I swear that someone probably read (or skimmed) this article and showed up to a date drenched in sweat, wearing a red tshirt, just got off a sky diving trip, and their first line was “how are ya mate” in a sleepy voice
A man who knows who he is. He doesn't change for anyone to please someone else and if they don't except who he is it doesn't bother him. As long as he doesn't go around hurting other people this that's what I love. Makes him emotional strong.
Yeah.. she said I don't really care what it is, as long as he's passionate about it..? really? what if he's really passionate about underage girls? What if he's a star on Chris Hansen's "To Catch a Predator?" I'm an IT analyst and catch these details all the time. Should probably be a bit more aware of what of what is said. Just sayin'
The things that make other people attractive in a conversation, 1. Using genuine and deep compliments, something that goes beyond their appearance or anything superficial. The way they talk, the way they smile and their job are some good examples. 2. Actively listen to what they have to say think about it and then share your thoughts and opinions on the matter later. 3. Not criticizing their identity or personality. This is by far the most important. What I mean by this is if she has a bad habit or behaviour discuss the consequences of that behaviour and explain how it is harmful to her. Let her know that both of you are on the same side and not fighting against each other. Saying that she is a bad woman or a terrible person will only force her into a corner and she will get defensive. This quickly escalates to a full-blown fight and the rest is history. I know because this has happened to me multiple times in the past Implementing these 3 strategies has helped me become more humble and approachable rather than appearing egotistical or arrogant.
This also applies to business as well. Generally, you would want to talk 30% of the time and ask 70% of the time while complimenting on things and overall telling a positive story or try to make your impressions in a positive way
3 is a lie. People are shitty to quiet guys all the time and what they send around hardly ever comes back around to them, and it’s always along the lines of shitting all over their personality.
"What I mean by this is if she has a bad habit or behaviour discuss the consequences of that behaviour and explain how it is harmful to her." isn't that pretty much the definition of criticism? maybe a better word would be "attacking," or "belittling." it sounds like you're okay with constructive criticism, and callously insulting her character is not constructive, so should be avoided. by the way, I believe men attack women in this way when they feel threatened. and by threatened, I mean when they suspect she doesn't want them or maybe wants other men. and compared to rejection or being cheated on, getting into a fight seems relatively benign. so there may be some sense in which men just make a calculation in these situations. and women aren't really doing much to disabuse men of this notion. I've found that women aren't very receptive to constructive criticism anyway. saying "we're on the same side and I'm just trying to help you overcome a bad habit" risks coming across as pedantic and condescending. I actually think that strategy works better if you're a woman, speaking to a man. men will generally be more receptive to a woman's criticism if she approaches it from the angle of "I'm trying to improve our relationship." since when men hear criticism from a woman, they typically fear that she is not trying to improve the relationship, but instead is explaining why she's going to reject them, either now or some time in the future. this strategy accords well with a woman's feminine nature. it's less direct. it's more gentle and nurturing. it doesn't come across as demanding or commanding. and it's softening the blow with reassurance that she wants the relationship to continue. I think men would be better served by a more direct strategy that comes across as mature and authoritative. a man should set his boundaries in as dispassionate a tone as possible. rather than trying to hurt her feelings by insulting her, he should simply tell her what he expects from a woman in as few words as possible, let it sit for a moment, then get up and invite her to come do something else with him (like go somewhere, watch a movie, etc.). I could elaborate if anyone's interested, there's plenty of details to be considered, but the basic gist of it is to set clear boundaries without coming across as insecure. you're just establishing the rules of the game, as is your right as a man. you just need to get in the right mindset. a lot of men have difficulty exercising authority as they've been so beaten down by modern western culture. they're always worried if they're going too far, and when they do lift their head and step out of line, they whine about their feelings and come across as needy and insecure. we don't have a lot of healthy role models, as everyone is influenced by feminism and egalitarianism. and women are actively giving us horrible advice like "men should share their feelings more." that's one of the reasons I think everyone should study history, as much as possible. read Shakespeare. become familiar with how a man acted back when men were actually expected to behave like men and to treat women like men. chances are, you unfortunately can't look to your father or even your grandfather for good examples of this. they might have done many other things right in their relationships, but close to 100% of modern western men are embarrassingly lacking in authority. especially in this area of confidently and securely declaring their needs and boundaries. they tend to phrase everything in terms of how they feel, i.e. "when you do x it makes me feel y." I suppose we learn this communication style from women (for whom it's more effective). we're raised by women for most of our lives in public schools. but it falls on us to unlearn it ourselves.
I hear ya - INYOUALL! Great tips - by Courtney & Friend! I agree - with them… There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man working on his Purpose, his Passion, etc. And it drives some women crazy, because they see you dedicating all this time, and energy to something you’re passionate about - and they want a piece of it! They want to be on this journey with you, support you, because they can see the possibilities, the potential you may have - to turn your dreams into something special! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 I disagree with you on the reasons that women want to turn your dreams into something special. Because mostly they don't care, only pretend they do. { Don't get me wrong about pretending, thinking that they are lying, actually I don't mean that at all, I'm talking in a deeper level} It's the nature of women to find a potential mate, so they are programmed to look for a confident and strong male. You will inspire confidence in them because you have a clear purpose, and males who have goals tend to be strong and protective of those around them. The females are motivated and driven by their genetics to play out this scenario of they do care ,so that she can get you and be with you. Sorry for the hard truth
@@inyouall I'm wondering where you get your information.. it sounds interesting, I'm trying to figure out what actually attracts women to men even before we speak to them, like when a girl walk by and we guys got instantly attracted to them .. every advice I seen, they actually telling you how to attract women wen you're actually already interacting to them, but what about attracting them even before speaking to them
When it comes to the "Take Risks/Heroic Risks" section it feels like that article dealt with only the VERY surface level of that area. I've been a paramedic for almost 12 years now. I know and work with many firefighters and police officers many of whom are also military vets. From an outside perspective it may seem like professions like that are very brave and heroic and the media plays that up well. However, there is a HUGE caveat to this, and it's summed up with a great saying I heard once. "Everyone wants to be a hero until they find out what it takes to be a hero." Like I said, I'm a paramedic. As an example, there have been times I've responded to an emergency call where someone's heart has stopped. We did CPR, gave medications, shocked their heart just like you see on TV and the patient's heart started again and we rushed them to the hospital and "saved the day." However, for every time that happens, there are probably ten times when we did the same thing, and we didn't save the life and instead had to tell a patient's family there was nothing we could do and their loved one died. Other times I've arrived on scene, and it was obvious there was nothing I could do. It's a huge mental burden many of us who are First Responders face. On average I've seen a divorce a year among my co-workers and a lot of it was due to the stress of the job. So, sure in an article like that a profession like a police officer, firefighter, paramedic, or someone in the military seems great, but there's a lot that comes with it so, be prepared.
I was studying to be an EMT and the reason I didn't continue was because of this, I wasn't aware or ready like my paramedic teacher was describing how mentally stressful this job could be.
Fewer and fewer people view government workers as any sort of "hero." And they're not "first" responders. Guy walks into a liquor store, stabs the owner and leaves with the money. The first responder grabs his chest and falls. The second responder rushes over and puts pressure on the wound. He shouts to the third responder to call 911. The 4th responder picks up and says, "911, what's your emergency?" Twenty minutes later, the 5th responder shows up and claims to be the first responder. "First responder" is a government propaganda term.
Hey Courtney, just saying what a breath of fresh air it is to see woman in this day acting, and speaking the way you and your friends have been on your channel. A big take away from me is how a lot of the advice can just be applied in so many places in peoples lives like work, self improvement, relationships outside of romance. I’ve watched a lot of the channel, and even though it’s geared towards single people who want to date, I’ve applied some of these things in my 8 year relationship and it’s been a ton of fun.
Brooding - like that Seinfeld episode where George wanted to impress a girl but was panicked about going solo, so asked Jerry to double date with him, BUT, he did not want Jerry to be "funnier than him". So he persuaded Jerry to not be funny, and it came off as "brooding"... and George's date was drawn to that, lol.
I think what was meant by the whole "being awkward" thing is that IF a guy feels a little awkward (which is natural), he can use that to his advantage by playing it off in a cute, silly, or charming way. That's my interpretation. In other words, not PRETENDING to be 100% confident when you're not. Showing that you are human and having a playful side. But hey, I'm single so I might be full of crap!
I really enjoy this channel and the way you're bringing my confidence up! there are a lot of expectations as a man and hearing that just being your geeky self is attractive is really reinsuring!
I have only had two dates over the last two years. It is so depressing to get constantly rejected and/or ghosted. I'm okay with being rejected on an individual basis, but the big picture of constant rejection is what really sucks.
I would say work on yourself to a point that the girls approach you and puts the ball in your court, where it belongs, and then you will have the chance to reject those you find subpar or unworthy, and can then invite those out that you definitely want to have around you
There can be things you can improve on like your mindset or confidence. What we don't see is the behind the scenes before people make it. Try, fail and learn bro. Rejection is part of it. Find place where you can find people who has same hobbies like you. Example, you like to read books, hang out on the library and find a girl to talk to there and maybe it starts there.
#01. Geek out about his passion #02. Wear Red #03. Be a Good Friend to his Buddies #04. Act a Little Awkward #05. Roll Up their Sleeves to their Forearms #06. Cook #07. Sweat #08. Wear a t-shirt #09. Talk with a sleepy voice #10. Take (heroic) risks #11. Brood #12. Keep on the uniform #13. Embrace their greys
1) not really. sometimes though 2)never 3) i guess? 4) yes 5) yes 6) yes 7) yes 8) yes 9) yes 10) try to 11) yes 12) huh? 13) i have been told my greys make women swoon. cannot confirm
I've got the awkward down and I'm definitely confident in the fact I'm a bit awkward now feels much better definitely embrace your awkward for yourself more than anyone else honestly
Wow. Another video with Hallee! I like her. You were really busy on that day with her! One little tip: you have the tendency to talk over other people (not sure if that expression exists in english). Like in the street- interviews: let the people finish talking
The thing is there's confidence in some forms of awkwardness. A woman I knew fell for her husband at first sight walking into church choir practice once and seeing him singing so badly but without reservation. She always found it endearing, and when he passed away, how badly he sang is what she always brings up every time she mentions him with a loving smile. As for the red thing, as a guy I've never understood it but that might be because of my personality and temperment. For me it's a colour very low on what I like seeing women wear. Blue, black, and especially white are at the top for me. White especially given how it accentuates dark/tanned skin and emphasizes the pallidness of pale women. There's also it's associations with purity and decency which stand in contrast to what red is symbolic of and a preference for black and white is often indicative of orderliness (sometimes to the point of OCD as many with it like things literally black and white in their house) and stringentcy which I personally find attractive in women.
I think the wearing of red could be associated with guys who tend to be more bold, and the confidence to wear colors that stand out and women find that attractive. And the being awkward one is more that it’s okay to have awkward moments. If you are being you’re genuine self women will sense that and feel safer around you.
I have a very red woolen top, I'm just colourblind and don't attach much meaning to any colours so just ware whatever I like and don't think about it too much. :)
I was wondering if you could do a video for us mid thirties + dudes who are recently back on the market. I haven't been single my entire adult life. Dating was very different back in high school. Now that I'm raising a daughter on my own, I'm not really certain how to proceed. Would very much like to hear your take on this and similar situations. Thanks
I second this. On the one hand being the single dad with a daughter I meet more fun and cool women than I ever did in my younger days. But it’s because I’m the one taking the kids to things moms usually handle, so they’re almost all married lol.
Hallee loved Courtney's original joke about showing up to a date sweaty, she applied it to the rest of the list of secret things that men do that women actually find attractive. She's so cute!!
Took your advice on the grey hair and beard from another video and I will confirm that it has been a game changer. I'm embarrassed to look back at my "Just for Men" days. Also let guys know that a little Minoxidil at the first sign of thinning is a god send.
3:03 - "I know that men are really into women who wear red. Like a girl in a red dress...hypnotizing!" I think that's a generational thing, going back to the 1930's & 1940's when women commonly wore red to at elegant parties, upscale bars, and when they went dancing (and they had nicknames like "dame"). Does it still catch men's attention today? Absolutely but I'm not sure it's a current trend. Me personally, wearing bright red tells me she's trying too hard (unless she's cosplaying Jessica Rabbit). What's hypnotizing for me is if she's wearing white (white shirt, white dress, or especially white pants as I love legs).
I like the kindness, totally agree. But some women see kindness as a weakness. Never understood why. Some women rather get treated like dirt, weird of them.
Well that is because women only think of men as either nice Guys or bad Boys, they forget that there is the in-between characteristic which is good Men. That's just like the mindset that there are only victims and oppressors, when there are also victors in between the two ends
If a guy gives off feminine vibes already or is a simp, it comes off as needy and a turn off. If the guy is masculine and shows his tender side, that’s a sexy combination and an instant turn on. IMO
@@Nah-ah You're correct, simp vibes are not masculine vibes with a little touch of kindness. No one likes the "nice" guy. The "nice" guy get's trampled on in life, whereas the masculine man chooses when to be kind and when to be agressive in life.
Courtney, I didn't realize you were from Cleveland too! I'm a guy in my 30s with a red V-neck sweater, pretty much the same shade as the guy in the picture with the tank top. I bought it this past winter from Peter's Store for Men in Chagrin Falls and I often wear it with dress pants plus dress shirt, or t-shirt and jeans with my leather jacket as a casual outfit. I feel like it's a good look for me.
I definitely clean and keep my place tidy, and I have a pet that I believe I take good care of, but I'm not much of a cook. However, I'd help my significant other with the cooking and I'd hope I can retain the things I've learned while helping.
Hey Courtney i have a question. How many times should i initiate a conversation with the same girl until she starts doing it? Is there a limit? Or should i give up if i always have to initiate ?
I would move it on, if she isn't reaching out to you and she doesn't have the same desire, move on because she would want to communicate with you as much as possible if not spend time with you alone as much as possible, if she saw you as #1. Women are spoiled for choice and the majority don't make good decisions and end up settling after their reproductivity drops dramatically. Her attention is elsewhere and she might just be using you as I text-buddy; Courtney did bring this up in a past video
CLARIFICATION: Simple version: "Men need to do enough to not look bad. Women need to do enough to look good. Men shouldn't transgress into the female display of 'extra' in pursuit of attention. Instead they should do enough to avoid 'exclusion'. This is relatively simple physics, demonstrated by biology, expressed in behavior as attraction.:
@@crochunter35 You're wrong of course. But then you're just reacting to a painful truth in order to preserve your magical thinking, which means you're high in neuroticism.
Great advice. Thanks. Female friends, who would often get fooled by smooth-talking men, would ask how can they know what a man is really like. I would tell them that men can always put on a show for someone they're attracted to. Look instead at how he treats other men (or wait staff, etc). This speaks volumes about his character, because that's how he will treat you after the initial attraction wears off. Also, the old adage applies: "You can tell a lot about a person's character by what they laugh at."
I'll admit. I'm one to brood more so than show too much emotion and such. It is something that I got used to when I was in the US Air Force for 21 years. For instance, anytime there was a photo taken of me I was not smiling, yet not unhappy. It's look of focus, sincerity and structure. I find myself most of the time practicing stoicism like that instead of exhibiting much emotion. Not to be boring or mundane, yet to be trusted.
Like your site and your comments. I try to keep up with what's happening in the world out there. Have been taking care of my one and only, but she died recently. Am now want to be able to communicate with my grandchildren. Keep up the good work. Fred
Well none of this matters when you're with someone from 16 years old up married 20 years 3 kids and she decides she no longer wants to be a mom and a wife walks out on me 2 daughters and a son.I don't think Women get how many of us guys out here are just damaged and have no idea how to ever trust anyone again it's 3 years later for me and I am still lost.Be honest don't know if I want to ever trust a woman again.I am one of those freaks thats been with one person my entire life until 42 now just the word dating scares hell out of me. No idea why I typed all that 🤦🤦
I’ve had a hard time finding red shirts for men. I believe that it isn’t commonly made unless it’s a sports team. I bought every color of a shirt I like and they discontinued red.
The shoulders are true I am blessed to be a large man broad shoulders narrow waist 5’10 not real tall plus I started hitting the gym and cut weight shaved the beard and cut my hair and women watch me all the time I agree with these ladies confidence is a must I think that made a big difference too
I have to agree with the color red. I'm not sure if this pertains to every man but in my case it does. I'm 58 years old and can tell you that in the past month alone I've had several women comment to me. The compliments were all from women I knew but were not trying to pick up. It wasa noticeanle point that they noticed enough to tell me.
Pro Tip: Do fun surprises when it is NOT a birthday or holiday. When I was married and working at Fedex, I went on an average Tuesday and bought a few dozen roses with a gorgeous vase from a wholesale florist then delivered directly to my other half as a Fedex package (telling everyone in the office I had to have her direct signature of course). Even for a Colombian lady where flowers are never expensive, I had fun making her day.
@@Kris_P._Bey_Ken It was the same wife at the time that I am referring to in this passage ("other half" always refers to the serious relationship; taken in context, it is obvious I was not referring to your implied side relationship).
16:43- I think (brude) is referring to when a man doesn't show emotion. Happiness, or sadness. Women tend to be more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear or portray mystery as some say.
"Brood" as used in regular speech means "to ponder or obsess over anxiously or gloomily." It's actually a slang usage; the pre-20th century meaning is "to sit on and incubate" and referred specifically to birds that lay eggs and sit on them until they hatch. In other words it specifically _does_ involve emotion, and the emotions tend to be sadness, fussiness, and mopiness. I'm not sure why women would find any of that attractive though.
I love these video with the duo of both of you. It's so insightful and interesting. Watching your videos are so refreshing. You guys are killing it. Great job guys! Love form India.
I wear red on RED Fridays, which is every Friday. Red makes you hungry, and red also seems alarming. Purple is the color of royalty so wear purple to attract women unto your status. Save red for Fridays
Some things i tried and noticed what women see as attractive Placing a hand just above her knee at the bar Steering car with one hand placing elbow on car window Wrapping your arm around her waist in crowd Softly gazing her in eyes randomly while talking Rolling up cuffs of shirt Gardening or doing household activity or maintainence
On the awkwardness, indeed dont fake it. If something awkward happens, make a light joke to play it off. OWN UP to the awkwardness, show that you dont mind that emotion. That shows confidence and comfortness in your own body. Turn the awkward moment into something light hearted, its great to break the ice
Thanks to both of you for all the tips. There were a number of things I hoped women would find attractive that have now been confirmed (like the "salt and pepper").
About the sweat thing...The attractiveness of a males sweat is based on the genetic diversity between the man and woman. It's one of those engrained biological systems which works behind the scenes. Having enough genetic diversity/variation between the man and woman, ensures a much higher probability of healthy offspring. My last long term girlfriend, she said my sweat didn't smell like sweat typically would, and she actually enjoyed it more than if I would mask it with deodorant. I also was never bothered by her sweat scent, and actually enjoyed it. Although not my longest long term relationship, it was the best overall. So that whole sweat smelling good idea, likely played some role in our attraction to eachother.
Hallee's smile is unreal - makes me want to smile back. Except now I know I have to "brood" haha. Love the mixture in this video of "yeah that's hot" and those other ones where you're both like "umm...not sure about that one." I appreciate that you highlight how what is really important to attracting a woman is to be passionate about your life and make her feel safe. Plus have great forearms ;-)
In regarding red.. I wore a bright orange shirt once on a date. She told me a few weeks later it really impressed her because she had never seen anyone wear orange before. I think it basically comes down to being confident enough to peacock a bit.
Great tips! I agree… There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man working on his Purpose, his Passion, etc. And it drives some women crazy, because they see you dedicating all this time, and energy to something you’re passionate about - and they want a piece of it! They want to be on this journey with you, support you, because they can see the possibilities, the potential you may have - to turn your dreams into something special! Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I will vouch the mysteriousness and attractiveness while wearing sunglasses because just like every other Sunday I've walked the trail and encountered girls jogging or walking or riding a bike, they tend to smile and say hi first when I have my sunglasses on and they get a little bit awkward when I'm not wearing my sunglasses, like looking at the ground, or blushing, or waving with their mouths half open 🤣 It's ok. Doesn't bother me either way.
I just want to give an example of being akward noticably going in my favor when talking to a girl I liked: We were pretty good friends and frequently conversed and laughed together at work. Late during an overnight event I asked her if she missed me since the last time we worked together. She answered "only a lot." I realized we had been flirting all night and I had been naturally confident until that moment that when i decided to ask her on a date. Earlier she mentioned her birthday coming up on the 10th so I tried to say, "you have to celebrate your birthday with your family on the 10th. Does that mean on the 11th you'll be free to go on our first date?" But instead I stumbled and studdered over every word and nothing intelligible came out. I was embarrassed but I saw her smiling and blushing and starting to sweat profusely and i realized that she was flattered that she could make me forget how to speak
I get what the writer meant by being awkward, but they just didn't word it in the best way. Basically, we all have weird or quirky things about ourselves that people might find endearing, so it's best to own whatever it is because the woman might find it attractive. I do random voice impersonations around women I like and while it's weird I do get a solid reaction from them, so I guess that's what the article means.
Someone who broods, often is not feeling like he is wondering how he can improve his life. And that is good, simply because he is still wanting to learn. The attitude of learning and the attitude of gratitude are 2 of the best things anyone can possess to be attractive and keep you on the road to future happiness. At least that is my observation...
1:00 - "I love when a guy does something, I don´t even care what it is" That´s great to know she´s not really interested when you show her your passion/hobby
I think with the controversial topic of awkwardness, it requires nuance. Awkwardness in an appropriate setting, like a first date, is usually a given to a certain extent. Being able to admit that you like a person and that you're trying to put forth your best effort in hopes that they like you too... it plays into honesty and vulnerability which also displays an attractive form of bravery and security in the truth of who you are/how you feel. Of course, like these ladies said, that only applies if it actually is the truth of how you feel. Awkwardness in inappropriate forms (like making absurd comments, flailing around, stumbling over your words, sweating bullets like you're terrified of her) like you just have no idea how to behave in social settings and are constantly uncomfortable..... probably wouldn't make her feel secure that she can bring you around her friends or family for fear that you'll be embarrassed/embarrassing.. that's not very attractive. Women want to feel safe. An appropriate amount of awkwardness and vulnerability can be endearing and make us feel safe from you. Like you won't hurt us. But if we sense that you are extremely insecure, we don't feel safe with the concept of you as a potential partner. Like you can't protect us.
I know people will always say to never compare ourselves to others or don't worry what another person doesn't have to do or deal with, I get it but I get very annoyed and irritated when people say that women need skills to attract a guy or women need to know or learn how to attract a guy. I get annoyed and irritated when people and society say things like that because it never makes sense for me since women can just sit back and let it all happen to them, if you get what I'm saying
Off-topic but could really do with some tips on WHEN to ask a girl out because I seem to get it wrong. I'm not deluded, I only ask if I feel the rapport and interest is there and a good amount of decent messaging (eg. Medium-long texts from both parties)... And then I go to ask and 👻. Silence. Not an unmatch but just no reply after what seemed to be going well. Losing patience in dating apps, that's for sure!
9:30 Roman women used gladiator sweat as an aphrodisiac, so there's something to the sweat thing that isn't new. I just never knew 'why' it worked and thought it was a weird quirk of antiquity
2:30 you can say no all you want but red...as a general, doesnt matter men women... work on the subconscious and will be found attractive, the boldness is part of it but not like...everything red.... something red , also makes food look tastier , skin association with health, anyway...its very primal so no all you want it works and it works both ways
Good content as always. One tip: the microphone on Haley seems a bit high. Some of her responses are really loud on the first word if she raises her voice even slightly
Wardrobe wise, I personally don't wear red most of the time. Although I keep red clothing, but more on the darker shades (Burgundy, Crimson and Vermilion). Regardless, it's never always about the clothing and about looking good. It's about character. As I quote from Kingsman: "Manners Maketh Man"... Relatively new subscriber here. I'm already married, but your videos still have a positive impact on my marriage and friendships. Keep inspiring! God bless. P.S. I'm still rocking the "Salt and Pepper"... 😁
Talking about switching between American and British accents, i grew up in Tennessee but when i moved to the UK noone understood me. long story short, i now have two accents: a nerdy British accent that all non-brits notice is fake. and a deep, high-clarity Tennessee accent that everyone seems to prefer. question is, do i allow the American one to come back in full, and ignore everyone who makes fun of it?
As far as wearing red goes, its more like wearing for example red shirt with a navy blue suilt or "gangster style" suilt. Or red tie with white shirt and black suilt. Not wearing at the same time red pants, red shirt, red jacket. That would make you look creepy. Also stop behaving like its entire world fault for something that happened to you, it shows that you have some insecurity. Also being rude to restaurant staff will get you only free saliva and mucus in your order, as a revenge.
On a completely unrelated note to this video, I trained the forearms pretty hard today at the gym. Don't know why I was suddenly motivated to train them more than usual
I'm too self-conscious about wearing red since that article came out. I'm afraid if I wear red, like to work or something, people are going to say, "Look at Sam over there, wearing red. He's trying to find a girlfriend."
Not saying it’s a bad advice but I think you should wear colours you like. I’m not gonna wear red because girls like that, Red is probably one of the last colours I’d wear, most men I know wear dark colours and don’t get no problem with women.
Question...You said in the beginning that a man that is passionate about something is attractive or sexy. What if he is passionate about you? Studying what you like or dislike like to learn about you your past what you like to do or not do he pays attention or is attentive he wants to make her happy give gifts show that the girl is important to him by spending time with her . But then he might come across as clingy or obsessed with you. Some people use the word "Simp". So it is confusing to say it is sexy for a man to be passionate about something and then when he is passionate about you and showing that you are the most important thing to him that is big turn off. Or maybe passionate is one thing, and obsessed with something is different thing. Or what if he is so passionate about something that is leaves no time to spend with you because he is of doing the thing is is passionate about.... Like later you said taking unneeded risk was a red flag...what if he is passionate about sky diving or bungie jumping or base jumping, or climbing or repelling? If he is passionate about that and does it often it is a big red flag. So it is hard to be passionate about something and not passionate about it at the same time.
Big fan of cooking with my girlfriend, it's so much fun to do together. If she's making the main dish, I'll set the table and make sides. Most of the time we work on the whole thing together, but it's great to help build healthy communication in a relationship, and even as a form of foreplay. Learn to cook, folks!
Scents get men laid? Nah. Masculine energy with a fun&funny smiles works all the time! Plus, I've been wearing short shorts before it came back into acceptance, and, besides forearms, visible strong legs&glutes incite much power and masculinity
I guess earned sweat (not what hot summer days cause) does release a male pheromone ? Makes sense. I had an ex that once joked I smelled like a sizzling steak then called me beef cake from then on.
Brooding is a bit more abstract than something like showing forearms. It's more about a person's attitude and vibe, things you can feel. I think it's a bit of a silly term, but I also secretly love it as well haha. For an example look up Jon Snow brooding gif. It's basically thinking, stoicism, and the appearance of masculinity rolled into one. You can brood in any gender.
I swear that someone probably read (or skimmed) this article and showed up to a date drenched in sweat, wearing a red tshirt, just got off a sky diving trip, and their first line was “how are ya mate” in a sleepy voice
HAHAHAHA
Or with a red shirt with rolled sleeves
@@justsomerandomguy793 How did you know???
Pretty sure you just described most New Zealand men! 😏
Lolllllll
A man who knows who he is. He doesn't change for anyone to please someone else and if they don't except who he is it doesn't bother him. As long as he doesn't go around hurting other people this that's what I love. Makes him emotional strong.
He builds his own character, his own kingdom, his own economy, and he minds his own business. Yes.
Yeah.. she said I don't really care what it is, as long as he's passionate about it..? really? what if he's really passionate about underage girls? What if he's a star on Chris Hansen's "To Catch a Predator?" I'm an IT analyst and catch these details all the time. Should probably be a bit more aware of what of what is said. Just sayin'
@@salromano8871 u r so right...creepy
The things that make other people attractive in a conversation,
1. Using genuine and deep compliments, something that goes beyond their appearance or anything superficial. The way they talk, the way they smile and their job are some good examples.
2. Actively listen to what they have to say think about it and then share your thoughts and opinions on the matter later.
3. Not criticizing their identity or personality. This is by far the most important.
What I mean by this is if she has a bad habit or behaviour discuss the consequences of that behaviour and explain how it is harmful to her. Let her know that both of you are on the same side and not fighting against each other. Saying that she is a bad woman or a terrible person will only force her into a corner and she will get defensive. This quickly escalates to a full-blown fight and the rest is history.
I know because this has happened to me multiple times in the past
Implementing these 3 strategies has helped me become more humble and approachable rather than appearing egotistical or arrogant.
Relating to each other, helpping each other :)
great advice
This also applies to business as well. Generally, you would want to talk 30% of the time and ask 70% of the time while complimenting on things and overall telling a positive story or try to make your impressions in a positive way
3 is a lie. People are shitty to quiet guys all the time and what they send around hardly ever comes back around to them, and it’s always along the lines of shitting all over their personality.
"What I mean by this is if she has a bad habit or behaviour discuss the consequences of that behaviour and explain how it is harmful to her." isn't that pretty much the definition of criticism? maybe a better word would be "attacking," or "belittling." it sounds like you're okay with constructive criticism, and callously insulting her character is not constructive, so should be avoided. by the way, I believe men attack women in this way when they feel threatened. and by threatened, I mean when they suspect she doesn't want them or maybe wants other men. and compared to rejection or being cheated on, getting into a fight seems relatively benign. so there may be some sense in which men just make a calculation in these situations. and women aren't really doing much to disabuse men of this notion. I've found that women aren't very receptive to constructive criticism anyway. saying "we're on the same side and I'm just trying to help you overcome a bad habit" risks coming across as pedantic and condescending.
I actually think that strategy works better if you're a woman, speaking to a man. men will generally be more receptive to a woman's criticism if she approaches it from the angle of "I'm trying to improve our relationship." since when men hear criticism from a woman, they typically fear that she is not trying to improve the relationship, but instead is explaining why she's going to reject them, either now or some time in the future. this strategy accords well with a woman's feminine nature. it's less direct. it's more gentle and nurturing. it doesn't come across as demanding or commanding. and it's softening the blow with reassurance that she wants the relationship to continue.
I think men would be better served by a more direct strategy that comes across as mature and authoritative. a man should set his boundaries in as dispassionate a tone as possible. rather than trying to hurt her feelings by insulting her, he should simply tell her what he expects from a woman in as few words as possible, let it sit for a moment, then get up and invite her to come do something else with him (like go somewhere, watch a movie, etc.). I could elaborate if anyone's interested, there's plenty of details to be considered, but the basic gist of it is to set clear boundaries without coming across as insecure. you're just establishing the rules of the game, as is your right as a man.
you just need to get in the right mindset. a lot of men have difficulty exercising authority as they've been so beaten down by modern western culture. they're always worried if they're going too far, and when they do lift their head and step out of line, they whine about their feelings and come across as needy and insecure. we don't have a lot of healthy role models, as everyone is influenced by feminism and egalitarianism. and women are actively giving us horrible advice like "men should share their feelings more." that's one of the reasons I think everyone should study history, as much as possible. read Shakespeare. become familiar with how a man acted back when men were actually expected to behave like men and to treat women like men.
chances are, you unfortunately can't look to your father or even your grandfather for good examples of this. they might have done many other things right in their relationships, but close to 100% of modern western men are embarrassingly lacking in authority. especially in this area of confidently and securely declaring their needs and boundaries. they tend to phrase everything in terms of how they feel, i.e. "when you do x it makes me feel y." I suppose we learn this communication style from women (for whom it's more effective). we're raised by women for most of our lives in public schools. but it falls on us to unlearn it ourselves.
4:05 That um was perfectly in sync
😂that's the beauty in comments different perspectives
*A TIP* : Everyone is different and what works for one person or couple may not work out for the next
Absolutely!
I hear ya - INYOUALL! Great tips - by Courtney & Friend!
I agree - with them… There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man working on his Purpose, his Passion, etc.
And it drives some women crazy, because they see you dedicating all this time, and energy to something you’re passionate about - and they want a piece of it!
They want to be on this journey with you, support you, because they can see the possibilities, the potential you may have - to turn your dreams into something special!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001
I disagree with you on the reasons that women want to turn your dreams into something special. Because mostly they don't care, only pretend they do. { Don't get me wrong about pretending, thinking that they are lying, actually I don't mean that at all, I'm talking in a deeper level}
It's the nature of women to find a potential mate, so they are programmed to look for a confident and strong male. You will inspire confidence in them because you have a clear purpose, and males who have goals tend to be strong and protective of those around them. The females are motivated and driven by their genetics to play out this scenario of they do care ,so that she can get you and be with you.
Sorry for the hard truth
@@inyouall I'm wondering where you get your information.. it sounds interesting, I'm trying to figure out what actually attracts women to men even before we speak to them, like when a girl walk by and we guys got instantly attracted to them .. every advice I seen, they actually telling you how to attract women wen you're actually already interacting to them, but what about attracting them even before speaking to them
@@armandosanchez8329 Do You Masturbate? It sound a silly question isn't. But from there we can continue talking...
When it comes to the "Take Risks/Heroic Risks" section it feels like that article dealt with only the VERY surface level of that area. I've been a paramedic for almost 12 years now. I know and work with many firefighters and police officers many of whom are also military vets. From an outside perspective it may seem like professions like that are very brave and heroic and the media plays that up well. However, there is a HUGE caveat to this, and it's summed up with a great saying I heard once. "Everyone wants to be a hero until they find out what it takes to be a hero." Like I said, I'm a paramedic. As an example, there have been times I've responded to an emergency call where someone's heart has stopped. We did CPR, gave medications, shocked their heart just like you see on TV and the patient's heart started again and we rushed them to the hospital and "saved the day." However, for every time that happens, there are probably ten times when we did the same thing, and we didn't save the life and instead had to tell a patient's family there was nothing we could do and their loved one died. Other times I've arrived on scene, and it was obvious there was nothing I could do. It's a huge mental burden many of us who are First Responders face. On average I've seen a divorce a year among my co-workers and a lot of it was due to the stress of the job. So, sure in an article like that a profession like a police officer, firefighter, paramedic, or someone in the military seems great, but there's a lot that comes with it so, be prepared.
None of this should be relevant to this this videos title. Smh.
Law enforcement has a pretty high divorce rate.
I was studying to be an EMT and the reason I didn't continue was because of this, I wasn't aware or ready like my paramedic teacher was describing how mentally stressful this job could be.
Too long-winded.
Fewer and fewer people view government workers as any sort of "hero." And they're not "first" responders. Guy walks into a liquor store, stabs the owner and leaves with the money. The first responder grabs his chest and falls. The second responder rushes over and puts pressure on the wound. He shouts to the third responder to call 911. The 4th responder picks up and says, "911, what's your emergency?" Twenty minutes later, the 5th responder shows up and claims to be the first responder. "First responder" is a government propaganda term.
Red is for fall/winter and yes it works. I have a cheap, red thermal shirt that hits every time.
Hey Courtney, just saying what a breath of fresh air it is to see woman in this day acting, and speaking the way you and your friends have been on your channel. A big take away from me is how a lot of the advice can just be applied in so many places in peoples lives like work, self improvement, relationships outside of romance. I’ve watched a lot of the channel, and even though it’s geared towards single people who want to date, I’ve applied some of these things in my 8 year relationship and it’s been a ton of fun.
"They can keep something alive so that's reassuring" love that quote
It's a start.
Yeah I laughed at that one, too.
Brooding - like that Seinfeld episode where George wanted to impress a girl but was panicked about going solo, so asked Jerry to double date with him, BUT, he did not want Jerry to be "funnier than him". So he persuaded Jerry to not be funny, and it came off as "brooding"... and George's date was drawn to that, lol.
Thanks!
I think what was meant by the whole "being awkward" thing is that IF a guy feels a little awkward (which is natural), he can use that to his advantage by playing it off in a cute, silly, or charming way. That's my interpretation. In other words, not PRETENDING to be 100% confident when you're not. Showing that you are human and having a playful side. But hey, I'm single so I might be full of crap!
It really depends on the woman. It sometimes works for me, but I think not with a Russian I dated recently - I think she just saw it as weakness.
great point!
@@Introvertedalpha Thank you!
Think more Jennifer Lawrence (delightfully awkward) & less Kristen Stewart (cringey, socially inept awkward)
I really enjoy this channel and the way you're bringing my confidence up! there are a lot of expectations as a man and hearing that just being your geeky self is attractive is really reinsuring!
I have only had two dates over the last two years. It is so depressing to get constantly rejected and/or ghosted. I'm okay with being rejected on an individual basis, but the big picture of constant rejection is what really sucks.
“If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate.” -Thomas Watson Jr. (President of IBM)
I would say work on yourself to a point that the girls approach you and puts the ball in your court, where it belongs, and then you will have the chance to reject those you find subpar or unworthy, and can then invite those out that you definitely want to have around you
You can take some comfort in that you have lots of company.
Work on yourself man and get your mental game up rejection is apart of life for everyone can’t let that get you depressed
There can be things you can improve on like your mindset or confidence. What we don't see is the behind the scenes before people make it. Try, fail and learn bro. Rejection is part of it. Find place where you can find people who has same hobbies like you. Example, you like to read books, hang out on the library and find a girl to talk to there and maybe it starts there.
#01. Geek out about his passion
#02. Wear Red
#03. Be a Good Friend to his Buddies
#04. Act a Little Awkward
#05. Roll Up their Sleeves to their Forearms
#06. Cook
#07. Sweat
#08. Wear a t-shirt
#09. Talk with a sleepy voice
#10. Take (heroic) risks
#11. Brood
#12. Keep on the uniform
#13. Embrace their greys
1) not really. sometimes though 2)never 3) i guess? 4) yes 5) yes 6) yes 7) yes 8) yes 9) yes 10) try to 11) yes 12) huh? 13) i have been told my greys make women swoon. cannot confirm
I've got the awkward down and I'm definitely confident in the fact I'm a bit awkward now feels much better definitely embrace your awkward for yourself more than anyone else honestly
Big ups Hallee, always great to see her
She’s the best!
Definitely in my top 5 all-time most wholesome smiles.
What a woman.
@@BradAaronTaylor both of their smiles are beautiful.
Classic "girl next door..." Cute brown dough eyes, high cheek bones, nice smile but smart and down to earth demeanor.
Wow. Another video with Hallee! I like her. You were really busy on that day with her!
One little tip: you have the tendency to talk over other people (not sure if that expression exists in english). Like in the street- interviews: let the people finish talking
The thing is there's confidence in some forms of awkwardness. A woman I knew fell for her husband at first sight walking into church choir practice once and seeing him singing so badly but without reservation. She always found it endearing, and when he passed away, how badly he sang is what she always brings up every time she mentions him with a loving smile.
As for the red thing, as a guy I've never understood it but that might be because of my personality and temperment. For me it's a colour very low on what I like seeing women wear. Blue, black, and especially white are at the top for me. White especially given how it accentuates dark/tanned skin and emphasizes the pallidness of pale women. There's also it's associations with purity and decency which stand in contrast to what red is symbolic of and a preference for black and white is often indicative of orderliness (sometimes to the point of OCD as many with it like things literally black and white in their house) and stringentcy which I personally find attractive in women.
I think the wearing of red could be associated with guys who tend to be more bold, and the confidence to wear colors that stand out and women find that attractive.
And the being awkward one is more that it’s okay to have awkward moments. If you are being you’re genuine self women will sense that and feel safer around you.
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I have a very red woolen top, I'm just colourblind and don't attach much meaning to any colours so just ware whatever I like and don't think about it too much. :)
I also like red but I can’t not think I look like a target employee. Nothing wrong with target, but doesn’t say powerful or dangerous.
@@Tim_G_Bennett That is actually un-attractive to women. You should do an effort, not for her -but for yourself..
@@andersnielsen6044 This right here. Upvoted. Do what you need to do for yourself and see how things go.
Courtney Ryan you're the reason why I have someone always listening to you thank you 😊 thumbs up
I was wondering if you could do a video for us mid thirties + dudes who are recently back on the market. I haven't been single my entire adult life. Dating was very different back in high school. Now that I'm raising a daughter on my own, I'm not really certain how to proceed. Would very much like to hear your take on this and similar situations. Thanks
I second this. On the one hand being the single dad with a daughter I meet more fun and cool women than I ever did in my younger days. But it’s because I’m the one taking the kids to things moms usually handle, so they’re almost all married lol.
Have you tried Tinder?
I've never received any feedback when wearing a red shirt (like a polo) but put on a pink shirt and the compliments flow.
Hallee loved Courtney's original joke about showing up to a date sweaty, she applied it to the rest of the list of secret things that men do that women actually find attractive. She's so cute!!
Thank you for the first part. That one told me that I have been dealing with low value women, I have many hobbies and interest
Took your advice on the grey hair and beard from another video and I will confirm that it has been a game changer. I'm embarrassed to look back at my "Just for Men" days.
Also let guys know that a little Minoxidil at the first sign of thinning is a god send.
My hair started turning grey when I was in my forties, I'm late sixties now.
It's natural your hair color will change as you age.
3:03 - "I know that men are really into women who wear red. Like a girl in a red dress...hypnotizing!"
I think that's a generational thing, going back to the 1930's & 1940's when women commonly wore red to at elegant parties, upscale bars, and when they went dancing (and they had nicknames like "dame"). Does it still catch men's attention today? Absolutely but I'm not sure it's a current trend. Me personally, wearing bright red tells me she's trying too hard (unless she's cosplaying Jessica Rabbit). What's hypnotizing for me is if she's wearing white (white shirt, white dress, or especially white pants as I love legs).
I like the kindness, totally agree. But some women see kindness as a weakness. Never understood why. Some women rather get treated like dirt, weird of them.
Well that is because women only think of men as either nice Guys or bad Boys, they forget that there is the in-between characteristic which is good Men. That's just like the mindset that there are only victims and oppressors, when there are also victors in between the two ends
Because there is a difference in kindness coming from a man vs. a simp
If a woman likes to get treated like dirt, leave. She’s messed up in the head. Don’t get involved with any such woman, ever.
If a guy gives off feminine vibes already or is a simp, it comes off as needy and a turn off. If the guy is masculine and shows his tender side, that’s a sexy combination and an instant turn on. IMO
@@Nah-ah You're correct, simp vibes are not masculine vibes with a little touch of kindness. No one likes the "nice" guy. The "nice" guy get's trampled on in life, whereas the masculine man chooses when to be kind and when to be agressive in life.
Courtney, I didn't realize you were from Cleveland too! I'm a guy in my 30s with a red V-neck sweater, pretty much the same shade as the guy in the picture with the tank top. I bought it this past winter from Peter's Store for Men in Chagrin Falls and I often wear it with dress pants plus dress shirt, or t-shirt and jeans with my leather jacket as a casual outfit. I feel like it's a good look for me.
Bro that one tip with a "sleepy voice" is so facts. Bro it goes both ways not just for women😏🤣
I definitely clean and keep my place tidy, and I have a pet that I believe I take good care of, but I'm not much of a cook. However, I'd help my significant other with the cooking and I'd hope I can retain the things I've learned while helping.
Hey Courtney i have a question. How many times should i initiate a conversation with the same girl until she starts doing it? Is there a limit? Or should i give up if i always have to initiate ?
I would move it on, if she isn't reaching out to you and she doesn't have the same desire, move on because she would want to communicate with you as much as possible if not spend time with you alone as much as possible, if she saw you as #1. Women are spoiled for choice and the majority don't make good decisions and end up settling after their reproductivity drops dramatically. Her attention is elsewhere and she might just be using you as I text-buddy; Courtney did bring this up in a past video
It depends on the girl. You should be getting effort in return though and it shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth trying to get her to talk!
If she's adding obstacles in front of you, move on.
That is a catch 22
CLARIFICATION: Simple version: "Men need to do enough to not look bad. Women need to do enough to look good. Men shouldn't transgress into the female display of 'extra' in pursuit of attention. Instead they should do enough to avoid 'exclusion'. This is relatively simple physics, demonstrated by biology, expressed in behavior as attraction.:
So I take it you're single with no prospects in sight.
@@crochunter35 You're wrong of course. But then you're just reacting to a painful truth in order to preserve your magical thinking, which means you're high in neuroticism.
Great advice. Thanks.
Female friends, who would often get fooled by smooth-talking men,
would ask how can they know what a man is really like. I would tell them that men can always put on a show for someone they're attracted to.
Look instead at how he treats other men (or wait staff, etc). This speaks volumes about his character, because that's how he will treat you after the initial attraction wears off. Also, the old adage applies:
"You can tell a lot about a person's character by what they laugh at."
I'm glad Hallie could help out with this video coming straight from volunteering in a preschool art class.
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I'll admit. I'm one to brood more so than show too much emotion and such. It is something that I got used to when I was in the US Air Force for 21 years. For instance, anytime there was a photo taken of me I was not smiling, yet not unhappy. It's look of focus, sincerity and structure. I find myself most of the time practicing stoicism like that instead of exhibiting much emotion. Not to be boring or mundane, yet to be trusted.
Like your site and your comments.
I try to keep up with what's happening in the world out there. Have been taking care of my one and only, but she died
recently. Am now want to be able to communicate with my grandchildren.
Keep up the good work.
Fred
Speaking of geeking out...
Congratulations on pi hundred thousand subscribers! Your content sure has gotten "around."
pi hundred?
@@crochunter35 314K is pi*100,000 (rounded as closely as TH-cam can do)
Well none of this matters when you're with someone from 16 years old up married 20 years 3 kids and she decides she no longer wants to be a mom and a wife walks out on me 2 daughters and a son.I don't think Women get how many of us guys out here are just damaged and have no idea how to ever trust anyone again it's 3 years later for me and I am still lost.Be honest don't know if I want to ever trust a woman again.I am one of those freaks thats been with one person my entire life until 42 now just the word dating scares hell out of me. No idea why I typed all that 🤦🤦
She’s right about the girls and red dresses, absolutely mesmerizing
I’ve had a hard time finding red shirts for men. I believe that it isn’t commonly made unless it’s a sports team. I bought every color of a shirt I like and they discontinued red.
They say having a pet makes you sexy, message received: get a tamagotchi pet 😉😜
"They can keep something alive so that's reassuring" 😬
The shoulders are true I am blessed to be a large man broad shoulders narrow waist 5’10 not real tall plus I started hitting the gym and cut weight shaved the beard and cut my hair and women watch me all the time I agree with these ladies confidence is a must I think that made a big difference too
"#2 is wear red.. aand.. that picture is TERRIFYING!"
the emotional arc! 🤣😂
Hahaha 😂
i like Hallee also and she could make own youtube videos. Courtney is good influence for all who watch her videos
There is never a time where u have too much knowledge
We always learn everyday
Appreciate you Courtney
👌💯 All ears
I have to agree with the color red. I'm not sure if this pertains to every man but in my case it does. I'm 58 years old and can tell you that in the past month alone I've had several women comment to me. The compliments were all from women I knew but were not trying to pick up. It wasa noticeanle point that they noticed enough to tell me.
Pro Tip: Do fun surprises when it is NOT a birthday or holiday. When I was married and working at Fedex, I went on an average Tuesday and bought a few dozen roses with a gorgeous vase from a wholesale florist then delivered directly to my other half as a Fedex package (telling everyone in the office I had to have her direct signature of course). Even for a Colombian lady where flowers are never expensive, I had fun making her day.
love this idea!
So you're divorced now? ("When I was married") you sent flowers to some Colombian lady? Was she your other half?🤔
@@Kris_P._Bey_Ken It was the same wife at the time that I am referring to in this passage ("other half" always refers to the serious relationship; taken in context, it is obvious I was not referring to your implied side relationship).
Batman broods a lot and he fits a lot of these. Now just get him a red suit with the sleeves rolled up and he would get all the ladies.
"I'm not wear hockey pads!"
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16:43- I think (brude) is referring to when a man doesn't show emotion. Happiness, or sadness. Women tend to be more attracted to men who's feelings are unclear or portray mystery as some say.
"Brood" as used in regular speech means "to ponder or obsess over anxiously or gloomily." It's actually a slang usage; the pre-20th century meaning is "to sit on and incubate" and referred specifically to birds that lay eggs and sit on them until they hatch. In other words it specifically _does_ involve emotion, and the emotions tend to be sadness, fussiness, and mopiness. I'm not sure why women would find any of that attractive though.
@@cisium1184 I don't know why they would find that attractive either. Too much of either would appear as a turnoff I would think.
I love these video with the duo of both of you. It's so insightful and interesting. Watching your videos are so refreshing. You guys are killing it. Great job guys! Love form India.
I wear red on RED Fridays, which is every Friday. Red makes you hungry, and red also seems alarming. Purple is the color of royalty so wear purple to attract women unto your status. Save red for Fridays
You are so entertaining I love watching your channel especially when you have your friend on
The awkward play is gold when used right.
Some things i tried and noticed what women see as attractive
Placing a hand just above her knee at the bar
Steering car with one hand placing elbow on car window
Wrapping your arm around her waist in crowd
Softly gazing her in eyes randomly while talking
Rolling up cuffs of shirt
Gardening or doing household activity or maintainence
This is so true!
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Courtney! These "reaction" videos are the BEST. Bring your girls back for more! 😃
Thanks 😊 I had so much fun 🤩 listening to both of you. Also you have so much great information that has helped me. I really appreciate it.
On the awkwardness, indeed dont fake it. If something awkward happens, make a light joke to play it off. OWN UP to the awkwardness, show that you dont mind that emotion. That shows confidence and comfortness in your own body. Turn the awkward moment into something light hearted, its great to break the ice
Thanks to both of you for all the tips. There were a number of things I hoped women would find attractive that have now been confirmed (like the "salt and pepper").
About the sweat thing...The attractiveness of a males sweat is based on the genetic diversity between the man and woman. It's one of those engrained biological systems which works behind the scenes. Having enough genetic diversity/variation between the man and woman, ensures a much higher probability of healthy offspring.
My last long term girlfriend, she said my sweat didn't smell like sweat typically would, and she actually enjoyed it more than if I would mask it with deodorant. I also was never bothered by her sweat scent, and actually enjoyed it. Although not my longest long term relationship, it was the best overall. So that whole sweat smelling good idea, likely played some role in our attraction to eachother.
Hallee's smile is unreal - makes me want to smile back. Except now I know I have to "brood" haha. Love the mixture in this video of "yeah that's hot" and those other ones where you're both like "umm...not sure about that one." I appreciate that you highlight how what is really important to attracting a woman is to be passionate about your life and make her feel safe. Plus have great forearms ;-)
Talking shit to them but in a clearly jokingly way and tone. Thats how they fall in love
Another great video! Do you think you can possibly do a video about what body parts women like the most(Rated G version :)
Hey Courtney, thank you so much for this amazing content, Wishing you lots of success and happiness for the Future😇 Keep growing, keep shining😊
Be sure to share this channel with your friends. Both genders can learn so much from TH-cam's favorite big sister
Writing down: “You can show interest in so many more ways than acting awkward.”
In regarding red.. I wore a bright orange shirt once on a date. She told me a few weeks later it really impressed her because she had never seen anyone wear orange before. I think it basically comes down to being confident enough to peacock a bit.
Great tips! I agree… There’s nothing more attractive to a woman than a man working on his Purpose, his Passion, etc.
And it drives some women crazy, because they see you dedicating all this time, and energy to something you’re passionate about - and they want a piece of it!
They want to be on this journey with you, support you, because they can see the possibilities, the potential you may have - to turn your dreams into something special!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
-Carlos Verde - Dating Tips
I will vouch the mysteriousness and attractiveness while wearing sunglasses because just like every other Sunday I've walked the trail and encountered girls jogging or walking or riding a bike, they tend to smile and say hi first when I have my sunglasses on and they get a little bit awkward when I'm not wearing my sunglasses, like looking at the ground, or blushing, or waving with their mouths half open 🤣 It's ok. Doesn't bother me either way.
Nonsense
Notification Gang, happy mothers day too!
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Hallee, Hallee, Hallle, whoo hoo
We love you too, Courtster, especially when you say hunter-gatherer. LOL.
I just want to give an example of being akward noticably going in my favor when talking to a girl I liked:
We were pretty good friends and frequently conversed and laughed together at work. Late during an overnight event I asked her if she missed me since the last time we worked together. She answered "only a lot." I realized we had been flirting all night and I had been naturally confident until that moment that when i decided to ask her on a date. Earlier she mentioned her birthday coming up on the 10th so I tried to say, "you have to celebrate your birthday with your family on the 10th. Does that mean on the 11th you'll be free to go on our first date?" But instead I stumbled and studdered over every word and nothing intelligible came out. I was embarrassed but I saw her smiling and blushing and starting to sweat profusely and i realized that she was flattered that she could make me forget how to speak
I get what the writer meant by being awkward, but they just didn't word it in the best way. Basically, we all have weird or quirky things about ourselves that people might find endearing, so it's best to own whatever it is because the woman might find it attractive. I do random voice impersonations around women I like and while it's weird I do get a solid reaction from them, so I guess that's what the article means.
Someone who broods, often is not feeling like he is wondering how he can improve his life. And that is good, simply because he is still wanting to learn. The attitude of learning and the attitude of gratitude are 2 of the best things anyone can possess to be attractive and keep you on the road to future happiness. At least that is my observation...
and we are joined by Hallee, waves, shoulder dance
1:00 - "I love when a guy does something, I don´t even care what it is"
That´s great to know she´s not really interested when you show her your passion/hobby
I think with the controversial topic of awkwardness, it requires nuance.
Awkwardness in an appropriate setting, like a first date, is usually a given to a certain extent. Being able to admit that you like a person and that you're trying to put forth your best effort in hopes that they like you too... it plays into honesty and vulnerability which also displays an attractive form of bravery and security in the truth of who you are/how you feel.
Of course, like these ladies said, that only applies if it actually is the truth of how you feel.
Awkwardness in inappropriate forms (like making absurd comments, flailing around, stumbling over your words, sweating bullets like you're terrified of her) like you just have no idea how to behave in social settings and are constantly uncomfortable..... probably wouldn't make her feel secure that she can bring you around her friends or family for fear that you'll be embarrassed/embarrassing.. that's not very attractive.
Women want to feel safe. An appropriate amount of awkwardness and vulnerability can be endearing and make us feel safe from you. Like you won't hurt us. But if we sense that you are extremely insecure, we don't feel safe with the concept of you as a potential partner. Like you can't protect us.
I will die by this statement, the neutral t shirts are elite
No, You Won't.
~ I Preffer The same
Love you Courtney! Thanks for all that you do for us!
6:16 but what if I Know the ONE who does run the universe?
I know people will always say to never compare ourselves to others or don't worry what another person doesn't have to do or deal with, I get it but I get very annoyed and irritated when people say that women need skills to attract a guy or women need to know or learn how to attract a guy.
I get annoyed and irritated when people and society say things like that because it never makes sense for me since women can just sit back and let it all happen to them, if you get what I'm saying
Off-topic but could really do with some tips on WHEN to ask a girl out because I seem to get it wrong.
I'm not deluded, I only ask if I feel the rapport and interest is there and a good amount of decent messaging (eg. Medium-long texts from both parties)... And then I go to ask and 👻. Silence. Not an unmatch but just no reply after what seemed to be going well.
Losing patience in dating apps, that's for sure!
Great advice ladies enjoyed it
9:30 Roman women used gladiator sweat as an aphrodisiac, so there's something to the sweat thing that isn't new. I just never knew 'why' it worked and thought it was a weird quirk of antiquity
2:30 you can say no all you want but red...as a general, doesnt matter men women... work on the subconscious and will be found attractive, the boldness is part of it but not like...everything red.... something red , also makes food look tastier , skin association with health, anyway...its very primal so no all you want it works and it works both ways
Good content as always. One tip: the microphone on Haley seems a bit high. Some of her responses are really loud on the first word if she raises her voice even slightly
2:30 One of my favorite shirts is a red long sleeve button-down. Whatchoo talkin' bout, Willis?
Happy Mother's day to all of the mom's
Wardrobe wise, I personally don't wear red most of the time. Although I keep red clothing, but more on the darker shades (Burgundy, Crimson and Vermilion).
Regardless, it's never always about the clothing and about looking good.
It's about character. As I quote from Kingsman: "Manners Maketh Man"...
Relatively new subscriber here. I'm already married, but your videos still have a positive impact on my marriage and friendships.
Keep inspiring!
God bless.
P.S. I'm still rocking the "Salt and Pepper"... 😁
Talking about switching between American and British accents, i grew up in Tennessee but when i moved to the UK noone understood me.
long story short, i now have two accents:
a nerdy British accent that all non-brits notice is fake.
and a deep, high-clarity Tennessee accent that everyone seems to prefer.
question is, do i allow the American one to come back in full, and ignore everyone who makes fun of it?
As far as wearing red goes, its more like wearing for example red shirt with a navy blue suilt or "gangster style" suilt. Or red tie with white shirt and black suilt. Not wearing at the same time red pants, red shirt, red jacket. That would make you look creepy. Also stop behaving like its entire world fault for something that happened to you, it shows that you have some insecurity. Also being rude to restaurant staff will get you only free saliva and mucus in your order, as a revenge.
Great work ladies! 🙌
On a completely unrelated note to this video, I trained the forearms pretty hard today at the gym. Don't know why I was suddenly motivated to train them more than usual
I'm too self-conscious about wearing red since that article came out. I'm afraid if I wear red, like to work or something, people are going to say, "Look at Sam over there, wearing red. He's trying to find a girlfriend."
Not saying it’s a bad advice but I think you should wear colours you like. I’m not gonna wear red because girls like that, Red is probably one of the last colours I’d wear, most men I know wear dark colours and don’t get no problem with women.
Question...You said in the beginning that a man that is passionate about something is attractive or sexy. What if he is passionate about you? Studying what you like or dislike like to learn about you your past what you like to do or not do he pays attention or is attentive he wants to make her happy give gifts show that the girl is important to him by spending time with her . But then he might come across as clingy or obsessed with you. Some people use the word "Simp". So it is confusing to say it is sexy for a man to be passionate about something and then when he is passionate about you and showing that you are the most important thing to him that is big turn off. Or maybe passionate is one thing, and obsessed with something is different thing. Or what if he is so passionate about something that is leaves no time to spend with you because he is of doing the thing is is passionate about.... Like later you said taking unneeded risk was a red flag...what if he is passionate about sky diving or bungie jumping or base jumping, or climbing or repelling? If he is passionate about that and does it often it is a big red flag. So it is hard to be passionate about something and not passionate about it at the same time.
Big fan of cooking with my girlfriend, it's so much fun to do together. If she's making the main dish, I'll set the table and make sides. Most of the time we work on the whole thing together, but it's great to help build healthy communication in a relationship, and even as a form of foreplay. Learn to cook, folks!
Yes. The dream team back in action.
about the watch: don't like anything on my wrist but feel like so many women like watches ... are rings also ok?
Scents get men laid? Nah. Masculine energy with a fun&funny smiles works all the time!
Plus, I've been wearing short shorts before it came back into acceptance, and, besides forearms, visible strong legs&glutes incite much power and masculinity
I guess earned sweat (not what hot summer days cause) does release a male pheromone ? Makes sense. I had an ex that once joked I smelled like a sizzling steak then called me beef cake from then on.
"I've been wearing short shorters" That should up your game on Grinder. Tinder not so much.
If you haven't already done this could you do a video on tattoos? Maybe one of those with a few of your friends formats? I'm kind of curious.
Brooding is a bit more abstract than something like showing forearms. It's more about a person's attitude and vibe, things you can feel. I think it's a bit of a silly term, but I also secretly love it as well haha.
For an example look up Jon Snow brooding gif. It's basically thinking, stoicism, and the appearance of masculinity rolled into one. You can brood in any gender.