The Whole Truth | Diving In Deep with Sara Evans Ep. 01
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.ย. 2024
- Join renowned country star Sara Evans as she embarks on the next phase of her journey... podcasting. Her new show, Diving in Deep, gives her the space to share another side of herself and her music. In this debut episode, listeners learn the much anticipated story behind Sara’s newest single, “Pride,” and hear first-hand the details of the trials of her relationship with husband, Jay Barker. Sara recounts the initial love story, revisits the challenges, and unveils for the first time the pivotal 2020 moment that led to a separation and divorce filing. She speaks about where they have landed today and the work that got them there.
Raw. Reflective. Transformative.
If you or someone you know is currently navigating an abusive relationship, please know that support is available.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline offers confidential assistance, resources, and a compassionate ear. You can reach out to them at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), or visit their website at www.thehotline.org for invaluable information and safety planning tips. For those more comfortable with chat-based support, the National Domestic Violence Hotline provides a live chat feature on their website by texting “START” to 88788.
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Speaking as a woman who has now left behind two bad marriages, I don't judge you for staying. Because you didn't stay. You left, he did the work, and you came back to solid ground. The reason, I think, that a woman like me would judge you is that not many men/partners like that actually do the work. They walk away and fail to swallow their pride. Mine went to prison for his choices. My son had to be the one to tell me to leave. That hurt. A LOT! I'm glad you found a way to stand up for yourself and that he chose to take the wake up call for what it was. The fact that you can tell this story on this platform speaks volumes about where he's at now. Because none of my exes would tolerate me telling the truth. I've never really experienced a man doing 'the work.' I'd love to meet more who do.
Thank the Lord for forgiveness. No one knows this situation outside of their family, please let them heal without judgement.
Sara, I get it. I worked with victims of crime for over 25 years. People are not always going to understand. Abuse does not end until both people heal. I am so happy to hear you and Jay are growing stronger. Neither of you are your past. Marriage always takes work. You both deserve to love and enjoy each other. You are in my prayers.
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I have listened to you from your beginnings, from when I was living in Arizona, I went thru a calm divorce, then met a new guy, who wooed me, moved to IA had 3 kids & he left.
Abused emotionally, I was scared to call it quits, raising 3 babies on my own & running a farm, with critters & hay to grow & harvest, as he fled to another state. Your song Stronger I would sing from the top of my lungs as I drove alone, tears falling down my cheeks...
I pray you feel how much your heartfelt song helped me get stronger. Its all I was raised to be.
And when you said you hurt for Jay, picturing what he was going through when he was arrested, I went through the exact, same, feelings.
But my ex never wanted to get turned around...
So here we are 12yrs later, he has no relationship with his kids..
I am still On my own, no partner, on our farm, that I work for with literally my blood, sweat, & tears, & my kids are turning out beautiful with God in their hearts.
You are helping so many people by being open and honest. Keep being you! God's got you all! Keep singing and writing and talking! 😊
Thank you Sara this wasn’t easy! This broke our hearts when it all happened! God sometimes makes things wrong to make them right! So happy your family is healing together! You all deserve it ! Blessings
Your podcast hits so hard with me. Without being vulnerable to the world as I am not Sara Evans, when you speak of your dad, children and how/why you react the way you do, I feel it in my bones!
I absolutely adore you 💕 I have “STRONGER” tattooed on me because that song got me through my failed marriage 💕 You, friend, are a blessing to this world - don’t ever forget that 🫶🏼
Eek. Lots of judgmental people in the comments between here and TikTok 😳
Yes there are 2 different sides to each story. This is Sara’s truth. Respect it.
Sara knows what is going behind closed doors and knows what’s best for her and her family… especially her kids.
Keep your chin up Sara, you’re amazing. I look forward to your new album ❤
The people who judge don't matter, they're close minded hypocrites... She said her self he will be on the podcast eventually and this is her truth, so if u have nothing nice to say say nothing
You only get to "tell your truth" if you take the standard feminist route. Otherwise you're "weak"
There is a need for space between relationships for this reason. We need to process the prior relationship and be on our own a good while before we enter a new one. People go from one relationship to another and being all that into the new relationship. Relationships are tough no matter what. Doing that hard work is soooo important. ❤️
I'm so glad your 'closet chaos' days are behind you. You showed such strength in this podcast. God bless.
Often times it’s harder to stay and fight for your marriage. Bless you both Sara.
I became a widow very young. I was only 35 at the time. When I turned 40 I met someone who really stole my heart, but he became emotionally and mentally cruel to me. My heart couldn't handle another great loss, but I knew I needed to end it with him, so I did, and I was in agony from my heartache. I honestly felt like I wished I could go yo sleep and not wake up because every waking moment was painful.
I heard your song, "Stronger" and I told myself to fight through the pain and I did! I am better today and still single, but happy because God is with me every step of the way.
I hope your heart has wings to fly and remain in your happy place. Thank you for being a part of helping me find mine ❤
Deeply respect your openness. Sharing your story will help so many others . Big fan of yours from the beginning. Fly fly fly
Jay got himself thrown in jail is right. I hope he got his anger management problems dealt with. I think it is great that you are talking about this because so many women do deal with this problem. I don't think marriages should be thrown away. You can get back and become stronger. I saw Sarah last year and she puts on a great show. Many prayers for your family and their happiness.
I happy you decided to do more on TH-cam. I’ve been subscribed for awhile and didn’t think you actually would come back after Covid. God bless.
Forgiveness is the gift you give yourself to help others.. I am so proud of your story..
*Sara* - Our politics & religion are different, but I’ve always loved your music & spark-I wish you healing & peace of mind. Thank you for sharing your story. No one can judge you but God. 🤍✨
God bless you Sara…for believing in marriage and forgiveness…for working through everything instead of giving up, like so many do.
Oh Sara…what a raw, emotional and heartfelt podcast. I felt your pain and cried along with you. I’ve always loved you and your music but it’s all on a different level now. I’m so proud of you. Looking forward to seeing more of your podcasts. ❤
Well said 🫶🏻
Hello Sara. I am rooting for you and Jay. Much love to Y'all.
Thanks for sharing and pray for you, Jay and the kids. It’s going to be hard as if you didn’t realize that lol. I’ve been down this road in a past life and God did guide me. Keep listening and don’t be afraid to do the right thing. Take care.
Sara, this is what courage is! Untold amounts of healing will come from you speaking your truth! Bravo! ❤️🫶🏻❤
Love you, Sara! Thank you for sharing such a difficult story. Wishing you all the best!
So happy for y’all! Your such a beautiful strong woman! May god bless y’all with a lifetime of his love and mercy!!!!
Praise God he led you out and set you free!You are such a sweet soul and I love your music since born to fly!God bless you and your family sweet lady!
I love my family, farming, writing songs/playing guitar, woodworking in the shop and painting large portrait paintings. That's all I need in this world to make me happy. Wishing you all the best. ✨☀️✨
Having just read an article referencing you conversation with Cheryl Burke, I just want to say, you are as beautiful today as you were when I first saw you in the 90s and you will always be. I have always loved your music and still sing along no matter where I am. Fast forward, I am enjoying your Podcast and truly appreciate your strength and willingness to share so much of yourself. Thank you!
I don’t know, Sara. I’ve been through this and worse - and I know everyone is different, but there is a difference between someone actually changing and the behavior being dormant. If you are still being triggered, it seems like you are still waiting for the other shoe to drop. Everything you are saying sounds like every abused woman who goes back (including myself). From the sneaking around to the making excuses for him to making him appear sympathetic so your friends will accept it. Yours is you don’t know if he had too many concussions or he hadn’t dealt with things, his feminine side is not developed - mine was oh he was abused as a kid and his dad made him box and it may have cause injury (sound familiar?). Everything he is saying is exactly what they do when they are luring you back or are in that “honeymoon” period again.
I truly hope if anything even remotely close to that happens again - that you leave (for real). You can love someone, they can be the love of your life, and you can still not accept behavior like that. Starting over is hard, but be prepared to do that if necessary. Not wanting another divorce is not a good enough reason.
I truly hope for you that it isn’t necessary, though. All the love. 💕 I don’t know you personally, but your music has made its mark in my life through the years. After hubby #1 I’m sad you are going through this again. I’m sure your friends are keeping shark eyes out for you. This just sounded way too familiar to not speak up. Don’t take it as anything other than that. ❤
I was honestly thinking this same thought..sounds so like my ex husband and all his manipulations.
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THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR HONESTY and for discussing this difficult “in the shadows” topic. You are doing such a service to many women!
Thank you for acknowledging that most men will not be able or more accurately, willing to change. It is encouraging to hear that your husband is the exception and that you are smart enough to demand lifelong professional help for him individually and for you jointly as a couple.
A book written by Lundy Bancroft entitled “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men” is a huge help to the many confused partners in an abusive relationship.
The second time a man yells at you or fights with you, get this book and read it. Consider getting out immediately and saving yourself heartache.
I believe your husband is changing or he never would
have “let you” go public.
Sara, I’m so happy that you and your family are happy and healing and I pray that continues. You are a smart, brave woman who has just helped the world!
I’ve been a fan since you first started but never really paid attention to your personal life because I work in the industry as well and I was always told to respect others and not act like a fan. this story is truly powerful. I had no idea you went through so much. Then again we all do but keep it to ourselves and those close to us. In the end it’s your life and the life you chose with your husband and your children. That’s all that matters. I wish you both all the best as you move forward in life together. These types of songs are the best. They’re genuine. They’re straight from the heart. Sara the night I lost my father I felt alone. I wouldn’t be in music today if it wasn’t for him. And his influence on me. I remember getting home in the Beverly hours from the hospital after everything happened. I sat there not knowing what to do. Then I went into my music room picked up my Fender Strat and played the hell out of it to some SRV. Because my father loved to hear me play anything from SRV. That was probably the only true moment I think every out of pain in every fiber of my heart came out through music. Thankfully my father left behind his voice forever etched into vinyl records that I can listen to when I need to hear his voice. These new songs make you cry but that’s ok. Because everytime you perform them it will make you stronger. Stay strong and all the best to you and to anyone who feels alone and doesn’t know where to turn just dig deep within your soul and you’ll find the answer.
I have the most respect for you. I wish more celebrities would do this so that everyone doesnt just hear the news reporters clips and judge. Back in December me and my long time live in boyfriend whom Iike you I love with all my heart and we got into this same situation he was arrested and TN dont play. There has been a no contact order ever since and we live in GA, coming back to TN in May for court and I can only pray this will all be dismissed so we can start healing and communicate because like you I love this man and we deserve a chance to work this out ❤
Great testimony of your enduring power to fight for the love and relationship you all have.
I’m so proud of you! So beyond happy for you and your family finding peace, balance and harmony.
I truly want to thank you for your testimony! It’s not easy divorce/ staying/ therapy. None of it is easy) my parents are divorced with 3 kids, my mom is remarried since 2007 and hearing from a mother struggles with. I feel like understand my mom better!❤️
I know I’m not saying it write what I want to say, but I want to thank you sooo much for this❤❤❤
I can so relate to you Sara. Girl I wanna be your friend lol the talks we would have 😊 love this side of Sara ❤
I want you to know that your family is always on my mind and in my heart. I understand that this is a challenging journey, but I believe that with faith and perseverance, you can overcome any obstacle. Please remember that you are not alone, and my thoughts and prayers are with you every step of the way. Sending you lots of love and support during this difficult time. ❤️
I ❤️ you Sara. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I can't wait to hear more!! 😍
Life is not easy. Best wishes
Fellow Missourian here. Born and raised at Lake of the Ozarks. My dad worked with back in the day.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Ya Know people of stature/ celebrity have lives too Sara Evans is one classy Womam for sharing a side that few could even imagine ( most think its all peachy clean and full of Roses) NOTHING COULD BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH Ive played guitar behind some of the country legends and it took me awhile to figure out they put their clothes on the same way as I do Good Luck Good Music and May God Bless You Sara Evans Your one Hell of a Singer and a better person
You are a very strong woman. I am also in-between an intro-extrovert so I understand where you're coming from. The thing I love the most about you is that you are so down to earth and real. Thank you for sharing. You are loved!
The courage and strength I imagine that it took to do this and be so vulnerable given your status is inspiring Sara… God bless you ❤ God bless your marriage and family as well. I’ve dealt with similar situations and I cannot wait to hear this album.. if you ever want to write together… I would LOVEEEE to get with you and see what we come up with! 🥹 Thank you for putting this out there! Can’t wait to watch more episodes of your podcast! And I am SO happy you’re releasing new music! I grew up singing your songs and they inspired me so much as an artist😘
Listen sara I've been through a bad brake up and I'm still in healing process even now I haven't moved on from it so don't blame yourself big up yourself 🎉🎉❤❤❤
Very well said. You are being so brave sharing the truth.❤ So excited about your podcast!
Thankful for this for both of you! Love seeing the positive outcome of hard work!!
I wish the best for all and hope everyone will get help when you mix drugs and drinking youll find the ingredients for a abusive relationship when you know you know walk that line and fix yourself im walking my own and learnig each day❤🎉😊
Best wishes
I deeply respect your openness and vulnerability! Therapy not only saved me, but made me a much much better person and has allowed me to be a great partner.
Thank you for sharing your story... you do what makes you happy..God bless. ❤
Co dependence is real. It sounds like this was your relationship. I believe people who want to change, can and with God, prayer and therapy you can succeed. I hope this next chapter brings you two together as two independent people that support each other and grow as one.
Love you Sara! Thank you so much for sharing your story and I’m so happy you both are able to work it out and fix the issues.
Sara, you are incredibly brave to speak out and share what you are able to share at this time. Highly visible marriages and families are easy targets for a plethora of fiery darts. Prayers for you and Jay and your children. 🕊️🛐
I’m a firm believer in Counseling and in Faith. Question : Did your Daughter receive counseling also ? Did you and her and Jay go together? I think it would help her to heal. Because now that she has seen that side of him, she will always wonder if he gets mad, will it be like that time. Talking from experience here. I pray that your family can all heal . I pray for many happy blessings for you all. ❤🙏
Hi Sara, I somewhat knew your husband as a neighbor and as part of the community we lived in, back in 2004 up until you guys married. I had always hoped to have the pleasure of meeting you but left town in 2010. Yours and Jays marriage deserves respect and privacy. Don’t let the trolls or others ever influence you. I was always taught, there are three people in a marriage, him, her and God. Knowing what little I do of Jay, I firmly believe he’s a keeper, and worth fighting for. Being that none of us are without our own issues when entering marriage, especially adding to it blending two families together, you two knew you had an uphill battle and years from now, you two can look back to say you weathered the hurricane! I normally don’t comment much on channels but right around the time you two married, I entered a relationship with a young daughter with a person I was totally wrong about. Luckily, God saved me from marrying this man, and although I loved him deeply, he refused to seek help, or do the REAL work because he wasn’t a good man like Jay! It was so hard to walk away, I get it and being alone sucks but sweeping the emotional abuse and what could have easily turned in to physical abuse made me know I had to protect my daughter and myself. Sharing your story will resonate and help many. Praying you and Jay are healing, and that both of your families are all well. Thank you again for sharing, I’ve often wondered how you two were doing and came across your podcast today!! Love your spunky attitude!! God Bless.
I felt your pains. Thank God you're back to your normal self
I'm glad you set the record straight that you don't know what people have going on when no one is looking. I remember Jay lost his dad right after his last game at Bama, got married, got divorced. He has issues. Don't blame you for putting in the work, you deserve to be happy and be safe and and have peace. Looking forward to more episodes on your podcast
Thank you for sharing! Healing is MESSY and takes A LOT of work and time! Continue to hold your truth and your boundaries. Trauma bond is real. My heart goes out to you. My biggest take away from this episode is YOU teach others how to treat you. People can totally change but THEY need to do the majority of the heavy lifting. God promises in His word that He doesn't allow for pain in our lives without birthing something new (Isaiah 66:9) I pray true and complete healing in your marriage and for new wine to be poured into 100% wine skins and an end to collateral damage. May Christ bring true repentance and restoration in your marriage and family. Love you!
I am so happy for you and Jay.. we all learned from Duck Dynasty that living your life in a way that your children respect you into your old age is TRUE wealth..
My daughter and I saw you and your daughter perform at Penn’s Peak in PA. We love you both and thank you for sharing such a private piece of your life to help others. I admire how hard you and your husband have worked on your marriage. God bless you. ❤
Love you Sara, I'm glad God can heal and change us!!
I can’t even imagine the humiliation of going through this so publicly! There’s a reason for, “in sickness and in health”. Beat the stats! Blessings to your family from Alabama ❤ Roll Tide!
The emphasis on mental health is critical more than ever today and everyday afterwards..
Loving this episode! Glad you’re speaking out and glad you stayed with him. Gods blessings. Prayers for you. Glad you have a podcast and glad you guys made it through a tough time. For better or worse.
Love your music Sara , I can very much relate being twice divorced, due to my military injuries back neck , PTSD etc. divorce hurts the children. Devastation is terrible.
I applaud you for sharing this aspect of your personal life. Very brave and respect you. Not easy and everyone deals with real life issues...doesn't matter who you are. I wish the best for you and your family
God bless you and your family!
Kudos for being brave and sharing your story. I experienced abuse from my alcoholic ex husband for years. I didn't even end it when he was drunk and we fought over a loaded hand gun. I know he was going to commit suicide. It was a miracle how I was able to open my flip phone out of my pocket and call 911. I stayed 8 more years then finally had peace with deciding that he didn't deserve to be called my husband anymore. I'm still at peace today.
Ive been through it all. Everyone has to make their own choices as no situation is the same. People should not judge others because only you know your situation. ❤
Sara,❤ my prayers are with your family❤
I know someone that could use this podcast Sara. Thank you for inspiring me to do better. I am a man and oncthe other side of the coin. I ended my marriage and my ex and I get along so well, but I have a friend that could use this advice from you that us suffering emotionally, psychologically and financially. I cannot go into too much detail, but I did share the pointers you gave us as listeners to my devout friend. God asked me to watch your podcast. He then inspired me to share with my friend, so actually you are responsible for this divine intervention. God bless you and your music BUT especially your family.~ Marlin KAJIKI Hughes.
I'm so glad you had the courage to share your story. ❤❤
Creativity plus openness equals podcast gold.
Thank you for sharing your truth. That's not an easy thing to do and especially when it's something so personal. It takes a lot of strength and courage to stay and keep working on a marriage like you've just essentially told the whole world about. You are helping so many people by being so open and honest.❤
You have just told my story. WOW!! I can't speak on your husband's issues but I know my husband suffered a lot of trauma in his life that he never healed from and it has come out in various ways in our marriage. For me, I am working on my own issues so that I do not allow his toxic behavior to affect me. ACA has been the best thing that I have ever done for myself.
Sara. I hope you believe in yourself. I have always been told that people don't change, but I think you are brave for sharing your life.
I think he’s definitely making the effort to change.
* he had such small shoes to fill * and failed * 😭 broke my heart 😭 ... and Sara, who was looking out for you ? 💔 No-One 💔 ... I totally respect your decision bc I've been there and done that. Thank you for your honesty !!! God bless you and your family ... ❤❤❤
thank you sara ..wonderful how good therapy and forgiveness is .. God bless your family
@19:54, was when I realized Jay has a good heart. Yea therapy is really good:)
it’s a gift, if you can get into the right set up. Y’all have to heal. God bless you both, thank you for sharing Sara. 💖
I have experienced kind of similar with my ex. I too often felt silenced as a women. I love him so much, but I had to finally walk away. Not physically abusive. Heck, would even protect my physical boundaries. Was in love with me. And I was with him, just.. not as.. idk, fixated? But.. he was manipulative & at times emotionally abusive. Gaslighting, aggressive, guilt trips, twists, makes me question myself, when I would try to leave. He wasn’t always kind to other people. And he & I both are in ministry & I can’t have that:/ That & other stuff. It’s just been.. a whirlwind. I had to let him go, I had to. When other women tell heir stories, it makes me feel less alone.
48:41.. the danger for wemen.. is also for men.. the danger is the untreated trauma that instead of developing coping systems for, becomes the relived trauma on new circumstances and people/partners.. doctor Drew has been talking about this subject for decades, providing one of the only outlets exploring the topic and presenting multiple options for people in the loop of untreated trauma either involving drugs and alcohol or not..
Behavior that is affecting the areas of your life that have a negative effect is a problem..
Bringing awareness to the topic is half the battle.. thank you Sarah..
Thank you Sara for your podcast and for bringing awareness to the effects of what our past traumas will do to our relationships. ❤
Writing is an outlet. I'm proud of you #SaraEvans for using your song writing skills for expressing what and, how you felt in your experience of your situation. I myself write songs and poems that are a bit personal, but hey like I said writing is a coping skill that everybody should try, you get all those feelings out in that way and it's healthy to do.
hey girl- love the episode. You are a strong woman Sara😊Keep the faith and keep loving your husband. Trust in the Lord and keep praying.😘
Good luck Sara, relationships can be such hard work. Glad nothing bad happen to you or your kids. God Bless
You are one brave lady! Thanks for sharing. Respect to you.
I'm so ready for this album. Definitely know these feelings. 💛
Tell your truth. ❤❤ you’re so strong. 💪 your story has hit home with me..
24 years of marriage there’s been passion, jealousy here and there, good, bad and the ugly. No judgement here. Some marriages are pretty and perfect, some are messy and a whirlwind or all the emotions. We’ve learned that stubbornness and pride are our worst enemy. Be humble, communicate. Best wishes.
Sara! You are speaking as if you’re having to walk on egg shells. You’re beautiful inside and out. I’m disappointed to hear this and hope you have the best relationship whether that be with Jay or someone else.
❤❤❤ I love a happy ending
🌹Heres to Resilience...
I've walked parallel paths with You Sistah Girl. Follow your Heart .
Tammy sang it Best ..🕊️
🎼A Real Fine Place to Start 🎶🎵
So much courage 😊
wow i do know how you feel and i learned that as long as your happy to hell with anyone who try's to bring you down cause they have no idea whats in your heart only you know,
And tell him I'm saying a special prayer for him❤ I couldn't make it to the big leagues but I was a letterman defensive end🎉
I think it's very brave of Sara Evans to come forward with all of this however I do have to question how everything can be his fault. Nobody is perfect and that includes Sara Evans.
Sara your the best! Good luck with the podcast!
Brave woman..
I didn't survive a very abusive marriage of 21 years and it's good to know if someone did😮
I didn't realize that was Sara until she smiled.
Beautiful 💕❤️❣️💓
i could not ask for more still speaks to me its all bc of all the comments another youtuber & i shared
Love it!!!