I assume everyone likes me and i get to choose who i wanna hang out with. It's pretty powerful. After doing that for years, you'll become that person. With a little practice on your presence and aura, people will wait for your validation, they will stop when you start talking, and you will be invited to every party. People may still dislike you bts, but still, none of them will ever treat you poorly.
Thanks for the advice! Had a bit of trouble at school, new one and all. But It's New Year soon, and I'm going to work on and become the person I want to be. You gave me the extra assurance.
@@smollilbean it's more like visualising what 'the shit' looks like, feels like, acts like and start being that rather than just saying 'i'm the shit' to yourself but yeah
Personally the “awkward silences” can help u get closer to a person. Being comfortable enough to just enjoy sitting in silence together is real friendship to me 😌😌
I agree with #1, people are usually so afraid of silences. I guess it all comes from movies and TV that inserted in our brains the concept of awkward silence. Not every silence is awkward silence.
I will share my little story when I did smth similar to the last trick. We have new year king and queen like prom party at our school recently and we have to model walk. I wasn't confident at all that I would win, cs obviously there were much more prettier seniors. I don't dare expect much but honestly I'm very competitive so I still wanna win deep down in my heart so I wanna try my best. The time I stepped my first step on to the stage, I leave every thoughts behind the stage, I forgot everything I prepared and did whatever I felt like it was right to do and walked confidently, with the mindset "I'm better than everyone watching down there" which sounds Abit wrong, right? But sometimes u need it, I totally won the crown. It was people choices so I asked some ppl who voted for me who wasn't my friends, why and then they said I looked confident and cool.
I don't assume people to like me. Because I used to walk in the room and wondering if they like me. But now I walk into a room and wondering if I like them
Personally I just have the outlook of if I don’t know you and you don’t know me I see it as both of us probably have a neutral or positive-neutral view of the other person. I like to see others as positive-neutral where I kinda assume there a good person but I also don’t know them. I also don’t really care what others opinions of me are, but I try to be my best self so there will be more good things in general and they may be what others see first!
These are things I had to learn, I’ve become so comfortable just being silent when I’m around people. And I don’t say sorry as much anymore and I worked on my self love and worth and I see that people reflect the way you feel about yourself ❤
I'm a confident person but I personally don't like awkward silence specially if I see the other person is feeling awkward or uncomfortable, I would try to talk about a certain topic that they like and make them feel comfortable.
Lol it’s very hard here in Canada not to say sorry for everything 😂 When we want to say “excuse me” when we need to pass by someone we say “sorry” or “sorry just gonna pass by there” or “sorry just gonna scooch by”. We say sorry to inanimate object 🤣 like the side walk or if we run into something. Once I was in Florida and wasn’t looking where I was going. Neither was this lady with a cart. We ran into each other. She hit my with the cart and I said “sorry!”. She didn’t say anything and just looked shocked. 😂
I absolutely HATE awkward silences! One of the biggest reasons I hate talking on the phone is mainly bc of that. Especially if it’s with a newer person or a new guy. I’ve been hanging with a new guy that I like & i absolutely cannot stop focusing on avoiding awkward silences. Then of course the second it gets silent, my stomach starts making noise & it would make it EVEN WORSE !!!!!!!!
I used to use the Word sorry for everything, because my parents thought me is the polițe way to do and also, that people would like me more. Few stranger would tell me not to apologize sicne i did nothig wrong, but i would still end up doing out of habit andn ot realizing it. Then one day o met another girl, even worse than me and it annoyed me to no end. Since then i reduce drastically this habit. Yeah, sometimes it still comes up, but almost never now. I am also furios of how my parents constantly td me to sacrifice for others (i am a middle child, and i had to give în for my brothers all the time). I took me moving abroad to realize how worng it is and just how screwd over i was all these years even after i moved abroad. This mentality harmed me alot and when i got back home and my Mother told me the same thing in my 33, i got so triggered i yelled at her and got extremly mad. They still think the same : sacrifice yourself, don't accept any help (another be i had to fix while living abroad), if there is a problem just bow down and avoid all conflict, and so on... They also thought me to stay as dependent on them as much possible, and that only women clean and man do nothing (thank fully, my borhtwrs fixed that în their relationships). If 8 didn't move abroad on my own and thru my own effort, 8 would stil be trapped under their harmful lesson and way of living. Sometimes you have ot move as far away possible from your own family to realize what kind of life you been living. Not to mention when i make a decision that 8s not în aliment with them they don't try to understand they take it as a personal attack. A decision about my own life. Many of us are screwd over by our own family and unfortunatelly the only way is to walk away
Apologizing to someone doesn't make you look insecure at all. If anything, it shows how confident you are in yourself that you know that making a mistake doesn't reflect who you are as a person. It's only the insecure people who can never admit when they're wrong that refuse to apologize to others.
Wow, I never knew I would radiate confidence for feeling comfortable in awkward silences. I just thought if I don't feel awkward the other person might not feel it either.
Recently I had a date and it felt like the guy was quiet on purpose. I rarely feel uncomfortable when there is silence but with this guy I felt uncomfortable. It depends on the.situation and if you know the person, i think.
If the silence is awkward to you then it's an issue. Silence should never feel awkward. If you feel awkward it will show even if you don't talk. I had to tell people this so many this to stop saying sorry unless you did something. Why would I walk in to a room thinking they will like me. None of them are that important to me they are just a spot on the wall it's there but you will forget them the moment you walk out. They are not a factor. In high school I didn't even know people in my classroom were alive. People tried to talk to me but after I forgot who they were. My face blindness didn't help but I also didn't care. I get invited to things all the time but I usually decline expect for once in a while. I need one on how not to get people to like you.
🔥💯💣👉As soon as something comes up, an external processor will immediately want to discuss it and process it. On the other hand, an internal processor is more likely to be an introvert and will need to take time to think and process before discussing something.
I assume everyone likes me and i get to choose who i wanna hang out with. It's pretty powerful. After doing that for years, you'll become that person. With a little practice on your presence and aura, people will wait for your validation, they will stop when you start talking, and you will be invited to every party. People may still dislike you bts, but still, none of them will ever treat you poorly.
Thanks for the advice! Had a bit of trouble at school, new one and all. But It's New Year soon, and I'm going to work on and become the person I want to be. You gave me the extra assurance.
So imma just assume I'm the Shit lol. Great advice Thank you.
@@smollilbean it's more like visualising what 'the shit' looks like, feels like, acts like and start being that rather than just saying 'i'm the shit' to yourself but yeah
@@jbaby283 I get it now thanks :)
i’m the complete opposite which makes me close my doors more😢
Personally the “awkward silences” can help u get closer to a person. Being comfortable enough to just enjoy sitting in silence together is real friendship to me 😌😌
I agree with #1, people are usually so afraid of silences. I guess it all comes from movies and TV that inserted in our brains the concept of awkward silence. Not every silence is awkward silence.
Confidence is not that i know they like me. Confidence is it's okay if they don't.
That's the real confidence.😊😊
I will share my little story when I did smth similar to the last trick.
We have new year king and queen like prom party at our school recently and we have to model walk. I wasn't confident at all that I would win, cs obviously there were much more prettier seniors. I don't dare expect much but honestly I'm very competitive so I still wanna win deep down in my heart so I wanna try my best. The time I stepped my first step on to the stage, I leave every thoughts behind the stage, I forgot everything I prepared and did whatever I felt like it was right to do and walked confidently, with the mindset "I'm better than everyone watching down there" which sounds Abit wrong, right? But sometimes u need it, I totally won the crown. It was people choices so I asked some ppl who voted for me who wasn't my friends, why and then they said I looked confident and cool.
Great 🎀💀
I don't assume people to like me. Because I used to walk in the room and wondering if they like me. But now I walk into a room and wondering if I like them
Lol same and most times I prefer the cleaner or janitor
What if I like no one?
Personally I just have the outlook of if I don’t know you and you don’t know me I see it as both of us probably have a neutral or positive-neutral view of the other person. I like to see others as positive-neutral where I kinda assume there a good person but I also don’t know them. I also don’t really care what others opinions of me are, but I try to be my best self so there will be more good things in general and they may be what others see first!
This could’ve helped me in school, too bad no one shared the sauce. Thanks
These are things I had to learn, I’ve become so comfortable just being silent when I’m around people. And I don’t say sorry as much anymore and I worked on my self love and worth and I see that people reflect the way you feel about yourself ❤
It’s better to be confident than radiate confidence….
fake it till you make it
@@em444 exactly the same thing someone told me today! And this is why I am even here in the first place.
@@somie4639 that’s cool!
These facts are pretty spot-on!
I love silence. My problem is my buddies and roommates get anxious when im silent amd they like to fill in the gap and keep talking. Its annoying lol
Thanking you for guidence and Advice. Accepted and noted.
Yass!! Basically just already embody confidence. Need no one’s validation but your own.
I'm a confident person but I personally don't like awkward silence specially if I see the other person is feeling awkward or uncomfortable, I would try to talk about a certain topic that they like and make them feel comfortable.
Me who literally says sorry after sneezing 😂😂
As an introvert i am always silent. 🤪
u just described my friend omg
You are very good at this. Thanks
Brilliant guidance here.. Thank you.
I suddenly start liking her content 💓
The last one is so true...
The not saying sorry thing is a deal breaker for us Canadians😂
Love your work 😀
ma'am ur rlly good
Your so amazing thank you for sharing all this advices , they are brilliant !
Now, this is helpful.
I don’t know but every time i scroll through shorts i stop at yours … male but subscribed..
Thank you 🕊️🙏😇
"Stop saying sorry", me being Canadian 🥲
Oh, I think some island nations can equal Canadians in that regard, sorry.
This was good
Lol it’s very hard here in Canada not to say sorry for everything 😂 When we want to say “excuse me” when we need to pass by someone we say “sorry” or “sorry just gonna pass by there” or “sorry just gonna scooch by”. We say sorry to inanimate object 🤣 like the side walk or if we run into something. Once I was in Florida and wasn’t looking where I was going. Neither was this lady with a cart. We ran into each other. She hit my with the cart and I said “sorry!”. She didn’t say anything and just looked shocked. 😂
LOVE THIS!!! Thanks!!!❤❤❤❤
I wish I could do all of these things, but the 1st one is gonna be hard for me to do bc of my social anxiety
you have great vids, thank you!!
ASSUMING PEOPLE ALREADY LIKE ME is the only one I need to incorporate from the 3
I have the last one. I’ve always naturally been like that. I never assume people don’t like me unless they’ve verbally stated otherwise
I always assume people either dislike or envy me.
Awesome thanks for putting this out there
Thankyou for this vid.. subbing you💖
Thanks, Francesca.
The third is so true
Super helpful!!
Heavy on 1 I strongly agree! 🤌🏽
I like your videos alot ❤❤
Can you tell us please about books or resources that contains a similar content 🙏?
“Don’t say sorry as much”
Me, a Canadian who does the exact opposite: 😀
The power of silence is real!
Last one i did always❤
Thanks ☺
Luv this, thanks so much...!!!
Thank you 😊
I think that confident person doesn’t need to change their behaviour in order for somebody to like them but behaves according to their current mood 😂
You are amazing….
Tbh I have these qualities already in build😁♥️
I absolutely HATE awkward silences! One of the biggest reasons I hate talking on the phone is mainly bc of that. Especially if it’s with a newer person or a new guy. I’ve been hanging with a new guy that I like & i absolutely cannot stop focusing on avoiding awkward silences. Then of course the second it gets silent, my stomach starts making noise & it would make it EVEN WORSE !!!!!!!!
I used to use the Word sorry for everything, because my parents thought me is the polițe way to do and also, that people would like me more. Few stranger would tell me not to apologize sicne i did nothig wrong, but i would still end up doing out of habit andn ot realizing it. Then one day o met another girl, even worse than me and it annoyed me to no end. Since then i reduce drastically this habit. Yeah, sometimes it still comes up, but almost never now. I am also furios of how my parents constantly td me to sacrifice for others (i am a middle child, and i had to give în for my brothers all the time). I took me moving abroad to realize how worng it is and just how screwd over i was all these years even after i moved abroad. This mentality harmed me alot and when i got back home and my Mother told me the same thing in my 33, i got so triggered i yelled at her and got extremly mad. They still think the same : sacrifice yourself, don't accept any help (another be i had to fix while living abroad), if there is a problem just bow down and avoid all conflict, and so on... They also thought me to stay as dependent on them as much possible, and that only women clean and man do nothing (thank fully, my borhtwrs fixed that în their relationships). If 8 didn't move abroad on my own and thru my own effort, 8 would stil be trapped under their harmful lesson and way of living. Sometimes you have ot move as far away possible from your own family to realize what kind of life you been living. Not to mention when i make a decision that 8s not în aliment with them they don't try to understand they take it as a personal attack. A decision about my own life. Many of us are screwd over by our own family and unfortunatelly the only way is to walk away
☺️nice advice, love your accent
Apologizing to someone doesn't make you look insecure at all. If anything, it shows how confident you are in yourself that you know that making a mistake doesn't reflect who you are as a person. It's only the insecure people who can never admit when they're wrong that refuse to apologize to others.
I just realized that I actually say sorry a lot just for the purpose of being nice. 🙂
Thank you ❤️
Second one felt like a direct attack
Wow, I never knew I would radiate confidence for feeling comfortable in awkward silences. I just thought if I don't feel awkward the other person might not feel it either.
Good advice!
I rarely agree with people, however, she is 99.9% correct this time
I’m always confident because I’m just me I am real and I’m honestly outspoken😂😂❤
Thank you
I have big difficulties for the second one, it's really hard to let go of it
The first one I have a huge problem with. Do you have any tips on how to get comfortable with awkward silence?
Recently I had a date and it felt like the guy was quiet on purpose.
I rarely feel uncomfortable when there is silence but with this guy I felt uncomfortable. It depends on the.situation and if you know the person, i think.
what's awkward about a silence? The conversation can take a small pause
Your the best❤
You're.
Shes making us too powerful 😭
I lvoe awkward silence and a crowd booing..I get an endorphin high off of it
Person- "i dont like you" . Me: i see you like me
Very good.
I like that last one
If the silence is awkward to you then it's an issue. Silence should never feel awkward. If you feel awkward it will show even if you don't talk. I had to tell people this so many this to stop saying sorry unless you did something. Why would I walk in to a room thinking they will like me. None of them are that important to me they are just a spot on the wall it's there but you will forget them the moment you walk out. They are not a factor. In high school I didn't even know people in my classroom were alive. People tried to talk to me but after I forgot who they were. My face blindness didn't help but I also didn't care. I get invited to things all the time but I usually decline expect for once in a while. I need one on how not to get people to like you.
Good advice
I can't with that awkward silence one :(
Sometimes you have to say sorry to keep the peace
Just be comfortable,
Everything follows.
Amen!
Excellent advice…however the music choice was distracting
Number 3 is going to be a tough one for me.
The last bit
The first one is accurate at least according to my experience.
3rd one is a dangerous mentality.
I'm like the sun, I already read it in confidence. In fact I radiate so much that I keep planets rotating around me just for my warmth, lol.
Others: listening to her.
Meanwhile me vibin on the background song😂
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The last one though is so true🙄
I said sorry for the first time in 6 months.I know saying sorry isnt a weakness.But Im not comfortable saying that word.
I have used third technique and seen the results in past
If you ever get info online, please give credit to whom it's due.
Assume people like me 😩😩 I never been liked in my entire life. I guess they say fake it till you make it lol
This is so strange...i always assume people hate me😂
Me too
You are very beautiful and awesome 😮
As a social Anxiety person
This is a bit hard task for me
nice eyebrows
last one 👍
So what do you do with silence gaps? Just be silent too?
Lovely accent ya have there
🔥💯💣👉As soon as something comes up, an external processor will immediately want to discuss it and process it. On the other hand, an internal processor is more likely to be an introvert and will need to take time to think and process before discussing something.
I did this on the last 8 1st dates, none of them ever called/texted me back
The last thing I evaluate in a date is confidence.
Canadians after seeing no 2: and i took that personally