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How do I break up with a boyfriend who I feel is not compatible with me in the things of God. Am I being unfair? What if I want a man who can lead me spiritually because I’m not very strong as a believer and being with him isn’t helping me much. I’m hope you get what I mean? Please help
@@Mo_doyin no you are not being unfair in any way, you can first talk to him about it be transparent as possible …. with him see his response and then from that make a decision. i almost dated a guy that 1. was a Muslim 2. the other one was just not aligned in and with the will of God. sex for me has been out of my equation, not that i haven't done it nope i have and i can tell you that the many times i did it i was even more broken than the first. So how did i deal with the two guys. 1. the Muslim- i was open enough with him to tell him we could not be together, not that we were not compatible no. we were the most compatible , he was my soul mate but then, I had to discern if this man's purpose was aligned to mine. would he support me in the things i am passionate about God? i don't think so. and we mutually parted ways, we still talk from time to time but not as much. 2nd guy , was more of your situation, he wasn't all interested in the things of God and i am just one too passionate about Christ to let a boy or man destroy that believe it or not, with God there are certain things you must discern for yourself and see what the will of God is. With God you have to be intentional , missionary dating i wouldn't recommend , you may be into deep but sis if he is not interested in the things of God it is best to let him go. tell him your reasons for doing so..
Sexual purity to me is not just staying from the sexual act sex but also also staying away from sexual materials like overly sexual movies/books/videos/conversations that are erotic and masturbation. Its a struggle but God is faithful so far I am doing good in this area as I wait for my kingdom marriage
The way I am constantly pulling myself back from twerking, 18SNL movies, music, and discussions 😅😅😅😅 coz I know those contributed to my impurity. Even dressing
Honestly I love being celibate, like I actually sat with myself today and I realized that I don't regret not having sex with my exs or the men I used to be interested in and sexually attracted to. I am so glad that I didn't have sex with any of them, that I never gave in. Yh I have my sexual feelings but the peace I have now is so much better than possibly ever giving in to my sexual needs. Thank u lord for self control💖
They always said they can be Celibate with me but when we are behind close doors all they wanted was sex. I ended the relationship, and felt bad so I wanted to get back with him because he ticked most of the boxes except this important one. But thank God they couldn’t take me back. It’s been 2 months on my celibate journey, I don’t crave for sex nor miss the person intimately but I just miss doing this life thing together. I think being away from the person has helped me in a positive way because I’m building my confidence back again and now I can simply say No to relationship requests of which in the past I was a people pleaser.
Yes girl don't let these men try to change u and bend ur morals, cuz the sad thing is they actually respect u less when u give in. They just get a thrill out of trying to have sex with u and they don't really value u most times. I'm glad u never went bk to him💖
Watched this yesterday and here to drop my comment. When she said “ they lack self-discipline “ ✅ The discipline you have before marriage is what you will bring into marriage. If you lack self-discipline before marriage, it will be difficult to have discipline in marriage. Thank you ladies for sharing. I enjoyed watching. 💜
I’m still a virgin at 22 and I’ve been debating on whether or not to just go ahead and lose my virginity but after an incident that happened on Thursday I feel like waiting till marriage is whats best for me. This video also just confirmed that I would like to wait for marriage 😢
Dear sis 🙌, it's not just about debate or feelings. Jesus Christ is true and if you are a follower of Jesus (christian) he says to flee immorality, fornication and adultery. There is blessing in waiting. Love❤️ & Light 💡.
The truth is you are not missing out on anything. Trust me..forget when they ask how will u know if u are compatible or tell u u are missing out. You can do it, whenever you have that urge feeling, just distract yourself and talk to the Holyspirit cos that's what I do..that guy is my gist partner..Yes he's holy but he loves to hear every details of your life
I can totally relate to everything Uzoma said. I've been dating my fiance for 5 years and we're engaged to be married in few months time and walahi, it hasn't been easy. I even thought the urges will get better once we get engaged and the wedding is close, but omo! It's harder. The devi will tell me that it's just few moths to the wedding, we'll eventually get married, but thank God for wisdom ,we're still standing. In summary, being I a sexual pure relationship isn't easy, but it's easier when you both are on the same page.
“You’ve created a marriage attachment, when there is no marriage commitment!!” Thank you both for being vulnerable to help us learn. God bless you See we stop listening to world trying to say sex with anyone is “normal” we do not settle for these contradicting ideologies!
This is sooo good!! As one who is in a Christian relationship dating towards marriage, we have made our mistakes and decided wholeheartedly to pursue God with our actions by also being abstinent. It certainly has been a struggle but extremely efficient through reading the word of God and praying diligently. So watching other Christians talk about this is so encouraging to see! Great video 👍🏿
I’m only 7 minutes in and I’m so grateful this popped up on my page because the way you guys are even speaking shows your humanity, authenticity, and genuine devotion to Christ. We need more women like you to help shape others who feel very alone on their purity journeys, and show them that there’s another way
celibacy is hard in this culture and in church it is so demonised when you fall or stumble so hearing this honest and open space and conversation God bless you ❤
I believe there should be a Part 2. I really like what you guys are talking about. When I say I desire to marry a virgin some people think I’m selfish (kinda plays a role) but I want to walk this journey and learn with my Mrs. As a male who haven’t done the do & I’m in my early 30s, I kinda fear expectations so I’d rather want one we both learn and grow. But hey, it could be otherwise & I thank God as well. You people raised really strong points especially the 2nd question. At times I think of it & ask, why would God tell us to hold back on something that the body naturally desires for and seeks after? Why put it at a certain time to be unlocked yet we’re sexual beings? Isn’t it better that the day one gets married, all the desires just happens like boom 😅. But there’s that call for self discipline/self control. Finally, you ladies are beautiful and God bless your relationships.
I don't think it's selfish at all if you are also a virgin! If the guys who run around sleeping with anything walking and then ask for a virgin that I find appalling.
Lol Uzomas story is a lot similar to mine, I never used to even think of it and wonder why everyone made sex look like this thing with so much hype but now I’m 24, not totally innocent but have still not done it. It’s crazier now plus when you don’t see marriage in the nearest future it’s like harder to think of waiting. And tbh not even sure if I want to. I do see the benefits and I’m grateful for that but people never talk about the part of being single till a very old age
Gosh! I can relate. I had to bear the marital talk with my dad of recent. Though he meant well but I was just mentally tired! Can't I live my life in peace? I want to do a lot career wise and travel and finish Medical school but yet everyone keeps on popping the question,"Are you in a relationship","Where is the guy" like a to do list. it's so annoying!
From someone whom Holy spirit literally told to work on her self control because I wasn't doing a good job. He literally said, you know self control is an actual fruit of the spirit and it's not like you have a choice. I pray we all find this journey rewarding in the end.
Honestly Gods timing is perfect.. this morning I was struggling because I had slipped up .. but what I learnt today is not to stay in that slip up but to run back to God. Thought I was alone in this but thank God for you girls coz now I know we are all operating under His grace ! Thank you for this vid !
I almost slipped a few nights ago when my hormones had flared, and wanted to watch something sensual. I prayed and told the devil straight up, "you don't have power over my body, my eyes, everything" and I just slept it out. 😅😅😅
We definitely need a part 2 please, my problem is getting someone who is aligned with that vision because it feels like most guy sees staying celibate as something impossible especially here in Nigeria or maybe I've not yet met any God fearing person
I’m a Jewish woman and we also practice celibacy. I loved this video and your pov’s, it feels alone but I’ve noticed the more I am celibate that I feel like more able to have intimate connections and being vulnerable even without touch. Before that I had many defenses and so it helps a lot ! 💕💖
I agree with the topic, I am a virgin and I was 27 when I told my ex-school/varsity friends that I was not sexually active nor had sexual affection/soul ties with my exes and luckily long-term relationship I ever was in was with a Christian, born by water and spirit and we dated for 5 years and knew each other for 5months before actually dating or making a choice to date/courtship and the mere fact we know the principles of the bible about relationships, dating, sex, marriage. Here am I still fighting the good fight of faith, I will get married hopefully to someone that is also abstaining or resisting sexual immorality/sex before marriage because it is significant not to me but to God, my family, and my church. Being pure, clean, and holy not just with what we say and think but, also with our body, mind and soul because of our own choices that lead to "things' whereby at times an individual is regretful, ashamed or even worse heartbroken because of intercourse (sex) due to the guilt or soul ties" that needs to be broken because it's vital due to the body is the temple of God and God is a jealous, just, holy and righteous Father...
My boyfriend and l just started celibacy journey I brought it up to him and what he thinks about it. At first he wasn't okay with it but I have to explain to him that the fact that the world is doing it doesn't mean it's a good thing to be having sex before marriage. He was hesitant but he finally agreed to it and we depending on God to help us through it Actually we in a long distance relationship so that's much easy for me Buh sis,the day I started celibacy,omo the sexual age was 100%.i was feeling for sex and I knew the devil knows we on a good way so he wants to tempt me Buh thank God we on it Buh sometimes I feel guilty for having sexual acts some years back before I now embark on this celibacy journey
Heyy girl! This is amazing and I pray God helps you both with Strength. Always ask the Holy Spirit for help, don’t do it based on your own knowledge. And girlll guilt is of the devil and conviction is of God! So shake the guilt off, Grace has enveloped you! And always will! Lots of love!
God sent this video to my TL because my mindset about celibacy and sex as a whole was beginning to change due to society’s pressure. I thank God for the renewing of my mind
Glad I saw this today. It's really not easy when you have a partner that thinks differently. Sex before marriage should exclude every other thing that feels like sex. Honoring God is so important.This is so real!
This is the most honest video i have seen so far on this topic ... people are really struggling with this and need more than just condemnation ... thanks ladies 🤩
Awwwwn this is interesting. As a born again Christian. Started my dedicated journey in august last year. And frankly celibacy has been a big issue lol. I’ve lost men I thought were perfect cause of the tension. Actually just mutually decided with my newest boyfriend 2 days ago to stay ‘friends’ since he wasn’t on this celibacy journey and it is a big struggle for him. I miss him as my boyfriend but we are friends now and literally talk everyday lol. I think it just removed the pressure but I don’t think we’d be back as a romantic couple and it is sad. Cause I do love him and he’s literally perfect.
Maybe he will realize through you how to take on celibacy or wait till you are ready. Never know what the future holds since he was perfect in other boundaries.
I don't know how your video even landed on my homepage, but I'm so glad I watched it. You guys said a lot of things that shook me. A lot of self-discipline is needed, and it is true how clear your mind is when you don't focus so much on sexual things in a relationship. Thank you so much for this video!!!
OMG...I love this, because sexual purity is something I have struggled with, and it's refreshing to know that there is hope and it is not impossible to be sexually pure till marriage
Currently in a long distance relationship so it’s not an issue abstaining for either of us, and even when we are together we just want to spend time together and do stuff together because we don’t get to see each other as much.
That’s crazy because I am currently in a long distance too and my experience is quite different. We both have the will to abstain but we have fallen a few times with a different type of intimacy. I think it’s a blessing that we are long distance for the time being because it will allow us to be more disciplined.
Another thing I'd like to add is that sexual purity is not limited to abstaining from s*x. It also involves minding what you watch and avoiding things like masturbation, etc. That all has to do with purity.
Brandy just be spitting gemsss... I'm only halfway through the video, and I can't count how many times I've "mmmm-ed" and said "word word word". I love how raw and real this video is, I do!! 😭💗
Thank God yt recommend this video cause y'all spoke about this topic in a way it was enjoyable to watch. Sexual purity is not an easy journey and being a teenager I still have a long way to go😭but with sexual discipline and with his word we can do this🙏🏼
I love how transparent this video is, like honestly it is hard and when brandy said it gets harder with time like even when you haven't done it before it still gets harder when you are connected with someone alone love you both for this and trust me when I tell you that this video came at this right time let me go back into my bible reading 🙏🙏
I saw your videos on tiktok and just screamed this is the exact content I need on dating rn. Opened my TH-cam few minutes afterwards and I find this video . My heart is very happy cl!
This video popped up on my screen and i can't believe i was standing the whole time while watching it. Haha so good! Love what you said about having a group chat with your mentors, accountability should certainly be a big deal for any godly couple seeking to date the right way, I don't hear this said in many places and I'm really glad it was mentioned here. God bless you both. More grace!
Everything Uzoma is saying is meeeee 😭😭😭 I used to think I had a problem for not having those urges but now hmhmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!! Thankful for understanding and growth in God!! Thank you for this video and Pastor Brandy, you’re amazing.
Wow this has really come at the right time for me😅... I've had some challenges being celibate but y'all need to know that it just takes God and His grace...We fall but we rise again.. I've had some challenges with my sexual orientation 😢, but thank God before I could go beyond I was brought back by His grace and I'm telling God has been faithful 😭😭... Praise be to Him❤🙏
First time on this page, and I’m glad this was my first watch, trust I subscribed right away. God bless your hearts for this💕. This was a video I never thought I needed and I could relate so much. I definitely learnt a lot and I also was reminded about the true importance of purity, which is not just for God’s pleasure but also for my edification. Thank you guys so much and yes please we definitely want a second watch (if I say so myself). Love and light🧡
thank you for this🥰...we really need to understand that marriage is only as good as our singleness , what you do by yourself is a foundation for your marriage, that is who you're bringing to the marriage.
This is a great video . I like how you are tackling issues that many Christians are battling but very few are vocal about . Continue making such videos 🌟❤
This was so insightful I loved it. My biggest take away was Self Discipline we should instill that value first because as Uzoma said, someone is not going to stop being fine because you are married.
i really appreciate this video especially Oyins story. i’ve barely found currently married couples who were honest about not being pure from the jump. seeing the mercy of God in redeeming and keeping y’all together even through giving your lives and restarting is so freaking beautiful. gives me so much faith🥺🥺
Omo Brandy is right about sex after marriage. Especially for us women, it takes a conscious effort to actually have sex with your spouse. Rather you really just enjoy each others company with other activities
Oyin Brandy had me laughing out loud for real! Because she came for us and shook the table with "If it FEELS like sex!! If it arouses parts of you that should be staying down!!" I love this real talk because God has convicted me time and time again.
loved this! y'all look too good btw! please give us part 2 🙏 if you do film part 2, could you please talk about the value of waiting from the perspective of someone in a long-term relationship (that'll likely end in marriage), to contrast the perspective of someone who has multiple sexual partners?
My journey is so similar to Brandy’s…I’m not married and not getting married soon though. I’m very grateful for the wisdom & vulnerability in this video cuz Christians don’t get content like thisss. Sexual purity is so important to honour God in your relationship. God bless you Pst. Brandy & Uzoma for letting us that know that sexual purity is possible 🙏🏾❤️
I am so happy about this topic to see believers talk about it is really wonderful and helpful for those of us abstaining and please there has to be a part 2 you can't talk about it in one video 😂😂
Oh my goodness Uzo and Brandy by the help of the Holy Spirit Ate this topic and left no crumbs!!! God bless you both *10000 . This was so transparent and encouraging ♥️🤲🏻🥰. “You can’t love someone you don’t know” please give these women their flowers .
Never have I ever related to a video on celibacy on such a deep and personal level omllll You and Brandy did so much justice to this topic and I’ve learned so much that I can’t wait to implement by the grace of God. I love the point you made about getting to know your partners mind. It resonated with me deeply You both look ABSOLUTELY gorgeous! love you both so much, thank you for being transparent with us, it’s empowering to know that I can also do the same ❤
New subscriber ❤ I agree that these topics are not discussed on enough. And the few persons who discuss this are not transparent/honest. Thank you so much once again to you ladies ❤
Honestly this video is amazing it came at a time when I needed to be clarified. I love you guys so much and thank you for the transparency in this video ❣️❣️❣️
I'm new, straight from Brandy's channel. You guys are spitting sense! I LOVE U Uzoma🥰 Pray for me sis, I'm not married but lately I've been feeling somehow like gosh😪😪
Your Video has been recommended twice on my timeline both on my phone and pc and I was like "Okay God, I here Yoi. I'll listen." I love the authenticity of your channel💯May God keep being glorified.
What Brandy said about not wanting to do it everyday is so true💯 I've been married for close to a year now and some times we might not even have more than once a week or not have it all at in a week......
😂😂😂 Describe it Pst brandy…describe itttt Thank you for this video, celibacy is so hard. Just genuinely avoid the opposite sex if you’re on the journey ESPECIALLY when you’re not in a relationship. All these friends of the opposite sex that you might be attracted to and you know they’re attracted to you cause trust me just conversations can get you out of your journey. God loves us so much that he didn’t want all these unnecessary trauma for us. Stay strong people, we got this by the grace of God.
Omg... Can't believe there's a group of people who still maintain their grounds on celibacy, for real I thought I was alone in this journey, and trust me it feels surreal knowing this and being part of this channel, though I wish we'll get an online community or something. I trust God for a Mr who also appreciates this journey with me. Omo, thanks Mrs and Miss for putting up this content, y'all don't know how much you've helped, especially these days people tend to normalize immortality and make "us" feel weird, like how did we get here? Anyways I'm grateful for the part2 link you dropped. Keep the flag flying gurrlll. I love your vibezz
Uzoma and brandy, this video are only interesting, but it's also God-inspired. I recognize and acknowledge Christ in you guys. Thank you for the transparency as well. A lot of Christians need to arise with topics like this in the media industry and you both are pioneering this shift. God bless you guys continually.
i am just grateful that i have soo many mentors to feed from like this platform, real Christians to give me the REAL experience so that i can learn from my mistakes, celibacy isn't something to walk in and succeed in just there and then it is a process, it takes time and if done right with the right person you will thrive. i am in a season where i am heavily convicted on sex, and celibacy and believe it or not it is when i chose to be celibate that i have seen myself have more sex than ever, i have tried to wonder and ask myself that before sex wasn't a problem for me at all, but it is now that i declared it over my life that i have seen more sexual activity in ,my life. disappointed? i am little disappointed yes , but then sometimes i think is it because it is my first dating relationship that we seem to fall off the rails too quickly? actually it has made me question certain behaviors in my life, what needs to change about me? am i drinking too much? am i spending more time being unproductive? hence do i have regrets? no i don't but will i stay in this valley? no i will not. i will try and do better for my relationship. hence i think if you are in a similar position and you feel like you have fallen far from grace you haven't. just pick up and make the right choices, if you are truly a child of God he will guide you.
I was excited to watch this video as someone on a celibacy journey . Thanks putting this out for us . But most sounded like a judgemental conversation not an educational one !
I just came across your channel and trust me I'm here to stay! There's so much truth in the things Oyin said and Uzoma just gets me 😂I'm really grateful for this video.💕
Great video. Relationship and Marriage should be looked at from the long term perspective and not just short term. Sex is great and all but it's just one piece of the entire puzzle. You have to look at all other things from a critical level if you want your relationship to work. There is emotional damage attached to having sex in every single relationship and to top it off, it shows lack of regard for your body. Your body is a temple that should be protected at all costs. Being loose in a sexual way exposes you to a lot of avoidable problems. -Emotional Damage. -STDS -Public embarrassment that you can never come back from because people will always bring it up to silence you. Sexual purity is the best from both the spiritual and logical perspective. Great video again, Really insightful.
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How do I break up with a boyfriend who I feel is not compatible with me in the things of God. Am I being unfair? What if I want a man who can lead me spiritually because I’m not very strong as a believer and being with him isn’t helping me much. I’m hope you get what I mean? Please help
@@Mo_doyin no you are not being unfair in any way, you can first talk to him about it be transparent as possible …. with him see his response and then from that make a decision. i almost dated a guy that 1. was a Muslim 2. the other one was just not aligned in and with the will of God. sex for me has been out of my equation, not that i haven't done it nope i have and i can tell you that the many times i did it i was even more broken than the first. So how did i deal with the two guys. 1. the Muslim- i was open enough with him to tell him we could not be together, not that we were not compatible no. we were the most compatible , he was my soul mate but then, I had to discern if this man's purpose was aligned to mine. would he support me in the things i am passionate about God? i don't think so. and we mutually parted ways, we still talk from time to time but not as much. 2nd guy , was more of your situation, he wasn't all interested in the things of God and i am just one too passionate about Christ to let a boy or man destroy that believe it or not, with God there are certain things you must discern for yourself and see what the will of God is. With God you have to be intentional , missionary dating i wouldn't recommend , you may be into deep but sis if he is not interested in the things of God it is best to let him go. tell him your reasons for doing so..
@@christleynkunika2667 thank you so much ma. I’m scared 🥺
@@Mo_doyin it must be fear and probably that is what you will have to overcome before you make such a big decision
Sexual purity to me is not just staying from the sexual act sex but also also staying away from sexual materials like overly sexual movies/books/videos/conversations that are erotic and masturbation. Its a struggle but God is faithful so far I am doing good in this area as I wait for my kingdom marriage
The way I am constantly pulling myself back from twerking, 18SNL movies, music, and discussions 😅😅😅😅 coz I know those contributed to my impurity. Even dressing
Honestly I love being celibate, like I actually sat with myself today and I realized that I don't regret not having sex with my exs or the men I used to be interested in and sexually attracted to. I am so glad that I didn't have sex with any of them, that I never gave in. Yh I have my sexual feelings but the peace I have now is so much better than possibly ever giving in to my sexual needs. Thank u lord for self control💖
This is how I feel😊❤
They always said they can be Celibate with me but when we are behind close doors all they wanted was sex. I ended the relationship, and felt bad so I wanted to get back with him because he ticked most of the boxes except this important one. But thank God they couldn’t take me back. It’s been 2 months on my celibate journey, I don’t crave for sex nor miss the person intimately but I just miss doing this life thing together. I think being away from the person has helped me in a positive way because I’m building my confidence back again and now I can simply say No to relationship requests of which in the past I was a people pleaser.
Yes girl don't let these men try to change u and bend ur morals, cuz the sad thing is they actually respect u less when u give in. They just get a thrill out of trying to have sex with u and they don't really value u most times. I'm glad u never went bk to him💖
Yes yes... You will never regret or fell used afterwards after breakul
It feels like we are in one mind phase ....people see me stupid for saying no sex
Watched this yesterday and here to drop my comment. When she said “ they lack self-discipline “ ✅ The discipline you have before marriage is what you will bring into marriage. If you lack self-discipline before marriage, it will be difficult to have discipline in marriage. Thank you ladies for sharing. I enjoyed watching. 💜
thanks for watching Ebby💓
Stop creating marriage attachments (sex), where there's no marriage commitment. Gems! Thank you Pastor.
I’m still a virgin at 22 and I’ve been debating on whether or not to just go ahead and lose my virginity but after an incident that happened on Thursday I feel like waiting till marriage is whats best for me. This video also just confirmed that I would like to wait for marriage 😢
Dear sis 🙌, it's not just about debate or feelings. Jesus Christ is true and if you are a follower of Jesus (christian) he says to flee immorality, fornication and adultery. There is blessing in waiting. Love❤️ & Light 💡.
My dear just hold on to it . There’s nothing better than actually waiting till marriage just as the lord orders.
The truth is you are not missing out on anything. Trust me..forget when they ask how will u know if u are compatible or tell u u are missing out. You can do it, whenever you have that urge feeling, just distract yourself and talk to the Holyspirit cos that's what I do..that guy is my gist partner..Yes he's holy but he loves to hear every details of your life
Please wait; you’ll be glad ❤
Just a heads up I’m 24 now and I’m still a virgin it’s been a HARD struggle but imma be okay
I can totally relate to everything Uzoma said. I've been dating my fiance for 5 years and we're engaged to be married in few months time and walahi, it hasn't been easy. I even thought the urges will get better once we get engaged and the wedding is close, but omo! It's harder. The devi will tell me that it's just few moths to the wedding, we'll eventually get married, but thank God for wisdom ,we're still standing. In summary, being I a sexual pure relationship isn't easy, but it's easier when you both are on the same page.
Yes for real
❤🎉
“You’ve created a marriage attachment, when there is no marriage commitment!!”
Thank you both for being vulnerable to help us learn.
God bless you
See we stop listening to world trying to say sex with anyone is “normal” we do not settle for these contradicting ideologies!
Sexual purity definitely helps with clearing the mind - atleast I can attest to that! Thank you ladies, this was a great watch!
“You have created a marriage attachment where there is not a marriage commitment”🔥🔥🔥
This is sooo good!! As one who is in a Christian relationship dating towards marriage, we have made our mistakes and decided wholeheartedly to pursue God with our actions by also being abstinent. It certainly has been a struggle but extremely efficient through reading the word of God and praying diligently. So watching other Christians talk about this is so encouraging to see! Great video 👍🏿
Self-discipline is a very important trait every human being NEEDS to have! Can't be over-emphasized.
i'm guessing you're a man. It's relieving to see thid coming from you. its frustrating not seeing enough men practice celibacy. i gat hope now
I’m only 7 minutes in and I’m so grateful this popped up on my page because the way you guys are even speaking shows your humanity, authenticity, and genuine devotion to Christ. We need more women like you to help shape others who feel very alone on their purity journeys, and show them that there’s another way
Yayyy glory to God!
celibacy is hard in this culture and in church it is so demonised when you fall or stumble so hearing this honest and open space and conversation God bless you ❤
📌Created a marriage attachment when there’s no marriage commitment! So in-depth!
I believe there should be a Part 2. I really like what you guys are talking about. When I say I desire to marry a virgin some people think I’m selfish (kinda plays a role) but I want to walk this journey and learn with my Mrs. As a male who haven’t done the do & I’m in my early 30s, I kinda fear expectations so I’d rather want one we both learn and grow. But hey, it could be otherwise & I thank God as well.
You people raised really strong points especially the 2nd question. At times I think of it & ask, why would God tell us to hold back on something that the body naturally desires for and seeks after? Why put it at a certain time to be unlocked yet we’re sexual beings? Isn’t it better that the day one gets married, all the desires just happens like boom 😅. But there’s that call for self discipline/self control.
Finally, you ladies are beautiful and God bless your relationships.
Congratulations 🎉
I don't think it's selfish at all if you are also a virgin! If the guys who run around sleeping with anything walking and then ask for a virgin that I find appalling.
You are doing just great and I pray your desires come through. From your lips to Gods ears
it's not selfishness 😊
@@judithaustine1903 😅😅😅
Love love love this . I like when Christians don’t pretend like these things are not even our realities . We are all humans 👏
Absolutely loved filming this with you 🤍 bring me back oo🫶🏾
love you babes🥹🥹
love this duo🫶🏾
You’re pretty ma’am ❤
Thank you Pst Brandy for this truth and clarification
I love you Ma'am
“nobody is going to stop being fine because you’re married” !!
“You have created a marriage attachment where there is not marriage commitment“👏🏾👏🏾 16:19
This video should go viral really. It’d encourage a lot of people and let everyone know that sexual purity is possible!!! Well done ladies 😍😍😍
God bless you!
Lol Uzomas story is a lot similar to mine, I never used to even think of it and wonder why everyone made sex look like this thing with so much hype but now I’m 24, not totally innocent but have still not done it. It’s crazier now plus when you don’t see marriage in the nearest future it’s like harder to think of waiting. And tbh not even sure if I want to. I do see the benefits and I’m grateful for that but people never talk about the part of being single till a very old age
Gosh! I can relate. I had to bear the marital talk with my dad of recent. Though he meant well but I was just mentally tired! Can't I live my life in peace? I want to do a lot career wise and travel and finish Medical school but yet everyone keeps on popping the question,"Are you in a relationship","Where is the guy" like a to do list. it's so annoying!
@@flourishorji6681 😂
From someone whom Holy spirit literally told to work on her self control because I wasn't doing a good job. He literally said, you know self control is an actual fruit of the spirit and it's not like you have a choice. I pray we all find this journey rewarding in the end.
Honestly Gods timing is perfect.. this morning I was struggling because I had slipped up .. but what I learnt today is not to stay in that slip up but to run back to God. Thought I was alone in this but thank God for you girls coz now I know we are all operating under His grace !
Thank you for this vid !
thank God for His sovereignty!
i am proud of you for running back to Him❤️
Yeah I used to have the mindset of distancing myself farther away but I had to change that
I almost slipped a few nights ago when my hormones had flared, and wanted to watch something sensual. I prayed and told the devil straight up, "you don't have power over my body, my eyes, everything" and I just slept it out. 😅😅😅
We definitely need a part 2 please, my problem is getting someone who is aligned with that vision because it feels like most guy sees staying celibate as something impossible especially here in Nigeria or maybe I've not yet met any God fearing person
girl i feel you but trust me it is definitely possible. are you putting yourself in spaces where you’ll find the type of guys you want?
It's not Nigeria alone..I've not met a man in my country who's staying celibate for God's glory. This journey is just lonely and tough.
@@UzomaIroche please examples of the kinds of spaces
@@sanitationEng I agree... I am Ugandan and to find a man with the same vision, one that wants to honor God with their bodies is tough.
Girlllllll!!! This table! In God's time, He'll bring men aligned with this vision into our lives.
"How much more can I use this season to honour God"❤ powerful
Nobody talks about this topic so openly and truly like this 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
I’m a Jewish woman and we also practice celibacy. I loved this video and your pov’s, it feels alone but I’ve noticed the more I am celibate that I feel like more able to have intimate connections and being vulnerable even without touch. Before that I had many defenses and so it helps a lot ! 💕💖
I agree with the topic, I am a virgin and I was 27 when I told my ex-school/varsity friends that I was not sexually active nor had sexual affection/soul ties with my exes and luckily long-term relationship I ever was in was with a Christian, born by water and spirit and we dated for 5 years and knew each other for 5months before actually dating or making a choice to date/courtship and the mere fact we know the principles of the bible about relationships, dating, sex, marriage. Here am I still fighting the good fight of faith, I will get married hopefully to someone that is also abstaining or resisting sexual immorality/sex before marriage because it is significant not to me but to God, my family, and my church. Being pure, clean, and holy not just with what we say and think but, also with our body, mind and soul because of our own choices that lead to "things' whereby at times an individual is regretful, ashamed or even worse heartbroken because of intercourse (sex) due to the guilt or soul ties" that needs to be broken because it's vital due to the body is the temple of God and God is a jealous, just, holy and righteous Father...
you spoke no lies!
Abstinence teaches us SELF CONTROL!!!!👏👏👏👏👏
My boyfriend and l just started celibacy journey
I brought it up to him and what he thinks about it.
At first he wasn't okay with it but I have to explain to him that the fact that the world is doing it doesn't mean it's a good thing to be having sex before marriage.
He was hesitant but he finally agreed to it and we depending on God to help us through it
Actually we in a long distance relationship so that's much easy for me
Buh sis,the day I started celibacy,omo the sexual age was 100%.i was feeling for sex and I knew the devil knows we on a good way so he wants to tempt me
Buh thank God we on it
Buh sometimes I feel guilty for having sexual acts some years back before I now embark on this celibacy journey
Heyy girl!
This is amazing and I pray God helps you both with Strength. Always ask the Holy Spirit for help, don’t do it based on your own knowledge.
And girlll guilt is of the devil and conviction is of God! So shake the guilt off, Grace has enveloped you! And always will!
Lots of love!
Congratulations, may God make it easy for you
God sent this video to my TL because my mindset about celibacy and sex as a whole was beginning to change due to society’s pressure. I thank God for the renewing of my mind
Glad I saw this today. It's really not easy when you have a partner that thinks differently. Sex before marriage should exclude every other thing that feels like sex. Honoring God is so important.This is so real!
This is the most honest video i have seen so far on this topic ... people are really struggling with this and need more than just condemnation ... thanks ladies 🤩
Awwwwn this is interesting. As a born again Christian. Started my dedicated journey in august last year. And frankly celibacy has been a big issue lol. I’ve lost men I thought were perfect cause of the tension. Actually just mutually decided with my newest boyfriend 2 days ago to stay ‘friends’ since he wasn’t on this celibacy journey and it is a big struggle for him.
I miss him as my boyfriend but we are friends now and literally talk everyday lol. I think it just removed the pressure but I don’t think we’d be back as a romantic couple and it is sad. Cause I do love him and he’s literally perfect.
It's soo amazing how God's works. Coz I read your comment and I'm like a
I ain't alone. My situation is soo like yours
proud of you for making such a bold move
Maybe he will realize through you how to take on celibacy or wait till you are ready. Never know what the future holds since he was perfect in other boundaries.
God's law is perfect. Don't worry, God will bless you with the man He wants for you.
Let him not be on standby when your guards are down.
No need to be in a romantic relationship when marriage is still far.
Loved the idea of the group chat thingy with your mentors and being accountable that Uzoma spoke about 👏
I don't know how your video even landed on my homepage, but I'm so glad I watched it. You guys said a lot of things that shook me. A lot of self-discipline is needed, and it is true how clear your mind is when you don't focus so much on sexual things in a relationship. Thank you so much for this video!!!
OMG...I love this, because sexual purity is something I have struggled with, and it's refreshing to know that there is hope and it is not impossible to be sexually pure till marriage
Currently in a long distance relationship so it’s not an issue abstaining for either of us, and even when we are together we just want to spend time together and do stuff together because we don’t get to see each other as much.
wow this is such a blessing in disguise because omo it can be hardddd
That’s crazy because I am currently in a long distance too and my experience is quite different. We both have the will to abstain but we have fallen a few times with a different type of intimacy. I think it’s a blessing that we are long distance for the time being because it will allow us to be more disciplined.
Same here. But it’s kind of hard sometimes 😢
Another thing I'd like to add is that sexual purity is not limited to abstaining from s*x. It also involves minding what you watch and avoiding things like masturbation, etc. That all has to do with purity.
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Brandy just be spitting gemsss... I'm only halfway through the video, and I can't count how many times I've "mmmm-ed" and said "word word word". I love how raw and real this video is, I do!! 😭💗
righttt
we need her here again!!
@@UzomaIroche definitely need a part two 🙏🙏
This sexual spirit honestly was actually what my mum said about having sex before marriage so profound
Thank God yt recommend this video cause y'all spoke about this topic in a way it was enjoyable to watch. Sexual purity is not an easy journey and being a teenager I still have a long way to go😭but with sexual discipline and with his word we can do this🙏🏼
so proud of you, you can do this!!
I love how transparent this video is, like honestly it is hard and when brandy said it gets harder with time like even when you haven't done it before it still gets harder when you are connected with someone alone love you both for this and trust me when I tell you that this video came at this right time let me go back into my bible reading 🙏🙏
awww thanks for watching love, we’re in this together!!
This video deserves an award!!! My goodness! Real 👏🏽 talk 👏🏽!!! Thanks Pastor Brandy and Uzoma!
thanks Jamsss🥰
I saw your videos on tiktok and just screamed this is the exact content I need on dating rn. Opened my TH-cam few minutes afterwards and I find this video . My heart is very happy cl!
awww welcome to the family
Esther!🥰
Same thing here
Anyone who is able to control their sexual urges is most likely going to achieve their goals in life because they're discipline
This video popped up on my screen and i can't believe i was standing the whole time while watching it. Haha so good! Love what you said about having a group chat with your mentors, accountability should certainly be a big deal for any godly couple seeking to date the right way, I don't hear this said in many places and I'm really glad it was mentioned here.
God bless you both. More grace!
I just love the two women, honesty at its peak. love love.
"you might fall during your journey but don't stay at it" wise words!!!
This conversation was SO NEEDED! Wow the vulnerability is everything!
As a part 2, there should be a Q&A. Thanks for the explanations girls. As a fellow celibate, it feels good to hear about the topic ❤
I seriously needed this!!! Bless you sisters in Christ 🤍
Everything Uzoma is saying is meeeee 😭😭😭 I used to think I had a problem for not having those urges but now hmhmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!! Thankful for understanding and growth in God!! Thank you for this video and Pastor Brandy, you’re amazing.
Wow this has really come at the right time for me😅... I've had some challenges being celibate but y'all need to know that it just takes God and His grace...We fall but we rise again..
I've had some challenges with my sexual orientation 😢, but thank God before I could go beyond I was brought back by His grace and I'm telling God has been faithful 😭😭... Praise be to Him❤🙏
“You’re a little bit of this and a little bit of that but nothing of God” 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
Love this video!!!
First time on this page, and I’m glad this was my first watch, trust I subscribed right away. God bless your hearts for this💕. This was a video I never thought I needed and I could relate so much. I definitely learnt a lot and I also was reminded about the true importance of purity, which is not just for God’s pleasure but also for my edification. Thank you guys so much and yes please we definitely want a second watch (if I say so myself). Love and light🧡
Me too
Wow, just wow, I absolutely understand why my gf said she felt attacked watching this video, it's super insightful and thanks a lot!
I and my boyfriend are practicing celibacy.... it's what we both agreed on and we've been able to keep that
This is the most realistic conversation about this I have heard
Please part 2🥺❤️
thank you for this🥰...we really need to understand that marriage is only as good as our singleness , what you do by yourself is a foundation for your marriage, that is who you're bringing to the marriage.
This is a great video . I like how you are tackling issues that many Christians are battling but very few are vocal about . Continue making such videos 🌟❤
This was so insightful I loved it. My biggest take away was Self Discipline we should instill that value first because as Uzoma said, someone is not going to stop being fine because you are married.
i really appreciate this video especially Oyins story. i’ve barely found currently married couples who were honest about not being pure from the jump. seeing the mercy of God in redeeming and keeping y’all together even through giving your lives and restarting is so freaking beautiful. gives me so much faith🥺🥺
Omo Brandy is right about sex after marriage. Especially for us women, it takes a conscious effort to actually have sex with your spouse. Rather you really just enjoy each others company with other activities
wow are you serious!?
it never feels that way before hand though
that’s so crazy
thanks for watching Taiwo!
I don't know what language you guys normally speak, but today you spoke FACTS.
Oyin Brandy had me laughing out loud for real! Because she came for us and shook the table with "If it FEELS like sex!! If it arouses parts of you that should be staying down!!" I love this real talk because God has convicted me time and time again.
The fact that you have a good relationship with your pastor, thats goals
loved this! y'all look too good btw! please give us part 2 🙏
if you do film part 2, could you please talk about the value of waiting from the perspective of someone in a long-term relationship (that'll likely end in marriage), to contrast the perspective of someone who has multiple sexual partners?
thank you love, hmmm very interesting!
My journey is so similar to Brandy’s…I’m not married and not getting married soon though. I’m very grateful for the wisdom & vulnerability in this video cuz Christians don’t get content like thisss. Sexual purity is so important to honour God in your relationship. God bless you Pst. Brandy & Uzoma for letting us that know that sexual purity is possible 🙏🏾❤️
This video needs to reach the whole world likeee..omggg❤️❤️
Can we appreciate the powerful revelations they’re sharing. This was very real, relatable and powerful. Thank you for this🙏
I love how transparent you guys are❤❤❤
I am so happy about this topic to see believers talk about it is really wonderful and helpful for those of us abstaining and please there has to be a part 2 you can't talk about it in one video 😂😂
Oh my goodness Uzo and Brandy by the help of the Holy Spirit Ate this topic and left no crumbs!!! God bless you both *10000 . This was so transparent and encouraging ♥️🤲🏻🥰. “You can’t love someone you don’t know” please give these women their flowers .
thanks Sharonnn, glory to God!🥺❤️
I didn’t want this video to end.
This was so amazing and worth every minute
Thank you guys for the unbiased truth about celibacy.
glory to God!!🥺❤️
“A marriage attachment without a marriage commitment” soo deep
Never have I ever related to a video on celibacy on such a deep and personal level omllll
You and Brandy did so much justice to this topic and I’ve learned so much that I can’t wait to implement by the grace of God.
I love the point you made about getting to know your partners mind. It resonated with me deeply
You both look ABSOLUTELY gorgeous! love you both so much, thank you for being transparent with us, it’s empowering to know that I can also do the same ❤
This video was so goooood!! Part 2 yes please. Feel like you were speaking to me directly.
thanks Steph!❤️
New subscriber ❤
I agree that these topics are not discussed on enough. And the few persons who discuss this are not transparent/honest.
Thank you so much once again to you ladies ❤
Honestly this video is amazing it came at a time when I needed to be clarified. I love you guys so much and thank you for the transparency in this video ❣️❣️❣️
thanks for watching Josephine🥺💓
You just gain a new subscriber, I love your videos
Brandy is a very wise woman. Thank you for sharing
I'm new, straight from Brandy's channel. You guys are spitting sense! I LOVE U Uzoma🥰
Pray for me sis, I'm not married but lately I've been feeling somehow like gosh😪😪
Your Video has been recommended twice on my timeline both on my phone and pc and I was like "Okay God, I here Yoi. I'll listen." I love the authenticity of your channel💯May God keep being glorified.
God makes all things pleasurable in His time! Thank you for this timely video.. you’ve got a new subscriber😌🤗
welcome to the family Peace🥰!!
What Brandy said about not wanting to do it everyday is so true💯 I've been married for close to a year now and some times we might not even have more than once a week or not have it all at in a week......
😂😂😂
Describe it Pst brandy…describe itttt
Thank you for this video, celibacy is so hard. Just genuinely avoid the opposite sex if you’re on the journey ESPECIALLY when you’re not in a relationship. All these friends of the opposite sex that you might be attracted to and you know they’re attracted to you cause trust me just conversations can get you out of your journey.
God loves us so much that he didn’t want all these unnecessary trauma for us. Stay strong people, we got this by the grace of God.
Love this angle
Omg... Can't believe there's a group of people who still maintain their grounds on celibacy, for real I thought I was alone in this journey, and trust me it feels surreal knowing this and being part of this channel, though I wish we'll get an online community or something.
I trust God for a Mr who also appreciates this journey with me.
Omo, thanks Mrs and Miss for putting up this content, y'all don't know how much you've helped, especially these days people tend to normalize immortality and make "us" feel weird, like how did we get here?
Anyways I'm grateful for the part2 link you dropped.
Keep the flag flying gurrlll. I love your vibezz
I love the transparency on both parts.
My favourite TH-camr. I am so proud of you for this honesty and vulnerability. Thank you for being a light. I love you!!❤❤❤
The way this video is on point ! I absolutely love how relatable it is! We needed this !
Pastor Brandy is soo pretty. She looks like a big hugger too hehe!
she isss!
Uzoma and brandy, this video are only interesting, but it's also God-inspired. I recognize and acknowledge Christ in you guys. Thank you for the transparency as well. A lot of Christians need to arise with topics like this in the media industry and you both are pioneering this shift. God bless you guys continually.
It's my first time on this channel and I love Uzoma already! This is so relatable.
aw hi Lola! Welcome❤️🥺
Beyond just physical, I actually got really blessed by this video, thank you for putting this out 🙏
i am just grateful that i have soo many mentors to feed from like this platform, real Christians to give me the REAL experience so that i can learn from my mistakes, celibacy isn't something to walk in and succeed in just there and then it is a process, it takes time and if done right with the right person you will thrive. i am in a season where i am heavily convicted on sex, and celibacy and believe it or not it is when i chose to be celibate that i have seen myself have more sex than ever, i have tried to wonder and ask myself that before sex wasn't a problem for me at all, but it is now that i declared it over my life that i have seen more sexual activity in ,my life. disappointed? i am little disappointed yes , but then sometimes i think is it because it is my first dating relationship that we seem to fall off the rails too quickly? actually it has made me question certain behaviors in my life, what needs to change about me? am i drinking too much? am i spending more time being unproductive? hence do i have regrets? no i don't but will i stay in this valley? no i will not. i will try and do better for my relationship. hence i think if you are in a similar position and you feel like you have fallen far from grace you haven't. just pick up and make the right choices, if you are truly a child of God he will guide you.
Everytime I thank God and the holyspirit for help and learning resources boom! They drop another resource 😊
praise God!!
I was excited to watch this video as someone on a celibacy journey . Thanks putting this out for us . But most sounded like a judgemental conversation not an educational one !
Celibacy journey my foot..
I just came across your channel and trust me I'm here to stay!
There's so much truth in the things Oyin said and Uzoma just gets me 😂I'm really grateful for this video.💕
thanks love!
Great video.
Relationship and Marriage should be looked at from the long term perspective and not just short term.
Sex is great and all but it's just one piece of the entire puzzle.
You have to look at all other things from a critical level if you want your relationship to work.
There is emotional damage attached to having sex in every single relationship and to top it off, it shows lack of regard for your body.
Your body is a temple that should be protected at all costs. Being loose in a sexual way exposes you to a lot of avoidable problems.
-Emotional Damage.
-STDS
-Public embarrassment that you can never come back from because people will always bring it up to silence you.
Sexual purity is the best from both the spiritual and logical perspective.
Great video again, Really insightful.
such a profound comment, thanks Mobolaji❤️❤️
I agree with you. I hate how men pressure to have sex.
The gems in this video, my God! Thank you both. I’m going to watch this again and again and again until it sticks in 😊