I completely relate to this. My anger is expressed as crying also. I don't know how to feel anger. I think mine comes from not feeling like there was room for me to be angry at home because everyone around me was angry. I was trying to "keep the peace"
Yes often as kids we have to not express anger to 'keep the peace' between parents - so never get to learn how to legitimately feel & express our feelings - only to show the good side of what is expected of us.
I am afraid of anger. I internalise my anger and hurt myself with it as I don't want to hurt others. My Mum was a rageaholic and I am terrified of others anger and conflict too
Great episode. It's so frustrating when we can't break through some barriers with some people in our lives but so good to know we can still do the work ourselves 💪 - Sally bring out the "offensive" mugs next time 😂
This is my favourite episode so far i love how you spoke to Sally's Boss and we got to really see what Sally's life is like. Very professionally put together as well
Ha, I was having some anger and frustration building up in me over the last few days (years, decades...) and when I got triggered today while riding my bike, I allowed myself to feel it and decided to have some fun with it once I was out of sight and hearing distance and started to growl and bark like a little pissed off dog. Definitely a good laugh and I felt better pretty quickly!
I always pay close attention to anger, after feeling that initial surge of energy that anger brings, I then look deeper for the messages this important emotion is bringing to my attention. I view anger as the red warning light on my dashboard.
This is very much along the lines of Dr Sarno's books and his followers. The curable app is a good one to try for working on this. Replace the word pain with fatigue in the exercises
Great video! I need to work out what my relationship with anger is. I've always had a very short fuse and often the rage feels completely uncontrollable. Most definitely get triggered by past events and the emotions often spill out in a very messy way that fills me with shame and remorse. My dad was always really negative and I spent my childhood around people mascarading as adults. My coping mechanism was to take control of my life and I got through childhood and teen years trying to work it out for myself with very little guidance. I was pretty angry about it all and despised him.
I have a neighbor who is loud and always angry.....I can hear him through the walls.....it triggers me that I do t feel safe. He don't care how his anger is affecting others......I wish he would move!
Thank you Alex & Sally for your willingness to expose how our feelings affect all of our relationships. I believe our feelings should be felt but we should not become our feelings. In other words, it's OK to feel angry but not to become angry. Express anger in healthy ways instead of disruptive or destructive ways. I just subscribed to your channel and look forward to more videos.
My anger is pushed down leading to depression and headaches, etc. I bought a book called the gift of anger. The Christian community tried to make you feel guilty for feeling anger....that's sad to me. I think I am afraid of my anger......yet I need to be real with it.
Brilliant, being dyslexic there was a lot of emotional needs and one was anger. So grateful to you guys for all you’ve doing. It’s been life changing and empowering for me and those around me. Everyone benefits from my investment. Bless you all
Thanks for everything that you do, Alex! I've been spending a lot of time with your videos lately. When it comes to anger, every time I am angry and I shout, I feel like I deserve some sort of punishment. I know that my dad used to punish me and shout at me and I am not a child anymore, but I can't get rid of that old belief. I feel the energy of anger in my body, I try to contain it and not shout but I often fail...and then I feel I am a bad person. I understand this is not true but how can I embody a new belief?
Wow, wasn't expecting to resonate with this episode as much as I did! Now I need to watch it again and make some notes... Thank you so much Alex and Sally.
Therapy has never helped me very much but I feel like Dr. Howard gets what we are going through in a way no one else does. Every video fills me with hope. I was wondering if I could do therapy with Dr. Howard over the computer as I live in Japan...? And also what his credentials are because my insurance will likely cover if he is a licensed counselor of some kind. Thank you!
I have held off expressing my anger with someone who constantly makes snide remarks about my having m.e., I am so depressed by her attitude and the things she says not just to me but to others. I am afraid to get angry as I share a living space with this person, but i am now so depressed and getting more and more ill. She refuses to understand, while saying she does accept my 'condition' which then gives her the freedom to continue with comments and digs. I am at my wits end.
I completely relate to this. My anger is expressed as crying also. I don't know how to feel anger. I think mine comes from not feeling like there was room for me to be angry at home because everyone around me was angry. I was trying to "keep the peace"
Yes often as kids we have to not express anger to 'keep the peace' between parents - so never get to learn how to legitimately feel & express our feelings - only to show the good side of what is expected of us.
Be patient, its a big area to start opening up :-)
I am afraid of anger. I internalise my anger and hurt myself with it as I don't want to hurt others. My Mum was a rageaholic and I am terrified of others anger and conflict too
Great episode. It's so frustrating when we can't break through some barriers with some people in our lives but so good to know we can still do the work ourselves 💪 - Sally bring out the "offensive" mugs next time 😂
This is my favourite episode so far i love how you spoke to Sally's Boss and we got to really see what Sally's life is like. Very professionally put together as well
Thank you Zoe!
Ha, I was having some anger and frustration building up in me over the last few days (years, decades...) and when I got triggered today while riding my bike, I allowed myself to feel it and decided to have some fun with it once I was out of sight and hearing distance and started to growl and bark like a little pissed off dog. Definitely a good laugh and I felt better pretty quickly!
Great to hear!
I always pay close attention to anger, after feeling that initial surge of energy that anger brings, I then look deeper for the messages this important emotion is bringing to my attention. I view anger as the red warning light on my dashboard.
Karen Bruce thanks for sharing 👍
This is very much along the lines of Dr Sarno's books and his followers. The curable app is a good one to try for working on this. Replace the word pain with fatigue in the exercises
Great video! I need to work out what my relationship with anger is. I've always had a very short fuse and often the rage feels completely uncontrollable. Most definitely get triggered by past events and the emotions often spill out in a very messy way that fills me with shame and remorse. My dad was always really negative and I spent my childhood around people mascarading as adults. My coping mechanism was to take control of my life and I got through childhood and teen years trying to work it out for myself with very little guidance. I was pretty angry about it all and despised him.
Glad you found helpful Sue :-)
Once again excellent. Thanks Sally! 🧡
Thanks Kim!
I have a neighbor who is loud and always angry.....I can hear him through the walls.....it triggers me that I do t feel safe. He don't care how his anger is affecting others......I wish he would move!
I can't wait for the next episode!!!!!! Would love to share more but to exhausted at the mo.
Glad you are enjoying Racheli ;-)
Thank you Alex & Sally for your willingness to expose how our feelings affect all of our relationships. I believe our feelings should be felt but we should not become our feelings. In other words, it's OK to feel angry but not to become angry. Express anger in healthy ways instead of disruptive or destructive ways. I just subscribed to your channel and look forward to more videos.
Thanks Lee!
My anger is pushed down leading
to depression and headaches, etc. I bought a book called the gift of anger.
The Christian community tried to make you feel guilty for feeling anger....that's sad to me. I think I am afraid of my anger......yet I need to be real with it.
Anger is a big one for clients. Thanks for giving some powerful therapeutical information to help us navigate this with our clients.
Brilliant, being dyslexic there was a lot of emotional needs and one was anger.
So grateful to you guys for all you’ve doing. It’s been life changing and empowering for me and those around me. Everyone benefits from my investment. Bless you all
🙌🏻 thank you again for another groundbreaking episode
Thanks for everything that you do, Alex! I've been spending a lot of time with your videos lately. When it comes to anger, every time I am angry and I shout, I feel like I deserve some sort of punishment. I know that my dad used to punish me and shout at me and I am not a child anymore, but I can't get rid of that old belief. I feel the energy of anger in my body, I try to contain it and not shout but I often fail...and then I feel I am a bad person. I understand this is not true but how can I embody a new belief?
Thanks for following the videos Irina.... definitely look out for your inner critic, which is that voice of inner judgement :-)
Another great interaction. Thanks, Sally. Your authenticity is powerful, and your progress is an inspiration.
Great thank u can relate .. appreciate ver much
Amazing, thank you for these sessions so much Alex
Thank you for watching!
Wow, wasn't expecting to resonate with this episode as much as I did! Now I need to watch it again and make some notes... Thank you so much Alex and Sally.
Therapy has never helped me very much but I feel like Dr. Howard gets what we are going through in a way no one else does. Every video fills me with hope. I was wondering if I could do therapy with Dr. Howard over the computer as I live in Japan...? And also what his credentials are because my insurance will likely cover if he is a licensed counselor of some kind. Thank you!
I have held off expressing my anger with someone who constantly makes snide remarks about my having m.e., I am so depressed by her attitude and the things she says not just to me but to others. I am afraid to get angry as I share a living space with this person, but i am now so depressed and getting more and more ill. She refuses to understand, while saying she does accept my 'condition' which then gives her the freedom to continue with comments and digs. I am at my wits end.