it's worth researching trauma bonding.. basically toxic people will be really nice then really cruel then really nice then really cruel.. so each time they are being really nice to you after they have been cruel that creates a strong happiness in your system.. then when they keep doing that you get addicted to and crave the nice treatment by them
TLDR; imagine them p**ping their pants and having to waddle to their car to drive home and on the drive home the p**p smushes all around their butt and legs and it stinks and when they get home they waddle to their front door like the vulnerable flawed person they are and when they remove their undergarments they are disgusted with themselves and then attempt to shower while they shamefully gloop up the mess and it sets them back like half their day so now they have to rush through the rest of their tasks, this helped me hope this helps xoxo
Imagine them cleaning their nose 👃🏼 or ear 👂🏼 will you still put them on the pedestal? No, right? *Please accept that they're as ordinary as everybody. Stop being a SIMP, for god's sake!!!* ✋🏼 Now go & live your life 💗 I love you
He says he has a crush on me and is willing to try something with me when we get to know each other better, but the problem is that I idealized and put him on a pedestal that I can't take off. My life isn't busy and I don't have many friends, so it's been a very difficult process to focus on myself because I'm scared that I'll start focusing on myself and he'll leave me for someone else. I will watch this video as many times as necessary until I realize that he is just a person and not my savior. Thank you very much!
Wow, identifying such problems is innovative in itself! Even social scientists are unlikely to realize to research these kind of things as social problems, because these are so well hidden behind subjective importance to mask them as priorities.
Metamorphosis is the apprenticeship of growth & evolution through the bittersweet process of living & improving oneself from every lesson, every battle and every scar etched on one’s canvas. To transcend the trauma, pain and inflictions into the poetry which is a mirror image or reflection of the inner artist which wields the subtle art of embracing and expressing something beautiful from a place of pain or suppressed emotion(s) resonating within the vulnerabilities of the soul. The odyssey of resiliency.
I just watched your video of “kill security mindset” this afternoon and super happy knowing you’re uploading a new video. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me with the new perspective I learned from you. You’re a teacher I’ve never had in my real life and I am happy that I found you on TH-cam. Hope you’re always healthy and happy 🫶
i cannot believe ive wasted sm time stressing out over this boy who ik absolutely loves me anyway. theres actually no need for me to worry wtf was i doing bro
Even hearing and knowing all of this, I can't just stop it :/ I was even trying to think about the bad traits this person showed and I still somehow feel like they are amazing person and I am boring... I don't know what more I should do to put them off pedestal?
Hey there just wanted to say thank you for uploading this seriously, I’ve struggled with this my entire life and recently started going to therapy so I can work on my self validation and attachment issues, definitely going to work on myself thank you again seriously
You are amazing girl ! I resonated with each an every word. Thankyou so much for this video. You gained a new subscriber today♥️ Never stop making videos.
you should be less rude with yourself , you lovable and full of beauty , you gift yourself because your full of love nothing wrong if you dont gain a feed back is because your rude with yourself with the receiving , dont be afraid your wonderful and really cute to cherish. You will find the love you need im sure of it. dont block yourself your are resourceful , use your feminity for attracting what you need and want , but you got to be sure of yourself , the more you doupt the more you fail
Just love yourself.tell yourself over and over ( like an affirmation ) that you love yourself and your subconscious mind accepts it eventually.you will slowly have a changed mindset.take care.
Well..I'm *amazing* too..and *I* live in Sydney, obviously...But seriously I heard your Australian accent and thought@@Dreamwithjoy ,due to probability, maybe you live in Sydney..Who knows? Maybe you live in Melbourne. AI told me that 5.4 million live in Sydney and 5.2 million live in Melbourne. Your videos are down-to-earth and AMAZING. *Great work!!*
it's worth researching trauma bonding.. basically toxic people will be really nice then really cruel then really nice then really cruel.. so each time they are being really nice to you after they have been cruel that creates a strong happiness in your system.. then when they keep doing that you get addicted to and crave the nice treatment by them
Like a hamster wheel.Intermittent Reinforcement.😢😢
TLDR; imagine them p**ping their pants and having to waddle to their car to drive home and on the drive home the p**p smushes all around their butt and legs and it stinks and when they get home they waddle to their front door like the vulnerable flawed person they are and when they remove their undergarments they are disgusted with themselves and then attempt to shower while they shamefully gloop up the mess and it sets them back like half their day so now they have to rush through the rest of their tasks, this helped me hope this helps xoxo
HAHA how do you come up with this 😆
What?! 😭🤣🤣
LMAO DUDE IM CRYING
wtf lmao 🤣 thank u
Whatttttttt😂
Imagine them cleaning their nose 👃🏼 or ear 👂🏼 will you still put them on the pedestal? No, right? *Please accept that they're as ordinary as everybody. Stop being a SIMP, for god's sake!!!* ✋🏼 Now go & live your life 💗 I love you
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He says he has a crush on me and is willing to try something with me when we get to know each other better, but the problem is that I idealized and put him on a pedestal that I can't take off. My life isn't busy and I don't have many friends, so it's been a very difficult process to focus on myself because I'm scared that I'll start focusing on myself and he'll leave me for someone else. I will watch this video as many times as necessary until I realize that he is just a person and not my savior. Thank you very much!
This helps me a lot. Trying to stop liking a crush.
Girl you was spitting nothing but factssss.
The way you struggled to pronounce 'hypocrisy' was really adorable.
Is joy living rent-free in your mind, nik?
Time stamp?
Wow, identifying such problems is innovative in itself!
Even social scientists are unlikely to realize to research these kind of things as social problems, because these are so well hidden behind subjective importance to mask them as priorities.
Metamorphosis is the apprenticeship of growth & evolution through the bittersweet process of living & improving oneself from every lesson, every battle and every scar etched on one’s canvas. To transcend the trauma, pain and inflictions into the poetry which is a mirror image or reflection of the inner artist which wields the subtle art of embracing and expressing something beautiful from a place of pain or suppressed emotion(s) resonating within the vulnerabilities of the soul. The odyssey of resiliency.
Set simping aside. You are beautiful. Thank you for sharing some wisdom.
simp
Thank you so much I'll listen to this everyday for a few weeks.☺️🌼
I’ve been a hypocrite to myself and I’m going to change that. Thank you✨
I just watched your video of “kill security mindset” this afternoon and super happy knowing you’re uploading a new video. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me with the new perspective I learned from you. You’re a teacher I’ve never had in my real life and I am happy that I found you on TH-cam. Hope you’re always healthy and happy 🫶
❤️❤️
I don't put anyone above me, period. 😂
i cannot believe ive wasted sm time stressing out over this boy who ik absolutely loves me anyway. theres actually no need for me to worry wtf was i doing bro
Same like tf I’m mad at myself rn
Thank you so much. I really needed that pep talk. I'm just coming out of a 5 year relationship that often carried this dynamic.
Hey, how is the progress? What did you learn?
Gold. Watched it twice
Even hearing and knowing all of this, I can't just stop it :/ I was even trying to think about the bad traits this person showed and I still somehow feel like they are amazing person and I am boring... I don't know what more I should do to put them off pedestal?
Love your videos girl ❤❤❤❤
This showed up at a really good time. Very much appreciated.
Hey there just wanted to say thank you for uploading this seriously, I’ve struggled with this my entire life and recently started going to therapy so I can work on my self validation and attachment issues, definitely going to work on myself thank you again seriously
Thank you Joy. I needed these videos especially at this time of my life when I am at my lowest
YOUR VOICE IS SO SOOTHINGG
Thank you SO much for your message it is SO true. I agree with you totally! Never ever put someone else before yourself!
You are amazing girl ! I resonated with each an every word. Thankyou so much for this video. You gained a new subscriber today♥️ Never stop making videos.
This is some real iiishhh!! Thanks lovey! I’m taking my power back! Xoxo 👑 💋
This helped 🌿thank you
But HOW do we flip that script. Do we stay away from them? How do you show this when you’ve already been seen as weak.
That popped up right in time im so grateful to u❤️
i love your talks...very insightful
Truly love this video thank you so much for this!
Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this video is fantastic, thank you
Best video so far❤
Thank you
Happy Birthday Joy. Have a good day
Great wisdom
you should be less rude with yourself , you lovable and full of beauty , you gift yourself because your full of love nothing wrong if you dont gain a feed back is because your rude with yourself with the receiving , dont be afraid your wonderful and really cute to cherish. You will find the love you need im sure of it. dont block yourself your are resourceful , use your feminity for attracting what you need and want , but you got to be sure of yourself , the more you doupt the more you fail
Trying to not be like this with my boyfriend
You're my dream gal 😮
Thankyou !! I NEEDED to hear these words, perfect timing ✨
thank you
Thanks
What should I do? You've been living rent free in my mind.😂
*How* do we detach though...? I get the underlying message etc but what are some tips to become more self-assured? 😊
Think abundance. Half the world is female
Just love yourself.tell yourself over and over ( like an affirmation ) that you love yourself and your subconscious mind accepts it eventually.you will slowly have a changed mindset.take care.
Focus on yourself. Get a hobby, enjoy your life
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You are amazing! I bet you live in Sydney...
What makes you think that 😆
Well..I'm *amazing* too..and *I* live in Sydney, obviously...But seriously I heard your Australian accent and thought@@Dreamwithjoy ,due to probability, maybe you live in Sydney..Who knows? Maybe you live in Melbourne. AI told me that 5.4 million live in Sydney and 5.2 million live in Melbourne. Your videos are down-to-earth and AMAZING. *Great work!!*
You know what 👧, you are probably half my age but truly I say to you- you are a genius , 🥸