What do I really want? | Nicole Greer | TEDxHickory
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ส.ค. 2015
- This program aims to release your genius like a light to illuminate the dark places where your brilliance is desperately needed. You will experience a fresh approach to Self-Assessment, take a hard look at your Habits, explore what it means to be in Integrity, articulate Next Right Steps, and take an Energy audit. You lead at work, at home and in the community. You need a structure to support your life as you support your organization’s future. Integrated with stories Nicole provides proven, time-tested, and smart actionable strategies.
If you have a dream to contribute your talents, gifts and life to your family, your organization and the greater community in a powerful way, you will be inspired to do more with the untapped potential that lies dormant within.
As the principal coach and CEO of Vibrant Coaching, Nicole Greer, PPCC helps individuals, corporations, government entities and small business become the people they were created to be through defining and fulfilling a mission, to work better in teams, and exemplify excellent leadership. Using transcendent leadership programs and coach training, Nicole provides her clients foundational tools, uncommon wisdom and an advantage in the marketplace. For the last 20 years, Nicole has worked as a coach, marketing director, master of first impressions, and sales trainer in the many facets of organizational development. Nicole is a wife, mother, speaker, trainer, facilitator, life and leadership coach.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
I want:
To overcome my depression
To enjoy existence
To know how to be with the girl I like
To develop good lifelong habits that help me feel better about myself
Go to Japan
Write a book
Inspire others with the things that have helped me traverse my depression
Get out of bed each morning
Great list. Keep at it, seems worth it. :)
God helps you to get these beautiful things
Wow, there's a lot of depressed people who came to this video. I thought I was the only one. I hope you manage to accomplish it : )
Steven Hall same here Steven the only thing I would add at least for myself is to be a strong man
Seems like you're the only way.
And you're gonna say ''I know''.
And i ask, do you really know YOUR way?
it's so weird because now that i think about it, my dream is so clear to me, i actually know exactly what i want, but i've been telling myself that it's a fantasy and not my goal. it's lack of trust in myself, lack of belief in my own abilities and strength that is holding me back. but this speech really motivated me to be honest with myself and at least try to achieve my fantasy, because what i truly want is the only thing i have a shot at being really successful in, as its the only thing that i will work hard for naturally.
I'm happy for you. 🌷
It's a dream, not a fantasy. Fantasy implies it can never be real but dreams can come true. I hope your dream became a reality. ⭐️
I want:
To be engaged with things I’m genuinely interested in
To experience adventure as much as possible
To live with people I genuinely care for
To not judge people and learn how to understand them
To live free
I want Liberation....final enlightment
I want:
- To be happy and healthy
- Have the time to cook nice healthy meals, do some sport and take care of myself
- A non stressfull job with a stable income
- A sunny cozy home not far away from places i need to go to
- A nice guy to love and marry
- A nice little family later
-To have a good loving relashionship with my husband and my kids
-To be happy you need to know what will make you happy.
- To have time means to manage your time better, look at places time is wasted.
- Know what job would make you happy and change to that.
- The home comes with the good job and the guy you get with that you mention later.
-There are many nice guys out there it just takes you to realise when you've found one.
Most people friend zone the nice guy.
-Family comes after finding the nice guy of course.
-Loving husband and children relationship come of course again, when you find and recognise the nice guy.
Put things in order, what do you want first and work on that.
Small steps, moving forward are better than doing nothing about it at all.
With each step, no matter how small, you get closer to your goal.
Did you achieve some of these goals?
👍🏾❤️
I want Liberation.....final enlightment
I want peace and happiness.
Not an ipod, new car, or big house.
I just want a secure little life with a community of people.
I want to earn enough to - give to my parents - what they’ve given me my entire upbringing.
I’m a musician and I studied animation, which I LOVED, but I lost myself to 6 years of doing stressful jobs that have nothing to do with my interests, still I managed to push myself through them, mainly because I so often heard the fraise, “you need a real job that you can fall back on in case things go south”.
Which is true, but now I want to study again which never is too late to do - but I feel like I’ve wasted (though experienced) 6 years of my life to hard work and now have lost that momentum of being passionate and skillful from doing what I loved!
This is probably a classic - but hard nut to crack
I hope you went back to school even if part time
There's still time. You can do it. 💪🏻
What a testament to Nicole Greer, that even audio problems didn't stop me from listening to her passionate, informed wisdom. This practical guide on the process works far better for me than a lot of the airy adages of typical LOA. Thanks for the insights on how to ground oneself in order to manifest dreams.
I want to love myself
I want to know what I want
Ask yourself. Think and feel about it. Answer it.
Alexis Cancino the three D's your Dreams - Desire - Destiny to figure out your dreams define Dreams, to figure out your destiny define Destiny, to figure out your Desire define Desire
ikr, she really didn't answer that question...
What's the plan?
I don't know.
Then the plan is to figure out a plan.
I want to know wanting what I want, too. I’ve ironically been judging myself so hard as a result! I never talked too much about my wants - felt confused because of that - then I realized that THAT (listening to what other’s ideas of what I want) is the reason I’m confused, I never imagined or realized that I was caring that much about what other people think. It’s hard but I’m really trying to take care of myself and my own will. I’ll be happy when the only person I have to impress is myself. I don’t know if this helped at all, but I hope that you some day soon will lose yourself in your dream “duty”!
~I want:
~ to see my family all get along
~to live in a warm climate
~to write my book
~to live in France 2 months a year
~to get organized
~to lose my depression
paris rain good luck but be ready to not to get to disapoinyed if all your family wont get along. It might help your dipression
omg and you deserve all of it
you got this (:
I'm channeling my abstract energy through this comment so it gets to you when you read it, no matter where you are. I sincerely wish you good luck with your depression. I have the same struggle
I want to be happy, healthy, and balanced. I want my family to be in harmony, and I want to get rid of my shyness and make things happen for myself and my family!!
What do I really want?
-To be 8 year old me's biggest hero.
Reis DeSantis that’s amazing
If you were anything like me at 8 years old, this would be an unrealistic goal.
I want Liberation.... final enlightment
Truthfully, I want to be known, and loved. I want to change some lonely teenagers life like some musicians, films, TH-camrs, etc have done for me.
I have no idea how to do it, but I just want someone to see something I did and have it resonate with them
profound
Yes!! Don't forget about the kids!!
Thank you, it seems such a simple question to ask one self, but if you really, really, really ask yourself, you get to the core of it. Big, big thank you, you cracked a big nut with this today.
1Wildhorserunning then
i wrote everything down and i will start putting everything in it's place , i already know what i want but i'm growing to know more and this talk helped a lot , thank you Nicole
out of all the speech she impressed me telling her name at the end of the stage
much respect for you madam
Thank you so much Ted-ex for publishing such a wonderful video for us
Thank you Nicole Geer for your brilliant speech
This was so good! Thank you so much, Nicole Greer for your honesty and motivational TED talk. Loved it!
Make me a sandwich now
I LOVE THIS! I'm sending it to 27 friends of mine. Thanks girl we need this!
Inspiring. Thank you Nicole Greer.
Thank you,Nicole,you inspired me so much
This Ted Talk came on just by chance on autoplay and I am glad it did. Excellent!
Oke, well since i see more people doing this, let me give it a shot then.
Hi, My name is V, I'm 20 years of age as im wrting this and I want to:
1. Overcome my fear of loosing control overmyself
2. Build my own brand/community where people can identify themselves with
3. Overcomming the fears I have of going on adventure and just traveling in general (I still have so many places I want to see)
4. Keep my values and keep on doing the things I enjoy most
5. Find the love of my life
6. Truly live a fufilled and happy life, and make it an absolute masterpiece
I call this Faith. The "willingness" to believe what you cannot currently perceive.
Thank you Nicole!
- i want to make my parents proud
- i want prestige
- i want to be healthy energetically and happy
- i want to be spiritually statisfied
- i want crazy adventures with my friends, who are like my family
- i want to be great at fighting and martial arts
Did you achieve some of these goals?
THANKS a lot. You gifted me an essential answer through your vital question.
Healthy
Happy
Rich
Freedom.
Thank you
Stop reading the comments and listen. Read later😂
Very good guess.
🤣🤣🤣You got me there!
waste of time
You got it well 😀😂. R u into psychology???😛
Lol
I want:
1. Travel to many countries(USA, UK, Norway, Australia...)
2. Have a good family, try to let others' family become better and better
3.Have my own business
4. To be an elegant woman
Even with some audio issues, this was an excellent talk
Very beautiful speech and very inspirational.
Had me in tears as it was hitting so accurate!!
Thank you so much! That hit hard!
11:48 !!!
"You're going to have to put habits around the dream so it becomes desire and ends up becoming destiny."
love it! thank you
Great message.
WOW!!!! I can't tell you how many videos I've watched on the same theme - countless. This is the one that really made the most sense to me though. In fact, I just made some real progress. Thank you so much, Ms. Greer!
Thank you for this. I really needed to hear this:)
Hi Nicole! I saw this today after your class today on Integrity in Mooresville. This tedtalk seems to tie in well with what you talked about today on core values. A positive message that I need to hear. thank you.
+Warren Nelson Thanks Warren! Grateful you took the time to watch and post here. So do you know what you really want? Let me know if I can help you. Have a great day!
Amazing - thank you.
Simple solution.. I really like it..
5:35 strong message thanks Nicole
My life is perfect, I feel deep gratitude, peace and contentment. 🎉
I want to:
Get clean
Find myself
Find god
pure gold info!!
I want:
-To learn a 3rd language
- To study film and be a filmmaker
- To live in Europe
- To have a little family
- To have a youtube channel
Well that's it ☺ (That's a lot I know)
Andi Val i want the exact same
Stacey Malaniff no way! That's great
Andi Val ...sweet!!
gail w 😋😋
Andi Val you should like a very interesting person! Good luck!
Rewatching to Refill my Cup!
Really good stuff about how to tack down what you REALLY want to do, be
I want to know what career is for me. I have no idea.
Did you figure it out? What career path did you choose?
Same fucccc :'(
Nursing?
Same here
@Adrian R that's good
I think it's so use video for me because I didn't know what I REALLY want.. Thanks! You help me to realize my right choice! This ought to be better. I love it :)
LOVE IT!
Same
Some phenomenal advice right there
I think sometimes we want so many things in life and we can't group them or shortlist, we end up saying " I don't know what I want."
Instead of choosing by introspection, we think we want everything or "everything that everyone else in the world has."
Truly a great video
Mother relieved "truth" thats all we have at birth. Just a little change in furnace. Your' retrospective was spot on; however small portion, it was the core of the speech
that's the smallest part of integrity, integrity it when you keep to your principles when its HARD
Jay Time Thanks for the comment Jay...yes, keeping our integrity in check takes "willingness." I just delivered a talk on Willingness at the KEY5 Conference yesterday. I'll post it here in a week or so...it gives you two strategies that become a system, that give you the "Smarts" you need to keep your integrity in check. Hope you have a VIBRANT day!
wow she is really good
Excellent straight-to-the-point talk! Loved it!
Good, write down her questions and go through the process - it is simple and very effective.
True!
perfect speech
I found this talk very helpful! (expect the few tone-problems)
I have a transcription of this video in Potuguese, for the case you want this! Great lecture!
This is powerful, watch it!
Definitely worth your 18 minutes.
Really powerful
powerful.
I want:
To study hard
To sing
To become successful
To buy my family a house
To build a platform
To be on tv
To spread a awareness for mental health and depression
To talk about how serious mental health and depression leads to suicide
Chase ur dreams dreams don't chase u
nice precise simplistic
love this talk. thank you!
I think the trust/belief part mentioned in the middle of the talk is inspiring. I guess i am in the middle of the road pursuing my dream and I have been hesitant recently because of the trust issue.
I am not sure 1.if I will do great and get a good job once I go for this career (statistician)
2. if the market for the statistician will be good for master degree with relevant coding skill only(not up to programmer's level), not Ph.d. bc i am not gonna pursue ph.d, but only masters and I am not gonna go for being that so great at programming in R or python, but stay at ok level. )
Oh wow this is so interesting because i'm currently doing an undergrad in data analytics/data science and very good at Python and R, but even I'M nervous and doubting myself... just goes to show we all relate to this feeling in one way or another! Also statistics is pretty high in demand - it just envelopes more of the core-mathematical concepts compared to the data wrangling+machine learning concepts that make up data science. We learnt a lot of stats in my degree as well! It's been 4 years so I hope you're doing well wherever you are right now!
Welcome dreamers and future doers.
I think most people are generally happy without worrying about her question.
Wow wow wowwwwww u rock!
One of the best videos I've seen on here, Tedx or not.
I just want to know what I want, so I can then achieve that which I want!
Ultimately tho, I want to reach a place where I want nothing at all.
Because then I'll know that I already achieved and have everything.
I cried thanks I know what to do now
Hope you did it! ~
Great video
I wanna be this lady!
You are Who you are but the brighter you are people will deny you. Will use you as a light but only to see what they want to see. Because they don't want to share the bad they do to others.
Tracy Estabrooks, you are projecting onto others with this statement so you get what you say.
I want:
-to make my parents proud
-get into medical school
-travel the world and taste best food all over the world
-build my dream house😊😊
jj isha make yourself proud instead
"It is this beautiful, deep want that you have to trust."
Today I was asked what i want and I didn't know...i didn't know WHAT I wanted I've personally always focused in other people's needs before mine that I no longer realized what I wanted it's like I dugged it deep down
When I think that I want something and I work for it, change things for it, make sacifrices for it, and that thing finally comes to my life, I just realize that it is not how I imagine, that I don't feel happy in this new place, and that the lastone thing it wasn't so bad... Now I'm just afraid, I don't know what I really want any more, after trying many things without feeling good about it, I feel I just don't know myself.
Maria del Pilar Serrano Pineda Thats a very wise realisation, thank you for sharing 🙏🏻 I’m not a guru, but I’ve heard from many spiritual people (and it feels true for me) that when you go deeper and ask what feelings, emotions or inner experience you think you will get from the thing(s) you want/wanted - that this is actually what you want.
E.g. If someone said they wanted a great car. Go deeper - and what would that give you that you don’t have now? Ans: people would admire me. And what would that give you? I would feel good about myself.
So, you don’t necessarily want the car or admiration, you just want to feel good about yourself. So that becomes the goal, it’s what you truly want. Then you might wake up in the morning and say - my goal is to feel good about myself. What can I eat to achieve this goal? What might I say to myself to achieve this goal of feeling good about myself? Where might I go? What could I do? Whom might I spend time with? What might I say to them (perhaps with the intention of helping them to also feel good about themselves)?
And so, your feeling becomes the goal and in little ways each day you can consider how best to achieve this more purposeful goal 🙏🏻
Hope that helps, warmest, Lisa
I came here to find out what do i really want? and she asked me 'what do you really want?' at the end .. waow
Most Ted talks in a nutshell
You wake up one day and notice a hummingbird welcoming you into a brand new world......💎.
I like the you talk
I want to be happy
To help others with my effort
To be the best version of my life
To stay faithful to God
To stop bad habit and start doing
To be a billionaire
To make my parents proud
To be a motivator and impact to others
To build my 6-7 business figure
i want to be on the right track in life
sometimes, what you really want is not what's meant for you.
Finding your self is not hard, getting others to believe that you are different because you know yourself is hard.
Tracy Estabrooks, if you say it is hard, it will be hard. Who cares what anyone else thinks, what you think about yourself is the most important thing. Just saying...
People will often react to you based on how you expect them to react. What you communicate to them will be in line with your expectations of them for yourself.
If you are against other people because you think they are against you then it is likely they will act as such.
It's got nothing to do with shame and guilt. I just have no idea what I want and I'm fed up of trying to work it out
Amazing WOMAN! THANK YOU 💓💞🥰🙏⚖️🌍🌸🌹🌻 The Last Sentence is The Essence: My Name Is....Thank You For Listening/Seeing/Feeling/Working/Befriending/Loving/Assisting/Guiding !..
Thats The Deepest DESIRE of EveryOne/Everything! To Be Acknowledged, Understood & Appreciated ...Seen & Valued Deeply! ⚖️🌍🌸🌹🌻💓💞🥰🙏
🔥🔥🔥
I want:
- First of all, get the job of my dreams : Flight Attendant.
-Travel a lot
-Improve my English
-Help People around the world
- Share my life with someone that loves me, be kind w me, and travels with me.
Así se´ra, así es!
Every time she speaks I can't help imagine her as a Maria Bamford character
Hahahahaha
What I really want
I went after what I wanted.
Hope someone will reply. Which is which? To do what you WANT to do, or To do what you NEED to do?
1.I want to a world renowned singer and actress who inspires people with my artistry.
2.I want to travel around the world speaking and motivating women to be their best version of themselves
3. When I'm older I want to use may drawing skills to create incredible art with portrays of influential peopl