That sensitivity has a gene. It's genetic. This helped me accept myself more. Now it's just about how to deal with it, not how to eliminate it. Thank you Julia!
@@لمىالشريف-غ8ك isn't that so fascinating? Learning to have really good healthy boundaries and becoming more resilient are 2 of the most effective ways to hone that super power ;-)
Julia Kristina Counselling how does HSP deal with emotions at work especially criticism about work performance, took it too hard :( I only realised many of the superpowers and the challenges are what I’ve been facing in my life, it’s becoming so much frequent nowadays
Thank you so much. You help me on my journey and I have learned so much from you. Thank you for all your service. I definitely feel more empowered after this. My friends keep telling me being this sensitive is a gift but I have had a hard time seeing why that is true until now.
I was raised by narssasitic mother who made me feel ashamed about being too sensitive. She was so unemotional and insensitive that me showing my emotions made her feel uncomfortable.
I have an Alaskan Malamute and I can communicate with him telepathically...I know that sounds strange, but I have had many instances where he responds to what I'm thinking...many times when I'm sad and crying, I go to him for comfort because he lets me know..."it's ok mamma.. I'm here for you"
I prefer low level light, quiet, don't like conflict, I need my sleep, I need a transition time, I REALLY TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY, AND YES I HATE FAILING, AND I HATE CHANGE/OR UNCHANGED PLAN, VIOLENCE, CANT SAY NO MOST TIMES I am polite considerate I love tasty food and it does take me a while to choose I work better alone than a team I can tell when sum1 is off and help ppl that r feeling off, ppl do open up to me, songs can touch me, I like deep convos... so many thank YOU this is why I get stressed at work and emotional lots, and when there's change it really affects me
YES! And people think I’m crazy or delusional when I point out an animal suffering and that it’s not ok...people think those things are normal but they’re normalized damaging ways
The biggest mistake that HSP's make is thinking that their high sensitivity is a flaw or defect. You are not a walking basket case. Do you have any idea how strong you are? You've gotta be incredibly strong to have an amplified nervous system and survive in this world. You rock. ♥️
HSP: 1. Need to take breaks when things feel overwhelming 2. Caffeine 3. Sensitivity of the senses 4. Avoid conflict 5. Hard time coping when sleep deprived 6. Difficulty switching focus 7. Hard time making decisions 8.Taking things personal 9. Hate failing and making mistakes 10. Don't like last minute changes to your plans 11. Need quiet to focus 12. Don't like violence on tv or movies 13. Hard time saying no
Absolutely agree on "having an ability to sense authenticity". I always get a strong gut feeling if a person is "putting on a show". I can't stand fakeness, I detest it.
wow yes exactly what i thought today, and been feeling more and more intense recently. have been starting to feel annoyed about it tho dunno if thats good it just makes me mad
Sometimes I'm annoyed that I have this superpower because I want to just believe everyone's bullshit and be on my way but I can't and it causes stress.
I do this all the time, im starting to feel like ive sacrificed a lot of my integrity to avoid conflict with people that i care a lot about and its starting to effect me 😞
Things that affect me: 1. Rude or ignorant people 2. People afflicted with stupidness 3. Criticism 4. Confrontation/arguments 5. Physical touch/closeness makes me cringe or shrink, so I've never had a girlfriend. 6. Bright lights 7. I can sense people's negativity/miserableness. 8. I am anxious about using a phone and freak out if someone unknown calls me. And YES ! I DO take things personally and blame myself severely for failures.
sensing people's negativity/miserableness is so true... especially at work. I've had to learn how to block it out and not let other people drag me into their misery.
Omg, this resonates so much with me! I've been told my whole life I'm too sensitive, I care too much, I cry too much, I read people like a book! I feel their feelings when they talk to me. I get so passionate about politics and human rights, I play several instruments and I annoy my husband while I play a piece of classical music and cry because I feel it so deeply... I thought I was crazy!
I was diagnosed as bipolar in my early 20s, but I'm actually just a highly sensitive person. All of these descriptions apply to me. As far as the violence goes, I was raised on action movies and have no problem with violence, but excessive blood, gore, and suffering I can't take. If it starts going into torture, I'm out. Shows like Game of Thrones or movies like Saw are absolutely no-go. The biggest one for me is I cry a lot. Happy tears, sad tears, being moved to tears, it's a thing, and it can be really embarrassing when I look around and I'm the only one. Then family members tease me over it and the sensitivity to criticism kicks in. Getting over toxic shame and learning self-love has been a pretty good shield against the more difficult aspects of being a HSP.
I used to absolutely love scary and horror flicks. I'd watch all of them, but since about 5 years ago I have turned opposite. I can't stand them. At one point my anxiety got too overwhelming just watching a TV show that had a simple conflict as part of the story that resolves at the end of the hour. I can't even watch the news any more. It's unbearable
I learned to hold my tears and now i can only cry when im alone. But i actually do enjoy crying now! Even as a 22 y/o guy. People always used to make fun of me. If i wouldnt try to hold my tears i would cry when im watching a Disney movie with the family 😂. Nobody would cry but me 😂. I dont want that. My tears are for me alone :). It always makes me happy to cry
You might have a low blood pressure so coffe can be something that actually helps you feel “normal” in a way. Please go to your doctor and check it cause it’s a serious issue. I know this from experience cause my mum has the same situation as you
I’m the same way. I was born in Brazil and my mom gave me coffee with milk twice a day when I was growing up. I still drink it twice a day after 42 years 🤷🏼♀️ never bothered me and I can fall asleep very easily right after taking it at night. I don’t have a cut off time.
Youn dont have HSP only 15-20 percent of the population have it its very rare shes talking about just people being a little sensitive. But HSP is on a whole nother level you should look more into it.
@@oriondrums2 you might have it however alot of people have the things she named in the video and 15-20% of the population is rare our population is 7 billion that is rare
@@oriondrums2 im also just annoyed because i was diagnosed with this and now everyone is saying they have it which alot of people dont its alot diffrent then what she mentioned in the video
@@jasminedelphine2882 15-20% of 7 billion is between 1.05 billion and 1.4 billion. you're gonna tell me thats rare? It's a minority of people, but a very significant one
1. Overstimulation by Caffeine, 2. Sleep deprivation, 3 Conflict avoidance, 4. Difficulty to focus on many things at a time, 5. Getting stuck in indecision, 6. Don't like when plans change suddenly... That's me! So I guess I am a highly sensitive person...
Only 15-20 percent of the population have this i was diagnosed with it. And the things that she mentioned in the video sorta bother everyone that doesnt really have anything to do with it. HSP means you feel things diffrently like emotional stuff and clothing or sounds ill start to freak out if i have to wear certain clothing i dont like or sounds and i know everyone has something that annoys them but this is on a whole nother level
I will get into conflicts when I feel there is an injustice because I obsess over that. I hate fake people or having to be fake myself. I enjoy being around kids because they have easy emotions and accept my emotions. I am a librarian at schools. But I run for smoke breaks even if I dont need or enjoy it. I have zero control over it and I'm now realizing what this is.
I love working with the elderly. I’ve worked as a PTA working in geriatrics for 22 years. I love connecting with elderly folks (most of them are beyond the bs pretense.) I’ve never gelled well with my peers. Even as a small child I preferred to hang with the grandparents, great aunts and uncles. I avoid conflict like the plague. I also am very sensitive to noise, smells, and certain fabrics against my skin. The worst is wearing a bra!! Cannot wear that thing long at all!!!!
I have every single one of these qualities. I'm sensitive to sounds, smells, tastes, I can't stand being interrupted when I'm talking or doing something, I need a lot of peace and quiet, I struggle with boundaries, I'm emotionally sensitive, violence definitely bothers me, I'm not afraid to go deep, I can work well with others very well and put them in a good mood, though I work very well alone too, florescent lights are the worst, etc. This is spot on. Thank you 😊💜
Oh my gosh!, I hate fluorescent lights too. I think it’s because we can feel the radiation coming from them. Same way I can feel WiFi and cellular signals. Wow, I love you guys. I feel like I am normal now.
I started crying today. The other day my teacher said "Well because you're not paying attention" because I simply didn't understand something. Today, my mother told me to get something from my brother's room, and I knocked because the door was locked. She yelled "What are you doing? This is what Mr.Holiday was talking about! You don't listen!" So I started crying. She called me sensitive and tried to hug me, I didn't want to be near her. But being a child I "had" to go to her. It's been about 20 minutes and I'm still upset.
I recently discovered this about myself. I read the book, and it was absolutely about me. I have always thought that there was something wrong with me. Thank goodness I learned about this trait at the ripe old age of 53..... Better late than never=)
How though did learning it was a real thing change your life? I thought i would feel validated. But knowing this still does not change the people around you. You still have to put up with the same your crazy talk and treatment. And the ones who mean the most to you think trying to get them to understand HSP is crap, and you are just trying to find a way to normalize your craziness.
I was in the library studying with my friends and after the 4th or 5th time that I moved seats and tables my friend burst out laughing asking why I always do this. I said that I can't study with the certain combinations of lighting and noise, facing too many people, or seeing too many people walk by. I always thought everyone was like that. I always tried to figure out why I really really struggled to work in public places even when it is quite, but too many people are moving around near me or the lighting is off or something else. It's weird how small things like this start to make sense.
Listening to this video. Just brought flashbacks of memory all the way from childhood. Like it hit me like I was always this person, the signs were always there and it only after 30 years did my family start to pick on it. I remember going to this movie with my mom and it affected me so much like I was crying and it affected me like I started thinking about why life was cruel and all that stuff. And she couldn't understand it. It's good to know that I am not crazy and that the reason for me feeling a certain way was not just me.
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM.....!!!! I am blown away! I have been apologizing for being "so sensitive" since I was a kid, and I'm 46 now! Thank you for this! You validated me and empowered me!🌈🍀🌻🌟💚💜
I'm definitely a HSP. Especially emotionally.I am extremely aware of my surroundings and am extremely self-aware of my thoughts and feelings. And really, to the point where it has its debilitating moments. It makes it somewhat difficult to remain emotionally stable because I have (had) a tendency to drown out the noise with things like weed, alcohol or other depressant distractions which always have cons in some way or another. I love caffeine but it gets harder and harder to stomach the older I get as its anxious effects are beginning to outweigh its pros. I'm extremely sensitive to drugs (prescription or otherwise). It even used to confuse me as a child why people didn't notice or were not as aware of certain things as I was. I also have this insane drive to face things that bother me - which as an HSP leads for an interesting life. For instance, I hate conflict...but I must know how I will handle it if it arises (i.e. what am I made of?) so I put myself in conflict (not seek it) to get better at it. Truth is I only get better at it in practice, not because it "feels" any better. I'm easily anxious about anything and everything but I insist on pushing through those feelings by challenging myself to pretty uncomfortable levels (sailing a boat alone/in a storm, traveling the world by myself, having a job to give presentations to hundreds of people at a time on complex topics, skydiving, talking to a girl out of my league, performing music, riding a motorbike through Vietnam haha). These aren't impulsive actions but anxiously crafted events if not obligations. My therapist is confused by it, and frankly, I am sometimes as well because it leads to some extremely tough days. But the pros have always outweighed the cons, even at the cons worst- because as being an HSP my "life highs" can be extremely rewarding, maybe moreso than most, despite the uphill struggle. And it's the struggle that makes the highs so special. I appreciate relationships more, I empathize more, simple things mean more to me, and when I win at something I feel extremely accomplished not just because I won, but because I can feel all the steps it took to get there. And as I cope with my HSP qualities and recognize what makes me happy and what doesn't, I find that depression (which used to be a common part of my life) is rare. Self-care is of the upmost importance to a person like me (or us), I believe. Anyways, I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I thought this video was interesting and made me reflect. Maybe someone can relate. Thanks for posting it!
You are amazing and a blessing! I identified with 90% of the traits! I was always led to believe that I was flawed both in my personal relationships and my work life because I am super sensitive. Thank you for helping me see a different side of this! I’m 65, widowed and retired with a grown family. But....it’s never too late to feel good about ourselves! Thank you for sharing all of this information! I love listening to your videos and I’m in the process of listening to all of them , 💗
Thanks for this video, you've described me to a T. I've been ridiculed for being 'too sensitive' my whole life. I can't drink caffeine without bouncing off the walls and then sinking into depression afterwards. I try to avoid it completely. I tend to take everything personally...reading far too deep into things people do and say. Loud noises, bright lights, extreme heat/cold, heavy scents are all hard for me and if clothing is not soft, I don't wear it. Any clothing that feels confining makes me irritable....tight clothing, turtlenecks, tight sleeves, belts etc. The minute I get home from work, off come the fitted clothes and on go the soft, comfortable lounging clothes. Conflict is the worst for me so I hide away from it. This has cost me relationships. I even find that if I'm watching a movie where everyone is fighting, I have to turn it off as it will sink me into sadness and agitation. As for sleep, I need a full night or I get scatterbrained and depressed. If my train of thought is interrupted, I'll snap back and be agitated for a while. Loud crunching, rattling of shopping bags, fireworks, loud noises in general, jar me and agitate me. It's all these reactions that have had me judged as 'difficult' by family and friends my entire life. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression but I don't understand this as my symptoms usually follow one of the triggers I've mentioned above. Neither the depression or anxiety lasts long, they're more 'reactions' than anything else. On a positive side, my intuition is off the charts amazing. I get feelings about people and situations long before other people I know. Sometimes this is very overwhelming too though. My latest 'brick wall' that is causing me to freeze rather than proceed is a project where I have to finish and paint some baseboards in my house left incomplete by a contractor. These baseboards have been staring at me for months, supplies ready to go, but the minute I look at the job I feel overwhelmed, then make some excuse that I'll do it later rather than finish it up. These baseboards have become a taunting antagonist in my life lol.... It's ridiculous. :)
I totally relate!!!! I have been overwhelmed by my office, the last room in my house to put together after a renovation... 5 months ago! And yes I relate by being judged "too sensitive" :(
I can relate to your baseboard situation. My flooring contractor ripped all trim and baseboards out and did an awful job replacing them. I don't want to paint them. It's been a year! I need to replace them so I can finish this job. Makes me feel Grrrrrrr! when I look at them. Lol
@@Jamama4 Seriously... this is SO funny! It's been a year for me too! The EXACT same thing happened to me and it upsets me to even look at the lousy job left behind. If I could show you photos you would probably laugh, maybe even relate. The thought of finishing them the way they are riles me to no end.... I'm thinking of ripping them out and starting over! lol Note to self... next time, do not hire a contractor 'friend of a friend'...ugh! Is it weird that I feel relief that someone else is going through the same baseboard nightmare? lol
@@claudinesouza8995 Do you tend to do great work but just as you near the end of a project, you delay the finish? I'm so guilty of that. It feels like self-sabotage! I totally get what you're saying about that office of yours, I did something similar with my last house lol Yikes, what are we doing?... maybe JK knows! The next time someone judges you and calls you too sensitive say "Well I'd rather be too sensitive than not sensitive at all..." ...I find that usually shuts them up.... especially when it dawns on them that you're probably talking about them and their judgy attitude ;)
Lol yes sometimes I bite my tongue not to say things like that!!! I was surprised to learn about this “trait” of sensitive people. About my office... I first avoided it completely. Now what I do is to work on it a bit, then leave it. I cleared my desk, for example. My bills and business stuff are all filed properly. But the rest... I can’t even understand why I do it. I think JK would tell me: Claudine, just do it. Set a day for yourself, and only work on your office! You will feel so much better!! About your baseboards... it seems like a bigger job. So totally understandable to put it off. And yes, so funny how just knowing someone has the same problem brings us comfort :)
I am HSP. That was a fantastic video. I identify with about 95%. Personal trauma and insecurity keep me from the other 4%. 1% for the food - I am so over sensitive that I can only tolerate bland food. I love your videos!! So very thoughtful and in depth. I think if I ever date again, I will link to this video so my potential boyfriend can know more about me; give him the chance to run away fast! Unfortunately some narcissists eat us for lunch because of our poor boundary skills. Again, excellent video!
I wish you luck in finding one who actually, genuinely cares. I Can not even get my family to care enough to watch any info on HSP. Its just all boring and crap to them. Just a bunch of crazy people trying to validate their crazy.
I knew I was a HSP before this video. I don't know about the Tide commercials, during the Olympics, but last year there was an insurance commercial, I think, I'm not even sure what was being advertised, but it played a song about coming home, and the brother/son was coming back home for the holidays. I cried every time it started to play. You actually had me crying, talking about the strengths. My partner always told me my biggest blessing is also my worst nightmare, my heart, because I stay vulnerable for people to take advantage.
Every single point you’ve made described me perfectly. Unbelievable. I struggle with seeing this personality as a positive but will try to view it this way in the future. Thank you Kristina for taking the time to make this video to help others.
No matter how i try i CANNOT see it as positive. Because the world doesn’t. Many of our traits irritate, anger, or annoy people in general. The only plus i see about it is how compassionate it makes me to others and how good i feel when i help them. ❤❤
There is nothing wrong with being a highly sensitive person. One thing though that is important is that the person dating a highly sensitive person needs to know that so they can be more gentle with criticism.
In my experience, not everyone is cut out for dealing with a highly sensitive person. I'm basing this on my own attempts at friendships etc. with insensitive or self-centred types... it's really hard. I can't speak for others, but as an HSP myself, criticism seems to be the least of my problems as long as it's constructive and not just a rude dig. Sensitivities that cause me to physically react (loud sounds, bright flashing lights, uncomfortable clothes, extreme heat, confrontation etc.) seem to be the most difficult for friends/family to empathize with. They just think I'm being 'difficult' again.
I instantly start crying when another adult corrects me with a tone that expresses that they're really upset. When people are frustrated at me I can't hold it together and start crying too. It's frustrating for me because I can't stop it.
I’ve always known I was very sensitive but I had no idea just how much till I watched this. I have been criticized most of my life for this in relationships, I think some are just uncomfortable with someone that is a feelings based person. Most of these apply to me but the biggest is giving myself to another and depleting myself and being taken advantage of. Just got through doing that (again) and it hurts a lot. I have a lot of work to do in this area, giving it all away, as I have learned by watching your videos that not only do I not know how to establish boundaries but I have none at all. You have put an enormous amount of work into this and thank you for all that you do!
Julia. I'm an older (59 y.o.) Psych Nurse who has learned to compensate for all of these characteristics but I am very sensitive. Just want to say that I am very impressed by you. Thanks for all you do.
1. I hate the light, I love dark. 2. I hate criticism. 3. Whenever somebody is sad I want to cry for them. 4. I rarely get any sleep. 5. I cannot take pain very well. 6. Certain scents make me sad. 7. I am very sensitive to fluffy fabrics, they send chills down my spine just thinking about it.
@a Don't give up. If you seem to be having a bad time getting friends, wait. You yourself is good enough, and nobody can take that away from you. Someone will like the way you are and take contact. Especially if you keep your authenticity. I know it might seem hard right now but I believe in you. I too have hsp, I think. I don't handle parties well with all it's noise and people getting drunk and making me feel uncomfortable, and I certainly don't enjoy when someone is acting in another way that's not right. But, that's okay. There will always be those who keep their masks in order to fit in, but you don't have to keep in contact with them. Being sensitive is hard in this world, and I can't even imagine how though you have it. Friends, even if it's one really good friend you can talk deeply with is such a blessing. I want everyone to have at least one friend they can connect with in that aspect, and I feel sorry for those who don't. I wholeheartedly want you the best. Having no friends must make you feel so hollow, so misunderstood and so damn sad. I can sometimes go in one of my sleep deprived (or that's what I think they are) fits, and feel every harsh comment and my evil head hanging around my shoulders saying I'm worthless, I'm nothing and I don't have any real friends left. When I feel these terrible thoughts and feelings spir up inside me; I can only begin to imagine how bad you must have it now. I'm not one who cries often, and I don't think I've been able to so for the last couple of years, but to you, if I could, I would.
I am like really sensitive. Everytime I run my eyes get watery. Everytime someone says the littelest thing I just want to cry out loud. Whenever I'm fighting with ym sister I feel like someone just punched me in the heart. My heart starts tingling and i start shaking and laughing like a creepy person and I just cry a lot. I mean I'm in fifth grade I need to stop. It makes me feel better sharing it.
Spiderman didn't know how to use his powers immediately. With great power, comes great responsibility ;D You'll get a hang of it as you grow older, don't worry :)
I’m 52 and still feel hurt if I argue with my sister. It means you love her and you don’t want to have pain. Try to stop in the middle of arguing , walk away, think , relax. Come back calm and talk out why or what you’re both arguing about, see if you can come to a fair solution. Not easy but it’s worth a try instead of heartache.
Thank you Julia, I now have finally the help I need to navigate the world. I now understand what it is to be an empath and be fully proud of it!! Thank you for the tools.
Tide commercials! I’ve cried at commercials at least once. My dad and I are both super sensitive and there was a military commercial on when we were watching the super bowl together, the commercial’s story was about a father and daughter, and I was very very moved and I heard my dad tear up a bit. Miss him. Loved your video and others like it, bringing awareness about such an important topic. I’m 31 and I think it was 5 ish years ago that I stumbled upon the term and what it means and it’s so fascinating and intriguing and important!
OMG, is it me you are describing JULIA darling? I knew all about myself but I didnt know any name for it , and I thought it's just me. What I can add about me as a highly sensitive person is : I cant stand people Gossips, I cant stand peoples intertwine in my business, I cant stand peoples MANIPULATION / CUNNINGNESS, I cant stand INJUSTICE behaviour towards someone else. I cant stand MESSINESS, CROWDED, SMELLY ENVIRONMENT, I love and adore CREATIVE, BEAUTIFUL,HELPFUL MINDS.
I got out of my car in the WalMart parking lot to break up a fight between two women over a parking spot. I begged them to stop and said something like "Please, can we have just a little peace in this world!! Times are hard enough!" It helped the situation, but I realized later I could have gotten hurt or killed!!!
There is so much power in finally understanding my inner self. Thank you for this video. I am a very proud HSP! Changing the world through love one day at a time. ❤
I really loved hearing the positives. Being highly sensitive is sometimes something I've strongly disliked about myself. I never thought of it as a good thing and will be referring to this in the future ❤️
Thank you for this video Julia! Sometimes I feel like I can't function in this modern world of ours, so many things wear me down and keep me in a near-panicky state almost all the time. I have read Elaine Aaron's books but still find it difficult to feel that being a HSP is a superpower. I can't tolerate caffeine at all, and I can take ages choosing the right cookies or any food really at the supermarket, so I tend stick to routine even in foods.
It is dryad - but we do have to make sure we are also building our resilience, managing our mind and our thoughts, and creating good healthy boundaries in our lives. We we are working on these things, our energy doesn't get hijacked by everything else in our environment.
I feel you, dryad. The fact is that our western/modern culture and society is tailored on the far more common less sensitive people. Plus, there is still society wide stygma, which certainly doesn't help. Just remember, you have to watch out for you, and this means knowing that you simply cannot live as the average joe, you have to take precautions, and live a life that's specific for you! Cheers :)
Tks for saving my life, I thought I was a monster, now I understood everything about my feelings and actions. I hate violence, conflicts, abuse, I prefer to loose than to handle an argument, I enjoy to be alone and, anyway, you're totally right. Tks again.
I remember being around 4 or 5 yrs old and hating all the lights at the mall. I prefer natural light. A few years ago I discovered I was raised by 2 narcissist. While researching I discovered HSP and I felt such relief! All the things that I was mocked for actually had a word...highly sensitive person! I made these discoveries at 53 yrs old. I went no contact with family and am working on not carrying others emotions.
I have a similar upbringing too. Narcissistic mother and emotionally absent father. I wonder if there is a correlation between narcissistic parenting and growing up to be Hsp's ?
I have been in a verbally abusive relationship for 13 years and just woke up to this being a real thing. I learned I may be hsp after getting reoccuring asceptic meningitis and multiple hospitalizations. So I researched why, the docs had no answer. Trauma can be from prolonged subtle abuse. Cptsd mirrors much of this. Patricia Evans has great books to help. I believe HSP is deeply linked to abuse. My 2 cents. Thanks for listening.
Please reply to me. I think I may be HSP. Have recently left what I thought was abusive relationship- my husband is trying to get me to go back- he is saying that he is not abusive, but that I am HSP. Do you think that HSPs will " hear" abuse when its " not really there"?? Please help!!
I finally understand the reason behind my personality. I relate with all features about HSP. I am one of the many around the world, and so happy about it. We are special indeed.
Wow. Truer words have never been spoken. I love it when others can articulate how I'm feeling because they are the same! My 5 year old knows that mama prefers warm incandescent to bright white lights! I need at least 10 hours of sleep or I'm a mess! Distractions completely irritate me when I'm focused on something! All of these things she mentioned! Yes yes and yes! Oh and no caffeine for me after 12pm! Wow. Just wow.
Lauren, I became a nurse and worked in hospitals, but never in the emergency room. I had empathy for the patients and also enjoyed working with other nurses, doctors, staff members.
I opted for Psychology, as I believe because of my high compassion I can really help people. But at the same time too much empathy can be a downfall too. Learning how to be objective although
Any service-oriented job. For example, I've gone into teaching and it's both a blessing and a curse, but I'm trying to find the balance. So long as you make yourself the priority and not your emotional punching bag, I'm sure any career would be fine:)
"You have a strong BS-meter" Ohh hahahaha, lol xDD (I did not know, that people that aren't sensitive people won't notice this? really? wanna hear it from those that aren't as sensitive as us ^^")
WOW Julia , This was an amazing discussion about HSPs. I did in fact LOL and drop my jaw several times. Talk about hitting the nail square on the head!! OK so coffee cut off noonish, conflict ( avoid like the plague ugh ), decisions especially with food items , taking things personally !!!!!!! , quiet ear plugs and eye covering to sleep. Thank you soooooo much Julia, for sharing your clinical expertise so very helpful and clear. If your fabulous speaking skills are any indication you must be an Excellent Counselor.
I hate conflict and will do whatever it takes to get out of it and I also can’t stand to see others in conflict. I feel the stress so strongly it can almost make me nauseated. But every one of these points hit the bullseye for me personally. Thank you for this!
My brain is broke LOL this is me 🙋🏼♀️ thank you for helping me explain what I couldn’t verbiate! Now, on to how to care and help others, but with boundaries 🤔
This hit the nail right on the head. I often feel very overwhelmed and put so much pressure on myself to be perfect, always aware what people might be thinking, and often want to cry at work and have to take a few mins. I always feel daft! This is Brill
Wow!! The entire length of this video, I was nodding my head!!! I related to about 95% of the traits! This explains so much; just wish I knew what this was a lot sooner in my life! At 66, I feel like a large weight has been lifted. But I’ve also lost a lot of time thinking there is something wrong with me. Thanks for this enlightening presentation. 🥰🥰
"You need thicker skin" this has been said to me several times. And one person decided he needed to explain what kind of thick skin by referring to an alligator.lol😵
I have grown such a thic skin, nobody can read me, nobody can feel me, nobody can understand me. Not even other HSPs or empaths. Really difficult to get rid of this enormous wall. I wish people were more informed about sensitivity, they wouldnt try to beat it out of the kids. But everyone do what they think is best 😉. "To prepare for the hard bitter world". I dont want to see the world as such. It can be beautiful and it is beautiful.
This is me 💯 percent. Thank you so much for this. I feel alone for the most of it. My older sister and I are the same. No one in our family understands. My husband has taken advantage of me because of this. So has my children. I have the biggest problems with boundaries. All in all, I have said YES to every example that you gave. It made me cry. Thank you so much. I will share this video with my sister Sherry and she will say the same things.
I can’t believe it! Everyone of those descriptions was me. I almost cried when you went through the list the characteristics of a sensitive person. You hit the nail on the head describing me. I was thinking when you almost got to the end and you hadn’t mentioned “ hating injustice “ that was going to be the one you missed, then you described what that would be like for a sensitive person . I am a Christian and it hurts me so much how my church treat gay people, or anyone that had a bad past. I find myself standing up for these people, but feel that I mostly stand alone because the few that feels like e I do are afraid to say anything. The sensitivity to coffee was right on point as Well. Caring, work better alone,the noise level, love working with others, but work better alone. I thought that there was something wrong with me and wondered why God made me this way. I saw it as a course not a blessing because others would criticize me for being too sensitive. Thank you so much! I want to watch it again! Lol
Hi I'm a Christian also and a highly sensitive person. I'm just wondering how exactly your church treats gay people? The church I go to treats everyone the same loving way. Thanks. Maeve
the thing that I find the hardest is that I can feel other peoples emotions so much that if they're hurting then it hurts me too and I want to desperately help them and when I can't it just feels overwhelming
Omg...yes! I often have many Dr. Appointments. I've found through your advice that I need to space out my appointments. Otherwise, I get extremely overwhelmed and become more anxious. I've learnt so much about myself and how to deal with things easier since I found your channel. 🙏😊💕
Dear Julia, I cannot express how much I am happy that you mentioned the difficulty switching focus while working on sth. I literally am that. I needed to explain it to my partner and colleagues, but I find it difficult socially, because I feel like I come off as rude or unfriendly, even rigid. I try to compromise, but it always costs me lots of energy. When I work, I need deep focus to be able to connect the dots and work efficiently. If someone starts talking to me about something else, I feel like all this energy I spent on focusing and gathering the information is wasted. It really stresses me out. I find it very helpful listening to calming music while working and taking short breaks to chit chat / connect to others. Thank you for this amazing video!
I resonate with absolutely all these symptoms although I have never considered myself a highly sensitive person. I am 57 and been 30 years in the military...do you think I might be a HSP? Best regards Julia! I love your Instagram, too!
@@juliakristinamah Thank you for your answer, Julia! I guess I thought that all those feelings I had were "normal" and that most of the people would be disturbed by loud noise, uber-strong lights, would love music, would need to recharge in solitude, sense when people are fake or insincere...I felt all those but they did not make me feel highly sensitive (maybe I did not have the concept clearly defined in my mind). Also, I was always told by other people that I am "such a strong person", I felt that even my family was looking at me for support in difficult times and I was able to provide that support.....so, I am a bit confused...The thing is, even when I was disturbed (temporarily) by the things you mentioned in your video, I was still able to function and come across as "strong"...ha! I feel like I have answered my own question!!! Funny thing...maybe it is your lil magic, Julia! Thank you! Love your channel!
Thank you so much for doing this video. So appreciate your knowledge. This is me on every level. I'm working on those boundaries. You have a beautiful heart.
Tbh I also blame myself for everything when my friends are sad. Even tho I didn't do nothing I stil blame myself for there sadness. If they are in a problem I blame myslef for not being there and helping them
IMHO this is not sign of hipersensitivity. It is sign that your parents (caregivers) were using blaming and smaing when you were young child. This is very common case when one was rised by manipulative and inmature parents. Try to disangage and ask yourself if this is really your personality or just emotional pattern from the past. Hope it will help you rlease this ☺️ Love 💖 🥰
Speaking to the effects of sleep deprivation: age 13 (zero drug, low sensory evening) seemed as if I had retrograde amnesia after only about 30 hours awake with no sleep. Couldn't remember who or where I was, was VERY unsettling and doctors had no idea what to chalk it up to other than the sleep. And again at a festival after about a day and a half no sleep, some alcohol and marijuana, but full blown hallucinations and the med tent tested for spiked drinks and nothing...just no sleep so....wondering if this could be an answer as the amnesia posts yielded only a better way of describing the first episode more concisely and accurately. Thanks so much for the information!!! I've been codependant and homeless with a not respectful ex because I know nobody for about 3000 miles from where I am so, I'm gaining some much needed strength through all that you have to teach. You've made a huge difference in my life already, I can't imagine what you've already done for everyone who already follows you! What a wonderful asset to the community, thank you!
“You’re too nice” is what I heard for 30 years. This boils down who I am perfectly. Most of these I’ve identified on my own, but goodness, what a struggle. I sent this to my family and told them that; “This is why I disappear into my bedroom on occasion.” I’m 60 and hope that all like “us,” including the younger folks, hear this message... You’re just fine as you are. Also, lighting and onions hit me like a hammer! Love your “sessions.”
I get told that alot to. And I get told I'm weak for it, and I dont agree with that because to me it takes a strong person to experience life on such an intense level.
@@korimcentire2346 many people see it as weak. That’s the problem. The world is FULL of narcissists, and such people don’t have much empathy, and don’t think anything about raging at or manipulating people. Which makes people like us VERY VERY prone to them and then hurting us!!! We really have to verse ourselves on that or we can end up in a relationship or friendship with a narcissist and that’s VERY hard to get out of
Wish I had had this great information 60 years ago. Thank you so much. Caffeine is the only thing that does not seem to effect me (not a coffee drinker.) I am so jumpy! I scream when the dog barks! Changing plans at the last minute always derails me. When I was a child my mother would often say, "Don't be so sensitive!" Taking things personally is my kryptonite.
Yes I relate! 😊 In "woo woo" communities, highly sensitive people are thought to have psychic abilities that may be lying dormant and are often the source of anxiety. It's so cool to learn there is a genetic marker for this! Thank you! ❤
I related to so many of these. Needing breaks from too much stimulation (visual, noise, fabrics, ohh the smells), avoid conflict at all costs (I just want to retreat), troubles with boundaries, caffeine (7PM cut off time). I have certain types of movies I can not watch.......War movies (Dad was a soldier), movies where a kid gets hurt/kidnapped, movies where animals get harmed......and the movie "Titanic". I was a wreck for days afterwards. Just feel it too much. Thank you for pointing out that it isn't something to be ashamed of. ♥
I have NEVER heard someone describe me TO A 'T' in my life, so well, and spot-on, in every way, especially someone who never met me!!! I also never attributed my senses (noise specifically), don't want to disappoint anyone or say no, and violence to be sensitive as opposed to anxiety or insecurity. Thank you.
Then your issue is just simply a rubbery spine. Try some calcium tablets to strengthen your bones. Sorry, stupid joke. Hehe. I believe you. It was spot on for me too.
I’ve only watched 1/2 of this and I relate 💯 % to EVERYTHING!!! 😮 Scary. Strong cologne feels like a personal attack. I take things too personally and I am my own worst enemy 😞 I have to wear earbuds at work since I’m easily distracted by noise from my coworkers.
OMG, you are fantastic and you have just opened my eyes on why I am the way I am. Finally after 50 years I see it. Thank you from deep down my soul. God bless you
Omg I am with you on the caffeine and lighting and loud noises (loud people as well), intense smells, fabrics, conflict/uncomfortable situations, lack of sleep, getting interrupted, definitely take things personally ha ha, perfectionism yes!, oh GOD YES about last minute plan changes - really Fucks me up!! Yes definitely can’t work around people and distractions!! Yes, really don’t enjoy violence or scary movies, getting better at saying no! Highly sensitive taste and smell, (am a good cook because of this sensitivity), highly attuned BS/detector (just as I was about to write this you said it lol), very creative not so good with math etc., super caring & conscientious, (but learning how to have boundaries), can’t stand crowds, supermarket, shopping malls, airports. One thing though I am very decisive, thank you for your videos and all you do 😘😘😘
Which of these traits surprised you the most?
That sensitivity has a gene.
It's genetic.
This helped me accept myself more.
Now it's just about how to deal with it, not how to eliminate it.
Thank you Julia!
@@لمىالشريف-غ8ك isn't that so fascinating? Learning to have really good healthy boundaries and becoming more resilient are 2 of the most effective ways to hone that super power ;-)
@@juliakristinamah
I understand Julia!
Need to master that
Julia Kristina Counselling how does HSP deal with emotions at work especially criticism about work performance, took it too hard :( I only realised many of the superpowers and the challenges are what I’ve been facing in my life, it’s becoming so much frequent nowadays
Thank you so much. You help me on my journey and I have learned so much from you. Thank you for all your service. I definitely feel more empowered after this. My friends keep telling me being this sensitive is a gift but I have had a hard time seeing why that is true until now.
I was raised to be ashamed of being sensitive. Today at 42 years old, I am understanding myself and embracing my traits. Thank you
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I was raised by narssasitic mother who made me feel ashamed about being too sensitive. She was so unemotional and insensitive that me showing my emotions made her feel uncomfortable.
Same
Does anyone else feel more in tune with animals because of their high level of sensitivity?
Not just animals but even small little things, changes in the surrounding nature
I have an Alaskan Malamute and I can communicate with him telepathically...I know that sounds strange, but I have had many instances where he responds to what I'm thinking...many times when I'm sad and crying, I go to him for comfort because he lets me know..."it's ok mamma.. I'm here for you"
Absolutely
I prefer low level light, quiet, don't like conflict, I need my sleep, I need a transition time, I REALLY TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY, AND YES I HATE FAILING, AND I HATE CHANGE/OR UNCHANGED PLAN, VIOLENCE, CANT SAY NO MOST TIMES
I am polite considerate
I love tasty food and it does take me a while to choose
I work better alone than a team
I can tell when sum1 is off and help ppl that r feeling off, ppl do open up to me, songs can touch me, I like deep convos... so many thank YOU this is why I get stressed at work and emotional lots, and when there's change it really affects me
YES! And people think I’m crazy or delusional when I point out an animal suffering and that it’s not ok...people think those things are normal but they’re normalized damaging ways
The biggest mistake that HSP's make is thinking that their high sensitivity is a flaw or defect. You are not a walking basket case. Do you have any idea how strong you are? You've gotta be incredibly strong to have an amplified nervous system and survive in this world. You rock. ♥️
Thanks for the pep talk, I can dig it. Need that affirmation from time to time.
Awwwh that’s so sweet God bless u
Bless your soul. This is so true
Blessings. 🙏🏾
Thank you
bless you too for your strength💚🤗
I always get "You think too deep into things."
LATERNITE Yes, people tell me I overanalyze.
Yes me too
Yeah same
Same
I get this too
HSP: 1. Need to take breaks when things feel overwhelming 2. Caffeine 3. Sensitivity of the senses 4. Avoid conflict 5. Hard time coping when sleep deprived 6. Difficulty switching focus 7. Hard time making decisions 8.Taking things personal 9. Hate failing and making mistakes 10. Don't like last minute changes to your plans 11. Need quiet to focus 12. Don't like violence on tv or movies 13. Hard time saying no
lets also rewrite the list with positives, I miss them here !
Good GOD. I fit all but one of that list. 🙄🙄🙄😢
Absolutely agree on "having an ability to sense authenticity". I always get a strong gut feeling if a person is "putting on a show". I can't stand fakeness, I detest it.
Daniel Becker Yes!!!
The same here
wow yes exactly what i thought today, and been feeling more and more intense recently. have been starting to feel annoyed about it tho dunno if thats good it just makes me mad
Sometimes I'm annoyed that I have this superpower because I want to just believe everyone's bullshit and be on my way but I can't and it causes stress.
Me 2
Avoiding conflict, is just me apologising first even when I'm not wrong.
I do that a lot as well
I do this all the time, im starting to feel like ive sacrificed a lot of my integrity to avoid conflict with people that i care a lot about and its starting to effect me 😞
I get it I've felt that when I saw the message I avoid conflict as well
i do this to and it can rly effect my mental health 😞
Hugs
Things that affect me:
1. Rude or ignorant people
2. People afflicted with stupidness
3. Criticism
4. Confrontation/arguments
5. Physical touch/closeness makes me cringe or shrink, so I've never had a girlfriend.
6. Bright lights
7. I can sense people's negativity/miserableness.
8. I am anxious about using a phone and freak out if someone unknown calls me.
And YES ! I DO take things personally and blame myself severely for failures.
John, I hope you can learn how to not blame yourself so much. I'm 100% certain everything is not always all your fault.
John M
Things that affect me:
1: phones
2: long videos
3: the color green
3: irony
4: lists
5: contradictions
5: repition
6: typos
Maybe I am wrong, but all your points make me think that you could be having PTSD. At least this is all true for PTSD.
bro your list matches mine....still don't know what to do...
sensing people's negativity/miserableness is so true... especially at work. I've had to learn how to block it out and not let other people drag me into their misery.
Omg, this resonates so much with me! I've been told my whole life I'm too sensitive, I care too much, I cry too much, I read people like a book! I feel their feelings when they talk to me. I get so passionate about politics and human rights, I play several instruments and I annoy my husband while I play a piece of classical music and cry because I feel it so deeply... I thought I was crazy!
I was diagnosed as bipolar in my early 20s, but I'm actually just a highly sensitive person. All of these descriptions apply to me. As far as the violence goes, I was raised on action movies and have no problem with violence, but excessive blood, gore, and suffering I can't take. If it starts going into torture, I'm out. Shows like Game of Thrones or movies like Saw are absolutely no-go. The biggest one for me is I cry a lot. Happy tears, sad tears, being moved to tears, it's a thing, and it can be really embarrassing when I look around and I'm the only one. Then family members tease me over it and the sensitivity to criticism kicks in. Getting over toxic shame and learning self-love has been a pretty good shield against the more difficult aspects of being a HSP.
I know, Game of Thrones is like a nightmare:(
I used to absolutely love scary and horror flicks. I'd watch all of them, but since about 5 years ago I have turned opposite. I can't stand them. At one point my anxiety got too overwhelming just watching a TV show that had a simple conflict as part of the story that resolves at the end of the hour. I can't even watch the news any more. It's unbearable
I'm the same way when it comes to Saw but oddly enough I really do think I could torture someone if it was justified. Ironic huh?
I learned to hold my tears and now i can only cry when im alone. But i actually do enjoy crying now! Even as a 22 y/o guy.
People always used to make fun of me. If i wouldnt try to hold my tears i would cry when im watching a Disney movie with the family 😂. Nobody would cry but me 😂. I dont want that. My tears are for me alone :). It always makes me happy to cry
Omg same!!
Am I the only one, who can drink coffee and go straight to bed with no issue falling asleep?
you are a god
I also don’t have any issues with caffeine. I find that it has no affect on me either way.
You might have a low blood pressure so coffe can be something that actually helps you feel “normal” in a way. Please go to your doctor and check it cause it’s a serious issue. I know this from experience cause my mum has the same situation as you
Zuza Zalewska Actually, my blood pressure is pretty good. My parents have high blood pressure so I get it checked regularly. Thanks for the info!
I’m the same way. I was born in Brazil and my mom gave me coffee with milk twice a day when I was growing up. I still drink it twice a day after 42 years 🤷🏼♀️ never bothered me and I can fall asleep very easily right after taking it at night. I don’t have a cut off time.
this is freaky how accurate this shit is. goddamn my whole life is clear to me now
Youn dont have HSP only 15-20 percent of the population have it its very rare shes talking about just people being a little sensitive. But HSP is on a whole nother level you should look more into it.
@@jasminedelphine2882 15-20% isn't rare at all, and how would you know what i have or don't have
@@oriondrums2 you might have it however alot of people have the things she named in the video and 15-20% of the population is rare our population is 7 billion that is rare
@@oriondrums2 im also just annoyed because i was diagnosed with this and now everyone is saying they have it which alot of people dont its alot diffrent then what she mentioned in the video
@@jasminedelphine2882 15-20% of 7 billion is between 1.05 billion and 1.4 billion. you're gonna tell me thats rare? It's a minority of people, but a very significant one
1. Overstimulation by Caffeine, 2. Sleep deprivation, 3 Conflict avoidance, 4. Difficulty to focus on many things at a time, 5. Getting stuck in indecision, 6. Don't like when plans change suddenly... That's me! So I guess I am a highly sensitive person...
Thanks for sharing - I hope you found it insightful.
Only 15-20 percent of the population have this i was diagnosed with it. And the things that she mentioned in the video sorta bother everyone that doesnt really have anything to do with it. HSP means you feel things diffrently like emotional stuff and clothing or sounds ill start to freak out if i have to wear certain clothing i dont like or sounds and i know everyone has something that annoys them but this is on a whole nother level
Apparently, I’m a very tough HSP. 😉
Also happens to be textbook autistic traits, lmao.
@@MyouKyuubi yes, my thought too!
I will get into conflicts when I feel there is an injustice because I obsess over that. I hate fake people or having to be fake myself. I enjoy being around kids because they have easy emotions and accept my emotions. I am a librarian at schools. But I run for smoke breaks even if I dont need or enjoy it. I have zero control over it and I'm now realizing what this is.
I love working with the elderly. I’ve worked as a PTA working in geriatrics for 22 years. I love connecting with elderly folks (most of them are beyond the bs pretense.) I’ve never gelled well with my peers. Even as a small child I preferred to hang with the grandparents, great aunts and uncles.
I avoid conflict like the plague. I also am very sensitive to noise, smells, and certain fabrics against my skin. The worst is wearing a bra!! Cannot wear that thing long at all!!!!
@@BlindFaith777 exact same. I also work with elderly on wkends. Bras, certain fabrics, etc, just like u said. I cant stand it.
I agree 💯. I seem to be able to get into conflict if I’m sticking up for someone else, but never for myself.
When you mention hating fakeness and enjoying working with children, I instantly connect.
I have every single one of these qualities. I'm sensitive to sounds, smells, tastes, I can't stand being interrupted when I'm talking or doing something, I need a lot of peace and quiet, I struggle with boundaries, I'm emotionally sensitive, violence definitely bothers me, I'm not afraid to go deep, I can work well with others very well and put them in a good mood, though I work very well alone too, florescent lights are the worst, etc. This is spot on. Thank you 😊💜
Oh my gosh!, I hate fluorescent lights too. I think it’s because we can feel the radiation coming from them. Same way I can feel WiFi and cellular signals. Wow, I love you guys. I feel like I am normal now.
Same.
I started crying today. The other day my teacher said "Well because you're not paying attention" because I simply didn't understand something. Today, my mother told me to get something from my brother's room, and I knocked because the door was locked. She yelled "What are you doing? This is what Mr.Holiday was talking about! You don't listen!" So I started crying.
She called me sensitive and tried to hug me, I didn't want to be near her. But being a child I "had" to go to her. It's been about 20 minutes and I'm still upset.
I understand how you feel take some deep breaths and some time to yourself and if you need to cry cry, it’s perfectly normal. You’re not alone.
I recently discovered this about myself. I read the book, and it was absolutely about me. I have always thought that there was something wrong with me. Thank goodness I learned about this trait at the ripe old age of 53..... Better late than never=)
so freeing when we realize it's not a flaw.
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What is the book's name?
How though did learning it was a real thing change your life? I thought i would feel validated. But knowing this still does not change the people around you. You still have to put up with the same your crazy talk and treatment. And the ones who mean the most to you think trying to get them to understand HSP is crap, and you are just trying to find a way to normalize your craziness.
Can someone plz tell us the name of the book :)
I was in the library studying with my friends and after the 4th or 5th time that I moved seats and tables my friend burst out laughing asking why I always do this. I said that I can't study with the certain combinations of lighting and noise, facing too many people, or seeing too many people walk by. I always thought everyone was like that. I always tried to figure out why I really really struggled to work in public places even when it is quite, but too many people are moving around near me or the lighting is off or something else. It's weird how small things like this start to make sense.
Listening to this video. Just brought flashbacks of memory all the way from childhood. Like it hit me like I was always this person, the signs were always there and it only after 30 years did my family start to pick on it. I remember going to this movie with my mom and it affected me so much like I was crying and it affected me like I started thinking about why life was cruel and all that stuff. And she couldn't understand it. It's good to know that I am not crazy and that the reason for me feeling a certain way was not just me.
EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM.....!!!! I am blown away! I have been apologizing for being "so sensitive" since I was a kid, and I'm 46 now! Thank you for this! You validated me and empowered me!🌈🍀🌻🌟💚💜
I absolutely hate conflict. It makes me feel restricted, like im choking on air or on guilt or just bad feelings in general.
I HATE conflict! I can't deal with. It's one of the biggest struggles I have as a leader.
I'm definitely a HSP. Especially emotionally.I am extremely aware of my surroundings and am extremely self-aware of my thoughts and feelings. And really, to the point where it has its debilitating moments. It makes it somewhat difficult to remain emotionally stable because I have (had) a tendency to drown out the noise with things like weed, alcohol or other depressant distractions which always have cons in some way or another. I love caffeine but it gets harder and harder to stomach the older I get as its anxious effects are beginning to outweigh its pros. I'm extremely sensitive to drugs (prescription or otherwise). It even used to confuse me as a child why people didn't notice or were not as aware of certain things as I was.
I also have this insane drive to face things that bother me - which as an HSP leads for an interesting life. For instance, I hate conflict...but I must know how I will handle it if it arises (i.e. what am I made of?) so I put myself in conflict (not seek it) to get better at it. Truth is I only get better at it in practice, not because it "feels" any better. I'm easily anxious about anything and everything but I insist on pushing through those feelings by challenging myself to pretty uncomfortable levels (sailing a boat alone/in a storm, traveling the world by myself, having a job to give presentations to hundreds of people at a time on complex topics, skydiving, talking to a girl out of my league, performing music, riding a motorbike through Vietnam haha). These aren't impulsive actions but anxiously crafted events if not obligations. My therapist is confused by it, and frankly, I am sometimes as well because it leads to some extremely tough days. But the pros have always outweighed the cons, even at the cons worst- because as being an HSP my "life highs" can be extremely rewarding, maybe moreso than most, despite the uphill struggle. And it's the struggle that makes the highs so special.
I appreciate relationships more, I empathize more, simple things mean more to me, and when I win at something I feel extremely accomplished not just because I won, but because I can feel all the steps it took to get there. And as I cope with my HSP qualities and recognize what makes me happy and what doesn't, I find that depression (which used to be a common part of my life) is rare. Self-care is of the upmost importance to a person like me (or us), I believe.
Anyways, I'm not sure why I'm writing this, I thought this video was interesting and made me reflect. Maybe someone can relate. Thanks for posting it!
You are like me, like exactly me. Interesting thing to know.
I can super relate to this
I recently discovered I am an HSP, and it has been life-changing already. I found your video to be so helpful. God bless you. ❤
I love that, "Your Intuition is the place where your heart and mind meet."
You are amazing and a blessing! I identified with 90% of the traits! I was always led to believe that I was flawed both in my personal relationships and my work life because I am super sensitive. Thank you for helping me see a different side of this! I’m 65, widowed and retired with a grown family. But....it’s never too late to feel good about ourselves! Thank you for sharing all of this information! I love listening to your videos and I’m in the process of listening to all of them , 💗
Thanks for this video, you've described me to a T. I've been ridiculed for being 'too sensitive' my whole life. I can't drink caffeine without bouncing off the walls and then sinking into depression afterwards. I try to avoid it completely. I tend to take everything personally...reading far too deep into things people do and say. Loud noises, bright lights, extreme heat/cold, heavy scents are all hard for me and if clothing is not soft, I don't wear it. Any clothing that feels confining makes me irritable....tight clothing, turtlenecks, tight sleeves, belts etc. The minute I get home from work, off come the fitted clothes and on go the soft, comfortable lounging clothes. Conflict is the worst for me so I hide away from it. This has cost me relationships. I even find that if I'm watching a movie where everyone is fighting, I have to turn it off as it will sink me into sadness and agitation. As for sleep, I need a full night or I get scatterbrained and depressed. If my train of thought is interrupted, I'll snap back and be agitated for a while. Loud crunching, rattling of shopping bags, fireworks, loud noises in general, jar me and agitate me. It's all these reactions that have had me judged as 'difficult' by family and friends my entire life. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression but I don't understand this as my symptoms usually follow one of the triggers I've mentioned above. Neither the depression or anxiety lasts long, they're more 'reactions' than anything else. On a positive side, my intuition is off the charts amazing. I get feelings about people and situations long before other people I know. Sometimes this is very overwhelming too though.
My latest 'brick wall' that is causing me to freeze rather than proceed is a project where I have to finish and paint some baseboards in my house left incomplete by a contractor. These baseboards have been staring at me for months, supplies ready to go, but the minute I look at the job I feel overwhelmed, then make some excuse that I'll do it later rather than finish it up. These baseboards have become a taunting antagonist in my life lol.... It's ridiculous. :)
I totally relate!!!! I have been overwhelmed by my office, the last room in my house to put together after a renovation... 5 months ago! And yes I relate by being judged "too sensitive" :(
I can relate to your baseboard situation. My flooring contractor ripped all trim and baseboards out and did an awful job replacing them. I don't want to paint them. It's been a year! I need to replace them so I can finish this job. Makes me feel Grrrrrrr! when I look at them. Lol
@@Jamama4 Seriously... this is SO funny! It's been a year for me too! The EXACT same thing happened to me and it upsets me to even look at the lousy job left behind. If I could show you photos you would probably laugh, maybe even relate. The thought of finishing them the way they are riles me to no end.... I'm thinking of ripping them out and starting over! lol Note to self... next time, do not hire a contractor 'friend of a friend'...ugh! Is it weird that I feel relief that someone else is going through the same baseboard nightmare? lol
@@claudinesouza8995 Do you tend to do great work but just as you near the end of a project, you delay the finish? I'm so guilty of that. It feels like self-sabotage! I totally get what you're saying about that office of yours, I did something similar with my last house lol Yikes, what are we doing?... maybe JK knows! The next time someone judges you and calls you too sensitive say "Well I'd rather be too sensitive than not sensitive at all..." ...I find that usually shuts them up.... especially when it dawns on them that you're probably talking about them and their judgy attitude ;)
Lol yes sometimes I bite my tongue not to say things like that!!!
I was surprised to learn about this “trait” of sensitive people. About my office... I first avoided it completely. Now what I do is to work on it a bit, then leave it. I cleared my desk, for example. My bills and business stuff are all filed properly. But the rest... I can’t even understand why I do it. I think JK would tell me: Claudine, just do it. Set a day for yourself, and only work on your office! You will feel so much better!!
About your baseboards... it seems like a bigger job. So totally understandable to put it off. And yes, so funny how just knowing someone has the same problem brings us comfort :)
I am HSP. That was a fantastic video. I identify with about 95%. Personal trauma and insecurity keep me from the other 4%. 1% for the food - I am so over sensitive that I can only tolerate bland food. I love your videos!! So very thoughtful and in depth. I think if I ever date again, I will link to this video so my potential boyfriend can know more about me; give him the chance to run away fast! Unfortunately some narcissists eat us for lunch because of our poor boundary skills. Again, excellent video!
Boundaries are ESSENTIAL for HSP's. My life before and after learning how to have healthy boundaries is like night and day.
I wish you luck in finding one who actually, genuinely cares. I Can not even get my family to care enough to watch any info on HSP. Its just all boring and crap to them. Just a bunch of crazy people trying to validate their crazy.
I knew I was a HSP before this video. I don't know about the Tide commercials, during the Olympics, but last year there was an insurance commercial, I think, I'm not even sure what was being advertised, but it played a song about coming home, and the brother/son was coming back home for the holidays. I cried every time it started to play. You actually had me crying, talking about the strengths. My partner always told me my biggest blessing is also my worst nightmare, my heart, because I stay vulnerable for people to take advantage.
Every single point you’ve made described me perfectly. Unbelievable. I struggle with seeing this personality as a positive but will try to view it this way in the future. Thank you Kristina for taking the time to make this video to help others.
No matter how i try i CANNOT see it as positive. Because the world doesn’t. Many of our traits irritate, anger, or annoy people in general. The only plus i see about it is how compassionate it makes me to others and how good i feel when i help them. ❤❤
I have a hard time with conflict.
Holly Menager me too like a collapse feeling
Me too, I end up crying.
There is nothing wrong with being a highly sensitive person. One thing though that is important is that the person dating a highly sensitive person needs to know that so they can be more gentle with criticism.
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS that would make a great video!
In my experience, not everyone is cut out for dealing with a highly sensitive person. I'm basing this on my own attempts at friendships etc. with insensitive or self-centred types... it's really hard. I can't speak for others, but as an HSP myself, criticism seems to be the least of my problems as long as it's constructive and not just a rude dig. Sensitivities that cause me to physically react (loud sounds, bright flashing lights, uncomfortable clothes, extreme heat, confrontation etc.) seem to be the most difficult for friends/family to empathize with. They just think I'm being 'difficult' again.
I totally agree - do you think this video would help a non-HSP understand better?
I do really bad with criticism.
@@juliakristinamah Hello! In response to your question....Yes as long as they're not NPD like my recent ex...I don't think he would even watch it...
Im a hsp person im totally sensitive in small or big things especially when someone scolded me infront of many people or even when im alone..
I can definitely understand that! I don't like it when people do that either.
I instantly start crying when another adult corrects me with a tone that expresses that they're really upset. When people are frustrated at me I can't hold it together and start crying too. It's frustrating for me because I can't stop it.
I’ve always known I was very sensitive but I had no idea just how much till I watched this. I have been criticized most of my life for this in relationships, I think some are just uncomfortable with someone that is a feelings based person. Most of these apply to me but the biggest is giving myself to another and depleting myself and being taken advantage of. Just got through doing that (again) and it hurts a lot. I have a lot of work to do in this area, giving it all away, as I have learned by watching your videos that not only do I not know how to establish boundaries but I have none at all. You have put an enormous amount of work into this and thank you for all that you do!
Julia. I'm an older (59 y.o.) Psych Nurse who has learned to compensate for all of these characteristics but I am very sensitive. Just want to say that I am very impressed by you. Thanks for all you do.
This is so me! I thought most of this was just from anxiety or depression. Love your videos, thank you.
HSPs are more susceptible to anxiety and depression because we feel things more deeply - all the things.
@@juliakristinamah I see...that makes so much sense. Thank you. I wish I could pause these feelings for a bit, I need a break!
I feel the same way Tammy - I get so tired and emotionally drained - a lot!
I feel the same
1. I hate the light, I love dark.
2. I hate criticism.
3. Whenever somebody is sad I want to cry for them.
4. I rarely get any sleep.
5. I cannot take pain very well.
6. Certain scents make me sad.
7. I am very sensitive to fluffy fabrics, they send chills down my spine just thinking about it.
@a Don't give up. If you seem to be having a bad time getting friends, wait. You yourself is good enough, and nobody can take that away from you. Someone will like the way you are and take contact. Especially if you keep your authenticity.
I know it might seem hard right now but I believe in you. I too have hsp, I think. I don't handle parties well with all it's noise and people getting drunk and making me feel uncomfortable, and I certainly don't enjoy when someone is acting in another way that's not right. But, that's okay. There will always be those who keep their masks in order to fit in, but you don't have to keep in contact with them.
Being sensitive is hard in this world, and I can't even imagine how though you have it. Friends, even if it's one really good friend you can talk deeply with is such a blessing. I want everyone to have at least one friend they can connect with in that aspect, and I feel sorry for those who don't.
I wholeheartedly want you the best. Having no friends must make you feel so hollow, so misunderstood and so damn sad. I can sometimes go in one of my sleep deprived (or that's what I think they are) fits, and feel every harsh comment and my evil head hanging around my shoulders saying I'm worthless, I'm nothing and I don't have any real friends left. When I feel these terrible thoughts and feelings spir up inside me; I can only begin to imagine how bad you must have it now.
I'm not one who cries often, and I don't think I've been able to so for the last couple of years, but to you, if I could, I would.
I am like really sensitive. Everytime I run my eyes get watery. Everytime someone says the littelest thing I just want to cry out loud. Whenever I'm fighting with ym sister I feel like someone just punched me in the heart. My heart starts tingling and i start shaking and laughing like a creepy person and I just cry a lot. I mean I'm in fifth grade I need to stop. It makes me feel better sharing it.
All your saying is the same as me and yes i am 5th grade ;w;
Spiderman didn't know how to use his powers immediately. With great power, comes great responsibility ;D You'll get a hang of it as you grow older, don't worry :)
I’m 52 and still feel hurt if I argue with my sister. It means you love her and you don’t want to have pain. Try to stop in the middle of arguing , walk away, think , relax. Come back calm and talk out why or what you’re both arguing about, see if you can come to a fair solution. Not easy but it’s worth a try instead of heartache.
Talk to your school counselor. They helped me a lot when I was your age. It’s great that you’re so self aware at your age
Thank you Julia, I now have finally the help I need to navigate the world. I now understand what it is to be an empath and be fully proud of it!! Thank you for the tools.
Tide commercials! I’ve cried at commercials at least once. My dad and I are both super sensitive and there was a military commercial on when we were watching the super bowl together, the commercial’s story was about a father and daughter, and I was very very moved and I heard my dad tear up a bit. Miss him. Loved your video and others like it, bringing awareness about such an important topic. I’m 31 and I think it was 5 ish years ago that I stumbled upon the term and what it means and it’s so fascinating and intriguing and important!
OMG, is it me you are describing JULIA darling?
I knew all about myself but I didnt know any name for it , and I thought it's just me.
What I can add about me as a highly sensitive person is :
I cant stand people Gossips,
I cant stand peoples intertwine in my business,
I cant stand peoples MANIPULATION / CUNNINGNESS,
I cant stand INJUSTICE behaviour towards someone else.
I cant stand MESSINESS, CROWDED, SMELLY ENVIRONMENT,
I love and adore CREATIVE, BEAUTIFUL,HELPFUL MINDS.
Every single point I can relate to. ✌
So strongly!
I can relate too
About conflicts, sleep, decisions, perfeccionism/failure, much to do, change, disappoint? That's me indeed....
I got out of my car in the WalMart parking lot to break up a fight between two women over a parking spot. I begged them to stop and said something like "Please, can we have just a little peace in this world!! Times are hard enough!" It helped the situation, but I realized later I could have gotten hurt or killed!!!
I think it was brave of you. We need MORE love warriors like you!
There is so much power in finally understanding my inner self. Thank you for this video. I am a very proud HSP! Changing the world through love one day at a time. ❤
A good test of knowing if you are highly sensitive is if you cry while watching these videos on being highly sensitive ❤
I really loved hearing the positives. Being highly sensitive is sometimes something I've strongly disliked about myself. I never thought of it as a good thing and will be referring to this in the future ❤️
Yasss!! Sarah Jane - it is your super power. I'm so glad it connected with you.
Me before this video: "I'm sorry Im weird!"
Me after watching:
"How, DARE YOU call me SENSITIVE! GRR!!!" D:
Thank you for this video Julia! Sometimes I feel like I can't function in this modern world of ours, so many things wear me down and keep me in a near-panicky state almost all the time. I have read Elaine Aaron's books but still find it difficult to feel that being a HSP is a superpower.
I can't tolerate caffeine at all, and I can take ages choosing the right cookies or any food really at the supermarket, so I tend stick to routine even in foods.
It is dryad - but we do have to make sure we are also building our resilience, managing our mind and our thoughts, and creating good healthy boundaries in our lives. We we are working on these things, our energy doesn't get hijacked by everything else in our environment.
I feel you, dryad. The fact is that our western/modern culture and society is tailored on the far more common less sensitive people. Plus, there is still society wide stygma, which certainly doesn't help. Just remember, you have to watch out for you, and this means knowing that you simply cannot live as the average joe, you have to take precautions, and live a life that's specific for you! Cheers :)
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Wow...How did I not know about this video sooner? I identify with almost everything you are saying! Incredible. Thankyou!
Tks for saving my life, I thought I was a monster, now I understood everything about my feelings and actions. I hate violence, conflicts, abuse, I prefer to loose than to handle an argument, I enjoy to be alone and, anyway, you're totally right. Tks again.
I remember being around 4 or 5 yrs old and hating all the lights at the mall. I prefer natural light. A few years ago I discovered I was raised by 2 narcissist. While researching I discovered HSP and I felt such relief! All the things that I was mocked for actually had a word...highly sensitive person! I made these discoveries at 53 yrs old. I went no contact with family and am working on not carrying others emotions.
Having healthy boundaries with not carrying other's emotions is huge - good for you.
Good for you! Sorry you had to deal with that.
I have a similar upbringing too. Narcissistic mother and emotionally absent father. I wonder if there is a correlation between narcissistic parenting and growing up to be Hsp's ?
@Don X Thanks!
@@adamhall5332 I wonder too.
I have been in a verbally abusive relationship for 13 years and just woke up to this being a real thing.
I learned I may be hsp after getting reoccuring asceptic meningitis and multiple hospitalizations. So I researched why, the docs had no answer.
Trauma can be from prolonged subtle abuse. Cptsd mirrors much of this.
Patricia Evans has great books to help.
I believe HSP is deeply linked to abuse.
My 2 cents. Thanks for listening.
Please reply to me. I think I may be HSP. Have recently left what I thought was abusive relationship- my husband is trying to get me to go back- he is saying that he is not abusive, but that I am HSP. Do you think that HSPs will " hear" abuse when its " not really there"??
Please help!!
This was AWESOME!!! You've described so many of my characteristics and I've been ashamed and embarrassed about them. Thank you!
I'm so grateful it connected! And I hope you can own who you are much more now. xo
I finally understand the reason behind my personality. I relate with all features about HSP. I am one of the many around the world, and so happy about it. We are special indeed.
Wow. Truer words have never been spoken. I love it when others can articulate how I'm feeling because they are the same! My 5 year old knows that mama prefers warm incandescent to bright white lights! I need at least 10 hours of sleep or I'm a mess! Distractions completely irritate me when I'm focused on something! All of these things she mentioned! Yes yes and yes! Oh and no caffeine for me after 12pm! Wow. Just wow.
The best part is that we 'are not flawed'!! I always thought this was a 'bad' thing in my personality.
Me too. I first initiated this journey of the self to "fix" whatever was wrong with me... I'm glad the journey brought me here
I wonder what careers most highly sensitive people go into? And which ones they are best suited for.
Lauren, I became a nurse and worked in hospitals, but never in the emergency room. I had empathy for the patients and also enjoyed working with other nurses, doctors, staff members.
I work at Tysons. They are a humanitarian company and I enjoy that.
I opted for Psychology, as I believe because of my high compassion I can really help people. But at the same time too much empathy can be a downfall too. Learning how to be objective although
Self-employment currently 😆🤣
Any service-oriented job. For example, I've gone into teaching and it's both a blessing and a curse, but I'm trying to find the balance. So long as you make yourself the priority and not your emotional punching bag, I'm sure any career would be fine:)
Damn I totally help when someone is feeling left out by bringing them in.
Me too - and random strangers always tell me their life stories which I love
This is so spot on and good. It can help others understand a Hsp person.
I am definitely a highly sensitive person. Most people do not like to go deep. This frustrates me. Thank you for sharing
i really take really everything personally and i find it hard to end text messages.
Same
"You have a strong BS-meter"
Ohh hahahaha, lol xDD
(I did not know, that people that aren't sensitive people won't notice this? really? wanna hear it from those that aren't as sensitive as us ^^")
Oh my god, these are all my issues!!
I would never have described myself as sensitive..... 😟 but this makes a lot of sence to me.... hmmm
WOW Julia , This was an amazing discussion about HSPs. I did in fact LOL and drop my jaw several times. Talk about hitting the nail square on the head!! OK so coffee cut off noonish, conflict ( avoid like the plague ugh ), decisions especially with food items , taking things personally !!!!!!! , quiet ear plugs and eye covering to sleep. Thank you soooooo much Julia, for sharing your clinical expertise so very helpful and clear. If your fabulous speaking skills are any indication you must be an Excellent Counselor.
I hate conflict and will do whatever it takes to get out of it and I also can’t stand to see others in conflict. I feel the stress so strongly it can almost make me nauseated. But every one of these points hit the bullseye for me personally. Thank you for this!
Choosing a nail polish colour= the indecisive nature kicks in 🙈.....Lol; but no jokes tho....🙄
I hear you! It used to take me FOREVER to order a meal at a restaurant.
Me too!
Cious05 didn't consider that.. Me all the way at the salon
I know right...
My brain is broke LOL this is me 🙋🏼♀️ thank you for helping me explain what I couldn’t verbiate! Now, on to how to care and help others, but with boundaries 🤔
This hit the nail right on the head. I often feel very overwhelmed and put so much pressure on myself to be perfect, always aware what people might be thinking, and often want to cry at work and have to take a few mins. I always feel daft! This is Brill
Wow!! The entire length of this video, I was nodding my head!!! I related to about 95% of the traits! This explains so much; just wish I knew what this was a lot sooner in my life! At 66, I feel like a large weight has been lifted. But I’ve also lost a lot of time thinking there is something wrong with me. Thanks for this enlightening presentation. 🥰🥰
I thought I was weak, now I know I have this HSP.
"You need thicker skin" this has been said to me several times. And one person decided he needed to explain what kind of thick skin by referring to an alligator.lol😵
I have grown such a thic skin, nobody can read me, nobody can feel me, nobody can understand me. Not even other HSPs or empaths. Really difficult to get rid of this enormous wall. I wish people were more informed about sensitivity, they wouldnt try to beat it out of the kids. But everyone do what they think is best 😉. "To prepare for the hard bitter world". I dont want to see the world as such. It can be beautiful and it is beautiful.
I want to make a t- shirt that says "grow confidence not thick skin"
I could be the poster child for this mindset! I find myself being misunderstood on a daily basis. or being judged for my sensitivity.
Hi Julia, I am a very sensitive person, I connected with every second of your HSP video. Exactly who I am!
This is me 💯 percent. Thank you so much for this. I feel alone for the most of it. My older sister and I are the same. No one in our family understands. My husband has taken advantage of me because of this. So has my children. I have the biggest problems with boundaries. All in all, I have said YES to every example that you gave. It made me cry. Thank you so much. I will share this video with my sister Sherry and she will say the same things.
I can’t believe it! Everyone of those descriptions was me. I almost cried when you went through the list the characteristics of a sensitive person. You hit the nail on the head describing me. I was thinking when you almost got to the end and you hadn’t mentioned “ hating injustice “ that was going to be the one you missed, then you described what that would be like for a sensitive person . I am a Christian and it hurts me so much how my church treat gay people, or anyone that had a bad past. I find myself standing up for these people, but feel that I mostly stand alone because the few that feels like e I do are afraid to say anything. The sensitivity to coffee was right on point as
Well. Caring, work better alone,the noise level, love working with others, but work better alone. I thought that there was something wrong with me and wondered why God made me this way. I saw it as a course not a blessing because others would criticize me for being too sensitive. Thank you so much! I want to watch it again! Lol
Hi I'm a Christian also and a highly sensitive person. I'm just wondering how exactly your church treats gay people? The church I go to treats everyone the same loving way. Thanks. Maeve
the thing that I find the hardest is that I can feel other peoples emotions so much that if they're hurting then it hurts me too and I want to desperately help them and when I can't it just feels overwhelming
Omg...yes! I often have many Dr. Appointments. I've found through your advice that I need to space out my appointments. Otherwise, I get extremely overwhelmed and become more anxious. I've learnt so much about myself and how to deal with things easier since I found your channel. 🙏😊💕
Ahhh!! Siera! This is music to my ears, girl. GOOD for you for investing in your healing and growth. #inthistogether
✝️😔
Dear Julia, I cannot express how much I am happy that you mentioned the difficulty switching focus while working on sth. I literally am that. I needed to explain it to my partner and colleagues, but I find it difficult socially, because I feel like I come off as rude or unfriendly, even rigid. I try to compromise, but it always costs me lots of energy. When I work, I need deep focus to be able to connect the dots and work efficiently. If someone starts talking to me about something else, I feel like all this energy I spent on focusing and gathering the information is wasted. It really stresses me out. I find it very helpful listening to calming music while working and taking short breaks to chit chat / connect to others.
Thank you for this amazing video!
Deciding WHAT to eat... Youve hit the nail on the head with every statement dear... Thanks for giving us a way to try and explain it to others...
I resonate with absolutely all these symptoms although I have never considered myself a highly sensitive person. I am 57 and been 30 years in the military...do you think I might be a HSP? Best regards Julia! I love your Instagram, too!
If all of these connected with you, is there a reason you think you're not an HSP?
@@juliakristinamah Thank you for your answer, Julia! I guess I thought that all those feelings I had were "normal" and that most of the people would be disturbed by loud noise, uber-strong lights, would love music, would need to recharge in solitude, sense when people are fake or insincere...I felt all those but they did not make me feel highly sensitive (maybe I did not have the concept clearly defined in my mind). Also, I was always told by other people that I am "such a strong person", I felt that even my family was looking at me for support in difficult times and I was able to provide that support.....so, I am a bit confused...The thing is, even when I was disturbed (temporarily) by the things you mentioned in your video, I was still able to function and come across as "strong"...ha! I feel like I have answered my own question!!! Funny thing...maybe it is your lil magic, Julia! Thank you! Love your channel!
Thank you so much for doing this video. So appreciate your knowledge. This is me on every level. I'm working on those boundaries. You have a beautiful heart.
Healthy Boundaries are life! So grateful it connected Kasey.
Tbh I also blame myself for everything when my friends are sad. Even tho I didn't do nothing I stil blame myself for there sadness. If they are in a problem I blame myslef for not being there and helping them
I used to be like that but it better now , I get overprotective over the ppl I love
IMHO this is not sign of hipersensitivity. It is sign that your parents (caregivers) were using blaming and smaing when you were young child. This is very common case when one was rised by manipulative and inmature parents. Try to disangage and ask yourself if this is really your personality or just emotional pattern from the past. Hope it will help you rlease this ☺️ Love 💖 🥰
2 or 3 that I did not feel applied to me. Did not distract from the message at all. You helped me gain a deeper understanding..
Speaking to the effects of sleep deprivation: age 13 (zero drug, low sensory evening) seemed as if I had retrograde amnesia after only about 30 hours awake with no sleep. Couldn't remember who or where I was, was VERY unsettling and doctors had no idea what to chalk it up to other than the sleep. And again at a festival after about a day and a half no sleep, some alcohol and marijuana, but full blown hallucinations and the med tent tested for spiked drinks and nothing...just no sleep so....wondering if this could be an answer as the amnesia posts yielded only a better way of describing the first episode more concisely and accurately. Thanks so much for the information!!! I've been codependant and homeless with a not respectful ex because I know nobody for about 3000 miles from where I am so, I'm gaining some much needed strength through all that you have to teach. You've made a huge difference in my life already, I can't imagine what you've already done for everyone who already follows you! What a wonderful asset to the community, thank you!
When someone suddenly gives me tasks and I already have enough, it feels like bricks falling on my head
Thanks Julia..I so needed to hear this message today. I appreciate you. God is good💕
Xx Tamra
SO grateful it connected Tamra.
“You’re too nice” is what I heard for 30 years. This boils down who I am perfectly. Most of these I’ve identified on my own, but goodness, what a struggle. I sent this to my family and told them that; “This is why I disappear into my bedroom on occasion.” I’m 60 and hope that all like “us,” including the younger folks, hear this message... You’re just fine as you are. Also, lighting and onions hit me like a hammer! Love your “sessions.”
I get told that alot to. And I get told I'm weak for it, and I dont agree with that because to me it takes a strong person to experience life on such an intense level.
I've been told this too. 50 yrs old and just now accepting myself.
@@bryanjustus4235 I’m 48. Still haven’t managed any acceptance of it
@@korimcentire2346 many people see it as weak. That’s the problem. The world is FULL of narcissists, and such people don’t have much empathy, and don’t think anything about raging at or manipulating people. Which makes people like us VERY VERY prone to them and then hurting us!!! We really have to verse ourselves on that or we can end up in a relationship or friendship with a narcissist and that’s VERY hard to get out of
Wish I had had this great information 60 years ago. Thank you so much. Caffeine is the only thing that does not seem to effect me (not a coffee drinker.) I am so jumpy! I scream when the dog barks! Changing plans at the last minute always derails me. When I was a child my mother would often say, "Don't be so sensitive!" Taking things personally is my kryptonite.
Yes I relate! 😊 In "woo woo" communities, highly sensitive people are thought to have psychic abilities that may be lying dormant and are often the source of anxiety. It's so cool to learn there is a genetic marker for this! Thank you! ❤
I am immune to caffeine, but I am a sensation-seeking HSP.
10 min into this vid and I smashed the subscribe button. lol
Random HSP guy passing by. No need to clap please. ✋🤚
Thicc Yoshi HSP girl, let's date! 😂
😆. I think Yoshi is an HSP. He feels so much!
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I related to so many of these. Needing breaks from too much stimulation (visual, noise, fabrics, ohh the smells), avoid conflict at all costs (I just want to retreat), troubles with boundaries, caffeine (7PM cut off time). I have certain types of movies I can not watch.......War movies (Dad was a soldier), movies where a kid gets hurt/kidnapped, movies where animals get harmed......and the movie "Titanic". I was a wreck for days afterwards. Just feel it too much. Thank you for pointing out that it isn't something to be ashamed of. ♥
I have NEVER heard someone describe me TO A 'T' in my life, so well, and spot-on, in every way, especially someone who never met me!!! I also never attributed my senses (noise specifically), don't want to disappoint anyone or say no, and violence to be sensitive as opposed to anxiety or insecurity. Thank you.
I am HSP and extroverted. I can suffer from under stimulation as well. There is a sweet spot between too much and too little for me.
Agreed
Oh my God, I was nodding like a bobblehead through ALL of this!!!!!!!!
Then your issue is just simply a rubbery spine. Try some calcium tablets to strengthen your bones.
Sorry, stupid joke. Hehe.
I believe you. It was spot on for me too.
I’ve only watched 1/2 of this and I relate 💯 % to EVERYTHING!!! 😮 Scary. Strong cologne feels like a personal attack. I take things too personally and I am my own worst enemy 😞 I have to wear earbuds at work since I’m easily distracted by noise from my coworkers.
Great insights April. Thanks for sharing.
OMG, you are fantastic and you have just opened my eyes on why I am the way I am. Finally after 50 years I see it. Thank you from deep down my soul. God bless you
Omg I am with you on the caffeine and lighting and loud noises (loud people as well), intense smells, fabrics, conflict/uncomfortable situations, lack of sleep, getting interrupted, definitely take things personally ha ha, perfectionism yes!, oh GOD YES about last minute plan changes - really Fucks me up!! Yes definitely can’t work around people and distractions!! Yes, really don’t enjoy violence or scary movies, getting better at saying no! Highly sensitive taste and smell, (am a good cook because of this sensitivity), highly attuned BS/detector (just as I was about to write this you said it lol), very creative not so good with math etc., super caring & conscientious, (but learning how to have boundaries), can’t stand crowds, supermarket, shopping malls, airports. One thing though I am very decisive, thank you for your videos and all you do 😘😘😘