Dealing with grief | Sally 08 | In Therapy with Alex Howard
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 ส.ค. 2020
- Despite having made great progress, Sally has had a big shock in her life that threatens to affect her recovery. Together, she and Alex explore the topic of grief and how the best way to deal with it is straight through the heart of it.
In Therapy with Alex Howard follows real life people on their therapeutic journey's with Alex Howard, Creator of Therapeutic Coaching & Founder of The Optimum Health Clinic.
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Your Mum must be so proud of you Sally, you would have brought her great joy.
Sally, I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. She sounded like a wonderful mother, a wonderful person, and a wonderful friend. I wish I had words to convey that would put your heart at ease. I hope as the pain passes, the garden of memories within in your heart, will blossom with flowers of your mom, just like the garden you have planted outside. May your spirit heal as brilliantly as your body has. You are doing such a great job, and you're an inspiration to everyone watching. My condolences, Sally. Kinder days are on the way.
My heart goes out to Sally, so sorry for your loss Sally. I couldn't stop crying throughout this episode. Sally has gone through an awful lot and she deserves nothing but the best.
My Mom passed away recently and I’ve been feeling like Sally. When I talk about her, I’m emotional, but I really expected to be crying all the time. I had the same type of relationship with my Mom, so I could really relate to her sadness. It was helpful to hear what you had to say, Alex. Thank you.
"Grief is the price we pay for love" these words stayed with me from Queen Elizabeth 2nd. Life is so fragile precious and beautiful and loss of a loved one is so heartbreaking, words cant describe the pain and the hurt,it just hurts so much inside your heart. Thank-you for sharing the joyous photos and moments of Sally with her lovely Mum....All my Sympathies to you Sally for your loss of your beloved Mum, Bless your heart.
I am so terribly sorry to Sally for her loss. To lose a parent (or for a parent to lose a child,) is one of *the* hardest losses we can go through as a human being.. ESP if we were as close to them as Sally was as close to her mum. It's heartbreaking to hear this news and I really feel for Sally.
I think it was a lovely sentiment to plant the rose bush for her..... And I was even thinking when Alex suggested writing a letter to her mum (great suggestion BTW,) that perhaps as well as the placing it in a fire suggestion, another idea might be tying the letter to the rosebush, or burying it next to/under the rose bush. Whatever feels right for Sally though OFC.
I can't imagine how hard it must be to not only lose a mum you are so close to, but to not even be able to attend her funeral....Not being able to have closure can be a real sticking point when it comes to grief, so I think it's a good idea to have bereavement counselling when Sally feels ready (whilst not leaving it too long.) And the get together with family when it's possible, to celebrate your mum's life, to talk about and share all the good, sad and bad stories you will all have, could also be incredibly therapeutic.
There's no easy way through grief, and it looks as though Sally is doing incredibly well considering her journey with CFS.
My heart felt condolences to Sally. I hope she takes it super easy on herself..and also cries like a baby whenever she feels it coming on.
Sending love to you Sally at this very sad and difficult time. Your bravery and generosity to share has helped me in my grieving also today, thank you, go gently. xx
Am so sad for Sally. I love my Mum she is my rock we have loads of fun together so I cried for her. She is such a lovely person and I was so happy that she was improving. This COVID makes everything so much worse.
I will be thinking of her and mention her in my prayers because I feel like I know her through your wonderful sessions. Peace and Luv Pammy
I am so sorry for your loss Sally. Thank you so much for sharing this very personal session, you are a very brave lady. I found this a great lesson for the many people who will be dealing with the loss of a loved one, especially in this very difficult time with the restrictions around covid-19. Not being able to have funerals in the usual way or not being able to attend is having a much greater impact on our grieving process and I think it is important for us all to be aware of the quiet suffering that is going on around us at this time. Thanks Alex for showing us how to support ourselves, as well as our family, friends and colleagues.
Thanks very much to Sally for her bravery in sharing so openly at this very painful time. I can really empathise with your fear of relapsing and just want to say - keep going, you'll get there!!! xx
I am so sorry for Sally. I have lost a loved one in January and I have been struggling as I couldn’t go home to see my family.
Thank you Alex for reiterating to love ourselves and feel the feelings and not critic ourselves.
So sorry to hear the loss of your mom Sally in these awful difficult times, my heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself, and take care of yourself on the work front for now, Alex is spot on in what he saying. You will be okay if you look after yourself, and your emotions, feel what you feel it's okay. Looking after yourself that is the most important thing, highly recommend bereavement counselling, it helped me after four successive bereavements together. Take care x
So much love to you Sally ❤️
so sorry you lost your mum Sally, I lost my mum 14 years ago and my dad 2 years ago, I was very close to them too so I completely understand what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. The 2 times I developed CFS was after losing them and am still on the recovery path so I understand your worry that it will set you back. my advice to you is really what Alex said-self care is so important, both times I just pushed on with my normal life and its daily stresses and didnt take enough time to rest or do things that made me happy etc, in hindsight i should have been kinder to myself. Also with grief i had the mantra ‘dont force it or fight it’ if grief came up i surrendered to it and if i felt ok/happy then that was fine too, i knew that my mum/dad wouldnt have wanted me to be upset all the time but remember the happy times and the love we had for each other, so yes grieve but also be happy/grateful for the good times you shared x take care Sarah x
Sally, my heart goes out to you. It’s such a tough time for you. And what a challenging part of your journey to share with us too. That shows such courage.
I hope you find some comfort in writing the letter that Alex suggested. I certainly found that writing down all the things I’d miss about my mum, the happy memories we shared and then her obituary helped me to process my grief. I collated a lot of it while I was walking as that was when things seemed to flow for me.
I’m a year or so further down the road than you are and I’ve found that my mum’s thoughts on life are still with me all the time. So while she isn’t physically with me any more, her presence in my life is still very strong, and this gives me constant comfort and allows me to honour who she was as I continue to be the person she taught me to be (but with extra OHC refinements!)
This might be a bump in the road but don’t forget how far you’ve come so far in your recovery.
So so sorry Sally I feel your pain,bless you 🙏🏻xx
Very brave. Helpful to me thank you. The loss of pets is enormous too.
I was young when my mum died, I had just bought a house and had to keep going. The loss was dreadful and I think I tried to push the grief away, but it didn't work. Gardening helped amazingly as we had both enjoyed working together in the garden. I found my peace there, and in going to places where we shared happy times. I am so sorry for your loss. Look after yourself .🌼
Alex, a really good episode with you giving advice about *getting out of the way of grief* and let it happen. Give it space. Good advice.
Such an impactful episode. Thanks to Sally for your honesty and so sorry for your loss. Alex, your comments and suggestions on living with grief I really appreciated.
Sorry to hear about Sally's loss!
My initial frustration and anger is wish that the world stopped so we could focus on recovery, becasue that is hard enough let alone having to deal with chores, finance and even grief....
Thank you Sally , love you 😍
Sally thanks for sharing your journey. Sorry to hear about your mum. Ive been listening to Julia Samuels on grief on u tube. Big hugs. Xx
I can relate so much. Feel knot or pit in stomach. Like true meaning of heartbreak.
Some times feel numb and other times break down
So sorry Sally ... I do hope these past months have begun to get a bit easier for you, and your physical healing has been able to pick up again too. All the best to you for the days, weeks and months ahead.
It's hard when you lose your parents but it gets better in time lost my dad in 1982 and mum in 1998 il always remember them I'm 73 now I have lost all my family to brothers and sister to I'm on my own now you be okay good luck 😘❤️🌹
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STOP IT WITH THE STUPID MUSIC!!! First, so sorry for Sally's loss, my heart goes out to her, have also lost a parent recently, it goes deep. Second have seen others ask repeatedly to stop having music while people are talking because we are all VERY ILL so too much sensory overload. Have not commented until now but this particular video really pissed me off because aswell as making it very hard to concentrate on what Sally is saying it is SO disrespectful to start playing weepy soap opera music when Sally starts talking about her mum passing away. Wish you would listen to the people you are trying to help with this stuff.