i took a debate class and my teacher once said "the second the person starts attacking you personally and not the subject at hand is the second you know you won the debate"
Not quite...some win by doing tht...they throw a jab nd make a great point then a another jab nd follow with another great point...it comes off as flair...thus winning making it all better becoz of what was said nd how it was said
I thought it was "When the debate is lost the loser resorts to slander" I only know that because its what chris hansen said in a like 50 second video replying to onion boys videos talking about him.
I liked this quote so much I looked it up. Why did it say he never said it?!!!! Well we are going to keep on acting like he did because that's my business (in my Tabitha Brown voice) and I like it. Lol. Thank you for sharing.
never attack someones look period. you can disagree and argue all you want but when you start attacking someone on how they look, especially things they can’t control, you’re a bully idc
It's a Bunnay honestly I find it’s people that are insecure about themselves period. like no matter what they look like. if you feel the need to bring others down for things like their appearance then you ain’t confident and secure with yourself
The main women who always say “we should uplift each other, build each other up, etc) be the same women who are quick to dim another women’s light so theirs can shine.
Now this I have experienced not directly from the woman, but indirectly. I agree there should be more practice than preach. It is the behavior that preaches the loudest and or makes your word bond.
When having a conversation, and there is a disagreement on the topic, the people who are unable to articulate their point fall back to attacking the person personally. That's when you walk away from them.
But why the look? Imagine two people disagreeing on the color of a cat: - "The cat is black! - No its grey - Nooooo, and look at your face, so ugly!!" I don't see any logic.
@@livewell-xt5xr The same homewrecker who Chris Brown exposed and who slept with Israel while he was married to her friend who trusted her and took her along on double dates. 😿
@@livewell-xt5xr People just keep up with what she's spouting day to day and forget that character is a long-term thing in a person and it's what matters the most because anyone can throw around pseudo moralistic statements like she does in these episodes.
Adriene had an awesome point, because claiming a materialistic acccomplishment still adds fuel to the same fire. Adriene really got to the core of this issue! Slayed it! Much respect! because as she said, not everyone has something to show for!
Lizzie Wilson I’m sure there’s a lot of things good about you love, when that happens, think about all the stuff about you you’re proud of and it’ll get you there- to appreciate yourself 😊
Tamera! She speaks truth. It's self-hate. "Love your neighbour as you love yourself." The way you treat another woman is a reflection of how you view yourself
Loni said she’s crying for a friend.... I doubt those tears are for someone else. I hope she can soon one day genuinely love herself and find unconditional love
I loved what Adrienne pointed out. A good heart really does go a long way and I think it’s worth building your career around your character strengths if you’re able to. It’s a beautiful thing. I understand what it feels like to have nothing to offer career wise but the only reason I stepped into the medical field was because I started caring for the residents and didn’t like feeling useless. The medical field was never my dream job but it’s slowly becoming part of it because I’m finding a new love of wanting to properly take care of others and allowing God to take the best of me and pour it into my work. ❤❤❤❤ May God forgive and bless us all so we can love ourselves and not be so quick to attack other people.
You should never attack someone for how they look. You have no idea how extremely damaging that is. Their self-esteem plumits to the groud, and all it takes is for them to hear it once and it's stuck in their minds forever, and though you may not know it, what took you 2 seconds to say, will stick with them for the rest of their lives.
I love Loni’s heart so much. She is consistently speaking up for women and REAL issues women face day to day. I love moments like this when she pours out her heart on the show.
13:08 “Having a good heart goes far beyond having a pretty face because at the end of the day, if you have a wack heart, there’s no photoshop for that..” PREECH.
This really touch my heart we have to do better for ourselves and each other, and not just tear each other down every single time we have the chance to it’s not right!! Let’s build each other up 🙌🏾
@@zaynblitzshow5103 I don't think that she needs to be replaced but she needs to learn to allow the other hosts to speak their full mind without interrupting
Lola D sis no what she said was racist. First of all loni got her race wrong. Second of all it’s stereotypical and some may say racist. Don’t use someone’s race or where they came from to discredit them. That’s like saying “the reason she didn’t get into Harvard because her black side jumped out” that’s rude. Her being 25% white had nothing to do with her skills whatsoever
Why are you taking what she said so personal. She wasn't undermining her because of her being mixed but she did attribute whiteness and blackness to certain characteristics.
Adrienne really spoke to me. Come on you better preach 👏🏾👏🏾 it’s not about what you accomplish cuz some people May not have the opportunity to accomplish a lot of materialistic achievements but one thing we always discredit and disregard is people’s character. Character, faith and conduct will always surpass all the materialistic things you could ever brag about. And it brings it all back to humility. Thank you Adrienne 💜 God bless your soul 💜
As women we’re taught to compete with each other. That our only value can be found in receiving attention from men. The medicine to this, is lifting each other up, remembering that our worth is not measured by the validation of men or others. That there is no competition at all. We are not meant to live to compete. ❤️
“ that burgundy lipstick , bad highlights , second wave feminist “ she thought she was doing something by talking about her... that doesn’t make sense to me... why the hell are you... as a woman resulting to INSULTING another woman... for why ?!?! You can disagree with someone... what you cannot do is talk bad about someone else’s looks
I swear, I felt like everyone of these beautiful women spoke to me personally while I was watching this. I am a 22 yr-old gay man (college student) who honestly feels judged for my looks by my community and society in general. Cus I'm too short, I got patchy facial hair, and I'm chubby. I am currently doing some personal soul-searching, and I found this video at the perfect moment in my life. I honestly can be very catty and negative and I use it as a front and as defense mechanism because I am also unwilling to express my true emotions for fear that my masculinity will be discredited even more than it already is. Tamera told me to start loving myself and to also start loving others. Jeanie told me to have an ambition and work for my goals because its more important than looks. Loni told me that beauty and looks are way too focused on in today's society and we normalize the fact that we judge each others so often and thats not right. and Adrienne said focus on your character; and she's right cus filters help me out ALOT with my selfies but i can't use a filter on this ugly ass attitude i got. They all just helped me out so much right now. This is why I watch them. Different perspectives rarely seen in the media until current years; these ladies are a blessing. Love them.
In my honest opinion I think that guys probably do struggle with the way that they look physically but of course they'll never ever ever ever ever admit it.
Y’all are disgusting. Black women always wine and complain when “others” attack them but constantly attack each other. Loni did nothing wrong. And to be honest the two of you look more like Loni than Shan.
Women are jealous of each other. That's why. There can only be one woman on top. There's always one greatest female singer, dancer, businesswoman, writer, host. We can't have more than one. Some attack each other looks and set each other back. Those are the women that were never validated as a little girl. They were criticized by mom, or aunt or grandmother so all they know is to bring down other women. It's starts from home but just like what jeannie said about those women that are brought down by the bitter ones "YOUR BOUNCE BACK WILL ALWAYS BE GREATER THAN YOUR SET BACK." KEEP WINNING. YOU DESERVE TO GET A CROWN TOO. I'M PROUD OF YOU SIS.
Loni you got me emotional too. You are a beautiful human being inside and out. You are so loving and supportive of women in general. Your kind heart and loving nature inspires me to be a better person.
I agree. People laugh because they want everyone to look like them. They laugh to pressure a woman to change and what is funny is if she doesn't change they start to get really angry. LOL! It shows how much low self esteem they have.
@@touboulayefaobuda7198 Honestly, I don't even know what Loni's real hair looks like because I've never seen it. Tamara wears wigs too but she also wears her natural hair out as well.
Exactly. Regardless of how old this particular episode is, don’t be a hypocrite! She definitely should apologize. She still put someone down based on their skin color. And would be the first to be upset if it happened to her or her girls.
This is why I love these ladies. You all are full of wisdom and inspiration! On a side note: EVERYBODY is beautiful, don't let anyone tell you different!
Any time someone starts attacking your looks in a debate or arguement; they already lost & they know that don't have anything else of value to add to the conversation.
Victoria Adeyemi Yes? Why do you think some men buy the newest pair of Jordans upon release most of them don’t buy them because they’re nice they buy them to stunt on other people. Men can be just as superficial as women because **newsflash** we’re all human and all participate in vanity.
LeReview Channel Yes she did that and she was wrong for it but that doesn’t make everyone in the comments making fun of her appearance ok. It’s still wrong because she’s still a person and has feelings
If you validate yourself through accomplishments jeanie, you lose. It is no different than validating yourself through anything else external. We must know that we are validated because we exist. PERIOD
Divine Feminine InnerG I think she’s saying... look at something else that makes you beautiful OTHER THAN looks ! so more of inner beauty that will eventually become your personal outer beauty
If you have to result to insulting someone’s looks... you automatically lost the argument... you have no way in maturely retaliating or carrying on a conversation... if your go to is to simply attack their looks then you my friend need some communication skills !
This topic has been so heavy on my heart lately so it’s so crazy this popped up on my feed… I loved everything I heard here!!!! These are conversations that need to be had between people of allll ages.
Loni made a good point about watch your response because you never know who you’re clapping back to.I control my comments by picking and choosing the stories I comment on.I do that because if it’s a story about a particular rapper,singer or entertainer that may have a younger following I don’t comment.Thats when you may get a very disrespectful clapback to a comment you may leave.And yes many of you younger commenters love to mention peoples ages and call them old or making age related comments to demean.Social media is for everyone not just the young and we should be respectful of everyone regardless of age,race etc.Thanks Adrienne! I was thinking that when she said that about a college degree.I say this all the time.GREAT CONVERSATION!!!!!!!!
I love my girls so very much! You bring such a great amount of positivity and light into those that watch you and I hope this show stays running for many years to come!
Everyone on this panel has hurt others with words at some point. Who on this Earth hasn't ? The commenters do it the most infact. Commenters aren't held accountable the way these lovely hosts are. Commenters make Tamera so white jokes etc. and no one demands apologies from them or attacks them. I'm sure the ladies have cried over some of the wicked things commenters say about their looks and weight but they stay professional and focus on the positives in order to keep entertaining us.
@@chileshekalela2872 She just said something about Shan Boodram the other day. I find it ironic that they chose to upload this OLD segment right after the backlash from the Shan incident the other day.
@@mairahmanzini2928 That's why the Bible says to CONTROL YOUR TONGUE. We have TWO ears to listen with and ONE mouth for that reason! We should LISTEN and THINK before we open our mouths to make comments. Our tongue should be used to UPLIFT and not to tear DOWN.
Ikr Especially Tamar and Kmichelle. I also dontlike that Loni doesnt come up for herself. She laughs it off, to keep it light, but she should have shut them down.
Then she shouldn't have done it to others. Victims bullying others for their looks, ethnicities, etc. are wrong too. e.g. Shannon Boodram is multiracial and can claim any or all ethnicities
Loni is such a sweetheart I think that we as women receive a lot of criticism regarding our looks, our bodies, our hair, etc. So we grow up feeling very critical about how we look and end up criticizing each other. ESPECIALLY on social media, even in these comments, people are SO rude. Calling the girls fat and this and that, we need to stop.
I completely agree with Loni about stopping the red carpet pre -shows during the big awards shows ( Grammy's,Golden. Globes,Oscars,& especially the NAACP Image awards)because to me I'd rather see who won & who lost rather than what some stranger that I'll never ever meet is wearing
The Real production team KNOW what they’re doing. They think they’re SLICK. They reposted this OLD clip from 1-2 years ago to make people feel sorry for Loni Love. I ain’t FALLING for it. Loni, TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY! You swear you’re right on everything.
Myronn Coleman the have over 4+ years of material to choose for the throwback vault repost but they chose the one where Loni cries, so that people feel sorry for her. Come again.
Bill Cosmo instead of advising Loni Love to take ownership for doing exactly what she (ironically) hates and condemns -RE the Shan Boody disrespect recently -they run this clip. What are the objectives of The Real producers?
Loni, I get what you’re saying. Vanity has rippled through our generation. So many people glorify superficiality. Like you said, looks are now everything instead of character. Social media has created unrealistic standards that women are striving to attain. No make up and natural hair is still and very much okay, please. Be yourself and enjoy it.
Loni has such a beautiful soul, all of these women are so amazing and gorgeous inside and out! It is so nice to see such a positive show full of beautiful spirit. I also love the representation showing beauty in all shades.
Class v Crass. What you like in others is a reflection of what you like or would like in you. What you hate in others is what you hate about yourself. We are mirrors for each other. Do your inner work and let your light shine. You are Beautiful, You are Intelligent, You are Joy, You are Confident, You are Courageous, You are a Work in Progress, You are Enough, You are Strong, You are Kind, You are Not a Mistake. You have Purpose, You are Compassion, You are Light, You are Love, You are a Blessing. ❤💙💚💛💜
Then there are those who are deeply insecure that look to others as acceptance. It's sad that sooo many people are judgemental. It's a waste of time and energy.
This is the most Real The Real I've ever watched. Women, we need to start off by loving and celebrating us first so that we can be strong enough to stand against Society's attacks.
Such a great and necessary conversation. Loni is so real and open and vulnerable, so inspiring. And I really appriciated Adrienne's comment on the fact that our worth is inherent and we shouldn't look outside of ourselves for validation.
I won tickets to a concert this past weekend and I didn't have money to buy new clothes or get my hair done. I was so thankful because I didn't do anything for my bday in early Nov. I rocked my natural puff, Walmart Jean's, sweater and 5 year old Target boots. I had women looking me up and down all night and doing hair flips after turning their back and laughing with their friends. I am such an introvert and haven't been out in a couple years. I really dislike the judgements. I am going through so much and it took a lot of courage for me to even get out of my house. I want to give up every day and I keep pushing through and treating people good and being encouraging. It gets exhausting sometimes.
i love and miss these ladies so much. I discovered this show when I was 16 and I'm 22 now, all these years they've taught me so much I'm truly thankful for this show.
Wow. This was probably one of the best and my favorite girl chats ever! God I missed it when I was just these 4! Now I feel like we dont hear too much of Adrienne or Tamera speak because they get overshadowed and Jeannie always gets interrupted. I missed this set up.
This has really help me today! So many people can find things that are wrong with one another , that we never stop to find that time to support what is good. We need more of each other to compliment and uplift one another.
It’s funny how Loni is getting emotional about women attacking other women’s looks, but she has yet to apologize to Shan Boody for legit ATTACKING HER LOOKS. But i digress 🙄
Lol calling me black is attacking my looks? She literally just said the girl was acting white and said she was not black which she is not. I don’t understand why it’s ok for every other group to call mixed ppl mixed but black ppl have to claim them as black. And if we refuse to do so we are called hatful and racist. Shan has a white grandfather so I don’t see what the problem was.
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i took a debate class and my teacher once said "the second the person starts attacking you personally and not the subject at hand is the second you know you won the debate"
Yea i had to learn that on my own
Not quite...some win by doing tht...they throw a jab nd make a great point then a another jab nd follow with another great point...it comes off as flair...thus winning making it all better becoz of what was said nd how it was said
@@kingcalv10 thats also true.
@@kingcalv10 Thats true, but I feel like if you have to start insulting somebody’s looks then it would come off differently.
I agree with loni I’m never gonna attack on you your looks if I know I’m in the wrong. But I can clap back at people.
“When debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser” - Socrates
ephrata gura Nice 👍🏿❤️💯😘
ephrata gura ADHOMINEM!!
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I thought it was
"When the debate is lost the loser resorts to slander"
I only know that because its what chris hansen said in a like 50 second video replying to onion boys videos talking about him.
I liked this quote so much I looked it up. Why did it say he never said it?!!!!
Well we are going to keep on acting like he did because that's my business (in my Tabitha Brown voice) and I like it. Lol.
Thank you for sharing.
never attack someones look period. you can disagree and argue all you want but when you start attacking someone on how they look, especially things they can’t control, you’re a bully idc
Easier said than done, ppl are not easy
Big Facts
It's a Bunnay honestly I find it’s people that are insecure about themselves period. like no matter what they look like. if you feel the need to bring others down for things like their appearance then you ain’t confident and secure with yourself
I agree
Really ironic considering Loni did just that to Shannon Boodram
The main women who always say “we should uplift each other, build each other up, etc) be the same women who are quick to dim another women’s light so theirs can shine.
Preach!!!!!
Now this I have experienced not directly from the woman, but indirectly. I agree there should be more practice than preach. It is the behavior that preaches the loudest and or makes your word bond.
Yup!!
Lol Lonnie......
Exactly & Loni is a prime example, she's a walking hypocrite
Jeanie has so much insight and wisdom . I want that. Can't imagine how much work she has to do to reach that point in her life.
Yessss
Adrienne was more insightful on this topic though! Materialistic achievements are not what one should look to for validation.
GarageStudio she got that after Jeannie basically answered the deepest thoughts
@@gracedwithbeauty5233 So the deepest thoughts = materialistic achievements is what everyone should look to for validation. Mmkay...
She reads a lot.
Loni: Maybe we need to stop the red carpets.
Tamera: NO NO NO.
😂😂😂😂
Ja'Mari lmao shes crazy
I'm gonna show my kids loni saying this and tell them that this is the definition of reaching
😂😂😂
Why do we need the red carpet?
@@crazysexycool90 designers n stuff
When having a conversation, and there is a disagreement on the topic, the people who are unable to articulate their point fall back to attacking the person personally. That's when you walk away from them.
But why the look? Imagine two people disagreeing on the color of a cat: - "The cat is black!
- No its grey
- Nooooo, and look at your face, so ugly!!"
I don't see any logic.
@@Justme-vq8rx that's exactly what Shan Body's supporters did to Loni recently
@@JoyFay Yeah I think it's totally silly
Mrs wineglass exactly !!
Thank you, love!
I feel like Adrienne was the only one that truly has the solution to this problem. It about what's in the inside!
I agree!
Adrienne is that friend who will cry when you cry
She’s over there bawling too lol
Higher Her B I don’t blame her because I felt what Loni was saying too. 💯❤️
Lmaooooo the same girl that left Nautari to fend for herself? She has a history of being shady and disloyal
@@livewell-xt5xr The same homewrecker who Chris Brown exposed and who slept with Israel while he was married to her friend who trusted her and took her along on double dates. 😿
@@imaginativegirl126 I hate how people forget fast, that broad has been trifling since 3lw she's nothing to admire
@@livewell-xt5xr People just keep up with what she's spouting day to day and forget that character is a long-term thing in a person and it's what matters the most because anyone can throw around pseudo moralistic statements like she does in these episodes.
Loni is a real one. Her tears & compassion for her friend and women in general is so tender. We all need a friend like Loni 🙂
Adriene had an awesome point, because claiming a materialistic acccomplishment still adds fuel to the same fire. Adriene really got to the core of this issue! Slayed it! Much respect! because as she said, not everyone has something to show for!
Nathaniel Essex Agreed. Admittedly I’ve felt like that so many times 😕
yes and Idk I’m right but she could be speaking from personal experiences
This got me tearing up. I don't have the materialism down pact. So I spend a lot of time looking for what's good about me.
Lizzie Wilson I’m sure there’s a lot of things good about you love, when that happens, think about all the stuff about you you’re proud of and it’ll get you there- to appreciate yourself 😊
I'm glad she said it because I'm behind my phone screen saying, "I don't have much accomplishments.... so and then what?..."
Tamera! She speaks truth. It's self-hate. "Love your neighbour as you love yourself." The way you treat another woman is a reflection of how you view yourself
I love Jeannie’s wisdom and energy so much and I strive for even half of it
Jeannie, my dream is to have time with you and have a wisdom talk one on one
Same. I'm so happy I live in a time where I can watch the real
@@BriaBarrows Amen
Loni said she’s crying for a friend.... I doubt those tears are for someone else. I hope she can soon one day genuinely love herself and find unconditional love
"Your bounceback is always going to be stronger than your setback!" Period!!! Come on Jeannie!!!!!!!
Jeannie’s makeup tones are phenomenal. Her and Jordyn Woods makeup artists have mastered the luxe natural look
'If we start loving ourselves as we are then we can love others as they are. ' Tamera slayed it! Exactly what I was thinking!
I loved what Adrienne pointed out. A good heart really does go a long way and I think it’s worth building your career around your character strengths if you’re able to. It’s a beautiful thing. I understand what it feels like to have nothing to offer career wise but the only reason I stepped into the medical field was because I started caring for the residents and didn’t like feeling useless. The medical field was never my dream job but it’s slowly becoming part of it because I’m finding a new love of wanting to properly take care of others and allowing God to take the best of me and pour it into my work. ❤❤❤❤ May God forgive and bless us all so we can love ourselves and not be so quick to attack other people.
You should never attack someone for how they look. You have no idea how extremely damaging that is. Their self-esteem plumits to the groud, and all it takes is for them to hear it once and it's stuck in their minds forever, and though you may not know it, what took you 2 seconds to say, will stick with them for the rest of their lives.
That is so true and sad :'(
❤️
Yeaup
Ironic considering Loni talking trash about Shannon Boodram
Men criticize women looks also, especially when colorism come into play.
I love Loni’s heart so much. She is consistently speaking up for women and REAL issues women face day to day. I love moments like this when she pours out her heart on the show.
13:08 “Having a good heart goes far beyond having a pretty face because at the end of the day, if you have a wack heart, there’s no photoshop for that..”
PREECH.
That statement Adrienne made was so deep👏👏👏👏👏
I didn’t make it that far into the video but I knew it was a quote from A because it had “wack” in it 😂🙌🏽
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Adrienne has a fantastically point, each of us has the choice to keep moving forward with positive change 💕
Men get judged for the way they look and there clothes it happened to me
This really touch my heart we have to do better for ourselves and each other, and not just tear each other down every single time we have the chance to it’s not right!! Let’s build each other up 🙌🏾
can we talk about how much times loni just interrupts mid sentence when Jeannie is getting to her point
shishonna mcmeo I cannot stand it. I used to love this show but I am getting annoyed watching it now.
She’s so annoying they need to replace Loni ASAP
@@zaynblitzshow5103 I don't think that she needs to be replaced but she needs to learn to allow the other hosts to speak their full mind without interrupting
@@shishonnamoniqueruthmcmeo7696 it goes both ways.
She do not...you mezzi. Ya dat mein gurl
Title: Attacking a Woman's Looks
Comments: Attack
Brittney Small lmfaoo😂😂
oh like loni ? ironic
Exactly!!!!
😂 😂 😂
gotta love the internet.
Treating this subject like they weren’t judging Keanu Reeves new girlfriend a few weeks a go 🤦♀️
aruallauraarual or Shan Boody smh
Well hopefully after THIS segment they will do better! That's what it's about!
They STAY contradicting themselves on this show. I cannot take them seriously.
aruallauraarual Wow someone is definitely reaching they did not attack Keanu’s girlfriend slow one stop it attention seeker 💯🙄🙄😑🤷🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️😒😒
christine Love Get over it Shan is doing just fine ok😒🙄💯
Loni’s crying but she was just undermining Shannon for being mixed.
No, it wasn't that way. You got it wrong
Lola D sis no what she said was racist. First of all loni got her race wrong. Second of all it’s stereotypical and some may say racist. Don’t use someone’s race or where they came from to discredit them. That’s like saying “the reason she didn’t get into Harvard because her black side jumped out” that’s rude. Her being 25% white had nothing to do with her skills whatsoever
joke tingz preach
@@lolad1257 she undermined her accomplishments and belittled her to the way she looks.
Why are you taking what she said so personal. She wasn't undermining her because of her being mixed but she did attribute whiteness and blackness to certain characteristics.
Adrienne really spoke to me. Come on you better preach 👏🏾👏🏾 it’s not about what you accomplish cuz some people
May not have the opportunity to accomplish a lot of materialistic achievements but one thing we always discredit and disregard is people’s character. Character, faith and conduct will always surpass all the materialistic things you could ever brag about. And it brings it all back to humility. Thank you Adrienne 💜 God bless your soul 💜
all the ladies looked soooo beautiful today, INSIDE AND OUT!!! be kind ppl.
I love Adriennes mindset !!!!! I always can relate a 100% to what she says ♥️🙏🏽
As women we’re taught to compete with each other. That our only value can be found in receiving attention from men. The medicine to this, is lifting each other up, remembering that our worth is not measured by the validation of men or others. That there is no competition at all. We are not meant to live to compete. ❤️
Kat A. It’s called intrasexual competition and no you’re not taught it, it’s innate. It’s biology look it up.
I was waiting for them to discuss this. Women are taught to focus on their looks to attract men.
Kat A. YESSSS GIRLLL SAYYYYY ITTTTTT AGAINNNNNN
Actually, humans are wired for competition whether conscious of it or not. We’re community animals but also competitive it is what it is 😃
I do agree about being taught to focus on looks. But not all of us are competitive.
Jeanine has learnt to become a strong person.
The way she speaks and expresses herself definitely shows that...
“ that burgundy lipstick , bad highlights , second wave feminist “ she thought she was doing something by talking about her... that doesn’t make sense to me... why the hell are you... as a woman resulting to INSULTING another woman... for why ?!?! You can disagree with someone... what you cannot do is talk bad about someone else’s looks
Anyways
Soarix Channel Not articulate at all anyways 😛💯👋🏿👋🏿
I swear, I felt like everyone of these beautiful women spoke to me personally while I was watching this. I am a 22 yr-old gay man (college student) who honestly feels judged for my looks by my community and society in general. Cus I'm too short, I got patchy facial hair, and I'm chubby. I am currently doing some personal soul-searching, and I found this video at the perfect moment in my life. I honestly can be very catty and negative and I use it as a front and as defense mechanism because I am also unwilling to express my true emotions for fear that my masculinity will be discredited even more than it already is. Tamera told me to start loving myself and to also start loving others. Jeanie told me to have an ambition and work for my goals because its more important than looks. Loni told me that beauty and looks are way too focused on in today's society and we normalize the fact that we judge each others so often and thats not right. and Adrienne said focus on your character; and she's right cus filters help me out ALOT with my selfies but i can't use a filter on this ugly ass attitude i got. They all just helped me out so much right now. This is why I watch them. Different perspectives rarely seen in the media until current years; these ladies are a blessing. Love them.
I hope you are feeling yourself in this new year so far! Bless you darling, own every part of you!
I think men also struggle with their looks, they just don’t verbalize it as much.
Bontle Meadows oh trust me they do
YeA cuz they be some tow up muthafuckrs. 😂🤣😭
for sure
In my honest opinion I think that guys probably do struggle with the way that they look physically but of course they'll never ever ever ever ever admit it.
Interesting considering Loni was talking about Shan's look.
Kisimban girl I asked if this clip was before or after?
Y’all are disgusting. Black women always wine and complain when “others” attack them but constantly attack each other. Loni did nothing wrong. And to be honest the two of you look more like Loni than Shan.
She didnt attack her look--she made an ignorant assumption about here heritage. It was rude but not malicious behavior.
This is from an old episode
Right. Says the woman that says that some girls need to keep their makeup on cuz they "look like a tree monster" SMH.
off topic: Tamera's outfit is EVERYTHING.
She looks like a totally different person
@@cedmonds525 ik like at the beginning when the camera was on Jeannie i didn't notice that it was Tamara
Love that Adrienne! “No photoshop can fix a bad 🖤”
I consciously do 2 acts of kindness daily to strangers.ive been doing that for years privately.
That is beautiful!
That’s wonderful!
Alison Wallis I think you may have inspired me 😊♥️
@@skinni_the_P00hBear me too.. :)
What do you do for yourself?
Women are jealous of each other. That's why. There can only be one woman on top. There's always one greatest female singer, dancer, businesswoman, writer, host. We can't have more than one. Some attack each other looks and set each other back. Those are the women that were never validated as a little girl. They were criticized by mom, or aunt or grandmother so all they know is to bring down other women. It's starts from home but just like what jeannie said about those women that are brought down by the bitter ones "YOUR BOUNCE BACK WILL ALWAYS BE GREATER THAN YOUR SET BACK." KEEP WINNING. YOU DESERVE TO GET A CROWN TOO. I'M PROUD OF YOU SIS.
Loni you got me emotional too. You are a beautiful human being inside and out. You are so loving and supportive of women in general. Your kind heart and loving nature inspires me to be a better person.
In argumentments men attack women's looks also. I have experienced it and seen it happen to other females.
And vise versa
All the time!
True Some guys insulted my looks
I experienced that wars up with that?
Yes, but she was talking about guys attacking other guys on their looks . It’s not as common
Because men aren’t sensitive and don’t get offended easily
This was such a good topic. I AM ENOUGH. Love you ladies .
Yes Adrienne! When you speak with your heart you shine!
Oh my! Loni you are gorgeous, I feel African American women should show their natural hair. No one is going to laugh! Natural is beautiful!!
She should go natural 𝑴𝒐𝒓𝒆 often
I agree. People laugh because they want everyone to look like them. They laugh to pressure a woman to change and what is funny is if she doesn't change they start to get really angry. LOL! It shows how much low self esteem they have.
No one is going to laugh?? Are u joking?
@@touboulayefaobuda7198
Honestly, I don't even know what Loni's real hair looks like because I've never seen it. Tamara wears wigs too but she also wears her natural hair out as well.
@@touboulayefaobuda7198 Of course this is coming from a black man. So supportive!
Ironic she’s crying when she just judged another women a few days ago and still hasn’t publicly apologized to her!
Mischel Perez this is from an old episode
Mischel Perez maybe she’s trying to do better. Who knows 🤷🏽♀️
Exactly. Regardless of how old this particular episode is, don’t be a hypocrite! She definitely should apologize. She still put someone down based on their skin color. And would be the first to be upset if it happened to her or her girls.
I love Loni but unfortunately, I was thinking the same thing. Smh
@pink girl She didn't call her ugly, she still judged her appearance and criticized her accomplishments, her job and for no reason. Smh
This is why I love these ladies. You all are full of wisdom and inspiration! On a side note: EVERYBODY is beautiful, don't let anyone tell you different!
Man The Real is such a good show. It inspires me.
Tamera's wardrobe today is absolutely perfect and gorgeous 😍.
“Each and everyone one of us plays a role.”
and that’s the truth
Reasons why this is my favorite show ♥️♥️ thank you ladies!
Yes!!!! On point girls!!! Tamera and Jeannie 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Any time someone starts attacking your looks in a debate or arguement; they already lost & they know that don't have anything else of value to add to the conversation.
Men don’t negatively about each other’s looks they talk negatively about women’s looks
Renée Ramoleta Are you a man? How do you know what men do?
Devin Stewart I don’t need to be a man to know what men do
Renée Ramoleta You think men don’t talk about each others looks so you obviously don’t know what you’re talking about lmao
@@reneeramoleta6262 yea you kinda do because your comment was wrong
Victoria Adeyemi Yes? Why do you think some men buy the newest pair of Jordans upon release most of them don’t buy them because they’re nice they buy them to stunt on other people. Men can be just as superficial as women because **newsflash** we’re all human and all participate in vanity.
When Loni started crying 😢💔 women we need to do better
With her being in the media so much for negativity, I really wonder what is going on with her. I feel bad for Lonnie.
Lonnie just insulted a woman saying she looks white...don't know what she's crying about.
LeReview Channel EXACTLY!!!!
why is she crying???........all the women in the real consciously or subconsciously degrade other women looks too
LeReview Channel Yes she did that and she was wrong for it but that doesn’t make everyone in the comments making fun of her appearance ok. It’s still wrong because she’s still a person and has feelings
If you validate yourself through accomplishments jeanie, you lose. It is no different than validating yourself through anything else external. We must know that we are validated because we exist. PERIOD
Divine Feminine InnerG I think she’s saying... look at something else that makes you beautiful OTHER THAN looks ! so more of inner beauty that will eventually become your personal outer beauty
@@MajesticMyronn Then personality eg. being a kind person, a generous person etc. is more in line with that than worldly achievements.
Divine Feminine InnerG I think good character is the only thing that can truly validate you
exactly
Look at Loni crying, smh i hope she understands how her recent attacks on other women affects them too. Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you.
If you have to result to insulting someone’s looks... you automatically lost the argument... you have no way in maturely retaliating or carrying on a conversation... if your go to is to simply attack their looks then you my friend need some communication skills !
Unfortunately it happens all the time in internet.
Exactly!!!
This topic has been so heavy on my heart lately so it’s so crazy this popped up on my feed… I loved everything I heard here!!!! These are conversations that need to be had between people of allll ages.
Loni made a good point about watch your response because you never know who you’re clapping back to.I control my comments by picking and choosing the stories I comment on.I do that because if it’s a story about a particular rapper,singer or entertainer that may have a younger following I don’t comment.Thats when you may get a very disrespectful clapback to a comment you may leave.And yes many of you younger commenters love to mention peoples ages and call them old or making age related comments to demean.Social media is for everyone not just the young and we should be respectful of everyone regardless of age,race etc.Thanks Adrienne! I was thinking that when she said that about a college degree.I say this all the time.GREAT CONVERSATION!!!!!!!!
I love my girls so very much! You bring such a great amount of positivity and light into those that watch you and I hope this show stays running for many years to come!
Loni cries but really hurts others with her words🤦🏾♀️
I've never heard her say anything ill about how another woman looked 🤷♂️
Everyone on this panel has hurt others with words at some point. Who on this Earth hasn't ? The commenters do it the most infact. Commenters aren't held accountable the way these lovely hosts are. Commenters make Tamera so white jokes etc. and no one demands apologies from them or attacks them. I'm sure the ladies have cried over some of the wicked things commenters say about their looks and weight but they stay professional and focus on the positives in order to keep entertaining us.
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She just said something about Shan Boodram the other day. I find it ironic that they chose to upload this OLD segment right after the backlash from the Shan incident the other day.
@@mairahmanzini2928
That's why the Bible says to CONTROL YOUR TONGUE. We have TWO ears to listen with and ONE mouth for that reason! We should LISTEN and THINK before we open our mouths to make comments. Our tongue should be used to UPLIFT and not to tear DOWN.
Nah, you got it wrong missy
Real "Beauty" comes from within....
I hate when people are just mean and are a bully to them, especially when it’s to Loni and are about looks.
Ikr Especially Tamar and Kmichelle. I also dontlike that Loni doesnt come up for herself. She laughs it off, to keep it light, but she should have shut them down.
I’m with you. I think because she doesn’t clap back they think she’s easy to mess with.
Oniellia No ignoring the situation is better. Its all about how you feel about the situation and whats best for you.
Then she shouldn't have done it to others. Victims bullying others for their looks, ethnicities, etc. are wrong too. e.g. Shannon Boodram is multiracial and can claim any or all ethnicities
@Javier Ruiz Yes she was. Now today she wants to cry and be positive but next week she will do it again. So fake....
Here go loni crying when she was attacking someone the other day. Girl bye
Loni is such a sweetheart
I think that we as women receive a lot of criticism regarding our looks, our bodies, our hair, etc. So we grow up feeling very critical about how we look and end up criticizing each other. ESPECIALLY on social media, even in these comments, people are SO rude. Calling the girls fat and this and that, we need to stop.
I completely agree with Loni about stopping the red carpet pre -shows during the big awards shows ( Grammy's,Golden. Globes,Oscars,& especially the NAACP Image awards)because to me I'd rather see who won & who lost rather than what some stranger that I'll never ever meet is wearing
I LOOOVE what Adrienne said near the end.
Yes. That was perfect
This episode is sooo beautiful....it's healing and brings out this light ....
The Real production team KNOW what they’re doing. They think they’re SLICK. They reposted this OLD clip from 1-2 years ago to make people feel sorry for Loni Love. I ain’t FALLING for it. Loni, TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY! You swear you’re right on everything.
Yes! The production team is not slick!
Bill Cosmo they posted this cuz it’s part of their girl chat vault...
Myronn Coleman the have over 4+ years of material to choose for the throwback vault repost but they chose the one where Loni cries, so that people feel sorry for her. Come again.
Those tears were not real. She’s a narcissistic
Bill Cosmo instead of advising Loni Love to take ownership for doing exactly what she (ironically) hates and condemns -RE the Shan Boody disrespect recently -they run this clip. What are the objectives of The Real producers?
This was the best segment you guys have ever done. May God continue to bless every women on this panel. A shift is happening!!
Loni, I get what you’re saying. Vanity has rippled through our generation. So many people glorify superficiality. Like you said, looks are now everything instead of character. Social media has created unrealistic standards that women are striving to attain. No make up and natural hair is still and very much okay, please. Be yourself and enjoy it.
The second you attack something as superficial as their looks, you are admitting that you have no more valid arguments.
Loni has such a beautiful soul, all of these women are so amazing and gorgeous inside and out! It is so nice to see such a positive show full of beautiful spirit. I also love the representation showing beauty in all shades.
Loved this..
These four on that table had the best thoughts to share and to talk about..
Gonna miss this show..
Class v Crass. What you like in others is a reflection of what you like or would like in you. What you hate in others is what you hate about yourself. We are mirrors for each other. Do your inner work and let your light shine.
You are Beautiful, You are Intelligent, You are Joy, You are Confident, You are Courageous, You are a Work in Progress, You are Enough, You are Strong, You are Kind, You are Not a Mistake. You have Purpose, You are Compassion, You are Light, You are Love, You are a Blessing. ❤💙💚💛💜
Loni girl you spoke THE TRUTH. Girl, I was crying with you 😢😢😢 I absolutely loved this discussion. 😁😁😁
Women who are hurt and deeply insecure are the ones who attack,
Then there are those who are deeply insecure that look to others as acceptance. It's sad that sooo many people are judgemental. It's a waste of time and energy.
This is the most Real The Real I've ever watched. Women, we need to start off by loving and celebrating us first so that we can be strong enough to stand against Society's attacks.
The wiser you become the more you realize that looks is not everything personality big wins at the end ❤️🌺❤️
Hawjin Khidir totally agree 👌🏻
Same here 👏🏻
“Your bounce back is always gonna be stronger than your set back!” YEEEESSSSSS JEANNIE‼️‼️‼️ SAY THAT👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
what amazing foundation does jeannie use to cover her tattoos that well?
😂😂 true
Her make up artists do a great job
Dermablend is a tattoo make up coverage
The fact that Fox wants their women to not show their tattoos 🤦🏻♀️
Loni got me over emotional with these mood swings 😂
you mean like loni does when she’s losing an argument? lmao
Such a great and necessary conversation. Loni is so real and open and vulnerable, so inspiring. And I really appriciated Adrienne's comment on the fact that our worth is inherent and we shouldn't look outside of ourselves for validation.
Thanks Loni ... I agree , American culture as a whole has become toxic
This is one of my favourite episodes in the show.❤
Because men are not jealous over other men's looks like women are, that's why men don't attack other men's look.
I won tickets to a concert this past weekend and I didn't have money to buy new clothes or get my hair done. I was so thankful because I didn't do anything for my bday in early Nov. I rocked my natural puff, Walmart Jean's, sweater and 5 year old Target boots. I had women looking me up and down all night and doing hair flips after turning their back and laughing with their friends.
I am such an introvert and haven't been out in a couple years. I really dislike the judgements. I am going through so much and it took a lot of courage for me to even get out of my house.
I want to give up every day and I keep pushing through and treating people good and being encouraging. It gets exhausting sometimes.
The way Adrienne said Ad Hominem 😂 “ad hommanom”
🤣🤣
i love and miss these ladies so much. I discovered this show when I was 16 and I'm 22 now, all these years they've taught me so much I'm truly thankful for this show.
Adrienne looking for claps after that ad hominem comment lmao
KaurTurbanator i noticed that too! I was dying😂😂😂
She’s ALWAYS looking for claps.
I noticed too!!!😂🤣😂🤣😂
KaurTurbanator Stoppp 😂😂 I’m dead
She kept pronouncing it wrong lol I love them message though
Preach Jeanie & Adrienne...preach!!!!🙌🔥💯
My God!!!
I totally get you, Loni ❤😭
Wow. This was probably one of the best and my favorite girl chats ever! God I missed it when I was just these 4! Now I feel like we dont hear too much of Adrienne or Tamera speak because they get overshadowed and Jeannie always gets interrupted. I missed this set up.
This has really help me today! So many people can find things that are wrong with one another , that we never stop to find that time to support what is good. We need more of each other to compliment and uplift one another.
JEANNIE PLEASE RELEASE A BOOK!!!!!
This is one of the best bits I’ve seen from the girls in a while! I love them all so much and look up to them and their maturity.
Adrienne is the number one on this too. Her Instagram is literally her taking pictures of her self every two seconds. And Jeanie so self conscious
Please don’t project.
That’s not what the video is about. Just bc you post a picture on social media doesn’t mean u think your better then someone. I mean just be quiet.
2023 and I'm still getting therapy with the real 😂😂
It’s funny how Loni is getting emotional about women attacking other women’s looks, but she has yet to apologize to Shan Boody for legit ATTACKING HER LOOKS. But i digress 🙄
Exactly.
Exactly.
Katy lol.....she is annoying
It’s ironic but this is from an old episode
Lol calling me black is attacking my looks? She literally just said the girl was acting white and said she was not black which she is not. I don’t understand why it’s ok for every other group to call mixed ppl mixed but black ppl have to claim them as black. And if we refuse to do so we are called hatful and racist. Shan has a white grandfather so I don’t see what the problem was.