. I had some lovely dates and got to know some beautiful black men, and it didn't happen until I realized that I am a beautiful black man. Don't wait for someone else to validate and affirm you. Consistently do those things for yourself and enjoy the resulting changes!
Hey,I have been curious to get to know how gay men get everything they need from their men... like how do you get a man to spoil you from a gay man perspective..I don't know if that makes sense 😅... would love to hear your two sense
well i can only speak on my sitiuation is that iam very discreet and the white guys was kool with that and i found that the black guys didnt want to be with a black man that didnt want to be in public with them
I’m a gay black man and I don’t disregard though shy away from friendships or relationships with gay black men I’m not already close with for the simple reason that I don’t surround myself with negativity no matter what color. It seems in the “black community” it’s become so normal for us to complain about it all this “systemic racism” (that has been outlawed since before we were born) while saying the most racist things. You’re lonely? So are older men. Or white men. Or whatever kind of men. Young gay men act like this and then have the nerve to complain about them feeling lost and unloved as gay or black? Maybe stop focusing so much on being divisive. This victim mentality does nothing for us as black or gay people. It’s enough. 🤦🏿♂️
Yeah as a young gay man this comment is definitely anti-black. It also seems to allude to blackness being inherently negative. I don’t understand why not wanting systemic racism to exist is a bad thing. Maybe I’ll grow into understanding why I shouldn’t care about systems that effect my people. Maybe I’m too young to get it.
@@terrelljackson. Unfortunately some black people think it is virtuous to trash other black people. I almost called him some very choice words, but I don't have to stoop to his level to make my point. He most likely is unhappy and is lashing out at the easiest target. Don't be annoyed with him. Feel sorry for him and move on.
I am a white guy and my very first sexual experience was with a MUCH older dark skinned Black man. He followed me around a bookstore, regular NOT adult, as I was young. He started standing beside me even after I moved aisles. So I guess you would say it was creepy. Long story short, he finally started talking to me and we ended up hooking up. I continued to see him for some time until he moved for his job, or so he said. It was obvious he wanted our seeing each other to be a secret, which I assumed was due to my age at the time versus his. Regardless it was a fantastic experience and I am glad he creeped on me.
What a wise, young man. Thanks for sharing your compassionate ideas. Very interesting. Frankly speaking, older gay men entering or re-entering the gay dating life could use a good guide.
It strikes me that it seems natural that white older gay men and younger black gay men seem to be opposites and probably have something to offer each other; intellectually, experientially, and socially. It seems inevitable.
Yes! I 100% agree, I can't quite put my finger on it exactly as I feel it has levels of "individuality" on it.. but there is definitely something there..
Muscular guys tend to date other Muscle heads … if you want attention from those guys you have to beef up … not that you have too (fine the way you are) but if your trying to attract a particular crowd …you gotta also give what they’re giving
You have a wonderful sense of self! Keep your positive thinking going, and know that a beautiful man like yourself will ALWAYS attract what you put out there in the universe!
I read this earlier this morning and it warmed my heart! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I try my best to bring positive energy to the table but can be challenging when folks constantly try to "shut you down" ... comments like yours push me to keep bringing positive energy to the table! 💖 Thanks for taking the time to comment!
All of your point are spot on. I believe in the human race too. I think so many are so very desperate to be loved... I don't know. Thanks for what you are doing.
excellent suggestion. "just do it" "what do you have to lose". "you will know for yourself, after you take the mystery out of the equation". Thanks for the affirmation.
absolutely! and sending encouraging vibes your way! it was uncomfortable for me to begin with, but like a muscle, the more you do it, the better and stronger you are at it.. 💖
There's nothing more backwards than the difference between being a masculine man interested in females and being a feminine man interested in males. Makes no sense but this phenomena makes perfect sense to you tho. You are a transformer. Lol
I know a mixed gay couple been together decades. It's an open relationship and the white guy doesn't look so great and you soon see why they have an open relationship. I don't find old gay white men attractive never have.
I don't care about anyone's race or skin color. Age however does matter. Only because older men(and women) tend to start getting out of shape. I pride myself on being fit and that's what I want in a guy. No shade to any older guys(or girls) just don't expect me to have worked out for 44 years to settle for a overweight guy. Cuz I didn't work this hard and long to settle for what I don't want. Just saying, there's very few reasons to become soft and squishy no matter how old you get.
Hey Ramir! Hope your new year is kicking off to a good start.. was curious to know if it ever bothers you that you get approached by older White and Spanish me?
After a 22 year relationship/marriage I am suddenly an old white man in my mid 60s. I fell in love with a black man’s soul, laughter, musicality, and reciprocating 💕 who was five years younger. We were supposed to grow old together but he had a massive heart attack last week at the age of 60.
I likely will never date again. But I wanted to explain that old white men, in a generation that didn’t permit them to have families, are often fearful of dying alone.
I met my husband at church, we knew each other for two years and we didn’t know we were each attracted to one other until one friend spilled the beans. In the 22 years we were together we never had an argument. I didn’t love him because he was black, I loved him because he was everything.
Thanks Jon for sharing this! Sending so much love your way! I am upset that I am just now seeing this, my notifications have not been notifying me accordingly! Your perspective and experience is so important and needed. Alot of us are unaware of this! Thank you again for sharing! I hope that you are able to find a loving community where you are at as I am sure you are an amazing person and contribute much needed value to those around you! I am sorry for your lose! Sending much love and positive energy! 💖
I want to give you a hug. I feel your pain hard! I hope you find someone to at least spend time with you even if you aren't sexual.
I'll take that to me: I didn't love him because he was black, I loved him because he was everything"
Thats beautifl , just loss my hubby on Valentines day - brain tumor---cancer
A couple of thoughts: Anyone who is unattractive and horny is creepy it's not because they are older; everyone's sex drive doesn't die down as they get older; that older person sees himself as he was in his late 20's to mid 30's and will sometimes forget he's too old for most young men; to all the young men reading this, one day you will be that older man.
Thanks for that perspective and I do agree ..
I am a 52 year old black guy so I feel what you're saying. But I have the body of a 20 something guy. So I still have the same sex drive as if I was in my twenties. Plus young black guys like my daddy swag. But when I let my grays show and not my body then those same black young guys run away!! lol
I'm black and gay,...yet blacks block me just as much as white men. I'm in shape and not bad looking. I've given up hope on relationships and I'm only 20.
too much fetishy people but let's open our minds...
Probably try Asian men including and cool to see you probably watch WWE
Hey Lawrence, appreciate you sharing your thoughts and perspective! I definitely agree! Having an open mind can definitely get you far!
its probably YOUR energy thats a turn off. You have so much to learn
@@tw4943 This was made two years ago
It's interesting that you only mentioned older white men 'creeping' on younger black men as if this is a unidirectional thing. Are you not aware that there are many younger black men who very proactively initiate contact with older white men because they are eagerly and preferentially attracted to them? If you are not aware that this happens very frequently, then there is an apparent void in your information and experience. The only difference is, I don't take it as 'creeping' every time it happens to me, I take it as a compliment. Sometimes I'm interested, and sometimes I'm not, but in every instance, I respond with courtesy, appreciation, respect, and diplomacy.
This is why I find it very hard to take this video seriously 😂 it’s a joke! How does he expect people to take him seriously by the way he speaks-by that I mean that he speaks as if he wants to giggle every five seconds. No composure. Cringe.
Thanks for sharing your perspective! and I definitely agree, there is a void in my information and experience that you have just helped me to fill! 💖 .. appreciate you taking the time to offer this constructive feedback that i needed to hear!
Thank you as well for your feedback.. I will definitely incorporate adding more composure into my future videos!
It’s honestly beyond tiresome at this point how OBSESSED this younger generation is with dividing us by labels. I can’t relate to any of these “struggles” and seems like social media is feeding them constant victimhood.
Because ED buck isn’t real 😅
As an older gay White man, first off, you're very cute, very pretty.
Dating apps, in general, are a very sketchy in which to meet other gay men. Period.
Out and about in the real world obviously is the best way, but, those opportunities don't necessarily always present themselves.
Everybody, everyone has his own idea of what he'd like his perfect partner/mate/boyfriend/husband to be... standards, right?
Getting back to the apps, a lot of that, those messages, you have to take with a grain of salt.
I've always tended to date men of color: Black, Latino, Asian. Rarely another younger White guy.
I don't know if this helps, but, maybe put those preferences in your introductory paragraph when you initially sign up for an online site or app.
Take care, be safe and best wishes!
I agree, I don't think that having standards or a preference is a bad thing.. I think it is mainly how folks communicate it. I do feel their is a way to "turn someone down" without demeaning them, and as a community, esp on the apps, we have normalized that. I also think that staying open and receptive to whoever comes your way can yield opportunities you never thought of before\help you in finding that "perfect someone". In my experience, something very "mystical" ..kind of like the law of attraction.. starts to happen when you let go and trust the process of life! 🌟 thanks again for your perspective and comment Thomas!
I get the opposite. I worked (retired now) for a State Agency. Many (most) of my staff were African immigrants. Often we’d go out after a rough shift, at 11pm. Younger black men frequently approach ME. I don’t know if it’s bc they saw that I walk in with a predominantly black group. I made the mistake of driving my “date car” to our gay-bar area once, so maybe I’m perceived as a zillionaire. We all have our preferred “type”. I find that younger black men don’t take rejection well-I’ve been called racist, even though our group is mostly black.
you completely made that up lmaooo noone is checking for you like that
I am not going to call you racist but you did just make a statement that says you are stereotyping. Nobody takes rejection well! Not JUST young black guys. A little less seeing color would be much more appropriate to the point you were trying to make.
I am a gay Black man and the VAST MAJORITY of men that have approached me throughout my life have been older white men, usually old enough to be my father or even my grandfather. I am attracted to white men, but I prefer white men within my age range. For some reason white men within my age range are usually not attracted to me or outright reject me, so I've stopped approaching them. I find it is very strange and I've never understood it.
Because old yt men have no options. They are RESORTING to black men and hoping to leverage their ytness to bag a young and muscular one. It's literally just yt supremacy repackaged as "open minded". Notice how you never see young white men who are also attractive with old non-yt men.
@@jjnix95someone said it lol. Though it's not always muscular, when I was in my 20s I had very old white guys hitting me up and I was skinny. I think they just zero-in on the youth and they hope that the young minority (becuase it's also asian guys as well) will be desperate enough to want to be with them since they can no longer attract the young white guys much anymore.
Although you gay, your thumbnail was kinda homophobic and racist
My apologies, that is definitely not my intention.. if you feel comfortable, could you help me understand from your perspective why my thumbnail is homophobic/racist? Does it seem as though I am calling the three white men pictured in the thumbnail as creepy older gay white men?
@@realgaylife Writer & publication designer here. Yeah, that thumbnail immediately reads as "here are 3 creepy old white guys." Definitely age-ist (as in "old = creepy" ) and possibly somewhat racist.
Why’d you put those guys on your thumbnail? I love them. Are they creepy? :(
Absolutely not! Just a visual friend...
Two thoughts:
1. For a lot of gay men, especially older ones, hook-ups were how you made friends. Maybe the two of you had fun with the hook-up itself, but you found there was no romantic chemistry but you clicked as friends. ... So you hang out start hanging out as friends. Cool.
2. Like you said, you have no idea who these older men know. It's not really weird for older gay men to bring younger gay men (as friends) to social events. It's an opportunity to meet a lot of new people.
Also, a lot of older gay men have had tough lives... not necessarily physically or monetarily, but in the sense that they've always had to be 'on' and maintain high energy. That really wears a guy out after awhile. Older guys are often looking for someone they can relax with, someone they can share some of their world with. Maybe they enjoy sex with you, but it's not why they like spending time with you. Maybe they enjoy your youth or spark?
Lastly, whether you're looking for friends, Mr. Right, or Mr. Right Now, it's SO hard to meet people you click with. Getting hung up on age or 'race' really limits your options.
Love Love Love this! Yes, I definitely agree bring younger or older gay men to social events is a great opportunity to meet a lot of new people and for our community to BECOME more of a community of mutual love, respect, and understanding!
Any I never thought about them just enjoying our presence and not wanting anything more.. or better yet, if they do, respecting if we do not want anything more..
“Getting hung up on age or 'race' really limits your options.” Couldn’t agree more! Ugh! thanks so much for taking the time to add to the conversation… definitely sparking new video ideas within me! 💖
I agree with your assessment. I just don't want an overweight guy. The rest has no baring worth considering. Black or white, old or young. The thing is for me most young guys are in better shape so I tend to gravitate towards being fit and want the same from the guy I want to spend time with.
I used to attract a lot of older gay white men who were creepy or insecure. I knew that because I'm kind of an old soul and an empathetic listener, I would naturally attract someone a little older than me. But after a few years, I eventually realized that somewhere deep inside I didn't believe that I could, nor that I deserved to, attract a handsome black man who was close to my age. A couple of friends challenged me to work through that misconception. Part of how I did that was to change how I saw myself. I used to focus on how I didn't feel cool/hip, and how I wasn't sexy or fit. I thought I was just a big, weird, boring lump of flesh. When I started owning the fact that I'm kind, intelligent and fun, that replaced the pressure of "having" to be cool or hip and I became more confident. When I started owning the fact that I have my own sense of style and always present myself with dignity and joy, that helped get rid of the need to "be sexy". And when I started focusing more on how I could take better care of myself on a consistent basis, I started to get more fit. I basically realized that I was my own version of cool and sexy, and that that was enough. I also started telling myself that I deserved a good looking guy my age.
After all of this, I was able to interact with more confidence and ease, and I started to attract other black guys who were young and attractive. I had some lovely dates and got to know some beautiful black men, and it didn't happen until I realized that I am a beautiful black man. Don't wait for someone else to validate and affirm you. Consistently do those things for yourself and enjoy the resulting changes!
Right on! Beautiful message! Thank you, young man!
Racist.
Wow! I don't even know you, but I am falling in love with your energy! I have got to meet you!
Hey,I have been curious to get to know how gay men get everything they need from their men... like how do you get a man to spoil you from a gay man perspective..I don't know if that makes sense 😅... would love to hear your two sense
if you give off self confidence (not cockiness), calmness a touch of class and being down to earth is a turn on for me.
well i can only speak on my sitiuation is that iam very discreet and the white guys was kool with that and i found that the black guys didnt want to be with a black man that didnt want to be in public with them
I’m a gay black man and I don’t disregard though shy away from friendships or relationships with gay black men I’m not already close with for the simple reason that I don’t surround myself with negativity no matter what color. It seems in the “black community” it’s become so normal for us to complain about it all this “systemic racism” (that has been outlawed since before we were born) while saying the most racist things. You’re lonely? So are older men. Or white men. Or whatever kind of men. Young gay men act like this and then have the nerve to complain about them feeling lost and unloved as gay or black? Maybe stop focusing so much on being divisive. This victim mentality does nothing for us as black or gay people. It’s enough. 🤦🏿♂️
Yeah as a young gay man this comment is definitely anti-black. It also seems to allude to blackness being inherently negative. I don’t understand why not wanting systemic racism to exist is a bad thing. Maybe I’ll grow into understanding why I shouldn’t care about systems that effect my people. Maybe I’m too young to get it.
Very judgemental and uneducated. First post I found offensive. Yuck!!
@@terrelljackson. Unfortunately some black people think it is virtuous to trash other black people. I almost called him some very choice words, but I don't have to stoop to his level to make my point. He most likely is unhappy and is lashing out at the easiest target. Don't be annoyed with him. Feel sorry for him and move on.
I am a white guy and my very first sexual experience was with a MUCH older dark skinned Black man. He followed me around a bookstore, regular NOT adult, as I was young. He started standing beside me even after I moved aisles. So I guess you would say it was creepy. Long story short, he finally started talking to me and we ended up hooking up. I continued to see him for some time until he moved for his job, or so he said. It was obvious he wanted our seeing each other to be a secret, which I assumed was due to my age at the time versus his. Regardless it was a fantastic experience and I am glad he creeped on me.
Do you not have enough WHITE gay men in your world?
When I was locked up guys who sagged were trying to get attention. And I gave it to them lol!!
I appreciate this conversation
no way
You have such a cute face 😉
What a wise, young man. Thanks for sharing your compassionate ideas. Very interesting. Frankly speaking, older gay men entering or re-entering the gay dating life could use a good guide.
It strikes me that it seems natural that white older gay men and younger black gay men seem to be opposites and probably have something to offer each other; intellectually, experientially, and socially. It seems inevitable.
Yes! I 100% agree, I can't quite put my finger on it exactly as I feel it has levels of "individuality" on it.. but there is definitely something there..
Always appreciate your kind words! 💖
Does he ever get to the point. He constantly talks in circles and it is annoying.
Thanks for this feedback, will definitely take this into consideration for future videos!
Muscular guys tend to date other Muscle heads … if you want attention from those guys you have to beef up … not that you have too (fine the way you are) but if your trying to attract a particular crowd …you gotta also give what they’re giving
Thanks for sharing! And interesting perspective! 🙂
That is me all day. I like what I've built on my body because it is what I like from other guys,
If you can't get "Mr. Right" you just have to settle for "Mr. Right-now". :O)
You have a wonderful sense of self!
Keep your positive thinking going, and know that a beautiful man like yourself will ALWAYS attract what you put out there in the universe!
I read this earlier this morning and it warmed my heart! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I try my best to bring positive energy to the table but can be challenging when folks constantly try to "shut you down" ... comments like yours push me to keep bringing positive energy to the table! 💖 Thanks for taking the time to comment!
🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔🐔
All of your point are spot on. I believe in the human race too. I think so many are so very desperate to be loved... I don't know. Thanks for what you are doing.
Thanks for all of your comments and feedback!
excellent suggestion. "just do it" "what do you have to lose". "you will know for yourself, after you take the mystery out of the equation". Thanks for the affirmation.
absolutely! and sending encouraging vibes your way! it was uncomfortable for me to begin with, but like a muscle, the more you do it, the better and stronger you are at it.. 💖
I have never dated anyone of this race/breed (I mean black) because I live in mostly white area
There's nothing more backwards than the difference between being a masculine man interested in females and being a feminine man interested in males. Makes no sense but this phenomena makes perfect sense to you tho. You are a transformer. Lol
Interesting perspective, what made you come to that conclusion?
Why are you attacking him? Kind of shitty of you to treat someone like that! I don't like you!!!
Beautiful and bright young man. Thank you for this conversation.
Hey Ty! Thank you for your kind and encouraging words! 🙂
I love your personality ❤
Thanks friend! Your comment warmed my heart.. 😇
I know a mixed gay couple been together decades. It's an open relationship and the white guy doesn't look so great and you soon see why they have an open relationship. I don't find old gay white men attractive never have.
I must say you're eyes are so cute 😍
Thank you friend! 💖
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I don't care about anyone's race or skin color. Age however does matter. Only because older men(and women) tend to start getting out of shape. I pride myself on being fit and that's what I want in a guy. No shade to any older guys(or girls) just don't expect me to have worked out for 44 years to settle for a overweight guy. Cuz I didn't work this hard and long to settle for what I don't want. Just saying, there's very few reasons to become soft and squishy no matter how old you get.
That's what I am saying 😂
Beautiful hair and love the advice and Perspective
Thanks friend! Upset that I am just now seeing this.. Hope your new year is off to a good start! 💖
@@realgaylife it is! How’s your New Year?
Starting off well! Got a lot of time last year to ground myself. Excited to get back into the swing of things this year! (aka TH-cam) 🙂
Okaaaaaay
Good video
You are awesome
Appreciate the love.. 💖
Great subject. Thanks.
Yes I get approached by older white men too and some older Spanish men as well .
Hey Ramir! Hope your new year is kicking off to a good start.. was curious to know if it ever bothers you that you get approached by older White and Spanish me?
Listen you are easy on the eyes and intelligent 🏳️🌈🖤🤩☺😊🥰💕😌 happy black history month even when its not february and happy late vday
😇 Thanks friend, I appreciate the love and positive energy you always send my way! And same to you 💖 ..
@@realgaylife you can begin sending it back my way poont lol. Sub and comment on any content you'd like 👍 😉 💖