Alzheimer’s and Dementia Changed My Life : Debra Tells the Whole Story
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The story presented in the video is nothing short of a tragedy and if you are someone who is easily disturbed by stories of elder abuse, then we advise that you do exercise caution with this video. Today we would like to share with you a story that is deeply real and extremely personal to Debra: the story of her mother’s passing. Debra’s mother began her battle with Alzheimer’s disease twenty years ago and for most of that time she lived in a comfortable and loving environment. As a professional home care provider and dementia trainer, Debra had more knowledge and resources available to her than most, but it did little to stop her brother’s abuse and manipulation of their aging and mentally declining mother. Caring for someone with Alzheimer’s is one thing, a turbulent family situation is another. As you watch this story, we hope it serves as a reminder that Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia are a struggle for everyone, no matter who you are.
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I'll say this to anyone believing that the elderly have no value in life "Just wait, you'll be old one day".
Yes absolutely, and everyone should get what they dished out. We lived through 5 years of caring for mum with dementia. My sister and l split the week. The whole family was present when she took her last breath.
We've already told our adult kids that we will NOT live with them or allow them to be our caregivers.
Family arent always your loved ones. I know this from experience
Sad but true.
YES WE KNOW ALL ABOUT THIS FROM HORRID INLAWS WE ARE SURE TO AVOID AS MUCH AS WE CAN 💯 MY HUSBAND SAIS THEY ARE USERS WHO USED HIM AND WONT EVEN HELP HIM WHEN HE NEEDED HELP, DEFINITELY NOT FAMILY, ITS CALLED TOXIC RELATIVES
Demons more like
So very true!😣
And probate courts are never your friend. 😢
Dearest lady, it’s not unusual for health professionals to not see what is happening in front of us. I’m a nurse practitioner with many years experience. I cared for my husband, new onset type 1 diabetes, Parkinson’s, renal failure. Until after his death I did not recognize the extent of his cognitive decline. I was so busy working and caring for him to really see. Please be kind to yourself
Is renal failure common with Parkinson’s?
They more prone to urinary tract infection due to mobility
I was 30 when my beloved mother got dementia. her disease almost killed me. Give yourself a break. I am lucky yo be alive today. That disease takes so much from the care takers
Omg…..I am shaking right now. Why? Because this is SO much like what I went through with my mother. The dementia, the brother who was mentally ill and had weapons galore. The wife of his, also mentally ill. The isolation and neglect of my mother. HOW could this be? I was able to do the dash and grab only because she was MISSING and my brother panicked. It was AFTER this that I discovered the financial, physical and emotional abuse that she had been subjected to. I was able to file charges. The DA in my county was thankfully very much understanding about what had happened. My brother went to jail and I was able to care for my mother in the last two years of her life, thank God. These events have traumatized me for life. It is high time that EVERY state adopt measures to deter family members from doing this and make them accountable. The money was gone. He would never be able to pay that back, but I was glad he was held accountable.
Hint: The "mentally ill" is an excuse for their chosen behavior. Vicious liars and thieves.
my nephew more or less killed my aunt, (aged 97 and still living on her own, and sharp as a tack.) via covid. Similar story. He told her the devil was telling her not to hug her son, and purposefully went over there sick with Delta variant. Being her medical power of attorney, he was able to demand they remove the life support. His wife was the head nurse at the hospital and she banned everyone from hospital. When she was taken off oxygen I was the phone with her and she cried out “give me back the oxygen, I know what you’re trying do to me.” The nurse on duty, took the oxygen off and said they had to call and get permission from her son to put it back on.”
It was horrific. For over 12 hours we didn’t know if she was still alive. Finally when she was dead, he claimed she had no will, I knew better. He didn’t even tell anyone any details of funeral or anything. I knew the funeral home and kept checking online and if I hadn’t been, no one would have even known anything.
A month after her death a tornado hit her property and tore everything up. Karma. Now he is losing everything as well.
It’s a huge mess. I was supposed to be her executor but without the will there was nothing legal I could do. They all looked to me to straighten it all out, but I couldn’t.
@@SheezaPI I am so sorry you had to go through it and I know that these are things that will be there with us for LIFE. I feel guilty because I didn’t know and my Mom’s situation happened right under my nose!
I am a retired caretaker and have seen abuse on both sides, some times at the same time. You do the best you can. Love and prayers sent.
I know how you feel and I’m so sorry.In my case it was my sister not my brother.My story would be far too long to share.This stuff continues to happen far too often.
My husband is a paramedic, and he sees lots of things. Some of the stories he tells me lead me to believe this is not as uncommon as we think it is. So sad.
Unfortunately true, I have a similar experience 😢
He could have contacted adult protective services.
@@JenWIL641 don't mean anything would be done 😢
As a RN who has worked in hospice, long term care, and behavioral health, I can attest to the fact that this is extremely common. Not just for people with dementia - but for people with severe chronic mental illness as well.
My grandson (firefighter/paramedic) says the same 😢
Yes, my mom and myself were best friends 60 years, she developed alz/dementia and she fought me to go be with my sister that never cared for her. I fought to keep mom in my possession and I took care of her, sometimes against her will, but I took care of her because I cared for her. It was not easy on me but I did it and it was best for her, not best for me.
Elder abuse is very common. I have worked in geriatrics, and heard many heart breaking stories in the nursing home. Financial abuse is quite common, as described here. It happened in my family too. The baby boomer generation has to stay as healthy and vibrant as possible. We need to plan for our latter years. Sharing a duplex is one way to retain privacy yet have close proximity to others. Nursing homes are prohibitively expensive. The family loses everything. Having safe, honest, caregivers is a challenge. The time to downsize and plan for the last trimester of life is ideally in our fifties. This testimony was so sad to hear. When we are threatened there are warnings. We must heed the warnings and avoid dangers when possible. Its so difficult to have tug of war over a family member. Its a complex situation and here is an example noone should have to go through. Thank you so very much for having the spunk, and desire to share the truth. May your Mom Rest in Peace. From WNY too...
Ha! Babu boomer generation are the biggest perpetrators of elder abuse and greed. Grandchildren not seeing a single penny of mutual inheritances as the BOOMERS hoarded and spent it all
If she had dementia then how come she was so cognitive to calling you and her friends as often as she did and reiterating what's happened?
@@tinaricard8650my mom also has alz some days her memory is pretty good and some days it's very bad ....it does go up & down in my experience as well
IF, you rob a corner store for 20 dollars the Police will look for your for 20 years.But, my brother stole 500,000. from dying parents and no one cares. If I complained then the others would get angry at the truth teller.
I currently live with my 89yr old mother. I'm 60yrs old. I can't even imagine the pain and suffering, and regret your loss has done. Thank you for telling your story. Please know you did your best. You can't control others. Thank you again. God bless you!
Came here from TiKToK. Honestly bawling my eyes out right now. I’m praying for you.😢💔
I'm bawling my eyes 👀 😢😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔
Thank you...
I came here from TikTok. I didn’t expect to listen to this entire video and I didn’t expect to cry, but I did and I am.
This story is absolutely heartbreaking and I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this. I don’t know how you heal from something like this, but I hope you are starting to heal. ❤❤❤❤❤
I came from tiktok too and felt the same way and I'm still crying 😢 this broke my heart🤧
Me too!
Me too came over from TikTok 😢😢😢😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔
Iam....I have more good days than bad and that's because of my followers, like you!
Yup. My brother told me he was going to bankrupt our mother so she could go to a state nursing home, and there was nothing I could do about it. He was THE Mental Health Care Professional (his description of himself), and I couldn't possibly know anything about this. He knew every attorney in the county, and I wouldn't get anywhere if I talked to them. This was after I talked to an elder law attorney. I just wanted to know how best to protect her as a vulnerable elder.
My mother let him take care of her. She was a vulnerable old lady with Alheimers, and he was THE Golden Boy. I was just a run of the mill biochemist working in the pharmaceutical industry.
He bought a horse in California and had it shipped to Michigan. Bought a 4 stall horse trailer with living quarters so he could take Mom camping all on her dime. I don't even know where her money and possessions went. There was a will, which we both had copies of. I was never informed if it changed, or was brother appointed our mother's Guardian, how her income was handled, were her taxes paid?
She died in the facility where my brother was the CEO. It was a good place and she was safe there. However, my brother actions were always suspicious. He didn't speak to me for years.
Because of this, with our mother, our Dad wanted me to take care of him. He had all the legal stuff in place. I went to all attorney, bank, doctor appts with him for years. After he was diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia I was granted guardianship. I went through the court system. My brother was apprised of all proceedings every step of the way. Our father had live-in elder care companions the last 2 years of his life. He wasn't always happy about his situation, but he knew I had his best interests in mind all the time. His attorney told me I was the best Guardian he'd ever worked with, because I kept good records and was up front about everything.
Your story is my story.
Such a sad story. So many people failed protecting this elderly, unwell woman. I'm sorry for the loss of your beloved Mother.
My mum also suffered. I was in a different country. There were 4 siblings left I thought they would stand up against the eldest one. But they were all scared of him but God is the ultimate judge.
I think this is more common than realized. My brother was also an alcoholic and used drugs. Dad had left Mom a house that was mortgage free, as well a healthy bank account and a pension plan from an air line company. My brother also worked for that air line. Once Dad died, my brother moved into the house with his girlfriend and teenage daughter, within 3 months, not only did he have Mom buy a new car of his choice, he had Mom sign over the house to him as well as having Mom change the will, making in sole beneficiary. Never mind that they did not take Mom shopping , they also held onto her credit cards, and yes what pension Mom had coming in from the private plan and the government plan paid for the hydro, gas, and property taxes well as the everyday expenses such as food, and gas. Mom died penniless. My sister and I had to claim her body from the morgue. My brother committed suicide, and in the province of Quebec, and with him not having a will, the property automatically was given to his children, as per the Quebec laws. The 5 bedroom, two bath home that my father had built, ended up being taken over by the bank as the grandchildren could not afford to pay the property taxes.
Oh my gosh. I’m so very sorry this situation happened to you.
Oh my! Just heartbreaking. So sorry!
OMG, that is so awful. I'm so sorry.
One’s relatives can be our worst enemies.
I worked for a huge hospice & abuse and neglect by family members of the Alzheimer’s pt. Is not uncommon. Most ppl don’t have the skills to give proper care as the pt declines, and it’s a very long,long road. I know one dementia pt. Was kept in a back room & neglected . Often a pt. Would be in the same brief that the hospice aide put on the pt. The day before, so that means 24 hrs w/o being changed. Even the very wealthy can ignore their loved one who had Alzheimer’s or dementia, and leave for the day, or in one case the wife, who was middle aged as was her husband w/ dementia, and the wife had h8, tied to his wheelchair for the entire day, while she worked. There are many more stories, but what was amazing is that hospice doesn’t like to report abuse or neglect at all. Because Then the family can kick hospice out, so there is even less care for the pt…. I’ve also been in many ALFs and nursing homes, and a lot of serious neglect goes on there as well, even in very high end facilities. In some cases, If family isn’t actively involved that is a very bad thing. Every pt needs an advocate.
I saw you on TikTok. Thank you for spreading awareness with your story. I have had loved ones affected by dementia as well. So sorry for your loss. May your mother rest in peace now. Sending love and prayers to you and your family. ❤
Same for me. I'm following on TikTok. This is a shocking story nobody wants that to be done to a mother.
Me too following on TikTok my grandpa had the same problem and was very hard to watch this man slip away
I came here from Tic Toc & I am just shocked & heartbroken for you. My Dad had dementia & it was HARD. God bless & may she rest in peace.
I hope your story is useful for other people to see the damages that people can do to her beloved elderly and friends. It’s very very brave of you to tell your story!! Thank you Debra
Thank you Nancy, I miss you much....
Very brave and probably also heat wrenching. If it was me I'm not sure if I would still have a living brother. I'm sure u will always have regrets, but u did do what u felt u could do at the time, so try not to beat yourself up about it. It will eat u up like a cancer. Thank u for sharing
Heart not heat, sorry
Thank
@@answersaboutalzheimersthank you for your story, I am going through a similar situation with my mum & narcissist twisted brother that hates me also & drip fed my mum poison every day/night while I had her living with me & my family so she would want to leave & the games he played with my mental health & miscarriages and so I put her in a taxi when she was adamant she wanted to go live with him, the next day he frogmarched her to the bank to take control of her money then she was put in a care home, i became suicidal because of my brother being so cruel that he would go to the lengths he did go to to get at me by putting our mother into a care home n visit her weekly, my mum was my world & that sick twisted bastard took me away from her & told her I am no good for her 😢, he has gaslighted me to family & so i have made sure I never let them look me in the eyes ever again & I have moved away & now care for my mother in law with dementia & my severely disabled brother in law which is tricky as mum & son are joined at the hip & they sit whispering and conspiring against my poor elderly father in law & often he attacks him because mum tells him lies on the sly, my mother in law has turned into my brother by drip feeding poison to cause maximum damage, sorry if I am not making sense but so much more to my story but don’t know where to start but I feel better listening to your story & relating to it instantly 💔🙏🏼🏴thank you
My mother had Alzheimer’s. She began to really dislike me. She would bite me, and tried to strangle me a couple of times. She was sure I was trying to steal her husband (my father). It was Alzheimer’s not my Mom. I was an only child. You can’t change what happened. I hope you are able to let go of your bitterness for your own happiness. My family had no money, looks like that was a good thing.
I am so very lucky that my sister and myself conferred on every decision regarding our mother. I could not have been more supported.
Same. I have a wonderful sister.
Me to. My sister and I both live with and care for our mother, and while our brothers are in other states we have regular family calls and Zooms to keep everyone on the same page.
You are indeed very lucky.
God rest her soul. And may yours be healed. Thanks for making awareness
This is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for what you and your mom went through. No one deserves such horrible treatment! Those two should both be in jail! I went through something awful as well when my mom died in 2020. A distant relative, also an addict, got legal control of her and took everything she had. I didn't even get a photo. This relative had manipulated her, which resulted in my mother making bad choices and not seeking the medical treatment she needed. When I saw her at Christmas, she was starving herself to death and was barely conscious, but this relative had taken no action to get her medical help, because she wanted my mom's stuff. I had social welfare intervene and get her admitted, but she remained under the control of this relative. The doctors told me she had a broken ankle from a fall that couldn't be fixed and had had three strokes. I reported the abuse through this whole ordeal and after my mom died, but, like you, I was told that there was not enough proof to take legal action.
I feel your pain. My ex step brother did same to my dad. He lied to get POA, stole everything from my dad, the house went to foreclosure. He even spent the funeral money. We tried Adult Protective Services, "your dad wants to give away his money". Dad was very sick with dementia and heart failure, was dropped off at the V.A. hospital on a full code resuscitation so brother could still collect SS and VA pensions. The VA caught on quickly and wanted to help us get guardianship, but dad died a few weeks later. It's hard to deal with but just think about the good times you had with your mom. Pray karma deals with these evil monsters.
I'm so so sorry
My friend sent this to me so sorry to hear your story I too took care of my Dementia mother after my brother treated her so badly and then took her to Jamaica 🇯🇲 and placed her in a nursing home I went for her and took her to my home, it's challenging for but God gave me a special love towards her and he provides for me every day because she does get ANY BENEFITS MY BROTHER SAYS HE DOES NOT KNOW ANYTHING about HER ACCOUNTS
God Bless You- you are amazing ❤
Oh man. ! How awful. I'm struggling with 2 of my brothers who are protecting my abusive father. Our mother has Alz. They are angry with me because I told my mother's memory Care MD about the hisory of abuse and I asked for info about resources who could help him take care of my mother. Eventually they were put in assisted living because he is dying of stage 4 prostate cancer. It has worked out, but it still bothers me that 50+ years of abuse has resulted in estrangement. Hopefully you will find peace helping other familues. Your tragic loss has given you the fire to help others. And we bless you for that.
Thank you kelly!
This made me cry ,I feel so sorry for your mom. I am elderly and spent 5 weeks in rehab last spring. I had intended to move from my apt to assisted living when rehab was finished.
After my son saw the treatment I received in rehab ,he begged me to come stay with them instead of assisted living. I moved to a better rehab , but still they got my meds mixed up for 2 weeks. It is rough getting old people treat you poorly & while in the hospital & rehab in 5 weeks money was taken from my wallet. My son had a camera in my room , you would be surprised what goes on with elderly people.
The “she’s at the end of her life anyway” is the same thing the railroad company said about my 67year old mother after her car was struck and she was killed at a crossing that was unmaintained, and after false testimony by a railroad spokesman.
That's OUTRAGEOUS!! I'm so so sorry for your loss.💔
On what planet is 67 near the end of someone's life? Maybe in 1924, but certainly not 2024!
Good grief! I'm 68, and since my mom is 95 now and her cousin just turned 100, I certainly HOPE I'm not "at the end of my life"!
@@catic15 I know! How dare someone decide another’s life has no value, either because of their age or level of dependency. 😢
@@catic15 I know! How dare someone decide another’s life has no value, either because of their age or level of dependency. 😢
I'm taking of my husband right now with dementia. I'm going to hug him right now.
Oh, that makes me sooooo happy!. O hope you subscribed to our family
Debra, I am very sorry for what your mother suffered at the hands of her own family, and I am very sorry for the trauma you are suffering with, as a result of this horrific ordeal. I had to face a very similar situation with my mother vs. my brother and sister and, very thankfully, I was able to intervene and save my demented mother's life, immediately, and again over the next six years as I continued to protect her from them through legal guardianship and court supervision of my mother's welfare and well-being. I too had to face the shocking truth of the depths of cruelty imposed on her by my two siblings, her own children. The experience so traumatized me, I was later diagnosed with Complex PTSD. But for the goodness of people, the elderly and the demented elderly are sitting ducks for unimaginable harm by their own families, friends, and neighbors. It is just pure evil.
My grandmother had alzheimers , my mother and uncle hated each other and couldn't agree. My grandmother OWNED 17 properties. The court ordered lawyer paid herself $465 an hour. Years went by and the lawyer started selling all her properties, at low price so she could sell them all off before my grandmother died, even the 2 condo's in ocean city,md. Which i spent alot of my life in, i was heartbroken. Then this lawyer TRYED charging me $20,000 saying my grandmother didnt authorize those purchases, ( Even though my grandmother had spent that money before she was ever even diagnosed, she brought me a vehicle and bought me my son and my father. A north face code and just some other little things here were there, But that was normal my grandmother always looked out for the family) That Lawyer was an absolute nightmare. It still p***** me off till this day. She liquidated everything my grandmother had worked hard for I remember as a child going with my grandmother to work and cleaning out her rental properties. And to think this lawyer now has all of it. And when my grandmother passed away, there was nothing left. Except for a $300,000 Life Insurance Policy.
Rest in Peace Granma 🙏 ❤
Wow! That's crazy. Crazy. Smh
that sound completely illegal since she had children. That is all VERY SUSPECT. I BELIEVE I WOULD BE WRITIING THE ATTORNEY GENERAL AND ALSO THE GOVENOR OF THE STATE AND MAKING COMPLAINTS TO THE BAR REGARDING THE LAWYER AND THE JUDGE. THERE IS NO WAY I WOULD NOT HAVE FOUGHT THAT.
@@nunya2954Me too! How could the lawyer sell and purchase a property. That should be a conflict of interest. That’s why she sold them for cheap. That should be illegal.
@@terramckay5636 Yes, something way out of line in this scenario and there is no way I would have allowed that to happen, my azz would have been all over the news with this Judge/Lawyer chit and there were children to appoiint.
She's now claiming that she didn't get all the money she was owed, she is now trying to come after the life insurance money. Sick. This lady destroyed everything and left us with NOTHING. And in order to take her to court it would cost a lot of money that we now don't have
How heartbreaking. My mom has memory loss, and my aunt (her sister) has dementia. I can’t imagine anyone in our family caregivers ever treating them this way. Sending love and peace from Illinois. ❤️💔❤️
Honey… you did the best you could under the circumstances you were given. Please allow yourself the grace to have peace and heal. May God encourage your heart and give you strength. So much love from Staten Island New York.
I came here from Tik Tok. Experienced in working with Dementia patients in Eldercare center. It breaks my heart to hear your stories. I know it wasn’t easy to care for these people but there is an option rather than hurting them at home. Let alone to manipulate and mistreated them.
These is no strangers.
They should feel safe being around their loved ones.
My prayers may JESUS heal you 💕🙏🙏
Your story is now mine. My relationship with my mom is rapidly deteriorating, she has become violent towards me, her caregiver. I am now sending her to specialized assisted care. Getting legal papers done to ensure her finances. It is a big challenge luckily I have worked in finance for many years and am fluent in all the procedures. I cannot imagine this for someone who has no experience.
Make sure the facility knows you. You need to be VERY INVOLVED.
Don't worry. I know. I am a mama-mama bear. @@louisel.sinniger2057
Debbie to hear this heartbreaking story again is so painful.. It breaks my heart for you and Paul and Olivia.. we grew up together and have great memories of your parents and loved them.. This was very real and I’m glad you got your story out about your brother and his wife.. I loved the relationship you and your mom had!! ❤ So close and loved each other so much.. I was blessed too have seen that.. I’m so sorry and sad your brother got involved like he did and took advantage of her. You did the best you could do for your mom and we’re always there for her. But you couldn’t change her mind. I love you Deb and you and your mom will celebrate in heaven together one day. ❤
I love you dear life long friend.....
My heart pours out in sympathy for you. My beloved mother passed away from dementia today aged 83. I am so devastated and don't know how I will carry on life without her
I feel for your poor mom and what you went through as a loving and caring daughter. May she rest in peace.
I was raised by my grandmother and when she started to decline in health family hurriedly moved her out of her home into her oldest daughter’s home, then daughter#3, then finally my mother…. The abuse and neglect was awful and led to me moving her out a few years later and her having to have an amputation, then heart attack and death…. Family is not always the best people in the world
I work in LTC you would be shocked at how many patients have restraining orders on their kids as they have tried to abuse them. It’s very sad.
I’ll be one who doesn’t want a child “caring” for me…
She was abusive to ME when I was in my prime.
I understand too many rotten children out there, but there are also many loving children that get robbed of their parent by meddling old friends who get fabricated mixed up story’s and bold face lies about them and their relationship with said parent. I could right a book on my dads POA and what she has done to my family!
I'm sending you comfort and healing during this horrible time. May you remember the beautiful times with your mother and the bad fade away with time. And asking angels to give you a big hug.
It's more shocking how many children have POs on elderly parents; and how many elderly people are violent and abusive toward their children.
Wow! Really?
I’m here from TikTok. I’m so sorry about your mom. It’s so devastating to hear a story like that but you’re so brave to still be doing work for dementia and Alzheimer’s community. Your brother and his wife should be in jail perhaps under the jail because that is not right at all for him to do that thank you for telling your story. God bless you.💜💜💜💜💜
My screwed up narcissistic brother is power of attorney to my 98 yr old mother. He's at the nursing home every day brainwashing her. She's deteriorated mentally and physically in the last year but still hasn't been tested for dementia. My brother calls the shots, if you say anything adverse about him she gives you a filthy look.
I'm so over it I just wish it would all end.
Thank you for telling your story, Debra! You are quite brave to do as much in honor of your mother. May God continue to keep and bless you all the days of your life.
I too have evil in my family. Out of respect for you and your mother I'll not share mine. What I will say is that you've helped me make the decision to tell my story. It's the right thing to do. What's been done is unimaginable. Unbelievable. When the word "family" is said, people always think of the Brady Bunch family families.
Sadly, my brother killed a girl and left a trail of trauma to many others, myself included.
I am truly sorry for your loss to have come from evil. The path of truth and justice you've chosen is not unnoticed!
I studied criminal justice at NMU and am a domestic violence survivor. After having run from my brother in Florida, I too chose to become an advocate for the victim. I took my life's experiences and education into consideration and decided to fight for domestic violence victims. Many people don't understand that domestic violence isn't just an intimate partner. If you look up the definition of DV it clearly states that it's abuse from another person from within your domestic circle. This includes immediate family. Familia DV is the gateway to intimate partner DV. It's a fact. The worst part is that no one believes you once you say, "my brother killed..."
You have my sympathy and respect. I'm truly sorry for your loss.
May your mother's monsters 🔥 in hell! 🙏🏻
If you are interested in my story, my TikTok is Yooper906.
Godspeed ❤️🕯️🙏🏻
Debbie your story broke my heart 💔 Im so sorry the way you're mom was treated 😭 this should have never happened to her. They were so crul and ugly. May your mother Rip now. No one can hurt her now.
Thank you so much for this
I've just recently lost my mum, I cant even imagine how I'd mentally cope with knowing my own sibling abused our mother like this. I'm so heartbroken for you. I'm also a carer with the elderly here in the UK, I know how this disease affects people but I can't even imagine how heavy it is when it's your own family member. I'm so sorry, I'm disgusted by everyone involved in this abuse and her death ❤
A similar situation happened to my co worker. She suspected her sister was stealing from her mother but had no proof. Then she suspected her sisters was physically assaulting her. The final straw was when concerned neighbors called the chief of police who lived down the street. He then called my co worker with his concerns. She got her mother out of that house but the damage was done. She was in very poor health and eventually passed.
Please keep teachimg caregivers. They need you. My friend.So sorry. ❤😢🙏
I am scared of this happening to me. I pray my kids do not put me in a home and we have a plan for if/ when I need somewhere to go.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. ❤
I found you on Tik Tok. My mother is 88 years old and has memory loss. I came here to hear your story. All I can say is WOW! I have tears in my eyes. May God bless you and thank you for the helpful information on Tik Tok. Much love!
The MOMENT you found out she had Alzheimer’s, you should have gotten POA and a conservatorship- immediately.
I was POA. It was changed
Victim blaming isn't cool and it helps no one. Please refrain from it.
@@Katragine
1. She shared her heart and experience and your blaming because of your inability to be compassionate or empathetic
2. She was miles and miles away
3. Anyone who KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT CAREGIVING, knows this isnt easy because this isnt just someone, this is her BELOVED MOTHER!
Deb i do not know you, i do know i love you and your heart: this is not easy
Could evidence of extreme mental health issues have been used to block the changed POA?
I already was POA. She changed it! That was told in the video. Don't advise people of what they should have done in the past.bit will not change an outcome.
Wow Deb… I am so sorry for your loss and at the same time, son grateful for your generosity of sharing this tragedy with us… may your beautiful mom rest in peace and may your brother and his wife get what they deserve 🙏🏼
I am so sorry, Debra. What an absolute nightmare. Your mother didn’t deserve this.
My sister cared for an elderly couple in their 90s. Their son was a mean, uncaring man. He moved the couple into assisted living but my sister was still able to keep providing care. The couple’s health started declining after the move and my sister would challenge the staff about the lack of care when she wasn’t there. They complained to the son and he fired my sister. Shortly after, the man died. The woman would call my sister crying, asking why she can’t come and help her. It was heartbreaking.
😢omg something similar happened to me with my aunt.
I’m an only child and was my Mom’s caregiver all the was through to her death due to Alzheimer’s.
I am here from Tik Tok, i am so sorry for you and your mom 😢 I work with Dementia clients. Omg i can’t believe how cruel some family members can be. I am bawling right now 😭
Get POAs signed BEFORE you start going downhill. And get a Living Trust, not a will. Let your family know what your wishes are. I know it's hard, but a situation like this is WORSE. What a horrific nightmare. I am so sorry that this happened. :(
I'm so sorry for you and your mother. May she rest in peace. Bless you and your family 🙏🏼🛐💔😢
This is heart wrenching and triggering for me . I am so sorry this happened to your mother, you and your family .
My father an abusive narcissist did ALOT of parallel same things . The day she dies he said he had killed her . He killed her with indifference and chronic isolation . He made it so I couldn’t go visit because he would make himself ever so present so my grandmother and I couldn’t speak freely . She too would always take his side despite her calling me to tell me he’s being cruel to her . She’s say I need him he’s the only one who know how to care for me .
He use to say to me “ wait until you are beholden to you children “ as if to explain away his abusive behavior to my grandmother as if to say she’s getting payback ….
Humans can be so terrifying
I tried so hard to get elder services and even the police involved , she even gave me the number to her estate attorney involved and to no avail .
My heart breaks because she deserved to live the last years of her life . I tried and cried and screamed but no-none would listen . She also could have afforded a good nursing home and care givers but he would absolutely NOT allow it because it was too much money since he was looking to spend as little as possible and do as little as possible for her . Yet he has NO problem complaining screaming and yelling at me how horrible it was for him to care for her . Yet before she became as aged as she was I offered , I was her only granddaughter. I would have been honored . My Heart ❤️🩹 pains me everyday since the beginning of his care for her . She passed the begining of this year and I couldn’t go because my father was going to be there , I couldn’t go see his face , I hope she finally found peace .
Her name is Lorraine Blinstrub Snell .
I am so sorry for your loss and the ongoing pain. I know you are right, just like what was done to my Dad in his last years. I was helpless to help my Dad, too. The system favors these type of abusers. You know in your heart, you did what you could, letting him kill you, would have not helped your Mom and her story would never have been told. Thank you for your bravery in sharing.
Hindsight you can begin to see red flags. I had a kind of similar situation in the family where they take control and isolate and then financially rape them. And your own hands are tied because they refused to see reality and were played, making you the bad guy ... the only one who would protect them. Seeing this more than once I've taken steps to make sure my own life is protected if I become vulnerable. This is a valuable lesson people need to think about when helping aging parents and other family members AND for themselves. Thank you for posting. God bless you.
Did you ever go and physically set eyes on her in 2 years ??? You never saw her again literally?
I’m so sorry this happened to your dear sweet mother. I have a very similar story that luckily didn’t end up as tragic as yours but I can attest it is horrible how people can treat our vulnerable loved ones.
Thank God my siblings and I are a team in our mom’s care. She has some mental challenges, but still knows who we are. I’m so sorry this happened to your mother. 😢
This must have been terribly difficult to make. I wish folks who say they would have made different choices than you did would try to begin to understand your situation.
Thank you for your story. You are a brave person. 😮
Thank you....
People that hold other people, hostage by threats of suicide, can do untold diabolical things to their victims
I’m so so sorry 😢 My dad was just diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease and I’m desperately searching all information I can find. It’s so heartbreaking
Be there advocate ask lots of questions. Check your loved one all the time. I also didn't let my mom have a doctor at assisted home I took her to her doctor. If you don't get anywhere with any kind of abuse call news papers TV station. Call the state governor. The squeaky wheel gets the oil
When your dad gets to the point where he tells you things you know are not true (such as seeing his mom and sister who’ve been gone for 30 years) do not argue with him! Just say “oh, that’s nice”. He developed something called Capgras Syndrome in which the patient looses the emotional connection to very close and loved people in their lives. For my dad, he would sometimes not recognize my mom as being his wife. He would ask her what her birthday was, her parents names, who she was married to and when their anniversary was. He checked her drivers license, asked when she went to college, who her friends were, etc. he’d be very confused, because this person looked, acted and presented as his wife, but he knew the person wasn’t his wife. Eventually he started seeing a third person. We labeled these three women who all looked and acted the same and said they were his wife by different names. I’d ask him which person was he seeing at any time. Was it his wife, Sally, or imposter number one (Sally 2) or imposter number 2 ( Sally 3). He could tell the difference. And it would change without a moments notice. It was so strange. He didn’t get violent until the last month or so. He’d spit at the nurses or grab their arm when they were trying to feed him. I’d apologize for him constantly when I’d go to visit. It was so very sad.
That the Certified Master Dementia Strategist course! It will change your life. Guaranteed.
Heartbreaking
Oh sweetheart 😢 you have been and are still going through so much pain and trauma. 😢😢😢I'm so very sorry for you and your sweet Mama.
This happened in my family as well. May God bless anyone who has to go through this.
I've been following you on tiktok because my parents are starting to forget and will state they've got dementia. Thankfully my brother n I will be able to be able to make decisions together concerning their care in the near future. I've learned from you about the ways to talk to them and to change the situation. Thank you. I'm sorry about what happened to your mother.
Thank you! Reach out when you need to.
This is so sad but more common than it should be, my condolences to you and your family. What goes around comes around!
I have a similar story for both my parents… sadly the law doesn’t care for the elderly. I wish I could hug you! Really! This was so hard to share and you did it for the greater good.
I'm so sorry this happened to you and your mom. My mom has had this sisease 20 long years. But, she was a neglectful mother with an alcohol problem. Noe of my sibs help, & I lived the closest. I did get her to an attorney in 2016 & he said she barely passed the competency tests to sign papers. I've made sure my mom had 24 hour live in care for 3-4 years, but now is in Assisted Living. She's angry & bitter most days & I'm verbally abused when I visit weekly. It's an awful journey, and I don't think people u derstand how awful it is. My husband also came out & told me he & my best friend had been lovers for al.ost 20 years. I kicked him out. I've had 2 heart attacks since. I'm taking early retirement, but still must work to support myself. I think my mother will outlive me, & I wish I could have peace for myself and not have to take on the responsibilities I have. So, I can empathize for you. It's been worse for you, as my mom was never kind towards me, & I'm stuck holding the bag, but doing g the best for her as I can.
I give you a lot of credit. I think I would walk away.
I hope you can put yourself first and find some joy. That is my wish for you.
Cut yourself some slack and quit punishing yourself. There is no reason for you to go weekly and be abused by her. You have to love yourself enough to find some joy and have peace. I have lived with what you are going thru, and the reward was on her death bed she verbally abused me. Just please put yourself first, be kind to yourself, learn to find joy again.
I’m so sorry to hear this, bless you. I pray that you find some peace and comfort someday. Whether they are responsible for her death or not, their abuse and actions are deplorable to say the least. Rest assured, they will face judgement and ultimately it will not slide. God will make them miserable for their horrible actions, I promise you that. Do not blame yourself, ma’am this isn’t your fault.
Please accept my sincere condolences. Listening to this made my stomach turn. Karma doesn’t lose addresses.
At the end, when you talk about prosecutors not taking the case because it's too hard to prove and it says their win/loss ratio ...that is exactly the same reason that most reported tapes do not get litigated in any way. Winning is more important than justice. It's unbelievably disgusting.
I am so sorry this happened to you and your poor defenseless mother!!😢…..it really does make me heartsick for the helpless and the abuse they endure….
Thank you for sharing this story so courageously, as painful as it is for you, in order for others to be warned that this could indeed happen to them.
Thank you so much. Actually after I posted this I got some hate mail from a cousin. Sometimes families suck!
@@answersaboutalzheimers you’re welcome!….
Yes, sometimes families really do suck…..
Thank you for telling your story. It was so heart breaking to hear and I can only imagine how hellish the years she was there were for her, you and friends and family and how upsetting and infuriating it was after she passed. I’m assuming you don’t really speak to your brother anymore ? And is he and that woman still together and do u know anything about how they r doing now? I hope not well. I hope they get their karma or already did if that is a thing. And thank you again for sharing this and showing people what your own family can do to other family💔 hope you and your family and friends are doing well now 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for sharing. My sympathizes for you, Debra. So sorry for your loss.
I'd like to share my story, which also starts with a suicidal alcoholic unemployed brother. For many years, he took emotional advantage of my self sacrificing mother. She let him move in, and he was abusive with her. My cousin and I were able to physically get her away from him to a new living situation. Luckily we also had a banker who suggested I obtain a POA. Perhaps the main difference in our stories is that my mom doesn't have Dementia, so she was able to make the decision to not live with her felon son. We are so very grateful.
Omg Cathy. Tjis us so hard to comprehend. Sometimes I hate people!
@@answersaboutalzheimers Since then, I've learned about late stage alcoholism. It's a blessing to be able to forgive my brother; However, I'll never trust him and always keep a distance.
Such a tragic story. I don’t even know what to say. Some people are pure evil.
I’m so fortunate to have loving siblings who unhesitatingly share in my 96 year old dad’s care. Thank God.
I totally understand. The system is So Broken.
Be very sure that when you make your final decision to the end of your life, it's what you want. If you do it to soon, 10 years later you could change your mind and things could be totally different
Make sure you keep up with your changes. Familys will fight over $20.00 bucks!!
After getting off of your live I had to come watch your story. I am drenched in tears at the horror your mother must have faced. nobody should ever feel like a burden or unsafe with their own family! I am so glad you are taking this as an opportunity to help other people dealing with dementia and Alzheimer’s. I ordered your book tonight while I was on your live, and I am excited to receive it. thank you so much for speaking your truth and making your brother accountable in anyway you knew how to.
2:57 my sister is a heavy weed smoker.Unable to deal with her emotions.Angry and abusive whenever she visits my mother .I'm carer for my mum 24 hours a day. I am constantly informing the nurse who visits of things that are happening and she is logging it. My sister keeps saying there is nothing wrong with mum. She plants seeds of discontent and my mum worries and stresses about what she has said to her.My sister is sick and aggressive refuses to do anything to help and adds to an already stressful situation.Your experience is truly dreadful but I am no longer shocked by how family sometimes treat family.Bless you for sharing.You are helping so many of us
This happened in my family, when my grandma passed, I felt she died 2 1/2 years before. We were so close my grandma was so part of our family she's to come to my mom's house every Friday with my aunt we have a whole history. See my grandma had eight kids so my grandma is very part of a lot of her lives. What are those eight kids three of them we hardly seen were alcoholic, and drug addicts.. Guess who took over here, them. None of us that was there for her all of are lives. Loving her, all the great memories, that they can not take, from us. My uncle also spent over $150 thousand to buy condos out in Arizona, with partners that flipped them and made more, but never gave her back that money, he has her to change her Will and take out the 3 sister's that grandma was close to. Your stories has a lot of mine kind of.
I am so very sorry for the Trauma you and your family. Sending you Healing Prayers and Angels.😢
Honestly this whole sad story is more about family dysfunction than Alzheimers. I hope you can overcome your bitterness and find peace.
Bitterness? That is not an appropriate word....
Thank you for sharing it. It happened to my mother under the care of her 26yr old daughter and 36yr old son. The daughter didn't care about my mom, she only cared about my mother's money! I still cry almost 4yrs later for my mother...I should have forced her to come to my house for care like I always did after she was in hospital! I MISS MY MOTHER EVERY DAY!😢
I'm not surprised at the ending. I had a similar story, Picks up my sister did absolutely nothing to support me in my care of mom. Lots of pain, I couldn't even bear to hear your whole video. Lots of guilt.
As a caregiver, this story makes me so terribly sad for your Mom and also you.
I'm so sorry that this abuse has happened.
Your brother and his wife both need to go to jail.
This could be my family story too. My brother and his kids would rob my mother blind if they could and they did try. They took a lot. She goes along with it because they make promises to her, all broken. The rest of us stepped in and she is now in a beautiful, upscale care home and my other brother has her POA. She’s secure and safe. I guess every family has at least one “user”. I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s sooo hard to get past the resentment and anger. The rage is all over you.
This is so sad I almost couldn't get through it.I have family members with dementia and i was just diagnosed with it in tbe beginning stages . Im on three different medications for it and also on three meds for depression. Thankyou for making this video.I know that it was so hard to do.I pray that it helps so many others so that they dont have to go through what your family went through. Your brother and his wife should be in prison.I pray that God has vengeance on there lives.😢❤
Thank you
Wow, I'm so sorry about your mother.
I had to tell you that your story is my story, but my mothers still alive. My mom and i were always close , but once her dementia got a little worse my mother no long likes me and attacks me with emotional abuse . She doesnt like me anymore and I no longer recognize my mother and its extremely hard on me.
I also have an alcohol brother and when my father died i saw my brothers true colors. Him and his children went through all of their belongings because we had to move my mother and she needed to down size and get rid of lots of things. My brother and his 4 children went through all the belongings and took everything of value and o moving day when my mom told my son he could have a $40 socket set to remember his grandfather, my alcoholic brother blew up and got in my sons face threatening him and screamed at him telling him he cant have it and screamed he's ready to explode and ready to punch my son in his face ! Everyone could hear him. At that time it shocked me because we were close and eachothers best friend , but once my dad died and he went behind my kids and my back taking all the material things and me and my kids got nothing . I confronted him about what he was doing and screamed at my brother i thought you loved us !! I guess you dont and said next time you need a friend to talk to dont call me anymore ; i said go talk to all the material things you stole that mean more to you than i do. When my mother started to defend my brother and that blew my mind also ! My brother doesn't and hasnt helped my mother and Dad with anything , but he's always been her golden child and he cold commit murd.er and she'd defend him; he can do no wrong in her eyes. I told my mother he's stealing and taking everything and purposely tak8ng everything without considering me and my children. I said he's doing this right in front of you ; when you pass he'll be way worse to me bc you wont be here to confront him. He's gonna do the same think when she dies and take everything. My mother doesnt say much back about that. Its caused a huge family . I help her with everything, grocery shop for her , helped her take care of my dad when he had cancer. My brother cant be botheted.
So, she has my brother as power of attorney bc at the time of her will i told her to pick my brother bc i dont think i could pull the plug on you if that were to happen, so she pick my brother . Well, when he found out all that was involved being a power of attorney he told me that he dont want to be her "power of attorny" and asked me if i could be poer of attorney and i told him that he cant change mom will !! He's in charge of her finances too and my mom has lots of money bc she got some
Anyways , there's lots more and im sorry this has gotten to be this long. But, i have the same story as yours and soon my mother wont be able to be on her own and i have an alcoholic brother with dollar signs in his eyes that has a huge house with lots of room for her , so she'd easily wanna go live with him. It wont be long and my mother will maybe wanna live with my brother. I try talking to her about things , but she just becomes angry with me even when i try to help her.
Whata nightmare it all is. Just wanted you to know that im in almost the same situation as you've had and im hoping for a different ending for my mother. Its crazy what some people will do for money and/or material possessions.
Im so sorry about your mother. When the time comes im gonna try to convince her to go into assisted living place and not at my brothers house and hoping for a different ending than your story.
Im feel your video on this subject will help some people .
After hearing the story, that’s what my brothers wanted to do with my mother who has dementia and merging into Alzheimer’s, but I said no she staying here in her own home. This is what she knows. She put it in at the Silletti. She’ll be gone in a few days to a week so I said no she staying here and I’m just like I bought a home here basically across the street and I took care of her. I saw the dementia move in about 5 or 6 years before she Passed., and I was with her to the end, My brothers would fight over the house who’s gonna get it before my mother took her last breath it’s all about greed with them with me. I had the best part I had her I had up at 71 years. I was your favorite, my brothers all they care about is basically throwing around on the street and taking whatever she had but I had her some thing that they being my brothers never saw what I had!
No attorney would approve a will in your mother’s state. She has a serious *disease* (yes, using “curse” words or slurs or other words a person never typically used is absolutely a sign of advancing a dementia). Also, you can call for adult services as your mother was abused. She has a disease, and she can’t tell you accurately what’s happening as she has a disease. Full stop.
don’t know how any attorney would sign off on that will? No court of law would support this will. They want minimal tests to demonstrate competence, and with someone who has diagnosed medical issues like dementia it should be easy to contest the will. Your mother was well past any decision-making. She had a disease that makes this impossible. When people have dementia etc the first very poor decisions they make will manifest in emotional ways - remember, dementia causes a regress in emotional maturity as a person is losing all memory from adulthood - the time that made them mature adults. Your mother was believing statements at face value as dementia erases the brain. Your brother belongs in jail.
What a nightmare! My mom is 90. Thank goodness that my only sibling is a sister who is completely reasonable. We do get a little frustrated about some of my mom’s decisions but we respect her autonomy.
I see this so often working in a skilled nursing center. I hate that families treat their loved ones this way, but it’s more common than anyone would like to think. I’m so sorry you experienced this.
Happening to me right now. My doctor brother moved my mother (also my best friend) across the other side of the world to finish her life near him..he sees her once a week for an hour to drop food off. She doesn't cook, clean or wash anymore. She sleeps and watches TV. Suddenly one day she refused to take my calls and he tells me she hates me and won't speak to me again. I am at a total loss..the rest of my family think its just her Alzheimer's but I have great suspicions. He's very greedy about money despite having alot himself. It's hurtful that my mother now rejects me but I feel the situation has become very serious and she is being influenced or blocked from contact with me. I am 24 hour plane ride away and no one in my family will help me amd tell me to be patient. They trust him as he's a doctor ..he keeps telling me she'll be dead in 2 years anyway.
Heartbreaking!
.do your best
I'm so sorry!!
Fly there without telling anyone. No one. Book a room and watch and when you can, go get mom and take her to the plane and both fly out of there.
Such an eloquently and compellingly told heart breaking story. Same thing happened to me. I was and am the main carer for my mother but earlier this year my younger MIA brother came from the other side of the planet and got her to sign a financial and property PoA for him as sole attorney. I knew nothing about it as the very day he conned her into singing it I was picking up the keys on a retirement flat I was helping her buy. He couldn't have cared less. He emigrated 20 years ago. They day I picked up the keys for my Mum's new flat we all sat in a local cafe and he told me our mother was emigrating overseas with him for the rest of her life and she was selling the flat I'd just spent 8 months trying to secure for her as she did not have a clue what she was doing. She wouldn't even give me a PoA. Anyhow I asked my younger brother to help me move her stuff into her new flat, but I never got a reply. In the end I had to ask elderly relatives on my Dad's side to help me with the larger heavier items. But now following yet another fall my younger brother has placed our Mum in a care home and cleared off back to the other side of the world. He controls all her bank accounts and assets on his phone. She has two properties a large house and flat he is planning to clear, binning everything, then sell them, then 'invest' the proceeds from the sale. His wife and our mother have NEVER got on. My mother cannot stand her and yet the influence she has on my little brother is considerable. If our mother's cash and assets go walkies it will be impossible to get them back as my little brother doesn't even live in the same legal jurisdiction as my mother and me. And yet I still attend her. Have to as I am her next of kin as I am the eldest and have not emigrated. My sister also emigrated over 30 years ago. I have spent so much of my own money and lost 4-5 years of my life on my mother. She I am sad to say like your mother appears to have done is practically taunted you, typical of narcissists. I think you should have challenged the PoA in court or got your mother to revoke it as she would be totally entitled to do. With she giving my younger brother, 5 years younger sole PoA I feel totally betrayed by both of them, mother and brother. I tried to go no contact with my mother but she still contacts me BEGGING ME TO HELP HER. I HAVE TO HELP HER. No I don't. She is desperate absolutely desperate she tells me. She has cried wold so many times and let me down every time I have come to her side. Her self recrimination and self loathing is extreme. Even today she was telling me I was too kind, she didn't deserve me, I was too good to her. Yeah, too right I bloody am. So much has happened. I feel totally played and taken for a ride. My mother is a selfish narcissist. I have the last laugh as her golden youngest child has put her in a care home and refuses to entertain any prospect of her returning to independent living albeit with home care supporting her and she hates this. She has made her bed now lie in it!!
It might sound harsh but your mother like mine made her choices, ultimately bad, which has caused you immense pain and hurt. It will take a long time for you and your family to heal, maybe you never will, but what was done to you was an injustice by your mother. I am extremely conflicted how I feel about my mother but when I look back I have ALWAYS been saving her from a crisis that she has called me in desperation knowing I will be able to fix things for her. But not any more. Not only can I not fix what she herself has done, but I have run out of fight, of energy, I just don't want to do it any more as I realise I was and still am being USED.
Now I don't condone what you allege your brother and his wife did. It sounds terrible, but your Mom went voluntarily having given your brother PoA. Her judgement was so bad, her vanity clouded her judgement. I have an immense empty pain in my heart that I wish I could get rid of, but I can't. It will be with me forever.
And yet this coming tuesday she has yet another medical appointment she wishes me to attend with her. She is unbelievable.
We can NOT blame the person with dementia for making "poor" decisions. I do not blame her for anything. A person with a damaged brain is a victim to those around them and a victim of themselves and the disease.
We do the best that we can at every moment. No more, what if, ...
I should have ,...
why didn't I...
Those days are gone. Dont blame her, that's not fair.
Make your own choices and stand by them. If you change your mind, that's ok too, but don't blame others, we can't control other people, only ourselves.
I hope this helps...
I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm speechless. May God give you strength to get through this difficult time
This is heartbreaking, I cannot believe how mean people can be to others and how horrible they can treat people. There are special places for people that do horrible things like this to people,children and animals!!!
This is universal. I dealt with it when I went home to Germany to spent time with both my parents that according to my sister were both demented. She appointed a legal guardian for both of them. It was a nightmare because the guardian did not care about the neglect both of them experienced in the nursing home. Both died last year due to neglect .
I'm so sorry for your loss💔
GOD BLESS YOU DEBRA SEEMS WE ALL HAVE THIS TYPE OF FAMILY
We had a similar situation with an aunt. Her daughter got power of attorney, stuck her mum in a home and her and her evil husband helped themselves to all her money, sold what they could of hers, even her handbag. We tried to intervene, but because of the POA, got nowhere. That poor woman died alone in that disgusting care home, while they were on holiday in a caravan paid for by her. There were many people at her funeral, but no one turned a to the wake afterwards, everyone was so disgusted.
Debra I’m so sad for you, the devastation of that horrible situation would be impossible to live with. Thank you for being so brave and so giving to help everyone with your video series and for sharing your tragedy.
Thank you!
What a sad story & and you're not alone there's always one in a family who has to have control & thinks they're entitled to everything