As it’s the year end John here are my top 5 hated looks that most of the men in my local mall and metro are wearing this season. 1) the sleeveless tank top with large scoop arm holes that expose half the torso 2) cargo shorts or cargo pants with all those large extra not needed pockets on the leg 3) Crocs 4) cheap rubber flip flops or sandals 5) any t shirt with a graphic or message on it Happy Christmas everyone 🎄
Hey John, very good video and it's true about toxic dating advice out there with all of the blaming and name calling. I have figured out which men do this and why, so please hear me out. Men who are complaining that women only want money are financially broke themselves. They're broke because they have the discipline of a ferret. They seek money to live just like they seek women to be happy. They make fun of muscular men because of their own insecurities about not going to the gym. They avoid any and all opportunities of self improvement. The one single area to start reshaping and gaining confidence which will snowball into all other areas is exercise. It starts with getting the body right. Good women don't care about the money or flashy stuff. But men turn off those good women because they don't hold themselves accountable for being the root cause of their relationship problems. They smell, dress like teenagers while in their '40's, smoke weed every day, and don't exercise.
Nothing douchey about this video at all, John. Just pure, honest advice from a guy who's real and who's been there, done that, and happy to share some of the experience. Thanks, man. Yes please for a Part 2! And Happy Holidays, my friend! Happy Holidays to all!!
Definitely yes for part two. Also, what you should’ve said when you sat down at the table is, or when you started talking about dating, is (in a playful tone) “OK, lovely ladies, I know you brought this topic up in an effort to get my number. Before we go any further, here it is!“
I am pleased that you stand against negativity so many young people see it as us vs them mentality that is not a basis for building any sort of functioning relationship with the other person. I don't want the adversary in my life I want a partner where we both care for each other.
If you don't know what to do with your hands, if standing, stand at "parade rest" or "at ease". Many of us were taught that in the military to avoid fidgeting and looking awkward. And we do want a Part 2, thank you.
Great video! I would love to see a video for us guys that have been married for awhile (20 years for me) and maybe how to keep the spark and keep things fresh! Thanks John
@@omarcortes5754 I’m 58, recently divorced. Met a chick for dinner. Opened doors for her, pulled out chair… she was blown away. Manners, respect and affection are gone.
Great video and advice. Thanks. I think you might need to do a video of your 'door opening' method :) I'd certainly be into it, but I can't seem to visualise it. Cheers. Yes for Part II please.
If the door opens in, you can do what you suggested. If it opens out, it's extremely difficult. I do agree about leading the way to the table, and also talking to eh host/hostess beforehand. Take control.
Can you do a demo video showing the way to hold a ladies hand and open the door, going through it first yourself with her to follow? It all seems a bit ungainly and difficult to manage without getting your arms or hands twisted & crossed over. I’d love to see a demo from you or one of your friends. Such a simple effective thing but hard to imagine with just words. So how about a smooth video John?
John once again great content, part two is always a bonus. I like the hands advice it's funny I have often thought it's awkward where best to place them. I do the thumbs in pocket trick and will try the walnut. I think in pockets can look a bit dodgy if you get my drift.
Right on with everything. By leading in the door and to the table you are between her and potential trouble but the way you did it is still chivalrous. Also shows your willing to lead out in the relationship and in life. Second video please.
Yes to a Part 2!! Thanks for another great video!! Would really like to hear more of the "manners" you use while dating. I've always opened the door on an automobile for a lady. And also doors to an establishment, but I've always then let the lady enter then I follow, but I like the idea of holding hands. Do you continue holding your date's hand as you walk to the table? I'm 56 and married, but I still treat every date night with my wife the same as when we dated before marriage. I will say, this old dog is willing to learn and try some new tricks to surprise and impress my wife on our next date night.
Hey John. Great info. Especially what to do with your hands. Maybe a video about the right thing to do, as compared to the things men usually default to. Things that men don't realize are counterproductive to impressing women.
@@40OverFashionyes John, please let us know! My husband needs that cardigan. And please get more brand sponsors. I’ve bought from Collars and Co., Anson Belts, and just ordered from Thursday Boots THIS morning. I will order from every brand you suggest.
First of all, I love your channel. It is one of my favorite self-improvement channels, and I have taken a lot of your advice. So thank you! This being said, can all of you guys please stop saying that if you work out and dress up, you're going to be in the top five percent of guys or whatever? That flatly isn't true. Your genetics are going to dictate how high on the attractive scale you can go. You can (and definitely should) make improvements by working out and dressing well. No doubt. But you can't go from a 4 to a 9 as saying that implies. That just sets people up for disappointment, and it's a big reason why we have the ridiculous black pill theory, LOL. One of their key "spokesmen" on TH-cam (whose name I will not utter) outright said that is what inspired his channel. So please, let's not create any more of those people if we can avoid it!
Very much appreciate your feedback, but I never said it takes you from a 4 to a 9. I’m only stating the fact that most men over the age of 40, in the US, have fallen out of shape. So, that means that if you’re in shape, you’re part of a very small minority.
Hey John, The only advice YT & social media "advisors" that I follow other than yours is "Your Wing ma'am" by Anna Jorgensen. She not only gives us advice on what to do & also what not to do. More specifically, if your heart isn't in it, don't date. As far as having better manners, I was always taught to open, hold the door open, then follow her very closely behind in a very chivalrous manner. As taught in the US Army, as a Fraternity man in college, but more importantly by my father. Yes, please do make a Part 2. And please film you and a model, we'll say, demonstrating the door holding technique. I'm very interested in that. Legend, out.
The thumb in the pocket trick works great, but it seems to work better for me with jeans style horizontal pocket openings rather than the vertical slit pocket. Slit pocket trousers were made to go with suits which cover the bulge of the pocket when you walk. Every time you take a step, a vertical pocket flares out and draws people's attention to your sides when you really want them looking at your face. Keep your hands out of your pockets and in my opinion, find pants with horizontal jean style pockets
💯 %!! my advice: treat people like you want to be treated.. take care of yourself and you‘ll probably start taking care of others, whitch falls back to you..
There needs to be more discussion over the door-opening bit. This is not a matter of appearances, this is a matter of real-world safety. The general rule is that the gentleman always takes the protector position. You can see this happening with persons who have a single personal security guard. Attacks will happen during the transition into and from a safer zone (your automobile or the venue _you_ selected) and the street. If the place you're going is more dangerous than the street...why are you taking a lady there? The street is _always_ the more dangerous zone. You should always be with the lady on the street, which is why you open the car door and stand outside until she's safely in the car and also why you _should_ open the venue door and make sure she's safely inside before you enter. Once inside, you can lead the way to the table.
I will always open and hold a door open for a lady regardless of the situation. Does not have to be a date, I don't even have to know her, it's manners I was brought up with. What your suggesting would go against my nature, I can see what your implying by leading the lady through the door though. If I ever get the opportunity to try it out on a date I will see if it makes a difference.
Chivalry Never Died. The Gentlemen in most Men Did... Being Male, is a matter of Birth. Being a Man is a Matter of AGE. Being a GENTLEMAN, is a Matter of CHOICE... The little things matter. And the ladies out there notice. Ladies at other tables notice when you do those little things for your date, woman, partner. I have received dirty looks from "men" for doing this. And admiring glances from ladies of all ages and class... I live by, "act is if your GrandMother is watching you."
@@noName-kn1lx Sorry you feel that way... I'm not a wealthy man, nor am I well educated. But was instilled with the belief a Man should treat a "deserving" Woman, as a Queen, not worshipped, but respected.
@@noName-kn1lx Note I said "WORTHY", and also stated, not "WORSHIPPED" But RESPECTED. I am no subject of anyone. I treat my partner as that, a partner. And she treats me the same. Very very big distinction between your perception, and my reality.
I was taught, the woman goes 1st while walking to the table, unless the restaurant is crowded and you need to "make way" for the woman. Pull out her chair at the table.
2 things that have always changed a woman's mind about dating me. Finding out 1st: That I have a lot of money and 2nd: the huge snake that's hiding in my pants. They are as shallow as they have always appeared.
Oh my god, those videos and such suck. It's been so good for my mental health to get off reddit and stop reading/watching the men vs women red pill stuff.
So true these “incel” type guys or kids I should say love to blame the women. These guy have ZERO game and are still living in the parents basement with no job. It takes work and effort to get ahead in life and to attract a quality woman. Also you’re 100% correct about the social media, it’s toxic
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OK, I'm trying this for the first time!
As it’s the year end John here are my top 5 hated looks that most of the men in my local mall and metro are wearing this season.
1) the sleeveless tank top with large scoop arm holes that expose half the torso
2) cargo shorts or cargo pants with all those large extra not needed pockets on the leg
3) Crocs
4) cheap rubber flip flops or sandals
5) any t shirt with a graphic or message on it
Happy Christmas everyone 🎄
Cheers!
Part 2 =Yes. At nearly 54 going through a somewhat nasty divorce with young kids, I need all the advice I can get.
Thank you!
Stay away from dating and go enjoy yourself
Be an alpha male with class. Get in shape. Dress well. Let them come to you.
@@ManilaTomand a prenup
@@justintuttle137lol why even consider getting married again in your 50s
Hey John, very good video and it's true about toxic dating advice out there with all of the blaming and name calling. I have figured out which men do this and why, so please hear me out.
Men who are complaining that women only want money are financially broke themselves. They're broke because they have the discipline of a ferret. They seek money to live just like they seek women to be happy. They make fun of muscular men because of their own insecurities about not going to the gym. They avoid any and all opportunities of self improvement. The one single area to start reshaping and gaining confidence which will snowball into all other areas is exercise. It starts with getting the body right.
Good women don't care about the money or flashy stuff. But men turn off those good women because they don't hold themselves accountable for being the root cause of their relationship problems. They smell, dress like teenagers while in their '40's, smoke weed every day, and don't exercise.
Great perspective! Lots of truth in there!
Nothing douchey about this video at all, John. Just pure, honest advice from a guy who's real and who's been there, done that, and happy to share some of the experience. Thanks, man.
Yes please for a Part 2! And Happy Holidays, my friend!
Happy Holidays to all!!
Thanks so much, appreciate the kind words!
Definitely yes for part two. Also, what you should’ve said when you sat down at the table is, or when you started talking about dating, is (in a playful tone) “OK, lovely ladies, I know you brought this topic up in an effort to get my number. Before we go any further, here it is!“
Haha! You’re not wrong:)
35 years married still treat her with manners still dressing to impress.
Good man!
Gorgeous! We are waiting for α part 2.
Noted!
Yes we need the next part and many more!!🎃🍅
Thank you!
I am pleased that you stand against negativity so many young people see it as us vs them mentality that is not a basis for building any sort of functioning relationship with the other person. I don't want the adversary in my life I want a partner where we both care for each other.
Well said!
Excellent advice with Part One. I'm looking forward to seeing Part Two.
Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you!
Great vid, John. Def a part II, please. Love the sweater, too. Can you share the maker? Happy New Year from Boston. - Ed H.
Thank you! The sweater is a few years old from Express.
If you don't know what to do with your hands, if standing, stand at "parade rest" or "at ease". Many of us were taught that in the military to avoid fidgeting and looking awkward.
And we do want a Part 2, thank you.
My pleasure!
Yes pleae John. Need a Part 2. Thanks again.
Thank you!
Stepping thru the door 1st is something I’ve done ever since I started dating my wife. She feels safe and protected
I do this as well as walking on the side of the street closest to traffic or large groups of people.
Great video John!!! Nice cardigan!
Great content. Sometimes common courtesy isn't common. Part 2 would be fantastic!!
Noted! Thank you!
Great video! I would love to see a video for us guys that have been married for awhile (20 years for me) and maybe how to keep the spark and keep things fresh! Thanks John
Thanks for the suggestion! Honestly, it’s a lot of the same things I already talk about. But yes, that’s a great idea for a new video! Thank you!
The best way to be impressive is to not be obsessed with the outcome. You can want romance without it determining your emotions...
Great point!
Manners matter. The way you treat people is way more important than some think it is.
True!
@@omarcortes5754 I’m 58, recently divorced. Met a chick for dinner. Opened doors for her, pulled out chair… she was blown away. Manners, respect and affection are gone.
Great video and advice. Thanks. I think you might need to do a video of your 'door opening' method :) I'd certainly be into it, but I can't seem to visualise it. Cheers. Yes for Part II please.
Noted! Thank you!
Great tips John!!!🔥🔥🔥
Appreciate the fire emojis!!
Part 2 yes. Also short video on the dating habits like the door opening would be helpful
Coming soon!
Looking forward to Part 2!
Thanks for the video John! Even for being a married man in my late 60's these tips always come in handy. Love your videos and part 2 please.
Glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you!
Part 2 please sir. Love and support from Philippines.❤
If the door opens in, you can do what you suggested. If it opens out, it's extremely difficult. I do agree about leading the way to the table, and also talking to eh host/hostess beforehand. Take control.
Can you do a demo video showing the way to hold a ladies hand and open the door, going through it first yourself with her to follow? It all seems a bit ungainly and difficult to manage without getting your arms or hands twisted & crossed over. I’d love to see a demo from you or one of your friends. Such a simple effective thing but hard to imagine with just words. So how about a smooth video John?
Yes, I’ll set something up for the part two video in a few weeks. Stay tuned! Lots of requests for the same thing.
John once again great content, part two is always a bonus. I like the hands advice it's funny I have often thought it's awkward where best to place them. I do the thumbs in pocket trick and will try the walnut. I think in pockets can look a bit dodgy if you get my drift.
Absolutely!
Great advice, thank you!!
Thanks for watching!
Right on with everything. By leading in the door and to the table you are between her and potential trouble but the way you did it is still chivalrous. Also shows your willing to lead out in the relationship and in life. Second video please.
Thank you Michael!
Excellent tip with leading the lady and also video overall.Part 2 would be most wellcome.
Noted! Thank you!
Yes to a Part 2!! Thanks for another great video!!
Would really like to hear more of the "manners" you use while dating. I've always opened the door on an automobile for a lady. And also doors to an establishment, but I've always then let the lady enter then I follow, but I like the idea of holding hands.
Do you continue holding your date's hand as you walk to the table?
I'm 56 and married, but I still treat every date night with my wife the same as when we dated before marriage.
I will say, this old dog is willing to learn and try some new tricks to surprise and impress my wife on our next date night.
Thanks so much! I love to hear you’re still trying to impress your wife! So true! If it’s a tight space, it’s OK to let go as you walked to the table.
Great advise for all men!
Appreciate it!
We need a part two!!! Awesome video!!!!
Thank you!
Great channel. Today's video is not for me. I'm 58 and recently divorced and never been happier. Will not add a woman in my life to screw things up.
Another great video, thanks Legend!
My pleasure!
Part 2 please, :) great video Jon. Thanks Jon 😊
Thank you!
You are the best 💪
Appreciate you!
All it takes is dress well and you’re half way there.
Where is it? Where is that part 2 video!
Thanks for useful informations.
I’ll work on it! Thank you!
Thanks John.
Appreciate you Ron!
Part 2 definitely
Thank you!
Hey John. Great info. Especially what to do with your hands. Maybe a video about the right thing to do, as compared to the things men usually default to. Things that men don't realize are counterproductive to impressing women.
Legend, where did you get the sweater? I may have missed it if you said, dealing with a customer changes this morning and tried to multi task.
Thank you! It’s a couple years old from Express.
Well done.
Thank you!
That cardigan is fire
Appreciate that!
Where did you get it?
@@40OverFashionyes John, please let us know! My husband needs that cardigan. And please get more brand sponsors. I’ve bought from Collars and Co., Anson Belts, and just ordered from Thursday Boots THIS morning. I will order from every brand you suggest.
Thank you! Unfortunately, this one is about four years old from Express. It’s most likely no longer on their site.
First of all, I love your channel. It is one of my favorite self-improvement channels, and I have taken a lot of your advice. So thank you!
This being said, can all of you guys please stop saying that if you work out and dress up, you're going to be in the top five percent of guys or whatever? That flatly isn't true. Your genetics are going to dictate how high on the attractive scale you can go. You can (and definitely should) make improvements by working out and dressing well. No doubt. But you can't go from a 4 to a 9 as saying that implies.
That just sets people up for disappointment, and it's a big reason why we have the ridiculous black pill theory, LOL. One of their key "spokesmen" on TH-cam (whose name I will not utter) outright said that is what inspired his channel. So please, let's not create any more of those people if we can avoid it!
Very much appreciate your feedback, but I never said it takes you from a 4 to a 9. I’m only stating the fact that most men over the age of 40, in the US, have fallen out of shape. So, that means that if you’re in shape, you’re part of a very small minority.
A part two would be good
Noted! Thank you!
Keystone lesson I saw that you teach too I love how I don't Care what others say about me cool traits
Everything you said is so "on point" especially about social media😊❤🎉💯.
Thanks for watching!
Hey John,
The only advice YT & social media "advisors" that I follow other than yours is "Your Wing ma'am" by Anna Jorgensen. She not only gives us advice on what to do & also what not to do. More specifically, if your heart isn't in it, don't date.
As far as having better manners, I was always taught to open, hold the door open, then follow her very closely behind in a very chivalrous manner. As taught in the US Army, as a Fraternity man in college, but more importantly by my father.
Yes, please do make a Part 2. And please film you and a model, we'll say, demonstrating the door holding technique. I'm very interested in that.
Legend, out.
Thank you!
The thumb in the pocket trick works great, but it seems to work better for me with jeans style horizontal pocket openings rather than the vertical slit pocket. Slit pocket trousers were made to go with suits which cover the bulge of the pocket when you walk. Every time you take a step, a vertical pocket flares out and draws people's attention to your sides when you really want them looking at your face. Keep your hands out of your pockets and in my opinion, find pants with horizontal jean style pockets
💯 %!! my advice: treat people like you want to be treated..
take care of yourself and you‘ll probably start taking care of others, whitch falls back to you..
Well said!
Great video
Glad you enjoyed it!
Part 2 please. 👍
Thank you
Here's a sure way to impress any woman. Just pull out a wad of Benjamin's out of a money 💰 clip in your pocket. Never fails!!! 😊
Haha!
See you on the next video John!
Appreciate you! :)
There needs to be more discussion over the door-opening bit. This is not a matter of appearances, this is a matter of real-world safety. The general rule is that the gentleman always takes the protector position. You can see this happening with persons who have a single personal security guard. Attacks will happen during the transition into and from a safer zone (your automobile or the venue _you_ selected) and the street. If the place you're going is more dangerous than the street...why are you taking a lady there? The street is _always_ the more dangerous zone. You should always be with the lady on the street, which is why you open the car door and stand outside until she's safely in the car and also why you _should_ open the venue door and make sure she's safely inside before you enter. Once inside, you can lead the way to the table.
Yeah, there’s a few different ways to look at this. I will be making a follow up video in a few weeks showing the example I talked about.
I will always open and hold a door open for a lady regardless of the situation. Does not have to be a date, I don't even have to know her, it's manners I was brought up with. What your suggesting would go against my nature, I can see what your implying by leading the lady through the door though. If I ever get the opportunity to try it out on a date I will see if it makes a difference.
Part 2- good video
Thank you!
Part 2 please
Thank you!
Smart thanks
I have tiege Hanley I love it
Nice.
Part 2 definitely, it goes without saying …
Thank you!
While I understand how you described walking a woman through the door, I would benefit from you videoing a "short" demonstration of the technique.
Noted! Already planning a part 2 with this exact visual.
Chivalry Never Died. The Gentlemen in most Men Did...
Being Male, is a matter of Birth.
Being a Man is a Matter of AGE.
Being a GENTLEMAN, is a Matter of CHOICE...
The little things matter. And the ladies out there notice. Ladies at other tables notice when you do those little things for your date, woman, partner. I have received dirty looks from "men" for doing this. And admiring glances from ladies of all ages and class...
I live by, "act is if your GrandMother is watching you."
Well said!
Ill take things that never happened for 200 alex
@@noName-kn1lx Sorry you feel that way... I'm not a wealthy man, nor am I well educated. But was instilled with the belief a Man should treat a "deserving" Woman, as a Queen, not worshipped, but respected.
@ thats the problem they are people not queens and you arent her subject
@@noName-kn1lx Note I said "WORTHY", and also stated, not "WORSHIPPED" But RESPECTED. I am no subject of anyone. I treat my partner as that, a partner. And she treats me the same. Very very big distinction between your perception, and my reality.
I agree with all, but your walnut scenario. You appear to be fidgeting, and that states you are nervous or lack confidence.
I get your point, but it’s a very slow move. You’re not juggling or anything LOL! :)
I was taught, the woman goes 1st while walking to the table, unless the restaurant is crowded and you need to "make way" for the woman. Pull out her chair at the table.
Yeah, I totally get that, but when you arrive at the table first, you can pull her chair out immediately without her having to wait for you.
All ways time to watch another film ,
2 things that have always changed a woman's mind about dating me. Finding out 1st: That I have a lot of money and 2nd: the huge snake that's hiding in my pants. They are as shallow as they have always appeared.
Great content,enough of all this incel Andrew Tate toxic crap on women
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻
Your idea holding someone’s hand, opening the door and going in first would not work with any door that opens outwards.
Yes it does. :)
I like that cardigan! Very nice John, very nice.
Thank you!
Manners maketh man….
Oh my god, those videos and such suck. It's been so good for my mental health to get off reddit and stop reading/watching the men vs women red pill stuff.
Absolutely!
So true these “incel” type guys or kids I should say love to blame the women. These guy have ZERO game and are still living in the parents basement with no job. It takes work and effort to get ahead in life and to attract a quality woman. Also you’re 100% correct about the social media, it’s toxic