Exactly! I’m taking this call on face value bc there are always two sides to the story. Husband should initiate the talk with Mother and MIL should then make this right!
Totally agree! He should have stepped up the moment his wife was hurt over this. And it was in very poor taste for her mother in law to ask for her mom's possessions when she hasn't died yet. Dr. Delaney gave her some good advice.
I think a strong woman can handle it on her own, letting someone else handle your business or hiding behind someone isn't necessarily the best character and it's her mother that was talked about, not her husband's mother.
Lady needs to tell the MIL straight up: "My mom's not dead yet, you aren't getting her stuff for free." Just call people out. Whatever happens will then happen.
I was thinking the same thing. I never understood people who would get upset by the actions of someone else and then snub them rather than confront them. How does that make the situation any better?
Yep. This is why problems fester and get worse. People won't be straight forward at the time of the offense then over tune they grow to resent the person even though they never made an initial stand in the beginning.
@@katt6894 I am that way. I was a shy child, plus I was brought up not to voice my negative feelings, and to “be the bigger person.” As a result, it takes time for me to recognize my feelings. By then the moment has passed, and it’s even more uncomfortable to bring it up. I’m learning that it feels better to bring it up than feel angry and frustrated inside.
@@genxx2724 I'm the same way. Its hard also because when someone hurts me I'm so surprised by it that I don't have the words until I calm down and then I got plenty of words but it's too late. I hate it.
@@Austenfan177 I’d make her leave immediately, and stand by while she packed. I’d say, “I’m sorry, I made a terrible mistake. This was not appropriate,” and take her to the aforementioned hotel.
It still doesn't mean the MIL had any right to her belongings. In no way did the caller "cause this". If the MIL was staying at the son and daughter's home with the mom's belongings, would the MIL have been entitled to them there? NO. What a silly idea.
Mother in law isn’t even in the line of succession and has no right to inherit anything, the fact is, your mothers stuff is your mothers, not hers, and becomes YOURS upon your mothers passing. I would give this entitled, selfish, thoughtless woman NOTHING.
Exactly what I came here to say…you put her in your mother’s home to start with…send your mil back to where she came from since she’s living in your mothers home she must be able to live on her own so if u don’t want her living with you (and I don’t blame you, no way my mil would live with me)send her back to her home
To sum up this call... Callers Mom isn't coming back to her stuff due to the stage of her illness that she's in... Caller hasn't come to terms with this yet... Callers Mother in Law is insensitive and moochy and triggered Caller Caller is using Mother in Law as a scapegoat for her grief... Caller needs to process her situation so she's not so easily triggered Mother in Law needs boundaries set for the situation by her son who isn't as easily triggered by this and some space if she doesn't respect the boundaries...
I went through this with my mother, because I was not ready to let go. I had to realize she was going to a better place than I was at. Sometimes we are selfish. I know I was when it came to let go. This woman’s mother in law said the wrong thing , we all do, but forgiveness is what Jesus taught. Your husband and your children should be able to have his mother and their grandmother in their lives. If it had been your mother that made this mistake you would want her and you to be forgiven. Teach your children a valuable lesson about, love, forgiveness, and letting go. In heaven your mother will still be your guardian Angel and have the greatest treasure your love. Don’t hurt people you love cause you are hurting.
I literally thought the caller was going to say that her MIL stole something from the home. The MIL even offered to leave. Why would she offer if the caller had not been showing frustration towards her already? The caller needs help. Every little thing is going to trigger her unless she starts dealing with her pain.
It sounds like this is a rough season for the caller losing her mom. People should be able to grieve without needing to be fixed right away. But I agree that the MIL also isn't at fault here
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But then she wouldn't have a reason to slit her throat behind her back, and blame MIL for all the pain she is feeling for her own mothers condition. I personally would have gladly given my beloved MIL the things my mother can no long use. The whole thing is so petty.
It would have been good to even just tell the truth in the moment. “I’m shocked. I don’t even know what to say.” And move MIL to a hotel ASAP. “I’m sorry, It was inappropriate of me to have you stay at my mom’s.” I mean, really - would her mom choose to let that woman stay in her home unattended, using and going through all her things?
@@globetrotting2628 When rhe mother pases away, her belongings must be distributed according to her will or trust. I seriously doubt she’d choose to give things to her comadre. If anything, it would only be proper to let her have the items that weren’t designated and that her family doesn’t want. That would generally be the things that would be donated to charity. Anything of value should be sold and the money applied to her debts and then according to her testamentary document.
Good thing Dr. Delony took this call and not Dave. "My mom-in-law was asking if she could take my dying mom's stuff and it's really messed with me--" "What's your household income?" "Wait-what?" "Sell your mom's house."
when my sister died at 49, her mother in law took all her stuff (clothing, jewelry, and furniture). My sister has two grown up sons. So, the MIL helped herself to my sister's stuff without even asking her adult sons or the brother (me). The husband didn't care.
@@cutehumor I am very sorry you lost your sister when she was so young. The MIL sounds like a wretched beast. It should be illegal to do what she did and maybe it's not too late for your nephews to see a lawyer.
The caller has decided to make a mountain of a mole hill. She's in denial that her mom won't be needing the majority of her things any longer, and apparently she's not talking to anyone about her feelings in a constructive way and this is the result. Wasting John's time instead of facing the real issue, which is herself and her feelings.
I understand the fact that tomorrow isn't promised to anyone, but investing today is a hard thing to do because i have no idea of how and where to invest in?
Something about this daughter -in-law bugs me. She acting vague and she's leaving out things and maybe overly emotional. You should have just let MIL stayed at your house not your mom's condo.
Everyone putting this on the husband, The WIFE ALLOWED THE MOTHER IN LAW TO STAY AT HER MOTHERS HOUSE! Common sense may not be all that common but cmon thats a no brainer!
Yes, MIL is in the wrong but it's weird talking about boundaries if you didn't pre-define them in advance. You can't just say XYZ is off limits after the fact... and expect the infringing party completely understand you. As John says, MIL likely didn't try to hurt her. Got to give people the benefit of the doubt.
I get that she's upset about her mothers poor health but she handled the situation very poorly and made it into a major family fracture that didn't need to happen. She should tell her MIL why it was inappropriate and that it upset her. If she keeps doing insensitive things like this then it's time to distance them but this punishment is way too much for a single mistake. That's her husbands mother and her kids grandmother. I get shes upset but that doesn't give her an excuse to cut someone completely out over one incidence.
Sooo understand this caller, and send her hugs. Losing a parent to Alzheimers is just as painful as losing them to anything else, and often moreso. She’s grieving, even though her mother is still alive, and her emotions are raw already. For a MIL to ask if she could ‘take’ any of her mother’s possessions is outrageous, and almost cruel, as she should know better. I’d have a problem, even, with her MIL staying at her mom’s home. I’ve seen plenty of passive-aggressive MIL’s, maybe she is one of these. Trying to talk to them is pointless - it’s their nature to be so.
Why do people call in a show like this lol. She needs regular therapy. I thought this show was about financial matters. Why has it turned into a talk show about personal problems 😒
@@michaelweyenberg6238 Dr Laura would not have had her get away with being vague want to talk show. What's the point of calling if you're not going to give all the information
Sounds to me like this caller doesn't have good communication skills. Why harbor so much resentment and pain towards a MIL who simply asked if she can have some of the bio moms things that she wouldn't be needing or using anymore? You let her stay in your bio moms apartment, it's not a stretch for her to get comfortable and start using the things in it. I would want my MIL to have comfort with items my mom couldn't use anymore, better them ending up being used by a loved one than not being used at all. Caller seems to be taking her the frustration of her mothers condition out on MIL. I feel for the MIL having to walk on eggshells around her DIL. She was even kind enough to realize the grief and said she would leave. Sounds like a kind MIL who has a DIL that is sliding her behind her back, and now on a National Talk Show, for such a petty reason. I think DIL isn't looking for a solution, but rather keeping MIL as a scapegoat as someone to punish for her pain. MIL will do no right under these conditions. I hope she is able to move on to a more healthy and tranquil situation.
Where is her muppet of a husband in all of this? It's his mother and it's his job to put her in check when she steps out of line like this. Sorry, what kind of nut bag demands that they are entitled to the stuff of other people?
Another example of how stupid and outrageous mother-in-laws can be. The couple should not have allowed the MIL to stay in the wife's mother's condo,though.
So why did she let the MIL violate her mother's privacy in the first place by staying at her condo? How would the daughter like someone moving into her matrimonial home while she's at the hospital? Smh
I don't think the mil meant it that way and I think alot of her hurt is coming from the stress of the situation. It's got to be one of the hardest jobs in the world to be a caregiver to your parents.
I respectfully have to disagree. Dave's may have started being about money but it's grown to so much more. Guys like John recognize that you can have all the money in the world, but what's the point if your mental health sucks, or your family life took a turn for the worst. Ken Coleman recognizes that a good career will give a person purpose. To blindly say it's a money show demonstrates a lack of appreciation for the whole person.
When someone takes from a dimensia patient who is sick and deteriorating it IS A MONEY THING. It's about good choices and boundaries and these are the most important things that affect a good financial outcome.
I preferred this channel as a FINANCIAL program. The relationship advice line would be better in its own channel. I've pretty much stopped listening to the radio show because its more "Oprah" than Dave Ramsey now.
No. This advice is terrible. It opens a door for an already incredibly insensitive woman to nag the caller about giving her her mom's stuff after she passes. The MIL needs to be shut down, period. Seriously, she's either going to constantly remind the caller that her mother is dead, or pull some "oh let me help you pack up her things" and then, several months later, after the intensity of the caller's grief diminishes some, she's going to wonder what happened to mom's (whatever) and eventually realize certain things are missing.
the MIL asking if she should leave early in front of the kids is using the kids to manipulate the caller here, trying to make you look bad in front of them, thats so wrong, how dare the MIL involve the kids in this thats disgusting, one day those kids are gonna grow up and realize how wrong it is for anyone to start bringing them into stuff and trying to make others look bad in front of them
Y’all did a POLL a couple weeks ago asking what kind of content we want on this page. OVERWHELMINGLY we said FINANCIAL content. 76% of us. Dr. John can keep this content on his show.
Overly sensitive caller. She's blaming the pain that she's experiencing from her moms problems on her MIL. She already allowed the MIL to live in the moms house. At the end of the day, other than pictures and sentimental things, her moms items are nothing more than items.Just tell the MIL no. If the MIL doesnt get them another family member will or they will go to goodwill,craigslist,the callers closet or the trash can at some point
Average lifespan is 70some years, not even 85, and that’s because Americans born post 1945 and especially post 1965 have obesity and drug problems. Average age getting shorter, not longer. This type of story getting more common as the end nears
Yeah. Average age has actually moved down in the past few years. It’s bad. All the bad habits now starting to show up in the data. I remember the 90s when we thought by 2020 average age might be 90. Oh boy
unfortunately some people can't take HINTS! USE YOUR WORDS!!!!! MANY times people don't know that their words or actions hurt other people and that is why USING YOUR WORDS is important. I feel the caller is sensitive or hyper sensitive because of the situation with her mother and I get that but again using your words matters!!!
Its really clear this woman did not tell the mother in law what you said as a option. I hope she takes your option and does not reject the mother in law. My guess is mother in law did not mean it as she heard it and was just insensative. First time without your mother for holidays should it be the also a time without the mother in law too? Excellent advice you gave...
MIL sounds like a kind women, even said she should leave the apartment after she realized she caused a lil pain. Personally, I would have loved to give my MIL the things my mother couldn't use anymore, that way I knew they were going to good use with someone who is the mother of my partner.
@@globetrotting2628 yes keeping it in the family , helping family in need who could use it appreciate it and even thinking of them or who gifted it when one uses it. Totally agree.
I told my mother in law it’s going to be ok if I never talk to her again.I am a grown man and will NOT take any BS from her for a minute I told her the best thing to do is leave me be or we will go to war
If the MIL was not welcome to stay with the family, and was going to be at a hotel, then why did they offer the woman's Mom condo instead. There is a lot that is not being said here. What stuff? Was she wearing her Mom's clothes? Makeup? Eating food from the frig? Or was she wanting personal jewelry and sentimental family items? I heard (not sure because the woman was not clear) there was something of personal items in a box that was of the main concern. But then the woman did not want to repeat what it was because she already told the call taker -- what she consider a private matter. Duh! If you are calling Dr. John's show (not Dave Ramsey's Financial show) to discuss a problem then you better know it is going to be heard by everyone that is listening. I am glad Dr. John saw the woman's act and told her to take responsibility for the situation, and talk to the MIL. Side note, I lost my Mom to Dementia. The Hospice nurse started asking for stuff to take to her car, minutes after my Mom passed. Asking for her TV, coffee maker and other items. I told her that my Mom lived with me and those items were mine and that nothing was leaving my home. Some people take advantage of people when a tragic situation happens because they know the the person is not thinking clearly. Sounds to me the woman really needs therapy for the fact she is loosing her Mom to a horrible disease - Dementia. She and her sister (and any other siblings) should all go. Just my opinion.
@@catzdollz9810 you haven't met my parents. Yes it's an overgeneralization . But it will only offend those who know it to be true. Btw what generation are you?
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What did she want - her fur coat, wristwatch, crystal? Did she break crystal for spite? She's still grieving, her MIL has lived thru this and is past grieving. But, her mother is probably dead as she knew her if she's in the advanced stage. She's hanging on to some little things that her mother particularly liked but eventually she'll let go of them if they're not to her taste, not needed or don't have strong sentimental value.. That condo, she'll never live in that again; rent it, sell it or have a good reason with a plan to keep it. She needs to get a grip.
Why is this on Financial Peace? This woman needs to see a counselor and help work through creating healthy boundaries and being able to stand up for herself appropriately. This show has turned from a financial to a pseudo psychology show.
Your mother in law or father in law should be FULLY considered before you take the step and get married. You marry him/her and his/her FAMILY! Be careful there.
I feel the same way. Petty Karen slicing her MIL throat on a National Show. What a thoughtful DIL. Wish I still had my MIL, and would have gladly given her things my mother could no longer use.
@@globetrotting2628 I mean if your mother sick and dying yes I can understand being a little emotional but your mother is still alive you didn't mention anything about her being sick or dying. Just tell her no you can't have the stuff and be done with it move on. I thought this was a financial show.
Yes, I agree, but she shouldn't be taking it out on her aging MIL. Pretty soon MIL might be going into old age health related issues, and DIL will regret the way she slit her throat on a National Show, for something so petty and easily fixable.
Her husband needs to be handling this. This should not be on her. Ridiculous.
Exactly! I’m taking this call on face value bc there are always two sides to the story. Husband should initiate the talk with Mother and MIL should then make this right!
Totally agree! He should have stepped up the moment his wife was hurt over this. And it was in very poor taste for her mother in law to ask for her mom's possessions when she hasn't died yet. Dr. Delaney gave her some good advice.
That’s what i’m thinking!
I think a strong woman can handle it on her own, letting someone else handle your business or hiding behind someone isn't necessarily the best character and it's her mother that was talked about, not her husband's mother.
She married a mega-beta and she knew it when she did it. This is kinda on her. Her husband is an absolute wimp.
Like what are the things that your inlaw asks??
Lady needs to tell the MIL straight up: "My mom's not dead yet, you aren't getting her stuff for free." Just call people out. Whatever happens will then happen.
I was thinking the same thing. I never understood people who would get upset by the actions of someone else and then snub them rather than confront them. How does that make the situation any better?
Yep. This is why problems fester and get worse. People won't be straight forward at the time of the offense then over tune they grow to resent the person even though they never made an initial stand in the beginning.
@@katt6894 I am that way. I was a shy child, plus I was brought up not to voice my negative feelings, and to “be the bigger person.” As a result, it takes time for me to recognize my feelings. By then the moment has passed, and it’s even more uncomfortable to bring it up. I’m learning that it feels better to bring it up than feel angry and frustrated inside.
@@genxx2724 I'm the same way. Its hard also because when someone hurts me I'm so surprised by it that I don't have the words until I calm down and then I got plenty of words but it's too late. I hate it.
@@alwayslernin4400 It also feels like if they wronged you, they don’t belong in your life.
Don't call a public radio show and try to be vague, c'mon spill the details. You already have us here.
Right taking forever to get to the point
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They need to be calling a psychiatrist
@@Originalman144 For a prescription?
right. she never gave the details... she said something about doing something for spite, but did not explain.. FRUSTRATING.
Letting her stay at your moms place was wrong.
Exactly!
Yeah this could have been avoided from the beginning. What are they thinking?
Exactly! They brought this on themselves..its a given that addicted people take..I'm just surprised she asked.
She shouldn’t have let MIL stay at her mother’s home. That was a violation of her mother’s privacy and the security of her possessions.
Exactly! She created this problem. Smh
@@Austenfan177 I’d make her leave immediately, and stand by while she packed. I’d say, “I’m sorry, I made a terrible mistake. This was not appropriate,” and take her to the aforementioned hotel.
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Good point.
It still doesn't mean the MIL had any right to her belongings. In no way did the caller "cause this". If the MIL was staying at the son and daughter's home with the mom's belongings, would the MIL have been entitled to them there? NO. What a silly idea.
Don’t be weak... vultures will circle
kindness is often mistaken for weakness. Big Mistake to do that.
The mother in law is insensitive. Period. That would have gotten under my skin too but that husband should step up and put a stop to it.
Mother in law isn’t even in the line of succession and has no right to inherit anything, the fact is, your mothers stuff is your mothers, not hers, and becomes YOURS upon your mothers passing. I would give this entitled, selfish, thoughtless woman NOTHING.
Didn’t y’all cross the line by using her condo as a hotel?
Yep, then blamed the MIL for asking to have or use the stuff in the condo. Petty, first world stuff.
@@globetrotting2628 a simple no would have sufficed. 🙄
Exactly: Holiday Inn is right down the road: even gives ya a breakfast. 💡
Exactly what I came here to say…you put her in your mother’s home to start with…send your mil back to where she came from since she’s living in your mothers home she must be able to live on her own so if u don’t want her living with you (and I don’t blame you, no way my mil would live with me)send her back to her home
To sum up this call...
Callers Mom isn't coming back to her stuff due to the stage of her illness that she's in...
Caller hasn't come to terms with this yet...
Callers Mother in Law is insensitive and moochy and triggered Caller
Caller is using Mother in Law as a scapegoat for her grief...
Caller needs to process her situation so she's not so easily triggered
Mother in Law needs boundaries set for the situation by her son who isn't as easily triggered by this and some space if she doesn't respect the boundaries...
I went through this with my mother, because I was not ready to let go. I had to realize she was going to a better place than I was at. Sometimes we are selfish. I know I was when it came to let go. This woman’s mother in law said the wrong thing , we all do, but forgiveness is what Jesus taught. Your husband and your children should be able to have his mother and their grandmother in their lives. If it had been your mother that made this mistake you would want her and you to be forgiven. Teach your children a valuable lesson about, love, forgiveness, and letting go. In heaven your mother will still be your guardian Angel and have the greatest treasure your love. Don’t hurt people you love cause you are hurting.
Caller needs to SOUND OFF like she's got a pair and put the MIL in her place like a Marine DI on the spot instead of letting it fester.
I would rather have given my mothers stuff away than give it to my MIL or burn it!
I literally thought the caller was going to say that her MIL stole something from the home. The MIL even offered to leave. Why would she offer if the caller had not been showing frustration towards her already? The caller needs help. Every little thing is going to trigger her unless she starts dealing with her pain.
It sounds like this is a rough season for the caller losing her mom. People should be able to grieve without needing to be fixed right away. But I agree that the MIL also isn't at fault here
@@aisherwasher6959the mil shouldn’t be asking for the dil mothers things when the woman’s mother is still alive
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I wish she would of just told her mother in law then and there that she didn't think that was a very nice thing to say.
But then she wouldn't have a reason to slit her throat behind her back, and blame MIL for all the pain she is feeling for her own mothers condition. I personally would have gladly given my beloved MIL the things my mother can no long use. The whole thing is so petty.
It would have been good to even just tell the truth in the moment. “I’m shocked. I don’t even know what to say.” And move MIL to a hotel ASAP. “I’m sorry, It was inappropriate of me to have you stay at my mom’s.” I mean, really - would her mom choose to let that woman stay in her home unattended, using and going through all her things?
@@globetrotting2628 When rhe mother pases away, her belongings must be distributed according to her will or trust. I seriously doubt she’d choose to give things to her comadre. If anything, it would only be proper to let her have the items that weren’t designated and that her family doesn’t want. That would generally be the things that would be donated to charity. Anything of value should be sold and the money applied to her debts and then according to her testamentary document.
@@globetrotting2628 So you are an unethical criminal who steals things and neglects how wills say assets are supposed to go.
@@globetrotting2628 Go
WHERE IS HER HUSBAND?! He’s supposed to protect her during such times. It’s HIS mother, handle this for goodness sake.
Good thing Dr. Delony took this call and not Dave.
"My mom-in-law was asking if she could take my dying mom's stuff and it's really messed with me--"
"What's your household income?"
"Wait-what?"
"Sell your mom's house."
Nah Dave would've called her a test pilot for a broom factory.
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when my sister died at 49, her mother in law took all her stuff (clothing, jewelry, and furniture). My sister has two grown up sons. So, the MIL helped herself to my sister's stuff without even asking her adult sons or the brother (me). The husband didn't care.
That's terrible. Did she have the legal right to do that?
@@blabbinglobster I guess so. There was no will
@@cutehumor I am very sorry you lost your sister when she was so young. The MIL sounds like a wretched beast. It should be illegal to do what she did and maybe it's not too late for your nephews to see a lawyer.
He (the husband) should have given your sister's personal belongings to her children or you.
What kind of stuff are we talking about here? Unless it was personal jewelry or an obviously favorite outfit, there’s something more going on here.
Yep, caller is super obtuse and vague about the whole thing. Just be clear. She's all over the place and not making a lick of sense. Poor John.
Little magic rabbit
The caller has decided to make a mountain of a mole hill. She's in denial that her mom won't be needing the majority of her things any longer, and apparently she's not talking to anyone about her feelings in a constructive way and this is the result. Wasting John's time instead of facing the real issue, which is herself and her feelings.
She's ALIVE, Keep your Dirty Paws off her items.
I don't know who needs to hear this, you've got to stop saving money. Invest some part of it, if you really want financial freedom.
Anyone who is not investing now is missing a tremendous opportunity, i really fear for a future without an investment.
A lot of people with high IQs are terrible investors got terrible temperaments. You need to keep raw, irrational emotion under control.
I understand the fact that tomorrow isn't promised to anyone, but investing today is a hard thing to do because i have no idea of how and where to invest in?
That's so true, investment saves.
The husband has to MAN UP!! What a wuss!!
Just talk about finance, please. This isn't Dr. Laura.
Something about this daughter -in-law bugs me. She acting vague and she's leaving out things and maybe overly emotional.
You should have just let MIL stayed at your house not your mom's condo.
Everyone putting this on the husband, The WIFE ALLOWED THE MOTHER IN LAW TO STAY AT HER MOTHERS HOUSE! Common sense may not be all that common but cmon thats a no brainer!
I've not had one messy holiday with Family. I always find it so strange that people consider that normal.
I agree, this makes no sense to me.
The bottom line is be respectful at people's houses.
@@COINsimp2024 Indeed. If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all. Pretty simple.
Yes, MIL is in the wrong but it's weird talking about boundaries if you didn't pre-define them in advance. You can't just say XYZ is off limits after the fact... and expect the infringing party completely understand you. As John says, MIL likely didn't try to hurt her. Got to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Personal finance and family money drama go together.
I get that she's upset about her mothers poor health but she handled the situation very poorly and made it into a major family fracture that didn't need to happen. She should tell her MIL why it was inappropriate and that it upset her. If she keeps doing insensitive things like this then it's time to distance them but this punishment is way too much for a single mistake. That's her husbands mother and her kids grandmother. I get shes upset but that doesn't give her an excuse to cut someone completely out over one incidence.
Sooo understand this caller, and send her hugs. Losing a parent to Alzheimers is just as painful as losing them to anything else, and often moreso. She’s grieving, even though her mother is still alive, and her emotions are raw already. For a MIL to ask if she could ‘take’ any of her mother’s possessions is outrageous, and almost cruel, as she should know better. I’d have a problem, even, with her MIL staying at her mom’s home. I’ve seen plenty of passive-aggressive MIL’s, maybe she is one of these. Trying to talk to them is pointless - it’s their nature to be so.
Mother-in-law is very greedy so greedy she didn't put your feelings in consideration she wanted to claim merchandises.
Why do people call in a show like this lol. She needs regular therapy. I thought this show was about financial matters. Why has it turned into a talk show about personal problems 😒
Should have called Dr. Laura instead. Would have ripped her a new one.
@@michaelweyenberg6238 Dr Laura would not have had her get away with being vague want to talk show. What's the point of calling if you're not going to give all the information
@@michaelweyenberg6238 who is Dr Laura??
@@anniesshenanigans3815 radio host. Been doing it 40+ years.
@@mdub2375 does she have a yt channel? I've never heard of her
Sounds to me like this caller doesn't have good communication skills. Why harbor so much resentment and pain towards a MIL who simply asked if she can have some of the bio moms things that she wouldn't be needing or using anymore? You let her stay in your bio moms apartment, it's not a stretch for her to get comfortable and start using the things in it. I would want my MIL to have comfort with items my mom couldn't use anymore, better them ending up being used by a loved one than not being used at all. Caller seems to be taking her the frustration of her mothers condition out on MIL. I feel for the MIL having to walk on eggshells around her DIL. She was even kind enough to realize the grief and said she would leave. Sounds like a kind MIL who has a DIL that is sliding her behind her back, and now on a National Talk Show, for such a petty reason. I think DIL isn't looking for a solution, but rather keeping MIL as a scapegoat as someone to punish for her pain. MIL will do no right under these conditions. I hope she is able to move on to a more healthy and tranquil situation.
Where is her muppet of a husband in all of this? It's his mother and it's his job to put her in check when she steps out of line like this. Sorry, what kind of nut bag demands that they are entitled to the stuff of other people?
Another example of how stupid and outrageous mother-in-laws can be. The couple should not have allowed the MIL to stay in the wife's mother's condo,though.
So why did she let the MIL violate her mother's privacy in the first place by staying at her condo? How would the daughter like someone moving into her matrimonial home while she's at the hospital? Smh
Get a grip; geez.
The story is confusing
I don't think the mil meant it that way and I think alot of her hurt is coming from the stress of the situation. It's got to be one of the hardest jobs in the world to be a caregiver to your parents.
I don't get this call at all. This is a radio show that deals with money. she should have called Dr Phil for some help
deloney is the new phil
This is the reason i try to be nice to people, you never know want a stranger is going through
thats very true
Her mother in law sounds vile and insensitive.
STOP LETTING FAMILY ISSUES GET THROUGH THE FILTER!!! WE DO. NOT CARE. THIS IS A MONEY PAGE!
I respectfully have to disagree. Dave's may have started being about money but it's grown to so much more. Guys like John recognize that you can have all the money in the world, but what's the point if your mental health sucks, or your family life took a turn for the worst. Ken Coleman recognizes that a good career will give a person purpose. To blindly say it's a money show demonstrates a lack of appreciation for the whole person.
When someone takes from a dimensia patient who is sick and deteriorating it IS A MONEY THING. It's about good choices and boundaries and these are the most important things that affect a good financial outcome.
Family issues come up too often on this show. Thank goodness for Dr. John!
“Can I have….?”
“No.”
The end.
I preferred this channel as a FINANCIAL program.
The relationship advice line would be better in its own channel.
I've pretty much stopped listening to the radio show because its more "Oprah" than Dave Ramsey now.
I hope they are able to move beyond this.
No. This advice is terrible. It opens a door for an already incredibly insensitive woman to nag the caller about giving her her mom's stuff after she passes. The MIL needs to be shut down, period. Seriously, she's either going to constantly remind the caller that her mother is dead, or pull some "oh let me help you pack up her things" and then, several months later, after the intensity of the caller's grief diminishes some, she's going to wonder what happened to mom's (whatever) and eventually realize certain things are missing.
the MIL asking if she should leave early in front of the kids is using the kids to manipulate the caller here, trying to make you look bad in front of them, thats so wrong, how dare the MIL involve the kids in this thats disgusting, one day those kids are gonna grow up and realize how wrong it is for anyone to start bringing them into stuff and trying to make others look bad in front of them
Bless her heart.
Excuse me...WHERE is the husband?! He should deal with his mother!
This lady has enough on her hands
Y’all did a POLL a couple weeks ago asking what kind of content we want on this page. OVERWHELMINGLY we said FINANCIAL content. 76% of us. Dr. John can keep this content on his show.
Any other demands, your majesty?
Women find the dumbest stuff to fight about. Guys would just tell each other the F off and be done with it
Caller takes too long to get to the point.
Overly sensitive caller. She's blaming the pain that she's experiencing from her moms problems on her MIL. She already allowed the MIL to live in the moms house. At the end of the day, other than pictures and sentimental things, her moms items are nothing more than items.Just tell the MIL no. If the MIL doesnt get them another family member will or they will go to goodwill,craigslist,the callers closet or the trash can at some point
She’s still alive.
@@dagobert1234321 she has late stage dementia. It's not a matter of if it's a matter of when
This is all too vague to have any clue of what should be done
Anyone else notice they capitalized Mother-in-Law live. lol 1:57
I think she should have called Dr. Laura.
Average lifespan is 70some years, not even 85, and that’s because Americans born post 1945 and especially post 1965 have obesity and drug problems. Average age getting shorter, not longer. This type of story getting more common as the end nears
Please CITE YOUR SOURCE? REALLY?
Yeah. Average age has actually moved down in the past few years. It’s bad. All the bad habits now starting to show up in the data. I remember the 90s when we thought by 2020 average age might be 90. Oh boy
2:53 the moment the call screener got fired
Great way to talk to her mother in law
The way I hollered at 0:56 😂 😂 😂 people are a trip lol
Here come the tears!!
Keep it to financials. No one wants to hear about family drama
This really was too much.
Wow! 🤐
unfortunately some people can't take HINTS! USE YOUR WORDS!!!!! MANY times people don't know that their words or actions hurt other people and that is why USING YOUR WORDS is important. I feel the caller is sensitive or hyper sensitive because of the situation with her mother and I get that but again using your words matters!!!
Its really clear this woman did not tell the mother in law what you said as a option. I hope she takes your option and does not reject the mother in law. My guess is mother in law did not mean it as she heard it and was just insensative. First time without your mother for holidays should it be the also a time without the mother in law too? Excellent advice you gave...
MIL sounds like a kind women, even said she should leave the apartment after she realized she caused a lil pain. Personally, I would have loved to give my MIL the things my mother couldn't use anymore, that way I knew they were going to good use with someone who is the mother of my partner.
@@globetrotting2628 yes keeping it in the family , helping family in need who could use it appreciate it and even thinking of them or who gifted it when one uses it. Totally agree.
I told my mother in law it’s going to be ok if I never talk to her again.I am a grown man and will NOT take any BS from her for a minute I told her the best thing to do is leave me be or we will go to war
If the MIL was not welcome to stay with the family, and was going to be at a hotel, then why did they offer the woman's Mom condo instead. There is a lot that is not being said here. What stuff? Was she wearing her Mom's clothes? Makeup? Eating food from the frig? Or was she wanting personal jewelry and sentimental family items? I heard (not sure because the woman was not clear) there was something of personal items in a box that was of the main concern. But then the woman did not want to repeat what it was because she already told the call taker -- what she consider a private matter. Duh! If you are calling Dr. John's show (not Dave Ramsey's Financial show) to discuss a problem then you better know it is going to be heard by everyone that is listening. I am glad Dr. John saw the woman's act and told her to take responsibility for the situation, and talk to the MIL.
Side note, I lost my Mom to Dementia. The Hospice nurse started asking for stuff to take to her car, minutes after my Mom passed. Asking for her TV, coffee maker and other items. I told her that my Mom lived with me and those items were mine and that nothing was leaving my home. Some people take advantage of people when a tragic situation happens because they know the the person is not thinking clearly. Sounds to me the woman really needs therapy for the fact she is loosing her Mom to a horrible disease - Dementia. She and her sister (and any other siblings) should all go. Just my opinion.
Sell the car
Lol
Well, at least she asked and didn't start just taking stuff. Still not right.
Boomers are selfish.
That's Dumbest thing ever said on this video.
Well, (American) boomers were spoiled like no generation before or since.
That's a generalization. Would you say bl@cks are stupid?
@@catzdollz9810 you haven't met my parents. Yes it's an overgeneralization . But it will only offend those who know it to be true. Btw what generation are you?
@@ultimaetsolder the biggest achievement the boomers have is legalizing abortion and removing God from the education system.
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Most intelligent words I've heard.
who was he calling an idiot at 1:30?
💔💝🙏 I wanna hug that lady
What did she want - her fur coat, wristwatch, crystal? Did she break crystal for spite? She's still grieving, her MIL has lived thru this and is past grieving. But, her mother is probably dead as she knew her if she's in the advanced stage. She's hanging on to some little things that her mother particularly liked but eventually she'll let go of them if they're not to her taste, not needed or don't have strong sentimental value.. That condo, she'll never live in that again; rent it, sell it or have a good reason with a plan to keep it. She needs to get a grip.
Did he call her an idiot at 1:30???
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No, he was saying instead of the daughter in law just thinking the mother in law is just an idiot, this has really hurt her
Sounded like he said idiot to me.
Jeez...
😁✌👌👍🖖😎
Why is this on Financial Peace? This woman needs to see a counselor and help work through creating healthy boundaries and being able to stand up for herself appropriately. This show has turned from a financial to a pseudo psychology show.
WHERES DAVE???!!!
Your mother in law or father in law should be FULLY considered before you take the step and get married. You marry him/her and his/her FAMILY! Be careful there.
Oh so a Karen called in today get over it lady.
I feel the same way. Petty Karen slicing her MIL throat on a National Show. What a thoughtful DIL. Wish I still had my MIL, and would have gladly given her things my mother could no longer use.
@@globetrotting2628 I mean if your mother sick and dying yes I can understand being a little emotional but your mother is still alive you didn't mention anything about her being sick or dying. Just tell her no you can't have the stuff and be done with it move on. I thought this was a financial show.
@@The.Man.WithAPlan yep
I can say alot of older people have a warped sense of life and death. They've had so many people die around them they are just waiting for there turn.
She’s understandably hurting for reasons beyond the request.
Most women inherently hate their mother in laws. Everything they do makes them angry
Casey the Spammer working his BS on a Sunday!
Casey the Spammer! Dude! Stop spamming!
@@samboy1406 - Don’t pay attention to this fool! Casey is a spammer!
Yes, I agree, but she shouldn't be taking it out on her aging MIL. Pretty soon MIL might be going into old age health related issues, and DIL will regret the way she slit her throat on a National Show, for something so petty and easily fixable.
This Dave stand-in was incredibly inappropriate. You aren’t a psychotherapist, stick to finance.
When did Dave Ramsey become a counseling show? I don't watch a lot, but it used to be financial advice not interpersonal drama.
The only way to avoid drama in your life is to avoid females completely.
Date men or become a loner?
I've seen better thumbnails for similar titles.
This became a drama show