It’s just crazy the fact that this video is so old and the information is actually so valuable. So dr. Are just came to this realization just recently and you’ve outlined it all so precisely in such short video Thank you 🙏 more people need to see it
A woman who is a past acquaintance made fun of the idea of journaling, and coined it as a waste of time. She stated angrily that “it makes the person worse” for writing out feelings and rehashing the past. On the other hand, she ascribes to Palm Reading and Psychics as effective avenues to grow and heal from her own issues. The more I’ve healed, the more I can see her and our mutual acquaintances are all sadly delusional. They sell and buy MLM products, have ritualistic future-faking vision board parties, and are codependently attached to abusive partners. I am no longer in contact with these people ever since I started my own Truth journey, Self discovery, and after finally accepting that my childhood was hell, siblings were (and still are) abusive to me, and my mother an evil and effectively manipulative covert narcissist, and absent enabling and codependent father. I cut off contact from them 9 months ago.
“ if all the unconscious came up it could drive you crazy” A 4 day binge on a dissociative drug called dextromethorphan did exactly that to me and here I am disoriented and full of psychosomatic symptoms 15 years later.
Im 19...U CHANGED MY LIFE...I ALREADY SAW TONS OF FLAWS ABOUT MY PARENTS BUT U ARE LIKE STRAWBERY ON A CAKE,U ROCK!! SO GLAD THAT U LEAVED THAT THERAPY JOB!!
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that someone can understand what I’m actually feeling and that I’m not crazy for thinking and feeling this way
Life is messy. I make sure my son knows I love him and all the things he thinks are okay just remember he always has me there when he needs me. I also apologize to him that if my trauma hurt him. I tell him I believe in him and know he can figure stuff out. Find your joy be as healthy as you can. Don’t give your power away. I let him know he is worthy of love and patience and understanding. I ask he give it to others.
Daniel, in this messed up world, we don’t question when someone says they have been abused! Thanks for all your work and if someone is critical, it’s because they are not there and can’t relate so who cares!
When you speak about people who knew you when you were younger not understanding that you were traumatized, it is hard to believe, if they knew anything about some of the behaviours that you describe in other videos. People seem almost to choose to ignore the most egregious signs of abuse! Thank you for all these videos … and this series also gave me more confidence to look at dreams.
We're tuned into who we depend on and we take from them the rules of life that we must obey. They may brush us off when we try to share feelings. The problem is emotional care is the predictor of physical care, so not being able to get our feelings known is like a threat on our life. Then we carry this with us from then on.
I’m 20 I was 3 when my father violated my boundaries and me and brother had to fight to survive. My brother is traumatized because he couldn’t stop my father from hurting me and we only made it into foster care to get abuse by strangers all over again. We eventually got adopted as a sibling group he’s now 23 and I’m 20. But we are very dead inside and I try so hard to seem like I’m not and he’s just completely given up on emotion and finding happiness with himself. I can’t seem to see myself the same in any mirror and he looks like our birth father so he said to me once that he can’t even look at himself because it makes him so angry.
When I was younger ,I had several dreams about an diserted,ghosted,abandoned house or palace, from structure, still can tell it's a gorgeous design. Another dream was about I came across a well preserved ancient empty city, but I got lost inside. Also,I had a lot dreams about overwhelming water. In real life, I am a person actually never learned to swim. Right now, I found myself have some bordeline symptom.
What I find great: how you tell, that one only has to ask oneself, and the unconscience might give an answere. I try to use this more often and more often before it is too late. What I see different: not all of dreams is to be understood symbollically. The feeling which we have during a dream might be the feeling of a childhood-situation. And a dream migth tell 1:1, what happened in reality.
I have been anxious and lost since childhood, i remember being seeking help from the people around me, and mostly my family, i have become a joke ,even so i was smart at school, and get higher degrees than my siblings, but my social life become a disaster , now at 47 ,i feel how much pain i get , and how much self hater i have been.
Gestalt dream analysis was taught to me by my therapist in the '70's. It's about taking all dream elements and creating a conversation with them to resolve current problems by creating a wholeness from split parts of the psyche. I don't think you use that method. They are rare, but pre-cognitive dreams are real, and when they happen, very powerful. Although I am very simpatico with what you say in your videos and relish your filming skills, in this area you do a disservice.
A year before my brother drowned in SF Bay, I had a dream of jumping off the bridge, being sucked in by a whirlpool, and spit out onto Alcatraz Island where Buffy St Marie was giving a concert. I record most of my dreams in my journal.
That was in the early 1970's. I no longer grieve. Not really sure of the significance of B St M. She graduated from UMass, Amherst--an area I lived in from 1990-2000. It was a very formative time of my life and she was perhaps another precognitive element? Check out my memoir, videos, etc: donkarp.com If you travel to Mexico, I've an extra room not yet listed on CouchSurfing, in Tepoztlan (near Cuernavaca), the Magic City.
Generational sins are passed down. If parents don't get help, the children learn what they lived. Most parents are living out what they learned, it goes on and on........
Hey Daniel These are very interesting and useful videos! I agree on your view of the regularity of childhood trauma in us all - and that these are a "normality" - whether our parents tried really har dor not. However as a parent I am concerned with the possible traumatizing effects of my upbringing and the flaws it will inevitably have at points. Do you have any advice for parenting with these realizations in mind?
Many "happy" people have killed themselves! (and a baffled and BLIND world "understands nothing.") ("but she had everything!") (and so on.) "Smile for mummy, dear!" (aha I have to smile for HER. So she won´t get sad.) A good mother thinks "I´m glad that SHE is happy." And don´t expect to hear "I love you too mummy!"
Dream journaling is a fun and helpful thing to do. Years ago, I kept a dream journal. Every now and then, I will write about a particular dream or a set of dreams I have recorded. There are some I still cannot figure out, and if I simplify the symbiology, I feel as if I did not dig deep enough. What does it mean when you see two very large tractors in a garage that turn on by themselves and move a bit. What does it mean to see a nurse's station in a garage next to the tractors and hearing a nurse say: "You need to begin defending yourself." When the tractors turn on I am walking next to them. One of the incidentally bumps me. I yelled for my deceased husband. I see him walk in and turn off the tractors and disappear. I was screaming for him to help when I woke myself up. Any ideas as to what this means?
I think it´s almost impossible to do self-therapy without first having done psychotherapy. The ability to reflect upon oneself stems from childhood. (if one had parents who SAW one.) Or from a relation to a psychotherapist. That is, to be able to see ONESELF one must have been seen by SOMEBODY ELSE. (I and Thou, dialogue.) Some have more of this and some less. (Hitler didn´t have much self-reflection I don´t think.) To find ALL the answers within oneself I think is RARE.
All those who can be well, have long-term love-relationships, good, long-term friends, function socially, sleep and be fairly healthy, have a job and fúnction and thrive with work comrades are not that traumatized and sick. How on earth can Daniel draw everybody over the same .....(comb we say in Swedish)? I get anxiety, being overall invisible-made and losing sight of myself..
I really love your videos and ideas. Just a suggestion; could you reduce the volume of piano sound you use in between? It's jarring..considering the subject you discuss. TD way louder than your talking volume. Thanks!
Uhh... When you talk about the purpose of the unconscious, I couldn't disagree more. I usually agree with your point of view, but here I don't. First of all, I don't think we fully understand yet why we have conciousness or unconciousness. That being said, it seems that unconscious thinking may help species save energy and be more efficient in the day to day life, because thinking conciously takes so much energy. I won't say that "preventing emotional sufferening" can't be one of its purposes, but it deffinitely isn't the only one, nor the most important, in my opinion.
No, it is for sure not its main purpose but I think trauma messes with ur subconcious so then it starts trying to work through it. Basically trying to fix the bugs itself. This kind of makes sense to me but of course I can be wrong...
How do you assess "everybody" being "totally" traumatized? Come on, some nuances/ stages are called for.Inflation in concepts is not good. I know a penetcostal-christian who denies anybody being more ill in disease than anybody else. I have tried to get how she thinks.Equalling sth deadly or handicapping to a flu or cold or broken toe. I might have watched too many Daniel Mackler-videos, maybe I should try too go outside and meet some people. How to find a suitable therapist, with not even having my money? How to do self-therapy in my weakened, burnt-out with 25 years insomnia, multi-ongoing-traumatized state and hazardous situation by officials? I need peaceful , wise warmth and soothing, getting into Parasympaticus first of all. By someone who really knows healing. Not sure that even J Peterson or E. Drewermann know how. What does Daniel do for a living, how does he live cheap?
One has to break the fantasy bond with parents otherwise u will never truly be who u were meant to be.
It’s just crazy the fact that this video is so old and the information is actually so valuable. So dr. Are just came to this realization just recently and you’ve outlined it all so precisely in such short video
Thank you 🙏 more people need to see it
Daniel, I would like to be friends with you. Thanks for putting yourself out there.
A woman who is a past acquaintance made fun of the idea of journaling, and coined it as a waste of time. She stated angrily that “it makes the person worse” for writing out feelings and rehashing the past. On the other hand, she ascribes to Palm Reading and Psychics as effective avenues to grow and heal from her own issues. The more I’ve healed, the more I can see her and our mutual acquaintances are all sadly delusional. They sell and buy MLM products, have ritualistic future-faking vision board parties, and are codependently attached to abusive partners. I am no longer in contact with these people ever since I started my own Truth journey, Self discovery, and after finally accepting that my childhood was hell, siblings were (and still are) abusive to me, and my mother an evil and effectively manipulative covert narcissist, and absent enabling and codependent father. I cut off contact from them 9 months ago.
“ if all the unconscious came up it could drive you crazy”
A 4 day binge on a dissociative drug called dextromethorphan did exactly that to me and here I am disoriented and full of psychosomatic symptoms 15 years later.
Im 19...U CHANGED MY LIFE...I ALREADY SAW TONS OF FLAWS ABOUT MY PARENTS BUT U ARE LIKE STRAWBERY ON A CAKE,U ROCK!! SO GLAD THAT U LEAVED THAT THERAPY JOB!!
Thank you so much, I really needed to hear that someone can understand what I’m actually feeling and that I’m not crazy for thinking and feeling this way
Life is messy. I make sure my son knows I love him and all the things he thinks are okay just remember he always has me there when he needs me. I also apologize to him that if my trauma hurt him. I tell him I believe in him and know he can figure stuff out. Find your joy be as healthy as you can. Don’t give your power away. I let him know he is worthy of love and patience and understanding. I ask he give it to others.
Holy shit. Some who gets it. You are a rare diamond in the rough. Your eyes are definitely open.
Daniel, in this messed up world, we don’t question when someone says they have been abused! Thanks for all your work and if someone is critical, it’s because they are not there and can’t relate so who cares!
"...so disrespectful to our inner being." Very sadly, well stated.
thank you for sharing daniel. i miss your music in your newer videos! so calming and a nice sonic reset between sections. love your channel ❤
When you speak about people who knew you when you were younger not understanding that you were traumatized, it is hard to believe, if they knew anything about some of the behaviours that you describe in other videos. People seem almost to choose to ignore the most egregious signs of abuse! Thank you for all these videos … and this series also gave me more confidence to look at dreams.
We're tuned into who we depend on and we take from them the rules of life that we must obey. They may brush us off when we try to share feelings. The problem is emotional care is the predictor of physical care, so not being able to get our feelings known is like a threat on our life. Then we carry this with us from then on.
Youre like a mr rogers for adults.
I’m 20 I was 3 when my father violated my boundaries and me and brother had to fight to survive. My brother is traumatized because he couldn’t stop my father from hurting me and we only made it into foster care to get abuse by strangers all over again. We eventually got adopted as a sibling group he’s now 23 and I’m 20. But we are very dead inside and I try so hard to seem like I’m not and he’s just completely given up on emotion and finding happiness with himself. I can’t seem to see myself the same in any mirror and he looks like our birth father so he said to me once that he can’t even look at himself because it makes him so angry.
My dreams are fun sometimes and other times their really dark and scary. My brother says the same
I feel so heard and understood by your words. Why cant my therapist be that way?
When I was younger ,I had several dreams about an diserted,ghosted,abandoned house or palace, from structure, still can tell it's a gorgeous design. Another dream was about I came across a well preserved ancient empty city, but I got lost inside. Also,I had a lot dreams about overwhelming water. In real life, I am a person actually never learned to swim. Right now, I found myself have some bordeline symptom.
Any time I watch a video from you, I feel co firmed that I'm on the right path!
What I find great: how you tell, that one only has to ask oneself, and the unconscience might give an answere. I try to use this more often and more often before it is too late. What I see different: not all of dreams is to be understood symbollically. The feeling which we have during a dream might be the feeling of a childhood-situation. And a dream migth tell 1:1, what happened in reality.
Interesting. Thst could be true yes
I can see my parents flaws now and it’s just hurting me to realize the cause of my childhood trauma and the outcome of my unhappy life
A new idea for me and questions worth pondering for me. Thank you. 7:12
Love your videos ,enlighting
I have been anxious and lost since childhood, i remember being seeking help from the people around me, and mostly my family, i have become a joke ,even so i was smart at school, and get higher degrees than my siblings, but my social life become a disaster , now at 47 ,i feel how much pain i get , and how much self hater i have been.
thanks!
Gestalt dream analysis was taught to me by my therapist in the '70's. It's about taking all dream elements and creating a conversation with them to resolve current problems by creating a wholeness from split parts of the psyche. I don't think you use that method.
They are rare, but pre-cognitive dreams are real, and when they happen, very powerful. Although I am very simpatico with what you say in your videos and relish your filming skills, in this area you do a disservice.
A year before my brother drowned in SF Bay, I had a dream of jumping off the bridge, being sucked in by a whirlpool, and spit out onto Alcatraz Island where Buffy St Marie was giving a concert. I record most of my dreams in my journal.
That was in the early 1970's. I no longer grieve. Not really sure of the significance of B St M. She graduated from UMass, Amherst--an area I lived in from 1990-2000. It was a very formative time of my life and she was perhaps another precognitive element? Check out my memoir, videos, etc: donkarp.com
If you travel to Mexico, I've an extra room not yet listed on CouchSurfing, in Tepoztlan (near Cuernavaca), the Magic City.
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Generational sins are passed down. If parents don't get help, the children learn what they lived. Most parents are living out what they learned, it goes on and on........
Hey Daniel
These are very interesting and useful videos!
I agree on your view of the regularity of childhood trauma in us all - and that these are a "normality" - whether our parents tried really har dor not.
However as a parent I am concerned with the possible traumatizing effects of my upbringing and the flaws it will inevitably have at points.
Do you have any advice for parenting with these realizations in mind?
Many "happy" people have killed themselves! (and a baffled and BLIND world "understands nothing.") ("but she had everything!") (and so on.)
"Smile for mummy, dear!" (aha I have to smile for HER. So she won´t get sad.)
A good mother thinks "I´m glad that SHE is happy." And don´t expect to hear "I love you too mummy!"
cool! greetings to you monty. --daniel
Dream journaling is a fun and helpful thing to do. Years ago, I kept a dream journal. Every now and then, I will write about a particular dream or a set of dreams I have recorded. There are some I still cannot figure out, and if I simplify the symbiology, I feel as if I did not dig deep enough. What does it mean when you see two very large tractors in a garage that turn on by themselves and move a bit. What does it mean to see a nurse's station in a garage next to the tractors and hearing a nurse say: "You need to begin defending yourself." When the tractors turn on I am walking next to them. One of the incidentally bumps me. I yelled for my deceased husband. I see him walk in and turn off the tractors and disappear. I was screaming for him to help when I woke myself up. Any ideas as to what this means?
Great information Daniel. I have added links to my power of safety website
:( you were such a cute baby! But your eyes looked so sad...... (hugs)
I think it´s almost impossible to do self-therapy without first having done psychotherapy. The ability to reflect upon oneself stems from childhood. (if one had parents who SAW one.) Or from a relation to a psychotherapist. That is, to be able to see ONESELF one must have been seen by SOMEBODY ELSE. (I and Thou, dialogue.) Some have more of this and some less. (Hitler didn´t have much self-reflection I don´t think.) To find ALL the answers within oneself I think is RARE.
Make sense about unconscious
All those who can be well, have long-term love-relationships, good, long-term friends, function socially, sleep and be fairly healthy, have a job and fúnction and thrive with work comrades are not that traumatized and sick. How on earth can Daniel draw everybody over the same .....(comb we say in Swedish)? I get anxiety, being overall invisible-made and losing sight of myself..
what do you mean by dream "meanings" in a non methapysical way?
I really love your videos and ideas. Just a suggestion; could you reduce the volume of piano sound you use in between? It's jarring..considering the subject you discuss. TD way louder than your talking volume. Thanks!
Angel Heart it's a guitar
What if u don’t have dreams at all..
Thanks 2nd comment, i get answers too, for a long time, the God within. we can I believe speak tio God without rabbi priest expert, just us
Uhh... When you talk about the purpose of the unconscious, I couldn't disagree more. I usually agree with your point of view, but here I don't. First of all, I don't think we fully understand yet why we have conciousness or unconciousness. That being said, it seems that unconscious thinking may help species save energy and be more efficient in the day to day life, because thinking conciously takes so much energy. I won't say that "preventing emotional sufferening" can't be one of its purposes, but it deffinitely isn't the only one, nor the most important, in my opinion.
No, it is for sure not its main purpose but I think trauma messes with ur subconcious so then it starts trying to work through it. Basically trying to fix the bugs itself. This kind of makes sense to me but of course I can be wrong...
If you're in the personality disorder level of trauma, I don't think you can heal that on your own. You need another human to help.
How do you assess "everybody" being "totally" traumatized? Come on, some nuances/ stages are called for.Inflation in concepts is not good. I know a penetcostal-christian who denies anybody being more ill in disease than anybody else. I have tried to get how she thinks.Equalling sth deadly or handicapping to a flu or cold or broken toe. I might have watched too many Daniel Mackler-videos, maybe I should try too go outside and meet some people. How to find a suitable therapist, with not even having my money? How to do self-therapy in my weakened, burnt-out with 25 years insomnia, multi-ongoing-traumatized state and hazardous situation by officials? I need peaceful , wise warmth and soothing, getting into Parasympaticus first of all. By someone who really knows healing. Not sure that even J Peterson or E. Drewermann know how.
What does Daniel do for a living, how does he live cheap?
and there's no such thing as "self-therapy" . only therapy