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hi Teal!! love you!! this message explained what I m calling it as the international internet poliscifi podcasters - teal, your work is the WAY. I praise your every effortbeen here since 2013, Im so pleased and thankful for the jounary and path youve placed me and on i praiseyour or our comunirty. when im here I belong and also I see so many or read so many comemnts, wow, its all of us, i wonder if its collective ptsd, i think you said that a while back. im disabled from mental health and phy problems Teal. I thoink with everything you explained you explained the IIPP toxic subcutlures, great clips and messages, teal you knock the ideas or issue outta the park with your brilliance proud of you!! keep giong.
Teal, I presently am busting at the seams every time I meet ‘spiritual people’ who deny getting help from others ie healers because some wise ass has told them to travel to Asia and self heal wtf?!! So, they spend their hard earned ‘small’ funds, live like beggars and hit Ashrams in search of self and healing. With no innerstanding, support or knowledge of how. Returning home penniless, desperate and in a worse state than when they arrived. I feel so delighted that you are covering this subject that I call ‘spiritual bypassing’ due to zen mind and unresolved traumas from root chakra to crown and expecting to vibrate higher🥵 Fyi. I adore you, your wisdom, honesty and ultra feminine vulnerability. You Rock!!🎉🎉❤
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
This reminds me of Teal's video "What Most People Don’t Get About Aloneness" when she noted spiritual practices can easily be misused to deny basic human needs like connection. Spiritual practices are tools, not replacements, for living your life. 🙌
Nowadays is more beneficial to be connected to a rook or a piece of paper than 99.9999% biologically classified "human beings"...actual parasites most of em, I would even have a better connection with actual virus, way more beneficial
Amazing clarity... As humans we were sent here and meant to connect with other humans. It is part of the human experience. We were not designed to be alone. We need each other in order to grow. Thank you Teal 🩵🙏
What we are seeing is a up rise in people who have woken up, but haven't actually sat in their own spiritual practices and teaching long enough for anything to be embodied. What we are seeing is people out the gate trying to make money off things they haven't actually implemented long enough to learn the energtics behind it all. They have stepped from the same ego trap in new clothing.
Preach!! Exactly. So true. And even if they haven't started making money off it, I've had friends come and go because they use spirituality to justify being completely detached relationally when it suits them. These tools can be used to justify being self absorbed and empathy-less at times. A lot of spiritual bypassing and the spiritual community definitely does attract a fair few unhinged people.
I don't feel it's a negative per se to seek a temporary disconnection from others to foster self-independence.....if it is meant to connect within, heal your wounds and find out what you really want out of life and who you really are inside. I feel that for some people it's an important phase of life. Ideally that important phase will be then give rise to the next step - the cultivation of heart-to-heart and open relationships with others. Speaking from the experiences in my own journey, the best thing I have done for myself was to retreat from relationships for a long period of time to heal myself and find out who I really was underneath the fears and trauma.
@@wellbeingwithzee6168 The thing is that I didn't feel the need to have anyone. I was also going through an illness so I had to be with my parents to by my caretakers and the only relationships I had where those. It was enough for me....didn't have the physical and mental energy for anyone else. I concentrated all that energy back to myself. Sorry I know it's not the answer you were looking for.
I loved that it is not a contradiction to both being self-empowered and also in and needing relationship with others. "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world."
So this is a cultural shift that starts with me, it starts with us. I am shocked and hurt but also forgive myself because of the dysfunction we have been programmed. Being vulnerable and asking for what we need takes courage, a chance for rejection, but worth it because the more we speak up and take action to build intimacy and trust together, the faster we can minimize the hold shame has on us.
Thank you for clarifying this teaching. I just wish I knew how to get my needs met. I live in a very introverted and “independent” country, where it feels impossible to meet new people and find relationships, so it’s good I’m aware what I need, and not being in denial of it, but I don’t know what action to take to meet it
Release control. Most people are afraid of others because of unpredictability. A lot of people are also looking for instant gratification, but forget Rome wasn't built in a day. It takes time and effort to BUILD the relationships we want. We need to be patient while building these relationships as well. And during the "inbetween".. is where self love and self care comes in. By treating ourselves how we want to be treated while the relationships are being built we are also showing Verse the kind of love, affection, attention we would like from others. Too many people are also eye for eye, but by releasing expectations of others and allowing them to show us whether or not they deserve to be connected to us helps the process along. Self empowerment, in this situation, would be healthy boundaries you have set for yourself. Over time people will show you who they are and this is where you make the decisions of whether or not they stay. We have to allow it to unfold naturally, not rush into it.
I think this is a great example of the kind of action to take ! Hi 😊 I relate to this so much even though I come from a very "dependent" country and we have a whole host of other problems. it can be incredibly hard to meet new people and get any relational needs met here too because enmeshment suspiciously looks like intimacy but it isn’t.
I believe she’s a front runner, I had a season in the wilderness alone to focus on healing and wholeness and now it’s time to come out of that wilderness season. Welcoming the change but it will also be a challenge and others will show me more work needing to be done . We are all parts of one body -collective
I watched this video once before. It seems I was close to cracking the code on the exact nature of my people issues myself. It has been a long standing pattern that I receive confirmation after I intuit a new level of truth. That's how I found you in the first place :). I had a ton of work to do to see myself before I could see you. Your eyes made me feel human and I can't thank you enough for that. Introverted intuition (NI) runs deeper than I could have ever imagined. I'm climbing as fast as I can (without going too insane lol). ♥ Matt.
Phew. As someone in the beginning throws of a mindset coaching business, this was pretty brutal to hear. This was never ever my intention, I found myself disagreeing with some things she said in the beginning. But it's good to know these kinds of things. I can now be more aware of what I am putting out into the world. I'm a firm believer in collaboration and cooperation - that's relationships at the end of the day.
What is the solution in a generation and social environment that prioritizes popularity, beauty, and social status over values like authenticity, truth, connection, and support? This generation seems to operate under a "survival of the fittest" mindset in terms of social connection, often excluding those who don't meet these superficial standards. Personal independence often results from not fitting into these standards. No matter how hard you try, unless you're willing to do whatever it takes to meet these criteria, you may find yourself excluded from the community. Unfortunately, mastering relationships is not and will never be something that depends solely on the individual.
Teal has pointed the solution: be the antidote and promote the values you chose. Why change others? If you know your values, it is your values. Why do you need others value the same as you? Do you think you are the only one in 7 billion people that value authenticity, truth, connection and support? Btw, I also value popularity, beauty and social status. Since I am a pubic speaker , it is important to reach people, but these are less important then the first ones. So I follow my priorities and this help me understand that the ones that match my service will be the ones that will come together. Why bother if not everyone is coming? I am here for who is compatible and I do not need to personally relate to every 7 billion people! What you feel about this? This made myself more clear about my preferences, specially after seeing my sister’s family playing some dynamics today that I wish they did differently, but well… it’s their option!
you’re right to a degree, society at large is very superficial and the ones who tend to succeed are the ones preoccupied with these frivolous things. However, it does NOT mean that certain people are ever barred from finding community and deep relationships. Even in school, the unpopular weird kids had very tight relationships with other weird kids and weird adults alike. If you operate from authenticity and being completely true to yourself, you will find your people, even if it takes a couple (or many) of challenging relationships to get there. if this is something you’re really struggling with then it might be worth studying who you crave a relationship with? MOST people will say they value integrity and compassion over looks and popularity, yet they themselves overlook the “undesirables” while trying to chase the acceptance of the ones “above their league”.
Teal thank you for telling the truths that no one else dares to tell. Your words are like a symphony of honesty for my soul! You speak more truth than anyone i watch or know. Thank God for your existence!!! Thanks for having the courage to speak your truth!! Im so grateful for you! 💖
I agree with what you’ve expressed so well, Teal. There is many a spiritual teacher out there who is getting high on referring to themselves as gods and goddesses and kings and queens. I’m all for people valuing themselves and owning their sense of sovereignty but this can become a very slippery slope. After all, words carry weight and language is loaded. Let’s leave room for some humility. Thank you, Teal.
”The spiritual field, the psychology field, the life coaching field, the self-help field and the self-development field are all aimed at teaching the public some version of self-empowerment. And this, is a very good thing. Self-empowerment is a pivotal element of wellbeing in life. At the very same time, there is a dominant shadow lurking within the teachers of self-empowerment. One that has become like a collective illness. And one that can easily infect you. Today, I’m going to expose this shadow to the world, so that you don’t fall into the trap of thinking that something very, very harmful is very, very good”. Teal Swan 🌎 thank you Teal 😘
I went through a lot of trauma- bullying as a child and young adult, an abusive marriage, parental neglect...and I had to heal myself solely on my own cuz there had been no help for me. The lonelyness added to my trauma and I am actively moving out of this shell, for example I am connecting with new people. All those ideas Teal is mentioning are only sugarcoating but unfortunately most of us rely on these things in our darkest hour.
Your point of view is different than what we are watching on youtube. As everyone is unique It will certainly work with some of the viewers. However, I would not paraphraze this phenomenom as dark side. At the end of the day, to each their own!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🔥🔥🔥 So true!!! Again, Thank you so much for spreading reality. I am so glad you made the video. Those are my thoughts every day. You are my only source of validation ❤ So tired of the massive escapism in this society. I can understand, I've been there.
I would love for her to do a dedicated video on the spirit guide/imaginary friend thing, and go more into that, and how it all relates to a modality like shamanism where it is actively encouraged to always “ask the guides” for answers, and to carry out the healings
@@Praying_ManTas By creating imaginary friends, or perhaps entering an altered state of consciousness and seeing persistent images that we assign as having a certain meaning or significance or who spoke or communicated to us in trance-like states, we may be trying to communicate symbolically with subconscious parts of our mind that are not easily accessible in everyday life. Sure, you may also be coming into contact with other beings who have appeared within your field of awareness, but if we approach what is being revealed with curiosity, openness, and discernment, it really doesn't matter. We can then evaluate and judge with our conscious minds if what they are sharing with us is applicable or wise or appropriate to implement in our lives right now. At the same time, we can integrate the information shared with our experiences thus far, and we can develop a sense that we are never alone, even if no 3-D humans grace us with their presence simply to enjoy our company on the regular. As for healing ceremonies, certain archetypes, images, visuals, and scenes can be evoked to call upon certain energies and energetic flows to promote and facilitate the process of healing. Basically, we are using the faculties of mind/imagination to guide our focus to something we desire to crystallize into our experience. Spirit guides (be they actual entities or imagined beings that serve us as coping mechanisms) would be simply more instruments, or allies if that sounds nicer, to achieve just that.
Thank you for the clarity that you bring in all your videos. I've been through a process of self empowerment (much needed I think) and I felt that something is missing if I cut out all closeness to other human beings. Thanks to many other videos of you I entered again in the relations that are good for me and now I truly feel much better. Independence has it's limits indeed. You exposed everything very well. Thank you for everything that you do! From Romania with love!❤
woahhh... 10 years on TH-cam and I haven't found anyone who's been able to say what I've been seeing this entire time. Glad to have found you Teal. May our paths cross one day
I pretty much agree except for the being alone part: ultimately the one is here alone. That’s why one creates the illusion of another to not be alone with. Nothing better than being with yourself in another being. I see why the trap is there because it’s a worthwhile endeavor. Thank you for pointing out this truth of the fact that people who live in separation exist and we must always accept their views as valid and as a part of our one beings formation of a separate ego from it. You are one so don’t avoid yourself (others) that are you.
Definitions always seem to be vital. Every answer does seem to lie within.... however, how do we define 'within?' If we are one, then within is also without. The paradox grants endless opportunities for balance and adaptation with self-mastery!
Thank you ! It helps me to be careful to be balanced. I love your points of view. And I take them for what they are: YOUR point of view. Your filter is about trauma and healing and it is soooo useful for so many people ! And from that same place where my gratitude comes from, a question pops up: are YOU balanced? Aren't you exactly in the same pattern than everybody ? from the moment we play the game of life, we only play that role... and it is very limited. It is only one of the roles which have to be played and all roles are ok. We all learn by taking different ways ! I know your point of view is différent from mine and that's totally ok. Again, thank you for your inspiration ! With Love !
The illusions of the glorification of independence. Yes, you said it. All humans are interdependent in some way, in some intimately vitalizing spiritual and metaphysical, as much as mundane life requires normalizing societal precedents. The world's structural foundations in relations have their key aspects and their discordance if overbalanced or underutilized.
I like your confidence. I cannot speak freely as you do. I loose all apropriate words so exprrss my thoughts. Like a silent tetard, noting to say, but full of ideas, nedding to get out!
At this time, self love helps me regroup all my apsects, shadows and life view, to better reach out with purpose and confidence, which is ultimately the fruition of self-mastery. Be a strengh and anchor in this world because we have developed it to ourselves first. Otherwise it would be shallow, or ego projections. Kmow thyself and love humanity and life.
Another shadow of self-empowerment and self-improvement is the have-nots turning against you. All the hateful BS that comes with positive results such as success (financial, romantic, or other.), honestly, I did not see it coming from some individuals. You quickly find out who your enemies and true friends are.
Context is key. Were they viciously envious and said that they hoped that you failed or something similar? Or did you make light of their situation and called them lazy for not working on themselves? 🤔
Hi Teal. You’ve become a central and transitional teacher for me in a decades coming maybe one time rebirth transitional phase of my life. Maybe the truest. And this vid may be the best. You are one in a thousand, across all the spiritual/Wholly fields. Not why I comment though. Actually, your hair looks really great here. Really, always beautiful, but tips over today. Got that very special little explosion. Hope it’s a little piece of platinum.
Feeling independent and wanting it for others can help us transform What comes next for many is seeing others pain, and the struggles our modern world can't handle. It's not the end of a journey or even an easy place to be 😅
Independence doesn't have to mean isolation,depend on yourself and others equally,the feeling of knowing you will be just fine with or without people.Thinking like this helps me not have attachment issues 😂❤❤❤
In my first videos I watched, I was surprised by the big difference between what I expected and what I saw, which is to say, I expected something along the lines of "ultra-mega-giga-spiritual-self-sufficient" type of philosophy but I saw the most normal and logic story ever. Thank You Teal. (I love You, of course...)
I wholeheartedly agree with everything that you expressed with one question but it’s not a question in my mind and that is if someone has disrespected me repeatedly or someone is not healthy for me. I don’t hold on to anger, resentment I feel what I need to feel and then I let it go and I forgive, but the boundaries go up, it’s what saved me was having physical boundaries and not permitting toxicity whenever possible into my field… it’s a tall order, but it can be done. I truly believe there are certain people and situations that it’s really important for us to emotionally detach from if we’re not able to physically detach
✨10:00 _"Meaning"_ - right there is the very 'fabric' from which we weave the 'reality' of the personal experience we wear. Choose wisely the ones you will keep company with.
Hi , do love when Teal talk tough to the community, and get ones feeling hurt. Take it , and think on it, don’t just jump in on your own thoughts believes ideologies, . That why we have conversations like this. 😎💯🇺🇸🇮🇱✝️
Balance is ability to be with and without others. We are never alone, this is an illusion. Your right Teal, the one dimensional” feel good “ self talk is often escapist and fractures our whole
OMG - DEAD ON ACCURATE!! It's about time someone spoke up about all this!! Honestly there are so many accurate nuggets in this video it's simply amazing. It's honestly, sometimes so difficult to sort out. Is my desire for independence healthy or not? Am I wanting to be independent because there's some aspect of a relationship pain that I'm trying to avoid or am I really just trying to expand my abilities in a healthy direction?? Tough to sort out but that's why staying connected spiritually is important for me as well as staying grounded with friends and family.
She's a real thinker 😊 💪 great perspective Great to see that she's not afraid to investigate and even be in conflict with some "established" views that have worked for a lot of people. Teal keep being teal, fabulous 😍🤩
Would love for you to have another chat with Julienhimself about this since he seems to suggest that everything you need (validation, love, self esteem, etc) has to come from within and everything you crave from others you actually crave that from yourself.
After doing shadow work by myself I have learnt its limits. My beginners workshop is in 2 days where I'll be actively encouraging people to do it together long term. I lose interest in people who don't work towads owning their shadows. I'm aware this is a projection ☀
This is the unhealthy extreme that she’s expanding on. However what is more healthy is interdependence. Realizing that everyone, no matter how independent they seem, depends on others in some way. I bet you didn’t farm your own food, build your own house, or generate your own electricity. We all depend on others. Even those living off grid need people, their family and community.
@@HeartFireSessionsbut who thinks that? Are there people who think the food at the supermarket appeared there by magic? This is the confusing part of these discussions for me. Who is so independent that they don’t notice the electricians, teachers, nurses, plumbers etc?
Amazing as usual....and so real....Yes It's so easy to say just love yourself instead in spite of rejection and betrayal we experienced so many times.We need other people in our lives, that's the fact....We might not need the family of origin where the trauma originates from but we do need others to heal❤
The Stream of David/ The TYA practice doesn’t cater to these types of shadows. The stream always talks about how there is no wrong path and the appreciate all things. While enjoying the human experience without judgement
True and for me it is best to love and interact with some specific people that are very untrustworthy from far and use discernment . However I will not let those relationships get in the way of connecting with others. Thank you
@@thesulechan Oddly, I felt good about having them when I did. I met someone who was consistent with me and insisted on my honesty for almost a decade. I came to rely on them to be there. It wasn't my thinking that changed; it was getting comfortable with having feelings.
Beware "resistance incoming 😉" Using the beautiful word independence as a synonym for separation, isolation, detachment, etc. is a poor = not beneficial use of the word. Independence means you are not controlled by someone or something. You have the power to make decisions. It's called free will, which in my worldview is one of the foundational traits of human beings. How could you experience anything if you couldn't choose to or choose not to after all? The opposite of independence is dependence. Sometimes. Dependence has two major meanings. The negative one: you are controlled by something, you e.g. are addicted to alcohol and therefore dependent on it. The second meaning of dependence is the positive one Teal is referring to: to depend on someone in the sense of trusting them, relying on them, have their support, backing, etc. Independence was never an opposite to the positive meaning of the word dependence, but a lot of Self-Empowerment "experts" might gaslight people into believing such. Example: when you depend on your family and friends you do so because you chose to do so, not because they forced you to do so (okay babies may not have a real choice for some time). It is your choice and it's natural, because we are obviously all interrelated. Interrelation seems to me the best word I could find to describe what Teal probably meant when she used the word interdependence, which has the same negative - forced control - connotation that dependence has. Have a wonderful life!
Pride is the most deadly sin for a reason, It can lead to all of the other evils you can express onto others and yourself… All the while, Being seemingly innocuous and hidden as other personal traits
A lot is what I hear was , this sounds like a modern movement that is failing’s badly . Teal is make a point to those can take an intellectual View on the world. Without have to defend oneself. 😎
Yeah most of my relationships have been unhealthy, so I isolated myself and now I’m afraid to ever be in a romantic relationship again,even though I still crave it. Trying to see if I can still have good relationships with others while being single and working on myself..
I would like to thank all the people that grow or harvest or produce the food I eat, the pilots that have driven the planes on my vacations, the people who build the building I live in, the ones that made my glasses so I can see, the ones that made the furniture I have nd every single object I own, the teachers that have thought me the most basics to the most complex lessons, the ones that have helped with my health, the people though whom my abundance has come from. The planet, the atmosphere, the animals, the non-physical, and everything else that I might not be conscious of. The list would be endless to thank everyone and everything that is needed to support each of us in our own individual lives. It would be miserable, empty or poor in material, intellectual, emotional and spiritual resources. It's tenths, to hundreds to thousands of people, for some even millions of people that are included as part of their own life paths. I believe the entire universe, not only humanity, would collapse super quickly without interdependence as it would also collapse without the expansion of each individual self or consciousness that exists.
Oh! I’m all for family connection and building friendships but what can you do when you’ve been spit out by the very same people who supposed to love you, support you and nurture you(your family).
Yes, this is the ultimate bottom & we were born into it. Our base program needs to be defragmented and rewritten. From an exiled state, we have to ask for outside help, or wither away...
@@gabriellewhalley1328 Except for imagining the original ones dead, yes, agreed, exactly that. Do not even entertain the others in your imagination as there are better things to do.
Yeah in a perfect world 🙄how are you supposed to have relationships with addicts, narcissists, users, etc. MOST relationships are unhealthy & co-dependent
If I recall correctly, she has stated that most relationship dynamics are either neutral or positive. That would make sense in the way that most people are not extreme addicts, narcissists, and users.
@@carlyofearth It is clear that you misread. I said "most" and not "all." If I find the video later, I will link it and include the timestamp because it was explicitly said and not up for interpretation.
@TealSwanOfficial : could you please share your insight on walk-in souls and if the form changes because of it... Sorry for asking off-topic questions.
- 00:00 🌟 Self-empowerment across fields: Spirituality, psychology, life coaching, self-help, and self-development all aim to teach self-empowerment, which is crucial for well-being. - 00:18 🕵♂ Hidden danger: There is a shadow lurking in self-empowerment teachings that can be harmful if not recognized. - 01:22 🤔 Root cause: People seek self-empowerment due to feelings of powerlessness, often caused by unwanted experiences and pain. - 02:00 👥 Main source of pain: Other people are the primary source of pain and suffering, leading many to seek self-empowerment. - 02:40 🌑 Shadow of independence: The drive to avoid powerlessness can lead to an illusion of independence, resulting in disconnection under the guise of connection. - 03:02 💔 Relational trauma: Many self-empowerment teachers have experienced relational trauma, feeling unsafe with people and thus promoting independence. - 04:00 🧘 Misguided practices: Self-empowerment practices can become tools of disconnection, such as the belief that everything needed is within or focusing solely on self-love. - 05:41 🚨 Shadow-laced strategies: Beliefs, techniques, and strategies that eliminate dependence on others can feel empowering but may be unhealthy and disconnecting. - 08:01 🌍 Relational needs: People are relationally dependent beings, and their well-being is tied to the quality of their relationships. - 09:45 🔄 Interdependence: True well-being involves developing deeply connected, interdependent relationships rather than pursuing complete independence. - 10:27 🌐 Universal truth: We live in an interdependent universe where our needs come through others; self-empowerment should reflect in symbiotic relationships.
Good job for reaching out! Maybe it will help to connect with people who are also actively searching for connection. Then they will reach back to you. We can not force/ make people to connect us, so search for people who already are ready and looking for that!
Cannot thrive independently, How about cannot survive? Food, heat, clothing, shelter...try it alone. Currency has blinded us to our sources of value. Take away currency, and have a good look at the hard facts and basic reality of daily life.
Isolate for a while,keep the feeling that sometimes people will leave,you leave people too,be ok with that no attachment issues, I don't agree with most of the things she said though, your outer world definitely is a product of your inner world.
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Also, the first 1:22 seconds of this video is so fire. I felt the "stick" permeating. Keep whatever that is up. What an upgrade, team. awesome.
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hi Teal!! love you!! this message explained what I m calling it as the international internet poliscifi podcasters - teal, your work is the WAY. I praise your every effortbeen here since 2013, Im so pleased and thankful for the jounary and path youve placed me and on i praiseyour or our comunirty. when im here I belong and also I see so many or read so many comemnts, wow, its all of us, i wonder if its collective ptsd, i think you said that a while back. im disabled from mental health and phy problems Teal. I thoink with everything you explained you explained the IIPP toxic subcutlures, great clips and messages, teal you knock the ideas or issue outta the park with your brilliance proud of you!! keep giong.
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Teal, I presently am busting at the seams every time I meet ‘spiritual people’ who deny getting help from others ie healers because some wise ass has told them to travel to Asia and self heal wtf?!! So, they spend their hard earned ‘small’ funds, live like beggars and hit Ashrams in search of self and healing. With no innerstanding, support or knowledge of how. Returning home penniless, desperate and in a worse state than when they arrived.
I feel so delighted that you are covering this subject that I call ‘spiritual bypassing’ due to zen mind and unresolved traumas from root chakra to crown and expecting to vibrate higher🥵
Fyi. I adore you, your wisdom, honesty and ultra feminine vulnerability.
You Rock!!🎉🎉❤
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Intriguing! I'm curious, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and what's the most effective way for me to reach him?
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Thank you for this valuable information.
This reminds me of Teal's video "What Most People Don’t Get About Aloneness" when she noted spiritual practices can easily be misused to deny basic human needs like connection. Spiritual practices are tools, not replacements, for living your life. 🙌
Is it the spiritual bypassing video ? 🙃 (could also be many others, as I can recall her toutching on this subject several times 😊)
@@DonaldAMisc ahhh thanks ! Its so relieving good insights, that Teal has on this 🌸🙏
True, and the same can be extended to pets and solitary hobbies and work.
Nowadays is more beneficial to be connected to a rook or a piece of paper than 99.9999% biologically classified "human beings"...actual parasites most of em, I would even have a better connection with actual virus, way more beneficial
Amazing clarity... As humans we were sent here and meant to connect with other humans. It is part of the human experience. We were not designed to be alone. We need each other in order to grow. Thank you Teal 🩵🙏
Yes! 🙌👏
How the hell do people navigate life without this woman.
they do not, becauae they are brainwashed and deeply sleeping
Very, very competently. Very ably. Decades running. 😁👍🏻
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Nobody's perfect you live and you learn it -Miley Cyrus
Have you ever heard the saying, 'dont eat from a skinny cook'? Same premises- dont trust a broken guru.
What we are seeing is a up rise in people who have woken up, but haven't actually sat in their own spiritual practices and teaching long enough for anything to be embodied. What we are seeing is people out the gate trying to make money off things they haven't actually implemented long enough to learn the energtics behind it all.
They have stepped from the same ego trap in new clothing.
Well said.
Preach!! Exactly. So true. And even if they haven't started making money off it, I've had friends come and go because they use spirituality to justify being completely detached relationally when it suits them. These tools can be used to justify being self absorbed and empathy-less at times. A lot of spiritual bypassing and the spiritual community definitely does attract a fair few unhinged people.
I don't feel it's a negative per se to seek a temporary disconnection from others to foster self-independence.....if it is meant to connect within, heal your wounds and find out what you really want out of life and who you really are inside. I feel that for some people it's an important phase of life. Ideally that important phase will be then give rise to the next step - the cultivation of heart-to-heart and open relationships with others. Speaking from the experiences in my own journey, the best thing I have done for myself was to retreat from relationships for a long period of time to heal myself and find out who I really was underneath the fears and trauma.
Balance right?
@@VictorEstevesCastro Perfectly said :)
How did you cope when you felt you needed someone when in isolation?
@@wellbeingwithzee6168 The thing is that I didn't feel the need to have anyone. I was also going through an illness so I had to be with my parents to by my caretakers and the only relationships I had where those. It was enough for me....didn't have the physical and mental energy for anyone else. I concentrated all that energy back to myself. Sorry I know it's not the answer you were looking for.
@@Tatacchan thank you for your response hopefully your health is much better now
The apex of self healing is connection. Triggers from connections are just pointers to your wounds/unhealed parts of self. Teal is absolutely right.
I loved that it is not a contradiction to both being self-empowered and also in and needing relationship with others. "People who need people are the luckiest people in the world."
So this is a cultural shift that starts with me, it starts with us. I am shocked and hurt but also forgive myself because of the dysfunction we have been programmed. Being vulnerable and asking for what we need takes courage, a chance for rejection, but worth it because the more we speak up and take action to build intimacy and trust together, the faster we can minimize the hold shame has on us.
That's called growth!
Self empowerment can never come without shadow work. The darkness of the shadows of your soul must come out into the open.
Thank you for clarifying this teaching. I just wish I knew how to get my needs met. I live in a very introverted and “independent” country, where it feels impossible to meet new people and find relationships, so it’s good I’m aware what I need, and not being in denial of it, but I don’t know what action to take to meet it
Release control. Most people are afraid of others because of unpredictability. A lot of people are also looking for instant gratification, but forget Rome wasn't built in a day. It takes time and effort to BUILD the relationships we want. We need to be patient while building these relationships as well. And during the "inbetween".. is where self love and self care comes in. By treating ourselves how we want to be treated while the relationships are being built we are also showing Verse the kind of love, affection, attention we would like from others. Too many people are also eye for eye, but by releasing expectations of others and allowing them to show us whether or not they deserve to be connected to us helps the process along. Self empowerment, in this situation, would be healthy boundaries you have set for yourself. Over time people will show you who they are and this is where you make the decisions of whether or not they stay. We have to allow it to unfold naturally, not rush into it.
I think this is a great example of the kind of action to take ! Hi 😊
I relate to this so much even though I come from a very "dependent" country and we have a whole host of other problems. it can be incredibly hard to meet new people and get any relational needs met here too because enmeshment suspiciously looks like intimacy but it isn’t.
I don't know if this would work in your country, but doing volunteer work for a cause you really care about can be a way to meet good people.
@@Subtly420 Solid advice! Not rushing relationships shows us so much about ourselves & others!
I believe she’s a front runner, I had a season in the wilderness alone to focus on healing and wholeness and now it’s time to come out of that wilderness season. Welcoming the change but it will also be a challenge and others will show me more work needing to be done . We are all parts of one body -collective
I watched this video once before. It seems I was close to cracking the code on the exact nature of my people issues myself. It has been a long standing pattern that I receive confirmation after I intuit a new level of truth. That's how I found you in the first place :). I had a ton of work to do to see myself before I could see you. Your eyes made me feel human and I can't thank you enough for that. Introverted intuition (NI) runs deeper than I could have ever imagined. I'm climbing as fast as I can (without going too insane lol). ♥ Matt.
Ah this!!!
So much bypassing gosh...
Transcending our inbuilt reflexes like anger, disgust etc....
This is so spot on
Phew. As someone in the beginning throws of a mindset coaching business, this was pretty brutal to hear. This was never ever my intention, I found myself disagreeing with some things she said in the beginning. But it's good to know these kinds of things. I can now be more aware of what I am putting out into the world. I'm a firm believer in collaboration and cooperation - that's relationships at the end of the day.
Good job!
What is the solution in a generation and social environment that prioritizes popularity, beauty, and social status over values like authenticity, truth, connection, and support?
This generation seems to operate under a "survival of the fittest" mindset in terms of social connection, often excluding those who don't meet these superficial standards.
Personal independence often results from not fitting into these standards. No matter how hard you try, unless you're willing to do whatever it takes to meet these criteria, you may find yourself excluded from the community.
Unfortunately, mastering relationships is not and will never be something that depends solely on the individual.
Because it comes from self Mastery..
The power of your subconscious mind by Dr. Joseph Murphy..suggest read & apply ..
Teal has pointed the solution: be the antidote and promote the values you chose.
Why change others?
If you know your values, it is your values.
Why do you need others value the same as you?
Do you think you are the only one in 7 billion people that value authenticity, truth, connection and support?
Btw, I also value popularity, beauty and social status.
Since I am a pubic speaker , it is important to reach people, but these are less important then the first ones. So I follow my priorities and this help me understand that the ones that match my service will be the ones that will come together.
Why bother if not everyone is coming? I am here for who is compatible and I do not need to personally relate to every 7 billion people!
What you feel about this?
This made myself more clear about my preferences, specially after seeing my sister’s family playing some dynamics today that I wish they did differently, but well… it’s their option!
you’re right to a degree, society at large is very superficial and the ones who tend to succeed are the ones preoccupied with these frivolous things. However, it does NOT mean that certain people are ever barred from finding community and deep relationships. Even in school, the unpopular weird kids had very tight relationships with other weird kids and weird adults alike. If you operate from authenticity and being completely true to yourself, you will find your people, even if it takes a couple (or many) of challenging relationships to get there. if this is something you’re really struggling with then it might be worth studying who you crave a relationship with? MOST people will say they value integrity and compassion over looks and popularity, yet they themselves overlook the “undesirables” while trying to chase the acceptance of the ones “above their league”.
Teal thank you for telling the truths that no one else dares to tell. Your words are like a symphony of honesty for my soul! You speak more truth than anyone i watch or know. Thank God for your existence!!! Thanks for having the courage to speak your truth!! Im so grateful for you! 💖
I agree with what you’ve expressed so well, Teal. There is many a spiritual teacher out there who is getting high on referring to themselves as gods and goddesses and kings and queens. I’m all for people valuing themselves and owning their sense of sovereignty but this can become a very slippery slope. After all, words carry weight and language is loaded. Let’s leave room for some humility. Thank you, Teal.
”The spiritual field, the psychology field, the life coaching field, the self-help field and the self-development field are all aimed at teaching the public some version of self-empowerment. And this, is a very good thing. Self-empowerment is a pivotal element of wellbeing in life. At the very same time, there is a dominant shadow lurking within the teachers of self-empowerment. One that has become like a collective illness. And one that can easily infect you. Today, I’m going to expose this shadow to the world, so that you don’t fall into the trap of thinking that something very, very harmful is very, very good”. Teal Swan 🌎 thank you Teal 😘
I went through a lot of trauma- bullying as a child and young adult, an abusive marriage, parental neglect...and I had to heal myself solely on my own cuz there had been no help for me. The lonelyness added to my trauma and I am actively moving out of this shell, for example I am connecting with new people. All those ideas Teal is mentioning are only sugarcoating but unfortunately most of us rely on these things in our darkest hour.
I am proud of you for coming out of your shell. I know it can be scary, but authentic healthy connection feels so amazing! I hope you can feel it too
Your point of view is different than what we are watching on youtube. As everyone is unique It will certainly work with some of the viewers. However, I would not paraphraze this phenomenom as dark side. At the end of the day, to each their own!
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So true!!!
Again, Thank you so much for spreading reality.
I am so glad you made the video.
Those are my thoughts every day.
You are my only source of validation ❤
So tired of the massive escapism in this society. I can understand, I've been there.
Thank you, Teal for taking this up.
Teal never misses. Spot on all the time
I would love for her to do a dedicated video on the spirit guide/imaginary friend thing, and go more into that, and how it all relates to a modality like shamanism where it is actively encouraged to always “ask the guides” for answers, and to carry out the healings
It's probably a way to get all parts of your subconscious mind on board.
You must realize that when you're on a psychedelic trip, the entire earth & all who are on it are your guides.
@@alexisscarbrough4083 Yes but the same is true when you are not on a psychedelic trip
@@letsdomath1750 Are you able to elaborate?
@@Praying_ManTas By creating imaginary friends, or perhaps entering an altered state of consciousness and seeing persistent images that we assign as having a certain meaning or significance or who spoke or communicated to us in trance-like states, we may be trying to communicate symbolically with subconscious parts of our mind that are not easily accessible in everyday life. Sure, you may also be coming into contact with other beings who have appeared within your field of awareness, but if we approach what is being revealed with curiosity, openness, and discernment, it really doesn't matter. We can then evaluate and judge with our conscious minds if what they are sharing with us is applicable or wise or appropriate to implement in our lives right now. At the same time, we can integrate the information shared with our experiences thus far, and we can develop a sense that we are never alone, even if no 3-D humans grace us with their presence simply to enjoy our company on the regular. As for healing ceremonies, certain archetypes, images, visuals, and scenes can be evoked to call upon certain energies and energetic flows to promote and facilitate the process of healing. Basically, we are using the faculties of mind/imagination to guide our focus to something we desire to crystallize into our experience. Spirit guides (be they actual entities or imagined beings that serve us as coping mechanisms) would be simply more instruments, or allies if that sounds nicer, to achieve just that.
Thank you for the clarity that you bring in all your videos. I've been through a process of self empowerment (much needed I think) and I felt that something is missing if I cut out all closeness to other human beings. Thanks to many other videos of you I entered again in the relations that are good for me and now I truly feel much better. Independence has it's limits indeed. You exposed everything very well. Thank you for everything that you do! From Romania with love!❤
woahhh... 10 years on TH-cam and I haven't found anyone who's been able to say what I've been seeing this entire time. Glad to have found you Teal. May our paths cross one day
Also, @TealSwanOfficial, how are you not muslim? You still have some work to do to reach this ideal state you speak of
I pretty much agree except for the being alone part: ultimately the one is here alone. That’s why one creates the illusion of another to not be alone with. Nothing better than being with yourself in another being. I see why the trap is there because it’s a worthwhile endeavor. Thank you for pointing out this truth of the fact that people who live in separation exist and we must always accept their views as valid and as a part of our one beings formation of a separate ego from it. You are one so don’t avoid yourself (others) that are you.
Definitions always seem to be vital. Every answer does seem to lie within.... however, how do we define 'within?' If we are one, then within is also without. The paradox grants endless opportunities for balance and adaptation with self-mastery!
Beautifully put !
Thank you !
It helps me to be careful to be balanced.
I love your points of view.
And I take them for what they are: YOUR point of view.
Your filter is about trauma and healing and it is soooo useful for so many people !
And from that same place where my gratitude comes from, a question pops up: are YOU balanced? Aren't you exactly in the same pattern than everybody ? from the moment we play the game of life, we only play that role... and it is very limited. It is only one of the roles which have to be played and all roles are ok. We all learn by taking different ways !
I know your point of view is différent from mine and that's totally ok.
Again, thank you for your inspiration !
With Love !
The illusions of the glorification of independence. Yes, you said it. All humans are interdependent in some way, in some intimately vitalizing spiritual and metaphysical, as much as mundane life requires normalizing societal precedents. The world's structural foundations in relations have their key aspects and their discordance if overbalanced or underutilized.
You always get greater and greater teal vert important contant in this video❤❤❤❤❤ thank you so much angel
I like your confidence. I cannot speak freely as you do. I loose all apropriate words so exprrss my thoughts. Like a silent tetard, noting to say, but full of ideas, nedding to get out!
At this time, self love helps me regroup all my apsects, shadows and life view, to better reach out with purpose and confidence, which is ultimately the fruition of self-mastery. Be a strengh and anchor in this world because we have developed it to ourselves first. Otherwise it would be shallow, or ego projections. Kmow thyself and love humanity and life.
Love your shirt! Your teachings are amazing as usual, thank you.
Another shadow of self-empowerment and self-improvement is the have-nots turning against you. All the hateful BS that comes with positive results such as success (financial, romantic, or other.), honestly, I did not see it coming from some individuals. You quickly find out who your enemies and true friends are.
It's a blessing in disguise, sort of)
Context is key. Were they viciously envious and said that they hoped that you failed or something similar? Or did you make light of their situation and called them lazy for not working on themselves? 🤔
Hi Teal. You’ve become a central and transitional teacher for me in a decades coming maybe one time rebirth transitional phase of my life. Maybe the truest. And this vid may be the best. You are one in a thousand, across all the spiritual/Wholly fields. Not why I comment though. Actually, your hair looks really great here. Really, always beautiful, but tips over today. Got that very special little explosion. Hope it’s a little piece of platinum.
I have been feeling this so much lately, the illusion of independence has brought me into a space of deep depression and feeling of un fulfillment 😢
Feeling independent and wanting it for others can help us transform
What comes next for many is seeing others pain, and the struggles our modern world can't handle.
It's not the end of a journey or even an easy place to be 😅
Feeling morose is still better than feeling numb or ignorant... To me that's always the sign that I'm on the path towards a breakthrough...
Independence doesn't have to mean isolation,depend on yourself and others equally,the feeling of knowing you will be just fine with or without people.Thinking like this helps me not have attachment issues 😂❤❤❤
In my first videos I watched, I was surprised by the big difference between what I expected and what I saw, which is to say, I expected something along the lines of "ultra-mega-giga-spiritual-self-sufficient" type of philosophy but I saw the most normal and logic story ever.
Thank You Teal.
(I love You, of course...)
I wholeheartedly agree with everything that you expressed with one question but it’s not a question in my mind and that is if someone has disrespected me repeatedly or someone is not healthy for me. I don’t hold on to anger, resentment I feel what I need to feel and then I let it go and I forgive, but the boundaries go up, it’s what saved me was having physical boundaries and not permitting toxicity whenever possible into my field… it’s a tall order, but it can be done. I truly believe there are certain people and situations that it’s really important for us to emotionally detach from if we’re not able to physically detach
✨10:00 _"Meaning"_ - right there is the very 'fabric' from which we weave the 'reality' of the personal experience we wear. Choose wisely the ones you will keep company with.
Hi , do love when Teal talk tough to the community, and get ones feeling hurt. Take it , and think on it, don’t just jump in on your own thoughts believes ideologies, . That why we have conversations like this. 😎💯🇺🇸🇮🇱✝️
Balance is ability to be with and without others. We are never alone, this is an illusion. Your right Teal, the one dimensional” feel good “ self talk is often escapist and fractures our whole
OMG - DEAD ON ACCURATE!! It's about time someone spoke up about all this!! Honestly there are so many accurate nuggets in this video it's simply amazing. It's honestly, sometimes so difficult to sort out. Is my desire for independence healthy or not? Am I wanting to be independent because there's some aspect of a relationship pain that I'm trying to avoid or am I really just trying to expand my abilities in a healthy direction?? Tough to sort out but that's why staying connected spiritually is important for me as well as staying grounded with friends and family.
She's a real thinker 😊 💪 great perspective
Great to see that she's not afraid to investigate and even be in conflict with some "established" views that have worked for a lot of people.
Teal keep being teal, fabulous 😍🤩
Would love for you to have another chat with Julienhimself about this since he seems to suggest that everything you need (validation, love, self esteem, etc) has to come from within and everything you crave from others you actually crave that from yourself.
WELL DONE Teal. 🎉
So refreshing! Thank you
Oh my gosh! Thank God you made this video. It's so clear to me whenever I come across these people that they're trauma driven.
This made me giggle, cry and feel more healthy.
Thank you Teal! ☘️🩵🌿🌸
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 thank you so so much for this! You are the best 💙❤️💜
Such an important conversation
To be having - learnt this during my early postpartum days and it was like this instant sigh of relief.
Ty sooo much blessings always Teal
Thanx teal for calling out on a massscale🙏🏽🕊
After doing shadow work by myself I have learnt its limits. My beginners workshop is in 2 days where I'll be actively encouraging people to do it together long term. I lose interest in people who don't work towads owning their shadows. I'm aware this is a projection ☀
Love your blouse! ❤
Same :)
Amazing! Amazingly true anyway. Thank you a lot.
the distortions keep susceptible people in the shadow work perpetually, but it's bypassing. yeah she said it all here
Thanks real🤍that made me think🙏🏼🕊️
Gratitude ❤
Happy to leave humanity and saving myself from their insanity. Luv u Teal🫶
Being independent is not the same as being a hermit. What an extreme interpretation of the word.
This is the unhealthy extreme that she’s expanding on.
However what is more healthy is interdependence. Realizing that everyone, no matter how independent they seem, depends on others in some way.
I bet you didn’t farm your own food, build your own house, or generate your own electricity. We all depend on others.
Even those living off grid need people, their family and community.
@@HeartFireSessionsbut who thinks that? Are there people who think the food at the supermarket appeared there by magic? This is the confusing part of these discussions for me. Who is so independent that they don’t notice the electricians, teachers, nurses, plumbers etc?
Amazing as usual....and so real....Yes It's so easy to say just love yourself instead in spite of rejection and betrayal we experienced so many times.We need other people in our lives, that's the fact....We might not need the family of origin where the trauma originates from but we do need others to heal❤
Oh my goodness. This hit me. Thank you.
The new Earth will be created through a new paradigm of human relationships that will leave behind the old. And Teal is leading the charge 🙏❤️
Balance is key!
Thanks Teal .. Very Well Explained :)
One of your best videos🎉
Hi Teal! Been here since October 2018! Can you please do a short or long video on low blood pressure, please? ❤🙏
Thank you Teal.
Beautiful. Thank you.
WOW. This video is a gift from god. Thank you.
The Stream of David/ The TYA practice doesn’t cater to these types of shadows. The stream always talks about how there is no wrong path and the appreciate all things. While enjoying the human experience without judgement
True and for me it is best to love and interact with some specific people that are very untrustworthy from far and use discernment . However I will not let those relationships get in the way of connecting with others. Thank you
3:04 Yes, this is where i have been feeling that I've been hanging out. At times i would pause and think, darn that is my ego flaring up. 😂
Hi Teal I wish you could make a video on safety vs freedom. when it has to do with choice.
All makes sense. She's right, we all are interdependent living in a web of interactions outside ourselves.
Thank you. I used to be the queen of these kind of beliefs. I am better now.
how did you break out of it? i carry most(if not all) of the beliefs she mentioned, and i feel really bad about it... :(
@@thesulechan Oddly, I felt good about having them when I did. I met someone who was consistent with me and insisted on my honesty for almost a decade. I came to rely on them to be there. It wasn't my thinking that changed; it was getting comfortable with having feelings.
The more you get to know someone, the harder it is to like them. Why is it like that for the majority of people
Teal really blew the lid off of this one!
Healthy interdependence comes from healthy spiritual independence! Not ego dependency which is toxic independence! “No man is an island”…
Beware "resistance incoming 😉"
Using the beautiful word independence as a synonym for separation, isolation, detachment, etc. is a poor = not beneficial use of the word. Independence means you are not controlled by someone or something. You have the power to make decisions. It's called free will, which in my worldview is one of the foundational traits of human beings. How could you experience anything if you couldn't choose to or choose not to after all?
The opposite of independence is dependence. Sometimes. Dependence has two major meanings.
The negative one: you are controlled by something, you e.g. are addicted to alcohol and therefore dependent on it.
The second meaning of dependence is the positive one Teal is referring to: to depend on someone in the sense of trusting them, relying on them, have their support, backing, etc.
Independence was never an opposite to the positive meaning of the word dependence, but a lot of Self-Empowerment "experts" might gaslight people into believing such.
Example: when you depend on your family and friends you do so because you chose to do so, not because they forced you to do so (okay babies may not have a real choice for some time). It is your choice and it's natural, because we are obviously all interrelated. Interrelation seems to me the best word I could find to describe what Teal probably meant when she used the word interdependence, which has the same negative - forced control - connotation that dependence has.
Have a wonderful life!
Thank you Teal ❤🙏🏻
Pride is the most deadly sin for a reason, It can lead to all of the other evils you can express onto others and yourself… All the while, Being seemingly innocuous and hidden as other personal traits
A lot is what I hear was , this sounds like a modern movement that is failing’s badly . Teal is make a point to those can take an intellectual View on the world. Without have to defend oneself. 😎
Yeah most of my relationships have been unhealthy, so I isolated myself and now I’m afraid to ever be in a romantic relationship again,even though I still crave it. Trying to see if I can still have good relationships with others while being single and working on myself..
I would like to thank all the people that grow or harvest or produce the food I eat, the pilots that have driven the planes on my vacations, the people who build the building I live in, the ones that made my glasses so I can see, the ones that made the furniture I have nd every single object I own, the teachers that have thought me the most basics to the most complex lessons, the ones that have helped with my health, the people though whom my abundance has come from. The planet, the atmosphere, the animals, the non-physical, and everything else that I might not be conscious of. The list would be endless to thank everyone and everything that is needed to support each of us in our own individual lives. It would be miserable, empty or poor in material, intellectual, emotional and spiritual resources. It's tenths, to hundreds to thousands of people, for some even millions of people that are included as part of their own life paths. I believe the entire universe, not only humanity, would collapse super quickly without interdependence as it would also collapse without the expansion of each individual self or consciousness that exists.
Oh! I’m all for family connection and building friendships but what can you do when you’ve been spit out by the very same people who supposed to love you, support you and nurture you(your family).
Leave them behind and find a new family and new friends and imagine the original ones died...
Yes, this is the ultimate bottom & we were born into it. Our base program needs to be defragmented and rewritten.
From an exiled state, we have to ask for outside help, or wither away...
@@gabriellewhalley1328 Except for imagining the original ones dead, yes, agreed, exactly that. Do not even entertain the others in your imagination as there are better things to do.
Imagine you're going to die tomorrow. What would you do now?
@@MAGH1O1 I can’t even start to think. All I can do is hope I don’t die tomorrow because I have so much that I still have to do.
Yeah in a perfect world 🙄how are you supposed to have relationships with addicts, narcissists, users, etc. MOST relationships are unhealthy & co-dependent
I would like to hear Teal’s thoughts on this
If I recall correctly, she has stated that most relationship dynamics are either neutral or positive. That would make sense in the way that most people are not extreme addicts, narcissists, and users.
@@letsdomath1750 lmao. Because Teal says that, you believe it? Have you ever stepped outside your door? That is obviously not true
Did you watch? Seems I heard that focused on within the first 2 mins.
@@carlyofearth It is clear that you misread. I said "most" and not "all." If I find the video later, I will link it and include the timestamp because it was explicitly said and not up for interpretation.
I need some Teal today. ❤
@TealSwanOfficial : could you please share your insight on walk-in souls and if the form changes because of it... Sorry for asking off-topic questions.
- 00:00 🌟 Self-empowerment across fields: Spirituality, psychology, life coaching, self-help, and self-development all aim to teach self-empowerment, which is crucial for well-being.
- 00:18 🕵♂ Hidden danger: There is a shadow lurking in self-empowerment teachings that can be harmful if not recognized.
- 01:22 🤔 Root cause: People seek self-empowerment due to feelings of powerlessness, often caused by unwanted experiences and pain.
- 02:00 👥 Main source of pain: Other people are the primary source of pain and suffering, leading many to seek self-empowerment.
- 02:40 🌑 Shadow of independence: The drive to avoid powerlessness can lead to an illusion of independence, resulting in disconnection under the guise of connection.
- 03:02 💔 Relational trauma: Many self-empowerment teachers have experienced relational trauma, feeling unsafe with people and thus promoting independence.
- 04:00 🧘 Misguided practices: Self-empowerment practices can become tools of disconnection, such as the belief that everything needed is within or focusing solely on self-love.
- 05:41 🚨 Shadow-laced strategies: Beliefs, techniques, and strategies that eliminate dependence on others can feel empowering but may be unhealthy and disconnecting.
- 08:01 🌍 Relational needs: People are relationally dependent beings, and their well-being is tied to the quality of their relationships.
- 09:45 🔄 Interdependence: True well-being involves developing deeply connected, interdependent relationships rather than pursuing complete independence.
- 10:27 🌐 Universal truth: We live in an interdependent universe where our needs come through others; self-empowerment should reflect in symbiotic relationships.
This is so important! Self help has its Dark side too! It can be a disguise for self hate.
I reach out for connection *constantly.
Still waiting for any of you to truly reach back.
Good job for reaching out! Maybe it will help to connect with people who are also actively searching for connection. Then they will reach back to you. We can not force/ make people to connect us, so search for people who already are ready and looking for that!
I love Teals bed time stories. #interdependence
I would think an individuals placement of Love is important to how they relate to others relationally
Cannot thrive independently, How about cannot survive? Food, heat, clothing, shelter...try it alone. Currency has blinded us to our sources of value. Take away currency, and have a good look at the hard facts and basic reality of daily life.
Isolate for a while,keep the feeling that sometimes people will leave,you leave people too,be ok with that no attachment issues, I don't agree with most of the things she said though, your outer world definitely is a product of your inner world.