1)Take Initiative 2)Prioritize your physical presentation 3)Embrace the power of mystery 4)Become well rounded 5)Build confidence through action 6)Master emotional intelligence Your channel has been so helpful. Happy holidays to you and yours. Thanks for all the amazing videos.
My boyfriend and I watched this together while traveling today and he wanted to give his input on what worked for him years ago before we began dating. He said his sure fire way to get a woman’s attention was by “treating them like a bro.” What he means by that is by treating them like a friend, talking to them like a real person instead of someone you idolize. Have the perspective of “I’m going to get to know this person to see if I like being around them” instead of “put them on a pedestal as a reward I’m trying to achieve.” He said it made all the difference. As a woman I get it because it takes pressure off the woman, makes her feel like a person instead of an object, and allows her the space to grow that attraction too.
@ the friend zone isn’t actually a thing for the most part. Some women will use that as a way to gently say “I don’t and won’t see you as more than a friend.” They just aren’t interested in dating you. It’s quite simple.
Hello, Courtney. I've been a fan of your work for a long time now. I'm 31 years old and finally got married on the 22nd of December, thank you for everything. Merry Xmas 🥰
Yeah but you can't control them, you can only control yourself. Also women are Chaos, Men are Order. Their minds pull them in a dozen different directions at once, trying to prioritize all of those things. Our job as men is to cut through all that to discover and prioritize what is actually important, and then to act decisively and efficiently.
@@JiGantus Nobody wins in this clown world. Younger women may have lots of options, but in the end they all (or most) want a loving family with kids and grandkids and ONE long-term husband they can respect and adore, to cultivate the endorphins/ocytocin/dopamine etc., -- basically protecting them from going mad with 12 cars and boxes of wine and SSRI's. And when a woman is 40 or 45 she does NOT have a lot of "options" -- that make sense to her. She will still be hypergamous, but there's no men around to satisfy her instincts, - "where are all the good men", - so SHE will also end up alone, in the end. She should lock down a quality man in her 20's, instead of YOLOing the C carousel or "building her career" or abusing her youthful SMV. And no games. Ain't nobody got time for that.
@@JiGantus Nobody wins in this clåwn world. Younger wqmen may have lots of options, but in the end they all (or most) want a loving family with kids and grandkids and ONE long-term husband they can respect and adore, to cultivate the endorphins/ocytocin/dopamine etc., -- basically protecting them from going mæd with 12 cars and boxes of wine and SSRI's. And when a w0man is 40 or 45 she does NOT have a lot of "options" -- that make sense to her. She will still be hpergamous, but there's no mæn around to satisfy her instincts, - "where are all the good mæn", - so SHE will also end up alone, in the end. She should lock down a quality man in her 20's, instead of YOLOing the C karousel or "building her career" or amusing her SMV. And no games. Ain't nobody got time for that.
All women? You're going to blame all women? The actual truth is that some women are trying to be better for their potential partners. This issue isn't a man vs. woman thing, it's secure vs. insecure, confidence vs. lack of confidence, understanding vs. misunderstanding, trying vs. not trying.
@ when did I say all? And yes it’s the women (not all) that have created this current situation we find ourselves in. They are the ones not reciprocating in the dating market. Where have you been for the past few decades!!??
@@joelbellJBFor the past few decades ,people have been getting married.If you have a negative attitude,you may not be attracting quality women,that may be the issue.
@@joelbellJB Okay, you wrote "it's the women," which could easily be taken to me "all the women." But I'll concede. Despite that, I hope you realize that it's also "the men (not all)" that have created this situation, too. Where have I been the last few decades? Well, I was married for 20 years, and for the last 3 1/2 years I've been dating, probably two or three dozen first dates, many second dates and beyond, and now, as of a couple of weeks ago, maybe entering into a long-term relationship. I've likely had more dating successes and, more importantly, failures than you. You say women don't reciprocate. I don't find that to be the case at all. I've had women offer to pay for meals and event tickets, I've had women suggest date ideas, give me gifts and I've had women make first contact with me. In my experience, they most certainly do reciprocate, maybe not at the same rate as men, but over the years society has set things up so the men are the ones that are "supposed" to take charge. But that responsibility is slowly averaging out so that men and women are both starting to take equal levels of responsibility in dating.
"Be yourself" is the most terrible and patronizing advice ever. Do you think people who struggle with dating have been somehow faking it? They ARE being themselves. Being themselves is what got them into their current situation. How exactly do you equate acting in a way that is completely different to how you've always acted with "being yourself"?
biggest problem for men is to even find a possible partner and meeting girls today is mission impossible. you rarely find single good women, they either taken or jumps from one relationship to another so the compettion is very high. i havent encountered any possible partner through work,hobbys and social activitys the last 5 years and it seems like the one you maybe feel is right , they dont find you attractive enough. so the game is so hard that many just gives up and follow their reachable dreams like , career , hobbys and life goals . no reason to wait and hope for the best. live life and see what comes around.
I'm married and old, so I'm not looking, but this doesn't seem like a problem at all to me....women are everywhere and many seem available. I think many men's "standards" may be too high.
@@garypierce7380 that’s laughable, have you even been paying attention? There has always been low tier men, but these men were never an option to begin with. We have a new phenomenon where women’s partner selecting strategy is openly unchecked, encouraged, applauded, and is the mainstream narrative. Where men’s is now considered “bad”, we used to have similar status people pair off with one another, for example an average man with an average woman. But since women’s “segsual” liberation we now have low tier, average and high tier women all demanding higher tier men (and getting them) This has led to a situation where the significant majority of men are left with zero prospects of a partner, and the top tier men getting access to almost all of the women. The average man is no longer good enough for the average woman. This is why ours marriage, birth, and dating rates have been dropping like a rock for the past 50 years. How do you not know this by now?
I think if you are going to be direct and confident, you need to remember that it is done with intention. Eg: "I like spending time with you" if her response is vague, slow, or avoidant, then it is time to move on. A good response is her setting up the next date
Thanks Courtney. The tip that resonated the most was to focus on making a connection on the date- not impressing. The connection itself will make an impression!
I am glad I'm ready in 2025 because next year I will be working on myself during Christmas & hopefully get more dates with bright intelligent women again. It has been a very unsuccessful year for me with no public dating going on at all
What you should be saying Courtney: Don’t be on your phone more than half the time. Don’t wear pajamas outside the house. Be more considerate and laid back among others as best you can.
The problem here for most men when it comes to being “nonchalant” or whatever is that most of us have planned the thoughtful dates, been intentional and up front about our interest in pursuing them, only to be met with textbook hot and cold inconsistent behavior. When we leave room for ambiguity that’s usually when women show the most interest… a lot of us guys stopped showing our true care because it does the exact opposite of what women tell us it does. It’s hard for men to do all of these thoughtful things when a large portion of women today are having consistent sex with the guy who puts in no effort. It’s sad but true 🤷🏻♂️
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
Just know you can do everything said as well as within the book to stand out BUT if she doesn't like you or find you attractive it doesn't matter. You are to continue to pick yourself up, move on, and try again. Over and over until someone recognizes you for who you are, what you stand for and how you treat those around you then appreciates that. Until then get used to the turbulence of dating, ghosting, situtionships, hookup culture and being rejected.
Thanks Courtney. I've been watching your videos for well over a year now. Even took your advice on fragrances and bought the Guerlain L'Homme. Great suggestion 👍. LOTS of compliments.
How to stand out, same as any other year. Be tall, handsome, rich, mysterious, highly educated, a comedian, adventurous, kind, forgiving etc. For most women a guy has to have it all
Point #4 is my favourite part of this video. Because attraction truly is holistic. Women don't want a man that's just one thing. They want a "complete package" that has a good amount of everything they're looking for in a man; from looks, to personality, to how safe and secure they feel around them.
How to Stand Out to Women in 2025 1. Take Initiative Plan thoughtful dates, follow up, communicate clearly, and be consistent. 2. Improve Appearance Maintain grooming, dress well, and choose a signature scent. 3. Be Mysterious Share authentically but pace disclosures to maintain intrigue. 4. Be Well-Rounded Cultivate hobbies, stay curious, and engage in meaningful conversations. 5. Build Confidence Through Action Achieve goals, step out of your comfort zone, and lead decisively. 6. Master Emotional Intelligence Be attentive, adapt to social cues, and create meaningful connections. 7. Focus on Connection Prioritize making her feel valued over trying to impress.
If you’re not physically attractive to the woman, then all you’ll get is trouble with the law. Take the first for example, take initiative… unattractive guys with be seen as a creep and you’re committing s assault. Don’t take dating advice from women, because there are double standards for physically attractive men vs regular men and unattractive guys. Chad can fart on a woman and she’ll still be turn on by it.
I clearly standout to women yet few are of any interest to me. It’s a game in which I choose not to play. It’s the place and time where this occurs which really matters. Had plenty of attention at the club, not the place to meet..
As someone who went on three dates with the same woman in the last month, my advice is this: focus on getting to know each other and stay positive. For me, this worked extremely well because it gave me a chance to reflect more on what I want from a romantic relationship. I may still be single, and that's okay, because I'm proud and thankful for what I've learned and experienced recently, and I feel ready and encouraged to continue dating in the coming year!
You aren't wrong and your advice seems reasonable. Only after decades of no success at all after trying everything over and over.. it is difficult to stay positive (i'm 45 and the most success so far was 2 dates with the same woman)
Bro, the reason you're having a hard time is because she's giving advice that was useful in the 1950s. And if you're a top 20% Rich handsome guy. Her advice works. But she doesn't give advice on how to arouse women. She gives you advice on how to keep them once they're already aroused
I think we can also add another must have to the list. Personally, I'd wish that in 2025, men would be more granular about their mission in life and what they want to achieve in the world. In this way, they will also discover whether or not they actually want a life partner. They would subsequently be able to define what type of women best to partner with, to go on that mission with, and would stop chasing women for unhelpful reasons, and without any strategy. It's about optimising for a quality partner without having to go on a billion unnecessary and unhelpful dates. Once you know what path you want to walk, and you start walking it, its easy to see who is walking along that path beside you.
More to add, these are features sub5s usually have: -Bald -Rounded cheeks due to being overweight -Acne Scarring -Non-Existent Eyebrows Eyes: -Buldging Prey eyes with too much upper eyelid exposure, the opposite of hunter eyes -Bug Eyes -Negative Canthal Tilt (which ofc leads to prey eyes) Midface: -Long horsefaces -Recessed and underdeveloped midfaces -Low-Set cheekbones Jaw -Recessed and Asymmetrical Jawlines -Rounded w/ loose hyroid skin -Overly narrow
These are all good tips to know. I can have a meaningful conversation with a girl. I can make sure i have a good appearance. You are very intelligent and smart courtney. You know your stuff. Your hair looks nice also. I will keep everything you said in mind.
1) Taking initiative: I'm not doing that unless we have a relationship already established. I'm not an idiot. 2) Physical care/fashion: I'm already doing it and apparently that's bare minimum since it didn't change anything. 3) Being mysterious: I don't talk about myself that much but this also made some girls be afraid of me for some reason. Do they want to discover me or do I have to reveal myself more? Make up your mind! 4) Being well-rounded: I did this through my entire childhood, and not the girls I've met. They should measure up instead of asking, asking and asking. 5) Confidence through action: I can be quite confident in my workplace. Not just girls, everyone trusts in what I do. Again, this doesn't take me anywhere. Also, what exactly is it to girls if I tackle some challenges? I do them for myself. How does a girl (or anyone) benefit from me learning Tagalog for example? I'm not going to speak Tagalog in my daily routine. This part reminds me of women's tendency of waiting at the finish line of a parkour and picking the winner guy for themselves, instead of running alongside him. Which I find ABSOLUTELY UNATTRACTIVE in a woman. 6) Emotional intelligence: I'll give credit for this since I'm recovering from a years long depression. However, my 4 years younger brother went through the same and he has a 3-years old and still going relationship (they met through Discord) while I am still alone. Courtney. It seems to me that your advices are getting stale. Either come up with a new solution or stop giving us false hope. But why the heck I am giving lecture to someone who's still getting sponsorship from shady companies like BetterHelp is beyond me.
You've somehow been hurt, and it's giving you a bad attitude. Having a bad attitude is going to hamper your efforts to find a loving partner. But I can tell you from my own very recent experience that what Courtney is saying is true. I discovered a lot of these things on my own over time. Not all of what she says is easy to adopt for many of us, myself included. But I worked hard and overcame things.
@@Makris_Amaliada9311 What you mention - cigars, drinks, shoes - are all superficial. I can tell you from personal experience that you DO NOT need to stand out from the crowd because of what you smoke, drink or wear, or how tall you are or how rich you are. The women that do care about those things are the women not worth being with - they'll dump you as soon as you don't meet those shallow expectations. It's not what's outside you that counts, it's what's inside. I know it sounds like BS, but it's true. Despite your best efforts, you'll end up meeting women that you absolutely don't click with. Some dates could even be disasters. But it only takes one success... If you're authentic, humble and put your emphasis on her - assuming she's also an authentic, humble person who puts her emphasis on you - you'll do brilliantly. I'm SO lucky because I recently began dating a woman just like that. She's sexy, beautiful, intelligent (and highly educated, unlike me), warm and loving. It's still sometimes hard for me to believe a woman like that could be attracted to me, but sure enough, that's the situation.
Definite on the fragrance side. Had a very lovely young lady ask me last Monday about the cologne I was wearing. Then on Saturday had another lady say to me that she could spend the entire day just standing beside me enjoying my cologne. I wear Polo by Ralph Lauren and have done so for the past 45 years!!
Maybe do a video on guys showing interest and appreciation without pedalstalizing women? The burden is always placed on the guy, who is always expected to make the first move. To me, this pedestalizes women. This needs to stop. Let there be equal and shared dialogue, risks, and burdens right from the start. Guys can approach, act, and react accordingly if they know the girls reaction mistakes. I hope this makes sense.
I think the idea her is just to live your best life in 2025, and take the opportunities when presented. I think that I possess many of these qualities, I just need to get out of my comfort zone and actually talk ;;to more people, women included. To that end I am going to call tomorrow and ask the company setting up a speed dating event in my town what the age groups for the event are. Aa long as the ages aren't too much lower than mine I am going to get a ticket even though it terrifies me. Merry Christmas to all and don't give up hope, success comes when you least expect it.
Courtney, your advice is good and has genuinely helped to improve my life dramatically. Still single though. There's some secret beyond having all your shit together.
Almost always. Yet when we share this experience, women degrade us and gaslight us into thinking we choose the wrong woman. It is sick. They literally do what they say other women don't. Lol.
Open up slowly (advice I don't always follow, but women seem to be okay with it), and realize that if the woman does use it against you she's not worth your time and attention anyway, as much as it might hurt.
@@davidabarak We are telling you we have done it with dozens of women and *most* use it against men. And you shame us by gaslighting us into believing it is us choosing wrong. Or, this is a habit we noticed. Look, men are just as pathetic. But at least I admit it.
I think I'd stand out by knowing I lead myself into the clouds of common interest based on real things, For example "protein is healthy and theres many ways to have some" which is heart healthy knowing
Well, just to follow through the video.. my goals for 2025: 1. Find myself a job 2. Work on myself (want to start going to the gym and also improve myself by learning some new skills) 3. Whatever happens next, happens. Unfortunately, this year i went on a date with someone not trying to rush into it but be slightly passive and it backfired in my face and it was doing my head in. A lesson learned and an experience to use for future dates, if that happens. But once i tick off the first 2 of my list, then i work on taking initiative and hopefully finiding someone that wishes to be with me, even with all my faults.
Men and women want each other, and we were designed to be together. No amount of social engineering, cynicism, bitterness, and nihilism can change human nature.
@@Guigley Maybe but it is quite effective though. With how few young men even want to bother these days. And not that women notice...but that is another story. Yeah biologically we are attracted to each other, that is over 90%. Some are wired different. But with how things are done and expected these days I can see how whole generations are just giving up on it. And at this point I am not even sure if it can be fixed. Oh well. Popcorn is delicious.
Yeah these lists always make me feel like I must be WAY ahead of the curve for the most part. Kind of crazy that somebody needs to be told to not be on their phone when they are hanging out with someone, especially on a date.
I'd be really interested in seeing a video with your thoughts on Date Me Docs. The name is cringingly terrible but I personally think the concept is great. Frontloading the important things about you and what you're looking for in a charming way, so people feel more inclined to really try to get to know you, because what they've already read was so engaging or intriguing. I feel like it does contradict your advice about oversharing a bit, but I think as long as you aren't trauma dumping, then I think it's good, although there is a fine line. Another recommendation is I would love to find some positive non toxic places where a guy could get constructive criticism and opinions regarding his dating profile. So much of the internet is just so negative or outright toxic or filled with trolls, I can't even seem to find anywhere with a healthy community to discuss those kinds of things.
I am 65, and after my 20-year marriage ended, I tried a bit of online dating. I tend to have the most luck in real life. Just meeting folks naturally. So my input would be don't rely on the dating profiles and just rely on meeting people.
Most of this falls within the tight-rope walking category of being 'reserved' as a person. How successful that is all depends on the other person. If they are at all interested in you AND do not mind being a little investigative (and ultimately invested) in a relationship, it works. On the other hand, if they are easily frustrated by what they see as 'work, or are quickly bored and make up their mind within a short span of time... It won't.
5:46 This is my fundamental problem with dating. I don't want intrigue, curiosity, excitement, etc, from a relationship. I don't want to date a girl that I have to "discover" new things about all the time and be surprised and excited by new things. I want us to primarily be excited by and discover new things about the world together, not necessarily about each other so much, though that would happen too over time, but for me that should be secondary or even tertiary... Not an active priority. I want to date a woman who (it feels like) I've known since middle school.
Great advice, I have a different opinion on hobbies though. Hobbies seem like mostly a waste of time. A man’s top priorities should be his career, his health, and his relationships (friendships, romantic, family). Hobbies for the sake of pleasure are taking time and energy away from those three core values. Like the man who spends 3 hours/week on playing guitar or whatever is going to fall behind the man who puts that time towards improving their health, career, and relationships.
Some very good points made in this video but i ask what is the point of men even trying when quite clearly women just take the piss when it comes to guys trying to stand out. There are no decent woman out there worth bothering with.
Hi Caleb. I'm not trying to be insulting or dismissive. I know it's not easy, but anything worthwhile usually isn't. I think women are women the world over. The advice seems really good. Let's give it a go. No good comes from giving up 🏆 Nice name you've got 🙃
Anyone who thinks negatively repels everyone. No one wants to be with that kind of person. He probably complains, looks like garbage, and isn't trying consistently to become a btter version of himself. Has too much free time, and is the most selfish person. The best way to be attractive, be a man, not a boy. Dont get your feelings in a bunch. Be bold, and make your move, be willing to move on, and always strive to become better. Regardless of what girls/women are, accept them for who they are. Be willing to always walk away when they dont get on your program/frame. There's no use in chasing someone who doesn't even like you for you. In the end she will disrespect you, and that humility for a man is the worse feeling ever.
@courtneyryan What are we supposed to do when it seems like we are pretty much doing all the right things that you talk about all the time, and yet no women will even consider a date with you? This seems to be a huge issue where I am. The women in my social circles want to be married so badly, but simply will not say yes to a date with anyone who isn’t a perfect person. I know tons of guys who have everything going for them, and no one will give them the time of day. I try to avoid pointing fingers at the other gender as much as possible, because I know it’s best to focus on what you can control. But it seems no matter what angle I look at it from, there’s no way for me to get around recognizing that (most) women have collectively adopted such a harsh, hypercritical attitude towards men and are greatly hindering the dating scene.
Ive seen and heard of ppl hooking up for a long time because of close/same birthdays, same last names too. Seems to be a new trend ppl are starting. Don't forget about that, I feel thats why I never found my one while everyone else has because of some stupid dumb luck.
Does taking initiative also include approaching women in person rather than online? This is perhaps the biggest thing a guy can do to stand out since most men are too timid to risk upfront rejection. I would say make yourself look as presentable as possible, but don't take it over the top by peacocking because she'll know if you're being inauthentic. And she'll know your true fashion sense eventually if the relationship lasts, so there's no point in dressing purely for the sake of impressing others. Yeah, anyone who goes out of their way to share every minute detail of their personal life comes off as desperate and needy, men and women alike. It subconsciously signals that the person is fishing for attention and validation. Striving to be a well-rounded person should apply to both sexes, but women can obviously rely more heavily on their looks in the absence of other qualities. Although long-term relationships typically require more than just surface-level attraction. Yeah, there's two basic types of people in this world: those who talk about aspiring to achieve something and those who actively work on trying to achieve them. Women in general have better social acuity than men, and I think for many of us guys, it's something that we can only learn with experience. These soft skills don't come to us as naturally, especially now when we're having less in-person interactions.
1)Take Initiative
2)Prioritize your physical presentation
3)Embrace the power of mystery
4)Become well rounded
5)Build confidence through action
6)Master emotional intelligence
Your channel has been so helpful. Happy holidays to you and yours. Thanks for all the amazing videos.
Happy holidays to you and yours! Thanks for being here ❤️
Jesus is the way! He can give you peace that no one else can. Turn from sin and turn to Jesus. He loves you all.
@@CourtneyRyan Jesus loves you!
@@CourtneyRyan Since you've made a video on what nice men say that women don't like, can you make a video on what nice women say that men don't like?
@@ZhaoYun3154 what a great question!
when there is tangible evidence of another persons wealth and success,
so many people are plenty able to compromise on everything you've mentioned
... shifting towards 2025
solo again
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'Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.'
My boyfriend and I watched this together while traveling today and he wanted to give his input on what worked for him years ago before we began dating. He said his sure fire way to get a woman’s attention was by “treating them like a bro.” What he means by that is by treating them like a friend, talking to them like a real person instead of someone you idolize. Have the perspective of “I’m going to get to know this person to see if I like being around them” instead of “put them on a pedestal as a reward I’m trying to achieve.” He said it made all the difference. As a woman I get it because it takes pressure off the woman, makes her feel like a person instead of an object, and allows her the space to grow that attraction too.
Great comment 🏅
It’s also a great way to get friendzoned
garbage advice, relationships only work out if the woman likes the man more. not the other way around.
Can also be easily friend zoned too lol. Can’t win no matter what you do. Courtney gives great advice but nothing works in this dating world.
@ the friend zone isn’t actually a thing for the most part. Some women will use that as a way to gently say “I don’t and won’t see you as more than a friend.” They just aren’t interested in dating you. It’s quite simple.
Hello, Courtney. I've been a fan of your work for a long time now. I'm 31 years old and finally got married on the 22nd of December, thank you for everything. Merry Xmas 🥰
@@Sebby514 I am so happy for you. Congratulations 🥹❤️
Congratulations! Wishing you and your significant other many happy years together.
Courtney is a sister to us all.
If men shouldn't play hot and cold then neither should women.
Women have lots of options. Most men don’t. That’s why they can play whatever they want, and if you do, you’ll end up alone
Yeah but you can't control them, you can only control yourself. Also women are Chaos, Men are Order. Their minds pull them in a dozen different directions at once, trying to prioritize all of those things. Our job as men is to cut through all that to discover and prioritize what is actually important, and then to act decisively and efficiently.
@@JiGantus Nobody wins in this clown world. Younger women may have lots of options, but in the end they all (or most) want a loving family with kids and grandkids and ONE long-term husband they can respect and adore, to cultivate the endorphins/ocytocin/dopamine etc., -- basically protecting them from going mad with 12 cars and boxes of wine and SSRI's.
And when a woman is 40 or 45 she does NOT have a lot of "options" -- that make sense to her. She will still be hypergamous, but there's no men around to satisfy her instincts, - "where are all the good men", - so SHE will also end up alone, in the end. She should lock down a quality man in her 20's, instead of YOLOing the C carousel or "building her career" or abusing her youthful SMV.
And no games. Ain't nobody got time for that.
@@JiGantus Nobody wins in this clåwn world. Younger wqmen may have lots of options, but in the end they all (or most) want a loving family with kids and grandkids and ONE long-term husband they can respect and adore, to cultivate the endorphins/ocytocin/dopamine etc., -- basically protecting them from going mæd with 12 cars and boxes of wine and SSRI's.
And when a w0man is 40 or 45 she does NOT have a lot of "options" -- that make sense to her. She will still be hpergamous, but there's no mæn around to satisfy her instincts, - "where are all the good mæn", - so SHE will also end up alone, in the end. She should lock down a quality man in her 20's, instead of YOLOing the C karousel or "building her career" or amusing her SMV.
And no games. Ain't nobody got time for that.
@@JiGantus No. And YT auto-deletes my reply explaining why. Can't have the truth here.
I’m not sure how many times we’ll have to say this, it’s not the men! The men ARE trying to become better, it’s the women that aren’t reciprocating.
All women? You're going to blame all women?
The actual truth is that some women are trying to be better for their potential partners. This issue isn't a man vs. woman thing, it's secure vs. insecure, confidence vs. lack of confidence, understanding vs. misunderstanding, trying vs. not trying.
@ when did I say all?
And yes it’s the women (not all) that have created this current situation we find ourselves in. They are the ones not reciprocating in the dating market. Where have you been for the past few decades!!??
@@joelbellJBFor the past few decades ,people have been getting
married.If you have a negative attitude,you may not be attracting quality women,that may be the issue.
@@joelbellJB
Okay, you wrote "it's the women," which could easily be taken to me "all the women." But I'll concede. Despite that, I hope you realize that it's also "the men (not all)" that have created this situation, too.
Where have I been the last few decades? Well, I was married for 20 years, and for the last 3 1/2 years I've been dating, probably two or three dozen first dates, many second dates and beyond, and now, as of a couple of weeks ago, maybe entering into a long-term relationship. I've likely had more dating successes and, more importantly, failures than you.
You say women don't reciprocate. I don't find that to be the case at all. I've had women offer to pay for meals and event tickets, I've had women suggest date ideas, give me gifts and I've had women make first contact with me. In my experience, they most certainly do reciprocate, maybe not at the same rate as men, but over the years society has set things up so the men are the ones that are "supposed" to take charge. But that responsibility is slowly averaging out so that men and women are both starting to take equal levels of responsibility in dating.
It’s a lost cause, bro. We will be blamed for everything the rest of our lives. Even when we do nothing we are bad.
#4 has resonated with me the most. I am trying so hard NOT to over share, so it’s helped me so much.
*Focus on being unapologetically yourself, embracing your unique traits, and aligning your actions with your values.*
I've been doing that for years; it doesn't get me any action.
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"Be yourself" is the most terrible and patronizing advice ever. Do you think people who struggle with dating have been somehow faking it? They ARE being themselves. Being themselves is what got them into their current situation. How exactly do you equate acting in a way that is completely different to how you've always acted with "being yourself"?
@@stevenwallace773 Excellent post
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm Did u go out a lot, meeting pple as much as possible?
biggest problem for men is to even find a possible partner and meeting girls today is mission impossible. you rarely find single good women, they either taken or jumps from one relationship to another so the compettion is very high. i havent encountered any possible partner through work,hobbys and social activitys the last 5 years and it seems like the one you maybe feel is right , they dont find you attractive enough. so the game is so hard that many just gives up and follow their reachable dreams like , career , hobbys and life goals . no reason to wait and hope for the best. live life and see what comes around.
I'm married and old, so I'm not looking, but this doesn't seem like a problem at all to me....women are everywhere and many seem available. I think many men's "standards" may be too high.
@@garypierce7380💯
@@garypierce7380 that’s laughable, have you even been paying attention? There has always been low tier men, but these men were never an option to begin with.
We have a new phenomenon where women’s partner selecting strategy is openly unchecked, encouraged, applauded, and is the mainstream narrative. Where men’s is now considered “bad”, we used to have similar status people pair off with one another, for example an average man with an average woman. But since women’s “segsual” liberation we now have low tier, average and high tier women all demanding higher tier men (and getting them)
This has led to a situation where the significant majority of men are left with zero prospects of a partner, and the top tier men getting access to almost all of the women. The average man is no longer good enough for the average woman.
This is why ours marriage, birth, and dating rates have been dropping like a rock for the past 50 years.
How do you not know this by now?
You're married and old so trust me when I say you have no idea what you're talking about.
@@garypierce7380 just because they look available doesnt mean they are worthy, thats the problem nowadayas, they aren't
I think if you are going to be direct and confident, you need to remember that it is done with intention. Eg: "I like spending time with you" if her response is vague, slow, or avoidant, then it is time to move on. A good response is her setting up the next date
A great feeler I used was “nice to see you again.” A persons reaction to that was VERY telling
How to stand out: be attractive
or rich
and some cash and a few flossy things.
How to stand out: don’t let not being attractive hold you back
How to stand out: by not leaving pessimistic comments. It says a lot more about you than Courtney.
Why are you here?
Thanks Courtney. The tip that resonated the most was to focus on making a connection on the date- not impressing. The connection itself will make an impression!
I am glad I'm ready in 2025 because next year I will be working on myself during Christmas & hopefully get more dates with bright intelligent women again. It has been a very unsuccessful year for me with no public dating going on at all
Never quit, keep putting yourself out there at every opportunity. 💪🏅
Have a merry Christmas Courtney
Your advice on style has often picked up my game, I think I know and think we all believe that, but do we
What you should be saying Courtney:
Don’t be on your phone more than half the time.
Don’t wear pajamas outside the house.
Be more considerate and laid back among others as best you can.
She did say that your muppet
The problem here for most men when it comes to being “nonchalant” or whatever is that most of us have planned the thoughtful dates, been intentional and up front about our interest in pursuing them, only to be met with textbook hot and cold inconsistent behavior. When we leave room for ambiguity that’s usually when women show the most interest… a lot of us guys stopped showing our true care because it does the exact opposite of what women tell us it does. It’s hard for men to do all of these thoughtful things when a large portion of women today are having consistent sex with the guy who puts in no effort. It’s sad but true 🤷🏻♂️
There's a book called Casanova Optimization of Attraction, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal
taking initiative and building unshakeable confidence. is what stood out to me and what i plan on bettering in 2025.
You know, its nice that Mrs Courtney always had a little faiths in us normal guys, and that's what I appreciates about her.
Just know you can do everything said as well as within the book to stand out BUT if she doesn't like you or find you attractive it doesn't matter. You are to continue to pick yourself up, move on, and try again. Over and over until someone recognizes you for who you are, what you stand for and how you treat those around you then appreciates that. Until then get used to the turbulence of dating, ghosting, situtionships, hookup culture and being rejected.
Underrated as fuck
why bother
Hit the nail on the head
Somebody PLEASE give this feller, an award! 🏆🤗🌟
Currently working on improving my style. Started wearing a nice wristwatch and have been slowly replacing and updating my wardrobe.
Thanks Ryan, I really wanted a friend like you to help me understand women. But now I feel I found one to help me understand my mistakes.
Thanks Courtney. I've been watching your videos for well over a year now. Even took your advice on fragrances and bought the Guerlain L'Homme. Great suggestion 👍. LOTS of compliments.
Oh, and Merry Christmas 🎄🎁😊
How to stand out, same as any other year.
Be tall, handsome, rich, mysterious, highly educated, a comedian, adventurous, kind, forgiving etc.
For most women a guy has to have it all
Or, join a cult. Like me. Meet Some mighty cute female, with low self esteem. Who won't judge you based on what you have. Never fail!🤗💕🌟
You've just described Austin Powers, baby, yeah!
thank you 1000 percent true straight to the point
Let me guess, you're none of these things.
How is this channel not hitting the million already ?! Amazing content
You’re so kind, thank you! 🥹
Point #4 is my favourite part of this video. Because attraction truly is holistic. Women don't want a man that's just one thing. They want a "complete package" that has a good amount of everything they're looking for in a man; from looks, to personality, to how safe and secure they feel around them.
Courtney Is a Gem of a Woman! Thanks for your Vids, they have helped me out a lot.
I love listening to your videos, thank you.
How to Stand Out to Women in 2025
1. Take Initiative
Plan thoughtful dates, follow up, communicate clearly, and be consistent.
2. Improve Appearance
Maintain grooming, dress well, and choose a signature scent.
3. Be Mysterious
Share authentically but pace disclosures to maintain intrigue.
4. Be Well-Rounded
Cultivate hobbies, stay curious, and engage in meaningful conversations.
5. Build Confidence Through Action
Achieve goals, step out of your comfort zone, and lead decisively.
6. Master Emotional Intelligence
Be attentive, adapt to social cues, and create meaningful connections.
7. Focus on Connection
Prioritize making her feel valued over trying to impress.
If you’re not physically attractive to the woman, then all you’ll get is trouble with the law. Take the first for example, take initiative… unattractive guys with be seen as a creep and you’re committing s assault. Don’t take dating advice from women, because there are double standards for physically attractive men vs regular men and unattractive guys. Chad can fart on a woman and she’ll still be turn on by it.
Excellent principles. Love this episode. Thanks, Courtney.
I actually love these tips. I started following these about 6 months ago and have been getting results.
I'd said before many times many ways merry Christmas to Courtney Ryan's channel to you 🎉.
I clearly standout to women yet few are of any interest to me. It’s a game in which I choose not to play.
It’s the place and time where this occurs which really matters. Had plenty of attention at the club, not the place to meet..
You are definitely correct...bars and clubs are the absolute worst place to meet a quality person.
Thanks for sharing guidance to people! Keep up the hard work and Merry Christmas, Courtney!
As someone who went on three dates with the same woman in the last month, my advice is this: focus on getting to know each other and stay positive. For me, this worked extremely well because it gave me a chance to reflect more on what I want from a romantic relationship. I may still be single, and that's okay, because I'm proud and thankful for what I've learned and experienced recently, and I feel ready and encouraged to continue dating in the coming year!
Haha
That's not exactly a stand out resume to be giving advice
If you’re still single after going on 3 dates with the same woman, what exactly are you hoping for?
@@delsinrowe2014fact 😂
@@delsinrowe2014😂😂 A miracle?
I just focus on my well-being and be direct, upfront, and honest with the ladies who are interested in me first.
i love your emotions when you speak
You aren't wrong and your advice seems reasonable.
Only after decades of no success at all after trying everything over and over.. it is difficult to stay positive (i'm 45 and the most success so far was 2 dates with the same woman)
Bro, the reason you're having a hard time is because she's giving advice that was useful in the 1950s. And if you're a top 20% Rich handsome guy. Her advice works. But she doesn't give advice on how to arouse women. She gives you advice on how to keep them once they're already aroused
Enjoyed the video and key points🙌🏽
I think we can also add another must have to the list. Personally, I'd wish that in 2025, men would be more granular about their mission in life and what they want to achieve in the world. In this way, they will also discover whether or not they actually want a life partner. They would subsequently be able to define what type of women best to partner with, to go on that mission with, and would stop chasing women for unhelpful reasons, and without any strategy.
It's about optimising for a quality partner without having to go on a billion unnecessary and unhelpful dates.
Once you know what path you want to walk, and you start walking it, its easy to see who is walking along that path beside you.
Here's what you'll need: A good eye area, a chiseled jawline, a compact midface (ideally to a 1:1 ratio), high-set and prominent cheekbones, etc.
Just have 10 mln and own a house
More to add, these are features sub5s usually have:
-Bald
-Rounded cheeks due to being overweight
-Acne Scarring
-Non-Existent Eyebrows
Eyes:
-Buldging Prey eyes with too much upper eyelid exposure, the opposite of hunter eyes
-Bug Eyes
-Negative Canthal Tilt (which ofc leads to prey eyes)
Midface:
-Long horsefaces
-Recessed and underdeveloped midfaces
-Low-Set cheekbones
Jaw
-Recessed and Asymmetrical Jawlines
-Rounded w/ loose hyroid skin
-Overly narrow
Bruh
Know why you guys are single
These are all good tips to know. I can have a meaningful conversation with a girl. I can make sure i have a good appearance. You are very intelligent and smart courtney. You know your stuff. Your hair looks nice also. I will keep everything you said in mind.
1) Taking initiative: I'm not doing that unless we have a relationship already established. I'm not an idiot.
2) Physical care/fashion: I'm already doing it and apparently that's bare minimum since it didn't change anything.
3) Being mysterious: I don't talk about myself that much but this also made some girls be afraid of me for some reason. Do they want to discover me or do I have to reveal myself more? Make up your mind!
4) Being well-rounded: I did this through my entire childhood, and not the girls I've met. They should measure up instead of asking, asking and asking.
5) Confidence through action: I can be quite confident in my workplace. Not just girls, everyone trusts in what I do. Again, this doesn't take me anywhere. Also, what exactly is it to girls if I tackle some challenges? I do them for myself. How does a girl (or anyone) benefit from me learning Tagalog for example? I'm not going to speak Tagalog in my daily routine.
This part reminds me of women's tendency of waiting at the finish line of a parkour and picking the winner guy for themselves, instead of running alongside him. Which I find ABSOLUTELY UNATTRACTIVE in a woman.
6) Emotional intelligence: I'll give credit for this since I'm recovering from a years long depression. However, my 4 years younger brother went through the same and he has a 3-years old and still going relationship (they met through Discord) while I am still alone.
Courtney. It seems to me that your advices are getting stale. Either come up with a new solution or stop giving us false hope. But why the heck I am giving lecture to someone who's still getting sponsorship from shady companies like BetterHelp is beyond me.
@@ibosu3190 BRO, JUST WIN THE LOTTO PROBLEM SOLVED
Many women say that they want an honest, mysterious man! How's that contradiction possible to achieve!
You've somehow been hurt, and it's giving you a bad attitude. Having a bad attitude is going to hamper your efforts to find a loving partner.
But I can tell you from my own very recent experience that what Courtney is saying is true. I discovered a lot of these things on my own over time. Not all of what she says is easy to adopt for many of us, myself included. But I worked hard and overcame things.
@@Makris_Amaliada9311
What you mention - cigars, drinks, shoes - are all superficial. I can tell you from personal experience that you DO NOT need to stand out from the crowd because of what you smoke, drink or wear, or how tall you are or how rich you are. The women that do care about those things are the women not worth being with - they'll dump you as soon as you don't meet those shallow expectations. It's not what's outside you that counts, it's what's inside. I know it sounds like BS, but it's true. Despite your best efforts, you'll end up meeting women that you absolutely don't click with. Some dates could even be disasters. But it only takes one success...
If you're authentic, humble and put your emphasis on her - assuming she's also an authentic, humble person who puts her emphasis on you - you'll do brilliantly. I'm SO lucky because I recently began dating a woman just like that. She's sexy, beautiful, intelligent (and highly educated, unlike me), warm and loving. It's still sometimes hard for me to believe a woman like that could be attracted to me, but sure enough, that's the situation.
talk to em!!!!
Definite on the fragrance side. Had a very lovely young lady ask me last Monday about the cologne I was wearing. Then on Saturday had another lady say to me that she could spend the entire day just standing beside me enjoying my cologne.
I wear Polo by Ralph Lauren and have done so for the past 45 years!!
I wear obsession by Calvin Klein and have done so for quite a while. Might have to try something new
Be over 6 foot
Muscular build
Make 100k
The 3 sixes - six feet, six pack, six figures.
But what if this is coupled with a sub5 face (about a 3 or below, something I might be)
Get some expensive sunglasses. 🤔
I hope your life goes well. At this time, I do not think I need any more reminders of being who I am. Take care & God bless.
Maybe do a video on guys showing interest and appreciation without pedalstalizing women?
The burden is always placed on the guy, who is always expected to make the first move. To me, this pedestalizes women.
This needs to stop. Let there be equal and shared dialogue, risks, and burdens right from the start.
Guys can approach, act, and react accordingly if they know the girls reaction mistakes.
I hope this makes sense.
I think the idea her is just to live your best life in 2025, and take the opportunities when presented. I think that I possess many of these qualities, I just need to get out of my comfort zone and actually talk ;;to more people, women included. To that end I am going to call tomorrow and ask the company setting up a speed dating event in my town what the age groups for the event are. Aa long as the ages aren't too much lower than mine I am going to get a ticket even though it terrifies me. Merry Christmas to all and don't give up hope, success comes when you least expect it.
Happy holidays.💜
You too! ❤️
@ nice watch, thank you.
Good advice on being authentic:)
Hello from Canada! 🇨🇦
Things that I've been doing include: lift at least 3 days per week, and doing online school to upgrade my skills
That color blue looks good on you Courtney. Am sure your husband appreciates your sweet voice.
Courtney, your advice is good and has genuinely helped to improve my life dramatically. Still single though. There's some secret beyond having all your shit together.
Good video! I learned something! Thanks for sharing!
Big issue with men opening up is that "many times" when they do it's wesponized against them later.
Almost always. Yet when we share this experience, women degrade us and gaslight us into thinking we choose the wrong woman. It is sick. They literally do what they say other women don't. Lol.
Open up slowly (advice I don't always follow, but women seem to be okay with it), and realize that if the woman does use it against you she's not worth your time and attention anyway, as much as it might hurt.
Bingo
@@davidabarak We are telling you we have done it with dozens of women and *most* use it against men. And you shame us by gaslighting us into believing it is us choosing wrong.
Or, this is a habit we noticed.
Look, men are just as pathetic. But at least I admit it.
I think I'd stand out by knowing I lead myself into the clouds of common interest based on real things, For example "protein is healthy and theres many ways to have some" which is heart healthy knowing
Thank you Courtney, I’m gonna be the best. Love you
Well, just to follow through the video.. my goals for 2025:
1. Find myself a job
2. Work on myself (want to start going to the gym and also improve myself by learning some new skills)
3. Whatever happens next, happens. Unfortunately, this year i went on a date with someone not trying to rush into it but be slightly passive and it backfired in my face and it was doing my head in. A lesson learned and an experience to use for future dates, if that happens.
But once i tick off the first 2 of my list, then i work on taking initiative and hopefully finiding someone that wishes to be with me, even with all my faults.
For anyone trying to stand out in the new year, I’m giving you all of my positive vibes. Let’s make it your year. You got this!
I'm standing out by being myself. I know what I like, and I don't care what anyone says.
*munches popcorn*
I don't get why people even bother anymore.
But the show is great to watch.
Men and women want each other, and we were designed to be together. No amount of social engineering, cynicism, bitterness, and nihilism can change human nature.
@@Guigley Maybe but it is quite effective though. With how few young men even want to bother these days.
And not that women notice...but that is another story.
Yeah biologically we are attracted to each other, that is over 90%. Some are wired different. But with how things are done and expected these days I can see how whole generations are just giving up on it.
And at this point I am not even sure if it can be fixed. Oh well. Popcorn is delicious.
Thank you.
Yeah these lists always make me feel like I must be WAY ahead of the curve for the most part. Kind of crazy that somebody needs to be told to not be on their phone when they are hanging out with someone, especially on a date.
I think giving your full attention when listening is really important. Put the phone down and look at the person when they are speaking.
I’m laughing so hard I dropped my phone, I can’t do any of these things alone and I will continue to be alone. 🤣 that’s to much it’s hopeless
I always tell myself I need to start picking up books again.
Thanks, Courtney! ❤
I don't know man, at 38 and starting over after 11 and half years, I'm thinking it might just be time to check out.
I'd be really interested in seeing a video with your thoughts on Date Me Docs. The name is cringingly terrible but I personally think the concept is great. Frontloading the important things about you and what you're looking for in a charming way, so people feel more inclined to really try to get to know you, because what they've already read was so engaging or intriguing. I feel like it does contradict your advice about oversharing a bit, but I think as long as you aren't trauma dumping, then I think it's good, although there is a fine line.
Another recommendation is I would love to find some positive non toxic places where a guy could get constructive criticism and opinions regarding his dating profile. So much of the internet is just so negative or outright toxic or filled with trolls, I can't even seem to find anywhere with a healthy community to discuss those kinds of things.
I am 65, and after my 20-year marriage ended, I tried a bit of online dating. I tend to have the most luck in real life. Just meeting folks naturally. So my input would be don't rely on the dating profiles and just rely on meeting people.
Could going outside be something we should all practice in 2025
😂
And what should i do outside? Talking to random strangers which will say GTFO?
Thanks Courtney, I´m from Mexico and I´m learning a lot from you. Pd. I really like your voice
Most of this falls within the tight-rope walking category of being 'reserved' as a person. How successful that is all depends on the other person. If they are at all interested in you AND do not mind being a little investigative (and ultimately invested) in a relationship, it works. On the other hand, if they are easily frustrated by what they see as 'work, or are quickly bored and make up their mind within a short span of time... It won't.
5:46 This is my fundamental problem with dating. I don't want intrigue, curiosity, excitement, etc, from a relationship. I don't want to date a girl that I have to "discover" new things about all the time and be surprised and excited by new things. I want us to primarily be excited by and discover new things about the world together, not necessarily about each other so much, though that would happen too over time, but for me that should be secondary or even tertiary... Not an active priority.
I want to date a woman who (it feels like) I've known since middle school.
She said she would...
As someone with ADHD these tips are just 5 times as hard to try to implement. The social side of advice I should say
The fragrance is going to be a wonderful Christmas gift 😂
Heard about this expensive men's fragrance called Gravite cologne trying it out heard women like it...
Great advice, I have a different opinion on hobbies though. Hobbies seem like mostly a waste of time. A man’s top priorities should be his career, his health, and his relationships (friendships, romantic, family). Hobbies for the sake of pleasure are taking time and energy away from those three core values. Like the man who spends 3 hours/week on playing guitar or whatever is going to fall behind the man who puts that time towards improving their health, career, and relationships.
My signature cologne: Michael Kors. Used to be Cool Water.
@Makris_Amaliada9311 New School brands? How old do you think I am? And I will wear what I want.
@@Makris_Amaliada9311 🤣🤣🤣
Some very good points made in this video but i ask what is the point of men even trying when quite clearly women just take the piss when it comes to guys trying to stand out. There are no decent woman out there worth bothering with.
Hey Courtney!
Will You Still Be Doing Wednesday Videos Tomorrow and Next Week on Christmas Day and New Years Day?
@@StevenAsadi yes! ❤️
Women will see what you're advising as being needy, too desperate to arrange seeing her again immediately after seeing her. Certainty kills desire.
As a guy doing all this and still getting stood up is nasty work
I just got ULINE trucker pants with hi-vis rings around the legs. With you fashion expertese, Courtney, how well will I stand out to women, 🙃?
Put the Hi-Viz rings around your -_-_, hopefully it stands out!😂
They have to like you for any of this to even work. I'm oblivious and probably won't even know if they see me more than a friend.
Stand up! yes sir
😊😊😊😊😊😊 2025 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮🎉🎉 Happy New year 😊😊😊
Hi Caleb. I'm not trying to be insulting or dismissive. I know it's not easy, but anything worthwhile usually isn't.
I think women are women the world over.
The advice seems really good. Let's give it a go. No good comes from giving up 🏆
Nice name you've got 🙃
Anyone who thinks negatively repels everyone. No one wants to be with that kind of person. He probably complains, looks like garbage, and isn't trying consistently to become a btter version of himself. Has too much free time, and is the most selfish person. The best way to be attractive, be a man, not a boy. Dont get your feelings in a bunch. Be bold, and make your move, be willing to move on, and always strive to become better. Regardless of what girls/women are, accept them for who they are. Be willing to always walk away when they dont get on your program/frame. There's no use in chasing someone who doesn't even like you for you. In the end she will disrespect you, and that humility for a man is the worse feeling ever.
@courtneyryan What are we supposed to do when it seems like we are pretty much doing all the right things that you talk about all the time, and yet no women will even consider a date with you? This seems to be a huge issue where I am. The women in my social circles want to be married so badly, but simply will not say yes to a date with anyone who isn’t a perfect person. I know tons of guys who have everything going for them, and no one will give them the time of day.
I try to avoid pointing fingers at the other gender as much as possible, because I know it’s best to focus on what you can control. But it seems no matter what angle I look at it from, there’s no way for me to get around recognizing that (most) women have collectively adopted such a harsh, hypercritical attitude towards men and are greatly hindering the dating scene.
Get yourself a Rollie goes with a lot of styles
I'm thinking of changing my name to Chad Longfellow III. Would that be a good starting point?
Good tips, but it’s a lot. I’ll be working up to this slowly…VERY slowly
Happy Holidays, Courtney and happy late birthday 🎂 ❤
Thanks John! Happy holidays to you too ❤️
@@CourtneyRyanThanks Courtney! Sending love from Miami, Florida ❤️
Ive seen and heard of ppl hooking up for a long time because of close/same birthdays, same last names too. Seems to be a new trend ppl are starting. Don't forget about that, I feel thats why I never found my one while everyone else has because of some stupid dumb luck.
Anne they should stand out to us
Does taking initiative also include approaching women in person rather than online? This is perhaps the biggest thing a guy can do to stand out since most men are too timid to risk upfront rejection.
I would say make yourself look as presentable as possible, but don't take it over the top by peacocking because she'll know if you're being inauthentic. And she'll know your true fashion sense eventually if the relationship lasts, so there's no point in dressing purely for the sake of impressing others.
Yeah, anyone who goes out of their way to share every minute detail of their personal life comes off as desperate and needy, men and women alike. It subconsciously signals that the person is fishing for attention and validation.
Striving to be a well-rounded person should apply to both sexes, but women can obviously rely more heavily on their looks in the absence of other qualities. Although long-term relationships typically require more than just surface-level attraction.
Yeah, there's two basic types of people in this world: those who talk about aspiring to achieve something and those who actively work on trying to achieve them.
Women in general have better social acuity than men, and I think for many of us guys, it's something that we can only learn with experience. These soft skills don't come to us as naturally, especially now when we're having less in-person interactions.
Goeie lesse!