Amen! I have said that to myself many times. God brought the one, but he was so arrogant, entitled and took his blessing for granted, that it killed the love God put in my heart. Oh well!
38 and single, no children. Met a lot of broken men who want relationships . Yet don’t really know what they want. It’s so confusing so I run 🏃🏾♀️. Heal before dating fellas. 😀
Yes- your a great example of a BW being true and not giving up just to have a man and a kid. Mad respect, to you sis. Don’t let these weak men in. 🙏🏽👍🏽👏🏽
Omg, my husband is my best friend, and he always tell me I’m his best friend. He will not leave with out me. Even if I don’t want to go , he always say I’m lost with out you, you know we do everything together. After 15 years things only get better. I can’t believe how this man makes me feel , thank you for your video. Your words are so true, living prove.
A man must first lead in love not come in expecting love to be given to him first but reciprocated. He must also be coming with good intentions for the woman of his interest.
@@monicalabelle953 not all muslims. The few i know slept before marriage. One here in NY even got her pregnant before marriage. Not having sex before marriage is all religion thing but most people are all out looking for sex before marriage. No perfect religion no perfect humans. We pray for God's grace
Chemistry is a beautiful thing ….that LOVE happens unexpectedly without words or works (We’re on each other’s minds all the time)….it’s natural as the beings they are….💥💐
True, but now we ladies know so no excuse to not stay off our backs. These "men" ain't loyal they do not, I repeat do not respect or value you as a human being. Period
I don't want to "keep" anybody. I know who I am, I know what I can offer to a man, what I am capable of in terms of emotional support, what I am capable of as a woman and I value myself enough not to try to keep anyone who doesn't choose to be with me. If there is no natural chemistry, no mutual respect, understanding, support, respect of privacy and equal give and take in partnership, I won't even blink extra to try to "keep" him.
Just pray for a good man that's all cus most men won't even show u thier there character till y'all married..even if y'all dated for one century he might not still show it...ppl change...just pray for a good man that's all...
Love is Enough. It's just what they call "love" is not real love. Its lust, it's infatuation, it's NEW. But when You love someone and yourself, you're going to be honest, trustworthy, open and true to yourself. Your motive will be right. That will show, when you are dating and getting to know someone.
Amen my brother. What is love? Love is God, God is love. True love will actively pray for and personify Godly characteristics: respect, patience, kindness, honesty, selflessness, forgiveness, trust, gentleness, peacefulness etc...I am definitely a work in progress.
Women want more than love too . No woman wants a man so comfortable he takes her for granted either . Women want to keep evolving while men get stuck fat and Katy when they in love . I’d rather have the guy Chase after me with lost than want them be in love with me that’s not fun that’s boring that’s Netflix again and figure out what you’re gonna have for dinner and who’s going to do the dishes fuck that shit where is my fucking limo in my roses give me a reason to shave my fucking legs love is for old folks this new generation it doesn’t fit into the way the world is anymore it really isn’t you have to be selfish to be pragmatic enough to be well rounded in today’s world
Ladies listen to him, this is actually guy code. He ain't supposed to be exposing this. No relationship coach will give y'all these deep insights. Thumbs up to this 👍
People pleasers come off as nice but they are not, they can’t say “no,” so resentment builds up. Never date a people pleaser because the are only trying to please others such as family, friends, everyone that ask. Then you come last because they don’t know how to say no. And you get a burnt out/exhausted/emotionally unavailable partner who is never authentic or honest. So one day they will snap.
I once heard a person can't keep a mask more than 3,4 months, so date at least 3 or 4 months to realize who the person really is.. (it's true, from my experience) Thanks for your cool vibes bro
I agree 100%, that waiting to exchange energy at least 90 days is real. I will literally talk to someone for 30 days on the phone before I start dating them in person to be sure I get to that 3-4 month mark. People are wild out here.
This jive turkey! 😂 One of my favorites along with young whipper snapper and snake in the grass. This is so important. I took accountability of my low respect and esteem my freshman year of college. Healing was a process, but it was necessary. It's a blessing that you teach your younger family members the characteristics one needs to live a better life. "Dating is collecting data." -RC Blakes Jr. Discernment is salient and it'll portray what one needs to know by true observation. Great video!
You know I stay with the funny lines Charmay! Lol but I love your growth and we still have room for more as time will show. Healing is definitely necessary and can't be rushed or you will bring that hurt and negative energy into your future relationships. We don't want that! I appreciate you Charmay
Great video. I'm learning the word "Patience". From my perspective, the word "Love" is passed around too often and too many times the word "Love" is used out of selfishness. For instance, If someone is doing something that I desire then I love them. If Love is not enough to keep a man then he was never "in love". Love is not a FEELING it's a decision that says sacrifice "regardless of anything I will decide to wake up and still choose you over anybody else. I'll give you all of me and make sure I show you genuine love by my actions." Time reveals the truth behind a lot of things in this world. The time it takes to pill an orange and just to finally get a bite and figure out if it'll be sweet or sour. Love "is" everything when it's genuine.
Finding love is complicated, relationships are complicated. For most of us, the relationships we are looking for, do not come without kissing many of frogs first. Maybe this is because, anything worth anything in this life, does not come easy. That goes for the the right mate as well. Why should getting a college degree, a high power job, buying a house, car, etc, etc, be difficult, yet finding the perfect person that completes us, be easy?? We may want it to be easy, because we crave it soooooo very much, but should it be? I have learned in my over 60 years of life, don't rush the process. Walk away as soon as you see the red flags. There is certainly someone out there for you, that will make your heart sing, and bring peace to your soul. Believe that! In the meanwhile, watch, learn, and listen when it comes to relationships. So, by the time your turn comes to be with your King, you will be more than ready to give and receive happiness with them!!
Love this video! This is the most realistic advice I heard/seen. As a woman who made poor choices in the past, I enjoy getting to know and forming friendship with the opposite sex. I rather have a best friend before and as a husband, then have to question why he is with me. God bless you and yours and thank you🥰
I am listening. Yes, men are complicated as much we women are in our own way. Communication is the key but if it is one-sided, then nothing else work. Agree, love is not enough. Good advice. Thanks!
It's not that love isn't enough for you. It's your lack of understanding of what love represents. Love is a four letter word...just as respect is a six letter word. If you feel respected then you feel love. Love is more than enough. It's all about the mindset of the thinker. ✌🏽&❤
Be blessed my dear I no longer understand these people anymore😦 oh love this love that but when you ask them to define it they can't so crazy and nonsense.
I don't understand men period . They need to learn how to communicate with a woman tell her what's the issues are and work with the woman if you love her and is married to her ❤️ don't just sleep around 🙄
My Boyfriend and I had an instant chemistry when we met. And that was totally different for me. We have so much in common and similar situations that we have been through. I told my boyfriend to slow down because he was going faster than i wasn't use too. He has slowed down so, but when we talk about certain things he is going faster than me and i let him know to cherish the moment, and lets take one day at a time.
Chemistry, bond my foot. Regardless of gender, y’all better be praying and asking for discernment about folks before jumping in with both feet!!!! I agree with taking time in the dating process!!!!
Okay SealztheMan with the night time vibe! I like it lol Truly, love is not enough for anyone. Love fades. You must be compatible. Compatibility or the bond you mentioned is what gets you through the rainy days. You were also spot on with your dating advice. We're in an instant society. People want everything now without working for it. When you put effort into learning someone you see them for who they are and not their representative. Another great video!
True love does fade. There are seasons in relationships. There are times you may love a person and not like them. Commitment and compatibility are what will keep you from walking away and doing the work to get back to a loving season.
Let me tell you.... I watch all your videos because they really help me. And this one right here is another great video, all facts I needed 12 years ago, now going through a horrible divorce from a man that never respect me, no friendship, no connection, no bond unless we counting trama bond. These videos along with a few great others are increasing my awareness, my self worth, the way I look at relationships and the ppl I allow in my life. Thank you keep em coming.
There are many aspects to a relationship that make it work, however, love is the glue that keep them together. Men and Women are not the same but what each needs in a relationship is of no lesser value; respect and understanding has to run both ways.
@Rose- yes! " *Men are from Mars,Women are from Venus* addresses this: *a man gives/provides because he must be needed; a woman receives* . Basically, Women do too much, when she should be more receptive (fem trait) ,with gratitude and *no complaints* in letting a man help her (from his masc side). Praise him, don't fix him. He falls in love from his masculine side.
@@P_Belle Very true. Wish there was a book that specifically shows and tells you how to deal with every situation since they change so much from being very focused to not interested....or cold.
Duh! Love isn't enough and neither is being a best friend! Learned that when my best friend and husband abandoned me with our 2nd baby! Men only want women they can control. Mine was an alcoholic Narcissist.
Yes!! Wow! Definitely a narc!! I agree the statement of man looking for his best friend is crap. Usually a man looking for a best friend...he’s looking for a door mat...a mother who look past all is flaws. That’s a mom, sir...bye bye. I’m looking for business partner is love!
As a woman all I can say is THANKYOU. I'll even admit I learned alot of things I was doing that was causing me the headache like over looking the red flags being slapped in my face....I appreciate this video....in all honesty is you think about relationships it has nothing to do with love.
Thank you for addressing this issue it's important it help from breaking from unhealthy patterns. God bless you and all your endeavors of good 👍 Amenn!!!
Yes please do every girl a favor and know what you want. My baby got me because he knows what he wants and we have a natural close bond. Him wanting me made me want him more and more...
I appreciate you for offering real life relationship advice. I see in my reality how much a lot of the things you are saying is accurate and that’s one way I know you are one amongst the true ones...💫🙏🏾
There’s something about the word KEEP that turns me off in reference to relationships… I just don’t feel like 2 whole people should keep each other… They should simply enjoy each other! 🤷🏽♀️
This is exactly what we need to teach our young women and men, self respect. Once you got that right they will grow in confidence and self love and they will recognize disrespect as it rear it's ugly head and they will be able to walk away. Thank you so much.
This video gives excellent advice! Thank you veryyyyy much ! NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS... They will come back to haunt you!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️💖♥️♥️♥️Love your channel!
Sealz I laugh and cry at these truths 😊 I am a love child and for me this simply means if you say you love then I will experience the actions of how I want to be loved in any kind of relationship. If It doesn't line up then I know what the real deal is. We talking about actions speaking louder than words 💯
I’m loving the energy of your delivery of this message though… I feel like I’m being serenaded or at an open 🎤 event!! Aight I see you!! Lol Much appreciated
The thing is, this video is great and I appreciate all the honesty and it's true however what's really conflicting and awful is that as a black single woman who has a college degree was in the military for over 10 years, is very fun loving, travels, loves Jesus I make my friends laugh...... not only just being single but dating men who even when you show that you respect yourself they are still disrespectful, putting yourself out there and being vulnerable and genuine and not being appreciated, reading the Bible and reading books by self-help so-called gurus who are Christian who give decent advice but when you follow that advice it just doesn't work; 🤷🏾🤦🏾 I honestly think that it has to be God brought that person to you or it's not ever going to happen I think it also has to be that of course we love ourselves and we are healed from any past traumas on both sides. Men really do hold the power in a relationship biblically because from my experience men want to chase and be the Hunter but I am a very good woman who is alone and still hasn't had a man find me who is kind and worthy of me and that makes me achingly sad. So many men are selfish, looking for a "Barbie" doll figure, and are guarded and emotionally unavailable. You are flawed and expect me to be perfect? Think again.
Good stuff my remix of Taye Diggs & Idris Elba lol 😂 it’s a compliment but you are on point... I just was having this type of chat with my male counter part and I observed he exudes R & R which automatically mirrors onto me so I have to give back what’s being expose (R & R = RESPECT & REVERENCE) respect and reverence... during my journey a few years back I finally understand and realized what you’re saying 20+ years of mixing and mingling lol 😂 be his friend, create a bond receive their truths and transparency & don’t rush the end goal - Great commentary Sealz the Man keep going and providing magnificent content because you’re simply MAGNIFICENT Xx
Thank you for setting this straight. Definitely things to think about. I am dating now but I can see where I may try to force a bond when there is no foundation for one.
Binge watching your videos as I work! I have a really good man in my life and I like watching your videos bc u give good advice . I’m definitely not trying to loose this one! 😬❤️
I'm all for this my man, but it goes both ways. I've got a woman who tells me she loves me and I believe it on the most basic level, but she shows no respect and it's just not enough to make it work.
Thank you for making me realise that single is way better than being with a complicated/complex man who's likes and dislikes change overnight. Seriously?????
It ain't enough for us actually. Men want mama , therapist, caregiver and financial advisor. I ain't gonna be that to any of them. So I chose being by myself over any of that BS. ✌🏼
I came across this video because you tube suggested it and I must say the creators content had me engaged…. I’m very intrigued by this very pretty man. I wish you much success, and thank you for the insight. Very informative. That title was excruciating though.. lol Just saying.
I've just totally enjoyed this day because of your content. I'm nowhere near finished with it, but I'm looking forward to hearing and seeing more. Truly enjoyed!
The only thing that keep a man is a man that wants to keep you..
He always tells me he doesn’t want to lose me 🤔 that he’s scared to lose me lol I hope that’s a man that wants to be kept 🤣😂
Loud it girl.a man who want to cheat if u like give him heaven and earth he will still cheat,speaking out of experience.
Whild 100%🤝
Truth
Thats it thats all. Nothing deep
Love is not enough to keep a woman either..
Just saying 💅🏾
Most definitely
Amen! I have said that to myself many times. God brought the one, but he was so arrogant, entitled and took his blessing for granted, that it killed the love God put in my heart. Oh well!
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@@truarnett5519 he was the one for you but he was arrogant to you?
True I told my ex this 10 years ago and walked out . I have been good
38 and single, no children. Met a lot of broken men who want relationships . Yet don’t really know what they want. It’s so confusing so I run 🏃🏾♀️. Heal before dating fellas. 😀
Amen that you didn’t hVe a kid w one of them
Yes- your a great example of a BW being true and not giving up just to have a man and a kid. Mad respect, to you sis. Don’t let these weak men in. 🙏🏽👍🏽👏🏽
Same girl
Soo true
.....better run now and alone than run with his kidssss from you and other unions!
Omg, my husband is my best friend, and he always tell me I’m his best friend. He will not leave with out me. Even if I don’t want to go , he always say I’m lost with out you, you know we do everything together. After 15 years things only get better. I can’t believe how this man makes me feel , thank you for your video. Your words are so true, living prove.
You are a lucky lady.
That sounds so wonderful... Enjoy 🙃
I’m truly happy for you!!!!!
That's beautiful
Bingo. Truth!
A man must first lead in love not come in expecting love to be given to him first but reciprocated. He must also be coming with good intentions for the woman of his interest.
Gather "data" when you are dating. I learned this from a brilliant man! 💯
I hope I can be added to your brilliant man list one day
Dating = data-ing
Yeah babes .. I know that man
RC Blakes jr
What does that mean? Data on what specifically?
I'm not going through any foolishness with a man. Don't need one to show my worth. I rather be by myself!!
🙌🏾🙌🏾
Said just like a feminist growing old and mad at the world
Well said
Iam in a relationship with a guy for 15 year's I cooked and do everything for his but all he wants is money
@Sanaa Tazim I completely agree with you!
Date with a man but never sleep with him, you'll see how serious he is
That is a good way to see his intentions quickly
Period!
That why we muslim dont sleep with a man before marriage
@@monicalabelle953 not all muslims. The few i know slept before marriage. One here in NY even got her pregnant before marriage. Not having sex before marriage is all religion thing but most people are all out looking for sex before marriage. No perfect religion no perfect humans. We pray for God's grace
Men need to listen to this bro. Figure out what you want and need, guys, so you don’t confuse the crap out of us women.
It's not about keeping anybody. Whether men or women, people choose where and with whom they want to stay. Periodt..
Chemistry is a beautiful thing ….that LOVE happens unexpectedly without words or works (We’re on each other’s minds all the time)….it’s natural as the beings they are….💥💐
🔥🔥🔥💅🏿
“Words aren’t nothing but vibrations in the air!” Love it …… Facts 💯 I want my best friend!
Half these men don't love them selves enough to be real with them self
exactly
True, but now we ladies know so no excuse to not stay off our backs. These "men" ain't loyal they do not, I repeat do not respect or value you as a human being. Period
I don't want to "keep" anybody. I know who I am, I know what I can offer to a man, what I am capable of in terms of emotional support, what I am capable of as a woman and I value myself enough not to try to keep anyone who doesn't choose to be with me. If there is no natural chemistry, no mutual respect, understanding, support, respect of privacy and equal give and take in partnership, I won't even blink extra to try to "keep" him.
Way yo go my motto too after they use u they dont want to know u. SAD BUT ERA THIS IS HOW THEY WORK.
I know you right! Keep that mentality. Love and respect yourself first!💖
Thank u so much for speaking your mind and mine 🙌💯🙏
🥰🥰🥰🥰🙏
My motto in relationships is: "if he wanted, he would"
Just pray for a good man that's all cus most men won't even show u thier there character till y'all married..even if y'all dated for one century he might not still show it...ppl change...just pray for a good man that's all...
Most definitely, prayer should always be there though, even when you think you have the perfect man for you. Life is very unpredictable
Facts
They kinda do. Most women don’t pay attention. They want the ring so bad.
Wow the way y’all speak about marriage seems scary
@@ZumbawithDorothy yes there’s always small red flags in the beginning that we refuse to acknowledge
Love is Enough. It's just what they call "love" is not real love. Its lust, it's infatuation, it's NEW. But when You love someone and yourself, you're going to be honest, trustworthy, open and true to yourself. Your motive will be right. That will show, when you are dating and getting to know someone.
Amen my brother. What is love? Love is God, God is love. True love will actively pray for and personify Godly characteristics: respect, patience, kindness, honesty, selflessness, forgiveness, trust, gentleness, peacefulness etc...I am definitely a work in progress.
Dating is when you measure someone's value 🙌
Love is never enough to keep the wrong man.
Women want more than love too . No woman wants a man so comfortable he takes her for granted either . Women want to keep evolving while men get stuck fat and Katy when they in love . I’d rather have the guy Chase after me with lost than want them be in love with me that’s not fun that’s boring that’s Netflix again and figure out what you’re gonna have for dinner and who’s going to do the dishes fuck that shit where is my fucking limo in my roses give me a reason to shave my fucking legs love is for old folks this new generation it doesn’t fit into the way the world is anymore it really isn’t you have to be selfish to be pragmatic enough to be well rounded in today’s world
A man can respect you and still not want to be in a relationship with you 🤦🏾♀️
Lacks a very important ingredient..
Scared to death!! He knows he’s not going to do right
Way better than a man that can be / “wants to be with you” but doesn’t respect you 🤷🏽♀️
Absolutely
That's when he is done using your body...
Ladies listen to him, this is actually guy code. He ain't supposed to be exposing this. No relationship coach will give y'all these deep insights. Thumbs up to this 👍
so y'all just sitting around telling other men what y'all want from a woman
Respect is the love language for men
Patience is key. I feel like I've rushed things a little in the past. I learned my lesson and now ready to date again.
Love is not enough for a woman sometimes either, that goes both ways.
Agreed!
“Date with INTENTION” best advice ever ‼️
Love without respect is ego.
Everybody is full of ego, anyway.
Not everybody, but the majority seems like they are. Ego is death to progress
@@SealztheMan wow, really...
Edge
God
Out
Not everybody why catergorize, everyone that's the problem with this world please speak for yourself
@@animcharity5117 it's not everyone for sure
This was very profound and straight to the point. Women need more of this. Appreciate you King!
I really appreciate that and I appreciate you!
@@SealztheMan I got you Sealz thank you for all you teach and share you have made a lot of women better women and men as well . Better men that is js
People pleasers come off as nice but they are not, they can’t say “no,” so resentment builds up. Never date a people pleaser because the are only trying to please others such as family, friends, everyone that ask. Then you come last because they don’t know how to say no. And you get a burnt out/exhausted/emotionally unavailable partner who is never authentic or honest. So one day they will snap.
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I once heard a person can't keep a mask more than 3,4 months, so date at least 3 or 4 months to realize who the person really is.. (it's true, from my experience)
Thanks for your cool vibes bro
I agree 100%, that waiting to exchange energy at least 90 days is real. I will literally talk to someone for 30 days on the phone before I start dating them in person to be sure I get to that 3-4 month mark. People are wild out here.
This jive turkey! 😂 One of my favorites along with young whipper snapper and snake in the grass.
This is so important. I took accountability of my low respect and esteem my freshman year of college. Healing was a process, but it was necessary. It's a blessing that you teach your younger family members the characteristics one needs to live a better life.
"Dating is collecting data." -RC Blakes Jr. Discernment is salient and it'll portray what one needs to know by true observation. Great video!
You know I stay with the funny lines Charmay! Lol but I love your growth and we still have room for more as time will show.
Healing is definitely necessary and can't be rushed or you will bring that hurt and negative energy into your future relationships. We don't want that!
I appreciate you Charmay
Happily-Single: In A Loving Relationship with "Self"...
Great video. I'm learning the word "Patience". From my perspective, the word "Love" is passed around too often and too many times the word "Love" is used out of selfishness. For instance, If someone is doing something that I desire then I love them. If Love is not enough to keep a man then he was never "in love". Love is not a FEELING it's a decision that says sacrifice "regardless of anything I will decide to wake up and still choose you over anybody else. I'll give you all of me and make sure I show you genuine love by my actions." Time reveals the truth behind a lot of things in this world. The time it takes to pill an orange and just to finally get a bite and figure out if it'll be sweet or sour. Love "is" everything when it's genuine.
You are totally, there is a big difference between "love" and "in love" and a lot of people tend to confuse the two
Gi
Finding love is complicated, relationships are complicated. For most of us, the relationships we are looking for, do not come without kissing many of frogs first. Maybe this is because, anything worth anything in this life, does not come easy. That goes for the the right mate as well. Why should getting a college degree, a high power job, buying a house, car, etc, etc, be difficult, yet finding the perfect person that completes us, be easy?? We may want it to be easy, because we crave it soooooo very much, but should it be? I have learned in my over 60 years of life, don't rush the process. Walk away as soon as you see the red flags. There is certainly someone out there for you, that will make your heart sing, and bring peace to your soul. Believe that! In the meanwhile, watch, learn, and listen when it comes to relationships. So, by the time your turn comes to be with your King, you will be more than ready to give and receive happiness with them!!
Love this video! This is the most realistic advice I heard/seen. As a woman who made poor choices in the past, I enjoy getting to know and forming friendship with the opposite sex. I rather have a best friend before and as a husband, then have to question why he is with me. God bless you and yours and thank you🥰
That means a lot, thank you. And I agree, ive learned a lot from my mistakes as well
I am listening. Yes, men are complicated as much we women are in our own way. Communication is the key but if it is one-sided, then nothing else work. Agree, love is not enough. Good advice. Thanks!
It's not that love isn't enough for you. It's your lack of understanding of what love represents. Love is a four letter word...just as respect is a six letter word. If you feel respected then you feel love. Love is more than enough. It's all about the mindset of the thinker. ✌🏽&❤
Be blessed my dear I no longer understand these people anymore😦 oh love this love that but when you ask them to define it they can't so crazy and nonsense.
With all due respect, respect is a 7 letter word ☺
Amen brother! Respect yourself first and then make sure your so called man Respects you!
I don't understand men period .
They need to learn how to communicate with a woman tell her what's the issues are and work with the woman if you love her and is married to her ❤️ don't just sleep around 🙄
Thumbs up!
I agree, but communication overall needs to be improved by all. The world would be a much better place with transparency
FACTZ
I don’t think men are wired to stay with one woman for the rest of their lives, that why they cheat
Me either they like to have breakfast lunch dinner desert in different restaurents lol
Am 24 single n not married yet but I am giving up on love cz the world is crazy no loyalty no one t trust
Where there's no trust there's no love
So what are you going to do about love?
@@makedafindlay9398 nothing except praying to God for the ryt person
D pain of loving wrong people is unbearable
My Boyfriend and I had an instant chemistry when we met. And that was totally different for me.
We have so much in common and similar situations that we have been through.
I told my boyfriend to slow down because he was going faster than i wasn't use too.
He has slowed down so, but when we talk about certain things he is going faster than me and i let him know to cherish the moment, and lets take one day at a time.
Love ain’t enough for women!! Trust respect, commitment
Chemistry, bond my foot. Regardless of gender, y’all better be praying and asking for discernment about folks before jumping in with both feet!!!! I agree with taking time in the dating process!!!!
As a lady, I stress Strong Bonding, Chemistry and Deep Connection too. :) Somehow, the mysterious BOND cannot be forced.
Okay SealztheMan with the night time vibe! I like it lol
Truly, love is not enough for anyone. Love fades. You must be compatible. Compatibility or the bond you mentioned is what gets you through the rainy days.
You were also spot on with your dating advice. We're in an instant society. People want everything now without working for it. When you put effort into learning someone you see them for who they are and not their representative.
Another great video!
You aint say nothing but the truth right here! I appreciate you
Love never fades. If it is true love it never dies. If it dies most likely it was never real.
@@verenicecamacho76 there's different types of love. It depends on that, not all love is equal.
True love does fade. There are seasons in relationships. There are times you may love a person and not like them. Commitment and compatibility are what will keep you from walking away and doing the work to get back to a loving season.
@@verenicecamacho76 Love depreciates.
Let me tell you.... I watch all your videos because they really help me. And this one right here is another great video, all facts I needed 12 years ago, now going through a horrible divorce from a man that never respect me, no friendship, no connection, no bond unless we counting trama bond. These videos along with a few great others are increasing my awareness, my self worth, the way I look at relationships and the ppl I allow in my life. Thank you keep em coming.
There are many aspects to a relationship that make it work, however, love is the glue that keep them together. Men and Women are not the same but what each needs in a relationship is of no lesser value; respect and understanding has to run both ways.
It sure isn't it seems like the more you show them love...the more they take you for a fool.
For real
Boys not men
So true
@Rose- yes! " *Men are from Mars,Women are from Venus* addresses this: *a man gives/provides because he must be needed; a woman receives* . Basically, Women do too much, when she should be more receptive (fem trait) ,with gratitude and *no complaints* in letting a man help her (from his masc side). Praise him, don't fix him. He falls in love from his masculine side.
@@P_Belle Very true. Wish there was a book that specifically shows and tells you how to deal with every situation since they change so much from being very focused to not interested....or cold.
So articulate, succinct and insightful.
I really appreciate you saying that, thank you 👑
Duh! Love isn't enough and neither is being a best friend! Learned that when my best friend and husband abandoned me with our 2nd baby! Men only want women they can control. Mine was an alcoholic Narcissist.
Yes!! Wow! Definitely a narc!! I agree the statement of man looking for his best friend is crap. Usually a man looking for a best friend...he’s looking for a door mat...a mother who look past all is flaws. That’s a mom, sir...bye bye. I’m looking for business partner is love!
Exactly. Men get BORED very easily...ladies keep the mystery. 😉
There's nothing like a mysterious woman 😍
Like i give a FUCK
@@damarleyfrancis3541 damn son 😂😂😂
They like a variety of spices lol
@@edith324 Yes! But you can give him a "Variety" of spices. Serve dinner in a Baby doll. Wear a LOW cut blouse on your next date.
True love does not fad. Love is enough to keep a man. Not enough to keep a grown boy.
Love does fade when love is lost. The point is love is not the only thing that will make your relationship successful
@@SealztheMan please make a video on this your comment. Specifically the last part.
Thank you
@@SealztheMan please make a video on this your comment. Specifically the last part.
Thank you
I totally agree
@@SealztheMan love has to be the foundation of it love if not then there won't be success in it 💯🎯
Date with intention, I agree that was so profound that just really hit home. Not that I didn’t know that already but it just really hit home.
I can appreciate this, I agree wholeheartedly about the importance of chemistry and bonding. Thank you 😊
As a woman all I can say is THANKYOU. I'll even admit I learned alot of things I was doing that was causing me the headache like over looking the red flags being slapped in my face....I appreciate this video....in all honesty is you think about relationships it has nothing to do with love.
Well ..I’m in love with the way you talk😍😍😍😍
Haha I appreciate that, thank you
Lol. I was thinking the same too. Thought it was just me
You have a great CADENCE of conversation
Thank you for addressing this issue it's important it help from breaking from unhealthy patterns. God bless you and all your endeavors of good 👍 Amenn!!!
Respect come first than love follow.. agreed!
Thanks for this show. Now, I am glad my last relationship ended like it did. The respect for me was gone
Yes please do every girl a favor and know what you want. My baby got me because he knows what he wants and we have a natural close bond. Him wanting me made me want him more and more...
Your messages make me never want to date again in life. It's to hard.
So true, ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, period!!! Too many guys think they can buy you or just because they like you, you must like them, really?!!
I appreciate you for offering real life relationship advice. I see in my reality how much a lot of the things you are saying is accurate and that’s one way I know you are one amongst the true ones...💫🙏🏾
I appreciate that!
There’s something about the word KEEP that turns me off in reference to relationships… I just don’t feel like 2 whole people should keep each other… They should simply enjoy each other! 🤷🏽♀️
This is exactly what we need to teach our young women and men, self respect. Once you got that right they will grow in confidence and self love and they will recognize disrespect as it rear it's ugly head and they will be able to walk away. Thank you so much.
You are so right and I hope we are on a path to just that as a whole, thank you for watching and commenting 👑
This video gives excellent advice! Thank you veryyyyy much ! NEVER IGNORE RED FLAGS... They will come back to haunt you!!
♥️♥️♥️♥️💖♥️♥️♥️Love your channel!
OMG yes!
True talk. Say it, loudly, because we want, to try to understand.
Sealz I laugh and cry at these truths 😊
I am a love child and for me this simply means if you say you love then I will experience the actions of how I want to be loved in any kind of relationship. If It doesn't line up then I know what the real deal is. We talking about actions speaking louder than words 💯
I’m loving the energy of your delivery of this message though… I feel like I’m being serenaded or at an open 🎤 event!!
Aight I see you!! Lol Much appreciated
Yeah fingers are definitely snapping in the air!!! Lol the truth you Are!!!
Lol as a fan of spoken word and poetry, this comment did it for me 😂 thanks Queen 👑
@@SealztheMan likewise😉
I appreciate your honesty and your respect for women. Be blessed!
Its my honor and thank you for those kind words
@@SealztheMan Thank you and of course your welcome! Keep up the positivity and your humor it's refreshing and I enjoy it!
The thing is, this video is great and I appreciate all the honesty and it's true however what's really conflicting and awful is that as a black single woman who has a college degree was in the military for over 10 years, is very fun loving, travels, loves Jesus I make my friends laugh...... not only just being single but dating men who even when you show that you respect yourself they are still disrespectful, putting yourself out there and being vulnerable and genuine and not being appreciated, reading the Bible and reading books by self-help so-called gurus who are Christian who give decent advice but when you follow that advice it just doesn't work; 🤷🏾🤦🏾 I honestly think that it has to be God brought that person to you or it's not ever going to happen I think it also has to be that of course we love ourselves and we are healed from any past traumas on both sides. Men really do hold the power in a relationship biblically because from my experience men want to chase and be the Hunter but I am a very good woman who is alone and still hasn't had a man find me who is kind and worthy of me and that makes me achingly sad. So many men are selfish, looking for a "Barbie" doll figure, and are guarded and emotionally unavailable. You are flawed and expect me to be perfect? Think again.
Good stuff my remix of Taye Diggs & Idris Elba lol 😂 it’s a compliment but you are on point... I just was having this type of chat with my male counter part and I observed he exudes R & R which automatically mirrors onto me so I have to give back what’s being expose (R & R = RESPECT & REVERENCE) respect and reverence... during my journey a few years back I finally understand and realized what you’re saying 20+ years of mixing and mingling lol 😂 be his friend, create a bond receive their truths and transparency & don’t rush the end goal - Great commentary Sealz the Man keep going and providing magnificent content because you’re simply MAGNIFICENT
Xx
This made my day! Thank you for that and I'll continue to give you a man's real perspective from my eyes. And blessings to you and your relationship
I loved this, great video!
True love is always an action word. This love is enough.
🙏🥰🥰
Thank you for setting this straight. Definitely things to think about. I am dating now but I can see where I may try to force a bond when there is no foundation for one.
"There are some good actors out there that aren't on broadway" 😆 ...yet another Sealzism
SEALZISM! 🤣🤣🤣 I love it, I appreciate you Shayla
😂😂😂 serious stuff but funny. Love it.
That is a good one!😂😂😂
👀👀👀😁😁😁😂😂😂😂
@Shayla yes!
This is good . Thank you for the Love word.
I appreciate that 👑
Binge watching your videos as I work! I have a really good man in my life and I like watching your videos bc u give good advice . I’m definitely not trying to loose this one! 😬❤️
My experience has been the opposite when dating. The guy always want to rush into shit. It turns me off and I dip...
Yes brother, I’m glad you’re touching on the brothers wants, needs, and flaw...
I'm all for this my man, but it goes both ways. I've got a woman who tells me she loves me and I believe it on the most basic level, but she shows no respect and it's just not enough to make it work.
Not measuring a person's value but your compatibility and chemistry with that person.
Lights, Cameras ACTION!
You're exactly 💯 on point ,nothing is ever enough to keep a man
Sealz thank you! ❤
I agree...He needs our...
Time
Attention
Trust
Respect
Friendship
Support
Connection
Chemistry effortlessly
Sound advice! Love from the 242 🇧🇸.
Thank you, sending the 242 my love!
Thank You Brilliant advice. I feel Cyber relationships could trap us in a rush situationship; as its speedy & Dopamine enducing.
I love the music in the back ground, and your voice is very soothing! Great Insite as well.
Thank you Mr. Sealz im learning a lot from your videos
WHAT YOU ARE SAYING MAKES PERFECT SENSE TO ME❤️
You and these beanie hats friend, lol. You been rocking these for years. 🙂
Self esteem and self love is key ❤️
lmao over his clarification on what dating is NOT. THANKS, BROTHER, FOR THE STRENGTHENING!!!! PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!1
Love should be enough.. Allowing the ego to over complicate anything only creates destruction.
Thank you for making me realise that single is way better than being with a complicated/complex man who's likes and dislikes change overnight. Seriously?????
Men value their barber 😂
LOL 😂
Truth I’m a lady barber 💈 lol 😂
......and their money.......and their cars.🤣
😂😂😂
And their pitbulls... 😂🤣🤣🤣
It ain't enough for us actually. Men want mama , therapist, caregiver and financial advisor. I ain't gonna be that to any of them. So I chose being by myself over any of that BS. ✌🏼
I came across this video because you tube suggested it and I must say the creators content had me engaged…. I’m very intrigued by this very pretty man. I wish you much success, and thank you for the insight. Very informative. That title was excruciating though.. lol Just saying.
😂😂😂 I peep the growth. The voice difference is hilarious
I've just totally enjoyed this day because of your content. I'm nowhere near finished with it, but I'm looking forward to hearing and seeing more. Truly enjoyed!
Man ur talking truth just come across ur channel
I really appreciate that Jenecia
This was pretty cool. I watched the whole thing and it offered a different perspective.
Looks like I gotta go out and date though.
I try my best to show "out of box" perspectives, I appreciate you for watching