How to stop creating scenarios in your head! | Honesty Europe
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- Making up stories in your head? Here's how to deal with them!
Are you bothered by the constant stories you create in your head? Is making up stories in your head driving you crazy? What's the purpose of these stories anyway and how to best deal with them? Certified Radical Honesty trainer, coach and therapist Tuulia Syvänen shares her advice in this video.
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I wanna get rid of it, its ruining my life, i used to be a fun and smart student now i cant focus on my studies. Ever since i started this i cant stop. It's like when you do something fun i create scenarios like iam there with someone and stuff. Its ruining my life. Its like controlling my decisions and everything i do i just cant help it
Bro, you're not alone.
Same thing in my case. I stared making up fake scenarios and stories when I was like 11 and now I'm 16 and I still can't stop. It was fun at the beginning as I used to make stories when on my bed but with time. This has started ruining my life. I have no concentration and it's so extreme in my case that i even had an accident. Making up stories still give me happiness as I could escape the reality and live a life I want in my head and making up scenarios which can never be true. This shit have occupied my head. I ruined my life.
@@mahika6200 every time something good happens to me i always imagine that that happens to my character too. I kinda stoped thinking abt it. I always call my friends, do homeworks and anything that can distract me
@@mahika6200 omfg this is so relatable man!!!!
Same with me. Previously I also used to make stuffs in my head when I was gonna sleep but now I'm doing this all the time. And I literally can't help it.
Honestly I'm exhausted. It feels like my mind is controlling me. I loved doing maths before but now when I'm in 11th and took maths. I barely even touch my books and even if I open a book I just overthing. It's very hard for me to not to listen to music. The music is controlling me too. This thing is so irritating, it's like a mental disorder or something. Before 11th I loved competing with my fellow classmates in studying but now it's like I don't give a fuck. I just want to escape from the reality and live in that never-gonna-be-true fantasy world. It sucks man!!! Even my mother thinks that I have gone crazy. She is always like- "what are you thinking about anushka" and I'm like- "nothing mummy just thinking about what should I study " and then she says that you're thinking about that since the starting of 2021. When are you going to take action?? And I think that she is right. I never take action 🤦♀️🤷♀️. I hope we all can get out of this thing as soon as possible!! I pray to the universe for this 🙏🏼.
@@mahika6200 😭😭😭 and that's how I'm trying to focus on my boards this year
is it still happening with u??
I make stories in my head 24/7 because my life is boring and I imagine myself living the life I'm creating in my head ,it's really fun because it makes me happy
But when I remember that they're not real it makes me so sad
Thanks for sharing hello g! I hear that you that your life is boring and that you imagine living the life you are creating your my head. Hug to you!
Same
Broooo.... relatable af
Sometime when I imagine and create fake relationships in my head like boyfriend and i end up hurting my own feeling and realize is not real
@@nuambawi9872 yess relationships and friendships
I don't have any of that in real life so I have to keep imagining and sometimes it's really exhausting
Awareness, when you reach awareness, you realize these are just thoughts and they no longer effect you.
That's true!
It effects when u make them 24/7
i can't go to school bc of this. this affected my whole fucking life
@@zachhenry same. cant even function well.
real
The best thing is we don't have to put in meaning to the stories we make up
What if we do put meaning into it. I do
And it is seriously effecting me mentally. My stories take over my life. I don't know how to get rid of it
@@mahdiyyahebrahim5692 same
I don’t know if it’s just me but I actually make up stories that hurts me, it’s like my brain knows my deepest fears and it keeps making me live it over and over, sometimes I even see myself getting murdered, raped and so on…. I know I am a very disturbed person but I know I am not alone with this issue, anybody going through the same things as me ?
Me too ,
But now I feel little safe that I am not alone facing this...there are many of us ...and eventually it can be cured by some simple meditations
I am going through the same thing. It can get so bad that it completely ruins days of my life.
Same. First time i imagined myself getting gang raped in kindergarten. Its like my suffering is addicting to think about.
Those are called intrusive thoughts
You're not alone. My brain makes up stories that hurt me emotionally and I end up hurting my own feelings with my own thoughts
Every day..literally every day When I'm sitting in my place all of a sudden stories start popping up in my mind..I imagine I'm talking to people and oftentimes people who don't even exist
I fantasize about going places and doing things or imagining a new character other than my current one and other things
its so hard to make it stop
and stay in the present
Same, its driving me insane because I yearn to live in this fantasy world of mine, and I know I won't ever achieve that. Every day I spend hours thinking about my world, making more memories with my characters (people who I will never be friends with, people who are famous streamers or artists) and doing amazing things that I cannot in my actual life.
When the fantasy world pops up in my head, I have to physically tell myself to stop thinking and it's so difficult. I feel so bad about myself, I hate that I couldn't achieve the life that I have in my fantasy.
I hope you are doing well with controlling these thoughts, have a good day.
Meditate.
omg same I thought I was crazy
Same, sometimes for me it's negative stories in the future or a fantasy world where I'm either married or a disgruntled shop owner and they just don't stop appearing in my head, maybe it's just anxiety or maybe me just overthinking or maybe It's just a medical thing because I barely get sleep some days/my sleep schedule is ruined, or maybe because I don't talk a lot to people
Bro so true with music its more addictive.💀IM A GANGSTER IN MY OWN WORLD TFFF
instead of sleeping i imagine and it took me 2 hours to sleep, I always sleep at 4-5 am which is messed up because of this imagination, It's just I'm lonely and don't have any irl friends to distract myself. All i need is to stop imagining while laying on bed and cuddling my pillow, It ruins my life and listening to music thinking about some story that is impossible and i couldn't focus on my study and work.
I have the same problem!
Same. But how do you stop
Meditation by focusing on the present and feel your sensation
I’m 15 I’ve been through this since I was a kid it stops me from sleeping this November 2020 and stresses me I need help I thought I had schizophrenia but no now I’m in mental health support
Bruh, same
They are not real don't give a fuck
I'm 16 and I also go through the same
Same
Same
Interestingly I searched this.. I have a thing of imagining a life with every girl I talk with...😶
Bro sammee and also just random scenario of me winning arguments and stuff😂
lmao every girl is a bit... nvm
Yeah....Dealing with the same thing.... since childhood glad I searched
for me its with people that doesnt even know my existence. like celebrities and influencers
I keep imagining that I'm a ninja in real life and that I have ninja powers to beat people up. I think about it almost everytime, I really need help
Ive been doing this since kindergarten. Nowadays i just sit there for hours on end, just staring into space.
I realise that a lot people have this issue, I was worried that I was the only one facing that and sharing my experiences with others and hearing their make me less stressed
nah, there are millions
Love it! I find it helps me to focus on statements when I'm going into stories. So instead of getting lost in my mind I just come back down to earth by making short statements like, "I like ____", "I want _____", "I didn't like ____".
Thanks Chelsea! Good point about focusing on statements.
Sometime when I imagine and create fake relationships in my head like boyfriend and i end up hurting my own feeling and realize is not real
Im not so sure about it but i think most of who are here are kind of not satisfied with their current lives. Or perhaps we are always thinking about what should happen in future or could have happened in the past. If we find solution to these, than probably we can get rid of making scenarios
I loved your sense of humor while explaining an important topic. Thank you for this video
Thanks B! I appreciate you for writing "I loved your sense of humor" :-)
I do them too infact I have a long story of almost 2 years now,, it just creats up and it's like growing up with em, I play different characters in 3 different stories, imma cry but I'm laughing 👀
Imagining scenarios for me is a sign some sort of ptsd. I know a guy who never served, but had client relationship troubles. Clients always arguing with him, making him do his job in unreasonable long and difficult ways. Customers were not willing to work and prepare for him. Then he told me started creating scenarios in his head to better prepare himself to prevent social dilemmas if this or that happened. I'm surprised he emotionally mastered himself even when getting yelled at by a male Karen. Now, that he has better clients he still has his worried eyes when a customer politely ask questions.
thanks for saving me from unrealistic traumas... May you blessed with good health and prosperity so much love from india.
That was really helpful! Such a simple way to understand and manage this! Thank you!
Mam I am 16 from India..
I am the one who is preparing for JEE one of the most competitive exam in the world..
Whenever I sit for studies my minds starts chattering and do not allows me to focus on studies.. this all makes me irritated..
Kindly help me sought out this stuff
During my JEE days, i had this problem too. Then i started to talk to myself while studying. If you are solving a problem, speak out live commentary in your head. This will stop the chatter in your mind.
It really helped me clear JEE with 2500 rank
@Sakshi BITS Pilani currently
I"m in exact same situation
I am preparing for neet ...and I am suffering from same situation ...my exam is within a month and still I can't overcome my daydreaming 😔😭
@@kk-eq4gf all the best for your exam
Everything that happens to me, i keep making a scenario out of it, even if front of people. They are like "what are you thinking?" And i just cant answer it. I wanna stop
We need to stop, But how it's so hard!?! 🙁
Same. My sister asks me what I am thinking about I dont want to tell her so I say nothing. But i needs to stop
self awareness of your present environment, the wind in my face and the sun on my shoulders. I need to first be self aware that my mind is racing, slow it down by looking outside of myself.
I'm glad I'm not the only person with this problem
My fake scenarios happens in the same place with the same people and I can't figure out why it's always them. Does that mean they bring me negativity? I can't seem to stop and I can't concentrate in anything. it's ruining me.
And I can't ask for therapy cause I'm scared they would think I'm crazy💀
and you trying to show them that your something by doing something at the same place like college or school and in front of same people . somthing like that right ?
This was very deep. You have a subscriber after watching 🙏🏾 Please we need more videos on this topic
Do you add the situations too that are going in your current life into your stories ...
The main solution for this is that you have to think about its root for one day and think about its negative effect and make your mind understand this that it is stupidity and nothing it will reduce slowly don't need to tensed about it just for a few days and you will good but after that don't think about anything and if thought are coming don't need stuck on them just do your work be focused on your goal just tell negative think about this to your mind because it's all about your mind
I just start listening to songs and i start walking for no reason and i imagine things i wanna do and etc at first it use to make me happy but now it’s my habit idk what to do now my family thinks i have become a psycho or mentally ill person sometimes i just start walking and i start imagining things without even listening to songs
I’m ruining my relationship because of this
I cant sleep because of this.
I keep imagining that I'm a ninja in real life and that I have ninja powers to beat people up. I think about it almost everytime, I really need help
I'm 34 and I've realised that perhaps it stems from my childhood traumatic upbringing. Maybe it was a coping mechanism? I don't know.
I am into a girl in my school and somehow I am absolutely convinced that that chick is into me as well just because she is looking at me sometimes. And at home I create myself saying something or looking good in a situation in class with her so she is impressed of me but in reality I'm so fucking scared when I'm in the same room with her and I get even more scared because of these fake scenarios
I have started creating at 6years old and i don't it was a problem at all because i can do my works while day dreaming.. because i have practice to do my work and creating storiea on the same time
Wow, thank you so much!
I'm studying st uct the best university in Africa ,but I don't recognize that biggest achievement, instead I'm always into negative things that always drain my energy
Very good ❤
I want to get rid of it , i can't get stable in anything 24/7 i just create scenarios if i watch something good i imagine myself into it and that's maybe ruining my life hope i could come to reality....
Same.
Sameee even I stop watching everything to noti get in fake story
This one can help you
I also used to do this because i used to enjoy it but now i started imagining bad thoughts now i am mentally ill please help
@@sukhpalgill8394 actually there's no vital medicine 💊
You must deal with it as a Permanent disability
Don't listen to music too much and do not speak with a group of people who talks about their interest in life
And pray God to help you cuz he is the only one who could do this
I make fake story's up almost every hour of the day it is ruining my life I have done it since I can remember. It's to hard to stop but I want it to stop it is ruining me inside and out. I just want it to stop
Hey i also used to do this it was fun but 3 months ago i started imagining bad things about me and now i am thinking that i am the worst person ...now i ruined my life i can't even live my daily life i am scared all the time .. i need help please
Same! It's so hard to focus on anything when my mind is naturally coming up with scenario that even I understand is absurd, but it just doesn't stop..hope we find solution soon 💜
@@mystic_rhyme261 can you help me please i don't know how how do i get out of this hell
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰😊😊
I'm creating fake scenerios in my head since my childhood for 24/7..... But I'm very happy and feel more enjoyable while doing this..... The thing is sometimes I feel like I was ruining my life and I can't concentrate on anything..... 😭 Because of this I couldn't focus on my studies 💔 I can't stop this!!!!!!!
15/06/2024
While watching this video I have made atleast three scenes 😭😭help me please with this🥺
cool words
thank you
Thanks for that
I keep imagining that I'm a ninja in real life and that I have ninja powers to beat people up. I think about it almost everytime, I really need help
@@bluescreen3877 Oh thats pretty weird thinking that youre homeless at a young age, but you never know unless it really came true
me too..its funny and weird at the same time
I think you watch too much of Naruto 😀
@@AR_79 no I watch ninjago
@@ninjapirate123 Oohk
Whoah, did you swear 😃😃 that was the most non swear, swear word I've ever heard 👍 like Billy Connolly or Carl Barron, in a good way, and oh dear do I have this, thank you 💞💞🙏🇦🇺.
I'm making fictional characters in my stories. Male lead, female lead and other characters and they live a happy, fun life sometimes adventures. I'm day dreaming of these stories everyday, every time. It makes me feel happy even though they are not real. But I want to stop making this and focus on my life. But I can't. Someone help 😢.
I need help. I have things to do and I always have time to do them but instead of me to focus and do it I imagine weird scenarios in my head 😖. Honestly, it's like the moment I'm about to be productive I just get lost in this imaginary world😭. It's stopping me from achieving my goals and making me procrastinate. I'm finding it hard to do basic things 😭. I just want to be free from this😭. Somebody please help. Recommend a therapist for me please 😭
I was suffering almost 6-7 YEARS , BLINK in the interval of every 5-6 seconds and look into another directon and sit with BACK ERRECT target it. try to live in present guys and while you are studying read loudly in your mind while you are talking with someone talk with your mouth as well as loudly in your mind. GIVE 100% to your goal to loose this shit and always think in language which is new/hard to you for me its, english, Hardcore excersice, avoid listening songs, watching 60sec reels, and stop keeping your brain
This flies in the face of over 5000 years of yoga teachings that show us that we absolutely can gain control over our minds and our meeting making process completely. This is the limited view of Western psychology and psychotherapy, which everybody is slowly discovering simply doesn’t work.
R u telling about brahmma kumaris rajayoga meditation
Jesus-Christ love you my brothers and sistersss ! Come back to him ! (John 3:16) "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." He died for you ! You will be saved by believing in his name, and you will not go to hell. So, accept him with all your heart, read the Bible ! Here is the good news ! ❤🥰🥰😊😊
I'm fucking sick of it.
Isn't normal to making story in your mind
Sure! :-)
The question is when they are serving you and when you are "spinning out" and feeling overwhelmed and how to get out of that place.
People think in different ways, is normal to create stories in your mind.
@@tuuliasyvanen277 but is that make some damage to the mind health ,
@@sag7605 thanks u
@@tuuliasyvanen277 thanks u
I just create the stories never ever going to happen.
The sudden or second part of some sort of series,serials,movies and even the future I want to achieve but can't really exist.
I play roles in just stories that don't really have any connection with the reality.
Even the study pressure and family issues are driving me crazy.
It all started in lockdown when I was 13 .
And now I can't even concentrate for 10 minutes in studies.
Everything is just getting worse.
Next month I am turning 16 and i don't know how to stop this.
I don't have anyone to share this.
Or even I did.
The are just like it's because of phone.
I have even deactivated my social media accounts.
I think I am suffering from adhd or i don't know what this is.
But i am fucking tired now.
I can't concentrate in my studies even if i want to
@@Abcde-728 i will try thankuu
This thing is ruined my life forever i kept imagining things that will never happen in my life and because if it i cant even focus on my studies i am not a good enough student to get good grades but i am trying my best to get tid of it
I keep imagine thing like a person and stuff that i could even get no way
This arent normal i think i shouldn't normalise this things but i makes me happy but also ruined my mental health
I am glad that i am not alone but still i dont want to daydream anymore i am here to get rid of it
Lets see i want to improve and focus on reality not on things that will ruined my entire life
First i thought its more like manifestation or affirmation but its all negativity and it is keep getting worse
I want to talk to someone but i think i should get a therapy
Because of things my mental health is totally disturbed
every singles night when i closed the eyes to sleep , i always making every story about my life
I often do these imaginary scenarios
basically she is telling us to meditate
I create stories with my ex ,idk how to stop it
Making stories is not good and you should stop, then how are movie’s, book’s and game’s even made? Its all in the *✨Imagination✨* you need to make stories so you can share e’m :D
❤️
I will think about somethig and i will think is real its normal what can i do?
👏🏾👏🏾
Does creating fake scenarios will block our manifestation?
Dude, what have you been smoking right now in order to ask that kind of question?
Never 😮😂😅
if I share that stories I defenitely go to jail
I am so frustrated
or you could start meditating
Jesus Christ is Lord and Savior
I need to make Him my everything and I need to stop making so many stories in my head because I find myself doing that more than trying to follow Him
The stories aren’t hardly ever with people I personally know it’s like people from TV
I need to stop making so many and find more time with God❤️
No
Its too spicy for me
Do you know how to make it real
We’ve got this y’all🤍
❤️