I ended up dating a girl who bought me a shot from across the bar. I was so surprised because I had never experienced it from the other end before, so I actually went over to introduce myself and thank her. She bought me another drink later that night after we exchanged numbers. A few nights later, while in bed together, it came out that she didn't actually buy me the drink! Apparently she had been telling her friend she was too nervous to approach me, so the bartender (who was a friend of mine) poured me a shot and said it was from "the blonde across the bar." I had told her I never would have approached her had she not bought me that shot. So, to that bar tender, you were the greatest wingman I ever had. Thank you!
I lost my wife who was my best friend in the whole world. Now I'm back in the dating world and I am abstinent, telling women "no" to sex has been a really unique experience. Sadly my experience is that it's been difficult to find a woman who respects herself enough for my standards.
I'm so sorry that you lost your best friend. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling. Dating after something like that can be a depressing experience because nobody could ever come close to the love you lost. I hope you find new happiness soon.
@@jossell911 i reflected on my comment this past day, the white knight injonction that is so much thrust into us when we're young is so much responsible for all this i suspect. I stumbled upon a video of Matthew Hussey, where he says his mother raised him to be a perfect gentleman with girls, and he says they MAUUUULED him in high school. I thought "this is so sad....so exruciatingly sad", that you're raised to be this perfect man your mother and grandma taught you to be and in response you are MAULED, taken advantage of by girls...As i type this i realise it probably means you're also taken advantage of by your mother and grandma, you're definitely flattering their egos that's for sure. He continued on saying, something didnt click between what i'd been told, and the reality. Gosh we need to raise our boys differently, they come first in their life.
@@Nykoooo1 what’s crazy is that I’ve seen the same video too. We need to end this white knight crap. Have respect for ourselves and set boundaries. Be Kings of our own empire. Of our own lives!!
I raised boys. You bet I taught how to be gentleman. There is nothing wrong with teaching them to protect and provide. Women are the fairer sex if you will. Not as strong physically. You guys want to drop the white knight because it takes effort. If you want to be the leader in the family sorry but this what you have to do. If you don’t want to lead them her masculine energy will kick in at some point and god knows that’s not pretty. Someone needs to lead in the healthy household. Just my 2 cents.
A lot of men don't feel like they're good enough for women. Ever since i was young i Always remember being rejected by girls and women and its so damaging to your mind. Many people feel desperate and to all the guys that feel that way, i wish we could be gym buddies, work out and BBQ a steak afterwards. We gotta stick together and build comradery again instead of feeling so alone. As a Christian, i see my local church fail to band the brothers together, and i believe its up to the rest of us to fix these problems. Women join forces all the time. Lets do the same. Like the phoenix that rises out of the ashes, lets change men's culture to be stronger, better, and mentally healthier 💪
@@richardw3347 true isolation of video games online and pornography in particular i think affect us the most, I think gym-fitness culture is growing and becoming more mainstream can be a way to bring us together in a healthy and productive environment
This advice isn’t just good for relationships, it’s insanely good for mental health. Self-respect is one of the greatest methods of preventing self-destruction and suicide.
When I used to pay my girls bills before I knew better, it wasn't that I expected anything in return, but to demonstrate that I was reliable and could handle things. A man of my word. My mistake was not knowing when to let her fend for herself
I have learned that, when he talked about they have to earn it, same goes for giving gifts to a woman, don't do it for her attention, do it to reward good behavior and/or great shared experiences; do not give her a gift just because you want her attention. If you guys are in a relationship and you happen to think of her and you pick something up because you know she would like it, that is a little bit different than when you are just dating and think it'll help her choose you. No. No no no no no! No.
This literally came up for me this week, was being told to get a woman I just met and barely talked to a bouquet and chocolates cause she would like that. Ma'am, she hasn't even put in any effort to get to know me at all. Wtf that involves that, in a relationship my woman who deserves to be shown how I appreciate how she treats me within our relationship. But naw, guys just across the board. It's self respect season.
@@MijoShrek i hope this helps: like girls that like you; choose girls that choose you; invest in girls that invest in you. Today's video did cover that if you aren't her first choice, move on
Reward her. Not a great choice of words. If her birthday comes up yes of course buy her a gift. Anniversary ya don’t forget that one that will be bad. I guess use common sense.
Hi Joseph ..I need some advice how to get back my ex gf if can help me out..I did 3 month no contact my ex gf didnt reach out ..but I bumped into her coincidently and she was so happy but she said she not ready to get back the relationship however the next day she text me Honey I want u to receive Jesus and I went to church with her last Sunday and after lunch we became intimate and she said we can meet once a week every Thursday nite to catch up and possibly intimacy. Seem like I became her part time bf with no bf label or exclusive as she said she got use to life without me and she would go shopping on her own and she dont need me there anymore. The " Honey Good morning" " Honey Good Nite Kiss" no more daily text and soon after last sunday intimacy she didnt text me for 4 straight days .. what should I do ? I will be meeting her tomoro is Thursday. I guess I will get her body(sex) but her heart(love) is gone ...though she kept saying she love me always but those love me as a bf and all for herself is gone...she no longer feel jealous as she told me to find another gf and dont invest time on her. Should I be patient to slowly re attract her because to walk away to get her back does not work even after I did 3month of No contact didnt make her Ready to get back our 7 years Long term relationship
It's nice to finally see it all unfolding...I used to get scolded by close friends for verbalizing things like "no, I"m not buying her a drink" - to which they would respond "Jeff that's so rude of you!" NO it's not "rude" it's called valuing myself, valuing my time, my efforts, and my god damn money. You didn't do a damn thing except look my way, and now I gotta pay? Heeelllllll no
You are my friend, Jeff. I'm like you...I say NO to women, too. Of course, I'm told that I'm rude, an a-hole, and that I rub people the wrong way. It's not that I rub people the wrong way; it's just that it's not right that I busted my behind to get to where I am in life...only for a girl to get free stuff from me, when I had to work hard for what I have?? No, woman! I'm not giving you anything. You're an example of how men should be to women.
@@Thestr8noodle It's even more hilarious when people post a comment on youtube to say that they said no to a women, to get a thumbs up from complete strangers.
@@maskedgamer7565 I don't post comments in the hopes of getting social validation like most people, I post comments because I can relate to what's being talked about.
Personally, I seldom tell a woman flat out "NO"; I'd rather ask her questions, such as: how is that fair to both of us, or what makes you think that I should do that? Let her explain herself, let her justify her motives. Engage the conversation by challenging her, while at the same time leaving the door upon for a continued conversation. It has worked for me, and I believe that women appreciate that approach.
Love this. I love how you're addressing the toxic dating culture we're all dealing with in this day and age. It is truly needed. I am learning software designing and I dream to work with psychologists and social media figures to make a new social media app that fosters positive and non-toxic dating.
Couertney, I love your analysis of Darius's videos. I have been a long time fan of Darius's channels and a subscriber to his content and channel and I have also been a long time fan and subscriber of your channel. To me you both are so amazing and are very much invaluable in my life. The difference between you and other channels, is your extremely down to earth, your integrity 2nd to none and I truly appreciate that from you, on your channel.
One time this older lady asked me that I should try this one drink and I said "alright sounds good" she orders the drinks and then says it on me. I was like "wtf" and had to tell the bar tender I'm not paying for her drink just mine. 😂
Bravo! You showed her. If I would've been close enough to hear you and her having that little interaction, I would've said to you, "You are the MAN! " and would have given you a high five right next to that woman. Just so that she can learn that there are guys are out there that have enough cajones (balls) to say no.
Fair play, I was in a situation one night where this younger woman started flirting with me at a bar. I was buying myself a drink and casually asked her did she want one. She said I'll have a vodka and red bull, as soon as she got the drink she walked away from me which didn't impress me at all. I got my tequila shot and downed it, after that I went after the girl I bought the drink for, said excuse me and took the drink I bought for her out of her hand and downed that too, then handed her back the empty glass 🤣
Courtney, I have recently begun viewing your channel. Most of all, I appreciate how you conduct yourself, what a true lady you are. My Mom would love you! Thank you for being such a wonderful role model for other women as well as motivating Men to be our best selves so as to attract a woman of quality to share our lives with. You have truly restored my faith in the opposite sex.
This also doesn’t just apply to reciprocation of financial investment but reciprocation of emotions, words and actions too. Money and drinks aside, ask yourself what emotional/spiritual/mental value does this person have to offer in exchange for mine. I can say that one of the most painful things is being in a relationship where your love and energy doesn’t feel like it’s being reciprocated in the way that you deserve.
It's a strange psychological thing that we end up giving more attention sometimes to the people who care less. We really need to ask ourselves what value do we really get from people.
*"what emotional/spiritual/mental value does this person have to offer"* that's a very dangerous idea road to be headed down - Easily 90% of women don't have value to offer a man's life besides their ability to bear his offspring. The ones that do bring value are instantly snatched up and wifed immediately (as they should), but even the remaining valueless ones are drowning in a sea of desperate thirsty male attention and simps. It doesn't make a difference if you can stand out to a girl who has a huge chance of not adding value to your life when she is seeing so many new faces every day and learning so many new names that she can hardly remember any of them.
I'm gonna be honest, when I first found your channel, I was skeptical, like "oh, here we go..." but to be honest, now I am entertained, at the very least. But I also really respect you Courtney Ryan. You seem really down to earth and, in the dating world, a real catch! You are doing a great service to a lot of people, covering all bases and perspectives. Thank you very much!
Courtney, I met a girl at church last week and noticed the body language signals you've talked about! I think I'mma give her my number this week-no more waiting for a perfect moment or total certainty because they don't exist!
A confident man moves decisively - he knows he has value and doesn't have to wait for the perfect moment because he's "enough" and also his time is valuable. BUT - you're going to give her YOUR number? NO! You are going to ask for HERS. See my first line - you are ENOUGH! That's the high value move. If you give her your number you are basically communicating that you don't think she'll give her yours. LACK OF CONFIDENCE!!!!!!!!! Plus you are putting the next move, for her to call you, into her hands. Women are indecisive, don't give them the power of a soft rejection. Approach this girl, talk to her for 3-5 minutes and then test her attraction to you by looking her in the eye and giving her a firm number ask. "I'd like to take you for a cup of coffee soon, so we can talk and get to know each other a bit better, please give me your number." And then STFU. She'll give it to you or she won't, but that's the strong move, and women like strong men.
Hope for the best and glad to see other brothers with success! Would love to see an update later in the future if your ok with that, and may the lord give you a special someone 🤞
I like to turn that “buy me a drink” test into another test; my response is “I’ll buy you a drink on our second date.” If she sticks around, I stick to my word, but get her number. If not, she leaves. A win/win for me, and I’ll drink to that.
@@alimirzaee4689 Bahahaha, cptn save-a-hoe said fiance', are your saying she is a "financed prostitute?" I about pee'd myself when I read your comment. The end is near......
This was spot on, Courtney. Most women do not respect most men, and telling a woman no if she asks you to buy her a drink is a very easy way to put your foot down and show you're worthy of her respect. I've actually had women buy me drinks before and turn them down. A- I don't want women buying me drinks, ever. B- I don't want a random woman at a bar to feel entitled to my time.
I've been in lines for drinks and some chicks have started talking to me. When I just get my drink and go and say have a good night, they look they give me is priceless.
It's not just women... It's a human tendency... We all are running behind things we can't have ... But we need to realise we don't need to chase anything... What we deserve comes into our life without any need to chase anything !
I appreciate these kinds of vids, Courtney, as "Inceptionish" as they tend to be. Women don't often cover topics that men want to know, or often don't seem to completely understand why we want to know them. Yet I'm generally pretty leery of men who try to tell us what women want or what their motivations are(and sometimes they're badly focused, like the last half of this one). This format gives us a much clearer picture.
Hey Courtney, you just changed my perception about approaching women! I always felt i wasn't good enough and had to spend to get respect from women. Hello from Ghana!
Courtney, what you say is true most of the time that a man should say no once in awhile. Unless she's a complete control freak and expects her man to be on her hand and foot. Perfect example is my oldest sister and my Aunt. They expect a man to do everything for them no matter what and gaslight them that he is a selfish and horrible person if he doesn't do things for her. These women are crazy and should not be given the time of the day.
ow bro. come to turkey and see how many this kind of ... ı dont know what to say ..exactly the opposite of this video is applied here in everyday life and it is called being a gentleman. and this is true for people. madness.
I found it funny how both Courtney and Darius possessed the same overall message but the way Darius expresses it is so different. I don't think I have ever heard Courtney refer to anyone as "beta males" 😂. Different audiences I guess. I'm not the type of person who talks about these issues in the same way he does, which is why I watch Courtney's videos, but I appreciate the message nonetheless.
@@inconnu4961 there are other words bruh, we are not a pack of wolves, there are no “alpha males” in humans, everyone is alpha or beta in their own areas, those concepts in humans are stupid
Hi Courtney, I'm from Europe, I've been watching your content for some time and I really appreciate how you present the male-female relationship, especially against the background of red pill channels. If you and Darius ever recorded the talks, I think it would be a revelation.
Reminds me of the time i was at a rooftop club having a good time chatting and what i thought was 'vibing' with this woman i met. She hits me with "hey can you buy me a drink." I told her " maybe later( i wasn't going to). Soon as i said this she turned her back and walked away without saying a word lol 🙃
I was in a bar awhile back. A girl came up to me while I was ordering and asked if I wanted to do a shot of tequila. I said, sure let's do it (I have a girlfriend who I'm loyal to, but she wasn't with me). After a couple seconds, she realized I wasn't going to buy the shots, pulled out her card, and paid for them lol.
Not always...met my wife of 20+ years by accident in a bar. She was the most amazing person I ever met in my life. She passed away in 2019. Miss her every day.
I appreciate the thought put across in the video. In times where people have access to each other through internet, it feels like they are going crazy like they discovered a treasure and don't know what to do with it...because at the end of the day you are going to settle for one man/women. Money, fame and attention will not bring you happiness but choosing who you are and what you want might lead you in the right direction...
cool video.manosphere still has some gems from time to time .men really need to quit the self denigration and degradation with these behaviours.i m still not over the fact that some men pay for onlyfans for example.unbelievable.
Yes very true, some time it's take guts to say no to a woman, but once you do it the first time the second time will be easy. You gain respect and keep your insanity intact.
Social media like I’ve said in other videos just makes things so hard to date I can’t even tell the difference between being a gentleman and being a “simp”.. lol
@@CourtneyRyan please! I know buying drinks isn’t a thing. My mom taught me everything, but at the same time I’ve literally had people tell me that they can open their own doors, even though it’s just what I do out of habit, for anyone
Its going to sound vague ...but being a gentleman is respecting yourself, your boundaries and others....being a simp is doing things for approval of a woman, kissing her behind because you think it'll win her over, especially once you begin to compromise your personal boundaries for her. It'll come with experiece my friend...
Courtney I really love your honesty! It actually eye opening and even funny! Men need to respect themselves more and stop buying farts in a jar thinking that gives them a connection to a woman because it doesn’t?! It’s just a fart in a jar!!
Ms.Ryan, I would like to express my gratitude for your wonderful Truthful female perspective and opinions. Thanks a million. For some reason being told by a woman, no games not emotions...I just realy absorbed it into my thick skull. Your a genuine class act.👍
I still remember the first time i told a woman no some years ago. She blew up in my face over it. She seemed almost disgusted. I found it extremely amusing and still do. And really the only reason I said no is because i was busy doing something else. Her time wasn't that important to me, but the rude and shocked response left a mark on me. Not for the gaining of respect from women but to see if a woman can handle rejection in a humble manner.
"Women want a guy that's hard to get." ... that is the key phrase. So unless you're an absolute stud or pulling in six figures, women almost instantly know that you're NOT hard to get.
17:37 I believe in the beginning of a relationship, the relationship itself is the prize and over time you become eachothers prize. I could understand thinking to one's self that I am a prize or that you have value and that you are worthy of being desirable or respected. But to say "you are the prize" no thanks. That is away to close to thinking that can become toxic.
I love he’s channel he really doesn’t flip flop with he’s content is always focused on the right stuff,definitely recommend he’s channel not toxic at all!
The relationship you have with yourself is more important than anything... if you don't have that you'll end up becoming a simp online that's buying farts in a jar from some girl dressed in a weird costume - I'm dying xD For real tho I have so much respect for you being so direct. I honestly think it's a huge problem we have in our modern society and I'm so happy that you pointed this out. Had to sub, much love
When I was 21 in college a girl came up to me at a bar randomly and asked me if I can buy her a drink. I then looked confused and my friend next to me said “how poor do you have to be to not afford a $5 drink? Is that LV purse fake to?” She then realized how stupid she looked and walked away. True story. This was in Tempe, Arizona
@@claytonelofgren I went to ASU too trust me I’ve been messing around on mill for years lol ton of females around there but yeah bitches do be broke in the bars bro
@@inkyandthebrain haha yep. It was Robbie Fox’s when it was a bar. I think even in college when we would go out with a group of friends half guys half girls the girls would usually be fine with buying their own drinks it wasn’t a big deal
I had an interesting realization watching this. Women are subconsciously looking for security (emotional and physical). Security relies on having established boundaries. Yes, they try to walk over the boundaries because they NEED to know that they are real. Be consistent and maintain your boundaries and they will either respect you or leave (and if they are the type that leaves, they are ultimately saving YOU a lot of future heartache).
Its simple: If she wants from you money, free stuff and refuses to reciprocate or has done absolutely nothing for you before, shes not into you. She just wants your money so that she can spend it on other dudes.
I’m so glad to be that man that has the ladies trying to buy me drinks. I usually say no thank you I like to buy my own drinks, but if you want to join me and chat I would like that. This gets me way farther than buying drinks for them ever does for the other guys.
I had this happen to me. I remember buying women drinks, getting lucky with some and getting used too. Now, when a woman asks me to buy her a drink, I tell her “No”. If she asks “Why?”, I tell her “I’m used to women buying me drinks.” You’ll be surprised at the outcome. This video is the absolute truth. Trust me.
Courtney, I have been married 33+ years. I have, much to my emotional detriment, come to understand that everything with my wife is some sort of transaction. Everything. The harsh awakening was that, maybe a decade ago, I realized what I had been taught about women needing to talk before intimacy (I need you to infer a bit here) was necessary for the woman to relax and enjoy said intimacy. But, every time it seemed to be about getting things the way she wanted them and my obligation to do so. Very subtle. Don’t think she consciously knows she was doing it. Just hard-wiring…. This is where it ties in with this video content. Are women’s relational motivations only transactions? Is this why prostitution is called, “The Oldest Profession”? I use to think it was supply and demand which initiated this, but now I’m not so sure women initiated this, exploiting men. Heart wrenching to ponder, Anyway, that’s was when ED started and has maintained. Knowing she didn’t really want to be with me, just doing a transaction. Very hurtful. I try to watch most your content, but would you be willing to get an MD, or Psychiatrist, involved and address this honestly. I think very little about ED has to do with physiology but I don’t think anyone of influence is willing to speak honestly about it. Your thoughts? Or, if you’ve addressed this before can you give me the link? Thanks,
_Some sort of transaction._ So you were expecting her to get aroused for sex in a matter of seconds?! *OF COURSE IT'LL SEEN TRANSACTIONA!!!* It takes about ten minutes to start getting aroused for foreplay, y'know. And yes, all the dirty/sweet intimate talk is needed during foreplay.
In the old days it was called 'doing her duty'! She traded her body, for your everything else! Yes, its normally like this! Women are not naturally monogamous! so, after 5 -7 yrs, the bloom is off the rose and the bed gets chilly!
@@checharles5224 multiple wrongs do not make something right. Also, why would I want to be treated that way by multiple women? People are all basically the same,
This is my first time on your channel (Liked), and I'm glad you are showing Darius M's video. I just started watching both your channels. Liked and Subscribed.
I piss women off all the time, but not because I’m rude, because they’re entitled. I would like to be in a relationship, but I’ve never bought someone a drink or did something like that for them until we were dating. If I did something nice for a girl when we weren’t dating, it was because I wanted to do something nice. That’s it.
I love this video for one main reason! About a year ago I thought about a niche market within TH-cam videos - where you: "React to TH-cam videos of TH-camrs reacting to other TH-camrs" lol... It's a little confusing at first because I expected the first video Courtney showed to be the other TH-camr - but it was actually the video that that TH-camr was reacting to.... Just found you a couple days ago Courtney and I absolutely love your channel!
One of my clients was asking for too much discount on the services I provide. When she asked me to reduce the price beyond a certain limit, I said ‘No I cannot do that and I feel pushed too much for a discount. I would rather let go of the contract than bend backwards’. Guess what - We still have that client eager to work with us. And yes, this wasn’t game playing. I was actually willing to let the business go and not work for less than the price we deserve.
Yep. When I was in my early 20s, I would frequently go out with groups of women friends - and they would get other men to buy ME drinks lol. If you want to standout, make them get YOU a drink. And you know what, when women see other women buying you drinks, you get their attention very quickly. Because they think there must be something 'special' about you.
Hey Courtney, I posted this question in a previous video, but, in case you hadn't seen it(I know you get a million comments and for good reason), I thought I'd post it again here. I was wondering if you could make a video on emotional attraction? You mentioned in a previous video that it was important for women, so I was wondering if you could give us more information about that.
Ashamed to say that I have been guilty of this in the past year - buying a woman a drink when she hasn't done anything for me. One time, after I had bought this one woman a few drinks (and on a few of those occasions she had asked me to), I asked HER to buy me a drink. She refused, and in a "what kind of question was that?!" tone of voice. I'll admit, I did it to see if she was worth those drinks I had already bought her and if I should ever buy her another one in the future. I had my answer, and never bought her another drink, even when she asked. This was back in January. Now when women ask me to buy them drinks, I typically say to them "why?" or "I'll think about it" or something to avoid buying them the drink then and there. Most of the time, they then they buy their own drinks 😂 Bottom line: I learned my lesson, after having made some facepalm-worthy mistakes.
It’s good that you brought this thing up. I have always seen same or similar things, and as a man I feel these type of gestures looks so not sexy. A man should value his self esteem.
If a girl ask me if I COULD buy a drink for het, my answer would be yes I can....... This doesn't mean that I would buy it. Just because I say that I could buy it, doesn't mean that I will buy her a drink. So I would say yes and just do my own thing and just wait her reaction. And most likely laugh when she reacts.
I just say "no but, you can buy me one" If she is interested at all she will try and validate herself to you. That way she is in your frame. If she just walks away. Who cares.
This is SO right on! I do give a girl more than one chance to show me who she is. But if she shows me the wrong side, I walk away (but not always, lol !) Thank you Courtney - and Darius!
I wish I could believe you when you say there is a woman out there who will like me, or any other man for that matter, for who we are, their personality, their dreams/fantasies, fears, and fun. I literally just cried in despair because I can't believe that is possible anymore.
Thank you for confirming what I have been noticing. I am so sorry for falling for this, in spite of knowing better. I am stronger now thanks to you confirming what I have been feeling.
A female coworker of mine once protested that she thinks less and less men are giving free drinks in the Club & was asking me, why it is like that? Told her, I think it is like it is since a lot of woman made themselves a sport to go out and try to get as many free drinks as they can.
I ended up dating a girl who bought me a shot from across the bar. I was so surprised because I had never experienced it from the other end before, so I actually went over to introduce myself and thank her. She bought me another drink later that night after we exchanged numbers. A few nights later, while in bed together, it came out that she didn't actually buy me the drink! Apparently she had been telling her friend she was too nervous to approach me, so the bartender (who was a friend of mine) poured me a shot and said it was from "the blonde across the bar."
I had told her I never would have approached her had she not bought me that shot. So, to that bar tender, you were the greatest wingman I ever had. Thank you!
😂 best wing woman ever! How funny!
Holy shit what a bro! I would ask him his number to repay him if I were you. Haha!
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cool story bro , sad that its fake
I'll take _things that never happened for $500 Alex._ Haha, just kidding. If that did happen, you lucked out my man. Kudos.
I lost my wife who was my best friend in the whole world. Now I'm back in the dating world and I am abstinent, telling women "no" to sex has been a really unique experience. Sadly my experience is that it's been difficult to find a woman who respects herself enough for my standards.
They are so into disrespectful guys, they even want to be spat on i guess. 😜🤮🤮🤮
I'm so sorry that you lost your best friend. I can only imagine the pain you are feeling. Dating after something like that can be a depressing experience because nobody could ever come close to the love you lost. I hope you find new happiness soon.
Woman do whatever they want that benefits them. Understand that and keep your ass out of the line of fire.
You are right on big time. I've been thru the exact same situations.
LOL I got laughed at and called a liar when i mentioned how low my body count was! GULP! needless to say, i dont want to discuss it with women now!
We need to raise our boys differently. Drop the white knight and princess myth and teach them self respect before all and refuse getting used by women
Facts the white knight shit is only fairy tale
Facts💯
@@jossell911 i reflected on my comment this past day, the white knight injonction that is so much thrust into us when we're young is so much responsible for all this i suspect. I stumbled upon a video of Matthew Hussey, where he says his mother raised him to be a perfect gentleman with girls, and he says they MAUUUULED him in high school.
I thought "this is so sad....so exruciatingly sad", that you're raised to be this perfect man your mother and grandma taught you to be and in response you are MAULED, taken advantage of by girls...As i type this i realise it probably means you're also taken advantage of by your mother and grandma, you're definitely flattering their egos that's for sure.
He continued on saying, something didnt click between what i'd been told, and the reality. Gosh we need to raise our boys differently, they come first in their life.
@@Nykoooo1 what’s crazy is that I’ve seen the same video too. We need to end this white knight crap. Have respect for ourselves and set boundaries. Be Kings of our own empire. Of our own lives!!
I raised boys. You bet I taught how to be gentleman. There is nothing wrong with teaching them to protect and provide. Women are the fairer sex if you will. Not as strong physically. You guys want to drop the white knight because it takes effort. If you want to be the leader in the family sorry but this what you have to do. If you don’t want to lead them her masculine energy will kick in at some point and god knows that’s not pretty. Someone needs to lead in the healthy household. Just my 2 cents.
A lot of men don't feel like they're good enough for women. Ever since i was young i Always remember being rejected by girls and women and its so damaging to your mind. Many people feel desperate and to all the guys that feel that way, i wish we could be gym buddies, work out and BBQ a steak afterwards. We gotta stick together and build comradery again instead of feeling so alone. As a Christian, i see my local church fail to band the brothers together, and i believe its up to the rest of us to fix these problems. Women join forces all the time. Lets do the same. Like the phoenix that rises out of the ashes, lets change men's culture to be stronger, better, and mentally healthier 💪
great post ! guys should join together more like women. the isolation with the internet can be too much at times and it shows in society.
Amen brother 🙏 🙌 👏
@@richardw3347 true isolation of video games online and pornography in particular i think affect us the most, I think gym-fitness culture is growing and becoming more mainstream can be a way to bring us together in a healthy and productive environment
You have my back....men of culture let's do it.
@@kisstagals haha. Your handle is the funniest brother.
Harold and Kumar go to Guantanimo Bay
This advice isn’t just good for relationships, it’s insanely good for mental health. Self-respect is one of the greatest methods of preventing self-destruction and suicide.
Best part is self-respect translates into confidence and people feel that!
@@ShinbrigTV thanks for summarizing the video. self respect = other's ppl's respect.
@@falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 you're welcome
When I used to pay my girls bills before I knew better, it wasn't that I expected anything in return, but to demonstrate that I was reliable and could handle things. A man of my word. My mistake was not knowing when to let her fend for herself
I have learned that, when he talked about they have to earn it, same goes for giving gifts to a woman, don't do it for her attention, do it to reward good behavior and/or great shared experiences; do not give her a gift just because you want her attention. If you guys are in a relationship and you happen to think of her and you pick something up because you know she would like it, that is a little bit different than when you are just dating and think it'll help her choose you. No. No no no no no! No.
Absolutely spot on!
This literally came up for me this week, was being told to get a woman I just met and barely talked to a bouquet and chocolates cause she would like that. Ma'am, she hasn't even put in any effort to get to know me at all. Wtf that involves that, in a relationship my woman who deserves to be shown how I appreciate how she treats me within our relationship. But naw, guys just across the board. It's self respect season.
@@MijoShrek i hope this helps: like girls that like you; choose girls that choose you; invest in girls that invest in you. Today's video did cover that if you aren't her first choice, move on
Reward her. Not a great choice of words. If her birthday comes up yes of course buy her a gift. Anniversary ya don’t forget that one that will be bad. I guess use common sense.
Hi Joseph ..I need some advice how to get back my ex gf if can help me out..I did 3 month no contact my ex gf didnt reach out ..but I bumped into her coincidently and she was so happy but she said she not ready to get back the relationship however the next day she text me Honey I want u to receive Jesus and I went to church with her last Sunday and after lunch we became intimate and she said we can meet once a week every Thursday nite to catch up and possibly intimacy. Seem like I became her part time bf with no bf label or exclusive as she said she got use to life without me and she would go shopping on her own and she dont need me there anymore. The " Honey Good morning" " Honey Good Nite Kiss" no more daily text and soon after last sunday intimacy she didnt text me for 4 straight days .. what should I do ? I will be meeting her tomoro is Thursday. I guess I will get her body(sex) but her heart(love) is gone ...though she kept saying she love me always but those love me as a bf and all for herself is gone...she no longer feel jealous as she told me to find another gf and dont invest time on her. Should I be patient to slowly re attract her because to walk away to get her back does not work even after I did 3month of No contact didnt make her Ready to get back our 7 years Long term relationship
Be yourself and respect yourself. I think this is a good mantra to live by just in life in general.
Thanks for the video Courtney!
It's nice to finally see it all unfolding...I used to get scolded by close friends for verbalizing things like "no, I"m not buying her a drink" - to which they would respond "Jeff that's so rude of you!" NO it's not "rude" it's called valuing myself, valuing my time, my efforts, and my god damn money. You didn't do a damn thing except look my way, and now I gotta pay? Heeelllllll no
You are my friend, Jeff. I'm like you...I say NO to women, too. Of course, I'm told that I'm rude, an a-hole, and that I rub people the wrong way. It's not that I rub people the wrong way; it's just that it's not right that I busted my behind to get to where I am in life...only for a girl to get free stuff from me, when I had to work hard for what I have?? No, woman! I'm not giving you anything. You're an example of how men should be to women.
@@joebeta1837 It's hilarious when people try to shame you into caving into simping.
@@Thestr8noodle It's even more hilarious when people post a comment on youtube to say that they said no to a women, to get a thumbs up from complete strangers.
@@maskedgamer7565 I don't post comments in the hopes of getting social validation like most people, I post comments because I can relate to what's being talked about.
@@Thestr8noodle Okay Nick!
Personally, I seldom tell a woman flat out "NO"; I'd rather ask her questions, such as: how is that fair to both of us, or what makes you think that I should do that? Let her explain herself, let her justify her motives. Engage the conversation by challenging her, while at the same time leaving the door upon for a continued conversation. It has worked for me, and I believe that women appreciate that approach.
Bravo!
Love this. I love how you're addressing the toxic dating culture we're all dealing with in this day and age. It is truly needed. I am learning software designing and I dream to work with psychologists and social media figures to make a new social media app that fosters positive and non-toxic dating.
Patent that shot
What does "non-toxic" mean?
You'd have to change female nature itself.
Good luck!
This women is a real one 💯 thank you for the content, it's 1000% relatable, she's a real angel
Darius is a student of the game.
Darius is a teacher of the game.
Couertney, I love your analysis of Darius's videos. I have been a long time fan of Darius's channels and a subscriber to his content and channel and I have also been a long time fan and subscriber of your channel. To me you both are so amazing and are very much invaluable in my life. The difference between you and other channels, is your extremely down to earth, your integrity 2nd to none and I truly appreciate that from you, on your channel.
One time this older lady asked me that I should try this one drink and I said "alright sounds good" she orders the drinks and then says it on me. I was like "wtf" and had to tell the bar tender I'm not paying for her drink just mine. 😂
Good, no one should willingly get robbed
Well, no man should
Bravo!
Bravo! You showed her. If I would've been close enough to hear you and her having that little interaction, I would've said to you, "You are the MAN! " and would have given you a high five right next to that woman. Just so that she can learn that there are guys are out there that have enough cajones (balls) to say no.
Fair play, I was in a situation one night where this younger woman started flirting with me at a bar. I was buying myself a drink and casually asked her did she want one. She said I'll have a vodka and red bull, as soon as she got the drink she walked away from me which didn't impress me at all. I got my tequila shot and downed it, after that I went after the girl I bought the drink for, said excuse me and took the drink I bought for her out of her hand and downed that too, then handed her back the empty glass 🤣
Courtney, I have recently begun viewing your channel. Most of all, I appreciate how you conduct yourself, what a true lady you are. My Mom would love you! Thank you for being such a wonderful role model for other women as well as motivating Men to be our best selves so as to attract a woman of quality to share our lives with. You have truly restored my faith in the opposite sex.
This also doesn’t just apply to reciprocation of financial investment but reciprocation of emotions, words and actions too. Money and drinks aside, ask yourself what emotional/spiritual/mental value does this person have to offer in exchange for mine.
I can say that one of the most painful things is being in a relationship where your love and energy doesn’t feel like it’s being reciprocated in the way that you deserve.
YES
Spot on!
It's a strange psychological thing that we end up giving more attention sometimes to the people who care less. We really need to ask ourselves what value do we really get from people.
*"what emotional/spiritual/mental value does this person have to offer"* that's a very dangerous idea road to be headed down - Easily 90% of women don't have value to offer a man's life besides their ability to bear his offspring. The ones that do bring value are instantly snatched up and wifed immediately (as they should), but even the remaining valueless ones are drowning in a sea of desperate thirsty male attention and simps. It doesn't make a difference if you can stand out to a girl who has a huge chance of not adding value to your life when she is seeing so many new faces every day and learning so many new names that she can hardly remember any of them.
I'm gonna be honest, when I first found your channel, I was skeptical, like "oh, here we go..." but to be honest, now I am entertained, at the very least. But I also really respect you Courtney Ryan. You seem really down to earth and, in the dating world, a real catch! You are doing a great service to a lot of people, covering all bases and perspectives. Thank you very much!
Courtney, I met a girl at church last week and noticed the body language signals you've talked about! I think I'mma give her my number this week-no more waiting for a perfect moment or total certainty because they don't exist!
Do it! ❤️
Have faith in yourself!
A confident man moves decisively - he knows he has value and doesn't have to wait for the perfect moment because he's "enough" and also his time is valuable.
BUT - you're going to give her YOUR number? NO! You are going to ask for HERS. See my first line - you are ENOUGH! That's the high value move. If you give her your number you are basically communicating that you don't think she'll give her yours. LACK OF CONFIDENCE!!!!!!!!! Plus you are putting the next move, for her to call you, into her hands. Women are indecisive, don't give them the power of a soft rejection. Approach this girl, talk to her for 3-5 minutes and then test her attraction to you by looking her in the eye and giving her a firm number ask. "I'd like to take you for a cup of coffee soon, so we can talk and get to know each other a bit better, please give me your number." And then STFU. She'll give it to you or she won't, but that's the strong move, and women like strong men.
You don't know until you try.
Hope for the best and glad to see other brothers with success! Would love to see an update later in the future if your ok with that, and may the lord give you a special someone 🤞
I like to turn that “buy me a drink” test into another test; my response is “I’ll buy you a drink on our second date.” If she sticks around, I stick to my word, but get her number. If not, she leaves. A win/win for me, and I’ll drink to that.
this is pretty solid 💯
I have been watching him for over 4 years now and he is one of the best channels. He is always on point.
Thank you for covering this subject. I recently asked you for this subject and you covered it perfectly ❤
High value women like Courtney just give me hope in humanity
❤️ thank you my friend!
You got friendzoneddddd boyyy
@@stayawayfromthewoke3412 bro chill she got a fiancé, you sick or sth?
100%
@@alimirzaee4689 Bahahaha, cptn save-a-hoe said fiance', are your saying she is a "financed prostitute?" I about pee'd myself when I read your comment. The end is near......
This was spot on, Courtney. Most women do not respect most men, and telling a woman no if she asks you to buy her a drink is a very easy way to put your foot down and show you're worthy of her respect. I've actually had women buy me drinks before and turn them down. A- I don't want women buying me drinks, ever. B- I don't want a random woman at a bar to feel entitled to my time.
Thanks for all you do Courtney!
Thanks for being here! ❤️
Courtney is like that big sister who would set us straight about women.
I've been in lines for drinks and some chicks have started talking to me. When I just get my drink and go and say have a good night, they look they give me is priceless.
Saying no to a girl that isn't used to being told no really is an interesting experience.
Extremely based
It's not just women... It's a human tendency... We all are running behind things we can't have ... But we need to realise we don't need to chase anything... What we deserve comes into our life without any need to chase anything !
I appreciate these kinds of vids, Courtney, as "Inceptionish" as they tend to be. Women don't often cover topics that men want to know, or often don't seem to completely understand why we want to know them. Yet I'm generally pretty leery of men who try to tell us what women want or what their motivations are(and sometimes they're badly focused, like the last half of this one). This format gives us a much clearer picture.
Hey Courtney, you just changed my perception about approaching women! I always felt i wasn't good enough and had to spend to get respect from women.
Hello from Ghana!
Courtney, what you say is true most of the time that a man should say no once in awhile. Unless she's a complete control freak and expects her man to be on her hand and foot. Perfect example is my oldest sister and my Aunt. They expect a man to do everything for them no matter what and gaslight them that he is a selfish and horrible person if he doesn't do things for her. These women are crazy and should not be given the time of the day.
Ooof, agreed. Sounds terrible!
In the end they are only hurting themselves. They won't be attracted to a guy long term who is a doormat. These are the "there are no good men" women.
ow bro. come to turkey and see how many this kind of ... ı dont know what to say ..exactly the opposite of this video is applied here in everyday life and it is called being a gentleman. and this is true for people. madness.
I love your honesty Courtney. They do look down on the guys buying their crap and pay for messages. It's sad.
Courtney please don't ever change. You're awesome and one of a kind 👏. Also you're facial reactions to these videos are priceless 😄.
Work on yourself and your goals. Self discipline is the key. Don’t be the simp, no matter how cute that girl is. It’s never worth it.
Thats far easier to say than to live out! You sound as clueless & self-important as all the rest! Congrats on your group think bro!
AMEN
Luckily I have never experienced this because the club/bar scene is not for me at all.
Not a bad thing at all. Not my scene either!
those scenes are for extroverts and chads. If you're neither it's just going to be awkward
Places for tossers & slags.😃
@@mjkittredge and alcoholics
Woman worth any kinda value most certainly do not hang out in the clubs.
It making me realize so many things. I’m happy to have a woman who goes against this standard
I found it funny how both Courtney and Darius possessed the same overall message but the way Darius expresses it is so different. I don't think I have ever heard Courtney refer to anyone as "beta males" 😂. Different audiences I guess. I'm not the type of person who talks about these issues in the same way he does, which is why I watch Courtney's videos, but I appreciate the message nonetheless.
yeah i cant stand the use of "beta" "alpha" "chad" "stacy"
@@jacksquadreturns7827 so which words do you prefer to describe those very real concepts?
@@inconnu4961 there are other words bruh, we are not a pack of wolves, there are no “alpha males” in humans, everyone is alpha or beta in their own areas, those concepts in humans are stupid
@@inconnu4961 I personally refer to those types as enablers.
Such a powerful and amazing message. Simple and makes perfect sense. Thanks for posting Courtney!
Hi Courtney, I'm from Europe, I've been watching your content for some time and I really appreciate how you present the male-female relationship, especially against the background of red pill channels. If you and Darius ever recorded the talks, I think it would be a revelation.
very true. Darius is a sublime would love to see a collab
Reminds me of the time i was at a rooftop club having a good time chatting and what i thought was 'vibing' with this woman i met. She hits me with "hey can you buy me a drink." I told her " maybe later( i wasn't going to). Soon as i said this she turned her back and walked away without saying a word lol 🙃
im so happy that Darius was the first red pill boss that I ran into here on youtube. Learned so much from him about women
I was in a bar awhile back. A girl came up to me while I was ordering and asked if I wanted to do a shot of tequila. I said, sure let's do it (I have a girlfriend who I'm loyal to, but she wasn't with me). After a couple seconds, she realized I wasn't going to buy the shots, pulled out her card, and paid for them lol.
7:45 boundaries lead to feeling secure and that trust can be established
Bingo
Staying away from the bars and clubs goes a long way into finding a quality woman.
Hey I met my great wife and girlfriend at this club! ... Said no man ever
Not always...met my wife of 20+ years by accident in a bar. She was the most amazing person I ever met in my life. She passed away in 2019. Miss her every day.
@@timothygibney159 I did.
I appreciate the thought put across in the video. In times where people have access to each other through internet, it feels like they are going crazy like they discovered a treasure and don't know what to do with it...because at the end of the day you are going to settle for one man/women. Money, fame and attention will not bring you happiness but choosing who you are and what you want might lead you in the right direction...
Glad you're out here, Courtney! Your videos are like a breath of fresh air!
cool video.manosphere still has some gems from time to time .men really need to quit the self denigration and degradation with these behaviours.i m still not over the fact that some men pay for onlyfans for example.unbelievable.
Thank you! I agree
It's really hard sometimes to resist beautiful women but at the end of the day you have to respect yourself enough to say NO!
Yes very true, some time it's take guts to say no to a woman, but once you do it the first time the second time will be easy. You gain respect and keep your insanity intact.
Social media like I’ve said in other videos just makes things so hard to date
I can’t even tell the difference between being a gentleman and being a “simp”.. lol
I should make a video about that 😂
@@CourtneyRyan please! I know buying drinks isn’t a thing. My mom taught me everything, but at the same time I’ve literally had people tell me that they can open their own doors, even though it’s just what I do out of habit, for anyone
@@CourtneyRyan You really should. Lots of dudes dont get it.
Its going to sound vague ...but being a gentleman is respecting yourself, your boundaries and others....being a simp is doing things for approval of a woman, kissing her behind because you think it'll win her over, especially once you begin to compromise your personal boundaries for her. It'll come with experiece my friend...
Courtney I really love your honesty! It actually eye opening and even funny! Men need to respect themselves more and stop buying farts in a jar thinking that gives them a connection to a woman because it doesn’t?! It’s just a fart in a jar!!
darius always cracks me up.
I like your coaching, the way you deliver the explanations I would say thumbs up for you girl.. thanks
Awesome content Courtney! Could you make a video discussing about the feeling of being very nervous when being with your crush?
Mr. President, *ASK* *NOT...* what the girl can do for you...ask what you can do for the lady!
Mr. President, *ASK* *NOT...* what the girl can do for you...ask what you can do for the lady!
@Courtney Ryan The world needs more women like you. Period.
Friendly reminder that she doesn’t want you, she is just being nice. Focus on yourself kings 👑
Ms.Ryan, I would like to express my gratitude for your wonderful Truthful female perspective and opinions. Thanks a million. For some reason being told by a woman, no games not emotions...I just realy absorbed it into my thick skull. Your a genuine class act.👍
I still remember the first time i told a woman no some years ago. She blew up in my face over it. She seemed almost disgusted. I found it extremely amusing and still do. And really the only reason I said no is because i was busy doing something else. Her time wasn't that important to me, but the rude and shocked response left a mark on me. Not for the gaining of respect from women but to see if a woman can handle rejection in a humble manner.
He speaks from experience, and he speaks facts and that's what I love about him.
"Women want a guy that's hard to get." ... that is the key phrase. So unless you're an absolute stud or pulling in six figures, women almost instantly know that you're NOT hard to get.
17:37 I believe in the beginning of a relationship, the relationship itself is the prize and over time you become eachothers prize. I could understand thinking to one's self that I am a prize or that you have value and that you are worthy of being desirable or respected. But to say "you are the prize" no thanks. That is away to close to thinking that can become toxic.
Darius is the king of reality checks. Courtney is the queen.
I love he’s channel he really doesn’t flip flop with he’s content is always focused on the right stuff,definitely recommend he’s channel not toxic at all!
Darius M is a legend
The relationship you have with yourself is more important than anything... if you don't have that you'll end up becoming a simp online that's buying farts in a jar from some girl dressed in a weird costume - I'm dying xD
For real tho I have so much respect for you being so direct. I honestly think it's a huge problem we have in our modern society and I'm so happy that you pointed this out.
Had to sub, much love
When I was 21 in college a girl came up to me at a bar randomly and asked me if I can buy her a drink. I then looked confused and my friend next to me said “how poor do you have to be to not afford a $5 drink? Is that LV purse fake to?” She then realized how stupid she looked and walked away. True story. This was in Tempe, Arizona
Your friend went right for the throat 😂
On mill ave huh?
@@inkyandthebrain yes on mill avenue it really happened
@@claytonelofgren I went to ASU too trust me I’ve been messing around on mill for years lol ton of females around there but yeah bitches do be broke in the bars bro
@@inkyandthebrain haha yep. It was Robbie Fox’s when it was a bar. I think even in college when we would go out with a group of friends half guys half girls the girls would usually be fine with buying their own drinks it wasn’t a big deal
This was a very valuable thing to have some good information on,good advice and thanks for the video,great job!.
In a world filled with coal that turns to dust under pressure, you're definitely that diamond and I definitely appreciate what you do!😁👍
You’re so sweet, thank you Tommy! 🤍
@@CourtneyRyan I can only name so very few women who are that rare gem like yourself!
@@tommygunn6901 too much bro, coming off as a simp now
I had an interesting realization watching this. Women are subconsciously looking for security (emotional and physical). Security relies on having established boundaries. Yes, they try to walk over the boundaries because they NEED to know that they are real. Be consistent and maintain your boundaries and they will either respect you or leave (and if they are the type that leaves, they are ultimately saving YOU a lot of future heartache).
Its simple: If she wants from you money, free stuff and refuses to reciprocate or has done absolutely nothing for you before, shes not into you. She just wants your money so that she can spend it on other dudes.
I’m so glad to be that man that has the ladies trying to buy me drinks. I usually say no thank you I like to buy my own drinks, but if you want to join me and chat I would like that. This gets me way farther than buying drinks for them ever does for the other guys.
I had this happen to me. I remember buying women drinks, getting lucky with some and getting used too. Now, when a woman asks me to buy her a drink, I tell her “No”. If she asks “Why?”, I tell her “I’m used to women buying me drinks.” You’ll be surprised at the outcome. This video is the absolute truth. Trust me.
Thank you for all your information. Your video contents helped me understand women better.
0:25 is meme worthy
At least she called out these bimbos that use guys for food and drinks
😂😅 I was so confused
@@CourtneyRyan 👀🤣
@@CourtneyRyan she must be on some sort of drug that is spiking her hormones and she is feeling tender..?
Courtney,
I wish there were more genuine women like you.
Ty
Happy Friday Courtney keep up the great content your advice is gold as always 🌹❤
Thank you Luis! Have a great weekend 😊
Thank you for your video I really like your honesty and the way you hold yourself as a woman. Respect
Courtney, I have been married 33+ years. I have, much to my emotional detriment, come to understand that everything with my wife is some sort of transaction. Everything.
The harsh awakening was that, maybe a decade ago, I realized what I had been taught about women needing to talk before intimacy (I need you to infer a bit here) was necessary for the woman to relax and enjoy said intimacy. But, every time it seemed to be about getting things the way she wanted them and my obligation to do so. Very subtle. Don’t think she consciously knows she was doing it. Just hard-wiring…. This is where it ties in with this video content. Are women’s relational motivations only transactions? Is this why prostitution is called, “The Oldest Profession”? I use to think it was supply and demand which initiated this, but now I’m not so sure women initiated this, exploiting men. Heart wrenching to ponder,
Anyway, that’s was when ED started and has maintained. Knowing she didn’t really want to be with me, just doing a transaction. Very hurtful.
I try to watch most your content, but would you be willing to get an MD, or Psychiatrist, involved and address this honestly. I think very little about ED has to do with physiology but I don’t think anyone of influence is willing to speak honestly about it. Your thoughts? Or, if you’ve addressed this before can you give me the link?
Thanks,
_Some sort of transaction._
So you were expecting her to get aroused for sex in a matter of seconds?! *OF COURSE IT'LL SEEN TRANSACTIONA!!!*
It takes about ten minutes to start getting aroused for foreplay, y'know. And yes, all the dirty/sweet intimate talk is needed during foreplay.
In the old days it was called 'doing her duty'! She traded her body, for your everything else! Yes, its normally like this! Women are not naturally monogamous! so, after 5 -7 yrs, the bloom is off the rose and the bed gets chilly!
Why don’t you cheat on her?
@@checharles5224 multiple wrongs do not make something right. Also, why would I want to be treated that way by multiple women? People are all basically the same,
This is my first time on your channel (Liked), and I'm glad you are showing Darius M's video. I just started watching both your channels. Liked and Subscribed.
I piss women off all the time, but not because I’m rude, because they’re entitled. I would like to be in a relationship, but I’ve never bought someone a drink or did something like that for them until we were dating. If I did something nice for a girl when we weren’t dating, it was because I wanted to do something nice. That’s it.
This us an incredible, eye opening video! It is life changing for I am now changing the way I do things in the Dating Game. Thank you for this!
Me, at raves: "Could I buy you a bottle of water?"😂
I love this video for one main reason! About a year ago I thought about a niche market within TH-cam videos - where you:
"React to TH-cam videos of TH-camrs reacting to other TH-camrs" lol...
It's a little confusing at first because I expected the first video Courtney showed to be the other TH-camr -
but it was actually the video that that TH-camr was reacting to....
Just found you a couple days ago Courtney and I absolutely love your channel!
Love courtney smart her voice makes me want to watch her videos I wish I had her voice 😍😍
Aww thank you 😊
One of my clients was asking for too much discount on the services I provide. When she asked me to reduce the price beyond a certain limit, I said ‘No I cannot do that and I feel pushed too much for a discount. I would rather let go of the contract than bend backwards’. Guess what - We still have that client eager to work with us.
And yes, this wasn’t game playing. I was actually willing to let the business go and not work for less than the price we deserve.
Yep. When I was in my early 20s, I would frequently go out with groups of women friends - and they would get other men to buy ME drinks lol. If you want to standout, make them get YOU a drink. And you know what, when women see other women buying you drinks, you get their attention very quickly. Because they think there must be something 'special' about you.
As a man we don’t listen to women coaches we your videos are awsome and you’re amazing person Courtney
Hey Courtney, I posted this question in a previous video, but, in case you hadn't seen it(I know you get a million comments and for good reason), I thought I'd post it again here. I was wondering if you could make a video on emotional attraction? You mentioned in a previous video that it was important for women, so I was wondering if you could give us more information about that.
Absolutely I can! Thanks for the suggestion!
@@CourtneyRyan Yay! You're welcome. I look forward to it. :)
what i love about your videos is how genuine and logical it is
Ashamed to say that I have been guilty of this in the past year - buying a woman a drink when she hasn't done anything for me. One time, after I had bought this one woman a few drinks (and on a few of those occasions she had asked me to), I asked HER to buy me a drink. She refused, and in a "what kind of question was that?!" tone of voice. I'll admit, I did it to see if she was worth those drinks I had already bought her and if I should ever buy her another one in the future. I had my answer, and never bought her another drink, even when she asked. This was back in January. Now when women ask me to buy them drinks, I typically say to them "why?" or "I'll think about it" or something to avoid buying them the drink then and there. Most of the time, they then they buy their own drinks 😂
Bottom line: I learned my lesson, after having made some facepalm-worthy mistakes.
Atta man!
Glad you learnt mate. Sometimes you gotta go through the trenches to learn these valuable lessons.
It’s good that you brought this thing up. I have always seen same or similar things, and as a man I feel these type of gestures looks so not sexy. A man should value his self esteem.
If a girl ask me if I COULD buy a drink for het, my answer would be yes I can....... This doesn't mean that I would buy it. Just because I say that I could buy it, doesn't mean that I will buy her a drink. So I would say yes and just do my own thing and just wait her reaction. And most likely laugh when she reacts.
"Never chase love, affection, or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having." - Unknown
I just say "no but, you can buy me one" If she is interested at all she will try and validate herself to you. That way she is in your frame. If she just walks away. Who cares.
Thank you for being truthful,my whole life I was conned,I'm 62
This is SO right on! I do give a girl more than one chance to show me who she is. But if she shows me the wrong side, I walk away (but not always, lol !) Thank you Courtney - and Darius!
I wish I could believe you when you say there is a woman out there who will like me, or any other man for that matter, for who we are, their personality, their dreams/fantasies, fears, and fun. I literally just cried in despair because I can't believe that is possible anymore.
Girls says " can you buy me a drink?"
Me: no but you can buy ME a drink!
True gender equality babes
Thank you for confirming what I have been noticing. I am so sorry for falling for this, in spite of knowing better. I am stronger now thanks to you confirming what I have been feeling.
A female coworker of mine once protested that she thinks
less and less men are giving free drinks in the Club & was asking me, why it is like that?
Told her, I think it is like it is since a lot of woman made themselves a sport
to go out and try to get as many free drinks as they can.