"Most HSPs have a genuine urge to create connection and meaning. Because they feel every pain they see, they want to elevate the forgotten, and save the misfortunate."
"Only connect." E.M. Forster The deep urge to connect has driven my life since very early childhood. When I saw Forster's statement on the first page of his book Howard's End I understood myself for the first time.
@@elenalatici9568 I feel the same, but the lack of connection, or the failure of connection is so distressing. I also wonder if many HSPs ended up as English majors. Reading and discussing great literature in college was like heaven for me.
When I’m upset, I cry. When someone else is upset with me, I cry. When I’m angry, I cry. When someone is angry at me, I cry. When I yell at someone, I cry. When someone yells at me, I cry.
When you tell someone they're too sensitive what they hear is "Your feelings arent important and I dont care about you and you need to stop being who you are"
When you brutally tell someone that they are too sensitive, it is a judgemental statement saying that person isn’t good enough and that they should change, which is really difficult to do and to hear. You really don’t feel accepted at all when you hear that haha. There are better ways to help people and build them up I think, because that only tears a person down. I grew up hearing that I was “too nice”, what is that even supposed to mean I thought. Why couldn’t others try to be nicer, why should I have to change? But I was pretty naive and people took advantage of me being nice, so I’m glad that I’m not overly trusting anymore! But hearing that wasn’t helpful at all, it was life that taught me, not people always telling me that I was “too much”, that was only hurtful to hear...
My wife of 6 years is highly sensitive. We married in our late thirties and run a business together. Her sensitivity used to drive me nuts. But after many long conversations, tears and many apologies, I can say she has helped me become a kinder, gentler man. I’m still improving. I feel blessed to have her. I must’ve prayed for patience at some point because the good Lord is helping me have that virtue in spades.
"... a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death. ..." The HSP among you who reads this will recognize it too.
My bf is a HSP. I am reading and watching video about this, because I want to understand. Not surprisingly, he is an artist and schoolteacher of art. I have learned much from this video; I think this is more difficult on a man. There is a place in the world for gentle people and the blessing they are to those who love them.
I’ve realised that as an HSP I love deeper and more selflessly. This is mostly not returned at the same level and leaves a feeling of being unappreciated and not loved.
Completely, I don't think most of us will ever get the same in return. But I know personally it won't stop me from loving as much as I do. I know because I tried to grow cold hearted, it was impossible and frustrating.
The opposite of sensitivity is insensitivity, and that is nothing to be proud of. Sensitive people are not weak or broken. They are stronger than the rest - feeling everything to the fullest and still leaving their hearts open. It is not weak to feel something. It is weak to push it away and numb yourself out of fear. True strength is feeling everything and not building walls around your heart.
im so sensitive that when I am mad at someone, I feel bad for them for having someone be upset with them because it might make them sad which ends up making me twice as sad smh
And how many here, actually have that gotten it diagnosed by a neurologist, maybe decades ago, and think it's basically a term for, "not harmful, shrugs, whatever"? lmao
“Corporations should invite sensitive people to the table, because without sensitives they risk lacking integrity, innovation and humanity”. Very well said, indeed.
Consider there are changes in the middle ground and non profit side, very often it is the changed that bring that to their work and after these two years, I believe we are interested in change in every place 🍶
It really sucks when you feel like you can't speak up sometimes cause you know you'll just start crying. That's me... I'm afraid to speak my mind and tell people how I feel cause I'll just cry and it feels horrible crying around other people, especially when you're a guy.
Brandon Lease I am like that too .. people do not understand that it is out of how passionate you are about some thing but they read is weakness ... eventually I stoped arguing with people
Well I have the opposite; I can feel as bad as anything. I could be sitting in the corner, rocking back and forth, wanting to kill myself, and I will NOT cry. This is not a choice, this is my life. And believe me, it's not all it's cracked up to be. Nobody ever takes me seriously. I might say to someone "I feel really really terrible right now" and they'll say "oh, can I help you?" and then I'll look at them and smile involuntarily, and they'll kind of pretend to listen to whatever I say (generally something along the lines of "I hate myself"), give some sort of useless piece of advice (like maybe, "think about something else") and move on. Meanwhile, here I am, losing faith in humanity and desperately, desperately needing someone to help me. I wish I DID cry. You guys have it a lot better than you think.
As a sensitive, I take on a lot of emotions from people and a lot of times, very deeply. Sometimes it sucks because it drains you out. I find that being out in the nature alone, recharges my soul and makes me feel at peace.
Energetic healing methods help you. I’m also high sensitive… call it however you want. I feel so much, deep and also the problems of other people. I work with Matrix energetics from Richard Bartlett, aura technique, 2 point healing method… As such emotional people we have to learn to protect ourselves because we get so quickly negative energy from others into our own system.
I think it's hard for many who don't understand an HSP like me, when I retreat into myself to be alone, to just be in a quiet space...especially when things are fraught. I am always at my best in a green out door space... Far from the madding crowd. All my life I've been like that (now 58) and it will always be that way. It was the same in school, in college and the work place. At times it can be extremely painful. As I live in a major city, this can be, intolerable at times. Sadly, the majority of the world don't understand the complexities of an HSP. They just think we're highly strung, or just difficult. It's precisely the fact that a non HSP's environment makes us that way, that we need to retreat to a silent place like a church for instance or just go alone to a quiet room and shut the door behind us.
Being a highly sensitive person who cries at every Disney movie and smiles at sunflowers, I was told " don't let the world hurt you", "it's such a little thing", " you are too sensitive " and believed that there was something incredibly wrong with me. The ability to feel vast range of emotions quickly became a sense of guilt and shame. I think it's a tragedy when a person who wear their heart on a sleeve, start locking their hearts away in gallows. There is nothing more tragic than telling a person who feels everything that there's a problem with them. Thank you for this video. I'll keep this close to my heart everytime I feel a little sad. Thank you 🌻
Having a bad day or being sad is okay. Just don't let it drown you, but everyone sometimes has a bad day, or even a bad week. There's nothing wrong with that. Take the time to recover and treat yourself with the kindness you also give to others.
I'm an old lady. I felt like you were describing me when I was young. Meditation taught me to discipline my mind. I learned to turn off the noise in my head. I learned about peace. My sensitivity blossomed into wisdom
I'm 37 years old and I too have invited meditation into my life 3 years ago from the advice of a therapist and it has helped be also bring inner peace and wisdom. It's really great to see this mental health tool being practiced in schools now! ✌️
Beautiful, that is what im always seeking and practising now for myself too. For a long time in my life, i struggled, i did not even fit in cause i was toi different.
I think HSP's are quite susceptible to anxiety and depression. I saw some quite violent things when I was younger, which didn't affect those around me in the long term but stuck with me and are still clear in my mind to this day 15 years later
Just coming over from 3 time narcissistic abuse my life is full of stress from small age and always think is there anything that my mind so I ate 100's of sleeping pills in last 30 years living as hsp is to tough it's better to live like narcisst people . everybody like to humilate us without any cause today's world is just for masked personality like narcisst .we can't change the world but we need to change according to this wild world
Many highly sensitive ppl don't realize that they are the energy healers of the world. Put your energy to work my friends. We are the gifted one's. Trust me.
I think I've just found the right video x) I mean, I've been saying that sensitive (plus, logical & fair) ppl will be the ones who'll "save" this world, because they simply are the ones who care enough to do it! That leads me to mentioning my ultimate dream, of somehow making all these ppl unite (at least on the internet) and start acting on our ideas of a better, more balanced society... Scattered as we are, we can't change much, imo. If we gathered up, more would follow and true positive change would become less and less unrealistic (hint: war and its chaos being the only thing that can stop it).
Stella R. HSPs/Empaths. We feel the energy around us, we feel people’s energies and emotions and have a deep empathy and understanding of people’s pains and problems. We have been gifted by God/Universe to heal other people on this planet, because the world is in need of healing and enlightenment. We are on the verge of a new world and we are the ones that will bring it.
I’m a teacher and an HSP. I had a student this year who is a HSP. He would always come over to my desk to have a quiet conversation with me when other students were working. I think he appreciated having a teacher who understood him, and didn’t see him as whiny and annoying. I will miss him next year as he moves onto the next grade.
I am an HSP and I pray to have someone who understands me and that student is so lucky that he had got a person who is his own teacher to share his feelings.
Being sensitive does not make you weak always remember that sensitive people often feel hurt more than others but they also feel good feelings like love , empathy , faith more than others and this is what makes them strong . ❤️
The other prize we pay is loneliness, I always think off God and Jesus it helps a lot it always brings me back to being accepted as me to my true core so I stand my ground, I can't change myself for what I stand your core values that comes from whit in yes I'm seriously sensitive and we need a whole lot more of sensitive people, and for many out there if you fall off the horse clime back on and don't look to much back just ones in a while keep strong go stronger
I heard " don't be so sensitive" alot, I kept thinking, people don't feel or see these same things? A therapist said, " you see things "before" other people"... They don't see it. Wow.
My biggest problem with being an hsps (even though I hate putting labels on everything) is, that I notice everything. I feel like I can see peoples bare souls, it feels like I KNOW what they're thinking! it's like I feel their feelings and fell their vibes. It's something that led me to social anxiety. I used to have so many friends, but at times I started to sort them out, cause I just couldn't stand their lies, their begrudges towards me. I simply smell their intentions. But honestly it's overwhelming for me being in school or work everyday, cause there're to many bad vibes out there and it feels like they're weighing down on me. I don't know...
Voice of Humanity wow that's exactly how I feel..thank you for putting it out there...its hard when you feel so much and then the line between inspiration and duty gets mangled..we are like walking dreamers with so much love..but in a toxic environment it suffocates your beauty and perhaps the toxic environment goes inward when it's not you but the world's ugliness that hurts so much
I've always felt weird and alone about feeling things on a deeper level. I was always told by my family and friends to "get over it" and that "it's not that big of a deal". I've always felt misunderstood. Thank you so much for this beautiful tedtalk
The thing is that everything you feel is actually real. So use it to your advantage. Hsp have actually great ability to influence other people because they get every cue!
I want to hug every sensitive person right now. And say: "dear wonderful person, you are not alone! You're soooo beautiful! I quite understand you..I'm like that myself, it's good that I'm not alone!!"
Naomi Cugini I am sitting next to my sleeping partner in our dark bedroom at 2a.m. trying to sob as quietly as possible with that same realization. It was especially poignant as I just spent an exhausting week of over thinking, trying to explain how/why I felt the way I do and starting to think maybe I really am as bonkers as some people think. In my heart I knew I wasn't though, and now I see it too. We have found the others.
It's a nice feeling, especially since as HSP I felt no other mental illness/ diagnosis fit my description. I think that's what made it so hard for me to figure out I'm HSP, it's not a mental illness yet I was led to believe I might possibly have mental health issues because my hypersensitivity can lead me to experience symptoms of depression, paranoia, and anxiety all at different times. It's such a nice feeling when you get to realise that you aren't handicapped, you are just different thus our HSP coping mechanisms need to be nurtured in different ways to that of regular society. Also on a side note I'm not upset about finding out I'm just human. Kind of leads me to believe everyone else is just robots not gonna lie lol.
I hear u. I often get yelled at for giving all my money to strangers or letting ppl i barely know live w me for free in a small 1 bwdroom apt until they're ok.
@@karencarney7595 I feel you on that. I once brought home a mother and her 2 kids. Fed them, let them shower and stay the night. I drove her around town finding resources. Finally found a woman's shelter for them. Never saw them again. Other times I've given our sleeping bags away and made hygiene bags. I could go on and on lol. No matter what I'll always have a big heart to help others.
HSP from Australia… I am 59 years old and only just realised I am a highly sensitive person. So great to have a name for my sensitivity at last. I was on a mission all my life to change who I was and I hated myself for feeling so much… I love so so deeply and that scares people… I am so sensitive to sound, light and too much activity around me. I spend lots of time by myself now and I love it. I was so scared because I didn’t want to be around people much and I labelled myself a loner… but I’m not …. And I’m me and so so accepting of myself now…. Th all my fellow HSP’s, keep being yourselves and know there are lots of us out here and we are needed by this world to keep it balanced because there is so much cruelty and hate in this world now…. Keep shining your bright lights 😃😃😃❤️❤️❤️
Knowledge is power, I'm learning I have all kinds of things that I've just dealt with. I'm 61 and it's refreshing learning ways to work with my brain and querks and not against them anymore.
@@aronhighgrove4100 Sensitive people are like cats. Do you ever notice just how crazy-sensitive cats are? They take in EVERYTHING in their environment at all times. They pick up on every subtlety, hate chaos, get easily overwhelmed, and jump at unexpected noises (or even just if there's suddenly a *cucumber* behind them for that matter). They provide a gentle comfort to their loved ones that is completely different from the way dogs act. Maybe we should say "don't force a cat into wolves clothing"?
google empath and search different sites. It will give you more insight on being HSP. I felt the same way when I found out that I was not all alone after all.
When people say “be a man”, “crying is for girls” to a guy, don’t understand that expressing your feeling is not being weak but rather is a sign that they are strong enough to display their feelings and have the courage to show their real self
I agree 100%! It's a falsity that being emotional is a sign of weakness & that keeping it together is a strength. Actually being present with & feeling our feelings is a massive strength, a superpower even. If everyone was able to really feel, own & accept their pain the world would be a very different place, less projections (wars, violence, etc.). ... And I find vulnerability in a man to be incredibly attractive! Good for you for being able to be your true self in a world where men in particular get stamped down!!! 🌺
Lendri , I’ve spent my whole life trying to “Man Up”. My dad told me the world would crush someone like me. A softy. The more I tried to suppress who I was, the more depressed I became. Speak your truth. Your beautiful the way you/we are.
Definitely. Not to single out guys, but we really do have it beaten out of us, especially us Gen X guys and older. The message is always that it's not normal to feel things, especially to feel them deeply, or to be concerned about others, or to need others, and especially not to show emotion. There's so much suppressing that happens over time. I'm 45, i've been told in person I give off a strong "stay away" vibe and it's probably true. I'm not doing it intentionally, but I think it's just something that's so burned into the subconscious, we don't know how to get passed it or to "undo" it. I feel like it's getting better for younger generations, at least I hope so...we cheat people by holding them to these preconceived notions of what we're supposed to and not supposed to be.
Great talk. Last time I was told I was too sensitive I replied "I like my sensitivity" - this stopped the person in their tracks! Sensitivity is a gift of awareness.
Profound ...I like how you put it!!! Sensitivity is a Gift of AWARENESS!!! Praise God for giving us emotions that empower us to be highly concerned about others' good!! Thank youJesus!!
X2. Empowering myself for being as I am has given me the strenght to face the world. I feel no shame at all for being HSP. Funny thing is that the people who have make fun of me being that way is actually the people that comes later asking for a chance to talk and have a slice of my time, of my sensitiveness. Some of them even have said to me that they admire the way I see the world. So, I wear my sensitiveness with no shame at all.
I recently went to see a psychologist and discovered I’m a HSP (and I’m an Asian male). Everything starts to make sense now as I hated shopping because it will give me massive migraines due to the lights, sounds and colours and I’ve got to think “I need to buy something”, amongst other things. Been told many times that I think too much and to not be sensitive, to man up. Now I know myself better, and I’m working to accept myself for who I am.
Hi I am very sensitive to light too. I get migraines a lot, you could look into sunglasses that sort of tone it down in stores. It's helped me out a lot everywhere I go. I use them at school and at work too lately and if you pick the right model you could jokingly play it off as being cool or trying to look like a secret agent, it's been my go to joke for a while. You also don't need to man up, you're good the way you are.
Yes, for boys especially (speaking as Southeast Asian & American) this is important. My son is 13 and he thinks deep and has intense feelings too. I want him to learn to express himself in the right way instead of keeping it all inside and then spiraling into a grumpy/teary fit at night. Men generally have it harder with stereotypes around emotions and manliness. For any fathers reading this, remember that your impact on your children (sons especially) has a boomerang effect back to you. You show your emotions and tears and joys so your kids learn how to be human and compassionate, expressive and supportive in good ways; and fathers, you get the benefit of deeper connections with your family, better sensitivity to your kids' emotions and needs, and a lighter heart to be strong for your loved ones.
i have never related harder to a comment section such as this one. it makes me really happy to know there are so many other people out there in the world like me.
I felt exactly the same and actually started crying because I actually felt relieved that there are “other” people like me. I like myself the way I am .
I have the awkward contradiction of being a very charismatic HSP..... people who meet me briefly tend to think I am fantastically extroverted and outgoing, and yet in my free time I'm basically a hermit....our ability to read others is really great for speeches and discourse as we can adapt to our audience pretty efficiently :)
Been this way all my life. 54 years of being told to toughen up. Many people do not understand how we feel the world around us. It is nice to know I am not alone.
I would have to take the word "deeply" out of a description of me, but yes, I too am proud of sensitivity. More men should be, but it's beaten out of them, and that's so sad.
So am I! The first time someone told me that I am very sensitive, I actually didn’t like it... as I saw it as being “weak” - which I am not. Now like the way I am... it’s what has made me be successful in what I did for a living.
@@MsHumble4 I love your story. Now I am strong enough to live without shields, to feel and everything that happens to myself and around me in an all-encompassing way.
Living in this world feels like you're being assaulted on a daily basis, it can be so draining. Staying away from people is usually what I need. Nature walks do the trick for me. Social media is not healthy for me, it makes me ill. Somewhere in there is a balance and you just have to find it.
texsangie I agree! Everything is too much, too loud, in your face and obnoxious. Every advert or newspaper headline is desperate to get your attention. You’re bang on about nature healing and grounding you. Mindfulness meditations help me too, I only wish I learned this when I was younger, now, only the people I really love are the only ones who can upset me, random people’s opinion of me is none of my business. I think we ROCK!!
Great advice! If nature walks are not available, a bathroom break to run water over your hands/ splash some on you face is a nice quick rest! Water heals!
Staying away from toxic people is ok. Pinning away with them will not make us stronger, it’ll only make us more sick. When you’re allergic to something, you don’t expose yourself to the allergen. You avoid it. Social media, that’s our allergen. Hence we avoid it.
I don't have insomnia , but i really can't shut my mind and it resolves in stress over everything and overthinking everything , it's so annoying. I want it to stop so bad , staying away from social media helps with the stress in a way, but the overthinking stuff kills me slowly
My brain always runs and I can never shut it down. Insomnia and I became buddies from a very young age. And as Lizzy Curran said, it’s less overwhelming and less of a sensory overload. The world is much calmer at night. People are asleep so it is easier to breath without the overwhelming emotions and pressure.
I was accused at my workplace for being “too sensitive “ I thought about this for some time and came to the conclusion that it’s not a bad thing but a plus. I care about people. Caring about people can only be seen as a beautiful asset. Don’t stop being a sensitive person just because it makes those without sensitivity uncomfortable. The world is a better place with us in it.
As an HSP, it is very frustrating when I have so much empathy for somebody, yet I have absolutely no clue how to express to said person how much I love them/care about them.
It hurts so much too when you give everything you have, and get nothing in return. I endlessly feel like the walking wounded. I promise myself i will just treat them the same way. But i cant. Or i try, then i beat myself with guilt.
LOL! it really does. I think that says all that needs be said about HSP's being better than normies...IJS...there's not a lot of youtube videos where you can read a full page without at least 10 insults. lol
Someone told me when I was a child that it was a gift to be caring and understanding, but I’ve always thought that was bs, it’s only made me a target of psychotic people and I hated it. I hate how people lie, they will backstab you for materialistic values, manipulate and use you, and even try to hurt you. I had dreams and passion but I felt like I wasn’t cut out for this competitive world. I had many so called friends but I cut them off, moved away from the city to the country side to get away from the negativity. I love being with animals insects and nature, but I feel lonely sometimes that I only have two friends, because I do love spending time with people. It’s been 5 years now I’m healing myself and there’s one thing I’ve learned. Lying, manipulating, backstabbing, calculating, greed, and hate comes from weakness and fear. You need to be a strong person to be loyal, caring, kind, and compassionate. I always thought I was the weak one, but now I know I wasn’t as weak as I thought, in fact I was probably stronger not to loose myself in a world of sickness, driven by fear and weak minded people. I know it’s hard but to my fellow sensitive gentle souls. You have the power to change the world because you are strong. Money and materialistic values cannot rule our souls. The world needs people like that more then ever now!
I love this comment! I feel you. I feel alone most of the time because I feel my family and friends are not as sensitive as me. I expect from them the same amount of care as I give. I felt out of place a lot of times but I’m learning to find happiness on giving without expecting the same back. I always feel different than those around me and now I know why. We got a super power 💪
Hey, I think the word you are looking for is "sociopathic", not psychotic! Psychotic just means you have hallucinations, delusions, paranoia. Sociopaths are people who may intentionally manipulate others because they feel no empathy. (I only say this because I experience psychosis and am trying to challenge the stigma and stereotypes we face every day. It starts with the language we use!)
This is what I think too. I’m on the spectrum and get overwhelmed pretty easily, so setting boundaries prevents other people from reaching out to me when I’m having an emotional outburst. Wish I could connect with more HSPs… I only know one person who is HS but both of us have to live with being constantly told to stop being sensitive or to grow up :/
Imagine when you have an argument and when you are 100％ right you cant even defend yourself bc your tears coming out faster than your words and people opposide you blaming you for using your tears as a gun as if crying is a choice
I have this problem terribly. And that's why I hate confrontation more than anything. Unfortunately people don't understand, even my parents, who get bothered when I don't like to talk in arguments. But if I do I just cry
My angry, controlling, manipulative, abusive ex-husband always liked to tell at me and call me crazy and tell other people that I am crazy but I realized that crying about the horrible treatment of myself and our young son would be a reaction out of a sane person. He knew I was very forgiving, deep feeling, strong loving person who is sensitive to the feelings of everyone they encounter but could not get the same thing from my own husband for me.
@@deelove2793 I am very very very happy that you had the strength and the courage to stand up for yourself and leave. I applaud you and wish nothing but the best for you! GOD bless you and your son!
I'm Japanese, and my English is not very good, so I rely on a translation machine. It wasn't until more than 40 years later that I learned that I was actually highly sensitive. I developed C-PTSD due to years of childhood bullying that led to a change of schools. My parents harassed me at work and I suffered for half my life. After 12 years of EMDR treatment with a therapist, I realized that I am a sensitive person, HSP. I want people to know that there are people like this in Japan. I've been friends with the pigeons that come to my garden for a while now and post them on youtube.
I’m an HSP. It is finally nice to have someone explain it to people in a way that doesn’t make us sound weak. I’m not weak, in fact I’m very outspoken. But sometimes being sensitive is exhausting. And I married into a family who saw me as weak because I tear up at things. I’m also an empath, and I believe these two things go hand in hand. Feeling the emotions of others is difficult. It is exhausting and sometimes I just want to run the other way because I don’t want to deal with it. Not because I am weak or afraid but because it can be so overwhelming. I recently left the Detroit metro area and moved to a rural tourist town. I live in the country in the edge of Lake Huron and I love it here. I can be close to nature although I feel sad when the birds look at me squawking when the feeder is empty! Or the deer that I watch all summer are now down one because a hunter got one. I’m not against hunting. My husband is a hunter. I just don’t want “my” deer touched! But it is so much better in the country. My anxiety level is much lower. I have also been told to toughen up, you’re too sensitive, get faces and told stop with the tears, and that I will never make it in this world. I’ve dealt with abuse as a child, and told I am worthless. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety. But now at 59 year old I recognize the positivity of being who I am. Feel your feelings and be you. You were created to be in this beautiful family of sensitive people. We help balance out the world and the mean toughness.
But the key to surviving your own empathy might be to learn to identify whose emotions you are feeling. what if you ask yourself “whose emotion is this”? If it is not yours, you don’t have to own it, do you? If you know you are not a hateful person, yet you feel the hate coming from others, whether or not it is directed at you, you can choose to say “this is not from me nor of me. I disown it.”
@@carniecapinc.carniecapinc553 It isn’t that I can’t tell whose feelings they are, it is that I feel them all even if someone is denying their own feeling. It doesn’t make me mean. It is exhausting. Feeling other’s emotions are not easily turned on or off by saying oh that’s not my emotion so I don’t have to feel it. It is like walking by a huge bonfire that you didn’t start but you still feel the heat. You didn’t start the fire, and you may not want to feel it, but you have to be in the vicinity of the heat so you’re feeling it. After awhile you begin to sweat, and then you feel tired . It’s the only way I can explain it. Sometimes if I am sensing high emotion, I do exit the area. Because I don’t want to feel it. But I can’t do this all the time. Parties are exhausting. I’m an RN and being around patients all day, in my last job was oncology. I was exhausted every single day because the lows are so low, the highs so high. It doesn’t make it good or bad, just tiring.
I understand myself so much more. I recognise this is not weakness. I understand the agony and strife. My perception of life is felt beyond full. My emotional dial is not broken. A limitless empathic capacity.
I was told many times as a child that I wore my heart on my sleeve and was too sensitive. I worked for a long time to toughen up and be strong and built up many walls around my heart. So it has taken many years to break down those walls and open back up again. I found that I was not suitable for the corporate world because I was taken advantage of and treated unfairly by both my colleagues and employers. After losing both my parents when they were just 51 and 58 years old I finally took the plunge to finally follow my dreams of being an artist. It has been a very healing process for me and even lead me to one of my biggest dreams which is illustrating childrens books. The first book I worked on with an author was just published! God is good and I would not have been able to accomplish all that I have in my life without Him. I am still healing and opening up and tearing down walls but each layer removed I feel more and more alive and happy and fulfilled. Praise God for His mercy and grace and blessings in my life!
Thank you for sharing! This gives me hope, because I've been building up the same walls around my own heart, but now knowing someone else has done the same thing, undone it and is now being happier, it gives me hope for myself. I'm not yet full grown, so this..this will help me as I reconsider what I'm doing, so thank you.
@@henriettaanneeles490God will help you to heal and to tear down those walls. Those who are empathetic are greatly needed to spread kindness and love and understanding. Praying you find healing and restoration and for God to pour out His many blessings on your life! 🙏🏻💜
My parents tried to fit me into a mold and toughen me up throughout my childhood. Now as a 21 "adult", I have been diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I am for sure a HSP. I cried while watching this, more in relief than in pain.
Me too (very emotional watching this). I thought I was just a hyped-up INFJ but my friend told me about this "HSP" and I found this talk today. You're not alone and you're not broken in any way. Neither am I. Check out Crazywise when you get a chance. ♥.
HSP's unite! We are dreamers who dream of a kinder world. Take care of yourself first and you will surely improve the lives of those around you. Respect and accept yourself for you are strong to feel such impactful emotions and choose to continue on everyday. Some people would feel our emotions and crumble at the seems, where as we feel them and know that they make us incredible friends, family members, and strangers. Your empathy is admirable and your big heart is exceptional. Take care of yourself❤🔥
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t Highly Sensitive. I am tired and I only have so much to give. What she didn’t talk about is that HSP are more often victims of trauma, and wounded healers.
Kristy Mounsey sending you lots of love. It’s not easy being this way and being abused or having a traumatic situation. Know you are loved. Sending you a big hug. ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Yes, sadly there are those in the world that prey on our "weakness". They take advantage of our kindness and caring nature and use it to their advantage.
Lifiani Langenati, another rare personality. It can be a challenge, but it can be amazing too. We notice things that others don’t. We are more aware of the natural world.
I am crying at this moment, because it seems like nobody understands how I feel on a daily. When I am in nature I feels connected to earth. I always knew I was different from my siblings.
I understand that. I have her syndrome down to the even traveling stuff! Totally! And I feel lonely b/c I have such empathy and such emotion it's hard to function at times. and others don't "get me" nor do they understand my thinking...and they don't have empathy back
I find loud noises, bright lights, shouting, machinery sounds and firework bangs really stressful. And I'm vegan because of my empathy for animals and their suffering. This talk really resonated with me.
Thank you for being vegan. I cant understand people who even consider themselves as being sensitive are not. Actually I can't believe there is anyone who is not. The suffering of highly sensitive other animals is so unnatural and unspeakable.
EYYY Same. And for my high school senior project I plan on going vegan (because my mom doesn't accept it so i have to find a way). And after that, I never want to go back.
I'm the same way, Except for My music. Every noise that's barely above talking level startles me. But I blast My music, Most times it will change My mood or drown out the pain. Except My Wife abruptly left and blocked me so I can't even talk to her. Being HSP in this situation sucks, especially with the fact we had two daughters together and they stayed with me and appear to also be HSP cause they are feeling my emotions as well. After watching this though I don't feel so bad about feeling this way even though everyone keeps telling me to just get over it and move on.
@@fastronaut909 I've always loved growing. I cut up an apple and felt terrible when I saw I cut an apple seed that had sprouted in half. Since then I have been very careful cutting open my apples and now have three apple trees in my music studio along with a variety of other plants.
"Pay attension to those little jokes people make about you , them little shots are how they really feel about you and low key hate" I take every little thing to heart im too sensitive and i cannot hide my feelings..im very loyal ,considerate and too concerned.. sometimes i plan to treat people the way they treat me but i just cant i just give away love spontaneously
When I realized I could trust myself after having been groomed from an early age not to, this was one of the hardest things that became clear to me. All the 'I didn't mean it that way, you're sooo sensitive, you take everything so personally, not everything is about YOU.' I could then realize was exactly what it felt like - not what they said it was. The truth hurts, then it sets you free.
I am Japanese. I am also an HSP, and because of that, I have a mental illness and go to the hospital. It is also sensitive to sounds and odors. I'm not good at places with many people. People who yell are also scared. This video matches what I think. The words of a wonderful woman lightened my heart. I want to applaud. (I used Google Translate)
@@ひまわり寝子 you are not alone my friend :) When the spring & summer comes i pull my curtains and make my home like a cave lol , i am photosensitive (get stressed & pain in eyes by light) & have difficulties with sounds, so i use ear buds a lot & headphones. But i understand i have to expose myself to that which is difficult or find a way to ease it, otherwise im always stressed out or avoid doing things or socializing. I also got an antideppressant just 3 weeks ago that has helped (after 7 years of trying I made my own research for antideppressant & asked my Dr) that really helped me with my crippling anxiety & depression, since i feel like i'm dying as soon as i have to start my day. So please my friend, don't go into hiding because of other people :) There are others like us out there, i think one should go to places that one like and one usually finds other likeminded people, good luck friend 🍀😊🙏💛. P.S. also i feel group therapy or group activities helped a lot, because you get motivation to do things with others & get back energy also with the right people of course. Im thinking of joining a sport activity in group or musical choir/instrumental class
@@UniqueGeekFreak Thank you for your reply. I am not good at English and rely on the translation function, so I hope it will be communicated well. Seeing a lot of likes 👍 in my comments made me realize that I have the same troubles. Strong stimuli stress us 😢, but if people with the same worries get together, we can share information and help reduce stress. Like your curtains or earphones. I think you are great as you strive for improvement. I am grateful to have met wonderful friends across national borders. Thank you. I support you in group therapy and group activities. It will surely improve your future. I will try to improve as much as possible ☺️ Thank you again for your reply ✨ Dear you. (From Google Translate)
Being highly sensitive, most of the times there's a sense of emptiness that I feel,sometimes you are just out of breath, coz I've experienced that nobody's gonna feel or react to me the same way and I'm invested in them just to regret later, you feel like caged in an window-less box
I remember in college my ethics professor once told me, “ People will tell you that you can’t save the world. But, don’t listen to them, You can save the world one by one...” I try to remember this every time I feel lost and relatively quickly find my way back. I can’t wait to share this with my beautiful daughter who’s only three months old and amazingly sensitive like me. I am so glad we are not alone 🥰
There is the parable of the starfish. A person was walking along the beach, picking up the starfish that were stranded above the water line and throwing them back into the ocean. Someone said to them-- why are you wasting your time? There are hundreds of starfish, you can't save them all, what difference does it make? And the person gestured to the starfish they were about to throw back, saying, "Because it makes a difference to *this* starfish".
Sounds like my own philosophy. I can’t save the world, but I do the best I can for the people in need who cross my path. Sometimes a life is directly saved this way. More often I have no idea how widespread the benefit. What matters to me most is being a force for good.
Being passionately opinionated does not make you correct. Many people who claim to want to change the world are simply dogmatic and they’re secure enough in their own ideas so as to manifest them over everyone else.
Yes…..if only my family had known any of this. I was drugged as a child because I was too sensitive and nervous. Finally, I am comfortable being me, at 61.
I’m glad you found your acceptance. I remember the suffering of dealing with others in school. Now i have a daughter who is sweet and wonderful and cries at the drop of a hat. I fear for her. I’m sure your parents were trying to help you the only way they knew how. Mine told me to “get over it” and left me to deal with it alone.
Thank you. This brought tears to my eyes. For most of my life I've been told to "toughen up" or "grow a backbone" or "you're too sensitive." And often by my family members who were supposed to love me. I hurt so bad and felt so weak. I always questioned what was wrong with me. Thank you, I am profoundly moved by your speech.
Sensitive people (with a high degree of empathy) are frequently misunderstood. One problem is likely that we make other people uncomfortable. Everyone has emotions, but many feel awkward acknowledging them. You’re not weak. Empathic people carry the weight of their own feelings plus the feelings of others. This takes a strong person. Not for the faint of heart at all! It takes time and practice to learn to separate what you feel from what someone else is projecting. It takes study to learn to understand other people’s feelings. It takes wisdom to figure out how to help. It’s a tremendous gift, but not an easy one. Toughening up (losing that sensitive edge and awareness) risks losing the thing that makes you so special.
Hero I also almost cried I always thought that I’m too sensitive n I should suppress it and hide it from the rest of the world. Now I feel that I’m not alone.
but i dunno what this traits are good for, as a counsellor? what if they dont want to be a counsellor what if they want to work in high pace brutal environment, can a HSP cope? i think the trait just distroy the desire to work in this type of environment,
@@senecaoak7173 and is that a bad thing? not everyone is suited for every work environment; it just means they’re more suited than others for a different environment. hsp’s make incredible teachers, nurses, social workers, therapists. they also can be awesome scientists, researchers, artists, writers, and even lawyers. it’s not about the career, it’s about the way those workplaces have been ill-designed.
HSPs are kind, thoughtful, aware of others feelings and emotions. they are caring helpful people. they want to help make the world a better place. sometimes other people dont understand them and dont want theyre help. im an HSP and this has been my experience. its been very difficult for me to fit into this world.. geez. people are so mean to each other. to me they are a bunch of narcissists. its really sad to watch them distroying stuff and themselves.. i stay indoors mostly and to myself these days...
@@ElBreaksLoose222 but u can't denied most ceo are stressed environment,compared to a social worker ..I mean what if hsp want to be a ceo...then they have to open own company that's the least stressed ceo position
But we're under a system that regards these as defects, as it aims to force people into the same mold, who are then expected to compensate for any dissatisfaction they feel through consumption. Pleading for understanding of these traits from a stage is nice, but ultimately we're talking about systemic problems. A 'corporate environment' is one in which, by definition, not all personality types can flourish. And can we plead our way to having a company's stock value be based on its degree of 'humanity' and 'integrity'?
Why would anyone tell someone they are too sensitive? I am too sensitive to tell anyone that! I was called weird all my life, gee, sorry you can't handle the beauty of my mind. I figured out a long time ago that I am not the one with the problem. My brain never rests and I have a vivid imagination and dream life. If people can't keep up with me, well, I've already moved on. If you don't want to give me space to talk, I have nothing to say. And I know who else in the room has something to say, but does not speak either. Excellent talk!!
I am so sensitive that I eventually became very numb. I’ve been working towards being able to feel fully again for a long time, seeing support for sensitive people helps so much.
I become numb after a friend of mine makes me feel bad for being so sensitive and I should not let things bother me so much, or the famous one "You have just got to stop holding onto things" and yet they don't let go either. I think they don't realize how sensitive they are.
its sometimes so easy to shut off emotions and become numb because others don't understand how overly emotional and sensitive we are. Learning to embrace that is extremely hard, reading all these comments really makes me feel at peace .
This is so beautiful. No sarcasm, I cried several times throughout. Sensitive people unite!! We can bring the temperature of the room down a few notches.
Me too! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I'm an empath and she hit the nail right on the head several times throughout this clip. Beautiful beautiful clip! 💖
After seeing a psychologist, I found out I was a highly sensitve person. He said to me that it was like a superpower but also a curse if you don't know how to handle it properly. I am now learning how to handle my sensitivity and it has been crazy in what the difference it has made by setting boundaries, journaling, speaking out and not holding back and being honest with my self by reflecting on my day and what i have seen/heard/thought. So for all those sensitive individuals out their take care of yourself x
I’m extremely empathetic and I struggle so much with how much of my emotions I should give to other people. Ive been working on myself for years and I’m trying to only give my love to the people who really deserve it now. 🥺
Me too, it’s very easy to do: simply observe: the pupils, body language, corners of mouth, tilt of the head, among others. Sometimes, it’s hard to be neutral to someone you know dislikes you...
"without highly sensitive people, our world would almost certainly be a shade darker." This is a really beautiful speech! So many beautiful insights and touches of humor (HSPs were "Born to be mild" that was cute :) ) Thank you again for this talk.
Being sensitive even though challenging at times is a blessing. Being sensitive allows me to live life very intensively, have compassion for others and see endless possibilities.
It can protect you too. The first sociopath I met hurt me at 11 but after that I learned how to spot them and got better at taking steps to protect myself and distance myself from those people.
It is no measure of health either to be swarmed up by negativity. It not any healthy not to be able to master your own emotion, and know when you must be in control.
Being highsensitive, is a gift, the pain u get from people not understanding you, the crying without stopping, the just wanna be loved your whole life, makes you very strong.
When you stop believing the judgments sold to you by other people’s opinion, you will open yourself up to believing you need to be worthy in order to be loved. You don’t. You just accept you are loved, even if by no one else, at least by the only person whose opinion matters...yourself. Might be amazing to see and experience.
Absolutely beautifully said! Thank you! All my life I have said, "I'm either the happiest person in the room or the saddest. It's a blessing and a curse," completely unaware of the term, HSP until recently. Now it all makes sense. ❤
I felt cursed so many times in life by being highly sensitive. I never could just toughen up like everyone said. The feeling of being weird or too soft and weak for this world was/is soo depressing, but once you begin to understand yourself you can try to find your own path... this video is awesome. Love to all HSPs out there.
"Most HSPs have a genuine urge to create connection and meaning. Because they feel every pain they see, they want to elevate the forgotten, and save the misfortunate."
"Only connect." E.M. Forster The deep urge to connect has driven my life since very early childhood. When I saw Forster's statement on the first page of his book Howard's End I understood myself for the first time.
Hit me like a brick
Ouch
And right wrongs.
THIS.
@@elenalatici9568 I feel the same, but the lack of connection, or the failure of connection is so distressing. I also wonder if many HSPs ended up as English majors. Reading and discussing great literature in college was like heaven for me.
When I’m upset, I cry. When someone else is upset with me, I cry. When I’m angry, I cry. When someone is angry at me, I cry. When I yell at someone, I cry. When someone yells at me, I cry.
I can relate so much to this.
So true me too
Same here and I’m 62 yo
Shut up
Chanandler Bong me ttoo
When you tell someone they're too sensitive what they hear is
"Your feelings arent important and I dont care about you and you need to stop being who you are"
Exactly! 👏
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Oooo
I grew up with a Mom telling me that.
When you brutally tell someone that they are too sensitive, it is a judgemental statement saying that person isn’t good enough and that they should change, which is really difficult to do and to hear. You really don’t feel accepted at all when you hear that haha. There are better ways to help people and build them up I think, because that only tears a person down. I grew up hearing that I was “too nice”, what is that even supposed to mean I thought. Why couldn’t others try to be nicer, why should I have to change? But I was pretty naive and people took advantage of me being nice, so I’m glad that I’m not overly trusting anymore! But hearing that wasn’t helpful at all, it was life that taught me, not people always telling me that I was “too much”, that was only hurtful to hear...
My wife of 6 years is highly sensitive. We married in our late thirties and run a business together. Her sensitivity used to drive me nuts. But after many long conversations, tears and many apologies, I can say she has helped me become a kinder, gentler man. I’m still improving. I feel blessed to have her. I must’ve prayed for patience at some point because the good Lord is helping me have that virtue in spades.
U are a great man for cherishing her and ur love for her will come back at a ten fold
She's just being a female. They're all that way.
I'm a HSP and my husband has same experience. Glad we glow up together 😊
God Bless you 😁❤️
What is the patience for?
"It's both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so very deeply."
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Righttr
Wow, right on, I totally agree with your comment.
mire like curse... at least for me...
Exactly.
"... a touch is a blow,
a sound is a noise,
a misfortune is a tragedy,
a joy is an ecstasy,
a friend is a lover,
a lover is a god,
and failure is death.
..."
The HSP among you who reads this will recognize it too.
Oh, yes. Too bloody right. Especially the three last ones.
My bf is a HSP.
I am reading and watching video about this, because I want to understand.
Not surprisingly, he is an artist and schoolteacher of art.
I have learned much from this video;
I think this is more difficult on a man.
There is a place in the world for gentle people and the blessing they are to those who love them.
@@Briselance Yup
Yes exactly.
Love that
I’ve realised that as an HSP I love deeper and more selflessly. This is mostly not returned at the same level and leaves a feeling of being unappreciated and not loved.
Completely, I don't think most of us will ever get the same in return. But I know personally it won't stop me from loving as much as I do. I know because I tried to grow cold hearted, it was impossible and frustrating.
Me too💌
exactly
@@leiftheviikiingerickson7156 i’ve bever related to anything more than this comment
I totally agree @Christa
The opposite of sensitivity is insensitivity, and that is nothing to be proud of. Sensitive people are not weak or broken. They are stronger than the rest - feeling everything to the fullest and still leaving their hearts open. It is not weak to feel something. It is weak to push it away and numb yourself out of fear. True strength is feeling everything and not building walls around your heart.
Beautiful. I hope more people read your comment.
Death is numb. Life is sensitive.
This is so beautifully said. Thank you for it. Peace and love, DJ
Some of us was born numb. ASD here :)
Thank you! As an HSP, I feel encouraged!
im so sensitive that when I am mad at someone, I feel bad for them for having someone be upset with them because it might make them sad which ends up making me twice as sad smh
I can relate to this so much omg
Damn, I relate too much.
And that's why I don't wanna get mad at anyone in the first place.
You are adorable!!!
I feel you 😄
i know that feeling XD and im a man
Being a highly sensitive person makes you feel like you're an alien on the wrong planet
Sooooo true! I often say my being here was some kind of mistake in paperwork
Or maybe we are on a mission.
Its all about sensing the god and why he created as. And after i discovered islam i relax and lived happy
true true! Sometimes I feel like I need to be somewhere totally different! Sometimes I ask myself why am I like this?
I keep saying “Im not supposed to be here, this is a mistake…”
I just wanted to say hi to all my fellow HSPs. Love, from Me
And how many here, actually have that gotten it diagnosed by a neurologist, maybe decades ago, and think it's basically a term for, "not harmful, shrugs, whatever"? lmao
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“Corporations should invite sensitive people to the table, because without sensitives they risk lacking integrity, innovation and humanity”. Very well said, indeed.
Nope.
they'll never do that - money and HSPs don't coalign
Consider there are changes in the middle ground and non profit side, very often it is the changed that bring that to their work and after these two years, I believe we are interested in change in every place 🍶
I like this. Awesome comment. True 👍
Haha if only.
It really sucks when you feel like you can't speak up sometimes cause you know you'll just start crying. That's me... I'm afraid to speak my mind and tell people how I feel cause I'll just cry and it feels horrible crying around other people, especially when you're a guy.
Not much different when you're a girl. I cried while doing a speech at my cousin's wedding lol 😄😑. Embarrassing
I feel you
Brandon Lease I am like that too .. people do not understand that it is out of how passionate you are about some thing but they read is weakness ... eventually I stoped arguing with people
Well I have the opposite; I can feel as bad as anything. I could be sitting in the corner, rocking back and forth, wanting to kill myself, and I will NOT cry. This is not a choice, this is my life. And believe me, it's not all it's cracked up to be. Nobody ever takes me seriously. I might say to someone "I feel really really terrible right now" and they'll say "oh, can I help you?" and then I'll look at them and smile involuntarily, and they'll kind of pretend to listen to whatever I say (generally something along the lines of "I hate myself"), give some sort of useless piece of advice (like maybe, "think about something else") and move on. Meanwhile, here I am, losing faith in humanity and desperately, desperately needing someone to help me. I wish I DID cry. You guys have it a lot better than you think.
Which isn't to say that your struggles aren't valid - just, be careful what you pray for
When someone says “don’t be so sensitive”, I say “don’t be so insensitive”.
ha ha! right on!!
Period
You are smart
Niiice. Haha!
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As a sensitive, I take on a lot of emotions from people and a lot of times, very deeply. Sometimes it sucks because it drains you out. I find that being out in the nature alone, recharges my soul and makes me feel at peace.
One time I had an panick attack ower my friends emotions
Praying, reading books, drawing and going to the gym also help
Energetic healing methods help you. I’m also high sensitive… call it however you want. I feel so much, deep and also the problems of other people. I work with Matrix energetics from Richard Bartlett, aura technique, 2 point healing method… As such emotional people we have to learn to protect ourselves because we get so quickly negative energy from others into our own system.
I think it's hard for many who don't understand an HSP like me, when I retreat into myself to be alone, to just be in a quiet space...especially when things are fraught. I am always at my best in a green out door space... Far from the madding crowd.
All my life I've been like that (now 58) and it will always be that way.
It was the same in school, in college and the work place. At times it can be extremely painful.
As I live in a major city, this can be, intolerable at times.
Sadly, the majority of the world don't understand the complexities of an HSP. They just think we're highly strung, or just difficult. It's precisely the fact that a non HSP's environment makes us that way, that we need to retreat to a silent place like a church for instance or just go alone to a quiet room and shut the door behind us.
@@captainvonk do you have social anxiety
Being a highly sensitive person who cries at every Disney movie and smiles at sunflowers, I was told " don't let the world hurt you", "it's such a little thing", " you are too sensitive " and believed that there was something incredibly wrong with me. The ability to feel vast range of emotions quickly became a sense of guilt and shame. I think it's a tragedy when a person who wear their heart on a sleeve, start locking their hearts away in gallows. There is nothing more tragic than telling a person who feels everything that there's a problem with them. Thank you for this video. I'll keep this close to my heart everytime I feel a little sad. Thank you 🌻
Having a bad day or being sad is okay. Just don't let it drown you, but everyone sometimes has a bad day, or even a bad week. There's nothing wrong with that. Take the time to recover and treat yourself with the kindness you also give to others.
I always had the problem of having to get up and walk out.
I'm an old lady. I felt like you were describing me when I was young. Meditation taught me to discipline my mind. I learned to turn off the noise in my head. I learned about peace. My sensitivity blossomed into wisdom
Karin Larsen that’s the message we should be spreading!! Meditation has also helped me immensely
I'm 37 years old and I too have invited meditation into my life 3 years ago from the advice of a therapist and it has helped be also bring inner peace and wisdom. It's really great to see this mental health tool being practiced in schools now! ✌️
I'm on the right path ❤️😉
Beautiful, that is what im always seeking and practising now for myself too. For a long time in my life, i struggled, i did not even fit in cause i was toi different.
, yes indeed. Very much so, this information can help a lot of us growing into this and to learn to embrace it.
Thanks for this! How many HSPs are diagnosed for depression because they just feel like no one understands them and they’re too sensitive.
I think HSP's are quite susceptible to anxiety and depression. I saw some quite violent things when I was younger, which didn't affect those around me in the long term but stuck with me and are still clear in my mind to this day 15 years later
Just coming over from 3 time narcissistic abuse my life is full of stress from small age and always think is there anything that my mind so I ate 100's of sleeping pills in last 30 years living as hsp is to tough it's better to live like narcisst people . everybody like to humilate us without any cause today's world is just for masked personality like narcisst .we can't change the world but we need to change according to this wild world
Pilot Ryan and Capt. Mike RC So sadly true.
Ah I’m one of them
@The Effortless Fairy Same
Many highly sensitive ppl don't realize that they are the energy healers of the world. Put your energy to work my friends. We are the gifted one's. Trust me.
energy healers? explain please :)!
I think I've just found the right video x) I mean, I've been saying that sensitive (plus, logical & fair) ppl will be the ones who'll "save" this world, because they simply are the ones who care enough to do it! That leads me to mentioning my ultimate dream, of somehow making all these ppl unite (at least on the internet) and start acting on our ideas of a better, more balanced society... Scattered as we are, we can't change much, imo. If we gathered up, more would follow and true positive change would become less and less unrealistic (hint: war and its chaos being the only thing that can stop it).
"We are the gifted ones" Oh woooooooww. Modest, aren't ya?
Susan Peters trust me
Stella R. HSPs/Empaths. We feel the energy around us, we feel people’s energies and emotions and have a deep empathy and understanding of people’s pains and problems.
We have been gifted by God/Universe to heal other people on this planet, because the world is in need of healing and enlightenment. We are on the verge of a new world and we are the ones that will bring it.
I’m a teacher and an HSP. I had a student this year who is a HSP. He would always come over to my desk to have a quiet conversation with me when other students were working. I think he appreciated having a teacher who understood him, and didn’t see him as whiny and annoying. I will miss him next year as he moves onto the next grade.
this is so heartwarming...
you're a fantastic teacher
I wish I had a teacher like you growing up
I am an HSP and I pray to have someone who understands me and that student is so lucky that he had got a person who is his own teacher to share his feelings.
I m hsp also
Sensitive people are GENUINE. We are the ones who care while everyone else walks away.
Omg yes
Yes!
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cat lady love your username! 😻
Lynn Marie Anderson yes
“When one cries the other tastes salt.” That’s so intense and truthful.
I love that Hebrew adage she borrowed too!!!😀
I dont get it?
@@comet6740 tears taste salty, it basically means that empaths feel what others feel
But what if I love salt, but am still empathetic?
Absolutely!
28 years old and I finally feel validated. Thank you. I never knew.
I feel the same!
So am I :')
Me too 😭 feels good.
26 years old..same here. I've never heard of anything like this before and it's changed my life
Hugs
Being sensitive does not make you weak always remember that sensitive people often feel hurt more than others but they also feel good feelings like love , empathy , faith more than others and this is what makes them strong . ❤️
I agree this 10000%. This is so true and correct
The other prize we pay is loneliness, I always think off God and Jesus it helps a lot it always brings me back to being accepted as me to my true core so I stand my ground, I can't change myself for what I stand your core values that comes from whit in yes I'm seriously sensitive and we need a whole lot more of sensitive people, and for many out there if you fall off the horse clime back on and don't look to much back just ones in a while keep strong go stronger
My mom always said "stop being so sensitive!" And that made me even more sensitive.
My dad would say that to me too.. sucks
yeah thats crazy its not like we can stop being so sensitive on comand
I heard " don't be so sensitive" alot, I kept thinking, people don't feel or see these same things? A therapist said, " you see things "before" other people"... They don't see it. Wow.
My dad has said this my whole life and still says it
Lol me too😢😅
My biggest problem with being an hsps (even though I hate putting labels on everything) is, that I notice everything. I feel like I can see peoples bare souls, it feels like I KNOW what they're thinking! it's like I feel their feelings and fell their vibes. It's something that led me to social anxiety. I used to have so many friends, but at times I started to sort them out, cause I just couldn't stand their lies, their begrudges towards me. I simply smell their intentions. But honestly it's overwhelming for me being in school or work everyday, cause there're to many bad vibes out there and it feels like they're weighing down on me. I don't know...
i feel the same exact way.
It’s okay, things will get better. Just like Elena said, you have a beautiful gentle gift. ^^
Voice of Humanity
wow that's exactly how I feel..thank you for putting it out there...its hard when you feel so much and then the line between inspiration and duty gets mangled..we are like walking dreamers with so much love..but in a toxic environment it suffocates your beauty and perhaps the toxic environment goes inward when it's not you but the world's ugliness that hurts so much
This hit me on another level, cannot agree more. Thank you.
WHAT YOU SAID RELATED...GOOD TO KNOW NOT ALONE!
I've always felt weird and alone about feeling things on a deeper level. I was always told by my family and friends to "get over it" and that "it's not that big of a deal". I've always felt misunderstood. Thank you so much for this beautiful tedtalk
The thing is that everything you feel is actually real. So use it to your advantage. Hsp have actually great ability to influence other people because they get every cue!
itsjacky feel the same way :(
itsjacky I can relate to you 100%
itsjacky
have s good day
I want to hug every sensitive person right now. And say: "dear wonderful person, you are not alone! You're soooo beautiful! I quite understand you..I'm like that myself, it's good that I'm not alone!!"
This might be the first TH-cam comment section I've seen in a while where it's filled with nothing but pleasant and considerate commentators
Mrsuicidesheep’s comment section is pure love too hehe. It’s great electro music but seriously, I enjoy reading the comments,
Steve Thomas i love that and agree
this is sarcasm, right ?
Because it's filled with...well...highly sensitive people
Steve Thomas Amen
The mean comments have prob been filtered out.
I think I just found my people... 😊
Naomi Cugini I am sitting next to my sleeping partner in our dark bedroom at 2a.m. trying to sob as quietly as possible with that same realization. It was especially poignant as I just spent an exhausting week of over thinking, trying to explain how/why I felt the way I do and starting to think maybe I really am as bonkers as some people think. In my heart I knew I wasn't though, and now I see it too. We have found the others.
heeey! xD
me too :)
Omg I want to name my daughter Naomi what a pretty name !
It's a nice feeling, especially since as HSP I felt no other mental illness/ diagnosis fit my description.
I think that's what made it so hard for me to figure out I'm HSP, it's not a mental illness yet I was led to believe I might possibly have mental health issues because my hypersensitivity can lead me to experience symptoms of depression, paranoia, and anxiety all at different times.
It's such a nice feeling when you get to realise that you aren't handicapped, you are just different thus our HSP coping mechanisms need to be nurtured in different ways to that of regular society.
Also on a side note I'm not upset about finding out I'm just human. Kind of leads me to believe everyone else is just robots not gonna lie lol.
I'm always told "You can't save the world" Maybe not, but I'll cry trying 😏
me
Omg 😂😂😂 so true
Hahaha love it!!
I hear u. I often get yelled at for giving all my money to strangers or letting ppl i barely know live w me for free in a small 1 bwdroom apt until they're ok.
@@karencarney7595 I feel you on that. I once brought home a mother and her 2 kids. Fed them, let them shower and stay the night. I drove her around town finding resources. Finally found a woman's shelter for them. Never saw them again. Other times I've given our sleeping bags away and made hygiene bags. I could go on and on lol. No matter what I'll always have a big heart to help others.
HSP from Australia… I am 59 years old and only just realised I am a highly sensitive person. So great to have a name for my sensitivity at last. I was on a mission all my life to change who I was and I hated myself for feeling so much… I love so so deeply and that scares people… I am so sensitive to sound, light and too much activity around me. I spend lots of time by myself now and I love it. I was so scared because I didn’t want to be around people much and I labelled myself a loner… but I’m not …. And I’m me and so so accepting of myself now…. Th all my fellow HSP’s, keep being yourselves and know there are lots of us out here and we are needed by this world to keep it balanced because there is so much cruelty and hate in this world now…. Keep shining your bright lights 😃😃😃❤️❤️❤️
Same
Knowledge is power, I'm learning I have all kinds of things that I've just dealt with. I'm 61 and it's refreshing learning ways to work with my brain and querks and not against them anymore.
" we should not try to force sheep into wolves clothing" love this.
It's an incomplete description though: sheep usually are not that smart and follow power. I don't think that's a matching comparison.
Ditto!
@@aronhighgrove4100 Sensitive people are like cats. Do you ever notice just how crazy-sensitive cats are? They take in EVERYTHING in their environment at all times. They pick up on every subtlety, hate chaos, get easily overwhelmed, and jump at unexpected noises (or even just if there's suddenly a *cucumber* behind them for that matter). They provide a gentle comfort to their loved ones that is completely different from the way dogs act. Maybe we should say "don't force a cat into wolves clothing"?
@@aronhighgrove4100 True, with the exception of
Shaun. But the point is still understood.
Me too.
This made me cry terribly because I felt so understood... I don't feel that often.
Let's be friends. I share your sentiment.
google empath and search different sites. It will give you more insight on being HSP. I felt the same way when I found out that I was not all alone after all.
Elizabeth Yorker me to!!!
Same here
Same 😢❤
When people say “be a man”, “crying is for girls” to a guy, don’t understand that expressing your feeling is not being weak but rather is a sign that they are strong enough to display their feelings and have the courage to show their real self
Agreed.. 😇🤗
This is lovely ❤️ as a girl who only dates highly sensitive guys, I completely agree!
Rudra patel 🙏
Amen!
I agree 100%! It's a falsity that being emotional is a sign of weakness & that keeping it together is a strength. Actually being present with & feeling our feelings is a massive strength, a superpower even. If everyone was able to really feel, own & accept their pain the world would be a very different place, less projections (wars, violence, etc.). ... And I find vulnerability in a man to be incredibly attractive! Good for you for being able to be your true self in a world where men in particular get stamped down!!! 🌺
"This world is a comedy to those that think - a tragedy to those that feel." ~ Horace Walpole
So true, Horace, so true...
Is there anyone who feels like she/he trained so hard to oppress their sensitivity that they sometimes seem cold to others?
Lendri , I’ve spent my whole life trying to “Man Up”. My dad told me the world would crush someone like me. A softy. The more I tried to suppress who I was, the more depressed I became. Speak your truth. Your beautiful the way you/we are.
Mark Flitz thank you for your kind words ❤️
Completely, my cousin accused me if having anti social disorder.. Quite the opposite
Definitely. Not to single out guys, but we really do have it beaten out of us, especially us Gen X guys and older. The message is always that it's not normal to feel things, especially to feel them deeply, or to be concerned about others, or to need others, and especially not to show emotion. There's so much suppressing that happens over time. I'm 45, i've been told in person I give off a strong "stay away" vibe and it's probably true. I'm not doing it intentionally, but I think it's just something that's so burned into the subconscious, we don't know how to get passed it or to "undo" it. I feel like it's getting better for younger generations, at least I hope so...we cheat people by holding them to these preconceived notions of what we're supposed to and not supposed to be.
kgbeezr75 very true
Great talk. Last time I was told I was too sensitive I replied "I like my sensitivity" - this stopped the person in their tracks! Sensitivity is a gift of awareness.
Terasa Uszacki Thats’s a great response! I’m going to say that the next time someone tells me I’m too sensitive :)
Profound ...I like how you put it!!!
Sensitivity is
a Gift
of AWARENESS!!!
Praise God for giving us emotions that empower us to be highly concerned about others' good!! Thank youJesus!!
Terasa Uszacki at a job I was asked to be less sensitive, I was like I’d rather lose this job than lose what makes me human
Sublime Samxara Good for you!. Never give up your powerful gift of sensitivity -it is a beautifu sacred part of your being .
X2. Empowering myself for being as I am has given me the strenght to face the world. I feel no shame at all for being HSP. Funny thing is that the people who have make fun of me being that way is actually the people that comes later asking for a chance to talk and have a slice of my time, of my sensitiveness. Some of them even have said to me that they admire the way I see the world. So, I wear my sensitiveness with no shame at all.
I recently went to see a psychologist and discovered I’m a HSP (and I’m an Asian male). Everything starts to make sense now as I hated shopping because it will give me massive migraines due to the lights, sounds and colours and I’ve got to think “I need to buy something”, amongst other things. Been told many times that I think too much and to not be sensitive, to man up.
Now I know myself better, and I’m working to accept myself for who I am.
"to man up" is so toxic. (i'm asian female)
Hi I am very sensitive to light too. I get migraines a lot, you could look into sunglasses that sort of tone it down in stores. It's helped me out a lot everywhere I go. I use them at school and at work too lately and if you pick the right model you could jokingly play it off as being cool or trying to look like a secret agent, it's been my go to joke for a while. You also don't need to man up, you're good the way you are.
Yes, for boys especially (speaking as Southeast Asian & American) this is important. My son is 13 and he thinks deep and has intense feelings too. I want him to learn to express himself in the right way instead of keeping it all inside and then spiraling into a grumpy/teary fit at night. Men generally have it harder with stereotypes around emotions and manliness. For any fathers reading this, remember that your impact on your children (sons especially) has a boomerang effect back to you. You show your emotions and tears and joys so your kids learn how to be human and compassionate, expressive and supportive in good ways; and fathers, you get the benefit of deeper connections with your family, better sensitivity to your kids' emotions and needs, and a lighter heart to be strong for your loved ones.
i have never related harder to a comment section such as this one. it makes me really happy to know there are so many other people out there in the world like me.
I'm over here liking almost every comment I see :D
I felt exactly the same and actually started crying because I actually felt relieved that there are “other” people like me. I like myself the way I am .
We are here for you
Ha imagine relying on the idea that you are similar to a significant number of people to feel secure
Completely agree.
I have the awkward contradiction of being a very charismatic HSP..... people who meet me briefly tend to think I am fantastically extroverted and outgoing, and yet in my free time I'm basically a hermit....our ability to read others is really great for speeches and discourse as we can adapt to our audience pretty efficiently :)
U must be an ENFP! Read about the ENFP personality from the Myer Briggs theory. Google it, trust me
i know exactly how u feel
Yes. Me in a nutshell.
I have random people that are comfortable telling me some very intimate stuff upon first meeting.
I am very charismatic initally also. Then....when unoccupied, quiet and an observer. It's complicated.
Been this way all my life. 54 years of being told to toughen up. Many people do not understand how we feel the world around us. It is nice to know I am not alone.
Keith Curry if you were to “toughen up” you’d lose your super power
NO! YOU are NOT ALONE! We are HERE for you!
You are not alone
@@debarghyachattopadhyay2614 for a man to cry shows a real man they r strong people to show their feelings sensitive people also suffer with anxiety x
56 years of being told this
泣いてしまった。
よく考えすぎだと言われ、自分でも分かってはいて、でもどうすることもできなくて、言われたり自覚したりする度に自分に辟易してたけど、遺伝的なものだと断言してくれていて救われた気がした。病気じゃないから誰にも言えないし、ずっと一人で抱えて周りとの差や違いを必死に埋めたり隠したりしながら生きていくんだと思ってたけど、コメント欄の人たちも私と似ていて、仲間ができたようで心が軽くなりました。ありがとう。
Live how you like to live my dear.
Because others are just, people.
People who don’t understand you, they are strangers. Strangers, we can ignore.
祝福您
It probably is genetic. I’m an HSP and I think my grandmother was, too. Anyway, you were definitely born this way. Accept and enjoy.
I'm a deeply sensitive man and I'm proud of it!
I would have to take the word "deeply" out of a description of me, but yes, I too am proud of sensitivity. More men should be, but it's beaten out of them, and that's so sad.
Same here!!
It’s the way to be!
So am I! The first time someone told me that I am very sensitive, I actually didn’t like it... as I saw it as being “weak” - which I am not. Now like the way I am... it’s what has made me be successful in what I did for a living.
@@MsHumble4 I love your story. Now I am strong enough to live without shields, to feel and everything that happens to myself and around me in an all-encompassing way.
Living in this world feels like you're being assaulted on a daily basis, it can be so draining. Staying away from people is usually what I need. Nature walks do the trick for me. Social media is not healthy for me, it makes me ill. Somewhere in there is a balance and you just have to find it.
texsangie I agree! Everything is too much, too loud, in your face and obnoxious. Every advert or newspaper headline is desperate to get your attention. You’re bang on about nature healing and grounding you. Mindfulness meditations help me too, I only wish I learned this when I was younger, now, only the people I really love are the only ones who can upset me, random people’s opinion of me is none of my business. I think we ROCK!!
Great advice! If nature walks are not available, a bathroom break to run water over your hands/ splash some on you face is a nice quick rest! Water heals!
Yes I can hike for hours and hours. It so refreshing.
Staying away from toxic people is ok.
Pinning away with them will not make us stronger, it’ll only make us more sick.
When you’re allergic to something, you don’t expose yourself to the allergen. You avoid it.
Social media, that’s our allergen. Hence we avoid it.
I describe that feeling as being "abraded". It feels like my skin and nerves have been rubbed raw.
insomnia. yes, because we can’t shut off our brains or stop noticing everything going on around us. i’m glad she mentioned this bc i relate.
Cha Ng I also find night time to be more peaceful/less sensory overload
Thats true and it's exhausting to notice things when people around us can't.
I don't have insomnia , but i really can't shut my mind and it resolves in stress over everything and overthinking everything , it's so annoying. I want it to stop so bad , staying away from social media helps with the stress in a way, but the overthinking stuff kills me slowly
My brain always runs and I can never shut it down. Insomnia and I became buddies from a very young age. And as Lizzy Curran said, it’s less overwhelming and less of a sensory overload. The world is much calmer at night. People are asleep so it is easier to breath without the overwhelming emotions and pressure.
Me too !
I was accused at my workplace for being “too sensitive “ I thought about this for some time and came to the conclusion that it’s not a bad thing but a plus. I care about people. Caring about people can only be seen as a beautiful asset. Don’t stop being a sensitive person just because it makes those without sensitivity uncomfortable. The world is a better place with us in it.
As an HSP, it is very frustrating when I have so much empathy for somebody, yet I have absolutely no clue how to express to said person how much I love them/care about them.
Alexander the Great this happens to me alll the time
Yes, me! 😅
It hurts so much too when you give everything you have, and get nothing in return. I endlessly feel like the walking wounded. I promise myself i will just treat them the same way. But i cant. Or i try, then i beat myself with guilt.
Yes! Caring way too much about everyone but you can't express it because you might seem weird!
That’s me!!!
This comment section feels like a big support group.
refreshing, isn't it!?
@@nwwoman525 very much so!
section is full of pussies
maybe we should keep in touch! :)
LOL! it really does. I think that says all that needs be said about HSP's being better than normies...IJS...there's not a lot of youtube videos where you can read a full page without at least 10 insults. lol
Someone told me when I was a child that it was a gift to be caring and understanding, but I’ve always thought that was bs, it’s only made me a target of psychotic people and I hated it. I hate how people lie, they will backstab you for materialistic values, manipulate and use you, and even try to hurt you. I had dreams and passion but I felt like I wasn’t cut out for this competitive world. I had many so called friends but I cut them off, moved away from the city to the country side to get away from the negativity. I love being with animals insects and nature, but I feel lonely sometimes that I only have two friends, because I do love spending time with people. It’s been 5 years now I’m healing myself and there’s one thing I’ve learned. Lying, manipulating, backstabbing, calculating, greed, and hate comes from weakness and fear. You need to be a strong person to be loyal, caring, kind, and compassionate. I always thought I was the weak one, but now I know I wasn’t as weak as I thought, in fact I was probably stronger not to loose myself in a world of sickness, driven by fear and weak minded people. I know it’s hard but to my fellow sensitive gentle souls. You have the power to change the world because you are strong. Money and materialistic values cannot rule our souls. The world needs people like that more then ever now!
i needed to hear this. thank you
I love this comment! I feel you. I feel alone most of the time because I feel my family and friends are not as sensitive as me. I expect from them the same amount of care as I give. I felt out of place a lot of times but I’m learning to find happiness on giving without expecting the same back. I always feel different than those around me and now I know why. We got a super power 💪
Absolutely beautiful.
I really feel that, thankyou :)
Hey, I think the word you are looking for is "sociopathic", not psychotic! Psychotic just means you have hallucinations, delusions, paranoia. Sociopaths are people who may intentionally manipulate others because they feel no empathy. (I only say this because I experience psychosis and am trying to challenge the stigma and stereotypes we face every day. It starts with the language we use!)
It's just like born for the second time when you finally understand why you think so differently and deeply from most people!😊
Being a highly sensitive person, learning healthy boundaries was one of the most helpful things therapy has taught me so far
This! Boundaries are essential as an HSP. I learned the hard way. Taking the wrong things in will lead to illness/depression etc
As a highly sensitive person, setting up strong boundaries and maintaining them helps a lot.
This is what I think too. I’m on the spectrum and get overwhelmed pretty easily, so setting boundaries prevents other people from reaching out to me when I’m having an emotional outburst. Wish I could connect with more HSPs… I only know one person who is HS but both of us have to live with being constantly told to stop being sensitive or to grow up :/
@@potat19 are you highly sensitive too
Yes! Exactly! Same here)
Imagine when you have an argument and when you are 100％ right you cant even defend yourself bc your tears coming out faster than your words and people opposide you blaming you for using your tears as a gun as if crying is a choice
selenator gomez omg yes!
Sooo true
I have this problem terribly. And that's why I hate confrontation more than anything. Unfortunately people don't understand, even my parents, who get bothered when I don't like to talk in arguments. But if I do I just cry
My angry, controlling, manipulative, abusive ex-husband always liked to tell at me and call me crazy and tell other people that I am crazy but I realized that crying about the horrible treatment of myself and our young son would be a reaction out of a sane person. He knew I was very forgiving, deep feeling, strong loving person who is sensitive to the feelings of everyone they encounter but could not get the same thing from my own husband for me.
@@deelove2793 I am very very very happy that you had the strength and the courage to stand up for yourself and leave. I applaud you and wish nothing but the best for you! GOD bless you and your son!
I decided to live alone, and it helps alot for being highly sensitive person.
I've recently come to this conclusion.... It used to sadden me, but now ive accepted its best
Yes it does help. I recently let somebody move in . Yikes been alone 7 years , should be interesting ... 😂
Careful it can lead to depression and a whole heap of other problems especially in pandemic
pffft... of course
I do not want to be isolated either. I want to be loved like I love people.
As a HSP I cried by the end of the presentation. Boy how we need a gentler world. 🙏🏼💎
I feel the same
I'm Japanese, and my English is not very good, so I rely on a translation machine.
It wasn't until more than 40 years later that I learned that I was actually highly sensitive.
I developed C-PTSD due to years of childhood bullying that led to a change of schools.
My parents harassed me at work and I suffered for half my life.
After 12 years of EMDR treatment with a therapist, I realized that I am a sensitive person, HSP.
I want people to know that there are people like this in Japan.
I've been friends with the pigeons that come to my garden for a while now and post them on youtube.
you're not alone
@@tsushimashuji Thank you, that's encouraging.
You are a kind soul. Thank you for sharing. I am hispanic. It is my birthday. Have a great day.
@@user-jv8oe9gn1s happy bday!
You’re not alone 💓
To all HSP people: it's so good you're here
Thank you
Oh, thank you!!! :)
That is very kind, I'm glad you are here. many thanks.❤️
We are necessary
I’m an HSP. It is finally nice to have someone explain it to people in a way that doesn’t make us sound weak. I’m not weak, in fact I’m very outspoken. But sometimes being sensitive is exhausting. And I married into a family who saw me as weak because I tear up at things. I’m also an empath, and I believe these two things go hand in hand. Feeling the emotions of others is difficult. It is exhausting and sometimes I just want to run the other way because I don’t want to deal with it. Not because I am weak or afraid but because it can be so overwhelming. I recently left the Detroit metro area and moved to a rural tourist town. I live in the country in the edge of Lake Huron and I love it here. I can be close to nature although I feel sad when the birds look at me squawking when the feeder is empty! Or the deer that I watch all summer are now down one because a hunter got one. I’m not against hunting. My husband is a hunter. I just don’t want “my” deer touched! But it is so much better in the country. My anxiety level is much lower. I have also been told to toughen up, you’re too sensitive, get faces and told stop with the tears, and that I will never make it in this world. I’ve dealt with abuse as a child, and told I am worthless. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety. But now at 59 year old I recognize the positivity of being who I am. Feel your feelings and be you. You were created to be in this beautiful family of sensitive people. We help balance out the world and the mean toughness.
But the key to surviving your own empathy might be to learn to identify whose emotions you are feeling. what if you ask yourself “whose emotion is this”? If it is not yours, you don’t have to own it, do you? If you know you are not a hateful person, yet you feel the hate coming from others, whether or not it is directed at you, you can choose to say “this is not from me nor of me. I disown it.”
@Sharon Cullen Art- this could have written this describing myself. We are close in age too. Hugs and understanding! 😂
You're amazing
@@carniecapinc.carniecapinc553 It isn’t that I can’t tell whose feelings they are, it is that I feel them all even if someone is denying their own feeling. It doesn’t make me mean. It is exhausting. Feeling other’s emotions are not easily turned on or off by saying oh that’s not my emotion so I don’t have to feel it. It is like walking by a huge bonfire that you didn’t start but you still feel the heat. You didn’t start the fire, and you may not want to feel it, but you have to be in the vicinity of the heat so you’re feeling it. After awhile you begin to sweat, and then you feel tired . It’s the only way I can explain it. Sometimes if I am sensing high emotion, I do exit the area. Because I don’t want to feel it. But I can’t do this all the time. Parties are exhausting. I’m an RN and being around patients all day, in my last job was oncology. I was exhausted every single day because the lows are so low, the highs so high. It doesn’t make it good or bad, just tiring.
@@doria552 thank you 🙏
I understand myself so much more.
I recognise this is not weakness.
I understand the agony and strife.
My perception of life is felt beyond full.
My emotional dial is not broken.
A limitless empathic capacity.
I was told many times as a child that I wore my heart on my sleeve and was too sensitive. I worked for a long time to toughen up and be strong and built up many walls around my heart. So it has taken many years to break down those walls and open back up again. I found that I was not suitable for the corporate world because I was taken advantage of and treated unfairly by both my colleagues and employers. After losing both my parents when they were just 51 and 58 years old I finally took the plunge to finally follow my dreams of being an artist. It has been a very healing process for me and even lead me to one of my biggest dreams which is illustrating childrens books. The first book I worked on with an author was just published! God is good and I would not have been able to accomplish all that I have in my life without Him. I am still healing and opening up and tearing down walls but each layer removed I feel more and more alive and happy and fulfilled. Praise God for His mercy and grace and blessings in my life!
Thank you for sharing! This gives me hope, because I've been building up the same walls around my own heart, but now knowing someone else has done the same thing, undone it and is now being happier, it gives me hope for myself. I'm not yet full grown, so this..this will help me as I reconsider what I'm doing, so thank you.
@@henriettaanneeles490God will help you to heal and to tear down those walls. Those who are empathetic are greatly needed to spread kindness and love and understanding.
Praying you find healing and restoration and for God to pour out His many blessings on your life! 🙏🏻💜
@@MandahSwift thank you! May He continue to bless you too
Wow this was powerfully inspiring!! Thank you for sharing.
@@SBeeLove so glad it has such an impact! God bless! 🙏🏻💜
My parents tried to fit me into a mold and toughen me up throughout my childhood. Now as a 21 "adult", I have been diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder. I am for sure a HSP. I cried while watching this, more in relief than in pain.
Kitty Vo im in a cafe i dont wanna cry😔 hard to swallow my food tho
I too am tearing up
Me too (very emotional watching this). I thought I was just a hyped-up INFJ but my friend told me about this "HSP" and I found this talk today. You're not alone and you're not broken in any way. Neither am I. Check out Crazywise when you get a chance. ♥.
You r so beautiful child, be shining
Kitty Vo very relatable!
"I can't watch scary or violent movies" So relatable, sensitive people unite!
Cool! Watch science films to see beyond the film maker's understanding and make the world a better place.
I was always the girl screaming at horror movies at sleepovers, lol.
me too! i'd always watch sci-fi movies instead
I can relate to other comments but this. Strange.
Yeah..I always felt a bit left out because all my friends can watch those things completely unfazed
HSP's unite! We are dreamers who dream of a kinder world. Take care of yourself first and you will surely improve the lives of those around you. Respect and accept yourself for you are strong to feel such impactful emotions and choose to continue on everyday. Some people would feel our emotions and crumble at the seems, where as we feel them and know that they make us incredible friends, family members, and strangers. Your empathy is admirable and your big heart is exceptional. Take care of yourself❤🔥
Thank you!! Awesome words made me feel better ❤
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t Highly Sensitive. I am tired and I only have so much to give.
What she didn’t talk about is that HSP are more often victims of trauma, and wounded healers.
Kristy Mounsey sending you lots of love. It’s not easy being this way and being abused or having a traumatic situation. Know you are loved. Sending you a big hug.
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Love you kristy
You just need to learn how to ground, center and shield yourself before going out in public.
Yes, sadly there are those in the world that prey on our "weakness". They take advantage of our kindness and caring nature and use it to their advantage.
I am sending you a virtual hug. 🤗🤗🤗 ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🤍🖤🥰
I’m highly sensitive. I’m a INFJ personality type. I know when someone is lying and I can read people like a book. My intuition is usually spot on.
I'm a INFJ too. Same to all.
Me too, I'm only an INFP :)
Airene Bechayda, you are still quite rare!
Lifiani Langenati, another rare personality. It can be a challenge, but it can be amazing too. We notice things that others don’t. We are more aware of the natural world.
Another one here. INFJ, HSP.. and depression.
I am crying at this moment, because it seems like nobody understands how I feel on a daily. When I am in nature I feels connected to earth. I always knew I was different from my siblings.
Dépayser I totally understand 🙏🏿
Do you also feel more connected to animals?
@@SheCat1964 I know the question was not directed towards me, but YES.
I hear ya
I understand that. I have her syndrome down to the even traveling stuff! Totally! And I feel lonely b/c I have such empathy and such emotion it's hard to function at times. and others don't "get me" nor do they understand my thinking...and they don't have empathy back
5年前の動画なのか、、、ずっと伝えられない思いを抱えてたりそれを伝えることが出来た時、自分の意図と反して涙が出てきてしまうことに悩んでいたけれど、つい最近ようやくHSPだと分かってから、凄く心が軽くなりました。この動画を見て、より一層そのままの自分でいていいんだと感じられました。
I find loud noises, bright lights, shouting, machinery sounds and firework bangs really stressful. And I'm vegan because of my empathy for animals and their suffering. This talk really resonated with me.
Thank you for being vegan. I cant understand people who even consider themselves as being sensitive are not. Actually I can't believe there is anyone who is not. The suffering of highly sensitive other animals is so unnatural and unspeakable.
This is insightful. You helped me realize my HSP traits must be the reason I love plants so much and feel very driven to start living sustainably.
EYYY Same. And for my high school senior project I plan on going vegan (because my mom doesn't accept it so i have to find a way). And after that, I never want to go back.
I'm the same way, Except for My music. Every noise that's barely above talking level startles me. But I blast My music, Most times it will change My mood or drown out the pain. Except My Wife abruptly left and blocked me so I can't even talk to her. Being HSP in this situation sucks, especially with the fact we had two daughters together and they stayed with me and appear to also be HSP cause they are feeling my emotions as well. After watching this though I don't feel so bad about feeling this way even though everyone keeps telling me to just get over it and move on.
@@fastronaut909 I've always loved growing. I cut up an apple and felt terrible when I saw I cut an apple seed that had sprouted in half. Since then I have been very careful cutting open my apples and now have three apple trees in my music studio along with a variety of other plants.
"Pay attension to those little jokes people make about you , them little shots are how they really feel about you and low key hate" I take every little thing to heart im too sensitive and i cannot hide my feelings..im very loyal ,considerate and too concerned.. sometimes i plan to treat people the way they treat me but i just cant i just give away love spontaneously
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Yes!
When I realized I could trust myself after having been groomed from an early age not to, this was one of the hardest things that became clear to me. All the 'I didn't mean it that way, you're sooo sensitive, you take everything so personally, not everything is about YOU.' I could then realize was exactly what it felt like - not what they said it was. The truth hurts, then it sets you free.
WOW....I can Identify to the T!!!! Wow... We may be one of the biggest community of people not yet discovered....thanks for sharing!
Relate!
I am Japanese. I am also an HSP, and because of that, I have a mental illness and go to the hospital. It is also sensitive to sounds and odors. I'm not good at places with many people. People who yell are also scared. This video matches what I think. The words of a wonderful woman lightened my heart. I want to applaud. (I used Google Translate)
Meditation, healing like Reiki helps a lot for all HSP.
To add : Feeding needy may also benefit.
@@DM-123 Thank you for your kindness. (From Google Translate)
@@ひまわり寝子 you are not alone my friend :)
When the spring & summer comes i pull my curtains and make my home like a cave lol , i am photosensitive (get stressed & pain in eyes by light) & have difficulties with sounds, so i use ear buds a lot & headphones. But i understand i have to expose myself to that which is difficult or find a way to ease it, otherwise im always stressed out or avoid doing things or socializing. I also got an antideppressant just 3 weeks ago that has helped (after 7 years of trying I made my own research for antideppressant & asked my Dr) that really helped me with my crippling anxiety & depression, since i feel like i'm dying as soon as i have to start my day.
So please my friend, don't go into hiding because of other people :)
There are others like us out there, i think one should go to places that one like and one usually finds other likeminded people, good luck friend 🍀😊🙏💛.
P.S. also i feel group therapy or group activities helped a lot, because you get motivation to do things with others & get back energy also with the right people of course.
Im thinking of joining a sport activity in group or musical choir/instrumental class
@@UniqueGeekFreak Thank you for your reply. I am not good at English and rely on the translation function, so I hope it will be communicated well. Seeing a lot of likes 👍 in my comments made me realize that I have the same troubles. Strong stimuli stress us 😢, but if people with the same worries get together, we can share information and help reduce stress. Like your curtains or earphones. I think you are great as you strive for improvement. I am grateful to have met wonderful friends across national borders. Thank you. I support you in group therapy and group activities. It will surely improve your future. I will try to improve as much as possible ☺️ Thank you again for your reply ✨ Dear you. (From Google Translate)
おなじです！
Being highly sensitive, most of the times there's a sense of emptiness that I feel,sometimes you are just out of breath,
coz I've experienced that nobody's gonna feel or react to me the same way and I'm invested in them just to regret later, you feel like caged in an window-less box
I totally agree
Can totally relate :( Be gentle on yourself. 20% of the world understand your world....
Sometimes it sucks to be a sponge for everyone else's emotions.
and at the same time nobody is a sponge for you
Indeed
it does ):
And you just keep taking everything in without even trying to burden others with your own issues...
I agree ... And keep only that what you need. If you don't need what you picked up, let go of it. Release it 🌬️
This comment section is so touching and positive. It makes me happy.
Hi Random person!!
Have I seen you over in Top 5s?
Or maybe it's another Random... 🤔🙂
Feeling loved thank you everyone ❤️
"It's no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." Thank you, Elena Herdieckerhogg and Krishnamurti.
That is so right x
At work, in life, people say I think too much.
Well, finally, I calmly reply, “it’s you who doesn’t think enough”
Felt good.
“We should not try to force sheep into wolf clothing” I’ve never felt such self understanding in 15 minutes .. 💯
Hii
ditto. thanks
Natalie, please read the book she mentioned. It changed my life. Bless you.
Oh the tone of her voice when she says that is SOOOO sensitive, I do feel like a little lamb *teardrop* *heart melt*, this woman is amazing !
I remember in college my ethics professor once told me, “ People will tell you that you can’t save the world. But, don’t listen to them, You can save the world one by one...” I try to remember this every time I feel lost and relatively quickly find my way back. I can’t wait to share this with my beautiful daughter who’s only three months old and amazingly sensitive like me. I am so glad we are not alone 🥰
so did you ever save anyone at all?
There is the parable of the starfish. A person was walking along the beach, picking up the starfish that were stranded above the water line and throwing them back into the ocean. Someone said to them-- why are you wasting your time? There are hundreds of starfish, you can't save them all, what difference does it make? And the person gestured to the starfish they were about to throw back, saying, "Because it makes a difference to *this* starfish".
We are here too,and we can do something, to save another fish out the shore into the sea again
Sounds like my own philosophy. I can’t save the world, but I do the best I can for the people in need who cross my path. Sometimes a life is directly saved this way. More often I have no idea how widespread the benefit. What matters to me most is being a force for good.
Being passionately opinionated does not make you correct. Many people who claim to want to change the world are simply dogmatic and they’re secure enough in their own ideas so as to manifest them over everyone else.
9:51
"Because they feel every pain they see"
That's so damn true...
I get torn apart by anyone's suffering, even if I never saw them before in my life. 🌻
I always thought everyone was like that- feeling other's pain?
Agree
This is me
Even when it’s a fictional character and I know it’s fictional, it’s still so painful, emotionally and physically
私は小さい頃から｢感受性の強い子だね｣と言われる事が多く今まで生きてきて、自分の感受性の強さに生きづらさを感じており未だになれません。
生きていると沢山の困難にぶち当たります。その度に深く落ち込みます。最近やっと日本にもHSPという言葉が広がり、理解しようという動きが始まってます。こちらのスピーチを聞いて涙を流しながら聞きました😢 私はいつもHSPというのが弱く恥ずかしい事だと思っていたので、スピーチをされてる方の力強くも優しい言葉に胸を打たれました😌✨
とても素晴らしいスピーチをありがとうございましたm(_ _)m✨
私も感受性はこのままに自分自身を大切にしながら生きたいと思います✨
and always remember that you’re not alone
Yes…..if only my family had known any of this. I was drugged as a child because I was too sensitive and nervous. Finally, I am comfortable being me, at 61.
Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry
I’m glad you found your acceptance.
I remember the suffering of dealing with others in school. Now i have a daughter who is sweet and wonderful and cries at the drop of a hat. I fear for her. I’m sure your parents were trying to help you the only way they knew how. Mine told me to “get over it” and left me to deal with it alone.
Ouch. C'est la vie for some pep... sometimes
I'd you don't mind me asking, how did the drugs affect you? I'm considering trying some but afraid of the side effects
I hope you've found all of your earthly comforts!!!
Thank you. This brought tears to my eyes. For most of my life I've been told to "toughen up" or "grow a backbone" or "you're too sensitive." And often by my family members who were supposed to love me. I hurt so bad and felt so weak. I always questioned what was wrong with me. Thank you, I am profoundly moved by your speech.
Me too...
I’ve been told this many times. Through help I am learning to embrace this and use it as best as I can.
I relate completely.
I feel you
Sensitive people (with a high degree of empathy) are frequently misunderstood. One problem is likely that we make other people uncomfortable. Everyone has emotions, but many feel awkward acknowledging them.
You’re not weak. Empathic people carry the weight of their own feelings plus the feelings of others. This takes a strong person. Not for the faint of heart at all!
It takes time and practice to learn to separate what you feel from what someone else is projecting. It takes study to learn to understand other people’s feelings. It takes wisdom to figure out how to help. It’s a tremendous gift, but not an easy one.
Toughening up (losing that sensitive edge and awareness) risks losing the thing that makes you so special.
Hsp’ s are not just women. This lady spoke to me in her talk.
I too thought HSP significantly leaned female also. Knowing there are more men out there like me than I realized is...comforting. < 3
Same
People say I’m fragile I’m not fragile I just feel deeply
I relate to this so much. Almost cried, being the sensitive dude I am. Thank you.
Hero not alone brother
lol me too
ï cried too!!!.......I am not like an alien or something like that!!
Hero I also almost cried
I always thought that I’m too sensitive n I should suppress it and hide it from the rest of the world. Now I feel that I’m not alone.
I feel you man. Being sensitive is tough as a guy. You're not alone.
Having an well-educated sensitive person as the best friend is the best thing God can gift someone.
im definitely sensitive, pretty sure I'd consider myself well-educated...the rest you would have to decide for yourself.
HSPs are hyper-aware, empathetic, and discerning. These are strengths and virtues.
but i dunno what this traits are good for, as a counsellor? what if they dont want to be a counsellor what if they want to work in high pace brutal environment, can a HSP cope? i think the trait just distroy the desire to work in this type of environment,
@@senecaoak7173 and is that a bad thing? not everyone is suited for every work environment; it just means they’re more suited than others for a different environment. hsp’s make incredible teachers, nurses, social workers, therapists. they also can be awesome scientists, researchers, artists, writers, and even lawyers. it’s not about the career, it’s about the way those workplaces have been ill-designed.
HSPs are kind, thoughtful, aware of others feelings and emotions. they are caring helpful people. they want to help make the world a better place. sometimes other people dont understand them and dont want theyre help. im an HSP and this has been my experience. its been very difficult for me to fit into this world.. geez. people are so mean to each other. to me they are a bunch of narcissists. its really sad to watch them distroying stuff and themselves.. i stay indoors mostly and to myself these days...
@@ElBreaksLoose222 but u can't denied most ceo are stressed environment,compared to a social worker
..I mean what if hsp want to be a ceo...then they have to open own company that's the least stressed ceo position
But we're under a system that regards these as defects, as it aims to force people into the same mold, who are then expected to compensate for any dissatisfaction they feel through consumption. Pleading for understanding of these traits from a stage is nice, but ultimately we're talking about systemic problems.
A 'corporate environment' is one in which, by definition, not all personality types can flourish. And can we plead our way to having a company's stock value be based on its degree of 'humanity' and 'integrity'?
｢違っていい｣と言ってくれる人がいる。
それだけで悩みを一緒に抱えてくれているような気がして、少し心が軽くなりました。
ありがとうございます。
もう少し、頑張れそうです。
Why would anyone tell someone they are too sensitive? I am too sensitive to tell anyone that! I was called weird all my life, gee, sorry you can't handle the beauty of my mind. I figured out a long time ago that I am not the one with the problem. My brain never rests and I have a vivid imagination and dream life. If people can't keep up with me, well, I've already moved on. If you don't want to give me space to talk, I have nothing to say. And I know who else in the room has something to say, but does not speak either. Excellent talk!!
Tanya Houston I’ve been called weird all my life too but I never knew why until now....
I don’t know how many times I’ve been called “too sensitive”. By my parents, my friends, my husband and my employer...it gets so old.
Tanya Houston hells yeah! Ps my name is Tanya too. We are like soul sisters bc I am the same way!
Great comment!!
Great description! Can you be my friend? I need someone to talk quietly 🙂
I am so sensitive that I eventually became very numb. I’ve been working towards being able to feel fully again for a long time, seeing support for sensitive people helps so much.
Same
I become numb after a friend of mine makes me feel bad for being so sensitive and I should not let things bother me so much, or the famous one "You have just got to stop holding onto things" and yet they don't let go either. I think they don't realize how sensitive they are.
its sometimes so easy to shut off emotions and become numb because others don't understand how overly emotional and sensitive we are. Learning to embrace that is extremely hard, reading all these comments really makes me feel at peace .
Me too
Same here, same here.
This is so beautiful. No sarcasm, I cried several times throughout. Sensitive people unite!! We can bring the temperature of the room down a few notches.
Me too i cried alot. And probably crying while typing this. 😭❤️ Hello fellow HSP
Teared up and cried several times too ❤️
Me too! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I'm an empath and she hit the nail right on the head several times throughout this clip. Beautiful beautiful clip! 💖
Yes we can and we must
The fact that this video made me cry, confirms I’m an HSP 😅 I really needed to hear this. I never knew what my issue was until watching this.
I saw this video some years ago which made me realize I’m an HSP. Today I saw it again and I’m also crying, I totally feel you
Me too
After seeing a psychologist, I found out I was a highly sensitve person. He said to me that it was like a superpower but also a curse if you don't know how to handle it properly. I am now learning how to handle my sensitivity and it has been crazy in what the difference it has made by setting boundaries, journaling, speaking out and not holding back and being honest with my self by reflecting on my day and what i have seen/heard/thought. So for all those sensitive individuals out their take care of yourself x
"Superpower". What a wonderful and self-loving insight. Thank you.
I’m extremely empathetic and I struggle so much with how much of my emotions I should give to other people. Ive been working on myself for years and I’m trying to only give my love to the people who really deserve it now. 🥺
and you must be north american
@victora3295 No mate I'm definitely not
The butterfly metaphor touched my soul. Even though we are sensitive, we should not be sheltered from the world to prevent us from being hurt.
Very powerful to hear!
I can literally read people's emotions and mind just by looking at them. Anyone else can do that?
Big Mo me too. Blessing and a curse
I have a formidable intuition I don't have to. Learn some things I just know
Me too, it’s very easy to do: simply observe: the pupils, body language, corners of mouth, tilt of the head, among others.
Sometimes, it’s hard to be neutral to someone you know dislikes you...
Yes
Me too
"without highly sensitive people, our world would almost certainly be a shade darker." This is a really beautiful speech! So many beautiful insights and touches of humor (HSPs were "Born to be mild" that was cute :) ) Thank you again for this talk.
Being sensitive even though challenging at times is a blessing. Being sensitive allows me to live life very intensively, have compassion for others and see endless possibilities.
❤️
It can protect you too. The first sociopath I met hurt me at 11 but after that I learned how to spot them and got better at taking steps to protect myself and distance myself from those people.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" -Krishnamurti (13:35)
It is no measure of health either to be swarmed up by negativity. It not any healthy not to be able to master your own emotion, and know when you must be in control.
But if so you can be elected President.
Hooooray
Being highsensitive, is a gift, the pain u get from people not understanding you, the crying without stopping, the just wanna be loved your whole life, makes you very strong.
You think so?
@@morematcha i know so brother.
@@utakata7738 thank you. But how does it make us stronger? Where? I just feel so weak all the time. (You don't have to reply haha)
When you stop believing the judgments sold to you by other people’s opinion, you will open yourself up to believing you need to be worthy in order to be loved. You don’t. You just accept you are loved, even if by no one else, at least by the only person whose opinion matters...yourself. Might be amazing to see and experience.
@@morematcha it makes us stronger as without the pain and suffering we wouldn’t grow, learn to use it as a tool my friend 🙏
Absolutely beautifully said! Thank you! All my life I have said, "I'm either the happiest person in the room or the saddest. It's a blessing and a curse," completely unaware of the term, HSP until recently. Now it all makes sense. ❤
I felt cursed so many times in life by being highly sensitive. I never could just toughen up like everyone said. The feeling of being weird or too soft and weak for this world was/is soo depressing, but once you begin to understand yourself you can try to find your own path... this video is awesome. Love to all HSPs out there.