The Hidden Link Between Anger and Self-Loyalty
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👉 In this episode, Teal Swan reveals the hidden link between anger and self-loyalty. She explains how anger is a protector for a vulnerable aspect of ourselves that we learned to hide and defend in a world that we perceive as unsafe and full of betrayal.
She also shows you how to crack this pattern and find more effective and direct ways of demonstrating loyalty to yourself rather than getting angry. This episode will help you understand, heal, and transform your anger in a radical way.
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Teal Swan is a New Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, and Speaker. She was born with a range of extrasensory abilities and is a survivor of severe childhood abuse. Today she uses her gifts as well as her own harrowing life experience to inspire millions of people towards authenticity, freedom, and joy and teaching people how to transform their emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual pain.
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Beginning and Ending Song:
Teal Swan Intro by Christian De Raco
I slowly realised that it is not their destruction that I want but my own self-preservation.
Yes! High five!
Well said.
This is such a powerful realization. Thank you so much!
I have this pattern and I have waited my whole life for someone other than myself to say it. For various reasons whenever I try to speak about it, I just get rejected. Prob cuz i’m still coming from that angry place. So on top of everything, no one hears me. And I just go in circles like that my whole life. It’s put me in total aggravating isolation for years. Thank you forever Teal, this means everything. I am trying my best to tend to my pain now and break that initially formed link. 😭🖤
Willing to actively go deeper into this and find healthy coping mechanisms is so brave. I wish you all the best in this journey. Loads of self-compassion and tenderness 🩵
Wow, takes courage to share that pattern openly. You're not alone in feeling unheard, but expressing it courageously is the first step to breaking the cycle. #VulnerabilityIsStrength
I recently found Teal, and she really speaks my language!
I wish you appropriate levels of shadow enlightenment and that your environment becomes a truer more accurate and helpful reflection of your being
I hear you. I’ve felt the same way, so much anger my whole life at being unheard and not considered. Im sorry you’re going through this too. I truly hope it gets better for you. Thank you so much for sharing
I am usually amazed by Teal Swan. I honestly think that Teal is an ancient being from another galaxy somewhere who accidentally wondered in and we are happy to have her.
Thanks Teal! 😅😊🌈❤🧡💚💙💜❣
I absolutely agree ❤ simply the way she articulates herself is so completely different to anyone i have ever heard speaking.
Look up "starseeds"
It was no accident. She is of the entire universe. She is the "tuning fork" we need to vibrate higher. She can also be human in the best and worst ways. And thank God for that. Bc this is how we can relate!! ❤
I agree. I think she’s an ancient being.
I love how she models authenticity, not trying to fit in with the image of other spiritual teachers. I’m learning the authenticity part from her.
Teal knows things and can articulate the way things work and why better than any mental health professional that I've ever listened to. She's special, and I am so grateful that she chose to put herself where she is, working with the public and helping anyone that is looking for a way to heal. She is a gift to humanity, and we are blessed to have her in this lifetime.
Agreed ❤
100% true!
She Is Amazing 💯🤍🩷
Yep I was a people pleaser and betrayed myself in the process giving my loyalty to the wrong people. This hits hard
I am always shocked to the core because of how accurate Teal is.
Yes!
Right??
She’s incredibly accurate
For most of my life, I was a people-pleaser, not because I was a kind person, but because I was always fearful of looking like a bad one. However, beginning just several years ago, I was so sick of living this way that I experimented and practiced doing the opposite of people-pleasing by being unpleasantly confrontational with people whenever I was triggered. This also wasn't very effective (obviously). This video gave me some good ideas and tools I can perhaps implement going forward. Thank you, Teal!
I'm right there with you!
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Umm where u failed buddy is when you said “not because I was a kind person…”
Thank you , I can relate.
@@jacksonmcnuggets7488 consider context here: this person isn’t confessing that they are unkind-they’re saying that their kindness was not the underlying reason for being a people pleaser. 19:54 19:54
They need to add this in a class in school so the kids understand this ! They are the next generation to make the world better ❤
Learning how to agree to disagree was a huge turning point in my anger-issues. I do still self-preserve, I just don’t show it to people I feel like I can’t trust. Instead of yelling in their face I don’t trust them, I keep quiet and take all that energy to myself, and focus it on my own conscious decision that I DO NOT AGREE, even tho I’m still sitting in their presence.
After being conditioned to be a people-pleaser my whole life, having the audacity to just disagree and stand there firmly is probably the highest form of resistance I’ve ever shown.
At the end of the day, yelling at someone only gives my power away to someone who’s trying to run away and hide from that same power. It’s very futile.
That oil rig worker story really touched me unexpectedly. I have to be brave enough to see what's behind my next rush of anger.
My parents was crappy and ignored me and that's why I have anger so bad. I do feel like nobody cares about me in this world and I have to fight and get angry. ❤
Means your dangerous
This is the first time I've heard a respected teacher take the side of the anger person. (without condemnation of the trigger person of course)
I can feel the immense relief for readers who have the tendency to explode -- I was one as well, destroyed many relationships.
Teal took understanding to another level with self-loyalty. Feels true to me.
She is an original, 1000% devoted to her work. Respect & gratitude for you, Teal Swan.
That’s totally what I am battling with and it’s just started coming to the surface to get healed. Perfect timing. Thank you!
Wow me too, it’s just hit me in the last couple of days 🩵
I think that's brave of you 💪♥️
she is a narcisist who very good with words and hooking her viewer in
she using spirituality to get other people attention she gaslighting people she coming out with new age claptrap
Both seem to be guided here it seems. Same here. Anger is actually towards the Universe who actually guided me towards this video. As ridiculous as this sounds, it is a very old deep seeded hate towards a man made "God" who has watched me be traumatised in childhood. Learning to trust and understand that "God" is within me, not outside. It's in everything, and it is everything.
The connection of Anger to Self Loyalty just hit me like a ton of bricks. How do you continue to hit so close to home to so much of my life through your content? Thank you
We need a world with more compassionate and not so much abusive people. I now have no tolerance for abusive people.
Its amazing shes posting this because i had a healing session yesterday where i asked my highest self what my anger was teaching me, this is how the convo went:
Me: what is my anger teaching me?
Higher self: connection.
Me: im confused, what connection?
Higher self: connection to self
Me: okay... explain
Higher self: your anger is the only way you connect to yourself, defend yourself, and love yourself. You don't know how to connect to yourself in other ways. You bond with yourself through self defense also known as anger
Now today i open youtube to see this video. Crazy
Thank you for saying this. You helped me see this is my issue too
Wow, now comes the grief that I’ve wasted 42 years on this planet being like that. The things I’ve lost. Why must one injustice lead to another? When it rains it pours. Guess I’ll find the healing I need but I still have this unmet need to make it right, fix it, and get the understanding I crave from those that hurt me…they dont understand that it cost me my precious life and potential.
Remember you are enough. Even if you never get that validation. They could die tomorrow and you may still yearn for that validation. You are enough, no one needs to validate you. You decide your truth/worth.
Gosh do I feel like this… then when eventually blowing up in years of rages and poor choices because I didn’t know what else to do… just feels like the whole thing has been a waste and spiralled down.
Time to try another way and keep going I guess ❤
Love how asking the question "What is the best and most effective way to be loyal to myself in this situation?" can be useful for both people who express anger too easily and those of us who don't express anger enough (like myself). Another great tool Teal has given us! Yay!!
Here it is...Me. In less than 20 mins my entire life, emotional tortures and personal, spiritual trip to come back to myself integrated, finished, complete...One day soon.
I am deeply grateful Teal for your honesty, and yet for the respectful, soothing way you chose to speak about this... About us. We aren't damaged goods, we aren't vicious. But our broken hearts can speak of unspeakable pains and truths.
💗🙏That being said...On it!
19:04 the childlike look of excitement for Jadens promotion was too cute. ❤
In the dance of ego and divine light,
Lies a choice of surrender, pure and bright.
Release the grip of shame and fear,
Let the heart's true essence draw near.
Creator, take my will, my strife,
Guide me to live a divinely inspired life.
In each soul, see a spark divine,
In unity and love, let our spirits entwine.
Let go of hatred, anger, and greed,
Embrace the truth of our shared seed.
In the mirror of each human face,
Reflect the beauty of divine grace.
Surrender to the power above,
Embrace the oneness, the boundless love.
In every moment, in every breath,
Find the divine within, conquer death.
So let us walk this path of light,
Shine with love, banish the night.
In surrender to the One we seek,
Find the strength to be truly meek.
Embrace the divinity within,
Let the journey of the soul begin.
In surrender, in love, in unity,
Embody the truth of our shared divinity.
That turtleneck looks so good on her!
If people always do what they always did they get what they always got❤❤❤❤
I am listening to this on repeat.. I am having multiple insights, one being, the people's aggravating behavior towards me is about their own internal discord, and less about me. I need to tend to my own crying internal child. Please pray I really 'get it ' this time and actually change my stubborn patterns, instead of only intellectually getting it. Thank you Teal., really.
Two days ago I was (again) in an anger as self-loyalty situation, which in the end really caused me disappointment in myself, because I hurt people that I love. It did feel like I'm not in reality/in the moment, I was aware and was consciously talking to myself words to calm me down but none of it worked, I still lashed out. Literally last night I was reflecting and talking how in these situations I feel like if I don't express my anger, I'd be cheating on myself, because no one really took my emotions seriously when I was young/teenager and even mocked them. Today this video shows up that validates everything for me.. the struggle will be to find what exactly I'm feeling upset and vulnerable about. In my most recent case it was about a feeling of mistrust in my decisions and disregard for my needs. I appointed a meaning to the current situation that was not about the current situation at all. And no amount of rationalizations and self talk help. I guess I need to remind myself I can step out and take my time to take myself with compassion instead of gaslighting myself. Thank you Teal & divine timing ❤
When anger arises, slow down, but do acknowledge it, but find dignity in ones respons and behaviour.
I wish you good introspection and coming to terms with your fears.
I can see how relevant this topic is atm. With the destruction lust theme for this year, it's crucial for us to learn how to manage these strong emotions...
oh my god, definitely!! i can see the anger bubbling up… we are definitely in a pressure cooker.
Wow, this hit hard. Each word resonated more than the other...
The anger thing is sooo hard ..behavior is learned..seems to heal and leave and the comes back!!!
I agree but, you know what, I think just seeing... not just the pattern (that's not enough), but the root cause, means the tide is turned. Anger, as a teacher for us, is now becoming less needed all the time. Of course, the price of peace is eternal vigilance.
i didn't ever tried the anger-management thing in my life or even thought about it. for me it was an invitation to people-pleasing and in my perception betrayal of myself.
Excellent excellent excellent!!Teal your suggestion are worth so much more than years of counseling. You get to the crux of the issues and then offer such practical strategies to overcome resolve them. I was discussions this issue just the other day with a friend and will now share these very practical strategies with this person after first putting them into practice in myself.
Being loyal to who I am and to my anger. Game changer. Thank you, Teal
Goodness Teal, this is exactly what I’m feeling right now! It’s a very hard lesson I’m currently going through. I’ve always had so much anger within me my whole life and right now feel especially stressed living with very inconsiderate roommates, but find it so hard to confront them bc I grew up ignored and dismissed to the point that now I never speak up about anything anymore. Thank you so much for this Teal, you are the most amazing and helpful teacher. I feel terrified to apply your advice but I know I need to do this. Thank you, all my love 🙏💖✨
Same here :/
Best talk ever on anger. Great example of how to achieve self loyalty.
Im speechless. What a revelation.🎉❤ wow
Teal you are an alien with all that knowledge and wisdom. ❤
Thank you thank you thank you! 😭🙏
I couldn't figure it out. I tried accepting, embracing and acknowledging the anger as part of myself. I knew it couldn't be pushed away, but i could never figure out WHY. You described my childhood exactly. I have cut all the unsafe people out of my life so could not understand why i still felt such rage about minor stuff.
Now I see it's the powerlessness that causes the rage. Even a traffic jam will do it. Realising I'm standing up for myself is amazing - and i have a choice to do it differently.
Understanding that I'm only protecting unacknowledged vulnerability is a game changer. It was definitely not safe to be vulnerable when i was little - I couldn't even get sick as a child - i had to hide it.
The relief i feel just now is just amazing. No words for the gratitude. ❤️❤️❤️
I can't help but to admire the deep understanding you have of how human nature works, acts and reacts ... amazing! Thank you for the good work you do!
This is so well stated. I agree completely. Anger is often a rational response to life. It's hard to be on the receiving end of anger that is out of control, but we can learn to choose constructive ways to harness the appropriate anger at disrespect and betrayal. It takes work to develop this skill, but we never need to deny that our anger is the correct response to the situations that trigger it.
Super. I have anger issues and fef.. they are so counterproductive while people are so unconscious about, how they act as well. Just wrote a paper about, why some behavior of "temporary self" in my community often might lead to no community at all and why I explode on people because of it. Fingers crossed at least a few in my moderation group will get the message.
Thankyou for understanding.
Wow, this is such a right time for this video !
Thought about that just last week, how I need my anger and I can’t just “let go” and let person off the hook and it does feel like betrayal to me !
Girl you never miss. I had to pause the video at one point because I’d haven’t been seen so clearly. Thank you for the awareness and validation
One of the best videos I've seen on Teal's channel in a while, the explanation was so coherent and the example was well thought out with detail and explanation of how he transformed his situation that really felt real and actionable in my own life. I didn't get lost in too many examples like in some other videos, perhaps this was just because this specific example applied directly to me. Thank you so much for this gift.
Thank you for talking about Anger a lot lately. I think it is a topic that is not talked about nearly enough especially in the current climate we are in.
I have from this moment accepted that as well as sadnedd and happiness, anger are one of my groundfeelings , and that both my anger sadness and happiness are very much welcome
This! ❤! Wow... I'm seriously blown away. This got me right in the feels. I had the worst anger issues... but when my kids were little, I had to change. It was the hardest thing I've done. And it never felt complete, but with this lens... from the bottom of my heart, thank you Teal.
This is by far your best video. It enlightened me. I am totally in this situation.
Thank you.
Didn't appreciate your advocacy for the dalai lama gate at the time and my guard is set high towards your advices, which I don't always agree with as in fact I used to.
But today I really say thank you.
You, after all, as all of us, are human. I can accept you're not a guru, you're entitled to your opinion and those can also not correspond to mine. You're entitled to vehicule, sometimes, a message which doesn't feel right to me. Because it's your point of view. It is. You're entitled to express it. You're human. You can be mistaken after all, or I could. But this fact doesn't invalidate the gift you are providing us with, in terms of your energy you spend in these speeches. This time I find your speech to be really affectful for me.
Sorry for my English, not a native speaker.
You are the most awakened person I've ever encountered - not just compassionate, in the most un-sanctimonious way, but also very, very smart.
Dear lady,
I want to thankyou for these videos. This one is the key to my path in this moment. I have been trying to figure out my internal rage. I get it now.
Thankyou for your dedication.
Thank you ❤ this articulates my childhood and my life like no one ever has. My anger then was the perfect target for scapegoating gaslighting and more betrayal. I'm free now and I have found that facing my anger issues and what's underneath has helped me immensely. I have so much compassion now for anger. Its always pain underneath and fear of getting hurt. ❤❤❤
I am so thankfull that someone as intelligent as you exist
So many clips of children suffering was hard to look at...aside from that, this is absolutely amazing.
This came at a perfect time. I was literally just thinking, I need help with my anger
Working on it myself as I realized pain is underneath …feel I’m losing it sometimes … and yes fear is there as well
You are spot on … I used it to defend my daughters when my husband used to fly of the handle with anger
Teal, I cannot describe how helpful this is for me. Thank you so much
Feeling deeply seen, releasing tons of grief and tears, thank you Teal
The way she articulates these matters allow a path to least resistance.....❤
This was very helpful and love that it comes with a workbook and more examples. Thanks Teal
I never heard this explanation before but for the first time I actually understand why I get angry 90% of the time. Thankyou!
Thanks Teal. I lost time with my daughter for almost 9 months because I didnt understand how to control those child wounds and wounds that were being inflicted again. God bless.
As always, thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!!
Teal, you and I are on the same wave length, AGAIN. I legit just faced this shadow earlier today writing about the Global issue called Victim Blaming. I started writing. How myself as a hero/warrior woman was created from. It's still happening to me in the Gas lighting medical system! I'm Standing For All Those Who have been blamed for someone's Crime against them!
I am legit Angry for a reason I felt it deeply rise up within me "Today"
Wow Powerful Realizations then THIS video this evening literally chills of HUGE spiritual understandings of the Authentic Self! I Love this video so freaking much and I love you for understanding. Girl, THIS is why we went through Tougher then normal circumstances as little girls. #gettingloyaltomyself
Today was all Soooo Extremely Healing! 💗🕯️
I love when teal gives me a twist and a surprise ending
Well, this came at the perfect time. Thank you🙏
This explained something I knew but described it quickly and understandably
She is very good at exactly this.
2:00 That exactly how it is. Thank you for the elucidation!!!
With Gratitude! ! !❤⚜️❤
Blessed Be! ! !❤🙏❤
I typed in anger and teal swan. I knew no one else could explain this. Thank you Teal!
Your strength and courage are truly inspiring to all...ancestors are very proud!!!
I keep coming back to this video to absorb it completly, it has so many jewels
Thank you for all that you do and for what you choose to be. You are a beacon for many and have sacrificed more than most people could know or understand in order to be this. You are a combination of spiritual wisdom AND skill and I would absolutely love, be grateful for and be honored to have you on our new series, "Dialogues with Masters", I bow down to you...
Thank you! I will watch this several times today, to let it all sink in.
I watch this for 47 seconds and break down in tears.
Why are you always doing this to me?? I think nothing bad and then you suddenly show up, every time I think I'm done healing. Only to grab my soul and shake it. 😢😅
We are never done with selfwork and realizing what is missing or not done yet. I m very thankful to feel i m not the only one suffering with this issue 😅
Thank You Teal. Anger has been a companion I have had for some time. Your video is the rabbit hole I've needed to look closer at the relationship I've had with anger.
I had this pattern , simply because I could see the lower dimension not giving a toss about us awake ones... Xx
Ive been healing my teenage self and this is exactly what I needed. I can feel an internal split within my conscious that needs a huge deal of compassion and attention.
Thank you Teal for all the love and guidance I feel seen for the first time in my life.
That slowing down part in the heat of the outburst after years of responding this way is tough. Thanks for some beginning steps!
Today is one of those days, that Teal's video seems to be speaking directly to me. This pattern is one that has gotten me in such a rut for the last couple of years. I have tried to confront the family members who have betrayed me. I try to tell them how unfair they have been toward me. That i have been completely taken for granted. But i can't even get the words out before they start making accusations, and completely gaslighting me, as if I am crazy, and the past never happened. I really have tried to let go of any expectations, since it has become apparent that they do not intend to keep their end of agreements, despite the fact that I upheld my end of all the agreements. I am made to feel like my anger is unwarranted... to the point that i have to actually question myself, wondering if my expectations are unfair or if i am being ungrateful somehow. But i have literally sacrificed so much, for years, with no support, except for the promise that i would be taken care of... only to find myself struggling, and being told that i should be taking care of everything myself. I feel like i have been slapped in the face, and beaten down by the people i thought i could trust in life. My family. And then told that I am out of line for harboring so much anger. It is actually mind numbing, the mental gymnastics these people have to perform, like, saying that they never said the things that they said! It has me running angry circles in my brain. Like, disbelief that these people are just okay, completely screwing up my life! Definitely struggling with this issue, to the point that my life is in a state of stagnant chaos. And my feelings are just hurt on top of all of that negativity. It makes me question whether or not i even think it is worth it, to even try in life. Like. If my family will screw me so hard, then won't everyone else in the world screw me just as bad, or worse? Idk. It is a very difficult place i find myself in these days.
I added the video to “watch later” section and kept putting it off for a couple of days. This morning I woke up from a dream where Teal was doing her workshop. I saw some of my old schoolmates there, and then all of a sudden for some reason one of them tried to set me up. I became so angry and almost killed the b’tch 😳😅🤐
Teal seemed fine with that. I felt like my higher self insisted on me watching the video already! 😂😉
Upd: daaam that Jaden story was speaking straight to the heart
Thank you thank you thank you 🙏🏻
omg I love the WORKBOOK! Thank you Teal!!!
This was the most accurate description of my upbringings dynamic. It’s so long to hear phrased by someone and feel seen for what it’s worth.
This came as such an important time for me. What a reframe.
This is so good. I saw this video title and for some unknown reason I needed to watch it. Turns out I wasn"t even aware of how this anger self loyalty relationship Was such a big Problem in my life. Thank you.
This video is SO important. I was in tears listening to it. I'm just trying to be loyal to myself, but in inective way. (Well it can be effective sometimes, but other ways should be tried first ;-)
When I read yyour comment I fel fear too and have been in situations that I am very fortunate to get out of. Praying for you to feel and live with safety and protection. For me I wonder if many women who live alone might benefit from living with many friends in protective communities. ❤
Oh Teal, again. Spot on, perfect timing. Thank you so much for your world service.
I like the new structure of the talk - giving a thorough example at the end rather than many shallow ones. Jadens story was moving!
Every time you upload a new video it's always at the perfect timing it's bizarre and starting to freak me out now😂 been like this for like 6 or 7 months now
First time it happened was the spiritual conundrum video so like 9 months ago you uploaded that the next day after a good friend of mine was talking about the exact same thing it's so bizarre to me why does it keep happening 😂😂
Well we talked about it like a day before you uploaded it perfect timing constantly
Wow!! I've come to some of these conclusions myself recently, I am glad the work I'm doing on myself is paying off.
Wow this story has me BALLING 😭 beautiful ❤
There is definitely link like that. Learned patterns r hard to eradicate without consistently attending to them to rewire neural networks associated with anger
I cried so much watching this video. Thank you so much for this video
I honestly dont know where your insight comes from but every new video i watch, i am amazed.
Gracias infinitas teal! I woke up this morning holding the enraged girl I've always been. This is exactly what happened, this loyalty connection. Thanks thanks thanks🥺😔🌹
You're an instrument of Love - Thank you for your time and TLC x
I have this pattern and am working with it now.
Thank you for sharing this knowledge publicly. The more people who understand this, the better .... My anger is often misunderstood. I felt seen and validated. Thank you, Teal.
Incredible video. I never realized the link between anger and self loyalty. The fear of living in a world where people don’t consider the impact of their actions on others is well explained. It resonated with me. It is so painful and scary, and I have lived with this. The story about Jaden clearly demonstrated a healthier alternative and leading by example inspires me. Such an awesome video, as always. Love you Teal
You’re amazing
Anger is such an ugly and volatile emotion, it can easily get out of control and make a person look crazy but if we don't deal with it, it deals with us. 😢😢❤
Divine timing
Thank you for introducing the dynamic of being loyal to my anger Teal. It set something in motion in a beautiful way. I never saw certain inner patterns as anger, but a lot has become conscious after hearing you explain this.
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Who are you, where have you come from? You are like a Black Swan. I’m a 61 yo therapist and love your deep insight and capacity to articulate the truth so well. Thank you 🙏🏼