Just found you. Just subscribed! Please keep doing what you are doing! Thank you for this. There are so many hurting people in this world 🌎 and the average person on this earth does not have access to such therapy and even if they do can't afford it! 🙏🏽
Don't know if it is my bad memory or reality but I can't think of any act of kindness towards me of late (other than my husband's little acts) for which I am grateful. I do remember not the specifics but getting teary eyed when someone was kind - it was so surprising and unexpected. Guess I don't elicit kindness in others.
Dear Irene, would you be glad about some possibilities for reading and such? Through getting some explanations and reading some things related to trauma and the nervous system I learned, for example, that in certain states your nervous system can get into, it can be super hard to connect to any feelings of well-being. And, the good news is those states are supposed to be fluctuating. Through trauma it can happen that that flexibility is diminished and it is harder to get out of difficult states. Learning about these things has really supported me a lot. Let me know if you're glad to hear more. Love, Naomi
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! Thank you for your vulnerable sharing. Even remembering the somatic experience of getting teary-eyed in response to kindness can be helpful as a start.
Wow was not anticipating where you were going with this. I’ve never felt peace around that part of my trauma before or felt like I was viewing it from the outside. Every other time I’ve remembered it, I was trapped in it. Thank you for this. I’m looking forward to trying this with other memories. ❤
That sounds like the two are "over-coupled" - they've become overly associated with each other. An SE practitioner can help you uncouple the two,@Justine.r351. Check out the practitioner directory at traumahealing.org.
Why do I feel like crying when I think back to a kind act? Is it because i haven’t dealt with the trauma it is connected to? Or maybe I don’t feel worthy of the kindness 🤔
Great question, @lorraine8846. It's hard to say - it could be either of those things or something else. I know early on in my own process I had tears come up when I encountered kindnesses done to me - almost like my system had been waiting so long that it's overcome with emotion now that the kindness arrived.
To be seen, heard & cared for I know is what that experience would give me; so as adult with cptsr it gives me space to open my heart fully trusting & I feel the love as my heart swells. Tears or joy or tears of grieving perhaps.
Observing memories and noticing the body's response without judgment can be powerful as long as one remains present. If being with the memory is too much, titrating the experience - noticing just a part of it at a time, for example - can be an effective way to experience and work through memories.
Just found you. Just subscribed! Please keep doing what you are doing! Thank you for this. There are so many hurting people in this world 🌎 and the average person on this earth does not have access to such therapy and even if they do can't afford it! 🙏🏽
Thanks, @mrsmc2612! I'm glad we can help decrease some of the hurt out there.
Don't know if it is my bad memory or reality but I can't think of any act of kindness towards me of late (other than my husband's little acts) for which I am grateful.
I do remember not the specifics but getting teary eyed when someone was kind - it was so surprising and unexpected. Guess I don't elicit kindness in others.
Dear Irene, would you be glad about some possibilities for reading and such?
Through getting some explanations and reading some things related to trauma and the nervous system I learned, for example, that in certain states your nervous system can get into, it can be super hard to connect to any feelings of well-being. And, the good news is those states are supposed to be fluctuating. Through trauma it can happen that that flexibility is diminished and it is harder to get out of difficult states. Learning about these things has really supported me a lot. Let me know if you're glad to hear more. Love, Naomi
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! Thank you for your vulnerable sharing. Even remembering the somatic experience of getting teary-eyed in response to kindness can be helpful as a start.
Thank you for this insightful series sharing your expertise 🙏🏽
My pleasure, @SimonTransparently!
Wow was not anticipating where you were going with this. I’ve never felt peace around that part of my trauma before or felt like I was viewing it from the outside. Every other time I’ve remembered it, I was trapped in it. Thank you for this. I’m looking forward to trying this with other memories. ❤
I'm so glad it was helpful, @TakeMeToYourLida!
That's fantastic, @TakeMeToYourLida! Thanks for letting us know.
creative but very profound effect of this technique, now we are talking, I like this much, thank you
Glad you like it!
Liked very much your approach and sensitivity. Do you make theraapy sessions by Zoom? Thank you
Thank you for your kind words @boulogneelaine. I'm limited to working with clients in the state of Illinois, and regrettably my caseload is full.
thanks.
Love your video content!!!
Thank you!!
Just found this but sadly remembering kindness makes me feel grief stricken what can I do for this?
That sounds like the two are "over-coupled" - they've become overly associated with each other. An SE practitioner can help you uncouple the two,@Justine.r351. Check out the practitioner directory at traumahealing.org.
UM this worked THANK U
Glad it was helpful, @Pixielocks!
Is that called " Resourcing " in SE?
Sorry for the long delay in replying - I just learned about the comment feature! Yes, that is correct - it is resourcing.
Why do I feel like crying when I think back to a kind act? Is it because i haven’t dealt with the trauma it is connected to? Or maybe I don’t feel worthy of the kindness 🤔
Great question, @lorraine8846. It's hard to say - it could be either of those things or something else. I know early on in my own process I had tears come up when I encountered kindnesses done to me - almost like my system had been waiting so long that it's overcome with emotion now that the kindness arrived.
To be seen, heard & cared for I know is what that experience would give me; so as adult with cptsr it gives me space to open my heart fully trusting & I feel the love as my heart swells. Tears or joy or tears of grieving perhaps.
Hi, do you teach SE? I would love to learn and do what you do
@bex1809, I am not SE faculty, but you can learn more about SE at traumahealing.org.
@@lifecarewellness-IL thank you. Do you offer any kind of teaching in this line of work?
Sorry @bex1809, but these videos are as close to teaching as I get.
When I thought about the memory, I felt tears coming up.
Observing memories and noticing the body's response without judgment can be powerful as long as one remains present. If being with the memory is too much, titrating the experience - noticing just a part of it at a time, for example - can be an effective way to experience and work through memories.
Nice reminder.