😢😢because it’s very depressing I be feeling so alone because I have recurring outbreaks like paper cut kind now I have to be put on suppressive therapy
Herpes is really hard to target and on the other hand, not harmful. It's annoying, yes, but that's about it. It usually doesn't cause much harm other than a blister here and there and that's why definitely not a priority for medicine.
Lol when my gyno first diagnosed me she told me I'd have to use condoms for the rest of my life. I attempted to take my life the next week. Not even joking. Judge me all you want but that just wasn't a life I wanted to live. Obviously I now know better
I got a low positive result probably from my ex and I got into a new relationship this eases my mind so much my sores are in the same area as yours. Hearing this makes me happy that taking antivirals reduces transmission and you can still have a normal relationship i really appreciate your content sending love and light your way
When i found out that i have herpes (few years back) i was in alot of pain having my first outbreak. I really thought, like you said, that my life was over and no one would ever love me as i am. And felt alone w it all. And felt gross. I still struggle a little w feeling gross when i have outbreaks. But finding an amazing , understanding, supportive and loving partner that i can talk to really helped. Now im trying to figure out what i can do to get off antivirals and how to keep the outbreaks away in a natual way. From watching your videos I've learned alot. And wish i found your channel earlier because they give me motivation and hope. But it's better sooner than later 😄
I am on my first dose of antivirals but it's all in your gut health and diet I recommend searching up what vitamins can help which is what I did and I found a ton that will help with nit having any herpes at all
Hi you saying herpes is skin to skin and you don't actually get the outbreaks on your vagina, could that not have alot to do with why your husband hasn't caught it? Cause when vaginal sex is had that's not where your outbreaks are?? I'm really interested to know, ad I'm amazed its been ten years of no passing it, I think the biggest worry is a partner getting it
My last partner didn’t tell me she had it until about 3 months in our relationship and after countless times of unprotected shagging I have yet to be tested but plan to very soon feels like my whole world Is shattered and I’ll never be able to find someone else I guess I’m fine with that somewhat but knowing I was baited and lied to and now have to deal with this for the rest of my life eats away at me after she told me I told her it was ok and I plan to always be by her side no matter what then as time passed she slowly showed her true colors manipulation lies and abuse and now I just feel like an idiot just lost in a sea of emotions or where or what to do with my life
I used to take Olive Leaf extract when i felt outbreaks coming on, it helped reduce the active time and speed recovery. The other day i planned to live off whole fruits for a week. The day before i started i felt... the tingle.. i saw where the spots were going to form and then it just disappeared. Yaay for fruit.
Honestly, coconut oil is a life saver. It’s a natural antiviral. Your life is not over, just be safe and cautious. Definitely be transparent with doctor and your partner
dont ever apply coconut oil over an outbreak, its antimicrobial, NOT ANTIVIRAL, viruses have very difficult and almost impenetrable membranes which differ from bacteria
I have never had an STD I want it to stay that way. Finding out that condoms aren’t that effective just freaks me out. and so many people walk around and not even knowing they have it… this is a total nightmare
Yeah it can remain dormant for years in some people before someone has their first outbreak. Maybe that's why you shouldn't be judgmental about it. Anyone can get it regardless of how many partners you've had. You can get oral herpes by sharing a drink with someone.
Agree. I thought my OBGYN tested me for it each year. Nope. It’s not a part of the standard STD panel. only gonorrhea and chlamydia. Big deal. All you need is a round of antibiotics to cure those. I’ve known people who showed me their STD test when I didn’t even ask for it but all it showed was there gonorrhea and chlamydia test. It doesn’t mean anything. You must specifically ask to be tested for both HSV-1 and HSV-2.
I just found out I have it and about to jump into the Mississippi River when I found out but the thing is I never have i ever had any outbreaks nowhere and didn't have any symptoms until the doctor called and told me I had it which was strange.....starting to think they gave it to me
You can very well have herpes and never show any symptoms. It's very common actually. That's one of the reasons why people don't know they have it - they never show symptoms, but since they don't get tested, they don't know
Bottom line.. one can be intimate with partner when not having an outbreak (with safety precations are taken along with being hygienic).. said person should be fine
Im soo glad i found this page. Gives me peace of mind that you are so open about HSV. Now i promise you im not a bot ! This is a genuine question . Have you ever heard of synergy pharmaceuticals? Its a company based out of Australia. As im sure alot of ppl on here . I look up anything that may help. I came upon this and don't want to buy a bunk product. Please respond and give me some input
My doctors say that taking antivirals are not good on a regular basis as viruses have notorious tendency and they become resistant to anti virals if taken for long so it should be taken if your situation is really tough. Do you take anti virals on a daily basis and is this true ?
No, Alexandra does not take antivirals daily. There are times in one's life when one wants to take it, mainly to protect the partner, but of course, it's still a drug. Some people do not like taking drugs on a daily basis, which is good too. Nothing specifically bad will happen if you don't ever take them. Your outbreaks may just last longer, and statistically you could have more of them. Yes, viruses can develop resistance to antiviral medications over time.
Listen most people have an STD and don't even know it. It lays dormant. It's 😣 uncomfortable but most people do and just don't know it- you can get it from kissing, being with 1 people or 20 people. All it takes is sex w a carrier and skin contact. People judge others without knowing they have it themselves!
4 years later I still feel gross. Im too ashamed to tell a partner if I find one. It’d be a gold mine if I find a girl that has it and tells me first. Other than that I’m not going to have sex until I die
hello alexandra😘 I have many doubts about this question "area not covered by the condom" type, so that the virus penetrates does not need a gateway, like a bruise for example? the simple touch of my skin contaminates my partner? ! 😢
It is true that a person cannot truly gauge when an outbreak is going to occur? I think a person who is having sex with a person honorable enough to announce that they're infected with Herpes should have the 30-50% level of protection
With most of the viruses, you are contagious a bit before you have symptoms. Most people that track their symptoms can learn what causes an outbreak for them, like stress, certain foods, alcohol, etc.
Yes, it's very common. Shedding is the time the virus is active and can be transmitted. Viral shedding occurs without symptoms, so we do not know when it's happening.
Hello, thank you very much for your videos...I have my first outbreake now; i'm italian and i'm surprised i can't found a single italian video talking about herpes... I have a question: are you on antiviral? Does this mean that you are like in therapy to treat herpes in general and not just during outbreaks? I hope you can understand what i mean...Thank you🙏🏼🌻
Hi. Yes. You can take daily antivirals, it's called suppressive therapy and usually people take it when they have a lot back to back outbreaks or want to lessen the chances of transmission to their partners.
@@lifewithherpes knowing you've given someone herpes feels almost just as bad as getting it yourself. I feel it's the worst thing I've ever done to someone. Even though she knew I had it and isn't mad at me. Just knowing what it's done to my self confidence and mental health makes it feel absolutely horrible
So sorry to hear that. I understand it feels that way. However, we can't hold on to that guilt. She made her own choice and the worst thing is the stigma, not the virus itself. You didn't give her something that will greatly impact her health in any way. She may get annoying outbreaks from time to time, but that's about it. It's not HIV or AIDS that has way more impact. I know that's easier said than done, but try to let it go.
@@lifewithherpes yes she understands that. She's not worried about the virus itself. She's just worried about passing it on to someone else because of the massive stigma around it. So I'm worried about her mental health more than anything. Honestly I feel like I never want to have sex again, unless it's with someone who already has it. I thought I would be fine by avoiding sex during breakouts without a condom, but apparently not. So yeah, I don't think I can ever risk that again
i feel so alone.. and i feel if my world was different with most people around me.. and i fell like my heart get medicine whe i see your face.. i see you like the angle.. because i think no one can understand my self..
No You will NOT go to hell. I’m so sorry anyone even taught you that. Repent for missing the mark. WE ALL MESS UP! Sin actually does not send you to hell. The rejection of salvation thru Jesus (according to the Bible) is what sends a person to hell. Run to God, it’s okay. He loves you-you are not alone!
Question so let’s just say you have sex with someone that has herpes can you still feel some symptoms and not catch genital herpes ? and when we had sex she didn’t have any outbreaks and she was taking her medication daily
Hello, I have recently met a girl with genital herpes and my question is if I will be able to give oral sex and if there is any risk in receiving it too. In the case of being able to give it to her, will I always have to use some protection? Even if he has no symptoms and/or takes antivirals? Is there a vaccine for me or something I can take to protect myself? Thanks in advance and for the information in your video!
So, the thing is, there's no right or wrong. If you want, you can use a condom, but since herpes is transmitted with skin to skin contact, there could still be areas exposed and transmission is possible. So, there are antivirals she can take, that lessens the chances of transmission significantly. For you, you can take andrographis and other immune boosting supplements. The truth is, the stronger your immune system, less likely are you to pick it up. Same goes for her. Stronger her immune system, less likely she is to get outbreaks and is shedding. But, about andrographis. There were studies done that say andrographis will prevent the viral entry, meaning the virus won’t enter when Andrographis are taken regularly. Of course, do your own research, but it could be helpful to take and help avoiding the transmission. You can read about and order andrographis here: www.lifewithherpes.com/shop-andrographis Usually, couples tend to take more precautions in the beginning, but with time passing, you will probably feel less worried about the whole thing. At the end of the day, the virus is not going to impact significantly yours, or her day to day life. It's an annoying skin rash and that's mostly it. We learn to deal with it, and even if we can get painful outbreaks in the beginning, there are remedies to help and with time, the virus settles and doesn't impact our health.
My thing is when I've taken valtrex it seems to create tingling and an outbreak, honestly without it I barely have one so I don't prefer to take it ..just confused on a method because I don't want to pass it 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I’m 23 just got diagnosed with with hsv1 I’m scared and been taking anti virals and I’m really horrified I told my partner I have it and she still chooses to be with but I really don’t want to spread it to my girl I dont want her to feel how I feel is there any way I can keep my outbreaks suppressed and Is there anything she can do to prevent transmission we really don’t want to use condoms but I choose to because I don’t feel comfortable just yet but I do want to have baby’s and she does as well what do I do I really need help and google is really scaring me and is there anything that can soothe my area I don’t see blisters but I can feel the itchyness and tingling I really don’t know what to do like what soaps should I stay away from I use dove sensitive skin is there any diets or cream I can use to try nd prevent transmission as much as possible? can I still smoke weed ?
There are some things you can do to lessen the transmission to him, but there's never a 100% guarantee you will not. Taking antivirals will help tremendously. They are FDA approved and the chances of transmission become around 1% when taking daily. Another thing are condoms, but they only cover a small portion of the area, and since herpes is transmitted with skin to skin contact, they usually do not cover the whole area where one gets outbreaks. It's important to note that and decide whether this is something you want to do. Of course, condoms are great for other fluid based transmissions, or to avoid unwanted pregnancy. A good immune system will be your best option. When our bodies function the way they need, they can keep the herpes virus dormant. You can do that by taking supplements like multivitamin, and additionally also lysine, monolaurin and andrographis. Andrographis can also be used by your partner. There were some studies done that say andrographis will prevent the viral entry of the virus, meaning the virus won’t enter when Andrographis are taken regularly. You can read more about those studies here. You can get those supplements here with a 10% off www.naturalcurelabs.com/collections/all-products?ref=LWH And, the best thing he can do is to educate himself on the virus. Learning about it, how common it is, and that the big deal about it is mostly the stigma, is crucial. Most people fear herpes for that, not for the physical symptoms.
Andrographis are the best. There are studies done that found out it can prevent the viral entry. www.naturalcurelabs.com/products/premium-andrographis-extract/?ref=LWH
Quick question me and my friend and she was open about her herpes we haven't had sex but she said she rarely has outbreaks and doesn't get it anywhere else besides her vagina area . Is it true that you can only have herpes in the same spot as your previous outbreaks and not other areas ?
@@lifewithherpes that’s how I got it recently , gf is on meds for it used condoms but a few times it’s slipped off or ripped and my luck finally ran out
If you got a herpes swab test and tested positive, then you have it. If you tested negative, it could be 1) you don't have it 2) You tested when there was no active lesion, or tested when the actual lesion has already started to dry up, resulting in a negative test.
@@lifewithherpes i tested for hsv 1 and hsv 2 they were negative i mean i did it after 2 weeks of exposure that's mean i confirm negative or do i have to do it again after sometime to make sure
You would probably not test positive after 2 weeks, if you did get it. It usually take somewhere from 2 - 8 weeks to test positive, but it could also take up to 6 months or even longer.
Very. However, insurance companies are cheap so doctors test you with a cheap test that shows a lot of false positives. If it shows positive then you get retested using the expensive reliable one. Some of the herpes virus will be detected in your test because you likely had chicken pox which is a form of herpes. The indicator is the levels on your blood stream.,
Hey i want to know something i have gential herpes and i don't to make my spouse infected but we want to have baby so can i go for unprotected sex and does it will effect my baby
The only concern about infecting your baby is during childbirth. Please talk to your doctor about it. See these clips for better understanding. th-cam.com/video/VXm2JliJTb0/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/mQRNHnM6ZVM/w-d-xo.html
So if I have the herpes virus and I had unprotected sex one time does that person contract the virus as well or is it basically a hit or miss in getting infected
I recently had a sex partner that caught herpes and I didn’t.🙏🏽 was it because she wasn’t having any outbreaks while we were having sex because all I had got was gonorrhea
Your partner had herpes and you didn't get it, you mean? So, s/he wasn't having an outbreak or was shedding at the time you had sex and you didn't get it.
@@lifewithherpes yeah but even the doctors said I most likely didn’t get it no bumps or rashes and she wasn’t even aware I’ve had sex after her and nobody has it
@@lifewithherpes that makes sense. I feel like dating someone who has genital herpes, I would rather use adult toys during sex. It won’t be the same. But I won’t risk any exposure.
More people than not have herpes. The chances are you have come into contact with the virus multiple times through your life. It's not some rare virus and definitely doesn't do much harm. I just don't want you to search for 'somebody perfect' - because we all have something we'd rather avoid having in a perfect world and even people with herpes mostly live perfectly normal lives. The hardest part is stigma! th-cam.com/video/fXr1WVzs4vc/w-d-xo.html
I love you ty for this I made a mistake by having sex with someone who has it I thought she was a sweetie but it broke me idk if I can forgive her for this if I have it she is taking meds for it but I'm scared she gave it to me 😪
I understand it hurts if she didn't tell you and you feel the trust was betrayed. She probably had her own reasons, as every person does, and it was probably not easy for her as well. Hope you can talk about it. With her being on antivirals, the chances of transmitting are really low.
I just found this channel and have remember something and i got a question i hope you can answer ( sorry about my bad English or spelling ) About 10 years ago , i got a blister on my genital area , went to the doctor and was diagnosticated with herpes , i was given a treatment , a medicine i have forgot the name but i think i saw you mention it on one of your videos, i just remember it starts with letter v . I took the medication and then i never went back to the doctor again. I have never had a outbrake and i have done at least 2 to 3 checks on std and have never got positive on anything . So my question is Should i go to the doctor and got them me tested to see if i have herpes ? Is it normal i haven't had any outbreaks so far ? ( in case i do have herpes ) One last kinf of silly ( probably ) question Canyou transfer the virus by kissing someone in the mouth ? Thank you for your time
If a female has herpes dose sex in general make it flare up or cause outbreaks ? Dose that mean now they have to limit how much they have sex to limit outbreaks ?
That could be, as too much friction can cause outbreaks for some women. Try using lubricant, if that's the case and just in general, try not to cause 'trauma' to the area, including grooming - shaving, waxing, or removing hair in general. It is there to protect you.
Just the person who has the virus. There is no proof it would work for the other partner. There is some studies suggesting andrographis can prevent the entry of the viral load, so it can help the person who's not infected. www.lifewithherpes.com/shop-andrographis
1:Can someone get herpes by having sex with someone only 1 or 2 time who is infected already 2: And if someone have herpes and there is no cure for it so can u still get married and have healthy life with your partner.
1. If they're 'lucky', then of course. One time is enough. 2. Of course. You can do everything with herpes. It's just an annoying blister that pops up from time to time, other than time you can get married, have kids and life your life.
@@lifewithherpes hey I have a question ❓ please answer 🙏 can you have sex while your talking metronidazole I'm taking it for the rash I has but only need for more days to be done taking it but the nurse said I could not have sex if I'm taking that but I had already had 2 times but with condom
Condoms could help, but only to a certain point. If there's still exposed skin of where your partner gets outbreaks, then you will still be able to come into contact with it. And the use of antivirals in a non- infected person is probably not going to work as we hope it would. The antivirals don't kill herpes, they just put it into a dormant state.
@@lifewithherpes "If there's still exposed skin of where your partner gets outbreaks, then you will still be able to come into contact with it. " Yes, I think that's exactly what happened to me 10 years ago. The woman I was having sex with may have passed Herpes onto me because my condom missed a little bit of penis skin so the virus went into that area unfortunately.
My girlfriend has HSV1 genitally and we want to have unprotected sex badly, what are the risks how and can I prevent it as much as possible without condoms.
You can discuss antivirals. Condoms usually don't even cover the whole area where outbreaks appear, so they're semi-efficient. She can also start taking lysine, vit c, zinc and monolaurin. This will help her immune system to fight the virus from not becoming active. www.lifewithherpes.com/monolaurin
Hello Alexandra! I have a question I can't seem to find covered since every article I've read assumes HSV-2. I'm a 25yr F dating a 25yr M. So my boyfriend has HSV-1 (oral). He recently discovered he has this through some blood work he had done. I've already accepted him and we've discussed how I want to practice safety when it comes to the virus. He's very open and willing (as am I), to do what it takes to make us both comfortable with this new information. I've already disclosed with him that I cannot have kids because I have no ovaries. So wearing a condom to prevent pregnancy is not an issue. I've been doing my part to try and better understand this for the both of us (he is too). His virus is dormant and has never had a breach. I'm considering on asking him to take antivirals as a precaution. Currently he is not taking any. I've read that the virus is in the body. So, my question is "Since he has HSV-1, If we have unprotected sex, would the virus still be transferable to give me HSV-2 since it resides in the DNA of semen?" I'm genuinely curious if this is a possibility. This way, we can keep using protected sex or if we'll need the antiviral medication in order to have unprotected sex. I really love him, but I also want to protect myself. I'd hate to contract HSV-2 through this round about way.
Hi, if you would get it, considering he only has HSV1, you cannot get HSV2, but only HSV1. You can get genital HSV1, or oral HSV1 (or HSV1 anywhere on your body, to be exact, since herpes is a skin disease, but it usually transmits to genitals or mouth). It does not live in bodily fluids, but in our nerves. It is transmittable only with skin to skin contact. If he's asymptomatic, that in theory means he's less contagious and sheds less often. However, it can still happen, but we don't know how often and of course everybody is different. Hope that answers your question.
Hey so I was tested Positive with HVS-2 like 2 weeks ago. Got treated with VALACYCLOVIR for one straight week. The 2 sores I had are heal now. My Doctor said I could have sex in 2 weeks. Obviously said I have to have protective sex. Can I still receive oral sex after there is no outbreaks ?
You can transmit even without an outbreak. It's called viral shedding. Your partner has to be aware you have it, so they can make a concision decision.
I have HS1 not 2! so Iv had all kind of things going on down there doc said jock itch but didn’t go away really, with whats going on in my life let’s just say my life is stressful, he said with the stress my body hard time with the Virus 🦠 so it’s coming out down there is that true! I did fall twice with on my bike on front of my body could have it it I read Trauma could cause it also, what’s your opinion
Hsv1 will not outbreak in your genital area. Unless yhere was a rare circumstance where it was transmitted that way. But that extremely rare from what i have read.
If funny no one talks about the depression that comes with it
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No they don’t and it’s very depressive
Yeah it’s tough to have to deal with but life goes on
😢😢because it’s very depressing I be feeling so alone because I have recurring outbreaks like paper cut kind now I have to be put on suppressive therapy
I heard that hsv is very common but now im trying to figure out why there is still no cure for it but a vaccine was quickly put together for covid
Herpes is really hard to target and on the other hand, not harmful. It's annoying, yes, but that's about it. It usually doesn't cause much harm other than a blister here and there and that's why definitely not a priority for medicine.
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Lol when my gyno first diagnosed me she told me I'd have to use condoms for the rest of my life. I attempted to take my life the next week. Not even joking. Judge me all you want but that just wasn't a life I wanted to live. Obviously I now know better
just went there with myself after finding out
And what do you know now?
I got a low positive result probably from my ex and I got into a new relationship this eases my mind so much my sores are in the same area as yours. Hearing this makes me happy that taking antivirals reduces transmission and you can still have a normal relationship i really appreciate your content sending love and light your way
When i found out that i have herpes (few years back) i was in alot of pain having my first outbreak. I really thought, like you said, that my life was over and no one would ever love me as i am. And felt alone w it all. And felt gross. I still struggle a little w feeling gross when i have outbreaks. But finding an amazing , understanding, supportive and loving partner that i can talk to really helped. Now im trying to figure out what i can do to get off antivirals and how to keep the outbreaks away in a natual way. From watching your videos I've learned alot. And wish i found your channel earlier because they give me motivation and hope. But it's better sooner than later 😄
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I am on my first dose of antivirals but it's all in your gut health and diet I recommend searching up what vitamins can help which is what I did and I found a ton that will help with nit having any herpes at all
Hi you saying herpes is skin to skin and you don't actually get the outbreaks on your vagina, could that not have alot to do with why your husband hasn't caught it? Cause when vaginal sex is had that's not where your outbreaks are??
I'm really interested to know, ad I'm amazed its been ten years of no passing it, I think the biggest worry is a partner getting it
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My last partner didn’t tell me she had it until about 3 months in our relationship and after countless times of unprotected shagging I have yet to be tested but plan to very soon feels like my whole world Is shattered and I’ll never be able to find someone else I guess I’m fine with that somewhat but knowing I was baited and lied to and now have to deal with this for the rest of my life eats away at me after she told me I told her it was ok and I plan to always be by her side no matter what then as time passed she slowly showed her true colors manipulation lies and abuse and now I just feel like an idiot just lost in a sea of emotions or where or what to do with my life
Your not alone. If u need someone, I can be that person for you.. life just happens, don’t blame ur self
Unfortunately your partner not telling you they had an STD while having unprotected sex with you was manipulation in itself. You're not alone❤
I used to take Olive Leaf extract when i felt outbreaks coming on, it helped reduce the active time and speed recovery.
The other day i planned to live off whole fruits for a week. The day before i started i felt... the tingle.. i saw where the spots were going to form and then it just disappeared. Yaay for fruit.
Honestly, coconut oil is a life saver. It’s a natural antiviral. Your life is not over, just be safe and cautious. Definitely be transparent with doctor and your partner
do you apply coconut oil over the outbreak? & how fast does the outbreak dissappear?
dont ever apply coconut oil over an outbreak, its antimicrobial, NOT ANTIVIRAL, viruses have very difficult and almost impenetrable membranes which differ from bacteria
Do you apply on outbreak?
I have never had an STD I want it to stay that way. Finding out that condoms aren’t that effective just freaks me out. and so many people walk around and not even knowing they have it… this is a total nightmare
Try not being sexually active with people who aren't your husband.
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Yeah it can remain dormant for years in some people before someone has their first outbreak. Maybe that's why you shouldn't be judgmental about it. Anyone can get it regardless of how many partners you've had. You can get oral herpes by sharing a drink with someone.
Agree. I thought my OBGYN tested me for it each year. Nope. It’s not a part of the standard STD panel. only gonorrhea and chlamydia. Big deal. All you need is a round of antibiotics to cure those. I’ve known people who showed me their STD test when I didn’t even ask for it but all it showed was there gonorrhea and chlamydia test. It doesn’t mean anything. You must specifically ask to be tested for both HSV-1 and HSV-2.
@@jedidjab4346 Yawn? Why because you find STD free people boring?
Your channel just makes me feel so much better
I just found out I have it and about to jump into the Mississippi River when I found out but the thing is I never have i ever had any outbreaks nowhere and didn't have any symptoms until the doctor called and told me I had it which was strange.....starting to think they gave it to me
You can very well have herpes and never show any symptoms. It's very common actually. That's one of the reasons why people don't know they have it - they never show symptoms, but since they don't get tested, they don't know
@@lifewithherpes so can I still pass it to my partner who my potentially not have it...?
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Great video very helpful your so brave , being open about this is helping so many people
48 percent doesnt seem like a lot of protection from transmission
To me 48% makes a world of difference!
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It isn’t. Which is why the medical community needs to invest in a vaccine. Instead, they wasted money for a chicken pox vaccine.
@@s.m6605 I agree with you.
Bottom line.. one can be intimate with partner when not having an outbreak (with safety precations are taken along with being hygienic).. said person should be fine
Im soo glad i found this page. Gives me peace of mind that you are so open about HSV. Now i promise you im not a bot ! This is a genuine question . Have you ever heard of synergy pharmaceuticals? Its a company based out of Australia. As im sure alot of ppl on here . I look up anything that may help. I came upon this and don't want to buy a bunk product. Please respond and give me some input
My doctors say that taking antivirals are not good on a regular basis as viruses have notorious tendency and they become resistant to anti virals if taken for long so it should be taken if your situation is really tough. Do you take anti virals on a daily basis and is this true ?
No, Alexandra does not take antivirals daily. There are times in one's life when one wants to take it, mainly to protect the partner, but of course, it's still a drug. Some people do not like taking drugs on a daily basis, which is good too. Nothing specifically bad will happen if you don't ever take them. Your outbreaks may just last longer, and statistically you could have more of them.
Yes, viruses can develop resistance to antiviral medications over time.
Listen most people have an STD and don't even know it. It lays dormant. It's 😣 uncomfortable but most people do and just don't know it- you can get it from kissing, being with 1 people or 20 people. All it takes is sex w a carrier and skin contact. People judge others without knowing they have it themselves!
4 years later I still feel gross. Im too ashamed to tell a partner if I find one. It’d be a gold mine if I find a girl that has it and tells me first. Other than that I’m not going to have sex until I die
How did you get pregnant with Herpes without infecting the other person ? is the burning question I have
It's a blessing that's what it is. Me and my ex-wife has it and we we're blessed with three beautiful children and none of them have it
Yes! And deliver a healthy baby!
*** burning question 🔥😭🤣 .. 🤧
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@@ffztu1616 did you’re ex wife have C sections for all 3?
How does one protect when you get outbreaks on buttocks and lower back. Any suggestions.
hello alexandra😘 I have many doubts about this question "area not covered by the condom" type, so that the virus penetrates does not need a gateway, like a bruise for example? the simple touch of my skin contaminates my partner? ! 😢
It is true that a person cannot truly gauge when an outbreak is going to occur? I think a person who is having sex with a person honorable enough to announce that they're infected with Herpes should have the 30-50% level of protection
With most of the viruses, you are contagious a bit before you have symptoms.
Most people that track their symptoms can learn what causes an outbreak for them, like stress, certain foods, alcohol, etc.
Anti vitals are only 48% effective?
Can you have a positive test with no symptoms? Also what is shedding?
Yes, it's very common.
Shedding is the time the virus is active and can be transmitted. Viral shedding occurs without symptoms, so we do not know when it's happening.
Hello, thank you very much for your videos...I have my first outbreake now; i'm italian and i'm surprised i can't found a single italian video talking about herpes...
I have a question: are you on antiviral? Does this mean that you are like in therapy to treat herpes in general and not just during outbreaks? I hope you can understand what i mean...Thank you🙏🏼🌻
Hi. Yes. You can take daily antivirals, it's called suppressive therapy and usually people take it when they have a lot back to back outbreaks or want to lessen the chances of transmission to their partners.
Ciao, anche io sto in italia, Ho anche scoperto oggi di avere l'herpes, sono molto stressato, come ti senti al riguardo? Per favore aiuto
I didn't use a condom with my previous partner of 1 year and she was recently diagnosed with herpes after we split up
I see. Have you gotten tested yourself?
@@lifewithherpes of course. I tested positive 12 years ago when I was 18. Outbreaks about every 6-12 months since
@@lifewithherpes knowing you've given someone herpes feels almost just as bad as getting it yourself. I feel it's the worst thing I've ever done to someone. Even though she knew I had it and isn't mad at me. Just knowing what it's done to my self confidence and mental health makes it feel absolutely horrible
So sorry to hear that. I understand it feels that way. However, we can't hold on to that guilt. She made her own choice and the worst thing is the stigma, not the virus itself. You didn't give her something that will greatly impact her health in any way. She may get annoying outbreaks from time to time, but that's about it. It's not HIV or AIDS that has way more impact.
I know that's easier said than done, but try to let it go.
@@lifewithherpes yes she understands that. She's not worried about the virus itself. She's just worried about passing it on to someone else because of the massive stigma around it. So I'm worried about her mental health more than anything.
Honestly I feel like I never want to have sex again, unless it's with someone who already has it.
I thought I would be fine by avoiding sex during breakouts without a condom, but apparently not.
So yeah, I don't think I can ever risk that again
i feel so alone.. and i feel if my world was different with most people around me.. and i fell like my heart get medicine whe i see your face.. i see you like the angle.. because i think no one can understand my self..
I hope God still accepts me....I don't want to go toHell when I die....this video helped me feel so much better.....found out today....
Repent Jesus will forgive your. Don't run away from God, run to him. He is beautiful
Jesus cares nothing about your herpes
No You will NOT go to hell. I’m so sorry anyone even taught you that. Repent for missing the mark. WE ALL MESS UP! Sin actually does not send you to hell. The rejection of salvation thru Jesus (according to the Bible) is what sends a person to hell. Run to God, it’s okay. He loves you-you are not alone!
If it makes you feel better , heaven ain’t real 🤣 like what would you even be doing for an eternity
@@hystloko2890 Heaven, Hell and reincarnation are all real.
Question so let’s just say you have sex with someone that has herpes can you still feel some symptoms and not catch genital herpes ? and when we had sex she didn’t have any outbreaks and she was taking her medication daily
You can still catch it, yes, although the changes are very low. For the symptoms, it's hard to say what you're experiencing like that.
Get tested. Don't live thinking you "might" have it, this will cause you to be reckless no matter how rational you think you are. Trust me.
Hello, I have recently met a girl with genital herpes and my question is if I will be able to give oral sex and if there is any risk in receiving it too. In the case of being able to give it to her, will I always have to use some protection? Even if he has no symptoms and/or takes antivirals? Is there a vaccine for me or something I can take to protect myself? Thanks in advance and for the information in your video!
So, the thing is, there's no right or wrong. If you want, you can use a condom, but since herpes is transmitted with skin to skin contact, there could still be areas exposed and transmission is possible. So, there are antivirals she can take, that lessens the chances of transmission significantly. For you, you can take andrographis and other immune boosting supplements. The truth is, the stronger your immune system, less likely are you to pick it up. Same goes for her. Stronger her immune system, less likely she is to get outbreaks and is shedding. But, about andrographis. There were studies done that say andrographis will prevent the viral entry, meaning the virus won’t enter when Andrographis are taken regularly. Of course, do your own research, but it could be helpful to take and help avoiding the transmission. You can read about and order andrographis here: www.lifewithherpes.com/shop-andrographis
Usually, couples tend to take more precautions in the beginning, but with time passing, you will probably feel less worried about the whole thing. At the end of the day, the virus is not going to impact significantly yours, or her day to day life. It's an annoying skin rash and that's mostly it. We learn to deal with it, and even if we can get painful outbreaks in the beginning, there are remedies to help and with time, the virus settles and doesn't impact our health.
What do you think of ozone therapy and its effects on herpes?
It is believed to have success stories in eradicating herpes and lowering viral load
Sorry, have not tried it.
@@lifewithherpes You should check it out, Ive had MAH therapy and eboo therapy which is even better to oxygenate our entire blood stream.
My thing is when I've taken valtrex it seems to create tingling and an outbreak, honestly without it I barely have one so I don't prefer to take it ..just confused on a method because I don't want to pass it 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Don’t use it then 🤦🏽♂️
Just use Hemp probiotic haven't had an outbreak in 3 years
Very glad you found happiness
I’m 23 just got diagnosed with with hsv1 I’m scared and been taking anti virals and I’m really horrified I told my partner I have it and she still chooses to be with but I really don’t want to spread it to my girl I dont want her to feel how I feel is there any way I can keep my outbreaks suppressed and Is there anything she can do to prevent transmission we really don’t want to use condoms but I choose to because I don’t feel comfortable just yet but I do want to have baby’s and she does as well what do I do I really need help and google is really scaring me and is there anything that can soothe my area I don’t see blisters but I can feel the itchyness and tingling I really don’t know what to do like what soaps should I stay away from I use dove sensitive skin is there any diets or cream I can use to try nd prevent transmission as much as possible? can I still smoke weed ?
There are some things you can do to lessen the transmission to him, but there's never a 100% guarantee you will not.
Taking antivirals will help tremendously. They are FDA approved and the chances of transmission become around 1% when taking daily.
Another thing are condoms, but they only cover a small portion of the area, and since herpes is transmitted with skin to skin contact, they usually do not cover the whole area where one gets outbreaks. It's important to note that and decide whether this is something you want to do. Of course, condoms are great for other fluid based transmissions, or to avoid unwanted pregnancy.
A good immune system will be your best option. When our bodies function the way they need, they can keep the herpes virus dormant. You can do that by taking supplements like multivitamin, and additionally also lysine, monolaurin and andrographis. Andrographis can also be used by your partner. There were some studies done that say andrographis will prevent the viral entry of the virus, meaning the virus won’t enter when Andrographis are taken regularly. You can read more about those studies here.
You can get those supplements here with a 10% off
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And, the best thing he can do is to educate himself on the virus. Learning about it, how common it is, and that the big deal about it is mostly the stigma, is crucial. Most people fear herpes for that, not for the physical symptoms.
@@lifewithherpes thank you so much ❤️ I really appreciate you for responding 🙏
What supplements can a partner take to protect themself from transmission
Andrographis are the best. There are studies done that found out it can prevent the viral entry. www.naturalcurelabs.com/products/premium-andrographis-extract/?ref=LWH
Quick question me and my friend and she was open about her herpes we haven't had sex but she said she rarely has outbreaks and doesn't get it anywhere else besides her vagina area . Is it true that you can only have herpes in the same spot as your previous outbreaks and not other areas ?
It can spread other places
To a certain extent but in rare places it can spread to other places
Rare cases *
Can you please help me cuz I have general herpes and I really need help
Take acyclovir
Just cure it with rife frequencies.
What about if your partner uses medication and your performing oral when there's no sores or outbreaks
There's always a slight chance you will get it. With daily antivirals, about 1% chance, if there's no outbreak.
@@lifewithherpes that’s how I got it recently , gf is on meds for it used condoms but a few times it’s slipped off or ripped and my luck finally ran out
@@lifewithherpes FALSE!
@@lifewithherpes what if you’re asymptotic?
@@lifewithherpes what antiviral you use
What type of medication I got to take for general herpes I really need help cuz I don't want to have outbreak
Medication: acyclovir/Valacyclovir ; supplement: lysine, monolaurin, zinc, vitamin b c d e
I took Herpesin/Acyclovir tablets and my symptoms disappeared in one to two weeks...all those blisters disappeared and so did the pain.
I am a male and have hsv1 can I have unprotected sex with my partner and have a baby and will that transmit it to her and the baby?
Of course, you just need to disclose. People have totally normal lives with families and kids, despite herpes.
My life is over and I still not getting a clear answer
Your life is not over.
I have was diagnosed with Genital Herpes 10 years ago and it's all ok.
@@aspiknfhow many times have you gotten outbreaks?
How accurate are std swab tests inculding herpes test.
If you got a herpes swab test and tested positive, then you have it.
If you tested negative, it could be
1) you don't have it
2) You tested when there was no active lesion, or tested when the actual lesion has already started to dry up, resulting in a negative test.
@@lifewithherpes i tested for hsv 1 and hsv 2 they were negative i mean i did it after 2 weeks of exposure that's mean i confirm negative or do i have to do it again after sometime to make sure
You would probably not test positive after 2 weeks, if you did get it. It usually take somewhere from 2 - 8 weeks to test positive, but it could also take up to 6 months or even longer.
@@lifewithherpes what if after 1 year herpes negative reports
Very. However, insurance companies are cheap so doctors test you with a cheap test that shows a lot of false positives. If it shows positive then you get retested using the expensive reliable one. Some of the herpes virus will be detected in your test because you likely had chicken pox which is a form of herpes. The indicator is the levels on your blood stream.,
If you don’t use protection what do you use? You didn’t specify. Referring to your statement of you and your husband not using condoms.
Nothing of a sort to 'protect' him. He's OK at this point of our relationship to take that risk.
Thank you very much for the video.
Hey i want to know something i have gential herpes and i don't to make my spouse infected but we want to have baby so can i go for unprotected sex and does it will effect my baby
The only concern about infecting your baby is during childbirth. Please talk to your doctor about it.
See these clips for better understanding.
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@Nehamarar can I talk to you please too ! I'm suffering frm hsv n it's hard to find indian's to talk too
@Prayshapuri I am Indian and also suffering from this..
How can i tolk to you????
So if I have the herpes virus and I had unprotected sex one time does that person contract the virus as well or is it basically a hit or miss in getting infected
It depends u have to know where your sores occur as long as they dont come in to skin to skin contact with it you're fine
But what about if you have herpes but no sores? 😰can I still pass it on?
You can. Viral shedding can happen without any symptoms present.
@@lifewithherpes I just found your channel how can I contact you?
hi@harbushka.com
Or schedule a call here. www.lifewithherpes.com/emergencycall
Can I ask how to meet ppl?
I recently had a sex partner that caught herpes and I didn’t.🙏🏽 was it because she wasn’t having any outbreaks while we were having sex because all I had got was gonorrhea
Your partner had herpes and you didn't get it, you mean? So, s/he wasn't having an outbreak or was shedding at the time you had sex and you didn't get it.
@@lifewithherpes yeah but even the doctors said I most likely didn’t get it no bumps or rashes and she wasn’t even aware I’ve had sex after her and nobody has it
Is gonorrhea curable?
And is there any chance to have sex with someone who got herpes and still u r lucky to not get it
Gonorrhea is curable, yes.
It’s been 3 months still no symptoms this video most definitely calmed me down I was panicking so bad lol
What if someone pregnant with herpes can they have sex or no
Sure, why not?
Condoms only protect a little?. I don’t know. I don’t like the percentage.
Condoms are only protecting if the area your outbreaks occur are covered by them. Since it's skin to skin contact, that's usually not the case.
@@lifewithherpes that makes sense. I feel like dating someone who has genital herpes, I would rather use adult toys during sex. It won’t be the same. But I won’t risk any exposure.
More people than not have herpes. The chances are you have come into contact with the virus multiple times through your life. It's not some rare virus and definitely doesn't do much harm. I just don't want you to search for 'somebody perfect' - because we all have something we'd rather avoid having in a perfect world and even people with herpes mostly live perfectly normal lives. The hardest part is stigma!
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@@lifewithherpes you’re right about the stigma. social media doesn’t help at all.
Colloidal silver
Recently heard that's not good , nano silver is the answer.
If you have sex with strangers, sure. But if you care about the person you don’t want to.
I love you ty for this I made a mistake by having sex with someone who has it I thought she was a sweetie but it broke me idk if I can forgive her for this if I have it she is taking meds for it but I'm scared she gave it to me 😪
I understand it hurts if she didn't tell you and you feel the trust was betrayed. She probably had her own reasons, as every person does, and it was probably not easy for her as well.
Hope you can talk about it. With her being on antivirals, the chances of transmitting are really low.
Is it possible she didn't know right away?
What is that society?
Our monthly membership group. You can join here. www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
@@lifewithherpes do you have a free trial where you can try it out before paying?
Just found out my gf has, and we had skin to skin contact multiple times for 2 weeks during an outbreak. Does that mean I 100% have it now?
It's the area where she has outbreaks you would want to avoid, not just her whole body :).
@@lifewithherpes her lips and we kissed unfortunately
No, it doesn't mean that. You have to come into contact with the part where she has outbreaks.
Nah you good fam
So you've been in a relationship with your girl without knowing she had it? You're not angry that she been lying to you the whole time bro?
You made me feel better 😁
Can a woman have a baby after getting hsv 2?
Yes
I just found this channel and have remember something and i got a question i hope you can answer
( sorry about my bad English or spelling )
About 10 years ago , i got a blister on my genital area , went to the doctor and was diagnosticated with herpes , i was given a treatment , a medicine i have forgot the name but i think i saw you mention it on one of your videos, i just remember it starts with letter v . I took the medication and then i never went back to the doctor again. I have never had a outbrake and i have done at least 2 to 3 checks on std and have never got positive on anything .
So my question is
Should i go to the doctor and got them me tested to see if i have herpes ?
Is it normal i haven't had any outbreaks so far ? ( in case i do have herpes )
One last kinf of silly ( probably ) question
Canyou transfer the virus by kissing someone in the mouth ?
Thank you for your time
Go get tested. They don't test hsv unles you ask for it
If you get sores in your mouth yes you can spread it
If a female has herpes dose sex in general make it flare up or cause outbreaks ? Dose that mean now they have to limit how much they have sex to limit outbreaks ?
That could be, as too much friction can cause outbreaks for some women. Try using lubricant, if that's the case and just in general, try not to cause 'trauma' to the area, including grooming - shaving, waxing, or removing hair in general. It is there to protect you.
Ooh rug burn 🔥
Is it better for both partners take the antiviral medication before having sex or just the person who’s got the virus?
Just the person who has the virus. There is no proof it would work for the other partner. There is some studies suggesting andrographis can prevent the entry of the viral load, so it can help the person who's not infected.
www.lifewithherpes.com/shop-andrographis
When should you use a condom?
Only when you have a outbreak?
Always
1:Can someone get herpes by having sex with someone only 1 or 2 time who is infected already
2: And if someone have herpes and there is no cure for it so can u still get married and have healthy life with your partner.
1. If they're 'lucky', then of course. One time is enough.
2. Of course. You can do everything with herpes. It's just an annoying blister that pops up from time to time, other than time you can get married, have kids and life your life.
@@lifewithherpes hey I have a question ❓ please answer 🙏 can you have sex while your talking metronidazole I'm taking it for the rash I has but only need for more days to be done taking it but the nurse said I could not have sex if I'm taking that but I had already had 2 times but with condom
Im pretty confused on everything. So if I want less chances to get herpes from my partner. Should I also take the medications and use condoms?
Condoms could help, but only to a certain point. If there's still exposed skin of where your partner gets outbreaks, then you will still be able to come into contact with it.
And the use of antivirals in a non- infected person is probably not going to work as we hope it would. The antivirals don't kill herpes, they just put it into a dormant state.
@@lifewithherpes "If there's still exposed skin of where your partner gets outbreaks, then you will still be able to come into contact with it. "
Yes, I think that's exactly what happened to me 10 years ago. The woman I was having sex with may have passed Herpes onto me because my condom missed a little bit of penis skin so the virus went into that area unfortunately.
I HAVE A DAMN GOOD QUESTION!!!! Why is my outbreak on top of my butt cheek? Wtf and no!
My girlfriend has HSV1 genitally and we want to have unprotected sex badly, what are the risks how and can I prevent it as much as possible without condoms.
You can discuss antivirals. Condoms usually don't even cover the whole area where outbreaks appear, so they're semi-efficient.
She can also start taking lysine, vit c, zinc and monolaurin. This will help her immune system to fight the virus from not becoming active. www.lifewithherpes.com/monolaurin
Valtrex. But apparently it’s only 43% effective. Not sure what zinc and Vitamin C is going to do.
Hi, my girlfriend has cold sores on her lips and lips only. We had unprotected sex but not kissing or oral sex, do I need to worry about it?
If you did not came into contact with her lips, then you couldn't have gotten it.
Hello Alexandra! I have a question I can't seem to find covered since every article I've read assumes HSV-2. I'm a 25yr F dating a 25yr M.
So my boyfriend has HSV-1 (oral). He recently discovered he has this through some blood work he had done. I've already accepted him and we've discussed how I want to practice safety when it comes to the virus. He's very open and willing (as am I), to do what it takes to make us both comfortable with this new information.
I've already disclosed with him that I cannot have kids because I have no ovaries. So wearing a condom to prevent pregnancy is not an issue.
I've been doing my part to try and better understand this for the both of us (he is too). His virus is dormant and has never had a breach. I'm considering on asking him to take antivirals as a precaution. Currently he is not taking any. I've read that the virus is in the body.
So, my question is "Since he has HSV-1, If we have unprotected sex, would the virus still be transferable to give me HSV-2 since it resides in the DNA of semen?" I'm genuinely curious if this is a possibility.
This way, we can keep using protected sex or if we'll need the antiviral medication in order to have unprotected sex. I really love him, but I also want to protect myself. I'd hate to contract HSV-2 through this round about way.
Hi, if you would get it, considering he only has HSV1, you cannot get HSV2, but only HSV1. You can get genital HSV1, or oral HSV1 (or HSV1 anywhere on your body, to be exact, since herpes is a skin disease, but it usually transmits to genitals or mouth).
It does not live in bodily fluids, but in our nerves. It is transmittable only with skin to skin contact. If he's asymptomatic, that in theory means he's less contagious and sheds less often. However, it can still happen, but we don't know how often and of course everybody is different.
Hope that answers your question.
thank you for being so honest and open. im a guy
You are redicuslly gourgoues 👌
Do you have take medisine everyday for the rest of your life
No, of course not. The medicine will just speed up your recovery, otherwise your body is capable with dealing with outbreaks by itself.
Hey so I was tested Positive with HVS-2 like 2 weeks ago. Got treated with VALACYCLOVIR for one straight week. The 2 sores I had are heal now. My Doctor said I could have sex in 2 weeks. Obviously said I have to have protective sex. Can I still receive oral sex after there is no outbreaks ?
why am i even watching this i dont have anything lmfaoooo
Right! Same here.😊
Your face looks greatt with no bumps. Is the Medication helping with not having rash on your face?
Can you also take antivirals with your partner even if you don’t have herpes
No, there's no proof it works like that. Besides, antivirals won't cure or eradicate herpes, they'll just make it more or less dormant.
So basically you can have raw sex as long as there are no outbreaks?
You can transmit even without an outbreak. It's called viral shedding. Your partner has to be aware you have it, so they can make a concision decision.
No I don’t have herpes
@@lifewithherpes I’ve had sex with my new partner and she’s perfectly fine
Ok. So, there's a small chance she can transmit it to you even if she doesn't have any symptoms.
@@lifewithherpes hey love ya videos by the way , so when u say it’s a small chance ! What’s that percentage? If u can give me a educated guess
Does your husband get occasional blood tests to confirm he doesn’t have it?
Yes, he does
Lucky husband yeah
How does your husband not have it but you do when your having unprotected sex?
I talk a bit about it here
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I love and u are beutiful !!!
I don’t like them either but it’s a reason I freakin got it
She got hit with the back shot..lol
Lol
Let me know when you break up with your boyfriend and give me a call... your beautiful
Bareback is the way to go!
I think I have a herpes even Im still a virgin...
Many people get it in their childhood, it's not uncommon
Daym whata women, youre beautiful
We need to go back to the old days where a woman remained a virgin till her wedding night lol
I have HS1 not 2! so Iv had all kind of things going on down there doc said jock itch but didn’t go away really, with whats going on in my life let’s just say my life is stressful, he said with the stress my body hard time with the Virus 🦠 so it’s coming out down there is that true! I did fall twice with on my bike on front of my body could have it it I read Trauma could cause it also, what’s your opinion
Yes stress is the main cause for outbreaks
Hsv1 will not outbreak in your genital area. Unless yhere was a rare circumstance where it was transmitted that way. But that extremely rare from what i have read.