He expressed his fears in the wrong way. I understand he was worried about wasting time and being rejected. However, he should have trusted the process instead. That's why dating is about taking chances. No excuses on his part!
Geez someone needs anger management. Definitely would have been a possessive boyfriend with anger issues. Not a good combination. Good job for recognizing the red flags. And who cares you cancelled at the last minute. You owe him nothing!! Stay safe!!
I will block someone if the call me 3 times in a row after I telling them, "Hey, I am working. Like when I say I'm working you should of courteously got of the phone... Then, do not text after getting off the phone. That is sooo annoying...
@@---nj7hl yup! You only get to talk to the people you match with, and the girl has to message first. And if she doesn't message within 24 hours, then the match disappeard
wow I totally feel you about not wanting to talk on the phone, especially cause I’m in college and live with my mom and the walls are like paper. makes talking on the phone with a tinder guy even more awkward haha
Girrrrl! I hate thirsty men! I matched with a guy on Hinge and found out that he lied about his location. I live in Texas and he was actually in Arkansas. When I spoke to him over the phone he claimed to be moving to Texas soon and oh, he’s also unemployed. Thankfully I gave him my Google voice number instead of my real one so I decided after speaking to him that I wasn’t interested because he wasn’t stable.... I let him know my concerns.. He proceeds to text me all week then the following Saturday morning he called bright and early to say he drove to Texas and wanted to meet up. We didn’t make plans, I never initiated texts and basically ignored him that week after talking to him. Why would I agree to meet with you?! Blocked!
This sounds like my situation I was in he lied about his name. He knew he was lying and than when I found him out he tried to justify it. I blocked him he is slow and totally delusional
I almost met a guy I had been chatting with on a dating App. He seemed great! But come to find out, he worshipped the Devil and told me that he has an altar to Satan in his house! OMG! Block and Delete!
Watching this video 2 yrs after you posted, but I’m sitting here literally talking to the TV. If I didn’t know any better I would swear we dated the same dude. I literally had to tell my dude that if he ever called me again when I was just 1 min behind schedule, that we were going to have a problem. When I finally broke things off and blocked his a$$, my AT&T call blocker showed that he tried calling me 41 times that day. After I told him I was blocking him. And this dude was 55 yrs old. I was 50 at the time. Totally taught me to trust my instincts. Never again will I move forward with a date if a guy acts like that before the first date even takes place. 😬
You definitely dodged a bullet there! I have an in person crazy story. Years ago I was single and working at the DMV and this guy who seemed really polite and nice came in and asked if he could take me out on a date. I thought why not, what's the harm in a date. It had been a rough day and it was at the end of my shift and I jotted down my number really quick on a piece of paper and gave it to him. I didn't hear from him at all but I was thinking ok whatever. Didn't really think much of it. He comes in the next day and cuts someone off that's walking up to me and angrily says something like "is your phone turned off???" And I'm thinking wtf at this point and I didn't know what he was talking about. I then tell him that I need to help the person he just cut in front of and he goes and sits down. After I'm done helping the person, he comes back up and I'm like "what are you talking about?" And he says he tried texting me and I say I never got any texts. He then shows me the paper I gave him and I said omg that last number was supposed to be a 0! I wrote it down wrong." Later I was like uuuhg why'd I have to say that cause now he has my correct number. But I was just so shocked at the time and wasn't thinking. So then he leaves and he texts me an hour later about the date and I tell him, I'm sorry but I didn't appreciate the way you came in like that and I don't think we should go on the date. He starts begging me though text that he was only trying to offer to pay for my phone bill if it was turned off and blah blah all these excuses. I keep politely telling him I'm sorry but no. A few minutes go by then my phone suddenly starts blowing up with all these messages calling me names about how I'm stuck up and all kinds of crazy things. I ignore them and don't text back and then a few hours go by and he starts sending me apology messages. Then when I don't reply, a few more hours go by, and he blows my phone up with calling me names again. I ignore him for the rest of the night and he shows back up to my work and immediately when I see him, I walk away from the counter and my coworker tells him I'm on break and she can help him. He says he left his money in his car and he'll have to come back. He then shows up the next day in a complete disguise...suit...glasses...hair slicked back. I leave again so my coworker can help him. The DMV was in a big building and I got security involved on case he comes back again. I blocked him and he eventually quit showing up. But that was scary! I was afraid to walk to my car after work for a long time.
He also took pictures of me apparently while I made him sit down while I helped the person he cut in front of because he sent them to me via text before I blocked him.
I had his name from his papers when he was trying to get his plates for his car and i searched him online and he had been arrested several times for assault/abuse and also hitting someone with a tire iron.
I think it was God's intervention or something that I wrote my number down wrong by accident because I wouldn't have seen that side of him probably before going on a date with him.
Wow! I’m glad you cut it off quickly! I had somewhat a similar experience, except it went on for almost a month. He was always wanting to know where I was, what I was doing, and if I didn’t text him back in a reasonable amount of time he would call me. Once I broke it off, he would still try to contact me about once a month for the next 4 months before it ended. Thankful the situation wasn’t worse and glad I moved shortly after things ended so he wouldn’t know my location! I can’t find a single trace of him on social media, it’s like he disappeared 😬
I just had a similar experience to this. The guy I was texting me was texting me all day for three days and I got super annoyed, like it was too much interest andwe hadn't even met up on a date. I kept getting a controlling feeling like I was being watched and even turned off my phone. If that's already happening then yeah it's time to move on
I'm so sorry you went through that, yeah online dating I used to do that back in the mid-2000s since I'm an old fogey. And I've got my share of horror stories for sure. I actually prefer talking on the phone to texting because then you can hear a person's voice and kind of feel them out what kind of person they are but that's probably cuz I'm an older generation person. But either way, way out of line in his reaction. Know the person and know their boundaries especially when you haven't met them yet. You dodged a big bullet there and I'm glad you made the right decision!
Thank you Jacy for sharing your experiences with us. You are a naturally gifted story teller with a bubbly personality as an added bonus. When someone shows you their true colors, believe them! It sounds like you dodged a bullet but thankfully you learned the lesson at hand. Much Love 🤟
I hate talking on the phone too. It's a huge time waster. If this guy doesn't even know you and he's acting a fool, it would be 100x worse later on. You were right to tell him the truth. The truth always sheds light...
You are the best storyteller!!! Please please keep them coming! Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you. :( you dodged a bullet for sure! did you report him on bumble so other girls won’t be able to meet him?
I had someone punch the car seat because I didn't want to have sex with him. Violence is violence and there's no excuse for it. I'm glad you listened your Intuition and are Safe. Blessings.
He probably had a bad experience or two, that after he would spend a lot of time getting ready... that girls would be ghosting him or playing games with him.
Thank god you didn't go on a date with him. He sounds like a loose cannon. No thank you! It reminds me of this one guy I met on POF years ago, who always had to talk to me on the phone to remember our conversations. He couldn't remember anything we texted each other. So weird. Never met that guy in person either. 😂
Thank the good Lord you did not go!! You dodged a major bullet. I went through the same thing. He was borderline personality disorder. What nerve he had to do that to you!!
I love your channel! I recently moved into a new house and the stress of work and moving can be a lot but watching your videos made me laugh and actually made me feel more productive 🖤
Ah, my favorite videos from you! I had a match who also called me as soon as I gave him my number. No appointment, nothing. I always ask for a phone call before making in-person plans, but I HATE unprovoked phone calls!
Don't go on Bumble, P.OF. ( Plenty of fish) , Tinder , & any online dating apps very dangerous I'm against online dating. People who looking for a love relationship talk to God , read the bible & pray 🙏🙏🙏
Jacy, you said it correctly at the end - he is a power/control hungry Narcissist. Dont be confused. The flip he tried to support his story with being 'courteous' is what Narcisists do. He sounds like a pro until he's called out. Notice how easily he flipped 180 the instant you called him out...now imagine that in an actual relationship. I will bet $100 he is an abuser. The insta - evil language he used on basically a stranger is only the beginning...imagine him actually knowing a woman how he'd treat her! This was only an introduction to his levels of anger in a relationship. I'm over emphasizing all this to be very aware of the Narcissist and his sales pitch. They are Masters at their trade and can ruin your life. My former wife was a master of this. Ok...you are such a joy to listen to, and far too smart to get hoodwinked by many. Love listening to your incredibly well articulated stories.
I couldnt agree more! Terrifying to think how little he respects a stranger into how that would translate for a relationship. Thanks so much for checking out my channel 🥰
He was nuts..... Glad you didn't make it to that nightmare. I davel on dating sights periodically and would love to come across a genuine, bright, down to earth woman like you. As a man with integrity and standards it's far and few between to meet quality women. Great video!
One phone call for 10-20 mins is fine its actually appropriate if you both have never met. But yeah stay safe those online dating sites are such weird vibe for both men and women.. too many expectations it’s not really a genuine way of meeting.
So many men like this are entitled, lack social norms, and are flat out creeps. I can’t blame women for being cynical. We give them reasons to feel that way. It’s an embarrassment to the rest of us. Sorry you had to experience this harassment and psychosis. What a demented control freak.
I don’t know Bumble, but from what I have heard and read, I wonder if Bumble a place to find any real meaningful relationships? Anyway, I enjoy your videos. I have watched a few of your videos and I am now invested. I am cheering for you and I hope you find (or has found) happiness 😊
Bumble match gone wrong and crazy dating storytime, Jacy Erin. I like it! You did a good job with this one. I like your personality. I like how you present yourself on camera. You make this TH-cam thing look good! You tell one awesome story. Great storytime. Great video! And I have been sub90scribed to you for over a year now. This is just me letting you know that I still watch you. Cause I'm a supporter for life.
I know what you mean I've had some strange experiences meeting new people trying to get to know somebody first. I have learned from past experiences with Facebook friends and unfortunately some that I have met have only been interested in one thing a sugar daddy. First I am nobody's sugar daddy second I am not about to help pay someone else's bills. You have to be careful and to be very selective because you don't know who you are talking to and who the other person is on the other end.
I had one time where I had been talking to this guy on the phone for a week. That weekend I decided to take a spontaneous trip with my kids. He called me a bunch of times and then kept texting me that I needed to pick up. I text him what I was doing and he started flipping out and said I was a liar and calling me crazy mean names. I just blocked him. I hadn't even met him yet and I don't need to prove anything to this random person lol.
Hi🤩 I'm a new sub. Have you ever done a video about being mixed and the struggle it can be? I'm mixed and I find that I really have a racial identity problem. It would be interesting to hear your experience! 🙏🏽💕
@@JacyErin my craziest date with a guy and worst, was soon after my ex gf and I break up, I meet this guy, we decided to meet at his house just to watch tv just a simple cheap date, 20 min after I get there he falls asleep on the couch, I just get up and leave, I never said a word, just walked out the front door. And that was it on that date. Then I get nervous he's gonna tell everybody about our date with me being a guy too I didn't want anyone knowing about it.
Noted, but also the same holds true for men to be safe with ladies.Lets say you get involved with someone who is separated (which you shouldnt) and their ex finds out what then?
I think most the issues stem from not talking properly over the phone you can figure out a lot from a phone conversation and don't go on dates if you are not trying to actually date with intention.
Jacy doesn't have the issues here. She figured him out very well before ever seeing his face. "Proper" has nothing to do with it, this guy charted his own course from which she deducted precisely who he is. A Narcissist that I guarantee she wants no part of.
@@12B4Christ did i say she had issues? i'm pointing out that most bad date come from the fact that most people do not talk before meeting. No she didn't figure him out until the last min or there would be no story
I was thinking about getting one. On the orher hand recently when a man gave me his nr it was also Google number and then I was concerned that he was a scammer, along with other features so after two days I blocked him just in case.
Always listen to your instincts! God gave women intuition for a reason! There is a book entitled “The gift of Fear”. Written by a man (Gaven DeBecker) who works with celebrities and politicians to determine if a threat is real. It is about learning to trust your instincts so that you don’t find yourself in a dangerous situation. It should be a must-read for every female!
Jacy, I see your point. And yes, you had the right to cancel. But, why didn't you ask him why he wanted you to call? It seems that your potential date had a problem communicating exactly what his intentions and his concerns were. But you are right. If the guy gives you the "creeps" or you get a weird vib... then cancel. It is better to be safe than sorry. I believe that when a man goes on a date, or getting ready for a potential date... we men must be considerate, and respectful of the lady's wishes and concerns.
I can’t quite agree he was just being assertive since the date was a spur of the moment type of situation but then again you should’ve emphasized hey I don’t really like talking on the phone. But hey ya live you learn.
@@tranquility9325 Personally when I arrange a date from online I prefer them to keep communicating with me the entire day until we literally meet that very day. So if the date is at 2pm I want them to COMMUNICATE with me from whenever I wake up until 2pm- 1 how he handled the situation was blown way out of proportion 2 she should have told him hey I don’t have time to talk on the phone but I’ll txt you after work 3 they didn’t seem to have chemistry to begin so it wouldn’t have work regardless
In ancient times you would have been the clingy one. Be thankful that men have built and created a society that makes everything easy for you instead of hating clingy men
This is the problem with the smartphone/social media era. It's made talking on the phone 'weird'. I don't see that he did anything wrong. And this is coming from someone who doesn't like talking on the phone but that stems from illness. It's better to have a lil chat with someone. Not extensive but just to get a vibe of them instead of wasting time on a date that may end up awkward because you didn't do that first. However I do think once you made it clear you were busy, he should have dialled it back (no oun intended lol) and of course his reaction when he started cussing you out was completely wrong, so I guess it worked out anyway as it meant you didn't have to deal with a horrible person.
The thing is i noticed americans are too uptight…everything is mostly weird or creepyy or crazyyy or someshit,he was insecure about letting u down but didn’t know how to handle it n was wrong for insulting so thats bad,but you getting scared coz of continuous texting is just so American,Easy way is just ignoring the text dont open it..reply when u r headed to the bar.Simple.
This guys was kinda psycho stalker-ish but I don't personally see him checking up on you about the date as such a red flag. You guys were just incompatible. Me personally, I'm not single anymore but when I was didn't have the time or will to go on dates with every match, and only figure it out THERE if we had anything in common at all. Some people prefer to establish a connection beforehand, and if that's not your style it's fine, just be upfront instead of cancelling last minute. Anyways, he was not justified at all to call you names and act crazy
I’m on both sides tbh, I feel like he’s been in that situation so many times to the point he just lashed out. But if you just don’t feel comfortable with hanging out with another individual it just shouldn’t happen and both parties should be understanding of it.
You were in the wrong more. You should have mentioned the calling earlier in the conversation. But his bad language and name calling, I wouldn’t worry about it, he’s not very nice
Ok, dating apps are no different from dating. Lots of awkward fumbling around, trying to make conversation, that's how it goes. "WE" are not looking for validation. The guys are looking to find a match, and conversation. A date IS the validation. Men aren't swiping for only the hot girls, and ignoring dozens of potentials, for the sake of her looks. You had a few tercerary exchanges, obviously nothing signifigant, because you said that you needed to dome "checking" first, to see if it's an actual person. You gave him your number, but didn't get one back to see if it's a rel person. So, you don't know his number, but you aren't gong to answer an unknown number. Yes, he wanted to make sure you were an actual person; but this is baffeling. Online "dating" includes conversations on the phone. Talking is a part of dating. Texting is a part of online dating now. SMALL TALK is a shitty part of dating. @6:22 into this video, it's obvious it's a failure. You have no communication skills...and that is THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF DATING: communicating, and getting to know someone. Clearly, you are not worth getting to know. Sounds like a horrible date, I feel sorry for that poor guy. You just need to spend ALOT more time in the "friend's zone", attempting dating, and learning how to talk with potential partner. Welcome to your equality.
He expressed his fears in the wrong way. I understand he was worried about wasting time and being rejected. However, he should have trusted the process instead. That's why dating is about taking chances. No excuses on his part!
I'm the same when it comes to talking on the phone. I tell everyone to text me instead lol. Also, its really sad that the #1 threat to women is men 😒
Yes, texting is more convenient too, I'll respond when I can lol. But agreed , such a shame too 😓
Geez someone needs anger management. Definitely would have been a possessive boyfriend with anger issues. Not a good combination. Good job for recognizing the red flags. And who cares you cancelled at the last minute. You owe him nothing!! Stay safe!!
Yup, someone that angry at the simple things is not gonna be nice down the line in real arguments!
You dodged a bullet for sure! If he was this crazy before even meeting, imagine trying to break up with him after an amount of time!
If he was capable of calling you the C word, can you imagine being with this cat!!!!
I will block someone if the call me 3 times in a row after I telling them, "Hey, I am working. Like when I say I'm working you should of courteously got of the phone... Then, do not text after getting off the phone. That is sooo annoying...
Not ‘unlife the whole family!’ 🤣 scary how relatable this is 😩🧡
Good thing you paid attention to those red flags! Seems like he has anger issues!
Red flag is a great way to describe it! Dodged a bullet
You definitely dodged a bullet gurl! 👀🙌🏽😭That’s crazy!
Right?? Imagine I actually went out with him, what a loose cannon 😢
@@JacyErin Very happy you didn’t 🙌🏽😭💗
Do you Only get to chat with men who you got matched with on the Beehive??? What if you don't feel attracted to them?
@@---nj7hl yup! You only get to talk to the people you match with, and the girl has to message first. And if she doesn't message within 24 hours, then the match disappeard
@@JacyErin Well thts not Fair! Thanks for Updating me:(
wow I totally feel you about not wanting to talk on the phone, especially cause I’m in college and live with my mom and the walls are like paper. makes talking on the phone with a tinder guy even more awkward haha
Yes! I dont need my parents to hear me getting to know a date 🤣
Girrrrl! I hate thirsty men! I matched with a guy on Hinge and found out that he lied about his location. I live in Texas and he was actually in Arkansas. When I spoke to him over the phone he claimed to be moving to Texas soon and oh, he’s also unemployed. Thankfully I gave him my Google voice number instead of my real one so I decided after speaking to him that I wasn’t interested because he wasn’t stable.... I let him know my concerns.. He proceeds to text me all week then the following Saturday morning he called bright and early to say he drove to Texas and wanted to meet up. We didn’t make plans, I never initiated texts and basically ignored him that week after talking to him. Why would I agree to meet with you?! Blocked!
That is so nuts!! Why do people think it's okay to mislead you right off the bat?? Dodged a bullet there for sure
This sounds like my situation I was in he lied about his name. He knew he was lying and than when I found him out he tried to justify it. I blocked him he is slow and totally delusional
I almost met a guy I had been chatting with on a dating App. He seemed great! But come to find out, he worshipped the Devil and told me that he has an altar to Satan in his house! OMG! Block and Delete!
Watching this video 2 yrs after you posted, but I’m sitting here literally talking to the TV. If I didn’t know any better I would swear we dated the same dude. I literally had to tell my dude that if he ever called me again when I was just 1 min behind schedule, that we were going to have a problem. When I finally broke things off and blocked his a$$, my AT&T call blocker showed that he tried calling me 41 times that day. After I told him I was blocking him.
And this dude was 55 yrs old. I was 50 at the time. Totally taught me to trust my instincts. Never again will I move forward with a date if a guy acts like that before the first date even takes place. 😬
I think it's normal to text back and forth and call because of the excitement but I'm glad you followed your mind ♥️ Always follow your gut hon.
You definitely dodged a bullet there! I have an in person crazy story. Years ago I was single and working at the DMV and this guy who seemed really polite and nice came in and asked if he could take me out on a date. I thought why not, what's the harm in a date. It had been a rough day and it was at the end of my shift and I jotted down my number really quick on a piece of paper and gave it to him. I didn't hear from him at all but I was thinking ok whatever. Didn't really think much of it. He comes in the next day and cuts someone off that's walking up to me and angrily says something like "is your phone turned off???" And I'm thinking wtf at this point and I didn't know what he was talking about. I then tell him that I need to help the person he just cut in front of and he goes and sits down. After I'm done helping the person, he comes back up and I'm like "what are you talking about?" And he says he tried texting me and I say I never got any texts. He then shows me the paper I gave him and I said omg that last number was supposed to be a 0! I wrote it down wrong." Later I was like uuuhg why'd I have to say that cause now he has my correct number. But I was just so shocked at the time and wasn't thinking. So then he leaves and he texts me an hour later about the date and I tell him, I'm sorry but I didn't appreciate the way you came in like that and I don't think we should go on the date. He starts begging me though text that he was only trying to offer to pay for my phone bill if it was turned off and blah blah all these excuses. I keep politely telling him I'm sorry but no. A few minutes go by then my phone suddenly starts blowing up with all these messages calling me names about how I'm stuck up and all kinds of crazy things. I ignore them and don't text back and then a few hours go by and he starts sending me apology messages. Then when I don't reply, a few more hours go by, and he blows my phone up with calling me names again. I ignore him for the rest of the night and he shows back up to my work and immediately when I see him, I walk away from the counter and my coworker tells him I'm on break and she can help him. He says he left his money in his car and he'll have to come back. He then shows up the next day in a complete disguise...suit...glasses...hair slicked back. I leave again so my coworker can help him. The DMV was in a big building and I got security involved on case he comes back again. I blocked him and he eventually quit showing up. But that was scary! I was afraid to walk to my car after work for a long time.
He also took pictures of me apparently while I made him sit down while I helped the person he cut in front of because he sent them to me via text before I blocked him.
I had his name from his papers when he was trying to get his plates for his car and i searched him online and he had been arrested several times for assault/abuse and also hitting someone with a tire iron.
I think it was God's intervention or something that I wrote my number down wrong by accident because I wouldn't have seen that side of him probably before going on a date with him.
Omg that’s scary asf
Wow
Wow! I’m glad you cut it off quickly! I had somewhat a similar experience, except it went on for almost a month. He was always wanting to know where I was, what I was doing, and if I didn’t text him back in a reasonable amount of time he would call me. Once I broke it off, he would still try to contact me about once a month for the next 4 months before it ended. Thankful the situation wasn’t worse and glad I moved shortly after things ended so he wouldn’t know my location! I can’t find a single trace of him on social media, it’s like he disappeared 😬
I just had a similar experience to this. The guy I was texting me was texting me all day for three days and I got super annoyed, like it was too much interest andwe hadn't even met up on a date. I kept getting a controlling feeling like I was being watched and even turned off my phone. If that's already happening then yeah it's time to move on
I'm so sorry you went through that, yeah online dating I used to do that back in the mid-2000s since I'm an old fogey. And I've got my share of horror stories for sure. I actually prefer talking on the phone to texting because then you can hear a person's voice and kind of feel them out what kind of person they are but that's probably cuz I'm an older generation person. But either way, way out of line in his reaction. Know the person and know their boundaries especially when you haven't met them yet. You dodged a big bullet there and I'm glad you made the right decision!
I ALSO HATE TALKING ON THE PHONE!!! FACETIME IS EVEN WORSE.
You get me 😅
Great Spidey-Sense!! This a lesson for all you guys. Meet up at the time, only call or text if you're running a little behind.
You did the SMARTEST thing!! You dodged a real PSYCHO 😬
❤You were dealing with a demon.
Thank you Jacy for sharing your experiences with us. You are a naturally gifted story teller with a bubbly personality as an added bonus.
When someone shows you their true colors, believe them! It sounds like you dodged a bullet but thankfully you learned the lesson at hand. Much Love 🤟
I hate talking on the phone too. It's a huge time waster.
If this guy doesn't even know you and he's acting a fool, it would be 100x worse later on. You were right to tell him the truth. The truth always sheds light...
WAAAY TOO many 🚩🚩🚩 BEFORE you even met for drinks. Seemingly too needy and/or controlling. NOPE...😑
You are the best storyteller!!! Please please keep them coming!
Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you.
:( you dodged a bullet for sure! did you report him on bumble so other girls won’t be able to meet him?
I did not, and I wish I would've. I was too eager to unmatch him that I didnt think about it until later 😓
I had someone punch the car seat because I didn't want to have sex with him. Violence is violence and there's no excuse for it. I'm glad you listened your Intuition and are Safe. Blessings.
He probably had a bad experience or two, that after he would spend a lot of time getting ready... that girls would be ghosting him or playing games with him.
Thank god you didn't go on a date with him. He sounds like a loose cannon. No thank you! It reminds me of this one guy I met on POF years ago, who always had to talk to me on the phone to remember our conversations. He couldn't remember anything we texted each other. So weird. Never met that guy in person either. 😂
You're one of the best storytellers on TH-cam!!!!!!
LOVE YOUR SPIRIT 😍
Thank the good Lord you did not go!! You dodged a major bullet. I went through the same thing. He was borderline personality disorder. What nerve he had to do that to you!!
I love your channel! I recently moved into a new house and the stress of work and moving can be a lot but watching your videos made me laugh and actually made me feel more productive 🖤
I would love to hear your good date stories! The *how to navigate the online dating world* side of this
Called you a “ C you next Tuesday “ 🤣 love your story times 🤎🤎🤎
Brown hearts???
Ah, my favorite videos from you! I had a match who also called me as soon as I gave him my number. No appointment, nothing. I always ask for a phone call before making in-person plans, but I HATE unprovoked phone calls!
Ugh unprovoked calls, what a good way to say it! I gotta mentally prepare for it tbh haha
That's definitely a red flag....that's too desperate move from a guy like him...
Don't go on Bumble, P.OF. ( Plenty of fish) , Tinder , & any online dating apps very dangerous I'm against online dating. People who looking for a love relationship talk to God , read the bible & pray 🙏🙏🙏
Jacy, you said it correctly at the end - he is a power/control hungry Narcissist. Dont be confused. The flip he tried to support his story with being 'courteous' is what Narcisists do. He sounds like a pro until he's called out. Notice how easily he flipped 180 the instant you called him out...now imagine that in an actual relationship. I will bet $100 he is an abuser. The insta - evil language he used on basically a stranger is only the beginning...imagine him actually knowing a woman how he'd treat her! This was only an introduction to his levels of anger in a relationship. I'm over emphasizing all this to be very aware of the Narcissist and his sales pitch. They are Masters at their trade and can ruin your life. My former wife was a master of this.
Ok...you are such a joy to listen to, and far too smart to get hoodwinked by many. Love listening to your incredibly well articulated stories.
I couldnt agree more! Terrifying to think how little he respects a stranger into how that would translate for a relationship. Thanks so much for checking out my channel 🥰
He was nuts..... Glad you didn't make it to that nightmare. I davel on dating sights periodically and would love to come across a genuine, bright, down to earth woman like you. As a man with integrity and standards it's far and few between to meet quality women. Great video!
Yes there are crazies both sides of the fence..🙄 online dating is a lottery 😎
One phone call for 10-20 mins is fine its actually appropriate if you both have never met. But yeah stay safe those online dating sites are such weird vibe for both men and women.. too many expectations it’s not really a genuine way of meeting.
I too hate talking on the phone
It's just the worst bahaha
I think that's more than just a bit too strong 😂 yeah I always hated that when girls tried to do like multiple phone calls before a first date
You are so beautiful and so mega dorky 😬 love it!
Honestly, this is the best compliment. Thank you!!
So many men like this are entitled, lack social norms, and are flat out creeps. I can’t blame women for being cynical. We give them reasons to feel that way. It’s an embarrassment to the rest of us. Sorry you had to experience this harassment and psychosis. What a demented control freak.
Thanks! Definitely a lesson learned. I appreciate you checking out my channel 🤗
He believed in love at first sight. He just got there early and creeped us all out.
men arnt after your body in this day and age, they are after your emotional labor, attention and validation. thats it
I don’t know Bumble, but from what I have heard and read, I wonder if Bumble a place to find any real meaningful relationships? Anyway, I enjoy your videos. I have watched a few of your videos and I am now invested. I am cheering for you and I hope you find (or has found) happiness 😊
You need to get a texting app so you don't give out your real #. At least until you get to know someone.
Bumble match gone wrong and crazy dating storytime, Jacy Erin. I like it! You did a good job with this one. I like your personality. I like how you present yourself on camera. You make this TH-cam thing look good! You tell one awesome story. Great storytime. Great video! And I have been sub90scribed to you for over a year now. This is just me letting you know that I still watch you. Cause I'm a supporter for life.
14:44 Exactly.. you definitely had dodged that risk.
I know what you mean I've had some strange experiences meeting new people trying to get to know somebody first. I have learned from past experiences with Facebook friends and unfortunately some that I have met have only been interested in one thing a sugar daddy. First I am nobody's sugar daddy second I am not about to help pay someone else's bills. You have to be careful and to be very selective because you don't know who you are talking to and who the other person is on the other end.
You are so kind. Honestly, I’d have replied with “Thanks for proving me right. Have a good life.” - ugh. Why are men like this?!
Men like talking on phone. We don't like texting unless they haave a wife or gf.
You’re just so adorable/beautiful (love your personality!). If someone is giving you bad vibes ..... Don’t ignore it!!! Always be safe ♥️
Thank you so much!!! And definitely, gotta trust your gut
@@JacyErin ♥️
I had one time where I had been talking to this guy on the phone for a week. That weekend I decided to take a spontaneous trip with my kids. He called me a bunch of times and then kept texting me that I needed to pick up. I text him what I was doing and he started flipping out and said I was a liar and calling me crazy mean names. I just blocked him. I hadn't even met him yet and I don't need to prove anything to this random person lol.
Hi🤩 I'm a new sub. Have you ever done a video about being mixed and the struggle it can be? I'm mixed and I find that I really have a racial identity problem. It would be interesting to hear your experience! 🙏🏽💕
Hi! It's definitely on my list of video ideas, I'll have to revisit the idea soon. Thanks for your support 🥰
Most of the things that seem small but are off are always telling you that there is a bigger issue..good you cut it off soon!
C U Next Tuesday! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I love it!
Omg girl I loooove your story times!
I found your channel yesterday and I'm inlove 😍
Ahh thanks Jane 🤗 I appreciate it!!
@@JacyErin my craziest date with a guy and worst, was soon after my ex gf and I break up, I meet this guy, we decided to meet at his house just to watch tv just a simple cheap date, 20 min after I get there he falls asleep on the couch, I just get up and leave, I never said a word, just walked out the front door. And that was it on that date. Then I get nervous he's gonna tell everybody about our date with me being a guy too I didn't want anyone knowing about it.
Girl you're hilarious 😂😂 love your videos!
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Loving these! Omg single life in LA. Hilarious to have stumbled on this channel when I recently thought of vlogging my experiences
Do it!! Vlogging is so fun, and creates a little time capsule of your life!
@@JacyErin Thank you beautiful 💕you honestly have given me some motivation to start.
Noted, but also the same holds true for men to be safe with ladies.Lets say you get involved with someone who is separated (which you shouldnt) and their ex finds out what then?
😨😨😨😨 OMG. That's quite scary.
yayay! I love these so much!
insucured guy vs over protective woman
Hey I love your videos I recently became a fan
I think most the issues stem from not talking properly over the phone you can figure out a lot from a phone conversation and don't go on dates if you are not trying to actually date with intention.
Jacy doesn't have the issues here. She figured him out very well before ever seeing his face. "Proper" has nothing to do with it, this guy charted his own course from which she deducted precisely who he is. A Narcissist that I guarantee she wants no part of.
@@12B4Christ did i say she had issues? i'm pointing out that most bad date come from the fact that most people do not talk before meeting. No she didn't figure him out until the last min or there would be no story
She made it clear she prefers to meet people in person rather than text/call.
@@avapilsen Thats good to know. Your point is ???
My love im so sorry......you met the "nice guy"
Yes!!! This is 100 percent accurate
Good job trusting your gut!!!!! Intuition never lies.
Love it 😍
C u next tuesday haha
That’s why I have a goggle voice so they don’t have my personal number
I was thinking about getting one. On the orher hand recently when a man gave me his nr it was also Google number and then I was concerned that he was a scammer, along with other features so after two days I blocked him just in case.
Unfortunately its men like that, that make the dating process more difficult than it has to be.
Always listen to your instincts! God gave women intuition for a reason! There is a book entitled “The gift of Fear”. Written by a man (Gaven DeBecker) who works with celebrities and politicians to determine if a threat is real. It is about learning to trust your instincts so that you don’t find yourself in a dangerous situation. It should be a must-read for every female!
I had this same exact thing happen to meee 😭😭😭
Jacy, I see your point. And yes, you had the right to cancel.
But, why didn't you ask him why he wanted you to call?
It seems that your potential date had a problem communicating exactly what his intentions and his concerns were.
But you are right. If the guy gives you the "creeps" or you get a weird vib... then cancel.
It is better to be safe than sorry.
I believe that when a man goes on a date, or getting ready for a potential date... we men must be considerate, and respectful of the lady's wishes and concerns.
I can’t quite agree he was just being assertive since the date was a spur of the moment type of situation but then again you should’ve emphasized hey I don’t really like talking on the phone. But hey ya live you learn.
He was ABUSIVE.
@@tranquility9325 Personally when I arrange a date from online I prefer them to keep communicating with me the entire day until we literally meet that very day. So if the date is at 2pm I want them to COMMUNICATE with me from whenever I wake up until 2pm- 1 how he handled the situation was blown way out of proportion 2 she should have told him hey I don’t have time to talk on the phone but I’ll txt you after work 3 they didn’t seem to have chemistry to begin so it wouldn’t have work regardless
Exactly
He was crazy
He might have been a narcissist. His reactions are so typical for them 🙂🙂
umm tbh i met a werid clingy guy like that before i hate clingy
In ancient times you would have been the clingy one. Be thankful that men have built and created a society that makes everything easy for you instead of hating clingy men
This is the problem with the smartphone/social media era. It's made talking on the phone 'weird'. I don't see that he did anything wrong. And this is coming from someone who doesn't like talking on the phone but that stems from illness. It's better to have a lil chat with someone. Not extensive but just to get a vibe of them instead of wasting time on a date that may end up awkward because you didn't do that first.
However I do think once you made it clear you were busy, he should have dialled it back (no oun intended lol) and of course his reaction when he started cussing you out was completely wrong, so I guess it worked out anyway as it meant you didn't have to deal with a horrible person.
How do you see the people you swiped right on Bumble?
The thing is i noticed americans are too uptight…everything is mostly weird or creepyy or crazyyy or someshit,he was insecure about letting u down but didn’t know how to handle it n was wrong for insulting so thats bad,but you getting scared coz of continuous texting is just so American,Easy way is just ignoring the text dont open it..reply when u r headed to the bar.Simple.
Oh wow
This guys was kinda psycho stalker-ish but I don't personally see him checking up on you about the date as such a red flag. You guys were just incompatible. Me personally, I'm not single anymore but when I was didn't have the time or will to go on dates with every match, and only figure it out THERE if we had anything in common at all. Some people prefer to establish a connection beforehand, and if that's not your style it's fine, just be upfront instead of cancelling last minute. Anyways, he was not justified at all to call you names and act crazy
same
I think that is annoying all that calling um sir I said what I said geez please chill out some men act like their not use to women.
I love talking on the phone and I hate texting
He should of just not bother and meet up at the pool hall at 8:00.. you guys could of have a great time!! He really ruined it for BOTH of you 😥😥😥
I’m on both sides tbh, I feel like he’s been in that situation so many times to the point he just lashed out. But if you just don’t feel comfortable with hanging out with another individual it just shouldn’t happen and both parties should be understanding of it.
wow!❤💛💚🧡💚💛💚💚💚
Lmao 🤣 9:36
I never geo tag and I am a guy. It's just not safe or smart especially as a TH-camr.
Your so cute
You were in the wrong more. You should have mentioned the calling earlier in the conversation. But his bad language and name calling, I wouldn’t worry about it, he’s not very nice
Jesus Christ guys are weird 🤪🤣
obviously metal issues by content creator.
Lolz, metal issues
Ok, dating apps are no different from dating.
Lots of awkward fumbling around, trying to make conversation, that's how it goes.
"WE" are not looking for validation. The guys are looking to find a match, and conversation. A date IS the validation.
Men aren't swiping for only the hot girls, and ignoring dozens of potentials, for the sake of her looks.
You had a few tercerary exchanges, obviously nothing signifigant, because you said that you needed to dome "checking" first, to see if it's an actual person.
You gave him your number, but didn't get one back to see if it's a rel person.
So, you don't know his number, but you aren't gong to answer an unknown number.
Yes, he wanted to make sure you were an actual person; but this is baffeling.
Online "dating" includes conversations on the phone.
Talking is a part of dating.
Texting is a part of online dating now.
SMALL TALK is a shitty part of dating.
@6:22 into this video, it's obvious it's a failure.
You have no communication skills...and that is THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF DATING: communicating, and getting to know someone.
Clearly, you are not worth getting to know.
Sounds like a horrible date, I feel sorry for that poor guy.
You just need to spend ALOT more time in the "friend's zone", attempting dating, and learning how to talk with potential partner.
Welcome to your equality.
Ur gawjus
love bombing
Oh my gosh, you're so right that all the phone calls could count as that! Spot on
THANKS for reminding me how useless dating modern women is today.
😂 IDK he sounded a bit fuckin crazy though.