I know everyone should expect to pitch in the make the weekend special for the bride, just wish it was communicated a bit better beforehand! What are your thoughts?
@@Magicallybeautifully right? That was one of my biggest issues was I felt a bit taken advantage of, like I was only invited for my money and services 😭
I find it ridiculous to give someone a "gift basket" only to charge for it afterwards 😬 The main problem here was that it was not communicated beforehand....it's ridiculous and tone deaf for someone to charge $600 for a celebration without letting the other person know.
No, this isn’t how it usually works for American weddings at least. It’s so dumb she made them pay for that It literally makes no sense because if they wanted them they could go buy the stuff on their own since she’s charging them for it anyways.
Man this is why I love not drinking. How you feel the next day compared to everyone else! Also you can have a lot of fun without getting so effed up and being a nuance to everyone. Lol
First of all if all the girls had to equally pay for the costs for the party then why the maid of honor didn’t pay for your parking fee and gas?? Secondly I feel like they are just using you to split the bill 10 ways.. Kinds reminds me I used to hang out with this group of friends that everytime we go out, they order bottles of expensive wine and expensive steak/seafood and I’m a vegetarian and not an alcohol drinker and they always expect me to split the bill evenly with them.. eventually I stopped hanging out with them 🙁so I know exactly how you feel
Yes!! That's also why it was a slap in the face, like I wouldve still had to pay more than everyone with those considered. Fairness is way more important, sorry you have to go through that 😓
i feel like bachelorette parties would be much more enjoyable if they weren't so expensive. not because it isn't nice to have a lavish day/few days to celebrate the bride, but because everyone (especially those who aren't a part of the wedding party) don't really get to be a part of deciding how much they can spend on the event. besides, i feel like the bride should be the one to provide for the party, but that may be controversial 😬
Not controversial, as it sounds like every bach party is different. Its just tough when you commit, then find out how much you're expected to pitch it, and it's out of budget. But lesson learned!
Man that's awful you had to pay for all of that! I was a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and she paid for everything. She paid for our bridesmaid dresses and our retreat and everything. Her and her partner dont have a lot of money but they figured that they wanted everyone they cared about there and so they made it work! Her partner paid for the suits for the groomsmen as well. Was pretty cool and they are both generous people. So I guess it depends on the people but not all bachelorette parties are like what you experienced! I'm sorry you had to spend all that $ especially for someone you werent that close to!
I kinda had a similar situation but with a friend's bday party. She wanted to get some rooms at a hotel and everyone paid their portion prior to her booking. I ended up not being able to go last minute, and the girl wouldn't give me my money back since she used it to book the room. She then got someone else to take my place, so I asked that person to pay me back, because if they didn't, then that means they're staying at the hotel for free because of I already paid for it. The person was fighting me on it, never paid me, and basically I paid for a stranger's room. I'm no longer friends with some of those people in that group.
I’m not a fan of going broke over a bachelorette weekend especially if there a thousand bridesmaids. It’s just so EXTRA! Then again I plan on having 3 bridesmaids max. My email to the MOH would of gone something like this….”I need you to deduct day #1, parking for the club, and the gift”…. with the parking receipts attached
I didn't even know you had to pay for a Bachelorette party??? Wouldn't that be the bridesmaids job? Lol. You make-up is so pretty! I can tell your ready for fall. 😊🥰🍁🍂
Yea naw…I couldn’t have. For one, if I didn’t agree to it then I wouldn’t do it. For two, if I didn’t drink it, I ain’t paying for it. For three, I could never pay for my own “gift basket” I don’t even think I would’ve paid for the bride if I wasn’t part of the wedding party. I also would’ve broken that parking down by all 10 people as well 😒 call me MISS KAREN cuz I ain’t going to do it!
That's insane! I had no idea that guests of a party could be charged for that party! The heck? Geez, in my family if we put on so much as a 4th of July BBQ we tell those we invite what we are and aren't supplying, ie "We'll be providing the hamburgers, hot dogs and fixin's and assorted soda. Please bring your favorite dish (it's a potluck) and alcohol if you plan on imbibing. Sheesh!
I've never ever been to a bachelorette party and rarely get invited to weddings probably because I don't drink it all LOL also, because I don't really have a lot of female friends but it's so fun to hear how it is for others. Terrible do, I do know and remember the club scene though and those girls really get drunk out there. I always go to clubs cuz I love DJs and remix seeing and I always like to hear what they're going to play and dance to it but the drug stuff is super annoying LOL so sad that you had to spend all that money and a gift basket should be a gift. That was really lame on that one. Big hugs!
I think I would have given the maid of honor $100 tops and explained my situation. If I were would you, I would have said that I just don’t have $600 to give as one, my budget isn’t cut out for that, I’m just not in that income bracket, I wasn’t given any prior knowledge of expenses due on my part prior to the event, I paid out for my own costs to transport people and be essentially an RA to them. I always have felt that expensive weddings and bachelorette parties are a sham, and this is why. I’m glad you were able to have fun at the wedding, that that they gave you the discount that you deserved and that there were no hard feelings Jacy!
Maid of honor was wrong for charging the gift baskets to the non bridesmaids party. That should be split among all the bridesmaids. they shouldn’t charge the first day activities that you weren’t there to participate in. they should offer to pay for the parking fee since you took your car. The only things that should be split are the hotel, food and only if ur doing some group activities. But in general bachelorettes party are expensive! My group did paid 500 each for hotel and group activities. But for the gifts, I bought them myself for the girls. It’s for appreciation from me to them for coming to my bachelorette.
I’m Old school. I’ll go to a local bar for a bachelorette but I won’t do weekends or travel. That’s what we did for mine. Bar hopped downtown. I didn’t want to cost anyone money lol. But I’m oooollllld😂 I would have maybe paid half after that email if she was lucky that was ridiculous.
You clearly got scammed by a bunch of “takers”. The refusal to help defray the cost of your separate transportation (drive) to San Diego, and of your being the designated driver/chaperone, proved their terminal selfishness. One has to wonder if this is why the other girl bowed out.
I'm a little confused. If you paid $300 less and 8 people absorbed that cost, it'll be $37.50 more per person. My ex best friend who I didn't see or speak to for more than 5 years invited me to be her bridesmaid out of the blue. Her wedding was to be in another city. I would need to take time off work, pay for the airfare, accommodation, the bridesmaid dress, the cost of the bachelorette party and the wedding gift which would be cash. I kindly declined. Haven't heard from her for 2 years. I think brides need to be realistic. I'm willing to pay 1k for a close friend (my wedding gift for my bestie was $500), however, 3k for a friend I'm no longer close with is insane. enjoy your story telling, it's 4am in Sydney :P
I would told her to jump into a lake. I would have just disregarded the email. There was not agreement before hand on payments due if you attended the bachelorette party.
You also paid for parking, cover charges, and volunteering to be designated driver and not drink as much so you could drive then taking care of the people when they were breaking down. Why would you have to pay for something you didn’t enjoy.
You offered to be the mom - you didn’t have to. Could have just ignored the meltdown ubered around with them. Also I hope you didn’t pay that 600.00. Any lawyer would have laughed and ignored the emails actually.
Nah you totally should've fought the charge on not paying for both nights, that would've been absurd. I will say though, the totals you were paying aren't that bad. Most bachelor parties I go to we're spending 1500-2000 a person, I think one of them was nearly $3,000 all in. I'm the best man at an upcoming wedding and I already know at the bachelor party I'm going to have to drop $15-20k just to cover everything upfront so we can split it later. Kinda dumb, but just comes with the territory I guess.
Wow, that's one expensive party! I was definitely thrown off guard since it was my first one, just would've been nice to know upfront how much I'd be expected to pitch in. Lesson learned! Have fun at your upcoming festivities 🤗
Okay but you could have just kept dancing and not taken care of any of them. Also, when it came to your car, I would have demanded that everyone chip in for parking. Before we even got in my car in the first place.
I love your stories I was having a bad day but you helped cheer me up! Btw, did you mean to say throwing “shadows” instead of “shade?” I love your quirks😂❤️
I know everyone should expect to pitch in the make the weekend special for the bride, just wish it was communicated a bit better beforehand! What are your thoughts?
Totally agree. That makes my blood boil. $600/$700 is ridiculous. Especially to charge that much for some who was DD'ing and taking care of everyone.
@@Magicallybeautifully right? That was one of my biggest issues was I felt a bit taken advantage of, like I was only invited for my money and services 😭
@@JacyErin that's exactly how I'd feel!
I find it ridiculous to give someone a "gift basket" only to charge for it afterwards 😬
The main problem here was that it was not communicated beforehand....it's ridiculous and tone deaf for someone to charge $600 for a celebration without letting the other person know.
Wait a minute….she charged you for the shit SHE “gifted” you? Is this how bachelorette parties work?
Not sure how others work, but I was surprised myself!
No, this isn’t how it usually works for American weddings at least. It’s so dumb she made them pay for that
It literally makes no sense because if they wanted them they could go buy the stuff on their own since she’s charging them for it anyways.
Jacy is the best story-teller ever!
What a weird scenario, I didn't know that others had to pay so much for the bachelorlette party.
My lanta, you're too kind 🤗 I didnt know either, but I definitely do now haha
My mouth dropped open when you got the $600 email. So tacky…
Very...
Man this is why I love not drinking. How you feel the next day compared to everyone else! Also you can have a lot of fun without getting so effed up and being a nuance to everyone. Lol
Yes!! Definitely the reason I didnt drink in college, I could party without it!
First of all if all the girls had to equally pay for the costs for the party then why the maid of honor didn’t pay for your parking fee and gas?? Secondly I feel like they are just using you to split the bill 10 ways.. Kinds reminds me I used to hang out with this group of friends that everytime we go out, they order bottles of expensive wine and expensive steak/seafood and I’m a vegetarian and not an alcohol drinker and they always expect me to split the bill evenly with them.. eventually I stopped hanging out with them 🙁so I know exactly how you feel
Yes!! That's also why it was a slap in the face, like I wouldve still had to pay more than everyone with those considered. Fairness is way more important, sorry you have to go through that 😓
i feel like bachelorette parties would be much more enjoyable if they weren't so expensive. not because it isn't nice to have a lavish day/few days to celebrate the bride, but because everyone (especially those who aren't a part of the wedding party) don't really get to be a part of deciding how much they can spend on the event. besides, i feel like the bride should be the one to provide for the party, but that may be controversial 😬
Not controversial, as it sounds like every bach party is different. Its just tough when you commit, then find out how much you're expected to pitch it, and it's out of budget. But lesson learned!
Man that's awful you had to pay for all of that! I was a bridesmaid in my friends wedding and she paid for everything. She paid for our bridesmaid dresses and our retreat and everything. Her and her partner dont have a lot of money but they figured that they wanted everyone they cared about there and so they made it work! Her partner paid for the suits for the groomsmen as well. Was pretty cool and they are both generous people. So I guess it depends on the people but not all bachelorette parties are like what you experienced! I'm sorry you had to spend all that $ especially for someone you werent that close to!
Wow, that's super kind of them! Guess every bach party is different, as long as things are communicated!
There’s no way your friend and her fiancé were not rich. That’s a lot to spend of people.
so glad you stood up for yourself because that’s ridiculous
So cheeky!!!! That break down is shocking!!🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈lovely to see u again!!! 🖤🖤🖤I would be pissed off tbh!!!
Yeahhhh wasnt too happy with that cost explanation 😭 thank you!!
I kinda had a similar situation but with a friend's bday party. She wanted to get some rooms at a hotel and everyone paid their portion prior to her booking. I ended up not being able to go last minute, and the girl wouldn't give me my money back since she used it to book the room. She then got someone else to take my place, so I asked that person to pay me back, because if they didn't, then that means they're staying at the hotel for free because of I already paid for it. The person was fighting me on it, never paid me, and basically I paid for a stranger's room. I'm no longer friends with some of those people in that group.
Why did you agree in the first place? A gift you pay for according to your budget.
Maryrose: first of all, your makeup! Is on point! It looks amazing!!!
I love you!! I could watch you every day!
Thank you!! Fall vibes with the makeup 🥰🥰
Yes, if you paid beforehand, absolutely not. The audacity. You were not told. You didn't get to drink, and you didn't the night you were there.
I’m not a fan of going broke over a bachelorette weekend especially if there a thousand bridesmaids. It’s just so EXTRA! Then again I plan on having 3 bridesmaids max. My email to the MOH would of gone something like this….”I need you to deduct day #1, parking for the club, and the gift”…. with the parking receipts attached
They were doing too much. I’m having the most cheapest minimum wedding and bachelorette. People suck. I’m sorry you had to go through that!!!
Hahaha same! It's about spending time with your friends, not splurging on rose petals 😅
I didn't even know you had to pay for a Bachelorette party??? Wouldn't that be the bridesmaids job? Lol.
You make-up is so pretty! I can tell your ready for fall. 😊🥰🍁🍂
Based on the comments, sounds like they're all different, but that should still be communicated. Ahh thank you!! Def ready for autumn 🤗🤗
lol something like that happened to me not at a bachelorette, at new years, i was the driver wrangling drunk people, never again!
Yea naw…I couldn’t have. For one, if I didn’t agree to it then I wouldn’t do it. For two, if I didn’t drink it, I ain’t paying for it. For three, I could never pay for my own “gift basket” I don’t even think I would’ve paid for the bride if I wasn’t part of the wedding party. I also would’ve broken that parking down by all 10 people as well 😒 call me MISS KAREN cuz I ain’t going to do it!
Call me Karen too. I’d have said I’m yeah….no. If I even responded at all.
No, a 2 parter is so complicated! Better to just stick with one area especially since it’s not in the hometown as it is
That's insane! I had no idea that guests of a party could be charged for that party! The heck? Geez, in my family if we put on so much as a 4th of July BBQ we tell those we invite what we are and aren't supplying, ie "We'll be providing the hamburgers, hot dogs and fixin's and assorted soda. Please bring your favorite dish (it's a potluck) and alcohol if you plan on imbibing. Sheesh!
Yeah, I knew I'd pay my share for the hotel and food, didnt realize I'd be sharing funds for the entire thing. But now I know to ask next time 😅
I've never ever been to a bachelorette party and rarely get invited to weddings probably because I don't drink it all LOL also, because I don't really have a lot of female friends but it's so fun to hear how it is for others. Terrible do, I do know and remember the club scene though and those girls really get drunk out there. I always go to clubs cuz I love DJs and remix seeing and I always like to hear what they're going to play and dance to it but the drug stuff is super annoying LOL so sad that you had to spend all that money and a gift basket should be a gift. That was really lame on that one. Big hugs!
drunk stuff not drugs stuff lol
I think I would have given the maid of honor $100 tops and explained my situation. If I were would you, I would have said that I just don’t have $600 to give as one, my budget isn’t cut out for that, I’m just not in that income bracket, I wasn’t given any prior knowledge of expenses due on my part prior to the event, I paid out for my own costs to transport people and be essentially an RA to them. I always have felt that expensive weddings and bachelorette parties are a sham, and this is why. I’m glad you were able to have fun at the wedding, that that they gave you the discount that you deserved and that there were no hard feelings Jacy!
Over all you have such cool perspective on the whole event 😀👍no bitterness, for that kind of money I want to have fun.
Maid of honor was wrong for charging the gift baskets to the non bridesmaids party. That should be split among all the bridesmaids. they shouldn’t charge the first day activities that you weren’t there to participate in. they should offer to pay for the parking fee since you took your car.
The only things that should be split are the hotel, food and only if ur doing some group activities. But in general bachelorettes party are expensive! My group did paid 500 each for hotel and group activities. But for the gifts, I bought them myself for the girls. It’s for appreciation from me to them for coming to my bachelorette.
The eye makeup is EVERYTHING!
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Old school. I’ll go to a local bar for a bachelorette but I won’t do weekends or travel. That’s what we did for mine. Bar hopped downtown. I didn’t want to cost anyone money lol. But I’m oooollllld😂
I would have maybe paid half after that email if she was lucky that was ridiculous.
You are too nice and definitely deserve better friends. All of that was not right for them to do.
You’re way nicer than me, I would have never paid that money lol
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That night was quite the fire...ball of excitement
You clearly got scammed by a bunch of “takers”. The refusal to help defray the cost of your separate transportation (drive) to San Diego, and of your being the designated driver/chaperone, proved their terminal selfishness. One has to wonder if this is why the other girl bowed out.
Oh my goodness I have had a holiday version of this story
No!! Bamboozled on holiday, that's the worst 😭
You are so cute and funny. I love your curly hair and your stories. Your energy is contagious and you brighten my day. Thank you
Thank you so much!!
That was poorly communicated, don’t let it make you feel bad.
I'm a little confused. If you paid $300 less and 8 people absorbed that cost, it'll be $37.50 more per person.
My ex best friend who I didn't see or speak to for more than 5 years invited me to be her bridesmaid out of the blue. Her wedding was to be in another city. I would need to take time off work, pay for the airfare, accommodation, the bridesmaid dress, the cost of the bachelorette party and the wedding gift which would be cash. I kindly declined. Haven't heard from her for 2 years. I think brides need to be realistic. I'm willing to pay 1k for a close friend (my wedding gift for my bestie was $500), however, 3k for a friend I'm no longer close with is insane.
enjoy your story telling, it's 4am in Sydney :P
I'm not willing to pay for anything. Damn that!!!! Your party your expenses.
I would told her to jump into a lake. I would have just disregarded the email. There was not agreement before hand on payments due if you attended the bachelorette party.
Yeah they tired it,I would have called her out on her shade,that’s not cool,especially if no one of this was communicated to you before going,
Right? But I didnt want to cause too much drama and stress out the bride, so tried to keep it cordial and reasonable 😅
$600.. noo
This is insane!!!
So wait did you pay?? I wouldn’t have
Why didn't you take off the 50 for parking from your bill? I would have paid 250 tops.
You also paid for parking, cover charges, and volunteering to be designated driver and not drink as much so you could drive then taking care of the people when they were breaking down. Why would you have to pay for something you didn’t enjoy.
You offered to be the mom - you didn’t have to. Could have just ignored the meltdown ubered around with them.
Also I hope you didn’t pay that 600.00.
Any lawyer would have laughed and ignored the emails actually.
Nah you totally should've fought the charge on not paying for both nights, that would've been absurd. I will say though, the totals you were paying aren't that bad. Most bachelor parties I go to we're spending 1500-2000 a person, I think one of them was nearly $3,000 all in. I'm the best man at an upcoming wedding and I already know at the bachelor party I'm going to have to drop $15-20k just to cover everything upfront so we can split it later. Kinda dumb, but just comes with the territory I guess.
Wow, that's one expensive party! I was definitely thrown off guard since it was my first one, just would've been nice to know upfront how much I'd be expected to pitch in. Lesson learned! Have fun at your upcoming festivities 🤗
@@JacyErin Totally get that, they definitely should’ve laid it out upfront. And thank you!
This is rich people world. Spending a grand a person for a party is insane!
Okay but you could have just kept dancing and not taken care of any of them. Also, when it came to your car, I would have demanded that everyone chip in for parking. Before we even got in my car in the first place.
I love your stories I was having a bad day but you helped cheer me up! Btw, did you mean to say throwing “shadows” instead of “shade?” I love your quirks😂❤️