Plus, she said even after she showed them proof she booked the place, they were still extremely rude & treating her like she didn't belong there. They were incredibly dismissive.
It's still crazy that people will only leave you alone if you tell them you're with someone, especially a man, rather than just respecting the first no.
@Wilmina Robinson right?? More than once the next thing they've said was "you can still have a friend right?" Ya... If I wanted a friend I wouldn't of lied about having a bf in the first place! 😂🤦♀️
@@zaram3134 I did that a few weeks ago and said "Wheres the ring?" All I could say was "You asked if I was married... not if I was good at it" and kept walking 😂😂😂
I dislike how they dismissed Adrianne. This has happened to me...no one mistook me for a prostitute ... however, they would not let me check in despite leaving my credit card details. Normally in Western Europe, you put your credit card for the booking and then pay at the end of your visit. I did not like the experience.
K L yes but on top of the fact that they needed her card, they were rude and disrespectful. I’m pretty sure a white woman wouldn’t have gotten that treatment.
K L the UK and the US are two different places. Not every hotel requires you to have the hotel for a prepaid room. Most hotels I book at, I just show my confirmation number and ID like Adrienne was trying to do.
If you replace Tamera then it should be with a dark skin Latina like Amara La Negra or a dark skin Indian woman like Mindy Kaling. They hardly get any representation in the media. Or a hijabi (preferably darker skin) girl like Halima Aden.
Mindy is funny. Amara is also funny but very loud, louder than Adrienne. I don't think Halima would do it. She's Somali Muslim and publicly talking about these kind of topics is taboo in the culture and she wouldn't be able to relate to a lot of the explicit topics
I dont think there's any restrictions about topical contributions to culture. Somali muslims also experience these things in their environments. If its about inclusivity this table deserves a middle eastern or south asian.We need to explore
I completely agree maybe not Mindy Kaling! I would love to see and upcoming POC who doesn’t have as much recognition come to fill tamera’s position but yes agree!!
THIS IS SO TRUE. Everyone things a woman is flirting if she’s being friendly. I have a really bubbly personality and I can’t even talk to a guy without being perceived as flirty. It sometimes offends me when people point me out as being a flirt but there’s kind of something empowering about being able to flirt, just sucks that I have to tone down my personality sometimes.
Some girls say thing with love and passion. It's best not to give a guy the time of day if ur not going to put out. When I was pregnant and a lady offered me her set I felt so loved cared for..... the same feeling I got when my husband washed the dishes and cleaned and asked if I was craving anything special ...it was the same feeling the love I had for my husband was the same love I had for this stranger who was showing me love and compassion ....an all she did was stand up and said sit...I don't think she spoke english That's all she did and I felt so much passion for her.
So true, a bunch of men called me a flirt and not a nice person. All I did was being polite and friendly, no extra eye contact or body movement or exchange of name or number. When I found out about it from my bf I felt very offended. On what basis do men create such rumors, it's offensive.
Anytime a woman does anything... a touch of a very kind fellows hands could be taken as a sign of “ oooh she’s interested “ and that’s where it gets weird, someone simply being nice shouldn’t equate to flirting lol
Good call! However, as a Muslim, I mostly agree with everything Tamara says as she´s always the one who brings the God angle to it. Those who know monotheistic faiths, know how similar our values and outlook are. I really really appreciate Tamara and her Christian values. Although, it´s because she´s a serious Christian. Not someone who just calls themselves something but then does everything like others just to seem cool and "normal". What counts as "normal" today can be pretty messed up in our religious view.
@@Khwaab I agree with you, I have a minor in religions. I understand how beautiful Islam is and agree with you in terms of having similar values. I’m not talking about this show, but often when talking about Christianity, it comes at the expensive of Islam, and it’s often bashed in the media for people who misunderstand it. So it would be nice to have a Muslim on the panel to know that not everything ppl hear on Fox News is true🙄. Similarly about hinduism, white ppl have monetized it like yoga and meditation and have called it “spirituality”, “manifestation” . It would be nice to hear about it’s origins and give credit where it’s due.
So true!!! I can be in a room with 100 guys, and will probably be attracted to only one of them. Maybe 2 at the most. In a span of 5 years, I only been attracted to one person.
I really wish they posted the rest of what Jeanie said. I have a friend who is hella flirty and eventually the people in our friend group started calling her out on it because she would flirt with guys we were interested in. Then she flipped out on us because she didn’t think she was flirting and was really offended. She said “I’m not changing who I am for you guys!” Eventually she realized what she was doing and has calmed down a bit.
Elle Plow Plow I’m not 100% sure tbh. She’s a super friendly person and had admitted that she had never actually had anyone openly not like her or criticize her, so she took it to heart to begin with. I think once she realized that we weren’t criticizing her as a person, but rather her behavior she was able to see where we were coming from.
Battle Rifle partly, but we all like attention. She is super friendly and is naturally flirty, so she didn’t realize she was doing it. She had also never had anyone openly criticize her like we did, so she took it as an attack on her rather than her behavior and how it was negatively affecting us.
@@maddie3329 No I'm sick of hearing that. I'm sick of hearing women playing dumb to very obvious situations saying " Oh I had no idea". No you had an idea but you did it anyway. She's the same type of girls who would have a male best friend who is helplessly in love with her but she's trying to tell everyone else that he's just a friend and doesn't see me that way
I’m nice but men definitely take it as flirting. But when I like a guy, I usually pick on them and am a little mean. Adrienne once said that being mean is how she flirts. Haha. I’m the same way. So if I’m nice, then you should take that as a sign that I’m not flirting!
Im the same way. I tend to ignore somebody when im attracted to them. When I feel no physical chemistry whatsoever, im more outgoing and talkative. I guess because our confidence shows when we talk to people we're not shy around. So men might take that confidence as a sign of flirting. Men also like confident women, so that could be the reason too. When we're attracted to somebody, we tend to be more reserved. As lease thats the case for me.
So, to paraphrase: If a woman is being nice to you it's because she doesn't find you attractive, so don't flirt with her or you'll possibly be accused of sexually harassing her. However, if she's being downright nasty and unpleasant, she's just waiting for you to start flirting and showing an interest in her. Have you ever considered therapy??
Once in a reunion of my college's graduates this dude I knew from High School sat near me and the people I was talking to, I'll call him Max. Max started talking about how depressed he was and how miserable his life was. When he finished his story I talked to him for a couple of minutes. I told him to try new activities to help improve his depression and to message me in Facebook if he needed someone to talk to. I was simply expressing sympathy for his struggle and being kind because I too suffer from depression. Next week my best friend told me that Max had told him I came on to him at the reunion and that there was *sexual tension* between us. I talked to Max for five minutes at the most, stayed away from him most of the reunion, I never touched him or behaved sexually in any way. Yet he felt free to tell people I came on to him. That's why I rarely talk to men, most of them are desperate and they interpret any sympathy or kindness for sexual interest.
@@lindajohnson8194 If someone I know tells me he/she had been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts I'll tell them to be positive and to send me a message if they feel like talking. How is that a come on? "Hey, boy I heard you'd like to die, give me a call so we can get busy ;)" Now that's a come on and creepy as well.
Women do the same thing. I think we all know those girls who thinks every man is trying to talk to them or like them because they simply are nice and probably playful with them
Yesss I had a friend like that! She even thought the trees in the park were flirting with her because the wind was blowing the leaves in her direction.
javi ruiz I’m shocked & disappointed... sure a pay cut sucks but if it’s so that y’all get equal pay then I’d say that’s worth it! What happened to standing by our sisters 😢
I love Adrienne but I agree with the other ladies in regards to her hotel story, they just thought she was broke lol. A lot of hotels want a card on file for incidentals.
if her government issued id match the card that had already paid for the hotel then it doesn’t make sense that they would go through all that. and it would have been a credit card so they did have insurance for incidentals.
Amara Booker I use to work for Booking.com and many hotels would deny a guest check in because the did not physically have a card with them even tho they prepaid for room just in case of damages to the room or any additional charged. They would place temporary hold on the card (depending on what hotel it was it could range from 50 - 200) and the hold would be released once youve checked out.
Many guys mistook my “smiling” and genuine interest in them as flirting. Now, asked my male cousin this and he said well, “men just do not smile in interaction like many women do.” This is from a males perspective. I considered it and noticed women can have the tendency to be more open in conversation, emotive in communication, and men just “aren’t.”
I'm with Tamara. Dating wasn't my thing and I never paid attention as to whether a guy was interested or not. The direct approach works with me also. Lol
The same. I find myself not interested most of the time. I don't even have a celebrity crush. A dude has to be super upfront for me to understand the whole situation. Even then, in unsure what to do with my and his feelings I find myself really attracted to the guys personality and if I like that I would find myself insanely attracted to him. The man could be a 3 and I'm like 😍😍😍😍😍 If I'm nervous around a conventionally attractive guy, it's really because I'm thinking hmmm can I pull this? Am I attractive enough to pull this?. I think about myself and test myself to confirm if I'm that girl😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ashley Rios not to mention she’s charismatic and she’s a lawyer and she’s also part of “ The Interracials “ that a fan came up with since they all date outside their race lol
Yeeesssss🙌🏽 You can't even BLINK while wearing false eyelashes w/o some men thinking you're batting your eyelashes at them. SMH. I don't really wear them anymore 😂
When I was in middle school to early hs, I used to think guys who were innocently nice to me were flirting, but as I get older I realized majority of the guys were pricks to girls (at least the ppl I went to school with) so if you’re not used to innocent kindness it can easily be mistaken to flirting
Yea this one guy back in highschool mistook my niceness for flirtiness. He blew up when he saw me with a male friend and tried to spread a rumor about me...
Happens to me all of the time....it can be a little frustrating when you're just habitually friendly. It's like dude get over yourself, you're not even my type
Yeeaaah Adrienne. If you book through a third party website, like hotels.com, they are gonna need physical proof of payment at the actual front desk. It's not their fault you lost your whole wallet! 😂
I have the opposite problem 😂A woman could give me all the ‘obvious’ signals, and I’ll still assume they’re just being nice so i don’t make them feel uncomfortable. Probably why i’m still single. As long as men are always expected to make the move, you’re gonna have those guys that misread you. Can’t have it both ways!
So when women give compliments to men it's just it's not flirty it's just being polite. When a man give a woman a compliment it's sexual harassment because he always mean it in a flirty sexual way. SMH.
Edward DeBrae Im sure that happens to some men. But in my experience, men will pretend to be kind and as soon as you let your guard down, there they are with some type of advancement. They will then attempt to guilt you into whatever it is they want bc “they were a nice guy”. It has happened way too often for it just to be a coincidence.
@@chocolatecuban Hello, Ariel H, guys that pretend to be "Nice Guys" are called "Players" and are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Nice guys are usually faithful and friend zoned for 45 years, so to speak. If your willing, I would recommend watching an older movie called "How To Be A Player " staring Bill Bellamy. It’s a little out there but gives a good idea of what a player is and how he or she operates as a chameleon. Hope you stay safe and healthy.
Yes it is, but most of the time because of male ego, men don't accept the answer no. And imo, both men and women should take the hent when someone let's you know clear as day they're not interested, you need to move on.
Someone’s actions may appear flirty if that person’s cute. Freshman year of hs there was this guy who was innocent cute, and he’d smile, say hi or good morning to girls he sees in the hallway (plus he was a dancer). I’m pretty sure almost all the girls labeled him as a flirt. But throughout the years of hs everyone realized he’s just an extrovert who may appear overly too nice from an outside perspective
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial I agree with Mrs. Tiffany Rayne and with Mrs. Jeannie Mai’s statements. That some people just have magnetic personalities and some are just unconscious flirts, so to speak. However, I would add that Ego and Persistence are two different things. Also, life and people are not as black and white as people would like them to be. Funny thing is “Mr. Wrong” today may become “Mr. Right” tomorrow. However, he may end up telling you “no” because of the way he was previously treated. Being the rejecter is a lot easier than being rejected.
In my experience, simply initiating friendly conversation with some men would have them perceive a woman is flirting... Holding a steady gaze, smiling, and keeping up an interesting conversation with questions are also signals a woman is flirting. So is physical proximity. When a woman allows a some men to stand close to her, getting into her personal space, these types of men would perceive this as an invitation. Tone and volume of voice are also significant indicators of interest as perceived by some men. A soft voice is often perceived as seductive. An especially cheery voice can also be perceived as inviting. All it takes is a smile to drive some men wild. So be prudent about the smiles you give, knowing they can lead down many roads.
I agree, its taken me my whole life to know the difference between flirting and just a nice person. So i go around not trying to date. Im just happy you're all nice. If your flirting i really dont think about it. Agap'e isn't dating. It's brotherly love. Peace and agap'e.
Bruh like I’ve been told so many times that I like someone and I’m flirting when I’m like 1. How can you tell me who I like? And 2. Me being nice and laughing a lot is not me being flirty. I am just a laugher
I was test driving my car with the mechanic and he was telling me go here then go there.. so I was like JOKINGLY ok where where else do you want me to take you and long story short the next time he saw my mom he was asking her how old i am lol and I was a topic of their conversation. So I guess he thought I was flirting with him? Or maybe It’s not a big deal that he asked how old I am? Idk
The simple thing of telling a woman "I like you." I did that. The woman was disgusted at the thought of ME liking her. The simple approach doesn't work for everybody. Enough said.
Jasmine Riel Look at the strap that goes across the shoulder. You can tell that it’s longer and meant to be that way. If she just pulled a regular strap across, it would be choking her.
My male friend whom I trusted with all my heart, decided to start hitting on me and making me uncomfortable, made me traumatized on ever establishing frienship with male counterparts
I work in a cafe and I often feel like I can't be as smiley as I usually am because there have been too many experiences where it is mistaken as flirting. I smile at everyone I wait on because it feels like good customer service- friendliness.
Yes! I was being nice to this guy on Facebook in the comment section of a post because we had something in common, and he legit said “man it’s so nice to just have a good old-fashioned flirt with someone and their man doesn’t get mad. I was like ummm who was out here flirting? And my husband read it and was like yeah wtf is he talking about? We both had a good laugh at him and then I blocked him so he didn’t get confused 😂😂😂
Ain't nothing worse than a man who thinks you like him like that when you were just being friendly. Some of these dudes get real annoying, and frankly aggressive, with it. I've had men cuss me out for "leading them on". (Somehow always comes from the ones who call themselves "nice guys". Ladies, you know the ones)
Im going to really miss tamera. But can u try getting an indian american on the real. That is a person of colour too and the conversation of the difference in cultures would be beautiful.
Never had the problem. No one thinks I am flirting with them hahaha. I have no flirt bone in this body haha. But I did this for a long time. If a guy was nice to me I thought they liked me.
That's happened to me many times. I'm a very nice person. I engage in small talk, but I don't flirt with them. Alot of guys take the kindness and small talk as being flirtations or open to taking a step further. I just end up turning them down though and telling them I'm married (which I am). Most men haven't annoyed me by it though unless they are clearly still trying after I said I was married 🤦♀️
This has happened to me SO many times and it's scary because they can get so furious when you decline... especially in the church because you're taught to be loving and empathic and hospitable and generous... Like I recently brought my neighbours cookies to welcome them to the building (only the guy answered) and then he brought me a beer and invited me in and told me he was alone and then came out of his unit drunk one time when I was doing laundry and on the phone with my Mom just to bug me... and then around the neighbourhood I've stopped by to pet a barber's dog and he asked me what my Valentine's day plans were... the last one isn't creepy but I do get the impression that he would be mad or frustrated if I were to clarify that I don't feel that way about him....
This is true it's not one-sided towards any one gender, but it happens. I worked at subway and out of all of my other jobs I got flirted with the most there. I mean from the stories I have about it, you'd think that I was working at a bar, but no, a plain ass subway. I could be asking the usual question the same way I'd ask everyone. "What kind of bread can I get you"? And in response get "When you get off"?
Can Mindy Kaling be brought onto the panel? Since tam tam is going it’d be nice to see a funny character, fresh face on the panel. She’s insightful too.
I love Mindy, but Mindy is too high profile for this show. Plus these ladies are vapid. I was really surprised Amanda lasted so long on this show. This show is very light, easy breezy. Amanda is smart and hard hitting.
I am generally a friendly person, and, have been accused by a former 🔥as being flirty. I was actually propositioned, with a cash offer, to have a drink with a man. It felt as if he was trying to devalue me... I, actually questioned myself for a minute like, “Do I look trashy, or something?” As if I had actually done something wrong. I was fully covered, wearing a sweatsuit, and, very little makeup; as usual. I, ultimately realized that it was not me, and also, it was not the first, or, last time that happened. Of course, I’m not quite as “friendly” as I once was. I’m definitely much less chatty, and, very quite in public, now. Smh... Men, UGH!
in my 40 years in earth I think maybe two times in my life have I ever been complimented by an unknown random woman, I think its its the same for most guys compared to women who probably get hit on everyday I assume
but why are they telling adrienne how SHE was treated.... they weren’t there🙄
I hate when ppl do that when u tell a story
mmhmmm
Plus, she said even after she showed them proof she booked the place, they were still extremely rude & treating her like she didn't belong there. They were incredibly dismissive.
@@wings5211 I know people who exaggerate stories like that and that is even when I was there to witness the entire exchange. Feelings are not facts.
@@thrilla72 Your opinion and personal stories aren't facts either.
I’m really going to miss Tamera 🥺
Wait wht why is she leaving
Me too man
Wait what happened to Tamara?
littlemouse91019 she’s focusing on family life
javi ruiz we can’t miss a co host?
I have literally stared into space and a man thought I was looking his way 🙅🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Same
Men are so entitled ugh
😂😂😂
Gurl! Speak to me this happens to me
Right! or if you look at them for like less then 2 seconds and they automatically think you like them 🙄 sweetie please
It's still crazy that people will only leave you alone if you tell them you're with someone, especially a man, rather than just respecting the first no.
Smh so true
YES YES YES!!! That’s what I always say. Like noooo I just don’t want to. Leave me alone daaamnnnn
@Wilmina Robinson right?? More than once the next thing they've said was "you can still have a friend right?" Ya... If I wanted a friend I wouldn't of lied about having a bf in the first place! 😂🤦♀️
Tell them you’re married. Just saying you have a boyfriend or taken doesn’t work anymore 🤣🤣
@@zaram3134 I did that a few weeks ago and said "Wheres the ring?" All I could say was "You asked if I was married... not if I was good at it" and kept walking 😂😂😂
I dislike how they dismissed Adrianne. This has happened to me...no one mistook me for a prostitute ... however, they would not let me check in despite leaving my credit card details. Normally in Western Europe, you put your credit card for the booking and then pay at the end of your visit. I did not like the experience.
That's when you get loud on their a$$ and cause a scene. You might even get some comp stuff LOL.
People have mistaken me for a hooker. Now I'm in my late 20s I will insult you.
But that’s how it is in conversations lol
I don’t like how they dismissed Adrienne.
I feel like another reason why Adrian was treated that way is because she’s Latina. So many latinas get this type of treatment unfortunately.
No she just didn’t have a card
K L yes but on top of the fact that they needed her card, they were rude and disrespectful. I’m pretty sure a white woman wouldn’t have gotten that treatment.
Arlynn em I’m in the uk and everyone knows you need your card to enter hotel she’s near 40 she should know and maybe
K L the UK and the US are two different places. Not every hotel requires you to have the hotel for a prepaid room. Most hotels I book at, I just show my confirmation number and ID like Adrienne was trying to do.
I also hate that they didn’t believe her, I think Adrienne would know if she’s being discriminated against vs them just wanting her credit card.
I never assume a woman is flirting.
Some women just do things to be nice.
Ikr
Women take men's innocently being nice as flirting
@@cherylnelson5155 I know.
Thank you sir
@@TheBelievinme You welcome!
I told this guy his gas cap was loose & he asked me out. I’m like sir just trying to make sure you’re safe.
😂😂😂
😂😂 they really be feeinin. Don't even get me started on Brooklyn dudes
😂😂😂😂😂
Omfg 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
If you just joke with them or laugh too hard they think you are flirting! It's worse when they get COCKY
Giiiiiiiiiiirl! The worst
some of them need to seriously look in a mirror and re-evaluate their lives
Or when they become total jerks after you tell them straight up you weren't flirting.
Frl
Right.
If you replace Tamera then it should be with a dark skin Latina like Amara La Negra or a dark skin Indian woman like Mindy Kaling. They hardly get any representation in the media. Or a hijabi (preferably darker skin) girl like Halima Aden.
I would love to see Halima she's so great
Omg Halima is such a good suggestion
Mindy is funny. Amara is also funny but very loud, louder than Adrienne. I don't think Halima would do it. She's Somali Muslim and publicly talking about these kind of topics is taboo in the culture and she wouldn't be able to relate to a lot of the explicit topics
I dont think there's any restrictions about topical contributions to culture. Somali muslims also experience these things in their environments.
If its about inclusivity this table deserves a middle eastern or south asian.We need to explore
I completely agree maybe not Mindy Kaling! I would love to see and upcoming POC who doesn’t have as much recognition come to fill tamera’s position but yes agree!!
Me: *Makes eye contact with literally any guy*
Guy: She totally wants me 😎
No
@@vixoa7063 lol I literally said the same thing
How about getting someone that’s half black half Asian?
THIS IS SO TRUE. Everyone things a woman is flirting if she’s being friendly. I have a really bubbly personality and I can’t even talk to a guy without being perceived as flirty. It sometimes offends me when people point me out as being a flirt but there’s kind of something empowering about being able to flirt, just sucks that I have to tone down my personality sometimes.
Some girls say thing with love and passion. It's best not to give a guy the time of day if ur not going to put out. When I was pregnant and a lady offered me her set I felt so loved cared for..... the same feeling I got when my husband washed the dishes and cleaned and asked if I was craving anything special ...it was the same feeling the love I had for my husband was the same love I had for this stranger who was showing me love and compassion ....an all she did was stand up and said sit...I don't think she spoke english That's all she did and I felt so much passion for her.
So true, a bunch of men called me a flirt and not a nice person. All I did was being polite and friendly, no extra eye contact or body movement or exchange of name or number. When I found out about it from my bf I felt very offended. On what basis do men create such rumors, it's offensive.
Anytime a woman does anything... a touch of a very kind fellows hands could be taken as a sign of “ oooh she’s interested “ and that’s where it gets weird, someone simply being nice shouldn’t equate to flirting lol
Add a Muslim or Hindu to the panel! It would be good to hear their perspectives too!
Good call! However, as a Muslim, I mostly agree with everything Tamara says as she´s always the one who brings the God angle to it. Those who know monotheistic faiths, know how similar our values and outlook are. I really really appreciate Tamara and her Christian values. Although, it´s because she´s a serious Christian. Not someone who just calls themselves something but then does everything like others just to seem cool and "normal". What counts as "normal" today can be pretty messed up in our religious view.
@@Khwaab Mashallah. True. Christians,muslims and Jews are all cousins. Peace be with them.
Right? Someone different
I agree
@@Khwaab I agree with you, I have a minor in religions. I understand how beautiful Islam is and agree with you in terms of having similar values. I’m not talking about this show, but often when talking about Christianity, it comes at the expensive of Islam, and it’s often bashed in the media for people who misunderstand it. So it would be nice to have a Muslim on the panel to know that not everything ppl hear on Fox News is true🙄. Similarly about hinduism, white ppl have monetized it like yoga and meditation and have called it “spirituality”, “manifestation” . It would be nice to hear about it’s origins and give credit where it’s due.
Man dating as a guy absolutely sucks. As a guy you're attracted most girls. As a girl you find most men unnattractive.
So true!!! I can be in a room with 100 guys, and will probably be attracted to only one of them. Maybe 2 at the most. In a span of 5 years, I only been attracted to one person.
Mélissa RDJ equality is not the same thing as being different.
Equality is about men and women being equal despite their differences
That’s a little dramatic I think a lot of guys in my classes and work are cute 😂
@@mckenzie.8653 that's right
I disagree with the last part. That’s just how you feel.
i love this look on adrienne. like she’s so beautiful.
She looks good in everything she’s been blessed with looks.
This is why I'm standoffish to most men unless I'm actually attracted to him and I know he's attracted to me.
Jeannie was just about to say something, damn web people at The Real ya'll need to stop cutting videos.
Ikr
Right I was waiting for it then boom. Cut off. Thanks. Lol.
They chop terribly all the time.
If anyone finds the rest of what Jeannie said can y'all post the link please?
I really wish they posted the rest of what Jeanie said. I have a friend who is hella flirty and eventually the people in our friend group started calling her out on it because she would flirt with guys we were interested in. Then she flipped out on us because she didn’t think she was flirting and was really offended. She said “I’m not changing who I am for you guys!” Eventually she realized what she was doing and has calmed down a bit.
Maddie Schmidt I wanted to hear it to. It’s foul they cut it. What made your friend realize y’all were right?
Because she's one of those girls that like attention
Elle Plow Plow I’m not 100% sure tbh. She’s a super friendly person and had admitted that she had never actually had anyone openly not like her or criticize her, so she took it to heart to begin with. I think once she realized that we weren’t criticizing her as a person, but rather her behavior she was able to see where we were coming from.
Battle Rifle partly, but we all like attention. She is super friendly and is naturally flirty, so she didn’t realize she was doing it. She had also never had anyone openly criticize her like we did, so she took it as an attack on her rather than her behavior and how it was negatively affecting us.
@@maddie3329 No I'm sick of hearing that. I'm sick of hearing women playing dumb to very obvious situations saying " Oh I had no idea".
No you had an idea but you did it anyway. She's the same type of girls who would have a male best friend who is helplessly in love with her but she's trying to tell everyone else that he's just a friend and doesn't see me that way
Women do the same. My boyfriend is nice in general but some girls take it as flirting when thats not his intention. He's just a nice guy to everyone.
I love Jeannies child-like innocence ❤️ she’s so playful and sweet. I love her!
I dont like how the other girls were telling Adrienne how to feel about the experience SHE had but they respect their own stories.
I’m nice but men definitely take it as flirting. But when I like a guy, I usually pick on them and am a little mean. Adrienne once said that being mean is how she flirts. Haha. I’m the same way. So if I’m nice, then you should take that as a sign that I’m not flirting!
Im the same way. I tend to ignore somebody when im attracted to them. When I feel no physical chemistry whatsoever, im more outgoing and talkative. I guess because our confidence shows when we talk to people we're not shy around. So men might take that confidence as a sign of flirting. Men also like confident women, so that could be the reason too. When we're attracted to somebody, we tend to be more reserved. As lease thats the case for me.
This comment is so relatable.
Same lmao.
And you feel like those are reasonable behaviours of showing interest? Like literally?
So, to paraphrase: If a woman is being nice to you it's because she doesn't find you attractive, so don't flirt with her or you'll possibly be accused of sexually harassing her. However, if she's being downright nasty and unpleasant, she's just waiting for you to start flirting and showing an interest in her.
Have you ever considered therapy??
there’s nothing wrong with being polite and complementary it’s weird when they think it’s flirting 🤣
Why do I relate with Tamera?
I'm such an awkward person... Coy as a bride... Don't know how to speak, what to do , etc 😑😂
Once in a reunion of my college's graduates this dude I knew from High School sat near me and the people I was talking to, I'll call him Max. Max started talking about how depressed he was and how miserable his life was. When he finished his story I talked to him for a couple of minutes. I told him to try new activities to help improve his depression and to message me in Facebook if he needed someone to talk to. I was simply expressing sympathy for his struggle and being kind because I too suffer from depression.
Next week my best friend told me that Max had told him I came on to him at the reunion and that there was *sexual tension* between us.
I talked to Max for five minutes at the most, stayed away from him most of the reunion, I never touched him or behaved sexually in any way. Yet he felt free to tell people I came on to him.
That's why I rarely talk to men, most of them are desperate and they interpret any sympathy or kindness for sexual interest.
Sounds like a come on to me
@@lindajohnson8194 If someone I know tells me he/she had been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts I'll tell them to be positive and to send me a message if they feel like talking. How is that a come on?
"Hey, boy I heard you'd like to die, give me a call so we can get busy ;)" Now that's a come on and creepy as well.
@@dunnotck1 That is a very honorable thing to do. Unfortunately it was misunderstood. Sorry that happen
The ladies all look so gorgeous. Plus their makeup 😍
So glad Adrienne brought it up that she was flirting in every way and the guy didn't notice 🤣🤣
Women do the same thing. I think we all know those girls who thinks every man is trying to talk to them or like them because they simply are nice and probably playful with them
Yesss I had a friend like that! She even thought the trees in the park were flirting with her because the wind was blowing the leaves in her direction.
@@lighteningsnips there's no way this actually happened lmfao
So Tamera is really leaving?😭
Yes 😭😭
But why is she leaving tho
AT7 they cut her salary and she knows her worth so she left...,
Ash Wright bro she is legit the best person. On tht show
javi ruiz I’m shocked & disappointed... sure a pay cut sucks but if it’s so that y’all get equal pay then I’d say that’s worth it! What happened to standing by our sisters 😢
That black woman's (in the audience wearing yellow) hair/twist out is amazing.
I love Adrienne but I agree with the other ladies in regards to her hotel story, they just thought she was broke lol. A lot of hotels want a card on file for incidentals.
if her government issued id match the card that had already paid for the hotel then it doesn’t make sense that they would go through all that. and it would have been a credit card so they did have insurance for incidentals.
Amara Booker I use to work for Booking.com and many hotels would deny a guest check in because the did not physically have a card with them even tho they prepaid for room just in case of damages to the room or any additional charged. They would place temporary hold on the card (depending on what hotel it was it could range from 50 - 200) and the hold would be released once youve checked out.
What are incidentals?
SupernaturalLove100 if you smoke in the room steal something break something stay past check out.
Linda Michelle Even if they thought she was broke why did they have to be so rude to her.
Why do they always cut the video off to early!!! I wanted to hear what Jeanie had to say 😩
I know I hope they post part 2
Same!
Kai Lyn Unfortunately, they won’t.
Yesenia Torres they had to go to a break lol
@@MajesticMyronn Oh, so that's what happened. Thanks for always coming to the rescue over here on The Real's pages, Myronn!
Many guys mistook my “smiling” and genuine interest in them as flirting. Now, asked my male cousin this and he said well, “men just do not smile in interaction like many women do.” This is from a males perspective. I considered it and noticed women can have the tendency to be more open in conversation, emotive in communication, and men just “aren’t.”
I don't know if I'll be able to watch without Tamera😥😭
they all look so bomb!! Their hair, makeup, outfit, everything is all so stunning!!
I'm with Tamara. Dating wasn't my thing and I never paid attention as to whether a guy was interested or not. The direct approach works with me also. Lol
The same. I find myself not interested most of the time. I don't even have a celebrity crush. A dude has to be super upfront for me to understand the whole situation. Even then, in unsure what to do with my and his feelings
I find myself really attracted to the guys personality and if I like that I would find myself insanely attracted to him. The man could be a 3 and I'm like 😍😍😍😍😍
If I'm nervous around a conventionally attractive guy, it's really because I'm thinking hmmm can I pull this? Am I attractive enough to pull this?. I think about myself and test myself to confirm if I'm that girl😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
How could they thought she didn't have any money Loni? When she had a Louis duffle bag????
Some people walk around with a $2,500 bag with $0 in it 😭
Really men do go ahead of themselves
🙄🙄🙄
This is so true! You can't be nice anymore without someone thinking it's more
Dang I wanted to hear the rest of what Jeannie was saying
Consider Rachel Lindsay as a co-host! She’s been on the show before. She’s hilarious, educated, and has string opinions
Great suggestion!
Yes!
Ashley Rios not to mention she’s charismatic and she’s a lawyer and she’s also part of “ The Interracials “ that a fan came up with since they all date outside their race lol
Yass but she lives in Texas and is ok ESPN (permanently?)
Oh pls no. I like her and believe she’s been very important to the Bachelor franchise but no. She can b condescending and judgmental at times
I worked for a hotel & we weren’t allowed to check guest in, even with a prepaid reservation, without a card for the incidentals.
Yeeesssss🙌🏽 You can't even BLINK while wearing false eyelashes w/o some men thinking you're batting your eyelashes at them. SMH. I don't really wear them anymore 😂
Fake news is 😹😹😹😹
I really going to miss tam tam
I'm just tired of them saying you're so beautiful when they only saying that because they just want one thing and I'm tired of men playing mind games
I honestly can't see it without Tamera, her purity and love and warmth 💛💛💛
When I was in middle school to early hs, I used to think guys who were innocently nice to me were flirting, but as I get older I realized majority of the guys were pricks to girls (at least the ppl I went to school with) so if you’re not used to innocent kindness it can easily be mistaken to flirting
Yea this one guy back in highschool mistook my niceness for flirtiness. He blew up when he saw me with a male friend and tried to spread a rumor about me...
I agree with Lonnie. They always think you're flirting with them.
Happens to me all of the time....it can be a little frustrating when you're just habitually friendly. It's like dude get over yourself, you're not even my type
It happened to me only once.
Yeeaaah Adrienne. If you book through a third party website, like hotels.com, they are gonna need physical proof of payment at the actual front desk. It's not their fault you lost your whole wallet! 😂
It’s so annoying when like I tease my guy friends who are like brothers and then my other girl friends think I’m flirting
Yesssss Jeannie!!!🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 anything to stop trafficking!
I have the opposite problem 😂A woman could give me all the ‘obvious’ signals, and I’ll still assume they’re just being nice so i don’t make them feel uncomfortable. Probably why i’m still single. As long as men are always expected to make the move, you’re gonna have those guys that misread you. Can’t have it both ways!
So when women give compliments to men it's just it's not flirty it's just being polite. When a man give a woman a compliment it's sexual harassment because he always mean it in a flirty sexual way. SMH.
What if the roles were switched: men’s innocent actions towards women? Could that be seen as flirting?
Edward DeBrae Im sure that happens to some men. But in my experience, men will pretend to be kind and as soon as you let your guard down, there they are with some type of advancement. They will then attempt to guilt you into whatever it is they want bc “they were a nice guy”. It has happened way too
often for it just to be a coincidence.
@@chocolatecuban Hello, Ariel H, guys that pretend to be "Nice Guys" are called "Players" and are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Nice guys are usually faithful and friend zoned for 45 years, so to speak. If your willing, I would recommend watching an older movie called "How To Be A Player " staring Bill Bellamy. It’s a little out there but gives a good idea of what a player is and how he or she operates as a chameleon. Hope you stay safe and healthy.
Yes it is, but most of the time because of male ego, men don't accept the answer no. And imo, both men and women should take the hent when someone let's you know clear as day they're not interested, you need to move on.
Someone’s actions may appear flirty if that person’s cute. Freshman year of hs there was this guy who was innocent cute, and he’d smile, say hi or good morning to girls he sees in the hallway (plus he was a dancer). I’m pretty sure almost all the girls labeled him as a flirt. But throughout the years of hs everyone realized he’s just an extrovert who may appear overly too nice from an outside perspective
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial I agree with Mrs. Tiffany Rayne and with Mrs. Jeannie Mai’s statements. That some people just have magnetic personalities and some are just unconscious flirts, so to speak. However, I would add that Ego and Persistence are two different things. Also, life and people are not as black and white as people would like them to be. Funny thing is “Mr. Wrong” today may become “Mr. Right” tomorrow. However, he may end up telling you “no” because of the way he was previously treated. Being the rejecter is a lot easier than being rejected.
In my experience, simply initiating friendly conversation with some men would have them perceive a woman is flirting... Holding a steady gaze, smiling, and keeping up an interesting conversation with questions are also signals a woman is flirting. So is physical proximity. When a woman allows a some men to stand close to her, getting into her personal space, these types of men would perceive this as an invitation. Tone and volume of voice are also significant indicators of interest as perceived by some men. A soft voice is often perceived as seductive. An especially cheery voice can also be perceived as inviting. All it takes is a smile to drive some men wild. So be prudent about the smiles you give, knowing they can lead down many roads.
There's a lot of women who think men are flirting with them just cause they smile and say hello.
I agree, its taken me my whole life to know the difference between flirting and just a nice person. So i go around not trying to date. Im just happy you're all nice. If your flirting i really dont think about it. Agap'e isn't dating. It's brotherly love.
Peace and agap'e.
Tamera's reaction when Adrienne said prostitute 😂
Adrienne seems like she’s hip with real life. She KNOWS how it is… 💯. I think the other girls dismissed her because they just don’t know..
Bruh like I’ve been told so many times that I like someone and I’m flirting when I’m like 1. How can you tell me who I like? And 2. Me being nice and laughing a lot is not me being flirty. I am just a laugher
They look amazing in this episode. Hair, makeup, style. 10/10🔥🔥🔥
I was test driving my car with the mechanic and he was telling me go here then go there.. so I was like JOKINGLY ok where where else do you want me to take you and long story short the next time he saw my mom he was asking her how old i am lol and I was a topic of their conversation. So I guess he thought I was flirting with him? Or maybe It’s not a big deal that he asked how old I am? Idk
The simple thing of telling a woman "I like you." I did that. The woman was disgusted at the thought of ME liking her. The simple approach doesn't work for everybody. Enough said.
Is Adriennes dress supposed to be worn like that?🥴
Got no problem with it 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
Yes, that is the style.
It literally looks like it’s a normal 2 strap dress but they decided to put one strap across haha
Jasmine Riel Look at the strap that goes across the shoulder. You can tell that it’s longer and meant to be that way. If she just pulled a regular strap across, it would be choking her.
It’s fashion.
My male friend whom I trusted with all my heart, decided to start hitting on me and making me uncomfortable, made me traumatized on ever establishing frienship with male counterparts
Damn. Finally early for once 😂😂😂
Right? Lol! I made it good time
I work in a cafe and I often feel like I can't be as smiley as I usually am because there have been too many experiences where it is mistaken as flirting. I smile at everyone I wait on because it feels like good customer service- friendliness.
Loni's laugh at 4:02 😄😄
Yes! I was being nice to this guy on Facebook in the comment section of a post because we had something in common, and he legit said “man it’s so nice to just have a good old-fashioned flirt with someone and their man doesn’t get mad. I was like ummm who was out here flirting? And my husband read it and was like yeah wtf is he talking about? We both had a good laugh at him and then I blocked him so he didn’t get confused 😂😂😂
Damn Adrienne takes so much time from the segment
and this is why i'm not friendly. 🤷🏽♀️
Don’t you dare cut off Jeannie like that. Upload what she was going to say, I was interested. 😑
Woman: Glances around & makes uninterested eye contact while continuing to scan the room. Random male: She’s ✨ flirting ✨ with me. Haha.
Ain't nothing worse than a man who thinks you like him like that when you were just being friendly. Some of these dudes get real annoying, and frankly aggressive, with it. I've had men cuss me out for "leading them on". (Somehow always comes from the ones who call themselves "nice guys". Ladies, you know the ones)
I hate how they dismissed Adrienne...as if her problem or situation was of no importance
Im going to really miss tamera. But can u try getting an indian american on the real. That is a person of colour too and the conversation of the difference in cultures would be beautiful.
Great suggestion!
lmfaooooooo jeannie at the end, coming from someone i respect” the shadeeeeeee 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😤
Never had the problem. No one thinks I am flirting with them hahaha. I have no flirt bone in this body haha. But I did this for a long time. If a guy was nice to me I thought they liked me.
If I think I guy is interested in me I tend to run away from them.haha it sucks.
That's happened to me many times. I'm a very nice person. I engage in small talk, but I don't flirt with them. Alot of guys take the kindness and small talk as being flirtations or open to taking a step further. I just end up turning them down though and telling them I'm married (which I am). Most men haven't annoyed me by it though unless they are clearly still trying after I said I was married 🤦♀️
LOL why Adrienne mad she offended Jeannie? “GOOD TO KNOW I OFFENDED YOU”
We men take it as flirting because its not normal.
They really ended the video so awkwardly. Where can I find the second part?? I really want to hear what Jeannie said
That’s why I don’t smile or make eye contact. Folks being polite and now I have to tell you to your face to stop bothering me.
ugh now that TAMAR AND TAMERA ARE GONE I AM TRULY DONE WITH THIS SHOW.
Right, sometime I find myself contemplating if I should compliment a man for that reason.
damn no one can replace tamera, get her twin sister on 😭
This has happened to me SO many times and it's scary because they can get so furious when you decline... especially in the church because you're taught to be loving and empathic and hospitable and generous... Like I recently brought my neighbours cookies to welcome them to the building (only the guy answered) and then he brought me a beer and invited me in and told me he was alone and then came out of his unit drunk one time when I was doing laundry and on the phone with my Mom just to bug me... and then around the neighbourhood I've stopped by to pet a barber's dog and he asked me what my Valentine's day plans were... the last one isn't creepy but I do get the impression that he would be mad or frustrated if I were to clarify that I don't feel that way about him....
I love Jeannie 😂
This is true it's not one-sided towards any one gender, but it happens. I worked at subway and out of all of my other jobs I got flirted with the most there. I mean from the stories I have about it, you'd think that I was working at a bar, but no, a plain ass subway. I could be asking the usual question the same way I'd ask everyone. "What kind of bread can I get you"? And in response get "When you get off"?
😂😂😂
The rest of the video please 🥺
As a latina, I've definitely been mistaken as a prostitute. Particularly in France and Italy while traveling....
Can Mindy Kaling be brought onto the panel? Since tam tam is going it’d be nice to see a funny character, fresh face on the panel. She’s insightful too.
I love Mindy, but Mindy is too high profile for this show. Plus these ladies are vapid. I was really surprised Amanda lasted so long on this show. This show is very light, easy breezy. Amanda is smart and hard hitting.
I am generally a friendly person, and, have been accused by a former 🔥as being flirty. I was actually propositioned, with a cash offer, to have a drink with a man. It felt as if he was trying to devalue me... I, actually questioned myself for a minute like, “Do I look trashy, or something?” As if I had actually done something wrong. I was fully covered, wearing a sweatsuit, and, very little makeup; as usual. I, ultimately realized that it was not me, and also, it was not the first, or, last time that happened. Of course, I’m not quite as “friendly” as I once was. I’m definitely much less chatty, and, very quite in public, now. Smh... Men, UGH!
I think the reason males take it for flirting is because they don’t get treated well enough. They are just not used to it. I think that’s why
in my 40 years in earth I think maybe two times in my life have I ever been complimented by an unknown random woman, I think its its the same for most guys compared to women who probably get hit on everyday I assume
Tamera please don't leave the show however i respect your decision though, i really love what you bring to the table💜
she left coz she got a pay cut lol