Bride Hates Her Mother's Dress Choice But She's The One Paying! | Say Yes to The Dress
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Kristy and her mother have very different ideas about what she should wear on the wedding day. Kristy wants to make her mother happy but also hates the style of dress that her mother loves!
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From Season 8 Episode 12
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I don't think her mom was criticizing the brides body. I think she was critical of the dresses she was coming out in.
She wasn't coming out of the dresses they have to be tailored Mom is a HAG!!!
Agreed. I think the bride is a bit too sensitive.
Family is always family giving their views
I think mom had her own ideas of what she wanted her to wear.
I agree. The previous dresses were actually bad.
i don't think mom fell in love with the dress, i think she just recognized how much her daughter loved it and she let go of having to have her way.
Yes. All the dresses shown were not flattering. This bride could have done a lot of better.
Surprisingly I agree with mom here for every dress. It's the consultant who was pulling out weird dresses
Agreed. Why do all the dresses have all that extra material? It just looks ‘heavy’ and (IMO) not flattering. And there are 10,000 ball gowns - the one the consultant picked was ugly (but not all of them are). At least you can’t see her belly button indent in the one she chose.
imo many Kleinfield dresses are ugly I hate all Pina Tornai dresses personnaly
Yes, I agree. I don’t know why this consultant had to keep showing the same curtain/comforter dresses. They were really weird and didn’t fit the bride well.
I do not like satin - not just b/c it is "old." I never liked satin when this was filmed in 2012, nor at any other time. Also, Kristy is short-waisted & Allison kept pulling dresses with wide belts that negatively emphasized this.
The weird stuff makes an interesting show.
The mother is opinionated for sure but she loves her daughter and I could see she kept a lot of those thoughts to herself 😂
This mom has no clue how to express love. She knows one thing: NEGATIVE.... 😡
She didn't keep nearly enough of those opinions to herself.
@DayDreamer1968 no kidding.
If I were her daughter, I would have called a cab to take me to the airport to fly to another city to buy my wedding dress. Adios, mom.
Looks like all her body issues are from her mother. Not good at all. And that comment about her backside looking big in one dress?? Awful!!!
@@hlondon2408i agree
I actually LOVED how the first dress looked on her
These mothers who hold the fact that they’re paying only if they like the dress should be ashamed of themselves. It’s not their wedding!
THANK YOU!
The mom was spot on, and her honesty lead the daughter into the actual perfect dress. I don't have an issue with the mom at all
That "princess dress/ball gown" was *not* a regular ball gown. That skirt with the layers and ruffles was not the kind of skirt one usually sees in a ball gown. It seems the consultant picked that one because it looked, well, pretty ridiculous, tbh, so Mom wouldn't like it.
@@bunnyslippers191exactly. Very odd choice of princess gown
She made scary faces but her heart was good. I wanted to see a real princess dress too. The one that came out had a Minoan skirt.
The mom was criticizing the dresses, not her daughter. She wanted to see her in something that really flattered her and suited her personal style.
I always find it ironic when the mother isn’t rail thin yet criticizes the daughter on weight ! I think these types of thing s are projection
I especially dislike the moms that were once rail thin, but time, hormones, and gravity got the best of them, and now they criticize because they miss being that size. Almost like they're trying to make their kids feel guilty about their part in what happened to their bodies.
Even if mom didn’t know what she wanted she knew that Kristy hadn’t found her dress yet. You could tell by the last one that the feeling was what mom was looking for!
I hate when women are always looking for their mother’s approval 😢
This was one of my favourite episodes, I wish a world of love and happiness for Kristy and her Husband.
Tell mom leave... she's lost weight. Tell mom shut up and say yes no matter what mom says and wants..
"It's always been 'Kristy has big this.. Kristy has big that.." ~ YET that's exactly what she did herself too when she was showing those old photos of herself !!! She was pointing the double chins, fat rolls etc etc.. even though she looked perfect fine in all those photos.
The mother only expressed her opinions. Even the bride liked the final dress best, and they wouldn't have gotten there without the mother's honesty! ALSO, if you aren't prepared to accept the opinions of the one paying for the dress, you should be prepared to pay for the dress on your own!
I was cranky with the mother at first but she knew what suited her daughter 👍💯
Perhaps the best thing would be to save and pay for your own dress, that way if your relatives don't agree--tough luck! They can't hold the "I'm paying!" thing against you.
Or, if someone wants to offer to help pay they should be doing it because they want to help, not because they need to control some facet of someone else's big day. My fiancé and I are completely funding our own wedding, aside from three lovingly offered contributions (which were offered, not requested.) Of those three, not one of them has said they need to be a part of a decision. Two of them are even just giving us the cash and saying, "Use it on whatever you need to use it on." That's how it should be - no strings attached.
This soooooo true. Save up and buy your own dress.
A “gift”should never have strings attached or conditions. If you want to have some control in the wedding plans be upfront and say “I expect XYZ because I’m paying or contributing”.
Wedding was in 2013. Bride is a soccer coach and has a little boy.
At her age, she should be paying for her gown, not her mom. Having the bride's parents pay for the wedding should've gone out of style. Especially when a lot of brides nowadays aren't teenagers anymore like back in the 70s.
Exactly my thoughts…why would anybody over 30 years old counting on parent’s money and approval to buy her wedding dress?
@@mariesmith1616It could be it was a “gift”-but gifts should be freely given with love, not conditions or insults!
Girls, It's your day..NOBODY ELSES..!! You pick what makes you happy...!!!!!
Is the mother capable of smiling at all?
Well, she nodded, and I saw a little smile!
@@carolynworthington8996 she must have been working overtime...
No
The first dress was the most unique and chic. The others dresses were too ordinary.
It was horrible
What’s with the Hairdos on all of these women…looks like they got caught in a wind tunnel
This was filmed in like 2013, hairstyles were kinda leftover from the 2000's.
There’s a lot of body/shape hate going on with mom and daughter. Even daughter’s description of her past self. It’s sad.
I've been there when mom's self hate about her body gets passed on to the daughter. Times have also changed and women can show off their bodies tastefully and look beautiful
Her homely mother is jealous
Actually I liked the toga dress which was the first dress. One shoulder top is unique 😊
iT WAS THE MOST PRETTY.
Weight or not, it's heartbreaking that she ever doubted how beautiful she is and was. Congratulations on your wedding and I hope you continue to realize every day how stunning you are.
IT'S NOT UP TO HER MOM. I DON'T CARE OF MOM IS PAYING FOR IT.
😦that mom. “ did you fall on your head this morning” . Is that a Chicago personality? Maybe the mother is jealous because she is still fat?
This poor woman. I hope she and her husband mover away .
there are some ladies in this video that are in need of a great hairstylist! Chicago must be full of talented people.
This is from like 2012. These hairstyles were somewhat in back then. Hopefully, they have changed them.
Her sister looks like she's straight out of the early 90s haha
I came here to say the same. All the sisters and the friend had the same haircut. Which I never liked, personally. So glad it’s pretty much gone out of style.
This episode reinforces so many unhealthy attitudes. The fact that she describes requiring a larger size dress as scary, and that they feature her shaming her heavier self... Not to mention the underlying message that you have to be slim to find love or have a wedding. It’s everything I despise about this show in one clip. I wish her well, but this girl is far from “healthy”.
She is beautiful and such a sweet daughter. Wish her happiness and all the best! Congratulations.
The dress she picked was beautiful on her.
Was the dress for her mom or for her? Or better yet, who's getting married? I mean seriously... one thing is to give an opinion, and the other is to wait for someone's approval when you are the one getting married. Ridiculous!
Hard to imagine a bride at this age needs mom's permission for anything.
Yes, I agree. Non sense that anyone over 30 years old needs her mother’s approval or finance to get her wedding dress.
Or mom to be paying for it
I’m not a fan of satin or rusching, but if I was the mom, I would be happier and smiling. The mom is a horrible person. 😢😮
Why would a mother be so critical?? 🤦🏻♀️ If my 23 year old ever gets married, she would look beautiful in a burlap sack!
Is this bride 23 years old?
No way this bride is 23 years old. She's definitely older than 23.
@@mariesmith1616 No. @absatwell8163 said "If MY 23 year old.." not the bride in the video.
@@NH-tb2sm OP said "MY" 23 year old -not the bride in the video.
@@TheScarlett618 well if a comment compares her 23 year old to the bride then it insinuates that the bride is 23 years old.
When the bride's family members say "that dress is not her" but the bride obviously loves the dress, I think that makes it 100% her style... what the family member really means is, it's not my style or my way so I don't like the dress
EXACTLY! I think her mom is stuck in the idea of who Kristy was at some point in her life. The thing is, it seems a lot of mom's don't get that their children change. Children aren't little dolls that stay the same and never grow or change as people. Honestly, it's an issue I deal with from my own mom regularly. We didn't talk for a period of 5 years a decade ago, and in that time I did a lot of work on myself. No matter what, though, I'm still the me I was way back when I was a self-absorbed tween. Didn't matter that we had a relationship and I had even changed a bunch before our split, I'm still the same kid I was when I was 12 as far as she's concerned. Point is, some mom's really struggle seeing their children as the people they've become (for better or worse), and assume their tastes have also remained the same. So, when they don't like something, instead of just coming out and saying it, they pin it on this fixed image of who they knew decades ago. That person, and those likes and dislikes don't exist anymore. People need to own their own opinions. Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk. *steps off of soapbox*
At least the mom cried in the end and told her she was beautiful. Must be hard to have a mom like that.
Yes! That's why I had to go wedding dress shopping alone. I knew what would happen.
@@user-qg8qu6gg4s Same here. I also paid for mine so I could get what I loved.
It is.
@@user-qg8qu6gg4s I still had to have mine along, otherwise it would have turned into her going to family behind my back saying, "Can you believe she went wedding dress shopping without me? ME, her own mother?!" But, to distract her a little, I also booked an extra hour at the same salon just for her to try on MoB dresses. That way, she still got her attention that she so desperately needs, but also had something to look forward to after my appointment. Sad we have to do things like this with narcissistic moms just to keep the peace.
Beautiful bride she looks stunning on her wedding day
wow she is hearing things her mother never uttered.
This is not the time to be a witch, Mom.
Well done for losing the extra weight! However, why does she need to make it part of this day? The day that's so important for any bride, finding her wedding dress.... She's looking at old photos of herself and saying bad things about the "old her" ~ sorry but she didn't look bad or fat in those old photos! She should have a little heart for that person in those old photos ~ be a little more kind to her, even protective of her....
I think when they apply to be on the show they tell somethings that are interesting about themselves and the show decides to play them up, or in other words, over-exaggerate them.
I hope that young woman can distance herself from her abusive mother after she’s married. This is why I did not involve my mother in the planning of my first wedding. Way too much opportunity to be critical and mean spirited. We were students and had very little money. My father gave us a few hundred. We held it at the student center with a female minister. We chose a western-ish theme and I made things like flower arrangements in mason jars for each table. We served the best barbecue in Austin at that time and had an amazing banana cake cooked from scratch by a European trained chef and friend. My father in law brought a lot of wine. My mother criticized everything and some if my other family members behaved like jerks. Everyone else said it was the best wedding they ever attended. My second marriage of now over 30 years was very simple with only friends attending. A lot less stressful!
Abusive? Lol. Your story is also irrelevant, too long and strange to share in response to a video like this. Another chronic oversharer without sense or tact.
I think the bride is struggling with self esteem issues big time. She's over thinking every little thing from the consultant maybe going to pick larger size dresses to her mother's fair criticisms about a dress' fit.
Honestly, she looked great in all of them. But the ivory mermaid was my favorite one
Mom is projecting All of Her own body issues onto Kristy😡
Poor girl wonders why she gained weight? Every criticism was a mouthful. Awful! She’s lovely.
Don’t seek validation from anyone. Give it to yourself. Trust me, life becomes easier and more enjoyable:)
Kristy, you look beautiful. Mom - let go!! Congrats.
Agreed with mom on dress #1 and the princess style. She ended up with the perfect dress.
I love this mum. She wasn’t being horrible. I actually agree with her on the dresses not being good enough and in the end , bride didn’t choose a very good gown!!!
Absolutely 💯. So sad for the bride. The consultant didn’t do a good job for sure.
Anyone who has to please their mother is not old enough to be getting married.
What I don't understand is why offer to lay for a Wedding dress...a dress that is of UTMOST importance to some brides on their wedding day and then want to dictate what she wears.
I feel like if you're financing...you should do so free of any attachments. Noone should have to dictate what you wear on your wedding day
Yes, it’s a gift so either offer it kindly without strings or don’t do it at all! It’s kind of sick, really.
Kristy looks amazing, she can wear just about anything.
This is the first time I cried watching say yes to the dress. I love you and your family.
Same
She looked fabulous in all the dresses 😍😍
Is Mom opinionated, yes. However, she did it in a good way. We have all seen much worse entourages with their comments. Mom held back on the couch.
Satin isn't my fave but wow@this dress she looked amazing! Beautiful ❤
I'm glad the mom gradually softened up and let her daughter feel happy
If that mom smiled, her face would crack and bleed.
Mom needs to understand her daughter wanted her to love her dress as much as her. But her mom was being to critical.
Where do they find some of these consultants?? "Tell me about the wedding? Where's it going to be." Bride-to-be relies, Chicago and dimwit consultant says "Okay, nice." Duh!
Why are all the Kleinfeld dresses so boring. The whole season your seeing the same styles
Her mother is selfish. It's disgusting! 🤮
The consultant didn’t seem to understand that a princess gown (which mom asked to see) is not the same thing as a princess cut
I'm surprised that others praised the mom. She expressed her opinions unnecessarily rudely. Thankfully, she relented on the final dress.
Mom is tough but she has a good heart and was kind of right :-8
I would like the sisters to defend the bride.
They’re all afraid of mommy-my siblings (male and female) are terrified of ticking off our mom, who is 92. Truth is they’re afraid of getting cut off and out of her will. It’s ridiculous…I’m always the bad guy but I don’t care anymore at 59 and it feels great. Respect for a parent is one thing, being terrified of them is just wrong. Live!
the mom was not critical of her daughter's body, she just didn't like the dresses. And I agree, the dresses weren't anything special.
Mom sounded harsh, but she did it from pure love. She knew that her daughter was beautiful and she wanted her to pick the very best dress. 🎉
Mom can you please just say something nice!
is this Sandra Bullock's long lost sister?! she's gorgeous AND funny and so sweet ❤
Her mom should be more supportive ❤I think Christie is lovely and to lose all that weight ❤wow🎉
My advice to the groom: move you and the bride at least 9 hours drive away from the MIL.
It seems like Donna needs to let her children be adults. It’s not about you dear. It doesn’t even matter if you are right. It’s about letting your children find out who they are and supporting them.
They put her in a ballgown for her mom & that's the best they could do? That had to be the ugliest ballgown they had in the store.
The mother is opinionated but all you need to do is to show her a dress she asked for and she will know it’s not the right one on her. 😊
She has got a beautiful figure and every dress looked nice on her
That’s why I rather paid for my dress on my own - I had a smaller budget but I got what I want 💪 she doesn’t look like a teenager she could have paid for her own dress it’s her own fault
Most of these women are adults. Why dont they buy their own dresses to ensure they get the dress they love. These Moms are ridiculous.
Mum wasnt critical of her shape it was the dress choices.
The mother new what she was talking about from the get-go, she knew her daughter best!! It was just coming across as unfeeling, she was just getting concerned about the sales girl's choices.
Christie's figure looks amazing.
The bride-to-be had a beautiful figure she worked hard for. I just did not like the dress selections the consultant pulled for her. Christy did not need all that rushing on her dress. Her figure could hold itself in. I feel Gok or Randy, or even Monty would have found her something perfect.
💯 right
Very nice
Why do they all have the same hair cut?
She did wear the dress almost 10 years ago, they have a son.
Mothers are always right!😂
I do not understand why mothers who are paying for the dress insist that the bride must pick the one that mum likes….utterly selfish imo….if I end up paying for my daughters wedding dress she can pick and wear whatever she wants…it’s her day, it’s her dress and it’s her decision and I would never make her wear a dress that I picked out for her if she didn’t like it just because I’m paying for it!!!
But then the bride was hardly a teenager marring without funds. She could have payed for her own wedding dress - simpel as that. It’s a bit annoying to see these grown up women expecting their parents to pay for their dress
@@4legs4paws55She probably accepted her mom’s offer because she didn’t want to hurt mom’s feelings (or hear about it until she dies!).
Has this mother ever looked in a mirror? How could she derail the confindence of her daughter in that way?
exactly
Most likely mom hates herself for her own looks and projects it to her own daughter.
Mom is envious of her figure. I've seen it before and I'm sorry.
this consultant needs better training. this bride would look great in so many styles! The first three were just not flattering.
Yes. The consultant was truly terrible in this appointment.
I'd rather pay my own dress if that's the only way I could pick the one I want for MY day !!!
If you're buying someone a wedding dress, it's a gift, and you shouldn't get to judge their choice. Also, let's normalize buying your own dress and making your own decisions. If you dress yourself every day, you can dress yourself for your wedding. 🤷🏾♀️
I think most women take an entourage because they seek attention and validation-I went alone because I didn’t want any other opinions as I was an adult and didn’t care what anyone thought about a dress.
Which year is this the hairs got me wondering 😀😀😀😀😀
2012 - 2013
Interesting dynamics between mom and daughter...glad she held out and got the tighter fitting dress, it looked amazing on her.
Ladies make sure you have the money for your wedding gown, then you can buy a gown that you love but still get your mothers input
When I was dress shopping with my mother (yes, in the last century) I tried on one that she just loved. I knew it would look ridiculous on me, but I wanted Mama to see it. She took one look and said “oh my God! Take that off!” 😂😂😂 Nobody cried, no hurt feelings. I trusted her to be completely honest and not let me make a fool of myself. When I put “my” dress on, we both knew it was the one. I wouldn’t trade those memories for anything. It wasn’t about Mama controlling the appointment or my dress choices. It was about love and trust.
Glad they finally found a dress they all agreed on.
It's bad to take someone with you who wont even smile.😢