Once You Stop Caring, Results Come | The Law of Reverse Effect
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- Author Aldous Huxley first described the ‘Law of Reverse Effect,’ saying that “The harder we try with the conscious will to do something, the less we shall succeed.” So, could it really be that when we stop consciously trying to succeed, we increase our chances of success? Will results come once we stop caring? This video explores the law of reverse effect, also known as the law of reversed effort.
The amount of suffering in the world is vast, so observed Schopenhauer. Life is a constant striving, a relentless pursuit of desires and needs that keep appearing. So it’s no surprise that people label this philosopher ‘pessimistic’ and ‘dark.’ But his observations aren’t unfounded.
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00:00 - Intro
02:07 - Impressing the sage
04:30 - The Mental Control Paradox
07:40 - Openness
12:27 - Results through action
People, don't use this as a reason to be lazy. Be optimistic and proactive but don't burn yourself out or try to "force" results.
Yep there’s a concept in the Bhagavad Gita that proposes that you can plant seeds but you should not feel entitled to those seeds bearing fruit. All we’re entitled to are the seeds themselves.
So keep planting seeds without expectations and without forcing them to grow like pulling them out of the ground. And in the end, by chance, there may end up being fruit.
Which is it, then?
You say to not be lazy, and then you say to not 'force results'. Pick one.
Great comment
I saw it as in a thought or energy perspective.
As in if your thinking of gaining something out of what your doing or doing something for a particular outcome.
Changing the thought to “I don’t care what happens”.
@@sneakerbabeful No. Those aren't the only options.
I stopped caring about everything and I finally found happiness.
I am glad for you! It is difficult to do however. I keep trying, everyday. I hope to find peace, not necessarily happiness.
🙏
@@julietphillips1991 Hope you find both.
I don't care.
"I Feel Much Better, Now That I've Given Up Hope" (1984), Ashleigh Brilliant
Stop caring about: 👇🏻
1) Things that are outside your control.
2) Negative people's opinions.
3) The past.
4) Negative thoughts running in your mind.
😊😊
5) the future outcomes
@@samuela6271 Yes, please keep adding your thoughts too in this list . 😊😊
Seeking unnecessary validations from people and comparing yourself with others in terms of money , beauty , standard of living etc.
Wish it was that easy, I'll try
You basically could have stopped after item #1
That's how funny life works. When you give something too much energy, and try to control the outcome, you create scarcity, but when you don't, you create abundance.
I know. It's same way with dating. The opposite sex likes you more when you aren't interested...😂
@@lisaw6219 Yeah
@@lisaw6219 It's a sign of value. If you're busy doing other stuff than you don't have time to care.
❤❤❤
What would you think about an employer who docks the pay of the employees who put in the most work, and gives bonuses to ones who work shorter hours and try less?
You, and this video, are right. This is how the world works. But we don't ask, how would we feel towards a person who would create a system that works like this?
Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.
Love this. Thank you.
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Amen 🙏🏿
When I lose something I care about, I stop looking for it, and then it reappears. Many years now this works.
Didn't work for me getting my ex back 😂
If I was your neighbor, and I took things from you and hid them, and only gave them back once I noticed you had given up looking for them, what would you think of me?
It works when I've lost my car keys, but not when I lost someone that didn't love me back 😢
thats because you pretended not to care and when you don't for real, it won't make any difference because you didn't care. When she get back, it wont make any difference@@user-xu4xj2cd2j
@@MW-rn1vgdon't be a simp my friend....✌️
As someone who suffers from anxiety this is a God send!
Ditto....Letting it GO is Productivity 🥰
My mantra comes from the Desiderata. “Within a wholesome amount of discipline, be gentle with yourself”
@@dee-deebe9256what does ditto mean?
@@joser7894 *When faced with something online you don't understand.*
1: Left click and highlight the word/words you don't understand.
2: Right-click over the highlighted area and select, "Search For"
3: Start reading the various links you are presented with.
4: Pace yourself. Finding out you may in fact be as uninformed/stupid as others keep saying you are can be hard to work through. 😉
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
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"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
Amazing video, as a Chinese, I would like to expand the sage's story a little bit.
Ancient Chinese believe that, a person's wisdom can only be unlocked once the person is 100% calm and peaceful ( We say "no any trivial thoughts in the heart"). Most of the time, people cannot be 100% inner peaceful because they care/worry about the results. The more you care, the less peaceful in your heart, then the less wisdom you can unlock, the more stupid mistakes you will make.
People in ancient China will spend sometime to meditate to vacuum the heart before reading books or studying. I also practice when I read textbook or start doing assignments in the college, which is really helpful.
Good idea. Thanks for the tip. . . . meditate before starting a project to cleanse or relax the mind. Very cool. 😎
Wu Wei?
This really expands on what the video is trying to say. Thanks for commenting.
Then you should know that the chi-coms will KILL you if you even attempt ANY of this.
Thank you very much for your comment.
[my dear landlady LottieR used to tell me ever so often: “Darling … don’t push the river”. The imprint to force things/issues/situation is so deeply ingrained … i needed many such kind reminders. Your’s now is one of them as well. Merci! 🌱]
"Results don't come by repeatedly thinking about them or desiring them fiercely, they come from actions" - Einzelgänger, 12:59
Repeatedly is key here. Thinking NEW things is important
Some people stay stuck in visualization mode, intensely concentrating on that and then....nothing happens (all because they never acted on what they visualized), then they roll their eyes and say visualization is nothing but hocus pocus🎩 🪄 bull 🐂krap💩 Lol!🤣😁👍
@@wisdomlounge4452 Process > Tactic
@@M_SC Correct but after those thoughts have been thought, there's no use obsessing with more of the same thought. Time for action after that.
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
Anytime I've put too much thought into worry about failure I've failed miserably. Even on subjects I excel in, this is truthfulness at its finest.
But how do we stop ourselves from caring? Like I'm preparing for a very important entrance exam and my life depends on it, so how do i stop myself from thinking about the outcome and future?
go for a walk or do anything that's repetitive like folding clothes
if you feel overwhelmed then do another project
@@aditidwivedi6719you think your life depends on it you have created that pressure but if u think to enjoy studying without thinking about failure or succeeding you'll perform better that exam will happen every year even if you don't get through the exam you are smart enough to find other things that you are good at
@@aditidwivedi6719I changed my thinking and accepted my imperfections. Then proceeded to give it my best effort every day and accepted when I couldn't do more. So. I shifted the focus from the result (passing/failing) to my daily effort step by stop not looking ahead. Ofcourse this demands that you are actually motivated to make an effort. Which is kind of a paradox since I stopped caring and focusing on achieving and instead focused on progress.
Here is my story. I don't want to do MBA but my father forced me to do it. I hate it because I had other plans so I didn't study too much while other students joined classes takes MBA seriously.
In the end I get passed with 72% percentage while they can't even achieved 55%. Mind you I didn't study seriously nor joined any class.
I am doing that and resting all my worries and issues on Jesus Christ !
How true! Recently I was in a conflict with another person. I let it go, and concentrated on my more important matters. Low and behold, after a few days, the other person complied with my request.
In these uncertain times, it's more important than ever to have a solid understanding of how to manage your finances, invest wisely and navigate economic downturns. But my primary concern is how to grow my reserve of $240k which has been sitting duck since forever with zero to no gains, sure I'm all in on the long term game, but with my savings are lying waste to inflation and my portfolio losing gains everyday, I need a remedy.
you are completely right, Advisors have information and paths that are not disclosed to the public.. I profited £560k in 2022 under the tutelage of my Fiduciary-counselor. Am I selling? Absolutely not.. I am going to sit back and observe how this all plays out.
That's impressive! I could really use the expertise of this manager for my dwindling portfolio. Who’s the professional guiding you?
I checked Jenny Pamogas Canaya up out of curiosity and i must say i am impressed by her Credentials. i emailed her already, waiting on her response.
This has also been discussed in the metaphysical sphere, especially by spiritual teachers such as Neville Goddard. They claim that when you try to force results, you're operating from a state of lack and therefore creating more resistance. Only when you let go of the pressure or strong desire of needing something ASAP can you actually move forward. I love how all of these teachings are linked.
Exactly, I was thinking about this too ! 😊
That's cool. Thanks for sharing!
I know that.. But Neville Goddard also told to imagine the thing that you want to be pretended as if you are already having it.. In that sense this is contradicting.. Because you're constantly in belief of the outcome as present though it's not
Yup! I was thinking about how a lot of these teachings say to believe in it happening for you but don't worry about the 'how'. The universe will take care of that part 😊
@satyajitrajbanshi3620 Yup, absolutely true. But he also taught people to detach themselves from the outcome in the 3D and not check every second. So there are definitely some parallels. Neville definitely takes it to a new level and that's why I love his teachings ❤️
You live alot longer the moment you stop caring. 😊
Yep! ❤️
I stopped caring about you not uploading for a while and boom, here it is.
Really liked the vid, always love it when you upload.
And glad I could make people laugh with my little joke :)
You have understood the material very well. Good job!
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Y'all silly😄
lol
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Caring less about the outcome of my goals brought more success. I am happy to stop wasting energy on things that do not really matter. Wise words on your video.
You should care less about being alive. That way you will be alive forever.
For me it was the inverse. I only got results on things I worked on. Things I don't care never worked out to me.
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1. Law of Reverse Effect - Results show when you stop caring too much about them
2. Mental Control Paradox - Stop trying to control thoughts/events
3. Don't Seek Approval
4. Wu Wei - Effortless Action - Be Open don't concentrate only on winning
Thank u
Ty🙂
No vedic concept mention shame they started this concept.
RESULTS SHOW WHEN YOU STOP CARING TOO MUCH ABOUT THEM
I needed this reminder today. Im 30 years old and was having a quarter life crisis because ive not accomplished anything. I feel like a loser, and that i wasted so much time. But i needed this reminder, because i am not my past.I just need to remain in the present and let life work itself out. My future doesnt exist and i cannot identify with my thoughts. I feel at peace again
same boat as u brother. lets do this!
Same ❤ but I am 35 years old
You are not a loser. Keep your head up.
45 and a loser but I’ve stopped caring
My humble opinion is it is the universe trying to keep you playing the game. As soon as you give up, in frustration, the universe suddenly props you up with a “win”.
YES. THANK YOU. I have felt so alone in thinking, 'If this is how things work, isn't that a little cruel? What would we think of a game, or a work environment, or any other kind of unbalanced power dynamic, that works like this?'
I unknowingly accessed this while painting my portraits. I released that if I fail I could just start over. And as it turns out they came out exactly how I wanted them to. All you need to do is realize that there’s always a another day so if you mess up today come back tomorrow and try again don’t be to hard on yourself.
Thank you. I needed that today
Yes! 💯
This is very helpful. Thank you.
Sometimes the reverse is also true. I passed an exam with high grades because I was so scared I couldn't sleep the night before. Then the next year I passed the same exam but I thought it was going to be easy because of last year's good result and I did a mediocre performance. If you don't put pressure on yourself you don't get to be in "the zone" either, it's a balance.
Take small steps to your goal, don't think too much into it. At one point, you'll look back and realise you're exactly where you were praying to be so many years ago. We tend to move the goal post every time we reach it so always make small goals for yourself that contribute to a final goal. 🙏🏽
When you live in the present moment and you focus on yourself, you access your gifts and resources and enable yourself to act towards your goals.
Said every narcissist. :D
@@youbetyourwrasse how is that narcissistic?
@@youbetyourwrasse As a victim of narc abuse i assure you narcissists only focus on other people around him/her not on himself/herself.
Their resources and goals are people not achivements or happiness.
This works even for the desire to be in a relationship. When you put the desire for being in a relationship front and center, and deem it an absolute necessity , its either you dont find someone or you find someone who makes your life a living hell. Like someone mentioned earlier, its not about having a devil may care attitude, but understanding that efforts can be spread, and some things are beyond your control. Do what you can and go with the flow.
It’s kind of like the law: for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. The harder you pursue something, the harder it will try to get away from you.
Or: to hold water in your hands, cup it gently; if you try to grasp it in your fist, it escapes easily.
That good analogue, how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
@@USERc2ele Find something else to take your mind off it while not on the court. Your physical abilities will become subconscious movements. Mental discipline requires a more active approach, in that you should remind yourself that you're human and you have limits. You might become a pro player, but you might not get the position you're hoping for. Be prepared for these types of disappointments.
why havent i thougth of that now im gonna remove her from my life thankl you needed this.
@@mikethehunter5212 yes thanks
@@meaxm787 alright appericate the answer
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference.
Amen
When I was a university student, majoring in English, I had to generate writing assignments. I starting using a process like what you describe here. I would think a bit about the nature of the writing assignment. Then I would let is go and figured my subconscious mind, or whatever, would give me a solution in a few days. It always seemed to work.
I remember being concerned, in particular, about a Shakespeare class. I didn’t want to go over well-trod ground that would bore the professor. I thought about it, but wanted a creative approach. So I let it go. Sure enough, three days later, I had a unique idea.
It's less like letting go, and more like not gripping too tightly.
@@nowcastthedie yeah which is what barely anyone does in school
If you happen to read this, just know that you are limitless. Believe in yourself my friend, and unleash your full potential. Keep pushing forward! Love from ButterflyAwakening🦋🦋
Love the content
Thanks, same to you
Thank you, wish u the same
THANKYOU ❤
Thanks, wish you the same
I once was way too careFULL. It takes great courage to become careLESS. It’s a journey that acts of faith through the process of letting go.
You wouldn’t believe how much is manifesting since I stopped caring about saving the world and put all my energy into healing and saving myself.
I have faith the Universe knows exactly what everyone NEEDS and will deliver in Divine time.
Let’s not confuse letting go with not giving a damn and abandoning it. Sometimes you just need to put too much pressure.
As clearly said in Holy Gita, 'Karma karo phal ki chinta na karo {Take action and don't worry about the goal)'
Don’t worry about the results.
Yes!! absolutely Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta has answers to all and everything that is in this world. Our rich culture have always paved a right path for us. Really grateful and thankful to God.
Thats a great quote. Thanks for posting it.👍
The Gita is written in Hindi, is it? Logon ko chootia mat banao.
@@remainanonymous93wtf😂 its Sanskrit
This works, but mostly for those who have tried at first... being aware of this law while you quit also lessens your chances of succeeding.
If your focus is success and failure you can only achieve those outcomes?
I'm curious - what are your criteria in determining "success" or "failure" ?
@@larryzaborowski6441
Success or failure are determined by whether the objective is fulfilled or not; personal though they are, they are two of the possible outcomes to any goal.
@@samuela6271
There are in-betweens, like partial success and partial failure, and others...if the individual is satisfied with the outcome, it's success, and vice versa.
Not caring doesn't meant quitting.
Results will come, they may not be the results you want, but they’ll come alright.
how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
@@USERc2elegive up. You'll never make it. Get a proper job. 😁
@@ohcrikey9560 I'm good, appericate the offer
@@USERc2elepractice/train as a hard as you can. Don’t focus on the NBA part. Do the hard practicing as a hobby or thing to kill time.
Just enjoy the game and try to make it in pro level. If you have talent then things will get in their way by itself
As an aspiring content creator who makes self-improvement videos, I am learning to stop caring once I hit the publish button, whatever the results will be if the algorithm will pick up my videos or whether people will find my content valuable or not is beyond my control. I am learning how to care about things that are within my control so I enjoy the process of creating videos to help people. Thank you for this. This is a good reminder for me. 🙏🙏🙏
Yesss!!!
Yeah! Just keep doing you, man! Wishing you much success. ❤
@@FreshPresh8888 it feels so good to know a stranger is rooting you. I appreciate it man. I wish you well in life! 🙏
@@Nirosha101 Let's do this! 💪
@@mindsetofthefew I watch few videos of your channel and bro literally they are very creative. Just keep posting and focus on quality(the richest habit)
Another way to put this law (especially for creative people like writers) is: We can't force good ideas with our rational mind and reason. Good ideas come from subtle energies like Intuition, Inspiration, Ressonance, higher senses and from our unconscious. In order to get in contact with that, we have to let go, relax, meditate and trust. We have to switch off the rational mind.
you have to let the visions find you not you looking for them
Well said
Resonance
I think that one of the reason why people get so confused about it, is that they confuse not caring with not taking action, which is absolutely NOT the same. Key to success is taking action but not obsessing or forcing the results you want to achieve with that action. Let's say you wanna lose weight. It won't happen magically after you say you don't care, but trying too hard willl most likely lead to injuries and discourgament. But, if you'll just accept that the goal you want to accomplish requires your work, time and patience, you'll simply go with the flow, trusting the process, without stressing about the result.
This was literally what lord Krishna explained in shrimad Bhagwat Geeta , that you must focus on the karm(your moral duty) and forget about the results and do it selflessly ❤
I hope there are no viewers who will take advice "stop caring" literally. Cause without caring of something we will do nothing.
Instead - to have a balance, not to overcare, not to overfocus for long, but to let your mind a time and space to float.
And so nearing 60 I am embracing this philosophy. How much of my yrue inner self have I sacrifice by caring. By the exhausted practice of caring I alienated myself fro my true self. My emotional regulation was dependent on caring . While not listening to myself. By sacrificing my authentic self in the interest of what I called love. Self love was not cultivated. Here I am. A true journey of replacing with caring with growth and self love.
The best way I can describe this channel to someone is this “it makes me get into the zone, where I am just observant and can give my best in that moment”.
Don't just do something.. stand there. 🐰
Great video but also it’s important to note that caring about an outcome is vital. It pushes you to understand what it takes to be successful and keep consistency, the key word is “too much”
"Reflect upon the Past.
Embrace your Present.
Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
"Before I start, I must see my end.
Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins.
Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed.
In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled.
But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain,
We must see all in nothingness...
Before we start again."
🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
--Diamond Dragons (series)
John Cleese once said in his book On Creativity that the creative drive is like eating. You get a delicious forkful of ideas and then it goes away, but that's ok. That's just the fork returning to your plate to get more. Just be patient and stop trying to eat an empty fork - let it get to the food first.
Focusing on not caring, is the most caring thing you could do.
I think this works for mental &emotional limitations and anxiety, but for physical results, you need to care about the outcome .physical results require hardwork and determination
Feels like how when you try to actively draw nothing great happens, but when you don't care about and just doodle during class or something the best artworks are created. At least for me, someone who can't draw.
Yes! All the best doodles come on scrap pieces of paper instead of a new sketchbook.
I raised my youngest sister... but at a late teen, she went to be with her mom and made poor choices. I had to be patient and simply remind her I am here with open arms when you are ready. I can not force it. My step daufhter was the same way. Eventually they asked to rebuild the bridge they burned, but I never felt it was burned, I just had to hold my bounds, keep an olive branch, and allow them to find their own way. Even if it meant difficulties.
To endure the uncertainty, I had to trust and learn a certain degree of not caring. They will stub toes and bruise knees but they are okay. I dont need to care. I will care when it matters.
Like it 👌
Better title: Once you stop caring about results, results come.
You still need to care about dedication of application.
True.
Yeah I find when I don’t worry or care about things they work out better
Yes, it's about planning, thinking, visualising but then letting go. I have a weekly responsibility that my mindbody does not look forward to - when I let go and arrived 5 minutes late, 5 members of staff were there doing what I normally do on my own with a burdensome mind!!. Great lesson.
Yes. Be late and let others do it. Or get fired. But that's a new freedom.
It's like telepathy, I was just thinking about this channel... always my go to thought cleanser ❤
I was having this mad headache and thought it was the end of me. After watching this video I feel so relaxed and now worrying less, the headache just went off by itself, although I still have to go to the hospital today , but I feel much better now
😂😂
man I had the worst headache today 😂
@@iiCounted-op5jx 🤣🤣🤣 turns out mine was fever
me when i’m stuck in a loading screen:
This is correct. All the worry and fear never got me anything. Action and work are the key.
I will just add my experience... At 27, I had given up look for a girlfriend/wife. It was then that i ran into my soul-mate, who had also given up on dating. We met on a music chat room in 1998, and by 2002 we were together, forever.
Amazing !
Wow!!!! I am such insatiable soul for such love stories.
I am 37 but have not found love ever in my life...forever single. 😅
@@0rhythm_divine0 it is true love! I lost her to cancer last October, after 20 years together. The best 20 years of my life.
I have never cared much in all areas, I find everything easy and uninteresting. Yet I knew I needed to keep trying finding a partner unrelentlessly.
Don't get me wrong - I cannot care less about that.
According to this theory, if I stop, I will unfortunately find someone, and since don't want to find anyone, this encounter will disturb my peace and ruin my life. It's boring and lonely, but that is the way I chose it. No disturbances and no partners.
This is real. My knee was aching for a while, to the point it hurt to bend my leg. I was so focused on healing it, doing everything I could to fix it, but the pain worsened. I couldn't think of anything else other than the discomfort. Then, one day, I didn't follow my usual regime and just left it alone, and the pain went away. I didn't even notice that it stopped hurting until I decided to do yoga the other night to ease my mind. And now, I feel great.
Imagine that we're neighbors. Every day, I throw rocks at your house. You come out and tell me to stop. I throw more rocks. You put up a fence. I tear it down and throw more rocks. You call the police. Somehow, I convince them to also throw rocks. This keeps up until your will breaks and you stop caring about the noise and the smashed windows and the rocks in your living room. On the day that I notice you are now passively accepting my rock-throwing, I stop throwing rocks. What do you think of me?
@@AlexReynardabsolute menace.
@@Jake980x Bingo. That's what I think about whoever designed us.
I was a nurse for 20 years, an expert in how not to care😅.
caring too much about results works against us ...the Vedic Gita gyan is that we should do right actions without caring about the results ...when we do not gno what the right actions are, we should find out what the right actions are and once we find out what the right actions are, we should just do those actions without caring about the results
how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
Thats why its so important to seperate yourself from thoughts and the ego. Sit silently for 10mins a day without trying to control your thoughts. Not trying to pick out the good ones and let the bad ones go. But allow all your thoughts to happen and observe them. You are not your thoughts. You cannot control them, so let them happen and become the observer. Its amazing how much your life changes when you seperate yourself from the ego and let life happen without focusing on the past or the future. I learned this technique from Jesse Lee Peterson believe it or not. Its a Christian practice to become close to God. Without being in the world.
Good luck, and God bless all those reading this.
Willpower (effort) is important for me.
I am using it to overcome a fear. If I just wait for the fear to go away on its own, it does not work.
By making efforts daily to overcome the fear, I am seeing great progress.
Action and willpower are what will change my life. Positive thinking (affirmations, visualization, etc.) has never worked for me, and I did it for more than ten years. By using willpower (effort) I am seeing self-improvement within days.
So I have stopped positive thinking, and now rely on willpower (effort) to become who I want to be.
Do what works for you.
There was another TH-cam video that explains this effect as wearing out your logical brain. Optimum brain activity involves all areas of the brain, which only happens in a state of relaxation and gratitude.
This concept is a tough one to realize. We want to achieve, however, forcing the issue, ties us up in knots. As an "Original Transcon RR" enthusiast, I see this paradox quite frequently in my experience. Research, writing, and presentation to others, all takes a commitment...but not held so closely to one's ego...otherwise the creativity breaks down into frustrations. Thanks.
I'm with you on that.
I think the better way to approach this problem is removing the ego: the need for validation or approval, or trying to be perceived /recognized a certain way.
When I’m a state of flow, you can accomplish anything without consciously thinking about whether you’re achieving it or not.
I used to have lots of ambition but I failed at everything so I stopped caring. Nothing has changed except that without trying I don't fail.
@@observer7418 Same story here. Now I just go through the motions of life. I don't care anymore. I just put in minimal effort.
@@observer7418but you don't succeed either, but atleast you don't stress yourself.
Once you stop caring is because you’re not interested or don’t need the thing anymore. So when it comes, it is too late and it only brings confusion and doubt. The universe is sadistic and sarcastic. It will make things easy for you when they are not needed anymore. I have lived this fact many, many times.
there is a series of books called The Inner Game of... then a sport, like The Inner Game of Tennis, or of golf, etc. I dont play sport but when i was playing classical guitar i read The Inner Game of Music. those books are about shutting your mind off and letting yourself play instead of getting in your own way by stressing about it. it was life changing for me as a musician. it's the same stuff as in this vid but from a slightly different angle.
aside from those books, there is also a law i love reminding people of; the law of diminishing returns. that's the most important law for people to wrap their heads around in 2023.
thanks for the comment, I'm going to check that Inner Game of Music book out. Just started playing guitar again after stopping a few years ago - stopping due to stressing myself out from pressuring myself. It stopped being fun....impeccable timing.
When I try to schedule some creative projects, I almost always fail. I can do something good only when I’m inspired and as a spur of the moment. The best/funniest jokes or videos are usually those when you didn’t even know someone is listening/recording.
I definitely know this to be true in social situations. I've had periods of my life where I've been working hard, not doing that many social things.
Then when it came to being social I'd over-think it quite a bit. I would plan what to say and ask about, which is a big mistake.
If you just relax and tell yourself to take it as it comes, things become a lot easier. Same thing when you start a new job or school.
And most importantly, the less effort and attention you give women, the more attention they'll give you, if they like you.
once you stop caring you hurt everyone around you, as you start to degrade
you get lazy,
you become impotent,
you hate yourself
you want to die sooner
dont stop caring
work hard
be compassionate
don't take things for granted
find love and peace
without it this world is worthless
I think this works for mental and emotional efforts. When it comes to physicality, whatever that goal may be, it's not going to get done unless you actively push and try to do it. In relation to the heart/mind/soul etc., it's great advice for 90% of life's issues.. But definitely shouldn't use it as an excuse to be physically lazy; you'll never lose weight if you don't try to, for example.
Exactly 💯
Изменить ценности и вес снизится сам без усилий.
Alternate summary :
Dont be obsessed with selling
Make a great product , if it is good it will sell itself.
Also applicable in life
how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
I stopped caring about 4 years ago and have been promoted twice and nearly doubled my income. Go figure.
This and the two other videos (backward law, law of reversed effect) are priceless, even though the three videos discuss the same central idea, they are so important for human beings and more than worth it. Great great job!
If you get this you will understand that it isnt so much about stopping caring about what you do, it is about not caring about what others and ultimately yourself think about the situation.
how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
@@USERc2ele Do it because it is something you love doing. Fame and money shouldnt be your motivation. Also ask yourself if you really want to go pro. That requires sacrifices. The point of this is to not care about results anyways. If you do all the right things, you will win. If you throw that ball 10,000 times, you will get good.
This tactic works for me in my Enterprise sales as well. I have an abundance mentality and have already hit my yearly quota at 120%. I wake up and actually do other things for my side hustle and boom a great lead just comes in so I have to work it lol. It also helps come across to my clients as confident and not needing a sale but actually helping them make a good buying decision and tell them upfront we may not be a fit. They actually help me close them as say no no you have what we needed to solve our problem. 😊
work for it, don't worry about results
-Bhagwat gita
I always wonder about this theory. But never knew it was a theory.
Keep caring but stop forcing. Moderation is key.
There's so much wisdom in these videos. Love them!
This is a great explanation as to why when I try to consciously control my emotions or stop myself from overthinking the more I get overwhelmed by these very emotions and thoughts.
Great work 👏🏻
Keep growing 🌻
I am an anxious person , and what i do and helps me a lot is to let negative things happen , I don’t even try to “learn from past “ and “once you control your mind you can do everything “ i just let the things happen , it feels simple and save my energy ,, there’s a mindset nowadays which make people believe that negativity is harmful ( it can be) but isn’t it possible that negativity might be nothing but a some temporary state of body and mind , we all deep down know the truth , THE TRUTH that the thing in front of us is of very little danger or the thing we are getting anxious about is just a moment which WANTS to fleet but our constraints trap that moment and make us re evaluate that happening again and again making our chill and cool consciousness dive into some disturbance which again should not be cared and should be allowed to happen by us ,,, another thing I’ve learnt is it’s normal ,, yeah to be in misery pain ,hate, abused ,judged , humiliation etc emotion , these things are not that much big a deal out of all sympathy , I’m not saying to abandon someone having trouble with these but for an individual inside himself there’s always a voice , an awareness and a gut feeling which tells us that it’s ok and normal it should be dealt with care , i did not deserve that but still it happened hurt me and made me uneasy but still its ok
I aspire to create thought-provoking content like you on TH-cam.
Not caring is not my problem it's the not worrying that gets to me
This really works. I almost gave up teaching kindly my students, but then they started to learn very fast and enjoy the moment more!
Fought for a specific position for years. Ended up finally getting a “if it comes it comes” attitude. Got the position.
What would you think of your boss if you found out that he'd known all along that you wanted the position, but deliberately kept it away from you until you lost the will to pursue it? What would be the motivation of someone with power over you, to structure your reality like that?
@@AlexReynard The people above me are a rotating door. There hasn’t been a single person in that role long enough to hold the position from me. I will say, the boss in the current role told me some “facts” about holding someone from moving to another side of our company. This was “ definitive and to remain between us”. They never did hold that individual. They leaked this information to me to see if I would leak it to others. That’s a real mind fuck. Deliberately leaking information to someone to see if it spreads is crazy. I didn’t spread it but kept watching to see if that person was in fact getting held with us. People are fucked up and will do fucked up things if given power.
@@shawnlopez3496 I was asking more in a hypothetical sense. "IF it had happened that way, how would you react to that?" Because I can definitely acknowledge that the law of reverse effect is real and it's how the world works. But who would make a world that works like this? Under what circumstances would we think it's *good* for a human to set up a situation where they make people want something, then punish them for trying to get it, and reward them when they stop? And if we would look down on a human who'd do that to other humans, why are we at peace with God (or whoever designed all of this) doing it to us?
I was looking for a job for months then gave up and within 2 weeks after I found a job.✨️🙏🌈
@@clauchinaski the point is to not beat yourself up too hard if you feel like you are failing - maybe you are doing everything right but the timing/opportunities available just aren't there right now due to bad timing. the other side of the coin regarding op, would be to say he got lucky to find a job, and it doesn't seem as bad when he stopped basing his life on it. if he literally gave up finding a job completely i doubt one would be offered!
@@genesiseshow can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
Wisdom *without* preachy pontificating -- what a refreshing change! So often, I find that those who most preach about the importance of 'getting out of your own way' are the same ones who talk about the importance of planning and envisioning your future and filling it in with as much detail as possible -- which keeps us in the habit of removing ourselves from the present moment and obsessing over what's beyond our control.
as a freelance artist, I've experienced this countless times. when I worry and keep searching for work, it doesn't come. when I stop worrying and just focus on my craft, the work continuously flows. doesn't mean it always happens, but it's easier to just let it be than keep on worrying about things you can't control.
Happened with me too when I was actively looking for a job. Didn't get selected. Than one fine day, I decided I am just gonna give it a try and come home. I finally got it.
Ngl I stopped caring and it backfired
Life is literally that meme: "I'm fine with how the current events are going." (As the room is on fire). We literally have no control and have to be positive in every situation. Life is beautiful, absurd and profound.
that meme can also refer to mental/physical disorders/conditions and being positive in every situation is closer to being naive than anything else - also being potentially dangerous if it fosters complacency. while i agree with the sentiment you are putting out it's not quite that simple - it's kind of like telling an insomniac to just go to sleep :^)
@@genesises isn't that what society already tells us to do? Especially at work. To be stoic, suppress everything and fall in line?
@@genesises yes we need to have a healthy balance of all emotions. Everything has its place in moderation. People are very judgemental and make healthy society difficult. It would be nice if we could have true freedom of speech, kind people to listen, empathize and help, but I don't think it's like that. Sometimes I feel like life is more like the Fallout games. Post apocalyptia anyone?
Don't think Luffy went unnoticed! Great stuff.
Thank you for this video. I found it in a very hard period in my life. I'll take this lessons with me from now on. Wish you all the best in what you do man.
This has been my experience in life on many occasions, when I quit caring and stop spinning my tires, the block gets removed from my path.
I hope this works with my distressing neighbor.
If I can stop letting her press my buttons just maybe SHE'LL MOVE?!!!!
That's a tough one, I had the same problem but got lucky and the noisy inconsiderate neighbours moved out and a quiet person moved in. I hope the same happens for you.
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Thank you. But even if she stays I will be more at peace by no longer caring/reacting.
Going to start practicing this.
Thanks for your reply.
These teachings are very helpful.
❤ 🕊 ✌
Yes it's always good if you can remain free from attachment to the outcome in any situation :)
how can I translate this to my goals, for example I have goals in basketball to go pro? What should be my mindset and my actions
Awesome content as usual ❤
I love the abrupt delivery of your "thank you for watching" at the end of each video! Makes me laugh every time 😆😆
Brilliant video! The Law of Reverse Effect is such a powerful concept. Your explanation on how detachment can lead to results is spot-on. Very enlightening!
Driving a car is a great example. If you drive your car with the intention of avoiding an accident, there is more possibility that you will meet an accident. Instead drive your car just believing your skill and practice and think of nothing else.
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you :)
Life is what happens while you are busy making plans for it 😁.
A wonderful video detailing the complexity of striving towards your goals. Thank you for making such a clear and clean video.
OMG THANKYOU SO MUCH!!!! 2:08 impressing the sage resonates massivley with me. i have allways considered myself a hard worker and allways go above and beyond for others and wonder why im allways left in the dust and no one appreciates it. and this has made so much sense!!! i do have a habbit of reminding people of stuff ive done to help them when they are being rude or difficult for what seems no reason and i allways have the best intent and allways give and find myself in this stressful weird situation where i feel u appreciated and overworked. this has really helped me alot thankyou so much
Just what I needed today. Thank you!