Cooper Harris Case Analysis | What is Forgotten Baby Syndrome?
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- This video answers the question: Can I analyze the case of Cooper Harris? Was this a case of “Forgotten Baby Syndrome?” How does law enforcement determine appropriate and inappropriate behavior for people in crisis?
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To prevent hot car deaths take off one shoe and put it in the backseat with the baby. You won't get out with one shoe off and forget the baby.
Good one !!but can you legaly drive with only 1 shoe? I still like this way of thinking 👍
That is actually a good idea, I drive with my shoes off when I can not sure if it’s illegal but I prefer it bc I can feel the pedals
I've rarely driven with shoes/boots on (took my test minus shoes too) and always put my handbag and shoes on the back seat. Never left the baby in the car but did leave it home alone for 5mins. Sleep deprived, my youngest was about 5 days old when I went to go shopping. Git ready, off I set and a feeling of unease was overwhelming me. Got 30seconds down the road and realised that I'd got the baby ready and as he was asleep, I put him in his cot so I could get ready. I'll never forget that day, the panic, the fear and the guilt even 31yrs on!
Keeping your wallet or work ID with the carseat is another way to remember.
How simply smart that is! Thank you.
Please do a personality profile on each of your plants. I suspect the cactus is high in factor 2 psychopathy
I LOVE this idea!
This is the humor I needed after watching such a heartbreaking analysis. Thank you.
I think Hector has boundary issues.
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Haha! How did you reach that conclusion?
You can't judge people's reactions to the death of a loved one. I lost my son, my only child and I was composed at the funeral, but my nights are disturbed with the horrific sight of him in the casket.
My deepest condolences for your tragic loss, Kelcie.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Please take good care of yourself.
@Mel F
I'm sorry for your loss.
Take good care.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I too prefer to grieve at home alone. There is nothing anyone can do so there is no point in bringing them down.
I've lost quite a few close family members, I don't really cry because of death... I'm more likely to act agitate or cranky if that makes sense.
Great analysis. The father's behavior toward women was an all-consuming addiction. Everything else in his life, his wife, his family, and his child were subordinate to it. He continued to pursue women knowing that in at least one case his behavior was a serious criminal offense, yet he was willing to live with the fear of criminal prosecution to pursue it. His mind and energy were so focused on gratifying himself there was nothing left for the care of his child. He didn't intend to harm his son that day, but his frame of mind excluded any thought for his care or even his presence. Dr. Grande's speculation that this was, in fact, a case of negligent homicide is highly probable.
Have a buddy who is exactly like this. He cheated on his ex-wife and used me as an excuse for his escapades (saying we were camping overnight). When we would go on hikes, his phone is always in his hand as he is always working on his next woman. You cannot have conversations with him because he is so engrossed in that world.
When a kid is that young, his life is depending on the guardians. Negligence to this extent is murder in this case, I think justice is served. That poor poor baby🙏🙏
I'm just here for the plants.
@@nennnennn I do think that negligent homicide is totally fair as a charge, and I know many think that it should be punished by life in prison, but in this case it makes me really concerned for the function of our legal system. This guy was declared guilty for first degree murder, while others get charged with negligent homicide. It seems like everyone wanted to believe he committed first degree murder because he was a shitty husband and was cheating with multiple women. (This isn’t a defense of the guy, just that the police and court in this situation seemed biased towards murder because of his affairs.) RIP Cooper.
It’s not surprising that someone juggling 6 women and a wife plus an underage girl would be absent minded. His head definitely wasn’t in the game. I think he forgot. He didn’t know but he should have known. It was negligent homicide.
Daycares need an efficient way to notify parents for no-shows.
fyi - the daycare sent him an email that day
I agree. My son goes to family daycare, so I'll be asked if he's not going in or late. But I still get paranoid when hubby drops him off and I'll text her asking how my son is coz I get anxious if hubby hasn't told me about drop off (I always get him to text me, just in case- because of these stories) 💕
@@ugleebuggs7597 omg really?! 😢
I don't think Leanna cared either way
@@tessajones9393 wow, what a life that must be!
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Does Dr. Grande talk to plants too?
I am dying over the shopping cart story 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh my god this image is gonna take up space in my brain now and I’m so happy about it 😂😂😂😂
I'd pay to see this vlog. And I hate vlogs
One of the texts he sent to a mistress said he was tired of being married and being a father that the novelty had worn off. Him saying that makes me feel he had done this on purpose because he wanted his freedom.
I've always felt that way too. There was no "accidentally forgotten".
@@hjtres7261 damn, sorry for your kids, your marriage and for you
@@kallymcdonnell I'm not the one who left my kid in a 100 degree vehicle. And was cheating on my spouse with underage girls. But thanks...lmao
@@hjtres7261 hey sorry, didnt mean to put you off. That was my bad. I thought you were saying that you have felt like the novelty has worn off on marriage and parenting like OPs post. It is sad when people become unhappy with their lives, thats why i said i feel bad.
I definitely wasn’t trying to insinuate that you have neglected your children , left them in hot cars, or that you would be cheating w/ underage teens.
@@kallymcdonnell All good :) have a good weekend
The thing I keep coming back to is the text message he sent his wife that day... asking when she's picking up Cooper from daycare.
I'd like to know if this is something Ross texted his wife about daily, or if it was out of the ordinary for him to ask her this. If he's never texted or called her any other day to ask when she's picking up their son, it would seem odd to me that he did so on that day. Almost as if he wanted to seem like he thought he had dropped Cooper off that morning. 🤔
Same here ! Because if that was his first time asking her what time she was picking the boy up from daycare I’d say he’s definitely guilty.
I also think it's super weird that Dr. Grande just glossed over the fact that his wife was both SHOWN the video about animals in hot cars and that his wife also SAID to the daycare that if her son was never dropped off that her husband must have left him in the car. So eery I don't think she was in on it but I think she has a feeling it was premeditated and just can't admit it to herself. Never disagreed with Dr Grande on a case more than this one to be honest.
"They were going to watch the movie 22 Jump Street. So, either way, he was in for a bad experience this evening." Savage.
@booby scoo too - Savage - but hilarious! The doctor slays me.
I wish he and I were friends.
My kind of humor.
Super dry delivery
In regards to Ross’s internal guilt & decision making skills: “Plus he was willing to pay money to see 22 Jump Street.”
Call me a snowflake if you want but the doctor sounded extremely socipathic there. Not funny, man.
@@tonydedoscortados217 snowflake
I'm less than 3 minutes in and I feel physically nauseous and an overwhelming sense of dread thinking about what that child must have been experiencing trapped in the car. That poor, poor child.
Yea, absolutely horrible. It must have been absolute torture.
Osmium..I had the same feeling at three minutes in also
Yes, as a father of a 2 year old, this case was incredibly difficult to hear.
Everyone with a heart felt it too :(.
I heard his eyes where popped out, cops said it was horrific
“Either way, he was in for a bad experience.”
One of his best yet.
When I was a baby my mum once left me outside the shops in my pram. She only realised when my grandmother who lived with us then was like, "where's the baby Florence?". It was normal back then (1960s) to leave a baby in a pram outside a shop when you went inside (fear of abduction was negligible). She just came out of the shop and walked home.
My mum was a loving mother who cared passionately for us kids, never negligent, abusive or unloving in any way. Sometimes people just glitch.
This happened to me, it was one of my first outings with my 2months old and i left her in a bakery, asleep in her pram, after buying bread. The owner called me shouting and i kinda "woke up". I had forgotten that I had the baby with me!
@@frappalina
My Mom, who was a fantastic, loving and caring Mom, once left me at the library.
I was quietly reading a little book, she was browsing and just left and drove away.
She said she kept thinking she forgot something...
And finally realized it was me!!!😅
She quickly came back and I was still in the same spot with my little book.
Cheers!
I put my newborn through parcel pickup at the grocery store. She was less than two weeks old. I realized about 10 seconds later and ran back to retrieve her. This “forgotten baby” thing does happen! But hours and hours pass?? No, something is wrong about that. You have to be in some really shady crap that’s occupying your mind to forget for so long. He wasn’t thinking about his baby at all.
So true! Parenting can be exhausting, and getting distracted does happen. I've always felt murder was the wrong charge in this case. Involuntary manslaughter makes more sense.
When I got my first baby, sometimes I forgetting her on the backseat. I felt ashamed of myself. How come so important like that, I can’t remember if I have it. Sometimes your brain can play tricks on you
With the flattest affect ever: "Thank you for watching this segment where I name plants." Why do I find that so funny? lmao
It's because his humor is so dry.
@@Iiwii11 yes and I love it! Haha
Julie Carlson Me too!
Wendy Swain I know what you mean. I have a sense of humor like his and sometimes people don't know I'm joking. It's like they want me to go, "ha ha ha," but I just can't do that.
Because were so used to him being calm about everything that we expected the slightest bit of enthusiasm about a personal subject at least 😂
"they were going to watch the movie 22 jump street, so either way, they were in for a bad experience"
love your dry humor 👍🏻
That slipped in so casually. I was like wow.
I genuinely spit my tea out when he said that. His dry humor is so hilarious!
😂😂
I hate it. worst part of the videos by far.
@@_sowhat_ Why? Without his humor the videos would be too dull and monotonous. I think he's hilarious.
I'm still unsure what to believe because when my sister died extremely suddenly and the police knocked on my door and told me.. I barely reacted at all. I'm sure they thought it was strange. I can't even explain it. And I loved her with all my heart and was the closest person in my life. So I do agree there is no normal way to act given life changing news unexpectedly.
Edit: I just wanted to add a thank you to everyone for the positive feedback. I guess I should of also said I do lean towards him being guilty because as people have pointed out I didn't accidently kill my sister. I imagine my reaction would be different if that was the case.
Agree. After watching my father die of cancer I went out with the family to get tacos and sat laughing in the sunshine. I must have looked heartless or crazy, but the grief and depression hit me later. I loved him so deeply, but grief is strange.
@@annie_1718 I think it's also part denial / shock.
When my dad died, I chose to do my morning shift at work because I wanted to keep busy. Aside from a slight internal numbness, it was just an average day at work. Then I went to my mum’s and we watched whatever crappy TV was on in the early afternoon, because we weren’t ready to properly talk about it. Then I had a couple of friends over and we ordered in some food and had, honestly, a really great night. I remember laughing A LOT! In fact, I don’t think I properly cried until his funeral 2 weeks later - I remember going to my best friend in tears and happily saying “I’m finally crying!”.
Grief is fuckin’ wild.
Absolutely. When my grandfather died, I remember faking tears because I just didn't know how to react, and felt like if I didn't act sad I would look like a psychopath. I wasn't able to actually cry and grieve for real until at least a few months later. Humans are weird and everyone reacts to upsetting news differently, it's in no way fair to judge someone off that, alone.
We all handle things differently. I get irritated when I see people complaining that others aren’t acting normal after a death.
As if any of us know what normal is?
As a former Daycare worker, I’m wondering why someone from the Daycare facility didn’t call one or both of Cooper’s parents when he didn’t arrive that day… at the Daycare I worked at it was protocol to call a child’s parents if they didn’t arrive at their normal drop-off time without any previous notice of an absence or a phone call from the parents that morning.
That phone call would have saved his life!
I would go so far as to say the Daycare was negligent, not legally perhaps, but certainly ethically. Schools and daycares do and must plan for what happens when a child doesn't show up as expected. For all they know someone could have snatched the child and be crossing borders by the afternoon, when the parents come to pick-up.
@@m2heavyindustries378 exactly. Even when I was in high school, if I was absent and my parents forgot to call the school to notify them, the school would send an automated message to my parents about my absence that morning. I worked at a daycare in the infant room and the director would call parents as soon as possible if a baby didn’t show up when they normally would. This is something every daycare should be doing, I just wonder why a call wasn’t made.. regardless though, it’s the father’s fault ultimately.
@@napoleonsparis2058 yup. i didnt think about that. but thats probably the most important thing in this case.
it couldve saved his life.
Back In the 90s when my son went to daycare you didn’t have to call if they missed a random day. If they were sick for more than a day that was different. But it’s not like missing a day of school when older. It is daycare. I don’t think the daycare missed anything
Incels: "I can't get a girlfriend because I'm ugly!"
*Meanwhile, Ross had a wife, had a son, and had 6 girlfriends looking...the way he does....*
Fair
He’s absolutely hideous!
Haha. I was thinking the same thing. He looks like Pillsbury Dough Boy. But let's get real, you all know those "6 girlfriends" were probably superficial, stupid, narcissistic, lying online "relationships."
Yes but Ross probably never thought or call himself ugly. Being kind to yourself will make you so much more attractive to women.
@@katrina5265 haha, the positive thinking movement. These so-called relationships of Ross's were probably online, nothing real, and nothing more than weird nakedness and attention seeking.
When Ross text his wife about Cooper and picking him up at day care I think would have triggered the fact that he did not drop him off that day
That’s what I thought too.
It easily interprets the other way as well; in his mind Cooper of course was in the daycare, the "black out" confirming itself. "When fixed, stay fixed". Finally a big thanks to Dr Grande: your equilibrium almost has a European touch 😎
And the fact that when his wife went to pick the boy up, her first reaction was "oh he must have left Cooper in the car". That's pretty weird.
Also, parking in the shade gives the appearance that he didn't forget his kid intentionally.
Not necessarily I watched a Oprah clip from back in the day about a mother of 2 girls who was also a principal at a school & it was the 1st day of school it wasn't usual for her to take the child but she worked the whole day & even spoke to her employees about her children and showed pictures of her kids to them & she cannot understand why she just never realized. She didn't realize until she went in the car to leave around 4pm that day. You really just never know until it happens to you and hopefully it doesn't.
@@justkim9827 everybody wants to park in the shade lol
Regarding forgotten baby syndrome... When I was a young mother living in military housing, our neighbours had just had a baby recently. I was outside with my own child and watched them both walk into the house hand in hand with no baby. I didn't think much of it until a few moments later the two of them came rushing out their front door actually yelping out loud and dashing to their car to retrieve the baby in its car seat. They were solidly shocked and mortified at their indiscretion.
Indiscretion
Ive come across a car where a baby was locked in the back. It was on an extremely hot day, in fact we were at a water park. The baby was beat red and foaming at the mouth. My friend found a rock and smashed thr window. Thr baby was so hot like a pot roast straight out of the oven. By then cops came on the scene bcuz a bystander called them. The mother was non chalantly walking back from a convenience store carrying a "big freeze" (frozen drink) for herself. Unreal!!!
@@doeeyes2 she mustve been high or intentionally wanted to be free of the baby. I hope they tested her. And followed up to see if she has a pattern of neglect and abuse.
U never ever leave a kid in a car.. simpel as that
@@doeeyes2 wow that is just awful that poor baby. That had to be intentional.
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When my daughter was 2 years old I went through a phase of leaving my purse everywhere. My daughter was clutched in one arm and must have replaced in my mind and on my arm, my purse.Thank goodness I never forgot her, but I drove myself nuts with forgetting my purse.
Yep. Same with wallet. My child would NEVER be forgotten.
At my age now (76), I call myself Wonder Woman; "I wonder where I put my keys, I wonder where I parked my car, I wonder where I hung my jacket..."
@@dreyddog19 eh people say that but if you're exhausted cause baby kept you up all not or whatever, tons of stuff going on, it's easier than you'd think. When my son was younger i forgot him in the car for 4 or 5 minutes once and freaked out super hard on myself. Took him to the pediatrician and everything who said he was fine and that it's actually more common than you think
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I had a friend who left her son in the car. She drove all the way to work before SHE REALIZED he was in the car. She took him to daycare. It scared the crap out of her. Never happened again.
I believe it. Severe sleep deprivation is really bad. Poor her. I’ve done shitty things too.
In this case though I don’t believe him one bit
It just goes to show that this kind of thing does happen. Stress, sleep deprivation, and the fact that some people are just more prone to forgetfulness than others. Particularly people with higher energy levels who tend to micromanage things. Both my husband and I suffer from this and we are constantly forgetting dates, misplacing things etc... I have to sympathize with these people to some extent because I could see myself making a mistake like this. I feel like people who don’t understand are too quick to judge. People like to see things in black-and-white because it is draining to be emotionally conflicted about things. Genuinely good people can make honest mistakes that make them look like monsters. I’m not saying that there shouldn’t be consequences for those mistakes but it doesn’t make them bad people, either.
@@transmeeshax6872 "high energy people who micromanage things and are forgetfull" is a nice way to reframe (sub? -) clinical ADHD. Have to remember that one. (edit: fixed typos. yes, typical me...)
I nearly did the same except my son was old enough to talk and he spoke up asking where we were going
This type of situation is really common. I've seen it many times. Most times the parent notices it. Or someone else does. This story is tragic.
"...so either way he was in for a bad experience this evening..."
I appreciate Dr. Grande's humour.
As impossible as I want to believe leaving one’s child in the car would be….if dropping off the child was completely out of the normal routine for the parent coupled with a ridiculously distracting, all-consuming “hobby,” it may have just happened. Also, if the child had fallen asleep on the drive to the destination, there would have been no familiar noises of a child in the backseat to remind him. What an absolutely tragic case. Thank you Dr. Grande!
This case haunted me. I kept imagining what Cooper experienced. The lack of response when the keys were chucked into the car at lunchtime to the smell was pivotal to me.
The Father is PETer pumpKIN EATer who is hung upside down on his own bROCKen cross as HE is a CAD MAN who is the 2 fACEs of Santa/Satan 'clause' Daddy The KING of HIS CASTle, MANsion or hoUSE of abUSE to women and children in HIS hoUSE. She follows HIS lead.
@@nettejohnson7492 A real loop of fruit. Wow!
@@nettejohnson7492 off your meds?
@@nettejohnson7492 you need help
Would a body smell that early in though?
Cooper paying the price for his father's all- consuming affairs makes total sense. Thank you Dr. Grande for shedding light on this misunderstood syndrome. Your videos are always educational and insightful.
@@gurutruecrimeguru1405 he literally went back to the car at one stage during the day. how the fuck do you not notice your fucking baby in the back
@@jenniminogue9344 no one said he's innocent. He's guilty as fuck, but in a different way and extent.
I can kinda see why she would go straight to "he left the baby in the hot car"? I mean, to me I think she did that because 1- if he was never dropped off, he probably never left the car and 2- I do understand the immediate thought of "well he'd never intentionally kill cooper" and "ross was busy and had to go to work", so I can see how two and two were put together and led to Leana thinking, "Ross left cooper in the car"
She didnt say “he left the baby in the hot car” she said “he left the baby in the car”
@@melody3741 who cares...
He had a sex addiction it sounds like, & had a lot going on. Maybe he'd left the baby before, & it wasn't for very long, or result in injury or death. That & the fact the child didn't make it to daycare, could be a reason for her to jump to that assumption....
@@IChooseJesus9091 Agree sounds like something that happened before. No matter what this man is paying dearly for putting everything before his child💔
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I love how much Dr. Grande dislikes the idea of paying to see 22 Jump Street
Gee, don't you?!
@@lidahall5928 most definitely
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I dislike the idea of having to watch it. Let alone paying to watch it..
That’s all I need to know about this dude to know is of questionable character.
I find it difficult to believe he didn’t smell anything amiss in the car, the stench of sweat & excrement must have been in the air surely ?
@@kittyb275 🤢 it sets in that quick!? What does it smell like??? I’ve googled it before and can’t find a clear answer
@@chelseamunroe You know the sickly sweet-sour smell of hamburger when it goes bad? Like that, only more awful and intense.
@@chelseamunroe Sickly sweet rotted meat, imo. Really heavy and cloying, and once you smell it, some weird little lizard brain part of you knows what it is.
Maybe his car already smelled bad and he assumed it was just his own garbage
@@MissKitae sounds evolutionarily horrifying
I’m new to these videos & initially thought Grande was weirdly without affect, like maybe on the spectrum. Now I catch the humor & find myself laughing out loud… he’s hilarious 😂
So he asked his wife, "when are you picking up my buddy?" Then went to see a movie with friends after work? It's weird to me because I am always eager to get home to my son after only a couple of hours being away. That inquiry seems so staged.
*"When U picking up my buddy?" is what he texted. Totally a dealbreaker.
He seemed to have a lot of social activities in this one day…
Did he ask that everyday? Or just that day to cover his butt.
I'm just speculating, but what if he didn't start the day with movie plans. What if he and his friends decided to go when they were at lunch? Or maybe it was a friend from his office. I'm not familiar enough with the case to know which friends he was going with. If it was decided at lunch, I find it strange that he didn't notify his wife, but maybe that was something in their messed up dynamic. I don't think he was a good guy, but I just don't know if he intended to kill his son.
I'm the sort of person who is always checking I have my keys, wallet and phone on me at all times. If I had a kid I'm pretty sure I'd include it in my mental list.
You judge very easy.
@@pluutoop I was talking about me.
@@linusfotograf yes....yes you are...very easy to judge other people if you don't even have children of your own. You know for 100% that you would Never forget your child in a car?
@@pluutoop I’m pretty sure yes for the reasons I mentioned. Tell me how I’m judging anyone though.
I do this same thing with my five year old, one time I was very tired and driving somewhere. I realized she wasn't in her car seat and started panicking/crying about how I could have just left her. I called my husband and of course he had her, being sleep deprived does funny things to you.
That poor poor baby what he must have went thru because of his weiner obsessed father. Rest in peace little Cooper.💔
Orange county
Dr. Grande is a deep thinker with a tender heart. Thanks for another smart, funny and spot on opinion video!
This is really sad. It’s pretty obvious the common threads with these type of cases is being overworked and exhausted. I feel so bad for the kids and the parents.
The laws in Australia 🇦🇺 are becoming much tougher in regards to leaving children and animals in cars now 👏🏻
Only a bogan would leave a kid in a hot ass car
@@yazansakran3326 sadly non bogans can be just as dumb
Good. Little kids and animals are at the mercy of humans. It sucks to be stuck with some dumb ass mofo that can't take care of themselves or is sadistic and enjoys making the kid or animal suffer.
Fatal Distraction is a great article on people who truly forget their children in hot cars. The interview with the neurologist about the effects of sleep deprivation on the human brain was fascinating and scary.
Sleep deprivation is used as a torture method. Will look up the article you mention, thanks for that suggestion.
And blacks and poor people and women and mentally compromised people will have most of that
This is the article that changed my mind on the subject.
And the fact that he was constantly sexting 8 women throughout the day i feel works in the favour of the forgetful baby syndrome theory since it can be used to argue how preoccupied he was. Sexting from morning and throughout office, managing multiple secretive conversations with work.. his mind was obsessed with his addiction and highly preoccupied thus making the forgetfulness more likely than an average parent. Not saying that he is innocent or guilty, but the 8 women fact imo makes an argument for his defence as well. He had quite a bad lawyer.
Moreover, it is mostly the men who find one seemingly potential partner who are looking to get out of marriages in such ways. Men engaging in multiple meaningless sexual counters with the knowledge of their wife are mostly looking to keep their family life as well as have fun on the side ie best of both worlds. They dont want to lose either of them. Again not arguing in favour but stating what arguements could have been made. His lawyer did a bad job of just objecting to all mentions of his side-life and trying to brush them under the rug as "irrelevant" which was a pathetic strategy given how evident they were. He should have probably tried to embrace them and make them work in his favor. But then im no lawyer.
At 60 years old I still think about my daughters every minute of every day because I love them and they mean everything to me. I pack my 14 year old's lunch every morning. I couldn't imagine being preoccupied with anything else in my life other than my family.
That's how I am with my grandsons. The youngest is turning 17 in a few days & I still cook, laundry & take care of him. I never take them for granted & am thankful they are all healthy.
I remember when this story first broke. I was so upset thinking what that poor little boy went thru. I thought that guy was a monster. Thanks for putting it in another perspective.
Knowing Dr. Grande has a warrior dialogue between his plants going on in his head while he strolls the aisles makes me feel better about my own vivid imaginings.
Ross was charged with multiple crimes, including his haircut.
Lol
Ericka, you made me actually laugh-out-loud!
@@barbmccafferty4533 😂🤣
And his loss in the genetic lottery.
And his nose or should I say snout!
Dr.Grande you are so funny, and wonderful. Love your explanation of the plants names!
I absolutely can’t imagine anyone forgetting their child. I worked as a teacher and had a TON of stress doing that job, and not once did I EVER come close to forgetting my child was in the car. I also have MS which causes memory issues, and again can’t imagine it. It’s your child, they are suppose to be the most important thing in your life. How could you possibly forget?
It happens very frequently actually. There is a very good documentary called Death of a Child on the subject which you may want to watch.
Dr Grande, you need a T-shirt that says, "Who Moved the Plants?".
I would buy this
Me too 🙂👍
I would buy this as well!
🤣🤣🤣 gosh!! he might gaslight you.
Great idea!pls include the mug.with print,Not diagnosing only speculating over a cup of coffee😀😀😀😀
"Either way he was in for a bad experience.. ". Shade thrown. Shade caught.
😆 I love the part where he names his plants. He really can come off as static and clinical and sometimes lacking personality because of his affect, so it was really nice to see him just talk about something he likes that's silly and fun, I found it very endearing! 👍👍👍
I will never believe that someone can forget a child in a car. You can forget a key, a purse, your cellphone...but not a baby. Thats ridiculous.
"It's just awkward sometimes to get them all to play nice in the shopping cart."
-Dr. Grande, PhD., plant dad ❤ 🎓🌱😍
"There's nothing scientific about naming plants." - Dr. Grande, PhD., 2021
Just show them all the same love and attention w/o playing favorites and your plants will be as happy as your wife and children.
My parents once forgot me in the car at a shopping centre, but they noticed within a couple mins while they were still walking through the carpark
My wife always sits in the back next to the baby
This is one of the best analysis I’ve heard about this tragic case. I also enjoyed the plant-naming backstory 👍🏽
As a dad to a 10 month old girl, I cant understand how this happens. When she's in the car with me, virtually everything I do revolves around her. RIP little man
I’m torn between him being guilty and having his head so far up his A$$ that he couldn’t think of anything else. Poor sweet Cooper. May that innocent baby be resting in peace.
I don't think he killled him on purpose mistakes and accidents can happen. It's his only son/child it seems. I know people can make mistakes. Yes a parent that dosn't want a child could do that but mistakes happen and I don't think he mean't to or did it on purpose. I have been forgotten before at school because my mom was so busy working single mom and she thought she had already picked me up and dropped me off at home it was a mistake. I even forgotten so many things too and important things. It can happen. Even when my brother was suppose to drive me to school he would forget sometimes and pass my school. I know some people say how can that a parent forget a child or thought they had already dropped them off/pick them up but it can happen
@@arichalevas2298 Agree. I feel so sorry for him about this. He has to live with this the rest of his life. It’s just sad. My mother forgot me once and I don’t blame her.
@@arichalevas2298 Dr Grande left out his internet search history showed he'd searched 'baby deaths in hot cars'.
@@sarahholland2600 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How could he forget this one????
Thank you for adding a reasoned response to this tragedy.
It's interesting how different parents minds work, consciously and subconsciously. I was 23 when I had my son and was a single parent. I took my son everywhere, even to the toilet with me. I relaxed as the years went on but I remember being extremely alert to where he was at all times
I agree. I hardly slept for the first two years of my son's life. I was chronically exhausted, but there's no way I would have ever forgotten he was with me.
Right my daughter is five and I still haven't pooped alone yet. She is working on it though
I appreciate your content very much. Your analytic style, and you always add new perspectives to a case. I love the sound of your calm voice.
I could watch Dr Grande’s videos for hours. Never has deadpan been so interesting. Keep it up!
When I worked at Walmart , several times people forgot their babies in the store and went home, once they didn’t come back until45 minutes after the store closed. The management wouldn’t even let us call the police to do a check to make sure these people were safe to take care of their kids.
You mean like toddlers walking around or babies in car seats or what?? Either way thats disturbing.
Baby in car seat in buggy
“Either way he was in for a bad evening” 💀🤣
That joke seriously hit me in the gut, its just so dark yet nonchalant lmao.The Doc is an absolute savage.
21 Jump Street gets the Epic double dinger in this video! Who rubbed you the wrong way more? The Jonah guy or the Tatum guy?
I laughed. I thought the movie wasn't bad though. Maybe my standards are too low.
@@pegleg2959 same that one got me lmao
Yeah, that was funny.
This case really fucks with me because I have severe ADHD and forget important things like this all the time. I don’t think I’ll ever do it with a child because of my overwhelming mommy instincts, but it’s a terrifying thought. Plus his wife still thinks it wasn’t malice murder.
Also I thought 22 Jump Street was funny.
When people ask me why I don't have kids...THIS is exactly why. I would have left their car seat on top of the car and drove away. My short term memory was SO BAD on birth control. I hate to imagine how bad it would have been on real mom hormones.
@@aprilshamel I gave a girl a ride once. She had 4 or 5 kids, but just had a baby. She set baby carrier on top of the car, helped other kids in, then she got in the car ready for me to drive off. I asked "are you forgetting something?" When my grandson was in kindergarten instead of dropping him off at school I got on freeway entrance to go to work. Thank God I remembered one or two exits down!
Literally same!! My biggest fear ever.
My ADD is terrible, too. I have a serious phobia of pregnancy or being a parent because I worry I will forget about my kids. I actually used to have recurring nightmares where I have all these infants that keep dying because I set them down and leave them somewhere, forgetting that I have kids. It's horrifying. I'm 33 and will never have kids for this reason
The only videos I love watching are Dr. Grande's. Best channel on TH-cam. "It's hard to get plants to place nice in a shopping cart". Another reason I love Dr. Grande's videos. There's always a few good laughs to be had.
Ross filled his day with busyness and lots of witnesses; this was completely premeditated.
I wouldn't be so sure... In the day of my sons baptism i had to make both of us ready, do the weekend shopping, meet the priest, and walk the dog. All of this before 10 am. I was so busy that i forgot the dog at the store 😑
Yeah, makes sense
@@chritels1246 I feel bad for your child for forcing religion on them. They don’t deserve that.
@@rhyshamilton7406 😂😂😂 I'm an Atheist, but OK 😂 Here in Austria we let our kids just get baptised because they get a bunch of presents. But I really appreciate your highly informed input. You made me a better person. Thank you
Yes..obviously...a horrible horrible crime!!
He’s a liar. What I find most interesting is the sympathy people have toward men who make this mistake versus the vitriol they feel toward women who do.
I agree
Huh? Never heard any difference in my life. Must be city talk. Damn city people and their weird morals.
@@GnosticAtheist there’s definitely a difference. Look up Brenda Slaby who branded the most hated mom in America for this mistake and the difference in her coverage to that of pete koutrakos who accidentally killed his wife and dogs with carbon monoxide. Both were on the Oprah show and the reactions are night and day.
Great point!
@@Richard-lh3te I am not saying you are wrong, at all. I simply do not have any knowledge either way. I live in a small town in the far north of Norway. My only exposition to city life is what little media I bother to watch. Oh and a few youtube vids lol.
I really appreciate your empathy towards how mental health really can distort your decision making and how little police are equipped, therefore empathetic or even consistent with things like this. I know my story doesn’t even compare to the level of intensity - but I was in a disassociative episode operating a vehicle. I accidentally side swiped a rail and pulled over. No one saw me it was very slight. I was over 15 miles passed the exit I was supposed to get off at where I was ironically going to an appt with my neuropsychologist. I had no idea what had happened, I was very scared, completely confused. I watched back the video. They clearly thought I was under the influence. I blew a zero so they assume drugs. They first described me as “frantic and speedy” later as “sluggish and slurring” - the DRE contradicted the original suspicion of DUI. Meaning both thought I was under the influence, but the reason they suspected it was the exact opposite of the reason they decided to pursue charging me with it. It would be like them saying “yes she definitely had weight issues” and one report concludes in severely underweight and the other concludes in severely obese. But they still say I have weight issues. It wouldn’t make any sense. Those things need to match and be consistent. Anyway, I obviously had nothing in my system had a short stay at a voluntary hospital because I was actually just having a PTSD episode. I got convicted of a dui, but was not charged. I was operating a vehicle dangerously. But it was because my mind wasn’t there. Maybe if a mental health professional was involved from the start, we could have eliminated the legal stuff stress and money and anxiety it caused, and had me sent straight to the place that actually helped me. Like as I was having the wpisode, after the arrest, I called the police on myself because I felt like I was going crazy and what do you know? They brought a mental health professional to the scene. We talked, I wasn’t “going crazy” but I was having an episode and wasn’t safe so she helped me find a nice place and they drove me there in the front seat of the car. Much different then being hand-cuffed in the back of one the day before - strictly because they didn’t understand.
Sorry guess I needed to get that off my chest 🤣
And if you had hit a pedestrian instead of a rail this story would have a dramatically different ending. I'm glad you're in a better state now, but maybe you shouldn't have driven a ton of metal moving at highway speeds in that state. The public would have been safer for it.
This case really speaks to why affairs are so dangerous. They take away from your responsibilities to your spouse and children, and sometimes can even be fatal.
Forgotten Baby Syndrome is one of the most awful things I can imagine happening to me. The details in stories about this happening just make me feel sick.
But I doubt you’d take your child in the car for the day and just forget for the whole day.
One trip, maybe as I’ve seen it happen. But an entire day with multiple stops just seems too far fetched.
I agree on different ways people react to stress. For example,when someone tell me bad or sad news I often have to stop myself from laughing or smiling even though I don't find it funny at all.
I have to stifle laughter at funerals sometimes
I had a friend like that. She got us in so much trouble laughing and smiling at the wrong times. 😆
I love it, as always Dr. Grande! The naming of the plants was the best! Love your thought process! Hilarious!
You're delightfully eccentric, Dr. Grande. Laid back, deadpan, and imaginative; an original.
How in the hell was that guy having multiple affairs? He looks like the Pillsbury dough boy. (And I’m obese lol)
Probably because his BMI didn't carry that much weight in their decision.
@@_lil_lil I wasn’t only talking about his weight. Lol. My obese comment was about myself not him.) I was also talking about that Gerber baby face. He looks like a baby in a grown up sized body. I mean, when you are looking for a mate looks don’t matter at all. I’ve been married 20 years and neither myself nor my husband are good looking. That doesn’t matter. But if you are looking for a hookup like this guy was (and you aren’t the hookers he was also seeing) looks usually play a big part in it. Bc it’s about sex not an emotional connection. Ya know?
@@aerynstormcrow I think they were making a joke. Bmi didnt hold much WEIGHT get it?
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Either hookers or some online relationship nonsense,in which he didnt use real photos of himself!
I’m only here for the plants...🌵🧡
(that’s a lie, lol)
Love Dr. Grande, but I'm always following the plants, it's weirdly satisfying. I hope to see a hanging fern one day, that would just blow my mind!
Dr. Grande is taunting us with the idea that the plants speak and can realize their personal motivations, when it's so clear that the plants are helpless to stop him from using them to send messages to the alien lizard people.
@@_Nanigashi 🤣🤣
🛎🛎🛎
I'm only here for Dr Grande 🇬🇧
I watched the trial and the one thing that made me think Ross meant for Cooper to die was that lunchtime trip to the car to drop off lightbulbs. He claimed that he kept his head above the top of the car while he tossed the bag of bulbs inside. Who does that? And why would he toss a bag of light bulbs instead of leaning over and placing them inside the car? Then, while he was walking away, he held his cell phone up when some people walked past his car. It was obvious he had flipped the screen and was watching to see if they looked in the car. No question he was guilty.
Completely. The surveillance of him in the parking lot looks highly suspicious.
glad you are not on my jury amazing what people can tell from an internet video🤮🤮🤮
I feel like he definitely could have been checking to see if Cooper was alive when he put the lightbulbs in the car. He could have tried talking to him while throwing the bulbs in the car and taken the lack of crying (since he would have definitely been in pain) and lack of response (which an 1.5 year d could do) as a sign of death
When you're editing, you should put a lowpass filter on your audio track and play with it until the hiss is gone. Pretty quick to add once you have a template, and makes all the difference.
Now I will never un-hear the hissing 🤣
I hope he sees this!
Lmao didn't expect Tara Babcock in the comments here xD I'm a subscriber hello :3
@@viktoriavesely513 thanks for the inadvertent referral! 👌🏼
Dude I didnt even notice it until I read this. Smh lol
“22 jump street. So either way he was in for a bad evening.” I love your deadpan jokes.
😂😂😂 me too!
Even after your analysis what's tipping me away from it is The Smell. You can compartmentalize and just miss a lot of things but smell, bad smells especially is just different, at that level it's just not something you don't notice
I would be with you on that one if O hadn’t dated someone in the past who just didn’t really smell well. He just didn’t feel it as intencly as a normal person. I remember it being totally useless wearing perfume for him because he just couldn’t smell it.
There's a good reason for that: the sense of smell is pretty much one of the only sensations that connect straight to your brain with nothing in between. Vision is another. Touch for example needs to pass through the spinal cord for the most part. Hence you can have smells trigger intense sensations and memories.
Specially since we are told decomposing humans smell so offensive to us as a survival mechanism. Not just that this "isn't good to eat" (sorry,!) but also that there is or has been hazards in the area. There's a reason LEOs say it's a smell you'll never forget and never mistake. Consider Caley Anthony's dad immediately identifying the smell in her car, even though the grim possibility would not be one he'd want to consider
I love how you look at all sides and have a human as well as professional opinion. Great job!!!
This is about an event that happened a number of years ago in Macon, GA. A professional man, working downtown, left a young child (son or daughter) in his parked car when he went to his office. That am he had forgotten to take his child to daycare. Fortunately, this child was found around 30 minutes later and rescued. Understandably, this man was devastated knowing how close he had come to killing his own child.
I hear “The Pink Panther” theme playing when Dr Grande is moving the Plants...
OMG. That's exactly what should be playing, lol it would be so funny to hear that.
Perfect!
Nice
How about, speeding it up and playing the "Benny Hill" theme tune ?
@@mlsaulnier Me too, lol.
This made me cry. That poor baby! Why didn't the daycare call and ask either parent if he was coming in or not?
cuz BUSY!
I do appreciate your sense of humor along with (of course!) your expert opinion. Thank you.
I remember going to antenatal classes and the midwife telling me that a new mum got out of a taxi, leaving the baby in the car (luckily the taxi driver noticed). She put it down to the new mum being so used to being pregnant and having the baby with her all the time, not yet used to thinking of the baby as a separate entity to herself.
this is definitely an experience that occurs bc I have felt this with every single one of my babies. it was a very strange thing to adjust to them being outside of my body.
@@stellabell9074 As a woman who has not had a child, this is interesting and terrifying.
@@Username26425 ikr that’s honestly quite terrifying
22 months later?
@@stephaniehowe0973 You'd be surprised how that, coupled in with COUNTLESS sleepless nights, can turn 22 months into what's perceived as closer to 22 days..... I only wish I was kidding.
For all our efforts, the human brain and the human body is _not_ a machine. We make countless errors every day, even with perfect nutrition and perfect sleeping habits.
When you take those perfect self care habits away.... The human brain starts to behave more like a tapioca pudding, and less like a flawless machine than it already does.
Though I don't think that's what happened in the case Dr Grande is discussing. I'm just saying for the records sake.
His police interview did not sit well with me. His crying felt forced and disingenuous.
Wow, strange. When my mom pass (from cancer I was there with her) I cried immediately, I curled up in a ball in the floor and screamed. She passed at 11:28pm I don’t think I stopped crying or move from the floor in the room next to her bed until maybe 6am. Even then my boyfriend had to come and literally carry me away, and then I cried on and off for weeks after. It’s coming up on 3 years and I still cry when I think about her. No pictures up because it’s hard to look into her eyes and know she’s no longer here with me.
As a father who regularly takes my daughter out on the town in Arizona, this story was absolutely heartbreaking
As someone with no kids who has never even left a ham sandwich in the car, this guy should have to spend 12 hours in a hot car.
I saw this case when it happened. The way he “cried” about his son being dead was absolutely pathetic. He put on a show and a very bad one at that. Then he had the audacity to complain to the police the car was too hot. What?! He deserves to go out the same way poor little Cooper did.
@@gurutruecrimeguru1405 He is still a narcissist devoid of empathy
If I was the police I would have left him in the car after we got to the station and came out 2 hours later saying oops
If it wasn't too hot for him, why are you complaining it was too hot for Cooper?
@@gurutruecrimeguru1405 Ross is a piece of shit who knowingly let his son die in a hot car. The “doctor” is wrong and is absolutely bias in this situation. Have your even watched the video? Poor acting at its best. This garbage human wanted a life without a child and killed him off.
@@madamlt5758 This guy is biased towards men. I don't believe ms Bobbit severed her husbands penis because he failed to give her an orgasim either. what bs
Greetings to other Dr. Grande fans!
Hey there! 👍
Hi from Scotland
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Hey Richard.
I've watched A LOT of your videos, arguably far too many, and this is my favorite one thus far. I get the impression it's one of the earlier videos made covering a crime but I think it's much more interesting than the more recent episodes where you are clearly much more comfortable behind the camera and the quality is higher. I wish you would share your opinions more often and go beyond the bare facts. I particularly appreciate the discussion about the police trying to interpret human behavior despite having no expertise.
I just love your unbiased analyses, calm tone, and dry humor.
"Also, he was willing to pay money to see 22 jumpstreet" XD gotta love those subtle jokes
Especially said it that very calming voice he has.🌞
Stories like this make me thankful my parents didn’t murder me when they easily could have.
I know my parents would never think of killing me they have souls and huge loving hearts
The word ‘murder’ implies intent. I don’t think these people always have ...
LMAO!!! They still could.
I think my parents have gotten close, I was a little sh*t when I was little.
They named you Kevin. That’s child abuse in my book. 😜
When my mom died when I was 12 I felt nothing, just detachment. My aunt later said I acted like it wasn't happening. I made myself cry, and I cried later on at the funeral but I was trying to make myself feel something I knew I should feel but didn't. A year and a half later I completely fell apart. I was profoundly affected by my mom's death, moreso than my 2 siblings who grieved more openly at the time. I was depressed for years.
I don't think you can always know how people feel during tragedies by their reactions.
When my children’s grandfather died (he was a very loving grandpa), my 12 yr old daughter didn’t react. She seemed so detached. After a lot of gentle conversations I discovered that she believed that it wasn’t real, that grandpa was secretly alive and would magically come back. Despite the fact that she saw him in his open casket she held these irrational beliefs.
It took almost a year for her to finally accept that grandpa had really died and for her to really break down and cry.
You just never know how a tragedy like that will affect a person-especially a child.
I appreciate you're naming process. It is very wholesome.
You say “Every body said Harris was a great father”,,,,,,well--that’s what was said about Chris Watts and Chris Coleman too.
I’m with grande on this. This sounds more like negligence than malice.
God, sorry, but I think Chriss Watts touched his daugthers 😖 that man looks evil.
And Susan smith if you want to add mothers
That's so scary, to think that beneath good loving fathers lays a murderer, just waiting to attack..
Chris Watts was a great father though. Obviously only until he wasn't, but everyone, including family friends and folks from both sides of the family never wavered on their assertions about his parenting.
When I was a baby my dad left me on the roof of the car and drove to the other side of the parking lot before he remembered I wasn't in the car.
Good thing he didn’t brake hard or make any sharp turns! 😆
I'll bet your mom never had to nag him after that...that is some serious "bringing up the past" ammo....😉
Love your video analyses and your dry sense of humor! The case where Cooper was left in the car has always bothered me as I could never find the facts that proved the father guilty beyond a reasonable doubt.
Your transition from forgotten baby syndrome to naming plants was pure perfection. I always thought your backdrop was a green screen fake! So happy to find out it's real!! Tyfs🌵
"There's nothing scientific bout naming plants"
*Carl Linnaeus rolls in grave*
No literally. What
What's scientific about naming your pets?
Carl lived near the church but often found a reason not to attend because he found some interesting plant on the way there. His dog then went on his own to the church , stayed under Carl’s seat at the front bench but never stay for the hole sermon. When the priest complain to Carl not attending he replied that his sermons was so long and boring not even his dog could stand them. 😂. It was in Danmark church near Uppsala in Sweden, his home is a museum and have a nice garden with many plants he gave scientific names. 😉
Lol 😂
i thought the same thing when he said it 😂
Its astounding there were 6 other females interested in him
Right! What did they see in him!!!!
Why?
Depravity knows no gender
I'm pretty sure that these women were his size / in his range or category.
@@consuetudinis lol what?
Still love this channel !!!!!!!!
Very astute analysis and great levity.
Thanks Dr Grande!
What a brilliant end to give us the viewers therapy after such a sad case.
I think your way of thinking is wonderful and thoughtful Dr Grande.