I don't think that you should loose sight of the fact in the last 2 years you've moved continents therefore dealing with a new language, culture, government (visas, rules, immigration taxes, etc.), got married, had a baby and are now renovating your home ... all during an unprecedented global pandemic. Any one of those things by themselves puts pressure on marriages and relationships. Remember to give yourselves grace and ride the wave. I think our generation is so caught up with trying to fix everything that we forget to just ride the wave of a rough time and understand it will pass.
Such mature and insightful commentary. I heard an interview with Antonio Banderas (sp?) once. He said that love in martial relationships are like waves at the beach ....they recede but if you're patient they return
Well said. Also hormone levels are still kind of all over the place even post-partum. Trying to be reasonable and rational during this time takes a lot more effort.
Beautifully said! I am so proud of Maya and Max and I love that you guys are real, Maya !you have thought me so much as a woman over 40 and Max! You are leading your family. 🙏🏾🪞🤎
Marrying and having a child after having years of single adult life requires patience and understanding that previous personal freedom is no longer. Being mindful of the source of one's discontent and grateful for the new love and life you share will see you through.
Excuse me but ummm.....CAN WE NORMALIZE IT BEING OKAY TO HAVE ISSUES EVEN WITHIN A MARRIAGE so that people don't feel like they are failing or not good enough etc.....I love this all of this - THIS IS REAL!!! and thanks for being so damn transparent this will help others whether married or not!....SENDING LOVE HUGS AND SOME GOOD ENERGY ALL THE WAY TO SWEDEN~
After I had my baby, something triggered in me to see my partner at the time differently. It caused separation and to be honest a yearning to leave him. But it happens to so many women as our mother senses grow. I had to learn to extend grace to myself and to him. If I could say anything, find the joy... find the love... and remember why you chose one another. Children will bring out all of your childhood trauma and everything you run away from. Speak with your inner child and let them know that they are safe... because that's what is at the root. Without knowing it, you may be acting out what you've seen as children. Know that it's okay to take a breath, live life on your own terms together and use your love to heal each other where you hurt. I wish you love and happiness eternally.
Ya’ll are a beautiful couple and very self aware which is so important. Marriage is continual work from both people in the union and things drastically change when children come along. I think there is still a stigma around couples counseling and counseling in general that needs to be broken. There’s nothing wrong with counseling, going to see a therapist doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you care. Athletes have no shame in having a coach so why should there shame in having a coach in life and marriage? Coaching strengthens you. I also think its important to go during the good times too, even when you don’t think you need it. I honestly think everybody should do couples counseling before they get married I also like that technique of saying to your partner why your hurt and having to repeat it back to you because so often people only hear what they want to hear to further fuel an argument, rather than listen to understand and mend things. Feeling heard and valued is such an important element in a relationship for both men and women. I think people will get a lot from this video and you guys being so open. Ya’ll got this. Much love to the family ❤️
When you put God first, everything does and will come into form. God’s way of doing things especially in marriage is all over the Bible. You’re dealing with two different people, different upbringings, different opinions sometimes and you need something outside of you to tell you what’s RIGHT. For me that’s God. It’s unfortunate a lot of people stray away from God and they don’t survive because they’d rather take it on themselves. Not saying Maya particularly but in general. The divorce rates are HIGH. The times were in are stressful, add a child to that too? We all need God I’ll be the few to say it ❤️
The vast majority of social media can have people out here thinking that if your relationship doesn't feel like a bubbly Sunday brunch every single day that there's something wrong with you or with your partner. Meanwhile the reality is all relationships have their gnarly bits and take work. Thank you for sharing the real ish!
One thing that has really stood out to me in this video, is that from the moment Maya started to get teary eyed and Express her emotions, Max immediately caressed Maya's back. This may seem minor to some, but it hugely represents a divine connection between two people. Thank you for sharing your real and raw experiences. It's not easy but will get better for you individually, as a couple and as a family!
I'm glad to see that you both are working on yourself and in the union. Marriage is continual work. Ensure to make time for yourself as well. Much love.
It gets better...I mean like WAY BETTER. Something about the age that Saga is right now + working from home + the industry we work in...it brings out the crazy in us! Our boy is now going on 2 years old and it's SIGNIFICANTLY DIFFERENT! There's more margin in our brains it feels. I started to feel that margin around 1.5 years!
Thank you for sharing! I’ve learned so much from you two, and I’m grateful for that! Some things I’ve learned from you guys are: 1. Don’t let gender roles define you, and instead find a partner that provides what YOU need. 2. Keep growing and learning 3. Preventative therapy is wonderful, helpful, and not a sign of failure AT ALL 4. It’s okay to take time and space for yourself 5. Be shameless and put yourself out there 😉
Listen! My husband and I were so in love until the baby came. It changed everything for me and him too, I imagine. Babies change so much…the roles change and women change so much after children….and hormone changes. It’s a lot. I get it. But if you can make it through this challenging stage, it gets better. You two seem very committed to the your family unit that I believe it’s possible for you. Marriage and children are not easy and doing it in a foreign country away from family and friends just makes it so much harder. Love and blessings to you both as you navigate your way.
One thing no one told me about being a parent was how hard it is to hold your tongue when your child is around. Before kids, you could just argue with your spouse and then make up after, but now with a baby, we know we shouldn’t fight infront of him but it’s so hard! When emotions are high, it’s so easy to forget there’s a child there watching and absorbing what you are saying and how you are acting. And to you, you were behaving in the heat of the moment etc., but to the child, they are watching mommy and daddy fight and the last thing you want is your child to see any kind of negativity coming from you. It takes so much self control to be respectful to your partner infront of your child regardless of how you feel in the moment and man that is hard work!!!!! Self restraint is hard-freaking-work. I currently have a 6 month old and I am trying to learn this but it is hard. Solidarity to you guys💕
Aww, I think Saga witnessing good conflict resolutions examples is better than no conflict at all! Conflict, being angry is part of life and she will know that as well, and best you hope she got conflict resolutions and communications skills from you guys xx
I also realized when you see couples that make it many years, die together when their elderly, most people don't think a MAJOR accomplishment to marriage is they made it through this stage. We seem to always think of i.e. the "10 year mark" when marriages seem to get stale and people question their life w/out the other person, which leads to divorce. We need to hear more of how a new addition can break marriages as well. And that it takes strength and commitment to go through this phase what you two are going through. I hope you both make it and pray through it, God Bless
Tbh, it IS well known that the birth of a baby is a major pressure point in marriage. But I don't see that much advice on how to deal with it. And isolation may also be a thing for a new mother as well.
As a mom of three, now 19,18 and 11, I am resonating with Maya’s emotions. This was me right after having my kids... especially the first child. After becoming a mom, I instantly had a whole new set of expectations for my partner. Grateful for my kids. Grateful for being able to make a living painting. Grateful for my home. Grateful for food. Grateful for water. Life is just so magical. Thank you Creator!
Aww bless you guys! Isn’t being a human crazy? God is amazing, and he allows us to grow appropriately at his perfect timing in our lives. You guys clearly love one another and it’s so beautiful to see how you guys are growing together. ❤️❤️❤️
Don’t give up. Even when you are at your worst, they’re, or y’all are burnt out. Marriage is ebb and flow. Good and tough times. It always gets stronger and WAY better if you stick with it and grow together. Y’all got this!!
You both don't have to share the intimate details of your life and struggles, but I am so grateful that you do. I am incredibly grateful for the realness of the ups and downs of life in love. Don't worry Saga feels the love, because we can see it.
🥺 oh Maya when you were talking and crying about all the responsibilities as a mom and wife made me teary eyed because I felt the same when I became a mother. As new parents, there is just so much going on with everything. Moms need space, dads need space and even babies will too eventually. Therapy is always a great help. And having solo activities helps too. Max , what you say is true about going through difficult times. You are both going to be stronger than before :) Thank you for your great videos :)
Maya, you have a good man who truly loves you and loves this family. It is so clear from this video that he is so deeply committed to you and that you are more inclined to walking away from it. Don’t lose your family based on temporary emotions and ego. Family and love is the greatest currency in the world, and u got that right here so hold on tight to it!!!
As an almost divorcé who was at the stage Mya is in with Saga when my ex husband decided he was done… I have to say this is GOLD. I appreciate your transparency, willingness to grow and share the growth. Marriage is beautiful, stretching WORK!! that requires willingness and grace. There are so many stigmas and generational things we bring into relationships, seeking help is a wisdom move.
I think you’ve both had an immense amount of transition, especially Maya. Someone who’s been able to just move & go as you please for so long, trust me, I get it. Give yourselves some grace… it’s a LOT that has changed in your lives. From being solo & free to having so many responsibilities absolutely makes a person feel restrained; & that’s not a good feeling for free spirited ppl. Your still & always an individual 1st & STILL deserve to have space just for you. I hope you find balance in it all🙏🏽 From one “runner” to another, I totally get it! xoxo
The first year after having a baby is the hardest. The feelings of loss of self, resenting our partner at times, pressures of new life amongst other things. It is truly hard but It gets better!!
Boy, you two are so honest and I am tearing up because boy, can I relate! As a brand new mama to my 6 month old daughter; me and my partner have had similar issues and arguments. And when it happens in front of my daughter, it breaks my heart. But at the same time, there’s so little time alone (if none some days), that it’s really not easy 🥺. We can only do our best as parents and have grace for ourselves in difficult transitions. It’s NOT easy at all 😥
Thanks for being so open and honest. I'm newly married, just a little over 1 year. It hasn't been easy and we haven't had children yet. Love from Jamaica 🇯🇲 ❤️
The transparency and authenticity is everything ☺️ I think that’s why many of us love and appreciate when y’all make videos like this as well. Because we are always bombarded with mostly highlights and the positive sides of marriages, relationships, and motherhood on social media. Not many (esp couples) dive into the nitty gritty of the parts that tend to be more realistic and uncomfortable to share and experience. That’s the “shameless” impact that we still see and love; always being genuine and real regardless of what stage of life you’re in. But of course, we still love seeing you all progress and flourish as well despite the human/humbling parts of life that comes behind the scenes 😊💕
When Mya got emotional… before I even saw it Max reached out to comfort her. Could be editing but I’d like to think it was an energy shift that he felt and responded to. So sweet 🥰
Children will test a relationship unlike anything you have ever experienced before. Please know that any strain you are experiencing in your relationship is normal especially if you're a fairly new (under 5 yrs) couple. Wishing you the best
We have now just had our 2nd child. With each child during the newborn and infant stage our marriage has always shifted to feeling like the breaking point. Children are like magnifying glasses to issues that are already in the marriage and not to mention exhaustion! After our first I can tell you guys that it does get better at around 2/3 years old lol.... We're now looking to do counseling as well. We're Caribbean and counseling is always seen as a negative concept.... it's necessary and needed is all relationships. Wishing you guys the best! Praying for you both as well!
Even in the hard times your relationship reminds me that I should never settle for anything less than this level of emotional maturity, compassion and willingness to grow. Sometimes it feels like these are impossible to find in a potential partner but I see you guys and it gives me hope! Thank you for sharing these conversations
👍🙏I have a suggestion: you guys grew your love over the phone & away from each other. Separate into separate rooms or one goes for a walk or one stays inside and one goes outside then call each other on the phone AND TALK it through. Listening and restating / mirroring is important but more than what you say or do it’s how you make each other feel. 💝
Completely besides the point but Maya, I LOVE your hair! I always say I'ma act right and braid mine so it'll be a non issue for a few days but get distracted with how much time it takes and say forget it! LOL. Love it!
I love both of you and how clear and surrendered and vulnerable you are! You both have made major changes and adjustments- this shift, reflection, growing pains of 2 becoming one are all normal! Good on you both for not running and walking it out in love together. I cried with you both almost the entire video. Thank you for being vulnerable in front of us and challenging us to grow by your example ♥️♥️
Best advice: be gentle with yourselves and each other. It’s okay to pause and come back to a discussion when you’re ready to have a meaningful conversation and remember that through your disagreements you teach Saga the tools to manage disagreements for her. I think you’re doing just fine, getting therapy now was an awesome decision(very mature). I am a fellow Taurus so I get the stubborn trait, lol. Last tip: remember the oxygen on the plane analogy: you can’t help others if you are depleted. A quick time away recharges you to continue in your journey as parents. Both alone and together. Keep all the videos coming!!
Maya- You are such a pure spirit. Be patient with yourself. It is so important to be selfish at times with yourself- doing things YOU enjoy doing. I remember becoming a mom and seeking out ways to feed myself with things that brought me joy- even as small as taking a dance class, going to a coffee shop and enjoying a cup of coffee, talking and laughing with friends, journaling/praying. I am a Taurus-so I understand the need to go for a walk and connect with nature when you’re heated- because we can really get heated..lol. Take care…
I LOVE yawl relationship! We aren't perfect, but you two seem perfect for one another. I love that you both are open to change. That's what I seek within a partner.
I appreciate both of you so much. 1 - Your transparency 2 - Allowing us to come into your lives like this 3 - The learnings you share and thus helps me grow and learn too 4 - The comment section on your channel is just love 5 - The aesthetic in your videos This was an amazing videos, but I must say I also LOVE the vlogs. I feel like I'm a part of your adventures haha Take care xx
First, thank you for your raw honesty. You are literally in the trenches right now. I relate so much to you, because I too live in Europe and am from North America. It was tough, building a new community of my own and adjusting to marriage and kids so far away from family in a really different culture. I wish you all (Saga included), peace and clarity as you live out your vision of who you want to be as a family and as a couple. Lots of love and positive vibes to both of you.
Didn’t know how much I needed this. The video and the comments. Gave birth about two years ago and wonder if we will ever get back to what we were. I lean into the love but it is hard
5 things: my life 🙌🏽.. I’m still alive, my Dad (being able to take care of him before he passed, my mom, my friends that are my family, my doctors and my Lord ❤️
Right now is really a tough season in my life. A really tough one. But watching this video made me feel emotionally safe. It felt like I was safe and warm at home, even though my mind is currently controlled by my insecurities and the thought of uncertainties. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful for watching this video; truly listening & connecting out of love and not fear. Even if that feeling may go away, I'm grateful I got to experience it
It’s great that you both can stop think and communicate with each other about how you’re feeling. And realize that listening is important. So much love.
I realized a few months ago that married people, no matter how happy they can appear to be on the outside, experience strong feelings of wanting to escape the problems in their marriage sometimes. They really do, and I was shocked to learn that about life because I've never been partnered nor have a child to think about. And it’s interesting thinking like, if you’re having a fight and things are tense but you have to still communicate about the baby. That’s challenging! I have firsthand experience of what it looks like when you don't get therapy/help in time, and it can be a really, really awful time. So I think you guys are on the right track to go to sessions and that you will be okay.
Alot of "newness" and major changes in life can be challenged. As a couple working through it, strengthens what you have worked so hard to have. Sending you both a virtual support hug
Thank you both for loving out loud. I'm married to a Dane and we've been married for 10 years. An argument is rare for us, but when it happened it was during the first year after having kids. It's great to hear you are finding tools that help you listen and communicate with each other. Also, if you want to add another 'local" getaway to your list, you're welcome to visit us in Jutland, Denmark. We're ~6 hour drive from Gothenburg. 😀
Thank you for your honesty. This is a safe space for you both here which is quite unique my lovies. Day by day you (Maya) will put pieces of yourself back in place and have the wisdom to know some pieces will fit in new areas of your existence. Lastly go to your playlist and put 2 songs: one that reaches your soul and the other that makes you want 2 just dance. Wisdom & Blessings to you both.
Being a wife and mother is 100% 2 of the hardest physical emotional spiritual things I have EVER done!!! PRAYING FOR U BOTH 🙏 Huge fan o mentor couples and counseling even during the good times #momof5 #wife
Thank you for your honesty! I’m a huge fan of Maya and now Max. I have been married to my homie/lover/friend for 30 years. We are 54 yrs old. Where did the time go. We had no examples of marriage as both of our Mothers were Single. We had to figure it out as we went along. Marriage can have challenges and it’s a lot of work but if you continue to communicate, give each other space and make time for dates you will be successful at it. Sending Love & Light to you both.
I recommend Gottman Institue and or Esther Perel. I do not agree with everything but so much is put so well that you can grasp the main points. Does not replace a GOOD couples therapy of course. I can tell you Max, I want therapy before I get married to my bae because I see that we have unresolved childhood trauma that will come up. Better to be prematurly there than too late.
Thank you Max for loving our girl Maya in the way you do. It’s so sweet and I thank you both for being honest and open and sharing your wisdom with us. It gives me hope that you can have a healthy relationship (not a perfect one, but ever evolving) . I’m proud of you both. ❤️
Oh you guuuuuys🥺!!! It's so hard. Congratulations to you both for doing the work. My husband and I have been in therapy for six years. It has not been easy but it has been worth it and I can truly say we wouldn't have made it this far without the skills/tools gained and the work we've put in as individuals.
Aww babe🥺, you guys will turn a corner, especially you Maya, you have completely done a 360, you have moved to other side of the world to have mostly every girls dream ‘a family’ but not only are you a first time amazing mum, your having to adjust to a loving new husband, a new country, a new language, home renovations, body changes, super sensitive and emosh because of the hormones trying be regulated, you tube and no me time, not to mention you guys not having space as a family and your staying with Max’s supportive sister and your doing this ALL without your ‘SUPPORT SYSTEM’ ie: family/friends etc - Sssssheeesh! Babe you should be so proud of yourself honestly hun real talk! You have sacrificed a whole lot. I’am so impressed that Max suggested for a professional this shows true strength because that takes guts. Guys you will ride this wave as you are ‘trying’ and that’s all that matters. Sending big love from London 🇬🇧
I’m so happy you guys made this channel! You guys are so honest and raw with sharing your experiences. I know everyone’s experience will be different but watching you guys gives me hope for my future. My husband is a Danish citizen/ moved to Canada for me 10 years ago. Now we plan to move to Denmark in 4 months and the goal is to buy land and live a self sufficient lifestyle. It’s inspiring and motivating that you both have committed to this new journey and kudos to Maya for making such a big move! I wish you guys nothing but the best! ✌🏾
I have followed you since early "Shameless Maya" days, and I have to say this video was right on par with the ground breaking and unprecedented ways, in which you have filmed your real life! Again I have never seen anything like this! It is beautiful to experience. It is beautiful to see Maya's emotions and so beautiful to watch Max eyes fill with love everytime she speaks. Just like the 4th trimester and the distance from family during covid, I'm confident that this too will be a learning curve you look back on as a blessing. You both are awesome ❤❤
This was such an amazing video! I recently moved in with my partner and it has been such a adjustment to say the least. Prior to living together, I lived myself for 7 years and was so used to my routine and personal space. It’s been a challenge to adjust to now living with someone else. It requires an abundance amount of understanding, patience, and true listening. Videos like these remind me that we all struggle, but we can also overcome. And therapy is a blessing. I wish you nothing but the best. With all the changes you’ve both experienced in the most unprecedented time in our history, it’s natural to have challenges. But it is clear you love and are truly committed to one another. I believe that so long as you put it in the work and always remember why you chose each other, you will always prevail. Blessings you and your beautiful daughter. ❤️
👍🙏😭💝Everything WILL be okay. Keep talking through it. It’s when couples stop talking that the marriage is over. Remember to see each other as your friend and most loved dear one…when you think like that you let the ego go, you don’t want to hurt each other. Remember you’re not truing to win at the risk of losing each other and your marriage. Ask yourself what it costs you to “get your way” or “win an argument”? You guys are together 24/7/365 you have to do one or two things separately. I love you guys & I’m hoping and praying your marriage will be filled with love and last a lifetime. 🙏😭💝💖
I never leave comments and do realise this was shared over a year ago but deeply appreciate this honest openness about your struggles; showing that no relationship (none at all!) is purrfect but above all, I pray that you both work out and grey out together for real! There's a genuine vibe and love between you two and gosh, do I pray to God that he keeps you both forever! amen!!!!
Thank you for addressing the "romanticism" of having children. So many mothers do not admit this to themselves. These couples look so miserable and are not proactive by going to couple's therapy.
I haven’t finished watching yet but had to pause to comment (I don’t usually comment) a huge thank you for being so open about the realities of marriage not being perfect. You guys are amazing and wonderful and hope you know how much you’re impacting others with your sharing❤️❤️❤️
Although there are some couples that describe their relationship as “Easy” I think the hard conversations are helpful to earning a different level of love, respect and dedication to each other. Thank you for being honest. Wishing you all nothing but the best for every twist and turn life sends you. 🖤
You guys are doing great! Marriage, baby, family, growth-it’s all hard. But it gets better. And when viewed from the future looking back it becomes a sweet memory-all the tension shifts out over time. Be blessed!
This is the most relatable video I've ever watched in my life so far. Currently going through this struggle as a wife and first time mother. We decided to seek counseling.
I completely understand where you two are coming from. I am also 40 with a 2 month old. This is our first child and my husband and I are constantly bickering. We finally had a heart to heart about our needs and it’s starting to get better. Every marriage has its challenges and I am happy you guys are working through it. Thank you for sharing.
It’s hard to let go of the responsibility of being a mom, it’s scary to leave the family you need the alone time but you feel guilty. Maya I wish I could hug you, as a mom of two this time is an emotional time hormones are still balancing out especially with you still nursing the baby. I love these conversations it shows the reality of raising a family. I’m grateful for my family, my life experiences, my career, my positive outlook on life and my health.
This was the most beautiful video Ever to watch. To see the transparency and vulnerability is beyond measure. It would be nice to see the family doing content on things you love doing around the castle. I love this channel and it gets better with. Stay Strong Power Couple!!
The two of you remind me of my partner and I so much. We have been together 4 years, and we've been through a lot of hard stuff over 90% of that time. This channel is lovely and so valuable, thank you for being willing to share with us.
Wow! What a breath of fresh air to see such real raw emotion and to be welcomed into such an intimate conversation. I can totally relate to this, and thank you for showing a perspective of marriage that is so important but oftentimes left out. I’m sending you both and Saga so so much love + light 💫 be gentle with yourselves 🙏🏾
Being young parents is very difficult and on top of that Maya is in foreign country learning a new language! That’s a lot!! I’m so happy you got help!! Thank you for sharing and your honesty! 💚🌿🌷
Y’all better do that relationship work! When Maya burst into tears, that was raw emotion that she somehow made a little funny too. I’m so glad that you are both doing the real work to keep yourselves and your relationship healthy and whole. Peace and blessings.
I love hearing about how you keep your marriage fresh and vibrant! I am here for love! There is always going to be challenges in marriage. Just keep on it, love, share and encourage each other. Rooting for you both!!!
You guys, thank you for sharing, I am preparing for marriage and this is very helpfull to get insight on how to work through hardship! Cause it is not always going to be roses. Thanks again and keep growing/going✨✨
King with newborn is difficult stage, keep sharing & listening to each other, especially when you don’t want to & just want to vent. Your relationship will deepen. You are blessed that you both are learning how to listen to each other., big hug
All relationships (family, parental, work, marriage, etc.) are capable of having problems because no one is the same and conflicts are inevitable. How you work through it makes all the difference. But issues cannot be avoided...gotta work through it.
The best advice keep that authentic communication between you two open. From What I am saying you guys are already a head start and doing a great job. Make sure you also have couple time together without Saga as reminder of how you started. Remember one day your babies will grow up and you will be empty nesters staring at each other. Always pray over your marriage. You both are blessed couple...
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I don't think that you should loose sight of the fact in the last 2 years you've moved continents therefore dealing with a new language, culture, government (visas, rules, immigration taxes, etc.), got married, had a baby and are now renovating your home ... all during an unprecedented global pandemic. Any one of those things by themselves puts pressure on marriages and relationships. Remember to give yourselves grace and ride the wave. I think our generation is so caught up with trying to fix everything that we forget to just ride the wave of a rough time and understand it will pass.
I thought about that too. Maya has been through major life changes and is living in a country where it is easy to lose her sense of self.
Such mature and insightful commentary. I heard an interview with Antonio Banderas (sp?) once. He said that love in martial relationships are like waves at the beach ....they recede but if you're patient they return
Well said. Also hormone levels are still kind of all over the place even post-partum. Trying to be reasonable and rational during this time takes a lot more effort.
Beautifully said! I am so proud of Maya and Max and I love that you guys are real, Maya !you have thought me so much as a woman over 40 and Max! You are leading your family. 🙏🏾🪞🤎
Well said!!
Marrying and having a child after having years of single adult life requires patience and understanding that previous personal freedom is no longer. Being mindful of the source of one's discontent and grateful for the new love and life you share will see you through.
Love this! Thank you for sharing! (I needed to read this, too💗)
True!!!
Excuse me but ummm.....CAN WE NORMALIZE IT BEING OKAY TO HAVE ISSUES EVEN WITHIN A MARRIAGE so that people don't feel like they are failing or not good enough etc.....I love this all of this - THIS IS REAL!!! and thanks for being so damn transparent this will help others whether married or not!....SENDING LOVE HUGS AND SOME GOOD ENERGY ALL THE WAY TO SWEDEN~
Real couple goals, in my opinion. I love the transparency and the love they have for each other 🤎🪞
Big facts. Nobody is perfect and the best marriages have flaws.
After I had my baby, something triggered in me to see my partner at the time differently. It caused separation and to be honest a yearning to leave him. But it happens to so many women as our mother senses grow. I had to learn to extend grace to myself and to him. If I could say anything, find the joy... find the love... and remember why you chose one another. Children will bring out all of your childhood trauma and everything you run away from. Speak with your inner child and let them know that they are safe... because that's what is at the root. Without knowing it, you may be acting out what you've seen as children. Know that it's okay to take a breath, live life on your own terms together and use your love to heal each other where you hurt. I wish you love and happiness eternally.
well said, I was thinking this same thing..
Thank you for sharing this.
Powerful words.
inner-child healing is so important!
Powerful thoughts
Ya’ll are a beautiful couple and very self aware which is so important. Marriage is continual work from both people in the union and things drastically change when children come along.
I think there is still a stigma around couples counseling and counseling in general that needs to be broken. There’s nothing wrong with counseling, going to see a therapist doesn’t mean you’ve failed, it means you care. Athletes have no shame in having a coach so why should there shame in having a coach in life and marriage? Coaching strengthens you.
I also think its important to go during the good times too, even when you don’t think you need it. I honestly think everybody should do couples counseling before they get married
I also like that technique of saying to your partner why your hurt and having to repeat it back to you because so often people only hear what they want to hear to further fuel an argument, rather than listen to understand and mend things. Feeling heard and valued is such an important element in a relationship for both men and women.
I think people will get a lot from this video and you guys being so open. Ya’ll got this. Much love to the family ❤️
You said it perfectly, Jamie!
Well said Jamie ♥️
Thank you Jamie 🙏🏾🙏🏻
Well said, Jaime!
Therapy should always be seen as preventative action.
When you put God first, everything does and will come into form. God’s way of doing things especially in marriage is all over the Bible. You’re dealing with two different people, different upbringings, different opinions sometimes and you need something outside of you to tell you what’s RIGHT. For me that’s God.
It’s unfortunate a lot of people stray away from God and they don’t survive because they’d rather take it on themselves. Not saying Maya particularly but in general. The divorce rates are HIGH. The times were in are stressful, add a child to that too?
We all need God I’ll be the few to say it ❤️
The vast majority of social media can have people out here thinking that if your relationship doesn't feel like a bubbly Sunday brunch every single day that there's something wrong with you or with your partner. Meanwhile the reality is all relationships have their gnarly bits and take work. Thank you for sharing the real ish!
One thing that has really stood out to me in this video, is that from the moment Maya started to get teary eyed and Express her emotions, Max immediately caressed Maya's back.
This may seem minor to some, but it hugely represents a divine connection between two people.
Thank you for sharing your real and raw experiences. It's not easy but will get better for you individually, as a couple and as a family!
I noticed that too.
His hands were already behind before I saw the tears.
That means he noticed the change in her voice and quickly came in.
Fabulous!
I'm glad to see that you both are working on yourself and in the union. Marriage is continual work. Ensure to make time for yourself as well. Much love.
🙏🏻🙏🏾💕
It gets better...I mean like WAY BETTER. Something about the age that Saga is right now + working from home + the industry we work in...it brings out the crazy in us! Our boy is now going on 2 years old and it's SIGNIFICANTLY DIFFERENT! There's more margin in our brains it feels. I started to feel that margin around 1.5 years!
oh no...those ages are horrible with tantums...at 4 they get an attitude and think they can send you around.
Loved how Max responded by putting his arms around you when you teared up.
Thank you for sharing! I’ve learned so much from you two, and I’m grateful for that! Some things I’ve learned from you guys are:
1. Don’t let gender roles define you, and instead find a partner that provides what YOU need.
2. Keep growing and learning
3. Preventative therapy is wonderful, helpful, and not a sign of failure AT ALL
4. It’s okay to take time and space for yourself
5. Be shameless and put yourself out there 😉
This is so awesome to read
Listen! My husband and I were so in love until the baby came. It changed everything for me and him too, I imagine. Babies change so much…the roles change and women change so much after children….and hormone changes. It’s a lot. I get it. But if you can make it through this challenging stage, it gets better. You two seem very committed to the your family unit that I believe it’s possible for you. Marriage and children are not easy and doing it in a foreign country away from family and friends just makes it so much harder. Love and blessings to you both as you navigate your way.
There is so much pretending in the world. We desperately need these honest chats. Thank you for sharing. I pray love and joy for your family.
One thing no one told me about being a parent was how hard it is to hold your tongue when your child is around. Before kids, you could just argue with your spouse and then make up after, but now with a baby, we know we shouldn’t fight infront of him but it’s so hard! When emotions are high, it’s so easy to forget there’s a child there watching and absorbing what you are saying and how you are acting. And to you, you were behaving in the heat of the moment etc., but to the child, they are watching mommy and daddy fight and the last thing you want is your child to see any kind of negativity coming from you. It takes so much self control to be respectful to your partner infront of your child regardless of how you feel in the moment and man that is hard work!!!!! Self restraint is hard-freaking-work. I currently have a 6 month old and I am trying to learn this but it is hard. Solidarity to you guys💕
Aww, I think Saga witnessing good conflict resolutions examples is better than no conflict at all! Conflict, being angry is part of life and she will know that as well, and best you hope she got conflict resolutions and communications skills from you guys xx
🤔 never thought of it like that! Nice!
Thisssss
I also realized when you see couples that make it many years, die together when their elderly, most people don't think a MAJOR accomplishment to marriage is they made it through this stage. We seem to always think of i.e. the "10 year mark" when marriages seem to get stale and people question their life w/out the other person, which leads to divorce. We need to hear more of how a new addition can break marriages as well. And that it takes strength and commitment to go through this phase what you two are going through. I hope you both make it and pray through it, God Bless
Tbh, it IS well known that the birth of a baby is a major pressure point in marriage. But I don't see that much advice on how to deal with it. And isolation may also be a thing for a new mother as well.
As a mom of three, now 19,18 and 11, I am resonating with Maya’s emotions. This was me right after having my kids... especially the first child. After becoming a mom, I instantly had a whole new set of expectations for my partner. Grateful for my kids. Grateful for being able to make a living painting. Grateful for my home. Grateful for food. Grateful for water. Life is just so magical. Thank you Creator!
Aww bless you guys! Isn’t being a human crazy? God is amazing, and he allows us to grow appropriately at his perfect timing in our lives. You guys clearly love one another and it’s so beautiful to see how you guys are growing together. ❤️❤️❤️
Such a sweet and uplifting message 💛
Y’all I hope you understand how appreciative we are of you. Your wisdom is worth more than gold. Stay blessed 🙏🏽❤️
Thank you so much for your honesty
Thank you!
Don’t give up. Even when you are at your worst, they’re, or y’all are burnt out. Marriage is ebb and flow. Good and tough times. It always gets stronger and WAY better if you stick with it and grow together. Y’all got this!!
Relationships and parenthood are hard work. Hang in there guys. You've got this!!
You both don't have to share the intimate details of your life and struggles, but I am so grateful that you do. I am incredibly grateful for the realness of the ups and downs of life in love. Don't worry Saga feels the love, because we can see it.
🥺 oh Maya when you were talking and crying about all the responsibilities as a mom and wife made me teary eyed because I felt the same when I became a mother. As new parents, there is just so much going on with everything. Moms need space, dads need space and even babies will too eventually. Therapy is always a great help. And having solo activities helps too.
Max , what you say is true about going through difficult times. You are both going to be stronger than before :)
Thank you for your great videos :)
Hello, how're you doing today?
Being so far removed from familiarity and family can't be easy as beautiful as it all is. Prayers for you both. All the best
Another very important factor they didn’t touch on. It really does take a village to raise a child.
Maya, you have a good man who truly loves you and loves this family. It is so clear from this video that he is so deeply committed to you and that you are more inclined to walking away from it. Don’t lose your family based on temporary emotions and ego. Family and love is the greatest currency in the world, and u got that right here so hold on tight to it!!!
As an almost divorcé who was at the stage Mya is in with Saga when my ex husband decided he was done… I have to say this is GOLD. I appreciate your transparency, willingness to grow and share the growth. Marriage is beautiful, stretching WORK!! that requires willingness and grace. There are so many stigmas and generational things we bring into relationships, seeking help is a wisdom move.
Thank you for the positive comment ✨ We truly appreciate it
I think you’ve both had an immense amount of transition, especially Maya. Someone who’s been able to just move & go as you please for so long, trust me, I get it. Give yourselves some grace… it’s a LOT that has changed in your lives. From being solo & free to having so many responsibilities absolutely makes a person feel restrained; & that’s not a good feeling for free spirited ppl. Your still & always an individual 1st & STILL deserve to have space just for you. I hope you find balance in it all🙏🏽 From one “runner” to another, I totally get it! xoxo
The first year after having a baby is the hardest. The feelings of loss of self, resenting our partner at times, pressures of new life amongst other things. It is truly hard but It gets better!!
Allow Christ and Christ alone to be in the center of your marriage. Cry out to him and love him with all your heart. Praying for you all ♥️
Wow. The fact that Max could tell sis was about to tear up before we actually saw it made my heart warm.
Boy, you two are so honest and I am tearing up because boy, can I relate! As a brand new mama to my 6 month old daughter; me and my partner have had similar issues and arguments. And when it happens in front of my daughter, it breaks my heart. But at the same time, there’s so little time alone (if none some days), that it’s really not easy 🥺. We can only do our best as parents and have grace for ourselves in difficult transitions. It’s NOT easy at all 😥
Thanks for being so open and honest. I'm newly married, just a little over 1 year. It hasn't been easy and we haven't had children yet. Love from Jamaica 🇯🇲 ❤️
The transparency and authenticity is everything ☺️ I think that’s why many of us love and appreciate when y’all make videos like this as well. Because we are always bombarded with mostly highlights and the positive sides of marriages, relationships, and motherhood on social media. Not many (esp couples) dive into the nitty gritty of the parts that tend to be more realistic and uncomfortable to share and experience. That’s the “shameless” impact that we still see and love; always being genuine and real regardless of what stage of life you’re in. But of course, we still love seeing you all progress and flourish as well despite the human/humbling parts of life that comes behind the scenes 😊💕
When Mya got emotional… before I even saw it Max reached out to comfort her. Could be editing but I’d like to think it was an energy shift that he felt and responded to. So sweet 🥰
Children will test a relationship unlike anything you have ever experienced before. Please know that any strain you are experiencing in your relationship is normal especially if you're a fairly new (under 5 yrs) couple. Wishing you the best
Hello so true
We have now just had our 2nd child. With each child during the newborn and infant stage our marriage has always shifted to feeling like the breaking point. Children are like magnifying glasses to issues that are already in the marriage and not to mention exhaustion! After our first I can tell you guys that it does get better at around 2/3 years old lol.... We're now looking to do counseling as well. We're Caribbean and counseling is always seen as a negative concept.... it's necessary and needed is all relationships. Wishing you guys the best! Praying for you both as well!
Even in the hard times your relationship reminds me that I should never settle for anything less than this level of emotional maturity, compassion and willingness to grow. Sometimes it feels like these are impossible to find in a potential partner but I see you guys and it gives me hope! Thank you for sharing these conversations
👍🙏I have a suggestion: you guys grew your love over the phone & away from each other. Separate into separate rooms or one goes for a walk or one stays inside and one goes outside then call each other on the phone AND TALK it through. Listening and restating / mirroring is important but more than what you say or do it’s how you make each other feel. 💝
Completely besides the point but Maya, I LOVE your hair! I always say I'ma act right and braid mine so it'll be a non issue for a few days but get distracted with how much time it takes and say forget it! LOL. Love it!
I’m a new dad! My lil guy is 2 months old and whew…this video speaks volumes for me! ❤️
I love both of you and how clear and surrendered and vulnerable you are! You both have made major changes and adjustments- this shift, reflection, growing pains of 2 becoming one are all normal! Good on you both for not running and walking it out in love together. I cried with you both almost the entire video. Thank you for being vulnerable in front of us and challenging us to grow by your example ♥️♥️
Haven't watched this yet but I just want to say I'm sending you both so much love 💗 Standing by your side in spirit through this time.
Ohh same here, hi
How are you
Best advice: be gentle with yourselves and each other. It’s okay to pause and come back to a discussion when you’re ready to have a meaningful conversation and remember that through your disagreements you teach Saga the tools to manage disagreements for her. I think you’re doing just fine, getting therapy now was an awesome decision(very mature). I am a fellow Taurus so I get the stubborn trait, lol. Last tip: remember the oxygen on the plane analogy: you can’t help others if you are depleted. A quick time away recharges you to continue in your journey as parents. Both alone and together. Keep all the videos coming!!
That’s so true , , thanks so much
Maya- You are such a pure spirit. Be patient with yourself. It is so important to be selfish at times with yourself- doing things YOU enjoy doing. I remember becoming a mom and seeking out ways to feed myself with things that brought me joy- even as small as taking a dance class, going to a coffee shop and enjoying a cup of coffee, talking and laughing with friends, journaling/praying. I am a Taurus-so I understand the need to go for a walk and connect with nature when you’re heated- because we can really get heated..lol. Take care…
I LOVE yawl relationship! We aren't perfect, but you two seem perfect for one another. I love that you both are open to change. That's what I seek within a partner.
Hello, how're you doing today?
The transparency is EVERYTHING- thank you 💚
#grateful for my:
•faith
•family
•health
•friends
•employment
I appreciate both of you so much.
1 - Your transparency
2 - Allowing us to come into your lives like this
3 - The learnings you share and thus helps me grow and learn too
4 - The comment section on your channel is just love
5 - The aesthetic in your videos
This was an amazing videos, but I must say I also LOVE the vlogs. I feel like I'm a part of your adventures haha
Take care xx
First, thank you for your raw honesty. You are literally in the trenches right now. I relate so much to you, because I too live in Europe and am from North America. It was tough, building a new community of my own and adjusting to marriage and kids so far away from family in a really different culture. I wish you all (Saga included), peace and clarity as you live out your vision of who you want to be as a family and as a couple. Lots of love and positive vibes to both of you.
Didn’t know how much I needed this. The video and the comments. Gave birth about two years ago and wonder if we will ever get back to what we were. I lean into the love but it is hard
Trust the process. We are flawed not perfect. Love is unconditional
5 things: my life 🙌🏽.. I’m still alive, my Dad (being able to take care of him before he passed, my mom, my friends that are my family, my doctors and my Lord ❤️
Right now is really a tough season in my life. A really tough one. But watching this video made me feel emotionally safe. It felt like I was safe and warm at home, even though my mind is currently controlled by my insecurities and the thought of uncertainties. I'm grateful for this moment. I'm grateful for watching this video; truly listening & connecting out of love and not fear. Even if that feeling may go away, I'm grateful I got to experience it
The color palette is so soothing I almost fell asleep a few times watching this video..
It’s great that you both can stop think and communicate with each other about how you’re feeling. And realize that listening is important. So much love.
I realized a few months ago that married people, no matter how happy they can appear to be on the outside, experience strong feelings of wanting to escape the problems in their marriage sometimes. They really do, and I was shocked to learn that about life because I've never been partnered nor have a child to think about. And it’s interesting thinking like, if you’re having a fight and things are tense but you have to still communicate about the baby. That’s challenging! I have firsthand experience of what it looks like when you don't get therapy/help in time, and it can be a really, really awful time. So I think you guys are on the right track to go to sessions and that you will be okay.
Tough times don’t last. But tough people do 💕♾
Alot of "newness" and major changes in life can be challenged. As a couple working through it, strengthens what you have worked so hard to have. Sending you both a virtual support hug
Thank you both for loving out loud. I'm married to a Dane and we've been married for 10 years. An argument is rare for us, but when it happened it was during the first year after having kids. It's great to hear you are finding tools that help you listen and communicate with each other. Also, if you want to add another 'local" getaway to your list, you're welcome to visit us in Jutland, Denmark. We're ~6 hour drive from Gothenburg. 😀
Thank you for your honesty. This is a safe space for you both here which is quite unique my lovies.
Day by day you (Maya) will put pieces of yourself back in place and have the wisdom to know some pieces will fit in new areas of your existence. Lastly go to your playlist and put 2 songs: one that reaches your soul and the other that makes you want 2 just dance. Wisdom & Blessings to you both.
what a beautiful message
Being a wife and mother is 100% 2 of the hardest physical emotional spiritual things I have EVER done!!!
PRAYING FOR U BOTH 🙏
Huge fan o mentor couples and counseling even during the good times
#momof5 #wife
Thank you for your honesty! I’m a huge fan of Maya and now Max. I have been married to my homie/lover/friend for 30 years. We are 54 yrs old. Where did the time go. We had no examples of marriage as both of our Mothers were Single. We had to figure it out as we went along. Marriage can have challenges and it’s a lot of work but if you continue to communicate, give each other space and make time for dates you will be successful at it. Sending Love & Light to you both.
I recommend Gottman Institue and or Esther Perel. I do not agree with everything but so much is put so well that you can grasp the main points. Does not replace a GOOD couples therapy of course.
I can tell you Max, I want therapy before I get married to my bae because I see that we have unresolved childhood trauma that will come up. Better to be prematurly there than too late.
I’m a Runner too. I noticed the pattern in therapy. I love to run from hardship. Relationships, jobs and friendships. It takes time.
Thank you Max for loving our girl Maya in the way you do. It’s so sweet and I thank you both for being honest and open and sharing your wisdom with us. It gives me hope that you can have a healthy relationship (not a perfect one, but ever evolving) . I’m proud of you both. ❤️
Oh you guuuuuys🥺!!! It's so hard. Congratulations to you both for doing the work. My husband and I have been in therapy for six years. It has not been easy but it has been worth it and I can truly say we wouldn't have made it this far without the skills/tools gained and the work we've put in as individuals.
Helping one another, yes, time to have self-care is important.
Aww babe🥺, you guys will turn a corner, especially you Maya, you have completely done a 360, you have moved to other side of the world to have mostly every girls dream ‘a family’ but not only are you a first time amazing mum, your having to adjust to a loving new husband, a new country, a new language, home renovations, body changes, super sensitive and emosh because of the hormones trying be regulated, you tube and no me time, not to mention you guys not having space as a family and your staying with Max’s supportive sister and your doing this ALL without your ‘SUPPORT SYSTEM’
ie: family/friends etc - Sssssheeesh!
Babe you should be so proud of yourself honestly hun real talk! You have sacrificed a whole lot. I’am so impressed that Max suggested for a professional this shows true strength because that takes guts. Guys you will ride this wave as you are ‘trying’ and that’s all that matters. Sending big love from London 🇬🇧
I’m so happy you guys made this channel! You guys are so honest and raw with sharing your experiences. I know everyone’s experience will be different but watching you guys gives me hope for my future. My husband is a Danish citizen/ moved to Canada for me 10 years ago. Now we plan to move to Denmark in 4 months and the goal is to buy land and live a self sufficient lifestyle. It’s inspiring and motivating that you both have committed to this new journey and kudos to Maya for making such a big move! I wish you guys nothing but the best! ✌🏾
I have followed you since early "Shameless Maya" days, and I have to say this video was right on par with the ground breaking and unprecedented ways, in which you have filmed your real life! Again I have never seen anything like this! It is beautiful to experience. It is beautiful to see Maya's emotions and so beautiful to watch Max eyes fill with love everytime she speaks. Just like the 4th trimester and the distance from family during covid, I'm confident that this too will be a learning curve you look back on as a blessing. You both are awesome ❤❤
This was such an amazing video! I recently moved in with my partner and it has been such a adjustment to say the least. Prior to living together, I lived myself for 7 years and was so used to my routine and personal space. It’s been a challenge to adjust to now living with someone else. It requires an abundance amount of understanding, patience, and true listening. Videos like these remind me that we all struggle, but we can also overcome. And therapy is a blessing.
I wish you nothing but the best. With all the changes you’ve both experienced in the most unprecedented time in our history, it’s natural to have challenges. But it is clear you love and are truly committed to one another. I believe that so long as you put it in the work and always remember why you chose each other, you will always prevail. Blessings you and your beautiful daughter. ❤️
👍🙏😭💝Everything WILL be okay. Keep talking through it. It’s when couples stop talking that the marriage is over. Remember to see each other as your friend and most loved dear one…when you think like that you let the ego go, you don’t want to hurt each other. Remember you’re not truing to win at the risk of losing each other and your marriage. Ask yourself what it costs you to “get your way” or “win an argument”?
You guys are together 24/7/365 you have to do one or two things separately. I love you guys & I’m hoping and praying your marriage will be filled with love and last a lifetime. 🙏😭💝💖
I never leave comments and do realise this was shared over a year ago but deeply appreciate this honest openness about your struggles; showing that no relationship (none at all!) is purrfect but above all, I pray that you both work out and grey out together for real! There's a genuine vibe and love between you two and gosh, do I pray to God that he keeps you both forever! amen!!!!
Thank you for addressing the "romanticism" of having children. So many mothers do not admit this to themselves. These couples look so miserable and are not proactive by going to couple's therapy.
I highly recommend reading the book "Attached." About attachment theory, it literally saved my relationship, as well as The Four Agreements.
You are shining Maya!
Love you braids girl. So naturally beautiful.
I haven’t finished watching yet but had to pause to comment (I don’t usually comment) a huge thank you for being so open about the realities of marriage not being perfect. You guys are amazing and wonderful and hope you know how much you’re impacting others with your sharing❤️❤️❤️
Although there are some couples that describe their relationship as “Easy” I think the hard conversations are helpful to earning a different level of love, respect and dedication to each other. Thank you for being honest. Wishing you all nothing but the best for every twist and turn life sends you. 🖤
You guys are doing great! Marriage, baby, family, growth-it’s all hard. But it gets better. And when viewed from the future looking back it becomes a sweet memory-all the tension shifts out over time. Be blessed!
This is the most relatable video I've ever watched in my life so far. Currently going through this struggle as a wife and first time mother. We decided to seek counseling.
I completely understand where you two are coming from. I am also 40 with a 2 month old. This is our first child and my husband and I are constantly bickering. We finally had a heart to heart about our needs and it’s starting to get better. Every marriage has its challenges and I am happy you guys are working through it. Thank you for sharing.
Man these videos are SO HELPFUL!!! thank you x 1000. Not married yet, but these conversations are so useful. Your transparency is much appreciated
Hello 👋, that so true
It’s hard to let go of the responsibility of being a mom, it’s scary to leave the family you need the alone time but you feel guilty. Maya I wish I could hug you, as a mom of two this time is an emotional time hormones are still balancing out especially with you still nursing the baby. I love these conversations it shows the reality of raising a family. I’m grateful for my family, my life experiences, my career, my positive outlook on life and my health.
This was the most beautiful video Ever to watch. To see the transparency and vulnerability is beyond measure. It would be nice to see the family doing content on things you love doing around the castle. I love this channel and it gets better with. Stay Strong Power Couple!!
The two of you remind me of my partner and I so much. We have been together 4 years, and we've been through a lot of hard stuff over 90% of that time. This channel is lovely and so valuable, thank you for being willing to share with us.
Thank you, Max and Maya !! I learned that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, and couples counseling is for every marriage.
Awww, I’m crying, understand how you feel, what’s good is that you’ll are doing the necessary work
Wow! What a breath of fresh air to see such real raw emotion and to be welcomed into such an intimate conversation. I can totally relate to this, and thank you for showing a perspective of marriage that is so important but oftentimes left out. I’m sending you both and Saga so so much love + light 💫 be gentle with yourselves 🙏🏾
Wow, this was so real. Thanks for being so transparent!
Hi 👋🏾 beautiful family I’m not married but I know this beautiful life No! One is Prefect just Trust each other
Being young parents is very difficult and on top of that Maya is in foreign country learning a new language! That’s a lot!! I’m so happy you got help!! Thank you for sharing and your honesty! 💚🌿🌷
Y’all better do that relationship work! When Maya burst into tears, that was raw emotion that she somehow made a little funny too. I’m so glad that you are both doing the real work to keep yourselves and your relationship healthy and whole. Peace and blessings.
I love hearing about how you keep your marriage fresh and vibrant! I am here for love! There is always going to be challenges in marriage. Just keep on it, love, share and encourage each other. Rooting for you both!!!
You guys, thank you for sharing, I am preparing for marriage and this is very helpfull to get insight on how to work through hardship! Cause it is not always going to be roses. Thanks again and keep growing/going✨✨
You will learn to navigate the transitions. It's the change and transition that we don't always acknowledge. You all will get through this!
King with newborn is difficult stage, keep sharing & listening to each other, especially when you don’t want to & just want to vent. Your relationship will deepen. You are blessed that you both are learning how to listen to each other., big hug
All relationships (family, parental, work, marriage, etc.) are capable of having problems because no one is the same and conflicts are inevitable. How you work through it makes all the difference. But issues cannot be avoided...gotta work through it.
The best advice keep that authentic communication between you two open. From What I am saying you guys are already a head start and doing a great job. Make sure you also have couple time together without Saga as reminder of how you started. Remember one day your babies will grow up and you will be empty nesters staring at each other. Always pray over your marriage. You both are blessed couple...