It's interesting how Marcus Aurelius reminds us to detach from the pain and focus on what we can control. Life can often bring us unexpected challenges, and sometimes, it's the way we respond to those challenges that defines us. Do you think it's possible to truly care less about life's hardships, or is it more about how we choose to interpret and react to them?
"The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…" -Epictetus "The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." -Marcus Aurelius
"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." -Seneca "Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems." -Epictetus💜
Recently got diagnosed with stage 2 brain cancer at 28. Had to have a tumor removed. Lot of people around me acting like it’s the end of the world for me. While I meanwhile remember these lessons of Aurelius and am very ambivalent to the news. It just is what it is, if I die I die. Oh well. Edit: to those wishing me well, thank you. I am still alive. Edit: May 15, 2024 Still here. Goin strong, some days feels like Mind over Matter is a genuine help. Edit: September 20th, 2024. They removed the last tumor. It shifted enough they could get to it without damaging deep brain tissue. I am cancer free. Thank you to all those giving well wishes this entire time. Final edit October 4th: I stayed strong to deal with mine, now it’s my grandma’s turn and it’s hitting her a lot worse than mine ever did to me. I had my youth at least to fight back long enough to beat it. She does not have that energy. So with mine dealt with, I head now to take care of her with hers. If you are to give wishes of encouragement and support, please send it her way. I beg you. Please. Stay strong. True last edit, December 17th, 2024: She passed away today. It was terminal. Was on so much pain meds she couldn’t eat or drink or stay awake. I now am to lose the house in the next month as, I gave everything to be here for her, and there’s no work in the middle of the woods here. Remember to tell your loved ones, you love them more than there are stars in the sky.
Is it a 'Glioblatoma' ? Your resilience is key I have 'Heart Failure' - Dilated Cardiomyopathy' - It is what it is - life is a fleeting moment on the scale of things ❤
My life changed (for the better) almost instantly when I realized that “not giving a f*ck” was not only okay, but essential to being happy. I also stopped watching the news, which helped even more.
so much of the news i’ve noticed is simply for people like me (admittedly) to go and seek reasons to worry. it brings people like me back, and makes them money. so much is driven by hype and fear mongering it’s just hard to know if the info you’re getting is real or 99% of the time bias for a check. take care brother
I too gave up watching the so called "news", (biased opinion) and am much happier because of it. I like to tell people that _"I've retired from politics"._ I accept that the world doesn't care what I think.
@@moodyrick8503 Yes, I have also realized that each of us are like a fish swimming in a vast ocean of (mis)information and “intellectual” noise. It’s the land of confusion and I enjoy turning off the noise and enjoying the silence.
Yes, the news is now just, "Let's find the worst things going on" and rarely is positive. It leads people to believing that the world is all bad because they're only showing the bad apples. The positive news doesn't attract enough viewers I guess. I stopped watching it years ago.
And we are not obliged to accept what we tell ourselves. That's where the power is in ourselves, to take a different perspective and be grateful in everything that happens.
Hi. I am going through a hard phase and having many negative thoughts in my mind. I just wanted to ask that we have no control over our thoughts. They come spontaneously. So how does this work?? Please tell.
Not exactly accurate when you suffer physically from chronic illness all while being evicted from your home. so easy for people to say who are extremely comfortable, so comfortable that they have to mentally make themselves depressed over nothing burgers because that’s what society is now, It’s cool to be sad and depressed , except for those actually going through it.
Agree. A majority of people commenting here and just in general are followers trying to come off as edgy. They do what’s trendy and are typically full of shit. It’s a big reason why I spend most time with my family or close friends only.
This was my key to happiness. I used to worry about everything, now I don't worry about anything. I woke up one day and it hit me, I value my time more than money. I had never been more broke, but I never felt more rich. Money, material things, nothing compares to time!
I think social media causes people to live simultaneously in their future and past. People go out to social events , not to have fun, but to film themselves being there. They are so excited to post their present in the future, just so people will be happy or jealous for their yesterday. Never truly living in the present. Be where your feet are, enjoy your present because it is the only true reality.
One thing I have realised is that you can never outrun your problems or negativity in this world you just have to accept this is the world we live and focus on things you can control to make it a better place if not everyone then at least for your family
Best example for this is Oskar Schindler in my opinion when he finally realized what was happening to Jews he decided to step in he knew he couldn't help every jew out there but he still helped everyone in his capacity even if it meant going bankrupt he was a hero
@@ripvanwinkle_7 I found out about him when I watched the movie Schindler List. I used to skip it thinking it's too depressing for me to watch but one day I finally decided to sit down and watch it completely I loved the movie cause it showed the worst and best side of humanity together one line which I still remember is "Whoever saves one life saves the world entire."
I've known so many people who try to outrun their problems by getting divorced and immediately jumping into new relationships. Sure, it initially feels new, exciting, and like a success, but it's always just a matter of time before the old problems resurface and before you know it, they're complaining about how awful their new spouse is on Facebook.
I am sick and tired of feeling anxious all the time. I can’t taste what i eat i can’t sleep properly i can’t communicate properly i can’t even do the hobbies of mine that i used enjoyed. But i watched this and i haven’t felt this good for a long time. It was a huge relief. Thank you A LOT..
I struggle with this as well. It's important to live life in the moment. It makes no logical sense to suffer mostly from our imagination. Ask yourself if you're making anything better by just worrying about it. Sometimes one must shame themselves to realize what damage they cause by dwelling on anxieties. I wish you peace and calm.
Same here mate. My gf left to study in another country and I'm very anxious. Things aren't going too well, I worry a lot and make it worse. At least these videos provide temporary relief, like it's gonna be alright.
Stoicism has truly helped me so much in coping with my anxiety. Seneca's Letters From a Stoic is also one of my all-time favourite books, and I recommend it to anyone who struggles with anxiety.
Thank you! I’ve struggled with it a couple of years and came across this video and stoicism seems very helpful for me. Will check out your recommendations, thanks! Have a good day
I need to learn that, I used to be care free but ever since I got married I have somehow learned anxiety and it has caused me to have ulcers and polyps in my body(from stressing). I have to rewrite my brain otherwise I will die of heart issues
@@sew_gal7340 So sorry to hear about your struggles 😔 Sounds like marriage is literally inflamming your triggers. I hope you find peace soon. Please take care 💛💛
Interesting fact: the song that is played at 4:15 is called Seikilos Epitaph, and it is the oldest surviving musical composition. A man left it written on his wife's grave and the lyrics says: "While you live, shine have no grief at all life exists only for a short while and Time demands his due"
tell that to myself when im not around later over what i missed and couldnt have or do. then go suck an egg and stfu until you know the weight of a worlds worth of problems. unless you are shouldering all the struggles unfolding dont speak as if you are otherwise knowing.
Well Put & True Indeed.. Words I myself live by.. Why Stress or Worry about People, Places & Things etc I Can't Control or do anything about.. I notice how others WANT you to Stress or Be in Fear of Everything, even tho we have no control over it anyways.. Just Accept it & Let it Be.. What's Meant to happen Will. Bad or Good.. I Refuse to live the remaining of my life in Fear or Worry about this Wicked World.. Why... Doesn't do me Any good to Worry about what I can't control or Fix...
My dad died seven months ago and my mum, who meant the world to me, passed away a few days ago...I feel like a little child (I'm 38) lost in the dark...but I know that things we can't have control on, may destroy us if we let them be our master. I'm not afraid of death anymore, just living the only thing that matters: the present time. I'll keep moving forward and live my life, entirely, completely, without thinking about what could happen in the future or what could have been avoided in the past. Sorrow and unhappiness wanted to invite me for dinner, but I did respond: "No, thanks. I'd rather eat alone if you don't mind" (Julien, from France) Danke schön Einzelgänger für dieses Video.
Julien, hang in there. You and I lost both our parents at the age of 38. It’s not easy. You said it well (lost in the dark). Keep your head up. -Jimmy from The States
I am happy to hear you got to reach all the way to 38 years of age with your parents in your life my friend. I wish you could see your parents as you desired, but of course, the passing of those around us, especially those in seniority to us, is simply an inevitability with time. I'm sure one with discipline such as yourself will continue to act and think in such ways that would make your parents proud. Grieve, but do not wallow in misery. - Asad from the Emirates
@@tobi-xo3if Thank you so much Asad for your kind words. Life still goes on and I'm sure there are a lot of magnificent things to come for all of us. There's darkness in our world but we have the power to enlighten it by our actions. Enjoy your life my friend
Life makes us this way, we “need” to survive… creates greedy, power hungry, selfish people. These people get people to follow them, let it go on long enough and we’ll here we are… these kingdoms always fall because they are built on the wrong principles. It’s a cycle 🔄 we hold the power as a people, but they have us divided and brainwashed essentially
Basically, don't get upset, mad or worried about things you can't control. You can't control the future, so don't worry about it. You can prepare for it, but you can't control it. You can't control the past, so don't dwell on what should have or could have, don't let it consume you.
The more I listen to these messeges and apply what I've learned the easier my life becomes. Turning 77 this May but it's never too late to improve one's life😊 Thank you from my whole heart❤.
@@UnLoCoSs Hi. Yup I'm on my own now and really enjoying fewer responsibilities. My late companion passed Sept. 2021. Of course I miss him every day but I feel so free now. It's now JO-ANNA TIME. YAY!!! 🎉 How many years have YOU been on Earth?
I have been suffering lately, because of the things that happened in the past, and I have extreme worries of my future. When I was okay, I have always thought that I am a rational thinker, yet when things began to break lose, it just shuttered me to my core. It affected my entirety. I felt like I was stuck to nothingness. After watching this video, I feel like or rather it made me realize that I have been marinating my self to suffering by regretting the past and worrying about the future, that I forgot how to live in the present. This video opened my eyes into a new perspective, I appreciate it so much, thank you. This is the kind of philosophy I need right now.
Thank you for making such wonderful videos! Every few weeks one of your creations pops up in my feed and I enjoy watching and listening what you share. It’s great mind food. Good upgrades. Great to be reminded or to learn new things about the psychology of our being. Thank you!
This is actually exactly how I survived being diagnosed with MS and put on 2 different types of chemo for it. From 2015 to 2022, I had to stop caring to survive. I had to stop caring about everything I was losing in the process. Luckily I have no children so as hard as losing everything is, I consider myself lucky. I had to stop caring about my career that I could no longer do. Had to stop caring about my awesome credit, my car I was losing, my independence, my education (cannot work in my field of choice). Best thing I ever told myself was to stop caring about everything but my health in which I could control. 7 years later and picking up where I left off finally. Hoping I can get off disability and stay off while not caring. It’s a weird place to be in when getting an education.
Don’t know which country u live in, hope not in USA with their crazy health insurance, i hope u will be fine, but how could u afford the treatment? This what worries me the most about health and i live in Europe where health care is next to free, but still, if one start paying for treatments and staying in a hospital, no matter how cheap it is if it is too much and one can not work because of health, how does it look financially?
@@bambinaforever1402 I do live in the US but luckily I never had to worry about health prices bc I was insured (really good insurance) under my mom until age 26 and married my husband a month before my 26th bday so I went straight to being on his insurance (even better since it’s military insurance so no copays bc he is active duty). That being said, disability is super hard to get on. Took me 3 years of no income before I was placed on disability.
@@prihaps Bruh I'll be screwed if I'm sick for a long period of time. I have zero insurance and barely able to feed myself+buying household necessities+paying bills and no, my country doesn't have things like social welfare or something. The government doesn't care a bit if their citizen died at their home because they're starving.
@@bananajajaja6262 well same. I had no income for three years until I was finally approved for disability and even then it’s not a lot of money. That’s why I lost everything.
I have never been so depressed about my life and circumstances before. The past few months I’ve been so stressed and sad, my wife suspected i may have depression, as i just really want to cry everyday tho I didn’t. But this video really helps. It hits the spot. I will look at the present and what I have with more value, and I will learn to accept my life, instead of squealing like a pig. Marcus Aurelius is indeed wise. Thank you for this video
The issue with stoicism is the idea that luck favors the prepared. Ideal stoicism is essentially think less and act more. You absolutely should worry about the future, just worry through action instead of thoughts.
lets say for instance i have a flat tyre on my bike and no way to fix it until the store opens in the morning...knowing that i can cease worrying about it and get a decent night's rest
The problem is one cannot just “flush away” the past by not thinking about it. The past can be with us as trauma that does not manifest as thoughts but instead, emotions and behaviors that can be from very buried sources. We amount in the present as a culmination of our genetics, upbringing, choices made and not made, and of course, randomness. Therefore, though we only live in the present, a sliver of time, the past always lives within us. It is true that we should let go of that which we have no control over that is external to us, but past events that shape us (internal) cannot just be let go of. Don’t dwell on the past but learn from it. Great video overall as usual
isn't this the problem that stoicism is 'made' for dealing with? or at least to me seem to be most applicable to. basically trying to go 'outside of yourself' in order to get a more objective view of an emotional problem - rather than digging into the emotional and getting triggered.
being a 14 y/o dealing with severe stress levels and suicidal thoughts this video has been my guidance dealing and coping with the current events in my life . THANK YOU you have no idea how much did your creations impacts my life
Can’t thank you enough, this video just changed my life, i was never been so happy and satisfied in my life, thank you again and forgive my bad English, keep up the good works ❤️
Reminds me of when my son was diagnosed with a plethora of issues due to a genetic abnormality. Everyone was so up in arms; couldn’t believe how we managed. I was stumped at their reactions as I remained ambivalent. I could only focus on the now & what I could control. It’s taught me a lot & I’m a happier person in general, for it.
Marcus Aurelius’ approach to dealing with pain and hardship is incredibly relevant today. It's helpful to remember that sometimes, caring less can bring clarity and peace.
I feel like philosophy is telling you what you already know. As a kid i stopped caring and it helped with bullying or anything really. It was easier when i felt happy and stable. But now everything hurts again and i feel isolated and alone. Its been years feeling more and more depressed. I keep overthinking with chaos in my mind. Hopefully i can take the childhood-like wisdom and feel more okay again.
As a kid i always accepted things. But i think that's so much easier when you're not depressed, and you're feeling okay. Not the mood swings from high to low, but, feeling okay. It's a feeling i miss. I miss my childhood and according to this philosophy i should move on in life, but, it feels like it's too hurtful to me...
I think about this often. Being a child is being ignorant to the worlds chaos. You have a child like innocence where everything and anything is possible. Not saying that everyone’s childhood is grand or easy. Mine sure wasn’t. But I do miss the feeling of possibility and not worrying about things, I just wanted a new toy and maybe some nuggets but the weight of the world wasn’t SO heavy. As we grow older we lose touch with that sparkle. But I think it’s never too late. I’m in a similar place as you now. But within the 7 months you’ve posted this. I hope you’ve found your light again ❤
Thank you. I love your content. Spreading wisdom in a way that helps me understand it not only rationally but also emotionally. And Marcus is right. I practice Stoicism for about 1,5 years now. And after my recent breakup I didn't shatter. I went through the pain and made the best out of this experience. Now I am grateful that it happened. Because while being in love is nice, but having now really understood stoic principles and my own value and place in the world, how to control my emotions and concentrate what's really important, that is truly life changing. No book I've could read would be able to bring me such clarity as pain does. I am fortunate.
Im currently at terrible place by losing my job for the second time in big corporation and divorced in same time which brought me anxiety and negativity in everything becoming so bitter that I always yelling at my own parents.. but after seeing this vedio and reading a comment here I realized that i need to change and work everyday and stop procrastinating which is really hard to do but i will do my best to beat my failure and to win again by not expecting anything just to work and be happy that i gave all in this day for everyday till the day i die
You’re going through a really sh*tty time. It takes a tremendous amount of effort and patience to get through a sh*t storm of stress like you’re experiencing. I’ve been through hell. It not only doesn’t last, it makes you content and wise when things do finally calm down. Keep your chin up and be patient and try to treat yourself well while going through this period of your life. YOU CAN DO IT! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
Never give up. Life is just starting for me now and I just turned 39. My life has been one big shit show but I never gave up no matter what. Yeah sometimes I have felt like you, but my friend this too shall pass :) All the best.
Most suffering is caused by the mind when you have too much time to think and your mind isn't fully occupied. My solution is to stay busy and keep my mind fully occupied in my work, hobbies, and interactions with people and fill my head with positive media (TV shows etc.) This keeps me fully in the moment and gives me no time for my mind to wander and think about the past or future or things I don't have or anything. I have found that keeping my mind fully occupied is the absolute best medicine and way to stay happy. It doesn't take a lot of philosophy or deep thinking to do either, just stay fully engaged in the moment through positive activities and you will crowd negativity right out. The only time I'm really unhappy is when I'm left with too much time where I'm mentally unoccupied to think.
This video was exactly what I needed today- I had a hard time at work yesterday, made some mistakes, and was so worried about them that I had nightmares about them and their consequences. I came to TH-cam looking for an edifying Stoic reminder, and this was the second video on my regular feed. (I didn't even have to search for it.) Thank you for posting this and your other videos. They are very helpful.
It's crazy how good the philosophy of Islam teaches us. It really matches this and has further inclusions to the similar principles. Alhamdulillah for Islam.
3:38 - being diagnosed with an aggressive cancer a couple of months after retirement is exactly what happened to a very good friend (a former colleague) of mine. It was devestating. She died about 18 months into her retirement, having spent those months in fruitless radiation and chemo therapy. So yes, sh.t does happen.
Dear Einzelganger, thank you for publishing many content regarding these. I find value and calming whenever I watch and re-watch them while continuing my spiritual path. Those reading this comment, you're already ahead than many who gave up at first sign of hardship. 2023 will be an amazing year.
Not stressing, analyzing, or being scared of my chronic pain is one of the biggest mind-body exercises that put me into a near remission. It’s not easy but it works
"It's about mind over matter. If you don't mind, then why should it matter?" A lesson I've lived my life by. Maybe not such a great way to live your whole life. But it's made me less bitter about a lot of things that should've made me lose my mind
This video on stoicism and the advice / philosophy of Marcus Aurelius, has deeply resonated with me and has profoundly changed my life! Live in the present moment. Everything that is explained in this video, I have been thinking about lately. This is one of the most important things I have watched and absorbed in years. Thank you for presenting this. I feel enlightened, humbled and satisfied. It’s exactly what I needed . Blessings will follow you , for this, all the days of your life.
The past and future are not real; they're accessed only through the present. Do what you can and when things don't work out, then acceptance is sometimes all that's left
The present really doesn't exist either . How could it possibly be measured ? As I write each of these letters to form a word they instantaneously become the past. When we think we have arrived in the future it is the present. As the Oracle told Neo in the Matrix, "Here's something that will really bake your noodle"😂
Amazing timing, truly today was THE day for this. Unbelievably, on THE day I chose to not dwell on the past while fearing the future and errors to get worse. I decide instead, to look for something to bump me back onto the path and decide to look up Marcus Aurelius. Uploaded today. Also, I see the irony in me choosing to make a comment on the significance of some past event and how the present occurrence will move my future.
Coming out of a breakup where it felt like the pain of the past and my imaginations of the future was endless. This video has moved me to tears. This is exactly what I needed.
Two of the MOST powerful and useful quotes for daily life are: "Oh well", and "It is what it is". If you wake up every day and envision everything that can go wrong and bad, and expect them, you cannot ever be taken off guard or surprised.
It is good to recognize both what you are and what you are not. In fact, I personally believe that it's far better to know what does NOT define you rather than what does. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
I like to live by “expect the worst, and hope for the best” So I always kinda feel prepared when shit things happen, and when good things happen then I’m glad, but don’t fear disappointment
If I may add to this quote, the words from a another person whos also a therapist, said to me, "Expect the worst, hope for the best. But reality is often somewhere in the middle" Which I found to be quite true when I reflect back on past events while holding on to the quote. It's a refreshing addition, that gives me more control on how I position myself towards the events going to unfold in the future or from the past, and also helps a lot in tuning down anxiety. Reading this quote made me want to reply and share this wisdom as well.
Indeed, it seems pessimistic, but in reality is just being prepared. "Things can't get any worse than they are now" said the pessimist. "Of course they can" replied the Optimist.
This resonates with me. I came up thinking like this as well...I strayed from it trying to be more optimistic. Like when I heard about you get what you expect and think. Idk...but I think that mindset may have been best.
“In this world, everyone must die. None of us has any choice in that. Our choice is how we wish to live.” "Life is the future, not the past. The past can teach us, through experience, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide the foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. To live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew. As rational, thinking beings, we must use our intellect, not a blind devotion to what has come before, to make rational choices." --Wizards 7th and 14th rule. "The Universe is Mental, held in the Mind of THE ALL." -The Kybalion.
I come to this video in the right time, just now, I feel misery in my soul, I feel how my heart is burning in flames of sadness, for a love, that maybe was never for me. But it still hurts as a blade in my chest can do. Now, I know that this feelings are just a reminder of my tragically thoughts
I reached Aurelius logic by myself as a way to deal with my anxiety over dead. After much reasoning i understood that whatever might happen, if anything happens I would adapt, just as i have adapted to many situations, pleasurable and miserable through my life. I have also seen others manage to adapt to worst situations. Just as we cried when getting born and then we learned not to cry for everything, if something comes after death or nothing comes i will adapt, i might suffer but if thats the case suffering would never last forever. A medium, a balance will be achieved, at least if i remain conscious. Aurelius way of thinking is similar to my reasoning. Whatever might happen, you will deal with it. Another idea i created that helped me deal with the fear of death is that we have died every single day since we got born. We die everytime we go to sleep. The person you were 10 years ago is not the person you are today. You like other things, you apreciate different things. You want and desire different things. Your values, your needs are different. You are a clone of the you in the past. You remember different things and forgot many others. You are another person, even at a cellular level. So, you got practice dying and you did it naturally and even with pleasure every night you went to sleep and never you imagined you would die and another you would be alive the next morning. Your conscious "shut down", rewritten and turned on every single day.
Never knew any of this existed til about 15 minutes ago -- yet it's been my life philosophy as long as I can remember... Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Life's not about getting what you want, so much as wanting what you have. Yesterday's gone & tomorrow may never get here -- but, if it does, I'll deal wit it when it gets here -- but by then, it'll be today again. I'm here for a GOOD time, not a long time. Nice to know I'm not alone in this way of thinking. 😊
It was by accident I have discovered your channel on TH-cam and by far it's been the best thing that ever happened. I love your contents and writings dude keep up your amazing work. 👏
This what the Bible said in Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I wish we had more stoics in the world today. We seem to have a whole generation who are fixated with the past, trying to change it, continually get anxious about the future and when faced with adversity seem to turn immediately into the “squealing, screaming pigs” Marcus spoke of.
that has more to do with what you choose to put focus on - obviously louder/chaotic people are going to be more noticeable. if you are a productive stoic person you are probably not getting noticed by anyone but people in your direct vicinity.
oh and in real life, in person, the people you speak of are very very few and far between unless you go looking for them and then antagonize them - so are they really the problem? 😅
I've noticed that often such young people are constantly trying to make the world perfect, for them. Because they grew up insulated from adversity and were indulged. So they won't even consider possibilities outside their own limited comfort to allow for normal variations in mood or difficulty. For instance it never occurs to them that someone may have just had a confronting situation and could be slightly affected by it so they don't behave absolutely perfectly. It's zero tolerance from them. Very sooky and intolerant people. If someone is acting a bit stressed I tell myself that I don't know all their story so best assume the best from them and encourage the best without getting all stressed about forcing. Next time you see them they may well explain themselves, or not.
I was jealous of everyone for years because of my insecurities and weaknesses. But then I made a New Year resolution to end it, because I realized something. I do not believe in society anymore. I say two words to ultimately eliminate the self-doubt that tries to attack me: screw norms. I'm 27, still live at home, having _never_ moved out. I have never had a girlfriend or a date, and I don't even have a driver's license. I have both a learning disability and ASD, and sometimes I say unfiltered things or act weird in social moments. I assume my ASD makes me "less normal." I don't have too many friends now that I've graduated from college and most of my friends have left town. My coworkers all seem to fit in; I usually stand out. I used to feel like a misfit at work, but now I realize that it's not a big deal. It's just they're not my people, they're each other's only. If my ASD makes them not like me enough, that's their problem. Sure, I don't have a great filter, but it doesn't define me; nobody is perfect. I don't care if people find me weird or annoying. I don't care that my both my sisters have boyfriends and started dating at 16 while I've always been single. I don't care that I can't drive. I don't care that I appear dopey because of my learning disability. I don't care that I graduated high school at _TWENTY._ I don't care that I seem slow and helpless and do better with a guide than by myself (my boss basically said that to my face). I don't care that I still live with my mom. I don't care that I went to a small charter school than the "superior" public school that has many more activities, adventures, and organizations. I don't care about any of my weaknesses; I still have confidence in myself. It doesn't matter what others think of me, it's what I think of myself that matters. I will never fall for society's tricks again; society is buIIshit, and that would explain our government and political leaders. I say "SCREW NORMS!" I am absolutely fine the way I am, I say confidently. I am not a loser. A disabled man who doesn't match standards, yes, but not a loser. There is nothing wrong with being different. Different is good. Normal is boring.
I think it depends on the person. The thought of future events helps me plan possible outcomes and that brings me peace. Making the unknown known, puts me at ease.
I try to think about future so I can get an idea of what things can go wrong so I'm already prepared for it and have a backup plan just in case it helps me remain calm
Planning for the future is way different than worrying about it. Planning And imagining are essential for having some control IN THE FUTURE. but…the goal is to be unattached to the results while going keeping the motivation to go 100% in the present, never an easy task. Don’t hope and never quit!
“In this world, everyone must die. None of us has any choice in that. Our choice is how we wish to live.” "Life is the future, not the past. The past can teach us, through experience, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide the foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. To live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew. As rational, thinking beings, we must use our intellect, not a blind devotion to what has come before, to make rational choices." --Wizards 7th and 14th rule.
For a few years now ... I have been trying to let others know... to be truly content , we must live in the present ... we can not change the past , or the future.. we must remain in the NOW , peace be unto all those who view this video!
this came at a great timing. I was suffering in my own head about the fact I didnt pass my driving test. I was exhausted, constantly thinking how much of a failure I was. I am making this comment in hopes that when I pass the test, I can remember this as such a small event...
@@peterpuleo2904 thanks, of course life will keep being hard and keep throwing all sorts of challenges, but for fucks sake I’ve never been so relieved for passing this test.
Exactly! Someone in these comments pointed out that he had chronic pain issues but overcame them through rationalization. Yeah, I’m sure the opium had nothing to do with it. Or being an emperor I.e. privileged.
You've completely missed the point. The stoics didn't say to stop living, they said to stop worrying about things beyond your control. You'll definitely end up broke if you don't even do the things you CAN control, so do the best you reasonably can and call it good enough.
I didnt know what i was gettinf myself into when i clicked on this video, but i definitely needed to hear this. To let my fear of the future control my present is not the way to live. Thank you.
Why is everyone so focused on numbing the pain, coming up with all sorts of mental gymnastics Just accept it, feel it, live with it It makes you alive Dont be a stone
"The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing, for it requires being ready to stand firm and in a state of readiness against any onslaught made upon us." - Marcus Aurelius Stay Calm. Stay Wise. Stay Stoic.
Wasn’t the best saying about caring was one of Marcus Aurelius’ sayings with “God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the Wisdom to know the difference”.
I have this thing where if something truly heartbreaking happens to me or I’m losing my mind (about to take stage in front of a theater full of SILENT people), I try to zoom out and look at the cosmic picture. You can barely see our *sun* from several light years away…what happens here has never mattered to the greater cosmos on ANY level. Not only that but it’ll soon be forgotten, even on earth. It doesn’t work in every instance…for example, you would never think “so what if I kill this chick and dump her body in a lonely grave…Glip Glorp from the sombrero galaxy will never find out”. I guess if you’re the type of person who needs to be told that, none of this is going to be of any use anyway. But for things that either don’t matter or stuff that FEELS like the end of the world, it truly helps. Next time you’re about to speak in public or ask someone out, just zoom out and realize that none of this matters. In a hundred years, nobody’s gonna remember. Life becomes much easier when you stop catastrophizing everything on a cosmic level.
If everyone were thinking like that we would still be on the trees or even extinct, because " nothing matters " What cosmos has to do with your problems ? They are real and important to you and that's enough. A queen ant is nothing to a poor human , he can crash her with his finger ,but it's still a queen for her nest .
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It's interesting how Marcus Aurelius reminds us to detach from the pain and focus on what we can control. Life can often bring us unexpected challenges, and sometimes, it's the way we respond to those challenges that defines us. Do you think it's possible to truly care less about life's hardships, or is it more about how we choose to interpret and react to them?
"We suffer more in our imagination than in reality."
Anyone has any new quotes, 💤
@@ratmon19 these old ones are timeless sir
So True
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"The wisdom of the wise, and the experience of ages, may be preserved by quotation"
--Isaac D'Israeli.
@@ratmon19 nice try
"You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this and you will find great strength."
-Marcus Aurelius
Awesome quote
"The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own…"
-Epictetus
"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts."
-Marcus Aurelius
For many people this is a lie. Only if your mind functions perfectly can you “escape your thoughts.”
What if you don't have power over your mind?
"We suffer more in imagination than in reality."
-Seneca
"Man is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems."
-Epictetus💜
Recently got diagnosed with stage 2 brain cancer at 28. Had to have a tumor removed.
Lot of people around me acting like it’s the end of the world for me.
While I meanwhile remember these lessons of Aurelius and am very ambivalent to the news. It just is what it is, if I die I die. Oh well.
Edit: to those wishing me well, thank you. I am still alive.
Edit: May 15, 2024 Still here. Goin strong, some days feels like Mind over Matter is a genuine help.
Edit: September 20th, 2024. They removed the last tumor. It shifted enough they could get to it without damaging deep brain tissue. I am cancer free. Thank you to all those giving well wishes this entire time.
Final edit October 4th: I stayed strong to deal with mine, now it’s my grandma’s turn and it’s hitting her a lot worse than mine ever did to me. I had my youth at least to fight back long enough to beat it. She does not have that energy.
So with mine dealt with, I head now to take care of her with hers. If you are to give wishes of encouragement and support, please send it her way. I beg you. Please.
Stay strong.
True last edit, December 17th, 2024: She passed away today. It was terminal. Was on so much pain meds she couldn’t eat or drink or stay awake. I now am to lose the house in the next month as, I gave everything to be here for her, and there’s no work in the middle of the woods here.
Remember to tell your loved ones, you love them more than there are stars in the sky.
You're a strong person man respect
Wish you a speedy recovery 🙏
I LOVE YOU!! your comment radiates BAMF vibes that I wish for everyone in this life to experience.
Mob respect bro
Is it a 'Glioblatoma' ?
Your resilience is key
I have 'Heart Failure' - Dilated Cardiomyopathy' - It is what it is - life is a fleeting moment on the scale of things
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"The future only bothers us because we think about it. It does not exist outside the mind."
Unless we live in a block universe
Fear is the mind killer
My life changed (for the better) almost instantly when I realized that “not giving a f*ck” was not only okay, but essential to being happy. I also stopped watching the news, which helped even more.
so much of the news i’ve noticed is simply for people like me (admittedly) to go and seek reasons to worry. it brings people like me back, and makes them money. so much is driven by hype and fear mongering it’s just hard to know if the info you’re getting is real or 99% of the time bias for a check. take care brother
I too gave up watching the so called "news", (biased opinion) and am much happier because of it.
I like to tell people that _"I've retired from politics"._ I accept that the world doesn't care what I think.
@@moodyrick8503 Yes, I have also realized that each of us are like a fish swimming in a vast ocean of (mis)information and “intellectual” noise. It’s the land of confusion and I enjoy turning off the noise and enjoying the silence.
@@SumTingWong1482 Yes indeed.
Yes, the news is now just, "Let's find the worst things going on" and rarely is positive. It leads people to believing that the world is all bad because they're only showing the bad apples. The positive news doesn't attract enough viewers I guess. I stopped watching it years ago.
"It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.”― Marcus Aurelius
Everything is living in this World, because if it dies, its dead and Not living anymore.
Why memories are indeed pointless you will see
"Desire is making a contract with yourself, to be unhappy until you get what you want" - Naval Ravikant
@@TheHorseshoePartyUK yeah after suffering in life, you get cancer, 4 Stage.
@@mwh0588 ok mr literal!🤪
"We are not affected by what happens to us, but by what we tell ourselves about what happens to us." Epictetus
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Wow
And we are not obliged to accept what we tell ourselves. That's where the power is in ourselves, to take a different perspective and be grateful in everything that happens.
amazing
Hi. I am going through a hard phase and having many negative thoughts in my mind. I just wanted to ask that we have no control over our thoughts. They come spontaneously. So how does this work?? Please tell.
"Worrying is like trying to figure out how to cross a river you might not come to." - Louis L'Amour
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😊Tyvm😅
"Planning is like trying to figure out how to cross a river you might come to" -Logic L'Amour
Not exactly accurate when you suffer physically from chronic illness all while being evicted from your home. so easy for people to say who are extremely comfortable, so comfortable that they have to mentally make themselves depressed over nothing burgers because that’s what society is now, It’s cool to be sad and depressed , except for those actually going through it.
Agree. A majority of people commenting here and just in general are followers trying to come off as edgy. They do what’s trendy and are typically full of shit. It’s a big reason why I spend most time with my family or close friends only.
@johnnylego807 it's almost like it's all relative
This was my key to happiness. I used to worry about everything, now I don't worry about anything. I woke up one day and it hit me, I value my time more than money. I had never been more broke, but I never felt more rich. Money, material things, nothing compares to time!
Thanks.
good for you
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Told myself today, i dont have any money but iv got everything else!
Exactly,,,be happy to meet your NEEDS,,,,reach for a few WANTS,,,,,but dont have big WANTS....keep your WANTS SMALL...
I think social media causes people to live simultaneously in their future and past. People go out to social events , not to have fun, but to film themselves being there. They are so excited to post their present in the future, just so people will be happy or jealous for their yesterday. Never truly living in the present. Be where your feet are, enjoy your present because it is the only true reality.
Well said
One thing I have realised is that you can never outrun your problems or negativity in this world you just have to accept this is the world we live and focus on things you can control to make it a better place if not everyone then at least for your family
Best example for this is Oskar Schindler in my opinion when he finally realized what was happening to Jews he decided to step in he knew he couldn't help every jew out there but he still helped everyone in his capacity even if it meant going bankrupt he was a hero
@@ripvanwinkle_7 I found out about him when I watched the movie Schindler List. I used to skip it thinking it's too depressing for me to watch but one day I finally decided to sit down and watch it completely
I loved the movie cause it showed the worst and best side of humanity together one line which I still remember is
"Whoever saves one life saves the world entire."
I've known so many people who try to outrun their problems by getting divorced and immediately jumping into new relationships. Sure, it initially feels new, exciting, and like a success, but it's always just a matter of time before the old problems resurface and before you know it, they're complaining about how awful their new spouse is on Facebook.
Right on! We'll said.
literally
I am sick and tired of feeling anxious all the time. I can’t taste what i eat i can’t sleep properly i can’t communicate properly i can’t even do the hobbies of mine that i used enjoyed. But i watched this and i haven’t felt this good for a long time. It was a huge relief. Thank you A LOT..
I struggle with this as well. It's important to live life in the moment. It makes no logical sense to suffer mostly from our imagination. Ask yourself if you're making anything better by just worrying about it. Sometimes one must shame themselves to realize what damage they cause by dwelling on anxieties. I wish you peace and calm.
yeah man I miss being able to actually smell and taste things
deep breath brother you are never alone😊
Been there. If nothing works, try medication, it helps if you take it correctly.
Same here mate. My gf left to study in another country and I'm very anxious. Things aren't going too well, I worry a lot and make it worse. At least these videos provide temporary relief, like it's gonna be alright.
Stoicism has truly helped me so much in coping with my anxiety. Seneca's Letters From a Stoic is also one of my all-time favourite books, and I recommend it to anyone who struggles with anxiety.
Thank you! I’ve struggled with it a couple of years and came across this video and stoicism seems very helpful for me. Will check out your recommendations, thanks! Have a good day
@@babykrul You're welcome! I hope the book will be of help to you. Have a good day 😊
Read 'The Art of being happy' by Arthur Schopenhauer.
I need to learn that, I used to be care free but ever since I got married I have somehow learned anxiety and it has caused me to have ulcers and polyps in my body(from stressing). I have to rewrite my brain otherwise I will die of heart issues
@@sew_gal7340 So sorry to hear about your struggles 😔 Sounds like marriage is literally inflamming your triggers. I hope you find peace soon. Please take care 💛💛
Stoicism and Buddhism helped me through Cancer. It allowed me to recognize that no one is guaranteed tomorrow, so be in this moment.
Interesting fact: the song that is played at 4:15 is called Seikilos Epitaph, and it is the oldest surviving musical composition. A man left it written on his wife's grave and the lyrics says:
"While you live, shine
have no grief at all
life exists only for a short while
and Time demands his due"
Accept what is, what was, and let them go. Don't dwell on things out of your control. Accept what happens and move forward with life.
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Marcus to his slaves:
tell that to myself when im not around later over what i missed and couldnt have or do. then go suck an egg and stfu until you know the weight of a worlds worth of problems. unless you are shouldering all the struggles unfolding dont speak as if you are otherwise knowing.
Or in short "it is what it is"
Well Put & True Indeed.. Words I myself live by.. Why Stress or Worry about People, Places & Things etc I Can't Control or do anything about.. I notice how others WANT you to Stress or Be in Fear of Everything, even tho we have no control over it anyways.. Just Accept it & Let it Be.. What's Meant to happen Will. Bad or Good.. I Refuse to live the remaining of my life in Fear or Worry about this Wicked World.. Why... Doesn't do me Any good to Worry about what I can't control or Fix...
I’m so chill that people look at me like I’m emotionless but I’m running through every emotion in my head all the time
Wow.. really? That's interesting lol
@@alexanderparedes7161 can’t tell if that’s a genuine comment or not
Saame
That pretty much sums up stoicism. To be emotional without giving into it.
@@jenana6882I don’t think it was..lol
My dad died seven months ago and my mum, who meant the world to me, passed away a few days ago...I feel like a little child (I'm 38) lost in the dark...but I know that things we can't have control on, may destroy us if we let them be our master. I'm not afraid of death anymore, just living the only thing that matters: the present time. I'll keep moving forward and live my life, entirely, completely, without thinking about what could happen in the future or what could have been avoided in the past. Sorrow and unhappiness wanted to invite me for dinner, but I did respond: "No, thanks. I'd rather eat alone if you don't mind" (Julien, from France) Danke schön Einzelgänger für dieses Video.
Du bist toĺl. Danka schone.
Julien, hang in there. You and I lost both our parents at the age of 38. It’s not easy. You said it well (lost in the dark). Keep your head up.
-Jimmy from The States
@@jimmymeyer626 Thanks Jimmy for your support. Sorry for your loss. We have to think with our heart, not our head. Take care!
I am happy to hear you got to reach all the way to 38 years of age with your parents in your life my friend. I wish you could see your parents as you desired, but of course, the passing of those around us, especially those in seniority to us, is simply an inevitability with time. I'm sure one with discipline such as yourself will continue to act and think in such ways that would make your parents proud. Grieve, but do not wallow in misery.
- Asad from the Emirates
@@tobi-xo3if Thank you so much Asad for your kind words. Life still goes on and I'm sure there are a lot of magnificent things to come for all of us. There's darkness in our world but we have the power to enlighten it by our actions. Enjoy your life my friend
If one could cope with the present,one could also cope with future.This is so comforting to me.
19 years old and trying to improve myself. Thank you for all the positivity!
It isn't life that hurts. It is always people that hurt everything. Life itself doesn't do anything on its own. It's us!
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True
People have me trauma
for sure 🫁 but shiid natural disaster do be devastatin communities + land masses 😔.
Life kills everyone you'll ever love.
Life makes us this way, we “need” to survive… creates greedy, power hungry, selfish people. These people get people to follow them, let it go on long enough and we’ll here we are… these kingdoms always fall because they are built on the wrong principles. It’s a cycle 🔄 we hold the power as a people, but they have us divided and brainwashed essentially
You say, “thank you for watching.” I say, thank you for putting out content that gives valuable perspective.
Basically, don't get upset, mad or worried about things you can't control. You can't control the future, so don't worry about it. You can prepare for it, but you can't control it. You can't control the past, so don't dwell on what should have or could have, don't let it consume you.
The more I listen to these messeges and apply what I've learned the easier my life becomes.
Turning 77 this May but it's never too late to improve one's life😊
Thank you from my whole heart❤.
Excellent mindset!!!
are you single?
@@UnLoCoSs
Hi. Yup I'm on my own now and really enjoying fewer responsibilities. My late companion passed Sept. 2021.
Of course I miss him every day but I feel so free now. It's now
JO-ANNA TIME. YAY!!! 🎉
How many years have YOU been on Earth?
@@joannaedwards6325 28
@@sachinnegi7026
28? Wow. You are just starting out on your ' Earthly Experience '.
Well....have some fun and stay UNAFRAID ❤.
I have been suffering lately, because of the things that happened in the past, and I have extreme worries of my future. When I was okay, I have always thought that I am a rational thinker, yet when things began to break lose, it just shuttered me to my core. It affected my entirety. I felt like I was stuck to nothingness. After watching this video, I feel like or rather it made me realize that I have been marinating my self to suffering by regretting the past and worrying about the future, that I forgot how to live in the present. This video opened my eyes into a new perspective, I appreciate it so much, thank you. This is the kind of philosophy I need right now.
Thank you for making such wonderful videos! Every few weeks one of your creations pops up in my feed and I enjoy watching and listening what you share. It’s great mind food. Good upgrades. Great to be reminded or to learn new things about the psychology of our being. Thank you!
Thank you for your donation and compliments. Just subbed to your channel. Awesome that you play/create all that music yourself. Cheers!
You're so simpleminded, it's absolutely pitiful.
Just found you today and love the calm music! Have a amazing day both of you!
He has millions of views and subscribers. He doesn’t need your money. keep it for yourself.
@@paulwoodford1984 its not about the money, its showing his appreciation for the video
'You have power over your mind,not outside events' Marcus Aurelius is one of my favorite philosophers. Awesome video Sir
This is actually exactly how I survived being diagnosed with MS and put on 2 different types of chemo for it. From 2015 to 2022, I had to stop caring to survive.
I had to stop caring about everything I was losing in the process.
Luckily I have no children so as hard as losing everything is, I consider myself lucky.
I had to stop caring about my career that I could no longer do. Had to stop caring about my awesome credit, my car I was losing, my independence, my education (cannot work in my field of choice). Best thing I ever told myself was to stop caring about everything but my health in which I could control. 7 years later and picking up where I left off finally. Hoping I can get off disability and stay off while not caring. It’s a weird place to be in when getting an education.
Don’t know which country u live in, hope not in USA with their crazy health insurance, i hope u will be fine, but how could u afford the treatment? This what worries me the most about health and i live in Europe where health care is next to free, but still, if one start paying for treatments and staying in a hospital, no matter how cheap it is if it is too much and one can not work because of health, how does it look financially?
@@bambinaforever1402 I do live in the US but luckily I never had to worry about health prices bc I was insured (really good insurance) under my mom until age 26 and married my husband a month before my 26th bday so I went straight to being on his insurance (even better since it’s military insurance so no copays bc he is active duty).
That being said, disability is super hard to get on. Took me 3 years of no income before I was placed on disability.
@@prihaps Bruh I'll be screwed if I'm sick for a long period of time. I have zero insurance and barely able to feed myself+buying household necessities+paying bills and no, my country doesn't have things like social welfare or something. The government doesn't care a bit if their citizen died at their home because they're starving.
@@bananajajaja6262 well same. I had no income for three years until I was finally approved for disability and even then it’s not a lot of money. That’s why I lost everything.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so happy you are still here. You are strong! This message has helped me.
I have never been so depressed about my life and circumstances before. The past few months I’ve been so stressed and sad, my wife suspected i may have depression, as i just really want to cry everyday tho I didn’t. But this video really helps. It hits the spot. I will look at the present and what I have with more value, and I will learn to accept my life, instead of squealing like a pig. Marcus Aurelius is indeed wise.
Thank you for this video
The issue with stoicism is the idea that luck favors the prepared. Ideal stoicism is essentially think less and act more. You absolutely should worry about the future, just worry through action instead of thoughts.
Yeah that's called planning and preparing so that when the future comes you don't worry. Maybe you are confused on the meaning of preparation
lets say for instance i have a flat tyre on my bike and no way to fix it until the store opens in the morning...knowing that i can cease worrying about it and get a decent night's rest
The problem is one cannot just “flush away” the past by not thinking about it. The past can be with us as trauma that does not manifest as thoughts but instead, emotions and behaviors that can be from very buried sources. We amount in the present as a culmination of our genetics, upbringing, choices made and not made, and of course, randomness. Therefore, though we only live in the present, a sliver of time, the past always lives within us. It is true that we should let go of that which we have no control over that is external to us, but past events that shape us (internal) cannot just be let go of. Don’t dwell on the past but learn from it. Great video overall as usual
isn't this the problem that stoicism is 'made' for dealing with? or at least to me seem to be most applicable to.
basically trying to go 'outside of yourself' in order to get a more objective view of an emotional problem - rather than digging into the emotional and getting triggered.
He is my favourite Stoic . Marcus was practical and wise . His philosophy actually taught that it is wise to prepare for death .
There's nothing to prepare, you disappear and maybe people will remember you as a leverage to live their own lives that's it.
@@lafourmiedesbois5901 goddamn
@@lafourmiedesbois5901 I die every day
I have a war in my country, stoicism helped me to meet it without succumbing to fear, I am grateful to know this philosophy, it's practical and useful
I pray for your safety my friend.
May God Save you, Bro :)
Hey. Hope you’re doing great
Я з тобою в цьому. В кожному питанні та кожному етапі становлення.
Enjoy your beautiful life my lovely friend 🌞
being a 14 y/o dealing with severe stress levels and suicidal thoughts this video has been my guidance dealing and coping with the current events in my life . THANK YOU you have no idea how much did your creations impacts my life
Please don't you're young wish you all the best
Can’t thank you enough, this video just changed my life, i was never been so happy and satisfied in my life, thank you again and forgive my bad English, keep up the good works ❤️
Your English is fine. Thank you for your generosity. Happy to year that my work has been valuable to you!
This is exactly what I was needing. Thank you! I will watch this every time I need a reminder.
This is exactly how, I've lived my life,worrying unnecessarily about things I have absolute no control over.I really needed to hear this,thank you.🙏
Reminds me of when my son was diagnosed with a plethora of issues due to a genetic abnormality. Everyone was so up in arms; couldn’t believe how we managed. I was stumped at their reactions as I remained ambivalent. I could only focus on the now & what I could control. It’s taught me a lot & I’m a happier person in general, for it.
Marcus Aurelius’ approach to dealing with pain and hardship is incredibly relevant today. It's helpful to remember that sometimes, caring less can bring clarity and peace.
I feel like philosophy is telling you what you already know. As a kid i stopped caring and it helped with bullying or anything really. It was easier when i felt happy and stable. But now everything hurts again and i feel isolated and alone. Its been years feeling more and more depressed. I keep overthinking with chaos in my mind. Hopefully i can take the childhood-like wisdom and feel more okay again.
As a kid i always accepted things. But i think that's so much easier when you're not depressed, and you're feeling okay. Not the mood swings from high to low, but, feeling okay. It's a feeling i miss. I miss my childhood and according to this philosophy i should move on in life, but, it feels like it's too hurtful to me...
I think about this often. Being a child is being ignorant to the worlds chaos. You have a child like innocence where everything and anything is possible. Not saying that everyone’s childhood is grand or easy. Mine sure wasn’t. But I do miss the feeling of possibility and not worrying about things, I just wanted a new toy and maybe some nuggets but the weight of the world wasn’t SO heavy. As we grow older we lose touch with that sparkle. But I think it’s never too late. I’m in a similar place as you now. But within the 7 months you’ve posted this. I hope you’ve found your light again ❤
It is because of content like this that I am grateful TH-cam exists.....
The Word of God says it best “do not worry about tomorrow for tomorrow has it’s own worries” :)
Thank you. I love your content. Spreading wisdom in a way that helps me understand it not only rationally but also emotionally. And Marcus is right. I practice Stoicism for about 1,5 years now. And after my recent breakup I didn't shatter. I went through the pain and made the best out of this experience. Now I am grateful that it happened. Because while being in love is nice, but having now really understood stoic principles and my own value and place in the world, how to control my emotions and concentrate what's really important, that is truly life changing. No book I've could read would be able to bring me such clarity as pain does. I am fortunate.
Thank you for your generosity, and best of luck with your Stoic practice. Nice to see people benefitting from this philosophy.
Thanks! This is wonderful, and maybe saved my sanity...
Thank you, John!
Just found this video when I was at my lowest.
Now I am feeling better.
Thank you. ❤️
Im currently at terrible place by losing my job for the second time in big corporation and divorced in same time which brought me anxiety and negativity in everything becoming so bitter that I always yelling at my own parents.. but after seeing this vedio and reading a comment here I realized that i need to change and work everyday and stop procrastinating which is really hard to do but i will do my best to beat my failure and to win again by not expecting anything just to work and be happy that i gave all in this day for everyday till the day i die
You’re going through a really sh*tty time. It takes a tremendous amount of effort and patience to get through a sh*t storm of stress like you’re experiencing. I’ve been through hell. It not only doesn’t last, it makes you content and wise when things do finally calm down. Keep your chin up and be patient and try to treat yourself well while going through this period of your life. YOU CAN DO IT! 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
I have been suffering for a while now, in silence! Isolated! Thinking if life at all worth living!
Maybe this video is a sign not to give up just yet!
I've felt the same way u have all I know is I gotta keep going no matter how hard life can get hope u keep going too 💯
Silence is golden in this noisy world. Silence from unhelpful thoughts are the worst noise for me
Never give up. Life is just starting for me now and I just turned 39. My life has been one big shit show but I never gave up no matter what. Yeah sometimes I have felt like you, but my friend this too shall pass :) All the best.
Better times WILL come trust me, much love to you from Italy ❤️❤️
@@tubeorip Thank you for sharing this! I hope your life will be as you want it to be.
Most suffering is caused by the mind when you have too much time to think and your mind isn't fully occupied. My solution is to stay busy and keep my mind fully occupied in my work, hobbies, and interactions with people and fill my head with positive media (TV shows etc.) This keeps me fully in the moment and gives me no time for my mind to wander and think about the past or future or things I don't have or anything. I have found that keeping my mind fully occupied is the absolute best medicine and way to stay happy. It doesn't take a lot of philosophy or deep thinking to do either, just stay fully engaged in the moment through positive activities and you will crowd negativity right out. The only time I'm really unhappy is when I'm left with too much time where I'm mentally unoccupied to think.
This video was exactly what I needed today- I had a hard time at work yesterday, made some mistakes, and was so worried about them that I had nightmares about them and their consequences. I came to TH-cam looking for an edifying Stoic reminder, and this was the second video on my regular feed. (I didn't even have to search for it.) Thank you for posting this and your other videos. They are very helpful.
It's crazy how good the philosophy of Islam teaches us. It really matches this and has further inclusions to the similar principles. Alhamdulillah for Islam.
3:38 - being diagnosed with an aggressive cancer a couple of months after retirement is exactly what happened to a very good friend (a former colleague) of mine. It was devestating. She died about 18 months into her retirement, having spent those months in fruitless radiation and chemo therapy. So yes, sh.t does happen.
This guy was enlightened af. Wish we had more leaders with this mindset.
Dear Einzelganger, thank you for publishing many content regarding these. I find value and calming whenever I watch and re-watch them while continuing my spiritual path. Those reading this comment, you're already ahead than many who gave up at first sign of hardship. 2023 will be an amazing year.
Not stressing, analyzing, or being scared of my chronic pain is one of the biggest mind-body exercises that put me into a near remission. It’s not easy but it works
"It's about mind over matter. If you don't mind, then why should it matter?" A lesson I've lived my life by. Maybe not such a great way to live your whole life. But it's made me less bitter about a lot of things that should've made me lose my mind
Thanks!
Thank you, Dreama!
This video on stoicism and the advice / philosophy of Marcus Aurelius, has deeply resonated with me and has profoundly changed my life! Live in the present moment. Everything that is explained in this video, I have been thinking about lately. This is one of the most important things I have watched and absorbed in years. Thank you for presenting this. I feel enlightened, humbled and satisfied. It’s exactly what I needed . Blessings will follow you , for this, all the days of your life.
I’m still learning. Thank you Einzelganger for your videos and books, they have helped me during these troubling times.
Einzelganger is amazing. No doubt about it.
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Thanks a lot...this is an extraordinarily great video and content...
Thank you!
"Life's a bitch, and then you die." - My grandpa.
Wise words that I remember every day.
😂 truest words ever spoken.
My Grandpa said the same thing! Very stoic family background.
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Rip Socrates Ramirez aka grandfather ❤
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Life is 10% what happens to you, 90% your reaction to it - Charles R Swindoll
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The past and future are not real; they're accessed only through the present. Do what you can and when things don't work out, then acceptance is sometimes all that's left
The present really doesn't exist either . How could it possibly be measured ? As I write each of these letters to form a word they instantaneously become the past. When we think we have arrived in the future it
is the present.
As the Oracle told Neo in the Matrix, "Here's something that will really bake your noodle"😂
Amazing timing, truly today was THE day for this. Unbelievably, on THE day I chose to not dwell on the past while fearing the future and errors to get worse. I decide instead, to look for something to bump me back onto the path and decide to look up Marcus Aurelius. Uploaded today. Also, I see the irony in me choosing to make a comment on the significance of some past event and how the present occurrence will move my future.
When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love
Coming out of a breakup where it felt like the pain of the past and my imaginations of the future was endless. This video has moved me to tears. This is exactly what I needed.
Same.
Two of the MOST powerful and useful quotes for daily life are: "Oh well", and "It is what it is". If you wake up every day and envision everything that can go wrong and bad, and expect them, you cannot ever be taken off guard or surprised.
I do this everyday. This really helps.
I go to bed thinking bad things and wake up thinking what will go wrong today , am I a realist or being silly I can’t help it or stop negativity.
I was recently told by someone i am stoic then i looked in to what it is and here i am still discovering stoicism.
It is good to recognize both what you are and what you are not. In fact, I personally believe that it's far better to know what does NOT define you rather than what does.
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I like to live by “expect the worst, and hope for the best”
So I always kinda feel prepared when shit things happen, and when good things happen then I’m glad, but don’t fear disappointment
If I may add to this quote, the words from a another person whos also a therapist, said to me,
"Expect the worst, hope for the best. But reality is often somewhere in the middle"
Which I found to be quite true when I reflect back on past events while holding on to the quote. It's a refreshing addition, that gives me more control on how I position myself towards the events going to unfold in the future or from the past, and also helps a lot in tuning down anxiety.
Reading this quote made me want to reply and share this wisdom as well.
Indeed, it seems pessimistic, but in reality is just being prepared.
"Things can't get any worse than they are now" said the pessimist.
"Of course they can" replied the Optimist.
It's a living.
A good quote to live by.
This resonates with me. I came up thinking like this as well...I strayed from it trying to be more optimistic. Like when I heard about you get what you expect and think. Idk...but I think that mindset may have been best.
When everything I have ever worked for is collapsing around me, this is the content I wanted to watch. Thank you very much.
I have 'Meditations' - many quotes I try to live by
“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength.”
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“In this world, everyone must die. None of us has any choice in that. Our choice is how we wish to live.”
"Life is the future, not the past. The past can teach us, through experience, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide the foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. To live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew. As rational, thinking beings, we must use our intellect, not a blind devotion to what has come before, to make rational choices."
--Wizards 7th and 14th rule.
"The Universe is Mental, held in the Mind of THE ALL." -The Kybalion.
Thanks for these life reminders. I have come to understand that the more immersed I am in nature, the easier it is to accept these ultimate truths.
I come to this video in the right time, just now, I feel misery in my soul, I feel how my heart is burning in flames of sadness, for a love, that maybe was never for me. But it still hurts as a blade in my chest can do. Now, I know that this feelings are just a reminder of my tragically thoughts
I reached Aurelius logic by myself as a way to deal with my anxiety over dead. After much reasoning i understood that whatever might happen, if anything happens I would adapt, just as i have adapted to many situations, pleasurable and miserable through my life. I have also seen others manage to adapt to worst situations. Just as we cried when getting born and then we learned not to cry for everything, if something comes after death or nothing comes i will adapt, i might suffer but if thats the case suffering would never last forever. A medium, a balance will be achieved, at least if i remain conscious.
Aurelius way of thinking is similar to my reasoning. Whatever might happen, you will deal with it.
Another idea i created that helped me deal with the fear of death is that we have died every single day since we got born. We die everytime we go to sleep. The person you were 10 years ago is not the person you are today. You like other things, you apreciate different things. You want and desire different things. Your values, your needs are different. You are a clone of the you in the past. You remember different things and forgot many others. You are another person, even at a cellular level. So, you got practice dying and you did it naturally and even with pleasure every night you went to sleep and never you imagined you would die and another you would be alive the next morning. Your conscious "shut down", rewritten and turned on every single day.
Perfect timing you saved me from my self-induced suffering. My new problem is my new way to get stronger instead of weaker. Thank you so much, friend.
Easily the only video I should need this year. Thanks for all the reminders
Never knew any of this existed til about 15 minutes ago -- yet it's been my life philosophy as long as I can remember... Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Life's not about getting what you want, so much as wanting what you have. Yesterday's gone & tomorrow may never get here -- but, if it does, I'll deal wit it when it gets here -- but by then, it'll be today again. I'm here for a GOOD time, not a long time.
Nice to know I'm not alone in this way of thinking. 😊
It was by accident I have discovered your channel on TH-cam and by far it's been the best thing that ever happened. I love your contents and writings dude keep up your amazing work. 👏
Imagine being born with the birthright to rule over a kingdom, but serving them instead. Leaders like Marcus Aurelius are true Immortal Kings.
Exactly what I thought. The amount of sheer dedication and willpower is actually staggering
I am going through a very deep depression at the moment. This helped. Thank you.
"The things you think about determine the quality of your mind. Your soul takes on the
color of your thoughts.” Marcus A.
This what the Bible said in Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I wish we had more stoics in the world today. We seem to have a whole generation who are fixated with the past, trying to change it, continually get anxious about the future and when faced with adversity seem to turn immediately into the “squealing, screaming pigs” Marcus spoke of.
Wise and observant of you. 💛
that has more to do with what you choose to put focus on - obviously louder/chaotic people are going to be more noticeable. if you are a productive stoic person you are probably not getting noticed by anyone but people in your direct vicinity.
oh and in real life, in person, the people you speak of are very very few and far between unless you go looking for them and then antagonize them - so are they really the problem? 😅
@@genesises Often in life those types of people will approach you - not the other way around - which is likely what the OP was referring to.
I've noticed that often such young people are constantly trying to make the world perfect, for them. Because they grew up insulated from adversity and were indulged. So they won't even consider possibilities outside their own limited comfort to allow for normal variations in mood or difficulty. For instance it never occurs to them that someone may have just had a confronting situation and could be slightly affected by it so they don't behave absolutely perfectly. It's zero tolerance from them. Very sooky and intolerant people. If someone is acting a bit stressed I tell myself that I don't know all their story so best assume the best from them and encourage the best without getting all stressed about forcing. Next time you see them they may well explain themselves, or not.
I was jealous of everyone for years because of my insecurities and weaknesses. But then I made a New Year resolution to end it, because I realized something. I do not believe in society anymore. I say two words to ultimately eliminate the self-doubt that tries to attack me: screw norms.
I'm 27, still live at home, having _never_ moved out. I have never had a girlfriend or a date, and I don't even have a driver's license. I have both a learning disability and ASD, and sometimes I say unfiltered things or act weird in social moments. I assume my ASD makes me "less normal." I don't have too many friends now that I've graduated from college and most of my friends have left town. My coworkers all seem to fit in; I usually stand out. I used to feel like a misfit at work, but now I realize that it's not a big deal. It's just they're not my people, they're each other's only. If my ASD makes them not like me enough, that's their problem. Sure, I don't have a great filter, but it doesn't define me; nobody is perfect. I don't care if people find me weird or annoying. I don't care that my both my sisters have boyfriends and started dating at 16 while I've always been single. I don't care that I can't drive. I don't care that I appear dopey because of my learning disability. I don't care that I graduated high school at _TWENTY._ I don't care that I seem slow and helpless and do better with a guide than by myself (my boss basically said that to my face). I don't care that I still live with my mom. I don't care that I went to a small charter school than the "superior" public school that has many more activities, adventures, and organizations. I don't care about any of my weaknesses; I still have confidence in myself. It doesn't matter what others think of me, it's what I think of myself that matters. I will never fall for society's tricks again; society is buIIshit, and that would explain our government and political leaders. I say "SCREW NORMS!" I am absolutely fine the way I am, I say confidently. I am not a loser. A disabled man who doesn't match standards, yes, but not a loser. There is nothing wrong with being different. Different is good. Normal is boring.
12:29 The thought about how we need to behave during adversity, truly amazing
I think it depends on the person. The thought of future events helps me plan possible outcomes and that brings me peace. Making the unknown known, puts me at ease.
I try to think about future so I can get an idea of what things can go wrong so I'm already prepared for it and have a backup plan just in case it helps me remain calm
Planning for the future is way different than worrying about it. Planning
And imagining are essential for having some control IN THE FUTURE. but…the goal is to be unattached to the results while going keeping the motivation to go 100% in the present, never an easy task. Don’t hope and never quit!
“In this world, everyone must die. None of us has any choice in that. Our choice is how we wish to live.”
"Life is the future, not the past. The past can teach us, through experience, how to accomplish things in the future, comfort us with cherished memories, and provide the foundation of what has already been accomplished. But only the future holds life. To live in the past is to embrace what is dead. To live life to its fullest, each day must be created anew. As rational, thinking beings, we must use our intellect, not a blind devotion to what has come before, to make rational choices."
--Wizards 7th and 14th rule.
@@Mcsnickers_7and that is why you are experiencing these bad events in your life just because you are bringing them to life through your imagination
@@Sussana13 not really lol it's my way of maintaining calmness in worst situations probably doesn't works for everyone but does for me
My relationship just ended.
Thanks a lot for this beautiful video!
People are afraid to be corrupted by power, but most of them are corrupted by weakness.
For a few years now ... I have been trying to let others know... to be truly content , we must live in the present ... we can not change the past , or the future.. we must remain in the NOW , peace be unto all those who view this video!
this came at a great timing. I was suffering in my own head about the fact I didnt pass my driving test. I was exhausted, constantly thinking how much of a failure I was. I am making this comment in hopes that when I pass the test, I can remember this as such a small event...
How did it go? Did you pass?
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@@quarteracreadventures855 yes!!! I passed!!
In the future you will look back on this small failure as quite insignificant. You have passed now but you will have future challenges. Best wishes.
@@peterpuleo2904 thanks, of course life will keep being hard and keep throwing all sorts of challenges, but for fucks sake I’ve never been so relieved for passing this test.
I’m really struggling at the moment. This has helped me no end. Thank you.
"When life hurts, care less about it."
Easy for an emperor to say. When I don't care about life, I end up homeless.
Exactly! Someone in these comments pointed out that he had chronic pain issues but overcame them through rationalization. Yeah, I’m sure the opium had nothing to do with it. Or being an emperor I.e. privileged.
@@kevincarpenter6971 Really? So, I'm more powerful than an emperor? Get off theharddrugs.
You've completely missed the point. The stoics didn't say to stop living, they said to stop worrying about things beyond your control. You'll definitely end up broke if you don't even do the things you CAN control, so do the best you reasonably can and call it good enough.
Oh boo hoo no one cares about your fake sob story
@@zibbitybibbitybop People will misinterpret anything just to have an excuse to wallow in misery.
“A man that suffers before it is necessary suffers more than is necessary.”
I didnt know what i was gettinf myself into when i clicked on this video, but i definitely needed to hear this. To let my fear of the future control my present is not the way to live. Thank you.
Why is everyone so focused on numbing the pain, coming up with all sorts of mental gymnastics
Just accept it, feel it, live with it
It makes you alive
Dont be a stone
This video came just at the right time...
Feeling very lucky to have your channel discovered ❤️
"The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing, for it requires being ready to stand firm and in a state of readiness against any onslaught made upon us." - Marcus Aurelius
Stay Calm. Stay Wise. Stay Stoic.
I found this video at exactly the right time. It's what I needed to hear the most. Thank you so much for your videos.
Wasn’t the best saying about caring was one of Marcus Aurelius’ sayings with “God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can change, and the Wisdom to know the difference”.
I have this thing where if something truly heartbreaking happens to me or I’m losing my mind (about to take stage in front of a theater full of SILENT people), I try to zoom out and look at the cosmic picture. You can barely see our *sun* from several light years away…what happens here has never mattered to the greater cosmos on ANY level. Not only that but it’ll soon be forgotten, even on earth. It doesn’t work in every instance…for example, you would never think “so what if I kill this chick and dump her body in a lonely grave…Glip Glorp from the sombrero galaxy will never find out”. I guess if you’re the type of person who needs to be told that, none of this is going to be of any use anyway. But for things that either don’t matter or stuff that FEELS like the end of the world, it truly helps. Next time you’re about to speak in public or ask someone out, just zoom out and realize that none of this matters. In a hundred years, nobody’s gonna remember. Life becomes much easier when you stop catastrophizing everything on a cosmic level.
If everyone were thinking like that we would still be on the trees or even extinct, because " nothing matters " What cosmos has to do with your problems ? They are real and important to you and that's enough. A queen ant is nothing to a poor human , he can crash her with his finger ,but it's still a queen for her nest .