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"If something's not done the way he wants it, he will threaten to put me out"
That one line says it all. Put this dude in the rearview mirror honey
These comments really show that people don’t know what an emotionally abusive relationship is like. My father treated my mother the same way, first he said she needed to get a job, she did and then he said she needed to stay home. He wanted control of every financial aspect of her life which started so slow she didn’t know how to react until he tried killing her. Unfortunately it is way too common.
Doesn’t sound like your mother situation at all cuz she works and keeps her own money!
What kind of abuser insists their victim has their own money? If you're abusing someone one of the first steps is that you cut off their ability to leave.
They didn't ask the relevant questions to determine the situation. She may very well have admitted "my husband pays for everything and I only have to pay for gas and food and I can't afford it because of my crippling spending problem." They didn't ask that, so we don't know, and the problem she called about was left completely by the wayside.
Your mother's story is completely different from this caller's story.
She said right at the beginning that he's not abusive. She works a full time job, has her own money that he doesn't touch. Her money is hers and his money is his, per their separate bank accounts.
She said that he's rarely home, so that means she mostly buys groceries for herself and the child. And she pays for the gas for her car.
Since it's his house that she lives in (rent free) he pays for everything related to the house. If she had to pay a portion to the house, she would've mentioned it. I can tell she lives in HIS house rent free bc she said, "I have to do things a certain way or else he told me I can leave".
The truth is most likely this, she got him to marry her (a single mom) by agreeing to separate bank accounts, meanwhile he pays for 80%/90% of the bills, all she pays for is gas and food. Two years into the marriage, she wants to change their agreement because she's unsatisfied that she can't spend more of his money. She's mad that he makes more money than her and she can't spend it, since it's his money, his account.
I think she is just saying her dad controlled her moms ability to make or not make money.
100%
Was in an abusive marriage for 40 years, I didn't leave because he always told me I was stupid and didn't know anything. I believed him
Was in abusive marriage over 20 years and finance are just the start. She needs to get her and her daughter out. She won't truly know how she's affected AND her daughter until she's out. This isn't a real marriage
@Write_me15 who am I talking with?
If she works why can't she buy groceries or gas? These guys need to get to the root of the problem
We def gotta hear the guys side of the story! Cuz if she’s only responsible for gas and groceries, what’s the big deal?she can’t cover that of a full time salary?
Exactly. What on Earth is she spending her full time money on that she is going into debt over gas and groceries?
She is suggesting that what she makes isnt enough, so maybe her paycheck all goes to one or two bills but there isnt any left for groceries where as his side of the bills are paid and he has extra he wont give her...she should just not have dinner for him for a few days to see how that works out lol..
Agreed. Besides, she started the call by saying separate accounts is the way to go
@@cutlerylover she would’ve said her checks went to a certain bill or not but instead said groceries and gas and that he makes 4x as much as her
For the first time I can say both Delony and George made mistakes, first they didn't ask who pays the bills? What is her contribution and why did they agree not to share their finances? It's ridiculous when people are just making it a man as a bad person before actually getting the facts straight. Poor advice today guys.
Agree. They are not counselors or therapist on relationships. Get to the money issues then tell her she need to get help and leave. She walk away with no financial advice Delony need to work at crisis services.
@@LisaCPerry Of course. They just jump to conclusions.
@@jimmymcgill6778 I agree with you this time! The man blaming was heavy in this one
@@reese85 Just from what she's saying. It sounds like he is mostly the problem.
But there's sides to every story.
You should not automatically believe one side.
Yep, I've heard Dave be more harsh with callers than this lady's husband has been to her.
This is all weird. Makes no sense. I don’t agree with no combining finances. Why did you get married then. But where is her paycheck going?
Here is what 'I' think she isn't telling. RIGHT AFTER the honeymoon, she starts spending, bc HER money is HER money and HIS money is HER money, he says the most TOXIC, ABUSIVE thing ever to a woman..."NO" Now she wants to paint him as abusive and these two tools are complicit in perhaps ruining a man's life and livelihood,,,but the man put himself in this position, you NEVER marry a single mom...ever, ever EVER
If she works full time and doesn’t pay bills, you have to wonder why gas/groceries can’t be paid. Where does her money go? You need both sides of the story rather than a pitty story. Could’ve been agreed upon prior to being married due to crazy spending issues/debt she has previously.
If this is all the truth, then she needs to just leave. No point in marrying someone who is your dad.
@@bulls-nation5783 I agree.She needs a man who is just as irresponsible as she is.
@@bulls-nation5783 HAHAHA, a woman tells the whole truth in a relationship...wait...HAHAHAHA
@@silentnot4812 Probably doesn't get any or if she does, that is HER money. I can hear the delusion and manipulation on how she speaks...this woman is up to no good because she didn't get the $$$ she wanted when she married him
She probably has to pay her own bills.
Dave needed to answer this call. He would have asked the right questions.
Yep
yeah they butchered this call for sure
Agree. What is he responsible paying for financially, and what is she responsible for if they have separate bank accounts.
We never think it will happen to us! Prayers to you!
My sister is a narcissistic gaslighter. Enough said. 😢
The first thing she says is they agreed not to combine finances for some reason. Why didn’t they ask why?
"I agreed to not sharing a bank account"
"THEY" implies they came to together on this.
She agreed with his plan.
I bet it was more his idea and she just said ok because the alternative was to break up.
@@lauvasquez7198 at the end of the day, she agreed to it
@@lauvasquez7198
Nonetheless, she agreed to it, so she can't go back and expect a change two years into the marriage. If she's unsatisfied with the agreement, she can always leave.
Dave or Rachel would have seen this as a huge red flag
"Are you working full time?" "Yes, but I mean..." I really wish she would have finished that sentence either before or after the hosts cut in. I REALLY wanted to hear why she has a full-time job, access to her own paycheck, and can't afford groceries and necessities. I don't mean that in a cynical way, either, it could be totally legit (most of it goes toward the mortgage/utilities/other shared living expenses). I just wish we heard more about the financial side of things.
She's paying the utilities
Exactly, I’m confused by how this doesn’t add up. She has all her money.::
Yeah my money and our money. Except he's not playing the our money game and she doesn't like it. So it's abusive. I'm surprised we didn't get "toxic" thrown in there for good measure.
True! I also wanted to hear what she had to say.
@@sonjailic5770 Her current husband is not the father to her child. He might feel she needs to take care of her daughter solely and doesn't want to contribute to her expenses, unfortunately, that was never discussed.
Husband: you gotta be responsible with money.
Dr. Boloney: are you safe?
Doctor baloney likes to say are you safe and to make women into some domestic violence victim out of nothing
Glad I'm not the only one who was confused by that random, useless question.
@@dexterjuan the guy doesn’t know any finance, I have no idea why he is on the show. Thumbs down from me on this video.
Maloney is starting to parody himself. John not every guy is on the verge of hitting his wife.
What this man is doing is absolutely abusive. He knows she doesn't have money for food and he doesn't give her 50 bucks? Get real! Just because you've had a bad woman in your life doesn't mean there aren't bad guys out there
I think hearing both sides of the story is wise before jumping to a conclusion.
Definitely for this call
They don't care about both sides. Didn't you hear the news? Apparently women are incapable of lying or not giving all the facts.
I’ve heard all I need to hear. The husband needs to man up and pay the bills. That’s what being a man is all about.
Having been in that type of marriage I believe her. She is not even telling all of the craziness. It is so embarrassing.
It seems like he'll just add excuses and just blame her.
She needs to see a lawyer in secret get a safe place secured then leave when he’s not home. Have her pay deposited in new account to
Be safe.
Yes GET OUT! I was in a similar situation. Our children would hide when they knew their father was coming home from work as you never knew what mood he was in. My ex’s family came to my home threatening me because I told the rest of his extended family that he he’d been abusing me. They called me a liar because I exposed these good “CHRISTIANS” for supporting an abuser. When I first told his immediate family what was happening , looking for help/guidance,they simply said to “Pray about it” fifteen years later it only stopped when I exposed the family on the Internet . It doesn’t get better. The verbal abuse turns to emotional , to physical , and then to death.
You didn't ask her questions and jumped to conclusions. What's household income? What are her debts? Why can't she afford gas and groceries on a full time income?
Because there are more important things then money. Clearly this isn’t a healthy marriage.
Jane...take your daughter and get out. You can't fix this and he has already broken your vows. Just leave.
It’s more to this story. She stated she’s bad with money and has a full time job. I think they just convinced her she’s a victim of abuse and she initially didn’t feel that way at the start. I don’t want to be insensitive if she is being abused but there are a lot of unanswered questions about her situation imo
John is too busy playing psychic. He cares more about guessing what's going on than really hearing the truth. He'd rather validate his own ego on air than get the real details. Why does he always need to guess what's going on? He could literally ask one direct question and hear the answer instead of leading her to his conclusion on air with millions listening.
He threatens to kick her out of the house if she doesn't make the beds correctly and according to his control...did you miss that?
@@barbaramartorana1598
It's his house, if she doesn't like it, she can always leave.
He even told her she can leave.
What kind of a woman stays with a man like that? Where's her self respect?
@@terriesmith2616 What a blessing it is that you’ve never dealt with a man who will come find you or hurt you if you actually do leave. Many of us wish to be that blessed in life. I pray you keep living a life that keeps you ignorant on this subject. ❤
As a Christian who has been in a similar situation get out, move on. God wants you to have an abundant life. I wish I would've left sooner soon behaviors wouldn't have been shown to my son. It's hard I know, and others will not get it. Pack a bag and hide it while you plan your exit. Leave a letter to avoid the explosive exchange. Be brave and show your daughter a better way. She deserves a better example. I saw a Christian therapist a year before I left. I now have a marriage others dream of. They get worse with age these personality types who need control.
Good advice!
Many women are killed during the exit.
For all we know, the guy could be paying the rent/mortgage with his money while she has the responsibility of groceries. He probably agreed to keep finances separate since he makes so much more than her + she has a child from a previous relationship. There's simply not enough info to say that this guy is financially abusive.
This is a roommate situation he's paying all those things because it's HIS house. He's not there he basically doesn't see value on her to provide food for her.
@@neisci If they’ve decided to split finances, it’s only logical to split bills. By your logic, where should her money be going?
It's fine for a psychologist to determine if his "patient" is safe as a priority, but they jumped WAY too quick to suspect abuse. This is a finance show, ask the finance questions. She has a job, does she have a budget? Why can't she afford gas/groceries, which surely should be the first things she budgets for whether she has to do it with a joint or solo income? If he was so financially abusive, why wouldn't he insist on keeping her paycheck or refuse to let her get a job so she's dependent on him?
The only info we've heard is he evidently doesn't trust her to share finances, she earns her own money he doesn't touch, he earns alot more, and yet she can't even afford basics. Where is her money going? What is he paying for? Why doesn't he trust her?
She won't leave because he's actually paying for 80-90%+ of the expenses, including her child from another man.
💯💯💯 Facts
Tru dat!!
Exactly!!!
It's a hard life for a simp
My wife hasn't had a paycheck in 30 years. That being said she takes care of the finances and I trust her. That's why we got married. We have a net worth over $2M and I've never made over $100K. I don't understand marriages where the money is kept separate.
I've been watching the show for a while; the main problem that commenters have is with the inability to of the
personalities to ask the right questions before giving advice.
People want Dave because he asks the pertinent questions.
If you don't already do it, perhaps some training from Dave, or revisiting calls for trying purposes would help?
Spot on. These mellinial aged hosts don't ask the basic question ramsey would. Instead you got DeLoney asking every woman if thier safe because the husband set some boundaries in the relationship
@fauxbro1983 😂 you think this woman on the phone is in a healthy marriage right now?
@@thexorode Nope. How much of the dysfunction is She contributing? Do you know. I know I don't.
@@simonthebroken9691 "he does control everything, not just money", "he told me I haven't proven myself", "he threatened to put me out" yeah you right, looks good to me! 🤡 any other words of wisdom you wanna add, Simon?
@@thexorode You're only getting one person's side. I didn't say she was lying. How do you know what's true. Do you have a relationship with both parties?
How much gas and groceries does she buy? So much that she needs to go into debt? The guy could be at his wits end. Before the knights in shining armor jump in, they might need to know the whole situation.
Me and my wife live by the Hudson river with the beautiful view of midtown Manhattan, I make four to five times my wife. I pay for our enormous rent, electric, both cars and Insurances. The least my wife, who has a full time job can do... Is buy groceries and gas up her own vehicle. Of course when we go on vacations or trips, I pay for everything But It's almost a nuisance or an insult if she asks me for money for groceries or gas .... 🤔🤔
Just wow….put all of your money in one account and trust each other with it.
@@texasrodeogirl3814 Most women are so brainwashed by feminism that they believe men and women are equal. As a man you can´t trust these women. Never ever. If a man can´t find a real women and marries a feminist one, he has to protect himself or gets rect.
@@texasrodeogirl3814 if someone wastes their own money, why on earth would you give them access to yours
You sound fun
@@glitterstarbeau I try my best 😉🙂
Halfway through and I'm very confused. She has her own wage so why are they not asking how much they each make/contribute? She could be an irresponsible spender with entitlement issues. I'm not normally one to agree with the crowd who think they always blame the man but this kind of seems that way.
They are just stupid, they went on her side like that was a complete story. They’re so corny
She said he makes 4x her income
@@jdtreharne Oh really? I didn't catch that at all. Well that does make it more likely she's being treated unfairly in the marriage, but they still should at least ask what they both spend on and why they don't have a joint account or if there's any reason he doesn't want to give her money.
He doesn't want to give her money because he's a control freak. If he really loved her, he would give her 50 bucks
The man probably pays for almost everything, I want to know what does she contribute to their family other than being in a another man’s child to a relationship. I think the man is the one that is being used.
Please keep us posted on this story
Yeah all we got out of this is he's a big meanie and I'm a victim of my own decisions. Any money he does not want to support Chad's spawn. Any money she has proven herself financially irresponsible in his eyes. He apparently told her upfront you handle your expenses. Now she doesn't like that so it's abusive. We know nothing here. Income? Expenses? Debts? Child support from Chad? What is his share of the load? What is her share? He's not beating her so it's not a physical problem. Is he verbal? Or is all this over "you pay for your kid and car and I'll pay everything else". Boys, don't marry women with other men's children. Find one you can sire your own kids with, and build a life together. Being a stepdad is a losing proposition, seen it personally and hear about it all the time. And women, don't marry into situations you are not comfortable with. How many times do we hear He told me blah blah and I accepted it and now I don't like it.
A. They agreed to not combine finances
B. She has her own bank account with her own full time income
C. Delony is casting the husband as an abuser with only one side of the story (her side of it sounding very off and lacking in detail)
I don’t get it.. he won’t give her money for groceries and gas but she pays no bills AND has her own money ?? This whole thing makes no sense! John and George failed to ask the right questions! I’m very disappointed.. learn how to host or get off the air.
she pays no bills?
The goal is to ALWAYS victimize women and blame the husband. ALWAYS
@@aolvaar8792
She only pays for groceries and gas. She says the house is his, he pays all the bills relating to the house. She even said he wants things done a certain way and if she doesn't like it, then she can leave. That implies she lives in HIS house rent free, he pays for mortgage, electric, water, insurance, etc.
She's got a full time job (money that he doesn't touch), she can choose to leave at any time.
@@terriesmith2616 he has to pay all the bills, that’s what being a man is all about.
@@costco_pizza
So, are you saying that being a man is all about paying bills for a woman? So being a man is like being an ATM for a woman, otherwise he's not useful?
So a man's purpose in life is to be an ATM for a woman?
They always blame the guy in every call. The caller can come right out and say she’s bad with money, works full time doesn’t pay bills and still spends all her money, and they still find a way to blame him. They literally agreed before marriage that she was bad with money and would not share accounts.
Again, they blame the man. She also has a kid from another marriage and wants access to the new husbands money.
Jon's advice is correct though that she needs to leave. If she's feeling afraid, there must be something deeper than just the money. Him threatening to kick her out as well when they're married is absurd.
I don’t know what call you were listening to but this wasn’t about money. The relationship is toxic bordering on abusive emotionally and mentally.
Though it may not have progressed to physical abuse yet there is a pattern that is emerging and has very little if any to do with money.
You aren’t lying lol. The wives can’t manage their money or debt, but if the husband sets boundaries, he’s the tyrant or “financial abuser.”
All businesses all TV all commercials cater to women is Flawless angelic creatures
That simp mentality is something else
Get the husband on the line. Let’s hear his side before casting him as an abuser.
Seems only fair!
NOPE!. Seems as tho you have taken this personally.
And if you r saying this, then it means that EVERY CALLER should have the other party on the line.
So you are indirectly trying to dissuade ppl those situations for even calling or reaching out for help.
You are missing gaslighting.
Not only that, if the other person comes on the line, he may abuse her right after the call
No grown person should have or exert that level on control or another grown person.
..of the adult is truly clinically or medically unable to take of themselves, ...that is different.
But she seems sane and in her right mind.
DONT TRY TO DENT WHAT U HAVE HEARD
Don't control people
There we go. Top comment to the misogynist.
I feeling your pain 😢 i know exactly what she's talking about...
I had a friend in the same situation. By the time their first child was 10, they had a physical fight because he was mentally abusing their daughter. By the time the daughter was 17 she had to leave because he attacked the daughter
The financial control was only the beginning
Wheres Dave to ask the question, at LEAST to ask: what's your household income?
Right?! I’m bummed, I wanted to hear numbers!
These hosts are way too in love with the sounds of their own voices and afraid of uncomfortable silences. Notice Dave will sit and wait without saying anything to get a complete answer.
Lord Father help your children to have discernment when choosing a life partner. My goodness this is a terrible situation to be in..
Amen to this prayer.
Idk! Sounds like she was making the situation sound way worse than what it actually is
God had nothing to do with this and you are too late. Pray that women choose the right guy to be Baby Daddy so they won't have to scramble to find Mr. ATM to marry. I am on this man's side...never raise another man's child
@Natalie Pope
A terrible situation for the guy. Never ever marry a single mom. Recreational use only.
@@davecopp9356 It’s a terrible situation for any two persons to find themselves in period. It doesn’t matter what side you are viewing it from.
Both parties involved made a terrible decision when they decided to get together because it’s obvious based on the few details given, that neither one came into it for love.
God made marriage very clear. Husband to love their wife like God love the church and for wives to submit to their husband as they would onto God.
If both had discernment when choosing a life partner her reasoning wouldn’t be because she wants to make sure her child is financially secure as she so bravely stated in her call.
As for the husband I am not sure what his reasons for marrying her was because he was not there to speak on the matter but it’s clear he doesn’t trust her enough to allow her to have access to other finances.. That in its self is a problem…
This has already happened so they can’t go back but others can learn from it. Hence why my original post said “let your children have discernment when choosing a life partner.”
Any two persons involve needs to have discernment. Not just the one who’s fault it may appear to be.
Have a blessed day🙏
Dude is probably paying all the bills for the house, besides groceries, for her and her kid that isn't his. I dont blame him for being cautious, women brought this on themselves based on how guys are treated in court. Keep doing your thing my guy.
Exactly. Protect yourself and never trust these 304s fully and never ever marry a single mother. Recreational use only.
This dude just feeds into the histrionics and drama.
Anytime a man doesn’t want to share finances….”are you safe?”
They decided to keep their finances separate but now she wants access to his money when that was not what they agreed on. Am I missing something? If it's his house he is also in the right to kick her out and divorce her if he doesn't like her behavior. This doesn't seem abusive at all. She needs to be held accountable for getting into a situation where she has no leverage. If roles were reversed we would all roast the guy for being stupid enough to put himself in that situation.
Seems like he presented rational boundaries before getting married. Now she's having regret because she can't handle money.
I agree.
Sounds about right
As a man this makes me want to stay single.
these are the best shows to watch to make you appreciate your single life. Who needs this stress?
Ditto except I'm a woman I can take care of myself.
Hey my mortgage company is toxic and abusive because I agreed to pay for this house and signed on the dotted line but now several years into it I don’t like the terms and conditions anymore so I’m trying to renegotiate but they’re threatening to foreclose on me and put me out. What should I do? I don’t feel safe. I think it may escalate to physical abuse when the sheriff deputy comes to evict me.
Well said. This the classi bait and switch and this guy isnt falling for it.
@Zoraster Exactly. Very well described the situation what is actually going on and these two simps in the video are falling for it.
Is she a gambler? Is she a compulsive shopper? Does she have an addiction? She works, and she can't pay groceries and gas for her and a child? She said her part of the story, a lot is missing here, if he doesn't provide any help, why is she there looking for stability?
I believe her and agree this is not healthy regardless of what her spending habits might be. That relationship situation is toxic.
I mean if you've ever been married, you know what you're walking into BEFORE getting married. I'm sure this didn't happen overnight. Same on his end if this is true. And we all know there's 3 sides to every story so...everyone just needs to take responsibility for their situation. Leave. Stay. Get help. Don't. But dang if you made a decision, sit in it and don't complain or do something about it. Geez! 🤷🏾♀️ who's here for taking action in 2023?!? 🤚🏾
I beg to differ. I didn’t know when I married my husband that he would always keep his heart closed and refuse to be vulnerable, to the point where his body is reacting and now he wants out of the marriage. I didn’t know that the fact we never fought was a bad sign. Don’t blame her. I’m sure she didn’t know.
@R Ann Green Great...exactly my point. Sounds like the decision was made. You're divorced..so you're no longer in the situation. Hope you learned something and can move on. 🤷🏾♀️
You clearly have no idea/experience with abusive relationships. Excellent at judging people though.
@Luna Bella I love how commenters contine to support my point and it's funny how expecting people to be responsible for their behavior and the moves they make in life is problematic. Again for the people in the back... EITHER STAY OR GO. Make a decision!
Also, I have actually been is several abusive relationships, especially as a young woman. And AGAIN I take full responsibility for attracting those people, staying too long, etc.
That was MY decision to take responsibility. If you wanna dwell in victimhood, fine. If that vindicates you to sympathize, 👍🏾. But being an angry keyboard warrior with no picture to respond about something that triggered you is not the answer. Get help, or stay and don't complain.
@RedBlackandBlue it's the lack of accountability for me! Lol! Oh well. Own your bad choices. I made one...thats why I'm divorced too. 🥰🤣
If your daughter was in a relationship like this, what would you tell her?
I am so glad I didn’t marry my ex…. I do not miss this life at all.
Dr. Boloney: why do you stay?
Her: I haven't figured out how to take half his s*** plus support for the child that's not his. (Translation)
Bingo. She doesn't care about him just his money.
Spot on.
Does the guy pay all the other stuff like rent/mortgage and bills? curious
He probably does, she works full time, but can't afford groceries? No way she pays the other bills...rent, utilities, etc...
Of COURSE he does, for her and a kid not his...but this is modern women and instead of being grateful, she tries to paint him as abuser. Do not get married as a man especially to a single mom who sees you as an ATM and lowest on the priority list. Way she talked about him being away so much, wouldn't put it past her to be hooking up with other men either.
Dave would have asked. Dave might not be perfect but he would have made more of an effort to get to the bottom of things by asking a few basic questions.
So she has money but can't buy groceries? Id like to talk to the guy here. Something is off
Initially, when she said she agreed to separate bank accounts, I thought it was because SHE didn't want joint finances, because she had a full time job. I get that. Merging finances can be a difficult adjustment to make. But then it turns out it was his idea, because he makes more money. He's not committed to her or this relationship.
Others have said we need to hear his side. Maybe. Maybe they need to go for counseling. If he doesn't go, she needs to move on. They're not saying it's easy. And I'm still not buying her reasons for her reluctance to leave the marriage.
I hope this woman takes her child and runs away from this marriage as fast as she can. That was the voice of a woman who is living in fear. Nobody - nobody - should have to live that way.
Fear? Listen again when they ask WHY she is staying and hasn't left yet...it is the money and lifestyle. She married him for money and to be the simp step dad...he refused to play ball
@@TheImapotato Exactly.
If you have a car that makes that noise when you enter or exit it, you shouldn’t be in debt. You have too nice of a car to be in debt.
We need judge judy to be a guest host on this show
I personally do not see what the Dr. is seeing. How is she in an unsafe place? She has a full time job and is responsible for gas and groceries. Sounds like a good deal to me. What have I missed?
The two in the video are simps and fell for the women playing the victim and answered out of emotion and feelings without logic. Dave is the same. Always blaming the man in such cases. She agreed to separate bank accounts before the marriage and what she has to pay. Now she wants to renogiate and to have more leverage is painting a picture of unsafety and him as a bad guy. The guy is a saint for taking in a single mother.
*SIMPS THAT THEY ARE IS THE REASON WHY*
Why aren't yall talking about her about the money issue? They didn't even ask how much she makes?
According to her all this. I'm sure his point of view will she'd more light. He doesn't give me "his money" he's planted his flag he doesn't want to be your ATM.
Of course Delony the simp "are you safe". Some men just don't want 🐂💩.
If you don't like it leave. Your a grown woman not his child.
He doesn't trust her with money and all of a sudden he's going to be violent with her? Wow!!
That exact thing happened to a friend of mine. After the divorce, she told us she didn't even have money for feminine hygiene products. He wouldn't give her anything. He was an evil man who looked good on the outside to all the friends
@@georgewagner7787 full time job though, the caller. And can't buy food with a full time job? Something off there.
In the words of Kevin Samuels, there is no honor in being a step-father. George and Delony really disappointed in this call, especially George cause it's expected from Delony, but for George to simp that hard, not cool.
I'm in a situation where I cant trust my wife with money because she has been and continues to be irresponsible with money. This does not sound like an abusive situation to me, it sounds like a husband who is tired of seeing money squandered and used irresponsably. I can relate. Sometimes enough is enough.
I think you're applying your own issues. She can't even buy groceries.
At no point is anything said that indicates she is squandering money but we do hear that he withholds money for basics like food and gas AND that he THREATENS to kick her out of the house if the beds are not made to his standards and you take his side? He threatens to kick her out for not making the beds according to his grand wishes and you do not see abuse? Financial witholding is abuse, by law, by definition, and no amount of "justifying" it makes it okay. You are right about one thing, enough is enough.
The problem is she feels like if she couldn't work then he wouldn't even help her
I know someone who has to eat rice and beans at work while the wife is buying stuff with his money. He works hard but on payday, the money is gone before he can get to it. Guys, protect your freedom especially if she’s a big spender.
What a nightmare.
Thank you John. You're right on. I was in a similar situation.
She ain't going nowhere.
Actively trying to influence someone to leave a marriage after just a few minutes of a phone call? Stick to finances guys.
There's always two sides of the story. And 100% of the time, one of them is right.
I would love to hear his side as well. If a wife has a spending/gambling problem that she doesn’t mention I would agree with him. If he has everything he wants and forces her to live poor then he has a problem. Life will never be exactly equal but it should be close in a marriage.
My wife has got on me for cases like this then I show her the finances and she understands. We are a single income. And for those who may criticize me she got the last two new vehicles, always has a new phone and a budget to live on as a stay at home mom.
She has zero control of her spending n wants him to give her his money
The guys are putting thoughts in here head. There is no way they can make those conclusions they did in 60 seconds.
This advice seems extreme. It is a finance situation, and they made it about abuse.
My heart HURTS for her. He has broken her down so much, she’s scared to be without him. I fear she won’t leave, but I pray that she does! ♥️
Scared that she can't have his money...this is why men shouldn't marry single moms
@@TheImapotato women just don’t get it man.
Never, never ever, did I already say never, marry a single mum. And never trust these 304s fully. They play the victims if it gives them any advantage. Don´t let the crocodile tears fool you. Protect yourself no matter what. One minute these 304s say they are strong and independent and the next second they play the victim.
I’m sorry.. but did you miss the part about their finances not being combined and her having her own accounts with a full time income of her own ? Somethings off about this story, I think we need to hear both sides before making judgments because I feel like we are missing a lot of details here.
@@TheImapotato It doesn’t matter…she doesn’t deserve the treatment. What a weird way to think. Praying for some compassion to enter your heart.
Oh wow, this woman must be married to my ex-bf. He was exactly the same way.
Young men, listen to this call very very carefully, especially the beginning. She says they agreed before they got married not to share accounts. Then she listens to Dave Ramsey and now wants to share accounts. Those are two facts. We have right off the bat in addition to that, she has a child from someone else and she works full-time. Those are other facts. Notice how the entire conversation is framed around his actions and not those facts. This is a perfect example of how society works now if you’re the man you’re responsible for all negative outcomes. Treat women with respect and kindness, but never ever get married. Good luck.
Dead on.We also now have these two fine gentlemen in so many words telling her to go ahead and file for divorce.
I kind of completely agree when you look from the other perspectives. She chose what she wanted and now she regrets it. Now she's struggling because of her own choices of being a individual instead of a team player. The husband doesn't seem like from her perspective of course, he wants to be in this marriage. It probably started the year after they got married that he lost interest in her because of her full-time job and not being a housewife. To each their own but don't make the other seem like the bad person
100%. Very well said.
@@memphistiger4647 The Ramsey Network used to try and uplift everyone. Dave was rough but he was equally rough. The latest iterations of their talent is decidedly anti male which is unfortunate. It's baffling to me why Ramsey chose this course, men in the U.S. have very few resources to help them at a time when they under the most pressure from all sides. They had a great opportunity to reach out and address mens issues.
Good comment
It’s blows me away the way people live out there. Just sad
There is her side, his side of the story and then the truth.
No, not everybody lies. Such an ignorant saying. So tired of hearing it.
These ppl didn't ask the right questions to further investigate the matter. The guy makes 4x more than her...I'm not saying this is the case, but how do we know she's not playing the victim? They shoukd have ask more questions instead of jumping into the conclusion that she's being abused
These calls are rough to listen to. There's so much loss in a relationship and you have to prove process the grief of losing it... but lord, start processing. Start getting things right in your life to get out.
Husband knows her spending is outrageous, and is trying to make sure they both don’t go broke. Homeboy needs a divorce and free himself
Single mother saw $$$ and didn't care about the rest. It's always the man's fault....
Spidy senses are telling me it’s something rooted in the kid not being his own… but hey, I’ve been wrong before!! 😅
I know it has been 1 year but I'd like to see a update and see if she is okay
BAD ADVICE PANEL. Is she good with money or not?
Nice Ford she’s got there
You guys should not ve giving advice on separation based one listening on one side of the story.
No one can "give" you stability.
I am a woman. I see a desperate woman. She wanted to be married so she was afraid to be honest with this man and speak out. She is not being totally fair to this man. I love my daddy Dave Ramsey but this here is not fair to her husband . Listen carefully, she said they agreed to keep finances separate before they got married ? How would any woman agree to marry a man and to do 50/50 with a man who makes four times her income ? This man has his issues but as a woman to put all the blame on this man is unfair. So how is this financial abuse? Secondly she has a daughter before she met him. Okay what conversations were held concerning this child that is not his? As for emotional abuse, I have to dig deep? Was this man doing a job that he had to be away for long periods before they got married? You see people fall in love, become sexually active without a ring , when the adrenaline falls off and reality hits , they cannot handle the truth and want to blame the other party. What conversations they did have? Did they go to see a professional licensed marriage counselor before marriage to bring all these things in the table and see if they could handle everything? . If they had gone to see a therapist, those people are trained they dig deep to and are raw. It is not late. This marriage can be revived with a lot of unlearning and relearning and professional help.
Kevin Samuels obviously had a lot more work to do with obese women like you
i missing something or she missing something
she said she has contorl of all her pay chekc money, then this is not abuse this is a roomate and she cant handle money
Same situation!
She is afraid to leave
She is afraid to leave
I’ live it, not easy
Sounds like she found a dude who makes bank, and she wanted a piece of that pie for her & her baby.
She doesn't want to leave. She wants access to his money.
This therapist is spot on! Listen to him!!!! Do not stay because of a vow.
She is in denial.
So sad.
If she works full time why can’t she afford groceries? What? I believe her husband, she’s definitely bad with money.
Why divorce?
If any, how much child support does she receive from the child's biological father?
She says she wanted stability for her daughter. To enter a marriage knowing you won't have joint access to your husbands finances is clearly going to be a problem, knowing you already don't make enough money to support a child on your own.
In my opinion, both married each other thinking only about their personal needs and wants.
It would have been interesting to know her income and if she had a budget.
Her plan moving forward should be to get rid of her debt, do what she can to save up for an apartment for her and her child and not date again until the child is off to college.
Jane, it's okay to walk away, you know your life better than us in the comments. We have time to analyze and give our opinions, because it's not our situation.
Production Team: "John is on the show...Please queue up the word 'safe'..." When you see John's face on the thumbnail, you know he's going to make sure that the caller is "SAFE."
Is that a bad thing?
@@Globewanderer000 Not at all. Especially in this video. But there are certain videos where he overuses "safe." I listen to figure our how he's going to shoehorn it in.
John boloney's favorite are you safe cuz he ever asked a man that is he safe
Well said. Two simps in their emotions and feelings blaming men as soon as a women plays the victim.
I think she loves him, though irrational!
It is funny to hear when she says MY daughter and MY child, the guy probably has no word at home, the sooner she leaves the better for the guy, she needs to start taking responsibility for her actions and the guys in general needs to stop dating single moms.
Can’t put all single mothers in the same boat
@@reese85 what boat? They're all drowning lol
@@asnmdnss nah all single ain’t bad and all women can be difficult
@@reese85 Wish we could, and push it out to sea. But you go ahead young man, go marry one lol
@@TheImapotato I can’t speak for you guys but I kno for me! I pick good women! Single mothers or not