Bardzo przypomina mi to moją własną sytuację z Mariuszem Ławnikiem i Tęczowymi Społecznikami. W kontekście olewania sposobu funkcjonowania Aspi. Albo testowania, czy Aspi to na pewno Aspi i nie jest ( przypadkiem ) fejk. ;> Faktycznie : jak się Aspiemu zleci : napraw drzwi, to Aspi naprawia drzwi. I robi wszystko co w jego / jej mocy, żeby te drzwi naprawić. Nie rozsądne jest spuszczanie opr* za to, że te drzwi naprawia i przerwanie tej pracy, bo przykładowo są . . . WARZYWA do pokrojenia 😈. Taki Aspi wtedy złapie turbo zawiechę, bo NIE LUBI, żeby mu przerywać to, co akurat robi. Czy lubi robić. I te całe warzywa są jemu / jej całkowicie obojętne.
Thank you for some wonderful observations (like Autism Spectrum _Superpowers._ Yea!). That's very helpful to me. I was diagnosed by a psychologist as High Functioning Autistic in December 2019 - on the same day Covid 19 was defined, would you believe it! I was 61 years old. I have backtracked looking over my life's experiences and have now realized that so many social failures and executive function obstacles that caused me anguish for so long now all make sense. Not that my situation has not been difficult - it has been terribly difficult. But I also understand that much of my problem has been that I have felt required to make myself fit in to the society. I now realize that I do fit it -- with my own reality. My family were wonderful, but in the 1960s, '70s and '80s, no one understood HFA. I had seen television reports about autism while I was growing up, but they focused only on cases that were not at all like me. I never would have guessed from that limited view that it involved so many dissimilar symptoms -- if you've seen one autistic, you seen one autistic, as you said. Today, I am forgiving myself - exonerating myself, is a better way to put it - for what I wrongly perceived as my own failures to apply myself to basic tasks, to form a social circle, to sustain any dating or romantic attachments. It's a time of healing -- of grasping that I have been ok all along. I made it though 60 years of never being accommodated by society or feeling positive about my place in it. Times are better for me -- if the world is enduring such perils and anxieties. Well, I will keep watching your channel, which I discovered tonight. Stay strong, Keri! We can all help each other.
Even though I can't relate to everything due to not being autistic myself (afterall), I do empathize with you, regarding my experiences with autistic people I also want to add that functioning labels are in many cases inaccurate by nature, what I mean by this? Last year my IQ was tested again, only this time every aspect of IQ was tested and scored separately, in the past my IQ was always tested by giving a single total score, with the assumption every aspect of my IQ was at roughly the same level, this is why I think functioning labels are inaccurate, as it too encompasses so many different categories, one may function lower on one thing (temporarily or long term) yet function much higher on another aspect, when my IQ tests came back it showed a huge discrepancy between my working memory and other areas of my IQ, things connected to my working memory have been seriously affected by my childhood trauma making my score for those aspects below average IQ, in the 70-90 range, but in other areas I scored above average IQ 110-130 range, thus I have a very disharmonic IQ profile, thus one cannot simply classify me as intellectually disabled as they used to do, because it's just not that simple. That is my personal feeling regarding functioning labels also, that often things just aren't that simple and clear cut, these things, whether functioning labels or generic IQ tests, are made for the average neurotypical person without trauma or mental health issues, as in those people usually most if not all aspects are roughly of similar levels, they average out closer together, an average IQ score is accurate enough with them, their abilities to function are also average and roughly the same levels for all aspects, atleast the difference isn't as large, that is often totally different with neurodiverse and mentally ill people, with them there can be rather large differences between different aspects of IQ and or functioning levels/abilities. In my experience these big differences are difficult to understand for many regular people, too often people have asked me or about me whether I didn't need any help at all because I was so smart or if they had to talk to me like a child because I couldn't always follow or remember everything they say, the answer is neither, I do need support with some things, but I don't have the understanding or intelligence of a small child, I am so intelligent people can and should talk to me as an equal adult, that processing and storing information can go awry doesn't mean I don't understand anything or that I think like a small child, and this confuses people alot, too often they think in everything or nothing, in absolutes, either I am intelligent and need no help, or I need help because I have the intelligence and understanding of a small child, either of those makes sense to them, whilst this inbetween, an intelligent person who needs help to them often makes no sense. In my experience functioning labels are treated the same, do you need help or don't you need help, or do you need alot of help or a little bit of help, as if that is static and the same for every aspect of your life, which it totally is not, some things can be more difficult for you whilst other things are not, and as you described well temporary circumstances can largely affect what you can and can't do, as my mental illness does similarly to me, I need help when I need it and only what I need it with, it's not necessary or wanted for people to take over my entire life because I need help with one thing at a particular moment, it's not an all or nothing deal or always the same no matter the circumstances, and I feel this goes both for mental illness and things like autism. Take care, I wish you the best, a virtual hug ❤
100% racji - Aspi will be Aspi i trzeba to uszanować. A wielu tego nie rozumie - i co gorsza - zrozumieć nie chce. Trzymaj się Keri 🤗
Bardzo przypomina mi to moją własną sytuację z Mariuszem Ławnikiem i Tęczowymi Społecznikami. W kontekście olewania sposobu funkcjonowania Aspi. Albo testowania, czy Aspi to na pewno Aspi i nie jest ( przypadkiem ) fejk. ;>
Faktycznie : jak się Aspiemu zleci : napraw drzwi, to Aspi naprawia drzwi. I robi wszystko co w jego / jej mocy, żeby te drzwi naprawić. Nie rozsądne jest spuszczanie opr* za to, że te drzwi naprawia i przerwanie tej pracy, bo przykładowo są . . . WARZYWA do pokrojenia 😈. Taki Aspi wtedy złapie turbo zawiechę, bo NIE LUBI, żeby mu przerywać to, co akurat robi. Czy lubi robić. I te całe warzywa są jemu / jej całkowicie obojętne.
Thank you for some wonderful observations (like Autism Spectrum _Superpowers._ Yea!). That's very helpful to me. I was diagnosed by a psychologist as High Functioning Autistic in December 2019 - on the same day Covid 19 was defined, would you believe it!
I was 61 years old. I have backtracked looking over my life's experiences and have now realized that so many social failures and executive function obstacles that caused me anguish for so long now all make sense. Not that my situation has not been difficult - it has been terribly difficult. But I also understand that much of my problem has been that I have felt required to make myself fit in to the society. I now realize that I do fit it -- with my own reality.
My family were wonderful, but in the 1960s, '70s and '80s, no one understood HFA. I had seen television reports about autism while I was growing up, but they focused only on cases that were not at all like me. I never would have guessed from that limited view that it involved so many dissimilar symptoms -- if you've seen one autistic, you seen one autistic, as you said.
Today, I am forgiving myself - exonerating myself, is a better way to put it - for what I wrongly perceived as my own failures to apply myself to basic tasks, to form a social circle, to sustain any dating or romantic attachments.
It's a time of healing -- of grasping that I have been ok all along.
I made it though 60 years of never being accommodated by society or feeling positive about my place in it.
Times are better for me -- if the world is enduring such perils and anxieties.
Well, I will keep watching your channel, which I discovered tonight.
Stay strong, Keri! We can all help each other.
Even though I can't relate to everything due to not being autistic myself (afterall), I do empathize with you, regarding my experiences with autistic people I also want to add that functioning labels are in many cases inaccurate by nature, what I mean by this?
Last year my IQ was tested again, only this time every aspect of IQ was tested and scored separately, in the past my IQ was always tested by giving a single total score, with the assumption every aspect of my IQ was at roughly the same level, this is why I think functioning labels are inaccurate, as it too encompasses so many different categories, one may function lower on one thing (temporarily or long term) yet function much higher on another aspect, when my IQ tests came back it showed a huge discrepancy between my working memory and other areas of my IQ, things connected to my working memory have been seriously affected by my childhood trauma making my score for those aspects below average IQ, in the 70-90 range, but in other areas I scored above average IQ 110-130 range, thus I have a very disharmonic IQ profile, thus one cannot simply classify me as intellectually disabled as they used to do, because it's just not that simple.
That is my personal feeling regarding functioning labels also, that often things just aren't that simple and clear cut, these things, whether functioning labels or generic IQ tests, are made for the average neurotypical person without trauma or mental health issues, as in those people usually most if not all aspects are roughly of similar levels, they average out closer together, an average IQ score is accurate enough with them, their abilities to function are also average and roughly the same levels for all aspects, atleast the difference isn't as large, that is often totally different with neurodiverse and mentally ill people, with them there can be rather large differences between different aspects of IQ and or functioning levels/abilities.
In my experience these big differences are difficult to understand for many regular people, too often people have asked me or about me whether I didn't need any help at all because I was so smart or if they had to talk to me like a child because I couldn't always follow or remember everything they say, the answer is neither, I do need support with some things, but I don't have the understanding or intelligence of a small child, I am so intelligent people can and should talk to me as an equal adult, that processing and storing information can go awry doesn't mean I don't understand anything or that I think like a small child, and this confuses people alot, too often they think in everything or nothing, in absolutes, either I am intelligent and need no help, or I need help because I have the intelligence and understanding of a small child, either of those makes sense to them, whilst this inbetween, an intelligent person who needs help to them often makes no sense.
In my experience functioning labels are treated the same, do you need help or don't you need help, or do you need alot of help or a little bit of help, as if that is static and the same for every aspect of your life, which it totally is not, some things can be more difficult for you whilst other things are not, and as you described well temporary circumstances can largely affect what you can and can't do, as my mental illness does similarly to me, I need help when I need it and only what I need it with, it's not necessary or wanted for people to take over my entire life because I need help with one thing at a particular moment, it's not an all or nothing deal or always the same no matter the circumstances, and I feel this goes both for mental illness and things like autism.
Take care, I wish you the best, a virtual hug ❤
Times are rough but I appreciate you for being you. Hopefully these negative feelings & situations will pass soon. Sending lots of hugs your way 💜
Thanks a lot! :)